My ex didn’t support my child. She had two e tea curricula activities, of of which was free by the school (soccer) and the other (swimming) taught by childhood friend - no charge on both. She wanted to play the piano but I couldn’t afford it because I would have to pay for that and transportation to and from; she understood.
She's not asking for his inheritance, but according to the law, the monthly trust fund check, as well as the the home counts towards his income. The check because it'sa montly check, and the home because it could be rented for income which would obvoiusly count, or in this case, saves him rent. If it saves him $500 a month, that's equal to $500 income. He should have hired an attorney.
@@kenlieberman4215 Agreed. This guy needed an attorney. And he needed one to either give him a reality check in the initial consultation, or come up with a legal option to avoid the inheritance as being part of his income tabulation by the original judge. But I'll say this. Having a house with no mortgage sounds great, but you still liable for taxes and insurance. Depending on where he lives, that could be $2 - 3k a year. Which unless this is handled in installment plans could be financially stifling each year. But this is where a financial advisor comes into play. Maybe he could find a financial investment to put it in so it doesn't come back as personal income, or just have the trust sit on it and not write the checks until the kiddo is 18.
@@CBourn48223 Yeah and she also has food assistance, and still had the audacity to complain about dads inherited house that would have lowered his monthly expenses 🤯😂
@@krissy0894the problem is the courts allow the mother to either have a court appointed attorney or push her lawyer fees onto the father while the father has to foot his own bill. The courts are HEAVILY in the mothers favor every step of the way while the father is expect to simply figure it out.
@purple81butterfly Inheritance is given to your child . As a spouse, you are not entitled to Inheritance in a divorce, so why is it added as income for child support ?
@Spaethon Even during marriage ! That money that is left by your to YOU should not even be considered ! The spouse is NOT part of it unless they are specifically named !! Yes, she is just mad she won't get any, but I'm sure the children will 🤭
Well yes and no. I would say it depends on a state by state scenario. In my state inheritance "before" marriage doesn't count. Inheritance "during" marriage DOES count.
Unfortunately, any and all forms of income are up for grabs. Even when a man becomes severely disabled and can no longer work, he still has to pay child support, and in some states also pay, alimony, palimony, spousal maintenance. Most, but not all disability recipients usually receive back pay for the period of time that it took from the date of onset disability until approval was granted when they had zero income. That money, too, is also up for grabs.
Basically, mom is mad because dad was blessed with a gift that allows him to spend last time at work and more time with his family and be comfortable while she can’t even fully support herself because of her choice to work a part-time job.
Right! She said she wouldn't go into the management position because it's not fair to her daughter but expects him to work more for her needs. She's such a hypocrite.
And she also blames him for not having debts! She should just quit her job and get a better one, or work an aditional one that complements the one she has! But I guess it is easier to leech her husbands inheritience
@hotsoup1001, really? Shaming a mother, but not a dad who wants to be a deadbeat and no pay for his obligation, for the child did not ask to be made by this bum of a father. Father should have thought about things before having sex with no protection. Mother is raising the child, not the father.
It's not the dad's responsibility to pay her rent, utilities, food, health care or transportation. His responsibility is to HELP pay for the child's school, clothing, medical, after school activities. And his inheritance is not up for her to dip into, regardless of how he spends it,or how he receives it.
Actually, my brother and I grew up in a divorced household and my mother had full custody. She did have to use some of the child support to help cover some of the utilities and food.
@@melstarr1864 so.. she used it correctly? lol legally fyi, child support once it hits the recipients bank, can be spent on anything, even mummies new shoes, so long as the children have base needs met, your mother could have taken HER child support payments to the casino, and thats legally fine, so long as the kids have a roof, lights, water, food, medical and attend school.
@whitejodeci8926 no. She used it for herself. She couldn't afford to pay childcare for her to work AND party, and decided his inheritance should also be hers. He was using his inheritance to pay his bills and pay for his kids and paid child support from his job. She wanted child support to be based on his inheritance, which it can't be.
Actually c.s. is intended to allow the children to have the same level of lifestyle as if the parents never split. Both are responsible for the children. But child support is used for anything for the benefit of the children i.e. transport, shelter, food, gas, sports, clothing, clubs, and any other needs/lifestyle of the children. Medical/Dental/eye is a separate issue and the parents can choose to split the bills equally, pay per portions, or one be solely responsible.
You would think but the courts do make the parents pick a permanent custodian. My son and his wife did that and he was sole custodian and she had to pay 50. A month. But he never took it.
Exactly. That must be the starting point. 50/50 shared custody and zero support. Divorce is a separation of income so this equalization stuff must end. You get a raise she gets a raise -- hell no.
Yeah much better than average. He fell prey to it a little at the end but I can imagine it's difficult to hold your tongue when somebody is talking about you (especially if you disagree). I think this could go either way, it sounds like mom got cut a lot of slack while dad got slapped hard and neither of them understand why. I was pleasantly surprised to see so many people agreeing that its crossing a line to demand a cut of his inheritance, if not legally then at least morally!
@@kali-wolf Where did she ask for a cut of his inheritance? He sued her to cut the child support because he's working part-time, and she said the only reason he can do that is he gets a check from a trust fund and a free house live in, so his income isn't really lower. And she's right. People are confusing an inheritance, with the INCOME from an inheritance. If you inherit a business, your income still counts and is taxed. There's a good chance his payments will go UP. Most people stop reading once the see the part that's favorable to them.
Inherited property is the sole property of the recipient! The wife should NEVER receive gain from it! Not even the children are entitled to it until the PARENT is gone! This is ridiculous to even consider benefits from something that would NEVER be yours and never was ever yours in the first place! The system is corrupt
@@joey3947 agreed. When I divorced I set up tax free savings accounts for each of my children, I the liquidated my funds and divided them equally among them. I then showed in my will this was their inheritance, I maintain control of each account until my children turn 25, making it a 2 signature system…my x then tried to sue me for the money, the judge actually laughed and told her she will have to sue not just me but each child as well..she also told her it is legal AND because 1/2 the money was ours because the divorce was recent, not a judge would overturn my decision…the only downside is if I touch that money even with the child before they are of age(25) she can take it all… It will however cost her our children, they live with her and disagree with her lifestyle…they see EVERYTHING… Yes I was broke for a few years, I am doing well again now…I will never marry or even cohabitate again..learn from my mistakes.
@@kenlieberman4215 maybe in your country, in mine it is not that way…a person has to give it to you freely and then it only correlates to the amount given, the rest is still the property of the direct heir. You can even sue your spouse if they place in their own bank account..
She said something that caught my attention. She said that she wants to give her daughter everything she needs. Parents sometimes confuse giving the child everything they need with giving them everything they want. If you're struggling financially, you dont need to put the child in multiple expensive extra-curricular activities. Maybe put them in one activity or let them find things at school that they can get involved in that dont cost a lot of money.
Good point!.. It's crazy to me that she lives in low-income housing and has her daughter in all of those expensive activities. There are plenty of free activities and clubs she can put her daughter in.
Exactly! Not all extra curricular activities cost either. Idk why she's claiming she doesn't make a lot but she's got her kid in 2 classes totaling $225..... She's full of crap
@MrsKravitzz not complicated at all. Calculate it off how much it actually costs to raise the child. Make joint custody the default with the exception of abuse, neglect, or a parent that simply cannot or will not do their share boom, easy.
@whitejodeci8926tgats a subjective number. It would change depending on where you live what you make extracurriculars. You can't determine what someone else needs to raise their child
@MDBredBeauty Yes you can. We already have averages, EXTRAcurriculars are just that, EXTRA. A man shouldn't have his kids taken away from him along with 25% of his income. If you receive child support, you can claim it as income for loans, apartments, houses, TAX FREE, along with government assistance. If you pay child support it is DEDUCTED as qualified income so now you qualify for less places to live, loans, and you DO NOT qualify for any government assistance.
She's a pathetic mess! She doesn't need to be getting any food stamps and free medical. She's well enough to work full-time job and pay taxes like us. She's talking about him not having motivation to work a $50,000 job, how about you? You ain't working but few hours here and there. You need to get your motivation too and stop reeping tax payers money
@@CH-gt3wi He said they both work retail and she seems to have a tourist related job, she doesn't seem to be the house keeping type. Prob just a receptionist or something.
She is absolutely wrong for thinking she is entitled to his inherentance. She can definitely get a job that pays 50k a year. She can also get another job to offset the short hours. She definitely wants the easy way out. Shame on her.
she got alot of nerve . as long as he is paying his child support from his job. your are getting what's ordered. stop trying to dip in stuff that you're jealous of. greed a definitely in the air.
Yes it is very honorable of a guy to whine and bitch about supporting ghis kids. She is taking care of them..making sure they get to school...up with them all night when they re sick. But...lets ll focus on th guy who gos to court to try and figure out how to pay less. This dad thinks he should pay 194 a month? Unreal.
Women are naturally greedy. Anything you earn or have they deserve to have. How dare he have a house that his parent left him. How dare he not take the money he was paying to a mortgage and not gibs me some of dat
She’s using their child as a weapon formed against him because she’s BITTER! She’s using their child as a means to get her grubby fingers on his inheritance.
@@HateiresI guess I missed the cost of the dancing, but you're right. Honestly, either one of those luxury monthly expenditures seems crazy to me under her circumstances.
Not true... Women's court system judges go after cash payments when the wording includes a benefit for the beneficiary and their beneficiaries -- typical wording that usually provides protection.
You have to love the bias shown by calculating the mothers hourly wage down at 35hrs a week and keeping the father who works in the exact same industry unchanged and at 40hrs a week as if his income is not permitted fluctuations like hers is. Then list his inheritance money as a family gift so they can include that too. I certainly hope the judge sees through the BS and fixes the suppoet order.
Judges salary is paid for by child support pool... He has an incentive to issue high child support orders. His paycheck depends on it. He's probably not even a real judge he's a magistrate.
He briefly mentioned they have the parents basically have the childs time 50/50 yet in her mind he should have to supplement her living. What a mooch and the state enables and enforces this. It's gross.
