Keeping malice with your partner is a form of emotional abuse..abuse is not only when you beat a woman..it can be emotional,financial(esp when the man is a sole provider) etc..
“Am I a wife beater?” Frank Edoho has given an answer to this question which exemplifies the kind of response physically and psychologically abusive men give to such an inquiry. They speak about all the good things they do for their wives and all the amazing things they do for women while equivocating on the question. If Frank says he is not physically abusive towards his wife, whether the former or the current one, then as someone without any clear conflicting evidence I would have to believe him. However, it must be clearly stated that the keen ears of psychologists who are trained in the field and adept at understanding how abusive men respond, may pick up troubling bells upon listening to Mr Edoho. Note: Psychologists warn it is it is important to know that abusers rarely engage in abuse 100 percent of the time. There are frequent periods of kindness and calm. Such as those described by Mr Edoho: photography, hugs, polite conversations and so on. These periods of kindness do not invalidate moments of abuse but are actually a part of the cycle of emotional manipulation. Be wise.
😅😅😅😅 thank you. He took too much time to arrive at his answers with many shalaye up/down. Traits of a wife beater. But then some women like stuff like that. To each their own.
The question met him accidentally. I don't know if he was informed of this question before hand. But Teju knows the answer already, he is intelligent. That's why all the hmm, hmm in between Frank's shalayes. We all get the real answer to the question. Teju had to relieve him of the sweat and pull h off the hook.
Keeping malice is not good either, in my opinion it is a form of abuse also (emotional abuse) it's always wise to talk about whatever it is that you are not happy about in your relationship. God bless you, sir.
Sometimes, when issues happen between you and someone, there is a tendency that you want to keep quiet so that the person realizes his or her mistake. I will only have issues with that if it lingers on for long (especially in marriage)...and I believe that the other person should be able to pick change in the air and apologize accordingly. Also, I might have issues with this case if Mr Frank is wrong and yet maintains the attitude...while the wife is right. But for this...I believe maturity in marriage is not just about understanding your partner's words...but feelings, emotions, needs, mood...and lot more bunch to that. He is communicating with a gesture that his wife would pick...I will say
Intelligent conversation! I hope this chat will open women mind to see how sophisticated they are and not drag respect with men when they are in actually in control.
Hmmm I’ve read a lot of comments and I must say, I’m quite impressed that people are very good at analyzing other people’s opinion and drawing out some sort of comprehensive conclusion based on their perceptions and ideologies but the truth remains that we are all humans and we all see, listen and act on things differently. No man’s (both male and female) perfect so don’t try to play God in other people’s lives. Every human on earth must or should have a cope mechanism. To you it might be wrong because you would’ve preferred that he acted exactly how you played out the scenario in your mind but the truth is, He’s not you! and whatever he’s dealing with in general, if you were to fill those shoes, you might have died. I guess my point is when you listen to people pouring out their mind or sharing what they know, simply listen and pick the ones that are relevant to you. You don’t have to agree with everything. Always remember that only the person who wears the shoes, knows where it hurts.
Frank might have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) trait. 1. He cited the fact that he beats his partner using malice. Maliciousness also known as "Silent Treatment" is tool used by someone to punish their loved one. An healthy mind will want to talk (communicate) a person with NPD will not. He might actually beat his first wife but Malice (silent treatment) might be the new cane for the second wife because there was noise that he beats his first. 2. He said if you're married you should not allow friends and acquaintances get involved in your marriage. Naturally marriages should not involved third party (family and friends) but that's also a tool of Isolation (to keep those who will witness his abuse and protect his victim at bay. Classical NPD act. 3. He went ahead to elaborate on what he has done for his wife that a wife beater or abusive person will not do and when his wife suggest he should do it and get paid for it he made her realize that he's doing it "For Her"-, classic NPD tool called Love Bombing. An NPD will beat you , beg you, blame you,pamper you,tell you they love you then beat you again, blame you again,beg you again, pamper you again 4. He talked passionately about the need for submission and used reverse psych to elaborate that the way a woman can control a man is yo submit. In my opinion,the best way a woman can get alone with a man is to be patient and tolerant and same goes for the man. Seeking for submission is like seeking for control. One thing about people with NPD is that they always see their partner or children as an extension of themselves (whatever such does they believe reflects back on their personal image.) Hence such individual's autonomy (wife or child ) needs to fall in alliance with whomever they (NPD) projects them to be. His body language says he's still hurt by the divorce (he walks out of the marriage) As long as their woman's voice(sense of identity and autonomy does not rise above theirs they have no problem) but if you are a woman , a child that has a voice of his or her own and want to be heard, you either get active aggression (which might results to physical violence) or passive aggression (Malice -Silent treatment)
Your explanation answered all my silent questions. I was like " that is an emotional beating" so it's beating as well. For me , no matter the issue we should be able to discuss it and move ahead. Hear him say with pride ' my wife knows. If she crosses the line......" It's hmmmmmm I can say
I wish I was incentivized. If I was, the word "Might" wont be in that first line. Because using NPD without proper diagnosis is dangerous but those close to him will know and believe me no matter how blissful his current home is, he's not happy that he walked out of it. Because the thought of it will always make him look like a failure and also the offline and online bashing etched in his memory. He walked out first I guess so that he could say "I left the marriage for her not she left me in the marriage" It's always about image and how they want their ego driven image to be impeccable.. you need to experience or read up on it to understand what it is.
