I’m very new to gun ownership, and before buying I heard from friends that I was far more likely to have one of my family members killed by an accidental discharge than I was to actually use it for self defense. As I learned more about the statistics they were citing I learned that almost all of those sad cases were 100% avoidable. So I’ve concluded that education (and CONTINUING education) has to be part of my risk mitigation strategy. I learned the basics of gun safety first before buying a gun, and I have a plan continue to take classes annually to further my knowledge. And I practice. Building muscle memory for things like how to properly holster without flagging myself will significantly reduce risk. I come from an aviation background, and we do the same thing there. Education, identifying risks, and mitigation. And it’s never 100% risk free, so you make the final call on what risks to take based on the risk/reward assessment. But you can prevent or reduce the severity of 99% of accidents through diligence in education, risk identification, and mitigation. This same strategy applies to reducing the risk of ever having to draw your firearm in self defense.
I love this mindset. Thinking like this and carrying has made me a better driver and also significantly more aware of the risks I do take to make sure I’m taking them consciously. As a musician / DJ / Performer I’m constantly refining my processes even more so after working in tech and being self employed. Thinking in terms of systems and processes has been a huge help for minimizing risk. I love to dress very provocatively at times and this sort of dictates the way I carry, what I carry, same with my regular activities. Coming out as trans was a calculated risk, dealing with my mental health and stopping drinking in order to feel safe enough to own a firearm and not be a danger to myself. Additionally in order to legally concealed carry in many places I work I have to be sober so it worked out anyway. It was a hard choice to move forward with carrying because statistically I’m more likely to use it on myself. So are most people. I carry around children / teens regularly. I’ve had to educate them as I educate myself on how to navigate this new addition to my life. The benefits have been so worth it to all the people who love me and care for my well being but everything has its price to pay. The price of safe freedom is risk & responsibility.
I have handled and used firearms for 53 years. The biggest thing is I try and be as careful as day one. I try to learn from mistakes of others and dial out that risk. Usually a accidental discharge is the result of you doing something out of order or that you would never do normally because your distracted.
I think an important thing to do to mitigate risk is to plan. For example, everyone will have a bad day at some point. Everyone will hit a low point. You need to have a plan and do some self analysis to determine if you are in a rational state of mind. If you are super angry about something, it may not be the best idea to be handling your gun. Take a moment to put the gun in a safe or another room where you won’t touch it until you can calm down and reassess the situation. Pretty much any emotion can increase risk of a bad decision or negligent discharge so make a plan on what you will do in the moment.
Risk Assessment: 1. Identify the risk. 2. What is the likelihood of the event occurring? 3. What can you do to lessen the likelihood of the event occurring? 4. How severe are the consequences should the event occur? 5. What can you do to mitigate those consequences? 6. What is your plan to deal with the consequences should the event occur? I'll give a personal example. I live alone, anytime I am handling my pistol (holstering, unholstering, cleaning, etc.) my IFAK and cell phone are within arm's reach. Shooting myself in the thigh while cleaning my pistol in the garage and crawling into the house to get a TQ and call 911 is not a good plan.
Loved the comment about teaching about gun safety. As stated by Colion Noir, gun safety should be required learning. Whether or not there guns in the home. I happen to agree.
This is a great tip. My parents were not gun owners, but made sure that they taught me about guns and safety, mostly avoiding people with guns, etc. As I got older I got into hunting and had to take a 'hunter safety course' which by that age was super easy because my parents had done such a good job teaching me. Now that I am getting ready to daily carry a firearm, I know that I will be able to handle the firearm safely. I will, however, be attending an additional safety and training class once again before I start carrying as a refresher. I have to re-certify my scuba certification every few years to make sure I know the safety of that as well, why not with a firearm?
There is also risk aversion, by not needlessly putting yourself in a situation where your life may be threatened, and/or you may need to take the lives of others. A gun is a great tool for all those times you can't avoid such situations.
@@Jonathan-yr3so Do you genuinely believe that risk aversion is a myth? Or impossible? I can avert the risk of a car crash by never being in a car. I'm not sure what you're trying to argue.
Implementing safe systems with redundancies is the best way to mitigate risk with anything. Pilots do it, so why shouldn't we do it? Clear your garment every time, look your gun into the holster every time, voice what you are doing while training when holstering or clearing your gun. You might feel like a goofball sometimes, but by building in these simple steps you find yourself doing them automatically. This doesn't mean you get complacent, it just means you have built up that neural network in your brain so that it knows what to do in certain situations.
