My experience dating as a guy with long hair | Do women like men with long hair | What I've learnt

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  • Опубликовано: 24 дек 2024

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  • @markcumbriauk
    @markcumbriauk 3 года назад +174

    I'm growing My hair out and I could not give a toss what people think, My Hair, My Choice. Great vid mate.

  • @jayviensam
    @jayviensam 4 года назад +193

    I've always been attracted to guys with long hair. But, as long as you feel comfortable and confident that's all that matters. 💗 all ready subscribed.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +15

      Love this comment. Thank you so much

    • @BasedMando
      @BasedMando 4 года назад +11

      And we're attracted to you love.

    • @SpankyDaTanky
      @SpankyDaTanky 3 года назад +11

      I’m attracted to any woman who excepts me for who I am and not what I have

    • @khwlasemaan8135
      @khwlasemaan8135 2 года назад

      im confused ... i think guys partner selection is very simple ... but selection in women is complicated

    • @mbut00
      @mbut00 8 месяцев назад

      @@khwlasemaan8135Nah not even man, women just want a confident guy that shows love and compassion to them that’s all

  • @aramis5301
    @aramis5301 4 года назад +182

    I love men with long hair, for me, it is just SO much more attractive. Only really gorgeous men look attractive to me with short hair. I think the bad reactions come from people who are very conformist and are bothered by long hair because it doesn't match their stereotypes of what a "real man" should look like. And it just annoys me so much when I hear people who automatically assume that long hair is "dirty"... (Especially if it comes from a long-haired woman. I'm like... Seriously, you're a woman, you have long hair, are YOU dirty?)
    I think one thing I like about long hair is that first, it has more personality. Short hair is so common, and it kind of hides the specificity of your hair (the colour, the texture, is it curly or wavy or straight...). I like diversity. I'm sure some guys don't even KNOW what their hair is like. Also, it simply complements most faces in an advantageous way. Short hair requires a really pretty face, which most people just don't have (you do, you looked good with short hair as well).
    I think what attracts me the most about long hair is that it shows how comfortable a guy is with their masculinity and who they are. It suggests to me that they can take the stupid criticism long-haired men get, they can have the confidence to look "unusual", and they can say "fuck conformity and silly social norms", and just be themselves, and that's really attractive to me. And yeah, maybe it looks more "wild" and more "sexual", I don't know... I wouldn't say it is the main appeal to me, though. And I definitely don't see long-haired men as less serious or reliable, on the contrary.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +26

      Absolutely love this comment. I can definitely say my personality, self confidence and individuality have massively improved since growing my hair. I really like your point about people assuming that long hair is dirty just because it's on a man, that is definitely not the case but I'd never considered that before

    • @jejmoss11
      @jejmoss11 3 года назад +8

      This was an awesome reply. Agree totally. I’m growing my hair at the moment (usually have it slightly longer anyway), but get compliments for it. Using lockdown as an excuse. I know how to style and look after it so that helps.
      I think that more guys should experiment.
      Long hair might get a bad reputation because some guys grow their hair and do nothing about it. There’s bad long hair styles and there are bad short hairstyles. It’s all about the person in the end and how you wear it.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад

      @@jejmoss11 And that was also an awesome reply

    • @JoyDaz00
      @JoyDaz00 3 года назад +3

      @@alexorlandocross I have heard that our hair is like antennas that gives us a 6th sense, that's why we become as intuitive as women when we grow our hair. This could be related to our personality geting stronger. I used to have long hair(till the shoulders' length) from 16 to 19 years old, and I absolutelly loved it! Growing it back again at 21!
      Stay safe neighbour, seek God JESUS while there is time.

    • @devinm.6149
      @devinm.6149 2 года назад +1

      Much like how I have the unusual preference of women with body hair, it's not a deal breaker but I like people that are actually comfortable with their natural body.

  • @mattjackson1732
    @mattjackson1732 4 года назад +175

    Long hair on guys automatically makes them look cool and stand out imo

    • @blackpillaudrius3015
      @blackpillaudrius3015 4 года назад +7

      Not when you've got acne scars and spots

    • @mattjackson1732
      @mattjackson1732 4 года назад +10

      @@blackpillaudrius3015 I disagree.

    • @blackpillaudrius3015
      @blackpillaudrius3015 4 года назад +1

      @@mattjackson1732 how can you make up that comment have you ever seen a long hair dude with acne scars and spots I bet you not lol

    • @denisdenak
      @denisdenak 3 года назад +2

      That's precisely why most people don't like it

  • @thomasinaction
    @thomasinaction 4 года назад +191

    This was an awesome video! (Even though I'm not trying to impress women) but really solid material man.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +20

      Thank you. I’m a big fan of your content so I appreciate that

    • @thomasinaction
      @thomasinaction 4 года назад +9

      @@alexorlandocross My Pleasure! I'd love to share this on the Man Buns & Manes IGTV account. Let me know if you'd be happy for me to do so and send the vid to hello@manbunsandmanes.com. I reckon the guys would enjoy this!
      Cheers.

    • @zachadair52
      @zachadair52 4 года назад +7

      Great to see you here Thomas!!! :D

    • @anthonyguerreiro5068
      @anthonyguerreiro5068 4 года назад +2

      Too bad the long hair part no longer applies to you lol

    • @zachadair52
      @zachadair52 4 года назад +2

      @@anthonyguerreiro5068 hey man he’s growin’ it out again lol (or at least I think he is). He cut it for a good cause :)

  • @RicardoRoams
    @RicardoRoams 3 года назад +109

    For younger long haired guys who think they get a lot of grief, just be glad you're not 70 years old. Talk about standing out! I turned 70 this year and almost no woman my age wants to date a guy with long hair. I've had long hair off an on all my life going back to the hippie days. I'm retired so I don't have to adhere to any dress or grooming code because of an employer. One of the nice things about getting older is you no longer care what others think. And at my age, I'm glad I still have a full head of hair to grow.

