How Dolly Parton led me to an epiphany | Jad Abumrad

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  • Опубликовано: 15 июл 2020
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    How do you end a story? Host of "Radiolab" Jad Abumrad tells how his search for an answer led him home to the mountains of Tennessee, where he met an unexpected teacher: Dolly Parton.
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  • @Stlwartheart14
    @Stlwartheart14 4 года назад +47

    Its weird that I have not seen his face until now, but heard his voice for at least 5 years.

  • @C0n0li0
    @C0n0li0 4 года назад +57

    Why am I not surprised that Dolly Parton is able to inspire greatness

  • @rudig5698
    @rudig5698 4 года назад +80

    „Funny thing is that the poorer people are, the more generous they seem to be.“ -Dolly Parton

    • @littlemusgrave5323
      @littlemusgrave5323 4 года назад +1

      This is a wonderful aphorism and could also have some evidential base - Dacher Keltner did some work which suggested that having wealth / status can make you more likely to behave selfishly

  • @danielsanichiban
    @danielsanichiban 4 года назад +29

    Radiolab is a gift. Especially the interviews with Oliver Sacks. You, Jad, brought that into my world. Thankyou

  • @Skibidibobobeebop
    @Skibidibobobeebop 4 года назад +17

    This is the most underrated Ted talk ever.

  • @TheKatlnelson
    @TheKatlnelson 4 года назад +10

    I've listened to Radio Lab for years. Love it.
    This particular talk gave me a great epiphany in my own life. I've struggled for years to understand my relationship with my Dad. Should I hate him? Love him? Defend him? Expose him? "The third" concept, a new space of understanding where the relationship takes on an identity.... Something like that.

  • @donnaotter4536
    @donnaotter4536 3 года назад +9

    I love everything about this: mostly the message of the talk, but also how he gets there, his delivery, the production, the visuals, the cuts, and the best quarantine stage set up I've seen.

  • @trangoilatrang399
    @trangoilatrang399 4 года назад +7

    when I was 18 I wanted to be a storyteller. I wanted to travel the world, listen to people's stories, listen to people from this part of the world, and re-tell it to people from another part. because I had always seen the cultural, societal, economic, and class differences I just knew that bridging those differences would be more beneficial to us all. a few years went by, I got into college and got some wrong ideas about the way society works (power and stuff) and could not manage to connect to what I do at all because of that. I had to retreat and reflect everything until now. I strongly resonate with this talk. Thank you for sharing your ideas.

  • @dr.m.hfuhruhurr84
    @dr.m.hfuhruhurr84 4 года назад +18

    That was outstanding.
    Took me through a few epiphany and some catharsis even

  • @kellyjackson7889
    @kellyjackson7889 4 года назад +20

    Love Dolly one of the best TED's yet!

  • @antislutful
    @antislutful 3 года назад +3

    I've been listening to the guy for 10 years now and this is the first time I've seen what he looks like. He looks exactly like his voice.

  • @jonsweemer2054
    @jonsweemer2054 4 года назад +6

    Storytelling is a lost art and thank the Good Lord there are still some like Jad Abumrad (and Dolly Parton!).

  • @LoveFitsAll
    @LoveFitsAll 4 года назад +5

    she gives free books to kids anywhere. my daughter just signed up. I'M SO GRATEFUL!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
    Dolly

  • @anitamarsano158
    @anitamarsano158 4 года назад +3

    Bless you, Jad. Thank you for sharing and continuing your journey

  • @ChiyokoMcNair
    @ChiyokoMcNair 4 года назад +2

    Beautifully done, as always. Love Jad!

  • @aidanoleary636
    @aidanoleary636 4 года назад +10

    Super talk. Really has made me think so much more about what unites us than divides us. Thank you.

  • @gabriellefata4800
    @gabriellefata4800 4 года назад +27

    Check out his podcast series Dolly Parton’s America !

  • @onlyrick
    @onlyrick 4 года назад +1

    I'm glad I watched that. Thank you all.

  • @ivotenotocensorship5247
    @ivotenotocensorship5247 4 года назад +9

    I'm Lebanese. Lebanon is the most beautiful country ever. I miss it so so so much.

