When you know your timeless Self and there is no fear of death, the experience of pain loses much of its charge. So much of our suffering is fear of certain experiences/outcomes, and therefore the belief that they need to be avoided. Seen from What you are, the threat is not present, and the experience no longer appears as a problem, a wrongness or an obstacle.
The end of expecting the end of suffering. The end of expecting a new state. To embrace all experiences. I am is your essence. You are is my essence. 🙏 🙏 🙏
Your explanation of the natural balance between yin and yang is truly eloquent. Your words have helped me understand that without darkness, there can be no light, and without pain, there can be no pleasure. As I have personally experienced this teaching, I have come to see that accepting what is, regardless of whether it is pleasure or pain, brings me a sense of peace. I have also realized that when I resist pain or crave pleasure, I create unnecessary suffering for myself. However, when I accept both pleasure and pain and let go of expectations, even the difficult moments do not seem as unbearable. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable video with us. 🙏❤️
Love to you Daniel, thank you so much for this is so timely in my experiences now. It is reassuring to be reminded of true Self that which we all are. When caught unexpectedly it is easy to go down and suffer but the awareness that brings us back into being. And such a reminder from you brought me back to the beauty of Being. Have wonderful seasonal celebrations Daniel and everyone. Love to you all.
I'm proud to be able to embrace the fear of death. And simultaneously ride the concept of self preservation . the concept is inclusive of self awareness and self observation. Pain leads to thankfulness -thankfullness leads to reason - and-reason is love. The right reason is the question, the answer to which has to be paid for, while it cannot be bought.
Nameste, Daniel. I am a new subscriber to your channel. I am absolutely inspired by your ability to articulate the challenges of being attached to our personality. Thank you for sharing your insights. Shanti! Shanti! Shanti!
😂 that you should come to a show and have a grand ole time! 🤘🏽cuz this whole enlightenment business doesn't need to be lacking in juiciness, FUN and aliveness. Au contraire! 💜
Hi Daniel I have a tendency to inflict my own pain/misery thru my actions/ reactions to unpleasant, challenging situations , despite my efforts to stay in the moment.I meditate as well and I,am aware of my ego and the stories of the mind. An example is me watching porno,s and I feel deep shame and I don,t know how to react in a non duality way ie to this dilemma. I feel disgusted and tainted and would be very grateful for your guidance. I have traumatic past (I know I,am not alone there) and have been off antidepressants for two years now. I recently started smoking again which does,nt agree with me and agitates me after not having smoked for a long time. I,am on the right path but find my own inflicted behaviour damaging. Have you any guidance for me in this regard.
Hey brother. First, if you'd like to have a proper process with this (beyond what can be shared in an online public comment), I warmly invite you (I believe there's a link to my website in the description). You might be surprised at how quick the suffering can pass away when observed "properly"/"correctly". That said, without talking to you and from the little you've shared, I see a judgment in the mind about how you should be and what awakening should look like. In other words, self-judgment. It's not your behavior that's damaging, but your beliefs. Your beliefs are primary to your emotions and actions. It's not so much the actions that are the problem but the meaning-making around them, the judgment of them. What you judge you fix in place; what you accept you can release (and if not, you don't mind, because you accept it. Some things don't NEED to be released, despite what we think). Come back to the Self, when you have a moment, then when you feel sufficiently absorbed in that bring up your judgments, your self-disgust, definitely the shame - focus more on the way you respond to yourself when you do those things you think (and were conditioned, perhaps by society, spiritual books or religion) that you shouldn't do. If you are really seeing from the Self, no judgment, no preference - but being STILL - these things will dissolve. Harmfulness toward yourself will not stand. Do NOT underestimate the power of stillness to move things (I hope you understand the seeming paradox in that sentence). Then, the action may or may not change, but it won't present as a problem anymore. (Yet, I'll say again, self-harm or, more accurately, disempowering stuff falls away). I shared a post recently (you can find it in my community tab) that says this is not about attaning some sort of idea of perfection, but about being truly OKAY with yourself. When you really understand Self-love, you'll