WHY YOU DON’T ACCEPT THE HOOVER
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He came back/hoovered after 2.5 years. I missed him so much even still because of the trauma bond. I gave him a piece of my mind, and told him “how dare you contact me after so long. You were terrible to me! Did you forget? It’s sick and it’s sad!” Among other things… He apologized and told me I was a beautiful person and that he was happy to see me doing well and he wouldn’t ever bother me again. That was that! I cried and I cried afterwards. I felt a mixture of anger that he thought I would take him back after so long and that he still had power over me (he knew how weak I was before). The nerve! Then I cried because I missed him so much even still and have not been able to replace the love (I thought I had) and sent away the only person i truly loved. The trauma bond is so intense, that sometimes you still crave that toxic intensity. Anything else feels lukewarm. I cried more because I felt it was so unfair that I loved someone so much that was so evil to me. I even cried because I knew that was the last time I would ever hear from him again. I was so proud of myself in the end, but then felt regretful for sending him away forever. This is an example of how twisted all of this treatment can make your mind. I still struggle with knowing what I did was the right thing. How messed up is that? It’s craziness. It’s been 2 additional years from the Hoover… I still think about it. It’s crazy how a relationship from 5 years ago can still make you have such heart wrenching feelings. I keep it moving everyday and I pray 🙏 that one day I will find real love. I have a really nice life now that I built on my own and i live it gratefully, knowing that at one point i wanted to end it all. Love and healing ❤️🩹 for anyone who gets it.
Just always remember..He/She still have another chick/di#k on the side.
I understand 100%. You win. Having freedom and regaining your power are both more valuable than the attention you miss. Be strong. You win every day that you are free.
@@EP61 thank you so much ❤️
Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏🙌💯☀️
One day you will find TRUE love. You're a warrior and did amazingly well. I might be wrong, but because we accepted the hoovering before, it makes us believe - and sadly hope - that he will come back and try again, apologize and telling us beautiful things and therefore that he has changed, but no he doesn't mean anything he says ! You are very strong, I wish you all the best xx
Break them chains. Free Yourself Into A Higher Love - Be Well. Peace To All.
Yes ma’am ! ( break chains etc )!!
I had a random woman walk into my office the other day, she had been crying, was going through a discard, and was thinking about accepting a 2nd hoover. There I was to guide her with my new found knowledge and to guide her to Andrew's channel... She said God had made her come into the office to ask for directions. So glad I could help someone, the way I was helped here...💛🌼🙂
Accepting a hoover to me, would be like opening up an old wound and pouring salt onto it. I would never allow myself to be someone's supply ever again, or want to be around that mentality. The suffering going through it, has taught me, to value myself. A huge wake up call. Your videos Andrew, brings comfort, strength and support. Thank you and God Bless. I hope you take plenty of time for yourself.
Thats why I walked early. I figured it would be harder later...and takes more time to heal. If something is wrong we must leave.
@@animaladvocate8938 You were strong and wise to do so. I let my feelings get the better of me. I had to learn the hard way, that the head can rule the heart, we can make decisions and control the heart, yes so true, when something is wrong, we must leave. Thank you,. Love and light.
Regarding your comment, there is a song called “last Hope” by Paramore that sums it up perfectly when I read your words. You should listen to it.
@@lisahardy2070 I loved it, thank you so much. You are a bright strong spark. And we all carry that light inside, who have a true heart. I wish you happiness, love, life!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯
I have been liberated 13 years, and I have never been hoovered. He knows better than to contact me. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.😘☮️
Good for you. That’s great boundaries !!! Unfortunately we never lose a narc. They will keep you on the supply list for Life. My narc Dad hoovered my Mom after 22 years and it worked. Not saying you’d fall for it. Sayin narcissists will try until they die.
@@Lunchladydoyle Ugh! Wish adult children would never mention him around me.
The hoover is a big slap in your face! It's saying I can treat you like dirt and you will still take me back! Not having it! Not today! Not next month! Not next year! Done!!!