Nice talk..i like the way he address the wife beating issue....but bear in mind some wife beater can soo pamper there wife..help them with anything go extra mile for there wife and still beat the hell out of her..... don't even think what u think...der are mentally okay 😂😂😂...maybe not 100 shaa..infact what I noticed is the women beater are the most gentle in the society 😂😂awon weyrey sha
No deep Yoruba proverb gets lost in translation with Teju, he always knows the right way to translate. I thoroughly enjoyed watching, you are exceptional at what you do. 🎉🎉
Onr who follows Teju right from the days of the stand ups and talk shows would know following Teju helps you get with English and funny yoruba,,, at least I speak for my self
He is a narcissist period I believe when he's the one on the wrong side he expects the woman to continue to give all the attention to him not the other way round as he does 💔 he is an emotional abuser 💔 💔 💔
Hmm , I disagree with Frank Idoho on what he think a wife beater is A wife beater can actually do all he does I.e support ,cherish allow the wife freedom and bla bla bla.and still remains a wife beater When a man cherish his woman so much and believe she understand him but been betray by the same woman and he. is not mature enough to let go of the woman , I mean work away being that he has emotionally invested greatly, he will beat her. However an almost mature man will count his lost and move away with his sanity carry his pains to death or being hill with time because marriages is not boy friend and girl friend thing. A mature man will recount, readjust and continue the relationship wish is also a risk , because that can lead him to 6ft below the ground or a happy ending. Keeping malice with your spouse is good if you have a good woman that understand and cherish you she will quickly know that you are angry for a specific matter and settle with you but it should not be abused by using it to.blackmail her else it will creat a bad wagon, but keeping malice with obnoxious woman !! It will give you a psychological truma , it's not good for anybody's health
You are king of malice! That is called emotional abuse and is worst than physical abuse. It is man-less men that can't express their source of anger but instead keep malice. How disappointing.
Many good points, especially the 'power of a woman'. BUT, BUT, BUT.... to boast as a king of malice shows a height of childishness. It's so dangerous and can crash your home. I say this, not because of him, even though I hope he does better in that regard, but because of those unmarried and fragile minds who think they are learning life lessons from this show. Teju kept quiet over that, didn't comment. Being diplomatic? Hope you told him behind camera to walk on that weakness?
If you keep malice, you’re immature. Will you eat her food if you keep malice with her? If you reject her food it’s even worse, you must grow from being a boy to becoming a man please.
This Frank sef, I don't believe everything you said, even the way you are shaking and talking. Why didn't you say what made you and your ex wife divorce? Submission will still not stop the man from committing adultery or beating the woman. People sometimes change in their 2nd marriage.
@Emmanuelafrank1873 You lack grasping and decoding information; you cant understand his knowledge because experience speak forth from his mouth and you lack the experience.. thanks for been effortlessly sincere in this conversation MR frank
Keeping malice with your partner is a form of emotional abuse..abuse is not only when you beat a woman..it can be emotional,financial(esp when the man is a sole provider) etc..
You just nailed it!
“Am I a wife beater?”
Frank Edoho has given an answer to this question which exemplifies the kind of response physically and psychologically abusive men give to such an inquiry.
They speak about all the good things they do for their wives and all the amazing things they do for women while equivocating on the question.
If Frank says he is not physically abusive towards his wife, whether the former or the current one, then as someone without any clear conflicting evidence I would have to believe him.
However, it must be clearly stated that the keen ears of psychologists who are trained in the field and adept at understanding how abusive men respond, may pick up troubling bells upon listening to Mr Edoho.
Note: Psychologists warn it is it is important to know that abusers rarely engage in abuse 100 percent of the time. There are frequent periods of kindness and calm. Such as those described by Mr Edoho: photography, hugs, polite conversations and so on. These periods of kindness do not invalidate moments of abuse but are actually a part of the cycle of emotional manipulation.
Be wise.
My thoughts exactly. By not directly answering that particular question, when he directly answered others, I conclude that he is a wife beater.
Nor mind am,na wife beater..
Let me not say too much.
His first wife was my sister's personal friend.
