Your GAYEST Secrets (...I'm still thinking about the ~blanket sniffing~)
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
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↠ If you made it all the way to the bottom of this description comment 'WHY THE BLANKET' on this video!!
Yeah yeah great video, immaculate secrets, love everything BUT YOUR SHIRT MATCHES YOUR POSTER BEHIND YOU
My favourite comment on here 😂😂😂
I WAS WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO NOTICE 🍄
I was looking to see if anyone else found it!
^^
Alayna, may you please bestow us with the knowledge of WHERE YOU GET YOUR SHIRTS?? 🙏🏽
update on joscilyn, she has said infront of a group of friends (me included) that she thought she was bi for about a year. meaning she is infact straight.
dont mind me just gonna go cry in a corner for a while...
omg I am THRILLED for the real life update, but SO BUMMED for your heart 💔 There will be more Joscilyns!!
Not gonna lie hearing my name got me hopeful at first. Then realized not me. I’m sorry your heart is hurting right now.
Edit: Spelling.
@@jocelynntlh9568 Same
Oof I'm sorry
@@jocelynntlh9568 😂😂
alayna, we’ve already established that you’re everyone’s dad. wear the shirt like a dad.
would have been helpful for you to provide this feedback earlier
Totally agree!
where is this shirt from?
but also wear the poster on your wall like a matching mushroomy cape
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial Nah, opened, be opened, especially while reading people's secrets.
I just came out to my dad recently and the dad saying "I dont care if youre gay get your chemistry grade up" reminded me a lot of my dads reaction, he was like "well I'm not surprised, but I mean I'm also not unsurprised. Can you clean your room now?" (in a very sweet funny way though lol it was great)
As a lesbian who loves hearing about other people's business, I love this series so much. You could just sit there and read those out for three hours and I would listen all the way through.
IFKRRRRRRRR, GAY DRAMA >>>>>>>>>>>
Agreed she should make a four hour video for sure❤️
Absolutely!
Same 😭
Me too😭
Both ways of wearing the shirt are gorgeous, but damn girl the look with the top open. My fiance spotted it and her reaction was "she should wear that more often" and hard agree. Also, Habbo Hotel is probably what you were thinking of
okay okay I hear you, top open is NEXT
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial me and my future wife thanks your for your service for all the sapphics lol
@@MaybeAnnatar Oh, everyone can enjoy. ;-)
Habbo Hotel was such a shit show 😂😂
IMO I think a lot of people "Can only see themselves in a relationship with a man" because thats the primary template we have been given our whole lives. Even when I came out as a lesbian last year, I still struggled to see myself with a woman long term.... until I had my first relationship and was able to actually see what it was like. Now I cant imagine anything else.
The "I'm in love with my homophobic best friend" is giving enemies to lovers vibes and making my lesbian brain weirdly happy. What's wrong with me?
Same🤣🤣
To the person doubting if they're bisexual... I identify as bi and am only interested in women/trans/NB folks. Liking men is definitely NOT required to be bi. XOX
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Literally look bisexual up in the dictionary. It means attracted to both women and men.
Yess. Agreed. Same. I'm bi. We love two or more genders. Cis men are attractive-ish but not on my radar. Give me a respectful and good hearted woman/nonbinary/trans person any day. *chefs kiss*
@@kaylathompson2111 there's a newer definition in lgbt community (i'm not sure about normal dictionaries) where bisexuality is defined as "attraction to two or more genders" which opens it up to not be limited by the binary genders. Bisexuality itself is also now considered an umbrella term where pansexuality, omnisexuality, and polysexuality fit under. I know you didn't ask but i thought i'd say it anyways
they could also look into the polysexual label if they wanted because it's more of being attracted to "some not all" genders but also identifying as what makes one their most comfy is all that matters (i did a deep dive to figure out if i was bi or nah so that's why i'm saying all this unsolicited random stuff 😅)
god, i love us queers
sigh, same same
I wanted to share a quote from a little book by Adam Eli (it's part of this mini-series called the pocket change collective)
"When it comes to gender and sexuality, our society’s “normal” is defined by one cisgender man and one cisgender woman who experience opposite-sex attraction and live comfortably in their gender roles. If you deviate from any part of that norm, welcome and pull up a seat. In my book, you are queer!"
I read this in an excerpt from the book, the title had caught my eye at my school's library so I looked it up.
