My mom had 6 by the time I came along? I’m the 6th I pretty much did come with one lol. Until they found out I had a mild form of autism. That doesn’t mean nothing tho I am pretty high functioning.
As a mother of 3, I approve this message. Don't forget the random strangers who forget that your protruded belly is still part of your body and therefore not theirs to rub.
I would instinctually take two steps back every time someone randomly came up to talk to me. They kept getting too close while they were talking. Why?!
In church a woman came up to me, rubbed my belly, and asked when my baby was finally going to be born. I was so upset.... He had been born 2 weeks ago and was in the church nursery.
The church grapevine lacks greatly in your congregation. We know about people's grandchildren born in other states by the first available Sunday. Sorry, she upset you though. 😞
@@ah5721 It wasn't a large church, so there wasn't a lack of supervision issue. He was one of only 2 babies at that time, and maybe one toddler. Besides, I was only a 40 second walk to where he was if they needed me.
Solidarity. I had a lady at church ask me if I was expecting again AS I WAS HOLDING my two month old. That's not even physically possible. "It's left over from this one," I responded.
2:04 I literally SCREAMED when Mary roasted her "mom" about the great-grandmother's name being Agnes.😂💀 Matter of fact, that whole segment was great! The Pokémon reference caught me off guard too.😂😂
My ex husband and I had an agreement about the name. He got to choose the first name and I got to choose the middle. We also didn't find out the gender. I wanted to be able to choose a boy and girl name. My little peanut got my great grandmother's American name, but she has used the Norwegian name for summer camp.
All of y'all are too funny.😂 I'm just turned 25 this year and also got married earlier this year as well so I got some time before kids but I know I can't wait to be dad for sure!
@@MegaMadDog88 I listen to some fake stories on RUclips when doing stuff, I call it cheap entertainment. My daughter will come over and listen with me. The look of total astonishment on her face almost makes me laugh harder. She's turning 22 soon. I was 24 when she was born. Having kids is fun, but is still hard work. Definitely take the baby classes. You will learn a lot. However, every baby is different, and they don't come with instructions.
As the mom of a ten month old, I appreciate every time someone asks if they can give advice first, but I appreciate the people who just say they remember it was hard.
As a single father who went through this with a daughter, let me know if you need any advice and/or hacks. Also, when the kid hits 18 and graduates from school, there won't be enough Kleenex in the world. It's a bitter-sweet moment... Awe Hell! Who's cutting onions now.
@@mickey2201 The best (read: worst) comments is when you “let” your kid have ‘too many snacks’ or do literally anything they expect a perfect Hallmark family wouldn’t do. “Oh what horrible, lazy parents!” I don’t even have kids but I know enough to know they’re in for a shock if they ever have to babysit for more than 2 minutes
I had an argument with my grandmother about NOT giving my daughter honey on her pacifier. 🤦🏻♀️ Told her doctor about the argument and she said "Thank goodness you have a brain." 🤣
I had no idea ppl really did this…I am..well, a spinster, but even I know babies can’t have honey! It’s also the only food that doesn’t expire. Useless additional fact cause I’m tired.
You can say why here…because honey, corn syrups other natural sweet syrups contain botulinum spores, which germinate in the high pH of a baby’s, who is only drinking milk, GI system (once eating solid food it’s not much of a problem). This causes infant botulism and according to my professors at the University of Wisconsin, at least 10% if not more, of reported SIDS cases are actually Infant Botulism.
I literally cringed at the "you're gonna pop any day now." The best advice we received for our first was that EVERYONE is going to have an opinion. Take the data and use what works for you. When our twins were born, the favorite comment was "I don't know how you can manage two infants..." Like we had a choice? It was a true team effort in everything.
It seems like people come out of the woodwork to tell first time moms the most horrific delivery stories they know. It’s like some kind of weird competition to terrify the mom-to-be.
I really liked hearing the horror stories bc it prepared me for what could go wrong but also it let me process what I could do differently. I ended up with 4 easy, un-medicated, vaginal deliveries. Most of the horror stories I heard were from moms who put their head in the sand and assumed the hospital would take care of everything.
Ryan's line "IT COMES OUT WHERE????" had me laughing too much. Also I am slightly concerned for the high school they went to. Did they not have health class? You know... where you'd learn about that... XD
Most US states don't even require Sex Ed to be medically accurate. Yeah, it's that bad. Quite a few only permit "abstinence only" curriculums. It's not standardized at all.
My health teacher showed us pictures of blobs that looked like the pokemon Ditto and literally told us all, this is what a baby looks like for the whole 9 months until it goes through the birth canal and thats what shapes them. - as a C-section baby myself; I shouted out that wasn't accurate nor were those pictures correct- he turned off the pictures but refused to speak to me for ages after that.
My school system only taught the abstinence approach to sexual education. No vital information pertaining to other options like, oh… I don’t know… SAFE SEX?!
My school had health but after the first day when the teacher made a huge deal about how she was going to spend so much time thoroughly teaching us sex Ed it was never mentioned again. Granted, it was Covid year, but I found out that one of my friends, who was a freshman in high school, did not know where her own vagina was. I doubt she knows where it is today
I kept both my pregnancies a secret for as long as I possibly could for this very reason. And when people did finally find out, I wasn't exactly gracious about the endless advice and anecdotes. I started charging my coworkers money if they wanted me to answer questions, (when are you due, what are you having, do you have names picked out, yadda yadda...) It worked for a while, but eventually I had to resort to straight up telling people that I was still a person in my own right, I would like to talk about something other than babies for a change, and if you touch me again I will punch you in the throat.
@Nancy GS I understand the feeling! What if someone was fascinated with your boobs and insisted on touching and rubbing all over them?! Its the same thing!
lol that's brilliant. I wish I had the smarts to charge people for my answers. Our baby is born now, and dang are they pricey, right? 🤣 (We are ever-so grateful for hand-me-downs, though!)
My advice? Listen to what others say and then decide what works for you and your family, you know your body and what is important to you. But be up for change in plans because it sure does happen. Oh, wait I do have one other important bit of advice. When choosing names, stand outside and yell the names you are deciding on, because some just don't work, every time I yelled my middle son's name, my voice would crack. Congratulations!
Oh, and as a Single Parent: Dad, the WORST advice I ever got were from the 20 to 35 (EDIT: year old) childless women. People with kids can give some stinkers of advice from time to time, but the childless women were consistently wrong. Also, they're the judgiest, too. I joked about putting my kid in a harness with one of those retractable leashes... Man did a room of those women get so pissy. Funny thing is, one of them started watching their sister's kid and apologized to me about the comments when she had to play Toddler Hide and Seek: Mall Store Edition. (Queue Yackety Sax music, because a Benny Hill chase scene is on like Donkey Kong.)
This is the funniest RUclips comment I have read in ages. I've had to play Toddler Hide and Seek in Walmart and Kohl's, so I appreciate the Benny Hill reference.
Lol they should hire you to write for this channel. We had our first trip to ER for stitches playing that game. Rookie mom mistake was thinking we could for go a buggy to get one item. You can bet we got one of those harness before that first changing planes in crowded airport.