    • @kris2k
      @kris2k 2 года назад +2

      64 trying to Coverdale myself first time in my life, I always was cut short before, for different reasons, my hairdresser wife is in heaven

    • @RicardoRoams
      @RicardoRoams 2 года назад +7

      @@os8051 Wow! What I find interesting is you took the time and went to the effort to write this cheap shot about a stranger you know nothing about. That reveals more about your life than mine. And for that, I feel sorry for YOU.

    • @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube
      @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube 2 года назад +2

      Try putting in a bun, buns look great for any male with long hair. Maybe even braid it like a Viking to give you a very masculine vibe.
      You seem to have very straight hair like I do and one thing I never do is go out with my hair just completely down because my hair is very flat and has no volume so I just end up looking like Jesus lol.

    • @RicardoRoams
      @RicardoRoams 2 года назад

      @@Silenced_by_nazi_youtube , my hair is very straight but thick. I actually like my hair down. I wouldn't mind that Jesus look. But I don't have enough facial hair to grow a decent beard. Never have.

    • @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube
      @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube 2 года назад +3

      @@RicardoRoams no problem with that. However, I would suggest trying other hairstyles as well since you still have a lot of hair for your age, be versatile with it.

  • @2Curlews
    @2Curlews 4 года назад +32

    I think long hair is very attractive. Grow it out guys. You stand out in a good way.

  • @marcelodesa2751
    @marcelodesa2751 4 года назад +105

    As a guy with long hair I attract women a lot more at the age of 54 then when I did in my twenties

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +21

      54 and killing it 🙏

    • @Macc-
      @Macc- 3 года назад +4

      You have a wife?

    • @cluggyahoo
      @cluggyahoo 3 года назад +10

      57 here , good looking , look like 45 and my long hair is loved by lots of sexy girls under 25.
      Happy camper here

    • @homegymfundraiser7960
      @homegymfundraiser7960 3 года назад +4

      @@cluggyahoo yea right buddy girls under 25 easy there bud

    • @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube
      @Silenced_by_nazi_youtube 2 года назад +1

      I’m 36 and have long hair which I either put in a bun or braids. I definitely get more women attention then when I had a short faux hawk.

  • @animalkingdom2871
    @animalkingdom2871 4 года назад +94

    You look better with the long hair.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +12

      Jessica Lawson thank you

    • @nabranestwistypuzzler7019
      @nabranestwistypuzzler7019 4 года назад +2

      Fr

    • @MrWhis-fe5hs
      @MrWhis-fe5hs 3 года назад

      No he does not. It's attractive he does it because he wants but long hair on a man is ugly

    • @animalkingdom2871
      @animalkingdom2871 3 года назад

      @@MrWhis-fe5hs I find it attractive. It's all prefrence not fact. That's great for you, but I like it.

    • @animalkingdom2871
      @animalkingdom2871 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross wait how you know my name😂👁👄👁

  • @mr.sherwolff9921
    @mr.sherwolff9921 3 года назад +59

    I was actually planning to cut my hair.. But this vid reminded me why I grew it in the first place. I did because I wanted. It was my desire and preference. People's opinions don't matter as long as we're being true to ourselves.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +5

      Glad to have helped man. Cut it when you’re ready. It’s always about your opinion

    • @mr.sherwolff9921
      @mr.sherwolff9921 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross absolutely 👍 thanks man..

    • @sauviel6296
      @sauviel6296 3 года назад +1

      @@mr.sherwolff9921 wow, i mean im not planning to cut my hair but i didnt think about it that way

    • @mr.sherwolff9921
      @mr.sherwolff9921 3 года назад

      @@sauviel6296 about 2 months ago I finally decided to cut it. I've experienced having a long hair for half a year and also half a year growing it. It was one of the fulfilling decisions I've had in my life. It really boosted my confidence and now I know what my personal style is. If you've never tried it before, you should.

    • @junaidinomani6821
      @junaidinomani6821 3 года назад

      Dude plzz dont cut em even I'm a long haired guy and seriously i get lot of attention from women.. We long haired guys look mysterious interesting badass many things

  • @tommy2pieceya734
    @tommy2pieceya734 4 года назад +89

    If somebody rejects you because of your hair, that means something's wrong with them and they most likely have some insecurity issues, that they need to overcome, just say'n...

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +11

      This is the truth

    • @p4ulooping
      @p4ulooping 3 года назад +5

      yes

    • @illhaqu777
      @illhaqu777 3 года назад +12

      Or it's just not their type..

    • @lukasg9031
      @lukasg9031 3 года назад +5

      not necessarily... people can have preferences about long or short hairstyles. What makes some one most likely insecure is when someone is straight up disrespectful about your long or short hair

    • @tommy2pieceya734
      @tommy2pieceya734 3 года назад +1

      @@lukasg9031 if it's the first time, you're seeing someone and you solely reject them, because of short or long hair, I wouldn't think it would have anything to do with the hair..... I personally think, it would go much deeper than that, psychologically that is, because it's just hair and why reject somebody, because the hair, is either too long, or too short..... To me, that's an excuse somebody gives themself, for either not talking to the person, or asking them out, or whatever it might be, for whatever reason and there are many, many reasons...

  • @amelia-rose2992
    @amelia-rose2992 3 года назад +44

    You're so right in all aspects of this topic. It's very attractive when a guy makes a decision on his own because he wanted to do it instead of growing his hair just to attract women. You'll definitely attract more open minded woman. I love that my man has long hair! We brush each other's hair, share elastics and take turns cleaning out the shower. 😊

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +8

      That sounds like the dream relationship to me

    • @asyrafhashim3735
      @asyrafhashim3735 3 года назад

      Good for you. Also i dream about that Kind relationship.

    • @azaizjemaa54072
      @azaizjemaa54072 7 месяцев назад

      Hello, I am a man with long hair. I did not find a woman who wanted to marry me. If there is a woman who wants to marry me, a man with long hair, welcome.

