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True. For example, it’s hard to fathom why a mature adult would believe absurd ghost stories about talking snakes, golem spell dirt men, a talking rib woman, enchanted fruit, talking shrubbery, food falling from the sky, a female salt shaker, talking donkeys, Noah's magic zoo boat, ghost sex, alien landings, zombies, magic hair, magical goblins, giants (Bigfoot), magically multiplying food, magic blood, multiple shouts of “abracadabra”, an invisible magic kingdom, the heebie-jeebies, 900 year old humans, and a man who lived in a fish. That’s BULLSHIT!
100% spot on especially with the last one, I am typically confident in my positions however in the event I am proven wrong I feel absolutely zero shame or embarrassment about that because now I just learned something so I welcome being proven wrong because its a short term loss but long term only ends in my benefit.
Well said. As INTJ's, we have no problem being wrong, you just have to prove it with concise logic and fact, where as with some other types, being wrong = I'm a stupid person. No you're not, you're just wrong and there's no shame in that. What irritates me the most is when people press on with an incorrect viewpoint just for the sake of being right. That's what makes people look stupid imo.
I think its because intj divorce personal feelings from logical decisions. When that is the case, you don't see criticism of your ideas as a personal attack, but you rather welcome it as a helping hand in solving a problem.
It's not really a paradox why the INTJ will quickly change their position on something if they are shown or proven wrong through logic. This is because the INTJ's primary concern is truth, not ego. Only people with ego problems get upset when they are proven wrong, because their primary objective is to be right, at all costs. The person's pride or ego is irrelevant to the issue and shouldn't make their ego the issue. Ego prevents people from mental and character development and is the primary reason for all the chaos in the world. Something is either right, or it isn't right.
When I discover I have been wrong about something, I like to take time to reflect on why. Mistakes can be learning experiences. Accountability is important too. I totally agree about the importance of truth vs ego. People have described us as arrogant at times, and right most of the time, but perhaps confidence likely a result of standing on truth. I could be wrong.
I am an INTJ.. I am very emotional on the inside.. seeing someone in pain or hurting burns me. Hearing of child abuse or animal abuse especially has me in flames on the inside. Seeing someone hurting by their own doing, not taking responsibility and expecting sympathy will make me pull away.. cos I just don't know what to do with that. The only way I know how to deal with emotional pain, from personal experience, is to fix the problem on my own.. or talk to a very close friend or family member. Because the majority of my life.. I have dealt with pain on my own, being an introvert.. and tried to find solutions to better the outcome. That being said.. I will also listen when someone is genuine. I may not know what to say but I will listen intently. If someone is grieving, I understand there is no solution. I may not be able to offer warm words.. but I will drop you over a meal, take you groceries etc while you grieve and listen, take time to feel with you. Even though that's painful for an INTJ.
Then you’re not INTJ. An INTJ will not be burning if someone is in pain or hurting. Instead, he’ll know it is wrong, and if possible try to make it right. The sense of responsibility is great. You’re probably an INFJ, which is even rarer. The second paragraph, i.e what you’ll do when somebody is in pain, is a textbook example of an INFJ. For an INTJ everything is a problem, and everything has a solution, even like the grieving situation. And the solutions just come instantly.
I disagree. -INTJ with an INFJ mother and friend. Fi echos peoples feelings ESPECIALLY if they are close to you. Now sometimes it comes and goes but I also definitely get this burning painful feeling as well. I am most certainly not an INFJ for this, having had good experience with them.
Its because it is fun for us playing winging with problems and solve them better then anyone anyway even if we already had a plan written to follow. Its maybe just to prove our abilities. Then if things take a bad turn it takes just 1 second to go back to plan A.
To quote my favorite DC villain: “you make the plan, you execute the plan, you watch the plan go off the rails, you throw away the plan.” Winging it is necessary anytime available data for planning turns out to have been incomplete.
My good friend is INTJ, every single point in this analysis is 100% with him. I'm an INFJ and I absolutely identified with a number of these points but in a lesser sense than my INTJ friend... Except for Planning & Winging. I seriously struggle with the concept of spontaneity, I cannot even cope with the concept of a potluck dinner 'what if everyone takes potato salad??? 🤯 So I plan and plan and plan some more. But there are some situations where winging it appears to me to be the only reasonable option. I've figured that I plan everything to a level that permits spontaneity, removes the risk element of winging it.
As an INTJ that is the best analysis of an INTJ I have heard. I have listened to a few analysis and always thought I can't be one because of various perceived contradictions, now I can truly say I am an INTJ. (official test conducted as part of a job interview, why I still don't know, but was told by the 'testers' I won't get the job as they basically wanted 'yes' people.) Brilliant video. Yes, I plan, a lot but many only see the 'wing it' or the quick switch from one idea to another. And Yes, organised and messy at the same time.
Yea I've taken multiple tests, always get INTJ..but the more I've researched the more I would convince myself it was wrong and agree, then talk myself out of it again....but this video makes sense
It's a bit weird hearing your personality and mannerisms broken down and categorized but I can't deny that you are spot on. It was clear very early on that my brain worked differently from the others. It was only after I took the personality test that I discovered how right that feeling was, even more so in my case as a INTJ female.
As an INTJ female almost every point is spot on. The world is a lonely place. I love truth, justice, and am fiercely loyal. I hate liars, drama, and small talk. But am learning to tolerate small talk.
Thank you for making a video explaining this in detail. I love that I am an INTJ, but it is difficult when most people around you think low of you because they misunderstand my intentions almost always. I love discussion on deep topics and I ask questions of people and debate with people to test out an idea. I am very confident in my ability to plan and lead, but can be scatterbrained. I care deeply about other people's thoughts and feelings, but completel strangers I have a hard time feeling empathy for. I really have to work at it so I get to know people so that I can have this.
Bro all the things u add in Ur comments seem to similar with me but there a one problem.i can't tell or express feeling even though I have but having feeling about anyone is so rare for me .
@@pranavvishe4806 You may be a certain personality type, but you are not locked into never feeling anything regarding others. My defaults are not caring about most things, but Christ has given everything meaning and importance.
@@pranavvishe4806 I think the reason why INTJs feel that they have no feeling is because their feelings would be too intense, if they felt them, so they pack them down. I used to cry about stuff and got such headaches that I couldn't stand it anymore and so I stopped crying for myself, but I can cry for others without going into overload.
One of the purposes of life is to grow character. Our profiles show us what our strengths are, so we can capitalize on them, and our weaknesses, so that we can grow out of them as much as possible. It's wonderful that you understand that.
