“Ended up withdrawing socially and just shutting down and letting go of myself completely and avoiding life in general because I’m so overwhelmed that I just dont want to take anything on board and i just want to escape as much as possible “
I think a positive mindset will really help you. Get out of your head and thoughts, live and enjoy in the moment also dont identify with anything anyone says to you you decide what you do and behave dont limit your self now go have a great day ❤👍
Alternative ADHD think I've noticed here - I tend to OVERESTIMATE how much I can get done in a day, so I over-schedule myself and get burned out really quickly. This can also contribute
Lucky for you if you DO at least complete "any task" I too overestimate stuff to get done".🤔 TheN just the thought of doing aLL this stuff by myself seems to bring me to a point of NoT getting AnY thing done, by the days end.😖 YeT..when I am productive..Insomnia kept me awake thinking about stuff I procrastinate doing from getting burnt out by OverEstimating🙄 Had No CluE about the IMPACT, OuR Pandemic would/could have with those living with ADD.. Been Quarantined since I returned home on Friday 13th in March. My life is in constant Overwhelm, as is most of those, whose brain is "wired correctly"😏😉 StaYSafE
Yep. And I also have fibro. which causes all over body aches and extreme fatigue. Sometimes I really can't identify what is causing my issues, the ADHD or the fibro. I'm 67 years old and still work full time. My bro passed in Nov suddenly he was my dearest friend in the world Now, my sis and I are faced with closing two estates, one has two houses full of stuff. The other has a house and a big office building...full of stuff and I live in one of the family homes. What a nightmare. I'll make it thru though! What choice do we have?!
I've been struggling with burnout, depression, high anxiety, mental fog, and exhaustion for a very long time now and it's causing me to spiral and makes it really hard to interact with others. I always feel like others don't like me or I embarrass myself by being awkward in social interactions. Thank you for this video, it's very helpful to listen to and also know there's others out there who are struggling too.
O my god, the relevancy of this video right now is insane. Been feeling exactly this building from the last few weeks. And I know about this channel for only a month. Litterally today i said (screamed lol) to myself. I feel so overwhelmed, chaotic, unstructured, ungrounded and tired above it all too. Need to retreat.
I was diagnosed with ADHD less than 2 years ago after years of being diagnosed with depression, and since then I’ve been trying to learn and embrace myself, and work on building systems and positive thinking. However, last month I fell into a horrible depression and exactly what you just described, feeling so burned out I buried my head in the sand for an entire month. Stopped going to classes, didn’t submit my assignments, barely communicated with anyone cuz I was ashamed of explaining what was going on especially that I myself wasn’t confronting my emotions, just binged 6 seasons of a tv show. that’s my escapist addiction bc I can pretend like my life doesn’t exist and focus on the lives of the characters. This month I’ve been trying to pick myself back up again and have been so anxious but this video while it said things I already know it felt good to listen to you explain them in such an understanding and empathetic way and made me feel less critical about what I’m going through. Thank you for having such a calming and reassuring voice and for saying what a lot of us feel deep down but aren’t able to put the words for it
is it normal that i simply stop functioning, ruminate and become anxious for multiple weeks, sometime months and sink into escapism when overhelmed? is it common for ad(h)d people?
I feel like that it sucks because I feel like I'm not taking any responsibility as an adult and doing what I feel most adults are I'm on Adderall but I get overwhelmed still
Well done ADHD management.com. You have the knack of absolutely nailing the "naming of it" with ADHD symptoms! I couldn't relate more to everything you say in this video. It is infact the story or my (and I imagine many's lives!)
I went through my adult life in a constant burn out. Now that I know I have adhd I now know im not mad. I feel like my burnouts separate me from who I am and thats the frustration.
I landed on this video looking to find out more about these burn out periods. Now that I’m a certain age, I can see it’s a pattern. I go from high-achieving with everyone congratulating me to HIDING from the world, not opening mail, literally ignoring my phone, emails, etc. These burnouts last 1-2 years on average. Once I’m in the thick of it, the mess seems too big to battle. While I know better because the same small steps pull me out every single time, I lose the desire to climb out with every burn out. It’s terrifying and I so wish I could just flip a switch and be normal (rather than initiating a major novel change like moving, finding a new job, starting a new business, etc.). 😩 The burn out periods have robbed me of so much life! Here’s to hoping: now that we KNOW why it’s happening, we’ll be able to fight it before it happens again. 🤷🏼♀️ ❤
I feel like crying listening to this.... This is how much I am overwhelmed right now.....i was literally getting crushed under so much pressure😢..but I'll get up and instead crush my goals one by one.