FEEL the freedom, which is PEACE THROUGHOUT THE FLOW OF LIFE. It's not about CONTROLLING the flow - nor yourself, but accepting it fully, wholly. Which... only the Wholeness can do! And you'll see you are the whole when you accept yourself EXACTLY as you are. E-X-A-C-T-L-Y. If you need to change first before you can love what is/yourself, that's conditional love, which is non-acceptance. It's counter-intuitive for the mind, but acceptance is the key to change, stillness the key to movement (release). You say you're aware of your mind's stories, but you're not aware of what you're not aware of. Part of the point of doing a session is the process of inquiry through which we make the unconscious conscious, and then look at it together. It's much easier with guidance, because the truth is the mind tries to escape or complicate the process... it evades stillness. But, overall, you could say it depends how established in the Self you are and how clear you are about the mechanics of all this. Some people will say this is all nice words until they come and experience it for themselves. I hope for you, brother/sister, that whether you come or DIY, you truly experience the release of disempowerment, realizing you are never a slave to what is, but its Origin. THAT's Power. And it's What you are in essence. You're The One, brother 🙏🏽
@@DanielShai Hi Daniel Thankyou so much for your feed back, very much appreciated. I would like to correspond with you via your website,I don't know however which one. Is it this one which is Daniel @(which I,am writing to you now) or your RUclips link,found on the "about" icon on your home page? I had considered removing my comment after reading your reply but it maybe useful for others.I,am under another name and I can change that as well. So I,ll leave my Post. Ps I will re read your reply so I can reflect on the content probably. Bye for now
@@one497 Hey friend. My website is www.sunrayteaching.com (you can copy-paste this on google or just click the link in the video description). If you mean my email, then that it: danielshai@sunrayteaching.com . I do appreciate you deciding to leave your comment. Who knows who might find it down the road and benefit from it. I want to celebrate your willingness to share vulnerably 🙏🏽 Wishing you the best! (don't forget that "the best" is sometimes disguised as "the worst" 😉💜).
By resisting the dark side we validate its existence , thou its illusiory. Darkness doesn't have existence, it's the absence of light. O ly light haa existence
Hmm not really. That’s something I do in personal sessions. Need another person to really show how it works, preferably several different examples because it tends to be unique. Since you asked, however, might do a video explaining the general process, if so the flow goes 🙏🏼
This all sounds fine and dandy for moderate amount of suffering but What about extreme pain and suffering? The body naturally wants to avoid pain look at people on 9/11 they jumped off the towers 80 stories high because of the extreme heat of the flames and what about children who grow up being raped throughout their childhood it’s only natural they use all kinds of coping mechanisms like drugs to deal with the pain. If we were all meant to suffer just to learn and expand then what’s the point of the extreme side of pain, it’s like beating a dead horse and why don’t we all instinctually know this purpose?
My question is can YOU use this wisdom? Now? There’s situations where using drugs makes more sense than not. But I’ve worked with LOTS of people who’ve been repeatedly raped in their childhood, and they have zero charge left in them regarding that experience. Don’t underestimate your own power. Please understand that in a video - even a longer one - you can’t really explain EVERYTHING. The point you’re making is not the point of the video; that would be a separate video about extreme situations. There could be many reasons for extreme and unendurable pain, but that’s a different topic. (Interestingly we don’t see extreme pleasure as invalid, yet how could one extreme exist without the other?). And in some cases it would be better to die than to live, and that’s okay too and a part of this as well. But if the message of this video can help thousands, should we invalidate because there are some whom it might not help?
Regardless the issues raised in your inquiry do surface from time to time in these circles and rarely are the addressed directly so I would like to suggest that in the future Daniel make a video talk that takes a deep drive into extreme suffering. This topic gets side stepped too often.
I find almost impossible to explain any extreme case situation without considering 'work of karma' at least for starting point, in which at some point we should transcend this believe also. If we are a hard core believer that this life is the only one before eventualy we die then God will put us in hell or heaven for eternity then we will never even accept that God is really just and love.
