Cheating is the most selfish and destructive thing you can do to someone else and to the family. My ex ruined my life, ruined my daughter’s life, and damaged my ability to be in relationships in the future. This also affects my daughter’s perception of men and relationships for her future. My parents were extremely worried about me for a few years. I developed a heart problem because my heart was swelling as a result of extreme heartbreak. The aftermath goes on for years. The worst part is that I cannot trust myself and my ability to determine if someone is trust worthy. I’ve decided to be alone for my mental, emotional and physical health. And the person who caused all this just walks away without consequences. It’s not right.
After several years of being cheated on and lied to...never again. Once a person feels comfortable enough to cross certain lines I'm done. I just ended a 3 year relationship for this reason. I know myself. I would be miserable because I can't forget about the betrayal. I can't look at someone everyday who has done such things to me.
I really respect your take on this. Understanding what you can get over or Cant allows you to focus on not waste time or cause pain for either of you. I do think that it is possible to forgive if you truly wanted to. I think it takes a lot of work from both parties though.
So my gf cheated on me with her sisters friend who also was her friend. I found out after 6 months of her lying to me. She was remorseful and all of that, I decided to forgive her and work on the relationship. But her sister is still friends with the guy so I see this dude occasionally. Not that I think or feel like she's messing with him still! But just having to see him just puts me back in that place of anger and pain of when I first found out. I'm not sure I can live with the reminder even if occasionally!
I’ve only had two loves in my life. The first, my first college boyfriend of 4 years cheated. I thought never again! I was so careful choosing my second relationship, my husband of 17 years just told me yesterday he had an affair. It’s hard to not blame myself and wonder what am I doing wrong? He appears sorry but says the same thing the first one said “you deserve better.” I just end up with cowards who can’t break up so they feel better making me do it and I’m left with nothing but heartbreak, anger, guilt and sadness.
I forgive him but I cannot trust him anymore..... its just not the same. 😥 So I kicked him out my house... I feel alot lighter now tho, I dont feel the dark clouds anymore...
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Up until now, I'm still coughing up water from the last time she drowned me in tears. She cheated on me. I didn't blame her. I blamed myself. For not being perfect and for not being enough for her. I came to the point where I am now afraid of being with people.
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It’s hard to leave it in my past. he cheated on me but the way he cheated was by flirting with another girl and he lied to me saying that she’s just a friend and he went out of his league to see her and meet up with her at a car meet and it ruined a memory when he did something like that for us.we met for the first time secretly in my back yard and it was amazing the feeling was wonderful but when he did that with that girl it damaged that memory
Thank you for watching the video, Victoria. I understand it is hard to leave it in the past. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you. Coach Adrian
I understand about damaged memories. After my partner of 12+ years cheated, every good memory together from our entire relationship was ruined. There are places I couldn’t visit for years because we spent time there, or ate some place together, etc.
I have the 100% cure if you are insecure after being cheated on. You leave the cheater and BAM! you don’t even have to think about that person anymore. Indifference is the opposite of love, and once you achieve that you are golden!
Im going through this right now, it's very hard. Especially When it feels like you're the only one trying. Im drowning myself in prayer and tears rowing our boat on my own. I just want this pain to go away. I just want us to be okay again
Im not the one who cheated, but it rly feels lik im the only one thinking of ways to move forward. He expects me to move on immediately because he said sorry already :( because he chose me I'm supposed to just be grateful and move on? Is that right?
@@mizette6812 you deserve to love and listen to yourself, he does not get to say how much time you need to forgive and also you deserve real love where you don t have to be scared this will happen. Listsn to yourself and start therapy to better the relationship with only person who is there all the time, and that is you! Sending you much love and strenght!!
Hello 👋🏼 Do you feel any better now? I just got cheated on by someone I love much and I realise that you wrote this 7 months ago. So I'll like to know if you're any better now?
I just found out that my fiance was having sex with a co-worker. From what has she told me she had sex with him four times at her job. I feel destroyed, betrayed I feel like my world has been flipped upside down and I'm living in a nightmare. I do not know what to do I love her with all my heart but yet I want to forgive her and all I could think of is her having sex with her co-worker at her job. It hurts me so much I just do not know what to do!!!!!
I honestly needed this. I had a bad relationship when I was 13. I know thats young but I was struggling with finding the right anxiety medication and I was in a relationship with a slightly older guy who would disappear on me to hang out with his ex and his other friends . It didnt help much and ive grown up with insecurity issues ever since.
After being cheated, The rational instic would be expecting less from partners. Attachment leads to expectations and expectations lead to dissapointment. Its very important to be ok with or without somebody.
Thanks for this video I recently found out my bf boyfriend cheated while I was taking care of our son I’m took the first step in forgiving him and he has since blocked all communication with the girl We are working to build our relationship
My only concern is that he’s mom has been pushing this girl on him and trying her hardest to push me away I told him If u want to be with me then be with me I don’t have time to play games
This was a God send. I thank you honestly, from my heart. On a side note, you sound extremely similar to a narrator of scary stories I listen to often. But anyways thank you. You've helped me. ❤
I went through a very traumatic relationship in college. It left me broken, drug addicted, and full of self hate. It took 5 years after to sober myself and to trust another person to even touch me. I met the love of my life but after 2 years, Covid BS, and a string of bad luck monetarily, things became stale. Yesterday I found out that she cheated on me last week. She swears that it wasn't full blown sex but I am so numb and broken. It only took me three hours after finding out to either forgive her, or numb myself into believing that she truly wants to work things out. What am I supposed to do? I want to fight for us but my self image and self worth are shattered right now. I've worked out almost non stop for two days and the thought of eating makes me sick.