I so get your brain! You are speaking my language! I feel overwhelmed just listening to this as I’m right in this space right now. I just want to run away. Last week I vented and expressed anger to several family members, I had taken way too much on as I always do, I was as irritable as Fck. I never yell or am mean to others and I just lost it. Years and years of taking on everyone else crap and doing everything for everyone, due to my people pleading! I am in total burn out after doing this for years. It’s not there fault that I choose to over burden myself. I feel bad and I can’t take back the things I have said. I’ve had to hide from the world for a week! I’ve put all of these important things that need doing aside, the world isn’t going to fall over if they are not done, I needed a break from it all.
I’ve always struggled with math. Now I’m in a situation where I have to get a good math score on the GRE. Concentrating on math for any more than two hours leaves me feeling absolutely drained, my eyelids low, my mood shot, and I don’t even feel like I can relate to, or have conversations with people. The. I retreat into video games or netflix to try and enjoy one sliver of the day, but I don’t even really gave gas left in the tank to enjoy that. Of course, that throws me off my sleep and I feel drained the next day more often than not. I have no idea how to fix this and still accomplish the things I need to accomplish.
Relatable. I keep almost sprinting through tasks then burning out, pacing is hard. Slowly trying to build in things a bit at a time but really feeling it today
Im ADHD and a mom of two girls daily life is so overwhelming I'm anxious all the time always in panic mode and I have a hard time controlling my emotions
I was diagnosed with ADD way back in 2nd grade, and been on meds ever since. I’ve been dealing with a whole slew of emotional problems and stress and addictions, sudden upswings after school semesters ended that made me be misdiagnosed with bipolar. Only this past week did I discover the connection between stress and ADHD and just knowing that has put so many things in perspective. Thank you so much for this video.
I'm already doing most of this, and still not able to keep up... I just moved out into a new apartment, and I struggle so much to even keep it clean, make food for myself, let alone unpack all my boxes. I haven't been able to exercise much, and exercise is very important to me as I enjoy it a lot. I have been overcomplicating things, like I feel this overwhelming need to sort all my clothes by color and function, and to find the perfect place for every single piece of clothing, and I'm doing something similar in the kitchen. Whenever I find the perfect place for an item it makes me feel happy and calm, but it doesn't change the fact that I spent half the day doing something others would have spent an hour on, or that most of my apartment is a total mess. I have a full time job, so I feel like I have so little time to do everything. I have not been diagnosed btw, but I have most of the ADD symptoms, and I will get tested soon.
Oof I moved in with a friend last year and I relate 100% to your comment. I’m diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and am still struggling but finally started stimulant medication a few months ago and it’s really started to help.
I’ve learned so much from your channel thank you so much for taking the time to be open and share your experience with adhd. I was diagnosed with adhd 3 weeks ago, I’m 31 single and single mom I’ve been struggling with this my whole life but just didn’t know what it was, I just thought it was me I was the problem, thank God now I know why I do the things I do. I’ve watched all your videos and I can relate to a lot of what you’ve shared. Long story short, thank you, You’ve helped me understand my brain a lot more.
Everything I go through you always post a video about it and I was just like to say Thank you I didn’t realize I was going through this until I seen this
Hi from 🇨🇦! So glad I found your channel, it’s one of the best resources for ADHD that I’ve found on RUclips! Love your calm demeanour, your editing, and the way you present the information!
I am thrilled to have come across this podcast. Not only is the content extremely informative and helpful, but I also want to applaud your exceptional presentation skills. It has taken me quite some time to realize that my auditory overload is connected to my ADHD, and finding a podcast that understands this struggle is a true gem. One of the frustrations I've encountered in my search for ADHD-related podcasts is stumbling upon shows that bombard listeners with loud music intros and overly energetic hosts. However, your podcast stands out from the crowd. You manage to deliver a wealth of information in a concise yet soothing manner. Your sessional and well-thought-out style is truly admirable. Thank you for providing such valuable information and creating a peaceful and rounded experience for your listeners. I am genuinely looking forward to learning more from you and continuing this journey of knowledge. Wishing you a wonderful day ahead!
Hi from South Wales. I needed this. Currently on my second master's dissertation extension and I'm totally burned out and overwhelmed. Having my adhd diagnostic assessment next week, was diagnosed with dyslexia before Christmas. I'm 50 btw
This is great advice and helps me to understand a crisis I had many years ago. I was doing all the things you talked about, hyper-focusing on several things I was passionate about and ended up being treated for psychotic depression. The treatment was dreadful. I had lost my wife and family in the meantime. I'm not diagnosed but a Psychologist I saw for about a year considered that I was autistic. I think he was right. The possibility that I might also have ADHD didn't come up at that time but study I have done myself since then (I'm also a health professional) has presented it as a very real possibility. I have accepted it as real and strategies recommended for self-management of ADHD are working well for me. Your video adds more confirmation for me. I'm now in a much better place in my life but I still have to be aware of the risks. Thanks.
