No I appreciate that because RUclipsrs have been waiting 20 minutes with completely unrelated information before starting their story times since 2017 and i cannot stand it.
Anyone from a shotty town in the mid west knows why hes able to just blast thru it like that. You talk fast to get through it without pausing to let your feelings of the trauma settle in.
@@obsidiangarbage6741 Wait, that happened? ... that explains the "I'm sorry about Nicki Manaj/you getting banned" comments on the Belatown videos. That sucks.
This is my POV rn xD; im always here to listen to the stories of my fellow survivors of childhood trauma, and always glad to find such ppl to follow and to encourage and to support; bcuz we need to work together if we ever wanna see humanity overcome these many problems which allow us to suffer so grtly before we even have the right to speak for ourselves
@@rainbomg so basically the person who made this video also makes videos on tiktok with dolls, they are very reminiscent of the stories you make up with dolls when you were a kid, it’s a ton of drama (think every extremely dramatic show you watched and make it something you’d see on Maury). Any possible way I could explain it wouldn’t do it justice for how entertaining it is.
Same I mean I have no idea why I clicked this video but I did and then I stood still and stared at the screen until he was done I have never experienced such a LACK of distraction
SAME!!! This man single-handedly cured my ADHD, at least for twenty minutes. 😂 I was glued to the screen & the rest of the world all but disappeared for me. What a master storyteller.
It’s so crazy when people remember vivid details of their childhood. I got clocked in my face by my dad at 11 and one day I woke up and I was 18 years old
I know you are an incredibly witty and funny person but I have such an insane amount of admiration for you. I cannot fathom growing up in those conditions and still being able to so eloquently explain what happened
The way you talk about all this trauma in such a…not positive but put-together and sociable way is truly admirable. Idk if it’s a sign of you being fully healed or you having to talk about this shit like it’s instagram influencer drama in order to get through it but I have nothing but respect 💛
let's be honestly if someone was talking about their trauma while being emotional, sad, enraged or whatever, many MANY people would lose their empathy towards them. because we love perfectly put together model victims
@@glupik1234 why would they lose empathy? I'm confused. if someone was upset because they're talking about an experience that messed them up it would be understandable.
@@corncobbob2326totally fine if u havent experienced this, bless your heart but people tend to assume that people cry on command, rather than instinctively/naturally, so they assume the victm whos obviously just overwhelmed by their trauma is attention seeking, lying about trauma and using tears to emotionally distract any skepticism, being dramatic emotionally, non-emotionally blowing things out of porportion for some other gain, etc. basically the good ol "well they dont have a straight face and arent looking at me in the eyes so they must be dishonest"
Yup experienced the same thing. I made a documentary about my experience and my foster mom found out (I’m now 32 btw lol) and she was very nasty. She should’ve played a better character in my life and shouldn’t have been abusive. Oh well.
@@zote8106the first one I had was sus (don’t remember any overt abuse but they were somewhat neglectful leaving a 5 yr old alone in the house), but the second one was aight. Bio mom was a lot worse, before and after foster care and reunification.
Literally like my parents think our suburbia small town is hot shit but they didn't grow up here and meet all the kids who were seriously struggling with awful homes/parents
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 He very rarely hit me because he was afraid of my mom. But there were times when she wasn't around. He just mainlt enjoyed threatening and putting fear into me.
@@asmodeusguys4472yep. like hollywood wishes it could even come close to capturing the sort of drama, tragedy, and heartache that small town americans experience literally every single day. its kind of insane how often these things happen
Children being taken away is such a difficult topic bc foster homes are not vetted enough to be made sure their safe with the amount of sexual, mental, physical and emotional abuse that goes on in them
All it takes to ruin a child's life is one adult/older kid who decides to do horrible things behind closed doors and scare the child out of telling. And there aren't enough good homes for every kid who needs one (let alone all the kids who are wrongfully taken away.) Honestly the best thing we can do is educate kids on what is/isn't appropriate and support them however we can. We're even failing at that, though. Sad.
It’s honestly insane how difficult it is to become a foster parent and meet those qualifications while simultaneously being so unvetted. It’s like they want the system to fail these kids.
one of my best friends got adopted and her adoptive parents started abusing her, idk the ins and outs but she doesn’t live with them anymore. it’s so sad, she was safe with her foster mum too, her foster mum was friends with her birth mum, it’s so disgusting.
@@EttieSpagheti seriously! Don’t they automatically refuse to allow you to foster if you’re a single mom or dad? I don’t understand the process at all.
yeah that's pretty typical. #the locals aren't quirky #they're racist #there's nothing to do #everyone's on drugs "try that in a small town" was clearly written by someone who's never been anywhere near to, if they've even _heard of,_ Appalachia... or past the suburban sprawl of ANY city. WOW this guy can tell a story, he's not reading off a script or cutting out any "ums" or pauses!
I don’t know how you survived that and the abuse of your foster parents . I’m so sorry you had to go through that, and as a child that young you should be running outside with your siblings not living in these rough conditions. I hope things are better now
I really needed to hear this 🥺 my twin sister told CPS lies about me and took my baby and recently she arrested for putting hands on my baby... He's 2! I'm actually getting my stuff together at the moment and get him back so hearing this I have high hopes. Thank you 🙏❤️
This is the reason my therapist and his wife are foster parents. He said there are too many that aren’t interested in caring for the children and raising them to be great adults. The foster care system needs people that are stable, sane, and truly committed to caring for the children entrusted to them.