@@katandmouseyt I'll be perfectly straight with you: There's a reason it's rarely addressed head-on in public platforms like YT, and that is that it won't fly well in a public setting. I do address this in one-on-one's, for sure. Not in a public or group setting, though, because most people are not ready to really listen, but rather will get very triggered and reactive. Even with the best of explanations.Simply, the comment section would be a "shit-show." It's rather futile. Furthermore, if someone can't embrace an experience of mild unpleasantness in their own life, can they and should they really be asking about extreme situations? (I don't mean you specifically, I'm speaking generally). One ought to begin with seeing no wrongness or problem with a "normal" (not extreme) situation that most people label "bad" or "wrong." That said, I'm gonna go for it anyway in the next 5 paragraphs. Ready? Prepare to be extremely dissatisfied: The answer, ultimately, is that there is no answer. These things are terrible, and we have to accept that terrible things exist. I have no miracle answer to somehow turn the terribleness into okayness. Those things are NOT okay, yet I'm okay with being not okay with them. Somehow I'm okay with their existence and okay with my response of disgust and being unable to bear them. One has to be quite established in the Self in order to "understand" that, because I don't see how the mind can, and in order to not be reactive with this topic. One has to really know that there's nothing to lose. Know the sky deeply, and then even the nastiest cloud is ultimately inconsequential, and its terrible pain - as intense as it was - still leaves no mark on The One. Does this mean that I'm okay with being burnt alive? Hell no! If I can choose I'd rather shoot myself in the head. There's LOTS of things I'm not okay with -- but I'm TOTALLY okay with not being okay with them. I accept that. Nothing to prove. If "fu*k this!" arises, then that's what arises. As I said earlier, when things get really extreme, it might not be worth living anymore (although I wouldn't rush to that conclusion), one might feel "f*ck this!" - and that's fine. Death isn't such a big deal from the perspective of Self. Nothing is lost. A clue has been given above (in my previous comment) in saying that we never complain about the existence of extreme pleasure. If one side of the yin-yang can be extreme, so can the other. It's just nature. If you're infinite potential, you'll manifest always in all ways. ALL. Some of those ways you might love intensely and others you might hate intensely. And unconditional love allows both the love and the hate, both the positive extreme and the negative extreme. It's choiceless. Being all, it has no choice. There's no justification I can give for that that will satisfy a mind. Parts of this play do suck. BADLY. Only the Self can hear it and be like, "Yea, man, it's WILD!" (Of course, really, the Self remains silent, but the point is there's an absence of seriousness, and one of the reasons it's not a great idea to make a public video about this is that you can't put the term "non-seriousness" next to "extreme terrible situations" - which is why I reserve this stuff for personal sessions and answer the person according to what they're able to receive). Some things are incredibly sucky just as some things are incredibly glorious. As high as this goes, that is exactly how low it goes as well. It is what it is, whether you like it or not. I suppose the question is, "Can you accept that some things suck really really really really (times a thousand) BAD?" What explanation could make you accept that? It's a fact! It's there whether you accept it or not. As I said in the video, so much of this is about just being realistic. These things (like burning alive) are unacceptable, but nevertheless they exist. You have to accept that there are things that are unacceptable, and be okay with that. There are things that if they happen, you will suffer terribly. I mean, you might go and learn from yogis perhaps how not to, but I'm not going to spend my life energy on fear of a brief experience of unbearable pain that may never take place. (As a side-note, it's quite surprising when you hear certain accounts of torture and accounts from the holocaust - how some people seemed to completely transcend the body and the mind). If I could give an answer that could take the suffering out of burning alive, believe me I would. I straight-up can't. The only thing is that there's a part that knows it doesn't mean anything, it just sucks. That part I can't explain to the mind. It's an impersonal experience. It's not taken personally. But that doesn't mean it doesn't suck. If the answer regarding dealing with extremes is supposed to provide some miraculous way to be okay with such things, well I guess I'm not the character to ask about it. All I know is that it sucks terribly, and it is what it is and I don't spend my time and thought raging against it. Sure, it's beautiful to take action to make the world a better place where such things don't happen, but not from a place of against -- rather from a place that is focused on the change you'd like