14 Secrets That Every Solo Woman Should Keep to Herself
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- Every woman deserves the space and confidence to keep certain things private. In this video, I’m sharing 14 key “secrets”-or personal boundaries-that are perfectly okay to protect. From safeguarding your financial details to maintaining a healthy emotional space in relationships, these are examples of what not to share publicly or even with those closest to you.
Tune in to learn why keeping some information to yourself isn’t about being secretive or distrustful-it’s about honoring your own well-being and ensuring that what you hold most dear remains safe. Have any thoughts or questions about this topic? Let me know in the comments below. And remember: you have every right to decide what to share and what to keep to yourself!
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Basically don't over share your life. Share selectively. Being a bit of a mystery is a good thing.
I think the fact that you are single and live alone is important to keep to yourself. I've had a few tradesmen who asked way too many intrusive questions to be harmless in nature. Sometimes men think if a woman lives alone she must be desperate (for him of course) and they become quite menacing in their advances
Kelly. Make sure you screen any tradesmen prior to employing them. They are employed to do a job, not for their conversation.
I display a pair of men’s slippers in the hall for any incoming trades person to see and take stock of
One of the things I’ve learned not to talk about or share is about how I live with my little dogs. Being alone, they are my life and always come first. There are a lot of things I do not do due to having them and when people that I know who are not keen on dogs learn that I stay home for example rather than go out somewhere, they end up telling me I’m missing out on life. I don’t think I am but the pressure comes thick and fast not to live like I do. Well, I’m not about to change so now, I say nothing. 💕🐾
Me 2 but mine are pusses ❤❤❤❤
I think they’re missing out 😂! Your life and choices sound beautifully right to me 🐶♥️
@@tinkershell1856 Oh bless you, that’s so kind of you to say so. I’m 61 now and have always lived with my parents caring for them as they aged and finally my mum, the last to pass 3 years and so now, just ‘ us three ‘, one human ( me ) and my mum and mines ‘girls’. I’d not have it any other way though financially it’s hard, very. Mum and Dad had pets before even I came along so I’ve never known life without a pet. Don’t think it’s time to start now 🙂🐾🐾💕
I say it loud & proud🤣
I too don't talk about how I live my life with my dog. People are quick to assume that I'm missing out and I've had some cheeks in the past comment that my dog is a burden to me. He's not because he is my world and I chose to bring him into my home
Great talk. There are certain things that no one will ever know about me. And I like this fact. It’s just for me to know. We can be our own best friend.
Such wisdom. I was taught growing up that I had to answer any question asked of me. It took me a long time to realized that I don't owe anyone information I don't want to share I respect other people's privacy and can hold that space for myself. I agree with all the things on your list.
When you listed as #1, hiding a chocolate stash, I almost scoffed.
I'm doing my taxes today and as I snorkeled through my tax paperwork,(kept in a box), I found....
a bar of my favorite chocolate!
I'd hidden it there as a reward. It's gone now, paperwork remains, and I'm feeling relaxed as I organize it all.
My age! I don't know why other women seem so interested in how old other women are. So many other interesting things to learn about others.
I do not tell everyone everything. I do not tell or discuss my past romantic relationships with someone I am currently involved with. I am open with some things but there are a lot of things that I do not want to be judged on. My guilty pleasures are my own and I have no reason to share. Yes it is ok to be quiet about somethings and you also have to wonder why some folks ask questions about private things. Love you Margaret!
Fully agree Mona. Rude people ask personal questions. No manners.
@@doloresaquines1529people ask unbelievable questions sometimes!
I’m living solo 4 years today. I’m watching you in my pj’s and warm robe while eating my breakfast. I live in the Arizona mountains and it’s cold in the morning but sunny. My morning routine is checking the headlines and then erase it.