Well... Let's get one thing direct: I KNOW where everything is in my "organized mess" I call home!!! The fact that I have stacks of books & notebooks, calculators, droves of pads, pens, piles of papers ALL are directly connected to a specific research endeavor "assigned" to that particular "mess"... Don't mess with my messes!!!!! I know where everything is!!! ***THIS*** is one BLESSING of living ALONE!!!!! Usually I am granite on what I know. I could be proven "off" on a technical detail via new research data, & immediately "reshuffle" incorporating the new data(IF I DECIDE it's reliable!!!), but my base premises are granite. On those I NEVER BUDGE... & I'll stand toe to toe on them. I've spent the time & effort to cement them. Debate yes... Argue??? No way... I let the situation prove me right... Then there's no doubt. The emotion aspect gets real merky real fast...each one of us is different. Anger has to be the most difficult: repression of it evolves into depression over it-a lurking shadow that can be "triggered" from nowhere!!! While I literally am "MamaBeare" over those I'm emotionally invested in(those extremely close, my animals, MY CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, my home), I reserve any observable display on just about anything else... it's that "emotional investment" part that draws the line...🖤 Edit: A vivid paradox no one seems to pick up on is my humor quotient: on one side, I can make a comment that to me is brilliantly hysterical, BUT NO ONE BUT ME IS LAUGHING, at the same time, I don't find funny what others do- my analysis of it seems to boil down to the reality that their "humor" is rooted in the mockery of a person whereas mine targets systems & processes... the reason I don't "get" theirs nor them mine... I crack myself up for days over some of the comic routines I equate with STUPIDITY!!!😂🖤
@Catherine Rhea wow - thank you so much for sharing! This is chalk-full of some really great insights, and a lot of common threads for INTJs, for sure. All of this is so relatable and common experiences - esp the humor aspect and the organized mess - is so relatable. I always look forward to hearing from you and your experience. Thanlk you so, so much! 🖤👍🏻🙂
@@ayamegotayamed2641 While I now enjoy no one interfering w/my "filing piles" of projects... when others were under the same roof(child, ex, etc...), I "contained" my "filing messes" into boxes & totes that had WARNING LABELS if they were moved or "disturbed" in ANY manner- I didn't even want the containers dusted!!! I was like a guard dog about my desks at my work places too.... Those who violated my "space" were truncated by "forbidden zones"... Even padlocks for the rooms on two occasions... Now it's my cats knocking over research stacks that aggravate me... Otherwise, I FINALLY have the solitude for my projects that I've fought over for decades... Being ALONE has distinct ADVANTAGES I've never secured any other way!!!😁🖤
@@ayamegotayamed2641 I consider it BLATANT DISRESPECT to "invade" personal space. ...& they can "scold, scoff, mock, complain, insinuate, gang insult, laugh, BITCH" ALL THEY WANT... My resolve is solid: Decades ago, Elders in the Longhouse(I'm Mohawk on my Dad's side) told a story that burned into my neurons about Skunk Medicine... "Regardless of what anyone else thinks about a skunk, HE ALWAYS GETS RESPECT. Everyone gives the skunk a clear path & doesn't interfere with what skunk is doing or where he's going... THEY KNOW BETTER!!! It is only the "unaware" who dare to violate Skunk's path, & Skunk "educates" those violators as only Skunk can!!! Skunk Medicine ENFORCES BOUNDRIES!!!... & YOU WILL RESPECT THOSE BOUNDARIES WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT... Like the Badger, Skunk doesn't care." I took that Medicine with me throughout my journeys, drawing boundaries & ENFORCING THEM. Yes... I've had all manner of "bad behavior" aimed at me in both predictable & unique attempts to disrespect those boundaries, & each time the violator regretted it. I wear my Skunk Medicine PROUDLY.😜🖤
Schrodinger and Heisenberg where in a car driving along when they got pulled up by the police. The cop said to the driver, Heisenberg, did you know you were doing 80 in a 55? Heisenberg replied "oh great now we are lost". The cop asked for a look in the boot and Schrodinger got out to open it. The boot was opened and the cop looked inside and said "oh my god there is a dead cat in there". And Schrodinger said, "well, it's dead NOW."
Number 5 is spot on! I plan what I have control over to the last detail but I'll always leave room for life's chaos That often means contingencies for contingencies
@Adam D I'm really glad my video helped make some sense of things for you! I also really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
The last two points are so me. I'm often a cesspool of emotion but no one would ever know. And, I have strong opinions on things about which I have significant knowledge. But show me I'm wrong with strong data, and I have no problems saying I was wrong. OTOH some people, when proven wrong about something, just double down on that error rather than admit fallibility. That never makes sense to me.
Though I'm seeing this video after 2 years of publishing it, I can't stop commenting that the observations made are spot on. To put in simple terms being an INTJ is a pain especially when you have a partner who doesn't have any clue about it.
This is true. INTJs would love to follow their plan but things could be unpredictable and variables could change. Doing the best option will always be the most viable direction. As long as I get the result I want, it doesn't matter what routes I choose. This also reflects to the last point that INTJs will always think they are right until proven wrong. I may deem my route to be the best one but if I am convinced that another route could be better along the way, I will have no issue changing my plan. INTJs dont really care if they are proven wrong, as long as they've reached an agreeable conclusion. They are not sensitive to due criticisms because they see the value in it. To be honest, it's easy to convince an INTJ. Just lay out your points why you think your idea os better. If it is, you will have no problem getting the INTJ on your side.
The reason we are difficult to argue with is because we are constantly analyzing everything in which we have even a slight interest in. We never engage in discussion on topics we have no interest in. So that means we will have a fairly strong opinion on most topics that we are willing to discuss. That analyzing means we construct in our mind the truth of the matter for a particular topic and then we bombard it with questions to see how it holds up. When our mental construct of reality can't answer a question, we update the model with something that can. We just keep bombarding it until it seems to answer all questions we can come up with in a satisfactory manner. We don't scratch the surface or even go 1 or 2 levels deep. We will likely be something like 8 levels deep on a topic for which we may have only mild interest. What I've found is that almost no other personality types do this, except for where they have great interest. So, we start talking about something that we both have a mild to medium interest in and they say what they think, and we realize they are scratching the surface of the topic. We want to catch them up to where we are, and we know exactly which questions will destroy their current level of thinking because we've already done this with our own thinking at their current level. The problem is that most personality types do not engage in this logical barrage of questions to advance their thinking on a topic. So immediately having a challenge to what they put out as their thought on a subject comes off as demeaning to them and an attack of some sort. Now they go into defense mode and try to attack our mental construct of reality regarding the subject, but they attack with questions that we have already used against our mental construct of reality, so we have quick answers to every attack. They walk away thinking the INTJ is a condescending, arrogant, know-it-all, when we were actually just trying to advance their thinking to where ours is, not because we are smarter than they are but because we have simply spent more time than they have analyzing the subject.
I have taken the MBTI test at this point in my life 5 times already. The first time I took it was in elementary. I was the only INTJ in the classroom. I am now 22 y/o and out of the 5 times I took the test, 4 times it said that I was an INTJ. Almost everything in this video felt so relatable and made sense to me. At this point I guess I'm pretty sure of who I am and it's nice to know I'm not the only one.
Ah its wonderful being a walking paradox. Glad my messy mind just comes with the territory. I related to every one of these points and am glad to now know, its all related to my personality type. Much appreciated!
Our confidence comes from KNOWING we can achieve something. So if we fail or if we are even 1% unsure then we will overthink it. Failing at something puts us in extremely deep thought over analyzing "why the hell did I make that mistake?! That's unacceptable. I need to ensure that never happens again" So yes we're confident. But it isn't false confidence. It can waver if we fail
Very impressed. 100 % correct. I only found out yesterday that I'm an INTJ and thought that the comments would be a bit off target and only some suggestions would match my personality type but every thing you said was exactly right. Well done.