to see. At the end of the day, I no longer think about what isn't here, hypothetical situations. Am I burning alive now? No. I used to lay awake at night trying to figure out how I could respond to torture in a way that would help me not feel the intensity of the pain if it ever were to occur. All I did was lose sleep and suffer. Over something that wasn't present in my life in any way. I don't think about it. Because I'm not trying to accept it. But I'm also not pretending it doesn't exist. I find it unacceptable and I accept that it is unacceptable to me. If it happened, it would just be terrible, and that's that. That satisfies me completely, but it will not satisfy a mind, as I said earlier. A "part of me" (the real I) knows it sucks but it's nothing. It's not real. Just an extremely sucky experience in the dream. If you want reasons and justifications, again, you can listen to those who speak from the soul perspective. Maybe Neale Donald Walsch, NDErs and the like... I say it just is. As high as the experience of light can be, to that extent the depth of darkness can reach. I have rarely (if at all) seen a mental explanation/justification for why it is this way, satisfy anyone, even if it was absolutely brilliant. You can find those explanations in circles that speak from the perspective of various reasons for incarnating. People like Christian Sundberg and similar type material, as well as channeled stuff. Truth is, in my view, that a mind that is actually ready for the answer will let go of the question. There's no need for an answer. Life is what it is, with ALL its colors. BOTTOM LINE: There's no answer except to be the Self and see it all from here. It doesn't make it okay, it doesn't make you like it, it's still shit, and that's okay. Shit of the worst kind is a part of this. I've made total peace with the fact that shit exists - shit that if I can help it I never want to experinece - yet I also know there's no guarantees. I've had a knife cut my eye during surgery without anesthesia. Did it suck? Yes. Could I do something about it? No. Did it pass? Yes. Was it, at the end of the day, but another cloud in the sky that I am? 100%!
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When you know your timeless Self and there is no fear of death, the experience of pain loses much of its charge. So much of our suffering is fear of certain experiences/outcomes, and therefore the belief that they need to be avoided. Seen from What you are, the threat is not present, and the experience no longer appears as a problem, a wrongness or an obstacle.
The end of expecting the end of suffering.
The end of expecting a new state.
To embrace all experiences.
I am is your essence.
You are is my essence.
🙏 🙏 🙏
You got it, dear friend 💜 Thanks for having the ears to hear.
💝🙏
“The only way to be fully human is to know that you are not human “
Profound so true!!
I don't get it.
My personality is way too proud.
Pride is a vice but the control is not mine.
So glad that I decided to listen. Amazing THANK YOU!!
🙏🏼💜
Thank you Daniel. ❤
Thank you Daniel 🙏 Much LOVE ❤
Your explanation of the natural balance between yin and yang is truly eloquent. Your words have helped me understand that without darkness, there can be no light, and without pain, there can be no pleasure. As I have personally experienced this teaching, I have come to see that accepting what is, regardless of whether it is pleasure or pain, brings me a sense of peace. I have also realized that when I resist pain or crave pleasure, I create unnecessary suffering for myself. However, when I accept both pleasure and pain and let go of expectations, even the difficult moments do not seem as unbearable. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable video with us. 🙏❤️
Yes! Thank you 🙏🏼
Wonderful, just wonderful 😊
Love to you Daniel, thank you so much for this is so timely in my experiences now. It is reassuring to be reminded of true Self that which we all are.
When caught unexpectedly it is easy to go down and suffer but the awareness that brings us back into being. And such a reminder from you brought me back to the beauty of Being.
Have wonderful seasonal celebrations Daniel and everyone.
Love to you all.
Beautiful 🙏🏼 Blessings, love.
I'm proud to be able to embrace the fear of death. And simultaneously ride the concept of self preservation . the concept is inclusive of self awareness and self observation. Pain leads to thankfulness -thankfullness leads to reason - and-reason is love.
The right reason is the question, the answer to which has to be paid for, while it cannot be bought.
Nameste, Daniel. I am a new subscriber to your channel. I am absolutely inspired by your ability to articulate the challenges of being attached to our personality. Thank you for sharing your insights. Shanti! Shanti! Shanti!
Thank you 🙏🏽💜🌞
I love what you give us …grassroots wisdom Thank you💗
🙏🏼☺️
Love your vibe man!
Don't be shy. What do you want to tell us about your Rock n roll band?
😂 that you should come to a show and have a grand ole time! 🤘🏽cuz this whole enlightenment business doesn't need to be lacking in juiciness, FUN and aliveness. Au contraire! 💜
pain , the jewle of awareness.
