Story 1: 0:55 (Engaged after 3 months) Story 2: 9:30 (Spreadsheet of sex 'excuses') Story 3: 18:10 (Sex on first date?) Story 4 26:45 (Boyfriend points out BO) Story 5: 33:50 (bf hid in the closet) Story 6: 41:15 (girl ghost by faking her death) Story 7: 46:05 (date ex's younger sis) Story 8 : 49:40 (incompatibility or a deal breaker?) Story 9: 55:15 (bf gave bad haircut) Story 10: 1:04:04 (bf eats tuna by candlelight)
exactly my friend would have small panic attacks before every date with her ex, and with her boyfriend now she’s never felt nervous or panicky for any date or meet up.
I have anxiety and panic attacks, and I was so calm the day of the wedding. That panic attack is her whole body trying to tell her to gtfo of that relationship.
It got me because he did it _in a 4 star restaurant._ They're clearly broke. It'll taste about the same at a cheap place. If he throws money at something like that, I'd seriously second guess his financial skills
we need an episode of just the absolute worst of the worst Reddit stories. like stories that just leave you so mindfucked that there was even a sliver of a chance that the person thought they were doing the right thing.
That second couple he 100% gave her excuses for him planning to cheat on her when she is on that work trip and he is a disgusting coward. “i’m still tender from yesterday” means it would hurt for her to have sex he didn’t care that him getting off would cause her physical harm, he is grotesque.
The 2nd story.. he timed it out so that he could go out and sleep with other women for 10 days without her questioning his whereabouts. That’s my guess..
@@Sarakatiuska most people know the whole "crazy cat lady" stereotype .. us parrot owners bring a whole new level of crazy to the table 🤪😂 being able to sit through 30+ minutes of 3 macaws plus a cockatoo having a screaming match, daily, is not for the faint of heart (or those who enjoy their ability to hear long term) 😂
I started my relationship at 23 and we are 41 now. Sometimes when you know, you know. So I teach my kids about red flags and evaluations of people. I was in a terrible relationship early on, and it was baptism by fire. I learned so much. So maybe that was the different. But I definitely want my kids thinking on it and being rational about love choices. But if they find their true other half young like I did, I want them to be happy.
spreadsheet story: specifically the part about cleaning up after her husband… “mothering” her husband does not help with the sex drive either. men who want wives who will do all of the household chores and also give them sex all the time, aka men who ‘keep score’ like this guy, will never find that because it sounds like they’ve got some Oedipal shit going on. if you have to treat your spouse like a child, all that romance and sex goes out the window. all of this, of course, notwithstanding any prior agreements. the situations i’m describing include a complete lack of communication and mutual respect
Repeatedly cleaning up a man’s pee from around the toilet and scrubbing phlegm and toothpaste out of the sink really can put a damper on the sex drive.
I was thinking the same mommy doesn’t want to have sex with her man baby… he needs to grow up and also the way he just asks for sex…. He needs to actually DO SOMETHING TO TURN HER ON! Give her the love language she feels the most and be sincere and I bet!! She would actually want his D. That couple has way more issues than sex.
First story. The guy sounds like he will be abusive towards her. He is breaking her down to his level which is why she isn’t her self anymore. He is trying to trap her so that he doesn’t have to act like a nice guy for too long. IMO.
for the spreadsheet guy, im pretty sure he said he tried for sex 27 times over three weeks. she said yes three times which is once a week. that is perfectly normal for a busy ass women this dude is literally insane
Story 1: this isn’t bf sickness, to me that is when you get wrapped up in a new love. What I feel this story is, the beginnings of an abusive relationship. It shows the beginning signs of a conman story and possibly DV. Changes in victims behaviour, isolation from friends and family, rushed marriage, no job…. Also it’s like he is looking for a mother replacement. This is like the beginnings of all the stories that start on true crime. I’d recommend getting a psychologist’s opinion on how to handle the situation as confronting the friend could lead to her further isolation herself from her friends and family. Then when it all goes down the loo, and it will, she may stay longer as she feels like she has no one to confide in. It’s a delicate situation and needs to be handled properly. Good luck.
You’re not wrong, but it’s going to be hard for her friends to express concern that will be taken seriously if they continue to get hung up on things like how he wants his steak cooked. That has ZERO to do with the relationship and sounds horribly classist. They need to stick to legitimate concerns.
To the guy with the spreadsheet: if that wasn’t enough reason to leave already, his wife said “I’m too drunk” and he heard an excuse?? I’d be worried what he’d teach children about consent, or (God forbid) try to force on her if she stayed…
the spreadsheet story is a huge fear of mine, no joke. I have a relatively low sex drive naturally, but being on SSRI's has completely turned my sex drive off and I am ALWAYS afraid my partner is gonna pull some shit like this on me (even though he has given me NO reason to think that!!!!)
SO GLAD to see I’m not alone. Wow. You have no idea how seen this comment made me feel. I am the exact same - low sex drive naturally, but medication I’m on has completely depleted it. I’m always worried about how my partner (of 3 years) is feeling, and constantly insecure about it. Even though same, she has given me no reason to think that way and she is so incredible to me.
@@Asj0107 Right?! I've also been told countless times how important sex is for relationship happiness. Also, like you said, it isn't seen like... ever? So it makes us feel kind of worthless/like we're weird. But you are right. it IS normal! Maybe not normal for everyone, but for some ppl it is!
@@amandaleighplans you are definitely not alone and I totally feel you! I'm sorry you have to feel insecure about it as well, but maybe one day we will feel comfortable not having to feel like we need to be having sex "all the time".... (STG I must annoy my partner because I'm always asking for validation with this). I'm glad your partner is supportive. You got a good one
me too! i have a low sex drive too and i am on antidepressants which makes it EVEN worse. luckily i found a guy that never even mentions sex to me and always asks if im comfortable, trust him because not all guys are pigs
The closet and air tag one is actually scary . First he breaks into her house and spys on her , then he trys to track her? That is some controlling and scary behaviour . He sounds so manipulative too, like the way he trys to justify himself and act like he is a good guy. So glad she left him!!
As a fellow hairstylist I give that girl full permission to cuss that man out and drag his name. As an apprentice stylist in school you should never expect money from the model and if you get a tip that means you did a good job. If you completely botch someone's shit they deserve a refund from the school and a complementary service with a different student to make a mends with the client. That's basic customer service in the beauty industry.
I feel like if he cut her hair in the salon it would be one thing as he might not be able to do it for free when on the clock. Or asking her to cover the cost of colouring if he had dyed it but there is just something odd about this...
the fourth story is quite literally exactly what i went through in my last relationship. it completely tears you down and dehumanizes you in a way you can’t understand unless it happens to you. still to this day, i am so severely paranoid about smelling bad that it affects every aspect of my life. at the end of our relationship, he ADMITTED to saying all of those things just to hurt me. no other reason. hearing that story made me physically ill.
2nd story, spreadsheet guy: Sex 3 times in 7 weeks isn’t even that bad... that’s about once every other weekend, which is totally understandable for busy couples. But 27 attempts?? That’s so much. Who has the time to have sex 27 times in 7 weeks. That’s like 4 times every single week, which is a LOT for people working over full time hours like the OP was doing, on top of all the housework and taking care of the husband like he’s a baby. That’s just unreasonable and physically impossible unless that man lasts under 5 minutes. Which, given his attitude, it’s likely he doesn’t last long and definitely doesn’t reciprocate for his wife.
I feel the opposite. NOT SAYING HE WAS RIGHT AT ALL. But I'd probably die if I only have sex 3 times in 7 weeks. I need it at least every other day. If I hit day 3 without it I'm like moody and neeeeed it lol we are in the same boat too we both work full time and take care of the house no kids
@@allisonmarino3707 I'm more like you for my drive, but my partner and I are doing long-distance for the moment, so it's been close to a year without. Before my partner, it likely would have been a deal-breaker, but I've found that if you care enough about the person, hard though it may be, you get through it.
