The Biblical Response to the Narcissist In Your Marriage

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  • Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
  • "No matter how DEEPLY you have been Wounded by someone that you trusted, it never has to DESTROY your life.
    God will never allow another person to RUIN your life.
    But God will allow YOU to ruin your life
    because He gave you a free will."
    -DOMINIC HERBST, Founder of Restoring Relationships
    From the most tender young age we all experience hurt, betrayal, or offense through relationship with someone we loved or someone we expected more from. Our response to these offenses at the time they occur will determine whether or not these wounds heal or become infected.
    Restoring Relationships is a ministry dedicated to helping you find freedom of heart and soul by taking you on your own personal journey through Calvary.
    Isn’t it time that everything changed? You don’t have to keep "waiting on God."
    Just take this step and you’ll find that He’s actually waiting on you!

Комментарии • 64

  • @RestoringRelationships
    @RestoringRelationships  13 дней назад

    Please visit www.restoringrelationships.org/offers/FCTDYvpo/checkout to register for our next Walking Through Calvary course! When you register early you receive immediate access to the Online Journey and the Restoring Relationships journal. If you have any questions, please contact a member of our staff at 570-523-0605 or email us at staff@bfsf.org. We look forward to meeting you!

  • @Adrianne316
    @Adrianne316 2 месяца назад +21

    I'm at the end of my rope. I want to end my marriage, but then I hear sermons or read things that say to keep going, don't give up. My heart is broken and my spouse won't change. He doesn't believe he's done anything wrong.

    • @rossanderson5243
      @rossanderson5243 2 месяца назад +5

      We are born in God’s image but the narcissist lives for their own. Instead of being children of God, their selfishness makes them an adult child that doesn’t learn the principles that God gives us but seeks your emotional supply. Don’t give it. You won’t change any emotions that are going on. If it’s emotional it’s personal and you won’t be able to change his personality. If the trauma is great and the damage is so much and you feel you can’t go on then leave. Feelings come before emotions and are intuitive. Feelings are your heart and the Holy Spirit will guide your heart and you will intuitively know what Needs to be done.

    • @allanstevenson474
      @allanstevenson474 Месяц назад +4

      I’m on your road right now but the genders are flipped. Covert Narc destroying my soul. There isn’t even a flicker of hope IMO.

    • @bassman6692
      @bassman6692 Месяц назад +5

      @@Adrianne316 Your situation is very similar to mine. If I could offer any advice it would be to go to the Father and ask Him to reveal any inequity in your heart. He will show you this. It must be done fervently in my experience. Then pray that your husband does the same. God will show you what is wrong. We must go to Him first before we can go to or understand our spouses. He is the only way to restoration. You are in my prayers sister.

    • @elainesmith5313
      @elainesmith5313 Месяц назад +6

      If he has broken the marriage covenant, the marriage according to God is invalid. You have no obligation to him anyllonger.if he gas dishonored you. Emotionally neglected you, cheated on you, stole from you. It's over, I don't care what pastors preach, what got say us Truth.

    • @melindalemmon2149
      @melindalemmon2149 Месяц назад

      ​@@bassman6692SHAME ON YOU FOR BLAMING THIS WOMAN FOR HER ABUSE. GOD IS NOT THE TYRANT YOU MAKE HIM OUT TO BE, AND IS NOT HOLDING HER SAFETY AS A CARROT BEFORE HER, WHICH SHE CAN ONLY GET TO BY TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE FREE WILL ABUSE OF HER PARTNER. SHAME SHAME SHAME.

  • @allanstevenson474
    @allanstevenson474 Месяц назад +6

    I’m amazed how the Narc never seems to grow tired of themselves

  • @truthreigns369
    @truthreigns369 Месяц назад +3

    “ When you dance with the devil, he always leads. When you dance with the devil you think you are leading and you are not even aware you are dancing with the devil.”

  • @bassman6692
    @bassman6692 2 месяца назад +5

    What you have said certainly resonates with me. Although my wife isn’t a narcissist she has many traits. She would never accept responsibility for hurtful behavior and turn it around onto me, never apologize without withdrawing afterwards, constantly project her issues as my own, gaslight me, leaving me feeling like I was going crazy, emasculated, and unable to be vulnerable. This lasted 7 years until I found out the reasons why I was having theses feelings. Every single symptom was related to emotional abuse. The examples given were like it was written by me. When I brought them up to her she moved out when I was gone. No contact for seven months to present. The day after this weeks first for Walking Through Calvary session, I received notice that she filed for a dissolution. I’m so crushed.

    • @truthreigns369
      @truthreigns369 Месяц назад +1

      You are so free. 🤗now heal and move on. Do not get into another relationship until you have healed and know God’s plan and love for you.