Exactly. It’s a sign of disrespect.
@@rockstarofredondo going NC indefinitely = the greatest gift you can give yourself!!
This is true, the hoover can often trigger us and cause a flashback and we do not want that. That is why we have to do everything possible to heal and become indifferent to those abusive people and relationships. Unfortunately it often is a long process. Thank you Andrew.
Mine is on 2nd round of Hoover attempts, it seems every 3 months he tries… I learned accidentally that it is driving him absolutely nutty that he’s blocked and I won’t respond. And it makes me smile a little. 😀
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Andrew, your teachings on different topics on narcissism are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
Welcome 🙏
I was hoovered many times before I knew what it was and each time it destroyed me over and over
Andrew❤️you are SO appreciated!
I hope you know that! You have saved the souls of many who are struggling and finally figuring all this out!!
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Very true indeed!
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She's back. Dear god she's back a 3rd time. The first 2 were open attempts to cause damage and destruction. This time she apologized for how she acted the other times and I can't help but think why now? God give me strength 😞
Sending healing energy 🙏🙌☀️
🖐🏾 Hey everybody 😊 I am on the the lookout for whatever the Narc try to send my way. Thank you Andrew and have a good night everyone ✌️❤️🙏🏽
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No hoover for me. I stung him and sent him running for the hills...🦂😉
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When you least expect it, bam... a hoover. Even when you have blocked them, gone no contact...
You have to know that you are too good for such an evil person. Make a journal of everything you can think of that they put you through. When you get weak, read the journal. Remember what Hell you endured. Think about being crushed and tortured day after day.
Married 6/24/2000.
Day the judge signed our divorce papers, 6/24/2020.
That was a sign from above that God said, it's finished.
Never look back. Keep moving forward. They never loved you.
Somewhere out there... Remember that song 🎵 someone is waiting for you.True love will find you when you least expect it.
In the meantime work on yourself. Like attracts like.
your comment rocks 🙌🏻
thank you for saying this ❤️ hope you found yours!!! if not that you're happy single :)
20 years? Wow
That’s so true! They can be gone for years and still they come back and try to suck you back in. It’s crazy. I fell for it once. Never again and believe me he’s tried.
Everything is blocked. However, I did everything for him, set him up a new bank account with my bank. After a month, he actually transferred me money through our bank app. He wouldn't even lift a finger to do anything regarding his finances while I was under his spell.
I just took the money and accepted it as compensation!!!!
He was going to keep doing what he'd always done - lovebomb me and keep behaving poorly while feeding me breadcrumbs to keep me hanging on by myself in a one-sided relationship. The only difference this time was that my mentality changed completely and I snapped out of the spell. I knew it was different this time, and there was no going back, no matter how much it hurts. I chose my self-respect and my dignity over entertaining a one-sided post discard relationship again. After he dumped me, he checked my temperature two weeks later asking to talk and work it out. When I didn't respond well, he said on the phone "I don't want you back, I just don't want you to hate me." He knew he broke me and enjoyed it, and that there was no going back!
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone He just hoovered me on my birthday
Well.....I can't accept the X NARC. They don't don't change, ever !
I got FREEEE 2 months ago. Huge detox period, could physically feel the energy leaving my body. I got the fog gone. The fog is so real. It twists our logic.I feel so fabulous now.
Totally freeeee.🥰🤣🥳💞💞💞💞
Lol I got that hoover... Mommy is dying.
But he was 🚫 . Do not let them back.
They want your energy and money and your being removed from you. It's not love. Don't them scramble your brain.
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Yes doesn,t that brain fog is gone we can now think more clearly.what they tepid to do to our lifes.but hooray they will not get me back agan i,m now becomeing myself agan a super empath.the jokes ok him.never really knew me after all ha ha ha😂😅😊
Mr. Hoover was relentless. Like a cat with a mouse poking at the bleeding spot, he couldn't let go. That soul-sucking vampire is busy sucking the lifeblood from his new prey. He'll come around again when he gets bored of that, too, but I KNOW what he is, and I KNOW what he does. I'm done. No more, no way, no how, Thanks, my friend.
