I am on a medication that adds about 15 pounds-most all landing on my belly. It can really get me down. Your comments at the end were very encouraging. Thank you
Thank you for this video! I previously wore zip up jeans, which always showed through my tops due to my tummy and the snap closure bending out. I’ve discovered these wonderful pull-on jeans that do have a minimizing effect and don’t show at my belly under a top. They help me focus more on having a good day than my body image. I appreciate your words that our body shapes truly aren’t what we should focus on. I work every day to internalize those words and count my blessings instead. ❤️ You are a true inspiration, Kay......😊
Such a wonderful video! I was thin for 2/3 of my life, but post menopausal I have gained a lot of weight and I have tried so many things to lose it, but at 69 my weight rarely fluctuates more than a few Lbs. I love your tips and encouragement! I find myself letting my weight consume me and your tips will certainly help me move in a healthier mindset.
Your final statement is beautiful. Joy, confidence and grace are the best outfit pieces we can wear as mature women. We are survivors and inspiring! Our smile and calm brings peace to our little corner of the world. Love your videos!!!
So true about what we notice! I never notice other people's tummies, just my own. That is a good reminder that people are not looking at our tummies like we worry they are. :)
Thank you for that last statement. I have always tried to teach my children not to critique or judge the outside of a person’s appearance but look for the character of what comes through from the inside.
Great tips! To be honest, I don't struggle in this particular area, but it wouldn't matter if you were giving tips on how to spend a million dollars a-day..( I don't struggle in that area either, ha!)....I would listen to your videos or read your posts because you are such a precious , kind, and uplifting soul! Blessings to you and yours! And thank you for all of your hard work that you put in to bring us ladies relevant information!
As a Certified Bra Fitter for the last 17 years I truly appreciate you telling women the benefits of a well fitting bra. I tell women a well fitting bra will make you look 10lbs. thinner and 10 years younger!!
Ok, can a Certified Bra Fitter make a short woman, with small chest, big tummy, skinny legs and skinny arms look better than a potato 🥔 with sticks? 😂 I am exaggerating, I have curves and I don’t look too bad, but I never went to a CBF, because I never thought there can be bras for my small chest, so I wear bralettes and camisoles most of the time. I like my breast, they haven’t become saggy or softer even after breastfeeding my 2 babies for over 2 years each one. Now in my almost 50’s I have noticed a belly that feels bigger than my chest. If a Certified Bra Fitter can help I will definitely make an appointment.
OMG, first time I’ve heard and seen so many real world tips for hiding a tummy. Thanks for saying don’t tuck your shirt and then gave a real alternative, stick to the right length for you. Mind blowing, yes !!! Thanks for acknowledging empire (and peplum ) tops are hard to find and still tricky if they don’t hit your tummy at the right place. Will be watching this post over and over, studying what will work for me. God bless you!
I love how you present your wardrobe styling tips, especially this one on tummies. I appreciate you aren’t focused on weight loss or exercise, but instead inspiring us to work with our God-given the body style. I’ve had a “tummy” since in my 20’s, after birthing two big babies. Even when I’ve been underweight (rarely 😉) over the years, I still have a tummy. My wardrobe reflects many fashion pieces from your recommendation. Thank you!
I so appreciated your closing comments. Thank you for adding that piece. I think personal style is about feeling good on the inside first, then expressing that on the outside with what we choose to wear. We come in all shapes and sizes and are each beautiful in our own way ♡
Some great tips Kay! Sewing my own clothes has been a wonderful thing as I’m in the 60+ group. At 5’2” it is often a challenge to purchase good fitting clothes. Sewing has allowed me to grade between sizes for a perfect fit. You are so right about a correct fitting bra! The size changes as we age, gain or loose weight. Rouching is definitely a plus to hide a tummy. Vertical lines, monochromatic dark colors and vertical jewelry like you are wearing in the video are also so helpful. Thanks for all the wonderful ideas!❤️
Glad that you talk about that matter. All other fashion ladies ask us to tuck or show us a lot of beautiful belts...huuuuuu..that fits THEM, but not all of us.
I’m so glad you enjoyed the video. I love and show those things to. Don’t get me wrong. But I do think it’s important to share these tips so we can all feel good about how we get dressed. 💕
You have the best tips! You also share ideas that I have not heard and I am so appreciative! My only suggestion would be to cut down a little on the talk time and lengthy explantations.