@@margiestevens2384I think about it all the time, I kind of feel like it’s a civic duty. If you only ever even foster one kid and you are just you yourself a healthy, stable, kind person that’s an entire life that you’ve potentially rerouted away from additional suffering. It’s absolutely bonkers to me that it’s common knowledge how bad foster homes are. If you can’t foster people, look into fostering animals! There are a ton of dogs and kittens and cats that need someone to look after them until they’re adopted. The shelters are overcrowded. I feel like if you have stability, you owe it to your community to help
Wow I knew that there are a lot of people in this country who grew up in dysfunctional families with drug addictions, but I never knew there were entire towns where almost every family in them is just like that... Really eye opening.
most small towns have these issues to some degree tbh, some just have it worse than others. like we call it an addiction epidemic for a reason, it literally spreads like a virus in our communities. you cant always just cut people off when they get addicted because there often arent any alternatives. you either give in to peer pressure or you lose your only friends, and theres really not all that many things to do in small towns besides hang out with friends. when you have no money, no hope, not much future, and nothing else to do but party at an age too young, its very easy to fall into these things. plus small towns are chock full of the kind of struggles that worsen addiction. small towns are poor. poverty leads to stress, stress leads to arguments, arguments lead to trauma, trauma leads to addiction, and then addiction leads right back to poverty. its a vicious cycle that feeds into itself across families and communities, often over many generations. the only thing that can help this situation is easier access to mental health services and better programs that actually help the poor escape poverty rather than keep them trapped in it.
Dude, I hope you got therapy. This is crazy levels of trauma. And people with normal families can't imagine how privileged they are and think everyone that does crime has no moral compass. They were really just raised with no support and even CPS which is supposed to protect children, abandoned them.
Granted, there are possibly many people that do crime and do have a poor moral compass. It’s not the only factor but it’s one. (And remember this doesn’t apply to everyone, and it’s also worth questioning if it’s a poor moral compass or just a numbness/adaptation to a life of chaos and instability) The issue for me is when people reduce those who commit crime down to just “bad guys” without questioning why they’re that way. Instead of asking questions with a genuine curiosity to know how their fellow human is doing they’d rather drop some dollars in a Salvation Army bucket so they can feel good about themselves for supporting the poor without confronting said poor directly because apparently in the same breath they’re fucking lazy scum ! It’s really an awful situation. Without your consent you’re dropped into an environment of chaos, brokenness and discomfort and you have to live with it for the next god knows how many years. Naturally, you emulate what you see in the environment because it’s all you’ve known. You repeat the same things because they’ve been normalized to you, they’re assumed to be mundane and the usual. Then you’re vilified for it, labeled a monster, a dirty lazy person, a wretch, etc. Or hell, a lot of times you don’t completely take everything to be normalized but the conditions you and everyone else are in pretty much solidifies the cycle. You do what you have to do as a human being to make it and then the more fortunate of society villainize you for it. You had so little cards in your deck to begin with, so you cheated in order to get yourself up to the spot everyone else started with. But uh oh! You broke the rules! How dare you?!! We’re gonna burn all your cards and then wonder why you start to steal them! Conclusion: what the fuck
"I just thought it was something that happened to people from time to time" broke me. This was the strangest and most profound recommend youtube has ever given me.
idk how your nonchalant delivery of such a crazy story still sounds so unbiased and centered. if i were rich i would reimburse your therapy because i can only imagine how much it cost you to be able to tell this all without showing much of any resentment at all.
so if you got a coin for every time your parents got invited to live in a ménage à trois and the people who invited them got really mad that they refused you'd only have two coins but it's weird that it happened twice 😭😭
Wow. As a child abuse survivor from the southern us the way you told this story was not only relatable but also awe inspiring. Really made me nostalgic for the middle of the night sessions in a psych ward being surrounded by other teens who 'got it' Swapping stories and roasting our abusive families to feel better.
my story with CPS. : when i was 0-2, i lived in a trailer with one bed, with my brother, and our two drug addict parents. then my mom got a new boyfriend, we lived with him and he was ok, drank a lot but it wasnt too bad there. (2-3) (3-5) she got a new boyfriend, J. J was a heavy drinker that was abusive to my mother, me, and my brother. my mom refused to leave him, even after he would lock me in closest, outside.. for hours, they would hardly feed me. they had a untrained dog that bit me multible times, i was taken from school by CPS after talking to a cop. (At 5) for around a month, me and my brother bounced around a few homes, one with this wife and husband that had MANY animals. but they had to give us up due to a trip they had planned, then with another couple, they hardly spoke english.. they made us sleep in different rooms with all the lights off, as a child who was put through HOURS in a small dark closest, i hated it. i didnt sleep the entire week we were there, so they gave us up too. after that, my brother was tooken while i was asleep. no goodbye, nothing. they just took him. alone, and scared, i was sent to this christian woman. she had two beds. she could've tooken in my brother. i hated this woman. she only gave me barbies to play with, i could only watch movies about angels.. SHE ACCUSED ME OF EATING HER DOG. (her dog went missing in the night, and i woke up with blood on the sheets, most likely a stress caused nose bleed. as i got them A LOT.) , so, she gave me up. i guess she rly thought i was evil. (5) i was given to this genuinely nice couple, they parented me very well and loved me more than i could ever ask for. they did everything to make me feel safe, nightlight, stories, food that didnt make me sick.. they gave me a amazing puppy named lucy, she was the best dog. she helped me sleep at night, overall i loved them. i even had a little sister. but, sadly.. after my 6th birthday, my parents got me back. they never changed, just stopped doing (most) drugs. i honestly wish i could go back to that couple, they were the only ones that understood me.
I'm sorry if this is dumb to ask but how did your birth parents even get you back despite never changing? And the nice couple were doing a much better job so why separate you from them? I'm sorry. I hope you're living a better life or will live the best life while all the people/parents that failed you rot. I hope the nice couple and Lucy are fine.