Listening to Tinx explain her box theory, I just realized I literally experienced that exact thing. I had a guy friend I met my senior year of high school. I developed a crush on him pretty quick - he was tall, could act (I was a theatre kid lol), and actually genuinely nice to me, which was a rarity in high school - but he had a girlfriend and nothing ever came of it. When I started college after a gap year, we reconnected and started hanging out regularly. He became my movie buddy. We watched favorites we both loved, films one of us hadn't seen, and went to the movie theater regularly to check out new films. He introduced me to the Matrix films, which I adore, and the Witcher series. In all honesty, he was my best friend for about two years. We would stay up all night talking about literally anything and there were a couple times I found myself sneaking back into my place at 6am because we'd lost track of time. Over time, my feelings for him just got deeper and eventually expanded beyond romantic (I'm demisexual, for reference. It's on the asexuality spectrum). He was one of the few people I was comfortable and even craved being physically close to. Hugs, cuddling during movies, etc. One night, though, he asked if he could try something and kissed me. We ended up making out but I, a virgin, was 100% NOT ready to go any further than kissing and turned down his attempts at trying for something more before eventually leaving for the night. The next day, I confessed my feelings to him over text but he didn't really respond to that. In fact, he avoided me for a few weeks. When we finally got together again, after I asked him for a ride home from the train station after a class, he told me that he wanted to just be friends. I was disappointed and broken hearted. Tbh, I kind of ghosted him for a while because I was so hurt. Not great, in hindsight, but this was the first time I'd dealt with anything like this and I was only 20 at the time. I'd never felt those feelings that strongly before. When we did talk again, he asked if I liked kissing him and I told him yes, because that was the truth. He said he liked it to and was down to do more of that, just without actually dating. Once again, hi. Virgin (not anymore lol) who just got kissed for the first time and then had their heart broken. I was NOT down for friends with benefits and told him so. All or nothing. Needless to say, our friendship fizzled after that. He made some attempts at reconnecting and I gave him a few chances but things really fell off once I met and eventually started dating my current girlfriend (we'll have out 1.5 yr anniversary in February and legit, it's the easiest relationship I've ever had. We of course have our differences and stuff to work through, but from the start it's just been the easiest relationship I've ever had). Looking back on my time with that guy now, it's VERY clear that all he wanted from the beginning was friends with benefits and nothing more. He never saw me as relationship material, not once. I wish I'd known it then but well. You live and you learn 🤷 I'm very happy now, btw. My girlfriend and I are planning to move in together soon (she's in charge of laundry as long as I do the dishes) and even the boring conversations about stuff like finances have me hyped AF. I think that's a good sign 🥰️
If I wanted to hook up with a friend (which I don't think I would unless I was 100% certain we both had no romantic feelings) I'd make it very clear. But also they'd still be my friend if they turned it down. I'm still extremely close to my exes where we started out as friends because we genuinely care and love eachother it's just not romantic.
My boyfriend threw up on me in the shower on our second date (interestingly, the anniversary of this incident is today). We live together now. If you click with someone, you click with them regardless of anything awkward that happens
Story 1: How does someone who doesn't have a job paying for a wedding?! I would talk to my friend 1 on 1 and let her know my concerns but let her know I will support her even if I don't like it but I could never live with myself if I didn't tell her!
Story 4 - has me....shaking and totally heartbroken for both of them. The son doesn't even realize what he is doing and what his father has done to him. Most of all GOOD FOR HER for not feeling badly and getting out of that mess. Holy cow.
In relation to the first story - I have been there, almost exactly the same circumstances. My best friend went through the same thing. She met this guy when she was 17. No matter what we told her, it just rolled off her like water off a ducks back. The one thing that stuck, I think, was “if you feel like you have to lie about it, you already know it’s wrong”. It took her 4 years to come to her senses, with a crap tonne of trauma. She’s so lucky she got out when she did.
for the first story, it sounds like the friend is in an abusive relationship. her friend should share articles or something about what emotional and mentally abusive relationships look like so she can recognize the signs
agreed. no guy waits four months to have sex with you just to drop you right after. if that's all they want, and you dont, thell run soon after. thats the whole point of lots of women waiting, me included. if you dont agree to wait, you dont want a relationship and I can't trust you, or at the very least, we dont mesh together.
The tuna sandwich story made me think of how my friend and I went to Walmart in the middle of the night, bought a rotisserie chicken, barbecue sauce, and ginger ale and went and ate it in her room at 2am. That became something that we did a lot, we always tried a different barbecue sauce, and people thought it was super weird 😂
I audibly screamed when I saw Tinx was the guest host, two of the first accounts I found on tiktok that I LOVE and watch/listen to religiously! Please have her on again! Such a good episode!
Thank you for telling me this new term “boyfriend sickness”. My friend was dating this guy for about 2 weeks. This man treated me like absolute trash and she would just laugh it off. She would slowly pull away from me and I noticed it right away. The last straw was when he boyfriend, who again hated me, started knowing things I told her in confidence. I couldn’t handle it anymore so I told her I couldn’t be around her boyfriend. Her response was ending a 6 year relationship over a man she just started dating.
Is anyone else wondering if the girl from story 1 pregnant? She stopped drinking, changed feelings (hormones?), shotgun wedding?? And she’s defensive because that’s her unborn child’s dad?? Thats what it seems like to me
With the 4th story.. I can relate very hard. My ex bf always said “who asked” or “who cares” when I would talk to him. At first it was a joke, yk everybody says it every now & then jokingly. But he said it ALL the time to the point I stopped speaking a lot & also came to the conclusion that nobody cared about what I had to say. This is real. I had suspicions of this being an act of control but didn’t truly know until listening to this. Thank you so much & to all that struggle with this, you’re not alone 💗
Haircut guy ABSOLUTELY sabotaged his girlfriend while simultaneously putting the end of the relationship on her. I LOVED this episode. I’ve never seen Tinx before and I am OBSESSED, even though I’m happily married 😂
I took that story differently I think he's a student and just sucks at cutting hair. Like it started where she wanted it but to make it even it got shorter.
@@karil6461 yeah no, gonna have to disagree. He was charging her to cut it and typically students get hair models for free because it’s a mutual agreement that you’re allowing someone who does not totally know how to cut hair to cut your hair, immediately started cutting it short, which I’m pretty sure day one they’re gonna tell you don’t start at the length they want because you’re still going to need to cut shorter to style and give it dimension/shape etc., she never mentions that he is a student or an apprentice or at all that he doesn’t already know how to cut hair. I stand by my statement that he purposefully sabotaged her hair 🤷🏻♀️
I ended a friendship due to boyfriend sickness.Her and this guy started dating. For backstory, me and this guy used to be friends because he was best friends with my parents friends son that lived down the street and so we all got together a lot! I considered these guys brothers. Fast forward, he and my friend start dating and he completely flipped. He was rude to me and would either not acknowledge me or be a straight up asshole. I was dating my boyfriend (now husband) at the time too and we all went to the same youth group together. We would hand out and play dodgeball before service and I noticed my friends boyfriend kept aiming for me. And not just aiming but he would put ALL his force behind the ball when he would throw it. It got to the point that he aimed for my ankle so when I jumped to try and dodge it it hit my ankle so hard it knocked my leg back and it hit the wall behind me. I fell and managed to get off to the side and I was trying not to cry from the pain. Before my boyfriend came to check on me he overhears him tell my friend,”I don’t know why she’s being dramatic it’s dodgeball.” To which my friend replied,”Yeah it’s dodgeball.” My boyfriend was PISSED. He came to check on me and told me we need to leave or else I’m going to punch this guy. I tried having a conversation with my friend about it later that night and all she said was that I was overreacting and it’s not like I broke my ankle. When I would spend the night(which was VERY frequent because we lived around the corner from each other) and if he called her she would tell me,”Shut up here quiet you’re not here.” And she would answer the phone and talk to him for like an hour and I would just be sitting there. And if he knew I was staying over he’d ask why Is she there? Does she always have to be there? She moved to another city 3 hours away for school and she would come visit and not tell me and just visit with him for a couple of days and would call me when she was heading back home already. It got to the point where I had enough and told her she completely changed and she shouldn’t be treating her best friend like shit because of her boyfriend and that she never stood up for me but always defended him. Of course she denied it all and was bitter and that was that. Last I heard she moved back to our town and that got a place together and had a kid together. All the other friends she had too before she moved she cut off for him. Sorry for the long comment but moral of the story, don’t put up with bad friends. You deserve better. Unless they’re in danger then try to help as much as you can!
I can bet you ANYTHING that he had feelings for you and/or your friend knew that and was jealous. OR he didn’t have feelings but she thought he might have, so he was purposefully mean to you so it wouldn’t seem like he did.
interesting about the box theory, have definitely waited for sex then got dumped right after, then slept with a guy on the first date, now we're getting married. there's no consistency, just be open and clear from the beginning on what you want
first story: it's actually kinda nice and comforting to hear 24 - 25 is an immature age cause I'm 25 RN and I feel like life's getting real but I'm still so clueless I got my job I'm eating right, I'm sleeping good I work out I'm paying my own bills but goddman I'm so immature sometimes, specially when it comes to relationships and I was feeling bad about it cause I was putting so much pressure on myself feeling like I needed to be so much more mature thinking that I should be dating the person I'm gonna marry and it's crazy cause idk if I even wanna get married someday, idk it's just so good hearing you guys say that I'm listening SM to this podcast I'm starting to feel like you're my friends lol, sending love from Brazil
Box theory: I don't have sex with guys on the first date and they still lose interest sometimes. At times I've wondered the opposite of OP. I don't think it matters if u do or don't, as much as compatibility
Hell, one time I had a great date with a guy, brought him to my apartment for a few hours (no sex happened lmao), he initiated a make out in the parking lot before he left, and never spoke to me again.