Great tips. You’ve offered so much more than the usual “monochromatic,” “vertical lines,” “avoid Breton tops” advice. I do have several Breton tops (marinières) and enjoy wearing them because they are classics. I also appreciate your comments regarding selecting styles and options that suit your unique self. And you are so right: we should all focus less (and worry less) about the way we look, and work more towards being the best people we can be: treating others with respect and dignity, and wearing the best accessory: a genuine smile. People who focus on the “faults” of others? If that’s the kind of person they are, then why give weight (ha!) to their opinions? People who matter don’t mind, and people who mind don’t matter! ❤️
As I got older and developed more of a tummy, it became more obvious that I have a high waist. I had never before considered petite sizing because I don’t have “Petite” height. But I’ve discovered that Petite proportions in tops allows me to buy a smaller size. In a Regular size, the waist hits at my belly rather than my true waist. In the Petite size, the waist hits a good inch higher, which is where my narrowest point is.
I love watching your RUclips channel. I have developed a tummy over the past two years (quarantine weight gain) and get frustrated because the silhouettes that worked in the past don’t work anymore. This video helped me see why. Thank you.
This is a wonderful video. I fall into the category of having just a little tummy to hide but I agree with your last tip as the best. I certainly don’t notice tummies. I also notice smiles and attitudes the most. Thank you for your research!
Kay, I never miss any of your videos as I appreciate your style and your sweet attitude. But this video and your final tip about being positive and participating in the day really touches me. For some reason, I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I know that’s crazy as probably every other woman says the same thing. But, truly, I thank you for sharing your love of clothes, your encouragement to show up everyday and to radiate happiness and joy. By the way, I am 68 years old and still very much care about style & fashion, inner beauty & being relevant.
My best tip, and I DO have a tummy is to wear shapewear. Spanx make me crazy because it’s too tight for me. I love Shapermint and have 3 different ones. I wear them when I need a smooth look, and under dresses, etc. I wash them inside of a mesh bag on cold and delicate, and hang to dry. Never dry. There are other brands, but this brand allows me to breathe, and smooths out the lumps, bumps and jiggly parts of my 62 yo body. Your last few comments are the BEST! Confidence and happiness covers all kinds of body issues.
What great tips! Love your videos and your blog because you always offer valuable styling info. I can tell you've spent time researching. I have a mid-life tummy - some days more than others! I'm conscious of it and do what I can to minimize it but I've also realized that I'm 61......and my body shows that. Even though I exercise, my body is still going to show (and feel!) its age to a certain extent. I've made the decision to to do my best to dress this body/figure in an attractive way and then forget about it and go enjoy life! There's no reason to beat ourselves up. Our inside beauty (or lack of it!) is what people will remember.
Kay, Thank you, thank you for recommending the flat-front jeans at Soft Surroundings!! I ordered the boot cut, dark wash, and I love them. They came yesterday, I tried them on, and they are perfect. They're in the wash now, must hang dry them and then they'll be good to go. They are just what I need for my apple shape - no front pockets, zipper or button that add bulk. I really appreciate your research and work to help us look better! XO
New subscriber! I’m not a trendy person. I’m also older (77) and on a limited budget. I buy very few clothes, but now and then, I need something for a special occasion. I enjoyed listening to all your tips and appreciate the sparkle you exhibit in knowing you are helping others. Your last tip was best of all. It’s taken me years to accept my body flaws. One of the biggest challenges is to find the very thing that suits my body shape (and flaws) best. I have a medium build and waist on top of thighs and legs two sizes bigger, thanks to defects from polio. Love empire-waisted clothing, but you’re right, they’re hard to find. Thank you so much for this video. It’s given me a lot to think about and redirect the focus upward and inward. ❤️
I love the ruching dress. I also love the olive gathered top that gathers down vertically . Empire waists are also great. Since I can sew, this is a chance to sew some of the styles you are referring to so I don't have to depend on what is available at the stores. I recently discovered your channel, Kay and just love it. You are so elegant!
Thanks so much, Kay! I have struggled in this area for such a looong time!😡 I had already been thinking I wanted to make a few changes in my everyday life and this year just update my wardrobe with a few pieces I personally love! I’ve decided to choose joy and embrace the gift of each today!🇱🇷✝️💕
Thanks for those good words Kay! We can get consumed with what we think are our body"s flaws instead of focusing on what is good about our bodies! Plus our bodies have taken us through lots of years!
I have just come across your channel and I just love your videos. I love how you educate and also encourage!! You have a beautiful way of complimenting, encouraging and uplifting others.
And the right undergarments! I have found the high waisted short type underwear is great without been too confining, they are soft and comfortable. They will give you a nice shape with no underwear lines .
Wonderful tips! Another trick is to wear a longer top with a shorter jacket or sweater on top. Somehow this provides some waist definition that is flattering on many women. Keep up the great work, Kay! The colour of the sweater you are wearing looks beautiful on you BTW.