I know a guy who has full custody of the kid and still pays $1,000 a month child support because she claims she isn’t working. She got a job as a stripper after they split and he showed the judge a video of her stripping and picking up all that money as proof she is working and the judge just threatened him with stalking charges and kept the child support the same.
I knew of a situation where the mother and father shared 50%/50% custody, YET the noncustodial parent was STILL required to pay the custodial parent the minimum monthly child support DESPITE the custodial parent making more money than the noncustodial parent!
Why do you assume people on food stamps should look like slobs. You also don’t know she’s wearing designer clothes(could be thrived or is a thrifty shopper) or that she went to the salon instead of doing her own hair.
I was a single mother, no child support, no alimony, no child care. I worked in food service, had my own place, car, took care of my child. I never asked for anyone to help me. If I needed more I cut expenses, worked more or got another job. It’s not that hard. It was worth it, in the long run, as I taught my son to be responsible. I refused to live off my ex husband. Or even ask him for money.
Well your child deserves that money..I understand women think this is nobles but I'm sure your child would have benefited from you getting help that she is owed
I got a whole $10 once for child support. Always an excuse. Didn't want to give me money because he was sure I would spend it on my step child. The step child dressed like a king from his mom's family. I just wanted help with school clothes for our daughter.
I am from the UK, and it blows my mind how unsupported single parents are in US. Life always looks so hard for you guys. I think you are all amazing to manage parenting in such a hard system.
The judge asked her if there's ever a time she works more than 35 hours. She said yes during the busy season. That busy season lasts 8 months out of the year. So she is working more than 35 hours for at least 8 months out of the year. And the friend of the court had the audacity to put her at MINIMUM WAGE, which is half of what she makes.
@@Mewse1203So then she’s lying about her wage to the state. If she’s making what you say, then she doesn’t qualify for TANF, SNAP and possibly Medicaid.
If she's a server or waitress her hours are dependent on how busy the workplace is. I worked in a restaurant where we were sent home at the manager wishes.
Mom is bitter because he got somewhat of a windfall after they separated. As far as extra curricular activities are concerned those are not the reponsibilty of the parent that doesn't have prime custody to pay for. They can willingly help but it isn't a requirement to.
Actually under most states blanket rules they do if the costs go over a certain $$ amount. I could have gone after it numerous times but I landed on my feet post divorce and he did not, he paid his ordered amount and was a good dad with visits and time spent, did all the dad things I asked of him. Was he great to deal with, no, but we made it work so neither of us had a burden we couldn’t bear.
She can't afford the child, then send her to the dad. Problems solved, mother able to afford her child now. All good, or is it not about the child and it's about the mother being subsidised because the father has more than she does. Greed, jealousy and infantile belief that her ex husband is her daddy!
I am only halfway through the video, but I have to wonder if she's jealous that the new girlfriend, with whom he has another daughter, lives in that $300,000 home that is fully paid for (except, as people mention, annual property taxes, insurance, etc.)
That is how custody works. You can't take care of your children then the other parent should. If she can make the baby she should be able to afford the baby. Or is it just men that are expected to be responsible for their responsibilities.@@trekgirl65
So she's pissed that the new wife gets to be a housewife and believes that she should be able to benefit from some of those benefits without putting in the wifely work
Sorry but one thing I do not agree with is that just because my ex gets remarried I should have to agree to allow the new spouse to suddenly become the babysitter and raise my kids while I am at work. That being said I also do not expect my ex to cover child care cost during my parenting time. I will figure that out and what they choose to do on their time is up to them.
The law provides that he needs to support his children first above his girlfriend and any subsequent children or of that relationship or any other relationship.
Why does it matter if he's actually physically working or not as long as the child support is paid? She's just mad that she doesn't have an inheritance.
Exactly, as long as he can pay child support and provide everything his daughter and the rest of the family needs. I hope the judge saw through that bs, she wanted him to make more money so SHE will get more money! I would be happy my daughter gets to spend time with her dad instead of dad having to work the bigger portion of daughters awake hours. The gall on that lady! 😒
@@AlwaysFallingFromTheRight... Well I mean so is mom, she's also the one complaining so maybe she should get another job or a second job if she wants more money!? She stated she turned down a manager position because of the hours but then turned around and said she's staying at that job because of her chanses of landing a manager position 🤷🏻♀️ Many judges, referees, attorneys and so on, in America seems to be 40 years behind when it comes to child/spousal support. It's ridiculous!
It’s disgusting that these women feel like they have the right to continue to leach off the man that they didn’t want and let go. After the divorce a man’s job to take care of his kids not you honey.
Exactly... Income must be irrelevant after divorce. That is the purpose of divorce. The courts use the legal system to equalize income (no!) or penalize men for profit via Title IV D reimbursement at .666 cents for every dollar extracted per month from men.
Hell my ex husband’s family inherited 22 million and that had nothing to do with me!! I have never been hateful about that, nor did I try to drag him to court for that blessing!! It had nothing to do with me. This lady is grasping at straws
Thankfully there are still decent women out there yet they are getting harder and harder to find! I'm sure you aren't angry because you know the father will spend that money on your child/children, and I'm sure has no problem helping out in other areas. Any normal parent would!
Inheritance is the classic way of wealth transfer - folks Earn the property though merely being born. Lotta hard work there. Does Paris Hilton or Donald Trump deserve their riches? Debatable.
Because he's receiving the inheritance as a monthly income from a trust fund rather than having received it in one go. She's saying it should therefore count as income.
please, you think all of us want to get married? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 What fantasy land do you live in? 🤣🤣👏🏿 i was married for 20+ years to a jerk who had his girlfriend steal my identity so he could steal all of the money in my bank account (excess of $300K) because i refused to have a joint account with him. she’s in prison and he ran off when she got caught. i didn’t know this woman. he ran off to California to be with her and i live in oregon (this happened 25 years ago) some of us women don’t give two fucks about getting married and a bunch of us are like that BECAUSE OF Y’ALL 😂😂😂😂 don’t be sitting here and try to blame us because YOU don’t want to get married 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you don’t speak for all men just like i don’t speak for all women. just go sit your delulu ass down somewhere.
@@laundrygoddess4 same with my soon to be ex. Giving me $200 a month while his company was making over $2 million and he was spending over $15,000 for the year just on going out to eat for himself and his illegal girlfriend who had an affair with him. So if I’m going after him, I have good reason.
This mother is a Karen!!! How does she feel ENTITLED!! to his Inheritance?? That is absolutely disgusting! He has the child just as much as he does, He also provides the child with whatever they need. She should seriously be thankful that he is even paying his child support! So many people are ordered to pay child support and they don’t pay a dime!! They hide, jump state to state, work under the table Ect. Take it from someone who is owed almost 200k in child support. I never took my Sons father to court for child support he took me to court for a DNA test swearing I cheated because he thought he was sterilize, long story short he’s NOT!!! I never ONCE!!! Took him to court for contempt or anything else. This woman does NOT! Want to have to pay for anything for her own child, She wants Dad to pay for everything.
Wrong, for father is responsible for the child he created, for it takes two to make a child. She is grateful he is paying, but when he has another income, it counts on the Child Support. Take it from a child of a broken home and a dad who was a deadbeat parent and was never real a parent, my father.
@@trekgirl65 no. being a single mom and the father was a deadbeat dad, I still would not have tried to go after his inheritance. Especially if I knew that the Dad's family is most likely going to get cut off by the family. She admits that inheritance is typically not counted in child support.
@@trekgirl65Ok if you read my entire post my Sons have a deadbeat dad too.. She is greedy and feels she is ENTITLED!! To his inheritance! Just like someone else commented He got the inheritance after their divorce which makes it where she is NOT! Entitled to any of it!! So she is trying to find any loophole she can to get her hands on some of that money. This man pays his child support, she is involved in his child’s life and he also pays for some of her extracurricular activity expenses. There for he is NOT a “Deadbeat” dad! And she is just a Greedy entitled Bitter Baby mama/Ex-Wife!!
He sued her, not the other way around. She would have left it alone. If they recalculate he will likely owe more because he's only working part time and they will impute that he could work full time. Why is he so desperate to save $200?
Unreal, how could this oppression be allowed. It's bad enough he is forced to pay child support but then to try to rob him of his families inherited wealthy? The father of the father isn't child's biological father. To do this to a person is unreal.
She got lucky. In a lot of places, turning down a promotion could cause the judge to use the salary of the promotion as your income based on the amount that you could be earning if you had accepted. She could easily have been the one paying child support instead of getting an increase
Expenses related to extra curricular activities are optional. My wife and I had to say no a few times because we couldn't afford the additional activities from both kids.
She did say the child was going ro start the next weekend. Also the dance costumes can get expensive and if he is purchasing them he could easily spend more than she pays for her to take the lessons. But yeah she said she was just starting so almost sounds to me like mom decided hey as added bonus lets add money for activities. Dance and tae Kwon do on same day. Thats over exerting the poor child and why i say she did it purposefully.
She said she was up for a manager position, but had to decline it due to the hours and then a minute later said in order to get that management position you have to be available 24 hours a day. So she basically just admitted she would never take the manager spotbecause she might potentially get called in at any time. Maybe it’s time to find a new job that’ll work with Hours
@@BobJone-ve7ig and what's to stop her of by chance she get the money for these activities that she has the child discontinue them and she has 335 dollars on top of the 200 dollars to use.
"i dont do anything for myself really" she says while having her hair freshly done, designer clothes on, nails done, the make-up aint no dollar store cheap stuff either, food stamps. the money for the clothes, hair, nails, make-up could be used for your kid. as another commenter pointed out (i'm sorry i cant find your comment anymore) She said she was up for a manager position, but had to decline it due to the hours and then a minute later said in order to get that management position you have to be available 24 hours a day. so shes saying she doenst want to get the manager position because she has to work more. the inheritance is not something for her to just dip in to when she feels like it. it shouldnt even been brought up to begin with.