  • @clouds-h5549
    @clouds-h5549 4 года назад +112

    As a woman I personally am highly attracted to men with long hair ,(and as a conservative woman)
    A man can be a 6 but if he grows his hair out he automatically becomes a 7-9 for me
    Sometimes I even ask men I'm talking with if they ever want to grow there hair (witch is probably bad)
    But know that I find out that most woman who have my life style are not attracted to the same things as me I'm surprised(which sounds weird and close minded Haha but I just never gave a though two it and just assumed everyone else thought so two)
    When I see a man with long hair I don't see a unstable man
    Even as a woman who has conservative and traditional values
    So this video made me think why I like men with long hair and I think its because I like different and special things and not just mundane boring things
    I also see them as open minded, smart, adventurous and artistic.
    So from now on when I see a man with long hair I will have more respect for them because they a strong enough to be them self's
    Despite the backlash of main cultural standards
    I have more respect for men with long hair from know on.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +12

      I really like the open minded reference and I think that's very true. Really appreciate this comment and the appreciation for men with long hair. Keep asking the guys whether they have any plans to grow their hair

    • @CynfarLP
      @CynfarLP 4 года назад +11

      Depends on how traditional you are. Long hair has been the norm in most warrior cultures for the most part of history.

    • @ginacarrano50yearsago15
      @ginacarrano50yearsago15 4 года назад +10

      Jesus had long hair.

    • @tiagoveiga2663
      @tiagoveiga2663 2 года назад +2

      @@ginacarrano50yearsago15 I always use this argument hahah

    • @devinm.6149
      @devinm.6149 2 года назад

      I have long hair myself, I always liked to.
      Got a lot of flak, mostly from other males for it, but I like it & so it is long.

  • @SteveAubrey1762
    @SteveAubrey1762 3 года назад +10

    I'm glad I found your video. I'm 58 years old and a widower. My wife was my best friend, she's been gone almost 7 years now. She was a very free-spirited woman. She saw pics of me as a kid in the late 60s & the 70s w/ long hair and told me to follow my heart. Because of her encouragement, I started my first business, got my pilot's license, and yes, regrew my hair out!
    I've not dated anyone since she passed because I felt like it was cheating and maybe somehow disrespected her memory. Maybe I will date someone someday, who knows, but I'm not going to sweat it. It's good to know if I do "attract" someone, she'll is more down-to-earth like me. They say the average age men die at is around 75. So if I don't find someone- or more correctly, if they don't find me, it wont be a long drag .

  • @MGCrow-jc6ps
    @MGCrow-jc6ps 3 года назад +25

    As a woman liking longhaired men, I honestly feel like: less competition around with those women who do not like longhaired men. All those women rejecting my boyfriend for not cutting his hair: I am gratefull to that. Just be yourself and you get the right match.

  • @Jhern2116
    @Jhern2116 4 года назад +20

    Since growing my hair out and updating all of my pictures on dating apps showing off my long hair, the number of matches and type of women has actually gone up. Could be that I live in San Diego and seeing guys with long hair isn't so uncommon, but its been working great for me. Great video, you made great points.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад

      Jose Hernandez thank you 🙏

    • @juancana457
      @juancana457 2 года назад +2

      After completing my gig in the Navy, I grew my hair to my waist, and have had it there since. Idiots in the medical field, I was a medical professional, harassed me until I quietly spoke to H.R. and offered to arrange a meeting with my lawyer for slander and harassment. I worked in southern California for forty years.

  • @robertbeasley3106
    @robertbeasley3106 3 года назад +12

    I've got hair nearly to my waist and it's very healthy. This guy just reenforces what I've known for 30 yrs. The women that are attracted to me are more fun and more real. And I'm usually the only long haired man In The room . If there is one woman that digs hair ,shes on me. It's worked for me.

  • @ash.7.7.A
    @ash.7.7.A 3 года назад +6

    Go ahead man.. grow your hair as long as you want..The right people will come to you no matter what..the type of close minded people who judge the others from how they look are making us a favor to stay away from their toxic area....much respect to you♡

  • @marc-antoinebaudry2796
    @marc-antoinebaudry2796 4 года назад +20

    This video was exactly what I wanted to see, real feedback and interesting analysis and thoughts. Kind of video we don’t find so often for this type of subject, awesome work thank you !

  • @jetcity18
    @jetcity18 4 года назад +50

    I had long hair for a decade, then cut it 5 years ago when my first child was born. The reactions/comments I received when it was long, both positive and negative, were often extreme (once had a guy try to start a fight with me in a pub because of my long hair)
    I’m growing it back now, I’m about 10 months into the process. It came down to the fact that after I cut it I felt like I’d lost my identity, my individuality. Sure enough the ‘when are you going to get a haircut’ comments are back 😂, but I really couldn’t care less. I’ve not been this happy about my own appearance for five years.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +2

      I love that comment! I'm with you on the individuality too!

    • @sauviel6296
      @sauviel6296 3 года назад +3

      @Theris cant believe you get beaten because of how long your hair is, thats like beating someone because they have different skin color

    • @sushantmanandhar1387
      @sushantmanandhar1387 3 года назад

      Uhhhh story time, tell me about the clown who tried to fight you

  • @mukul6751
    @mukul6751 4 года назад +16

    "Yes, it will get you laid."
    Me with long hair: *nervous low confident laughs*

  • @3LZ0RR0
    @3LZ0RR0 3 года назад +14

    12 months in my journey and loving it, there are tons of different styles to choose from with longer hair compared to short hair. I think your body type plays a big role too, example if you are muscular or not in terms of how others view you

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +3

      I agree completely. Body type and overall confidence are massive for how others see you

  • @SpankyDaTanky
    @SpankyDaTanky 3 года назад +45

    I’m a man with long hair but i never get called gay or a vegan because I’m very muscular people tend to just not make fun of me because of my size

  • @CarloswithFaith
    @CarloswithFaith 3 года назад +7

    Having long hair as a guy means expressing our individuality amongst the others. We would rather stand out than look like everyone else with the same hair style. Plus, it’s majestic.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +1

      It is majestic

    • @jacknitro9163
      @jacknitro9163 3 года назад +1

      Love that..Majestic...I am using that from now on!

