Okay lets get to the point that how to deal with toxic parents🔻 1. Stop trying to please them 2. Set and enforce boundaries 3. Be mindful of what you share with them 4.Don’t try to change them 5. Know your parents’ limitations and work around them - but only if you want to 6.Take care of yourself physically mentally emotionally and financially. I hope you are okay❤️
I have toxic parents, who always try to control me. They had given me a lot of trauma. Being a soft-hearted and sensitive girl I feel so bad. There is no single day I have not cried. Don't know but I want to end my life... I don't want that mental abuse. I am fed up with this
same situation I suffer from depression become of this and i also got panic attacks and also try to harm my self 2 times, they always force me to do what they want, but since I start followed bts I become positive and I start to take stand for my self, I follow suga as his condition was also like this he suffer alot but he fight and today he become what he want to be I will always follow him.
@@anushkajaiswal9490 not toxic but they don't support him for his dream of being rapper they forced him to concentrate on his study and they don't like when he spent time on rapping they want him to Focus only on study and somewhere I read that his Father burt his rapping lyrics which he used to write in his school days because of all this he got in depression and even he try to hurt himself but then he left his home and went to Seoul and work hard a lot and today he became successful rapper and now his parents support him
Don’t do suicide life’s more than this I have also face this type of things and seen pray to GOD the one you like and take HIS/HER name and do the work Hope it helps😊
@@pearlvineeducation2213 because they all are provoked by these kind of influencer who set a bug on growing kids to go against their parents and ruin their lifes....🙄
kon chutiya toxic maa baap ye dekh rha hoga....delh bhi rha hoga to isi ldki ko gali de rha hoga....ki kya seekha rhi h bakwas......un chutiya maa baap ka kuch ni hona....hmara to sb khraab kr hi diya hai
i witnessed a huge trauma today like my mom said to me that she did the biggest mistake by bringing me into this world just because i slept for a lil while after a morning study session then she exaggerated the whole matter by cursing me the whole day she actually didnt even think that it affected my mental health and mind as my boards as approaching i need to be fully focused on my studies . Tqsm di seeing this video after having a bad day encouraged me that God gives the hardest battles to its strongest soldiers. All the best to everyone who's giving board exams this year
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health
Exactly. U r talking real. I am 38 year old indian. And have faced this. Toxic parents hai upar se bolte tumhe isse ache parents nahi mil sakte.....wat a joke 😂😂😂
I feel so sad . Cuz all the points are in my parents. As I'm from a middle class family, I always try to please them by good grades and well behaviour. But trust mehh nothing can satisfy their mind... My efforts are just nothing to them! They always compare me with other childs... Even my dad is a very selfish man...! That's why I always try to listen to my mom and try to make her happy. But still, she always notices the bad sides ! I really hate my life.
My parents are so toxic. My mother always scold me and my sister . Today , its my first day after giving board exam so i was plannning to clean my room at daytime . She came and scolded me for half an hour . She always insult me infront of everyone. She said that " she must be chatting with her boyfriend. Go and be with him . She makes my neighours also listen that . I dont have any bf but she did tell it. I am just tired by all this. I always cry every night . I believe God will make everything right someday❤
My parents used to beat me for no reasons .when I was a kid i remember my mother used to sleep for whole day and I was so small to take care of myself .she used to kick me because I was the second girl child.with time passing my father my mother and my eldest sister kept on torturing me .I dnt want to remember those days , with God Grace i get a beautiful life partner and a cute son .they are my lifelines but still I am dealing with past depression.
Didi I am seeing you first time but I can relate with you words you are 100% write. Mostly 75% Indian parents ase hi hote hai Our coming generations will have the best parents ever. So let's make a promise ki ham asa apne ane wale generations ke sath nahi karenge. 😢🙂✅
Thank you so much for this video, sister. I'm 34 years old and still struggling to deal with my toxic parents. I'm not surprised to see that India isn't anywhere on the good parenting list; society ne hi itna toxic banake rakha hai iss poore issue ko. I'll continue to fight for my rights too. Best wishes and more strength to everyone facing this problem.
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health. I’m 33 now and happy finally!
This generation will be the best parents in future ❤ Becuz ham sabse kuch na kuch jhela hai aur sabse badi baat that all parents have to know is apne bacho ko dusre bacho se compare karoge toh woh khud insecure feel karne lagega uska apne aap se bharosa tut jayga i have experienced that
Bachpan se leke abhi Tak ye trauma and controlling badhti hi Jaa rahi ..I m now 22 yrs old girl...ab Mai job karna chahti hu to vo bhi nhi karne de rahe....they are not parents..they are biggest enemy of my life😭😭😭😭I don't have any personal phone, Ghar ke bahar jaane nhi dete, purane friends se Milne nhi dete agar kisi friend ka phon aa jaaye to baate sunne ke liye wahi paas me mere khade ho jaate h..inhe baate bhi Sunni h ki kya baat Hui...I hate them😢😢😢😢😢😢
Shittttt bhaiiiiiiiu toxicity ki haadh par kardi yarr ..........😭😭😭😭😭 Felling bad for you btw now ur 22 girl not a chid...............yeh baat apke parents ko smjni chaiye
My mother is so toxic ... She has affected my mental health immensely... Almost torturing me very badly...she is competitive and jealous with me being a mother. Since childhood she has been abusive. She even steels away the credit of my talents and hardwork... She says " Maine tumhe khilaya tha, that's why you achieved. All the credit belongs to me... You are useless"
This video is totally on point while describing toxic parenting. Every point is well explained and there's hardly any point to be rebutted. In fact, this video explains my toxic parents to the T. I literally grew up in an environment where parents were treated as god, so I treated my parents as gods too. I thought, making my parents happy and proud was my responsibility, and if I couldn't do it, then I'm undeserving to even live. There were times I often used to blame myself for my parents unhappiness, even when they were happy for no valid reason and for something which even I couldn't control. Majority of my life (until the age 22), I have seen my parents never being happy with me; it was like _mera saans lena bhi unko unhappy bana deta tha._ They treated me like their emotional punchbag. Any setback they felt in life, they blamed me for it. They were never ashamed to insult me even in public. They accused me of a lot of things, like tarnishing family's name, destroying family's worth, making them look "bad" in front of others, being "selfish", etc. I was called names and received such humiliating remarks, that were enough to give me mental health issues and at times make me feel su1c1da!. Even at the moments of distress, I was only berated and mocked by my parents. My parents had zero empathy and didn't care about my mental and emotional struggles. I grew up thinking this is what normal parenting is. My parents conditined me throughout my life to believe that how the people outside are so evil and how they (my parents) are the best people. And the more I believed them, the more they felt rightful to inflict emotional and verbal abuse on me. They ensured that I just be useless and good for nothing throughout my life, and they made sure it happens. I am pretty much destroyed by the parenting I was raised under, because it never gave me the right to stand for myself, make decisions, have opinions, or even do the most basic things on my own. I struggle to make relationships and can't build enough confidence. The childhood trauma has got a tremendous impact on me.
BTW, I left my house in 2019, and am living independently. The hard part was that as someone who has never learnt to think independently and survive on my own, I had to start my life again from zero. What's even harder is that despite living separately, the psychological impact of their verbal and emotional abuse still affects me. I believe this impact is going to remain in my mind throughout my life, so I am just trying to make peace with my current mental state. In the beginning, I feared I won't survive more than a month or two, and now I am over 4.5 years living on my own, and I feel surprised that I was able to do it. I do not regret this decision. I keep little to no contact with my family. I had talked to my mom a few months ago, only to realize that they're still the same and if I go back to living with my parents, things would go worse for me.
I totally relate because I am going through a similar situation myself. My mother is highly toxic because of her abusive upbringing and my father is an expert at gaslighting and emotional manipulation. Both of them have a holier-than-thou complex and feel their views are supreme. What's worse, society forces us to worship them and wont hear a word against them. Glad you've finally become independent and are living life on your terms. That is my target now as well. Growing out of half a lifetime of abuse is hard, but can certainly be done. All the best and stay blessed. 😊
@@-summertime-sadness- I hope you are fine now. I am going through the same thing. I really dont know what to do. I am in 11th right now. I can't even take a step right now😔. If you don't mind sis can you please tell what did you do and how you were able to live alone?