Where is her motivation towards getting a 50,000 dollar a year job…. 🙄 So she chooses her hours… “I do work at least one 10 hour day”… She said it right “I don’t need it”…😂
@irishwv3 I'm sure it's different in every state and I'm not a lawyer but looking at how child support is calculated, it's income and percentages, not personal expenses. If the guy in this case is paying the court ordered support, he doesn't have to itemize and justify his spending just like the woman didn't have to itemize and explain what the child support given was spent on. This is a money grab. He doesn't have to pay rent or a mortgage so she wants him to pay more. He isn't making any more money. If his daughter has extra expenses, he should step up as the dad but the mom doesn't have a claim on money he didn't have to spend.
You still have to pay for your house, even after it's paid off... Taxes and Insurance make up the majority of most mortgage payments. In a lot of places you'll still be paying well over $1,400/month for a $300,000 house even when you own it outright. Government just has to get their money. Lol
@@t-dog8528 if you really think about it your tax 10 to 15 times on every dollar you make. You tax for making money, taxed to spend money, tax to own a house or car, taxed to invest and sell, and so many more. Your taxed for breathing basically. They talk about other countries having like 50% tax but if you break it down we in the us pay alot more. We have a crumbling infrastructure but we can give 120 billion to ukraine. We are basically a welfare country and thats why people like this feel so entitled to another persons money.
Not sure where they live but insurance is optional if you don’t have a mortgage, and is usually cheap. I have a $650k house and pay $1,100. A year n insurance. Property taxes are another thing entirely and again based on the state can be really high.
Bad misconception of what child support is, is that one person pays more to support a kid just because they make more. The idea is it’s an equal 50% to each parent so if one parent can provide more for a child it will be cost offset for the time the child is with the other parent. Here it seems the time is fairly equal. Child support is not a supplemental for one parent not making an equal income. It is time, money, and care cost for the duration the child is with that parent. Very simple but sadly there are a lot of rules that can be twisted to cause one parent to endure that majority cost.
In my state, by law, child support is related to total family income. Both the amount of overnights and each parents income and expenses are used in the calculation. If parents share custody 50/50 but one parent makes more that parent will pay more. This helps equalize the child's standard of living and lessens the likelyhood that household income will factor into a child's preference for residing with one parent over the other.
Child support should be fixed per state, then applied 50/50. Example, It should not be more than 400 per month with each parent paying 200. Fathers should get primary custody since research shows better outcomes for children in father only homes vs mother only homes. As for paternity fraud women should be jailed and the children sent to grandparents, other relatives or given up for adoption.
In our state it’s to make both homes as equal as possible. So if a mom has supported a dad through medical school and been there for him, if they divorce and he has all this money and a nice house and the mom is barely making ends meet.. the kids goes from one extreme to the next and it should be a balanced home life for the kids at both homes…
She admitted that she gets her shift covered all the time and her manager must cover her shift if she can’t come in. I see why her hours vary lol her shifts are optional apparently.
She IS NOT intitled to his inheritance. Even the government doesn't tax inheritances. It is NOT considered income either. So she is concerned about money. His money.
Six states collect taxes on inheritance. It is sometimes called an Estate Tax. It is applied to assets such as a home or money inherited and vary as to the size of inheritance and relationship to the deceased. (Not sure why that matters) Usually due within a few months after receiving inheritance.
As a woman, I agree that the inheritance from his father should not included in his child support. It is what his father worked for and wanted him to have. It has nothing to do with the father’s income and should be exempt.
Exactly. She has no right to his inheritance after the divorce. Like you said, HIS father worked hard for that money and she has absolutely no claim to it. And I’m also a woman lol
@@Basbhat my exhusband passed away last year. Which is sad. We had 2 kids together who are now grown up. His father is still alive. I would never have even thought of trying to get any inheritance or anything else he had. It’s not mine in any way and I don’t deserve any of it. I am not a greedy person and I would be embarrassed if I ever acted that way. I have to look myself in the mirror and I hold myself to better standards than that.
@@vincentb2175 The math actually makes sense If she drives 20 minutes south (to drop off child) and then goes back north 40 minutes(to work) 2 hrs/day Granted only 1 hr 20 minutes are "extra"
So she wants him to do better because she's doing better but not good enough. She's also jealous that he doesn't have to pay for rent/mortgage or car bills so she wants him to pay more in child support? If she changes things outside of the order then she needs to change the order. The end. She can't complain about things she's use to. Everyone needs to take responsibility for actions and not the actions of others.
Why assume bad faith, unless you're transferring some personal greivance to their situation? A lot of these types of calculations _are_ based upon hypothetical earnings and whatnot; without a Family Law atty to work it out, you get what you get with the courts unfortunately.
@@VictheChick That is literally not how it works in court. Both parents submit their taxes and other financials to the court. There is no voodoo as to who makes what magic. After the judge decides what percentage each parent has with the child, who is main parent and what their financials are; the judge then renders a percentage as to what the secondary parent can afford in childcare. If there is any deviation that needs to happen, it has to go through the court so that it is properly followed. Also, if parents have a change income, they go back to court to change the childcare payments. Also, I didn't assume bad faith. I listened to her and she said because he doesn't pay for rent or car and she does, he should pay more
And no, I'm not suggesting some sort of child support voodoo exists. (Lol, I like that phrase though!) Just that complications can arise when calculating this stuff, when adding in certain hypotheticals or inheritances, pensions, etc. -- and some states are more straightforward than others. But either way, both parents seem reasonable enough here, so why villify anyone?
@@VictheChickJoAnn likes her benefits of housing, medical & food stamps, but downing him for not working more & getting inheritance. She could work more too, even if another job. It needs to be fair. She can't have her cake & eat it too.
Once again another women looking for the ex to take care of her after she left him. Can't believe judges let women get away with this shit. Laws need to change.
Don’t worry, there are plenty of men who collect child support and/or alimony from women. It’s not uncommon at all. For every one of these men being forced to pay more support than they believe is fair, there are 3 more that will never pay a dime for their children.
@@catherinewilson9894Not all men get child support. My son hasn't for almost 12 years! Even if ordered, she doesn't work much so couldn't pay & was too busy taking drugs.
@@catherinewilson9894 Men pay a medium of $3,600 annually to support their children, while women pay a medium of $2,400 each year and 80% of child support payers are men. Of the approx 400,000 people in the United States receiving post-divorce spousal maintenance (alimony), approx 3 percent are men and men average 50% less received. . Fathers are awarded custody less than 19% of the time that they fight for it. In many cases they are the more emotionally and financially secure parent, yet women are awarded custody in 80+%. Nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women. There's no equality in this. Once, just once it would be awesome to see feminist actually walk the walk when it comes to equality. Women like you are quick to throw in the "but men" yet never actually want equality. This isn't equality and you know it.
A friend of mine is a doctor who worked insane hours in a trauma center. He also had a private practice. He made the decision to back way down on his career because he wanted less stress. He was capable of more than doubling his income, but he chose to make less so he could enjoy his life. I know of no law that dictates the type of job or minimum income you must earn.
If you have a child to care for, then you have a responsibility to go out earn as much as you can to care for that child. Choosing to reduce your hours to reduce stress at the cost of your ability to feed & cloth your child, is the fault of the parent that choose to reduce their work hours or pay.
@@williamallen7836the man is a doctor. I highly doubt the kids are missing meals have holes in the soles of their shoes and a threadbare potato sack as a winter coat. if you have a child your responsibility is to adequately feed and clothe your child. and to actually be present in their life to provide oversight and guidance as they grow. Working so many hours that home is basically a crashpad and subjecting oneself to high perpetual stress (which tends to follow you home even after you clock out - in more ways than one) when your income is sufficient and you don't have to is an irresponsible parent.
@@aarone.5179 Yes, but your comment is on video ware the mother has chosen to work fewer hours, and turned down promotions that came with pay raises. Even though the father offered free child care if she need to work more hours. Yet the mother is complaining she can't afford some of the basics to take care of her child. The only impediment to her being able to provide is her personal choice to not work full time on a regular basis, or accept the promotions & offer of free child care. Which means failing in the very first responsibility to provide for the child. Even if this means working more hours to do so. When you choose to have a child you willing take on such responsibility.
I worked insane hours and it almost killed me. Turns out that I had a heart defect. Now I can barely work. You definitely can't be there for your kids if you are dead. My uncle has been a doctor for 42 yrs and he works INSANE hours. Even when he jas time off, he gets called in all of the time. I don't see how he does it. At my last job, a 55 hr work week was a slow one, and I was on call 24 hrs two weeks out of the month. I still don't see how some of those doctors stay sane. My GP only works 1pm-5pm, 5 days a week. I could handle that. Lol
How does it affect the daughter if she works 3rd shift? She is asleep. goes to school in the morning and or daycare at fathers. Giving her time to sleep and spend time in the evening with daughter. Is this more about control? As it would be seen as the dad as primary caregiver. Thus ending child support from the father. I think this is what this is all about.
As a person who always paid her own way, always worked a full-time job, paid taxes, etc., the fact that this mother is getting housing assistance, food stamps, probably free health care for the daughter, while working less than fulltime and turning down promotions and fulltime work is infuriating. I (as a taxpayer) pay for her housing and the food in her mouth while she sends her daughter off to dance class and tae kwon do.
It is the father’s failure to pay enough child support including after school activities that is the shame here. He doesn’t need to live in section 8 housing. He doesn’t have to borrow a car. And children whose far wealthier fathers don’t make sure their child is properly supported don’t deserve any classes that serve to socialize and enrich their lives bc mom is doing the best she can with what she does? Wow. I sincerely hope you *never* face financial hardship. Shame on you.
@@annettedebellefeuille714mom should have thought about that before having children. If Dad died, what would the mom do? It isn't up to Dad to provide all the support.
@@annettedebellefeuille714 it's also the mothers fuckin responsibility to im so sick of seeing shit like this women expect men to pay for everything while sitting on their ginormous ass
I love that mom said” the money is not just sitting in an account”, and in the list of things she says he is doing was buying things for his child! dad like a real monster😂
It's convenient how this child is just starting these extra curriculum activities. Just in time for court. If you lived together, you would discuss what is affordable when it comes to your child's extra curriculum. Why do women always sign their kids up for classes without asking if the Father can afford to pay. And this "i don't want to argue about money" and then "Whatever happens, we'll make it work" Is terrible acting
I so agree. My husband paid a large weekly amount and then the ex would nickel and dime him for every extracurricular activity the kids were involved in without asking first. She definitely thought he was there to be at her beck-and-call.