    • @mmd123king6
      @mmd123king6 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross when you grow your hair and a female that you really like said that she doenst like your hair and you look better with short hair will you cut it? And do you get heart broken

  • @carrolllong1733
    @carrolllong1733 3 года назад +12

    I have grown my hair long in the past and I regret cutting it short..it probably would be down to my waist by now..don’t ever let a female tell you to cut it off..that will never never happen again..the long hair is here to stay..besides you stand out from the mediocre and show your virility.

  • @owenk3n7
    @owenk3n7 3 года назад +4

    Lucky me I found your video! I was planning on cutting my hair. Actually I dont care what ppl think about it. But sometimes I get tired of hearing bad comments. On the other hand one person that always says good things about my hair is my daughter. She loves it.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +2

      Keep going with it. It doesn’t matter what people say

  • @anthonynebel
    @anthonynebel 3 года назад +6

    Awesome video! My friends we're also mentioning about the same thing with polarization but the girls who like long hair have a stronger attraction. It's great to see someone else with similar experiences!

  • @andygarciadarkrus9692
    @andygarciadarkrus9692 2 года назад +1

    That's basically my experience buddy, some women hate it, other women love it and as you said, they admire your hair but also your confidence, that's completely true

  • @pantelis5665
    @pantelis5665 3 года назад +6

    I think the majority of men we try to grow our hair out because we like the look,including me because long hair perfectly suits and compliments my face,especially when I tie it up,I instantly look more attractive and It gives me so so much confidence.I think it is a very minor issue when it comes to dating because hair is such a superficial thing and if you find that a particular girl does not like your hair it is her problem and not yours because at the end of the day you want to feel satisfied with yourself,that is all that matters!!

  • @muskndusk
    @muskndusk 2 года назад +2

    I love how you say long hair is like catnip for women who are looking for certain qualities. I love men with long hair and totally fit into the vegetarian, bohemian type you described. The Family Man image has never appealed to me.
    In the past I've had boyfriends who began shorthaired but were persuaded to grow it. Now I'm lucky if men have hair at all!

    • @Jaiyro
      @Jaiyro 2 года назад

      Lol lucky if men have hair at all.

  • @diegosebastiansalazar24
    @diegosebastiansalazar24 4 года назад +18

    Hi, Im from Chile and im growing my hair for over a year now.
    So, today i have this weird chat with my dad about my hair (he hates it), the thing is that when a person close to you says things believing that they are right or trying to help you, it just gets tiring after months and months of the same discussion.
    Im no mad at them, it just that i don't like to explain why im doing what im doing, people with short hair doesn’t explain a shit, do they? So having to show my dad that im not gay or wherever stupid thing i “look” like hahahaha its just terrible for my self esteem, today for the first time i was thinking in cutting it, and i don’t want to, thank you for that actually.
    I came here not for dating, for someone with long hair telling his experience, saying just the things that are occurring to me right now, so thank you, it means a lot for lots of people looking for this kind of guy.
    ♥️

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +2

      I’m so glad that you got that from watching this. That’s definitely my experience too, even now people still tell me to cut it. If you want to cut it then do, but do it for your reasons and not for anybody else. Long hair is awesome despite what your dad says

  • @zachadair52
    @zachadair52 4 года назад +20

    Decided to grow my hair out when I graduated in 2019, and now I’m like 20 or so months in, and I’ve been told by a lot of people that long hair suits me much more. I’m in my freshman year of college (I took a year off), and almost everyone I meet calls me Thor lol. The confidence long hair has given me is off the charts

    • @siddhantrana2796
      @siddhantrana2796 2 года назад +1

      Bruh I Grew My Hair Long When I Graduated In 2021 And I Have Long Shoulder Length Curly/Wavy Hair And I Have Pretty Mixed Reactions And Sometimes The Negatives Urge Me To Cut Em Off But It Has Helped Me To Ignore What People Think Of Me.
      You Look Fire Though. Its Difficult To Maintain A Style Though . A Blow Of Wind Makes Me Look Like A Hooligan Sometimes 😂

    • @zachadair52
      @zachadair52 2 года назад

      @@siddhantrana2796 that’s the beauty of it! Basically anything that happens to it can be a style lol. My hair is about maybe 6 or 7 inches longer than in my profile pic rn (I needa change it) but I’m glad it’s helped you think less ab what other people think!!! I would urge you to do like a Zumba class or something and just let your perception of Wht other people think just not matter anymore. I promise you way less people think negatively than you think! Mostly people think it’s badass!

    • @siddhantrana2796
      @siddhantrana2796 2 года назад

      @@zachadair52 The Number Of Stares I Experience Everyday When I Go Out Is Insane
      It Makes Me Self Conscious As I Keep Wondering Am I Looking Weird
      But Well Immah Getting Used To It

    • @zachadair52
      @zachadair52 Год назад

      @@Circleshape-jn2gl send it

  • @SevenEllen
    @SevenEllen 3 года назад +52

    "I won't date a man who's got better hair than me" Ha ha ha!! Well, at least that's being honest about jealousy, and about acknowledging it themselves. :) However, there are always going to be people out there we'll look at and think they have something we wish we have, but just imagine if that guy you turned down due to hair could have been your life partner and you said 'no' due to something as petty as jealousy? Ah well! Guess he'll have to marry someone else. :)

    • @alexandrapopa8984
      @alexandrapopa8984 3 года назад +4

      Well, if you're such a shallow, superficial and jealous woman that feels threatened by the man's handsomeness, maybe, i said maybe, you deserve that.

  • @atrixsis4103
    @atrixsis4103 4 года назад +17

    I love men with long hair 😍

  • @alphawolfjack0599
    @alphawolfjack0599 3 года назад +4

    Keep the hair bro! Long hair men strong together lol so let’s unite! Great video 🤙

  • @derperderp9036
    @derperderp9036 3 года назад +8

    I've had long hair for years now. I'm happily married and don't care what any women say or think... however this is what I've noticed. Most females don't like long hair but the ones that do...they let you know it.

  • @kronbakeren
    @kronbakeren 3 года назад +1

    I got hair to half my back and totally 80’s rock n roll style .. a lot of women hate that but I couldn’t care less .. I think it’s looks cool and feel good about .. great vid man!