  • @nicksims2827
    @nicksims2827 4 года назад +3

    Not only is the talk great, and Dolly amazing, but the video editing is SHARP! Jad always makes stuff sound great, but didn’t know he could do video like this too

    • @jroberts1734
      @jroberts1734 3 года назад +1

      No joke.. i think it was one guy and his daughter who made the vid, 3 days, if i remenber what Jad said on spotify..

  • @piyalirb1247
    @piyalirb1247 4 года назад +2

    One of the best and most inspiring Ted shows ever! Thank you ❤

  • @MarkReese
    @MarkReese 4 года назад +4

    “...interrogate those differences...” - It’s amazing what can be revealed when we start asking the right questions 👌 #GoFindTheThird

  • @ekanshmaithil2087
    @ekanshmaithil2087 4 года назад

    Wow! Thanks for sharing this experience.

  • @kelleylynch706
    @kelleylynch706 3 года назад

    Brilliant! A goal very much worth all the hard work that goes into each episode.

  • @kamalnawhal4969
    @kamalnawhal4969 4 года назад +1

    Always love watching ted

  • @stormypeepai5715
    @stormypeepai5715 4 года назад

    Thank you for this.

  • @StartupFundingEventGlobal
    @StartupFundingEventGlobal 4 года назад +6

    Great talk on searching for your purpose!

  • @Pilobolus
    @Pilobolus 2 года назад

    JAD, so good. You are amazing and continue to inspire us!

  • @uber301
    @uber301 4 года назад +1

    That very podcast episode about the Hmong absolutely soured my joy of listening. I never listened to another episode.

  • @silentdreamer821
    @silentdreamer821 4 года назад +5

    In Tennessee we have the east,middle, and west regions each with different cultures. I love you and would like to welcome you to East Tennessee.

    • @ukozi
      @ukozi 4 года назад

      Knoxvillian here, and I’d like to second this comment.

  • @annhutcheson5770
    @annhutcheson5770 4 года назад +3

    Let the biases fall. Love thy neighbor as thyself.
    The difference is love. #BlessedAreThePeacemakers

  • @sitaeve108
    @sitaeve108 4 года назад

    I love this!!!

  • @nancycornett9949
    @nancycornett9949 4 года назад

    Astonishing!

  • @heathero2692
    @heathero2692 4 года назад

    Excellent.

  • @AhmedAbdAllahSalem
    @AhmedAbdAllahSalem 2 года назад

    Wonderful

  • @lizardissimo
    @lizardissimo 4 года назад

    More of this, please! Definitely what we need is the 3rd...especially but not just in the USA.....

  • @xuanhuynh618
    @xuanhuynh618 4 года назад +2

    Beautiful talk about

    • @xuanhuynh618
      @xuanhuynh618 4 года назад

      Beautiful talk about immigrants, healing division and Dolly Parton kindness.

  • @roldanching
    @roldanching 4 года назад

    Thanks Bro.

  • @jesusalejandrogutierrezsul9625
    @jesusalejandrogutierrezsul9625 4 года назад +1

    What a good director!

    • @CJReynolds
      @CJReynolds 4 года назад

      His name is Mac Premo. He's one of my favorite creators.

  • @theinternaut1991
    @theinternaut1991 4 года назад +1

    This *is* the _best_ video.

  • @brittanyjeanalexander1719
    @brittanyjeanalexander1719 4 года назад +1

    I'm here ❤

  • @osamah3408
    @osamah3408 4 года назад

    Great video 🥰

  • @vijitdaroch4879
    @vijitdaroch4879 4 года назад

    all the best man

  • @KingofFools
    @KingofFools 4 года назад +1

    Jad, I didn't know you were from Tennessee. I've listened to you for quite some time. Blah blah blah. Thanks for the video.

  • @VChau-ki7xu
    @VChau-ki7xu 3 года назад

    This brought me to tears. -A Former Vietnamese Refugee.

  • @fahimalfardin5308
    @fahimalfardin5308 4 года назад

    Great!

  • @TheFuturistTom
    @TheFuturistTom 4 года назад +8

    I’ve been watching Ted for a while! I loved their content!! As such, I made my own sci-fi/futurist channel!!

  • @yogaonyourtime
    @yogaonyourtime 9 дней назад

    I freaking miss your stories 😢

  • @kariwoodell8102
    @kariwoodell8102 4 года назад +2

    Oh Dolly! Long live Dolly!!!