My ex tried doing that to me. Luckily, I was able to articulate that I can't afford to pay for it and that if she had discussed it with me prior, that would've let her know that I disagreed
"He doesnt pay for anything for extra curricular activities. I mean they haven't started yet and he didn buy shoes and a leotard, but other than that, he doesn't do anything." She can't even keep her story straight in the same dang sentence
She’s stated that she works 25-35 hrs per week and begging for more money from the ex spouse. She should find a part time to get to 40-45 hrs per week.
Well she’s only paying based on what she’s earning so really we’re paying her bills not her!! She doesn’t want to work more because then she’ll lose so there you go , she’s not working more because she really gets more if she works the system !!!
It's his inheritance, not income. It's protected in a trust. How he uses his monthly check is his business. Dance classes aren't a necessity. So stop signing her up for activities that she can't pay. She should speak to ex about these activities to decide if child can do these and he helps payment. He paid for her dance outfit.
One thing I love about Massachusetts, where I'm from, child support is calculated based on the costs of taking care of said child and not income. If both parents worked before they separated, they will factor that into the payments. For example, if it costs $1,000/month to care for the child, one parent will pay $500 in child support while the other receiving said support, is responsible for the other $500. If only one parent was working and they were married or living together common law for a certain number of years, then the working parent will be responsible to pay $1,000 to the non-working parent. If there's no marriage nor common law in place, then both parents have to pay $500 each regardless if one was working or not.
The OP didn't say that it costs less, he said is FAIR ...MA has a lot of people making higher incomes, which is why the child support amounts are higher
@jordanziegra7624 is correct I'm talking about child support being fair based on the way it is calculated. Yes, child support is one of the highest in MA because cost of living is one of the highest in MA. @Jzebrow19 To both of you, I would like to see a national change in the way child support is both calculated and awarded in this country. I believe child support laws were designed to put the poor in jail, similar to no solicitation and vagrancy laws. The fact that an average of 20% of whatever child support gets awarded gets taken by the states for administrative fees is very much indicative of that. While how child support is calculated in MA is fair, some of their other practices are proofs that child support was designed to incarcerate the poor. Like in MA, a man or woman, can go after their spouse, regardless of their gender, if the parent seeking child support can prove that you took responsibility for said child. One of my exes tried to take me to court for child support, and would've gotten it too if I didn't get lucky. The kid wasn't mines and he had them before I even met them. But when we go out, if I treat, I pay for all three. I helped him out when I was able to. According to MA laws, that was enough for him to take me to court for child support.
@@alicetheegreet You bought a kid one too many f'ing happy meals and now they can garnish your wages? WTF?!? That's complete bull$#. That would make me never buy anybody's kid anything, especially a single mom.
I did more than just buy that kid food. I treated the kid like they were my own. I actually provided him childcare, which is funny because I did so at least 6 months to 1 year before I ever considered going out with him. They always called me auntie Alice, which is one of the things that saved me. But yes, in MA, if a parent can show that you took responsibility for their kids, you can be put on the hook for said kid. It sucks because you get turned into a someone you're not in order to protect yourself. At the end of the day, it's always the kids who suffer most for these things. @@salaciousBastard
You cannot afford to put your child in every extra-curricular activity they want to be in. Telling a child “no” is part of the parenting process.
she thinks its a need smh
She knows the little girl is going to quit the extra curricular in a week. But she won't tell the husband and pocket the difference.
She's a bad mom
My ex didn’t support my child. She had two e tea curricula activities, of of which was free by the school (soccer) and the other (swimming) taught by childhood friend - no charge on both. She wanted to play the piano but I couldn’t afford it because I would have to pay for that and transportation to and from; she understood.
2 is not excessive.
I am blown away by the fact that she believes she is entitled to his inheritance… BLOWN AWAY!
She's not asking for his inheritance, but according to the law, the monthly trust fund check, as well as the the home counts towards his income. The check because it'sa montly check, and the home because it could be rented for income which would obvoiusly count, or in this case, saves him rent. If it saves him $500 a month, that's equal to $500 income. He should have hired an attorney.
@@kenlieberman4215it not it s not even if is a monthly check
@@kenlieberman4215 Agreed. This guy needed an attorney. And he needed one to either give him a reality check in the initial consultation, or come up with a legal option to avoid the inheritance as being part of his income tabulation by the original judge.
But I'll say this. Having a house with no mortgage sounds great, but you still liable for taxes and insurance. Depending on where he lives, that could be $2 - 3k a year. Which unless this is handled in installment plans could be financially stifling each year.
But this is where a financial advisor comes into play. Maybe he could find a financial investment to put it in so it doesn't come back as personal income, or just have the trust sit on it and not write the checks until the kiddo is 18.
I do agree with that@@kenlieberman4215
I'm not...
This dude did his homework before he came to court..👍🏾
Hopefully more men will follow suit. Too many get railroaded!
@@krissy0894too many get away with not paying any child support as well!
@@CBourn48223 Yeah and she also has food assistance, and still had the audacity to complain about dads inherited house that would have lowered his monthly expenses 🤯😂
He sure did. Initially I thought he was an attorney. He's well researched and well spoken.
@@krissy0894the problem is the courts allow the mother to either have a court appointed attorney or push her lawyer fees onto the father while the father has to foot his own bill. The courts are HEAVILY in the mothers favor every step of the way while the father is expect to simply figure it out.
Inheritance should NOT BE IN THE EQUATION of child support !!!
Why not?
@purple81butterfly Inheritance is given to your child . As a spouse, you are not entitled to Inheritance in a divorce, so why is it added as income for child support ?
Never unless inherited during marriage. This is beyond ridiculous. She's just jealous.
@Spaethon Even during marriage ! That money that is left by your to YOU should not even be considered ! The spouse is NOT part of it unless they are specifically named !! Yes, she is just mad she won't get any, but I'm sure the children will 🤭
@@tanya334it's strange that it seems like the court seems to favor giving money to they parent that won't spend it on the child
Inheritance is not considered in divorce and should not be considered in child support
Well yes and no. I would say it depends on a state by state scenario. In my state inheritance "before" marriage doesn't count. Inheritance "during" marriage DOES count.
Unfortunately, any and all forms of income are up for grabs. Even when a man becomes severely disabled and can no longer work, he still has to pay child support, and in some states also pay, alimony, palimony, spousal maintenance. Most, but not all disability recipients usually receive back pay for the period of time that it took from the date of onset disability until approval was granted when they had zero income. That money, too, is also up for grabs.
She said check mate. He got it three years ago so he's had that break three years. But I would say leave it as it is. No change for either
And before hand she footed all the bills for the daughter
@@lorenexus4917but this is Michigan and it doesn’t.
Basically, mom is mad because dad was blessed with a gift that allows him to spend last time at work and more time with his family and be comfortable while she can’t even fully support herself because of her choice to work a part-time job.
I worked two time full-time jobs. A woman can still do that.
Thank God I had my mother to help at the house.
Accountability is a bisch! What a miserable slag.
Right! She said she wouldn't go into the management position because it's not fair to her daughter but expects him to work more for her needs. She's such a hypocrite.
It’s a gift that keeps on taking. Upkeep, taxes, insurance, utilities and the like often cost more than rent.
@@kellysaunders8770 the joys of home ownership
So, he's perfectly capable and expected to find and maintain a high salary job, but she can screw around working in seasonal hospitality? 😂
Seriously! And have tax payers pick up the slack😂 He had to lose both parents to get the inhertience those things dont compare
And she also blames him for not having debts! She should just quit her job and get a better one, or work an aditional one that complements the one she has!
But I guess it is easier to leech her husbands inheritience
Yuyyop
@hotsoup1001, really? Shaming a mother, but not a dad who wants to be a deadbeat and no pay for his obligation, for the child did not ask to be made by this bum of a father. Father should have thought about things before having sex with no protection. Mother is raising the child, not the father.
And somehow she is considered the more fit parent 🤔
It's not the dad's responsibility to pay her rent, utilities, food, health care or transportation. His responsibility is to HELP pay for the child's school, clothing, medical, after school activities. And his inheritance is not up for her to dip into, regardless of how he spends it,or how he receives it.
Actually, my brother and I grew up in a divorced household and my mother had full custody. She did have to use some of the child support to help cover some of the utilities and food.
@@melstarr1864 so.. she used it correctly? lol
legally fyi, child support once it hits the recipients bank, can be spent on anything, even mummies new shoes, so long as the children have base needs met, your mother could have taken HER child support payments to the casino, and thats legally fine, so long as the kids have a roof, lights, water, food, medical and attend school.
@melstarr1864 so she used the child support to suppport the children? Woah, mind blown.
@whitejodeci8926 no. She used it for herself. She couldn't afford to pay childcare for her to work AND party, and decided his inheritance should also be hers. He was using his inheritance to pay his bills and pay for his kids and paid child support from his job. She wanted child support to be based on his inheritance, which it can't be.
Actually c.s. is intended to allow the children to have the same level of lifestyle as if the parents never split. Both are responsible for the children. But child support is used for anything for the benefit of the children i.e. transport, shelter, food, gas, sports, clothing, clubs, and any other needs/lifestyle of the children. Medical/Dental/eye is a separate issue and the parents can choose to split the bills equally, pay per portions, or one be solely responsible.
She’s mad because he’s living great without her😅women expect men to do bad without them.
It's always funny when the guy thrives without her, then they snap as a result 😂
The comments from women I see in this comment section, are on the dad's side. Women will call out stupidity, when we see it. Well normal women will.
🤣🤣🤣right
@@TheKnightofAwesomeness Women don't age well and those who are narrcistic need the validation that their ex is doing poorly.