Excellent. This is especially relevant the more a firearm is handled. So, the more a person goes to the range, trains, dryfires, carries on their person, attends livefire courses, etc., the more chances there are--just statistically--for a negligent discharge or accident. Being very mindful (without becoming paranoid) of this critical idea of risk assessment is crucial for maintaining a healthy perspective and keeping your risk as low as possible while also increasing your skills and preparedness. Thinking about the many other areas of daily life (e.g. anything involving vehicles) where we are always balancing and managing risks is very helpful for realizing we already have a framework for approaching this. It's just rare that we stop and think explicitly about it, because it tends to be so built-in to our lives.
This is a good topic. Definitely not a one size fits all solution. The women in my life that carry usually prefer manual safetys on their guns because they are more likely to have little kids tugging on them. I bought a fire extinguisher when my oldest started cooking.
A fire extinguisher, that’s awesome haha! There’s even a mitigating risk spectrum for choosing a safety on a firearm too, depending on the risk you’re trying to mitigate with that hardware. On one hand, adding the safety creates another step that has to be taken before an ND can take place, but on the other hand, it adds another step for both training and self defense. Sooo many things to consider. Its such a deep and multifaceted topic.
Manual safeties are such an important part of this discussion and also a part that gets controversial or heated. For my personal risk tolerance, I have a manual safety on my gun. When I first started carrying, I alway had the safety on. I also always practiced my draw with my thumb going to that safety. It was second nature and practed often. Every time I drew in dry fire, at the range, regardless, I was flipping off my safety and flipping it back on before I reholstered. I now only keep the safety on when the gun is out of the holster. But I still practice my draw with "flipping off the safety" whether it's on or not. That mitigates a few risks for me - In practicing with flipping off the safety, I've made it such a habit that I mitigate forgetting to flip it off if I do have to draw if I've somehow also forgotten to flip it off when holstering. Human error happens all the time, and I don't want to ever assume I'm immune to it. In carrying without the safety engaged, I mitigate the risk of a delay. In engaging the safety when the gun is unholstered, I mitigate risk of an ND. For my personal circumstances, the risks I introduce by situationally using a safety are less than the risks I mitigate. That calculation is different for *everyone* but should be a thoughtful decision for everyone. These risk assessments impact every part of our lives unconsciously, and I think we are all better off when we make them more consciously and deliberately.
I'm a fan of your mindful and intentional kind of attitude about it, but man am I more jealous of your communication skills. It felt like every word filled its purpose with precision and the train of thought had a cohesive, almost effortless flow. Wish I could do that so bad but brain half gronk
Great topic and excellent presentation. Risk assessments were commonplace in my industry (oil and gas) to protect people and the environment. Definitely applies to many of our activities especially firearms.
Wonderful topic to bring up. Risk assessment is underrated in the new gun owners mind. I would like to add situational awareness is different for everyone. Being aware of ones surroundings changes throughout the day from fatigue, lack of focus, energy, "insert daily struggle here". Imagine walking through a busy street and looking at everyone's hands for a full day, simply exhausting. Knowing your crime statistics for your areas, when they occur and how it happened will give you good windows and self-triggers to focus and be more sensitive to the environment. Create zones with time windows for your criteria and test it. Does not work for everyone, but helps build trust in yourself for personal defence.
Guess I’ll add one more comment. Made the decision to carry in 2015 when I was still working in Bakersfield. It was definitely a risk based decision due to the high crime rate and the inability to open carry while recreating in the mountains etc. Carried mostly a G26 IWB @ 4 o’clock in a leather holster. Re-holstering was problematic meaning more risk. When I retired to rural Michigan sold the 26 replacing it with a P365. And went to a kydex Bravo Concealment torsion IWB or OWB with baggy shirts. Leather is too problematic for re-holstering. Also carry a G19 with the same Bravo type holsters. Bedside gun is a P226 9mm with a streamlight TL3 in a combo vertical safe. Because no kids are in the house I leave my carry gun on the nightstand while sleeping. But I do put the carry gun in a Sticky holster to cover the trigger for an added level of safety. Not a fan of a unloading/loading my carry gun every day. Seems like unnecessary risk.