  • @blakecastillo2474
    @blakecastillo2474 4 года назад +5

    Okay that settled it, Dollyworld is next on my list of things to do. :-)

    • @EnlistedReb
      @EnlistedReb 4 года назад +1

      Whenever covid dies down make sure you go. Make sure to ride the Tennessee Tornado!

  • @rickharold7884
    @rickharold7884 4 года назад

    Nice!

  • @brendaleah5271
    @brendaleah5271 2 года назад

    Thanks you. You did a wonderful job in helping me to get clarity on what it is that I'm here to do. I to love Dolly and have a story to tell about how the reflection of her brilliance has recently awaken me to the third part in my life's story.

  • @AshtonZeeTV
    @AshtonZeeTV 4 года назад

    ... how did i know this was Jad from radio lab. He LOVES DOLLY PARTON

  • @PuppetIsland
    @PuppetIsland 4 года назад

    nice!

  • @EXOPLANETnews
    @EXOPLANETnews 4 года назад +2

    The more u solve problem, more problem u will face so it up to you but remember don't give up.
    -no one

  • @injoibeing5493
    @injoibeing5493 4 года назад +1

    I live there..its called Joyce Kilmer Memorial forest

  • @invox9490
    @invox9490 4 года назад +2

    I believe that is THE biggest problem with the Media/Social Networks today: they all focus on the "sides" and not on what we have in the "middle". That thing that ultimatelly connects us to the issue and what we can build beyond it.
    That's why I hate debates, opinion speakers, commentators, etc... No one talks about how to resolve anything WITH the other. Its all about: "This is the way I WOULD do it. The ONLY way it must be done. And the other side is always WRONG... I hate it. I avoid it. I am one of those kind of people the internet just HATES: a Moderate. I try (enphases on TRY) to see both sides and find ways to connect with both, reaching a result. And reaching a result in the ENTIRE POINT OF EVEN HAVING A DISCUTION.
    Too bad nowadays no one wants a result, people wanna be right. And they want a WIN... Not a solution.

  • @KaneLono
    @KaneLono 2 года назад

    What an inspiring story.
    Can you hear that America?
    In your everybody vs everybody thrashing about, there is room for a third. And its called a relationship.

  • @frayjr1970
    @frayjr1970 4 года назад +1

    Jad- Dolly saw something and learned something very few humans do when she went through her depression in the early 1980s after falling in love with her best friend, Gregg Perry then realizing they were not meant to be. We have all loved someone more than they were willing or able to love us even though our times with those people seem perfect! She entered that 18 month dark period during which she contemplated suicide but God or the Universe opened up for her and showed her secrets that the rest of us do not get to see. There is an unbelievable story that happened to Dolly and Judy before she entered this dark phase that is nothing but metaphysical. The secrets she learned allowed her to become the better person that understands human pain and suffering better. It gave her the strength to open Dollywood and yet she has not touched even a fraction of what she’s been called to do. I understand where she’s been because of a similar family background and what her mission is and I am working to ensure her ministry of music continues to heal us as a nation.
    I appreciate your work with her and can probably answer some of the questions she was unwilling or unable to answer because I have seen the other side of the silly blonde, the side that comes from a poverty no one can explain coupled with a responsibility few can manage. I was jealous when you got to the TN mountain home until I heard how important it was to your relationship with your Dad. I also know that I will make it there one day myself to celebrate the Partons and my Dad, his parents and his eight siblings. So I can find that common connection with where she and I come from and where we will go afterwards.
    God Bless you and your award winning work, I enjoyed it so. Moreover,God Bless Dolly Parton and her mission to enlighten and brighten the world; may it never become a burden but may it always be a joy to her.
    Francis Ray Jr.

  • @LieveLeysen-Discover-
    @LieveLeysen-Discover- 4 года назад +2

    Beautiful 😊💖🙏🏻
    #discoverenjoyfeelgood2

  • @shinysehee
    @shinysehee 4 года назад +1

    Jungle!

  • @tommaitrepierre1774
    @tommaitrepierre1774 4 года назад +1

    🤩

  • @Th3Sh1n1gam1
    @Th3Sh1n1gam1 4 года назад

    This reminds me that Dolly Parton is the voice of the Mocclan revolution.

  • @Doublemint17
    @Doublemint17 3 года назад

    Does anyone know what book he may have read about the Third?