@@corncobbob2326 honestly i dont know, they wouldnt even take a single parenting class.. theyve both openly said to cps workers and literal judges that they did not even want kids. i dont know. theres 100 different reasons i shouldnt have been placed back with them, i ask myself this question a lot. :( - sadly lucy passed in a house fire around 2020, after that the couple cut any and all contact w me .
idk why this was recommended to me but i ate up every second. none of yall deserved to go through that. i hope you and all the other kids and victims in this story have been able to at least begin their healing journey
You really hooked my ass by no intro setting the scene with the walmart. I appreciate the cozy down home vibes i'm getting from the white trash drama. Just like mama used to make it
right? took me right back to sitting in some lawn chairs on a porch late at night after the cop's almost got called, discussing all the tragedies in our lives like its a juicy novella. thats the kind of sh*t that helps you survive
Oh my GOD you are such an incredible storyteller. I’ve never been this focused on something for so long. 20 minutes felt like 3 minutes! Thank you for sharing your story, I’m glad you’re doing so well now
the most mindblowing thing about this as i listen to it is your ability to see things for why they are the way they are, and why the people that hurt you acted the way they did and still empathize. most people, me included, usually vilify their villains as a coping mechanism to direct their anger somewhere
as someone that went through hardships not that different from his, ive come to realize that attempting to understand why those people are the way they are is honestly just healthier for our own sakes sometimes. it doesnt mean we've forgive them or excuse what they've done, but when you can see how the life someone lived lead them to that point, it can help you notice and avoid struggles that might appear in your own life one day as a result of the situation you both live in. people hurt others most often because they themselves have been hurt at some point. when you can recognize the chain of abuse for what it is, it becomes easier to sever it and stop it from continuing. you can learn when your actions and behaviors are a result of the trauma you faced and learn better ways to cope with them then what those around you have done. of course there are certainly some people and actions that can never be understood or empathized with, and it can even be dangerous to try to do so. unfortunately victims often find it difficult to recognize where the line between understanding the situation objectively for what it is and allowing abuse to continue because you feel pity or guilt toward your abuser. we really just have to remember that no matter the things someone has gone through, people are still ultimately responsible for their own actions. we can explain and learn how these actions came to be, but these explanations must never and will never be a justification.
I followed this Trauma Dump so easily and I hardly ever have the attention span for anything. I adore you ❤ Thanks for sharing this with your followers.
Dude wtaf is up with Washington. Something was said abt the south in this video so it might not have been washington. But something about Washington is child abuse druggie central.
I googled shelton washington and one of the first results was "top 15 drug and alchohol rehab shelters in Shelton Washington." it was literally one of the top image results I have never seen that in my entire life. and here I thought spokane had it bad
Yep, same. My exhusband was an Oly gutter punk in the 90s - basically all those gutter punks moved out to Shelton when they started popping out kids, and they switched from meth to pills 😮
Wow I’m so fucking sorry. You are so strong I can’t believe how awful your environment was. I’m so sorry. You are a great speaker tho, I love how you articulate and storytell and the pace of your talking. You are very talented
Sounds much like a conference with many kids in my 7th grade classroom…the things I’ve heard. I’ve learned not to ask, “What’s going on at home?” unless I’m very prepared to deal with what I hear.
As someone else with a fuckload of trauma, thank you for sharing this in spite of the poisonous hellscape that is the internet. You've got some mad fortitude to recall all of this publicly; you're an amazing no-shit storyteller; and ngl, it's always good to remember I'm not alone in the scale of the shit I've been through. I hope you're healing and living the best life you can every day 💕
I'm training to be a therapist and dear god this is a mindfuck. I had a fucked childhood too but can't really remember it much because I ended up developing D.I.D.
@@cecilyerker Hi, there are actually plenty of therapists who have D.I.D or other similar conditions. People with are D.I.D are as capable as anyone else in holding a job in this field.
@@cecilyerker D.I.D when effectively managed and treated does not need to have any major impact on a person's functioning in professional or personal endeavors. Many people with D.I.D seek out helping professions because we have the intimate experience of trauma that facilitates an interest in helping others move forward in their healing journey. No offense taken happy to share my knowledge.
Sorry to pop in and derail the conversation a bit, I just saw this comment. I don't have DID but I have struggled with mental illness and was even training to be a therapist myself at one point. I've always thought it's incredibly important to have people specializing in mental health fields who also have the same (or very similar) mental health challenges, because they'd be able to better understand what patients are going through. I can't count how many times I wished therapists were better able to relate to me. It's incredibly needed and honestly way past due. I wish you all the best in your training and if you keep at it, I just know you're going to help a lot of people someday.
i fully believe this guy could bring back the tradition of oral storytelling i fully understood and could imagine everything he said and was invested the whole time and plus the level of detail was beautiful yet concise
When you grow up in the projects, who doesn't have a background like this? I'm sorry you went through the stress of seeing all this. Your story is so familiar.
Your video popped up in my suggested videos even though I've never heard of you before, but as a former foster child, you've inspired me to want to share my story too. It's really nice to hear someone else's story (I hope that doesn't sound awful) thank you for posting homie
Can we get more of this, pretty please? I enjoy the long form content and your story telling. As someone who also had a really wild childhood (my mom once put me, my big brother and sister in a motel closet so her and a friend could turn tricks and get high) i truly relate and its almost comforting to know we weren't alone, even though we felt that way at the time.
Hey, just wanted to say that even though you don't know me, or possible any of us through the internet, I love you AND your stories. Hearing you talk about things, takes on topics, memories, even your skits on tiktok, it makes me feel at least less lonely in this world. A friend that doesn't stress me out even. That even with different experiences, I can understand too. I'm glad your alive, and things are better.
Dude.... As much sympathy as I feel for you, this gotta be the best entertainment ever. It feels like my friend just telling me a story. You're like my favorite internet dweller so far.