The last story is so wholesome compared to all the others. The fact that he offered for her to join him, she declined and they laughed about it tells me they have a lovely and healthy relationship. I hope OP and Tuna Man have a long, happy future together
Loved this episode but just wanted to say one thing on checking phones. That is usually what saves a lot of people from being held hostage by a cheating partner. Cuz that’s what cheating is - a form of holding your partner in a relationship against their will (cuz guarantee that cheating partner is lying and gaslighting to prevent the partner they are cheating on from leaving) in which their consent is being violated. saying ‘just have a mature convo with your partner about your worries’ is incredibly naive. Most cheating partners will not disclose. Even after finding evidence many cheating partners continue to lie. In my opinion, if I have to violate your privacy to prevent my own consent from continuing to be violated that’s fair game. Phones are deeply personal but so are peoples bodies and bodily autonomy. ESP in situations where the couple may be doing sexually risky things because they think they’re in a monogamous relationship only to then have an STD passed to them from someone they were told they could trust.
I understand where you're coming from, but as the same time I think it's one of those things of if you don't trust them why are you still with them? Yes people have validated cheating by snoping but if your partner isn't cheating than they are going to lose respect for you for snoping. Like with that story if she had actually been cheating and he burst out the closet it'd make for an interesting story or like a tiktok exposed video and people would more likely excuse it because he was right and he caught her. Which is what you're saying in the phone situation, if they're right then it can be excused. But if that person is wrong and they're partner isn't doing anything than it comes off as really controlling and possessive behavior.
If someone is cheating and lying to you about it, then they will lie to you about other things in the relationship especially if it’s starting to get toxic. That alone is all the proof you need that they’re being dishonest and aren’t right for you. You don’t need proof of infidelity in order to leave.
If you feel the need to their check phone, because you can’t trust them. That’s when you leave. Do not be in a relationship with someone you can’t trust
wow!!! i am a newer subscriber and this has so far been one of my favorite episodes!!! i love tinx and am so glad to have been able to listen. i sent it to my sister who is 9 years younger than me and told her i wanted a 2 page paper on what she learned lol! wish someone had told all this to me when i was younger, but then again maybe i wouldn’t have listened 🤷🏻♀️
Is it just me, or did anyone else get the vibe that the little sister was that guys goal the entire time? I mean, who in their right mind thinks after being told it’s not working out that they should try their luck with their ex’s younger sister? It’s honestly very odd that he mentioned his ex being very protective of her sister when it comes to boyfriends. It’s like he knew that his ex wouldn’t approve of him, so he came up with this elaborate scheme to date the older sister to show her what a “great guy” he is (and from the sounds of it sleeping with her would’ve been a bonus). Then, he would make the dates mediocre as possible to have the sister lose interest (but he’ll still act like the great guy he is). And finally, when they break up he’ll ask her if it’s ok if he asks her sister out and of course in his (deranged) fantasy, she’ll say yes and tell him that he’s the best choice for her baby sister.
I love the toast in the milk story! I’m not sure if it’s just me and my family or a Latin thing but I dip my toast in coffee or pan dulce in coffee sometimes!
I liked having Tinx as a guest! She was very short yet thorough w her take on the stories :) usually I find myself having to skip bc the opinions are too long and I just want to get to the other stories bc I’m so eager to hear what’s next lol Great pick!
Met the love of my life at the age of 15. It's been 8 years since we got together and we'll be celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary in June. We're not perfect, but love each other dearly and are super stable. Our friends and family are super supportive so I agree. When it clicks it clicks and you'll know when it's right even if you're young. That doesn't sound like their relationship is checking any of the boxes though. 🤔
Omg that *second to last story actually triggered me. I was shocked from the moment she said “oo half off was a great deal so I decided to do it” THE EFF? Then I can’t even begin to process how he asked for the money after the fact. BUY A MANNEQUIN YOU PSYCHO! 😂
Boyfriend in closet story seemed like a possible troll. But then the accidental air tag in the bag thing made it 100% troll. No way is someone that stupid. 😂
@@ashleyjade95 I 1000% agree it’s scary af. I just think someone putting it in a bag where you’re clearly going to see it is really dumb. I just feel under a car shows the person is at least trying to be sneaky. But scary none the less.
Story 2) to me it sounds like he always approached her at the most inopportune times didn’t try any seduction technique, didn’t try to bring any romance into it he just asked at inconvenient times and made no effort to communicate
Ahh my favorites!! Loved the dynamic hope Tinx guest stars again in the future!! Something about the ep that stood out to me: that boyfriend syndrome. It happened to my best friend but instead it was with his girlfriend. He was so blinded by her, that he isolated himself from friend, family, social life, from me (who he said i was the more important person in his life). And even though ppl would tell him she was toxic, he couldn’t & wouldn’t break up w her. Long story short, he was able to get out of the relationship, though it took him awhile to re-find himself, he’s happier and more confident in what he wants in a relationship now. Hope it doesn’t happen again, it hurt to see him go through that but also hurt me tremendously when he abandoned everyone he cared about.
My pet bird (macaw, so large pet bird) has definitely gotten in the way of many relationships. People underestimate the time they require, especially when you only have one. They're social creatures that need love and attention daily. It was super hard dating at first (I got divorced, ex ended up with the dogs and I the bird) but I finally found a guy that understands my commitment. It just takes the right person, and he's been shopping for a permanent cage I can keep at his house so both of us can spend time with him.
Do you guys have another podcast you listen to that is similar to this ?? This is hands down my favorite and I need another to fill my time between Thursdays 😭😂
I got married at 23 and so did both my sisters and my mum got married at 19 so far I have been married for a year living with my husband in our own house, my sisters have been married for +10 years and my parents 37 years it's really communication that makes or breaks a relationship.
@@TwoHotTakes haha we are Australian so we joke around allot and there isn't as much stress with free healthcare etc, I feel that might also play a huge part and we have a great support system positive parents and families.
1st story "[friend] doesn't see the red flags!" was he manipulative, rude, dismissive, just straight up abusive? "He ordered a well done steak at a 4 star restaurant ..." Not my preference but it isn't a red flag ordering/preferring well done steak.
Exactly my thoughts. the friend was complaining that the girlfriend doesn't drink anymore too. I didn't hear any examples of what the boyfriend was actually doing to be abusive or toxic. Sure the relationship was moving extremely fast and it's alarming from an outside view. Maybe they just had this insane connection. I got more super obsessive jealous friend vibes than toxic relationship vibes.
Unpopular opinion but I don’t hate ghosting! I feel like no answer is an answer and especially after just a few dates or conversations, I don’t think it’s deep enough that you need to end the situation so formally. If they liked you, they’d keep in contact. Also, I think I’d honestly rather never get a text back than hear someone tell me they don’t feel a connection/don’t like me.
I think conversations versus dates are completely different. If you've gone on a few dates with someone you can have the courtesy of shooting them a text saying "I don't think we're compatible." It's not like you have to respond more after that. It's just better than them waiting around for days wondering when you're going to respond or if you're okay.
Story 2: People don't realize that if you started treating your partner like a partner your sex life improves. Before my partner wouldn't do much to help but since watching these podcasts I've been able to sit him down and talk to him about my frustrations. Let it be known our partnership and intimacy has improved alot. Simple things go a long way and you should already be doing those simple things such is just a bonus lol.
I thought eating in the bathroom is weird, and then I had kids and found myself crying in the bathroom stuffing my face with some hostess zingers in the evening of a particularly rough day
I know this is really out there to but can you sometime do stories about couples not being on the same page in their sexual pleasures and parenting please cause I would love to know how other parents are dealing with relationship being flipped upside down after having a child .
@@TwoHotTakes yes your sister in law or any close friends cause they have more understanding cause they have kids. I have one child that’s 2 but to get alone time seems impossible
@@TwoHotTakes maybe stories where the parenting might leave one or both parents neglecting their partner? Like talking about not spreading yourself so thin with parenting life that you don't forget your partner or something?
Not through experience, but I've been told that scheduling regular date nights (with intentions to get intimate) works for a lot of people. Scheduled intimacy might sound boring, but if you try to see it as self-/couple-care ....or as sneaking away if you need that thrill.... it seems like a practical and needed step in a relationship. Also, make sure you're both honest, open, and kind to your partner in discussing both partners' needs.