I love the tips and the encouragement! I'm short in staure with a belly albeit not a huge one but still! I fell for the puffer vest but found they aren't created equally. I wear ones with form fitting features in the back or sides to keep me from looking like the Michelin man. Lol. I also prefer thinner ones for less bulk. I can get away with that down south. Belk Kim Roger's brand and JCP St. John's Bay have nailed these features for me .
Thank you for that last tip...it needed to be said, to remind most of us that we are MORE than our physical appearance! We are mothers, wives, retirees, housekeepers, hard workers...and we LOVE with abandon. It brought tears to my eyes...Kay. And I noticed you were tearing up also...😊
As a short person, I have to watch what I wear. I will have to see what I can find for vests and tunics or quilted jackets that aren't puffy. I am doing my best to wear striking or cute items. :) I hope that you are having a wonderful Sunday.
The trick with a Breton top is finding one that is the right length. I have a great one from St John knits that has a dark navy band at the bottom. It totally camouflages my lower abs. Also because it’s a thicker knit. It just skims the midsection. With three quarter length sleeves, that also brings they eye up from that midsection.
Dress for success in life. Greet your day with no worry or strife. The way you look is a great part of how you feel about yourself. Don’t let your flaws rule you. You rule them. As a short woman of 4”10 I’ve heard it all. It doesn’t hurt me. I’ve learned to stand tall! That’s what you have to do. Thanks again for your wonderful tips and advice.
Very useful and well presented. I am going to keep these points in mind. I will try on some of my clothes and see what really doesn't help me look my best. I am not overweight but i have a abdomen issue which i will never be able to get rid of.
You are so great to listen to…informative and authentic, a winning combination. I wonder if you might do a similar video about fuller arms. I go all summer hiding them but think there might be better options. Thank you in advance!
I'm in your "camp," Elfriede, and dressing is a struggle during warming months when I see other gals wearing sleeveless items. No can do! Year round, I'm usually in 3/4 sleeves or sleeveless with a very light crocheted/open light-weight knit crop top. (Difficult to find!) In fall and winter, I have more options. Good luck.
@@lorettas4443 That’s what I do, too. It’s my issue because I see many other women with larger arms and they don’t seem to be bothered by it…at least they don’t feel like they need to cover up. I’m heading over to that article she gave us a link to and hope it has some advice I can use next summer. You have a great day!
For 40 years I’ve refused to go sleeveless because I didn’t like my upper arms; they looked huge to me. This year I turned 66 and I just decided I was going sleeveless this summer……and I did…..all summer. I felt really self conscious at first but then I just stopped worrying about it. Now I’m looking forward to finding cute sleeveless tops for next summer. It’s okay ladies, let’s just be what we are, no apologies!
Finally, someone addressing the issue on point. After skimming thru hoards of useless videos, I came across this one. Thank you so much! I have a mum pooch and though I am younger I feel conscious about the tummy peeking thru my outfits especially when I am bloated.
Excellent, excellent hints, Kay, especially the last❣️Thanks SO much! Slight tummy tucker since my teens, but moreso after 8 babies who each left baggage behind at birth!!! 🤣 Eating healthy and being active helps, too!
Great video...my biggest problem is posture. I had a huge chest until I had breast reduction surgery and I slouched and slumped to try and hide my chest. My plastic surgeon, on my final appointment, pulled my shoulders back and told me to sit and stand straight. He worked at the hospital where I worked and as I left he said, "I don't want to see you slouching!" Well, I try to remind myself to stand up straight or sit up straight and it's still a battle...my surgery was at least 30 years ago and I'm 72 now. Linda, get your act together!
I am so glad I found you. I totally enjoy your tips for skin care and colors. My hair is mostly white and very short. I am very thin on top. I had problems with it for as many years as I can count. I use Rogain and it does help but I know stress is one reason. The year of Covid and my Mom slowly died , her choice. So it puts pressure on me. Now I want to get it together. And there you were. So pretty and happy. I am interested in what is going on now with it all. Thank you!! and I will keep watching. Joyce
It has been a tough year for some of us. It’s hard to get back into a happy place again. Kay has helped so much with BFMD on her blog. A treasure! Don’t look back. We can do this.
Your husband was right about the last part of the video! That is exactly right and it something we need to be reminded of. Thank you. Great videos - just discovered you today.
I just purchased that quilted jacket from Talbots a few weeks ago, I probably shouldn’t have picked the hot pink one since I’m trying to hide my tummy! Just a fun color I couldn’t resist!
Have been watching your site for maybe six months and really enjoy them. I have just come across this one. The reason for me commenting.? I love your hair like this. Lovely in all ways; smart, classy, youthful, complimentary. Try it again maybe?