This quote just really helped me feel affirmed and queer enough, and also a reminder that our labels can be whatever we want them to be. There is nothing wrong with claiming a name, or not claiming a name, or just exploring it all.
as a pan woman that only has ever experienced dating men, thank you for your little rant about our sexualities still being valid. sometimes i feel like i need to hear that reassurance because i feel like a fraud claiming to be something that i have no actual experience with 😔
You are attracted to whom ever you are attracted to. Acting on that attraction is not required to make it valid.
I was straight before i had sex with a woman.
As a lesbian, I don't understand people who invalidate someone for not having enough or any "experience". If you have the attraction, that is valid enough, PERIOD!! Always remember you have nothing to prove to anyone :)
Hey there friend! I'm a pan man who has only ever had experience with cis women. I feel the same way you do all the time. Please do not feel like anyone is entitled to tell you who you are attracted to. You are wonderful and absolutely not alone. 🙂
I feel the same way..I realized I was pan after I got divorced from a guy (crappy marriage and I was SO HAPPY after) but I feel like some would question me because I've only been with cis guys so far. But but...I do really like everyone ♥️
I totally understand the questioning if you're bisexual because of your romantic vs sexual preferences. I'm bisexual but I clarify that as bisexual hetero-romantic. It took me a long time to realize that it's okay to see yourself in a relationship with one gender but be sexually attracted to two (or more) genders.
Being bisexual does not make you an expert on what bisexuality is. I’ve been bisexual all my life and I have said many wrong things about it, and made many mistakes. We are all constantly learning. And that goes for absolutely every subject. No matter if it relates directly with you and your reality or not. We need to change that “expert by identification “ thing ASAP!
As a bi person who is mainly (not exclusively, but mainly) romanticly attracted to men (and sexually attracted to all genders kinda equally), I love how you responded to that bi girl´s secret. We are all queer and all valid!
I'll take this early bird opportunity to THANK YOU Alayna :)
Though it may be dated, your "Coming Out To Our Boyfriends" video with Ash gave me the confidence to finally take the plunge and talk to my SO.
Your content is literally changing lives for the better!
Crying now, thank you for this lovely comment 💕
Same, I was going to say how this series and her videos are like THERAPY to me. The comments too. I just broke up with my bf of 1.5 years last month and it was so hard but I literally couldn't have done it without her channel
I relate to the second-to-last secret. I'm in a straight, monogamous marriage, but I've known that I'm queer for a long time. I've been on a couple of gay dates that didn't end up working out, but I was also the shyest person ever at that time. Now, I'm in my mid-30s and have been with my husband for 10 years. I would never want to cheat on him, as I am monogamous and that is important to me. Instead of cheating on my husband, I watch LGBTQ content on YT, where other (mostly) women share their gay lives, like your videos, Rose & Rosie, and many others.
Same. Rose and Rosie are so cute to watch * . *
Makes me wonder what if...
Oh my, we share our story. 😢 I wish I could take a break to explore myself. Now it takes so much headspace to figure out who I am. I still don’t know if I am a bisect or a lesbian, but living in this happy friendship with my husband while craving women.
The "in a straight relationship but need to explore other sides" gets me. What sucks is when you have the conversation with your partner and they say they're okay with it and they wanna be but truely are not. Luckily I could tell they were saying it just cause they didn't wanna break up but ya know. We both got growing to do in life.
I found out I was bi at age 26 after nearly 4 years of marriage to a man. The reason why, 3 years later, I still haven't come out to him is a complicated one. The main factor is that I am in love with my best friend and I feel I need to work out that before coming out.
I feel the pain of feeling like you're supressing a big part of yourself. I want to be with a woman and I'm admittedly unhappy in my marriage, but not because of anything my husband is doing wrong. I care about him and don't want to hurt him, even though I may not romantically love him anymore.
Anyone in this position, take your time. It can be delicate and discussions and coming outs last forever.
Therapy really helps. ❤
When you chanted “one of us! One of us!” I almost started crying. Thank you for that 🥲
"Gay? Low hanging fruit. That joke was low hanging fruit."
Me: But it was fruity.
the best thing about this series is that it's 50% funny secrets and 50% alayna giving heartfelt advice
As a married woman who recently realized I’m bi, I feel for the second to the last secret. I know this is an experience and conversation that can’t really come up or go anywhere at home. So yea.. for some of us we have to suppress it. I hope that person doesn’t have to
Why would you have to suppress it?