How much did you manage to get done? Because even i try these, i have tried hard. But the control it requires, somehow my executive system doesn't want to grant me.. I can't seem to think in that straight mind that help me maintain the restraints or like that can pull me out of that escapism, isolated phase
You're absolutely right, I am hyperfocusing on unnecessary things. Right now it's my hiking obsession with ultralight kit. I need to focus on my uni work but I can't shift away from my current hyperfocus
my goodness I needed to hear "take a step back it's all going to be ok". I know you have moved on from ADHD stuff, but thankyou! I have gotten a lot out of your vids in the last 2 years! thankyou mate! Ed
Thank you! This put my current feelings in perspective and how to handle them! A step back and declutter the feels into more manageable parts helped my worry levels a lot.🥰
as soon as you said use a white board and make lists i closed down , even that feels or appears to be too long a process im really struggling at the moment and have been closed down fir a really big chunk of this year. im self employed, my work schedule is non existent even tho i have many regular clients and others waiting for me to do work on their houses i just cant do it. I work really haphazardly and jump at every opportunity to avoid work all together and just stay in bed. overwhelm , anxiety and paralysis is a real problem but when actually do get to work i’m the soul of the party with no off switch this up and down its really doing my head in
Thanks for this. Really let myself slip recently. Resorted to self harm as a coping mechanism. Felt ashamed before I did it but I just reached a point where there was no other way to clear the fog. School hols make it really hard to take time alone and engage in activities for myself. Plus unexpected problems in the mix. Must be more prepared next time and schedule time for myself as a priority.
These are all of the skills that I have learned by myself in the past that have worked for me. I tend to become overwhelmed when I am shopping with others in the store. If someone is walking too quickly, I will have an information overload form trying to see everything on the shelves (because my brain needs to see everything for some reason). I have learned to communicate this ahead of time to my friends and family, stop in a safe spot in the aisle and close my eyes, take two deep breaths or wait until the information flood stops, then open my eyes and continue shopping. I will often grab my partner's arm to alert him that I need to pause and he understands what that means. This can help me to avoid becoming irritable, becoming distressed, crying, having a panic attack, or developing a headache from information overload.
You have described what I'm going through to a tee. Good to know it isn't just me dealing with these feelings. I feel like such an incompetent human being sometimes. ADHD can be so debilitating sometimes. I had to go back to this video four times before I even finished it. That's how truly awful my attention span is.
i cannot stress how much i needed this video right now, i have 2 kids and im depressed, i have an assignment i cant seem to focus on and its killing me. Thank you for the tips, im gonna try to break it up into smaller bits and write it down.
I am just now learning after 35 years that burnout *can be* a sign of ADHD. I've suffered through terrible CFS bouts in my adult life, but I did it to myself! I used to self-treat by ultra-running. I've self-treated with immense amounts of caffeine. I became a flight attendant and stopped sleeping sometimes for over 24 hours several times in a month because there were too many cool things to see. It's like my body forgot how to rest or sleep and I crashed hard in 2018. I got to a point where I could barely walk. It was very scary, and I thought I had something like MS. Nope, just stress (and a hormonal issue that I am treated for now). I sleep normally now and am physically so much healthier than I used to be. My mental/ADHD symptoms though are still something I haven't been able to get a handle on. I feel like there's too much I want to do in life and I can't do it all. As an example, a few months ago, I ended up starting to volunteer for 3 different organizations all at once. Well, come to find, I couldn't handle that with my already full-time job and travel schedule. I have so much mental motivation but can't carry anything out. Coffee helps a lot for my mental state, but I'm afraid of burning my body out again with it, so I don't drink it often. Anyway, with my ramblings, I'm trying to say this video is quite relevant to my situation, so thanks for posting!
Dial it down. Lol. Great idea, in theory. EVERYTHING is a 10 on the importance scale. My "to do" list can end up being 2 and a half pages, front AND back, of a legal size pad. Burnout, burns me out. Lol. I appreciate your video and posting your ideas. And if anyone is actually reading this, be kind to yourself. ADHD chose you and it's NOT a character flaw. You're absolutely wonderful the way you are. Learn to laugh at yourself and definitely take breaks when needed. Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go be Superman and perfect. 😂 Stay strong. Reach out for help and support. You're loved.
Even though I don't follow them perfectly, I found two tools that can help with burnout and overwhelm: the pomadoro technique ( a timer you use for x amount of time to work/focus and x amount for rest) and the Eisenhower matrix (categorizing tasks do, decide, delete or delete which are all based on both urgency and importance).
'I'm one of those people who cant get shit done until its absolutely unbearable' lol my final year exams are in 2 days and 1 have 1 day to do all my studying for this year :// can rel8
Do you ever deal with severe brain fog? I have the combined-type (even though I see myself as predominantly inattentive) and I’m on the spectrum, too. My mind is usually extremely foggy and I feel as though I’m living my life on autopilot. I can’t remember anything. My life is a complete blur. :( Ritalin was amazing to begin with but I soon became emotionally blunted on it. Elvanse didn’t have any effect on me at all and Atomoxetine only intensified suicidal thoughts.