  • @dylannash3514
    @dylannash3514 4 года назад +4

    Love this video mate very well explained and actually opened me up to new ways of thinking regarding the long hair scene on guys - I'm currently just over 3 years into my hair growth

  • @staircapades
    @staircapades 3 года назад +1

    Going through the same thing right now. I actually love the polarizing aspect of it, gets you more dates! Fitting in to the mold does nothing for you, but make you blend in with the rest of the world.

  • @user-jc8dy2sl7k
    @user-jc8dy2sl7k 4 года назад +12

    I currently have grown my hair long back as before. I do get compliments and hateful opinions from others.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +4

      The other opinions don't matter, keep growing my man

  • @shellour1448
    @shellour1448 3 года назад +2

    My reason why I like my long hair is because I enjoy the feeling of taking care of something about myself. The feeling of long straight healthy hair is really appealing and rewarding to me.

  • @kazuthegreat
    @kazuthegreat 4 года назад +2

    The whole not paying attention to judgement is really great advice. I'm not growing my hair out for my girlfriend or whoever..I'm growing it out for me!

  • @RhetoricalMuse
    @RhetoricalMuse Год назад +2

    I think it's important to clarify the difference between men who look trerrible with long hair, men who can pull it off and men who look amazing.

  • @achilloste6265
    @achilloste6265 4 года назад +2

    you described everything perfectly! 17 and currently growing out my buzzcut cause im tired of shaving my head and want to change my appearance, plus i feel like hair gives so much energy and rounds the face. And im spiritual also :) subbed!

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +1

      Thank you sir. You are in for a fun journey. Thanks for the sub. Means a lot

  • @FierceLegendZ
    @FierceLegendZ 3 года назад +16

    I noticed that I get more compliments with my long hair from women than I did when I used to cut it . I always take care of my hair and it helps that I have volume lol

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +2

      I’ve noticed exactly the same thing

    • @FierceLegendZ
      @FierceLegendZ 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross I was told it also helps to have a great sense humor and that it further increases your chances of being remembered.

    • @gaygachad8305
      @gaygachad8305 Год назад

      They like our long hair because it looks better than them , but it doesn't mean they will date .

  • @AingebildetS55
    @AingebildetS55 4 года назад +8

    I'm growing it out too, so many people asked me when i will get a haircut. Once through the awkward stage I received the first positive statements on my hair. At first I wasn't sure if it will suit me or if it will look feminine, bc I have bright blonde hair so might be.. Now I'm loving it, I definetly won't cut it xD

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +1

      Long blonde hair looks awesome 🙏

    • @von6413
      @von6413 4 года назад

      I feel this too. Cuz if covid I decided to grow my hair out since I’ll be inside mostly anyways. After lockdown and some family would come to visit, they’d always ask when I’m getting a haircut 😩. It made me feel so self conscious cuz I thought they’re saying that cuz maybe it looks bad. Then as time went by and I went out a bit more, I started getting compliments and that was something I never really had before. Interesting experience I’d say.

  • @RisingSun96
    @RisingSun96 4 года назад +10

    Metalhead/rocker here, quite an insightful video here! I obviously grew my hair out because I am very passionate about the music I listen to (always have been).
    In terms of my dating life, funny enough my last relationship was with a very free spirited woman who out of all the women I have been involved with was the most like myself. I definitely think for sure it narrows down your dating pool, but at the same it makes you stand out in a crowd and many times I have been noticed/hit on by women at parties and bars. So it's not necessarily that I've become more attractive but as you mentioned having long hair exudes confidence and naturally more eyes are on me, therefore my chances seem better. In terms of radiating a sexy vibe, I've definitely been told that too haha.
    I feel much more free having my long locks, confident and more masculine as I having started working out much more than before when I had short hair as well.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +3

      There's just something about being a guy with long hair isn't there. You definitely stand out, sometimes that's good other times less so.
      I agree you definitely feel more confident when the hair is flowing and there's definitely something masculine about it.
      I think narrowing the dating pool is a good thing in the long run

    • @RisingSun96
      @RisingSun96 4 года назад +1

      @@alexorlandocross
      Well I am in my early 20s so narrowing the dating pool I don't think is the smartest option haha. I do agree that the women you do attract have more in common with you - like a diamond in the rough.
      In terms of masculinity, it's definitely the confidence aspect I mentioned before, women will respect you for being yourself even if they're not into you as you mentioned, and that's apparent everywhere.

    • @mmd123king6
      @mmd123king6 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross i can understand your point but would a women find a short hair cut man confident to cut his hair or a long hair man confident to grow his hair

    • @stieg_smith
      @stieg_smith 3 года назад

      💪🏻💪🏻

  • @christakosg9811
    @christakosg9811 4 года назад +18

    I grew my hair because I think you look really powerful. I can't explain how it exactly feels like but apparently I decided to grow my hair and now the buzz cut is trending here in Greece. Poor me...

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +4

      I love this. Don’t cut the hair, plenty of time to have a buzz cut later in life

    • @christakosg9811
      @christakosg9811 4 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross Yea. Because I am 16 yet I think I should make the most out of my hair cause later I won't be able too

    • @christakosg9811
      @christakosg9811 4 года назад +1

      @@alexorlandocross And by the way I saw your video with the outfits. My style is kinda similar but when I saw you wearing it it looked really great, you looked way too good and I was wondering how some women can't take guys with long hair and similar style seriously.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +2

      @@christakosg9811 thank you sir. You are too kind 🙏

    • @christakosg9811
      @christakosg9811 4 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross Thank you very much. You are amazing wish I could meet you in person one day. You are very underestimated in the moment and believe me when I say that.

  • @mdstudio
    @mdstudio 4 года назад +10

    Great video. I would be interested to hear about the response you’d get on the dating app if you only posted long hair photos. By posting short hair photos, you’re not likely to get responders who really like long hair. People who like longer hair wouldn’t even approach you. The responders you did get probably felt like it was bait and switch when you sent your new photos. Some women really don’t like facial hair either (I don’t recall if your long hair pics have a beard or not). In any case, thanks again for the video!