Hi Daniel
I have a tendency to inflict my own pain/misery thru my actions/ reactions to unpleasant, challenging situations , despite my efforts to stay in the moment.I meditate as well and I,am aware of my ego and the stories of the mind.
An example is me watching porno,s and I feel deep shame and I don,t know how to react in a non duality way ie to this dilemma.
I feel disgusted and tainted and would be very grateful for your guidance.
I have traumatic past (I know I,am not alone there) and have been off antidepressants for two years now.
I recently started smoking again which does,nt agree with me and agitates me after not having smoked for a long time.
I,am on the right path but find my own inflicted behaviour damaging.
Have you any guidance for me in this regard.
Hey brother. First, if you'd like to have a proper process with this (beyond what can be shared in an online public comment), I warmly invite you (I believe there's a link to my website in the description). You might be surprised at how quick the suffering can pass away when observed "properly"/"correctly". That said, without talking to you and from the little you've shared, I see a judgment in the mind about how you should be and what awakening should look like. In other words, self-judgment. It's not your behavior that's damaging, but your beliefs. Your beliefs are primary to your emotions and actions. It's not so much the actions that are the problem but the meaning-making around them, the judgment of them. What you judge you fix in place; what you accept you can release (and if not, you don't mind, because you accept it. Some things don't NEED to be released, despite what we think). Come back to the Self, when you have a moment, then when you feel sufficiently absorbed in that bring up your judgments, your self-disgust, definitely the shame - focus more on the way you respond to yourself when you do those things you think (and were conditioned, perhaps by society, spiritual books or religion) that you shouldn't do. If you are really seeing from the Self, no judgment, no preference - but being STILL - these things will dissolve. Harmfulness toward yourself will not stand. Do NOT underestimate the power of stillness to move things (I hope you understand the seeming paradox in that sentence). Then, the action may or may not change, but it won't present as a problem anymore. (Yet, I'll say again, self-harm or, more accurately, disempowering stuff falls away). I shared a post recently (you can find it in my community tab) that says this is not about attaning some sort of idea of perfection, but about being truly OKAY with yourself. When you really understand Self-love, you'll FEEL the freedom, which is PEACE THROUGHOUT THE FLOW OF LIFE. It's not about CONTROLLING the flow - nor yourself, but accepting it fully, wholly. Which... only the Wholeness can do! And you'll see you are the whole when you accept yourself EXACTLY as you are. E-X-A-C-T-L-Y. If you need to change first before you can love what is/yourself, that's conditional love, which is non-acceptance. It's counter-intuitive for the mind, but acceptance is the key to change, stillness the key to movement (release).
You say you're aware of your mind's stories, but you're not aware of what you're not aware of. Part of the point of doing a session is the process of inquiry through which we make the unconscious conscious, and then look at it together. It's much easier with guidance, because the truth is the mind tries to escape or complicate the process... it evades stillness. But, overall, you could say it depends how established in the Self you are and how clear you are about the mechanics of all this. Some people will say this is all nice words until they come and experience it for themselves. I hope for you, brother/sister, that whether you come or DIY, you truly experience the release of disempowerment, realizing you are never a slave to what is, but its Origin. THAT's Power. And it's What you are in essence. You're The One, brother 🙏🏽
@@DanielShai
Hi Daniel
Thankyou so much for your feed back, very much appreciated.
I would like to correspond with you via your website,I don't know however which one. Is it this one which is Daniel @(which I,am writing to you now) or your RUclips link,found on the "about" icon on your home page?
I had considered removing my comment after reading your reply but it maybe useful for others.I,am under another name and I can change that as well. So I,ll leave my Post.
Ps I will re read your reply so I can reflect on the content probably. Bye for now
@@one497 Hey friend. My website is www.sunrayteaching.com (you can copy-paste this on google or just click the link in the video description). If you mean my email, then that it: danielshai@sunrayteaching.com . I do appreciate you deciding to leave your comment. Who knows who might find it down the road and benefit from it. I want to celebrate your willingness to share vulnerably 🙏🏽 Wishing you the best! (don't forget that "the best" is sometimes disguised as "the worst" 😉💜).
Hi,
Will do, thankyou!