I LOVE THIS VIDEO STYLE !!! I WOULD AVOID YOUR VIDS BECAUSE I COULDNT STAY FOCUSED ON THEM, BUT ALL THE CUTS AND ZOOM INS AND OUTS ARE AMAZING THANK YOU
This was excellent. Just what I needed right now, especially your comment that nothing is perfect and neither are we-- And that black and white thinking is damaging. Recently i made a huge blunder in grad school (missed a presentation because I wrote the wrong date down) and I started considering abondoning my current academic goals. But.... I'm not perfect. I make huge blunders sometimes and I always will. But I'll keep going anyways ! And get better, and still make mistakes anyways, and keep going anyways. Cheers!
you often know when you are going to burn out when you have irritability and insomnia.. Me who has both those things whenever i need to do anything the next or same day or go somewhere the following day: uhhhhmmm *mickey mouse voice imitation activated* OH BOY HA HA !
All in or nothing is kind of why i believe ill be one of the best in my passion, like the fact i get so tunnel visioned means i achieve whatever i set my mind to. I really need to spend my 20s working on gaining a routine lifestyle of keeping balance in my life though. Ill work on that and meditation once ive got the ball fully rolling. Decided to leave my job this week despite this recession because i need some happiness, progression and real time to get on with what matters to me in life. Being broke may overwhelm me but its all about pros n cons, which i believe being on my purpose for the next few months will bring out more pros. This comment is everywhere but i just wanna say, if your brain WANTS to achieve something so bad, take the risks after working out backup plans and comparing the pros n cons. Were the innovators, inventors, original creatives of this world. We pave how humanity progresses, period.
No you obviously haven't taken meds. Your head is in the clouds. How can you achieve your passions if you don't have a day routine, after quitting your job? You need both work and freetime to frame your time and get things done. My friend who has add and is unemployed gets the least done of all of my friends. Same with me when I was a neet.
im autistic so its hard to come up with ways to talk to someone and make them feel better so im here to learn how to help someone with adhd in my life who suffers of burnout consistently, Thank you for this video.
I think my problem is that I don’t want to even begin to assess anything and like I don’t think getting a calendar or whiteboard would be useful because I just don’t even know if I’ll use it
“Ended up withdrawing socially and just shutting down and letting go of myself completely and avoiding life in general because I’m so overwhelmed that I just dont want to take anything on board and i just want to escape as much as possible “
I can fully relate! I’ve moved into a van for the same reasons!
I think a positive mindset will really help you. Get out of your head and thoughts, live and enjoy in the moment also dont identify with anything anyone says to you you decide what you do and behave dont limit your self
now go have a great day ❤👍
Barely take a step outside my house in 3 years
This is me right now
@@sanjogpawar1874there is no positive or negative in that place we are just stuck
Talking it out or pouring it out of brain is good start
Alternative ADHD think I've noticed here - I tend to OVERESTIMATE how much I can get done in a day, so I over-schedule myself and get burned out really quickly. This can also contribute
Great point. Happens to me too.
Yes it’s one way or the other
Lucky for you if you DO at least complete "any task" I too overestimate stuff to get done".🤔 TheN just the thought of doing aLL this stuff by myself seems to bring me to a point of NoT getting AnY thing done, by the days end.😖 YeT..when I am productive..Insomnia kept me awake thinking about stuff I procrastinate doing from getting burnt out by OverEstimating🙄
Had No CluE about the
IMPACT, OuR Pandemic would/could have with those living with ADD..
Been Quarantined since I returned home on Friday 13th in March. My life is in constant Overwhelm, as is most of those, whose brain is "wired correctly"😏😉
StaYSafE
Yep. And I also have fibro. which causes all over body aches and extreme fatigue. Sometimes I really can't identify what is causing my issues, the ADHD or the fibro. I'm 67 years old and still work full time. My bro passed in Nov suddenly he was my dearest friend in the world Now, my sis and I are faced with closing two estates, one has two houses full of stuff. The other has a house and a big office building...full of stuff and I live in one of the family homes. What a nightmare. I'll make it thru though! What choice do we have?!
I do this all the time
when he said, stop, its going to be ok, I let out a sigh and started crying uncontrollably and I needed it. ADHD is such an uphill battle.
I did too!
😂I'm laughing because I can relate. Damn. I hope you're doing good there.
Your honesty at the beginning about dropping everything and avoiding responsibility really helped. I feel less alone and validated. Thanks.
I've been struggling with burnout, depression, high anxiety, mental fog, and exhaustion for a very long time now and it's causing me to spiral and makes it really hard to interact with others. I always feel like others don't like me or I embarrass myself by being awkward in social interactions. Thank you for this video, it's very helpful to listen to and also know there's others out there who are struggling too.
I’m in the same boat. University has been awful due to this.