I tried to work it out after but it kept happening and happening and she didn’t even want to talk about it and didn’t care to try to even fix it she was a different person at the end but I still love her to death I just don’t understand she was my best friend
All trust has been broken after finding out he is chatting with an old secretary ( cheating ) partner and now a new supply that he calls an old friend,,, guess what the old friend? Is coming to stay in our guest house for a couple of weeks after Christmas
This video is inspiring. Im 27 weeks pregnant with my husband and just found out 5 days ago that he cheated with different women for 2 years in our relationship. I've forgiven him out of love but i couldn't completely forget what he had done. We're still together and I just want the pain to go away so we can focus on us again. 😔
Thank you for reaching out. I understand what you're going through. ⭐ How To overcome being cheated on?👇 www.love.happilycommitted.com/offer-page-infidelity1608666073419 Coach Adrian
This is honestly my biggest fear. I’m a guy, but I would hate to find out that I’ve been being betrayed for years after kids are on the line. Because before you have kids it’s a lot easier to let go… but after you have kids there’s so much on the line. I hope you find the strength to resolve your situation 🙏❤️
you guys have helped me through so much. helped me realize my old relationship was toxic- which ended in him cheating... now i’m here in a healthy relationship with a better man two years down and still get scared he will cheat. i am so sick of being so jealous. he is the best guy and i feel like he isn’t doing anything wrong. it’s my legit ptsd from the past. if it doesn’t stop i can’t keep doing this and this person is my soul mate. what do i do
Did you ever figure it out on what to do , because I am in the same exact position right now . Has it gotten any better for you ? Tell me this cycle eventually ends
My husband cheated on me.. And it happens 2020 and i just found out last week, he already ended the affair last year, but i still in pain.. But i choose to stay even if it hurst alot..
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I know this is a year old, but m actually going through the same thing, nd I have forgiven but the problem just when I think we are getting to a ryt path than he cheats again, his constantly cheating in a sense that I have lost who I am. I don't Trust anything, I mean anything that comes out of his mouth, at the same time I struggle to let go, but I do know I don't want to be with him anymore.
I feel this guy must have been a cheater seems to really be biased in favor of the cheater and is actually quite insensitive to peoples pain after being cheated on
YES- kinder you are.. ITS more about THEM in the end.. I hear THAT! Forgive burden OFF my HEART.. Not my fault.. Now the difficulty- reinventing SELF to holding on TO ME! . Respect FOR MYSELF! ! If gut IS telling you. That sisters have troubles and abusing you. I choose to reinvent me.. Love myself and hold onto me. Self compassion I never HAD. Cleaning up messes - adult sisters repeating this fundamental unsound unwell. As children worsened.. ADULT catastrophically. I think they prefer get over yourself.. NOT going to HAPPEN.. Unfortunately exact ways i got this nightmare! Im physically unwell. Like heart is irregular beating. Its BEST put you all into shark infested deep waters.. Go swim OUT.. No lifeboat.. How would that FEEL? Like tremendous panic. This is current reality.. What happened by you .. I KNOW now you dont care. Defending .. No comfort.
I’ve been with my husband since we were 15… I found out 4 months ago that he’s been messaging people on and off for years. Never the same people, he catfish’s people and try’s to get them to meet up for sex and then never shows and blocks them. I guess he’s been doing this since he was a kid. He says he didn’t feel like it was cheating because its not real and he never meets them. He goes to meetings now and therapy. The therapist says because of his abusive past with women abusing him that he wants to get back at women and hurt them by leading them on. He says there’s nothing sexual about it for him and he doesn’t see it like that and he just wanted to hurt them. I still feel cheated on and insecure because of this. I was truly shocked at finding this out because he’s so not that way. He’s not hyper sexual and actually at times is lower end of sexual.. to the point the therapist suggested getting his testosterone checked. He never has interest in porn (even if i suggest watching it together). He took a test by the therapist testing his sexual responses and he got the lowest score the therapist said he’d ever seen. Even knowing all of this I still feel insecure and cheated on. I wish someone could relate.
Thank you for watching the video. I'm glad the video was helpful. Moving forward is sometimes needed in a relationship. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you more on a personal level. Coach Adrian
I'm unable to forgive when she's not being honest and admitting to cheating I have every second of her encounter with this man on audio I had an audio tape recording while I was at work
And this is where I am getting it. I feel burnt with a lot of explanation because he knows that he doesn't go on Facebook... And that's fine, he doesn't like being cheated... I just want to open my heart to my boyfriend, by trusting everything... All the wrong things. I hate being a victim... I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to push him away playing games... I blame myself... I have been fighting for relationship with my boyfriend to make it happen.... Help me
I feel so low of my self when i find out that my partner cheated on me but i chose to forgive him because i want to believe that he loves me and he just made a mistake.but sometime i feel my heart is not quit and am always worried that i migth get hurt again..and i really hate this feeling...thanks to this vedio i feel better.