Does a woman getting married a virgin have to suppress not having had sex with other men before her husband?
If marriage is not for you, get a divorce.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle lol it’s not always that simple. When you have a whole life intertwined. 7 years. A kid. It becomes a matter of prioritizing. I love my family. But that means ignoring the other side of myself. We all make choices
@@Ortiz0704 Sounds like a bad choice.
I'm sure it's complicated, but are you going to live a lie all your life?
You being in an unhappy relationship, how is that good for your kid?
Erin I’m so sorry you’re in that predicament. I understand your choice. I just have one thought: do your loved ones feel that you may be unhappy. And if yes would that open up your choices? If not that’s ok. I hope you to be happy no matter what you choose.
I understand this hesitation. It feels like such a big toll to have the conversation, to potentially give up years of a relationship, and on top of that, complicate matters with a child involver. it feels so much easier to just... ignore that one... itty bitty part of you. but it doesn't go away. it eats you up inside. it doesn't just become supressing that part of you, but your happiness, too. and i promise you, a child in the middle of an unhappy relationship with unhappy parents is worse off than a child with two freer, happier parents, even if seperated. this is your LIFE. you have so many years to go. don't spend them withering away. you deserve to live the way you dream of, and feel the feelings you've always wanted to bask in instead of hide. i wish you so much luck.
I almost choked when i heard "my gay awakening is in the psych ward"
Yes indeed that is a 1st
Mine was in county jail! Bet I’m not the 1st!?!? 😂😂😂
@@shannonbolton6005 😂😂😂😂 i agree
@@shannonbolton6005 now this story I would like to hear
Honestly mine was in the psych ward too 😂😂
I tried BetterhHelp when I was in high school and going through a rough time trying to figure out if the girl I was head over heels for was into me. It was about a month and a half of talking to this “therapist” about things this girl said and did. Looking back, it couldn’t have been more obvious that she was totally into me but I was reading too much into it and the (girl) therapist kept telling me “I think that’s just what girls do and this doesn’t mean she likes you”. I’m still bitter to this day that I let the girl go because I really did put my everything into our relationship just to trust what this “therapist” said and lose her. Later on I confirmed she liked me a lot but it was too late at that point and I went through a long depressive stage and had no one to talk to (homophobic mom who said it wasn’t fair to *her* that I was depressed). I never told the girl why I never made an official move. Either way, I got closure seeing as she was so ready to move on. (I’m in a happy 2 year relationship now). Moral of the story, I’ll never use BetterHelp again.
Ps. We’re both 23 and Shes now dating a 45+ year old man… and just had a kid 👀💀🤣
@A moth
How so? I used Betterhelp, the therapist was a phony and it tanked my mental health instead of helped me. Spent all that money to go further in a rut.
I love the reacting to gay secret type videos! Haven’t been this early to one of your videos yet! Glad to be here first! As a Pansexual cisgender female I love your content!❤️🏳️🌈 However this is all I will be writing in this comment because I’m trying to get it done lol.Never know what to comment when I’m early😂❤️🤗🌈
welcome welcome!! 😍
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial Also anyway you wear the shirt looks good.But I prefer the dad on the beach look❤️😎
@@elijahdieker1209 I say same sex relationships are okay of course.Transgender people,non-binary people,gender fluid people,and everyone In between has a place in this world.However cisgender straight people are okay too❤️
@@summer5198 indeed. God prefers for people to be in LGBT relationships for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.
@@elijahdieker1209 Well saying god prefers LGBTQA+community people over straight people is like homophobic people saying that god hates gay people in my opinion.So I think god loves everyone equally despite of what the person is into sexually.Heterosexual people and gay or anyone in the community can be loved equally.
I came out as bi when i was 18. I'm now 27 and have recently discovered that I'm not attracted to men. But I still identify as bi because my definition of bi is "2+ genders". I'm attracted to women and nonbinary folk! So you can be bi and not attracted to men :) took me Many years to figure that out
Thank you for mentioning that bisexual doesn't strictly mean "into men and women." I define my bisexuality as "attracted to multiple genders but gender is a factor." It's a distinction from pansexuality that feels much more honest to who I am, but because most people don't talk about it, the nuance gets lost.