12:22 there was some popular Indian RUclipsr (I guess Sonu Sharma), who once told in his video, something like "maan baap sab se kam bharosa apne bachcho pe hi karte hai". It feels so true.
@@KamakshiKanjilalchal be ghanta Kai maa baap to bachapn se hi torcher kr rhe hote h apne bache ko usne konsa trust Tod diya ? Peda krke? Jab bacha nhi chaiye to peda kyu krte h 💩🚽80% parents are toxic they don't deserve child
@@KamakshiKanjilal I dunno where you're coming from, but I had an upbringing where my parents (esp. my dad) treated me as if I can't be trusted no matter what. There were no conditions or any specific mishappenings that made them trust me less. The lack of trust was by default.
@@-summertime-sadness- my dad also treats me like this... Due to him, I went in depression in class 8, later I realised that I can't live with this much negative vibes... That's why I started avoiding him as much as I can... Now when I'm in class 10, I feel so happy that I started staying away from him... Atleast I'm not crying for the whole day as I used to earlier... I started spending more time with my mother and friends and it has helped me a lot to stay positive and happy... Thank god my mother is not at all like my father👁🗨❤ Take care and stay happy @-summertime-sadness-
You told the real fact swara dii😢. But kya karu, mein bohot hi soft hearted hun, choti se choti baat dil prr lag jati hain jitna bhi ignore krne ki try kro😢
After listening to this im so thankful that my father supports me atleast my dream he always takes me to opportunities... Still being toxic they support. 🌛
Didi thank you for sharing your thoughts about toxic parents and how to deal with them i also have toxic parents and i cry everyday . Sometimes i think that i am a bad daughter but no matter how much i improve my self for her they really don't care 😔
😢i can totally relate , i am a teenager girl and growing up in a toxic house is really bad .....they are arey toxic but what hurts the most is they discriminate between me and my sister .......both of us are female we are thier daughter but they discriminate between us , she is younger than me and i loved her so much , but they made her toxic too , and now these 3 torture me either mentally or physically , i have nevwr seen them evern raising a voice on my sis and me , they beat me shout me ....i feel just helpless.......i literally cried watching this .....i just feel like to go away from this home , i literally need escape.......... I stand for myself but then they are like , shut up u don't have a right to do anything "we are parents " ............i am just waiting to escape from this house
wow..everything relates with me, exceot i have younger brother..THEY WOULD TREAT US SO DIFFERENTLY, like the fuck is wrong with them..if i made a mistake, they shout and over react, if he makes a mistake, theyre like its okay, hes small na
@@Moonlightsaphire111 ik sis , we say things are changed now. boy and hirl are treated equally but no especially wuen parents do this it hurts so much....i don't have brother but i can understand your pain ...... Every parents do not deserve a child It hurts me , seeing my parents treating my younger sis nicely and me ? I think i am invisible
do this, take a book, write the lessons i learned.. i did this and realised that theyre not my parents, Real parents dont hurt you, even if they do, they will apologise for it, real parents really care about your future, your toxic parents dont..they see you as an investment, if they give you basic needs, we should give them the luxuries of life which is wrong because they dont deserve it even one bit. Stop talking to your parents, really it will help you emotionally and mentally, my parents hurt me in the past many times 1 or 2 years back and (even now but i ignore), so im telling this with experience, dont talk to them, dont try to change them, they will not change, dont simply waste your energy and your precious time on them. and then because you wasted all of your enenergy on them, you cant focus on studies and get all mental problems so before it happens, please start setting boundries, dont spend enough time with them..if they dont love, they dont love you and thats okay, atleast you know their true colors. Whatever theyre doing to you, that scolding, its because, deep inside they are jealous of you, your potential..like most children who face these problems are the ones who are smart and have SO MUCH POTENTIAL. "if he hits you once, he hits you twice" @@AnchalYadav-rx4pu
its a long message but it can be useful. ive been there and ik how it feels like. Key is to not believe what they say, they also treat your younger sister nicely in front of you, to trigger you and to make you angry so stay calm and go to your room and do whatever youwant@@AnchalYadav-rx4pu
@@Moonlightsaphire111 yeah.... In india people say treat your parents like god and kahte h na ki am baap mai bhagwaan h , but bhagwan ase ni hote h .....i try my best to ignore them but i am really emotional so i cry a lot , i have this thing from childhood but noq i am learning to control emotions , because in the end they are always there for my sister but nobody is there for me so i have to do everything by myself , i am just waiting for the day i will get independent and escape from this house and i think the best way to get rid of toxic family or parents is to be independent ....due to covid there's a huge downfall in my studies but nowi want to comeback in this new academic year 2024-25 ....hope you will also do better , don't give up and stay strong thanks for guidance sis 💖😢
I had chest pain yesterday, suffering from insomnia too..my parents literally abuse me everyday even when iam having health issue they say me the rudest things ,my mother even beats me very badly ..and yes despite being the only child I am going through lot of things
You are absolutely right 1.don't control them (over) 2. Support them and correct them in their decision 3. Let they decide what they have to do Hope you will get my point........❤❤❤
Humari language un parents ko anpad ganwar bolte hai , jinhe bacha paida krne me to bhot maza aata hai lekin paalne me maut aati hai you are very right didi
Heyyy...do you know what are you saying????😳.....you can't point out these things.....sharam aani chahiye...I know toxic parents give trauma but....itna bhi abuse word nahi bolna chahiye......chahe kuch bhi ho...they are your parents...or truth Chang nahi ho sakta....tumhe unhe badalna hi.....Pata hi struggling life har kisiko naseeb nahi milti....you are lucky....kyuki ese strong bache satynarayan ke khas hote hi...this is your exam...u have to pass it...believe shri krishn....but still don't use this again 🙏🏻
All of this is soo true ... Even today , its my 3rd day of my periods and i got it this time so early like within 15 days. Tomorrow we have function at our home and like daily she started saying illogical things to me which ignored . But between that she said that i am faking my periods, so that i will not be able to help her tomorrow,like wtf. I was so shocked and annoyed by this and still i calmly said her if you wanna check the pads you can . After that she started bursting out, like the literally whole day she kept on arguing with me with abusive words. It really hurts 😢😢. And my parents toxicity is at this level that i have not went a single day alone out of my house . And I don't even have friends not even girls . They think that friend will ruin my life ..😢😢rn also she is shouting on me which idk why.
same thing happened with me but it was my father. I got my periods. I was crying because of cramps . Like it was the first time jb merko itne jyada tez cramps aaye the. I told my mother about it. She told ki abhi toh raat hogyi hai it was about 8:00 pm. My mother told my father about it and my father was like she is faking(natak kr rhi hai kuch drd nahi hota hai) I was so shocked how can a father say this. I literally cried whole night. Not just because of cramps but isliye bhi why only my father😔
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health. I’m 33 now and happy finally!
best to not have friends, even i dont cuz when youre with toxic parents, you attract even toxic friends so please dont make friends. specially these normal people with good parents, stay away from them, they wont help you at all..idk why us daughters mostly have to face these things, one day i wish all the abused females leave india for good
My mother calls me "randi" "vaishiya" nd what not .. One day she was cooking nd I ate first nd she got so angry she started saying "6 go marad k ek br m bhrne k liye Takat chaiye isiliye khne s phle 5 min ruka nhi gya" 🙂🙂
This is so true.... I want to be a CA but my parents say that CA is only for boys and forcing me to become a judge😢 My dream is CA and they are telling me to change my stream to non med in 12th class , I don't want to change my stream , commerce is the best for my future ! I don't understand why my parents are like this😔
I am so thankful that I didn't got toxic parents. I got supportive, amazing and loving parents who always supports me and let me take my own decisions 💟 and i also share my all secrets all things about me with my parents ❤ they are like my bestfriends. They never compare other children with me✨
Bro look that being selfish and taking stand by yourself is different. Even I can not be selfish whenever I try but I can take stand by myself and as you can take stand by yourself. I am glad that my parents are not toxic that's why I know how to take my right and stand for myself . I can make decisions by myself and then I take advice from my parents and they like almost every time support me upon my decision. I hope you understand what I am telling to you.😊😊 Be strong.