Im undiagnosed at the moment but i feel that hope your OK.
My family thinks my s
0:23 *writes down note to self* "...not wrap face in strings, got it"
I love that this is less than 6mins
O my god, the relevancy of this video right now is insane. Been feeling exactly this building from the last few weeks. And I know about this channel for only a month. Litterally today i said (screamed lol) to myself. I feel so overwhelmed, chaotic, unstructured, ungrounded and tired above it all too. Need to retreat.
I was diagnosed with ADHD less than 2 years ago after years of being diagnosed with depression, and since then I’ve been trying to learn and embrace myself, and work on building systems and positive thinking. However, last month I fell into a horrible depression and exactly what you just described, feeling so burned out I buried my head in the sand for an entire month. Stopped going to classes, didn’t submit my assignments, barely communicated with anyone cuz I was ashamed of explaining what was going on especially that I myself wasn’t confronting my emotions, just binged 6 seasons of a tv show. that’s my escapist addiction bc I can pretend like my life doesn’t exist and focus on the lives of the characters. This month I’ve been trying to pick myself back up again and have been so anxious but this video while it said things I already know it felt good to listen to you explain them in such an understanding and empathetic way and made me feel less critical about what I’m going through. Thank you for having such a calming and reassuring voice and for saying what a lot of us feel deep down but aren’t able to put the words for it
is it normal that i simply stop functioning, ruminate and become anxious for multiple weeks, sometime months and sink into escapism when overhelmed? is it common for ad(h)d people?
I feel like that it sucks because I feel like I'm not taking any responsibility as an adult and doing what I feel most adults are I'm on Adderall but I get overwhelmed still
Same with me
@@seaweedbeach its relaxing to hear that we are not alone because its f. hard
Well done ADHD management.com. You have the knack of absolutely nailing the "naming of it" with ADHD symptoms! I couldn't relate more to everything you say in this video. It is infact the story or my (and I imagine many's lives!)
hey that's me
Great advice, I often start to feel anxious after putting to much on my plate too, and the hard part is maintaining good sleep, diet and exercise 😭
Sleep? What's that..?
I went through my adult life in a constant burn out. Now that I know I have adhd I now know im not mad. I feel like my burnouts separate me from who I am and thats the frustration.
I have those too. Have you found any strategies to stop having those?
I landed on this video looking to find out more about these burn out periods. Now that I’m a certain age, I can see it’s a pattern. I go from high-achieving with everyone congratulating me to HIDING from the world, not opening mail, literally ignoring my phone, emails, etc. These burnouts last 1-2 years on average. Once I’m in the thick of it, the mess seems too big to battle.
While I know better because the same small steps pull me out every single time, I lose the desire to climb out with every burn out. It’s terrifying and I so wish I could just flip a switch and be normal (rather than initiating a major novel change like moving, finding a new job, starting a new business, etc.). 😩
The burn out periods have robbed me of so much life! Here’s to hoping: now that we KNOW why it’s happening, we’ll be able to fight it before it happens again. 🤷🏼♀️ ❤
currently going through my tests periods, the video is spot on.
me too, im rekt hahah
Same if its not that is my family myself
It feels so good to finally be understood...
Yes, god yes. This video helped me so much today.
oof watching this while currently trying to get out of my "self isolate and escape" period. that description is so spot on I feel so seen 😭😭
Recently diagnosed and this is exactly what I’m going through at the moment.
I’m terrible at regulating emotions..
I feel like crying listening to this....
This is how much I am overwhelmed right now.....i was literally getting crushed under so much pressure😢..but I'll get up and instead crush my goals one by one.
I actually bursted into tears when he said it was going to be okay
Same, I'm feeling overwhelmed with my job and my mind is focusing on negative stuff. 😢
the only adhd channel with content i can relate to 95% of the symptoms. keep up the good work bro
This is the best explanation of chronic crisis that i have cone across. Thank you so much, mate.
You are healing people.
Definitely not watching this as 1AM...thanks for making this though it sums up exactly how I feel. I feel seen!
I so get your brain! You are speaking my language! I feel overwhelmed just listening to this as I’m right in this space right now. I just want to run away. Last week I vented and expressed anger to several family members, I had taken way too much on as I always do, I was as irritable as Fck. I never yell or am mean to others and I just lost it. Years and years of taking on everyone else crap and doing everything for everyone, due to my people pleading! I am in total burn out after doing this for years. It’s not there fault that I choose to over burden myself. I feel bad and I can’t take back the things I have said. I’ve had to hide from the world for a week! I’ve put all of these important things that need doing aside, the world isn’t going to fall over if they are not done, I needed a break from it all.