@@groundhog-plays 👍👍👍
If a Child is 50/50 care...THEN NO Child Support should be Paid
You would think but the courts do make the parents pick a permanent custodian. My son and his wife did that and he was sole custodian and she had to pay 50. A month. But he never took it.
Exactly cmon now
I knew a couple where when she had the kid he paid her then vice versa, which the only reason I can figure is the courts wanted their cut..
Exactly. That must be the starting point. 50/50 shared custody and zero support. Divorce is a separation of income so this equalization stuff must end. You get a raise she gets a raise -- hell no.
Spoken like a true dead beat
She doesn't just want his Money$ She wants his dad's Money$ too!!!
(Mr. Ruh's inheritance) smh
Maybe her kids are his dads kids
@@anthonyplayground1402oh hell 😦😦😦
These vids should be mandatory viewing for all students in high school
Wow I’m impressed with dad’s presentation!
I thought so too! Typically people speak from emotion and he really took the emotion out of it and gave facts.
Maybe he was smart and watched videos like this, or consulted a lawyer.
Yeah much better than average. He fell prey to it a little at the end but I can imagine it's difficult to hold your tongue when somebody is talking about you (especially if you disagree). I think this could go either way, it sounds like mom got cut a lot of slack while dad got slapped hard and neither of them understand why. I was pleasantly surprised to see so many people agreeing that its crossing a line to demand a cut of his inheritance, if not legally then at least morally!
Me too.
@@kali-wolf Where did she ask for a cut of his inheritance? He sued her to cut the child support because he's working part-time, and she said the only reason he can do that is he gets a check from a trust fund and a free house live in, so his income isn't really lower. And she's right. People are confusing an inheritance, with the INCOME from an inheritance. If you inherit a business, your income still counts and is taxed. There's a good chance his payments will go UP. Most people stop reading once the see the part that's favorable to them.
She’s not entitled to his inheritance even if they’re married.
No....but his daughter is.
@@kenlieberman4215Not if he doesn't leave it to her.
She wasn't asking for his inheritance, you twit. Learn to listen.
Inherited property is the sole property of the recipient! The wife should NEVER receive gain from it! Not even the children are entitled to it until the PARENT is gone! This is ridiculous to even consider benefits from something that would NEVER be yours and never was ever yours in the first place! The system is corrupt
And even then the parent could choose to will the inheritance to someone else and not to the child
@@joey3947 agreed. When I divorced I set up tax free savings accounts for each of my children, I the liquidated my funds and divided them equally among them.
I then showed in my will this was their inheritance, I maintain control of each account until my children turn 25, making it a 2 signature system…my x then tried to sue me for the money, the judge actually laughed and told her she will have to sue not just me but each child as well..she also told her it is legal AND because 1/2 the money was ours because the divorce was recent, not a judge would overturn my decision…the only downside is if I touch that money even with the child before they are of age(25) she can take it all…
It will however cost her our children, they live with her and disagree with her lifestyle…they see EVERYTHING…
Yes I was broke for a few years, I am doing well again now…I will never marry or even cohabitate again..learn from my mistakes.
If you inherit a business the income from that business is calculated for child support. It's the same principle here.
@@kenlieberman4215 maybe in your country, in mine it is not that way…a person has to give it to you freely and then it only correlates to the amount given, the rest is still the property of the direct heir. You can even sue your spouse if they place in their own bank account..
She needs to get a real job if she concerned about the needs of the kid
Exactly. She want to work a minimum job, but wants him to work his ass off, and pay her.
She hasn't even gotten an income to buy a car.
She said something that caught my attention. She said that she wants to give her daughter everything she needs. Parents sometimes confuse giving the child everything they need with giving them everything they want. If you're struggling financially, you dont need to put the child in multiple expensive extra-curricular activities. Maybe put them in one activity or let them find things at school that they can get involved in that dont cost a lot of money.
....or school activities that cost nothing! Most sports in school don't cost anything, music programs and clubs.
Good point!.. It's crazy to me that she lives in low-income housing and has her daughter in all of those expensive activities. There are plenty of free activities and clubs she can put her daughter in.
@CahliaShay yeah, makes me wonder if she's actually wants the money for that reason.
Exactly! Not all extra curricular activities cost either. Idk why she's claiming she doesn't make a lot but she's got her kid in 2 classes totaling $225..... She's full of crap
she spends MORE a month on her kids EXTRA activity's than i LIVE ON A MONTH !!!!
The whole child support system should be completely redone
How would you change the current system? Very complicated issues fraught with emotions. Not for the faint of heart.
@MrsKravitzz not complicated at all. Calculate it off how much it actually costs to raise the child. Make joint custody the default with the exception of abuse, neglect, or a parent that simply cannot or will not do their share boom, easy.
@whitejodeci8926tgats a subjective number. It would change depending on where you live what you make extracurriculars. You can't determine what someone else needs to raise their child
@MDBredBeauty Yes you can. We already have averages, EXTRAcurriculars are just that, EXTRA. A man shouldn't have his kids taken away from him along with 25% of his income.
If you receive child support, you can claim it as income for loans, apartments, houses, TAX FREE, along with government assistance. If you pay child support it is DEDUCTED as qualified income so now you qualify for less places to live, loans, and you DO NOT qualify for any government assistance.
Child support should not be solely based on income.
I see why she doesn't WANT to work 40 hours! Because of her "food help" and medical. Gurl I know the game. You ain't fooling me 😂😂.
I think she works housekeeping, not defending her but in housekeeping at motels/hotels/resorts they do call them off at random depending on occupancy.
I laughed 😂😂 you mean food stamps ??? Lol
@@CH-gt3wiDude she admitted wanting less hours for fear of losing tax payer HC & FStamps 😅
She's a pathetic mess! She doesn't need to be getting any food stamps and free medical. She's well enough to work full-time job and pay taxes like us. She's talking about him not having motivation to work a $50,000 job, how about you? You ain't working but few hours here and there. You need to get your motivation too and stop reeping tax payers money
@@CH-gt3wi He said they both work retail and she seems to have a tourist related job, she doesn't seem to be the house keeping type. Prob just a receptionist or something.
She is absolutely wrong for thinking she is entitled to his inherentance. She can definitely get a job that pays 50k a year. She can also get another job to offset the short hours. She definitely wants the easy way out. Shame on her.
she got alot of nerve . as long as he is paying his child support from his job. your are getting what's ordered. stop trying to dip in stuff that you're jealous of. greed a definitely in the air.
Yes it is very honorable of a guy to whine and bitch about supporting ghis kids. She is taking care of them..making sure they get to school...up with them all night when they re sick. But...lets ll focus on th guy who gos to court to try and figure out how to pay less. This dad thinks he should pay 194 a month? Unreal.
@@drn13355 he has one less day than her a week lol
@@drn13355and you are assuming he isn’t taking care of them?
Mom is greedy. Mom wants to live beyond her means. She gives other women a bad name
Women are naturally greedy. Anything you earn or have they deserve to have. How dare he have a house that his parent left him. How dare he not take the money he was paying to a mortgage and not gibs me some of dat
She just wants part of the inheritance. Greedy
can u say ho
Nobody likes having a broke person’s hand in their pocket!!!
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Am I the only one who is wondering why Ms. Ruh enrolled her daughter in Tae Kwon Do for $75/mo if she's making somewhere near minimum wage?
She’s using their child as a weapon formed against him because she’s BITTER! She’s using their child as a means to get her grubby fingers on his inheritance.
Yep
$75/month is cheeeeeap for TKD. I was wondering about the $260/month dance lol
@@HateiresI guess I missed the cost of the dancing, but you're right. Honestly, either one of those luxury monthly expenditures seems crazy to me under her circumstances.
My mum didn't enroll me in anything! Sensible mum.
Inheritance should not be subject to child support.
She’s working the system… getting TANF for food and Medicaid for insurance. Go work full time like the rest of us with kids.
Actually, she is getting SNAP by. TANF is money that can be used for rent, utilities, clothing, etc. SNAP was formerly known as food stamps.
@@CatKnipNDNeeds to SNAP her butt to a more stable job.
Not true... Women's court system judges go after cash payments when the wording includes a benefit for the beneficiary and their beneficiaries -- typical wording that usually provides protection.
@@MikeS-7 You didn't watch the video.. go away and come back when you have.
@@dtoad48 I watched the entire video...
You have to love the bias shown by calculating the mothers hourly wage down at 35hrs a week and keeping the father who works in the exact same industry unchanged and at 40hrs a week as if his income is not permitted fluctuations like hers is. Then list his inheritance money as a family gift so they can include that too.
I certainly hope the judge sees through the BS and fixes the suppoet order.
What evil. Don't worry ai is going to take over and it won't be partial
Judges salary is paid for by child support pool... He has an incentive to issue high child support orders. His paycheck depends on it. He's probably not even a real judge he's a magistrate.
That’s insane
@@movingforward2570still a worry if they're coded by biased people look what happened with Google Gemini
@@movingforward2570ai will be partial. Its proven AI is racist
He briefly mentioned they have the parents basically have the childs time 50/50 yet in her mind he should have to supplement her living. What a mooch and the state enables and enforces this. It's gross.
his father made it so she couldn’t get her hands on his inheritance by putting a trustee in place 😂😂😂😂😂😂 win for the late father
She should spend this much time and energy looking for better paying jobs to support her kid.
She only has the kid 4 more nights a month, and still wants $400+ per month? That is crazy.
I have equal over nights and pay over $300 a month. And she out earns me now too.
I know a guy who has full custody of the kid and still pays $1,000 a month child support because she claims she isn’t working. She got a job as a stripper after they split and he showed the judge a video of her stripping and picking up all that money as proof she is working and the judge just threatened him with stalking charges and kept the child support the same.
I knew of a situation where the mother and father shared 50%/50% custody, YET the noncustodial parent was STILL required to pay the custodial parent the minimum monthly child support DESPITE the custodial parent making more money than the noncustodial parent!
It is crazy.... He shouldn't be paying child support unless she's passing for the healthcare.
@@MarkMYoungthat's bullshit and that's what's wrong with the system
Wait…she’s wearing designer clothes and has her hair freshly done…and she’s on food stamps. Something ain’t right…
Keep paying your taxes for her to look nice
This.