    • @dorynchand6192
      @dorynchand6192 22 дня назад

      Its so hard. Especially when the love we’ve had for our partners were so real in the past years. It hurts so bad and I pray God restores your marriage and makes it better than it was

  • @kelleyprimozic3859
    @kelleyprimozic3859 Месяц назад +1

    What a true blessing this was to come upon today!! Thank you for Godly correction on the course I was taking and reminding me don't trust what I see.

  • @loriduran7630
    @loriduran7630 2 месяца назад +2

    I would love to walk through Calvary with God. Unfortunately my financial situation is severely struggling. I pray that Father God will provide a way. I pray for everyone in Jesus' Mighty Holy and Precious Name Amen 🙏❤️

  • @jennyeverbless3211
    @jennyeverbless3211 2 месяца назад +8

    the strongman in my marriage is a jezebel home breaker, my sister in law and my mother in law. These people are real evil. I let go and draw closer to God.

  • @Granerson-ub1sk
    @Granerson-ub1sk 2 месяца назад +2

    I’m so glad to be in the last session this video hit the bullseye for my marriage, I’m grateful to be walking thru Calvary… So Be It !
    Agape “4000”

  • @katrinaedwards9843
    @katrinaedwards9843 Месяц назад +2

    I needed this. Grateful...

  • @sharonrivera8488
    @sharonrivera8488 2 месяца назад +2

    You truly have the wisdom of God. Thank you God bless you 🙏

  • @karenpierce4909
    @karenpierce4909 Месяц назад

    The terminology of a person of this behaviour is called a humbug!

  • @misslech
    @misslech 2 месяца назад +1

    I loved watching this video! It really captures the truth about dealing with a narcissistic person. Thank you, Dominic, for sharing this valuable insight

  • @johnjmathew55
    @johnjmathew55 Месяц назад +1

    Amen 🙏🏼
    I surrender to you AlMighty Father God
    I release all anguish , bitterness and works of the flesh and humble myself and repent for my sins and bitterness. Do take care of my blessed spouse and release her from this bondage so that we can go together towards Calvary as a family

  • @Grammamellow1
    @Grammamellow1 Месяц назад

    Thank you For this. I have been searching for a Biblical Approach. My marriage was destroyed and my family devastated during isolation of the lockdowns. Glory to God we are still Alive to overcome.

  • @charlierlaflosstv
    @charlierlaflosstv Месяц назад

    This teaching was a blessing. I have seen the narcissist humbled to the point of tears but it was only when I responded with the love of Christ. So, what you’re teaching is God’s heart for that person which is healing and deliverance of the soul. Bless the Lord. And God bless you please continue edifying God’s body with these issues with the wisdom from the Word of God! ❤

  • @HealedbyGod18
    @HealedbyGod18 2 месяца назад +1

    Exactly! What happened during our first reconciled separation. He said all the things and landed up hurting me more than ever before filed again. Now I’m in a second separation beyond repair D is in the earthly courts now. 😢 it would definitely have to be God bringing us bath together if it’s his will.

  • @truthreigns369
    @truthreigns369 Месяц назад +1

    You know everything that I just walked in for 42 years and before. It is demonic. Finally God broke this off of me and released me after 40 years of bondage. But I had to repent and come to the end of myself.

  • @rem97881
    @rem97881 Месяц назад

    This is spot on! This is the exact answer I’ve been asking God about all day

  • @flashlitestriker4028
    @flashlitestriker4028 Месяц назад

    Wow, Bro... your videos that I've been watching tonight MAKE PERFECT SENSE -- both from my decades of Bible studying AND from all the (seemingly) crazy experiences with various relationships over the years (decades), too... plus, my RECENT, renewed and careful studying of 1 Corinthians! Thank you SOOO much! ♥

  • @karriesaunders8597
    @karriesaunders8597 Месяц назад

    I was told by two different deliverance ministers that my partner was coming hone and he never did and actually ive been told he had a kid with someone else,this was after telling his child with me he was coming home. Ive never got over this absolute evil,i missed one opportunity to bring them through to Christ,i considered it. risk what i needed to do. Im in depression again,since my family was torn apart.

  • @cathymiller6670
    @cathymiller6670 Месяц назад

    Good, wise words and scripture. Thank you! Question, how should a spouse deal with the abuse, silent Rx, promises they will do something and then get angry and don't follow through, rage sessions.... stand there and take it and get beaten down spiritually emotionally and mentally? God' s wants us to florish in Him...