I had to put my youngest in a literal dog collar (hot pink, worn as a belt, with the buckle in back) on a 10’ leash. We went to a lot of auctions and flea markets, and Girlie was not only tiny and quick, she had zero impulse control. The men were never a problem; they thought it was genius. The women (esp. the childless ones) were rude. My baby was safe; she was comfortable. She could explore without getting lost. What else should I do?
I got a Wal-Mart put on lockdown when I was two or three because I was hiding in the clothes racks and apparently thought it was too funny to come out when I was called for. I only avoided a real ass whooping because my mother was so relieved to find me she wasn't even mad anymore. Not to that same extent but I had to find and wrangle my son from time to time when he was little. I don't care what non-parents say... those kids' backpacks with a leash are more important that any safety lock we ever had in our house.
A friend of mine who was a first time mom specifically asked people not to give pacifiers or bottles because “it goes against our parenting plan.” I’m no parent, but I still knew that wasn’t going to work. Sure enough, when I met baby he had a paci and needed bottles to supplement breast feeding 🤷🏻♀️
The thing that pisses me off the most is definitely people policing how others should give birth. SO rude and uncalled for. Every single situation is different and no plan is any less valid than any other 😡
If anyone ever tries to pull that with any of the women in my family I think I'm going to loudly tell them about how me, my mother, and my three siblings would all be dead if my mother had insisted on natural birth only
I handed a copy (I had one for me, my partner and a spare) of my birth plan to the nurse who took it to read over with her partner. She came back and asked if I was a scientist. Turns out yes I am! Had a good laugh at that.
And no plan is fool-proof. A lady may plan a natural birth as much as she wants, but emergencies happen in birth, and sometimes a C-section becomes necessary (unfortunately, in some places doctors still cannot do it without the patient's consent, even if it's a matter of life and death. Some people refuse to do it, killing either the mother, or the baby, or both).
Ladies, say clearly no to this. Free yourself. My circle is very diverse and multicultural. I got so different feedback from everyone. It was so inconsistent even between Gyn and midwife and family doc. You are able to make the right decisions for yourself and your baby.
As a Single Parent: Dad, I didn't have changing tables. The floor, bed, and the couch all worked just fine... (Yeah, the suggestion is a Dad Advice suggestion. You wouldn't hear mom's saying that stuff.)
We didn't have a changing table for our son either. My husband didn't want to spend the outrageous amount to get one, and I don't think they are very safe. (I knew someone who fell off of one as a baby and had brain damage. The floor worked just fine for us.)
changing table is a "like to have" but def not a need. We use the floor and bed WAY more than we ever use the changing table.... the changing table is just where we store the creams or whatever needed for those situations.... also clothes I haven't folded.... those end up there too lol.
I did it , I'm a mom. But who really likes getting up from the floor when they can be at optimal height and not hurt my back that's already tired and sore from bouncing said baby or baby wearing ?!
I’m a mom who doesn’t like having useless crap around the house, and I approve this message. We used the pack n play to change most of the time. I also started changing my kids standing up as soon as they could stand and it made them WAY less fussy at changes.
This video literally triggered some apparent pregnancy-PTSD in me haha, I got a bit of anxiety remembering my 3 pregnancies and these kinds of unwelcome interactions.
@@KimberlyGreen Yes, my Grandmother named all her 8 children from Biblical names. But that doesn't make the name any more attractive, unfortunately, even if someone knows that the name is Biblical. I have a sister named Kimberly, too.
@@laurabentley937 Lol, hopefully you have a more positive association with 'Kimberly'. I'll admit that, as a kiddo, I thought her name was odd. But since knowing its meaning, I personally think it's nice.
I’ve known a few salt-of-the-earth moms whose all time least favorite question was, “Have you prepared the nursery yet?” One of them just started saying bluntly, “There’s no nursery to prepare; we have a one-bedroom apartment.”
Came to the advice rescue of a friend one time. It was lunch time, pregnancy of course was the topic (Actual experience not required for participation) . Started a conversation about morning sickness and constipation (It's pregnancy, deal with it). Subject was changed pretty durned quick. We were both smiling. Out right laughter would have been rude😜😝🤭
Mama knows best. Not ur mama, u the Mama. Listen to yourself above all else. Youll be just fine. ❤ Just had my first this spring. Had to learn some hard lessons about listening to advice. Turns out im rockin it my way.
No joke. She needed to hear that about preK. I called around when my son was 5 mo old and was basically laughed at and one told me if I'd wanted in, I should have been on the list 4 yrs ago. 4 YEARS!!! WHO KNOWS THEY'RE HAVING A BABY 5 YEARS IN ADVANCE?!!
I don't have an opinion on anyone else's pregnancy or delivery or anything. Just do your best, and try not to mess your kid up more than you can help. Wait! Thought of one. Be careful with names. My ex brother in law had the initials W.A. D. & his mom got him monogrammed everything. His school life was rough.
Mom spent over 24 hours in the hospital trying to get me out 😳 She did everything 1984 experts recommended, but I came out with all the health problems 😛 Genetics, y'all.
Exactly. There's a lot of set-in-stone crap that none of the avocados, scented oils, and pre-natal vitamins in the WORLD can help with. Plus, it constantly feels like every 10 years we find out the stuff people recommended expectant moms to do previously, ended up actually being not good.
@@BlackTigr I think the desire for a feeling of control motivates a lot of it. It’s easier for a stranger to blame my autism on Mom giving me the MMR shot than admitting that I was conceived with it.
@@ARasputinaFan My last two babies....I was induced and in active labor for about 72 hours. Oh, and the epidural did not work. But, I am most thankful that, no matter how much pain I endured, I have wonderful babies that grew up to become kind, caring, considerate and loving adults---one with a big family of her own (her husband's, too, of course ).
I used to get harassed at church about when I was going to have children. It got so bad that I stopped going on Mother’s Day because of the comments I got.
I will admit Ryan's advice about not needing a changing table was spot on. We had one for the first but just ended up using a gigantic changing pad on the floor or bed. Also ditched the diaper genie after a month. Never bought the wipe warmer. Same with the bottle warmer. Figured if they got used to either at home, there would be problems on the road. I had one friend who had to carry around a thermos of warm water because their baby wouldn't drink room temp formula after it got used to the bottle warmer at home! 🤣
Example. Cousin number 1 HELPED me plan my Dad's memorial service. Cousin number 2, CHANGED the date of my Dad's memorial service without even asking me.
I didn't mind everyone's advice for the most part because like all of life, I took what I felt fit and let the rest roll off. What I did mind was strangers coming up and rubbing my belly. It's still my body and I did not want anyone I didn't know and felt close to to touch it.