I have two safes: one keypad based, the other fingerprint. i don't have the home infrastructure (I live in an apartment) where I can secure the fingerprint one - the way I want (bolted to the wall or floor). Best way for me is to secure both of them with one of those ties to something firm and rooted. I also have my other stuff in a storage place through my desk setup. I don't have children. But I've often thought about placement, deployment, and security.
That’s awesome 👏 many people without kids don’t necessarily consider the importance of locking guns up within the home, but children are not the only unauthorized users out there. Good on you for taking that into consideration and being proactive about it 👏👏
@@tessahbooth When I'm out and about, I often try to be the better person. There's a book I need to read again: the Life Giving Sword. I think knowing the responsibility forces me to find ways to ensure my firearm is the last resort. What hill am I willing to die on? More often, I find there are too many hills I can happily avoid climbing.
May I toss out a few suggestions for people who might be great for a roundtable on this topic? (At least, among some folks I am aware of.) John Johnston Melody Lauer Chris Cypert Daryl Bolke Ernest Langdon Sarah Hauptman Mickey Schuch Chris Baker Stephanie Weidner
Omg yes. Risk matrix, awareness, and best practices plus actual concealment. This video is really info dense. Seems like someone hit your button for safety but absolutely yes. Thank you for the great culture influence! 🙌
This is such an important topic. This is something I think about often, even with small things. Do I need that thing from the grocery store that puts me there later at night after dark, or can it wait until tomorrow? Do the potential career benefits of going to that conference in a bad part of down outweigh the risks, and how much of that is influenced by that news story I saw recently vs the statistics? Lots of little things like that have made my life safer and have decreased the chances I'll ever need to draw my firearm.
A great primer to cover the individual needs for risk assessment and firearm safety. A certain actor would've done well to know any set of the four rules of firearm safety and a completely preventable tragedy could've been avoided. For those with kids, be aware that some biometric safes allow for child access due to potential similarities with how they read fingerprints.
I have done risk assessment since I was a teenager. I do the check list without conscious thought now. You're channel is full of great information from a practical viewpoint.
I have a safe that is for my gun. Since I work from home and my kids no longer Iive at home then most days my firearm sits on my desk. Risk mitigation comes from having 9 security cameras monitoring my home externally 24/7
I find that when I divorce my gun from my body around the house, I wind up leaving it places as I move around the house for bathroom breaks, desk work, filming room, living room, garage, etc. I’ve started leaving it on body in the house most of the time because it winds up being out of reach most of the time.
This is a great topic to get us thinking consciously about the things we control and the things we can influence in our lives with respect to 'risk assessment'. I really enjoyed your thoughts on the matter and will be more aware of what I'm doing and why.
Carrying ever day keeps me mindful of it, basically to the point of my risk assesment decisions being parts of my personality... more or less. I don't think I've really changed that much though. Little older, little wiser, more patient for sure. All that is after the initial basic competence though. Started early. First shot a gun at 8 or 9 years old. Occasional draw practice, don't need uch carrying openly. I keep in mind that guns make some people uncomfortable and don't act a fool (which isn't really different than before carrying anyway). Helps not having kids. Beyond that, idk what else to say.
When I carry my gun the only risk I'm thinking of is what situations I'm putting myself in and how To de-escalate a situation if I get one. i grew up in a bad part of Boston and I'm thankful for the lessons that gave me lol.
you overthinking too much. simplify things and practice til things become your second nature and let your instinct takes over. life would be easier and happier
I’m very new to gun ownership, and before buying I heard from friends that I was far more likely to have one of my family members killed by an accidental discharge than I was to actually use it for self defense. As I learned more about the statistics they were citing I learned that almost all of those sad cases were 100% avoidable. So I’ve concluded that education (and CONTINUING education) has to be part of my risk mitigation strategy. I learned the basics of gun safety first before buying a gun, and I have a plan continue to take classes annually to further my knowledge. And I practice. Building muscle memory for things like how to properly holster without flagging myself will significantly reduce risk. I come from an aviation background, and we do the same thing there. Education, identifying risks, and mitigation. And it’s never 100% risk free, so you make the final call on what risks to take based on the risk/reward assessment. But you can prevent or reduce the severity of 99% of accidents through diligence in education, risk identification, and mitigation.
This same strategy applies to reducing the risk of ever having to draw your firearm in self defense.