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There is nothing more painful than being cheated on. It’s been 1 year I caught my man cheated on me. I love him so much and I decided to stay with him out of love but it’s really hard to forget what he did in past.
I came a cross this and am glad i did because after being cheated on , i have been finding myself asking why and why all the time. i forgave my husband and i just want to go past all this.
My wife had an affair after years of striving against my pornography addiction. I understand how I contributed to an emotional state where she felt like our marriage was over, but I never touched another person. She actually followed through, and had sex with another man over a period of time. This was years ago, but she just revealed it a few weeks ago. We’re both guilty in different ways, so we have agreed to try to start over. I’ve committed to forgiving her, but I don’t know how to deal with the anger and the betrayal.
You cheated first. What kind of man can’t give up something as pathetic as porn for his wife? The way I see it.. she was acting out what you were wanting so badly. Get over it
Porn is cheating. If you wife isn’t ok with it then it’s cheating. Not touching another person is not the point. Also the porn industry is highly exploitative. A lot of those women you rubbed off to were probably trafficked and many underage. Basically they are kidnapped into slavery and forced to make sex videos all day to feed the addictions of people who could go get help in therapy instead.
How can you stop being jealousy when they lied to you about stopping an affair, but kept on going and then told you to your face at that moment that it’s something about them that they can’t stop talking and you don’t have nobody but that person you with that person and sometimes the only thing you would ask for some reassurance, but the person will get mad and won’t give you the reassurance you asked for or won’t know how to give you reassurance, but expects you to get over it can anyone help me because it’s honestly eating me up inside to the point where I fell in depression. I am self isolated.
I am sorry but I can’t forgive him for chatting with his old secretary and “ friend “ who I have just found out is coming here for a couple weeks to holiday while living on our property
I love my boyfriend so much. And he cheated on me with black girl and my best friend online. I am with him to this day. I wake up everyday knowing that I'm still hurt. How can I trust him again?
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Hi I got my husband with a escort last year and now I can not trust him and we moved in to a new place to make it work and still think he is doing some things
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My bf cheated on me for younger girl because i am little older and short,after i broke up with him,he came back saying he never meant to broke up with me,he said "he was sorry"and after looking other girl he realize how much he love me,because he can't compared others with me even when he tried to. I still love him but am scared to trust him again.
This video really helped me feel there’s hope. My fiancé has cheated on me 3 times, that I know of, throughout our 5 year relationship. It’s hard to even know if I want to try to rebuild. I know I need to forgive for myself but it’s the hardest thing to do. We have currently separated and I don’t know his stand in all this.
Been with my partner 2 years now she's cheated twice I paid for a lie detector test and she failed on all questions. She admitted to cheating on me with 1 ex but denied the other ex Evan tho she failed test on all questions. Because she won't admit to sleeping with the second ex I'm struggling to move on and trust her it's killing me inside so bad just don't no what to do.
I was married 20 years I was in an abusive relationship for all these times I keep going back to him because I thought I love him he keeps lying to me being cheated online you want to see it all the time and when I asked him about it goes no it's not true when you get on the internet and talk to people on videos with other women sleeping in bed he is talking to her when I'm sleeping in the in the bed he's done it 20 times now to me and lied to my face how do I do this when I kick him out and then I bring him back in and he keeps doing it and lying to me to try to make a work for my family he had my kids always hits us it's it's scares me all the time and I don't know how to love again and move on my kids told me to move on but how do I do
I was lied into and I can't trust her again. Now I had wanted to send her abroad for greener pasture. I felt I should not do it again because I can't trust her. Your advice
How do you go about trusting someone who is now your husband was your best friend for 39 years known since high school you dated in the past gnu that your husband in the past was always a cheater cheated on every single woman he ever had a relationship every girlfriend you have had no 39 years later you finally marry your best friend just to find out nothing has changed now married he has gotten cheated caused you to move out you’re separated he does not want to get divorced but at the same time he says he’s sorry but still says he had a reason you gave him reason how can he truly be remorseful if he still blaming you for his stupid choices basically blames you for Not giving him enough of what he wanted the way he wanted and as much as he wanted basically you already knew what he was doing how can we come back from this
Wife cheated on me a few years ago, still dealing with the trust issues but tired of tormenting myself, fingers crossed this video helps. (watching the ad still, lol)
Thank you so much brother the more I tried to forgive him I just couldn’t bring myself to do so but this the second video of yours that took me closer to forgive him and get past the pain . I will thank u
This video encourages me to keep working on me and not put energy into what happen.. I told my husband maybe my vision on what I'm trying to build together he may not be ready for it.So for me it could be I'm building with the wrong person. I'm attractive, nice, caring and romantic so somebody wants me if I'm not right for him.