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад

      Yes definitely. There was definitely a switch ha ha. Facial hair I’ve not seen too much of a problem with but there are definitely some women who don’t like it. I’ve also got my nose pierced and arm tattooed so there’s a lot to dislike lol

  • @nerenahd
    @nerenahd 5 месяцев назад

    As a guy with long hair for a long time now, my experience is like this: not all women will like it, but those who dig it.... Man, you get a HUGE advantage with them, like a cheat code. It´s really powerful.

  • @herschelsquirts2338
    @herschelsquirts2338 3 года назад +2

    The most hate I get as a man with long hair is from bald guys. But honestly I couldn’t care less because I am growing my hair for someone else. I’m going to donate it at the Great Cut 2024 in San Diego on The Longhairs channel. Women love touching my hair so I’m not complaining!! Just an added bonus! 😂

  • @truefear6080
    @truefear6080 2 года назад

    This gave me a whole different outlook on my hair, amazing vid btw

  • @jimreadey4837
    @jimreadey4837 2 года назад

    I appreciate hearing your experiences and analysis. Although I'm 64, and in a long-term relationship, I'm still curious about how others now see me -- 30 months into the pandemic, and without having had a haircut over that time. It is vicariously delightful to hear what a younger man is going through.

  • @sweetblack1216
    @sweetblack1216 3 года назад +2

    I love love love a man with long hair. It makes them look Bohemian at times. And that appeals to the side of me that loves nature. Then it times they can look Suave and that appeals to the side of me that loves fashion. And at times it can look Rogue and that appeals to the grungy Rockside that I adore. So for me a guy having long hair is amazing because I get so many versatile looks out of the guy

  • @Goprogamer57
    @Goprogamer57 2 года назад +1

    Alex.. you are preaching to the choir!! Keep it up😎

  • @sarathpcputhur4594
    @sarathpcputhur4594 Год назад

    Last 5 years I’m growing my hair and cutting into the shape where possibly I can make pony style , I felt that I’m getting more hits by girls compared to short hair .
    I’m turning into 30s and I got married recently who she likes my hair so much , still I satisfied of my hair and you get more eyes everywhere.

  • @noraabreupoetnooralimah2249
    @noraabreupoetnooralimah2249 3 года назад +5

    You look extremely hot.
    I love men with long hair.
    My ex was a professional man but he had long hair. Im an artist, belly dancer and poet and I really think men with long hair are sexy but he has to be smart and have a beautiful heart.

  • @Alf258
    @Alf258 8 месяцев назад

    Being a woman with long hair i like it in both men and women. There is something i feel is powerful and prideful in long well groomed hair. The energy it gives is like the mane of a lion .

  • @rashidalyles1428
    @rashidalyles1428 3 года назад +1

    You are adorable !!! I love men with long hair and I will first talk with you before i come to a conclusion about you. I would so date men with long hair, tattoos and piercings. Im the type that wants a serious relationship !!!!

  • @bartmcdougall7518
    @bartmcdougall7518 Год назад

    Got my long hair over lockdown uk decided to keep it :). A found that it brings something out in ppl around you it shows you ppl who love you for you and don't mined it or don't care and ppl that say aww cut that. So a get rid off the ppl that say cut it and now have ppl that are there for me :). Thanks for vid stay true

  • @StefaniRd
    @StefaniRd 3 года назад +6

    I’m almost exclusively attracted to long-haired men. The exception is, ironically, bald men hahaah I guess I just find the common hair length for men very boring. Personality matters the most and people should look however makes them happy, but men with long hair make the world more beautiful.

    • @gb4939
      @gb4939 2 года назад

      I am at the other side of the mirror :) I am a man with long hair and the only look that I also like and would be happy to go for is very short buzzcut or no hair at all. I think it's because long hair and super short hair (or no hair) have one thing in common : simplicity and wilderness. I don't like sophisticate things :-) People should do what they think and feel that make them happy, themselves and joyful. People, no matter the haircut you want as long as it suits YOU. No worries, your soulmate is somewhere.

  • @victorarregnelle8976
    @victorarregnelle8976 4 года назад +2

    Yup. Exactly what I thought. That's why I'm trying to grow my hair, but it's hard!

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад

      Oh it is. You’ve got it though

    • @bananatoffeemilkshake5899
      @bananatoffeemilkshake5899 4 года назад

      stick to it victor, i shaved my head new years 2018, have not cut it since - hair down to just past my mid-chest , every day the hair is different, i love it, the hate has been real, but I get more compliments and approaches now than when short , but besides that - i love that my hair reflects my mood , and people leave you alone or interact , all my choice in the am , mid am , mid pm and pm lol

    • @victorarregnelle8976
      @victorarregnelle8976 4 года назад

      @@bananatoffeemilkshake5899 I have a bunch of friends that play in a band..only one of them has long hair. He is the only one who's been approached ever. Hes now enjoying a relationship with a pretty hot white american girl. We're all from central america.

    • @bananatoffeemilkshake5899
      @bananatoffeemilkshake5899 4 года назад

      @@victorarregnelle8976 great, i am a winemaker & viticulturist, and its each to there own, made me have more patience for the most part

  • @Yenseneo
    @Yenseneo 11 месяцев назад

    This really boosted my confidence in the choice I made four years ago wanting long hair I get both sides of the coin some like it some don’t some of my guy friends want my hair short just like some girlfriends like to see me with short hair as well but I think for the men is that they don’t know anyone with long hair and for the women I feel like they feel less feminine because my my hair looks better than them or I get more compliments than them not to sound cocky lol I do get pressured to cut it off and also to keep it but I wanted long hair because of me what you want matters and that’s the end of it.

  • @jaynefoley7516
    @jaynefoley7516 Год назад

    I think the long hair really suits you looks great !

  • @nikolayhristov7064
    @nikolayhristov7064 3 года назад +4

    As a metalhead , in the metal scene , I have long hair and I notice that , if you have short hair and you're a metalhead you dont get taken as seriously than a long haired guy.