I love this mindset. Thinking like this and carrying has made me a better driver and also significantly more aware of the risks I do take to make sure I’m taking them consciously.
As a musician / DJ / Performer I’m constantly refining my processes even more so after working in tech and being self employed.
Thinking in terms of systems and processes has been a huge help for minimizing risk.
I love to dress very provocatively at times and this sort of dictates the way I carry, what I carry, same with my regular activities.
Coming out as trans was a calculated risk, dealing with my mental health and stopping drinking in order to feel safe enough to own a firearm and not be a danger to myself. Additionally in order to legally concealed carry in many places I work I have to be sober so it worked out anyway.
It was a hard choice to move forward with carrying because statistically I’m more likely to use it on myself. So are most people.
I carry around children / teens regularly. I’ve had to educate them as I educate myself on how to navigate this new addition to my life.
The benefits have been so worth it to all the people who love me and care for my well being but everything has its price to pay.
The price of safe freedom is risk & responsibility.
Amazing someone who cares as much for others safety as herself God Bless you🙏🏾
I have handled and used firearms for 53 years. The biggest thing is I try and be as careful as day one. I try to learn from mistakes of others and dial out that risk. Usually a accidental discharge is the result of you doing something out of order or that you would never do normally because your distracted.
Quite thoughtful. The balancing act to me is being comfortable carrying but always vigilant. It’s an inherent tension.
I think an important thing to do to mitigate risk is to plan. For example, everyone will have a bad day at some point. Everyone will hit a low point. You need to have a plan and do some self analysis to determine if you are in a rational state of mind. If you are super angry about something, it may not be the best idea to be handling your gun. Take a moment to put the gun in a safe or another room where you won’t touch it until you can calm down and reassess the situation. Pretty much any emotion can increase risk of a bad decision or negligent discharge so make a plan on what you will do in the moment.
Risk Assessment:
1. Identify the risk.
2. What is the likelihood of the event occurring?
3. What can you do to lessen the likelihood of the event occurring?
4. How severe are the consequences should the event occur?
5. What can you do to mitigate those consequences?
6. What is your plan to deal with the consequences should the event occur?
I'll give a personal example. I live alone, anytime I am handling my pistol (holstering, unholstering, cleaning, etc.) my IFAK and cell phone are within arm's reach. Shooting myself in the thigh while cleaning my pistol in the garage and crawling into the house to get a TQ and call 911 is not a good plan.
You need more followers. I know this channel is more for a female audience but, this information is great for men too.
Loved the comment about teaching about gun safety. As stated by Colion Noir, gun safety should be required learning. Whether or not there guns in the home.
I happen to agree.
This is a great tip. My parents were not gun owners, but made sure that they taught me about guns and safety, mostly avoiding people with guns, etc. As I got older I got into hunting and had to take a 'hunter safety course' which by that age was super easy because my parents had done such a good job teaching me. Now that I am getting ready to daily carry a firearm, I know that I will be able to handle the firearm safely. I will, however, be attending an additional safety and training class once again before I start carrying as a refresher. I have to re-certify my scuba certification every few years to make sure I know the safety of that as well, why not with a firearm?
There is also risk aversion, by not needlessly putting yourself in a situation where your life may be threatened, and/or you may need to take the lives of others. A gun is a great tool for all those times you can't avoid such situations.
@@Jonathan-yr3so Both. Aversion is avoiding a bad area altogether. Mitigation is carrying your gun to a bad area you can't avoid.
@@Jonathan-yr3so Do you genuinely believe that risk aversion is a myth? Or impossible? I can avert the risk of a car crash by never being in a car. I'm not sure what you're trying to argue.
@@Jonathan-yr3so True. I still don't think we're disagreeing on anything here, so carry on.
@@Jonathan-yr3so Sorry. Happy New Year.
Don't forget simple driver fatigue or lack of sleep. This actually accounts for more deaths than drunk driving.
Implementing safe systems with redundancies is the best way to mitigate risk with anything. Pilots do it, so why shouldn't we do it? Clear your garment every time, look your gun into the holster every time, voice what you are doing while training when holstering or clearing your gun. You might feel like a goofball sometimes, but by building in these simple steps you find yourself doing them automatically. This doesn't mean you get complacent, it just means you have built up that neural network in your brain so that it knows what to do in certain situations.