Your discourses are so validating!! Thank you!! My narcissistic sister has recently attempted to Hoover since I put her on no contact for the second and final time. I also blocked her children and anyone or anything associated with her. I have peace and no anger or resentment. Its about self worth and self respect.
Beautiful empowerment..🙏💯💪🙌😉
Exactly this. I always say, I’m not mad I’m just done.
Big hoover after our Dad died. I'm back but the persistence and abuse of my 50+ year old sister took me out for a year. Narcissistic family is a killer, literally. My boundaries are back in place but my little brother was used and manipulated by her and almost lost to suicide. True about when the narcissist's pool of influence fades, he/she will enlist others to hurt their targets regardless of the cost.
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Thank you, Andrew! Boundaries are up, holiday weekend in USA! I hope everyone has a safe, blessed, weekend💯❤🤍💙 Andrew, I hope you take some time for you too, rest your mind❤you are loved and appreciated, no hoovers, no way! Namaste, strength, peace, healing energy🤗🙏🤟❤🤍💙
@Shelly Patterson yes😄👋💯
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I didn't block by ex Narc. I took his call and told him I am happy with my life and have moved on positively. Narcs are clever, not smart so they will find a way to get hold of you. If that opportunity, and I do say opportunity presents itself, it is a great way to hold your boundaries tight. They don't know what to do with that, they don't have the smarts to handle that, then they leave you alone. When you show how together and happy you are in your life today, the door is closed and they will give up.
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shalom have a great sabbath and keep it holy unto the lord💋💋💋
Sometimes I hear I need to ask you about something and then they just forget what to say that's a Hoover right there I'm smart enough to know what they're trying to say to me
Good vibes and feel better hugs to every survivor 🤗 we are the strongest ever when we come out of the fog.
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I volunteer myself immediately, they don't need to do much. Selfish takers is what I called them, and do avoid now. Awesome bro, love you back!
Thank you Andrew. You are right on time. I received a hoover today from a flying monkey. I didn't respond. I don't want to hear anything about him. I have healed. Continue to move forward.
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-- God bless this man and Thank You 🙏🙏🏿 for his heartfelt sharing. His channel is a gift and a blessing that has no price tag because it would cost so much. I share this channel with others who don't know about it. Andrew... Thank You. Thank you. Thank You. Thank You. ... God bless you and may you continue to be highly favored by the Universe.
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Been there; done that. It’s the same crap; different day. They still want to use and manipulate. So true. 💯💯👍🏾 Thanks Andrew
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I realized my mom is 80 years old...I loved to stay in touch w my mom. However she is like a puppy "to please my Narcissistic sister"...it is also part of toxic getting negative energy from my mom becuz she choose to please her. She is in a toxic place. So I realized it is best to let her go.. Let my Narc. sister takes over her....I have no control over my mom. it is heart breaking. I have to focus on my mental wellness is one of the most important. Let my sister deal with my mom so I don't have the time to absorb their "negative energy"...(pardon my imperfect English ~I'm Deaf, I speak ASL fluently). Best to not contact my mom unless my Narc. sis is not around w my mom. Praying is all I do. God bless~
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You are a God send. I have suffered in a 30 year marriage with a narcissist. You are the only one I have that understands. My mom is a narcissist as well. I just felt something is just not right with them and now I know because of what you are teaching me. I have been through hell. So thankful of you and your work.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve. Just don't do it again...qoute woman of impact 💪🧚♀️🧚♂️
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I can see through these sort of people now and they run rampant! I do feel sorry for them because they are so broken. I can know this and still walk away.
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I had a hoover yesterday, after 6 months of silence. I had blocked her on every platform I could however she'd blocked me on a few which left a doorway open. If it wasn't for the education and support from this channel and others, I wouldn't have had the strength to block her completely. And even then I struggled for a few minutes, as I wasn't completely indifferent yet. Now the healing begins in earnest.