I am really lucky to have supportive and non toxic perents ..they give me freedom , they make sure that I will be never afraid to tell them anything, and also they never control me ...I am really lucky ❤
I really live in a toxic family..even my mom..she treat me and my brother so different.even sometime she is like "you live in my house, it's not your house". I really so traumatized I don't know what I need to do.
They don't even know how much damage they did to my life , I'm in mid 20s and my last 20 years were almost hell or more then that..... due to severe anxiety, panic attacks, overthinking i completely wasted my 8 yrs after 12th and since last 10 years i suffered alot due to mental health.... they ruined my childhood, youth and career too..... i never showed anything or shared anything cz with whome ???? I stayed in home for last 8yrs without any friends and going out and t4ied 5o heal but how can you heal in that toxic environment. I want to forget my past but it's not easy cz my present is reminding me again and agian and they or anyone don't even know anything about my life.
going through the same exact points you mentioned thank you for letting this out for the world to know parents bhi har time sahi ni hote thank you again.
i really love how you expressed your views on this without spreading hate, with proper knowledge and logical proper facts, really well done, good job on this swara! proud of you
Im suffering with narcissist mother,,,,,my life is full of pain and sometimes i feel like i will take my life…im 22 now,, but still she try to control me 24/7
Didi aap bilkul sahi kh rhi hoo or isi wjh se me bhot akela feel krti hoo me parents se kuch bhi share nhi krpati or isi wjh se man bhi nhi krta ye sochte h ki hmari koi feelings nhi h jo man me ata h bolte h ye nhi sochte ki hme bhi buri lgta h jb koi sunne wala na ho atleast unka pas mummy daddy sath me bate share krskte h pr ham kisse share kre kiuki ajke time me koi kbhi kisi ka nhi hota
Like really this full video is relatable for me....every line was true, not only me, but there are alot of children who can relate to this. I'm grateful for one thing that my parents never curse me that why i brought you in this world etc etc. but they always compare me with others....Now as I am a teenager so i am able to understand, how this world is...and have dreams for becoming what i want. all i need is support, Im not revealing my dream but its not like my dream is worse or not good obviously i'll dream of a better future for me and always work hard to make my family proud. but when i try to tell my parents about it. they always say that your dream has no scope, even without not having exact information or knowledge about what i want to be. and the main thing that irritates me alot is as you said that parents say " no you cannot go out for job , study or buisness etc ' and say that this world is not good. i know that you care for us no matter in a positive way or a negative way. but when you realize that its the time ,your childrens are mature or they know the reality of the world, of course they will not take a bad decision. so why dont you let your child have privacy and be free. it really feels like living in a jail without doing any crime. i'm not saying this by not knowing , i have experienced it....... even we cannot expect a little privacy from toxic parents. right now i've heard from many of my friends and even me that whenever i close my door or laugh seeing phone. parents always think that they are doing any bad thing or hidding something. there are many things to say in this topic but i cannot express it....this is the reason why we cant share our feelings with them clearly because experience lene ke baad hame pata chal gya hai ki agar ham ye chiz bolenge toh hamare parents ka kya reaction hoga ya fir wo situation ko bina samjhe hamara hi fault nikalenge...even mera man bhi nhi hai apne parents ko toxic kahne ka.aur ye sab ke wajah se baccho pe kabhi kabhi itna bura impact padta hai ki wo suicide krne ka soch lete hain. lekin ab ye mat kahna ki suicide krna bhi toh ek bad decision hai toh apne bacche ko khud se koi decision lene hi naa do. ye sab khayal tab hi aata hai jab unhe toxicly treat kiya jata hai. i know jiske parents aise nhi honge unko ye sab thoda offensive lagega but i just wanted to share my feelings with whom who can relate to my words........
Thankyou so much for motivating me,now I'm feeling much better, my parents are not toxic but I learn from your video that how to be selfish when people are not supporting you. Thank you so much 💜💜💜💜💜
I'm so grateful to have non-toxic parents. I feel very open with them. But i have seen my friends go through a lot. I've heard toxic stories relationship of my friends with their parents. And it terrifies me but at the same time i feel extremely lucky to have such understanding and loving parents.
Truee i agreee.. didi .. the way said all the things.. are soo real i feel exactly same I'm suffering through this.. i really appreciate u took this topic to talk about..
My mom told me that if I die right now she is not going to cry And also she distribute sweets to all coz I am the dirt of all world and now the world is dirt free according to her. And many more things 🥺🥺.
Finally aaj kisi ne to sach bata diya toxic parents ka 😢😢😢😢 I have toxic parents but aaj tak me apne aap ko hi bura bolti thi 😢😢😢😢 Thank you for this video 🙏🙏🙏📸😢😢
I will pray God to give you all happiness . Di pls don't cry . Aap haste hue bhot cute lgte ho. Everything will be fine . India ke mostly children ko ye chiz face karni padti hai . I am happy because atleast you have shared your feelings. I hope that you are ok
U r right 😢 My parents r so supportive but sometimes I feel they dont understand my feelings 😢 which I thought very bad. Some times they used to say see the other girls they r so smart not like u . They r very good but I just think that they r doing what they want and I m doing which I want .😢 nd I dont think my parents r toxic but sometimes it is.
and you shouldnt be dumb by bragging in the comment section. I hate average people like you, bragging about their parents in a video talking about toxic parents. you should prolly be ashamed@@user-ne9lj1sh4d
Everyone going through this, dont worry this happens to a lot of people, I assure you that even when your parents seem bad, a lot of Indian parents are traumatized themselves thats why they reflect it upon us, all they need is also our support, yeah sometimes they can be actually toxic but at times like that be brave and stand uo fir yourself
Ais masharay ma larkiyo ki koi qadar nahi ha sara kuch larko ko hi miltha ha agar ham magay vo ham larkiyo ko nahi miltha jo kuch larkay magay vo aun ko miltha ha ham larkiyo ko kuch nahi miltha hamaray sath bhi yahi hota your right didi your right 😔😔
bhot relatable bhai..mujhe bhi ek chota bhai hai, woh sirf mere chote bhai ko hi acche achhe cheez dilwate hai, mai toh invisble hu..even if i want to buy something, me bol nahi sakti, woh puchenge : tujhe ye sab kyu chaye? youre wasting our money but when my bro asks smth, theyll be like..yea ill buy for you
Everything she said is truee... ( Also she didn't mentioned but i think her parents did all the things she mentioned to her, she said that it had happened to her friends but I think it's her parents only cause she know that much details and didn't wanted to tell directly... ) And also their are parents who do all this and also my parents don't even earn, like we are literally broke and my father refuses to do a job and says he don't care about my studies or food or anything and my mom is silent watcher... And in front of others they act like an ideal person which is perfect, that's the worst part...🙂
I am proud of my parents they are not toxic like others parents they support me whenever needed they don't not demand anything from me they force to study for my best future bcz girls life is difficult they hve to face many problems in their lifes specially after marriage so a girl should be independent I am like a dead body without my parents May Allah give them long and healthy life (Aneen)
I don't know if it is right or not but j want to share something about my "toxic parents". When I was a child I felt privileged but little when I grew up they started giving me chores to do and at the age of 9 washing dishes, sweeping, brimming, and needing dough made me happy and I enjoyed yed but later I realised my mom just trained me for this job now I have to do this every day even if it hampers my studies, even if I am ill or complete unable to do she force me to do or if critically I don't do that she used to curse me for my illness too this is soo sad and depressing for me .. I am in 12th standard and whenever I think about my future and my interest they refuse everything they just want me to get a job or corporate job inside the city .. Like they want me to ruin my whole life and studies for just 20-40k salary they don't want me to grow.. .scommunication is also the thing every time they curse me for my body, my food, my clothes, my looks 😢😢 I am suffering rn They are still enjoying their married life and I am not sad about that but they don't treat me like their child I get new clothes once in five months but they will buy themselves dozens of clothes every time... I wanted a scooter because it is difficult for me to go to school so far away by walking coz they said they can't afford 50 rupees per day for an auto also but they refused by saying that you will be ruined and now they planning to take the gold necklace and gold bangles like seriously 😒😒😒 I gate these things and I know by sharing I couldn't get help but still, I felt a bit relieved 😌 Thanks for raising this unnoticed but serious topic ahead 😊
OH MY GOSH THATS F*CKED UP AS SHIT. IM SO SORRY YOU HAVE SUCH HORRIBLE, DISGUSTING PARENTS. Kam kar, get a job, move out from home..You are not their servant at all, they are supposed to look after you, not you. They made fun of your looks and controled you, they are not your parents,,ghar se bhag ja, you wont regret
they are using you, girl..tell them : you are not my parents, you made me do the chores when i was 9..which parent does that. A real parent who cares about you will actually do the chores and maybe teach you when youre like 14 or smth. Bring this matter to court of law, they can help you. tell everything, get a judge and then break relations from your family
not trying to be an npc or anything but how can you express it soo perfectly?? like ive always felt like this but was never able to express myself... And also genuine appreciation for the video💖
Ohh god dii jab aap bol rahe ho maine ek ek baat relate karpayi ,meri bachpan ab teenage katam hone wala hai sab ek trauma raha ,aur abhi bas rehna charahi toh bas phir se koi na koi aisi baat aayi jaata hai...bohut buta lagta hai ki jab aapki parents hii aisi hai toh...sach mein di bohut bura lagta hai 😫 Par aapne iss position mein rehke yeh video banayi , bohot hi di... Yeh hum jaise victim bacchon ko ek small ray of sense of belonging (apnapan) Tnq di..