When I was with my child's father he was so manipulative and pretty much brain washed me. I look back on all the stuff that he said and did and I don't even recognize myself and who I used to be I can't imagine if I had married him. Like example he told me I was disgusting and all the time and he could even have sex with me because he'd get sick because I slept with one of his old classmates he hated. This was 5 years before I met him or even knew of him.
For the one who can’t get past the first date hook up, there is something more. I know a girl who gets into bed pretty quick and she thinks that’s the reason guys don’t want her, but she’s also in her 30s, lives with her parents with mountains of debt, and is incredible dramatic. I feel like those other issues are a much bigger concern than a first date hookup could ever be.
Loveee Justin’s take on we have a great story to tell no matter what happens on the wedding day. We got married in a barn had a pig roast. My entire bridal party was doing keg stands the cops came down after pulling over one of our guest and said he heard there was good food. We fed him he hand cuffed us put us in the car and let us take photos with the cop car. Then our bridal party ended up in a fist fight in the lobby and the we did have a whole cop situation for realssss 😂 but it’s still one of my favorite memories of the night hahaha
Hi Morgan! Loooove this podcast. Just wondering if you’d ever be interested in doing an r/GlitchInTheMatrix episode? It’s my favourite subreddit lol it really messes with your head, maybe do some of the top posts of all time! I’d looove to hear your thoughts on them!
I believe in the "box theory". My now husband and I talked for about a year before meeting. Once we met, that was it. He later told me that before we met he knew I'd play a huge role in his life or that I was "the one". Honestly, our relationship is so... easy in a way. We communicate extremely well. This will be our 9 yr anniversary of being together this year. We talked for years about how we would want to raise our children. We now have 2 (2 yr old and 4 month old). We're on the same page with everything.... but we're also awesome at communication. Didn't know Tinx before,but now I really like her. Her and I have a lot of the same takes... and she's right on. Loved this one.
When Tinx was talking about being home alone and trying random food concoctions and how "everybody does it" I thought about me and my little sister. I haven't lived with her almost 3 years and she's a teen now but I'm currently visiting and among all our similarities we also both experiment with random kitchen concoctions. We're both Virgos so I wondered if Tinx was and sure enough her birthday is 3 days after mine lmao.
The guy who butchered his girlfriend’s hair absolutely did it on purpose. He definitely wanted to end things with her, didn’t want to be the one to end it, and so he made sure he did something that was break up worthy.
This episode was so awesome. I didnt know your quest but they were great match for you and knew what theyre talking about. Hope you Can have them on your podcast again!
Couldn't wait for it so I'm listening on Spotify.. I'll still watch it again on YT tho :') looove the podcasts with Tinx I've already learned a lot from this episode
This is an old podcast episode but I’m at the part about ghosting, and I just want to add my two cents and share my mom’s experience. Sorry for the long comment. My mom loved dating before she met my dad. She’s a beautiful woman and broke a lot of hearts back in the early 90s, but was always honest and upfront with people if she didn’t see them as more than a fun date every now and then. She went on a few dates with this one dude, who was super nice and funny, but just wasn’t her type romantically. She calls him up one day to tell him that she doesn’t see their relationship ever becoming a romantic one, but hopes they can remain friends. On the phone, he takes it really well, and invites her out for a drink as a friend. My mom agrees, and away they go. When she shows up, dude starts yelling at her in front of the entire bar, saying my mom is a bitch, a slut, a whore, every name in the book. My mom was completely shocked and genuinely thought he was going to hit her or worse, that was how angry he was getting. He was also super tall and muscular, while she was 5’2” and tiny. I don’t exactly remember how the story ends, but after physically trapping her in some corner of the bar with him for a while, swearing her out and getting progressively more livid and threatening, he was either kicked out or she managed to get out of there some other way. From then on, if she ever told a guy she was no longer interested in them, she never, ever went out with them alone, and rarely saw them again. No matter how nice they seemed. Moral of the story: Ghosting is bad, for sure. But some men truly are unpredictable and can completely change once they’ve been rejected, so I understand why some women and femmes may feel like ghosting is the safer route. My message here isn’t that ghosting is the solution, I’m a firm believer that you should absolutely be honest about your intentions when dating and usually being honest as no downsides-but be careful out there. If it’s only been one or two dates and you’ve only seen the side of someone they want you to see, consider only seeing them again if it’s in a group, or in an extremely public setting. Tell people where you’re going and when you expect to be back. Sit at the bar in direct view of the bartender. Don’t depend on them for a ride, have a safe way home that doesn’t involve them. Sorry again for the long comment, just wanted to share what my mom taught me.
That first story really hit home, I live in Utah and everyone here gets married extremely fast and young. My parents got engaged and married within 5 moths of meeting each other. Shits crazy.
Story 1: 0:55 (Engaged after 3 months)
Story 2: 9:30 (Spreadsheet of sex 'excuses')
Story 3: 18:10 (Sex on first date?)
Story 4 26:45 (Boyfriend points out BO)
Story 5: 33:50 (bf hid in the closet)
Story 6: 41:15 (girl ghost by faking her death)
Story 7: 46:05 (date ex's younger sis)
Story 8 : 49:40 (incompatibility or a deal breaker?)
Story 9: 55:15 (bf gave bad haircut)
Story 10: 1:04:04 (bf eats tuna by candlelight)
I 💙you
Bless you ❤️
You deserve everything
THANK YOU
may you always have the cold side of the pillow and have the best sleep
The girl had a panic attack when he proposed. Isn't that your body telling hell no?
exactly my friend would have small panic attacks before every date with her ex, and with her boyfriend now she’s never felt nervous or panicky for any date or meet up.
I have anxiety and panic attacks, and I was so calm the day of the wedding. That panic attack is her whole body trying to tell her to gtfo of that relationship.
yes!!!!!!!!
TW
I went on a few dates with someone and always felt sick to my stomach after. He later went on to assault me
100%
First story: I’m dead af at OP throwing in “orders steak well done” with the list of red flags 😂😂 definitely serial killer vibes
exactly why did they just brush that off
Lmaoo def a deal breaker in my book
It got me because he did it _in a 4 star restaurant._ They're clearly broke. It'll taste about the same at a cheap place. If he throws money at something like that, I'd seriously second guess his financial skills
Im dying at that comment as well lol
There is no such thing as a “valid/invalid” excuse to not want to have sex. Just saying “I don’t want to” or “no” is enough
facts🗣
“no is a full sentence” !!
Exactly! You aren’t OWED sex,
facts! even in marriage, sex should and must be consented
@@adora1308 no is the only word that needs to be said disscussion over
Spread sheet guy is cheating and that’s probably his way to blame her for his actions.
Thats why he dropped it on her while at a work trip. So he can bang as many women as he can.
hold up... I totally wasn't think this... but ur so right!
That was my first thought. He’s atrocious and disgusting.
My thoughts as well…
Exactly my thoughts. He would be like “well what was I supposed to do, look how often you decline sex!”
we need an episode of just the absolute worst of the worst Reddit stories. like stories that just leave you so mindfucked that there was even a sliver of a chance that the person thought they were doing the right thing.
How did you know next weeks theme ;)
Can’t wait for this!!
I second this notion!
@@TwoHotTakes HELL YES
@@TwoHotTakes Omg!!
That second couple he 100% gave her excuses for him planning to cheat on her when she is on that work trip and he is a disgusting coward.
“i’m still tender from yesterday” means it would hurt for her to have sex he didn’t care that him getting off would cause her physical harm, he is grotesque.
i agree, and the "im too drunk"... its literally disgusting he saw that as an excuse
@@soggybread44382 exactly
The fact that he called them “excuses” like wtf is wrong with him
That’s what I’m saying. She said she’s tender from yesterday and he’s taking that as an excuse
you know when you’ve watched too many reddit podcast when you start hearing the same stories twice
I have heard that poop knife story about 5x now
What other reddit podcasts do you listen to? I find them very entertaining and would love to see what else is out there.
@@njc1304 lostgenere ir really good ☺
The 2nd story.. he timed it out so that he could go out and sleep with other women for 10 days without her questioning his whereabouts. That’s my guess..
I feel like he knew it would ruin her trip and put her in an anxious state and he wanted her to suffer.
Speaking of couples, Justin and Morgan are precious
fr justin is such a sweet, pure boy. i love him for morgan
Absolutely
Agreed
We all should be invited to the wedding ❤❤❤❤
@@helgadawn83 live streamed!
For the second story, she doesn’t even need to have a valid excuse. “No” is a full sentence.
tinx: if I walked into a guy's house and he had a bird I'd be out
me, sitting here single as fuck with my 5 parrots: 🤡🦜🦜🦜🦜🦜
This comment made me laugh harder than it should have 😂
@@localcalysta5619 starting to think guys think like tinx.. 😂😩
I don't understand what is the deal or why is a red flag to have birds... Please, enlighten me hahaha
@@Sarakatiuska most people know the whole "crazy cat lady" stereotype .. us parrot owners bring a whole new level of crazy to the table 🤪😂 being able to sit through 30+ minutes of 3 macaws plus a cockatoo having a screaming match, daily, is not for the faint of heart (or those who enjoy their ability to hear long term) 😂
I 100% agree though. A parrot especially is a red flag. Sorry.