Thank you for sharing this 💪💪🙏☀️💯
That's what I had to keep telling myself is that he's a liar. And that kept me moving in the right direction🙂🙏🙏
very thankfully, there is NO WAY i will accept a "hoover" i was scammed out of so much money that if i ever hear that voice again..............they will wish they never thought of any remembrance of me!
I just got a hoover about 10 minutes ago through a mutual friend. Sickening! I'm trying not to have an anxiety attack. I didn't take the bait!!! Thank you Andrew!
The Hoover happened to me and I believed he was truly sorry when he said it but he then discarded me all over again. I took away any possible contact he could ever have with me. I discovered he was hoovering all of his past discarded girlfriends and he was doing the same to me. I cut him off almost a year ago. The damage from it has been bad but one day at a time.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌💪💯
Lord bless.
So tonight Andrew's message sunk in especially the 16 seconds from 10:12-10:28. I'm sure it's been said numerous times before, but tonight I stopped the video and took notes. Wrote that entire piece down. And I see that. I stayed on a teeter totter of some contact/no contact from July until April and after the divorce was final in April, I went completely no contact. There has been a huge shift. I see more clearly, the fog was weighty. It was so hard to let it go. If anyone is reading this and is still on that teeter totter of contact/no contact. Andrew is RIGHT. Let it go. Shut it down. I should have had someone else skim the messages for me so I didn't have to go through the emotional roller coaster. No more panic attacks and heart palpitations every time a message streams across the phone...LET IT GO.
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Chelsea thank you for the reminder that we don’t want to live like that. A Hoover is the person thinking they can still control us. Ughhhhh!
Yes, if you had be bitten by
a rattlesnake and almost died , would you want to see that snake again, or would you try your best to kill it?
You sure wouldn't let it in your house.
@@cindyg3396 truth!
@@myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691 absolutely right!
Thankyou again Andrew. You are so right.
blocking the narcissist is the only way I grew strong.
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I have a no contact order, issued by a court, in place - valid until december.. So glad
I have learned to keep my friend at arms length for if I block her on everything she shows up on my door step and no matter what I do she just will not get it that I am done and asked if I'm a narcissist I was like what I got stuck in my head asking questions to myself about it
I like that.....a feeding frenzy...lol!!
You have helped me with not only past relationships but now present EX-friendships. Thank you so much.
Welcome 🙏
Great video Andrew! Especially applies to me right now as my ex narcissist tried to Hoover me this week after 6 months of discard!!! He sent a pathetic apology, using the same verbage as before. My response - bit fat 0!!! After two years of abuse and gaslighting and terrible abrupt discard without any conversation or explanation, after ruining Christmas and my BD (as the year before too) he had a courage to reach out!
I am so so proud of myself for not eating this cheap bait again. I did it a lot of times before, and we all know how ot ends. With worse abuse and devalue and discard!!! Thanks Andrew, your videos really have helped me to become a strong person!!! Namaste. Sending love and support to everyone on this channel. Continue to be strong!!! 😇💯💝💝💝✌️
Namaste 🙏💯☀️
Hi, I am a male and the exact same thing happened to me. Terrible abrupt discard with no closure & ruining not only Christmas (I was on her family's Secret Santa list) but Thanksgiving too!!! 10 months of healing and finally reached the finish line of indifference. I have no idea whether I will ever see her again. She's blocked indef but I wouldn't be surprised if she tries to weasel her way back into my life after her monkey branch discards her. Your story inspires me so much! Thank you!
The first vacume cleaners that came out in my Country, was of the Hoover make. How cute is the fact that Hoover has become a General name for a vacuum cleaners, as well as a verb! My helper would ask mewhere I store the Hoover....Or a verb... I would ask... "Has this carpet been hoovered" ? . In Psychology the word is a verb, of sucking victim into your sphere! Strange, funny and effective!. Thank you, Andrew, your channel is always very interesting and applicable, helping many victims out of a Narcissistic relationship!