As a only 14 year teenage girl i literally attempt suicide 2 times but i guess god doesn’t want me to die They are Abusive behaviour is Killing me each and everyday I Cried Everyday i saw a dream In that dream my parents were Chill and happy we are All happy enjoying movie in peace when i wake up i just cried I can't it I'm literally feeling helpless In our country its not that big issue every parents are like this But only I know how I'm suffering this
Same thing dude😢...but I just think that what if I dont there?? Mre bdd kya hoga..but now i feel ki kuch nhii hoga... that's why mne apna jina apne hisb s krna shikh rhi hu...but wo b nhi hone de rhe
Same age ,I am also 14 .I remember one day my few friends came to my home we are having fun but my mom came and she literally started to behave like a stupid telling them about my personal activities and she don't know how to talk one my friends was a girl she felt very uncomfortable by listening my mom's stupid things. Kasam se yar Jo kiya na us din
Maine 1 suicide karne ki koshish ki thi meri maa mujhe doctor bannana chati hai but mujhe ye sab pasand nahi tha to jab bola to us din se leke ab Tak apna phone nahi Diya . Kahti hai"Phone ke Karan ye houa. Ye Maine apne pasio se phone kharida hai. Unko pata lagne nahi Diya . Bohot chalti Ghar chud dunga.bad 12 ho jai
I want to send this video to my parents but if i do it i am pretty sure that they will say such things to me that I will die from inside 🙇🏻♀️ so I can't but i try to be selfish i am from {G} generation but i am not selfish 🙂 really sis ur video is amazing
I am so glad that my parents are not toxic.....like literally they both are like my best friends and I shate all my secrets with them....they care about my feelings and never ever say anything bad to me and they also respect all my decisions and always listen to my opinions...... But I have witnessed my roommate parents and they are so so toxic ....they always control her so more power to all these people...☹️❤
I totally respect her courage to speak the truth of society without fear 👏 and every single part of the video was too much relatable for me ❤ This video made me subscribe your channel 🥰. Lots of love 💜
Okay lets get to the point that how to deal with toxic parents🔻
1. Stop trying to please them
2. Set and enforce boundaries
3. Be mindful of what you share with them
4.Don’t try to change them
5. Know your parents’ limitations and work around them - but only if you want to
6.Take care of yourself physically mentally emotionally and financially.
I hope you are okay❤️
Thanks 😊
Thank you so much di for share knowledge
Thank
Thankyou didi so much for knowledge 😊😊😊
😭
Trust me, our generation is going to be the best at parenting ❤
100% sure
Yaa😊
100% true yaar 🥺
Exactly 💯
No that's not true 😔🚫
I have toxic parents, who always try to control me. They had given me a lot of trauma. Being a soft-hearted and sensitive girl I feel so bad. There is no single day I have not cried. Don't know but I want to end my life... I don't want that mental abuse. I am fed up with this
same situation I suffer from depression become of this and i also got panic attacks and also try to harm my self 2 times, they always force me to do what they want, but since I start followed bts I become positive and I start to take stand for my self, I follow suga as his condition was also like this he suffer alot but he fight and today he become what he want to be I will always follow him.
@@amishaparmar8228suga from BTS I mean he also had toxic parents?
@@anushkajaiswal9490 not toxic but they don't support him for his dream of being rapper they forced him to concentrate on his study and they don't like when he spent time on rapping they want him to Focus only on study and somewhere I read that his Father burt his rapping lyrics which he used to write in his school days because of all this he got in depression and even he try to hurt himself but then he left his home and went to Seoul and work hard a lot and today he became successful rapper and now his parents support him
@@amishaparmar8228I hope can deal with my parents and have better future 🥺
Don’t do suicide life’s more than this
I have also face this type of things and seen pray to GOD the one you like and take HIS/HER name and do the work
Hope it helps😊
You are right. "Every child deserve a parents but not every parents deserve a child"
Why ?
@@pearlvineeducation2213 because 80% parents are toxic too much
@mehtabhusain311 sorry...but only 10% are toxic remaining 90% are not
@@pearlvineeducation2213 because they all are provoked by these kind of influencer who set a bug on growing kids to go against their parents and ruin their lifes....🙄
My mother doesn't deserve me
So true...... 70% parents are like this ....... They destroy our mental health.... Leads to depression too
I can understand 😢
😢 i can understand too
True....😥😥
True
True 💔
Target Attendance = Parents
Actual Attendance = Bacche
It's Audience*
@@gaurishankarchauhan8434 both are correct
kon chutiya toxic maa baap ye dekh rha hoga....delh bhi rha hoga to isi ldki ko gali de rha hoga....ki kya seekha rhi h bakwas......un chutiya maa baap ka kuch ni hona....hmara to sb khraab kr hi diya hai
But those Bacche will become parents too, then it will be accomplished
i witnessed a huge trauma today like my mom said to me that she did the biggest mistake by bringing me into this world just because i slept for a lil while after a morning study session then she exaggerated the whole matter by cursing me the whole day she actually didnt even think that it affected my mental health and mind as my boards as approaching i need to be fully focused on my studies . Tqsm di seeing this video after having a bad day encouraged me that God gives the hardest battles to its strongest soldiers. All the best to everyone who's giving board exams this year
Usss
Same it's my story mere toxic parents ki vajah se mera English ka exam kharab Gaya 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
My mother calls me r*ndi all the time, even in front of my sisters
i see :( all the best for the rest of them @@dishu_kumari_arts-
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health
Exactly. U r talking real. I am 38 year old indian. And have faced this. Toxic parents hai upar se bolte tumhe isse ache parents nahi mil sakte.....wat a joke 😂😂😂
I feel so sad . Cuz all the points are in my parents. As I'm from a middle class family, I always try to please them by good grades and well behaviour. But trust mehh nothing can satisfy their mind... My efforts are just nothing to them! They always compare me with other childs... Even my dad is a very selfish man...! That's why I always try to listen to my mom and try to make her happy. But still, she always notices the bad sides ! I really hate my life.
Hi can we HV a convo??? Please Don give up gimme ur any social media so I can talk to u remember ur strong
Whenever I feel frustrated I do watch your vlogs, it is really helpful to decrease my stress level during exams💀
Read my comments plz
My Parents is very Toxic
@@opbhaifreefire2188 So does mine
My parents are so toxic. My mother always scold me and my sister . Today , its my first day after giving board exam so i was plannning to clean my room at daytime . She came and scolded me for half an hour . She always insult me infront of everyone. She said that " she must be chatting with her boyfriend. Go and be with him . She makes my neighours also listen that . I dont have any bf but she did tell it. I am just tired by all this. I always cry every night .