Yeye dey smell.
😅😅😅😅 thank you. He took too much time to arrive at his answers with many shalaye up/down. Traits of a wife beater. But then some women like stuff like that. To each their own.
@@sose9601😢wtf!!
The question met him accidentally.
I don't know if he was informed of this question before hand.
But Teju knows the answer already, he is intelligent.
That's why all the hmm, hmm in between Frank's shalayes.
We all get the real answer to the question.
Teju had to relieve him of the sweat and pull h off the hook.
Keeping malice is not good either, in my opinion it is a form of abuse also (emotional abuse) it's always wise to talk about whatever it is that you are not happy about in your relationship. God bless you, sir.
Sometimes, when issues happen between you and someone, there is a tendency that you want to keep quiet so that the person realizes his or her mistake. I will only have issues with that if it lingers on for long (especially in marriage)...and I believe that the other person should be able to pick change in the air and apologize accordingly.
Also, I might have issues with this case if Mr Frank is wrong and yet maintains the attitude...while the wife is right.
But for this...I believe maturity in marriage is not just about understanding your partner's words...but feelings, emotions, needs, mood...and lot more bunch to that.
He is communicating with a gesture that his wife would pick...I will say
True
You’re right. Silent treatment is emotional abuse
That's ur business
So impressive
This is want I call an informative podcast
Thanks , I learnt a lot 🙏
Thanks Mr Frank and Mr Teju ❤❤❤
Love you both @ Mr Teju @ Mr Frank...Intelligent discourse...LEGENDS
Abosolute LEGENDS
Wow! There are many Golden words in this interview. Thanks so much for doing this. I really learnt alot.
Thank you so much, Mr Frank. Your advice is so appreciated. God bless you 🙏
I am very excited to see the educating interview video, I learnt a lot from it. Thank you big bros Teju may Allah strengthen you the more
Intelligent conversation! I hope this chat will open women mind to see how sophisticated they are and not drag respect with men when they are in actually in control.
Hmmm I’ve read a lot of comments and I must say, I’m quite impressed that people are very good at analyzing other people’s opinion and drawing out some sort of comprehensive conclusion based on their perceptions and ideologies but the truth remains that we are all humans and we all see, listen and act on things differently. No man’s (both male and female) perfect so don’t try to play God in other people’s lives.
Every human on earth must or should have a cope mechanism. To you it might be wrong because you would’ve preferred that he acted exactly how you played out the scenario in your mind but the truth is, He’s not you! and whatever he’s dealing with in general, if you were to fill those shoes, you might have died.
I guess my point is when you listen to people pouring out their mind or sharing what they know, simply listen and pick the ones that are relevant to you. You don’t have to agree with everything. Always remember that only the person who wears the shoes, knows where it hurts.
Teju presents his questions brilliantly
Like...
Waoh
This is really an eye opener
I clapped in between
Thank you Teju and Frank
Frank might have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) trait.
1. He cited the fact that he beats his partner using malice. Maliciousness also known as "Silent Treatment" is tool used by someone to punish their loved one. An healthy mind will want to talk (communicate) a person with NPD will not. He might actually beat his first wife but Malice (silent treatment) might be the new cane for the second wife because there was noise that he beats his first.
2. He said if you're married you should not allow friends and acquaintances get involved in your marriage. Naturally marriages should not involved third party (family and friends) but that's also a tool of Isolation (to keep those who will witness his abuse and protect his victim at bay. Classical NPD act.
3. He went ahead to elaborate on what he has done for his wife that a wife beater or abusive person will not do and when his wife suggest he should do it and get paid for it he made her realize that he's doing it "For Her"-, classic NPD tool called Love Bombing. An NPD will beat you , beg you, blame you,pamper you,tell you they love you then beat you again, blame you again,beg you again, pamper you again
4. He talked passionately about the need for submission and used reverse psych to elaborate that the way a woman can control a man is yo submit. In my opinion,the best way a woman can get alone with a man is to be patient and tolerant and same goes for the man. Seeking for submission is like seeking for control.
One thing about people with NPD is that they always see their partner or children as an extension of themselves (whatever such does they believe reflects back on their personal image.) Hence such individual's autonomy (wife or child ) needs to fall in alliance with whomever they (NPD) projects them to be.
His body language says he's still hurt by the divorce (he walks out of the marriage)
As long as their woman's voice(sense of identity and autonomy does not rise above theirs they have no problem) but if you are a woman , a child that has a voice of his or her own and want to be heard, you either get active aggression (which might results to physical violence) or passive aggression (Malice -Silent treatment)
Your explanation answered all my silent questions.
I was like " that is an emotional beating" so it's beating as well.
For me , no matter the issue we should be able to discuss it and move ahead.