Thank you for your knowledge and sharing. You are so on point.
Welcome 🙏
Priceless advice. Silence wins the power game. It is the only way. It is always a challenge to stay silent and your videos are so helpful. You have a noble task to educate and encourage. Thank you.
Ah, again perfect timing. Thank you. It’s just incredible that I didn’t see this demon for who she was.
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Thank You!! Sooo much! For all Your teaching. U continue to help more and more everyday. Every time i watch, im thinking,, how does He know everything I've went through 🤔🤷😳😁 unfortunately, i realize You got where U are, frim being in a relationship, being an empath also, and other schooling in life. Namaste
Namaste 🙏
I have accepted the hoover after 5 years and it felt horrible until I came across your channel got the knowledge so now I have blocked this vampire and I can feel my energy back to me again. All prayers to the most high God is the greatest thank you so much I Am happy and grateful 🌞
The abuse only gets worse each time you take them back.
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Very interesting content. No one educates with regards to this subject.
So I understand: we invest in ourselves while healing as a priority and give energy to others when our cup is full..perhaps this is why I get confused with your priority statements. Thank you for the encouragement on handling a hoover. God bless! ❤🙏❤
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I was hovered today. I went for a walk and back at my house sitting outside and he showed up. They just don't get it when you tell them your done. He tried all the tricks in his bag,even tears. I had to go in my house so he'd leave. It had been over a month without contact. So I hear you Andrew they come back but I just was 2 steps ahead of him🦋⚘
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N friend & N sibling BOTH hoovered me over the weekend, complete with gaslighting, future fakings, & aargh! I did not respond. I agree, for safety's sake as well as peace of mind, it's equally important to not mention the N or the hoover within hearing range of anyone (though you might need to keep record of any attempts at contact just in case you wind up in court). Kept my focus to things & people that are about making my life healed & healthy. Thank you for your encouraging words, your reliable & supportive presence on youtube every day!
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Just what I needed to hear as the narc tried to get in touch with me after 3 months. Glad to have my tools and knowledge.
Have a great weekend 🦩
I need these daily reminders. Being only 6 weeks removed I am still ruminating. And even though I KNOW she will never change, I find myself wondering if I made the right decision. I miss those breadcrumbs. I guess it just sucks after investing 12 years of your life into someone who couldn't care less about your feelings or happiness. And spending more than half of that time hanging on to hope that they would change. Remember, a leopard does not change its spots.
Continue on the path.. you are amazing and blessed 💯🙏🙌😊💪
I understand completely, Brian. I am in the same spot. Sending love and hugs.
I always love the way you say coming to you from beautiful Costa Rica 🎉 x
When you said “focus on the present” that touched my soul. All I do is think about my narc ex and how she did me
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When not accepting the Hoover Be prepared for them to be Angry and Threatening 🙏Always praying for safety and Divine protection.
Blessings 💕
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Excellent explanation. Very helpful. So grateful to finally be out of it. Yes. Disgusted by him.
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Virtual Hug to You Too Andrew!
Dang, looking back, now I can easily I.D. all the multiple, over-lapping narcs in the past in my most vulnerable, easy-target phase of my life by simply remembering looking at caller-I.D. and saying “welp... what do THEY want???”. Every. Single. Time.
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If you're like me , finally becoming a free spirit again was actually quite MIND BLOWING ! The simple sence of freedom of movement , choice and decision is so overwhelmingly empowering, even now get a kick out of just walking down the road without concern or worry about where I go or what I do !
Freedom 🙏 is everything , and why would you ever want to get that up , no matter HOW tasty the carrot they dangle might appear ?! 🤔🤨😆
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏💪☀️
god bless you my mentor!
