I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
It’s often said that regret is the most pointless of human emotions. You might like Matt Haig’s book The Midnight Library, which is all about the nature and effects of regret.
It’s incredible all of the things depression causes you to believe about yourself, and a huge help just hearing someone tell you this is part of the disease.
This can be a bit of a paradox. People with depression often feel devalued and unheard by caregivers, and justly so. At the same time, the problem itself can impose profound distortions on perception - to the point that it seems blindingly obvious that one is worthless, or unforgivably evil or defective. Navigating these perceptions with a client without either dismissing or reinforcing them is often a challenge. One of the advantages of a public forum like this one is the opportunity to say "this is something that occurs so commonly in depression that we can label it 'part of the disorder'" and a reader or viewer won't be thinking "Ah, he's just saying that to cheer me up."
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
This is such a great and helpful channel. Thank you for all your videos, it’s amazing you always individually answer questions as well.. I have watched many of your videos by now, found them accidentally.. started with this one as I struggle with lots of feelings of guilt and regrets after a sudden death of someone pretty close to me, that brought me to a stage of feeling really devastated emotionally. I was already in a low mood stage when it happened but I can see it’s turned into a MDE now. My GP prescribed me antidepressants to help with a very severe insomnia mainly, and recommended trying talk therapies. A test assessment pointed at depression but during telephone assessment I was told I need rather a grief therapy. I had one session and it just made things worse, the insomnia only relapsed and along with all its horrible parts like ruminating, anxiety etc. Still fighting against taking antidepressants, used them only a few times to help with waking in a middle of the night as hope to fight it without, but it’s been 2 months already.. I was wondering whether you’d be able to record a chapter on grief and depression, how these two are connected, how to cope with depression stage during the grief and first of all how to find out if the episode is a part of grieving or a bigger issue. Regrets that pop out in our head in relation with someone’s death are harder to deal with than any others as there’s no way to fix anything.. I know there are lots of videos on that usually recorded by grief specialists but your outlook is just so precise, rational and I personally find the way you talk about things really very helpful.. rationalising things is something that works usually best.. Thank you once again, best wishes!
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
Thanks sir for this wonderful video🙏🙏. It made me a bit calm and seriously felt like a virtual therapy session to me. (As a broke student who experience guilt often and overthink all the time if I am good enough, sincerely thank you ♥️).
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
@@nolongerinuse5824 that's great. I'm happy it made you calm. It's a practice that has become very important to me. I apologize to others if it is my choice. But otherwise I apologize to myself. Understanding myself as well. I wish you all the best on your journey. ❤️☯️🙂
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
No, I feel guilty and I have depression because My family is struggling with me, my mom is sad because I’m sad. My sister feels pain because I have pain. It’s like I’m giving this ongoing pain to my sister and mother. Therefore they’re in pain. Also i feel guilty because I don’t do anything in the house. I have no willpower or any motivation to pray, and more. And the eating, when im really stressed I eat non stop. Depression caries a lot of guilt for no reason at all.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
Shame can be also taught by our parents. Religiously I wasn't allowed to cut my hair or wear pants. Even now that my parents don't believe that, doing these completely normal things causes me shame. It doesn't have to be a "bad" thing, it can be anything we deeply believe is wrong.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
It’s often said that regret is the most pointless of human emotions. You might like Matt Haig’s book The Midnight Library, which is all about the nature and effects of regret.
It’s incredible all of the things depression causes you to believe about yourself, and a huge help just hearing someone tell you this is part of the disease.
This can be a bit of a paradox. People with depression often feel devalued and unheard by caregivers, and justly so. At the same time, the problem itself can impose profound distortions on perception - to the point that it seems blindingly obvious that one is worthless, or unforgivably evil or defective. Navigating these perceptions with a client without either dismissing or reinforcing them is often a challenge. One of the advantages of a public forum like this one is the opportunity to say "this is something that occurs so commonly in depression that we can label it 'part of the disorder'" and a reader or viewer won't be thinking "Ah, he's just saying that to cheer me up."
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
I agree. Going thru this currently
@@ryu7408 thank you for this.
@@uninspiredclover2771how are you now?
This is such a great and helpful channel. Thank you for all your videos, it’s amazing you always individually answer questions as well.. I have watched many of your videos by now, found them accidentally.. started with this one as I struggle with lots of feelings of guilt and regrets after a sudden death of someone pretty close to me, that brought me to a stage of feeling really devastated emotionally. I was already in a low mood stage when it happened but I can see it’s turned into a MDE now. My GP prescribed me antidepressants to help with a very severe insomnia mainly, and recommended trying talk therapies. A test assessment pointed at depression but during telephone assessment I was told I need rather a grief therapy. I had one session and it just made things worse, the insomnia only relapsed and along with all its horrible parts like ruminating, anxiety etc. Still fighting against taking antidepressants, used them only a few times to help with waking in a middle of the night as hope to fight it without, but it’s been 2 months already..
I was wondering whether you’d be able to record a chapter on grief and depression, how these two are connected, how to cope with depression stage during the grief and first of all how to find out if the episode is a part of grieving or a bigger issue. Regrets that pop out in our head in relation with someone’s death are harder to deal with than any others as there’s no way to fix anything.. I know there are lots of videos on that usually recorded by grief specialists but your outlook is just so precise, rational and I personally find the way you talk about things really very helpful.. rationalising things is something that works usually best.. Thank you once again, best wishes!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
Thanks sir for this wonderful video🙏🙏. It made me a bit calm and seriously felt like a virtual therapy session to me.
(As a broke student who experience guilt often and overthink all the time if I am good enough, sincerely thank you ♥️).
This was very informative and useful. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
@@ryu7408 I love this comment so much. It made me calm
@@nolongerinuse5824 that's great. I'm happy it made you calm. It's a practice that has become very important to me. I apologize to others if it is my choice. But otherwise I apologize to myself. Understanding myself as well. I wish you all the best on your journey. ❤️☯️🙂
@@ryu7408 Again, thank you! 😃💖💖
Everything recently happening,i feel useless and know i couldnt have done nothing for anyone,but i feel bad about it,and its been bothering me alot
So is there a medicine for guilt and depression
Excellent
thanks
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
Great explanation 👍👍
Glad it was helpful!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
But what shame? So if someone is depressed, its bc they did something bad and now they feel guilty?
No, I feel guilty and I have depression because My family is struggling with me, my mom is sad because I’m sad. My sister feels pain because I have pain. It’s like I’m giving this ongoing pain to my sister and mother. Therefore they’re in pain.
Also i feel guilty because I don’t do anything in the house. I have no willpower or any motivation to pray, and more.
And the eating, when im really stressed I eat non stop.
Depression caries a lot of guilt for no reason at all.
No, shame is your beliefs of inadequacy. Mine has been my “laziness”, which turned out to be depression.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.
Shame can be also taught by our parents. Religiously I wasn't allowed to cut my hair or wear pants. Even now that my parents don't believe that, doing these completely normal things causes me shame. It doesn't have to be a "bad" thing, it can be anything we deeply believe is wrong.