I'm really sorry to hear what you went through! As someone with a very awful childhood too, this video was really cathartic to watch in a weird way. You vent about it with more courage than I ever could. I admire this a lot.
We need more story tellers like this. Comprehensive information, straight to the point, thorough and fast. lol I’m sorry you experienced all of this but you seemed to have turned out to be an awesome and strong person 🖤
I used to live in Union so having to drive into Shelton for absolutely anything was always a terrifying prospect when I had to take my kids with me. There were several assaults or kidnapping attempts at the Shelton Walmart while we lived out the way. Very scary having young kids there. I'm glad you are able to easily share this. ❤
Sorry you went through all of that trauma. Glad you’re still here to tell your story ❤ as a cps worker, I’m sorry you were failed into where they placed you.
i love how there’s no intro you just immediately got into it
LITERALLY 😂
one thing abt bela ☝️ she got no time for itty bitty chit chat when there’s backstory trauma to divulge
i came from tt thinking they just clipped it like that 💀
YES!!!
No I appreciate that because RUclipsrs have been waiting 20 minutes with completely unrelated information before starting their story times since 2017 and i cannot stand it.
his ability to totally recall all this in chronological order is impressive
AND not get sidetracked at all
that’s js how trauma is sometimes
Anyone from a shotty town in the mid west knows why hes able to just blast thru it like that.
You talk fast to get through it without pausing to let your feelings of the trauma settle in.
Honestly as someone whos been through a really shitty family situation, its hard to forget
@@ChloeOHwowie this
Homeboy didn't breathe ONCE
He did, just really fast 💨
Sure he did, you can tell what words he inhales around
Neither did I cause I listened a 1.5.
@@Randomodnar So there are these things called jokes
there were several jumpcuts
POV: You just learned this guy exists and it's through this video with no context
Idky this showed up in my recommended but I watched the whole thing 😭😭
I only knew about him because he was threatened by Nicki Minaj fans but this is my first real introduction to belatown and... yeah.
@@obsidiangarbage6741 Wait, that happened?
... that explains the "I'm sorry about Nicki Manaj/you getting banned" comments on the Belatown videos. That sucks.
Yep 😂❤
This is my POV rn xD; im always here to listen to the stories of my fellow survivors of childhood trauma, and always glad to find such ppl to follow and to encourage and to support; bcuz we need to work together if we ever wanna see humanity overcome these many problems which allow us to suffer so grtly before we even have the right to speak for ourselves
Bela town is starting to make a lot more sense now
That’s what I’m saying
Please explain what this was
@@rainbomg so basically the person who made this video also makes videos on tiktok with dolls, they are very reminiscent of the stories you make up with dolls when you were a kid, it’s a ton of drama (think every extremely dramatic show you watched and make it something you’d see on Maury). Any possible way I could explain it wouldn’t do it justice for how entertaining it is.
“The whole town was the Walmart” 😭😭
Right!!!
I lived in a town like that before, and everyone was having sex with each other, much like this story lol
That was so relatable oml
That reminds me of the time I had a woman made an announcement for my name because I was lost in Walmart as a kid once 😭
Small town realness
No five year old should have lore this crazy
homies got opps since six years old
life b like that but we cope n ball
but many, many DO...
Believe it or not, it’s VERY common 😅
Ur storytelling skills are immaculate please make more I could listen to u talk about anything
omg fr
actually
Exactly my first thought
I was literally going to comment this 😭 I’m so sorry they had to go through this tho :(
Their TikTok is full of stories like this
Not a single UM spoken this man just KEPT GOING 💀
I don't think that's a man
@@beautydraugr ??
@@beautydraugrhe is
@@beautydraugr”we can always tell” people when they see a slightly feminine cis man::::
@@skramz_enjoyercaliborn
There's something about the delivery of "That doesnt seem right to me personally but you know what i suppose ill take your word for it" that gets me.
7:51 ❤
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FACTS 😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
this singlehandedly cured my short attention span, every single second I was INVESTED
you are so real for this
Same I mean I have no idea why I clicked this video but I did and then I stood still and stared at the screen until he was done I have never experienced such a LACK of distraction
SAME!!! This man single-handedly cured my ADHD, at least for twenty minutes. 😂 I was glued to the screen & the rest of the world all but disappeared for me. What a master storyteller.
My man didn't take a breath ONCE. He definitely has ADHD too XD
LITERALLY
god this is the unphased storytelling that i’ve only ever experienced in treatment, it’s really refreshing
maybe it’s just because i’m trans and i had only met other unapologetically gay or trans people when we were in a psych ward but
unrelated but you’re so pretty omg
mewo
it’s the trauma
The way I ran from tiktok
Right
Wdym
I flew. You can’t just start a video like that and not expect me to jump.
I ran too damn fast🤣🤣.
Right
It’s so crazy when people remember vivid details of their childhood. I got clocked in my face by my dad at 11 and one day I woke up and I was 18 years old
I know you are an incredibly witty and funny person but I have such an insane amount of admiration for you. I cannot fathom growing up in those conditions and still being able to so eloquently explain what happened
The way you talk about all this trauma in such a…not positive but put-together and sociable way is truly admirable. Idk if it’s a sign of you being fully healed or you having to talk about this shit like it’s instagram influencer drama in order to get through it but I have nothing but respect 💛
When it's how you grew up, even if you know it's not normal or okay, you can talk about it like this. Because it *feels* normal.
@@Aelffwynn I understand, that makes sense
let's be honestly if someone was talking about their trauma while being emotional, sad, enraged or whatever, many MANY people would lose their empathy towards them. because we love perfectly put together model victims
@@glupik1234 why would they lose empathy? I'm confused. if someone was upset because they're talking about an experience that messed them up it would be understandable.