🙏❤
By resisting the dark side we validate its existence , thou its illusiory. Darkness doesn't have existence, it's the absence of light. O ly light haa existence
Awesome
🙏🙏🙏
❤️
Hi. Thanks for this. Appreciated much. Do you have self-inquiry meditation videos? Thanks
Hmm not really. That’s something I do in personal sessions. Need another person to really show how it works, preferably several different examples because it tends to be unique. Since you asked, however, might do a video explaining the general process, if so the flow goes 🙏🏼
The main obstacle is carnal desire and false beliefs.
Why? There was a reason that we chose a bodily existence...why not enjoy the ride?
It really helped me daniel...
🙏🏼🌞
@@DanielShai it feels like I already know u..
@@SRAVANTHI435 “Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends.” ~ Hafiz
@@DanielShai may be u r my best friend
This all sounds fine and dandy for moderate amount of suffering but What about extreme pain and suffering? The body naturally wants to avoid pain look at people on 9/11 they jumped off the towers 80 stories high because of the extreme heat of the flames and what about children who grow up being raped throughout their childhood it’s only natural they use all kinds of coping mechanisms like drugs to deal with the pain. If we were all meant to suffer just to learn and expand then what’s the point of the extreme side of pain, it’s like beating a dead horse and why don’t we all instinctually know this purpose?
My question is can YOU use this wisdom? Now?
There’s situations where using drugs makes more sense than not. But I’ve worked with LOTS of people who’ve been repeatedly raped in their childhood, and they have zero charge left in them regarding that experience. Don’t underestimate your own power.
Please understand that in a video - even a longer one - you can’t really explain EVERYTHING. The point you’re making is not the point of the video; that would be a separate video about extreme situations. There could be many reasons for extreme and unendurable pain, but that’s a different topic. (Interestingly we don’t see extreme pleasure as invalid, yet how could one extreme exist without the other?). And in some cases it would be better to die than to live, and that’s okay too and a part of this as well.
But if the message of this video can help thousands, should we invalidate because there are some whom it might not help?
@@DanielShai ok I guess my comment was outside the scope of your video fair enough
Regardless the issues raised in your inquiry do surface from time to time in these circles and rarely are the addressed directly so I would like to suggest that in the future Daniel make a video talk that takes a deep drive into extreme suffering.
This topic gets side stepped too often.
I find almost impossible to explain any extreme case situation without considering 'work of karma' at least for starting point, in which at some point we should transcend this believe also. If we are a hard core believer that this life is the only one before eventualy we die then God will put us in hell or heaven for eternity then we will never even accept that God is really just and love.
@@katandmouseyt I'll be perfectly straight with you: There's a reason it's rarely addressed head-on in public platforms like YT, and that is that it won't fly well in a public setting. I do address this in one-on-one's, for sure. Not in a public or group setting, though, because most people are not ready to really listen, but rather will get very triggered and reactive. Even with the best of explanations.Simply, the comment section would be a "shit-show." It's rather futile. Furthermore, if someone can't embrace an experience of mild unpleasantness in their own life, can they and should they really be asking about extreme situations? (I don't mean you specifically, I'm speaking generally). One ought to begin with seeing no wrongness or problem with a "normal" (not extreme) situation that most people label "bad" or "wrong."
That said, I'm gonna go for it anyway in the next 5 paragraphs. Ready? Prepare to be extremely dissatisfied:
The answer, ultimately, is that there is no answer. These things are terrible, and we have to accept that terrible things exist. I have no miracle answer to somehow turn the terribleness into okayness. Those things are NOT okay, yet I'm okay with being not okay with them. Somehow I'm okay with their existence and okay with my response of disgust and being unable to bear them. One has to be quite established in the Self in order to "understand" that, because I don't see how the mind can, and in order to not be reactive with this topic. One has to really know that there's nothing to lose. Know the sky deeply, and then even the nastiest cloud is ultimately inconsequential, and its terrible pain - as intense as it was - still leaves no mark on The One. Does this mean that I'm okay with being burnt alive? Hell no! If I can choose I'd rather shoot myself in the head. There's LOTS of things I'm not okay with -- but I'm TOTALLY okay with not being okay with them. I accept that. Nothing to prove. If "fu*k this!" arises, then that's what arises. As I said earlier, when things get really extreme, it might not be worth living anymore (although I wouldn't rush to that conclusion), one might feel "f*ck this!" - and that's fine. Death isn't such a big deal from the perspective of Self. Nothing is lost.