This video was so helpful, and I particularly love the pep talk at the end. Also at the beginning, you talked about tightening those straps! Something I need to be more mindful of! Thank you!
Dearest Kay, thank you so much. Beautiful tips. I do have a tummy, and u gave so many looks. Thank you, thank you, thank u for everything. You are a very precious soul and God loves u. 🙏❤️👏🍁🌹🌟👍🥰🍂🌻✝️
These are excellent tips, and I agree with your husband, the last one is the most important to remember. Our culture still celebrates youth and also perfection, which can make us focus inward too much. As you said, life is too short for that. It's also true that we are our own harshest judges and we need to lighten up. I love the Soft Surroundings jeans and their Superla pants for a clean, slim line. And I'm so glad that high rises are back. Those do make a big difference!
Hi Kay, Yes, choose joy!! Talbots has a darker wash denim skirt this season with reduced bulk in the tummy area: cue the band! 🥳 Thanks for your thoughts; extend grace to yourself that you would give others. All the best, Julie 🌷
How about getting a chubby friend to model the tummy-hiding styles? You are so trim that it’s hard to imagine realistic results. You look great in all your outfits. Great tips as always.
I am on a medication that adds about 15 pounds-most all landing on my belly. It can really get me down. Your comments at the end were very encouraging. Thank you
Yummies brand underwear gives a little shaping, but are still comfy.
Really loved the last "tip" and the way you so graciously presented it, Kay. It uplifted and encouraged me ❤
Thank you for this video! I previously wore zip up jeans, which always showed through my tops due to my tummy and the snap closure bending out. I’ve discovered these wonderful pull-on jeans that do have a minimizing effect and don’t show at my belly under a top. They help me focus more on having a good day than my body image. I appreciate your words that our body shapes truly aren’t what we should focus on. I work every day to internalize those words and count my blessings instead. ❤️ You are a true inspiration, Kay......😊
Kay, I love to watch your videos! They show your love for Jesus and for the people you come in contact with. What a great example you are!
Such a wonderful video! I was thin for 2/3 of my life, but post menopausal I have gained a lot of weight and I have tried so many things to lose it, but at 69 my weight rarely fluctuates more than a few Lbs. I love your tips and encouragement! I find myself letting my weight consume me and your tips will certainly help me move in a healthier mindset.
Oh I’m so glad. Thanks for watching Teresa. 😊
A silky cami under sweaters and tops help the top to fall smoothly. It prevents cling and bunching.
Totally agree - I wear one every day.
Great tip. Thanks for sharing. 🥰
I need suggestions on brands? Back smoothness is an issue for me but cami’s seem to make me look bigger or compact for lack of a better word.
Your final statement is beautiful. Joy, confidence and grace are the best outfit pieces we can wear as mature women. We are survivors and inspiring! Our smile and calm brings peace to our little corner of the world. Love your videos!!!
Thank you so much. Very encouraging. 😊
So true about what we notice! I never notice other people's tummies, just my own. That is a good reminder that people are not looking at our tummies like we worry they are. :)
Finally someone that gives advices without babbling about themselves and sponsorship, thank you
Thank you for that last statement. I have always tried to teach my children not to critique or judge the outside of a person’s appearance but look for the character of what comes through from the inside.
You truly are such a joy to watch, you bring a lot of positivity to your audience. Thanks for what you are doing.
Great tips! To be honest, I don't struggle in this particular area, but it wouldn't matter if you were giving tips on how to spend a million dollars a-day..( I don't struggle in that area either, ha!)....I would listen to your videos or read your posts because you are such a precious , kind, and uplifting soul! Blessings to you and yours! And thank you for all of your hard work that you put in to bring us ladies relevant information!
Thank you Cynthia. That’s very kind. I appreciate you watching. 💕
As a Certified Bra Fitter for the last 17 years I truly appreciate you telling women the benefits of a well fitting bra. I tell women a well fitting bra will make you look 10lbs. thinner and 10 years younger!!
I SO agree!!!
Yep! It really is amazing the difference it can make. 😊
I'm 48, 5ft 4in, 140lbs and facing similar issues. I'm tired of underwire, ill fitting bras. Would love some brand ideas. Thanks.
Ok, can a Certified Bra Fitter make a short woman, with small chest, big tummy, skinny legs and skinny arms look better than a potato 🥔 with sticks? 😂 I am exaggerating, I have curves and I don’t look too bad, but I never went to a CBF, because I never thought there can be bras for my small chest, so I wear bralettes and camisoles most of the time. I like my breast, they haven’t become saggy or softer even after breastfeeding my 2 babies for over 2 years each one. Now in my almost 50’s I have noticed a belly that feels bigger than my chest. If a Certified Bra Fitter can help I will definitely make an appointment.