Excellent. This is especially relevant the more a firearm is handled. So, the more a person goes to the range, trains, dryfires, carries on their person, attends livefire courses, etc., the more chances there are--just statistically--for a negligent discharge or accident. Being very mindful (without becoming paranoid) of this critical idea of risk assessment is crucial for maintaining a healthy perspective and keeping your risk as low as possible while also increasing your skills and preparedness.
Thinking about the many other areas of daily life (e.g. anything involving vehicles) where we are always balancing and managing risks is very helpful for realizing we already have a framework for approaching this. It's just rare that we stop and think explicitly about it, because it tends to be so built-in to our lives.
This is a good topic. Definitely not a one size fits all solution. The women in my life that carry usually prefer manual safetys on their guns because they are more likely to have little kids tugging on them. I bought a fire extinguisher when my oldest started cooking.
A fire extinguisher, that’s awesome haha! There’s even a mitigating risk spectrum for choosing a safety on a firearm too, depending on the risk you’re trying to mitigate with that hardware. On one hand, adding the safety creates another step that has to be taken before an ND can take place, but on the other hand, it adds another step for both training and self defense. Sooo many things to consider. Its such a deep and multifaceted topic.
Manual safeties are such an important part of this discussion and also a part that gets controversial or heated. For my personal risk tolerance, I have a manual safety on my gun. When I first started carrying, I alway had the safety on. I also always practiced my draw with my thumb going to that safety. It was second nature and practed often. Every time I drew in dry fire, at the range, regardless, I was flipping off my safety and flipping it back on before I reholstered. I now only keep the safety on when the gun is out of the holster. But I still practice my draw with "flipping off the safety" whether it's on or not. That mitigates a few risks for me - In practicing with flipping off the safety, I've made it such a habit that I mitigate forgetting to flip it off if I do have to draw if I've somehow also forgotten to flip it off when holstering. Human error happens all the time, and I don't want to ever assume I'm immune to it. In carrying without the safety engaged, I mitigate the risk of a delay. In engaging the safety when the gun is unholstered, I mitigate risk of an ND. For my personal circumstances, the risks I introduce by situationally using a safety are less than the risks I mitigate. That calculation is different for *everyone* but should be a thoughtful decision for everyone. These risk assessments impact every part of our lives unconsciously, and I think we are all better off when we make them more consciously and deliberately.
Good discussion of the topic. Applicable to even the seasoned user/carrier. Thanks!
Good video good info.
I'm glad your on our side.
Thank you
I'm a fan of your mindful and intentional kind of attitude about it, but man am I more jealous of your communication skills. It felt like every word filled its purpose with precision and the train of thought had a cohesive, almost effortless flow. Wish I could do that so bad but brain half gronk
Great topic and excellent presentation. Risk assessments were commonplace in my industry (oil and gas) to protect people and the environment. Definitely applies to many of our activities especially firearms.
Wonderful topic to bring up. Risk assessment is underrated in the new gun owners mind. I would like to add situational awareness is different for everyone. Being aware of ones surroundings changes throughout the day from fatigue, lack of focus, energy, "insert daily struggle here". Imagine walking through a busy street and looking at everyone's hands for a full day, simply exhausting. Knowing your crime statistics for your areas, when they occur and how it happened will give you good windows and self-triggers to focus and be more sensitive to the environment. Create zones with time windows for your criteria and test it. Does not work for everyone, but helps build trust in yourself for personal defence.
thank you for sharing, what are your thoughts on USCCA insurance ?
Consider investing in some sort of carry insurance/legal coverage. Everyone forgets that part.
Guess I’ll add one more comment. Made the decision to carry in 2015 when I was still working in Bakersfield. It was definitely a risk based decision due to the high crime rate and the inability to open carry while recreating in the mountains etc. Carried mostly a G26 IWB @ 4 o’clock in a leather holster. Re-holstering was problematic meaning more risk. When I retired to rural Michigan sold the 26 replacing it with a P365. And went to a kydex Bravo Concealment torsion IWB or OWB with baggy shirts. Leather is too problematic for re-holstering. Also carry a G19 with the same Bravo type holsters. Bedside gun is a P226 9mm with a streamlight TL3 in a combo vertical safe. Because no kids are in the house I leave my carry gun on the nightstand while sleeping. But I do put the carry gun in a Sticky holster to cover the trigger for an added level of safety. Not a fan of a unloading/loading my carry gun every day. Seems like unnecessary risk.