My parents got engaged at 24 after 3 months, and they've been together for 28 years.. They always told my brother and me to NEVER do what they did
😂 perfect example of "Do what I say, not what I do"
I started my relationship at 23 and we are 41 now. Sometimes when you know, you know. So I teach my kids about red flags and evaluations of people. I was in a terrible relationship early on, and it was baptism by fire. I learned so much. So maybe that was the different. But I definitely want my kids thinking on it and being rational about love choices. But if they find their true other half young like I did, I want them to be happy.
Story 1: Am i the only one who went "Moody, won't touch alcohol, sudden wedding...she's pregnant, this is a shotgun wedding."
oh that’s immediately what i thought .. and then she started talking about boyfriend sickness and i was like “shit that sounds more likely”
That makes a lot of sense! It seems so obvious now that you say it but it didn't occur to me at all even though I have been pregnant lol
spreadsheet story: specifically the part about cleaning up after her husband… “mothering” her husband does not help with the sex drive either. men who want wives who will do all of the household chores and also give them sex all the time, aka men who ‘keep score’ like this guy, will never find that because it sounds like they’ve got some Oedipal shit going on. if you have to treat your spouse like a child, all that romance and sex goes out the window. all of this, of course, notwithstanding any prior agreements. the situations i’m describing include a complete lack of communication and mutual respect
Say it louder for the people in the back!!
Repeatedly cleaning up a man’s pee from around the toilet and scrubbing phlegm and toothpaste out of the sink really can put a damper on the sex drive.
I was thinking the same mommy doesn’t want to have sex with her man baby… he needs to grow up and also the way he just asks for sex…. He needs to actually DO SOMETHING TO TURN HER ON! Give her the love language she feels the most and be sincere and I bet!! She would actually want his D. That couple has way more issues than sex.
Right, like she is on a work trip so she clearly works a full-time job just like him but she's doing his chores?? No wonder she's too tired.
First story. The guy sounds like he will be abusive towards her. He is breaking her down to his level which is why she isn’t her self anymore. He is trying to trap her so that he doesn’t have to act like a nice guy for too long. IMO.
💯 he is love bombing her and trying to lock it down ASAP so he can drop that mask.
My thoughts exactly he’s given the red flags of a potential abuser
for the spreadsheet guy, im pretty sure he said he tried for sex 27 times over three weeks. she said yes three times which is once a week. that is perfectly normal for a busy ass women this dude is literally insane
HE TRIED EVERY DAY LMAO
It was 7 weeks
@@madilynvienna It was over 7 weeks
@@jennifercardenas7071 idk how that changes anything.
@@jennifercardenas7071 that's still 3-4 times a week which is about every other day... doesn't make it any different
Story 1: this isn’t bf sickness, to me that is when you get wrapped up in a new love. What I feel this story is, the beginnings of an abusive relationship. It shows the beginning signs of a conman story and possibly DV. Changes in victims behaviour, isolation from friends and family, rushed marriage, no job…. Also it’s like he is looking for a mother replacement. This is like the beginnings of all the stories that start on true crime. I’d recommend getting a psychologist’s opinion on how to handle the situation as confronting the friend could lead to her further isolation herself from her friends and family. Then when it all goes down the loo, and it will, she may stay longer as she feels like she has no one to confide in. It’s a delicate situation and needs to be handled properly. Good luck.
This is exactly my thoughts
This was my immediate first thought as well.
Was thinking the same thing
This is a sound comment. You've put this situation so eloquently and gave a another perspective. Thank you.
You’re not wrong, but it’s going to be hard for her friends to express concern that will be taken seriously if they continue to get hung up on things like how he wants his steak cooked. That has ZERO to do with the relationship and sounds horribly classist. They need to stick to legitimate concerns.
To the guy with the spreadsheet: if that wasn’t enough reason to leave already, his wife said “I’m too drunk” and he heard an excuse?? I’d be worried what he’d teach children about consent, or (God forbid) try to force on her if she stayed…
the spreadsheet story is a huge fear of mine, no joke. I have a relatively low sex drive naturally, but being on SSRI's has completely turned my sex drive off and I am ALWAYS afraid my partner is gonna pull some shit like this on me (even though he has given me NO reason to think that!!!!)
SO GLAD to see I’m not alone. Wow. You have no idea how seen this comment made me feel. I am the exact same - low sex drive naturally, but medication I’m on has completely depleted it. I’m always worried about how my partner (of 3 years) is feeling, and constantly insecure about it. Even though same, she has given me no reason to think that way and she is so incredible to me.
It’s so nice to hear stuff like that sometimes I feel like naturally low sex drives aren’t really ever seen as okay when it’s so normal !
@@Asj0107 Right?! I've also been told countless times how important sex is for relationship happiness. Also, like you said, it isn't seen like... ever? So it makes us feel kind of worthless/like we're weird. But you are right. it IS normal! Maybe not normal for everyone, but for some ppl it is!
@@amandaleighplans you are definitely not alone and I totally feel you! I'm sorry you have to feel insecure about it as well, but maybe one day we will feel comfortable not having to feel like we need to be having sex "all the time".... (STG I must annoy my partner because I'm always asking for validation with this). I'm glad your partner is supportive. You got a good one
me too! i have a low sex drive too and i am on antidepressants which makes it EVEN worse. luckily i found a guy that never even mentions sex to me and always asks if im comfortable, trust him because not all guys are pigs
The closet and air tag one is actually scary . First he breaks into her house and spys on her , then he trys to track her? That is some controlling and scary behaviour . He sounds so manipulative too, like the way he trys to justify himself and act like he is a good guy. So glad she left him!!
As a fellow hairstylist I give that girl full permission to cuss that man out and drag his name. As an apprentice stylist in school you should never expect money from the model and if you get a tip that means you did a good job. If you completely botch someone's shit they deserve a refund from the school and a complementary service with a different student to make a mends with the client. That's basic customer service in the beauty industry.
I feel like if he cut her hair in the salon it would be one thing as he might not be able to do it for free when on the clock. Or asking her to cover the cost of colouring if he had dyed it but there is just something odd about this...
the fourth story is quite literally exactly what i went through in my last relationship. it completely tears you down and dehumanizes you in a way you can’t understand unless it happens to you. still to this day, i am so severely paranoid about smelling bad that it affects every aspect of my life. at the end of our relationship, he ADMITTED to saying all of those things just to hurt me. no other reason. hearing that story made me physically ill.
2nd story, spreadsheet guy:
Sex 3 times in 7 weeks isn’t even that bad... that’s about once every other weekend, which is totally understandable for busy couples. But 27 attempts?? That’s so much. Who has the time to have sex 27 times in 7 weeks. That’s like 4 times every single week, which is a LOT for people working over full time hours like the OP was doing, on top of all the housework and taking care of the husband like he’s a baby. That’s just unreasonable and physically impossible unless that man lasts under 5 minutes. Which, given his attitude, it’s likely he doesn’t last long and definitely doesn’t reciprocate for his wife.
I feel the opposite. NOT SAYING HE WAS RIGHT AT ALL. But I'd probably die if I only have sex 3 times in 7 weeks. I need it at least every other day. If I hit day 3 without it I'm like moody and neeeeed it lol we are in the same boat too we both work full time and take care of the house no kids
@@allisonmarino3707 I'm more like you for my drive, but my partner and I are doing long-distance for the moment, so it's been close to a year without. Before my partner, it likely would have been a deal-breaker, but I've found that if you care enough about the person, hard though it may be, you get through it.
Listening to Tinx explain her box theory, I just realized I literally experienced that exact thing. I had a guy friend I met my senior year of high school. I developed a crush on him pretty quick - he was tall, could act (I was a theatre kid lol), and actually genuinely nice to me, which was a rarity in high school - but he had a girlfriend and nothing ever came of it. When I started college after a gap year, we reconnected and started hanging out regularly. He became my movie buddy. We watched favorites we both loved, films one of us hadn't seen, and went to the movie theater regularly to check out new films. He introduced me to the Matrix films, which I adore, and the Witcher series. In all honesty, he was my best friend for about two years. We would stay up all night talking about literally anything and there were a couple times I found myself sneaking back into my place at 6am because we'd lost track of time. Over time, my feelings for him just got deeper and eventually expanded beyond romantic (I'm demisexual, for reference. It's on the asexuality spectrum). He was one of the few people I was comfortable and even craved being physically close to. Hugs, cuddling during movies, etc.
