I’ve been watching you from the beginning and I feel like your just enough ahead of me in life that I can learn so much from you. I started watching you at 12, and now I’m 21. I’ve gained so much wisdom from your honesty and mistakes and successes. Thank you for sharing. I took probably a 5 year break from watching you and I came back to see what you’ve been up to. You are aging beautifully sister, I hope I will too. Thank you for sharing exactly what I needed 🤎
congratulations on 5 years. Perhaps consider interviewing people in your life who have been married 20, 30 or 40 years and see what their experience have taught them for successful relationships.
@@lulubelle999 it could if one was looking for that, or it could be that I applaud her for making it 5 years, and as an additional and more extensive review it would be interesting to see what people may have to say who have made it multiple decades.
i love this so much. emotional maturity is something i’ve been capitalizing on recently, just leaning into this new growth emotionally and becoming more grounded in that way. it’s created such a positive shift in all of my relationships! grateful for you and your honest approach to relationship advice!
1. We learn through contrast 2. He will not find you attractive until you find yourself attractive 3:20 3. Your secrets are slowly destroying your relationship 6:25 4. You cannot expect him to lead you if you don't even respect him 10:00 5. It will not last without emotional maturity 13:33
I’ve been following you from your dreaded Hawaii days and you have always had such a confidence about you that I admire so much. Thank you for sharing all this and for this kind of video; maybe it’s the being outside aspect or the straight to the point aspect that captivates me more than your usually videos. (Which I also love!) Thank you.
Unfortunately I think #4 is a tough one because a woman in her masculine will typically pick a "weak" (dependent, passive) man in the first place so it's very hard for that man to step up to the plate because he bounces from one relationship to the next wirh no shortage of women willing to settle for that dynamic because it makes the woman feel in control even though they do not respect their partner
100% and that’s exactly what i’m here to help change, because it doesn’t have to be that way forever. we each are responsible for what we bring to the dynamic and can choose to be self-empowered in healing our patterns & showing up consciously - so that we can experience the love we truly desire.
Wow I really resonated with this, I was tearing up by the end because I can see some things I’ve been doing wrong for a long time and why my relationships don’t last.
i think that's a very common view that many women share with you. from my experience, a relationship is co-created, and nothing is ever just on one person's shoulders. i've also found that when i (the women) take responsibility for what i'm contributing, the dynamic improves tremendously. this is why i am so passionate about sharing videos like this one!
Thank you so much❤️ i can relate to some of these, and honestly its so hard sometimes to deal with anxiety and big emotions. But honestly the biggest thing for me was number 4. I do need to give him more space and appreciation. We are both young and still learning but i do love my partner so much and want to make it last😊
ive been with my husband almost 8 years and im sometimes guilty of not giving him space to lead things then complaining he doesnt great advise alyse! ive been here since raw alignment days and grown up with you ☺
I definitely was in my masculine. But i was dating people i didnt really respect or like in that way. I often tried to lean back and found they couldn't or didn't want to take initiative or be reciprocal. They were never around. I was only a pen pal and weekend gf
That was probably because you were afraid of emotional intimacy and men you didn't care about didn't threaten your freedom/autonomy and there was no way you would possibly feel too deeply for such a person.
But how to realise which differences and struggles are opportunity to grow together and when they are a proof of incompatibility of two personalities... I am struggling for 3 years, I was fighting for better future, better understanding of eachother. We were trying to build strong bond but... it reached some peak and now is worse and worse... Everything is fading - emotions and enthusiasm are disappearing.
I’ve been watching you from the beginning and I feel like your just enough ahead of me in life that I can learn so much from you. I started watching you at 12, and now I’m 21. I’ve gained so much wisdom from your honesty and mistakes and successes. Thank you for sharing. I took probably a 5 year break from watching you and I came back to see what you’ve been up to. You are aging beautifully sister, I hope I will too. Thank you for sharing exactly what I needed 🤎
hi kylee, this is so sweet of you to share, thank you! 💗 welcome back, here’s to another transformative year ahead ✨✨
congratulations on 5 years. Perhaps consider interviewing people in your life who have been married 20, 30 or 40 years and see what their experience have taught them for successful relationships.