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Maybe this sounds dark… But I can tell you this. If my past narcissists turned up dead? For whatever reason… I absolutely would not grieve at all for them. I would feel relieved that they could no longer hurt anyone else, even their children. I would feel free and fully able to embrace my future with peace. I’m not saying that I wish any harm to them or ill will towards them but that I simply would not grieve at all for them. And maybe… Just maybe, their own inner torment would finally be laid to rest and they could also be free. That is my wish for them.
I hear your pain. God will deal with him/them. To be honest I've had a similar thought but I realize there's a difference in not caring and free to move on and actually choosing to forgive and move on.. Only after I said repeatedly for 6 years "I forgive" (for my sake not his) did I actually forgive and wish him healing and help that he needs. I hope you're not offended by me saying this but I hope for your sake you can literally turn it over to God, choose to forgive and let God do with him/them what He wants. That's what helped me the most. Sorry for your pain. ❤🙏
My narc brother died last January. In solitude. Nobody surrounded him on his last months and nobody attended the funeral, not me and not even his daughters. No feelings of grief at all. Only relief and anger about his tricks that f-ed up my childhood...
Lisa I feel the same. I feel bad, but I can't change the way I feel. I wish nothing but bad for that horrible person who made my life hell for two years, and almost lead me to a mental hospital from constant emotional abuse and gaslighting.
@@katyams it is ok to feel relieved when they are dead and celebrate their departure. 🥳💥
My ❤ breaks for all the survivors of narcissistic abuse. It's very cruel. I know. Beware of a root of bitterness. The narc took enough of me, my time, my energy, years of my life...when I realized unforgiveness was changing my sweet heart and ugly things came from my mouth I realized I had to forgive to be the person I wanted to be. It took 6 yrs of saying often several times a day "I forgive" and my feelings changed. Ill never be ok with what he did but I gave him to God.. We have the power to change our feelings with our mind and free will. I mean, we once felt love for the narcissist and our feelings changed when we realized with our mind the abuse, right? The root of bitterness starts small then spreads into every relationship and every part of our lives. Dont let it friends.. I pray that God gives you all healing and peace in Jesus name. I'm so sad for all the pain you all have had to endure but moving forward we are so much stronger and wiser. God bless! ❤🙏
We have had like 10 or 11 no contacts orders ( through the courts) over our 13 years and 2 daughters together ( we both have one child each from before and 2 together), our youngest daughter was made during a no contact. Anyhow the trauma bond is so so so so real even with my mom and dad who are also both narcissists sadly ( not the same kind as my ex but still)…..I’m learning and growing but as an Empath it’s been difficult deeply, thank you for showing the way, I am deeply sorry for what you have been through but thank you for using your heartbreaking experiences to help educate us all 🙏❤️ I have c-ptsd, I finally got on meds the past 3 months which is helping ALOT, especially with learning this knowledge and meditation ❤️🌻
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯
It's been 3 years of NC for me! 2 weeks ago, he tried a hoover for my birthday. No response from me. His birthday was yesterday and I KNOW FOR A FACT he kept waiting on a message from me. I'm sure he was disappointed 🙂🙂🙂
You no longer have the privilege of me!!!! I am gold and he was a gold digger
He won’t ever change.
Just shut down a hoover. Yes, these videos helped slam the door 100%. Very ironic- once I
was a Roomba in a fog bouncing around in confusion, now that old thing is the broken Hoover. Best part- I got my sense of humor back.
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Your videos are so on point! You have become my life coach to put my narcissist ex in the past for good and keep moving forward. Thank you Andrew! 🙏👍🏻🌟
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Yes, stay strong! 🙌
Thank you! 🙏
If you accept it - you accept them back in.
I think I'm FINALLY aware and educated enough to deny any potential hoover. I was living unaware and a part of the continued cycle of love, devalue and discard for two years and got discarded the last time in March. Thank god for Andrew and these videos I'm so grateful i found this i have grown so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Beautiful growth and progress 🙏💯💯💪
Good morning Andrew. I went back in time again and found another year old video. I was lucky regarding being hoovered. He got married so fast, that he was probably bar-hopping looking for his RICH woman. He found her in 2 weeks. When I think back today, I'm so glad God was on my side. After 5 years, very low on money, not feeling well, it was time to leave him. I don't know where he is today, but I know that I'm glad he's out of my life. I even have a plan in case we accidentally meet, which I thought about years ago. I do feel bad for those who are being harassed, but you do what you have to just to be rid of them. Good TOPIC Andrew...