I wish these were hour long videos, they're so much fun to watch 😇
You talking about bisexuals always makes me smile. Thank you for consistently validating us. You're an angel and your content always lifts my spirits :)
These are my favorite thing in the entire internet. Honestly, you could read all six thousand of them and I'd watch it
Is it not common to imagine situations where you are with your crush, but also not complicating their life? That feels like it should be the norm, what do other people imagine, "I ruined your relationship and marriage... Wanna move in with me?!"
Also, open top, closed feels like it would be stifling, also open just looks fantastic.
^^
i vote for open shirt florida dad style
this seems to be the consensus
personally I am bi-romantic but only sexually attracted to women. p.s trans man here! love your content
Maybe it's because I am polyamarous (I am also ace so it really isn't about sex for me) but like it feels straight up abusive to like not let your partner explore themselves and their sexuality. Like me and my fiancé were high school sweet hearts, we both came out as trans when we moved out together and they had been out as pansexual for a while. I had always even when we thought we were monogamous encouraged them to explore themselves with people of whatever gender if it felt right to do. When we moved out they did, never hurt our relationship. None of the men they have been with have worked out but I am always happy for him to go out there and enjoy his bisexual heart.
For the person at 15:19 who has a homophobic bestie crush - I’ve been there. It was NOT fun. At all. My biggest advice is DON’T TELL HER, not until you feel confident enough in your queerness that whatever she says to you won’t hurt you. Well, I guess rejection and homophobia hurts no matter what, so don’t tell her unless you’re confident enough that what she says won’t destroy you and lead to struggles with coming out for the rest of your life. My homophobic bestie (I didn’t know she was homophobic at the time but I found out pretty quickly) was the first person I told, and it’s the biggest regret of my entire life. If/when you come out and/or tell anyone about your crush, make sure it’s safe to do so and the person is respectful, confidential if you want them to be, supportive, and loving. I hope things go better for you than they did for me. Best of luck! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖
I‘m really sorry to hear that you had to experience this! It must have been really hurtful at the time and still seems to be like this today. Your advice is not really relevant for my personal experience anymore, since I was lucky to come out safely a few years ago, but still it really touched me and I wanted to thank you for your honesty and for sharing this hurtful experience. To me, this shows the beauty of the queer community, looking out for each other and trying to help managing all the ups and downs that come with being queer. So a big thank you! 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ I hope you are doing okay today and that you could come to terms with this experience. All the love ! 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
@@sMiley171296 I’m glad to know you’re safely out of the closet, even if it means my advice doesn’t apply to you anymore. Congratulations on that! I’m out now too but it took me much longer than it would have if I never had the experience with the homophobic “friend.” It was three years ago so I would say I’ve come to terms with it now. I agree with you about the beauty of the queer community. I love watching people of all experiences and identities give each other encouragement and advice in these comments. Sending love. 🌈❤️
As a bisexual, there are different attractions you can have. you can be sexually attracted and romantically attracted. for the longest time I was sexually attracted to women (eg sex not romantic cuddles etc) and romantically attracted to men (ie all the cutesy couple shit but no sex) it was weird. now its both with both but you get the gist. that being said, I'm gender fluid its fun.
Beautiful comment!! So valid
I was in a psych clinic and my roomie and I were always cuddling and sleeping in the same bed even tho it wasn’t allowed and she told me that the year before she was on a station for just girls and they were all banging. Also out of 15 patients there was one straight girl on our station and we jokingly bullied her for it lol
I love the shirt! I want it. Where did you get it?!
I’m hearing lots of Canadian in your voice today! X, Y, Zed, and when you said “buried” really caught my attention 😂
being in the church for almost 25 years gives me a whole supply of secrets hahahahaha just wait for it!
Alayna you left us on a cliff-hanger! What's the gist of it!?
More people need to come join the world of being Poly! We have so much love
(Bi here lol) My first gf catfished me for a good part of the beginning of the relationship until i obviously found out she wasn’t a dude Lmfao
Edit: we dated for 3 years lolol
Alayna: "One of us! One of us!"
Me: "ONE OF US! ONE OF US!" 😂
Me: burning with both envy AND jealousy
this channel is the fucking best! I love the vibes and just overall experience while listening 🥺
omg thank you 🥺
this is a SPLENDID shirt. let it be open tho ;P
edit: also, this episode was honestly on FIRE. those were some of the best and juciest secrets ;D
I'm glad to know I wasn't the only person who uh. Pretended to be a guy to date a girl online. It's really amusing to look back and be like: How did I not see the rainbow flags sooner?