Love it! I’m watching in my jammies and eating breakfast too ♥️
I am also solo and love it ❤️ When I would make a change in life I kept it to myself. I didn’t want anyone's energy or negative comments interfering The older I have become the more I cherish my privacy . You also can keep your boundaries to yourself and you don’t have to announce what they are to that person just put them into practice.
@@NancyStinger-ll6wt you're so sweet to share, a single gals have to stick together ♥️👍
I think that’s such a sensible thing Nancy. I’m solo and am slowly learning as I get older that whenever I tell anyone my thoughts, especially if making a change, it never ends up being a good thing to do for all the reasons you say. 💕
🤣 Thank goodness that all our teenage years were spent before the internet.😂
Had a chuckle at that one 😁
Glad you are feeling better.
Many times I've read from "Fashion Experts" that women over 60 should not wear black. But Margaret, you look beautiful & so elegant in black today! Glad you are feeling better.
I learned some time ago not to tell certain people anything. They can be so judgmental and tell you what you "should" do. Maddening
Thank you Margaret. I'm glad you are on the mend. I love your positive energy and I'm glad you reassured us that keeping secrets is not only okay, but important to our dignity and our personal well-being. I have always been careful about sharing personal things, but I wondered if it was just from the guilt and shame that I carried from my family of origin. But now I am realizing that it is more about wisdom and self-care. At age 78, I get bored very quickly when other people give me intimate details of things that are none of my business especially about their medical proceedures (Dr Christiane Northrup humorously calls those details "organ recitals" ). I've overheard people at Walmart on their cell phones telling someone about their gall bladder surgery~ no, no, no, that's not okay!!!
One additional thing I would add to your list (which you kinda touched on, is that our finances (income and/or debts) is definitely our own business. ❤
You are so right Margret! Nobody has to know everything from us.
I had tendency to say private things i regretted to have been so open...especially to family....
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Love this ❤
To be a good listener, it’s important to keep thoughts to yourself that distract from the talker’s confidence they are expressing. Often when confiding in someone, they impose their opinion when what you needed was to be heard and validated.
Lucille. It is best IMO not to confide (as in confidential) in just someone, particularly on delicate matters, finances, health and so forth. Always better to confide in a professional in sich cases.
I love this, Margaret! 😄 I think some of us have overshared and have learned not to (after the effects of it). I think an important one is Location and when you’re traveling - so people don’t know you’re gone. Like when people release videos after the fact - smart! Thankfully, I have one really close girlfriend for 35 years, we’ve gone through so much, and have ‘our’ secrets. Love to you all for a wonderful week! ❤
I was guilty of it for years.
I secretly travel for mental relaxation. I tell people I’m traveling for work when I’m really on a wonderful cruise or in an all inclusive resort 😊!
@@luvtravel6207 nice!👏
That is so good !!
I think even being married 36 years I have secrets I keep. I have never subscribed to the idea that I have to tell my husband everything because we are married. Secrets shared by good friends, some who he knows - those are confidences I keep. My own money and chocolate stash too 😂😉💞
It should be a woman’s prerogative to have secrets . It keeps us dignified
So glad to see you back doing videos! Take care🙂
I just turned 65 (celebrated my b-day in South Africa/Zimbabwe. it was fabulous). I have secret stash of chocolates, chips and stuffed animals. My cool, comfy bed is my secret place to relax. I'm a private person, so I keep a lot of secret thoughts/beliefs to myself. I don't need social media (maybe because I'm an introvert). Love skin products, don't need to tell anyone about my skin routine. I don't tell anyone about my secret desires, but I do share about my passion (doing mission trips to bring school supplies to children. I want to inspire my family and friends). 🙂
@@minkyann8132 oh yes, chocolate and chips, I literally crunch up my chips put them in a bowl and melt some chocolate chips over there ❤️
Yes, Like you I am an introvert and love keeping my thoughts to myself. I truly believe in keeping quiet when sometimes I have nothing good to say because I don’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings .I admire your passion,you really are an inspiration and people should know about it.God bless
I love this! Everyone thinks all should be told! Social media did this! People post what they are eating all of the time..not necessary!