This. Plus I would bet the makeup on her face isn't from the dollar store or from Walgreens. Plus those nails she has, were not cheap.
Why do you assume people on food stamps should look like slobs. You also don’t know she’s wearing designer clothes(could be thrived or is a thrifty shopper) or that she went to the salon instead of doing her own hair.
Someone like that is called American Excrement.
Why doesn't SHE get a $50,000 job?
Because she’s a woman and women don’t have to?
Exactly
Because she is a stunning, brave and independent queen that is entilted to live out of her exs income......... thats why!
@@jorgebarriosmurhere in Canada that’s the norm unfortunately. Women are a protected class…so men are the personal wallets of women.
@@jorgebarriosmur😂😂😂😂
I was a single mother, no child support, no alimony, no child care. I worked in food service, had my own place, car, took care of my child. I never asked for anyone to help me. If I needed more I cut expenses, worked more or got another job. It’s not that hard. It was worth it, in the long run, as I taught my son to be responsible. I refused to live off my ex husband. Or even ask him for money.
Well your child deserves that money..I understand women think this is nobles but I'm sure your child would have benefited from you getting help that she is owed
I got a whole $10 once for child support. Always an excuse. Didn't want to give me money because he was sure I would spend it on my step child. The step child dressed like a king from his mom's family. I just wanted help with school clothes for our daughter.
I am from the UK, and it blows my mind how unsupported single parents are in US. Life always looks so hard for you guys. I think you are all amazing to manage parenting in such a hard system.
She needs to get a full-time job with at least 40 hours a week.
The judge asked her if there's ever a time she works more than 35 hours. She said yes during the busy season. That busy season lasts 8 months out of the year. So she is working more than 35 hours for at least 8 months out of the year.
And the friend of the court had the audacity to put her at MINIMUM WAGE, which is half of what she makes.
@@Mewse1203So then she’s lying about her wage to the state. If she’s making what you say, then she doesn’t qualify for TANF, SNAP and possibly Medicaid.
@@TheSaltySunflower sounds like she is lying to me.
If she's a server or waitress her hours are dependent on how busy the workplace is. I worked in a restaurant where we were sent home at the manager wishes.
Mom is bitter because he got somewhat of a windfall after they separated. As far as extra curricular activities are concerned those are not the reponsibilty of the parent that doesn't have prime custody to pay for. They can willingly help but it isn't a requirement to.
& a new family!
Depends on the divorce decree
Child support can help with that.
She is upset because he moved on and is happy with his new family while she remains single.
Actually under most states blanket rules they do if the costs go over a certain $$ amount. I could have gone after it numerous times but I landed on my feet post divorce and he did not, he paid his ordered amount and was a good dad with visits and time spent, did all the dad things I asked of him. Was he great to deal with, no, but we made it work so neither of us had a burden we couldn’t bear.
She can't afford the child, then send her to the dad. Problems solved, mother able to afford her child now. All good, or is it not about the child and it's about the mother being subsidised because the father has more than she does. Greed, jealousy and infantile belief that her ex husband is her daddy!
Exactly! She has the idea that they should have parallel assists. She’s deluded
That is not how custody works and child support. Someday this will be you and things change, for the kids do not live on air alone.
I am only halfway through the video, but I have to wonder if she's jealous that the new girlfriend, with whom he has another daughter, lives in that $300,000 home that is fully paid for (except, as people mention, annual property taxes, insurance, etc.)
Her ego will not allow that.
That is how custody works. You can't take care of your children then the other parent should. If she can make the baby she should be able to afford the baby. Or is it just men that are expected to be responsible for their responsibilities.@@trekgirl65
If they have split custody why is he even paying child support
Thank you
Does she want the house too? I am am single mom with a non-paying other parent but her behavior is disgusting.
She really wants SPOUSAL support. And yes, she should be working more
So she's pissed that the new wife gets to be a housewife and believes that she should be able to benefit from some of those benefits without putting in the wifely work
Sorry but one thing I do not agree with is that just because my ex gets remarried I should have to agree to allow the new spouse to suddenly become the babysitter and raise my kids while I am at work.
That being said I also do not expect my ex to cover child care cost during my parenting time. I will figure that out and what they choose to do on their time is up to them.
She's pissed that she divorced him in some likely fit of psychosis.
The law provides that he needs to support his children first above his girlfriend and any subsequent children or of that relationship or any other relationship.
"I feel"...how many times did she say that? I feel she is still trying to control him despite the divorce.
"Thinking" isn't in her vocabulary
He has facts, she has theories.
Bahahaha she is full of it!!! 24 hrs but have been there for 4 years! Lol thats such a laugh to me.
Woman. You are not a single mom if your ex has the child 3 days to your 4. You’re just a mother that isn’t seeing anybody
That part
She is crazy! She said she works 40 hours a week peak season February through October, so she should have never been calculated at minimum wage.
Mom doesn’t want to work. She wants the dad to pay.
Why does it matter if he's actually physically working or not as long as the child support is paid? She's just mad that she doesn't have an inheritance.
Exactly, as long as he can pay child support and provide everything his daughter and the rest of the family needs. I hope the judge saw through that bs, she wanted him to make more money so SHE will get more money! I would be happy my daughter gets to spend time with her dad instead of dad having to work the bigger portion of daughters awake hours. The gall on that lady! 😒
Because if he is only paying support based on part time, he is willing under employed
@@AlwaysFallingFromTheRight... Well I mean so is mom, she's also the one complaining so maybe she should get another job or a second job if she wants more money!? She stated she turned down a manager position because of the hours but then turned around and said she's staying at that job because of her chanses of landing a manager position 🤷🏻♀️ Many judges, referees, attorneys and so on, in America seems to be 40 years behind when it comes to child/spousal support. It's ridiculous!
Just let him have the child already
She does not want to work.
She works more hours than him.
She wants what’s fair for her child
The ex is obviously mad that his new fiancé is a stay at home mom lol
😂😂😂 Oh you know it lol She’s gleaming with bitterness
Obviously, you’ve never raised a child before
It’s disgusting that these women feel like they have the right to continue to leach off the man that they didn’t want and let go. After the divorce a man’s job to take care of his kids not you honey.
Exactly... Income must be irrelevant after divorce. That is the purpose of divorce. The courts use the legal system to equalize income (no!) or penalize men for profit via Title IV D reimbursement at .666 cents for every dollar extracted per month from men.
They are MAD when you move on.
Unfortunately that isn't how the Law sees it.
Hell my ex husband’s family inherited 22 million and that had nothing to do with me!! I have never been hateful about that, nor did I try to drag him to court for that blessing!! It had nothing to do with me. This lady is grasping at straws
Bc you’re not money hungry
Thankfully there are still decent women out there yet they are getting harder and harder to find! I'm sure you aren't angry because you know the father will spend that money on your child/children, and I'm sure has no problem helping out in other areas. Any normal parent would!
@@Wolfe-Tone- that means a lot to me. I needed that today. Thank you!
He dragged her to court. Am I really the only one that saw that? Oh, and she's right, he misread the law.
If you had kids and didn’t try to seek additional funds to help your children, then you’re the stupid one
How’s is inheritance even in the question, isn’t child support based on income?
Courts do not care you agreed by signing the marriage contract. Your money is the courts money its a question of how much will they let you keep.
@@hoghs1 she’s mad the other women is benefiting from the trust instead of her.
Inheritance is the classic way of wealth transfer - folks Earn the property though merely being born. Lotta hard work there. Does Paris Hilton or Donald Trump deserve their riches? Debatable.
Shouldn’t be.
Because he's receiving the inheritance as a monthly income from a trust fund rather than having received it in one go. She's saying it should therefore count as income.
TO THE WOMAN THAT ARE SEEING THIS……YOU WONDER WHY MEN DONT WANT TO GET MARRIED….. EXHIBIT A.
I'm a woman and I'm in the same position as this dad. Except my ex makes 6 figures and is pleading poverty and I have kids fulltime
please, you think all of us want to get married? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What fantasy land do you live in? 🤣🤣👏🏿
i was married for 20+ years to a jerk who had his girlfriend steal my identity so he could steal all of the money in my bank account (excess of $300K) because i refused to have a joint account with him.
she’s in prison and he ran off when she got caught. i didn’t know this woman. he ran off to California to be with her and i live in oregon (this happened 25 years ago)
some of us women don’t give two fucks about getting married and a bunch of us are like that BECAUSE OF Y’ALL 😂😂😂😂
don’t be sitting here and try to blame us because YOU don’t want to get married 🤣🤣🤣🤣
you don’t speak for all men just like i don’t speak for all women. just go sit your delulu ass down somewhere.
You don’t have to be married to be in this situation. The only way to guarantee you’ll avoid it is a vasectomy or celibacy.
@@laundrygoddess4don’t bleed him dry you nasty woman
@@laundrygoddess4 same with my soon to be ex. Giving me $200 a month while his company was making over $2 million and he was spending over $15,000 for the year just on going out to eat for himself and his illegal girlfriend who had an affair with him. So if I’m going after him, I have good reason.
She will never go full-time. If she did, she would lose the housing assistance that she doesn't even qualify for.
This mother is a Karen!!! How does she feel ENTITLED!! to his Inheritance?? That is absolutely disgusting! He has the child just as much as he does, He also provides the child with whatever they need. She should seriously be thankful that he is even paying his child support! So many people are ordered to pay child support and they don’t pay a dime!! They hide, jump state to state, work under the table Ect. Take it from someone who is owed almost 200k in child support. I never took my Sons father to court for child support he took me to court for a DNA test swearing I cheated because he thought he was sterilize, long story short he’s NOT!!! I never ONCE!!! Took him to court for contempt or anything else. This woman does NOT! Want to have to pay for anything for her own child, She wants Dad to pay for everything.
it sounds like the father died after their divorce, so she shouldnt.
That sounds like a husband deal..lol
Wrong, for father is responsible for the child he created, for it takes two to make a child. She is grateful he is paying, but when he has another income, it counts on the Child Support. Take it from a child of a broken home and a dad who was a deadbeat parent and was never real a parent, my father.