I also got into climbing! I really love it. And now i can fully appreciate how talented people are. It is really hard. Loved the video Alayna! It was so much fun again :)
welcome to the climbing life babyyyy
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial 🙌🏻🧗🏼
This cat steals every moment on camera. Such a relaxing view)
17:18 I'm in a similar situation, but for now I've decided to let it go and see what happens. If I happen to fall for a girl or non-binary person, that's what happens. I'm taking the approach of not chasing and being passive about it and just live my best life with all good things I have right now!
I feel like falling in love with someone isn't a passive process. Can't just wait for the right person to stroll up and propose, but I do wish you luck.
The fantasy 3way teacher one reminded me of himym how marshall had to kill lily off and get her blessing before she passed to fantasize about other women🤣
This has been the best one yet. The secrets really be secreting today.
"I have a homophobic girl best friend that I have a crush on"
replace friend with bully/rival and you get a netflix show that really should not have been cancelled :(
Atypical
teenage bounty hunters :(
I didn't submit Secret #2...but that's me too! I realized it when I got a second chance at life after getting divorced and I'm SO much happier.
I'm LOVING shirt buttoned all the way up! It's just so darling!!
THANK YOU
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
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@@elijahdieker1209 Sir? This is a Gay Wendy's.
@@brigiddwyer840 Hallelujah!
your videos have been getting me through my queer crises for a while now. thank you for making me laugh and making me feel a bit more comfortable with myself :)
Being married totally complicates finding yourself. I now identify as pansexual and my husband thinks I'm leaving him. That's not the point ... 😕
I absolutely LOVE the mushroom (shroom?) shirt! Annnd it matches your beautiful poster in the background 🌈🍄
I've known I like women since I fell in love with a girl when I first went to secondary school, but I've questioned myself a lot and just sorta let it be and thought "if it happens it happens" but it just never did. Now I'm at the point where I'm sure I like women, but I've never dated or even kissed a woman. I really want to explore what my attraction to women is fully like and how it compared to my attraction to men (is it equal? Do I actually like women more, but have I just not realised because men give me more attention?). Issue is that I really don't want to just sleep around and all that, but I'm also sick of waiting and just want to date someone. But man do I find women much more intimidating than men. My attraction to men also seems to be different than for most women that like men, which makes things more confusing. conclusion: I'm a whole mess lmao
Felt this. I am panromantic so I can be in a romantic relationship with anyone, their gender is unimportant to me but I am also pretty sure I am graysexual cuz everyone I had a crush on so far....I never thought of them in a sexual way, the most I thought was a kiss. However, whenever I do think of s*x or have any bit of sexual attractive I always think of women. So does that make me panromantic graysexual but a bit leading on lesbian when I do experience sexual feelings???
So don't worry, I am a mess too :)
I was in a similar position up until recently. I was surrounded by friends who were all straight and as much as I love them they weren’t allowing me to explore myself. So I just bit the bullet and started going to gay bars on my own, went on tinder dates with women etc and as scary as it was it’s the best thing I ever did. I’m now dating a girl i really like and finally feel like myself. I still don’t know if I’m bisexual or lesbian but at the end of the day, labels don’t matter and you don’t have to have it all figured out, just as long as you’re happy!😊
Despite i never had a crush on girls, i do experienced dating girls. Weird right? Lmao.
If you are wondering how it goes, the "relationships" that i once experienced were all cyber/internet type of relationship and if i could be more specific, they're the ones who asked me out first ( i sorta just say "yes" to it without any consideration yeah reckless much ). Me and my ex'es were minor/underage at that time so no "extreme" things we done or even meeting face to face like fly to each other state/countryーif i could be more specific about our relationship, it was a puppy love/on and off type of relationship, it's kinda serious but at the same it's not at all. Fast forward, we broke up, followed by losing contact as time goes by. There was no problem, fight, or such, just we fall out too quick.
Yet, idk. Despite i'm currently identifying as lesbian/homosexual/non-binary/aromantic-asexual spectrum person ( idk how labels work, please bare with me ), not just my attraction to men questioned, but also, my attraction to women got questioned as well. I actually realized that i experience attraction to men the moment i get to know themーsome kind of we have to be friends first before we get into it. Maybe it's compulsory heterosexuality, maybe it's a bi-cycle. I guess i never know, but to let it all flow, and let it all happen if something like these would happen in the future instead of worry or thinking about it.
