I’m 15.. almost 16. I’ve been struggling with this issue since I was about 10. I have depression and have extreme knots. The worst part is that my mom is a hair dresser and she doesn’t understand my depression she thinks I’m just lazy. I try to explain myself but she doesn’t listen. I literally have a rats nest in my hair. I never cut it and let my mom brush my hair so hard. It hurts so bad. One time I even went to another hair Solon and they had to pay almost 200 bucks for them to get it out. My mom had to cut into my hair so my hair is uneven. Every time I fall into this loop hole I suck it up and let my mom brush and brush. But it hurts so bad this is like the 4th or 5th time I’ve had this bad of knots and idk what to do anymore. I feel like I’m at my breaking point. But You aren’t alone. Thank you for making me feel not alone too. God bless you and we will get through this together ❤️ *Update Dec 10 2020* thank you all for your kind words and support! Around July my mom brushed my hair and cut into it to make it better and it took *7 whole hours* of pain. But I finally got through it and my hair hasn’t been bad since. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thanks for inspiring me! I’m so thankful my hair is back to normal again and Remember everyone, it always gets better! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Amanda Agreste Hey💕 Idk if you See this but I could really relate to your comment! My mother will probably never understand why I sometimes let myself completely go and always yells at me for not taking care of myself. But I feel like this, my hair for example, is just a process I can’t speed up, even though I’d really wish I could. Till it’s over I just have to accept this part of myself and learn to even love it more. I never knew that matted hair is a consequence of depression and just found out about it recently but it actually makes a lot of sense. But thank you for your comment it actually made me feel less alone too! I wish you only the best and keep fighting I guess 💛
@@SamW117 *Update Dec 10 2020* thank you all for your kind words and support! Around July my mom brushed my hair and cut into it to make it better and it took *7 whole hours* of pain. But I finally got through it and my hair hasn’t been bad since. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thanks for inspiring me! Special thanks for Sam W for making this video and inspiring me and making me feel better. I’m so thankful my hair is back to normal again and Remember everyone, it always gets better! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are so cute, darling, precious and absolutely beautiful. It's not a complimentary hand out, not flattery. Just is. You sweet thing. You are so awesome. I get you. I see you. Thank you for saying thank you. Teehee. You snook!
@@SamW117 I just adore you. Keep it up, you badass! It takes COURAGE to open up your vulnerability to the world, in hopes of encouraging others or finding a friend. I'm your friend, gurl. You Are Off thE hook! I really relate to you. Even pushing 40, you really remind me of myself. And not just my younger self....parts of me that are still so relevant and existing. I also see my past, not just present, self; there were so many slumps and ditches in my life, when I watched my beauty sink into holes (not that it applies to you, bc u r gorgeous and still have all ur collegian), that I thought I'd never swim up to the surface again. Let me say this to you, and really soak it in: Everything. Does. Grow. BACK! That is a huge lesson I've gotten out of life. I remember when my teeth got so yellow, and I was do srlf-loathing I couldn't wash them....I just knew my teeth wouldn't ever be the same (false. There are solutions, like oil-pulling. Google it) . I really had to BABY STEP my way out of certain holes. It was hard, as a perfectionist, to not go all out. It was like, "okay, I'll comb my ends, brush loosely. Maybe wash cloth / sponge bathe, take some vitamin C.
Also, if anyone tells you that you’re just being lazy by not brushing your hair, tell them that they need to get more educated on mental health. Because people tell people like us that all the time and it sucks.
i’m so glad to know i’m not te only one struggling with this. i’ve been sitting on the floor of the shower, bawling, and brushing my hair for the past half hour. i’m so sick of people telling me i’m lazy, and messy. i want you to know you are loved and i thank you for sharing your story.
It’s not stupid to be upset about it, it’s perfectly fine. Don’t beat yourself about it, self care can be so hard I know it is but you’re doing what’s best and it will get better. Please stay strong thank you for sharing this you’re so beautiful don’t feel ashamed of it because so many struggle the same way, 🥺❤️❤️
Hey, I know how this is. I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety since like 3-4th grade. Being upset about your hair is not stupid. I am currently trying to brush through my hair because it’s so matted. I can’t relate to wanting to feel too feminine, because I’m non-binary, but I understand how frustrating gender identity can be. But one day, this will get better. It’ll be a difficult battle but we will get through this.
@@SamW117 It’s not your fault that I am also struggling, I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. I hope that things get better for you too!
It's so hard losing our hair to sadness. I know, it's traumstizing. I swear it, if I were there, I would have helped you!!!! I'm crying. I'm so sorry, babe! Oil the Dickenson out if it, sis, every weekened, to the scalp. Oil ur follicles with whatever you have....olive oil, coconut oil, whatever! My heart....I really feel you. You are so darling, beb. I get it....like, it's so much harder than it seems to take care of your hair when your dignity is on the ground, like a sack of rotten potatoes. Layers help kill the death and keep length, plus it'll look thick but be less to msnage. I'm not trying to be bossy, bc I get it TOTALLY! I'm just so desperate to encourage you. Jesus be with you. God bless you, you precious sweet soul!!!!!!!