I would suggest two more secrets: income and some health issues. The summary of what you, Margaret, so rightly said, for me, is this wonderful saying, "Speech is silver, and silence is gold!", which is undoubtedly rewarding.
Yes Vera! I mentioned this in a post. Financials, and health matters of course. Anyhow why would one Tell anyone about income!
I sometimes hear people talk about their health problems on their phone right in a restaurant loud enough so I can hear from another table.
I keep wondering why they do that because I would never just broadcast my health problems, which thankfully I don’t have yet, where everyone in public can hear them. !!
Love that saying ♥ thank you for sharing. My mum used to say "least said, easiest mended" ♥
@@kerriannehancock6500 the one your mum used to say is so wise! Haven't heard before and will remember!
@@veralubov7405 she was a very wise and wonderful lady, sadly missed ❤️ but her wise words live on ❤️
Hi Margaret. Oh, you would be shocked if you knew....but you never will. I'm extremely private. When younger, I learned not to tell anyone anything I wouldn't want repeated back to me. As for what I spend money on, that is my concern. Part of me would like to give it all to cats when Im gone. I might just do that.
Thank you, Margaret. I love a good secret kept all to myself! I hope to make some more memories that are secret worthy. I do tend to overshare about some things, but others are all for me. I call my chocolate stash my "Emergency Chocolate". Secret keeping versus sharing is a delicate balance between personal boundaries and trusting others. It's nice to be your true self all of the time, but not everyone has earned the privilege of knowing your true self.
I like how you break the black color with a large pearl short necklace. You look great like this!
No need to share every thought we have,especially on Social Media. I enjoyed this.Good that you’re feeling better 😘
Perfume. I have a signature and I don’t want to share. It may seem unimportant to others but it’s my guarded secret.
I’m glad they didn’t have Social Media when I was young too. This video was great.‼️Thanks Margaret ❤
Hi Margaret! I'm turning 60 this summer and I've been following you since 2019; I love your videos so much! I'm a private person and enjoy my peaceful solitude, so having my little secrets is the best...and I like not having to explain my quirkiness! It has been said that growing old is not for the faint of heart...but you have helped me look forward to the journey in so many ways. Thank you for your grace and style and wit and wisdom! Also, you look radiant in black!
This was a fun video Margaret, thank you!! Also a solo woman with secrets! Xx❤
You are so right! Don’t need to kiss and tell!!
Oh Margaret! Love this! You are truly a gem. ❤️ I am so glad you are feeling better! 🙏🏻
I have watched three of your videos and have enjoyed them so much! This one made me subscribe! This is by far my favorite of all 🥰❤ I’m a very private person. I love how you honor secrets in a fun way! You’re my kind of person! 🤗
My secret stash is French brandy! I always forget that I have it and boy is it good when I remember
I enjoyed this video, Margaret. Thank you for sharing.
Sweet Margaret, it is so good seeing you and hearing that you are feeling better. You are always a breath of fresh air, I look forward to all your videos. I can “like” videos but I can’t comment as I’m usually watching you on the RUclips app on my Roku. But using my iPad to wish you well.
Love hugs &’God bless!
I love that you included the special keepsake and it's story and my actions that would shock friends and family. I have a piece of jewelry that came to mind immediately. I remember the gifter every time I wear it.
Love ❤ these secret ideas!! 😊😊
We all need something to keep to your ! Love you video's. I just turned 63 this January . I feel that my body changing fast ! I thank Jesus christ for taking care of me all these years ! Have a blessed day 💛
Yes I have thought about this guy before we were at a party and before I met my husband I wasn’t used to drinking that much. I leaned over. He was gonna give me a hug and I threw up all over his jeans all over his good clothes I don’t think I ever shared that with anybody I never dated him again so good for me❤
I swear like a truck driver when Im alone. Not with people tho. LOL.