We want them to change but we can't be the one's to change them. I can't go back. I went through this for 17 yrs, did some healing for 4 and married another. Just got away, he knows that he's got issues but I can't help him. My mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health is my priority now
Im setting up boundaries from the father of my daughter and so she has she on her own and its only been 2 weeks and he's loosing his mind that i refuse to talk to him,im not happy that he's lashing on our daughter more because of it. I pray that i can set up more legal boundaries 🙏 🙌
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My recent hoover - “I remember I owe you money. Can you remind me how much and send your PayPal details?” I didn’t respond. He does owe me money, not a huge amount, but a small sum. But he can keep it. I’m not going there again.
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Hi Andrew, just want to say thankyou again for educating me and the amazing enlightenment about the "Narc" I had a lucky escape from one ,thanks to a third party! and I'm also thankful for her,so the relationship didn't last that long but it still stings like mad .
I still struggle with all sorts of revenge moments and I know you're right and it's a waste of time and energy but I still find it difficult to understand that a human being could do that to another human being but I'm learning and healing thanks to you .
You have answered so many questions for me questions I thought I would never get answers to ,I can't express my gratitude for what you have done for me .
My Narc is a neighbour and I've gone through all the torment of loud music at night,sweeping outside in the early hours of the morning and being alienated from other neighbours, but I don't want to waffle on,we've all suffered but I am getting better through watching your videos so BIG THANKYOUS! 🙏
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Literally like the vacuum cleaner sucking the life force out of everything on its path!!!
Andrew Ive been away from the narc since March Its been a struggle but I feel like God sent u to me And it is not coincidence
I thank u so much from my heart for the videos I keep watching and u give me strength God Bless from Hamilton Ontario,Canada
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Thank You for this
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I for one am using your advice, in spite of myself, I am trying, thanks to you. I wish you a peaceful and loving weekend. And everyone . Happy Memorial day weekend. Blessings and Namaste.
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Every few months I receive the Hoover- now understanding these terms I will not fall for it.
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Hello Andrew,
My past coworker narcissist seemed to make up vicious gossip to "divide and conquer" but information she spewed seemed to be her own or others faults, weaknesses or lies. Not sure if you have already created a video or whether this is considered the same tactic as projection.
I so appreciate you and thank you for the strength especially a reminder not to accept that hoover.
Blessings.
Thank you for sharing.. I created Divide and Conquer a few weeks ago 💯🙏🙌🙌
Is this the same as triangulation?
Thank you for this video, yes I was hoovered back in as I was gonna end it for good, but I'm not blind or in the fog, I saw what the hoover was all about, I am just going along for now to keep the peace, it's better than the silent treatment, when he does that then I can feel my energy absolutely diminished and I actually feel worse and not able to ignite my fire in me, so this hoover I see it for what it is it hurts to realize a person would scoop that low just to mess you up in your heart, mind soul, before I used to fall for it, not now thank you for this video
I believe every human is good. Every man woman on this planet operates on love and some really have reached far down a spectrum of self hatred, things can change for that individual if they believe so.. Not saying to stay in a relationship or to go, just saying that love truly can evolve because guess what, it's about you. When you realize you are responsible for your life you understand that if there's a disaster you created you can triumph you are really and truly the creator of your reality. I believe this , I do my best to live it, just stagnated at this point or maybe things are simply clarifying...
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I have a hoover. He will go quiet for a few weeks but then message me from a different number.
I block and avoid. But he seems to not let go. I want to move on with my life but it seems he won't let go. I don't accept the hoovering.
So I try my best to go on with my life.