@@corncobbob2326totally fine if u havent experienced this, bless your heart but people tend to assume that people cry on command, rather than instinctively/naturally, so they assume the victm whos obviously just overwhelmed by their trauma is attention seeking, lying about trauma and using tears to emotionally distract any skepticism, being dramatic emotionally, non-emotionally blowing things out of porportion for some other gain, etc.
basically the good ol "well they dont have a straight face and arent looking at me in the eyes so they must be dishonest"
This actually makes sense why Bela town is so chaotic. And the unpredictability of it all is SO relatable , I’m sorry you went through that
These foster parents never think that the kid will grow up to have a voice. How terrible to say you are helping a child only to abuse them 😭
Inexcusable!!!
That happens more than it ever should.
Yup experienced the same thing. I made a documentary about my experience and my foster mom found out (I’m now 32 btw lol) and she was very nasty. She should’ve played a better character in my life and shouldn’t have been abusive. Oh well.
i know so many foster kids and not a single one of them wasnt horribly abused
@@zote8106the first one I had was sus (don’t remember any overt abuse but they were somewhat neglectful leaving a 5 yr old alone in the house), but the second one was aight. Bio mom was a lot worse, before and after foster care and reunification.
This screams small town america, fortunately my parents were lame but this kind of drama happened all around me growing up
Lame parents are a blessing
Literally like my parents think our suburbia small town is hot shit but they didn't grow up here and meet all the kids who were seriously struggling with awful homes/parents
Only a person who grew up with "lame" parents would say that like it's a bad thing. ☠️be fing grateful and speak on them respectfully
@@klz9500they literally said “fortunately my parents were lame”,,, they’re clearly grateful?
Lololol... Thank god for the lame ones...
grabbing a crayon from a child and asking them “you think i’m fucking around?” is so funny i’m so sorry you went through this
funny?
@@ribbonsinmyheartI mean, it shouldn't be, but it is. Big, strong man threatens toddler.
My dad did this a few times. Crayons, dolls, teddybears, all grabbed, his face in mine, threatening bodily harm. 🙃
@@LittleMissDeath damn yours was starting with threats?
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 He very rarely hit me because he was afraid of my mom. But there were times when she wasn't around. He just mainlt enjoyed threatening and putting fear into me.
Manslaughter over 45$ seems like the plot a kid's movie would've had
Nah, shit like that does happen
@@asmodeusguys4472yep. like hollywood wishes it could even come close to capturing the sort of drama, tragedy, and heartache that small town americans experience literally every single day. its kind of insane how often these things happen
@@asmodeusguys4472 art imitates life, life imitates art
this video feels like we're longtime friends and it's 3am and we're just talking about all our traumas like it's storytime
this is so accurate
This is exactly what this is
Children being taken away is such a difficult topic bc foster homes are not vetted enough to be made sure their safe with the amount of sexual, mental, physical and emotional abuse that goes on in them
All it takes to ruin a child's life is one adult/older kid who decides to do horrible things behind closed doors and scare the child out of telling. And there aren't enough good homes for every kid who needs one (let alone all the kids who are wrongfully taken away.) Honestly the best thing we can do is educate kids on what is/isn't appropriate and support them however we can. We're even failing at that, though. Sad.
It’s honestly insane how difficult it is to become a foster parent and meet those qualifications while simultaneously being so unvetted. It’s like they want the system to fail these kids.
one of my best friends got adopted and her adoptive parents started abusing her, idk the ins and outs but she doesn’t live with them anymore. it’s so sad, she was safe with her foster mum too, her foster mum was friends with her birth mum, it’s so disgusting.
@@EttieSpagheti seriously! Don’t they automatically refuse to allow you to foster if you’re a single mom or dad?
I don’t understand the process at all.
It's how the system was made on purpose Cps is sex trafficking America's children!!
“The whole town was on drugs” LMAOO
yeah that's pretty typical.
#the locals aren't quirky #they're racist
#there's nothing to do #everyone's on drugs
"try that in a small town" was clearly written by someone who's never been anywhere near to, if they've even _heard of,_ Appalachia... or past the suburban sprawl of ANY city.
WOW this guy can tell a story, he's not reading off a script or cutting out any "ums" or pauses!
Thats not something to laugh at
you think its funny?
live in small town, work at jail there.
yeah its just meth and alcohol 😔
No intro is wild, feels like opening a book and starting to read half way through chapter 2 ❤
😂😂😂😂
I don’t know how you survived that and the abuse of your foster parents . I’m so sorry you had to go through that, and as a child that young you should be running outside with your siblings not living in these rough conditions. I hope things are better now
Sounding like a season of Shameless
SO TRUE LMAOOO
Oh my god true
the way i screamed. LITERALLY THIS!!!!!!!
Or an episode
I really needed to hear this 🥺 my twin sister told CPS lies about me and took my baby and recently she arrested for putting hands on my baby... He's 2! I'm actually getting my stuff together at the moment and get him back so hearing this I have high hopes. Thank you 🙏❤️
I’m proud of you for working on getting your stuff together, never give up!
Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤
Sending love 🫶
This is the reason my therapist and his wife are foster parents. He said there are too many that aren’t interested in caring for the children and raising them to be great adults. The foster care system needs people that are stable, sane, and truly committed to caring for the children entrusted to them.