I can honestly say, you have one of the most fascinating channels on YT, that includes your viewers. This thread is incredible! You have the makings of an ART BELL Audience! Lots of intelligent people here 😎 As times change, people meet and socialize in different types of places and situations. My grandparents met and fell in love at the public pool. My parents met at a gas station. I met my long term dude at a rave. I had planned to go to a kayaking rave that weekend, and wound up at a different party, unexpectedly. As one of my friends has pointed out, I'm a homebody, I generally don't go out of my way to be around people or socialize much. However when I'm put in a situation, I do just fine. In general I don't like small talk, I think deep, about weird, far out subjects. I like knowing useful, helpful things. I will happily discuss aliens, spaceships, astrology, cooking or gardening techniques, or movies. I LOVE weird movies, I'm a total Lynch freak. I adore nature and watching the sky. I used to film .. stuff... local unsigned bands or I'd interview people about whatever they wanted to talk about anywhere anytime, abandoned haunted places before THAT was a thing. I was in a weird phase in life then. But being behind a lens was a good way to be in a scene, while you figure out if you want to immerse yourself in it. I taught that gift to some of my more socially awkward friends, and was stunned by what great eyes they had on them! Sometimes I'll just wander into a white out blizzard and film a pond freezing over, it's beautiful. I'm gone for hours. I lose time. Most people don't know how it works. Not sure why I never upload the pics, but I do tend to take weird pics, and then ask people what they see in them. Oh yeah you want a strange situation, take some abstract shots, and ask people what they see, you'd be AMAZED. It's like a rorschach test, the ink blot thing? Yeah.. TRY THAT! Because people aren't focused on YOU, they start seeing things, and what they see is many times telling you something about them. What they're going thru or what they want, what's in their soul. When I was a driver in Portland, I was amazed by how many people I knew had pics of clouds on their phones. I don't mean like 5 pictures, I mean they are SKYWATCHERS, like I am. Every walk of life. Or I'd hand them the Magic Cord in my car and tell them to blow my mind, surprise me with a song from their phones, my regulars never ceased to delight. As awkward as I am, for whatever reason I was a highly requested driver, I'm good at making people feel safe. I try to avoid showoffs. I live with one, I work here. He's always desperately trying to get people to pay attention to him, yet the guy has nothing interesting to talk about. He's small talk city with ONE GOAL - getting something off you, sex or whatever. SO I avoid him and people like him as much as possible. They're boring and exhausting. He lives and dies at other people's approval. It's so pathetic to watch. I've done all sorts of things for a living, but at some point tickets became my world, I used to be a scalper, so parkinglots, and then evolved to broker, I worked the phones. I prefer phones, and now online as times change. I love all sorts of music, and with sports, I'd make it a habit to catch the highlights on the news so I'd be able to carry on a decent convo with my customers. If I'm going in for something, to learn, or work it, I try to learn a bit about the subject, to avoid looking like a fool, because I know I'll have to have some sort of conversation if I want to move forward. It's weird cuz not so long ago, you could go places and meet with people, I was the coffee shop crowd, didn't care much for bars. Or I was at the bookstores, art shops, pet shops the garden areas of the store, those places kind of encourage you to read, or play with things, you could interact with people if you wanted. Sometimes if one of your friends is feeling sad, just take them to the garden dept at Target, let them cry in the flowers. They'll feel better, you might get a few weird looks, but after the flowers, they'll be able to breathe, THEN they'll talk, get it sorted. You go to the pound, you'll both wind up in tears, so... just go to the flowers and ferns. My other delight is old people. I adore old people, they've seen things and lived in times that we will never see. My grandparents raised me when I was young, I have so much love for grandparents, they know so much, our world is losing their knowledge, their techniques. I love talking to them, I wish I had been able to interview my grandparents and put it on the net. There ARE situations in life, when you might need an answer, and it can't be found anywhere in pop culture, ask a grandma, she knows the answer. Or a grandpa, and if you don't have your own, it's OK grandparents can be easily adopted. 🥰. They've been your age, and they have wisdom, they know what they would've done, or should've done, and what they're glad they didn't get involved with. Usually, they're looking to point a younger person in the right direction. I hope something here has been of any help. I'm a total introvert, but due to life's weird circumstances, I get tossed out in there, right in the deep end. These are some of the things I've learned to help me cope. And yes, I'm up for adoption. LOL ( That was a total joke ) 🐬✨ be peaceful and stay blessed🕊✨ You're up on that billboard now... never know, you MIGHT have to have a conversation pretty soon. I have faith in you, you're gonna knock it out of the park Dude! You'll be fine.
All true, I have immense care and sympathy to the people I care about... and num 1 is true, in fact I wish if someone save me an effort by providing a better solution.
I have considerably changed my mental execution by continuously imagining a filing cabinet in my head. It is very hard to stay focused when you have intense intuition.. and it's hard to have empathy for people who are dwelling in feelings. Feelings are behind most of what people say. I can't help but analyze what they are saying, rather than attempting to reciprocate their emotions
Discovering mbti helped me so much at not feeling weird or not coherent.. in INTJ all the things that look inchoerebt to normal people make logical sense instead.
People often tell me that I'm not honest when I say something related to my emotions, because I'm so expresionless it often gets mistaken with emotionless. I do feel very strongly, but it doesn't feel right to make a scene about it, I'll just talk about it when the time is right, and my meticulous choosing of that moment solidifies the notion that they aren't true emotions because they are so controlled. Truly paradoxical
The Winging It thing is so true for me. I'll have everything major planned out and ready to go. Multiple paths and choices to accommodate every possible future. But...I'll flip a coin to decide which of two options to go with. Most of the time, I can debate with myself and narrow my choices from 100's down to 2. Being equally fine with either choice, the coin settles that decision.
Overall, this is probably the best INTJ overview out there. But. These are not paradoxes. 7) If it looks like a mess to you, it doesn't mean it's a mess for me. I know exactly where I dropped that paper clip 10 years ago if I ever will need it in the future. 6) Because we see and care so much - it is a defensive mechanism to be able to turn it off for at will. 5) You can't plan everything. Trust me, we tried. Haha, those planned to a word phone calls... Now extra hour just in case is part of the plan. 4) How can't I be so confident if I always overthink everything? Duh. If I couldn't find flaws in this idea, overthinking it for a month - are you still sure you found them flaws right here right now? 3) People, that are just a waste of time, are feeling threatened by us. Good for them. 2) We are not less sensitive in feeling emotions. We understand them. And control them. Because my ruined day doesn't have to become your ruined day. 1) Prove me wrong and I will tell you THANK YOU. Because now I will know more. And probably understand why something before didn't work as intended. And correct it. And finally, the world will bend its knee...
@Soumyadeep Nath you're very welcome! I'm so glad it helped clarify some things and you've gotten some better understanding of yourself 🙌🏻 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
All spot on. It is a pain being an INTJ, especially a female one and young. But as my husband would say and I think it is the truth, if you are a confident and honest male, it is nice to marry a female INTJ as we "think like a man", that means being rational, play fair, no blame game, giving credit where it is due, being honest even if it is painful, does not cry to win arguments (actually we strongly dislike arguments anyway, fact is fact to us and should not be "argued"). Thing is INTJ women are hard to find as they are the rarest type in women.
Interestingly, we may appear aloof at a funeral, but in daily life, our death stare or RBF may have others thinking we are angry/upset when it's just our wheels turning. Really bad news, like funerals, is sometimes (but not always) processed very slowly. It eats us up inside until the dam breaks.
I didn't relate to this video that much, but I'm not a hardcore INTJ. I keep good records and know where they are. When I was a little girl, my mother said to always put things back in the correct place, so you can find them when you need them. That stuck with me. I don't like having to hunt for stuff. I keep things very organized in specific drawers. Most of my papers are in the proper places in my file cabinet, except for a couple of folders of misc that I can't get at because the drawer is stuck. I haven't needed any of those papers for years, though, so it's not a big deal. I am not scatter-brained. I read an article some years ago about people who get easily distracted and never finish what they set out to do, and at the end of the day, feel like they have accomplished nothing. I disciplined myself to not be like that. It sounds too much like having dementia. I can empathize with strangers. I have cried sometimes when reading the newspaper about something terrible that happened to someone. Not long ago, I was walking down the street when I saw a teenaged boy at the bus stop with tears in his eyes. I asked him why he was crying. He said things were not working out for him. I asked if he would let me pray for him. He said no. So I asked if I could give him a hug. He said yes, so I hugged him, prayed for him, (a short, simple one about knowing God and His comfort), and cried, too. I am not at all indifferent to anyone's suffering, if they truly are in distress, and not just being a wimp. I think it is creepy if a person can listen to a story about a child's suffering and feel nothing. These paradoxes can be overcome, like overthinking and second guessing. The second guessing is related to perfectionism, which is a bondage. I used to drive myself nuts and people around me nuts by having expectations of myself and of them that were too high. I have learned to be satisfied with good work, even if it isn't perfect. After all, nothing in this world is ever going to be perfect; that happens only in Heaven. I can appear to be very stoic, but not at funerals. Seeing other people cry because they miss the person who died makes me cry. How do I feel about their death? Everybody dies sometimes. If I know that they were ready for Heaven, I feel happy for them that they are finally there and they have no more troubles. I imagine what kind of fun they are having, though nobody's imagination can do justice to that. I blow them kisses, and sometimes I cry like when I think of what my brother suffered when he was here, but he's there now, and he doesn't want me to be unhappy, so I don't think about it for long. If I think that the person might have gone to that other place, I reason that they made their choice, there's nothing I can do about it, and my concern has to focus on the living who still have a chance to escape it. I relate the most to the last portion of the video. I know what I know and there are some things that nobody can change my mind about, but if someone shows me a legitimate error in my thinking, I am grateful for it. I value logical thinking and get annoyed when people are not logical because it seems that they are being either manipulative or cowardly when they ignore it.
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I agree completely on the planning part. The only point of the plan is to lead to a desired result. We also know that we don't know everything, so the plan will need to be adjusted as we go and possibly entirely discarded for a better plan. I have a task for investment planning for every Friday. Why EVERY Friday? Because the planning never ends. There is no final plan or one plan to rule them all.
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I took the Humanmetrics Jung Typology Test (TM) at my job before retirement. I am classified by the test as an INTJ. I am Introvert(31%), iNtuitive(9%), Thinking(19%), Judging(41%) This is a pretty good video and accurately describes me in work and personal life. A question: Are any of you INTJ's like the way I describe myself? For my adult life I have made detailed plans whether renovating my home or taking a trip. Every day I complete an index card listing everything that needs to be accomplished. Yet I am scatterbrained, though coworkers often thought I was very organized and a good planner.