Ok, so actually help me with something. I've considered myself bisexual since I was 16 (am 40 now), I've also considered myself demi for a few years, because I very very rarely feel instant attraction to someone without actually knowing them. Until I recently realised, I only don't feel instant attraction to men, while women get me hot and bothered constantly. Am I actually gay?
Well... Maybe it also works to read your comment out loud to yourself? ;)
I'm in a similar situation. Always thought I was pansexual since 16, maybe thought I was demi bc I would only find men sexually attractive after feeling close to them. But now I'm realizing I find women instantly attractive by comparison. But I also find trans and non-binary people attractive. It's so confusing haha. I think I might still be bisexual but not attracted to cis men. Or panromantic lesbian? I'm not sure honestly haha. But I totally get being confused and that's ok! Never too late to explore your sexuality.
Heyyyy sis. I also identified as bi starting at 16ish until... long story short I realized I am in fact a lesbian at age 24.... in the midst of a 6 year relationship with a man. The subreddit latebloomerlesbians helped me more than anything else. Finding a community of women I could actually talk to (or just read their stories!) about my deep fear and confusion at the very beginning up until I fully found and accepted myself was absolutely invaluable.
I will also say this, because we ALL have this fear, no matter what age or phase of life: it is not too late to explore your identity.
The world is full of women who have discovered lesbian (or other) identity in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond. It's all beautiful.
@@irradiated_woman8016 wow was it really difficult with the relationship ending?
@@justthatgamergirl1 hardest thing I've ever done. No other choice for me, but it was brutal.
OH MY GOD AN AD FOR "LUXURY BLANKETS" CAME UP ON THIS VIDEO 👁👄👁
did they include any notes on scent in the selling points
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial 😂😂ya know, they didn’t. I’ll have to write them an email to notify them of this incredible marketing opportunity-they’ve missed an entire demographic🤦🏻
Maybe they’ll sponsor you!
I have been dealing with a headache for hours. Was going to take a nap, saw you had posted this video and decided to watch this instead. My headache is bothering a lot less now.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
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You know I was just writing a submission, but half way through I was like what if the girl I’m writing about sees it? Like we still see each other once a year that would be so weird
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were molested and something inside of them blocks off a certain type of body but it doesn't happen to everyone that is abused. Those that CHOOSE to live like Eunuchs for THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex-characteristics but opposite in regards to gender. GENDER is determined in the brain and designated at birth and has nothing to do with sex characteristics. Notice, God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships.
You know rapture occurs right HERE on earth right? Malachi 4:2-3 It is when God's true people shine like the sun with the glory of the Lord right here on earth. Jesus comes back to rule. Some people will live forever. The rapture teaching inside the fake churches is mostly LIES. The new heaven and earth will be made here. Do you get it? The ones taken are NOT good. WW3 will bring down all government institutions and they are ALL corrupt. 1/3 of all people will die at least. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6 and Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. Anyone that continues to teach the LIE of monetary tithing or sells anything at all using the gospel CHOOSES to DIE with the wicked. It's their choice. Same-sex marriage is NOT a sin. Mathew 19:12 says God PREFERS for people to be in LGBT relationships. Anyone that teaches it is a sin when it is not also CHOOSES to perish with the wicked. WORLD PEACE IS COMING! Asking questions is okay, but anyone that rejects the messages from the messenger of Malachi 3:1 rejects Jesus Christ Himself and that means they will also not be here when Jesus comes back.
Pretrib rapture is LIES, false teaching...
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Honestly, I'm probably going to keep putting mine in the google form until either you react to one or I run out of secrets, whichever comes first :)
I LOVE THE MUSHROOM SHIRT and it looks good either way!!
THIS SHIRT IS EVERYTHING
these are my favorite videos!! i love hearing about other peoples gay secrets i feel like were in a facetime call lol
Your shirt would look really cute buttoned up, add a brown corduroy jacket and it’s made. But you gotta wear it with some doc martins and rolled up mom jeans/skinny jeans
I literally would loveee an hour long video of these
Alayna: I don't do drugs
Also Alayna: The rest of this video
i really identified with the person that didn’t think they were gay enough to call themselves bi. i’ve experimented with labels a bit but with a small queer dating pool of mostly just my friends and not wanting to complicate things, i haven’t had much experience with women (or men for that matter bc high school in a pandemic) so i feel “not gay enough” a lot. i see myself dating men a lot more than women, but women are way easier to be close with than men. idk, it’s confusing. i don’t feel straight, but i’m not like super gay either? it’s just hard to figure out
Here's a radical concept, honesty. Honesty with yourself and with everyone else.