I’ve always struggled with math. Now I’m in a situation where I have to get a good math score on the GRE. Concentrating on math for any more than two hours leaves me feeling absolutely drained, my eyelids low, my mood shot, and I don’t even feel like I can relate to, or have conversations with people. The. I retreat into video games or netflix to try and enjoy one sliver of the day, but I don’t even really gave gas left in the tank to enjoy that. Of course, that throws me off my sleep and I feel drained the next day more often than not. I have no idea how to fix this and still accomplish the things I need to accomplish.
All my life i thought life was supposed to be like this for everyone and I was just a coward/lazy. I’m discovering myself through kindness.
Relatable. I keep almost sprinting through tasks then burning out, pacing is hard. Slowly trying to build in things a bit at a time but really feeling it today
See with things written even in a highly visible place eventually get blurred out. I tend to become unaware of details in my surroundings easily
Same, that's why I've gone into minimalism.
Im ADHD and a mom of two girls daily life is so overwhelming I'm anxious all the time always in panic mode and I have a hard time controlling my emotions
”Schedule a day for dealing with things”. I definitely won’t have the drive to them at that scheduled day.
I was diagnosed with ADD way back in 2nd grade, and been on meds ever since. I’ve been dealing with a whole slew of emotional problems and stress and addictions, sudden upswings after school semesters ended that made me be misdiagnosed with bipolar. Only this past week did I discover the connection between stress and ADHD and just knowing that has put so many things in perspective. Thank you so much for this video.
I'm already doing most of this, and still not able to keep up... I just moved out into a new apartment, and I struggle so much to even keep it clean, make food for myself, let alone unpack all my boxes. I haven't been able to exercise much, and exercise is very important to me as I enjoy it a lot. I have been overcomplicating things, like I feel this overwhelming need to sort all my clothes by color and function, and to find the perfect place for every single piece of clothing, and I'm doing something similar in the kitchen. Whenever I find the perfect place for an item it makes me feel happy and calm, but it doesn't change the fact that I spent half the day doing something others would have spent an hour on, or that most of my apartment is a total mess. I have a full time job, so I feel like I have so little time to do everything. I have not been diagnosed btw, but I have most of the ADD symptoms, and I will get tested soon.
Oof I moved in with a friend last year and I relate 100% to your comment. I’m diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and am still struggling but finally started stimulant medication a few months ago and it’s really started to help.
I hear ya. They say ADHD is like living life on hard mode
I really needed this, at the present time. I am so glad this video popped up on RUclips's home screen for me. Thank you for the great video.
The way you swivel gently while speaking is something I do too. This video helped. Thank you.
this is so helpful. It's good to know its not just me feeling this. thank you!
I’ve learned so much from your channel thank you so much for taking the time to be open and share your experience with adhd. I was diagnosed with adhd 3 weeks ago, I’m 31 single and single mom I’ve been struggling with this my whole life but just didn’t know what it was, I just thought it was me I was the problem, thank God now I know why I do the things I do. I’ve watched all your videos and I can relate to a lot of what you’ve shared. Long story short, thank you, You’ve helped me understand my brain a lot more.
ADHD and parenting isn't easy. Sometimes it's a blessing, sometimes a curse.
Thank you. Really helpful for me right now
Thank you so much for documenting your experiences
OMG, it feels like you decided to make a video about me.😱I appreciate these videos very much. Thank you.
I'm currently going through this at the moment and it hurts so much.
Wow. In 5 minutes this video cut to the core and stated exactly what I must do, in a way that I will actually do it. Thank you.
Wow, this was spot on for me. Thaaanks!
Everything I go through you always post a video about it and I was just like to say Thank you I didn’t realize I was going through this until I seen this
Hi from 🇨🇦! So glad I found your channel, it’s one of the best resources for ADHD that I’ve found on RUclips!
Love your calm demeanour, your editing, and the way you present the information!
I am thrilled to have come across this podcast. Not only is the content extremely informative and helpful, but I also want to applaud your exceptional presentation skills. It has taken me quite some time to realize that my auditory overload is connected to my ADHD, and finding a podcast that understands this struggle is a true gem.
One of the frustrations I've encountered in my search for ADHD-related podcasts is stumbling upon shows that bombard listeners with loud music intros and overly energetic hosts. However, your podcast stands out from the crowd. You manage to deliver a wealth of information in a concise yet soothing manner. Your sessional and well-thought-out style is truly admirable.
Thank you for providing such valuable information and creating a peaceful and rounded experience for your listeners. I am genuinely looking forward to learning more from you and continuing this journey of knowledge.
Wishing you a wonderful day ahead!
Excellent thank for sharing. And I have to do all this without meds!
It’s awesome how you advocate so passionately as you do
The ADHD Hypersomnia combo is so debilitating and I'm so glad this video addressed it briefly
^this is why I’m a pothead 😐
tell me about it
You made some very good suggestions. Thank you.