One night, though, he asked if he could try something and kissed me. We ended up making out but I, a virgin, was 100% NOT ready to go any further than kissing and turned down his attempts at trying for something more before eventually leaving for the night. The next day, I confessed my feelings to him over text but he didn't really respond to that. In fact, he avoided me for a few weeks. When we finally got together again, after I asked him for a ride home from the train station after a class, he told me that he wanted to just be friends. I was disappointed and broken hearted. Tbh, I kind of ghosted him for a while because I was so hurt. Not great, in hindsight, but this was the first time I'd dealt with anything like this and I was only 20 at the time. I'd never felt those feelings that strongly before. When we did talk again, he asked if I liked kissing him and I told him yes, because that was the truth. He said he liked it to and was down to do more of that, just without actually dating. Once again, hi. Virgin (not anymore lol) who just got kissed for the first time and then had their heart broken. I was NOT down for friends with benefits and told him so. All or nothing.
Needless to say, our friendship fizzled after that. He made some attempts at reconnecting and I gave him a few chances but things really fell off once I met and eventually started dating my current girlfriend (we'll have out 1.5 yr anniversary in February and legit, it's the easiest relationship I've ever had. We of course have our differences and stuff to work through, but from the start it's just been the easiest relationship I've ever had). Looking back on my time with that guy now, it's VERY clear that all he wanted from the beginning was friends with benefits and nothing more. He never saw me as relationship material, not once. I wish I'd known it then but well. You live and you learn 🤷 I'm very happy now, btw. My girlfriend and I are planning to move in together soon (she's in charge of laundry as long as I do the dishes) and even the boring conversations about stuff like finances have me hyped AF. I think that's a good sign 🥰️
This is so freaking relatable 😂and I’m so happy you someone worth your time and effort
OMG we have a lot of common and I hope that this isn't my story a few years from now (aside from the happy ending good for you!) 🤣🤣
If I wanted to hook up with a friend (which I don't think I would unless I was 100% certain we both had no romantic feelings) I'd make it very clear. But also they'd still be my friend if they turned it down. I'm still extremely close to my exes where we started out as friends because we genuinely care and love eachother it's just not romantic.
My boyfriend threw up on me in the shower on our second date (interestingly, the anniversary of this incident is today). We live together now. If you click with someone, you click with them regardless of anything awkward that happens
I threw up on my now husband three days into meeting him 😂😂
Story 1: How does someone who doesn't have a job paying for a wedding?! I would talk to my friend 1 on 1 and let her know my concerns but let her know I will support her even if I don't like it but I could never live with myself if I didn't tell her!
Either the friend is paying for it or the parents are. 😬
i’m getting the feeling she’s pregnant because she won’t touch alcohol and her personality is changing
Story 4 - has me....shaking and totally heartbroken for both of them. The son doesn't even realize what he is doing and what his father has done to him. Most of all GOOD FOR HER for not feeling badly and getting out of that mess. Holy cow.
Sister guy - no
“Sadly never had sex” - 🤢 HELL NO
her admitting that she eats rotisserie chickens in the car makes me feel more human and related to than ever
Over company email?!? Does he realize other people have access to that? He should NOT have sent that especially to her work email.
I think he did it knowing others could see it. I think the goal was to humiliate her :(
In relation to the first story - I have been there, almost exactly the same circumstances. My best friend went through the same thing. She met this guy when she was 17. No matter what we told her, it just rolled off her like water off a ducks back. The one thing that stuck, I think, was “if you feel like you have to lie about it, you already know it’s wrong”. It took her 4 years to come to her senses, with a crap tonne of trauma. She’s so lucky she got out when she did.
for the first story, it sounds like the friend is in an abusive relationship. her friend should share articles or something about what emotional and mentally abusive relationships look like so she can recognize the signs
box theory: most of the time, they didn’t lose interest, they never never had it. a lot of ppl just want sex
agreed. no guy waits four months to have sex with you just to drop you right after. if that's all they want, and you dont, thell run soon after. thats the whole point of lots of women waiting, me included. if you dont agree to wait, you dont want a relationship and I can't trust you, or at the very least, we dont mesh together.
The tuna sandwich story made me think of how my friend and I went to Walmart in the middle of the night, bought a rotisserie chicken, barbecue sauce, and ginger ale and went and ate it in her room at 2am. That became something that we did a lot, we always tried a different barbecue sauce, and people thought it was super weird 😂
i love that lmao
i like that you always got a different sauce lmaoo
I audibly screamed when I saw Tinx was the guest host, two of the first accounts I found on tiktok that I LOVE and watch/listen to religiously! Please have her on again! Such a good episode!
Thank you for telling me this new term “boyfriend sickness”. My friend was dating this guy for about 2 weeks. This man treated me like absolute trash and she would just laugh it off. She would slowly pull away from me and I noticed it right away. The last straw was when he boyfriend, who again hated me, started knowing things I told her in confidence. I couldn’t handle it anymore so I told her I couldn’t be around her boyfriend. Her response was ending a 6 year relationship over a man she just started dating.
Is anyone else wondering if the girl from story 1 pregnant? She stopped drinking, changed feelings (hormones?), shotgun wedding?? And she’s defensive because that’s her unborn child’s dad?? Thats what it seems like to me
Ooooooo good theory!
Damn never thought of that but 👀
"Ghosting is small di*k energy" Quote of the night - So on point!
With the 4th story.. I can relate very hard. My ex bf always said “who asked” or “who cares” when I would talk to him. At first it was a joke, yk everybody says it every now & then jokingly. But he said it ALL the time to the point I stopped speaking a lot & also came to the conclusion that nobody cared about what I had to say. This is real. I had suspicions of this being an act of control but didn’t truly know until listening to this. Thank you so much & to all that struggle with this, you’re not alone 💗
Haircut guy ABSOLUTELY sabotaged his girlfriend while simultaneously putting the end of the relationship on her.
I LOVED this episode. I’ve never seen Tinx before and I am OBSESSED, even though I’m happily married 😂
I took that story differently I think he's a student and just sucks at cutting hair. Like it started where she wanted it but to make it even it got shorter.
@@karil6461 yeah no, gonna have to disagree. He was charging her to cut it and typically students get hair models for free because it’s a mutual agreement that you’re allowing someone who does not totally know how to cut hair to cut your hair, immediately started cutting it short, which I’m pretty sure day one they’re gonna tell you don’t start at the length they want because you’re still going to need to cut shorter to style and give it dimension/shape etc., she never mentions that he is a student or an apprentice or at all that he doesn’t already know how to cut hair. I stand by my statement that he purposefully sabotaged her hair 🤷🏻♀️
I totally agree I didn’t think of the fact that he did it to end the relationship but he was far too calm like he prepped for this
I love that Morgan said “I love putting fries or chicken nuggets in a Wendy’s frosty” as I was dipping a chicken nugget in my Wendy’s Frosty
I have found my people
I ended a friendship due to boyfriend sickness.Her and this guy started dating. For backstory, me and this guy used to be friends because he was best friends with my parents friends son that lived down the street and so we all got together a lot! I considered these guys brothers. Fast forward, he and my friend start dating and he completely flipped. He was rude to me and would either not acknowledge me or be a straight up asshole. I was dating my boyfriend (now husband) at the time too and we all went to the same youth group together. We would hand out and play dodgeball before service and I noticed my friends boyfriend kept aiming for me. And not just aiming but he would put ALL his force behind the ball when he would throw it. It got to the point that he aimed for my ankle so when I jumped to try and dodge it it hit my ankle so hard it knocked my leg back and it hit the wall behind me. I fell and managed to get off to the side and I was trying not to cry from the pain. Before my boyfriend came to check on me he overhears him tell my friend,”I don’t know why she’s being dramatic it’s dodgeball.” To which my friend replied,”Yeah it’s dodgeball.” My boyfriend was PISSED. He came to check on me and told me we need to leave or else I’m going to punch this guy. I tried having a conversation with my friend about it later that night and all she said was that I was overreacting and it’s not like I broke my ankle. When I would spend the night(which was VERY frequent because we lived around the corner from each other) and if he called her she would tell me,”Shut up here quiet you’re not here.” And she would answer the phone and talk to him for like an hour and I would just be sitting there. And if he knew I was staying over he’d ask why Is she there? Does she always have to be there? She moved to another city 3 hours away for school and she would come visit and not tell me and just visit with him for a couple of days and would call me when she was heading back home already. It got to the point where I had enough and told her she completely changed and she shouldn’t be treating her best friend like shit because of her boyfriend and that she never stood up for me but always defended him. Of course she denied it all and was bitter and that was that. Last I heard she moved back to our town and that got a place together and had a kid together. All the other friends she had too before she moved she cut off for him. Sorry for the long comment but moral of the story, don’t put up with bad friends. You deserve better. Unless they’re in danger then try to help as much as you can!