I think its very interesting when.people share with each other what books they are reading. Its a good conversation to bond over shared interests. I' m pleased that somone asks about that. Why would that be a secret?
I agree Ruth. Books, good books, are a great conversation topic.
How do you get to know someone if everything is kept secret? Also, I’m interested in what other people read for ideas. And I enjoy hearing how others spend their time because sometimes I get bored and restless and need ideas. I wouldn’t enjoy a friendship with someone that keeps everything secret. I understand not sharing with everyone or casual acquaintances.
Well said Toni!! Being private is fine, being paranoid entirely something else. Why on earth would one not wish to chat with someone about a book, music, an article. This is not MI5 stuff!!
I dont do Fakebook, IG or Any of that. I rather like the real world .
@@doloresaquines1529 thank you for your validation! (I’m not a “youngin’”--66 here…….)
So good to see a new video from you. You have an uplifting energy.
Thank you so much!
Hello Margaret, lovely to see you looking so well. Great content. My top two secrets are my weight and how many biscuits I eat in the middle of the night😊
Loved this! Your exuberance warmed my heart.❤
Silence is golden. Value your privacy, it creates boundaries and shows self-respect. Never share information about money or when you plan to retire. Embrace the solitude and independence!!!!🎉😊
So true , thank you
My daughter and I had a chocolate drawer that her brothers did not know about. They were incensed when they learned about it years later! I still have a chocolate drawer. My sister found it by accident on her last visit. She was surprised too!
Thanks Margaret for the wisdom of this. I sometimes splurge on myself. If some knew what I spent, they’d be shocked and try to make me feel horrible about being wasteful. I’m not wasteful but my taste is exquisite. I love taking care of my skin and have a song…called. It’s My Turn. So good to see you back to your vibrant self, hugs!❤
Thank you!
How true! Too many people want to share everything online. And most don't want to know anyhow. If they want to know about your finances, it's just to scam you.
Panther. Absolutely! I honestly do not understand this obsession with "online". Anyone you meet online is not a "friend". Just an online entity. Why would one share anything, even the time of day, with "something" online. Keep to real life, not fantasy virtual life.
Love this!❤
Have you really lived if you haven't skinny dipped once in your life? lol
True!
Great advice. 🌺🥰
Margaret, you are a dear woman and I always enjoy your cheerfulness and delight in daily life. Your advice is well put. Hey, did you write a book a few decades ago about maybe menopause self care? If that was you, your advice was spot on so you have been helping me for perhaps a very long time. If that book was by you, you should mention it again. It was a classic and will help those on the channel who are younger than us.
Love, love, love your glasses ❤
I absolutely Loved this ❤ thank you!
Good Sunday 🌄 morning ☕love this topic. Thank-you🎉🎉🎉I 😘 love living alone, so much freedom too do whatever you like🎉🎉I keep 🍫 chocolate on hand for my treat. Have a 😊👍 good day on purpose.
People vote in most countries! . Not just in U.S. In my own country of Birth, Ireland, It would never occur to anyone to ask how someone voted. That would be very bad form!
So true 😊, but sometimes we would like to share our financial winnings, but it does not pay well
That was fun!
Remember back when we were young and had “Pen Pals” from another country? That would be fun to do again only easier now. My secret……nope, not sharing. Enjoy all your videos!
Yes! When I was younger, pen pals were huge. I have a few friends who keep in touch with their high school pen pals over 50 years later! We had multiple ways of meeting pen pals via snail mail! No Internet involved! Just simple, safe, honest enjoyment! Have a great day and thank you Margaret!
I'm still in contact with some of mine 50 years later. We're in different countries but still manage to meet now and again.
The more things you keep private, the happier you will be. ☺️
Interesting comment. I never thought about this before.
I have a notebook of some of the best comments in the Daily Mail. So funny.
In order to have a secret stash of chocolate, someone would have to keep its location secret from me...