  • @vallesisrinivas
    @vallesisrinivas 4 года назад

    50 seconds ago??
    Great.

  • @ASmithee67
    @ASmithee67 4 года назад +1

    If you try to bring people together in your journalism, you will be rare. Today's mainstream media is focused on the horse race and "gotcha" stories that showcases our differences.

  • @AvenXXX103
    @AvenXXX103 2 года назад

    That foo said yea I'll do a Ted talk but imma radiolab it up. Hardboy Jad! The Natty 🐐 of all podcast for me. The boys been at it for 15+yrs and never had a dud.

  • @Rensune
    @Rensune 4 года назад +1

    I know most Ted stuff is awful now, but give this a listen

  • @CYUCsie098
    @CYUCsie098 4 года назад

    captions is too slow

  • @loankim3370
    @loankim3370 4 года назад

    Tôi hiểu gì chết liền á

  • @ELECTECHNUT
    @ELECTECHNUT 4 года назад +2

    Wrapping up an otherwise interesting story with pseudo "3rd" mystique was a disappointment.
    Dolly gently connects people through common human emotions/needs. Kindness is her secret superpower.

  • @D5quared91
    @D5quared91 4 года назад

    Creepy Stranger Things light flicker noise

  • @enderman1838
    @enderman1838 4 года назад +1

    Damn, never thought I'd be this early, it said 1 view

  • @ivotenotocensorship5247
    @ivotenotocensorship5247 4 года назад

    Me luff Teddy Talk

  • @nguyenthinh3789
    @nguyenthinh3789 4 года назад

    Could you translate into Vietnamese?

  • @suesanborn
    @suesanborn 4 года назад

    I think your third space might be found in Tao. From T. Freke: our opinions obscure our natural intuitive knowing. only when we fully acknowledge that we really do not know anything, are we empty enough to be filled with Tao. Only when we understand that we cannot possibly understand will we finally understand.

  • @100HAPPINESS
    @100HAPPINESS 4 года назад +1

    I hope who reads this will be successful one day Let's do our best from Japanese youtuber🇯🇵

  • @Archimedes_BC
    @Archimedes_BC 4 года назад

    Woops
    Woopsie

  • @EddieVBlueIsland
    @EddieVBlueIsland 4 года назад

    True is not just a rosary of facts - and is also a matter of invention on the same level as lies.

  • @edchester1773
    @edchester1773 3 года назад

    My life " Can't Summarize this"! Your life? Don't wanna Summarize it either............................

  • @lawrencegabriel4109
    @lawrencegabriel4109 4 года назад +1

    I am indian

  • @dgeellis9933
    @dgeellis9933 3 года назад +5

    Jad, I am a long time Radio Lab fan, but every time I listen to you discuss the 'Yellow Rain' episode- I want to scream into my radio. Agent Orange was widely used by the US-Military and CIA over Laos during the time in question. This is a well-documented FACT. Why the US use of agent orange was never discussed in this conversation is BEYOND ME. The Muong villagers description of "yellow rain" roughly matches how agent orange was used during the time in question. I am listening to you on NPR now discussing your self-absorbed Ted-Telk, but you still have yet to understand those Muong villagers clearly witnessed the US air-force drop agent orange. The fact that you believe one single professor's false-negative years after the events in question constitutes an indisputable scientific fact, despite dozens of eye-witness testimony, makes me doubt your intellectual capacity to access scientific evidence. Instead of escaping into new-age empathy and condescending relativist bullshit, you should consider the possibility that you are mistaken and one professor's single data-point does NOT constitute a scientific fact. You just did not do your homework, and then assume that you are standing on the side of "science."
    www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2019/07/agent-orange-cambodia-laos-vietnam/591412/
    www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15287390390227570
    www.nature.com/articles/nature01537
    www.militarytimes.com/news/your-military/2017/01/24/today-in-history-agent-orange-used-inlaos/#:~:text=Jon%20Guttman%20and%20HistoryNet,Laos%20during%20the%20Vietnam%20War.

  • @saytendrajha2797
    @saytendrajha2797 4 года назад +1

    dolly parton

  • @sahilchib5842
    @sahilchib5842 4 года назад +2

    I love to listen to stories that are fictional

  • @louksy3289
    @louksy3289 4 года назад

    First

  • @simhaari
    @simhaari 4 года назад

    I'm having difficulty reconciling the idea of Dolly Parton as a nuanced wise old woman of the Tennessee Mountains with her self-branded Lost Cause Dinner Theatre

    • @dystopian2153
      @dystopian2153 4 года назад

      Huh?