My husband keep cheating and keep lying about it once I figures out what’s going on and I ask him about it then he gets very loud defensive and very disrespectful and he don’t apologize for his actions and sometimes you try to stay for your kids but when you realize that you only hurting yourself and your kids it’s best to walk away the only way a man will truly change if he really love his family or if God change his
I forgave mine but if he would do it again. I will walk away despite having kids together. I can't that pain again. Trust is already a huge issue. I always feel like he's cheating even if he's not
Never I was telling myself he will change but never pain after pain heartbroken 14 years after that miserable relationship am out and it took me to go back to my normal life two years after the breakup
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My wife has bipolar one and cheated on me for 3 years while undiagnosed it was on after that we knew she had mania for 3 years not treated ....she then crashed and went into deep depression it's been 7 years and I just found out about the affair month ago ....she is now again back in mania and I have found she is texting ex boyfriend ....we have been married for 30 years and I dont know if I can forgive her even those the doctor says it wasnt her .....it still hurts and trying to process the cheating with her now talking to ex boyfriend is not helping ....
Hi Janvi Chheda! Thank you for watching our video on how to overcome insecurity after being cheated on. We appreciate your comments! You can also find more tools and resources at happilycommitted.com.
I cheated my gf ,, it's my biggest mistake,,, plzzz help me out that what should I do,,, that our relationship build again,, he said me he will never give me chance,, plzzz give some idea that he trust me as compare earlier 😑😔😔
Thank you for reaching out, Priyanka. I understand you don't want to lose him. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you more on a personal level. Coach Adrian
Yes my partner has cheated and lied me about money and he has not communicated me nearly a month after we had an argument.ive texted him but no reply so i decided now not to tex him.thank you for this video.
In confused coz it to forgive him several times bt he keep on doing the same thing I don't even know wat 2 do any more and in stucked coz I have 2kids with him and I'm unemployed and I have super low self esteem .where to form here
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My boyfriend cheated on me and I can forgive him once. But he also ended up getting the girl pregnant and she’s keeping it. As much as I wanna stay in the relationship, she’s gonna be in his life basically forever now. And the baby will take away most of his time and attention. I’ll most likely just be friends or cut him off. I really thought he was the one :(
In this case, I'd be gone. You're not married and he has a baby with her. When you find someone who will treat you like a queen, you'll realize he wasn't all that!
Be secure in this knowledge regarding intrinsic female logic: You're not making me 'happy' - cheats I'm very happy and secure - cheats I'm discrete - cheats No one will ever find out - cheats I'm bored - cheats He was cute - cheats I liked his cologne - cheats He complimented me - cheats I'm angry with my man - cheats Any reason under the sun - cheats
This is what terrifies me I feel completely closed off from trusting a human being who can get sex on a whim and are genetically predisposed to adapting to a new relationship. Men have been shown to be stuck on first true love’s forever. Also any man who cheats on a woman should be outed forever. If you want someone else have enough respect for your partner to gracefully end it and wait long enough before being with someone else so the person actually feels you cared. When people just pick someone new it makes you feel like none of what we had was real.
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Cheating is the most selfish and destructive thing you can do to someone else and to the family. My ex ruined my life, ruined my daughter’s life, and damaged my ability to be in relationships in the future. This also affects my daughter’s perception of men and relationships for her future. My parents were extremely worried about me for a few years. I developed a heart problem because my heart was swelling as a result of extreme heartbreak. The aftermath goes on for years. The worst part is that I cannot trust myself and my ability to determine if someone is trust worthy. I’ve decided to be alone for my mental, emotional and physical health. And the person who caused all this just walks away without consequences. It’s not right.
After several years of being cheated on and lied to...never again. Once a person feels comfortable enough to cross certain lines I'm done. I just ended a 3 year relationship for this reason. I know myself. I would be miserable because I can't forget about the betrayal. I can't look at someone everyday who has done such things to me.
I really respect your take on this. Understanding what you can get over or Cant allows you to focus on not waste time or cause pain for either of you.
I do think that it is possible to forgive if you truly wanted to. I think it takes a lot of work from both parties though.
The whole part about ‘this is more of their problem than yours’ really helped me. Thank you so much for your help
Me too, brother.
So my gf cheated on me with her sisters friend who also was her friend. I found out after 6 months of her lying to me. She was remorseful and all of that, I decided to forgive her and work on the relationship. But her sister is still friends with the guy so I see this dude occasionally. Not that I think or feel like she's messing with him still! But just having to see him just puts me back in that place of anger and pain of when I first found out. I'm not sure I can live with the reminder even if occasionally!
You guys should cut off contact for your sanity
I’ve only had two loves in my life. The first, my first college boyfriend of 4 years cheated. I thought never again! I was so careful choosing my second relationship, my husband of 17 years just told me yesterday he had an affair. It’s hard to not blame myself and wonder what am I doing wrong? He appears sorry but says the same thing the first one said “you deserve better.” I just end up with cowards who can’t break up so they feel better making me do it and I’m left with nothing but heartbreak, anger, guilt and sadness.
I forgive him but I cannot trust him anymore..... its just not the same. 😥
So I kicked him out my house... I feel alot lighter now tho, I dont feel the dark clouds anymore...
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Up until now, I'm still coughing up water from the last time she drowned me in tears. She cheated on me. I didn't blame her. I blamed myself. For not being perfect and for not being enough for her. I came to the point where I am now afraid of being with people.