Hi from South Wales. I needed this. Currently on my second master's dissertation extension and I'm totally burned out and overwhelmed. Having my adhd diagnostic assessment next week, was diagnosed with dyslexia before Christmas. I'm 50 btw
This is great advice and helps me to understand a crisis I had many years ago. I was doing all the things you talked about, hyper-focusing on several things I was passionate about and ended up being treated for psychotic depression. The treatment was dreadful. I had lost my wife and family in the meantime. I'm not diagnosed but a Psychologist I saw for about a year considered that I was autistic. I think he was right. The possibility that I might also have ADHD didn't come up at that time but study I have done myself since then (I'm also a health professional) has presented it as a very real possibility. I have accepted it as real and strategies recommended for self-management of ADHD are working well for me. Your video adds more confirmation for me. I'm now in a much better place in my life but I still have to be aware of the risks. Thanks.
I need to vent *all the time* - how do I stop feeling guilty when constantly feeling like needing to vent to friends?
Describing yourself there… that’s me too. And we’re both Welsh and absolute gorgeous hunks. So much in common.
This is a summary of my past 1.5 years, Thank you for your efforts!
your videos are the most helpful things in the world!!!!
How much did you manage to get done? Because even i try these, i have tried hard. But the control it requires, somehow my executive system doesn't want to grant me.. I can't seem to think in that straight mind that help me maintain the restraints or like that can pull me out of that escapism, isolated phase
Another fantastic video. I still don't believe in ADHD but the basket of symptoms and dynamics you describe are spot on...and your advice is great.
I relate to everything you are saying. . Its frightening
In my mind things work out better than reality
You're absolutely right, I am hyperfocusing on unnecessary things. Right now it's my hiking obsession with ultralight kit. I need to focus on my uni work but I can't shift away from my current hyperfocus
my goodness I needed to hear "take a step back it's all going to be ok". I know you have moved on from ADHD stuff, but thankyou! I have gotten a lot out of your vids in the last 2 years! thankyou mate! Ed
Thank you! This put my current feelings in perspective and how to handle them! A step back and declutter the feels into more manageable parts helped my worry levels a lot.🥰
Wow this is so insightful. Im going through this now and have been finding it really hard to figure out what’s going on. Thank you
as soon as you said use a white board and make lists i closed down , even that feels or appears to be too long a process
im really struggling at the moment and have been closed down fir a really big chunk of this year. im self employed, my work schedule is non existent even tho i have many regular clients and others waiting for me to do work on their houses i just cant do it. I work really haphazardly and jump at every opportunity to avoid work all together and just stay in bed.
overwhelm , anxiety and paralysis is a real problem but when actually do get to work i’m the soul of the party with no off switch
this up and down its really doing my head in
Thanks for this.
Really let myself slip recently.
Resorted to self harm as a coping mechanism. Felt ashamed before I did it but I just reached a point where there was no other way to clear the fog.
School hols make it really hard to take time alone and engage in activities for myself.
Plus unexpected problems in the mix.
Must be more prepared next time and schedule time for myself as a priority.
These are all of the skills that I have learned by myself in the past that have worked for me. I tend to become overwhelmed when I am shopping with others in the store. If someone is walking too quickly, I will have an information overload form trying to see everything on the shelves (because my brain needs to see everything for some reason). I have learned to communicate this ahead of time to my friends and family, stop in a safe spot in the aisle and close my eyes, take two deep breaths or wait until the information flood stops, then open my eyes and continue shopping. I will often grab my partner's arm to alert him that I need to pause and he understands what that means. This can help me to avoid becoming irritable, becoming distressed, crying, having a panic attack, or developing a headache from information overload.
You have described what I'm going through to a tee. Good to know it isn't just me dealing with these feelings. I feel like such an incompetent human being sometimes. ADHD can be so debilitating sometimes. I had to go back to this video four times before I even finished it. That's how truly awful my attention span is.
i cannot stress how much i needed this video right now, i have 2 kids and im depressed, i have an assignment i cant seem to focus on and its killing me. Thank you for the tips, im gonna try to break it up into smaller bits and write it down.
I am just now learning after 35 years that burnout *can be* a sign of ADHD. I've suffered through terrible CFS bouts in my adult life, but I did it to myself! I used to self-treat by ultra-running. I've self-treated with immense amounts of caffeine. I became a flight attendant and stopped sleeping sometimes for over 24 hours several times in a month because there were too many cool things to see. It's like my body forgot how to rest or sleep and I crashed hard in 2018. I got to a point where I could barely walk. It was very scary, and I thought I had something like MS. Nope, just stress (and a hormonal issue that I am treated for now). I sleep normally now and am physically so much healthier than I used to be. My mental/ADHD symptoms though are still something I haven't been able to get a handle on. I feel like there's too much I want to do in life and I can't do it all. As an example, a few months ago, I ended up starting to volunteer for 3 different organizations all at once. Well, come to find, I couldn't handle that with my already full-time job and travel schedule. I have so much mental motivation but can't carry anything out. Coffee helps a lot for my mental state, but I'm afraid of burning my body out again with it, so I don't drink it often. Anyway, with my ramblings, I'm trying to say this video is quite relevant to my situation, so thanks for posting!