I don't recall my scores, but I do recall not being deep on the introverted scale. I only feel introverted around true extroverts, but feel extroverted around true introverts. The xNTJ's were pretty solid in my results. I prefer to work alone, but afterward could use some human interaction. I like to know something about the people around me, and how they're doing. I wouldn't feel compelled organizing a social event though.
I had never heard of MBTI until a friend in graduate school asked me take an 80 question version as part of an MBA class. I scored as an INTJ. I did a lot of reading on the subject after the initial test and taken a few more online versions categorizing as an INTJ every time. I maintain a daily and weekly handwritten list of tasks needing accomplished. Mentally, I have planned months and years in advance. It is a way to keep organized if something or someone pulls me in a different direction.
I did the test and I am a INTJ-A, I think this could be somewhat accurate. Though I do question the methodology behind these online assessments and the mundane generalised application of analysis.
For the last one I'm notoriously known as "Mr. Know it All" but i exactly don't mind about it I'm usually using it for gaining information, (you know like instinctively people would correct your answer when you are giving false information) so in my opinion it's like a win - win situation. But yeah other people definitely don't like that at all 😅, they are so upset when they proven wrong but I'm more like fascinated that i gain or perceived a new information.
The last one is very relatable except i personally express to people that if they can back it up with evidence then I'm going to stick to my point of view as I know I've thoroughly researched the topic. If they don't want to go through the effort of showing their research and also dont want to see the evidence I have or choose to ignore it then they can just continue being wrong and idk, be mad?? 🤷♀️
I find it hard to feel sorry for people who make poor decisions. Even my friends, I can sometimes be very callous towards. But I do it out of love. I’m not a yes man, I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear because you want to hear it. I’m not going to soften the blow, because then you might not grasp the gravity of the seriousness of your situation. I might not even hug you to tell you it’s going to be OK, especially if it isn’t. However, don’t ever let me catch somebody being a bully. I will defend whoever the victim is to the death of me. It’s one thing to give people hard truth, it’s another to just be mean spirited, evil, and ugly. I might not be the friend that will comfort you when you’re sad, but I am the friend who will pull you out of any bad situation, I’m the friend who will kill and die for you. And correct you about it later if you are wrong, but in that moment, nothing will touch you. That’s the kind of friend I am.
INTJs have and show emotions. What makes the INTJ different is that they rate their emotions as less important than their rational thoughts or logic. If an INTJ's emotions do not sync with how an INTJ thinks that they should react, they are more likely to act on what they think is the logical thing to do rather than to act on that emotion.
2:20 is this more INTP? It is actually a pet peeve of mine to lose or misplace information the relates to "The plan" or "The equation" I mean that is the point. Why would I not get really frustrated with myself for losing something important like that? However things like my stocking cap, scissors, tape.... egh who knows where they are -just keep buying them for every room in the house lol
I'm convinced INTJ's have a 2nd brain that only comes out of hiding when necessary (e.g., times of crisis). Once or twice, I've watched it guide me, as if it were a higher external force. As for emotions, vulnerability is my biggest nemesis. We process bad news very slowly. One day, it lands squarely in the face. It's awful, but then dealt with immediately, effectively, and finally.
I recently came to knew what I am, is called an INTJ, also called Architects. Ironically very deeply wanted to be an architect after finishing my school. If not for my parents I would have.
Supposedly I am an infj but I really feel like I'm more of an intj I think maybe the questionnaire wasn't completely accurate. All of these apply to me
I can't fully vouch for everything said here but as an INFJ also with dominant Introverted Intuition, everything that deals with dominant Introverted I tuition we can also confirm either fully or at least mostly. We INFJs have some of the same or at least similar paradoxes, and some completely different ones. One such paradox or contradiction is wanting to be alone when with other people but wanting to be with people when we are alone. Or sometimes we feel both at the same time whether we are alone or with others.
You've forgotten about the shadow functions -- the bottom four of the eight in total -- which mistakes the empathy problem. Third function Fi is a strong motivating force and can burn very deeply. The empathy problem comes from our 7th function, the Polar or Trickster function, which is a person's worst function and a blindspot. We have 7th slot Fe, and Fe is the function responsible for empathy, understanding social norms, and social connection.
@Blib Gluntner Thankfully, no. There's a certain mystique about INTJs that is entirely unwarranted. We're less Bond villain, more Daria, or Lisbeth Salander. We absolutely do not have success in every aspect of our life, and often don't really hit until later in life than other people -- INTJs are slow burning. We do have connections with other humans, but it's very difficult to find other INTJs. ISTJs also have third slot Fi and seventh slot Fe, and they're the most common type, so no need to worry there. Given how rare INTJs are, we generally connect with intuitives. A large chunk of my mates are INTPs, and INFJs are great too. And for some reason, ENFPs are crazy about INTJs. I'm not complaining. This may surprise you, but if you ever see an INTJ instantly fall for someone (at least, a male INTJ), they're probably an INFP. INFPs are incredibly underrated and far more "academic" than people give them credit for. But where NT types are more scientific, INFPs are perhaps more philosophical. If you read the comments section on an MBTI video, look for any conversations between INTJs and INFPs -- they go very deep very quickly, and often have an instant connection. ISFPs are great too, and they tend to have a calming effect on INTJs. ISFPs have the same cognitive stack, Ni Te Fi Se, but in a different order: Fi Se Ni Te.
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True. For example, it’s hard to fathom why a mature adult would believe absurd ghost stories about talking snakes, golem spell dirt men, a talking rib woman, enchanted fruit, talking shrubbery, food falling from the sky, a female salt shaker, talking donkeys, Noah's magic zoo boat, ghost sex, alien landings, zombies, magic hair, magical goblins, giants (Bigfoot), magically multiplying food, magic blood, multiple shouts of “abracadabra”, an invisible magic kingdom, the heebie-jeebies, 900 year old humans, and a man who lived in a fish. That’s BULLSHIT!
100% spot on especially with the last one, I am typically confident in my positions however in the event I am proven wrong I feel absolutely zero shame or embarrassment about that because now I just learned something so I welcome being proven wrong because its a short term loss but long term only ends in my benefit.
100%
Well said. As INTJ's, we have no problem being wrong, you just have to prove it with concise logic and fact, where as with some other types, being wrong = I'm a stupid person. No you're not, you're just wrong and there's no shame in that. What irritates me the most is when people press on with an incorrect viewpoint just for the sake of being right. That's what makes people look stupid imo.
@@project0077 People sometimes can't separate their identity from a thing outside themselves that they are wrong about.
@@kauffrau6764 Exactly
I think its because intj divorce personal feelings from logical decisions. When that is the case, you don't see criticism of your ideas as a personal attack, but you rather welcome it as a helping hand in solving a problem.
It's not really a paradox why the INTJ will quickly change their position on something if they are shown or proven wrong through logic. This is because the INTJ's primary concern is truth, not ego. Only people with ego problems get upset when they are proven wrong, because their primary objective is to be right, at all costs. The person's pride or ego is irrelevant to the issue and shouldn't make their ego the issue. Ego prevents people from mental and character development and is the primary reason for all the chaos in the world. Something is either right, or it isn't right.
Ego is the absence of love
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So true. As the Bible says, only by pride comes contention.
When I discover I have been wrong about something, I like to take time to reflect on why. Mistakes can be learning experiences. Accountability is important too. I totally agree about the importance of truth vs ego. People have described us as arrogant at times, and right most of the time, but perhaps confidence likely a result of standing on truth. I could be wrong.
Beautifully written. Excellent analysis. 100% correct.
Ego is the primary reason for all the chaos in the world. Couldn't agree more...
I am an INTJ.. I am very emotional on the inside.. seeing someone in pain or hurting burns me. Hearing of child abuse or animal abuse especially has me in flames on the inside. Seeing someone hurting by their own doing, not taking responsibility and expecting sympathy will make me pull away.. cos I just don't know what to do with that.
The only way I know how to deal with emotional pain, from personal experience, is to fix the problem on my own.. or talk to a very close friend or family member. Because the majority of my life.. I have dealt with pain on my own, being an introvert.. and tried to find solutions to better the outcome.