This comment comes off as so condescending, like her insight from her 5 year relationship isn't good enough?
@@lulubelle999 it could if one was looking for that, or it could be that I applaud her for making it 5 years, and as an additional and more extensive review it would be interesting to see what people may have to say who have made it multiple decades.
i love this so much. emotional maturity is something i’ve been capitalizing on recently, just leaning into this new growth emotionally and becoming more grounded in that way. it’s created such a positive shift in all of my relationships! grateful for you and your honest approach to relationship advice!
1. We learn through contrast
2. He will not find you attractive until you find yourself attractive 3:20
3. Your secrets are slowly destroying your relationship 6:25
4. You cannot expect him to lead you if you don't even respect him 10:00
5. It will not last without emotional maturity 13:33
thank you!
THANK YOU LEGEND
I’ve been following you from your dreaded Hawaii days and you have always had such a confidence about you that I admire so much. Thank you for sharing all this and for this kind of video; maybe it’s the being outside aspect or the straight to the point aspect that captivates me more than your usually videos. (Which I also love!) Thank you.
Unfortunately I think #4 is a tough one because a woman in her masculine will typically pick a "weak" (dependent, passive) man in the first place so it's very hard for that man to step up to the plate because he bounces from one relationship to the next wirh no shortage of women willing to settle for that dynamic because it makes the woman feel in control even though they do not respect their partner
100% and that’s exactly what i’m here to help change, because it doesn’t have to be that way forever. we each are responsible for what we bring to the dynamic and can choose to be self-empowered in healing our patterns & showing up consciously - so that we can experience the love we truly desire.
Wow I really resonated with this, I was tearing up by the end because I can see some things I’ve been doing wrong for a long time and why my relationships don’t last.
I think 98% of the time the man is at fault in the relationship if the relationship is on the rocks if there's a problem in the relationship
i think that's a very common view that many women share with you. from my experience, a relationship is co-created, and nothing is ever just on one person's shoulders. i've also found that when i (the women) take responsibility for what i'm contributing, the dynamic improves tremendously. this is why i am so passionate about sharing videos like this one!
Seems like you should give this video another watch.
I think #4 can apply to men too! Not specifically related to the woman leading but general expectations in partnership for the woman.
Thanks! I especially resonate with with giving your partner the respect they deserve and noticing when they show up for you ❤
Thank you so much❤️ i can relate to some of these, and honestly its so hard sometimes to deal with anxiety and big emotions. But honestly the biggest thing for me was number 4. I do need to give him more space and appreciation. We are both young and still learning but i do love my partner so much and want to make it last😊
I am loving these videos Alyse! These are exactly what I need to watch and hear at this moment in my life. Thank you ❤
It's crazy how similar our life paths are ❤
Holy crap! Number 4 was fucking awesome. Thank you so much. If you have anymore advice for respecting him please share!
ahhh! glad my directness resonated with you! stay tuned for more :)
You still dont shower?
never have, never will. 😃
Love this!
ive been with my husband almost 8 years and im sometimes guilty of not giving him space to lead things then complaining he doesnt
great advise alyse! ive been here since raw alignment days and grown up with you ☺
Hi Alyse, can you do a video on book recommendations please!!
Is this the longest relationship youve had before? ❤
yes 💗 i was in a 4.5 year relationship prior to this one, and a few multiple-year relationships before that, which i also learned a lot from.
999 i am blessed
This was definitely really helpful.
❤thanks hun
i’m so glad it resonated 💗 what was your biggest takeaway / what’s most relevant for you?
Get outta my head! 😂
😱
I definitely was in my masculine. But i was dating people i didnt really respect or like in that way. I often tried to lean back and found they couldn't or didn't want to take initiative or be reciprocal. They were never around. I was only a pen pal and weekend gf
That was probably because you were afraid of emotional intimacy and men you didn't care about didn't threaten your freedom/autonomy and there was no way you would possibly feel too deeply for such a person.
But how to realise which differences and struggles are opportunity to grow together and when they are a proof of incompatibility of two personalities... I am struggling for 3 years, I was fighting for better future, better understanding of eachother. We were trying to build strong bond but... it reached some peak and now is worse and worse... Everything is fading - emotions and enthusiasm are disappearing.