Going through this right this instance. I needed this
Dial it down. Lol. Great idea, in theory. EVERYTHING is a 10 on the importance scale. My "to do" list can end up being 2 and a half pages, front AND back, of a legal size pad. Burnout, burns me out. Lol. I appreciate your video and posting your ideas. And if anyone is actually reading this, be kind to yourself. ADHD chose you and it's NOT a character flaw. You're absolutely wonderful the way you are. Learn to laugh at yourself and definitely take breaks when needed. Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go be Superman and perfect. 😂 Stay strong. Reach out for help and support. You're loved.
Fantastic . I really needed this
Thank you for creating such helpful videos
Thank you for helping all of us! We Rock!
Even though I don't follow them perfectly, I found two tools that can help with burnout and overwhelm: the pomadoro technique ( a timer you use for x amount of time to work/focus and x amount for rest) and the Eisenhower matrix (categorizing tasks do, decide, delete or delete which are all based on both urgency and importance).
'I'm one of those people who cant get shit done until its absolutely unbearable'
lol my final year exams are in 2 days and 1 have 1 day to do all my studying for this year :// can rel8
Thanks!
i love your channel
Love your videos and your accent. Thank you for sharing ❤
Going to bed earlier is helping
This was amazing, thank you so much!
Do you ever deal with severe brain fog?
I have the combined-type (even though I see myself as predominantly inattentive) and I’m on the spectrum, too.
My mind is usually extremely foggy and I feel as though I’m living my life on autopilot. I can’t remember anything. My life is a complete blur. :(
Ritalin was amazing to begin with but I soon became emotionally blunted on it. Elvanse didn’t have any effect on me at all and Atomoxetine only intensified suicidal thoughts.
2 things I’ll try: 10 min break to intentionally slow down, Brain dump
Been going through 2 weeks, this helped
Not me crying while listening to your struggles with ADHD because I’m the same
Good vid and good timing
I LOVE THIS VIDEO STYLE !!! I WOULD AVOID YOUR VIDS BECAUSE I COULDNT STAY FOCUSED ON THEM, BUT ALL THE CUTS AND ZOOM INS AND OUTS ARE AMAZING THANK YOU
I love your video's . You help me a lot.😊
This needs more views - that's cliche to say but for real. As a person with ADHD who is having an off day, this hopes. Thanks mate.
I do deserve more views but YT is useless at pushing important info from smaller channels haha
This was excellent. Just what I needed right now, especially your comment that nothing is perfect and neither are we-- And that black and white thinking is damaging. Recently i made a huge blunder in grad school (missed a presentation because I wrote the wrong date down) and I started considering abondoning my current academic goals. But.... I'm not perfect. I make huge blunders sometimes and I always will. But I'll keep going anyways ! And get better, and still make mistakes anyways, and keep going anyways.
Cheers!
you often know when you are going to burn out when you have irritability and insomnia..
Me who has both those things whenever i need to do anything the next or same day or go somewhere the following day: uhhhhmmm *mickey mouse voice imitation activated* OH BOY HA HA !
Thank you. So it's ADHD Burnout, and it's a thing.
Thank you!
All in or nothing is kind of why i believe ill be one of the best in my passion, like the fact i get so tunnel visioned means i achieve whatever i set my mind to. I really need to spend my 20s working on gaining a routine lifestyle of keeping balance in my life though. Ill work on that and meditation once ive got the ball fully rolling.
Decided to leave my job this week despite this recession because i need some happiness, progression and real time to get on with what matters to me in life. Being broke may overwhelm me but its all about pros n cons, which i believe being on my purpose for the next few months will bring out more pros. This comment is everywhere but i just wanna say, if your brain WANTS to achieve something so bad, take the risks after working out backup plans and comparing the pros n cons. Were the innovators, inventors, original creatives of this world. We pave how humanity progresses, period.
Not taken a med btw but obvi the godly hyperfocus makes it seem that way lool
No you obviously haven't taken meds. Your head is in the clouds.
How can you achieve your passions if you don't have a day routine, after quitting your job? You need both work and freetime to frame your time and get things done. My friend who has add and is unemployed gets the least done of all of my friends. Same with me when I was a neet.
im autistic so its hard to come up with ways to talk to someone and make them feel better so im here to learn how to help someone with adhd in my life who suffers of burnout consistently, Thank you for this video.
Thanks for the vid.
Good stuff dude
So glad I found your channel! :)
This is a nightmare. I could not sleep and took drugs to try to fix it and it just made it 100 times worse 😢
Thanks mate
I am addicted to alone time, dissociation. Shoots down #1.
I think my problem is that I don’t want to even begin to assess anything and like I don’t think getting a calendar or whiteboard would be useful because I just don’t even know if I’ll use it