@@DeyaIV I can do anything for tummies but only recommend shapewear
OMG, first time I’ve heard and seen so many real world tips for hiding a tummy. Thanks for saying don’t tuck your shirt and then gave a real alternative, stick to the right length for you. Mind blowing, yes !!! Thanks for acknowledging empire (and peplum ) tops are hard to find and still tricky if they don’t hit your tummy at the right place. Will be watching this post over and over, studying what will work for me. God bless you!
I’m so glad this was helpful Annette. Thanks so much for letting me know. ☺️
I love how you present your wardrobe styling tips, especially this one on tummies. I appreciate you aren’t focused on weight loss or exercise, but instead inspiring us to work with our God-given the body style. I’ve had a “tummy” since in my 20’s, after birthing two big babies. Even when I’ve been underweight (rarely 😉) over the years, I still have a tummy. My wardrobe reflects many fashion pieces from your recommendation. Thank you!
I’m so glad you enjoyed the video. Thanks so much for letting me know.
I was born with a protruding tummy, it never left me.
I so appreciated your closing comments. Thank you for adding that piece. I think personal style is about feeling good on the inside first, then expressing that on the outside with what we choose to wear. We come in all shapes and sizes and are each beautiful in our own way ♡
So true. Thank you for watching Kathy. 😊
Some great tips Kay! Sewing my own clothes has been a wonderful thing as I’m in the 60+ group. At 5’2” it is often a challenge to purchase good fitting clothes. Sewing has allowed me to grade between sizes for a perfect fit. You are so right about a correct fitting bra! The size changes as we age, gain or loose weight. Rouching is definitely a plus to hide a tummy. Vertical lines, monochromatic dark colors and vertical jewelry like you are wearing in the video are also so helpful. Thanks for all the wonderful ideas!❤️
Glad that you talk about that matter. All other fashion ladies ask us to tuck or show us a lot of beautiful belts...huuuuuu..that fits THEM, but not all of us.
I’m so glad you enjoyed the video. I love and show those things to. Don’t get me wrong. But I do think it’s important to share these tips so we can all feel good about how we get dressed. 💕
@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms 🤩👍
You have the best tips! You also share ideas that I have not heard and I am so appreciative! My only suggestion would be to cut down a little on the talk time and lengthy explantations.
Great tips. You’ve offered so much more than the usual “monochromatic,” “vertical lines,” “avoid Breton tops” advice. I do have several Breton tops (marinières) and enjoy wearing them because they are classics. I also appreciate your comments regarding selecting styles and options that suit your unique self. And you are so right: we should all focus less (and worry less) about the way we look, and work more towards being the best people we can be: treating others with respect and dignity, and wearing the best accessory: a genuine smile. People who focus on the “faults” of others? If that’s the kind of person they are, then why give weight (ha!) to their opinions? People who matter don’t mind, and people who mind don’t matter! ❤️
As I got older and developed more of a tummy, it became more obvious that I have a high waist. I had never before considered petite sizing because I don’t have “Petite” height. But I’ve discovered that Petite proportions in tops allows me to buy a smaller size. In a Regular size, the waist hits at my belly rather than my true waist. In the Petite size, the waist hits a good inch higher, which is where my narrowest point is.
Great thinking. 🙌🏻
I want to add busy prints and asymetrical tops help to hide a tummy as well!!
Yes! Thanks for sharing. 🥰
Thank you, thank you, thank you! You give the best advice! I’m 5’7” @ 175 and 63 years old. Please keep up the excellent job!!!
You forgot to tell us to stand up straight! Best tummy hiding trick ever!
I love watching your RUclips channel. I have developed a tummy over the past two years (quarantine weight gain) and get frustrated because the silhouettes that worked in the past don’t work anymore. This video helped me see why. Thank you.
I’m so glad to be helpful. Thanks for letting me know Darlene.
Your message is on point and delightful. Dress up, show up and be up!
This is a wonderful video. I fall into the category of having just a little tummy to hide but I agree with your last tip as the best. I certainly don’t notice tummies. I also notice smiles and attitudes the most. Thank you for your research!
Bless you Kay
Kay, I never miss any of your videos as I appreciate your style and your sweet attitude. But this video and your final tip about being positive and participating in the day really touches me. For some reason, I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I know that’s crazy as probably every other woman says the same thing. But, truly, I thank you for sharing your love of clothes, your encouragement to show up everyday and to radiate happiness and joy. By the way, I am 68 years old and still very much care about style & fashion, inner beauty & being relevant.