One of my friends went through this with each of her pregnancies (she has 3 kids). I've heard so many stories from her. During her first pregnancy I was with her shopping at Target because she wanted my opinions and she was approached by a woman who heard her telling me she was trying to decide if she wanted it natural or an epidural. This lady said she "wasn't a real mom" if she had an epidural. She told her it was her first and I could see her getting upset because of being berated like that. I lost my shit and snapped at her. I asked if she was a mom and she said no. So I said "Then how do you know what's best for her? The pain from labor can be quite awful but it's not up to you to make the ** call! She will know when tbe time comes!" It went into a tirade up till the manager stepped in. She asked what was wrong and I told him. I forgot what she said but the manager told her to leave. He understood my friend's point because his wife went through it a few months prior. One week later her daughter was born and she had an Epidural. I was there with her for the birth because her husband was in the Navy. Sometimes you gotta stand up for what you want. You can listen to advice but do what you feel is best. Not everyone will have the exact same experience. 😊
Yes, this video needed to be made. I am expecting in March and have gotten so much advice. Everyone has opinions, and sometimes it can get old, and you don't want to be mean.
If you need any advice let me know!! LOL. Totally joking! I'm a mom of a few children and can relate to soooo many of these comments. There are so many opinions and so much unsolicited advice from friends and family, even from complete strangers! It can get overwhelming. I just tried to take it all in stride and realized that most of them had good intentions and were totally thrilled for me. Best wishes to you!
"You don't want to be mean." Honey, I was meaner than a junkyard dog by the time I was seven months with my first one. 😂 I don't cuss, but I did just about everything else, including threatening to tase people if they touched me without permission. Don't be afraid to tell people to just hush up; it's good practice for after the baby is born, when EVERYONE has something to say about EVERYTHING you do as a parent. 🤦♀
Yes you do want to be mean at some point a simple I heard eating mixed nuts could help prevent nut allergies but idk. Done over one sentence then you get others you send articles, pictures, links and call if they remember some random detail or complete strangers demand to know your birth plan. You really want to tell them to jump of a cliff or hit them.
I have 6 kids...every pregnancy, birth, and kid is different. There is NO advice, only experience with your body and your baby. Congratulations and enjoy!!
So many MtB on here saying "I hate when people give me unsolicited advice" are going to be sharing their own unsolicited advice 🤣 Reminds me of the older women who'd find out he was my first* pregnancy, and just Evil Laugh in front of me. I get it now 😈 *first to survive 😔
As someone who went through 26 hours of labor, Talia's "Those were the most painful 3 hours of my life!" BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAA! Amateur 🤣🤣🤣 Oh, and for the record... an epidural doesn't help at ALL with back labor. Something I wish someone would have told me BEFORE I had a 6-inch needle jammed into my spine.
Back labor is a thing? How much labor is back labor? I already get mostly back pain during my period, and I sometimes overreact to pain so I was going to get pain meds during labor (not necessarily an epidural, the women in my family have a history of unusual reactions to pain meds in general so I'm going to talk to the doctor, but still...)
Really? I had back labor and the epidural worked a little too well - didn't wear off as quickly as expected - but then again I was lucky. Eight hours from water breaking at home to having a newborn in my arms. She did not want to come out and first, then foom, from 3 to 7 inches in minutes!
Exactly. My sister went through 36hrs of labor (doctors eventually had to induce her to get the baby to finally finish coming out). That's why hearing that other woman saying to avoid getting a c-section at all costs, I'm like, nuh unh. Not if it means jeopardizing the safety of the mom and child. There can never be ultimatums when it comes to that. *Anything* can happen. A. NY. THING.
Omgoodness yes this is true. I got so much advice during my pregnancies (I'm naturally thin so I popped early.) The worst is when they assume you're a teen mom cause you're shopping with the grandparents. Thankfully no one came up and touched me, several ladies prayed over my bump though and that was nice :) Best advice, ask if they want advice or need anything. If they say no, wish them and baby well and move on. Growing a person is hard on our bodies and minds. No need to add more worries or concerns
Definitely so true y'all. My daughter is 17 now, but I still remember all the "advice" that I got from others. Not including all the nosy ones who claimed they were giving me advice.
One, congratulations to Mary Paterson! Two, this is so true, and Three, having a C-section was the scariest thing in my life, I rather have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-Section) and deal with the diaper issue.
I'm a VBAC kiddo! My mom had to have a C-section when my oldest brother didn't turn all the way. The rest of us (four) were all much easier on her body.
Totally agree about the c-sections, mine was the worst as far as recovery goes. VBACs are normal nowadays (if your doctor doesn't have a really good reason why you can't, get somebody else), and if the diaper issue gets bad, physical therapy helps. Sincerely, 4-going-on-5-vbacs.
I envy you! My baby is the only child born on either side! My MIL let it be known that my prayer for a baby girl with red hair was horrendous. As she called it "clown hair". My babys hair was and is so bright she glows in the dark. To add further insult my mom has red hair. But then my MILs MIL was a redhead too. She was just evil.
@@queenbee3647 I'm sorry to hear that. I was delighted mine ignored us because I didn't like how some of her kids turned out. But what your MIL is doing is truly evil.
This is so true. And it doesn’t stop after they are born. Neighbours literally asked as I was walking through my front door post birth when I was going to give them a sibling. 😂😭😅 Also I was only in active labor for 12 minutes and it wasn’t that bad.
I totally love, and approve, Grandma stealing those inappropriate shorts. That is something I would do (if I had the opportunity). "How did they get in there?"
I don’t give advice unless someone asks for it. I will say the whole goal of labor and delivery? For mom and baby to survive it, and be healthy after. Everything else is gravy. But given maternal-fetal mortality rates? The real goal is living through the experience.
My advice is to avoid the mommy blogs and online mom groups. They are this advice video on steroids! Find a pediatrician you trust and he or she will help you sort through the good vs. the bad advice.
I don’t care what that dad said… I love the changing table/ dresser we got… I don’t care that the changing table part is really only good for year( son is getting too squiggly for it now to be fully safe). But as a tall person, it’s saved me bending over trying to do it in the crib or pack n play. With hard floors even with rugs I still preferred the changing table. Just out of convenience. But I got one that will serve as his dresser for several years, so not completely useless, and we can remove the changing table piece.
the baby girl should have a sturdy old school name like: hortense, mabeline, myrtle or gertrude. a sturdy name would start building her character before she was even born. 😂
Haha so true! I went out to dinner with my family on my due date (I was over a week late). Went to the bathroom and on my way out a random drunk lady was ranting and raving to her friend about the men in her life… she was blocking the door to get out and when she saw me ready to pop she fussed all over me, giving me her expert grandma advice, and kissed my belly! Her friend was mortified and apologized! I couldn’t keep a straight face. 😂😅 when I came out my family was wondering why I took so long!
I’m always super hesitant to offer advice because I know that in general, people just don’t want it. I don’t have any children, but I did have a miscarriage after 9 weeks. And I’ve been around expecting women and babies my ENTIRE life. I have 7 younger siblings, and ever since my mom stopped having babies I’ve been babysitting or nannying. I’m just saying, I’ve observed a thing or 2!