Justine Dela Cruz i’m sorry it feels so horrible please give ur self time to realise ur worth
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@@HappilyCommitted Thank you. Will check your website. Take care and God bless this channel.
Buddy, you have no idea how much I relate to this. Never feel alone, and always know that there are others feeling the same thing
Your message touched my heart… i ve been there too but i ve worked on my feelings slowly
It’s hard to leave it in my past. he cheated on me but the way he cheated was by flirting with another girl and he lied to me saying that she’s just a friend and he went out of his league to see her and meet up with her at a car meet and it ruined a memory when he did something like that for us.we met for the first time secretly in my back yard and it was amazing the feeling was wonderful but when he did that with that girl it damaged that memory
Thank you for watching the video, Victoria. I understand it is hard to leave it in the past. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you.
Coach Adrian
I understand about damaged memories. After my partner of 12+ years cheated, every good memory together from our entire relationship was ruined. There are places I couldn’t visit for years because we spent time there, or ate some place together, etc.
I have the 100% cure if you are insecure after being cheated on. You leave the cheater and BAM! you don’t even have to think about that person anymore. Indifference is the opposite of love, and once you achieve that you are golden!
Total not helpful. You clearly were not committed if you can just move on.
I needed this!
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Im going through this right now, it's very hard. Especially When it feels like you're the only one trying. Im drowning myself in prayer and tears rowing our boat on my own. I just want this pain to go away. I just want us to be okay again
Im not the one who cheated, but it rly feels lik im the only one thinking of ways to move forward. He expects me to move on immediately because he said sorry already :( because he chose me I'm supposed to just be grateful and move on? Is that right?
@@mizette6812 you deserve to love and listen to yourself, he does not get to say how much time you need to forgive and also you deserve real love where you don t have to be scared this will happen. Listsn to yourself and start therapy to better the relationship with only person who is there all the time, and that is you!
Sending you much love and strenght!!
Hello 👋🏼
Do you feel any better now?
I just got cheated on by someone I love much and I realise that you wrote this 7 months ago. So I'll like to know if you're any better now?
I just found out that my fiance was having sex with a co-worker. From what has she told me she had sex with him four times at her job. I feel destroyed, betrayed I feel like my world has been flipped upside down and I'm living in a nightmare. I do not know what to do I love her with all my heart but yet I want to forgive her and all I could think of is her having sex with her co-worker at her job. It hurts me so much I just do not know what to do!!!!!
What did you end up doing?
I honestly needed this. I had a bad relationship when I was 13. I know thats young but I was struggling with finding the right anxiety medication and I was in a relationship with a slightly older guy who would disappear on me to hang out with his ex and his other friends . It didnt help much and ive grown up with insecurity issues ever since.
I'm glad this video was helpful for you, Dawnibilis.
Coach Adrian
After being cheated, The rational instic would be expecting less from partners. Attachment leads to expectations and expectations lead to dissapointment. Its very important to be ok with or without somebody.
Thanks for this video I recently found out my bf boyfriend cheated while I was taking care of our son I’m took the first step in forgiving him and he has since blocked all communication with the girl We are working to build our relationship
My only concern is that he’s mom has been pushing this girl on him and trying her hardest to push me away I told him If u want to be with me then be with me I don’t have time to play games
@@kawaiialicia My problem is that my girl cheated on e but she doesn`t want to cut communications with this guy., how do I go about it please
This was a God send. I thank you honestly, from my heart. On a side note, you sound extremely similar to a narrator of scary stories I listen to often. But anyways thank you. You've helped me. ❤
You're welcome, Slithery.
Coach Adrian
I went through a very traumatic relationship in college. It left me broken, drug addicted, and full of self hate. It took 5 years after to sober myself and to trust another person to even touch me. I met the love of my life but after 2 years, Covid BS, and a string of bad luck monetarily, things became stale. Yesterday I found out that she cheated on me last week. She swears that it wasn't full blown sex but I am so numb and broken. It only took me three hours after finding out to either forgive her, or numb myself into believing that she truly wants to work things out. What am I supposed to do? I want to fight for us but my self image and self worth are shattered right now. I've worked out almost non stop for two days and the thought of eating makes me sick.
Hope you're okay and are in a better place ♡
I understand what you are going through bro, I`m in the exact position right now. Let me say you moved on well. Sending love and hope to you.
I tried to work it out after but it kept happening and happening and she didn’t even want to talk about it and didn’t care to try to even fix it she was a different person at the end but I still love her to death I just don’t understand she was my best friend
I need this right now. First timer, here
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All trust has been broken after finding out he is chatting with an old secretary ( cheating ) partner and now a new supply that he calls an old friend,,, guess what the old friend? Is coming to stay in our guest house for a couple of weeks after Christmas
This video is inspiring. Im 27 weeks pregnant with my husband and just found out 5 days ago that he cheated with different women for 2 years in our relationship. I've forgiven him out of love but i couldn't completely forget what he had done. We're still together and I just want the pain to go away so we can focus on us again. 😔
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Girl yes update please
This is honestly my biggest fear. I’m a guy, but I would hate to find out that I’ve been being betrayed for years after kids are on the line. Because before you have kids it’s a lot easier to let go… but after you have kids there’s so much on the line. I hope you find the strength to resolve your situation 🙏❤️
you guys have helped me through so much. helped me realize my old relationship was toxic- which ended in him cheating... now i’m here in a healthy relationship with a better man two years down and still get scared he will cheat. i am so sick of being so jealous. he is the best guy and i feel like he isn’t doing anything wrong. it’s my legit ptsd from the past. if it doesn’t stop i can’t keep doing this and this person is my soul mate. what do i do
Did you ever figure it out on what to do , because I am in the same exact position right now . Has it gotten any better for you ? Tell me this cycle eventually ends
I am committed to working out my marriage, and I have the capacity ✊🏾👑
Very impressive! Thank you so much. Crazy how much this helped.