I know it sounds weird, but try it.
How do I see you all over yt.
Also, self-delusion is, unfortunately, extremely powerful. Cant be honest if you dont even know you're lying! Personally I was raised to be delusional via my extremely conservative Christian upbringing :D
I realised eventually and got honest, but it took a solid 10 years of deconstruction before I got there. Its better on the other side-would reccomend. But it was hard as fuck.
@@irradiated_woman8016 As someone who has NO delusions, let me tell you, it sucks. Reality sucks when you don't believe things will magically get better.
The reality is that most humans are selfish, self-centered, short-sighted and hypocrites. Humanity is on a direct course to self-destruction.
Was the dog a Tibetan Mastiff?? Because that's a bear-dog that I want. Top 10 in my Adult Splurge Goals. Them puppers are expensive. And huge.
Thankyou for posting...
I MISSED YOU
4:45 Yeah, I was going to say that too. You can be bisexual and just be attracted to women and non-binary people. That is totally valid!
Idk why you dont like your shirt I think it fits you very nicely style wise and physically!
Alaina goals:
Undies pics on the internet
Drugs
But her parents must never know, at all costs! She’s so cute! Her parents are lovely and I’m sure they’re aware of such things, yet they are also obviously gonna love and accept her even if they were somehow accidentally exposed to photographic (emphasis on graphic) evidence. I suspect that as soon as they figured out what exactly they were looking at, they’d immediately switch it off, perhaps with a “whoops!” Nothing would be said about it out of respect, not shame.
Ugh I LOVE the shirt. I just bought a mushroom bikini :D
Um, could you please tell us where you got it? Asking for a friend... 😊
fully buttoned, i love that put together vibe for you (and myself, coincidentally)
i want to see this dog that’s a bear now
Lol, I know, me too!
Alayna please make a video where we can ask you for advice on our ✨queer✨ problems!
Love your vids!
I haven’t even started the video yet I’m just here looking for the comment that also notices that “your” is repeated twice in the thumbnail to validate my OCD 😩
When you said “yes kitten” I went 😳
I can't stop staring at the picture in your background and trying to figure out if it's a print of your shirt that has been framed.
I know, really! I could be wrong but I think the poster is one of those educational types with each species labeled. Even if so, it’s still a charming match with her shirt
GIMME THE SHROOMIE SHIRT I WANT
THE SHROOMIE SHIRT
Omg, she acknowledged a fan! ME:swoons
That's the cutest shirt I've ever seen!!!
Two buttons open at the top. Three if you're feeling saucy.
Omg, I totally did that too on the habla hoblas, LOL! Memories...
7:50 is so cute and wholesome though 😂
I forget that you’re Canadian until you say “ex why ZED” hahaha sorry it just took me by surprise
That shirt is dope.
Omg, where *where* _WHERE_ are you getting all those cool shirts????? I mean a shirt with _maShRoOmS_ ¿?? I'd DIE for it!
These videos always either with the cat or Alayna's shirt😗🤙
Sometimes both
I love these please do way more lol
I mean I do the same with fantasies about people who are already in a relationship. It feels wrong not to include their partner. Like, they're committed to their partner and not to me, so if they would be with me it feels obvious the partner would be there too, unless otherwise explicitly stated :'D (Note: I'm usually not attracted to the partners, I just figure they'll... Do their thing with their partner, and I will focus on that person too because that's the one I'm into)
But I also do strongly believe that fantasies and thoughts have impact on the outside world. It affects how you behave towards the people around you, like even on a subconscious level.
the link…. we need the link for the shirt. thank u in advance
im at school but i saw the thumbnail and wow i want to hear the blanket secret omg
How do we vote for halfway between schoolboy and Florida dad? Either is fire though. Sometimes I like to put a lil brooch on the top button of the fully-buttoned-up shirt… can you imagine how cute a little toadstool 🍄 brooch would be with this?!
Yup, I pretended to be a boy for soooooo long, best part was, I didn't even know I was pretending!
The answer to any wardrobe questions is always 3/4