I hear you. Oldest of 8 children here and was my mother's right hand and left foot. The amount of responsibility I had was beyond what was best but I never didn't want children. Finally was blessed with my own but it is absolutely nothing like being the oldest sister. That prepared me in a lot of ways to be the best caregiver to my children that I could be but parenting your own is an entirely different thing then helping out with offspring and nieces and nephews. It is amazing
@@living4mylord I’m glad you have your own now. :) My mom was awesome and I never felt like she took advantage of my help, but I sure did plenty! I’m amazed at how deeply I can love my nieces and nephews and the children I care for - I’m not sure I’ll be fully prepared for it when I finally have my own. I’ve been single for several years now, but I still have some years left and haven’t given up hope of having my own babies.
For the last 4 months people indoctrinated me. I am not an Anger person. I spend the last days to learn how to handle unwanted advise and face the world now to stay true to my inner peace and say no directly. If I need help or advice I'll ask. ❤
TL:DR My fiancé and I have already discussed what our plans are when regarding if we have a family. I say if because if we’re not financially or mentally stable for a kid, why have one? With names, we pick one that we like and we’re sticking to it. If you don’t like it, oh well because it’s not your baby. I will ask for advice if I need it and I’ll be researching everything you tell me with my doctor/pediatrician, don’t try to make my overthinking even worse by filling my head with things like “oh you’re doing that wrong so now your kid is going to be messed up. And it’s all your fault.” I also don’t care if you’re family but if you’re a toxic person or very unhealthy (mentally and emotionally wise) then you are not a part of our and our family’s lives. I know what I’m saying seems rude or “un-Southern” but that’s just how I feel.
My ex didn't realized what a good hard working mom I was until he lost our 10 year old on a Californian beach in the dark for three hours. Our son was on the scale of Aspergers Autism and could disappear easily if you didn't watch him. Later the kids told me their father was so shaken up that he screamed at our 10 year old for 15 min inside the car after making the 7 year old stand outside the car in the dark (jerk !) . My ex called me on the east coast saying he could not find him after two and a half hours ! He hadn't called the police either ! I told him instead of looking at the cold water to go back to the whale carcass or to the fire some teens had up the beach and call the police. He was at the fire and had been there happily for hours. Moms know these things ! I lost the younger one when she was two at a mall as I was buying lunch and I freaked out badly and was screaming her name and crying. A grandmother found her in a candy store two stores down and after I got her back I bought ankle bells and made her wear them until she started to listen better.
I’ve had 3 babies. When giving advice, I always just say “Just follow your gut.” If you’re 1) not an idiot 2) have decent maternal instincts and 3) have ability to adapt to situations quickly, you’ll be fine. Lol
Ahhhh the days of being a new mom and having to ignore literally all the unwanted advice. I'm working on #3 right now. 25 weeks. Thankfully people seem to avoid giving experienced moms advice, most of the time. 😆
Of all the things I went through, what I hated most was when people tried to touch, kiss or have ANY kind of physical interaction with my son. And then when you say something they act like the victim. I don't care how long ive known you don't touch without permission. Then there were the women who had their kids taken away cuz of their dumb decisions in life (I actually knew them and what happened) trying to give me parenting advice and I'm thinking to myself why didn't you take your own advice?
Advice for the ones buying gifts for babies, diapers! Diapers are the best gifts for new borns. And they cost the same if not cheaper than monogram outfits. Many thanks from a mom. 😂
Pregnancy is pain. Honestly it's amazing what women go through and that they can do that sometimes more then one I know a family that has eight kids (not going to name names for privacy reasons)
I met a lady at my church who had 16 children (several sets of twins along with the singles, but STILL!) and my mouth kept falling open listening to her stories 😮
They say having a child doesn't come with a manual. But it sure comes with a panel of experts. 🙄
And all self appointed!
Well said. And that whole public property belly thing is just creepy
@@nobodysbaby5048 so is the crop-top type maternity clothes. I dont wanna see that sht!
My mom had 6 by the time I came along? I’m the 6th I pretty much did come with one lol. Until they found out I had a mild form of autism. That doesn’t mean nothing tho I am pretty high functioning.
Actually there are scores of parenting books ;)
As a mother of 3, I approve this message. Don't forget the random strangers who forget that your protruded belly is still part of your body and therefore not theirs to rub.
Same, Girl, same. 🤦🏻♀️ Why do strangers think they can just touch your bump?!?🙄
Who does that???
That's what I have to look forward to if I have kids? Weird
I'm a large bearded man, and I occasionally have the same problem...weird
I would instinctually take two steps back every time someone randomly came up to talk to me. They kept getting too close while they were talking. Why?!
In church a woman came up to me, rubbed my belly, and asked when my baby was finally going to be born. I was so upset.... He had been born 2 weeks ago and was in the church nursery.
I hear ya! I had a similar experience, minus the belly rub. 😄
wait they take your babies at 2weeks at church?! ours doesnt take babies until 1 year
The church grapevine lacks greatly in your congregation. We know about people's grandchildren born in other states by the first available Sunday.
Sorry, she upset you though. 😞
@@ah5721 It wasn't a large church, so there wasn't a lack of supervision issue. He was one of only 2 babies at that time, and maybe one toddler. Besides, I was only a 40 second walk to where he was if they needed me.
Solidarity. I had a lady at church ask me if I was expecting again AS I WAS HOLDING my two month old. That's not even physically possible. "It's left over from this one," I responded.
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I literally SCREAMED when Mary roasted her "mom" about the great-grandmother's name being Agnes.😂💀 Matter of fact, that whole segment was great! The Pokémon reference caught me off guard too.😂😂
My ex husband and I had an agreement about the name. He got to choose the first name and I got to choose the middle. We also didn't find out the gender. I wanted to be able to choose a boy and girl name. My little peanut got my great grandmother's American name, but she has used the Norwegian name for summer camp.
I enjoyed that Pokemon reference. It's so true, some names I have heard do sound like Pokemon although I would never say that to anyone.
I know 2 kids named after Pokémon characters. I work at a school.
All of y'all are too funny.😂
I'm just turned 25 this year and also got married earlier this year as well so I got some time before kids but I know I can't wait to be dad for sure!
@@MegaMadDog88 I listen to some fake stories on RUclips when doing stuff, I call it cheap entertainment. My daughter will come over and listen with me. The look of total astonishment on her face almost makes me laugh harder. She's turning 22 soon. I was 24 when she was born. Having kids is fun, but is still hard work. Definitely take the baby classes. You will learn a lot. However, every baby is different, and they don't come with instructions.
As the mom of a ten month old, I appreciate every time someone asks if they can give advice first, but I appreciate the people who just say they remember it was hard.
As a single father who went through this with a daughter, let me know if you need any advice and/or hacks.
Also, when the kid hits 18 and graduates from school, there won't be enough Kleenex in the world. It's a bitter-sweet moment... Awe Hell! Who's cutting onions now.
