How to make a narcissist feel INSIGNIFICANT
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- Опубликовано: 13 июн 2024
- The best revenge is making them insignificant #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
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don't waste the best years of your life, being loyal to a toxic person.
one of the biggest mistakes people make in life is, thinking we have unlimited time. time is free, but it's priceless. you can't own it, but you can use it.
you can’t keep it, but you can spend it. and once it's lost, you can never get it back. the problem with time is, eventually it always runs out.
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Beautifully written💖
Very well said!👌
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So true. And although I dragged myself through 27 years of it, I'm now out and won't spend another pico-second there or with anyone like that again. Not now, not for all eternity.
V. true. They like negative reactions as much as positive. So toxic!
you are right...complete silence and being non reactive is the loudest answer...
and the cat is checking on you..nice
I like that "You have been given a second chance..." it is/was a blessing even when I felt bad and was made to feel guilty for not giving them another chance or a "fair chance." Thank you for saying that.
Thank you this message is so empowering. After 40 years of being taken advantage of while I trusted her completely, I can now look at her and see the truth. She shows as cold and guilty of treating me with total contempt. Lost.
I blocked him on everything. He hated how nonchalant I am😂🤷🏽♀️ He reaches out to me, but I WOULD NEVER check on him. I actually didn’t check on him when we were together😂 I was very stressful for him🤭
Making your covert Narcissist, being INDIFFERENT is the Most HEALTHY n Natural thing there is. No Effort involved. Being Detached or becoming Detached takes no real effort. It's a natural reflex action... Like dropping a hot pan ...👍🥳✌️😊
I’m stuck in a 34 year marriage with this”CN” he ruined our marriage( no attention, time,affection,communication….basically neglect) you would think he would ask for a divorce, move out… but, no. I no longer wait for or rely on him for a relationship( separate rooms…)I thank God two of our adult kids live at home. They are a buffer and make it easier to be here.
Reverse situation where he’s made my kids attack animals
I've noticed that in narcissist's, they are never interested in you or what you do. They ignore and neglect. Growing up my mother never showed any interest in me. I then witnessed my sister become her mother with her own kids. Narcissist's are disgusting people.
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Sounds like a real man who switched off from you a long time ago. I wonder what happened for him to completely switch off like that. Must’ve been something closer to home. I do wish you the very best if you decide to leave and start fresh.
I’m so sorry for what you’re going thru. You’re life would probably be wonderful if he wasn’t there.
Yet I noticed you said you were glad your two adult kids were at home cause they helped buffer the situation?
I’m not trying to be cruel, but if your kids grew up around him then they have experienced narcissistic abuse also. Now as adults being at home and used as a buffer is horrible for them. Even if you don’t see it, he is abusing them daily. You should get them out of there.
Let them have a better life. 😢
I just found out my 3x is trying to get information on me. We divorced in '94, our kids are in their 30's. They've went no contact long ago as well. There's absolutely no reason for contact. Luckily, he's a thousand miles away.
Thank you ,Danielle, I completely agree, our human life span is very short/ limited.
Might as well try to make it positive energy. 💞💞💞🌬🌬🌬🌬🌬
"How sad is that?"
The answer is: very. As sad as sad can be.
Thanks for the video!
Miserable existence allways telling same bs stories that ur suppose to admire them for then look at u like why does nobody like MR😢
"He was born in the summer of his 27th year coming home to a place he'd never been before" Looks like Danielles back in Colorado on another ski trip again. Begin ALL these tactical steps toward making a Narcissist feel INSIGNIFICANT by kicking off the Super Bowl of No Contact by vowing never to make "Eye-Contact" with the hobgoblin again. Depp destroyed Amber Heard with this tactic. Because it works!!! Takes the starch right out of em...
