Thank you so much Pooky! Your videos over the weekend have been literally life saving (EMDR volcano exploding again) Breathing and being told to breathe is a major trigger for me (related to pre verbal breathing trauma and subsequent multiple anaphylaxis events as an older person because not being allowed to breathe for extended times was a regular occurence for me). Someone suggested to me to imagine I am at a birthday party for a 100 year old person and they cannot blow out their 100 birthday candles so it is my task to help them blow out the candles. Basically purse your lips in a little O shape and blow blow blow til you cannot blow any more (because 100 candles is a lot to blow out). Then you have to take a deep breath in without even realising you are doing so! I use birthday candle blowing as a preventer hundreds of times on an average day or when I am going to an anxious situation or if I remember in an anxious situation constantly (like any hospital visit once the initial resuscitation has passed). I never say breathe to myself (due to the extreme trauma trigger that word invokes)....just blow, blow, blow and think of all the 100+ years olds I have met.....which helps me smile and relax. I do the blow, blow, blow when I go for a walk and find myself bracing with fists locked or I am in the supermarket queue all muscles locked in brace position blow, blow, blow the birthday candles. I have shown this technique to my EMDR therapist (and other people) and ask them to make an O shape with their lips and blow, blow, blow in front of me when I am in an extreme abreaction to remind me...... seeing them blowing and feeling them blowing on my face helps earth me. During EMDR we have a small fan attached to a tripod blowing on my face so I can feel air flow. If I am in public and triggered if I can get to my car and put the aircon on cold and blast my face with air that helps soothe the airways and calms me because I can feel the air moving......feeling the air on my face reminds me to blow, blow, blow. Hopefully this may help another trauma survivor. Much Gratitude for your videos :-)
Love this simple reminder of box breathing! Also love the way you 'little shed' is organised. I think my 'little shed' is the same one and you've given me an idea of how to dress the window and also made me realise that my 'rainbow sorted books' have got all messed up and that seeing yours all sorted made me realise that my messy ones are not the calming scene they were when sorted by colour! I'm off to resort the book shelves!
Oooh enjoy organising your shed! Mine has evolved over the years, but I love it now. I always get my best work done there and I'm working on cultivating a wild meadow out of one of the windows to encourage the wildlife too.
Hello :) Thank you for going through it clearly as on RUclips no one was clear on how to do it properly 🤷♀️ Helps my autism thank you :D P.s. You weren't an idot :) keep it up :D
Really appreciate your videos they are super simple, which is really important and so helpful for anxiety relief.
thanks for explaining it well. im going to start today :)
Thanks Pooky, can I just say I'm totally loving looking at your bookshelf, made me super happy seeing it all colour coordinated 😁😁
I love using this video and your finger breathing video in therapy sessions with my students. Thanks for this! :)
Thank you for making a video on this.
Thank you so much Pooky! Your videos over the weekend have been literally life saving (EMDR volcano exploding again) Breathing and being told to breathe is a major trigger for me (related to pre verbal breathing trauma and subsequent multiple anaphylaxis events as an older person because not being allowed to breathe for extended times was a regular occurence for me).
Someone suggested to me to imagine I am at a birthday party for a 100 year old person and they cannot blow out their 100 birthday candles so it is my task to help them blow out the candles. Basically purse your lips in a little O shape and blow blow blow til you cannot blow any more (because 100 candles is a lot to blow out). Then you have to take a deep breath in without even realising you are doing so! I use birthday candle blowing as a preventer hundreds of times on an average day or when I am going to an anxious situation or if I remember in an anxious situation constantly (like any hospital visit once the initial resuscitation has passed). I never say breathe to myself (due to the extreme trauma trigger that word invokes)....just blow, blow, blow and think of all the 100+ years olds I have met.....which helps me smile and relax. I do the blow, blow, blow when I go for a walk and find myself bracing with fists locked or I am in the supermarket queue all muscles locked in brace position blow, blow, blow the birthday candles. I have shown this technique to my EMDR therapist (and other people) and ask them to make an O shape with their lips and blow, blow, blow in front of me when I am in an extreme abreaction to remind me...... seeing them blowing and feeling them blowing on my face helps earth me.
During EMDR we have a small fan attached to a tripod blowing on my face so I can feel air flow. If I am in public and triggered if I can get to my car and put the aircon on cold and blast my face with air that helps soothe the airways and calms me because I can feel the air moving......feeling the air on my face reminds me to blow, blow, blow. Hopefully this may help another trauma survivor. Much Gratitude for your videos :-)
Love this simple reminder of box breathing! Also love the way you 'little shed' is organised. I think my 'little shed' is the same one and you've given me an idea of how to dress the window and also made me realise that my 'rainbow sorted books' have got all messed up and that seeing yours all sorted made me realise that my messy ones are not the calming scene they were when sorted by colour! I'm off to resort the book shelves!
Oooh enjoy organising your shed! Mine has evolved over the years, but I love it now. I always get my best work done there and I'm working on cultivating a wild meadow out of one of the windows to encourage the wildlife too.
This and your 54321 video are great. That breathing technique really relaxed me
So glad this was helpful!
You might also like this one: ruclips.net/video/HQVZgpyVQ78/видео.html
Thanks so much. Going through stressful time. You have helped so much. You are an inspiration.
Sorry it's a stressful time - I'm glad this helped a little. Keep fighting x
Thank you so much I was just so sad
you are amazing and thank you for your clear and warm ideas
Thank you, just found this video and it's helped me alot to calm down today
I’m looking for techniques to low my heart rate I read this box breathing will be helpful. Thank from Puerto Rico in the Caribbean for your video. ❤️
Excellent thanks for sharing
Hello :) Thank you for going through it clearly as on RUclips no one was clear on how to do it properly 🤷♀️ Helps my autism thank you :D P.s. You weren't an idot :) keep it up :D
3:00 Watching this at 2 in the morning with headphones and totally thought someone was trying to get into the house... 😬😬😬😂
sorry!!
@@PookyH Those little interruptions are fine! It keeps the video human :)
Eggcellent. Calmer. Gratitude. ^_*
Saw a US Navy Seals box breathing demo that uses counts of 5. Does it matter, 4 or 5 seconds?
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