My best tip, and I DO have a tummy is to wear shapewear. Spanx make me crazy because it’s too tight for me. I love Shapermint and have 3 different ones. I wear them when I need a smooth look, and under dresses, etc. I wash them inside of a mesh bag on cold and delicate, and hang to dry. Never dry. There are other brands, but this brand allows me to breathe, and smooths out the lumps, bumps and jiggly parts of my 62 yo body. Your last few comments are the BEST! Confidence and happiness covers all kinds of body issues.
Absolutely! I wear some too with dresses. Thanks for sharing. 💕
Shapermint is perfect for me as well!!
What great tips! Love your videos and your blog because you always offer valuable styling info. I can tell you've spent time researching. I have a mid-life tummy - some days more than others! I'm conscious of it and do what I can to minimize it but I've also realized that I'm 61......and my body shows that. Even though I exercise, my body is still going to show (and feel!) its age to a certain extent. I've made the decision to to do my best to dress this body/figure in an attractive way and then forget about it and go enjoy life! There's no reason to beat ourselves up. Our inside beauty (or lack of it!) is what people will remember.
Absolutely! Thanks so much for sharing Lori. 🥰
Thank you for putting all this wonderful and useful information into a video. "I like to get dressed for my day in a way that brings me joy", so true!
I find that that "third piece" like a cardi or a vest adds a vertical to create length and take attention from the tummy area.
Kay, Thank you, thank you for recommending the flat-front jeans at Soft Surroundings!! I ordered the boot cut, dark wash, and I love them. They came yesterday, I tried them on, and they are perfect. They're in the wash now, must hang dry them and then they'll be good to go. They are just what I need for my apple shape - no front pockets, zipper or button that add bulk. I really appreciate your research and work to help us look better! XO
Oh that is so good to hear. I’m very glad you are pleased with them. Thanks so much for letting me know. 💕
Kay, I'm 43 and I love you and your positive nature. Thank you for the tips..... under 50 crowd loves you too!
New subscriber! I’m not a trendy person. I’m also older (77) and on a limited budget. I buy very few clothes, but now and then, I need something for a special occasion. I enjoyed listening to all your tips and appreciate the sparkle you exhibit in knowing you are helping others. Your last tip was best of all. It’s taken me years to accept my body flaws. One of the biggest challenges is to find the very thing that suits my body shape (and flaws) best. I have a medium build and waist on top of thighs and legs two sizes bigger, thanks to defects from polio. Love empire-waisted clothing, but you’re right, they’re hard to find. Thank you so much for this video. It’s given me a lot to think about and redirect the focus upward and inward. ❤️
I’m so glad you enjoyed the video, Susan. Thanks for watching.
I’ve always loved the high rise pants and jeans for me… I feel low rise are great if you have no tummy so for me give me my granny pants and jeans 🤣😂
Hahaha! Well they’re very “in” right now, fortunately for all of us! 🙌🏻
Thank You! Look great in the green top.
Thanks. I’m glad you enjoyed the video.
I love the ruching dress. I also love the olive gathered top that gathers down vertically . Empire waists are also great. Since I can sew, this is a chance to sew some of the styles you are referring to so I don't have to depend on what is available at the stores. I recently discovered your channel, Kay and just love it. You are so elegant!
I really enjoy your videos, especially how you show pics of examples.
Thanks so much, Kay! I have struggled in this area for such a looong time!😡 I had already been thinking I wanted to make a few changes in my everyday life and this year just update my wardrobe with a few pieces I personally love! I’ve decided to choose joy and embrace the gift of each today!🇱🇷✝️💕
Absolutely! Me too! 😊
Your graciousness shines through your videos. Thank you for sharing your research with us.
I have always liked high rise jeans.
That olive top really suits you!
Thanks for those good words Kay! We can get consumed with what we think are our body"s flaws instead of focusing on what is good about our bodies! Plus our bodies have taken us through lots of years!
I have just come across your channel and I just love your videos. I love how you educate and also encourage!! You have a beautiful way of complimenting, encouraging and uplifting others.
And the right undergarments! I have found the high waisted short type underwear is great without been too confining, they are soft and comfortable. They will give you a nice shape with no underwear lines .
you're a font of information, and your upbeat attitude is refreshing, thank you
Thanks for watching Loretta. I’m so glad you liked it.
Ruching is wonderful..
Wonderful tips! Another trick is to wear a longer top with a shorter jacket or sweater on top. Somehow this provides some waist definition that is flattering on many women. Keep up the great work, Kay! The colour of the sweater you are wearing looks beautiful on you BTW.
Kay, I don’t see a tummy. So either you’re a silly girl or you are spot on with your tips 😉
I love the tips and the encouragement! I'm short in staure with a belly albeit not a huge one but still! I fell for the puffer vest but found they aren't created equally. I wear ones with form fitting features in the back or sides to keep me from looking like the Michelin man. Lol. I also prefer thinner ones for less bulk. I can get away with that down south. Belk Kim Roger's brand and JCP St. John's Bay have nailed these features for me .