I have to admit I didn't appreciate the years of parenting advice my sister gave me as she chose to not have children. ;)
Everyone who gives me parenting advice doesn’t have children
@@mickey2201 The best (read: worst) comments is when you “let” your kid have ‘too many snacks’ or do literally anything they expect a perfect Hallmark family wouldn’t do. “Oh what horrible, lazy parents!” I don’t even have kids but I know enough to know they’re in for a shock if they ever have to babysit for more than 2 minutes
I had an argument with my grandmother about NOT giving my daughter honey on her pacifier. 🤦🏻♀️ Told her doctor about the argument and she said "Thank goodness you have a brain." 🤣
My grandma was the same way.
My granny suggested I give my baby some sugar water 😂
I had no idea ppl really did this…I am..well, a spinster, but even I know babies can’t have honey! It’s also the only food that doesn’t expire. Useless additional fact cause I’m tired.
@@Miss_Camel 😄😂😁
You can say why here…because honey, corn syrups other natural sweet syrups contain botulinum spores, which germinate in the high pH of a baby’s, who is only drinking milk, GI system (once eating solid food it’s not much of a problem). This causes infant botulism and according to my professors at the University of Wisconsin, at least 10% if not more, of reported SIDS cases are actually Infant Botulism.
"What are the trying to name, a baby or a pokemon?" That one got me. That was effing funny.
I literally cringed at the "you're gonna pop any day now." The best advice we received for our first was that EVERYONE is going to have an opinion. Take the data and use what works for you. When our twins were born, the favorite comment was "I don't know how you can manage two infants..." Like we had a choice? It was a true team effort in everything.
It seems like people come out of the woodwork to tell first time moms the most horrific delivery stories they know. It’s like some kind of weird competition to terrify the mom-to-be.
Here, have my unprocessed trauma!
I had a c-section. It was easy😂🤷♀️ definitely doing that again!😂
OMG, yes! By the time I got there, I had ahorror story for every stage of labor and delivery! I was terrified!
I really liked hearing the horror stories bc it prepared me for what could go wrong but also it let me process what I could do differently.
I ended up with 4 easy, un-medicated, vaginal deliveries. Most of the horror stories I heard were from moms who put their head in the sand and assumed the hospital would take care of everything.
Ryan's line "IT COMES OUT WHERE????" had me laughing too much. Also I am slightly concerned for the high school they went to. Did they not have health class? You know... where you'd learn about that... XD
Sadly, there are many school systems in the US that don't teach it at all.
Most US states don't even require Sex Ed to be medically accurate. Yeah, it's that bad. Quite a few only permit "abstinence only" curriculums. It's not standardized at all.
My health teacher showed us pictures of blobs that looked like the pokemon Ditto and literally told us all, this is what a baby looks like for the whole 9 months until it goes through the birth canal and thats what shapes them.
- as a C-section baby myself; I shouted out that wasn't accurate nor were those pictures correct- he turned off the pictures but refused to speak to me for ages after that.
My school system only taught the abstinence approach to sexual education. No vital information pertaining to other options like, oh… I don’t know… SAFE SEX?!
My school had health but after the first day when the teacher made a huge deal about how she was going to spend so much time thoroughly teaching us sex Ed it was never mentioned again. Granted, it was Covid year, but I found out that one of my friends, who was a freshman in high school, did not know where her own vagina was. I doubt she knows where it is today
I kept both my pregnancies a secret for as long as I possibly could for this very reason. And when people did finally find out, I wasn't exactly gracious about the endless advice and anecdotes. I started charging my coworkers money if they wanted me to answer questions, (when are you due, what are you having, do you have names picked out, yadda yadda...) It worked for a while, but eventually I had to resort to straight up telling people that I was still a person in my own right, I would like to talk about something other than babies for a change, and if you touch me again I will punch you in the throat.
You sound like a joy to be around.
@@ngs5554
She kinda sounds like she’s at the end of her rope
@Nancy GS I understand the feeling! What if someone was fascinated with your boobs and insisted on touching and rubbing all over them?! Its the same thing!
lol that's brilliant. I wish I had the smarts to charge people for my answers.
Our baby is born now, and dang are they pricey, right? 🤣 (We are ever-so grateful for hand-me-downs, though!)
My advice? Listen to what others say and then decide what works for you and your family, you know your body and what is important to you. But be up for change in plans because it sure does happen. Oh, wait I do have one other important bit of advice. When choosing names, stand outside and yell the names you are deciding on, because some just don't work, every time I yelled my middle son's name, my voice would crack. Congratulations!
That is so true! Which part you ask...all of it.
This is great advice! As a mom of 4, I approve!
Oh, and as a Single Parent: Dad, the WORST advice I ever got were from the 20 to 35 (EDIT: year old) childless women. People with kids can give some stinkers of advice from time to time, but the childless women were consistently wrong. Also, they're the judgiest, too. I joked about putting my kid in a harness with one of those retractable leashes... Man did a room of those women get so pissy. Funny thing is, one of them started watching their sister's kid and apologized to me about the comments when she had to play Toddler Hide and Seek: Mall Store Edition. (Queue Yackety Sax music, because a Benny Hill chase scene is on like Donkey Kong.)
This is the funniest RUclips comment I have read in ages. I've had to play Toddler Hide and Seek in Walmart and Kohl's, so I appreciate the Benny Hill reference.
Lol they should hire you to write for this channel. We had our first trip to ER for stitches playing that game. Rookie mom mistake was thinking we could for go a buggy to get one item. You can bet we got one of those harness before that first changing planes in crowded airport.
I had to put my youngest in a literal dog collar (hot pink, worn as a belt, with the buckle in back) on a 10’ leash. We went to a lot of auctions and flea markets, and Girlie was not only tiny and quick, she had zero impulse control.
The men were never a problem; they thought it was genius. The women (esp. the childless ones) were rude.
My baby was safe; she was comfortable. She could explore without getting lost. What else should I do?
I got a Wal-Mart put on lockdown when I was two or three because I was hiding in the clothes racks and apparently thought it was too funny to come out when I was called for. I only avoided a real ass whooping because my mother was so relieved to find me she wasn't even mad anymore.
Not to that same extent but I had to find and wrangle my son from time to time when he was little. I don't care what non-parents say... those kids' backpacks with a leash are more important that any safety lock we ever had in our house.
A friend of mine who was a first time mom specifically asked people not to give pacifiers or bottles because “it goes against our parenting plan.” I’m no parent, but I still knew that wasn’t going to work. Sure enough, when I met baby he had a paci and needed bottles to supplement breast feeding 🤷🏻♀️
Loved the line about being a midwife and making other deliveries! 😆
The thing that pisses me off the most is definitely people policing how others should give birth. SO rude and uncalled for. Every single situation is different and no plan is any less valid than any other 😡
It ticked me off when someone stated that if a baby is born via c-section the mom is "not a real mom" total bullsh*t
And also some postpartum matters. News flash, not everyone can breastfeed Janet
If anyone ever tries to pull that with any of the women in my family I think I'm going to loudly tell them about how me, my mother, and my three siblings would all be dead if my mother had insisted on natural birth only
I handed a copy (I had one for me, my partner and a spare) of my birth plan to the nurse who took it to read over with her partner. She came back and asked if I was a scientist. Turns out yes I am! Had a good laugh at that.