I am 52 and having been dealing with Depression since my tweens. My hair has been long( shoulder length or longer).I am STRONGLY considering chopping it all off due to mats.I mean it'll grow back...slowly 😔
Yeah.. super long hair but over a year ago I got depressed and its this matted mess... or rather, one huge matted bun. I dont know what to do. I know I need to just shave it off... I can't bring myself to do it...but each day that I continue to hide it does nothing but push me deeper into shame, deeper into hiding and deeper into isolation. I keep telling myself tomorrow Ill face it... but tomorrow went from May 2019 to August 2020... Looking at your hair, you very likely still have options beyond cutting.. I know why you feel you have to...but even more than that, I understand why cutting it breaks your heart.. I hope you realize what a huge thing it was being brave enough to push through that wall of fear and shame, more than once at that! Walking into that appointment had to be an awful feeling, but you found the courage and even harder you found it more than once! THEN you were strong enough to make this video! It may have felt insignificant to you at the time of filming, but I assure you that it is much more impactful than you can know. At minimum, it found its way to me, and helped me feel a little less like a complete failure, and a LOT less alone! Thank you for that gift. So please, regardless of all else, at least give yourself the credit you deserve for those things!
Sure, that's valid for you. My husband is very happy. Thanks for taking the time to comment. My first world problem must've struck a cord with you to do so.
I’m 15.. almost 16. I’ve been struggling with this issue since I was about 10. I have depression and have extreme knots. The worst part is that my mom is a hair dresser and she doesn’t understand my depression she thinks I’m just lazy. I try to explain myself but she doesn’t listen. I literally have a rats nest in my hair. I never cut it and let my mom brush my hair so hard. It hurts so bad. One time I even went to another hair Solon and they had to pay almost 200 bucks for them to get it out. My mom had to cut into my hair so my hair is uneven. Every time I fall into this loop hole I suck it up and let my mom brush and brush. But it hurts so bad this is like the 4th or 5th time I’ve had this bad of knots and idk what to do anymore. I feel like I’m at my breaking point. But You aren’t alone. Thank you for making me feel not alone too. God bless you and we will get through this together ❤️
*Update Dec 10 2020* thank you all for your kind words and support! Around July my mom brushed my hair and cut into it to make it better and it took *7 whole hours* of pain. But I finally got through it and my hair hasn’t been bad since. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thanks for inspiring me! I’m so thankful my hair is back to normal again and Remember everyone, it always gets better! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Amanda Agreste Hey💕 Idk if you See this but I could really relate to your comment! My mother will probably never understand why I sometimes let myself completely go and always yells at me for not taking care of myself. But I feel like this, my hair for example, is just a process I can’t speed up, even though I’d really wish I could. Till it’s over I just have to accept this part of myself and learn to even love it more. I never knew that matted hair is a consequence of depression and just found out about it recently but it actually makes a lot of sense. But thank you for your comment it actually made me feel less alone too!
I wish you only the best and keep fighting I guess 💛
Thank you for sharing... currently sat trying to brush out 8yrs of misery from my own head. Much love to you and know you're not alone xx
Amanda Agreste that’s aweful that your mom thinks you’re lazy
@@SamW117 *Update Dec 10 2020* thank you all for your kind words and support! Around July my mom brushed my hair and cut into it to make it better and it took *7 whole hours* of pain. But I finally got through it and my hair hasn’t been bad since. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thanks for inspiring me! Special thanks for Sam W for making this video and inspiring me and making me feel better. I’m so thankful my hair is back to normal again and Remember everyone, it always gets better! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@amandaa.charlottee Awe, glad I could inspire you and sooo glad to hear hints have improved
You are SO BEAUTIFUL! NOT JUST SAYING THAT TO ENCOURAGE! Y are really a beauty.
Thank you
You are so cute, darling, precious and absolutely beautiful. It's not a complimentary hand out, not flattery. Just is. You sweet thing. You are so awesome. I get you. I see you. Thank you for saying thank you. Teehee. You snook!
@@OneCupSugar You’re too sweet
@@SamW117 I just adore you. Keep it up, you badass! It takes COURAGE to open up your vulnerability to the world, in hopes of encouraging others or finding a friend. I'm your friend, gurl. You Are Off thE hook! I really relate to you. Even pushing 40, you really remind me of myself. And not just my younger self....parts of me that are still so relevant and existing. I also see my past, not just present, self; there were so many slumps and ditches in my life, when I watched my beauty sink into holes (not that it applies to you, bc u r gorgeous and still have all ur collegian), that I thought I'd never swim up to the surface again. Let me say this to you, and really soak it in: Everything. Does. Grow. BACK! That is a huge lesson I've gotten out of life. I remember when my teeth got so yellow, and I was do srlf-loathing I couldn't wash them....I just knew my teeth wouldn't ever be the same (false. There are solutions, like oil-pulling. Google it) . I really had to BABY STEP my way out of certain holes. It was hard, as a perfectionist, to not go all out. It was like, "okay, I'll comb my ends, brush loosely. Maybe wash cloth / sponge bathe, take some vitamin C.