@@margiestevens2384I think about it all the time, I kind of feel like it’s a civic duty. If you only ever even foster one kid and you are just you yourself a healthy, stable, kind person that’s an entire life that you’ve potentially rerouted away from additional suffering. It’s absolutely bonkers to me that it’s common knowledge how bad foster homes are. If you can’t foster people, look into fostering animals! There are a ton of dogs and kittens and cats that need someone to look after them until they’re adopted. The shelters are overcrowded. I feel like if you have stability, you owe it to your community to help
I’m so sorry. My brother tried to do that to as his marriage can’t conceive. It created so much stress.
god i have missed this era of youtube. can we please bring these videos back
thank you for having closed captions too! im sorry you went through this. i hope you have a peaceful and healthy future ❤
the craziest 19 mins and 7 seconds ive ever listened to-
Wow I knew that there are a lot of people in this country who grew up in dysfunctional families with drug addictions, but I never knew there were entire towns where almost every family in them is just like that... Really eye opening.
america is a modern hell country
most small towns have these issues to some degree tbh, some just have it worse than others. like we call it an addiction epidemic for a reason, it literally spreads like a virus in our communities. you cant always just cut people off when they get addicted because there often arent any alternatives. you either give in to peer pressure or you lose your only friends, and theres really not all that many things to do in small towns besides hang out with friends. when you have no money, no hope, not much future, and nothing else to do but party at an age too young, its very easy to fall into these things.
plus small towns are chock full of the kind of struggles that worsen addiction. small towns are poor. poverty leads to stress, stress leads to arguments, arguments lead to trauma, trauma leads to addiction, and then addiction leads right back to poverty. its a vicious cycle that feeds into itself across families and communities, often over many generations. the only thing that can help this situation is easier access to mental health services and better programs that actually help the poor escape poverty rather than keep them trapped in it.
“I was basically, literally raised by a television” and the television did a fine job my dude. You came out fine ❤
I was raised by unrestricted internet access and came out with a p-rn addiction 😭🫡
Yeah no. You kinda missed the tone of that comment.
Are you stupid bruh
@@tonyhoffman3309 I'm pretty sure they were joking, but yeah, being raised by a tv is indeed bad.
the way my head TURNED when you said c. jenniffer couldnt get custody because she went to prison for MANSLAUGHTER
No idea who this guy is, never watched a video even slightly similar to this before, but I fw this. I fw whatever is going on rn.
The way you got right into it is iconic
Dude, I hope you got therapy. This is crazy levels of trauma. And people with normal families can't imagine how privileged they are and think everyone that does crime has no moral compass.
They were really just raised with no support and even CPS which is supposed to protect children, abandoned them.
Granted, there are possibly many people that do crime and do have a poor moral compass. It’s not the only factor but it’s one. (And remember this doesn’t apply to everyone, and it’s also worth questioning if it’s a poor moral compass or just a numbness/adaptation to a life of chaos and instability)
The issue for me is when people reduce those who commit crime down to just “bad guys” without questioning why they’re that way. Instead of asking questions with a genuine curiosity to know how their fellow human is doing they’d rather drop some dollars in a Salvation Army bucket so they can feel good about themselves for supporting the poor without confronting said poor directly because apparently in the same breath they’re fucking lazy scum !
It’s really an awful situation. Without your consent you’re dropped into an environment of chaos, brokenness and discomfort and you have to live with it for the next god knows how many years. Naturally, you emulate what you see in the environment because it’s all you’ve known. You repeat the same things because they’ve been normalized to you, they’re assumed to be mundane and the usual. Then you’re vilified for it, labeled a monster, a dirty lazy person, a wretch, etc. Or hell, a lot of times you don’t completely take everything to be normalized but the conditions you and everyone else are in pretty much solidifies the cycle. You do what you have to do as a human being to make it and then the more fortunate of society villainize you for it. You had so little cards in your deck to begin with, so you cheated in order to get yourself up to the spot everyone else started with. But uh oh! You broke the rules! How dare you?!! We’re gonna burn all your cards and then wonder why you start to steal them!
Conclusion: what the fuck
CPS is the most broken system in the US
Based on how he talks about it it sounds like he's gone to / is in therapy.
So that’s an excuse for psychopaths and nechrophiliacs?!
@@carnuatusidk. u can definitely talk about trauma like this without therapy.
"I just thought it was something that happened to people from time to time" broke me. This was the strangest and most profound recommend youtube has ever given me.
idk how your nonchalant delivery of such a crazy story still sounds so unbiased and centered. if i were rich i would reimburse your therapy because i can only imagine how much it cost you to be able to tell this all without showing much of any resentment at all.
so if you got a coin for every time your parents got invited to live in a ménage à trois and the people who invited them got really mad that they refused you'd only have two coins but it's weird that it happened twice 😭😭
Wow. As a child abuse survivor from the southern us the way you told this story was not only relatable but also awe inspiring. Really made me nostalgic for the middle of the night sessions in a psych ward being surrounded by other teens who 'got it'
Swapping stories and roasting our abusive families to feel better.
More than enough Maury to know that ain’t your daddy😭😭
I have no idea who you are, this video was recommended to me. I am enthralled by your story, thank you for sharing
my story with CPS. :
when i was 0-2, i lived in a trailer with one bed, with my brother, and our two drug addict parents. then my mom got a new boyfriend, we lived with him and he was ok, drank a lot but it wasnt too bad there. (2-3)
(3-5) she got a new boyfriend, J.
J was a heavy drinker that was abusive to my mother, me, and my brother. my mom refused to leave him, even after he would lock me in closest, outside.. for hours, they would hardly feed me. they had a untrained dog that bit me multible times, i was taken from school by CPS after talking to a cop. (At 5)
for around a month, me and my brother bounced around a few homes, one with this wife and husband that had MANY animals. but they had to give us up due to a trip they had planned,
then with another couple, they hardly spoke english.. they made us sleep in different rooms with all the lights off, as a child who was put through HOURS in a small dark closest, i hated it. i didnt sleep the entire week we were there, so they gave us up too.
after that, my brother was tooken while i was asleep. no goodbye, nothing. they just took him.
alone, and scared, i was sent to this christian woman. she had two beds. she could've tooken in my brother. i hated this woman. she only gave me barbies to play with, i could only watch movies about angels.. SHE ACCUSED ME OF EATING HER DOG. (her dog went missing in the night, and i woke up with blood on the sheets, most likely a stress caused nose bleed. as i got them A LOT.) , so, she gave me up. i guess she rly thought i was evil.