And no plan is fool-proof. A lady may plan a natural birth as much as she wants, but emergencies happen in birth, and sometimes a C-section becomes necessary (unfortunately, in some places doctors still cannot do it without the patient's consent, even if it's a matter of life and death. Some people refuse to do it, killing either the mother, or the baby, or both).
"I do other types of deliveries you know" - awesome line
I got SO MUCH pregnancy advice….from an aunt who never had kids, never wanted kids, hated kids…
OMG me too! She also had the nerve to send me links to different birth classes and was pissed when I decided that I was not going to take any of them!
😂
Ladies, say clearly no to this. Free yourself. My circle is very diverse and multicultural. I got so different feedback from everyone. It was so inconsistent even between Gyn and midwife and family doc.
You are able to make the right decisions for yourself and your baby.
As a Single Parent: Dad, I didn't have changing tables. The floor, bed, and the couch all worked just fine... (Yeah, the suggestion is a Dad Advice suggestion. You wouldn't hear mom's saying that stuff.)
We didn't have a changing table for our son either. My husband didn't want to spend the outrageous amount to get one, and I don't think they are very safe. (I knew someone who fell off of one as a baby and had brain damage. The floor worked just fine for us.)
changing table is a "like to have" but def not a need.
We use the floor and bed WAY more than we ever use the changing table.... the changing table is just where we store the creams or whatever needed for those situations.... also clothes I haven't folded.... those end up there too lol.
I did it , I'm a mom. But who really likes getting up from the floor when they can be at optimal height and not hurt my back that's already tired and sore from bouncing said baby or baby wearing ?!
I’m a mom who doesn’t like having useless crap around the house, and I approve this message. We used the pack n play to change most of the time. I also started changing my kids standing up as soon as they could stand and it made them WAY less fussy at changes.
Must you make EVERYTHING about gender? I used the floor and bed just fine, thank you, and I'm a Mum.
This video literally triggered some apparent pregnancy-PTSD in me haha, I got a bit of anxiety remembering my 3 pregnancies and these kinds of unwelcome interactions.
Nooo Touching
No Touching
Unless you want me to feel you up.
No Touching!
Why is this a thing? Hands off! Period! It isn't hard.
Yeah, I have an aunt named Agnes. Always considered it an unfortunate name, but her sister, my other aunt, is named Dorcas...that's even worse.
I have an aunt Dorcas. The name is Biblical and is the name of a woman who devoted her life to charity and acts of kindness.
@@KimberlyGreen Yes, my Grandmother named all her 8 children from Biblical names. But that doesn't make the name any more attractive, unfortunately, even if someone knows that the name is Biblical. I have a sister named Kimberly, too.
@@laurabentley937 Lol, hopefully you have a more positive association with 'Kimberly'. I'll admit that, as a kiddo, I thought her name was odd. But since knowing its meaning, I personally think it's nice.
I once had a co-worker named Dorcas.
@@KimberlyGreen yes, Kimberly, my sister Kim is the best sister ever!
I’ve known a few salt-of-the-earth moms whose all time least favorite question was, “Have you prepared the nursery yet?” One of them just started saying bluntly, “There’s no nursery to prepare; we have a one-bedroom apartment.”
Came to the advice rescue of a friend one time. It was lunch time, pregnancy of course was the topic (Actual experience not required for participation) . Started a conversation about morning sickness and constipation (It's pregnancy, deal with it). Subject was changed pretty durned quick. We were both smiling. Out right laughter would have been rude😜😝🤭
Piggly Wiggly - I remember frequenting that supermarket in Tennessee around twelve years ago.
Mama knows best. Not ur mama, u the Mama. Listen to yourself above all else. Youll be just fine. ❤ Just had my first this spring. Had to learn some hard lessons about listening to advice. Turns out im rockin it my way.
No joke. She needed to hear that about preK. I called around when my son was 5 mo old and was basically laughed at and one told me if I'd wanted in, I should have been on the list 4 yrs ago. 4 YEARS!!! WHO KNOWS THEY'RE HAVING A BABY 5 YEARS IN ADVANCE?!!
The daycare statement is on point!
I don't have an opinion on anyone else's pregnancy or delivery or anything. Just do your best, and try not to mess your kid up more than you can help.
Wait! Thought of one. Be careful with names. My ex brother in law had the initials W.A. D. & his mom got him monogrammed everything.
His school life was rough.
had a friend, initials .... S.T.D
Could have been worse lol.
My husband is the proof checker on names for this reason!! He helps me think of some great ones😎
Mom spent over 24 hours in the hospital trying to get me out 😳 She did everything 1984 experts recommended, but I came out with all the health problems 😛 Genetics, y'all.
Exactly. There's a lot of set-in-stone crap that none of the avocados, scented oils, and pre-natal vitamins in the WORLD can help with. Plus, it constantly feels like every 10 years we find out the stuff people recommended expectant moms to do previously, ended up actually being not good.
@@BlackTigr I think the desire for a feeling of control motivates a lot of it. It’s easier for a stranger to blame my autism on Mom giving me the MMR shot than admitting that I was conceived with it.
Same here: my mom was 23.9 hours of labor and NO epidural in 85.
@@ARasputinaFan My last two babies....I was induced and in active labor for about 72 hours. Oh, and the epidural did not work. But, I am most thankful that, no matter how much pain I endured, I have wonderful babies that grew up to become kind, caring, considerate and loving adults---one with a big family of her own (her husband's, too, of course ).
I used to get harassed at church about when I was going to have children. It got so bad that I stopped going on Mother’s Day because of the comments I got.
I will admit Ryan's advice about not needing a changing table was spot on. We had one for the first but just ended up using a gigantic changing pad on the floor or bed. Also ditched the diaper genie after a month. Never bought the wipe warmer. Same with the bottle warmer. Figured if they got used to either at home, there would be problems on the road. I had one friend who had to carry around a thermos of warm water because their baby wouldn't drink room temp formula after it got used to the bottle warmer at home! 🤣
This reminds me of my extended family. Not just in this area, but every area of everyone's life.
Example. Cousin number 1 HELPED me plan my Dad's memorial service. Cousin number 2, CHANGED the date of my Dad's memorial service without even asking me.
I didn't mind everyone's advice for the most part because like all of life, I took what I felt fit and let the rest roll off. What I did mind was strangers coming up and rubbing my belly. It's still my body and I did not want anyone I didn't know and felt close to to touch it.
One of my friends went through this with each of her pregnancies (she has 3 kids). I've heard so many stories from her. During her first pregnancy I was with her shopping at Target because she wanted my opinions and she was approached by a woman who heard her telling me she was trying to decide if she wanted it natural or an epidural. This lady said she "wasn't a real mom" if she had an epidural. She told her it was her first and I could see her getting upset because of being berated like that. I lost my shit and snapped at her. I asked if she was a mom and she said no. So I said "Then how do you know what's best for her? The pain from labor can be quite awful but it's not up to you to make the ** call! She will know when tbe time comes!" It went into a tirade up till the manager stepped in. She asked what was wrong and I told him. I forgot what she said but the manager told her to leave. He understood my friend's point because his wife went through it a few months prior. One week later her daughter was born and she had an Epidural. I was there with her for the birth because her husband was in the Navy. Sometimes you gotta stand up for what you want. You can listen to advice but do what you feel is best. Not everyone will have the exact same experience. 😊
I just love the grandmother! Put her in more videos!