Thank you for that last tip...it needed to be said, to remind most of us that we are MORE than our physical appearance! We are mothers, wives, retirees, housekeepers, hard workers...and we LOVE with abandon. It brought tears to my eyes...Kay. And I noticed you were tearing up also...😊
Thanks so much for watching, Guillermina. 💕
YES! The last tip is the very best. You are so right, Kay! Thank you!
As a short person, I have to watch what I wear. I will have to see what I can find for vests and tunics or quilted jackets that aren't puffy.
I am doing my best to wear striking or cute items. :)
I hope that you are having a wonderful Sunday.
The trick with a Breton top is finding one that is the right length. I have a great one from St John knits that has a dark navy band at the bottom. It totally camouflages my lower abs. Also because it’s a thicker knit. It just skims the midsection. With three quarter length sleeves, that also brings they eye up from that midsection.
Last tip….Wonderful!,,,God don’t make no junk. God Bless…Merry Christmas
Thank you for the “adjusting the bra straps” tip! Needed that reminder! 🙂
Hahaha! I think most of us do. 😉
@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms I had to fuss at my elderly mother last year because her bras were just shot, and not doing her any good.
Dress for success in life. Greet your day with no worry or strife. The way you look is a great part of how you feel about yourself. Don’t let your flaws rule you. You rule them. As a short woman of 4”10 I’ve heard it all. It doesn’t hurt me. I’ve learned to stand tall! That’s what you have to do. Thanks again for your wonderful tips and advice.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it Cindee. And thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🥰
You are wonderful at what you do..God Bless
Thank you. That’s very kind. 😊
I agree with your final comment. Thanks for all the great content. Blessings sue
Thanks for watching Sue. 🥰
Such a great video Kay! And, I love your philosophy about wearing clothes that give us that joy and radiance. Well said!
Great energy. Love the message at 21:23. You're really lovely.
Very useful and well presented. I am going to keep these points in mind. I will try on some of my clothes and see what really doesn't help me look my best. I am not overweight but i have a abdomen issue which i will never be able to get rid of.
All of these shades of greens look so wonderful on you
You closed this video beautifully. Thank you
Thank you, you are so lovely, warm and positive
You’re quite welcome Kirsten. Thank you for watching. 😊
You are so great to listen to…informative and authentic, a winning combination. I wonder if you might do a similar video about fuller arms. I go all summer hiding them but think there might be better options. Thank you in advance!
Yes, I can do that sometime I do have a blog post on that. dressedformyday.com/how-to-minimize-large-upper-arms/
I'm in your "camp," Elfriede, and dressing is a struggle during warming months when I see other gals wearing sleeveless items. No can do! Year round, I'm usually in 3/4 sleeves or sleeveless with a very light crocheted/open light-weight knit crop top. (Difficult to find!) In fall and winter, I have more options. Good luck.
@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms wow…was this one of those « ask and you shall receive » moments? I’m heading over to that article straight away…thx!!
@@lorettas4443 That’s what I do, too. It’s my issue because I see many other women with larger arms and they don’t seem to be bothered by it…at least they don’t feel like they need to cover up. I’m heading over to that article she gave us a link to and hope it has some advice I can use next summer. You have a great day!
For 40 years I’ve refused to go sleeveless because I didn’t like my upper arms; they looked huge to me. This year I turned 66 and I just decided I was going sleeveless this summer……and I did…..all summer. I felt really self conscious at first but then I just stopped worrying about it. Now I’m looking forward to finding cute sleeveless tops for next summer. It’s okay ladies, let’s just be what we are, no apologies!
Great tips, loved the visuals, helps tremendously when shopping for tops, pants and dresses for my type of body types.
Wonderful to hear. Thanks so much for watching Nia. 🥰
Thank you Lord for this beautiful and inspiring woman! Kay, you have taught me so much about how to dress appropriately for my age! God bless you!
Ahh, that’s so very kind. Thank you. I am humbled by the opportunity I have here. ☺️
Thk u Kay for such an important topic that suit me fine. I do like to conceal my tummy area!!
Finally, someone addressing the issue on point. After skimming thru hoards of useless videos, I came across this one. Thank you so much! I have a mum pooch and though I am younger I feel conscious about the tummy peeking thru my outfits especially when I am bloated.
Excellent!. You sure do your homework and we thank you!
I’m hoping the Bridgerton effect will lead to more Empire waist styles in the shop.
Yes! That would be great!
Thank you Kay! You're special.