I believe God will make everything right someday❤
keep calm
dont react dear god is seeing everything❤ u will be in better condition
@@Blissfullkittyy i am in that hope ❤
Ame here sister😢
My mom scold my big sister with most bad words that an normal mother is not expected to give 💀
Ye video dikha do unhe😂
My parents used to beat me for no reasons .when I was a kid i remember my mother used to sleep for whole day and I was so small to take care of myself .she used to kick me because I was the second girl child.with time passing my father my mother and my eldest sister kept on torturing me .I dnt want to remember those days , with God Grace i get a beautiful life partner and a cute son .they are my lifelines but still I am dealing with past depression.
❤ be happy dont care for who dont loves u
I'm so happy for you, sorry that it happened to you, may God give you the strength to get last that
🥺
"Every kid deserves parents
But not every parents deserves a kid "💔
101 percentage bhai 😢😢
😅
My parents are the CEO of toxicity..😊
Seriously??
Yes and mine is founder of toxicity
@@user-fy5bk1yp7w omg! I thought I'm the only one jiske pas sirf toxic mother hai, ye sab bata ne kiliye koi frnd v nhi hai jo ki ye sab samjh paye
No i have toxic parents who abuse me everyday @@_Soul_journey_with_sonam...
Best sentence👍👍
Mental peace ka koi naamo nishan nhi h toxic family mein too much relatable 😔
Didi I am seeing you first time but I can relate with you words you are 100% write. Mostly 75% Indian parents ase hi hote hai
Our coming generations will have the best parents ever.
So let's make a promise ki ham asa apne ane wale generations ke sath nahi karenge. 😢🙂✅
Thank you so much for this video, sister. I'm 34 years old and still struggling to deal with my toxic parents. I'm not surprised to see that India isn't anywhere on the good parenting list; society ne hi itna toxic banake rakha hai iss poore issue ko.
I'll continue to fight for my rights too. Best wishes and more strength to everyone facing this problem.
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health. I’m 33 now and happy finally!
@@badass_omelette5166 don't you miss them ?
I'm so thankful that I got loving , supporting and caring parents .😊😊😊😊 Not those toxic type
You are so lucky
You are Lackey 😊😊
Read my comments plz 4 reality check
I am happy for you 🥰🥰
You are so lucky
Literally started crying
Your words are so true...😭
This generation will be the best parents in future ❤
Becuz ham sabse kuch na kuch jhela hai aur sabse badi baat that all parents have to know is apne bacho ko dusre bacho se compare karoge toh woh khud insecure feel karne lagega uska apne aap se bharosa tut jayga i have experienced that
yes for sure😇
Yes ❤
😂😂😂😂
Right!
Right
Bachpan se leke abhi Tak ye trauma and controlling badhti hi Jaa rahi ..I m now 22 yrs old girl...ab Mai job karna chahti hu to vo bhi nhi karne de rahe....they are not parents..they are biggest enemy of my life😭😭😭😭I don't have any personal phone, Ghar ke bahar jaane nhi dete, purane friends se Milne nhi dete agar kisi friend ka phon aa jaaye to baate sunne ke liye wahi paas me mere khade ho jaate h..inhe baate bhi Sunni h ki kya baat Hui...I hate them😢😢😢😢😢😢
😢😢😢 so sad
Hanuman Chalisha padho...
Shittttt bhaiiiiiiiu toxicity ki haadh par kardi yarr ..........😭😭😭😭😭 Felling bad for you btw now ur 22 girl not a chid...............yeh baat apke parents ko smjni chaiye
My mother is so toxic ... She has affected my mental health immensely... Almost torturing me very badly...she is competitive and jealous with me being a mother. Since childhood she has been abusive. She even steels away the credit of my talents and hardwork... She says " Maine tumhe khilaya tha, that's why you achieved. All the credit belongs to me... You are useless"
Maa log bhi hoti h kya 😢 ,meri maa hi nhi h
Parents best dialogue... Hunna tumko jnm dya h
This video is totally on point while describing toxic parenting. Every point is well explained and there's hardly any point to be rebutted. In fact, this video explains my toxic parents to the T.
I literally grew up in an environment where parents were treated as god, so I treated my parents as gods too. I thought, making my parents happy and proud was my responsibility, and if I couldn't do it, then I'm undeserving to even live. There were times I often used to blame myself for my parents unhappiness, even when they were happy for no valid reason and for something which even I couldn't control.
Majority of my life (until the age 22), I have seen my parents never being happy with me; it was like _mera saans lena bhi unko unhappy bana deta tha._ They treated me like their emotional punchbag. Any setback they felt in life, they blamed me for it. They were never ashamed to insult me even in public. They accused me of a lot of things, like tarnishing family's name, destroying family's worth, making them look "bad" in front of others, being "selfish", etc.
I was called names and received such humiliating remarks, that were enough to give me mental health issues and at times make me feel su1c1da!. Even at the moments of distress, I was only berated and mocked by my parents. My parents had zero empathy and didn't care about my mental and emotional struggles.
I grew up thinking this is what normal parenting is. My parents conditined me throughout my life to believe that how the people outside are so evil and how they (my parents) are the best people. And the more I believed them, the more they felt rightful to inflict emotional and verbal abuse on me. They ensured that I just be useless and good for nothing throughout my life, and they made sure it happens.
I am pretty much destroyed by the parenting I was raised under, because it never gave me the right to stand for myself, make decisions, have opinions, or even do the most basic things on my own. I struggle to make relationships and can't build enough confidence. The childhood trauma has got a tremendous impact on me.
BTW, I left my house in 2019, and am living independently. The hard part was that as someone who has never learnt to think independently and survive on my own, I had to start my life again from zero. What's even harder is that despite living separately, the psychological impact of their verbal and emotional abuse still affects me. I believe this impact is going to remain in my mind throughout my life, so I am just trying to make peace with my current mental state.
In the beginning, I feared I won't survive more than a month or two, and now I am over 4.5 years living on my own, and I feel surprised that I was able to do it. I do not regret this decision.
I keep little to no contact with my family. I had talked to my mom a few months ago, only to realize that they're still the same and if I go back to living with my parents, things would go worse for me.
I totally relate because I am going through a similar situation myself. My mother is highly toxic because of her abusive upbringing and my father is an expert at gaslighting and emotional manipulation. Both of them have a holier-than-thou complex and feel their views are supreme. What's worse, society forces us to worship them and wont hear a word against them.
Glad you've finally become independent and are living life on your terms. That is my target now as well. Growing out of half a lifetime of abuse is hard, but can certainly be done. All the best and stay blessed. 😊
@@-summertime-sadness-
I hope you are fine now.
I am going through the same thing. I really dont know what to do. I am in 11th right now. I can't even take a step right now😔.
If you don't mind sis can you please tell what did you do and how you were able to live alone?
Same situation😢
Finally kisine bola , Mai thak chuki hu yrr
Same here
Mai bhi 🙂💔
12:22 there was some popular Indian RUclipsr (I guess Sonu Sharma), who once told in his video, something like "maan baap sab se kam bharosa apne bachcho pe hi karte hai". It feels so true.
No, it isn't true... They have faith in their child until he/she break their trust by doing something which would hurt his/her parents' feelings...
@@KamakshiKanjilalchal be ghanta Kai maa baap to bachapn se hi torcher kr rhe hote h apne bache ko usne konsa trust Tod diya ? Peda krke? Jab bacha nhi chaiye to peda kyu krte h 💩🚽80% parents are toxic they don't deserve child
Correct 💯 💯
Thank you 🙏 🙏
Finally someone said my words@@jungkookie589
@@KamakshiKanjilal I dunno where you're coming from, but I had an upbringing where my parents (esp. my dad) treated me as if I can't be trusted no matter what. There were no conditions or any specific mishappenings that made them trust me less. The lack of trust was by default.
@@-summertime-sadness- my dad also treats me like this... Due to him, I went in depression in class 8, later I realised that I can't live with this much negative vibes... That's why I started avoiding him as much as I can... Now when I'm in class 10, I feel so happy that I started staying away from him... Atleast I'm not crying for the whole day as I used to earlier... I started spending more time with my mother and friends and it has helped me a lot to stay positive and happy... Thank god my mother is not at all like my father👁🗨❤ Take care and stay happy @-summertime-sadness-
You told the real fact swara dii😢. But kya karu, mein bohot hi soft hearted hun, choti se choti baat dil prr lag jati hain jitna bhi ignore krne ki try kro😢
Soft hearted🩷🥹
I am also a soft hearted me bhi choti choti baat pe rone lagti hu 😢😢😢😢
Solution ye h ki kisi ko dikhao mat ki tum bhot sad ho or u just wanna cry
Try to be strong and confident while talking to people
thanks@@AanyaBajaj
My parents gifted me 20 years of depression 😢😢😢
They got divorced later n blamed it all on me😢😢
The audacity 😞😓
My parents also gave me 12 years of worst depression. Still unmarried.