@@trekgirl65 no. being a single mom and the father was a deadbeat dad, I still would not have tried to go after his inheritance. Especially if I knew that the Dad's family is most likely going to get cut off by the family. She admits that inheritance is typically not counted in child support.
@@trekgirl65Ok if you read my entire post my Sons have a deadbeat dad too.. She is greedy and feels she is ENTITLED!! To his inheritance! Just like someone else commented He got the inheritance after their divorce which makes it where she is NOT! Entitled to any of it!! So she is trying to find any loophole she can to get her hands on some of that money. This man pays his child support, she is involved in his child’s life and he also pays for some of her extracurricular activity expenses. There for he is NOT a “Deadbeat” dad! And she is just a Greedy entitled Bitter Baby mama/Ex-Wife!!
he said he gets his daughter anything and everything she needs, so what do you need him to pay you more.
Because she can't take it and spend on herself. He he he
Fighting over money isn't something I want to do....yet here I am, fighting for money.
Translation: “I don’t like to argue about money but the court won’t give me what I want and my ex won’t Obey me.”
😂😂😂😂😂😂
He sued her, not the other way around. She would have left it alone. If they recalculate he will likely owe more because he's only working part time and they will impute that he could work full time. Why is he so desperate to save $200?
Unreal, how could this oppression be allowed. It's bad enough he is forced to pay child support but then to try to rob him of his families inherited wealthy? The father of the father isn't child's biological father. To do this to a person is unreal.
She got lucky. In a lot of places, turning down a promotion could cause the judge to use the salary of the promotion as your income based on the amount that you could be earning if you had accepted. She could easily have been the one paying child support instead of getting an increase
She happened to be in the possession of the correct body parts for slacking off.
They happens only if you are a man
100% !
Isn't odd how many kids on child support have all of these other monthly activities
Expenses related to extra curricular activities are optional. My wife and I had to say no a few times because we couldn't afford the additional activities from both kids.
Did they always start next Saturday 😂she was clearly lying.
I agree, but if parents can afford these enrichment activities, I think they are important.
@@melstarr1864 completely agree.
If you are struggling to support your child and getting government assistance for food, how is the kid able to do all these extra things??
She did say the child was going ro start the next weekend. Also the dance costumes can get expensive and if he is purchasing them he could easily spend more than she pays for her to take the lessons. But yeah she said she was just starting so almost sounds to me like mom decided hey as added bonus lets add money for activities. Dance and tae Kwon do on same day. Thats over exerting the poor child and why i say she did it purposefully.
Why is he not providing more support for his child. The mother has been literally tied to poverty.
She’s BIG mad she divorced him too early and then he got enough $ his new fiancé stays home and she doesn’t. Nasty.
That’s what my husband just said. 😂😂 He said too bad so sad, but move on lady. 😂😂
This man is awesome and ppl need to see actual intelligence at work😊
She said she was up for a manager position, but had to decline it due to the hours and then a minute later said in order to get that management position you have to be available 24 hours a day. So she basically just admitted she would never take the manager spotbecause she might potentially get called in at any time. Maybe it’s time to find a new job that’ll work with Hours
shes a special kind of women.
She also stated the kid had extra activities he should pay for, that start next Saturday. Can’t make it up😂
@@CBourn48223 didn’t think of that aspect of it 😂😂😂. She’s playing fail at life and depend on others 3d chess!!
I noticed that too, I hope the judge catches on. Logic is not her strong suit, she works on emotion "it's all for my daughter".
@@BobJone-ve7ig and what's to stop her of by chance she get the money for these activities that she has the child discontinue them and she has 335 dollars on top of the 200 dollars to use.
That's crazy that she thinks his child support should increase because he got an inheritance smdh
She wants her bite of the inheritance 😂
My boy did his recon for this mission he wasn’t playing
"i dont do anything for myself really"
she says while having her hair freshly done, designer clothes on, nails done, the make-up aint no dollar store cheap stuff either, food stamps.
the money for the clothes, hair, nails, make-up could be used for your kid.
as another commenter pointed out (i'm sorry i cant find your comment anymore)
She said she was up for a manager position, but had to decline it due to the hours and then a minute later said in order to get that management position you have to be available 24 hours a day. so shes saying she doenst want to get the manager position because she has to work more. the inheritance is not something for her to just dip in to when she feels like it. it shouldnt even been brought up to begin with.
When her argument starts with, "I feel like..."
Where is her motivation towards getting a 50,000 dollar a year job…. 🙄 So she chooses her hours… “I do work at least one 10 hour day”… She said it right “I don’t need it”…😂
His expenses are none of her business.
Actually, that’s not true when you are in a child support case, your expenses are the forefront of the case
It is when it comes to Child Support.
@irishwv3 I'm sure it's different in every state and I'm not a lawyer but looking at how child support is calculated, it's income and percentages, not personal expenses. If the guy in this case is paying the court ordered support, he doesn't have to itemize and justify his spending just like the woman didn't have to itemize and explain what the child support given was spent on. This is a money grab. He doesn't have to pay rent or a mortgage so she wants him to pay more. He isn't making any more money. If his daughter has extra expenses, he should step up as the dad but the mom doesn't have a claim on money he didn't have to spend.
As long as this father is paying child support taking care of his kid the mom needs to stop being greedy
Mom didn’t want to say minimum wage /also didn’t want to say food stamps. She said i get help with food.
You still have to pay for your house, even after it's paid off... Taxes and Insurance make up the majority of most mortgage payments. In a lot of places you'll still be paying well over $1,400/month for a $300,000 house even when you own it outright. Government just has to get their money. Lol
Agreed.
So USA has mortgage tax? That's a huge double dip as it's post income tax unless you can salary sacrifice.
@t-dog8528 no its a tax on the properties value that is monies used at the city, county, and state levels for roads, schools, that kind of stuff
@@t-dog8528 if you really think about it your tax 10 to 15 times on every dollar you make. You tax for making money, taxed to spend money, tax to own a house or car, taxed to invest and sell, and so many more. Your taxed for breathing basically. They talk about other countries having like 50% tax but if you break it down we in the us pay alot more. We have a crumbling infrastructure but we can give 120 billion to ukraine. We are basically a welfare country and thats why people like this feel so entitled to another persons money.
Not sure where they live but insurance is optional if you don’t have a mortgage, and is usually cheap. I have a $650k house and pay $1,100. A year n insurance.
Property taxes are another thing entirely and again based on the state can be really high.
Bad misconception of what child support is, is that one person pays more to support a kid just because they make more. The idea is it’s an equal 50% to each parent so if one parent can provide more for a child it will be cost offset for the time the child is with the other parent.
Here it seems the time is fairly equal. Child support is not a supplemental for one parent not making an equal income. It is time, money, and care cost for the duration the child is with that parent. Very simple but sadly there are a lot of rules that can be twisted to cause one parent to endure that majority cost.
that is why it should be actually a separate trust account and totally itemized and scrutinized every month
In my state, by law, child support is related to total family income. Both the amount of overnights and each parents income and expenses are used in the calculation. If parents share custody 50/50 but one parent makes more that parent will pay more. This helps equalize the child's standard of living and lessens the likelyhood that household income will factor into a child's preference for residing with one parent over the other.
And the system don’t care because that’s the retirement fund.
Child support should be fixed per state, then applied 50/50. Example, It should not be more than 400 per month with each parent paying 200. Fathers should get primary custody since research shows better outcomes for children in father only homes vs mother only homes. As for paternity fraud women should be jailed and the children sent to grandparents, other relatives or given up for adoption.
In our state it’s to make both homes as equal as possible. So if a mom has supported a dad through medical school and been there for him, if they divorce and he has all this money and a nice house and the mom is barely making ends meet.. the kids goes from one extreme to the next and it should be a balanced home life for the kids at both homes…
She admitted that she gets her shift covered all the time and her manager must cover her shift if she can’t come in. I see why her hours vary lol her shifts are optional apparently.
I have now heard enough “um” and “ah”s to do me for the next decade.
Man, even her face screams "DANGER WIL ROBINSON!" Perma-frown. She oozes crazy energy.
Glad to see that dad only has one less day of custody than mom has.. hopefully we start seeing more equity in regards to parenting time.
That was my and my exs agreement and no child support.
She IS NOT intitled to his inheritance. Even the government doesn't tax inheritances. It is NOT considered income either. So she is concerned about money. His money.
Six states collect taxes on inheritance. It is sometimes called an Estate Tax. It is applied to assets such as a home or money inherited and vary as to the size of inheritance and relationship to the deceased. (Not sure why that matters) Usually due within a few months after receiving inheritance.
She looks pissed off 🤣 greed isn't a good look
As a woman, I agree that the inheritance from his father should not included in his child support. It is what his father worked for and wanted him to have. It has nothing to do with the father’s income and should be exempt.
Exactly. She has no right to his inheritance after the divorce. Like you said, HIS father worked hard for that money and she has absolutely no claim to it. And I’m also a woman lol
@@Basbhat my exhusband passed away last year. Which is sad. We had 2 kids together who are now grown up. His father is still alive. I would never have even thought of trying to get any inheritance or anything else he had. It’s not mine in any way and I don’t deserve any of it.
I am not a greedy person and I would be embarrassed if I ever acted that way.
I have to look myself in the mirror and I hold myself to better standards than that.
I lost it when she said dropping of the kids at his house would be a 2 hour commute because he lives 20 minutes away and work is 40 minutes.
Girl math
@@vincentb2175 The math actually makes sense If she drives 20 minutes south (to drop off child) and then goes back north 40 minutes(to work) 2 hrs/day Granted only 1 hr 20 minutes are "extra"
@@MDAdams72668 some people just don’t know how to do math unfortunately
So she wants him to do better because she's doing better but not good enough. She's also jealous that he doesn't have to pay for rent/mortgage or car bills so she wants him to pay more in child support? If she changes things outside of the order then she needs to change the order. The end. She can't complain about things she's use to. Everyone needs to take responsibility for actions and not the actions of others.