I have two safes: one keypad based, the other fingerprint. i don't have the home infrastructure (I live in an apartment) where I can secure the fingerprint one - the way I want (bolted to the wall or floor). Best way for me is to secure both of them with one of those ties to something firm and rooted. I also have my other stuff in a storage place through my desk setup. I don't have children. But I've often thought about placement, deployment, and security.
That’s awesome 👏 many people without kids don’t necessarily consider the importance of locking guns up within the home, but children are not the only unauthorized users out there. Good on you for taking that into consideration and being proactive about it 👏👏
@@tessahbooth When I'm out and about, I often try to be the better person. There's a book I need to read again: the Life Giving Sword. I think knowing the responsibility forces me to find ways to ensure my firearm is the last resort. What hill am I willing to die on? More often, I find there are too many hills I can happily avoid climbing.
Great topic. Definitely worth a deeper dive at some point. Maybe some sort of roundtable discussion cause it goes into every facet of life
Love this idea! There might be an IG live coming up on this topic in the near future.
I talk about these things in our concealed carry courses all the time. I love that this video now exists
May I toss out a few suggestions for people who might be great for a roundtable on this topic? (At least, among some folks I am aware of.)
John Johnston
Melody Lauer
Chris Cypert
Daryl Bolke
Ernest Langdon
Sarah Hauptman
Mickey Schuch
Chris Baker
Stephanie Weidner
@@sdjohnston67 That would be an awesome discussion! I did an IG Live yesterday on this topic with John Johnston.
Omg yes. Risk matrix, awareness, and best practices plus actual concealment. This video is really info dense. Seems like someone hit your button for safety but absolutely yes. Thank you for the great culture influence! 🙌
This is such an important topic. This is something I think about often, even with small things. Do I need that thing from the grocery store that puts me there later at night after dark, or can it wait until tomorrow? Do the potential career benefits of going to that conference in a bad part of down outweigh the risks, and how much of that is influenced by that news story I saw recently vs the statistics? Lots of little things like that have made my life safer and have decreased the chances I'll ever need to draw my firearm.
Great content!
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Gotta fuel his jet , somehow.
@@theskeptictank that's right lol
Im in
A great primer to cover the individual needs for risk assessment and firearm safety. A certain actor would've done well to know any set of the four rules of firearm safety and a completely preventable tragedy could've been avoided.
For those with kids, be aware that some biometric safes allow for child access due to potential similarities with how they read fingerprints.
Great topic, Tessa!
I have done risk assessment since I was a teenager. I do the check list without conscious thought now. You're channel is full of great information from a practical viewpoint.
I have a safe that is for my gun. Since I work from home and my kids no longer Iive at home then most days my firearm sits on my desk. Risk mitigation comes from having 9 security cameras monitoring my home externally 24/7
I find that when I divorce my gun from my body around the house, I wind up leaving it places as I move around the house for bathroom breaks, desk work, filming room, living room, garage, etc. I’ve started leaving it on body in the house most of the time because it winds up being out of reach most of the time.
I have combined both lol. My shotgun is next to my work desk and I still have my pistol on me for wandering around the house :)
This is a great topic to get us thinking consciously about the things we control and the things we can influence in our lives with respect to 'risk assessment'. I really enjoyed your thoughts on the matter and will be more aware of what I'm doing and why.
Thanks A&S. Great job. Good info. God bless.
LETS GO BRANDON
Are you an Internal Auditor? I am. You seem to be cut out for that profession. You think like one. Just saying…
Carrying ever day keeps me mindful of it, basically to the point of my risk assesment decisions being parts of my personality... more or less. I don't think I've really changed that much though. Little older, little wiser, more patient for sure. All that is after the initial basic competence though. Started early. First shot a gun at 8 or 9 years old. Occasional draw practice, don't need uch carrying openly. I keep in mind that guns make some people uncomfortable and don't act a fool (which isn't really different than before carrying anyway). Helps not having kids. Beyond that, idk what else to say.
When I carry my gun the only risk I'm thinking of is what situations I'm putting myself in and how To de-escalate a situation if I get one. i grew up in a bad part of Boston and I'm thankful for the lessons that gave me lol.
you overthinking too much. simplify things and practice til things become your second nature and let your instinct takes over. life would be easier and happier