I can bet you ANYTHING that he had feelings for you and/or your friend knew that and was jealous. OR he didn’t have feelings but she thought he might have, so he was purposefully mean to you so it wouldn’t seem like he did.
sounds like he's isolating her now so he can abuse her later.
this woman is what i think i sound like when i'm giving relationship advice
interesting about the box theory, have definitely waited for sex then got dumped right after, then slept with a guy on the first date, now we're getting married. there's no consistency, just be open and clear from the beginning on what you want
Yall should do an episode on crazy online dates I love your podcast I listen to it all the time
first story: it's actually kinda nice and comforting to hear 24 - 25 is an immature age cause I'm 25 RN and I feel like life's getting real but I'm still so clueless I got my job I'm eating right, I'm sleeping good I work out I'm paying my own bills but goddman I'm so immature sometimes, specially when it comes to relationships and I was feeling bad about it cause I was putting so much pressure on myself feeling like I needed to be so much more mature thinking that I should be dating the person I'm gonna marry and it's crazy cause idk if I even wanna get married someday, idk it's just so good hearing you guys say that I'm listening SM to this podcast I'm starting to feel like you're my friends lol, sending love from Brazil
Box theory: I don't have sex with guys on the first date and they still lose interest sometimes. At times I've wondered the opposite of OP. I don't think it matters if u do or don't, as much as compatibility
Hell, one time I had a great date with a guy, brought him to my apartment for a few hours (no sex happened lmao), he initiated a make out in the parking lot before he left, and never spoke to me again.
The last story is so wholesome compared to all the others. The fact that he offered for her to join him, she declined and they laughed about it tells me they have a lovely and healthy relationship. I hope OP and Tuna Man have a long, happy future together
I picked the right day to work overtime, this will carry me through my shift
Loved this episode but just wanted to say one thing on checking phones. That is usually what saves a lot of people from being held hostage by a cheating partner. Cuz that’s what cheating is - a form of holding your partner in a relationship against their will (cuz guarantee that cheating partner is lying and gaslighting to prevent the partner they are cheating on from leaving) in which their consent is being violated. saying ‘just have a mature convo with your partner about your worries’ is incredibly naive. Most cheating partners will not disclose. Even after finding evidence many cheating partners continue to lie. In my opinion, if I have to violate your privacy to prevent my own consent from continuing to be violated that’s fair game. Phones are deeply personal but so are peoples bodies and bodily autonomy. ESP in situations where the couple may be doing sexually risky things because they think they’re in a monogamous relationship only to then have an STD passed to them from someone they were told they could trust.
I understand where you're coming from, but as the same time I think it's one of those things of if you don't trust them why are you still with them? Yes people have validated cheating by snoping but if your partner isn't cheating than they are going to lose respect for you for snoping. Like with that story if she had actually been cheating and he burst out the closet it'd make for an interesting story or like a tiktok exposed video and people would more likely excuse it because he was right and he caught her. Which is what you're saying in the phone situation, if they're right then it can be excused. But if that person is wrong and they're partner isn't doing anything than it comes off as really controlling and possessive behavior.
If someone is cheating and lying to you about it, then they will lie to you about other things in the relationship especially if it’s starting to get toxic. That alone is all the proof you need that they’re being dishonest and aren’t right for you. You don’t need proof of infidelity in order to leave.
If you feel the need to their check phone, because you can’t trust them. That’s when you leave. Do not be in a relationship with someone you can’t trust
wow!!! i am a newer subscriber and this has so far been one of my favorite episodes!!! i love tinx and am so glad to have been able to listen. i sent it to my sister who is 9 years younger than me and told her i wanted a 2 page paper on what she learned lol! wish someone had told all this to me when i was younger, but then again maybe i wouldn’t have listened 🤷🏻♀️
Giving her homework like that 😂 hey at least you'll have tried. So glad you loved this ep ❤️
The first story makes me think that the bf is controlling and is love bombing her with the ring. They need to save her ASAP
Is it just me, or did anyone else get the vibe that the little sister was that guys goal the entire time? I mean, who in their right mind thinks after being told it’s not working out that they should try their luck with their ex’s younger sister?
It’s honestly very odd that he mentioned his ex being very protective of her sister when it comes to boyfriends. It’s like he knew that his ex wouldn’t approve of him, so he came up with this elaborate scheme to date the older sister to show her what a “great guy” he is (and from the sounds of it sleeping with her would’ve been a bonus). Then, he would make the dates mediocre as possible to have the sister lose interest (but he’ll still act like the great guy he is). And finally, when they break up he’ll ask her if it’s ok if he asks her sister out and of course in his (deranged) fantasy, she’ll say yes and tell him that he’s the best choice for her baby sister.
Nah not me
I love how happy they both look in the thumbnail haha I'll look forward to this!
I love the toast in the milk story! I’m not sure if it’s just me and my family or a Latin thing but I dip my toast in coffee or pan dulce in coffee sometimes!
I liked having Tinx as a guest! She was very short yet thorough w her take on the stories :) usually I find myself having to skip bc the opinions are too long and I just want to get to the other stories bc I’m so eager to hear what’s next lol Great pick!
You had the opportunity to say hello fresh took one thing off my mental plate and added to my dinner plate and DIDN’T take it? Come on Morgan!
Hahaha nooo. Saving this for next time 🙈😂
Met the love of my life at the age of 15. It's been 8 years since we got together and we'll be celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary in June. We're not perfect, but love each other dearly and are super stable. Our friends and family are super supportive so I agree. When it clicks it clicks and you'll know when it's right even if you're young. That doesn't sound like their relationship is checking any of the boxes though. 🤔
Omg that *second to last story actually triggered me. I was shocked from the moment she said “oo half off was a great deal so I decided to do it” THE EFF? Then I can’t even begin to process how he asked for the money after the fact. BUY A MANNEQUIN YOU PSYCHO! 😂
I feel like he did it on purpose, was going to take her money and dump her after idk lol
I asked my husband about the “box theory” and he says that’s 1000% what they do and if a man says they don’t, they’re lying.
Boyfriend in closet story seemed like a possible troll. But then the accidental air tag in the bag thing made it 100% troll. No way is someone that stupid. 😂
Honestly, it could have been him trying to find excuses
Exactly what I was thinking, some of the stories are clearly fake
Actually, a lot of women have posted on social media about finding air tags under their cars. 😬 It’s really scary.
I'm sure somewhere behind a screen, my ex who put an air tag in my work bag, is tapping his fingers together like a wasp reading this comment.
@@ashleyjade95 I 1000% agree it’s scary af. I just think someone putting it in a bag where you’re clearly going to see it is really dumb. I just feel under a car shows the person is at least trying to be sneaky. But scary none the less.
Story 2) to me it sounds like he always approached her at the most inopportune times didn’t try any seduction technique, didn’t try to bring any romance into it he just asked at inconvenient times and made no effort to communicate
Ahh my favorites!! Loved the dynamic hope Tinx guest stars again in the future!!
Something about the ep that stood out to me: that boyfriend syndrome. It happened to my best friend but instead it was with his girlfriend. He was so blinded by her, that he isolated himself from friend, family, social life, from me (who he said i was the more important person in his life). And even though ppl would tell him she was toxic, he couldn’t & wouldn’t break up w her. Long story short, he was able to get out of the relationship, though it took him awhile to re-find himself, he’s happier and more confident in what he wants in a relationship now. Hope it doesn’t happen again, it hurt to see him go through that but also hurt me tremendously when he abandoned everyone he cared about.
My pet bird (macaw, so large pet bird) has definitely gotten in the way of many relationships. People underestimate the time they require, especially when you only have one. They're social creatures that need love and attention daily. It was super hard dating at first (I got divorced, ex ended up with the dogs and I the bird) but I finally found a guy that understands my commitment. It just takes the right person, and he's been shopping for a permanent cage I can keep at his house so both of us can spend time with him.
Awe so sweet! Love this story. A permanent cage to spend time w you both?? Yes he's a keeper
Do you guys have another podcast you listen to that is similar to this ?? This is hands down my favorite and I need another to fill my time between Thursdays 😭😂
There’s father knows something, it’s Morgan’s father podcast
Theres one called The Judgies (or just Judgies maybe?) it’s the exact same premise where they read Reddit stories and share their opinions
Yess I want more
I got married at 23 and so did both my sisters and my mum got married at 19 so far I have been married for a year living with my husband in our own house, my sisters have been married for +10 years and my parents 37 years it's really communication that makes or breaks a relationship.