Why assume bad faith, unless you're transferring some personal greivance to their situation? A lot of these types of calculations _are_ based upon hypothetical earnings and whatnot; without a Family Law atty to work it out, you get what you get with the courts unfortunately.
@@VictheChick That is literally not how it works in court. Both parents submit their taxes and other financials to the court. There is no voodoo as to who makes what magic.
After the judge decides what percentage each parent has with the child, who is main parent and what their financials are; the judge then renders a percentage as to what the secondary parent can afford in childcare. If there is any deviation that needs to happen, it has to go through the court so that it is properly followed. Also, if parents have a change income, they go back to court to change the childcare payments. Also, I didn't assume bad faith. I listened to her and she said because he doesn't pay for rent or car and she does, he should pay more
@@Metonymy1979 Maybe in your state? Google "Child Support Calculator" if you're curious to learn more.
And no, I'm not suggesting some sort of child support voodoo exists. (Lol, I like that phrase though!) Just that complications can arise when calculating this stuff, when adding in certain hypotheticals or inheritances, pensions, etc. -- and some states are more straightforward than others. But either way, both parents seem reasonable enough here, so why villify anyone?
@@VictheChickJoAnn likes her benefits of housing, medical & food stamps, but downing him for not working more & getting inheritance. She could work more too, even if another job. It needs to be fair. She can't have her cake & eat it too.
Man, he really came prepared and was very professional/direct. I'm impressed!
Once again another women looking for the ex to take care of her after she left him. Can't believe judges let women get away with this shit. Laws need to change.
Don’t worry, there are plenty of men who collect child support and/or alimony from women. It’s not uncommon at all. For every one of these men being forced to pay more support than they believe is fair, there are 3 more that will never pay a dime for their children.
@@catherinewilson9894Not all men get child support. My son hasn't for almost 12 years! Even if ordered, she doesn't work much so couldn't pay & was too busy taking drugs.
@@catherinewilson9894can this be proven or is it only your conjecture?
@@catherinewilson9894 Men pay a medium of $3,600 annually to support their children, while women pay a medium of $2,400 each year and 80% of child support payers are men. Of the approx 400,000 people in the United States receiving post-divorce spousal maintenance (alimony), approx 3 percent are men and men average 50% less received. . Fathers are awarded custody less than 19% of the time that they fight for it. In many cases they are the more emotionally and financially secure parent, yet women are awarded custody in 80+%. Nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women. There's no equality in this. Once, just once it would be awesome to see feminist actually walk the walk when it comes to equality. Women like you are quick to throw in the "but men" yet never actually want equality. This isn't equality and you know it.
@@catherinewilson9894 false! 90% of all alimony is paid by men to women. So, it's RARE that men get alimony.
A friend of mine is a doctor who worked insane hours in a trauma center. He also had a private practice. He made the decision to back way down on his career because he wanted less stress. He was capable of more than doubling his income, but he chose to make less so he could enjoy his life. I know of no law that dictates the type of job or minimum income you must earn.
If you have a child to care for, then you have a responsibility to go out earn as much as you can to care for that child. Choosing to reduce your hours to reduce stress at the cost of your ability to feed & cloth your child, is the fault of the parent that choose to reduce their work hours or pay.
@@williamallen7836the man is a doctor. I highly doubt the kids are missing meals have holes in the soles of their shoes and a threadbare potato sack as a winter coat. if you have a child your responsibility is to adequately feed and clothe your child. and to actually be present in their life to provide oversight and guidance as they grow. Working so many hours that home is basically a crashpad and subjecting oneself to high perpetual stress (which tends to follow you home even after you clock out - in more ways than one) when your income is sufficient and you don't have to is an irresponsible parent.
@@aarone.5179 Yes, but your comment is on video ware the mother has chosen to work fewer hours, and turned down promotions that came with pay raises. Even though the father offered free child care if she need to work more hours. Yet the mother is complaining she can't afford some of the basics to take care of her child. The only impediment to her being able to provide is her personal choice to not work full time on a regular basis, or accept the promotions & offer of free child care. Which means failing in the very first responsibility to provide for the child. Even if this means working more hours to do so. When you choose to have a child you willing take on such responsibility.
I worked insane hours and it almost killed me. Turns out that I had a heart defect. Now I can barely work.
You definitely can't be there for your kids if you are dead.
My uncle has been a doctor for 42 yrs and he works INSANE hours. Even when he jas time off, he gets called in all of the time. I don't see how he does it.
At my last job, a 55 hr work week was a slow one, and I was on call 24 hrs two weeks out of the month.
I still don't see how some of those doctors stay sane.
My GP only works 1pm-5pm, 5 days a week. I could handle that. Lol
How does it affect the daughter if she works 3rd shift? She is asleep. goes to school in the morning and or daycare at fathers. Giving her time to sleep and spend time in the evening with daughter. Is this more about control? As it would be seen as the dad as primary caregiver. Thus ending child support from the father. I think this is what this is all about.
As a person who always paid her own way, always worked a full-time job, paid taxes, etc., the fact that this mother is getting housing assistance, food stamps, probably free health care for the daughter, while working less than fulltime and turning down promotions and fulltime work is infuriating. I (as a taxpayer) pay for her housing and the food in her mouth while she sends her daughter off to dance class and tae kwon do.
It is the father’s failure to pay enough child support including after school activities that is the shame here. He doesn’t need to live in section 8 housing. He doesn’t have to borrow a car. And children whose far wealthier fathers don’t make sure their child is properly supported don’t deserve any classes that serve to socialize and enrich their lives bc mom is doing the best she can with what she does? Wow. I sincerely hope you *never* face financial hardship. Shame on you.
@@annettedebellefeuille714mom should have thought about that before having children. If Dad died, what would the mom do? It isn't up to Dad to provide all the support.
The Kid Can Go Without Dance & Karate.... Mom is Struggling But Can't Admit it to Herself....The Damn Nerve...
@@annettedebellefeuille714 it's also the mothers fuckin responsibility to im so sick of seeing shit like this women expect men to pay for everything while sitting on their ginormous ass
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I love that mom said” the money is not just sitting in an account”, and in the list of things she says he is doing was buying things for his child! dad like a real monster😂
It's convenient how this child is just starting these extra curriculum activities. Just in time for court. If you lived together, you would discuss what is affordable when it comes to your child's extra curriculum. Why do women always sign their kids up for classes without asking if the Father can afford to pay. And this "i don't want to argue about money" and then "Whatever happens, we'll make it work" Is terrible acting
I so agree. My husband paid a large weekly amount and then the ex would nickel and dime him for every extracurricular activity the kids were involved in without asking first. She definitely thought he was there to be at her beck-and-call.
My ex tried doing that to me. Luckily, I was able to articulate that I can't afford to pay for it and that if she had discussed it with me prior, that would've let her know that I disagreed
"He doesnt pay for anything for extra curricular activities. I mean they haven't started yet and he didn buy shoes and a leotard, but other than that, he doesn't do anything."
She can't even keep her story straight in the same dang sentence
She’s stated that she works 25-35 hrs per week and begging for more money from the ex spouse. She should find a part time to get to 40-45 hrs per week.
Well she’s only paying based on what she’s earning so really we’re paying her bills not her!! She doesn’t want to work more because then she’ll lose so there you go , she’s not working more because she really gets more if she works the system !!!
Yup, she's working the system. Less support from ex and from the government.
“Honestly, (scoffs) fighting over money is something I prefer not to do.” And I hate her already.
It's his inheritance, not income. It's protected in a trust. How he uses his monthly check is his business. Dance classes aren't a necessity. So stop signing her up for activities that she can't pay. She should speak to ex about these activities to decide if child can do these and he helps payment. He paid for her dance outfit.
He lives 20 minutes away. That adds 2 hours to commuting for me.. ..... not sure she can do math.
Mom: “I did not go to him(dad)”…very next words “I asked him to help”.
One thing I love about Massachusetts, where I'm from, child support is calculated based on the costs of taking care of said child and not income. If both parents worked before they separated, they will factor that into the payments. For example, if it costs $1,000/month to care for the child, one parent will pay $500 in child support while the other receiving said support, is responsible for the other $500. If only one parent was working and they were married or living together common law for a certain number of years, then the working parent will be responsible to pay $1,000 to the non-working parent. If there's no marriage nor common law in place, then both parents have to pay $500 each regardless if one was working or not.
Not necessarily true Ma. Has the top 3 highest child support In the country.
The OP didn't say that it costs less, he said is FAIR ...MA has a lot of people making higher incomes, which is why the child support amounts are higher
@jordanziegra7624 is correct I'm talking about child support being fair based on the way it is calculated. Yes, child support is one of the highest in MA because cost of living is one of the highest in MA. @Jzebrow19
To both of you, I would like to see a national change in the way child support is both calculated and awarded in this country. I believe child support laws were designed to put the poor in jail, similar to no solicitation and vagrancy laws. The fact that an average of 20% of whatever child support gets awarded gets taken by the states for administrative fees is very much indicative of that.
While how child support is calculated in MA is fair, some of their other practices are proofs that child support was designed to incarcerate the poor. Like in MA, a man or woman, can go after their spouse, regardless of their gender, if the parent seeking child support can prove that you took responsibility for said child. One of my exes tried to take me to court for child support, and would've gotten it too if I didn't get lucky. The kid wasn't mines and he had them before I even met them. But when we go out, if I treat, I pay for all three. I helped him out when I was able to. According to MA laws, that was enough for him to take me to court for child support.
@@alicetheegreet You bought a kid one too many f'ing happy meals and now they can garnish your wages? WTF?!? That's complete bull$#. That would make me never buy anybody's kid anything, especially a single mom.
I did more than just buy that kid food. I treated the kid like they were my own. I actually provided him childcare, which is funny because I did so at least 6 months to 1 year before I ever considered going out with him. They always called me auntie Alice, which is one of the things that saved me.
But yes, in MA, if a parent can show that you took responsibility for their kids, you can be put on the hook for said kid. It sucks because you get turned into a someone you're not in order to protect yourself. At the end of the day, it's always the kids who suffer most for these things.
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