  • @LeoInterHyenaem
    @LeoInterHyenaem 2 года назад +1

    "You look like a vegan" - that's quite the compliment!

  • @TIOLIOfficial
    @TIOLIOfficial 10 месяцев назад +2

    Most girls are not gonna go for you if you have long hair. If you goal is hook-ups, most of the girls you're not even gonna get a chance, because it's such a deal breaker. But. The ones you do attract will REALLY love it. It's just that those females are far and few.

    • @concentrateddarkmatter7991
      @concentrateddarkmatter7991 8 месяцев назад

      word as a girl i love love love love long hair on guys so much its almost a fetish at this point 😂
      especially without facial hair
      i just like pretty guys

  • @patrickbourne3819
    @patrickbourne3819 4 года назад +5

    I'm growing my hair out now and I'm curious how this is going to affect getting a job. I'm studying product design and soon I'll be applying to jobs. My suspicion is that long hair will make me more memorable and seem more eccentric which is not necessarily a bad thing in a creative field. Any insight into other peoples experience with job applications and long hair would be great!

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад +1

      Welcome to the journey

    • @jacknitro9163
      @jacknitro9163 3 года назад +1

      From my experience it is definitely a polarizing statement when you have long hair no matter what field you are in but it should not effect your job prospects as long as you keep it somewhat neat. I am a High School teacher with long shoulder length hair and a beard and some visible tattoos, it is not looked down upon at all by my administrators/bosses. When I was hired 4 years ago I had very short hair. I grew it the past couple of years and my students love it I am the cool (not so young) teacher! To be honest tho, I am looking to change school next year a bit worried how I will be judged by the Principal interviewing me but I plan on keeping it up in a bun or styled so it looks neat and not unkempt. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who judge you but I think as long as you keep it neat looking you will be fine! I hope you find an amazing job and are able to keep that mane long!

  • @desoreebrennan7591
    @desoreebrennan7591 3 года назад +1

    This is interesting. I've always dated men with long hair and prefer them. I say do what you're comfortable and happy with and be true to yourself.

  • @liquifex
    @liquifex 3 года назад +1

    First, awesome seeing people stand up for the long hairs. Good video. The only question I have is: Are you using hairspray? lol. It would look fantastic naturally with almost no products except a defrizz spray etc.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад

      I’ve tried virtually every hair product. Don’t use hair spray too often though

  • @FishingForLife28
    @FishingForLife28 3 года назад

    "I wont date a guy with better hair than me" cudos for the honesty, but its your loss. I could give you a hair care routine so good that it would make all the other girls jealous of your shiny, silky locks. I should know, they're jealous of mine

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад

      Nothing better than women being jealous of your hair

    • @FishingForLife28
      @FishingForLife28 3 года назад

      @@alexorlandocross yeah, it was a sad day for my sisters when they had to realise that neither of them had the best hair in the family

  • @erij234
    @erij234 3 года назад

    so thankful for sharing your experience!

  • @s.ansusinha1143
    @s.ansusinha1143 3 года назад

    Thanks bro., i really need this clip to keep it going,.

  • @CousinJesse1
    @CousinJesse1 3 года назад +3

    I’ve been told to cut my hair more than once by potential dates/would-be girlfriends but that is not going to happen. Most girls don’t like men with long hair, and I think that is well studied & proven by now. I love having long hair.

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  3 года назад +2

      I think that’s true but I still think that those who like it, really like it

    • @juancana457
      @juancana457 2 года назад

      If you prefer long hair, it will limit the people who'll want to associate with you. Those who presume I'm a loser, drug abuser or criminal are petty and immature for their presumptions, and, thus, best to be politely avoided, yet a slander accusation slows the overly aggressive. I was a Cardiopulmonalogist for forty years, but still had an idiot ask, "how can you have long hair, you're a doctor?" I thought, "fu€king moron, it doesn't effect brain tissue 🤨. I retired early!

  • @jimiseverus
    @jimiseverus 3 года назад +14

    I have to say... 90% of the females who I speak to go nuts over my long hair in a good way lol

  • @ashleymarlenadandrea8357
    @ashleymarlenadandrea8357 4 года назад +4

    Yes i love men with long hair

  • @innerpeacefindings671
    @innerpeacefindings671 2 года назад +1

    I have been grown my hair in 1 year's now and like how i look. If women dont like my long hair i don't care i just want to be myself.

  • @louik2276
    @louik2276 3 года назад

    Really really good video, absolutely enjoyed it !🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @ChrisGarby
    @ChrisGarby 3 года назад +2

    As a guy who has had long hair for 40 years, It seems right now is the worst time or its just dating itself sucks. Ive tried all the online apps and I literally get no response, likes or comments. Just basically ignored. I don’t care what people think, which is why my hair is down to my waist and I’m not cutting it. People have said cut your hair and you’ll find a girlfriend and then grow it back. Why would I want someone who doesn’t want me for being me. Ive had long hair all my life, never shorter than below my shoulders. I know I’m older at this point and I just do my own thing. For me apps are a waste of time and I’m ok with being single and alone. The 80’s were an awesome time for long hair👍

  • @Lepaulorig
    @Lepaulorig 9 месяцев назад

    I also immidiately started attracting younger women with longer hair.

  • @MTheChequeGuy
    @MTheChequeGuy 3 года назад +2

    I started growing my hair long in 2002 and found out that it was really curly… my niece was born in 2003 and called me “Uncle Simba” because of it… when I donated my hair in 2010, she threw a fit.
    “Uncle Simba, where’s you’re mane?” 🦁

  • @diggs3183
    @diggs3183 3 года назад +1

    This was incredibly motivational

  • @W4ggos
    @W4ggos 7 месяцев назад

    Honestly, I’m open to a lot of stuff and looks too. I love long hair.