    • @frayjr1970
      @frayjr1970 4 года назад

      Poor thing. Stop trying to reconcile it and move on, your opinion does not matter to anyone but you

  • @lanakim2537
    @lanakim2537 4 года назад

    Honestly, i think this "third" needs to be a normal part of the human thinking process

  • @donmariodavis7080
    @donmariodavis7080 4 года назад +1

    bruh youtube really said 1 view, 19likes, 1 dislike, and 5 comments

    • @richardmarsh4993
      @richardmarsh4993 4 года назад +1

      RUclips doesn't count views until you've watched most of the video (simply clicking on a video doesn't count). People like, dislike and comment before they reach that point.

  • @udaykiranpanjala2710
    @udaykiranpanjala2710 4 года назад +1

    F FOURTH
    Edit: *Okay There's only one comment before me 1 view and 19 likes*
    Productive villager made the first comment
    * AlSo I likEd mY oWN CoMmEnt*

  • @jhammilgumpal5933
    @jhammilgumpal5933 4 года назад

    I think his idea wasn't bad but the way he said it still is to literary or some are too deep. If you want to be informative you should use less figure of speech and artistic concepts.

  • @bbt305
    @bbt305 4 года назад

    Ted talk worthy? Hmm

  • @Noone-of-your-Business
    @Noone-of-your-Business 4 года назад

    As a journalist, your job is not to be a "storyteller". Your job is to _report_ as objectively as possible; you know, like in "reporter". Please leave the storytelling to the makers of *_fiction,_* because that's what "stories" are. As a journalist, please stick to the objective *truth.* I know people have lost focus of _facts_ at the moment, but it is _your_ duty as a journalist to bring it *back.*

    • @momocapicino
      @momocapicino 4 года назад +3

      You clearly haven’t listened to his multitude of radio shows, because he reports on the facts in a story tellers way

    • @dystopian2153
      @dystopian2153 4 года назад +1

      @@momocapicino yeah well that person- commenter is part of the problem we are seeing in this country. They no longer can think abstractly... Only black and white terms. Hope I dont get flagged for saying "black and white."

  • @addammadd
    @addammadd Год назад +1

    My guy is fully ensconced in new age neoliberal parasociality. Just wasted $50 watching his developed version of this talk and it was godawful. Folks, there is more to human interaction than simple soundbyte (spelling purposeful, use your brain) popsych "12 rules" nonsense like this. It seems that something fundamentally left Jad when Robert did; and we are all the worse for it.
    Feel free to misinterpret your jouissance for catharsis, I’m gonna go wash this trash down with some actual reading.

    • @shivtim
      @shivtim Месяц назад

      What in the AI copy pasta is this nonsense 😂

  • @Doppelfrog
    @Doppelfrog Год назад

    Interesting talk, but about 10 minutes too long.

  • @lancethrustworthy
    @lancethrustworthy 4 года назад

    No such thing as a 'soul'. You're out.

  • @_Everyone__
    @_Everyone__ 4 года назад

    Wasted 13 minutes 2 seconds,,, on nothing.

  • @tee4468
    @tee4468 4 года назад +12

    Wow. I like to think of the “third thing,” and have for years. I use it in reference to romantic relationships mostly. You can actually see it in good relationships. It is nearly palpable. It is not exactly the sum of the two. It feels energetic mostly. I love the idea of extending this to all meaningful relationships.

    • @donnaotter4536
      @donnaotter4536 3 года назад +2

      A man and a woman sit near each other, and they do
      not long
      At this moment to be older, or younger, or born
      In any other nation, or any other time, or any other
      place.
      They are content to be where they are, talking or not
      talking.
      Their breaths together feed someone whom we do
      not know.
      The man sees the way his fingers move;
      He sees her hands close around a book she hands to
      him.
      They obey a third body that they share in common.
      They have promised to love that body.
      Age may come; parting may come; death will come!
      A man and a woman sit near each other;
      As they breathe they feed someone we do not know,
      Someone we know of, whom we have never seen.

  • @SakinaAlamina
    @SakinaAlamina 4 года назад

    Great!