  • @ninaruthie
    @ninaruthie 2 месяца назад +1

    Wow so powerful the whole thing but especially around 27 minute or 28 minute Mark where you just speak the truth in love about that we're giving too much credit to the enemy that we're really studying about the enemy and thinking that somehow that's going to defeat the enemy instead of the finished work of Jesus at calvary! Wow! I needed this

  • @CathyHinson
    @CathyHinson Месяц назад

    Nice video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

  • @PistolPete1980
    @PistolPete1980 2 месяца назад

    27:26 lol bait and switch. Love it 😂

  • @edwardbrown5075
    @edwardbrown5075 Месяц назад

    You describing my wife and all the women in her family. I realized that I had to be delivered within myself, and all I can do was pray for my wife. But it's hard to watch, it's has hindered by ministry.

  • @sabrinatoglia4729
    @sabrinatoglia4729 2 месяца назад

    Dominic , can you do a video about a spouse who suffers from alcoholism? My ex spouse has developed alcohol related Parkinson and has stage one dementia as a result to the Parkinson. He drinks a bottle a day of pure vodka and seriously I don’t know how he is still alive! We’ve done interventions but he thinks we are the crazy ones. Heavily in denial! I have been taking care of him for the past year ( since his girlfriend left him) but I don’t want to help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. It’s taken a toll on our two teenage girls as well. On top of all that he is a narcissist ( has to take center stage always).
    I have been standing for marriage restoration for years but I think the Lord is wanting me to let him go. Alcoholism has got him bad. Thank you😢

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 2 месяца назад

    I don’t need no Bible! God HimSelf carried me through and Saved me from a narcissist when my youngest son graduated HS. 😊❤

  • @ninaruthie
    @ninaruthie 2 месяца назад

    😂 about 32 minutes back to 33 minutes such truth spoken and then I had to laugh because you say the enemy is going to try to steal this in about a minute will be like what did he say again? That's why I had to timestamp this so that I could remember😅

  • @amanece777
    @amanece777 18 дней назад

    Pero como no mirar al enemigo cuando vives con él y te jace la voda muy difícil e incluso te maltrata psicologicamente?

  • @loricarini2260
    @loricarini2260 2 месяца назад

    I wish I had a way that I could do your workshop, Dominic because this is exactly what I needed to hear in the season that I am in right now in ! Our marriage is definitely toxic,...But there is a big time difference between you and us! I'm not sure where exactly you are doing your Walking through Calvary Seminars, but my husband and I are ministering and sharing the gospel in Bangladesh. With BDT, We are about 10 hours behind New York, which is not far from my home town. I've been here in Bangladesh about 5 years. Is there a way to see any of the workshop recordings? Please let me know. I want to be a clean vessel as I pray for His deliverance. Blessing to all of your discipleship work. I found this video during a time I took for fasting Today. God is so good! He's working a miracle already! Hallelujah Amen 🙏

    • @RestoringRelationships
      @RestoringRelationships  Месяц назад

      Hello, The Walking Through Calvary classes are all recorded. We have many individuals who cannot attend the live zoom sessions and watch the recording the following day! Please email staff@bfsf.org if you have other questions or would like to speak with a staff member.

    • @loricarini2260
      @loricarini2260 Месяц назад

      @RestoringRelationships ok. Thank you !

  • @Shama_0507
    @Shama_0507 Месяц назад

    Lord teach me what I cannot see❤❤

  • @MegaWojtaszek
    @MegaWojtaszek 2 месяца назад +2

    How to defeat a female Jezebel spirit in marriage ??

    • @kimmieM0927
      @kimmieM0927 Месяц назад

      The same way you defeat Jezebel male spirit in a marriage. And I wish I had the answer. 😢

  • @jessicabullard5806
    @jessicabullard5806 Месяц назад

    How do we sign up?

  • @Shama_0507
    @Shama_0507 Месяц назад

    Wow!!!!!❤

  • @Yuefoh
    @Yuefoh 2 месяца назад

    Amen!

  • @melindalemmon2149
    @melindalemmon2149 Месяц назад

    Charism and sales are not the answer

  • @nannyregis4015
    @nannyregis4015 2 месяца назад +1

    Help please i need Jesus

  • @MT0832
    @MT0832 2 месяца назад

    Amazing helpful insights! WOW 💜

  • @kacythomas1327
    @kacythomas1327 Месяц назад

    I'm not married and never have been

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 Месяц назад

    Give up!

  • @aprilortiz3612
    @aprilortiz3612 2 месяца назад

    How much is the subscription?

    • @RestoringRelationships
      @RestoringRelationships  2 месяца назад

      Please visit Restoringrelationships.org to learn more about registering for the Walking Through Calvary course. You can contact us by emailing staff@bfsf.org.

    • @nellacorggens6316
      @nellacorggens6316 2 месяца назад

      I wish I could do this.

    • @dominicherbst872
      @dominicherbst872 Месяц назад

      @@RestoringRelationships