That being said.. I will also listen when someone is genuine. I may not know what to say but I will listen intently. If someone is grieving, I understand there is no solution. I may not be able to offer warm words.. but I will drop you over a meal, take you groceries etc while you grieve and listen, take time to feel with you. Even though that's painful for an INTJ.
Then you’re not INTJ. An INTJ will not be burning if someone is in pain or hurting. Instead, he’ll know it is wrong, and if possible try to make it right. The sense of responsibility is great.
You’re probably an INFJ, which is even rarer. The second paragraph, i.e what you’ll do when somebody is in pain, is a textbook example of an INFJ. For an INTJ everything is a problem, and everything has a solution, even like the grieving situation. And the solutions just come instantly.
I disagree. -INTJ with an INFJ mother and friend.
Fi echos peoples feelings ESPECIALLY if they are close to you. Now sometimes it comes and goes but I also definitely get this burning painful feeling as well.
I am most certainly not an INFJ for this, having had good experience with them.
Same here bro
Extreme planner but frequently just wing-it, is embarrassingly accurate 😅
Its because it is fun for us playing winging with problems and solve them better then anyone anyway even if we already had a plan written to follow. Its maybe just to prove our abilities. Then if things take a bad turn it takes just 1 second to go back to plan A.
To quote my favorite DC villain: “you make the plan, you execute the plan, you watch the plan go off the rails, you throw away the plan.” Winging it is necessary anytime available data for planning turns out to have been incomplete.
My good friend is INTJ, every single point in this analysis is 100% with him. I'm an INFJ and I absolutely identified with a number of these points but in a lesser sense than my INTJ friend... Except for Planning & Winging. I seriously struggle with the concept of spontaneity, I cannot even cope with the concept of a potluck dinner 'what if everyone takes potato salad??? 🤯 So I plan and plan and plan some more. But there are some situations where winging it appears to me to be the only reasonable option. I've figured that I plan everything to a level that permits spontaneity, removes the risk element of winging it.
@@tinad8561 Lenoard Snart?
@@oliversmith2129 Yep. He can run a burglary crew and do serious physics. What’s not to love? (Played by Wentworth Miller didn’t hurt either.)
As an INTJ that is the best analysis of an INTJ I have heard. I have listened to a few analysis and always thought I can't be one because of various perceived contradictions, now I can truly say I am an INTJ. (official test conducted as part of a job interview, why I still don't know, but was told by the 'testers' I won't get the job as they basically wanted 'yes' people.) Brilliant video. Yes, I plan, a lot but many only see the 'wing it' or the quick switch from one idea to another. And Yes, organised and messy at the same time.
Yea I've taken multiple tests, always get INTJ..but the more I've researched the more I would convince myself it was wrong and agree, then talk myself out of it again....but this video makes sense
Truth is the most important. It is not about winning an argument or a fight. Any conflict is about finding the right solution. Get it right people!
"truth, for its own sake"
These stock video clips are hysterical. Apparently we're all uber-professional Millennials and Gen-Zs 😂
It's a bit weird hearing your personality and mannerisms broken down and categorized but I can't deny that you are spot on. It was clear very early on that my brain worked differently from the others. It was only after I took the personality test that I discovered how right that feeling was, even more so in my case as a INTJ female.
As an INTJ female almost every point is spot on. The world is a lonely place. I love truth, justice, and am fiercely loyal. I hate liars, drama, and small talk. But am learning to tolerate small talk.
Thank you for making a video explaining this in detail. I love that I am an INTJ, but it is difficult when most people around you think low of you because they misunderstand my intentions almost always. I love discussion on deep topics and I ask questions of people and debate with people to test out an idea. I am very confident in my ability to plan and lead, but can be scatterbrained. I care deeply about other people's thoughts and feelings, but completel strangers I have a hard time feeling empathy for. I really have to work at it so I get to know people so that I can have this.
Bro all the things u add in Ur comments seem to similar with me but there a one problem.i can't tell or express feeling even though I have but having feeling about anyone is so rare for me .
@@pranavvishe4806 You may be a certain personality type, but you are not locked into never feeling anything regarding others. My defaults are not caring about most things, but Christ has given everything meaning and importance.
Yes...My intentions are always misunderstood :/
@@pranavvishe4806 I think the reason why INTJs feel that they have no feeling is because their feelings would be too intense, if they felt them, so they pack them down. I used to cry about stuff and got such headaches that I couldn't stand it anymore and so I stopped crying for myself, but I can cry for others without going into overload.
One of the purposes of life is to grow character. Our profiles show us what our strengths are, so we can capitalize on them, and our weaknesses, so that we can grow out of them as much as possible. It's wonderful that you understand that.
Well...
Let's get one thing direct: I KNOW where everything is in my "organized mess" I call home!!! The fact that I have stacks of books & notebooks, calculators, droves of pads, pens, piles of papers ALL are directly connected to a specific research endeavor "assigned" to that particular "mess"... Don't mess with my messes!!!!! I know where everything is!!! ***THIS*** is one BLESSING of living ALONE!!!!!
Usually I am granite on what I know. I could be proven "off" on a technical detail via new research data, & immediately "reshuffle" incorporating the new data(IF I DECIDE it's reliable!!!), but my base premises are granite. On those I NEVER BUDGE... & I'll stand toe to toe on them. I've spent the time & effort to cement them. Debate yes... Argue??? No way... I let the situation prove me right... Then there's no doubt.
The emotion aspect gets real merky real fast...each one of us is different. Anger has to be the most difficult: repression of it evolves into depression over it-a lurking shadow that can be "triggered" from nowhere!!! While I literally am "MamaBeare" over those I'm emotionally invested in(those extremely close, my animals, MY CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, my home), I reserve any observable display on just about anything else... it's that "emotional investment" part that draws the line...🖤
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A vivid paradox no one seems to pick up on is my humor quotient: on one side, I can make a comment that to me is brilliantly hysterical, BUT NO ONE BUT ME IS LAUGHING, at the same time, I don't find funny what others do- my analysis of it seems to boil down to the reality that their "humor" is rooted in the mockery of a person whereas mine targets systems & processes... the reason I don't "get" theirs nor them mine... I crack myself up for days over some of the comic routines I equate with STUPIDITY!!!😂🖤
@Catherine Rhea wow - thank you so much for sharing! This is chalk-full of some really great insights, and a lot of common threads for INTJs, for sure. All of this is so relatable and common experiences - esp the humor aspect and the organized mess - is so relatable. I always look forward to hearing from you and your experience. Thanlk you so, so much! 🖤👍🏻🙂
@@ayamegotayamed2641 While I now enjoy no one interfering w/my "filing piles" of projects... when others were under the same roof(child, ex, etc...), I "contained" my "filing messes" into boxes & totes that had WARNING LABELS if they were moved or "disturbed" in ANY manner- I didn't even want the containers dusted!!! I was like a guard dog about my desks at my work places too.... Those who violated my "space" were truncated by "forbidden zones"... Even padlocks for the rooms on two occasions...
Now it's my cats knocking over research stacks that aggravate me... Otherwise, I FINALLY have the solitude for my projects that I've fought over for decades... Being ALONE has distinct ADVANTAGES I've never secured any other way!!!😁🖤
@@ayamegotayamed2641 I consider it BLATANT DISRESPECT to "invade" personal space. ...& they can "scold, scoff, mock, complain, insinuate, gang insult, laugh, BITCH" ALL THEY WANT... My resolve is solid:
Decades ago, Elders in the Longhouse(I'm Mohawk on my Dad's side) told a story that burned into my neurons about Skunk Medicine...
"Regardless of what anyone else thinks about a skunk, HE ALWAYS GETS RESPECT. Everyone gives the skunk a clear path & doesn't interfere with what skunk is doing or where he's going... THEY KNOW BETTER!!! It is only the "unaware" who dare to violate Skunk's path, & Skunk "educates" those violators as only Skunk can!!! Skunk Medicine ENFORCES BOUNDRIES!!!... & YOU WILL RESPECT THOSE BOUNDARIES WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT... Like the Badger, Skunk doesn't care."