  • @CENATIONwweSwagger
    @CENATIONwweSwagger 4 года назад +2

    Personally, I mostly get compliments for my long hair. The only ones who ever told me I looked better with short hair were dudes and, of course, their opinion doesn't concern me as much as a female's would, and even that wouldn't concern me. Point is, experiment, see what works for you and what doesn't. Long hair isn't for everybody but, if you think that it is for you, carry it with confidence and don't let negativity get to you

  • @BigDaddyBsFoods
    @BigDaddyBsFoods Год назад

    Have had short hair all my life (0-28 years old) always had a buzz cut or skin fade with a grade 2 on top. I used to get it cut every week because my hair grows rapidly. I always said I’d grow my hair ‘once in my life’ and 2 years ago I got my first grey hair and I thought I need to do it now rather then when I’m fully grey. I’ve been growing for 2 years and 3 months but my hair is a lot longer than yours as I mentioned ealrier about how quick it grows. I have super thick dense curly hair and I have to say even though it’s took me a good 18 months to get used to not having short hair I really love it in my own way now and have to be honest I get so many compliments on how beautiful, thick and curly it is I don’t think I’ll cut it any time soon. I have a son 3 & half year old son and we have identical hair. I love this also. Great interesting video mate

  • @djfuzzystump
    @djfuzzystump 4 года назад +1

    I found this interesting as a married guy working on growing out his hair. I have a long beard and have found a similar response - women that don't like it are VERY vocal in their disgust (LOL).

    • @alexorlandocross
      @alexorlandocross  4 года назад

      I can definitely relate to that lol

    • @aramis5301
      @aramis5301 4 года назад +1

      And it's really annoying. I don't know what makes them think that it's OK to make fun of guys with long hair, or to tell them to cut it. I have a friend who has very long hair and I was really impressed at how calm he was when people did that to him. I wanted to slap these idiots (telling him he looked like a girl, or he should cut his hair, or whatever). I mean, telling a short-haired woman to grow her hair would seem really crass, so why do they do the opposite? Somehow they must feel legitimate in being rude, because they are enforcing "accepted" social norms.

  • @Aionjimme
    @Aionjimme 4 года назад +2

    I thought it was me, because I only get 33% of the matches compared to when I had shorter hair.
    I think it's not harder to get girls, but your pool is reduced by half (66% in my case). This video helped me so much hearing it from another person with long hair.

  • @nolaboi5042
    @nolaboi5042 3 года назад

    I've been growing my hair my whole life but I've always trimmed it but I'm going to do that nomore just be yourself and do what makes you happy

  • @akaboo69
    @akaboo69 2 года назад

    I don't get the greatest responses on dating apps and well hate apps. But IRL as long my hair is straight and shiny women actually do like it. A female friend told me my hair is pretty. Women at work seem to dig it too.

  • @deathkult
    @deathkult 3 года назад +1

    I'm 41, i started growing my hair when i was 15 because I was possessed by heavy metal at the time haha It definitely hasn't made dating easy, some women love my long hair, some don't at all. In the end all that matters is that I love it. Maybe i'll cut it one day when i feel it's time to change but i'll never do it to feel more attractive to shallow women no matter how hot they can be. To me it has always been a good filter because i never wanted anything to do with people that are so judgemental because of a hair cut (or lack of in my case).

  • @Cute-p9l
    @Cute-p9l 3 года назад

    Awesome vid man I was planning to cut my hair too but I changed my mind 😁

  • @yass3471
    @yass3471 3 года назад +1

    From my personal perspective I believe that the women who won’t date a man with long hair is that he’ll be too attractive and other women will flirt with him for sure and that may cuz a lot of jealousy problems and other things in the relationship, so most of women opt for the safe thing and go with a regular man with a normal hair which is quite popular..

  • @johncapewell7520
    @johncapewell7520 7 месяцев назад

    I've just completely got rid of long hair. The reason. It's a pain in the arse doing anything. Showering becomes a massive chore compared to the ease of washing short hair. You can't just wake up in the morning and not do anything with it, otherwise you look like you have been dragged through a bush. It made me hate wind as all it's good for is messing the hair up. Gets in the way whilst working. The products you have to use to keep it healthy and strong is money that is better spent elsewhere. Honestly, it's a monemtal pain.

  • @SpankyDaTanky
    @SpankyDaTanky 3 года назад +1

    My hair role model is Zach McGowan I really love his whole look

  • @Thadnill
    @Thadnill 7 месяцев назад

    I've honestly come to the realization, that even if a guy can pull of long hair, most of the time he will objectively look always better with short. However, if he can pull of long hair, it might be worth to keep it just for the sake of standing out, even if he would look more "put together" with short, just for the sake of being your true authentic self.
    I do myself look quite put together and attractive with short, and now I have long hair. I think that in terms of women, I am doing myself a slight disservice by having long hair and filtering out some. But I also know that I can pull off long hair, which very few guys in my opinion can do, so I still find it worth it, and in matter of fact - it just feels more like me.
    I'm also more into creative and artistic women, and not the classic normal type, so having long hair usually attracts those type more which suits me better anyway.

  • @Aar0nDown
    @Aar0nDown 2 года назад

    The long hair looks way better on you in my opinion the short hair is not bad but long hair looks better. I find that my hair is so much easier to take care of when it is long now compared to years ago when it was short, try sleeping on a silk pillow case then just a little bit of product to unflatten it in the morning and Your off to start your day, I only where my hair down, just a personal preference, the silk pillow case really saves me lots of time because I can go a few days with out having to fully redo my hair and no need Detangle every single day if you have curly hair like I do. Now because of the silk pillow case I only detangle every other day. If your a guy and you like your hair a certain way who cares what others think about it, all that matters is that you like your hair the way you want to style and or grow it.

  • @SamSlugg456
    @SamSlugg456 2 года назад

    It’s so weird- I can’t see your short hair within your long hair if that makes sense. I haven’t seen your short hair before this video but I can totally easily picture you with short hair. I think it’s the way you’ve got it styled as well as where the color is. Looks great man.

  • @manontherun2565
    @manontherun2565 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for the sharing. Keep it up!

  • @christiaanveltkamp
    @christiaanveltkamp 3 года назад

    Can play the "cute" card much more easily with longer hair I noticed.

  • @cruzcontrol1303
    @cruzcontrol1303 3 года назад +2

    The whole reason I grew out my hair is to defy the norm so consequences are kind of a given