My narc friend was anarc.of 30 yrs I. Hardly ever made I contact felt weird vibes googled traits Dr said he's malignant narcissists an got time off never.ever GO BACK IT GETS WOTSE WITH AGE.AN RAGE WHEN FIND OUT THEY HAVE NO GAME THEY JUST DONT GET IT THEY NEVER LOOK AT THEMSELFS AS PART OF IT I SAY THERE 3:03 PUNISHEMENT IS HAVEING TO B THEM TO LIVEIN THERE MISERABLRE GRANDIOSE THOUGHTS
LOVE Love when you say "SuperBowl of No contact" lol😂! Great technique. Will try it.
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Gonna be cold in Aspen.😮
This was so SO good! Not only pointing them out, but pointing ourselves towards moving on; a past chaptercin a closed book...love it. I'm suffering from long-term grief over losing 2 family members right begore the narc duscard. Can quit replaying it all, even in my sleep
You can’t control and manipulate others to try and determine one’s life purpose.
So true. I’ve been given a second chance.
I love how direct your message is because I am struggling to move forward & I this is exactly what I needed to hear 🙏🏾
I am doing something right now with the second chance. Thank you for reminder.
Thank you for your advice.God/Allah bless you.❤
Easiest is to change your voice tone and modulation, as they " betrayal signal " you, smile, cause they are all about your physical responses and verbal responses..full up your shine before leaving..I just made that up Betrayal Signal,, they do it all the time, mixed in with, " virtue signaling " it's all an effort to get you to react..Andro benefit the insane brain movie they star in
Great advice Danielle
Once you've got them feeling small, do me a favor and pick them up. You have gotten your revenge.
Im over it and have been I don’t even like talking about it anymore
I was very successful at one corporation in the US. My director (a young American) stopped one day at my cubicle and said for everyone around to hear: "You are not important." I didn't answer. I let my achievements speak for me rather than empty words. I still remember his face when he was saying that. Its expression looked exactly like my mother's.
You might not yet be getting ahead in this phase of your life
But not to go backward
Is somewhat to advance
good reminder
Danielle i like the passion and insights, please dont forget to mention all religions because we are all victims of the same devil.
Goes to show what a sucker I am: 2 months no contact; I know its futile. I give up etc. However I love her and care about her and couldent imagine doing anything to add to her pain even though I know the sentiment is not the same.
Prayers of enlightenment for you…I understand your plight…btdt…
Gotta be kind to yourself. It doesn't make you a sucker. It means you're a person with empathy and the capacity to care about others.
That’s trauma bond
Yes, if you could imagine me for a minute as the narcissist, it would be like this: I am not an evil man, but if at times I can't handle things and you refuse to react in any way. And who even knows if it's refusal, you just are non-plussed like you are incapable of doing or feeling anything. I am deep trouble. "How bad is my problem at the. moment". On a shameful husband scale of 1 to 10, where am I? I know I'm blowing it, but just how badly? I know that I'm screwed right now, but just how much have I lost. Now, I'm not angry. I'm angry and afraid. And you will never, ever know if it's just a game. They don't have an answer.
Absolutely!
100% spot on!
I haver found anything either in my experience growing up or since that retutes the claim that these people are pathologically immature. Either they feel big at the centre of the universe, while they're being fed with admiration and being catered to, or they collapse into victimhood, when they're not. They don't really comprehend that they have to earn things by contributing value, just like a bratty pre-schooler, instead expecting to get whatever they want gecause they "deserve" it just for breathing.
Just like a young child, they don't really have a well-developed sense of identity, so they have to be constantly reinforced, and to have their big important feelings reflected back to them. So I think ignoring them drives them totally crazy, because it denies them this reinforcement, exposing them to their fear of insignificance.
That's been my experience, anyway.
Thanks right again. Marty. In Oxford Conn. Whoo. Your smart
Thank you 🙏🏽
Excellent
Excellent! Thank you ❤
Well put.
Right ✅️ ❤
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Can narcs ever develop an inner sense of compass? Or everything comes from the outside?
What happens when narc get stranded on island by themselves? They self conbust on the spot?? 😅
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Danielle, can we go on a date😏
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