I took that Medicine with me throughout my journeys, drawing boundaries & ENFORCING THEM. Yes... I've had all manner of "bad behavior" aimed at me in both predictable & unique attempts to disrespect those boundaries, & each time the violator regretted it. I wear my Skunk Medicine PROUDLY.😜🖤
Do NOT mess my mess. Yes i know YOU couldn't find anything or work like this - BUT - i can and do and know exactly where everything is.
Schrodinger and Heisenberg where in a car driving along when they got pulled up by the police. The cop said to the driver, Heisenberg, did you know you were doing 80 in a 55? Heisenberg replied "oh great now we are lost". The cop asked for a look in the boot and Schrodinger got out to open it. The boot was opened and the cop looked inside and said "oh my god there is a dead cat in there". And Schrodinger said, "well, it's dead NOW."
Number 5 is spot on!
I plan what I have control over to the last detail but I'll always leave room for life's chaos
That often means contingencies for contingencies
Oh 100%. I've always wrestled with those paradoxes but this helped to make sense of it.
@Adam D I'm really glad my video helped make some sense of things for you! I also really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
The last two points are so me. I'm often a cesspool of emotion but no one would ever know. And, I have strong opinions on things about which I have significant knowledge. But show me I'm wrong with strong data, and I have no problems saying I was wrong. OTOH some people, when proven wrong about something, just double down on that error rather than admit fallibility. That never makes sense to me.
That last point is absolutely spot on 🤣 if you can prove me wrong with fact or logic then be my guest otherwise get ready for a battle
Though I'm seeing this video after 2 years of publishing it, I can't stop commenting that the observations made are spot on. To put in simple terms being an INTJ is a pain especially when you have a partner who doesn't have any clue about it.
This is true. INTJs would love to follow their plan but things could be unpredictable and variables could change. Doing the best option will always be the most viable direction. As long as I get the result I want, it doesn't matter what routes I choose. This also reflects to the last point that INTJs will always think they are right until proven wrong. I may deem my route to be the best one but if I am convinced that another route could be better along the way, I will have no issue changing my plan. INTJs dont really care if they are proven wrong, as long as they've reached an agreeable conclusion. They are not sensitive to due criticisms because they see the value in it. To be honest, it's easy to convince an INTJ. Just lay out your points why you think your idea os better. If it is, you will have no problem getting the INTJ on your side.
The reason we are difficult to argue with is because we are constantly analyzing everything in which we have even a slight interest in. We never engage in discussion on topics we have no interest in. So that means we will have a fairly strong opinion on most topics that we are willing to discuss.
That analyzing means we construct in our mind the truth of the matter for a particular topic and then we bombard it with questions to see how it holds up. When our mental construct of reality can't answer a question, we update the model with something that can. We just keep bombarding it until it seems to answer all questions we can come up with in a satisfactory manner. We don't scratch the surface or even go 1 or 2 levels deep. We will likely be something like 8 levels deep on a topic for which we may have only mild interest.
What I've found is that almost no other personality types do this, except for where they have great interest. So, we start talking about something that we both have a mild to medium interest in and they say what they think, and we realize they are scratching the surface of the topic. We want to catch them up to where we are, and we know exactly which questions will destroy their current level of thinking because we've already done this with our own thinking at their current level.
The problem is that most personality types do not engage in this logical barrage of questions to advance their thinking on a topic. So immediately having a challenge to what they put out as their thought on a subject comes off as demeaning to them and an attack of some sort. Now they go into defense mode and try to attack our mental construct of reality regarding the subject, but they attack with questions that we have already used against our mental construct of reality, so we have quick answers to every attack. They walk away thinking the INTJ is a condescending, arrogant, know-it-all, when we were actually just trying to advance their thinking to where ours is, not because we are smarter than they are but because we have simply spent more time than they have analyzing the subject.
Very well articulated.
I just found out about these personality types. My wife watching these videos is like 😮Whoa😮 now I understand. Wish I knew about this earlier myself.
I have taken the MBTI test at this point in my life 5 times already. The first time I took it was in elementary. I was the only INTJ in the classroom. I am now 22 y/o and out of the 5 times I took the test, 4 times it said that I was an INTJ. Almost everything in this video felt so relatable and made sense to me. At this point I guess I'm pretty sure of who I am and it's nice to know I'm not the only one.
Same
Ah its wonderful being a walking paradox. Glad my messy mind just comes with the territory. I related to every one of these points and am glad to now know, its all related to my personality type. Much appreciated!
Our confidence comes from KNOWING we can achieve something. So if we fail or if we are even 1% unsure then we will overthink it. Failing at something puts us in extremely deep thought over analyzing "why the hell did I make that mistake?! That's unacceptable. I need to ensure that never happens again"
So yes we're confident. But it isn't false confidence. It can waver if we fail
This is actually spot on. These paradoxes are reals. Awesome work.
I do not remember what you said in your video, but, as I was watching it, everything was appearing exact to me.
One of the better INTJ breakdown videos I've seen.
Very impressed. 100 % correct. I only found out yesterday that I'm an INTJ and thought that the comments would be a bit off target and only some suggestions would match my personality type but every thing you said was exactly right. Well done.
Hu. 🤔 This is probably why my husband always says I’m “complicated”.
I can honestly say, you have one of the most fascinating channels on YT, that includes your viewers. This thread is incredible!
You have the makings of an ART BELL Audience! Lots of intelligent people here 😎
As times change, people meet and socialize in different types of places and situations. My grandparents met and fell in love at the public pool. My parents met at a gas station. I met my long term dude at a rave. I had planned to go to a kayaking rave that weekend, and wound up at a different party, unexpectedly.
As one of my friends has pointed out, I'm a homebody, I generally don't go out of my way to be around people or socialize much. However when I'm put in a situation, I do just fine. In general I don't like small talk, I think deep, about weird, far out subjects. I like knowing useful, helpful things.
I will happily discuss aliens, spaceships, astrology, cooking or gardening techniques, or movies. I LOVE weird movies, I'm a total Lynch freak. I adore nature and watching the sky.
I used to film .. stuff... local unsigned bands or I'd interview people about whatever they wanted to talk about anywhere anytime, abandoned haunted places before THAT was a thing. I was in a weird phase in life then. But being behind a lens was a good way to be in a scene, while you figure out if you want to immerse yourself in it. I taught that gift to some of my more socially awkward friends, and was stunned by what great eyes they had on them!
Sometimes I'll just wander into a white out blizzard and film a pond freezing over, it's beautiful. I'm gone for hours. I lose time. Most people don't know how it works. Not sure why I never upload the pics, but I do tend to take weird pics, and then ask people what they see in them. Oh yeah you want a strange situation, take some abstract shots, and ask people what they see, you'd be AMAZED. It's like a rorschach test, the ink blot thing? Yeah.. TRY THAT! Because people aren't focused on YOU, they start seeing things, and what they see is many times telling you something about them. What they're going thru or what they want, what's in their soul.
When I was a driver in Portland, I was amazed by how many people I knew had pics of clouds on their phones. I don't mean like 5 pictures, I mean they are SKYWATCHERS, like I am. Every walk of life. Or I'd hand them the Magic Cord in my car and tell them to blow my mind, surprise me with a song from their phones, my regulars never ceased to delight. As awkward as I am, for whatever reason I was a highly requested driver, I'm good at making people feel safe.
I try to avoid showoffs. I live with one, I work here. He's always desperately trying to get people to pay attention to him, yet the guy has nothing interesting to talk about. He's small talk city with ONE GOAL - getting something off you, sex or whatever. SO I avoid him and people like him as much as possible. They're boring and exhausting. He lives and dies at other people's approval. It's so pathetic to watch.
I've done all sorts of things for a living, but at some point tickets became my world, I used to be a scalper, so parkinglots, and then evolved to broker, I worked the phones. I prefer phones, and now online as times change. I love all sorts of music, and with sports, I'd make it a habit to catch the highlights on the news so I'd be able to carry on a decent convo with my customers. If I'm going in for something, to learn, or work it, I try to learn a bit about the subject, to avoid looking like a fool, because I know I'll have to have some sort of conversation if I want to move forward.
It's weird cuz not so long ago, you could go places and meet with people, I was the coffee shop crowd, didn't care much for bars. Or I was at the bookstores, art shops, pet shops the garden areas of the store, those places kind of encourage you to read, or play with things, you could interact with people if you wanted. Sometimes if one of your friends is feeling sad, just take them to the garden dept at Target, let them cry in the flowers. They'll feel better, you might get a few weird looks, but after the flowers, they'll be able to breathe, THEN they'll talk, get it sorted. You go to the pound, you'll both wind up in tears, so... just go to the flowers and ferns.