A clue has been given above (in my previous comment) in saying that we never complain about the existence of extreme pleasure. If one side of the yin-yang can be extreme, so can the other. It's just nature. If you're infinite potential, you'll manifest always in all ways. ALL. Some of those ways you might love intensely and others you might hate intensely. And unconditional love allows both the love and the hate, both the positive extreme and the negative extreme. It's choiceless. Being all, it has no choice. There's no justification I can give for that that will satisfy a mind. Parts of this play do suck. BADLY. Only the Self can hear it and be like, "Yea, man, it's WILD!" (Of course, really, the Self remains silent, but the point is there's an absence of seriousness, and one of the reasons it's not a great idea to make a public video about this is that you can't put the term "non-seriousness" next to "extreme terrible situations" - which is why I reserve this stuff for personal sessions and answer the person according to what they're able to receive). Some things are incredibly sucky just as some things are incredibly glorious. As high as this goes, that is exactly how low it goes as well. It is what it is, whether you like it or not.
I suppose the question is, "Can you accept that some things suck really really really really (times a thousand) BAD?" What explanation could make you accept that? It's a fact! It's there whether you accept it or not. As I said in the video, so much of this is about just being realistic. These things (like burning alive) are unacceptable, but nevertheless they exist. You have to accept that there are things that are unacceptable, and be okay with that. There are things that if they happen, you will suffer terribly. I mean, you might go and learn from yogis perhaps how not to, but I'm not going to spend my life energy on fear of a brief experience of unbearable pain that may never take place. (As a side-note, it's quite surprising when you hear certain accounts of torture and accounts from the holocaust - how some people seemed to completely transcend the body and the mind). If I could give an answer that could take the suffering out of burning alive, believe me I would. I straight-up can't. The only thing is that there's a part that knows it doesn't mean anything, it just sucks. That part I can't explain to the mind. It's an impersonal experience. It's not taken personally. But that doesn't mean it doesn't suck. If the answer regarding dealing with extremes is supposed to provide some miraculous way to be okay with such things, well I guess I'm not the character to ask about it. All I know is that it sucks terribly, and it is what it is and I don't spend my time and thought raging against it. Sure, it's beautiful to take action to make the world a better place where such things don't happen, but not from a place of against -- rather from a place that is focused on the change you'd like to see.
At the end of the day, I no longer think about what isn't here, hypothetical situations. Am I burning alive now? No. I used to lay awake at night trying to figure out how I could respond to torture in a way that would help me not feel the intensity of the pain if it ever were to occur. All I did was lose sleep and suffer. Over something that wasn't present in my life in any way. I don't think about it. Because I'm not trying to accept it. But I'm also not pretending it doesn't exist. I find it unacceptable and I accept that it is unacceptable to me. If it happened, it would just be terrible, and that's that. That satisfies me completely, but it will not satisfy a mind, as I said earlier. A "part of me" (the real I) knows it sucks but it's nothing. It's not real. Just an extremely sucky experience in the dream.
If you want reasons and justifications, again, you can listen to those who speak from the soul perspective. Maybe Neale Donald Walsch, NDErs and the like... I say it just is. As high as the experience of light can be, to that extent the depth of darkness can reach. I have rarely (if at all) seen a mental explanation/justification for why it is this way, satisfy anyone, even if it was absolutely brilliant. You can find those explanations in circles that speak from the perspective of various reasons for incarnating. People like Christian Sundberg and similar type material, as well as channeled stuff. Truth is, in my view, that a mind that is actually ready for the answer will let go of the question. There's no need for an answer. Life is what it is, with ALL its colors.
BOTTOM LINE: There's no answer except to be the Self and see it all from here. It doesn't make it okay, it doesn't make you like it, it's still shit, and that's okay. Shit of the worst kind is a part of this. I've made total peace with the fact that shit exists - shit that if I can help it I never want to experinece - yet I also know there's no guarantees. I've had a knife cut my eye during surgery without anesthesia. Did it suck? Yes. Could I do something about it? No. Did it pass? Yes. Was it, at the end of the day, but another cloud in the sky that I am? 100%!
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