@@OneCupSugar Thank you for the encouragement girl 😘
Also, if anyone tells you that you’re just being lazy by not brushing your hair, tell them that they need to get more educated on mental health. Because people tell people like us that all the time and it sucks.
It sure does
I lost my hair to grief three times!!!! Oil changed everything. I oiled for a year! !! It's not stupid....it's a real problem! !!!
i’m so glad to know i’m not te only one struggling with this. i’ve been sitting on the floor of the shower, bawling, and brushing my hair for the past half hour. i’m so sick of people telling me i’m lazy, and messy. i want you to know you are loved and i thank you for sharing your story.
Struggling to care for yourself isn’t laziness.
It’s not stupid to be upset about it, it’s perfectly fine. Don’t beat yourself about it, self care can be so hard I know it is but you’re doing what’s best and it will get better. Please stay strong thank you for sharing this you’re so beautiful don’t feel ashamed of it because so many struggle the same way, 🥺❤️❤️
You’re totally right. And thank you
I wish I could cheer you up a bit. I'm sorry that you go through this.
Sucay Miranda It’s ok. It’s just the reality of mental illness. It ebbs and it flows bit I wanted to share the lower parts of the experience I suppose
@@SamW117 Yeah it sucks.
Sucay Miranda It can sometimes
jsh hair pills have helped mine grow so much and i have african hair! i feel the same way. i used to have longer hair :/
Coconut nut oil works really well for me!
Hey, I know how this is. I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety since like 3-4th grade. Being upset about your hair is not stupid. I am currently trying to brush through my hair because it’s so matted. I can’t relate to wanting to feel too feminine, because I’m non-binary, but I understand how frustrating gender identity can be. But one day, this will get better. It’ll be a difficult battle but we will get through this.
I’m sorry you struggle with the same thing. I hope one day it gets better for you
@@SamW117
It’s not your fault that I am also struggling, I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. I hope that things get better for you too!
@@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 I appreciate that. Same to you
It's so hard losing our hair to sadness. I know, it's traumstizing. I swear it, if I were there, I would have helped you!!!! I'm crying. I'm so sorry, babe! Oil the Dickenson out if it, sis, every weekened, to the scalp. Oil ur follicles with whatever you have....olive oil, coconut oil, whatever! My heart....I really feel you. You are so darling, beb. I get it....like, it's so much harder than it seems to take care of your hair when your dignity is on the ground, like a sack of rotten potatoes. Layers help kill the death and keep length, plus it'll look thick but be less to msnage. I'm not trying to be bossy, bc I get it TOTALLY! I'm just so desperate to encourage you. Jesus be with you. God bless you, you precious sweet soul!!!!!!!
Thank you
@Prince Adonis Ocean Huh. The more you know!
I am 52 and having been dealing with Depression since my tweens. My hair has been long( shoulder length or longer).I am STRONGLY considering chopping it all off due to mats.I mean it'll grow back...slowly 😔
It will grow back. If you want to cut it, cut it. It’ll be ok. Hugs to you
I love you, hon!
You’re too sweet 😘
Yeah.. super long hair but over a year ago I got depressed and its this matted mess... or rather, one huge matted bun. I dont know what to do. I know I need to just shave it off... I can't bring myself to do it...but each day that I continue to hide it does nothing but push me deeper into shame, deeper into hiding and deeper into isolation.
I keep telling myself tomorrow Ill face it... but tomorrow went from May 2019 to August 2020...
Looking at your hair, you very likely still have options beyond cutting.. I know why you feel you have to...but even more than that, I understand why cutting it breaks your heart..
I hope you realize what a huge thing it was being brave enough to push through that wall of fear and shame, more than once at that! Walking into that appointment had to be an awful feeling, but you found the courage and even harder you found it more than once!
THEN you were strong enough to make this video! It may have felt insignificant to you at the time of filming, but I assure you that it is much more impactful than you can know. At minimum, it found its way to me, and helped me feel a little less like a complete failure, and a LOT less alone! Thank you for that gift.
So please, regardless of all else, at least give yourself the credit you deserve for those things!
RÆnbօw Bligђt Thank you so much for sharing. I’m glad it could help in some way
❤️🙏😘
OMG .. first world problems ! I bet you're a real ray of sunshine to your husband.
Sure, that's valid for you. My husband is very happy. Thanks for taking the time to comment. My first world problem must've struck a cord with you to do so.