My other delight is old people. I adore old people, they've seen things and lived in times that we will never see. My grandparents raised me when I was young, I have so much love for grandparents, they know so much, our world is losing their knowledge, their techniques. I love talking to them, I wish I had been able to interview my grandparents and put it on the net.
There ARE situations in life, when you might need an answer, and it can't be found anywhere in pop culture, ask a grandma, she knows the answer. Or a grandpa, and if you don't have your own, it's OK grandparents can be easily adopted. 🥰.
They've been your age, and they have wisdom, they know what they would've done, or should've done, and what they're glad they didn't get involved with. Usually, they're looking to point a younger person in the right direction.
I hope something here has been of any help. I'm a total introvert, but due to life's weird circumstances, I get tossed out in there, right in the deep end. These are some of the things I've learned to help me cope. And yes, I'm up for adoption. LOL
( That was a total joke ) 🐬✨ be peaceful and stay blessed🕊✨ You're up on that billboard now... never know, you MIGHT have to have a conversation pretty soon. I have faith in you, you're gonna knock it out of the park Dude! You'll be fine.
One time a colleague in my office went blind and started freaking out. I got up walked by her and went to lunch. She was fine.
All true, I have immense care and sympathy to the people I care about... and num 1 is true, in fact I wish if someone save me an effort by providing a better solution.
This is the best analysis of INTJ i have heard. It's very accurate.
Good Lord! That was scary accurate! Thank you!
I have considerably changed my mental execution by continuously imagining a filing cabinet in my head. It is very hard to stay focused when you have intense intuition.. and it's hard to have empathy for people who are dwelling in feelings. Feelings are behind most of what people say. I can't help but analyze what they are saying, rather than attempting to reciprocate their emotions
Discovering mbti helped me so much at not feeling weird or not coherent.. in INTJ all the things that look inchoerebt to normal people make logical sense instead.
People often tell me that I'm not honest when I say something related to my emotions, because I'm so expresionless it often gets mistaken with emotionless. I do feel very strongly, but it doesn't feel right to make a scene about it, I'll just talk about it when the time is right, and my meticulous choosing of that moment solidifies the notion that they aren't true emotions because they are so controlled. Truly paradoxical
Wow! You are getting good with these videos. I couldn't have explained it better myself. Keep it up.
@JB1775 Thank you so much! I really appreciate the compliment and the encouragement 🙌🏻
From an INTJ... you're 100% spot on.
This is the best intj description on the entire internets
The Winging It thing is so true for me. I'll have everything major planned out and ready to go. Multiple paths and choices to accommodate every possible future. But...I'll flip a coin to decide which of two options to go with. Most of the time, I can debate with myself and narrow my choices from 100's down to 2. Being equally fine with either choice, the coin settles that decision.
Overall, this is probably the best INTJ overview out there. But. These are not paradoxes.
7) If it looks like a mess to you, it doesn't mean it's a mess for me. I know exactly where I dropped that paper clip 10 years ago if I ever will need it in the future.
6) Because we see and care so much - it is a defensive mechanism to be able to turn it off for at will.
5) You can't plan everything. Trust me, we tried. Haha, those planned to a word phone calls... Now extra hour just in case is part of the plan.
4) How can't I be so confident if I always overthink everything? Duh. If I couldn't find flaws in this idea, overthinking it for a month - are you still sure you found them flaws right here right now?
3) People, that are just a waste of time, are feeling threatened by us. Good for them.
2) We are not less sensitive in feeling emotions. We understand them. And control them. Because my ruined day doesn't have to become your ruined day.
1) Prove me wrong and I will tell you THANK YOU. Because now I will know more. And probably understand why something before didn't work as intended. And correct it. And finally, the world will bend its knee...
That was brilliant. I love the positive stuff and I would love to be special, but we're just 1/16th of the puzzle.
I do not like to plan, but do it unconsciously:) paradoxical
Thanks for making this video , it helped me to understand myself better !!
@Soumyadeep Nath you're very welcome! I'm so glad it helped clarify some things and you've gotten some better understanding of yourself 🙌🏻 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
I would say that shifting plans and “winging it” is not due to little effort but that I prepared extensively so that I can adapt the details
You have described my life perfectly!
All spot on. It is a pain being an INTJ, especially a female one and young. But as my husband would say and I think it is the truth, if you are a confident and honest male, it is nice to marry a female INTJ as we "think like a man", that means being rational, play fair, no blame game, giving credit where it is due, being honest even if it is painful, does not cry to win arguments (actually we strongly dislike arguments anyway, fact is fact to us and should not be "argued"). Thing is INTJ women are hard to find as they are the rarest type in women.
Spot on INTJ-T here and I agree 100% or I might be wrong 😅
Love the last one/number 1, that hit me the hardest!! So true.😅 Btw you don't change view/opinion you simply "Upgrade" it, according to me at least :)
Interestingly, we may appear aloof at a funeral, but in daily life, our death stare or RBF may have others thinking we are angry/upset when it's just our wheels turning.
Really bad news, like funerals, is sometimes (but not always) processed very slowly. It eats us up inside until the dam breaks.
Everyone of your videos on the INTJ are 100% spot on.
I didn't relate to this video that much, but I'm not a hardcore INTJ. I keep good records and know where they are. When I was a little girl, my mother said to always put things back in the correct place, so you can find them when you need them. That stuck with me. I don't like having to hunt for stuff. I keep things very organized in specific drawers. Most of my papers are in the proper places in my file cabinet, except for a couple of folders of misc that I can't get at because the drawer is stuck. I haven't needed any of those papers for years, though, so it's not a big deal.
I am not scatter-brained. I read an article some years ago about people who get easily distracted and never finish what they set out to do, and at the end of the day, feel like they have accomplished nothing. I disciplined myself to not be like that. It sounds too much like having dementia.
I can empathize with strangers. I have cried sometimes when reading the newspaper about something terrible that happened to someone. Not long ago, I was walking down the street when I saw a teenaged boy at the bus stop with tears in his eyes. I asked him why he was crying. He said things were not working out for him. I asked if he would let me pray for him. He said no. So I asked if I could give him a hug. He said yes, so I hugged him, prayed for him, (a short, simple one about knowing God and His comfort), and cried, too. I am not at all indifferent to anyone's suffering, if they truly are in distress, and not just being a wimp. I think it is creepy if a person can listen to a story about a child's suffering and feel nothing.
These paradoxes can be overcome, like overthinking and second guessing. The second guessing is related to perfectionism, which is a bondage. I used to drive myself nuts and people around me nuts by having expectations of myself and of them that were too high. I have learned to be satisfied with good work, even if it isn't perfect. After all, nothing in this world is ever going to be perfect; that happens only in Heaven.
I can appear to be very stoic, but not at funerals. Seeing other people cry because they miss the person who died makes me cry. How do I feel about their death? Everybody dies sometimes. If I know that they were ready for Heaven, I feel happy for them that they are finally there and they have no more troubles. I imagine what kind of fun they are having, though nobody's imagination can do justice to that. I blow them kisses, and sometimes I cry like when I think of what my brother suffered when he was here, but he's there now, and he doesn't want me to be unhappy, so I don't think about it for long. If I think that the person might have gone to that other place, I reason that they made their choice, there's nothing I can do about it, and my concern has to focus on the living who still have a chance to escape it.
I relate the most to the last portion of the video. I know what I know and there are some things that nobody can change my mind about, but if someone shows me a legitimate error in my thinking, I am grateful for it. I value logical thinking and get annoyed when people are not logical because it seems that they are being either manipulative or cowardly when they ignore it.
Number seven! I’ve never heard that described for an INTJ, but that is so me!
Near perfect,
It is mesmerizing to hear such internally troublesome but known only self matters like this way 😬
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Я теж INTJ🇺🇦. Хотілосьби такий канал але на українській
украинцы 😤
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I agree completely on the planning part.
The only point of the plan is to lead to a desired result. We also know that we don't know everything, so the plan will need to be adjusted as we go and possibly entirely discarded for a better plan.
I have a task for investment planning for every Friday. Why EVERY Friday? Because the planning never ends. There is no final plan or one plan to rule them all.