Teagan Bernshausen Wasn’t it?!! Wow
My husband cheated on me.. And it happens 2020 and i just found out last week, he already ended the affair last year, but i still in pain.. But i choose to stay even if it hurst alot..
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I know this is a year old, but m actually going through the same thing, nd I have forgiven but the problem just when I think we are getting to a ryt path than he cheats again, his constantly cheating in a sense that I have lost who I am. I don't Trust anything, I mean anything that comes out of his mouth, at the same time I struggle to let go, but I do know I don't want to be with him anymore.
I feel this guy must have been a cheater seems to really be biased in favor of the cheater and is actually quite insensitive to peoples pain after being cheated on
This video really gave me more insight on myself - thank you
Happy the video was helpful for you, Savina. Thank you for watching.
Coach Adrian
It pisses me off.
YES- kinder you are.. ITS more about THEM in the end.. I hear THAT! Forgive burden OFF my HEART.. Not my fault.. Now the difficulty- reinventing SELF to holding on TO ME! . Respect FOR MYSELF! ! If gut IS telling you. That sisters have troubles and abusing you. I choose to reinvent me.. Love myself and hold onto me. Self compassion I never HAD. Cleaning up messes - adult sisters repeating this fundamental unsound unwell. As children worsened.. ADULT catastrophically. I think they prefer get over yourself.. NOT going to HAPPEN.. Unfortunately exact ways i got this nightmare! Im physically unwell. Like heart is irregular beating. Its BEST put you all into shark infested deep waters.. Go swim OUT.. No lifeboat.. How would that FEEL? Like tremendous panic. This is current reality.. What happened by you .. I KNOW now you dont care. Defending .. No comfort.
i don't wanna trust myself with him 😭
I needed this
So thankful I found this channel. It is going to change my outlook, give me peace and help me to move confidently ahead with my relationship.
Thank you for watching!
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I’ve been with my husband since we were 15… I found out 4 months ago that he’s been messaging people on and off for years. Never the same people, he catfish’s people and try’s to get them to meet up for sex and then never shows and blocks them. I guess he’s been doing this since he was a kid. He says he didn’t feel like it was cheating because its not real and he never meets them. He goes to meetings now and therapy. The therapist says because of his abusive past with women abusing him that he wants to get back at women and hurt them by leading them on. He says there’s nothing sexual about it for him and he doesn’t see it like that and he just wanted to hurt them. I still feel cheated on and insecure because of this. I was truly shocked at finding this out because he’s so not that way. He’s not hyper sexual and actually at times is lower end of sexual.. to the point the therapist suggested getting his testosterone checked. He never has interest in porn (even if i suggest watching it together). He took a test by the therapist testing his sexual responses and he got the lowest score the therapist said he’d ever seen. Even knowing all of this I still feel insecure and cheated on. I wish someone could relate.
Thanks 🙏 very helpful felt I may have made a bad decision by moving forward and being forgiving and continuing with the relationship
Thank you for watching the video. I'm glad the video was helpful. Moving forward is sometimes needed in a relationship. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you more on a personal level.
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I'm Unable to Forgive when she's not being honest and admitting she cheated
I'm unable to forgive when she's not being honest and admitting to cheating I have every second of her encounter with this man on audio I had an audio tape recording while I was at work
And this is where I am getting it. I feel burnt with a lot of explanation because he knows that he doesn't go on Facebook... And that's fine, he doesn't like being cheated... I just want to open my heart to my boyfriend, by trusting everything... All the wrong things. I hate being a victim... I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to push him away playing games... I blame myself... I have been fighting for relationship with my boyfriend to make it happen.... Help me
Thank you for reaching out, Leilani.
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I feel so low of my self when i find out that my partner cheated on me but i chose to forgive him because i want to believe that he loves me and he just made a mistake.but sometime i feel my heart is not quit and am always worried that i migth get hurt again..and i really hate this feeling...thanks to this vedio i feel better.
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There is nothing more painful than being cheated on. It’s been 1 year I caught my man cheated on me. I love him so much and I decided to stay with him out of love but it’s really hard to forget what he did in past.
How did you build back trust?
this is what im trying to figure out... it's hard and i still can't find myself not micromanaging or getting in my head about shit@@purplelover9633
@purplelover9633 this is the hardest thing. Trusting again
It been 2 days since i found out she cheated on me .
But she is still silent and keeping to herself .
What should i do ?
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I feel that i have forgiven to the extent I can. But I can't seem to forget. My person thinks I should "get over it". Help!
Thanks for the message
You're welcome, Nmamchi.