(5) i was given to this genuinely nice couple, they parented me very well and loved me more than i could ever ask for. they did everything to make me feel safe, nightlight, stories, food that didnt make me sick.. they gave me a amazing puppy named lucy, she was the best dog. she helped me sleep at night, overall i loved them. i even had a little sister.
but, sadly.. after my 6th birthday, my parents got me back. they never changed, just stopped doing (most) drugs. i honestly wish i could go back to that couple, they were the only ones that understood me.
Sounds similar to my childhood. How are you doing now? Are you in therapy?
What about your brother? Did you ever see him again :(
I'm sorry if this is dumb to ask but how did your birth parents even get you back despite never changing? And the nice couple were doing a much better job so why separate you from them? I'm sorry. I hope you're living a better life or will live the best life while all the people/parents that failed you rot. I hope the nice couple and Lucy are fine.
@@corncobbob2326 honestly i dont know, they wouldnt even take a single parenting class.. theyve both openly said to cps workers and literal judges that they did not even want kids. i dont know. theres 100 different reasons i shouldnt have been placed back with them, i ask myself this question a lot. :( - sadly lucy passed in a house fire around 2020, after that the couple cut any and all contact w me .
@@OfficialKimIsNoob he was placed back with our parents aswell.
i wish i could cohesively tell stories like this it takes me five minutes and a bunch of “like” and “umm…” to get out like three sentences
"Who the f*ck starts a conversation like that, I just sat down"
this had my jaw on the floor for the whole 19 minutes and 7 seconds.
i am absolutely invested.
You have the gift of gab. Amazing storyteller. I won’t address your life, I’m just glad that you survived it.
I haven’t had tiktok in like a year but now the doll skits make so much sense and I feel a sense of closure and completion
idk why this was recommended to me but i ate up every second. none of yall deserved to go through that. i hope you and all the other kids and victims in this story have been able to at least begin their healing journey
they could never make me hate you
I just came from tiktok and God Almighty you are strong asf for going through that, big up my man!!
The speed in which you speak is truly God given. Thank you for sharing!
You really hooked my ass by no intro setting the scene with the walmart. I appreciate the cozy down home vibes i'm getting from the white trash drama. Just like mama used to make it
right? took me right back to sitting in some lawn chairs on a porch late at night after the cop's almost got called, discussing all the tragedies in our lives like its a juicy novella. thats the kind of sh*t that helps you survive
I feel like this kind of story is not uncommon to hear from people who spent time in the foster care system. We really fail kids on every level.
you need an animator, you got so many plot twists you could have cannibalized for like ten episodes and it would have been just as captivating
Oh my GOD you are such an incredible storyteller. I’ve never been this focused on something for so long. 20 minutes felt like 3 minutes! Thank you for sharing your story, I’m glad you’re doing so well now
The raw storytelling on this man reminds me of old RUclips
Just listened to the whole thing, WHAT IS THIS MAN'S LIFE?
@@Star_Dust3just wait until you find out about Daniel Hentschel
@@rickdingenenzo Didn't know "my students are all morons" guy had a whole channel
the most mindblowing thing about this as i listen to it is your ability to see things for why they are the way they are, and why the people that hurt you acted the way they did and still empathize. most people, me included, usually vilify their villains as a coping mechanism to direct their anger somewhere
as someone that went through hardships not that different from his, ive come to realize that attempting to understand why those people are the way they are is honestly just healthier for our own sakes sometimes. it doesnt mean we've forgive them or excuse what they've done, but when you can see how the life someone lived lead them to that point, it can help you notice and avoid struggles that might appear in your own life one day as a result of the situation you both live in.
people hurt others most often because they themselves have been hurt at some point. when you can recognize the chain of abuse for what it is, it becomes easier to sever it and stop it from continuing. you can learn when your actions and behaviors are a result of the trauma you faced and learn better ways to cope with them then what those around you have done.
of course there are certainly some people and actions that can never be understood or empathized with, and it can even be dangerous to try to do so. unfortunately victims often find it difficult to recognize where the line between understanding the situation objectively for what it is and allowing abuse to continue because you feel pity or guilt toward your abuser. we really just have to remember that no matter the things someone has gone through, people are still ultimately responsible for their own actions. we can explain and learn how these actions came to be, but these explanations must never and will never be a justification.
I followed this Trauma Dump so easily and I hardly ever have the attention span for anything. I adore you ❤ Thanks for sharing this with your followers.
imagine seeing this on ur recommended...with no context LMFAOOO
that's me rn I'm so confused 😅
that's me rn
Only context i had was following bela on tiktok for 2 years
That’s meeee
Here I am, confused but captivated
I’m so impressed of the no hesitation
I clicked on this expecting to leave after like 4 minutes but i was invested the whole time, you're such a great storyteller lol
You’re a badass for sharing this. So many children grew up the way you did and you just made someone feel seen.
As someone from a small town, I feel Walmart being the heart of the city
I had no context going in but truly no amount of it would have prepared me for that
The title of this could be "How to Develop CPTSD, in Under 20 Minutes"
the way you went through all of that and managed to tell it as a story with witty language shows real strength of character
I love the way you call out shit people... you stand on business and I just really have so much respect... thanks for being you ✨️🦋
Your tiktok had me hooked lmao I ran here so fast
Damn people really do have insane lives sometimes huh. Love how you told all this tho, amazing to listen to tbh
"I moved to a town named shelton"
I'm assuming Shelton Washington based on the description alone
Its gotta be. The Walmart being the center of everything, the prison down the street, inc3stuous families, multiple nasty Jennifers 😂😂
Dude wtaf is up with Washington. Something was said abt the south in this video so it might not have been washington. But something about Washington is child abuse druggie central.