You are a lovely person. Thanks for your ideas!
thanks so much. my husband says i buy things too big. Now i get the ladies working at the store to help me more when I try things on-this video helps!
Excellent, excellent hints, Kay, especially the last❣️Thanks SO much! Slight tummy tucker since my teens, but moreso after 8 babies who each left baggage behind at birth!!! 🤣 Eating healthy and being active helps, too!
Absolutely! There’s no substitute for just good healthy choices. Thanks for watching Kathy. 😊
Great video...my biggest problem is posture. I had a huge chest until I had breast reduction surgery and I slouched and slumped to try and hide my chest. My plastic surgeon, on my final appointment, pulled my shoulders back and told me to sit and stand straight. He worked at the hospital where I worked and as I left he said, "I don't want to see you slouching!" Well, I try to remind myself to stand up straight or sit up straight and it's still a battle...my surgery was at least 30 years ago and I'm 72 now. Linda, get your act together!
lovelovelove your "show" - helps me remember that I dont need to feel frumpy!! THANKS SO MUCH!
Thanks so much, Eve. I love hearing that. You're awesome!
I am so glad I found you. I totally enjoy your tips for skin care and colors. My hair is mostly white and very short. I am very thin on top. I had problems with it for as many years as I can count. I use Rogain and it does help but I know stress is one reason. The year of Covid and my Mom slowly died , her choice. So it puts pressure on me. Now I want to get it together. And there you were. So pretty and happy. I am interested in what is going on now with it all. Thank you!! and I will keep watching. Joyce
It has been a tough year for some of us. It’s hard to get back into a happy place again. Kay has helped so much with BFMD on her blog. A treasure! Don’t look back. We can do this.
I just love your smile and your videos make my day a happier one. You are a sweetheart at best
Thank you. ☺️
Thank you for all your great tips, the best one was the last one…”be gracious and have joy”.
Absolutely. Thanks so much for watching. 💕
Your husband was right about the last part of the video! That is exactly right and it something we need to be reminded of. Thank you. Great videos - just discovered you today.
Love this video…you are very informative and love your tips at the end❤️
What a lovely video, beautiful selection of clothing. I especially enjoyed your last statement 🥰 🤗🍂
I just purchased that quilted jacket from Talbots a few weeks ago, I probably shouldn’t have picked the hot pink one since I’m trying to hide my tummy! Just a fun color I couldn’t resist!
Shoot! I say have fun with it! 💕
@@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms I will be embracing your last tip which I did think was the best one!
I number one, absolutely love your attitude, and your gracious way. Your advice is right on! Thank you.
I discovered your channel recently, and what keeps drawing me to your channel/ blog is your positively radiant attitude!
Thank you!
Thank you so much. Very kind of you. 💕
I really love the ending ,small talk of how to just enjoy be happy and forget the size but just smile ,life is too short nowdays
Have been watching your site for maybe six months and really enjoy them. I have just come across this one. The reason for me commenting.? I love your hair like this. Lovely in all ways; smart, classy, youthful, complimentary. Try it again maybe?
This video was so helpful, and I particularly love the pep talk at the end. Also at the beginning, you talked about tightening those straps! Something I need to be more mindful of! Thank you!
Dearest Kay, thank you so much. Beautiful tips.
I do have a tummy, and u gave so many looks.
Thank you, thank you, thank u for everything.
You are a very precious soul and God loves u.
🙏❤️👏🍁🌹🌟👍🥰🍂🌻✝️
You’re so welcome Rachel. Thanks for watching. 💕
As an apple with big belly and bosom I Appreciate this advice.
These are excellent tips, and I agree with your husband, the last one is the most important to remember. Our culture still celebrates youth and also perfection, which can make us focus inward too much. As you said, life is too short for that. It's also true that we are our own harshest judges and we need to lighten up. I love the Soft Surroundings jeans and their Superla pants for a clean, slim line. And I'm so glad that high rises are back. Those do make a big difference!
Great to hear. Thanks so much for sharing Karen. 🥰
I especially loved your final thoughts & encouragement!
Thanks for the great point on hiding tummy with clothes not too tight not too lose and i totally agree with you xx
Hi Kay, Yes, choose joy!! Talbots has a darker wash denim skirt this season with reduced bulk in the tummy area: cue the band! 🥳 Thanks for your thoughts; extend grace to yourself that you would give others. All the best, Julie 🌷
Wonderful! I hadn’t seen it. Thanks for sharing. And thanks for your kind comments. 💕
Great tips! I brought a couple of pants to the alterations shop to have the pockets sewn up. The pockets just stuck out and I love the flat front!
How about getting a chubby friend to model the tummy-hiding styles? You are so trim that it’s hard to imagine realistic results. You look great in all your outfits. Great tips as always.