Yes, this video needed to be made. I am expecting in March and have gotten so much advice. Everyone has opinions, and sometimes it can get old, and you don't want to be mean.
If you need any advice let me know!! LOL. Totally joking! I'm a mom of a few children and can relate to soooo many of these comments. There are so many opinions and so much unsolicited advice from friends and family, even from complete strangers! It can get overwhelming. I just tried to take it all in stride and realized that most of them had good intentions and were totally thrilled for me. Best wishes to you!
"You don't want to be mean." Honey, I was meaner than a junkyard dog by the time I was seven months with my first one. 😂 I don't cuss, but I did just about everything else, including threatening to tase people if they touched me without permission. Don't be afraid to tell people to just hush up; it's good practice for after the baby is born, when EVERYONE has something to say about EVERYTHING you do as a parent. 🤦♀
Yes you do want to be mean at some point a simple I heard eating mixed nuts could help prevent nut allergies but idk. Done over one sentence then you get others you send articles, pictures, links and call if they remember some random detail or complete strangers demand to know your birth plan. You really want to tell them to jump of a cliff or hit them.
I have 6 kids...every pregnancy, birth, and kid is different. There is NO advice, only experience with your body and your baby. Congratulations and enjoy!!
Two pieces of advice: 1) don't teach em to Walk. 2) don't teach em to Talk.
Oh! And be sure to start them out with Can't Bust Ems ™
They try to walk push em back down on their bottom!
So many MtB on here saying "I hate when people give me unsolicited advice" are going to be sharing their own unsolicited advice 🤣
Reminds me of the older women who'd find out he was my first* pregnancy, and just Evil Laugh in front of me.
I get it now 😈
*first to survive 😔
Oh please, please do a video about all the unwanted advice given to new moms.
That was pretty much this.....
@@living4mylord Nah - you get a whole new round of unsolicited advice after the baby is born.
As someone who went through 26 hours of labor, Talia's "Those were the most painful 3 hours of my life!" BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAA! Amateur 🤣🤣🤣 Oh, and for the record... an epidural doesn't help at ALL with back labor. Something I wish someone would have told me BEFORE I had a 6-inch needle jammed into my spine.
my first : I had 27 hours of all back labor my second one came in 8 hrs. 3 hours sound like a heavenly birth to me !
Back labor is a thing? How much labor is back labor? I already get mostly back pain during my period, and I sometimes overreact to pain so I was going to get pain meds during labor (not necessarily an epidural, the women in my family have a history of unusual reactions to pain meds in general so I'm going to talk to the doctor, but still...)
Really? I had back labor and the epidural worked a little too well - didn't wear off as quickly as expected - but then again I was lucky. Eight hours from water breaking at home to having a newborn in my arms. She did not want to come out and first, then foom, from 3 to 7 inches in minutes!
Exactly. My sister went through 36hrs of labor (doctors eventually had to induce her to get the baby to finally finish coming out). That's why hearing that other woman saying to avoid getting a c-section at all costs, I'm like, nuh unh. Not if it means jeopardizing the safety of the mom and child. There can never be ultimatums when it comes to that. *Anything* can happen. A. NY. THING.
👏👏👏👏👏 back labor - punishment from hell.
Omgoodness yes this is true. I got so much advice during my pregnancies (I'm naturally thin so I popped early.) The worst is when they assume you're a teen mom cause you're shopping with the grandparents. Thankfully no one came up and touched me, several ladies prayed over my bump though and that was nice :)
Best advice, ask if they want advice or need anything. If they say no, wish them and baby well and move on. Growing a person is hard on our bodies and minds. No need to add more worries or concerns
Lol Adam is like Kirk in Gilmore Girls. He's everywhere and can do anything in town!
😂💗
Definitely so true y'all. My daughter is 17 now, but I still remember all the "advice" that I got from others. Not including all the nosy ones who claimed they were giving me advice.
One, congratulations to Mary Paterson! Two, this is so true, and Three, having a C-section was the scariest thing in my life, I rather have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-Section) and deal with the diaper issue.
I'm a VBAC kiddo! My mom had to have a C-section when my oldest brother didn't turn all the way. The rest of us (four) were all much easier on her body.
Totally agree about the c-sections, mine was the worst as far as recovery goes. VBACs are normal nowadays (if your doctor doesn't have a really good reason why you can't, get somebody else), and if the diaper issue gets bad, physical therapy helps. Sincerely, 4-going-on-5-vbacs.
@@mandywinter8871 Thank you so much! It gives me hope
Just to add my voice - I had two VBACs, no issues. You can do it!
The only person who didn't give me advice was mother-in-law. She already had so many grandkids from her 3 daughters, mine got lost in the shuffle!
I envy you! My baby is the only child born on either side! My MIL let it be known that my prayer for a baby girl with red hair was horrendous. As she called it "clown hair". My babys hair was and is so bright she glows in the dark. To add further insult my mom has red hair. But then my MILs MIL was a redhead too. She was just evil.
@@queenbee3647 I'm sorry to hear that. I was delighted mine ignored us because I didn't like how some of her kids turned out. But what your MIL is doing is truly evil.
@@queenbee3647 Red hair is _beautiful._ Any and every shade. I have a niece with coppery Anne Shirley hair. It's gorgeous.
This is so true. And it doesn’t stop after they are born. Neighbours literally asked as I was walking through my front door post birth when I was going to give them a sibling. 😂😭😅
Also I was only in active labor for 12 minutes and it wasn’t that bad.
I totally love, and approve, Grandma stealing those inappropriate shorts. That is something I would do (if I had the opportunity). "How did they get in there?"
Can I just say y'all make my day...love every one of y'all! Keep up the great work.
Amazon delivery midwife that’s a very interesting combination LOL
I remember one of Talia's previous skits, which was more scary, about being in labor for hours and then the hospital lights went out.
tha dawg is my favorite part. YESSS
I have 4 children. I have spoken to all these people! Every single time!!!! You do you boo!
Next up....advice for new father's to be....southern style 😱
I DIED at “I do other kinds of deliveries”
I don’t give advice unless someone asks for it. I will say the whole goal of labor and delivery? For mom and baby to survive it, and be healthy after. Everything else is gravy. But given maternal-fetal mortality rates? The real goal is living through the experience.
Ah, I see the playing Mozart = smart baby is still popular.
Women have been having babies for thousands of years. You're gonna be fine, Momma.
The days maybe long but the time is so short spend time with your little ones because they grow so fast!
I have no children and I was independent in college but I do know a lot of people who could provide that KD rec!
oh my gosh this came out as I'm going to birthing class today so funny!
this is so very true! heard alot of this during my three pregnancies
My advice is to avoid the mommy blogs and online mom groups. They are this advice video on steroids! Find a pediatrician you trust and he or she will help you sort through the good vs. the bad advice.