Any other secrets?! Your family has an amazing track record
@@TwoHotTakes haha we are Australian so we joke around allot and there isn't as much stress with free healthcare etc, I feel that might also play a huge part and we have a great support system positive parents and families.
"Time to hit the butter stick" and "Don't yuck people's yums!" I love this 🤣
1st story
"[friend] doesn't see the red flags!"
was he manipulative, rude, dismissive, just straight up abusive?
"He ordered a well done steak at a 4 star restaurant ..."
Not my preference but it isn't a red flag ordering/preferring well done steak.
Right?? That made me wonder if the entire story wasn’t just super exaggerated
Exactly my thoughts. the friend was complaining that the girlfriend doesn't drink anymore too. I didn't hear any examples of what the boyfriend was actually doing to be abusive or toxic. Sure the relationship was moving extremely fast and it's alarming from an outside view. Maybe they just had this insane connection. I got more super obsessive jealous friend vibes than toxic relationship vibes.
The tuna story has me dying laughing 😂😂
Unpopular opinion but I don’t hate ghosting! I feel like no answer is an answer and especially after just a few dates or conversations, I don’t think it’s deep enough that you need to end the situation so formally. If they liked you, they’d keep in contact. Also, I think I’d honestly rather never get a text back than hear someone tell me they don’t feel a connection/don’t like me.
I think conversations versus dates are completely different. If you've gone on a few dates with someone you can have the courtesy of shooting them a text saying "I don't think we're compatible." It's not like you have to respond more after that. It's just better than them waiting around for days wondering when you're going to respond or if you're okay.
Story 2: People don't realize that if you started treating your partner like a partner your sex life improves. Before my partner wouldn't do much to help but since watching these podcasts I've been able to sit him down and talk to him about my frustrations. Let it be known our partnership and intimacy has improved alot. Simple things go a long way and you should already be doing those simple things such is just a bonus lol.
I thought eating in the bathroom is weird, and then I had kids and found myself crying in the bathroom stuffing my face with some hostess zingers in the evening of a particularly rough day
I know this is really out there to but can you sometime do stories about couples not being on the same page in their sexual pleasures and parenting please cause I would love to know how other parents are dealing with relationship being flipped upside down after having a child .
Such a good idea! I'm going to have to find a new mom to come on... any ideas?
@@TwoHotTakes yes your sister in law or any close friends cause they have more understanding cause they have kids. I have one child that’s 2 but to get alone time seems impossible
@@TwoHotTakes maybe stories where the parenting might leave one or both parents neglecting their partner? Like talking about not spreading yourself so thin with parenting life that you don't forget your partner or something?
Not through experience, but I've been told that scheduling regular date nights (with intentions to get intimate) works for a lot of people. Scheduled intimacy might sound boring, but if you try to see it as self-/couple-care ....or as sneaking away if you need that thrill.... it seems like a practical and needed step in a relationship. Also, make sure you're both honest, open, and kind to your partner in discussing both partners' needs.
I love Tinx! Add her to your guest host rotation! Thanks in advance!
Hearing the box theory actually really helped me rn thank you so much💕
When I was with my child's father he was so manipulative and pretty much brain washed me. I look back on all the stuff that he said and did and I don't even recognize myself and who I used to be I can't imagine if I had married him. Like example he told me I was disgusting and all the time and he could even have sex with me because he'd get sick because I slept with one of his old classmates he hated. This was 5 years before I met him or even knew of him.
Story 4: it’s scary how you can think that a guy is great but then you realise he’s been psycologically abusing you for years.
For the one who can’t get past the first date hook up, there is something more. I know a girl who gets into bed pretty quick and she thinks that’s the reason guys don’t want her, but she’s also in her 30s, lives with her parents with mountains of debt, and is incredible dramatic. I feel like those other issues are a much bigger concern than a first date hookup could ever be.
Loveee Justin’s take on we have a great story to tell no matter what happens on the wedding day. We got married in a barn had a pig roast. My entire bridal party was doing keg stands the cops came down after pulling over one of our guest and said he heard there was good food. We fed him he hand cuffed us put us in the car and let us take photos with the cop car. Then our bridal party ended up in a fist fight in the lobby and the we did have a whole cop situation for realssss 😂 but it’s still one of my favorite memories of the night hahaha
Hi Morgan! Loooove this podcast. Just wondering if you’d ever be interested in doing an r/GlitchInTheMatrix episode? It’s my favourite subreddit lol it really messes with your head, maybe do some of the top posts of all time! I’d looove to hear your thoughts on them!
I believe in the "box theory". My now husband and I talked for about a year before meeting. Once we met, that was it. He later told me that before we met he knew I'd play a huge role in his life or that I was "the one". Honestly, our relationship is so... easy in a way. We communicate extremely well. This will be our 9 yr anniversary of being together this year. We talked for years about how we would want to raise our children. We now have 2 (2 yr old and 4 month old). We're on the same page with everything.... but we're also awesome at communication.
Didn't know Tinx before,but now I really like her. Her and I have a lot of the same takes... and she's right on. Loved this one.
When Tinx was talking about being home alone and trying random food concoctions and how "everybody does it" I thought about me and my little sister. I haven't lived with her almost 3 years and she's a teen now but I'm currently visiting and among all our similarities we also both experiment with random kitchen concoctions. We're both Virgos so I wondered if Tinx was and sure enough her birthday is 3 days after mine lmao.
This really opened my eyes and changed my perspective as a single woman. Thank you
The guy who butchered his girlfriend’s hair absolutely did it on purpose. He definitely wanted to end things with her, didn’t want to be the one to end it, and so he made sure he did something that was break up worthy.
This episode is so good, every story had my jaw on the floor!
NOT THE MANSCAPED SPONSOR AFTER THAT STORYYYY
😂😂😂
I love her! Tbh I never heard of Tinx before but I love this episode so much and she was amazing! You need to have her on again
i love this podcast soo muchh
i never thought you would ever like one of my comments thank you so much
Tinx should have her own podcast, she sounds so wise and has a great voice!
Ah thank goodness a new episode I was rewatching episodes😂Yall just always know just what to say
This episode was so awesome. I didnt know your quest but they were great match for you and knew what theyre talking about. Hope you Can have them on your podcast again!
Couldn't wait for it so I'm listening on Spotify.. I'll still watch it again on YT tho :') looove the podcasts with Tinx I've already learned a lot from this episode
*Me at 22 thinking I'm getting the hang of it*
Them: "24 is like an infant"
Me: Uh oh...
This is an old podcast episode but I’m at the part about ghosting, and I just want to add my two cents and share my mom’s experience. Sorry for the long comment.
My mom loved dating before she met my dad. She’s a beautiful woman and broke a lot of hearts back in the early 90s, but was always honest and upfront with people if she didn’t see them as more than a fun date every now and then. She went on a few dates with this one dude, who was super nice and funny, but just wasn’t her type romantically. She calls him up one day to tell him that she doesn’t see their relationship ever becoming a romantic one, but hopes they can remain friends. On the phone, he takes it really well, and invites her out for a drink as a friend. My mom agrees, and away they go. When she shows up, dude starts yelling at her in front of the entire bar, saying my mom is a bitch, a slut, a whore, every name in the book. My mom was completely shocked and genuinely thought he was going to hit her or worse, that was how angry he was getting. He was also super tall and muscular, while she was 5’2” and tiny. I don’t exactly remember how the story ends, but after physically trapping her in some corner of the bar with him for a while, swearing her out and getting progressively more livid and threatening, he was either kicked out or she managed to get out of there some other way. From then on, if she ever told a guy she was no longer interested in them, she never, ever went out with them alone, and rarely saw them again. No matter how nice they seemed.
Moral of the story: Ghosting is bad, for sure. But some men truly are unpredictable and can completely change once they’ve been rejected, so I understand why some women and femmes may feel like ghosting is the safer route. My message here isn’t that ghosting is the solution, I’m a firm believer that you should absolutely be honest about your intentions when dating and usually being honest as no downsides-but be careful out there. If it’s only been one or two dates and you’ve only seen the side of someone they want you to see, consider only seeing them again if it’s in a group, or in an extremely public setting. Tell people where you’re going and when you expect to be back. Sit at the bar in direct view of the bartender. Don’t depend on them for a ride, have a safe way home that doesn’t involve them. Sorry again for the long comment, just wanted to share what my mom taught me.
That first story really hit home, I live in Utah and everyone here gets married extremely fast and young. My parents got engaged and married within 5 moths of meeting each other. Shits crazy.
Did hair cut guy do that on purpose to get her to dump him and also his attempt for her to end up with a bad hair cut when the relationship ended?
The Box theory is legit a life saver for me.
I was literally dipping my toast in my nesquick milk 😆
It’s the best thing ever ❤️
I really love this episode! Gonna listen back 3 more times