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I forgave my hubby but to trust him is very difficult , am still with him but things aren't the same anymore ,it hurts terribly
I came a cross this and am glad i did because after being cheated on , i have been finding myself asking why and why all the time. i forgave my husband and i just want to go past all this.
Couples therapy?
Sir
Your points were really worthwhile to listen upon. Great presentation too. My mind is now full of positivity.
I love your encouragement. Thank you for sharing 👍
Thanks for watching!
My wife had an affair after years of striving against my pornography addiction. I understand how I contributed to an emotional state where she felt like our marriage was over, but I never touched another person. She actually followed through, and had sex with another man over a period of time. This was years ago, but she just revealed it a few weeks ago. We’re both guilty in different ways, so we have agreed to try to start over. I’ve committed to forgiving her, but I don’t know how to deal with the anger and the betrayal.
Same situation for me. 19 years of marriage with 5 kids. The anger seems to never go away. I am still trying to work things out.
You cheated first. What kind of man can’t give up something as pathetic as porn for his wife? The way I see it.. she was acting out what you were wanting so badly. Get over it
Porn is cheating. If you wife isn’t ok with it then it’s cheating. Not touching another person is not the point. Also the porn industry is highly exploitative. A lot of those women you rubbed off to were probably trafficked and many underage. Basically they are kidnapped into slavery and forced to make sex videos all day to feed the addictions of people who could go get help in therapy instead.
He won’t communicate with me
How can you stop being jealousy when they lied to you about stopping an affair, but kept on going and then told you to your face at that moment that it’s something about them that they can’t stop talking and you don’t have nobody but that person you with that person and sometimes the only thing you would ask for some reassurance, but the person will get mad and won’t give you the reassurance you asked for or won’t know how to give you reassurance, but expects you to get over it can anyone help me because it’s honestly eating me up inside to the point where I fell in depression. I am self isolated.
I am sorry but I can’t forgive him for chatting with his old secretary and “ friend “ who I have just found out is coming here for a couple weeks to holiday while living on our property
I love my boyfriend so much. And he cheated on me with black girl and my best friend online. I am with him to this day. I wake up everyday knowing that I'm still hurt. How can I trust him again?
When trust has been broken, it needs to be rebuilt. Please watch this video, it will be helpful to you.
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Thx so much brother.
I need concealing.
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If it is okay for him to flirt with everyone including my coworkers, then stop harassing my friend.
What to do if a person cheats and also when caught says he is not worried of the partners trust
Please help I'm going through it right now. I never done wrong and done everything to provide as a father and husband. Jesus help me.
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Hi I got my husband with a escort last year and now I can not trust him and we moved in to a new place to make it work and still think he is doing some things
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When I first read the title I was offended because why do I have to be insecure because of someone else's faults
Is this for married people or just couples in general?
Should unmarried people be rebuilding after multiple infidelities or just moving on?
I’m super scared my new girlfriend is going to be unfaithful.
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I am tired 😪😪😪 of everything I don't believe he would do that
If he sees nothing wrong with what he does how do you forgive
Thanks for this video! It really helped me a lot.
My bf cheated on me for younger girl because i am little older and short,after i broke up with him,he came back saying he never meant to broke up with me,he said "he was sorry"and after looking other girl he realize how much he love me,because he can't compared others with me even when he tried to.
I still love him but am scared to trust him again.
This video really helped me feel there’s hope. My fiancé has cheated on me 3 times, that I know of, throughout our 5 year relationship. It’s hard to even know if I want to try to rebuild. I know I need to forgive for myself but it’s the hardest thing to do. We have currently separated and I don’t know his stand in all this.
I hope you guys never got back together. Once, twice, THRICE!!!!!!
Been with my partner 2 years now she's cheated twice I paid for a lie detector test and she failed on all questions. She admitted to cheating on me with 1 ex but denied the other ex Evan tho she failed test on all questions. Because she won't admit to sleeping with the second ex I'm struggling to move on and trust her it's killing me inside so bad just don't no what to do.
I was married 20 years I was in an abusive relationship for all these times I keep going back to him because I thought I love him he keeps lying to me being cheated online you want to see it all the time and when I asked him about it goes no it's not true when you get on the internet and talk to people on videos with other women sleeping in bed he is talking to her when I'm sleeping in the in the bed he's done it 20 times now to me and lied to my face how do I do this when I kick him out and then I bring him back in and he keeps doing it and lying to me to try to make a work for my family he had my kids always hits us it's it's scares me all the time and I don't know how to love again and move on my kids told me to move on but how do I do
I was lied into and I can't trust her again. Now I had wanted to send her abroad for greener pasture. I felt I should not do it again because I can't trust her. Your advice
Thanks. I needed this today. One day at a time.
She cheated on me twice and thats it..am done ! Its better to be alone than be with a cheater ! Once a cheater always a cheater !