*"IT COMES OUT WHERE?!?!?!??!!?!!!?"*
Absolutely brilliant! 🤣🤣🤣 Boy mom times 4 here. 🤣🤣🤣
Bet you don't take crap from anyone, do you? -mom of three boys
"Don't let people touch your baby." - Talia probably
Here's my unsolicited pregnancy advice. Apples hurt to throw up. And pears, raw carrots, cucumber. . .
I hope she got those shorts back. That outfit was adorable!!!!
I don’t care what that dad said… I love the changing table/ dresser we got… I don’t care that the changing table part is really only good for year( son is getting too squiggly for it now to be fully safe). But as a tall person, it’s saved me bending over trying to do it in the crib or pack n play. With hard floors even with rugs I still preferred the changing table. Just out of convenience. But I got one that will serve as his dresser for several years, so not completely useless, and we can remove the changing table piece.
Love it. 😍 Lot's of love from Germany. ❤
"Babies wear baby clothes, not mini adult clothes." Yes. I agree.
Meanwhile the guy and the guys friends talking about how bad you f***ed up.
the baby girl should have a sturdy old school name like: hortense, mabeline, myrtle or gertrude. a sturdy name would start building her character before she was even born. 😂
Haha so true! I went out to dinner with my family on my due date (I was over a week late). Went to the bathroom and on my way out a random drunk lady was ranting and raving to her friend about the men in her life… she was blocking the door to get out and when she saw me ready to pop she fussed all over me, giving me her expert grandma advice, and kissed my belly! Her friend was mortified and apologized! I couldn’t keep a straight face. 😂😅 when I came out my family was wondering why I took so long!
Are they trying to name a baby or a pokemon got me 😂
Nothing wrong with raleigh.
@@dancingghostgirl2291 For a pokemon.
Love it, especially at the end when the dog gave advice.
I’m always super hesitant to offer advice because I know that in general, people just don’t want it. I don’t have any children, but I did have a miscarriage after 9 weeks. And I’ve been around expecting women and babies my ENTIRE life. I have 7 younger siblings, and ever since my mom stopped having babies I’ve been babysitting or nannying. I’m just saying, I’ve observed a thing or 2!
I hear you. Oldest of 8 children here and was my mother's right hand and left foot. The amount of responsibility I had was beyond what was best but I never didn't want children. Finally was blessed with my own but it is absolutely nothing like being the oldest sister. That prepared me in a lot of ways to be the best caregiver to my children that I could be but parenting your own is an entirely different thing then helping out with offspring and nieces and nephews. It is amazing
@@living4mylord I’m glad you have your own now. :) My mom was awesome and I never felt like she took advantage of my help, but I sure did plenty! I’m amazed at how deeply I can love my nieces and nephews and the children I care for - I’m not sure I’ll be fully prepared for it when I finally have my own. I’ve been single for several years now, but I still have some years left and haven’t given up hope of having my own babies.
Even the damn dog 😂😂
So true!!! Am glad my baby is 27 now
Ha ha and to think my mother was in labor for 42 hours.... what would they have done
The guy in the parking lot launching right into advice -- I nearly died 🤣
For the last 4 months people indoctrinated me. I am not an Anger person. I spend the last days to learn how to handle unwanted advise and face the world now to stay true to my inner peace and say no directly.
If I need help or advice I'll ask. ❤
Wipe warmers are not needed and can be dangerous. Just keep the wipes out and they'll be fine.
I kept being told, “Everything is going to change!” and was ready to scream at the constant repetition
One piece of advice, you probably dont need that C-section.
I like how yall chose Pokémon, i like Pokémon, and those are kinda like a few of the Pokémon names
TL:DR
My fiancé and I have already discussed what our plans are when regarding if we have a family.
I say if because if we’re not financially or mentally stable for a kid, why have one? With names, we pick one that we like and we’re sticking to it. If you don’t like it, oh well because it’s not your baby. I will ask for advice if I need it and I’ll be researching everything you tell me with my doctor/pediatrician, don’t try to make my overthinking even worse by filling my head with things like “oh you’re doing that wrong so now your kid is going to be messed up. And it’s all your fault.” I also don’t care if you’re family but if you’re a toxic person or very unhealthy (mentally and emotionally wise) then you are not a part of our and our family’s lives. I know what I’m saying seems rude or “un-Southern” but that’s just how I feel.
As a man, I'm 99.999% sure I have no advice to give women about their bodies.
My ex didn't realized what a good hard working mom I was until he lost our 10 year old on a Californian beach in the dark for three hours. Our son was on the scale of Aspergers Autism and could disappear easily if you didn't watch him. Later the kids told me their father was so shaken up that he screamed at our 10 year old for 15 min inside the car after making the 7 year old stand outside the car in the dark (jerk !) . My ex called me on the east coast saying he could not find him after two and a half hours ! He hadn't called the police either ! I told him instead of looking at the cold water to go back to the whale carcass or to the fire some teens had up the beach and call the police. He was at the fire and had been there happily for hours. Moms know these things !
I lost the younger one when she was two at a mall as I was buying lunch and I freaked out badly and was screaming her name and crying. A grandmother found her in a candy store two stores down and after I got her back I bought ankle bells and made her wear them until she started to listen better.
People who don't let me carry things, lol, drives me nuts!
Brinngs back memories - confusion all over the place. Do breastfeed - baby formulas are kinda iffy-especially now. God Bless :)
I’ve had 3 babies. When giving advice, I always just say “Just follow your gut.” If you’re 1) not an idiot 2) have decent maternal instincts and 3) have ability to adapt to situations quickly, you’ll be fine. Lol
Ahhhh the days of being a new mom and having to ignore literally all the unwanted advice. I'm working on #3 right now. 25 weeks. Thankfully people seem to avoid giving experienced moms advice, most of the time. 😆
Congrats Mary Patterson.
Of all the things I went through, what I hated most was when people tried to touch, kiss or have ANY kind of physical interaction with my son. And then when you say something they act like the victim. I don't care how long ive known you don't touch without permission. Then there were the women who had their kids taken away cuz of their dumb decisions in life (I actually knew them and what happened) trying to give me parenting advice and I'm thinking to myself why didn't you take your own advice?
Advice for the ones buying gifts for babies, diapers! Diapers are the best gifts for new borns. And they cost the same if not cheaper than monogram outfits.
Many thanks from a mom. 😂
Pregnancy is pain. Honestly it's amazing what women go through and that they can do that sometimes more then one I know a family that has eight kids (not going to name names for privacy reasons)
I met a lady at my church who had 16 children (several sets of twins along with the singles, but STILL!) and my mouth kept falling open listening to her stories 😮
The only person without an opinion…? The father and your father.
I'm 59 and have never had a child, but this was hilarious!!!
Mother of two lovely boys, both natural births. I was both chuckling and rolling my eyes at this! Good job, y'all!
I love it when Pokemon gets refferanced in things