@@rajeevkamra9120 hope you heal sooner
Sending good wishes your way💜
Same situation with me
@@grishima7594 Most terrible situation someone can go through 😪
@@grishima7594 Hope you heal sooner dear ❤️
I love my parents but sometime their words hurt me 😔
After listening to this im so thankful that my father supports me atleast my dream he always takes me to opportunities... Still being toxic they support. 🌛
Didi thank you for sharing your thoughts about toxic parents and how to deal with them i also have toxic parents and i cry everyday .
Sometimes i think that i am a bad daughter but no matter how much i improve my self for her they really don't care 😔
Same to same mere sath bhi esa hi hota hai 😢 Mai bhi roj roti hu
Agar aapko suggestion chahiye to du ?
Hmm
same with me
Everyone has the same problem 😞
1like=💯% marks for board exam 😊😊😊
Chup kar
You dont control our life.
You should shut up cuz you can’t control our life😊😊😊
Kuch bhi mtlb 😂
Mein to board ke exams mein pass home gyi yehi kafi he😂😂
I agree with you some parents are worse than enemies they snatch your happiness
😢i can totally relate , i am a teenager girl and growing up in a toxic house is really bad .....they are arey toxic but what hurts the most is they discriminate between me and my sister .......both of us are female we are thier daughter but they discriminate between us , she is younger than me and i loved her so much , but they made her toxic too , and now these 3 torture me either mentally or physically , i have nevwr seen them evern raising a voice on my sis and me , they beat me shout me ....i feel just helpless.......i literally cried watching this .....i just feel like to go away from this home , i literally need escape.......... I stand for myself but then they are like , shut up u don't have a right to do anything "we are parents " ............i am just waiting to escape from this house
wow..everything relates with me, exceot i have younger brother..THEY WOULD TREAT US SO DIFFERENTLY, like the fuck is wrong with them..if i made a mistake, they shout and over react, if he makes a mistake, theyre like its okay, hes small na
@@Moonlightsaphire111 ik sis , we say things are changed now. boy and hirl are treated equally but no especially wuen parents do this it hurts so much....i don't have brother but i can understand your pain ...... Every parents do not deserve a child
It hurts me , seeing my parents treating my younger sis nicely and me ? I think i am invisible
do this, take a book, write the lessons i learned.. i did this and realised that theyre not my parents, Real parents dont hurt you, even if they do, they will apologise for it, real parents really care about your future, your toxic parents dont..they see you as an investment, if they give you basic needs, we should give them the luxuries of life which is wrong because they dont deserve it even one bit.
Stop talking to your parents, really it will help you emotionally and mentally, my parents hurt me in the past many times 1 or 2 years back and (even now but i ignore), so im telling this with experience, dont talk to them, dont try to change them, they will not change, dont simply waste your energy and your precious time on them. and then because you wasted all of your enenergy on them, you cant focus on studies and get all mental problems so before it happens, please start setting boundries, dont spend enough time with them..if they dont love, they dont love you and thats okay, atleast you know their true colors. Whatever theyre doing to you, that scolding, its because, deep inside they are jealous of you, your potential..like most children who face these problems are the ones who are smart and have SO MUCH POTENTIAL. "if he hits you once, he hits you twice" @@AnchalYadav-rx4pu
its a long message but it can be useful. ive been there and ik how it feels like. Key is to not believe what they say, they also treat your younger sister nicely in front of you, to trigger you and to make you angry so stay calm and go to your room and do whatever youwant@@AnchalYadav-rx4pu
@@Moonlightsaphire111 yeah.... In india people say treat your parents like god and kahte h na ki am baap mai bhagwaan h , but bhagwan ase ni hote h .....i try my best to ignore them but i am really emotional so i cry a lot , i have this thing from childhood but noq i am learning to control emotions , because in the end they are always there for my sister but nobody is there for me so i have to do everything by myself , i am just waiting for the day i will get independent and escape from this house and i think the best way to get rid of toxic family or parents is to be independent ....due to covid there's a huge downfall in my studies but nowi want to comeback in this new academic year 2024-25 ....hope you will also do better , don't give up and stay strong thanks for guidance sis 💖😢
Jab aape bola ki parents dursro ke bacche ke saath compair karte hain I can relate 🥺🥺
I had chest pain yesterday, suffering from insomnia too..my parents literally abuse me everyday even when iam having health issue they say me the rudest things ,my mother even beats me very badly ..and yes despite being the only child I am going through lot of things
You are absolutely right
1.don't control them (over)
2. Support them and correct them in their decision
3. Let they decide what they have to do
Hope you will get my point........❤❤❤
😭😭😭😭 bahut mushkil hota hai aise ghar me rehna
Humari language un parents ko anpad ganwar bolte hai , jinhe bacha paida krne me to bhot maza aata hai lekin paalne me maut aati hai you are very right didi
Yes you're right
Heyyy...do you know what are you saying????😳.....you can't point out these things.....sharam aani chahiye...I know toxic parents give trauma but....itna bhi abuse word nahi bolna chahiye......chahe kuch bhi ho...they are your parents...or truth Chang nahi ho sakta....tumhe unhe badalna hi.....Pata hi struggling life har kisiko naseeb nahi milti....you are lucky....kyuki ese strong bache satynarayan ke khas hote hi...this is your exam...u have to pass it...believe shri krishn....but still don't use this again 🙏🏻
@@gayatrikanwar2812 those who don't act like parents don't deserve the same respect a parent deserves.
@@kbye452 right dear
@@Lilly_909 you are right
Relatives aise ho to chalta hai but mom hi aise ban jaye to jiwan nark hai 😢😢😢😢😢
I am thankful that I have got very loving, caring, and supporting parents. I am so thankful to God ❤
Mujhe bura lag rha h ab.....mere saath sab same h but I think mere grandparents shi h, supportive h. I pray ki voh hamesha khush rhe❤.
I love my parents because they are not toxic at all😢😢
U can't judge a book by it's cover.
kyuki apa maybe lucky ho
You're blessed ❤
Yes I am so gladly 😊
me to
All of this is soo true ...
Even today , its my 3rd day of my periods and i got it this time so early like within 15 days. Tomorrow we have function at our home and like daily she started saying illogical things to me which ignored . But between that she said that i am faking my periods, so that i will not be able to help her tomorrow,like wtf. I was so shocked and annoyed by this and still i calmly said her if you wanna check the pads you can . After that she started bursting out, like the literally whole day she kept on arguing with me with abusive words. It really hurts 😢😢. And my parents toxicity is at this level that i have not went a single day alone out of my house . And I don't even have friends not even girls . They think that friend will ruin my life ..😢😢rn also she is shouting on me which idk why.
I can understand man😶.... Try to stay away from toxic energy.... Just walk out for your mental peace
same thing happened with me but it was my father. I got my periods. I was crying because of cramps . Like it was the first time jb merko itne jyada tez cramps aaye the. I told my mother about it. She told ki abhi toh raat hogyi hai it was about 8:00 pm. My mother told my father about it and my father was like she is faking(natak kr rhi hai kuch drd nahi hota hai)
I was so shocked how can a father say this.
I literally cried whole night. Not just because of cramps but isliye bhi why only my father😔
I had a mother like this, I finished studying. Got a great job, moved to Australia working as a lead/manager machine learning engineer. It’s been 2 years since i cut them of. Me and wife are happy. I waited years to remove toxicity from my lives. Don’t give up keep fighting for your future and happiness. Most importantly for your mental health. I’m 33 now and happy finally!
best to not have friends, even i dont cuz when youre with toxic parents, you attract even toxic friends so please dont make friends. specially these normal people with good parents, stay away from them, they wont help you at all..idk why us daughters mostly have to face these things, one day i wish all the abused females leave india for good
Lol same here..