Solve things every day….several times a day I still check my left from my right.
I’m an INTJ, but I deeply care about what others think of me. That’s the only thing that I differentiated from
How about making datailed shopping list for grocerys and then forget to take it with you to the store.
That's why I moved my shopping list to the phone. However, I can still manage to forget to check the list.
@@anonygent like when I have it on my phone but get in a rush and decide I probably remember everything on it so why bother looking? 😳
@@alegnairam I have a new thing now where I think I added something to the list, but I didn't, and I don't remember until I get back home.
And then not remembering everything on the list.
This explains a lot. These are like rules of my life man.
Oh man that last one hit home hard!
One of my opinions is that I'm always right. This is because if I find out I'm wrong I change my stance and presto chango, I'm right again.
INTJs are organized yet chaotic haha
Great video, really appreciate it! Thank you for sharing.
INTJs keep your bodies healthy, find love’s especially with introverts as they’re most understanding, we need your smart brains for the good of human civilisation, think positively and start right now
Oh, this is perfectly me. Thanks for this!
As an INTJ... not sure why these are considered paradoxes for some. To me they make a perfect (logical) sense 💯
So true😩 No one has ever said this so well before.
I didn't hear any paradoxes in this video. 🤔
All can be logically explained. They only appear to be paradoxes.
This is aggressively true
Really hit the nail thank you so much ❤
I took the Humanmetrics Jung Typology Test (TM) at my job before retirement.
I am classified by the test as an INTJ.
I am Introvert(31%), iNtuitive(9%), Thinking(19%), Judging(41%)
This is a pretty good video and accurately describes me in work and personal life.
A question: Are any of you INTJ's like the way I describe myself?
For my adult life I have made detailed plans whether renovating my home or taking a trip. Every day I complete an index card listing everything that needs to be accomplished. Yet I am scatterbrained, though coworkers often thought I was very organized and a good planner.
I don't recall my scores, but I do recall not being deep on the introverted scale. I only feel introverted around true extroverts, but feel extroverted around true introverts. The xNTJ's were pretty solid in my results. I prefer to work alone, but afterward could use some human interaction. I like to know something about the people around me, and how they're doing. I wouldn't feel compelled organizing a social event though.
I had never heard of MBTI until a friend in graduate school asked me take an 80 question version as part of an MBA class. I scored as an INTJ. I did a lot of reading on the subject after the initial test and taken a few more online versions categorizing as an INTJ every time. I maintain a daily and weekly handwritten list of tasks needing accomplished. Mentally, I have planned months and years in advance. It is a way to keep organized if something or someone pulls me in a different direction.
@@jaredschmelzenbach5006 Oh my. There are others similar to me in terms of personal organization.
Excellent video👍
LOL, I can literally relate to everything you said. Especially with the Emotions.
I did the test and I am a INTJ-A, I think this could be somewhat accurate. Though I do question the methodology behind these online assessments and the mundane generalised application of analysis.
For the last one I'm notoriously known as "Mr. Know it All" but i exactly don't mind about it
I'm usually using it for gaining information, (you know like instinctively people would correct your answer when you are giving false information) so in my opinion it's like a win - win situation.
But yeah other people definitely don't like that at all 😅, they are so upset when they proven wrong but I'm more like fascinated that i gain or perceived a new information.
My emotional disorders interfere with the second one, but the rest are spot on.
I’m a intj and I wanted to know about myself to see if it’s right (it is)
The last one is very relatable except i personally express to people that if they can back it up with evidence then I'm going to stick to my point of view as I know I've thoroughly researched the topic. If they don't want to go through the effort of showing their research and also dont want to see the evidence I have or choose to ignore it then they can just continue being wrong and idk, be mad?? 🤷♀️
Sure them all are right and listening to this is very useful for not feeling totally weird. Thanks
I thank God for these traits 😂😂❤
All of them apply to me.
@K S I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment 🙂 👍🏻
HA- that last one is completely honest.
Are there any others out there who intentionally avoid the stock video footage?
Wow, I’m an INTJ, and a lot of this sounded so much like me.
Perfect description🚐
This one rings true. The paradoxes.
I find it hard to feel sorry for people who make poor decisions. Even my friends, I can sometimes be very callous towards. But I do it out of love. I’m not a yes man, I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear because you want to hear it. I’m not going to soften the blow, because then you might not grasp the gravity of the seriousness of your situation. I might not even hug you to tell you it’s going to be OK, especially if it isn’t. However, don’t ever let me catch somebody being a bully. I will defend whoever the victim is to the death of me. It’s one thing to give people hard truth, it’s another to just be mean spirited, evil, and ugly. I might not be the friend that will comfort you when you’re sad, but I am the friend who will pull you out of any bad situation, I’m the friend who will kill and die for you. And correct you about it later if you are wrong, but in that moment, nothing will touch you. That’s the kind of friend I am.
Guilty as charged!! Good to know I'm not imagining things when I find my brain is all over the map. 😆
INTJs have and show emotions. What makes the INTJ different is that they rate their emotions as less important than their rational thoughts or logic. If an INTJ's emotions do not sync with how an INTJ thinks that they should react, they are more likely to act on what they think is the logical thing to do rather than to act on that emotion.
2:20 is this more INTP? It is actually a pet peeve of mine to lose or misplace information the relates to "The plan" or "The equation" I mean that is the point. Why would I not get really frustrated with myself for losing something important like that? However things like my stocking cap, scissors, tape.... egh who knows where they are -just keep buying them for every room in the house lol
Y'all better tighten it up, you just got the info, as stated, roll with it and get it done.
I'm convinced INTJ's have a 2nd brain that only comes out of hiding when necessary (e.g., times of crisis). Once or twice, I've watched it guide me, as if it were a higher external force.
As for emotions, vulnerability is my biggest nemesis. We process bad news very slowly. One day, it lands squarely in the face. It's awful, but then dealt with immediately, effectively, and finally.
1:27 I do this a lot, I stop myself most of the time tho in the act
I recently came to knew what I am, is called an INTJ, also called Architects. Ironically very deeply wanted to be an architect after finishing my school. If not for my parents I would have.
Supposedly I am an infj but I really feel like I'm more of an intj I think maybe the questionnaire wasn't completely accurate.
All of these apply to me
I can't fully vouch for everything said here but as an INFJ also with dominant Introverted Intuition, everything that deals with dominant Introverted I tuition we can also confirm either fully or at least mostly. We INFJs have some of the same or at least similar paradoxes, and some completely different ones. One such paradox or contradiction is wanting to be alone when with other people but wanting to be with people when we are alone. Or sometimes we feel both at the same time whether we are alone or with others.
ive been wondering if i'm really intj (i took tests A LOT OF TIMES and still doubts it some times) but now i am sure lol
All of them! I have all of them 😮
Spot on assessment
You've forgotten about the shadow functions -- the bottom four of the eight in total -- which mistakes the empathy problem. Third function Fi is a strong motivating force and can burn very deeply. The empathy problem comes from our 7th function, the Polar or Trickster function, which is a person's worst function and a blindspot. We have 7th slot Fe, and Fe is the function responsible for empathy, understanding social norms, and social connection.
@Blib Gluntner Thankfully, no. There's a certain mystique about INTJs that is entirely unwarranted. We're less Bond villain, more Daria, or Lisbeth Salander. We absolutely do not have success in every aspect of our life, and often don't really hit until later in life than other people -- INTJs are slow burning.
We do have connections with other humans, but it's very difficult to find other INTJs. ISTJs also have third slot Fi and seventh slot Fe, and they're the most common type, so no need to worry there. Given how rare INTJs are, we generally connect with intuitives. A large chunk of my mates are INTPs, and INFJs are great too. And for some reason, ENFPs are crazy about INTJs. I'm not complaining.
This may surprise you, but if you ever see an INTJ instantly fall for someone (at least, a male INTJ), they're probably an INFP. INFPs are incredibly underrated and far more "academic" than people give them credit for. But where NT types are more scientific, INFPs are perhaps more philosophical. If you read the comments section on an MBTI video, look for any conversations between INTJs and INFPs -- they go very deep very quickly, and often have an instant connection.
ISFPs are great too, and they tend to have a calming effect on INTJs. ISFPs have the same cognitive stack, Ni Te Fi Se,
but in a different order: Fi Se Ni Te.