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I've never considered what book(s) I'm reading to be something secretive. I don't see the big deal about that unless it's about some personal issue. If one feels the need to be completely closed-down, then perhaps it's best not to have too many (or really, any) friends. The reality is most people are not *that* interested in others, they're much more interested in themselves and their own dramas.
Well stated Crimson. That is the reality.
I definitely have books that are about my personal interests, that I only share with close friends with similar interests. No need to tell my daughter I’m reading “How to Talk Dirty in Bed”. let her figure that out on her own!
I love this video. 💖🤗
I like coloring in coloring books. I’m 68. Oops. ❤😊
Your glasses look very nice on you !
That was delightful!
I enjoyed this video!❤
I don’t tell ppl how much I have ($) and my relationships.
Love you Margaret!!💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
You look fantastic❤
Fun video ❤😊
You are so right. I have one friend who knows where all my skeletons are. -or at least the existence of them.. That's enough - or maybe more than enough.. There are some things I have learned to never share on line... too important and too personal to share with strangers. I did leave another women's social media page that became far to bitterly divided after a recent election..
Ha ha I made the mistake when I was much younger of showing someone my secret stash of chocolate in a drawer and they never let me live it down since then even a decade later !!
Solo is the best! You manage your own money, and you never need to explain purchases to anyone else.
You look cool with those glasses really suits you❤
Some travel experiences I keep to myself.
HOW nice to have ‘permission’ Margaret!! Really! 😅🙋♀️🥰👏‼️
Ok - I’m amazed that you forgot about a secret stash of chocolate!!
Thank you for the tips and advice. My kids still live with me. Ine has additional needs. And I ned these to make space for me.
My secret space is a dressing room at Macy's❤
Thank you. 🙏.
Spiritual that’s one.
I was never given a moment’s guidance growing up, the opposite was the case, so what you are saying is such a help. I imagine for others too
I will add here what I could keep a secret, something that I hadn’t considered before. My absolute my favourite recent movie was Paddington 2, I then watched Paddington 1 and I plan to see Paddington in Peru in the cinema.
Film critics rate these movies highly. I checked that out after watching Paddington 2.
TMI and over-sharing is toxic. "Ask me no questions and I Will Tell me no líes." !!! I do share talk about books with Friends. Why not? No big deal. Guess What? No one really cares about superficial stuff you might mention. Forgotten in a minute.
You look amazing in the black with the pearl necklace.
I DO have my secrets!!
My secret Is all the stuff I buy on vinted... 😂
. i was taught not to have any secrets ever . so have to think about what you said .
I love this! I have hit most of these. 😅
My one "secret" is my perfume. L People often ask me What It is. I Tell them my husband gets It made Up for me with a French parfumier! It is French anyhow. And discreet. Worn that same perfume since I was 24.
😂😂 interesting one ❤❤❤
A close friend frequently wants to know things that I don't want to share, like how much money I make. How do I redirect her without sounding rude? Thanks for all your helpful advice!
I was advised years ago to answer such questions with, "why do you ask?" Hard to do, but it's a gentle way to put someone off.
@jeanetteh.9240 Thanks, I'll give it a try!
Connie. I will make it simple. that is not a friend, close or otherwise. A proper friend does not ask those kinds of questions, ever. Ease her out of your life, that is my best adavice.
@doloresaquines1529 Thank you!
Swimming almost naked in the Ganges is not that risqué I would be more worried about pollution.
And so what I don’t know about Switzerland, but in Germany, it’s quite usual to sunbathe or go in the mineral Springs in FKk Freikörperkultur. I’ll keep that a secret and I won’t say if I participated or or just decided to go to a café instead
My daughter lived in a building above the mineral springs in Wiesbaden, Germany for a few years.
Secret lovers!😮
Always, religion and political preferences......sure fire way to start an argument.
Absolutely, Kerri.
Cute video Margaret.
Love to find a secret hideaway!