They don't let me make frnds
Toxic parents drains your energy.I can relate very well
My mother calls me "randi" "vaishiya" nd what not ..
One day she was cooking nd I ate first nd she got so angry she started saying "6 go marad k ek br m bhrne k liye Takat chaiye isiliye khne s phle 5 min ruka nhi gya" 🙂🙂
@@shruti_choudhary2005 ignore dude it sucks
@@user-xy2so2zt8j ooh I try so hard to ignore her and now I dont even feel bad or anything it's just that I've become emotion less
@@shruti_choudhary2005 same here.
some time it hurts
@@user-xy2so2zt8j yeahh . Its okay nothing can be done we just need to take care of urselves ❤️ take care ❤️
This is so true.... I want to be a CA but my parents say that CA is only for boys and forcing me to become a judge😢
My dream is CA and they are telling me to change my stream to non med in 12th class , I don't want to change my stream , commerce is the best for my future ! I don't understand why my parents are like this😔
Becoz they don't know the value of a girl right now India is independent only for boys not for girls this society is so toxic 😢
I am so thankful that I didn't got toxic parents. I got supportive, amazing and loving parents who always supports me and let me take my own decisions 💟 and i also share my all secrets all things about me with my parents ❤ they are like my bestfriends. They never compare other children with me✨
She is the person who can understand us and we can share all our problems with her and she also give us advice love u di ❤❤
Di ap akdam sahi ho mere sath v esa hota.... 🥺 har ek minute har ek hours har ek din 😢.. I juat hope ye vdo jyada se jyada parents dekhe... 🙏
She's so underrated
I'm word by word agreeing to her. She's my role model ❤
If any person is good than he can never be selfish no matter how hard he tries, even though I have tried, I have never been able to become selfish.
Bro look that being selfish and taking stand by yourself is different. Even I can not be selfish whenever I try but I can take stand by myself and as you can take stand by yourself. I am glad that my parents are not toxic that's why I know how to take my right and stand for myself . I can make decisions by myself and then I take advice from my parents and they like almost every time support me upon my decision. I hope you understand what I am telling to you.😊😊 Be strong.
Ye apne liye stand up karne ki baat kar rhi hai, jo log bolte hai “selfishness”.
I am really lucky to have supportive and non toxic perents ..they give me freedom , they make sure that I will be never afraid to tell them anything, and also they never control me ...I am really lucky ❤
I really live in a toxic family..even my mom..she treat me and my brother so different.even sometime she is like "you live in my house, it's not your house". I really so traumatized I don't know what I need to do.
Finally i found someone who understands our feeling
I thought it was just happening me with me and my parents but now I understand that kids of this generation really need peace
They don't even know how much damage they did to my life , I'm in mid 20s and my last 20 years were almost hell or more then that..... due to severe anxiety, panic attacks, overthinking i completely wasted my 8 yrs after 12th and since last 10 years i suffered alot due to mental health.... they ruined my childhood, youth and career too..... i never showed anything or shared anything cz with whome ???? I stayed in home for last 8yrs without any friends and going out and t4ied 5o heal but how can you heal in that toxic environment. I want to forget my past but it's not easy cz my present is reminding me again and agian and they or anyone don't even know anything about my life.
going through the same exact points you mentioned thank you for letting this out for the world to know parents bhi har time sahi ni hote thank you again.
Sach hai par rone ke alava kuchha nhi kar sakte hai ham bache😭
i really love how you expressed your views on this without spreading hate, with proper knowledge and logical proper facts, really well done, good job on this swara! proud of you
Im suffering with narcissist mother,,,,,my life is full of pain and sometimes i feel like i will take my life…im 22 now,, but still she try to control me 24/7
Same
Didi aap bilkul sahi kh rhi hoo or isi wjh se me bhot akela feel krti hoo me parents se kuch bhi share nhi krpati or isi wjh se man bhi nhi krta ye sochte h ki hmari koi feelings nhi h jo man me ata h bolte h ye nhi sochte ki hme bhi buri lgta h jb koi sunne wala na ho atleast unka pas mummy daddy sath me bate share krskte h pr ham kisse share kre kiuki ajke time me koi kbhi kisi ka nhi hota
I lost my studies because of my parents and now they are blaming me for all this.
I love your all story time videos.❤
Thank you for your lots of efforts 🙏🏻😊
Like really this full video is relatable for me....every line was true, not only me, but there are alot of children who can relate to this. I'm grateful for one thing that my parents never curse me that why i brought you in this world etc etc. but they always compare me with others....Now as I am a teenager so i am able to understand, how this world is...and have dreams for becoming what i want. all i need is support, Im not revealing my dream but its not like my dream is worse or not good obviously i'll dream of a better future for me and always work hard to make my family proud. but when i try to tell my parents about it. they always say that your dream has no scope, even without not having exact information or knowledge about what i want to be. and the main thing that irritates me alot is as you said that parents say " no you cannot go out for job , study or buisness etc ' and say that this world is not good. i know that you care for us no matter in a positive way or a negative way. but when you realize that its the time ,your childrens are mature or they know the reality of the world, of course they will not take a bad decision. so why dont you let your child have privacy and be free. it really feels like living in a jail without doing any crime. i'm not saying this by not knowing , i have experienced it....... even we cannot expect a little privacy from toxic parents. right now i've heard from many of my friends and even me that whenever i close my door or laugh seeing phone. parents always think that they are doing any bad thing or hidding something. there are many things to say in this topic but i cannot express it....this is the reason why we cant share our feelings with them clearly because experience lene ke baad hame pata chal gya hai ki agar ham ye chiz bolenge toh hamare parents ka kya reaction hoga ya fir wo situation ko bina samjhe hamara hi fault nikalenge...even mera man bhi nhi hai apne parents ko toxic kahne ka.aur ye sab ke wajah se baccho pe kabhi kabhi itna bura impact padta hai ki wo suicide krne ka soch lete hain. lekin ab ye mat kahna ki suicide krna bhi toh ek bad decision hai toh apne bacche ko khud se koi decision lene hi naa do. ye sab khayal tab hi aata hai jab unhe toxicly treat kiya jata hai. i know jiske parents aise nhi honge unko ye sab thoda offensive lagega but i just wanted to share my feelings with whom who can relate to my words........
Thankyou so much for motivating me,now I'm feeling much better, my parents are not toxic but I learn from your video that how to be selfish when people are not supporting you. Thank you so much 💜💜💜💜💜
You are right I have also toxic parents 🥺
You are right
Yes she is right
😊😊
Yes ❤💯
Correct
Read my comments plz 4 reality check
I'm so grateful to have non-toxic parents. I feel very open with them. But i have seen my friends go through a lot. I've heard toxic stories relationship of my friends with their parents. And it terrifies me but at the same time i feel extremely lucky to have such understanding and loving parents.
Truee i agreee.. didi .. the way said all the things.. are soo real i feel exactly same I'm suffering through this.. i really appreciate u took this topic to talk about..
I am so lucky and thankful that I got loving parents 🥺
Thanks a lot for bringing this topic u said everything what i exactly wish to say my parents... that college topic was right on point thank alot
My mom told me that if I die right now she is not going to cry And also she distribute sweets to all coz I am the dirt of all world and now the world is dirt free according to her.
And many more things 🥺🥺.
Us
Finally aaj kisi ne to sach bata diya toxic parents ka 😢😢😢😢 I have toxic parents but aaj tak me apne aap ko hi bura bolti thi 😢😢😢😢
Thank you for this video 🙏🙏🙏📸😢😢
I will pray God to give you all happiness . Di pls don't cry . Aap haste hue bhot cute lgte ho. Everything will be fine . India ke mostly children ko ye chiz face karni padti hai . I am happy because atleast you have shared your feelings. I hope that you are ok
Aap jaisa RUclipsr koi nahi 😊 jab bhi aap ka new video aata ha khush hojati hu🎉 love you di❤ lots of support from Nepal🇳🇵 keep growing 😊
Hm
I'm also from Nepal
Most of us from This generation relates to this things!!!!😢😢😢😢
you are correct dii , we all suffer allot from our toxic parents . they cant understand us 😔😔
U r right 😢
My parents r so supportive but sometimes I feel they dont understand my feelings 😢 which I thought very bad. Some times they used to say see the other girls they r so smart not like u . They r very good but I just think that they r doing what they want and I m doing which I want .😢 nd I dont think my parents r toxic but sometimes it is.