I made the same jump and I don't even live that close, lol
I googled shelton washington and one of the first results was "top 15 drug and alchohol rehab shelters in Shelton Washington." it was literally one of the top image results I have never seen that in my entire life. and here I thought spokane had it bad
Yep, same. My exhusband was an Oly gutter punk in the 90s - basically all those gutter punks moved out to Shelton when they started popping out kids, and they switched from meth to pills 😮
Wow I’m so fucking sorry. You are so strong I can’t believe how awful your environment was. I’m so sorry. You are a great speaker tho, I love how you articulate and storytell and the pace of your talking. You are very talented
Sounds much like a conference with many kids in my 7th grade classroom…the things I’ve heard. I’ve learned not to ask, “What’s going on at home?” unless I’m very prepared to deal with what I hear.
I love the way you talk. You're so funny, but I seriously cannot imagine how hard your childhood was.
Is it just me, or did anyone else click on this video randomly & get hooked three seconds in
As someone else with a fuckload of trauma, thank you for sharing this in spite of the poisonous hellscape that is the internet. You've got some mad fortitude to recall all of this publicly; you're an amazing no-shit storyteller; and ngl, it's always good to remember I'm not alone in the scale of the shit I've been through. I hope you're healing and living the best life you can every day 💕
gorl u could be talking for hours and i’d still listen, you’re such an amazing storyteller
I'm training to be a therapist and dear god this is a mindfuck. I had a fucked childhood too but can't really remember it much because I ended up developing D.I.D.
No offense but wouldn’t your DID interfere with your ability to be a therapist?
@@cecilyerker Hi, there are actually plenty of therapists who have D.I.D or other similar conditions. People with are D.I.D are as capable as anyone else in holding a job in this field.
@@cecilyerker D.I.D when effectively managed and treated does not need to have any major impact on a person's functioning in professional or personal endeavors. Many people with D.I.D seek out helping professions because we have the intimate experience of trauma that facilitates an interest in helping others move forward in their healing journey. No offense taken happy to share my knowledge.
Sorry to pop in and derail the conversation a bit, I just saw this comment. I don't have DID but I have struggled with mental illness and was even training to be a therapist myself at one point. I've always thought it's incredibly important to have people specializing in mental health fields who also have the same (or very similar) mental health challenges, because they'd be able to better understand what patients are going through. I can't count how many times I wished therapists were better able to relate to me. It's incredibly needed and honestly way past due. I wish you all the best in your training and if you keep at it, I just know you're going to help a lot of people someday.
NEVER AGAIN will I complain about my parents. I love that you are so blunt and straight to the point!
i fully believe this guy could bring back the tradition of oral storytelling i fully understood and could imagine everything he said and was invested the whole time and plus the level of detail was beautiful yet concise
When you grow up in the projects, who doesn't have a background like this? I'm sorry you went through the stress of seeing all this. Your story is so familiar.
Your video popped up in my suggested videos even though I've never heard of you before, but as a former foster child, you've inspired me to want to share my story too. It's really nice to hear someone else's story (I hope that doesn't sound awful) thank you for posting homie
Can we get more of this, pretty please? I enjoy the long form content and your story telling. As someone who also had a really wild childhood (my mom once put me, my big brother and sister in a motel closet so her and a friend could turn tricks and get high) i truly relate and its almost comforting to know we weren't alone, even though we felt that way at the time.
What a compelling story! I love the time we are living in where we get to hear a diversity in voices and the types of life stories that are out there.
Hey, just wanted to say that even though you don't know me, or possible any of us through the internet, I love you AND your stories. Hearing you talk about things, takes on topics, memories, even your skits on tiktok, it makes me feel at least less lonely in this world. A friend that doesn't stress me out even. That even with different experiences, I can understand too. I'm glad your alive, and things are better.
that was the most charismatic trauma dump i have ever experienced
The storytelling kept me hooked the whole bus ride home
This has the same energy as the "You, me, gas station" meme
I really like hearing your stories, your cadence, your way of speaking. I hope you make more videos.
Me (tiktok fan) recognizing half these situations/names: 👀
Sorry can you elaborate?
@@Es-FlowersThis is probably the ultimate summary of a tiktok story saga this youtuber made on tiktok
On TikTok Bela performs dramas where Barbies get into insane situations and they sound a whole lot like this childhood.
The concise and precise way you told this story is incredible
Dude.... As much sympathy as I feel for you, this gotta be the best entertainment ever. It feels like my friend just telling me a story. You're like my favorite internet dweller so far.
I'm really sorry to hear what you went through! As someone with a very awful childhood too, this video was really cathartic to watch in a weird way. You vent about it with more courage than I ever could. I admire this a lot.
I don't know how I got here but I'm hooked.
We need more story tellers like this. Comprehensive information, straight to the point, thorough and fast. lol
I’m sorry you experienced all of this but you seemed to have turned out to be an awesome and strong person 🖤
I’m so sorry Bela. Much love and thank you for sharing your story
I love how he tells us all the minimum details of every single situation! it feels like watching a movie!
and I also love how fast he talks
I used to live in Union so having to drive into Shelton for absolutely anything was always a terrifying prospect when I had to take my kids with me. There were several assaults or kidnapping attempts at the Shelton Walmart while we lived out the way. Very scary having young kids there. I'm glad you are able to easily share this. ❤
This explains so much. Especially the Barbie fights you be having.
Sorry you went through all of that trauma. Glad you’re still here to tell your story ❤ as a cps worker, I’m sorry you were failed into where they placed you.