How do you go about trusting someone who is now your husband was your best friend for 39 years known since high school you dated in the past gnu that your husband in the past was always a cheater cheated on every single woman he ever had a relationship every girlfriend you have had no 39 years later you finally marry your best friend just to find out nothing has changed now married he has gotten cheated caused you to move out you’re separated he does not want to get divorced but at the same time he says he’s sorry but still says he had a reason you gave him reason how can he truly be remorseful if he still blaming you for his stupid choices basically blames you for Not giving him enough of what he wanted the way he wanted and as much as he wanted basically you already knew what he was doing how can we come back from this
Wife cheated on me a few years ago, still dealing with the trust issues but tired of tormenting myself, fingers crossed this video helps. (watching the ad still, lol)
Thank you so much for this information, it has helped me to a degree personally.
You're welcome, Sarah. Thank you for watching.
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I’m trying so hard but it’s me Vs my thoughts 😢
Thank you so much brother the more I tried to forgive him I just couldn’t bring myself to do so but this the second video of yours that took me closer to forgive him and get past the pain . I will thank u
You're welcome, I happy to know the video was helpful for you.
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@@HappilyCommitted welcome dear
Has anyone had there spouse cheat with a relative. If so would like some input on how you chose to deal with it
This video encourages me to keep working on me and not put energy into what happen.. I told my husband maybe my vision on what I'm trying to build together he may not be ready for it.So for me it could be I'm building with the wrong person. I'm attractive, nice, caring and romantic so somebody wants me if I'm not right for him.
I'm glad the video was helpful for you. Thank you for watching.
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My husband keep cheating and keep lying about it once I figures out what’s going on and I ask him about it then he gets very loud defensive and very disrespectful and he don’t apologize for his actions and sometimes you try to stay for your kids but when you realize that you only hurting yourself and your kids it’s best to walk away the only way a man will truly change if he really love his family or if God change his
I forgave mine but if he would do it again. I will walk away despite having kids together. I can't that pain again. Trust is already a huge issue. I always feel like he's cheating even if he's not
I keep getting told to not blame myself but no one says how. I feel this is the same case in this video...
Never I was telling myself he will change but never pain after pain heartbroken 14 years after that miserable relationship am out and it took me to go back to my normal life two years after the breakup
Wll if they lie about it still.u can't move on and heal from it
After forgiving, do we need to stay away from them for a while?
Trying to get her to open up and communicate without making her. I need to be assured also how do we do that
Communication is key in a relationship. If you have experienced being cheated on, then rebuilding trust is what you're looking for. Check out this video, I believe it will help.
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Did you even say anything of substance
My wife has bipolar one and cheated on me for 3 years while undiagnosed it was on after that we knew she had mania for 3 years not treated ....she then crashed and went into deep depression it's been 7 years and I just found out about the affair month ago ....she is now again back in mania and I have found she is texting ex boyfriend ....we have been married for 30 years and I dont know if I can forgive her even those the doctor says it wasnt her .....it still hurts and trying to process the cheating with her now talking to ex boyfriend is not helping ....
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Totally helpful 😊
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I cheated my gf ,, it's my biggest mistake,,, plzzz help me out that what should I do,,, that our relationship build again,, he said me he will never give me chance,, plzzz give some idea that he trust me as compare earlier 😑😔😔
anyone has idea and know that what should I do plzz tell me 😢 I don't wanna lost him 😕
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Yes my partner has cheated and lied me about money and he has not communicated me nearly a month after we had an argument.ive texted him but no reply so i decided now not to tex him.thank you for this video.
Thank you for watching this video. Glad it was helpful for you!
Coach Adrian
Thank you mister for your words, they sound very true to me and resonate with my current thought processes
You're very welcome!
Need help being with someone who was cheated on and now cannot feel safe with me.
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In confused coz it to forgive him several times bt he keep on doing the same thing I don't even know wat 2 do any more and in stucked coz I have 2kids with him and I'm unemployed and I have super low self esteem .where to form here
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Same here
I could not do it. I never saw him the same again.
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I am one of the victims who need help
Thanks coach. I love you. Wish I could have a session with you.
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Love 🖤 and gratitude 🙏
Thanks
My boyfriend cheated on me and I can forgive him once. But he also ended up getting the girl pregnant and she’s keeping it. As much as I wanna stay in the relationship, she’s gonna be in his life basically forever now. And the baby will take away most of his time and attention. I’ll most likely just be friends or cut him off. I really thought he was the one :(
In this case, I'd be gone. You're not married and he has a baby with her. When you find someone who will treat you like a queen, you'll realize he wasn't all that!
thanks
Be secure in this knowledge regarding intrinsic female logic:
You're not making me 'happy' - cheats
I'm very happy and secure - cheats
I'm discrete - cheats
No one will ever find out - cheats
I'm bored - cheats
He was cute - cheats
I liked his cologne - cheats
He complimented me - cheats
I'm angry with my man - cheats
Any reason under the sun - cheats
I'm sorry you are going through this. It's 6 months on, and the anger is destroying me.
This is what terrifies me I feel completely closed off from trusting a human being who can get sex on a whim and are genetically predisposed to adapting to a new relationship. Men have been shown to be stuck on first true love’s forever. Also any man who cheats on a woman should be outed forever. If you want someone else have enough respect for your partner to gracefully end it and wait long enough before being with someone else so the person actually feels you cared. When people just pick someone new it makes you feel like none of what we had was real.
Thank you!!
You are always welcome Crystal
Thank you.
You're welcome, Teej.
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