My parents are not toxic
They never force me for everything
And that's why i love them so much❤
You are lucky
k dont brag
@@Moonlightsaphire111 don't be jealous cuz I have such parents and u don't
and you shouldnt be dumb by bragging in the comment section. I hate average people like you, bragging about their parents in a video talking about toxic parents. you should prolly be ashamed@@user-ne9lj1sh4d
dont be dumb cuz i have common sense and you dont :)@@user-ne9lj1sh4d
80% of things she said to 100% truth
Everyone going through this, dont worry this happens to a lot of people, I assure you that even when your parents seem bad, a lot of Indian parents are traumatized themselves thats why they reflect it upon us, all they need is also our support, yeah sometimes they can be actually toxic but at times like that be brave and stand uo fir yourself
Ais masharay ma larkiyo ki koi qadar nahi ha sara kuch larko ko hi miltha ha agar ham magay vo ham larkiyo ko nahi miltha jo kuch larkay magay vo aun ko miltha ha ham larkiyo ko kuch nahi miltha hamaray sath bhi yahi hota your right didi your right 😔😔
@@mehakalvi-xn5qy but not parents are same understand her feelings...
Read my comments plz 4 reality check
@@mehakalvi-xn5qy no it's okay you are understanding. That's it.
bhot relatable bhai..mujhe bhi ek chota bhai hai, woh sirf mere chote bhai ko hi acche achhe cheez dilwate hai, mai toh invisble hu..even if i want to buy something, me bol nahi sakti, woh puchenge : tujhe ye sab kyu chaye? youre wasting our money but when my bro asks smth, theyll be like..yea ill buy for you
Everything she said is truee... ( Also she didn't mentioned but i think her parents did all the things she mentioned to her, she said that it had happened to her friends but I think it's her parents only cause she know that much details and didn't wanted to tell directly... ) And also their are parents who do all this and also my parents don't even earn, like we are literally broke and my father refuses to do a job and says he don't care about my studies or food or anything and my mom is silent watcher...
And in front of others they act like an ideal person which is perfect, that's the worst part...🙂
😭😭❤️❤️ true I am so so grateful that you are addressing this topic thank you Swara u have exactly narrated toxic situations
I am proud of my parents they are not toxic like others parents they support me whenever needed they don't not demand anything from me they force to study for my best future bcz girls life is difficult they hve to face many problems in their lifes specially after marriage so a girl should be independent I am like a dead body without my parents May Allah give them long and healthy life (Aneen)
At first I think you are Cristian but after seeing you wrote ALLAH now I think you Are Muslim . Sorry
I don't know if it is right or not but j want to share something about my "toxic parents".
When I was a child I felt privileged but little when I grew up they started giving me chores to do and at the age of 9 washing dishes, sweeping, brimming, and needing dough made me happy and I enjoyed yed but later I realised my mom just trained me for this job now I have to do this every day even if it hampers my studies, even if I am ill or complete unable to do she force me to do or if critically I don't do that she used to curse me for my illness too this is soo sad and depressing for me ..
I am in 12th standard and whenever I think about my future and my interest they refuse everything they just want me to get a job or corporate job inside the city .. Like they want me to ruin my whole life and studies for just 20-40k salary they don't want me to grow..
.scommunication is also the thing every time they curse me for my body, my food, my clothes, my looks 😢😢 I am suffering rn
They are still enjoying their married life and I am not sad about that but they don't treat me like their child I get new clothes once in five months but they will buy themselves dozens of clothes every time...
I wanted a scooter because it is difficult for me to go to school so far away by walking coz they said they can't afford 50 rupees per day for an auto also but they refused by saying that you will be ruined and now they planning to take the gold necklace and gold bangles like seriously 😒😒😒
I gate these things and I know by sharing I couldn't get help but still, I felt a bit relieved 😌
Thanks for raising this unnoticed but serious topic ahead 😊
OH MY GOSH THATS F*CKED UP AS SHIT. IM SO SORRY YOU HAVE SUCH HORRIBLE, DISGUSTING PARENTS. Kam kar, get a job, move out from home..You are not their servant at all, they are supposed to look after you, not you. They made fun of your looks and controled you, they are not your parents,,ghar se bhag ja, you wont regret
they are using you, girl..tell them : you are not my parents, you made me do the chores when i was 9..which parent does that. A real parent who cares about you will actually do the chores and maybe teach you when youre like 14 or smth. Bring this matter to court of law, they can help you. tell everything, get a judge and then break relations from your family
This is like the too much toxicity in one family please get out of your family
not trying to be an npc or anything but how can you express it soo perfectly?? like ive always felt like this but was never able to express myself...
And also genuine appreciation for the video💖
Ohh god dii jab aap bol rahe ho maine ek ek baat relate karpayi ,meri bachpan ab teenage katam hone wala hai sab ek trauma raha ,aur abhi bas rehna charahi toh bas phir se koi na koi aisi baat aayi jaata hai...bohut buta lagta hai ki jab aapki parents hii aisi hai toh...sach mein di bohut bura lagta hai 😫
Par aapne iss position mein rehke yeh video banayi , bohot hi di...
Yeh hum jaise victim bacchon ko ek small ray of sense of belonging (apnapan)
Tnq di..
As a only 14 year teenage girl i literally attempt suicide 2 times but i guess god doesn’t want me to die They are Abusive behaviour is Killing me each and everyday I Cried Everyday i saw a dream In that dream my parents were Chill and happy we are All happy enjoying movie in peace when i wake up i just cried I can't it I'm literally feeling helpless In our country its not that big issue every parents are like this But only I know how I'm suffering this
Same thing dude😢...but I just think that what if I dont there?? Mre bdd kya hoga..but now i feel ki kuch nhii hoga... that's why mne apna jina apne hisb s krna shikh rhi hu...but wo b nhi hone de rhe
Same age ,I am also 14 .I remember one day my few friends came to my home we are having fun but my mom came and she literally started to behave like a stupid telling them about my personal activities and she don't know how to talk one my friends was a girl she felt very uncomfortable by listening my mom's stupid things.
Kasam se yar Jo kiya na us din
@@deepanjali045Bahi yar pehle sochta tha ki sab pyaar karte. Ab lagta hai kee land karte chutiye.
Maine 1 suicide karne ki koshish ki thi meri maa mujhe doctor bannana chati hai but mujhe ye sab pasand nahi tha to jab bola to us din se leke ab Tak apna phone nahi Diya .
Kahti hai"Phone ke Karan ye houa.
Ye Maine apne pasio se phone kharida hai. Unko pata lagne nahi Diya . Bohot chalti Ghar chud dunga.bad 12 ho jai
Kis kis ko ye video dekh kar relatable feel hua 😢
Me also😭😭😭🥺
My father was like this but now things are changing and I'm grateful for that❤️✨
Har middle Clss parents ki yehi dikkat h parents Kbhi ni samjhte
Very very thanks to God for Very good and lovely parents they daily use to talk me and fun together. they are very supporting ❤️
Bahut sahi kah rahi ho aap Khushi didi mummy papa aise hi hoti hai toxic 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Kis kis ko ye video dekhkar Rona aagaya 😢
I want to send this video to my parents but if i do it i am pretty sure that they will say such things to me that I will die from inside 🙇🏻♀️ so I can't but i try to be selfish i am from {G} generation but i am not selfish 🙂 really sis ur video is amazing
You are the prretiest person in the world who agree 👍
❤Every kids deserve to have a good parents ❤
❤❤You are very deserving to be a mother❤❤
Harsh reality , atleast someone is there who understands the real pain
You are telling that what i feel inside and what i want to say my parents thanku di this is also my points ❤😢
I am so glad that my parents are not toxic.....like literally they both are like my best friends and I shate all my secrets with them....they care about my feelings and never ever say anything bad to me and they also respect all my decisions and always listen to my opinions......
But I have witnessed my roommate parents and they are so so toxic ....they always control her so more power to all these people...☹️❤
I totally respect her courage to speak the truth of society without fear 👏 and every single part of the video was too much relatable for me ❤
This video made me subscribe your channel 🥰. Lots of love 💜