Thank you for this video Andrew. Much appreciated
This is such a Hard Time for me,I am a Sucker for self punishment . Seems that she knows that I'm weak . Does any body else punish yourself.. I am trying so hard to forget this person,it's difficult when you held such Love for someone,and we're so different from the ex narcissist.We think we have done thing's much more difficult in Life every day actually.we can make this work too....When I give my Heart away...How can I give too another? We're jaded from this person! Thanks for the time you share with us...Andrew your a great example! Prayer's please...JCH
Thank You for the message. God Bless. I had a comment posted but it never made it on your app. But someone read it and apparently did not like the comment. Just a clear message!
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My Narc has just vanished with my child for the holiday. No communication. He is clearly frustrated, confused by her Brainwashing .
The school have been unsupportive to me as she gets in first .
Is the answer to keep a shut down as I can see in him behaviours she has taught him like don't answer anything to do with her or the routine in their home .He looks petrified .
He will turn 7 and will be more and more impressionable .
The hoover I work happily do but daving a child in the middle makes it difficult. I love him and want to get him support which I will try and start to do today .
Thank you for being there and being a shining light .You must have suffered and been through dark times yet I feel inspired and connected listening to what you have to say .
This channel is a god send. I am just coming out of a narcissistic relationship. Awful. We have had communication. My question is why do I miss this person so much? This person has gone quiet at this time. I have a background of childhood trauma and I have PTSD. So this relationship really added so much more pain. I'm absolutely hurting right now. I can feel the pain physically in my heart. This channel is helpful.
Sending healing energy and strength..☀️🙌💯🙏💪
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much. It helps so much to know that I'm not alone. Getting out of this relationship I was seeing that a lot of my past relationships were narcissistic. I didn't even realize. And then I noticed I was hoping into relationship after relationship just so I could get over that person and then that person was a narcissist as well. So this has been going on for a long time and I didn't even realize it. I have decided to stay relationship free for one year and to Invest in my healing. If it takes two years or even three I will stay relationship free. I feel broken and that where I'm at at this moment I'm not going to make it. But this channel will help me to keep the strength. Again thank you from the bottom of my 💜
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We appreciate you Andrew. Thank you.
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Fortunately, I’m not receiving any hoovers but interestingly, it’s friends and family around me that are curious and surprised by that. Just recently I had a friend say “he’ll come back Polly, you two were made for one another ….. you were together for so long …..he’s just not himself, he’s unwell at the moment and when he’s better he’ll realise” everyone assuming (outside looking in!) that the end of relationship was a bad thing but you can’t tell someone who hasn’t been in a narcissistic relationship what it’s like, they have no idea what it’s like. They don’t seem to understand that I don’t want him to hoover - they think I’m just being stubborn. Truly, I do still reminisce, of course I do. I still get sad, I sometimes get angry but mostly in those times, I get focused and educated again and remind myself that I am worth more, I will fully heal in time and it’s now my time. 💙🙏💙
Same here.. I stopped friends on this track, told them to please not to ever mention to me that he'll be back, I don't need false expectations put in my head, I need to hear he'll never be back, the separation was this past April and he has intentionally like posts on FB where he has rarely done in the past..
Continue on the path moving forward everyday 🙏🙌💪☀️💯😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I will indeed! Thank you 🙏💙🙏
I had a Hoover he snuck by a different number it did trigger me especially when I've been trying to do no contact but I learned. I like how you "Andrew" says NO don't do that lol" keeps me laughing 😆 ty🖤💯
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I received an email from a narcissist sociopath ex 6 years after the relationship ended.
I deleted it.
You cannot win if you respond to the communication.
If you reply go to hell they’ll enjoy it.
If you reply ematheticly they’ll enjoy it.
Just delete don’t read it don’t think about. 🙏🏼💚🙂🇬🇧
I wish everyone understood this. When you answer, no matter what your answer might be, they feel powerful again and you lose. We are unwilling participants in a power game.
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