Hear him say with pride ' my wife knows. If she crosses the line......"
It's hmmmmmm I can say
I can only conclude that you were incentivized to drop this article you call a comment coz what? 😏
@@faaizakinwumi6778I can't agree more
And I think he's also a wife beater
I wish I was incentivized. If I was, the word "Might" wont be in that first line. Because using NPD without proper diagnosis is dangerous but those close to him will know and believe me no matter how blissful his current home is, he's not happy that he walked out of it. Because the thought of it will always make him look like a failure and also the offline and online bashing etched in his memory. He walked out first I guess so that he could say "I left the marriage for her not she left me in the marriage" It's always about image and how they want their ego driven image to be impeccable.. you need to experience or read up on it to understand what it is.
Great words from Mr Frank and Mr Teju... I learnt alot
Loved this! Thank you.
The way Frank speaks softly 😊
So much wisdom in a video clip...
Nice talk..i like the way he address the wife beating issue....but bear in mind some wife beater can soo pamper there wife..help them with anything go extra mile for there wife and still beat the hell out of her..... don't even think what u think...der are mentally okay 😂😂😂...maybe not 100 shaa..infact what I noticed is the women beater are the most gentle in the society 😂😂awon weyrey sha
This was so nice to watch.Well done
No deep Yoruba proverb gets lost in translation with Teju, he always knows the right way to translate. I thoroughly enjoyed watching, you are exceptional at what you do. 🎉🎉
Onr who follows Teju right from the days of the stand ups and talk shows would know following Teju helps you get with English and funny yoruba,,, at least I speak for my self
Omo! You guys are the real deals.
Okay! This is deep. I wanted him to go on
Two intelligent men doings ❤✋
Emotional and psychological abuse is the worst kind form of abuse
This is quite personal to me. Hoping for more podcasts like this in the future.
This one strong ooh, king of malice
He is not a wife beater but as he dey speak he dey scare me ....
He's an Alpha Male
I concur....
E fear me o
Mee too
Mumu plenty
Frank is totally on point , most men are the same.
Women have so much power over men but they just don't know how to use.
Take what impresses you about all Frank said,all these people analysing him,you should come take his seat and talk about yourself,lets see.
Sound wisdom
That was so intensely GOOD!!! DEEP!!!
This guy is so immature! Boasting that he keeps malice with his wife!
If he is married to someone like me, then we will go 10 years without talking to each other.
I see flying monkeys, word salads, over bloated sense of self etc Frank, rest!
😂😂
He is a narcissist period I believe when he's the one on the wrong side he expects the woman to continue to give all the attention to him not the other way round as he does 💔 he is an emotional abuser 💔 💔 💔
Hmm , I disagree with Frank Idoho on what he think a wife beater is
A wife beater can actually do all he does I.e support ,cherish allow the wife freedom and bla bla bla.and still remains a wife beater
When a man cherish his woman so much and believe she understand him but been betray by the same woman and he. is not mature enough to let go of the woman , I mean work away being that he has emotionally invested greatly, he will beat her.
However an almost mature man will count his lost and move away with his sanity carry his pains to death or being hill with time because marriages is not boy friend and girl friend thing.
A mature man will recount, readjust and continue the relationship wish is also a risk , because that can lead him to 6ft below the ground or a happy ending.
Keeping malice with your spouse is good if you have a good woman that understand and cherish you she will quickly know that you are angry for a specific matter and settle with you but it should not be abused by using it to.blackmail her else it will creat a bad wagon, but keeping malice with obnoxious woman !! It will give you a psychological truma , it's not good for anybody's health
Ogbeni post all these sweet interviews jare, stop this your half half thing
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This convo is strictly for the grown and the sexy
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The lamb cap style has been fully imbibed
You are king of malice! That is called emotional abuse and is worst than physical abuse. It is man-less men that can't express their source of anger but instead keep malice. How disappointing.
"MALICE" is the wrong word. MALICE is to harm.
Malice as it is used, is a Nigerian English. It is probably what a British would call Sulking.
This man is still a domestic abuser 🙄
Many good points, especially the 'power of a woman'.
BUT, BUT, BUT.... to boast as a king of malice shows a height of childishness. It's so dangerous and can crash your home.
I say this, not because of him, even though I hope he does better in that regard, but because of those unmarried and fragile minds who think they are learning life lessons from this show.
Teju kept quiet over that, didn't comment. Being diplomatic? Hope you told him behind camera to walk on that weakness?
If you keep malice, you’re immature. Will you eat her food if you keep malice with her? If you reject her food it’s even worse, you must grow from being a boy to becoming a man please.
Frank Frank
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This Frank sef, I don't believe everything you said, even the way you are shaking and talking. Why didn't you say what made you and your ex wife divorce? Submission will still not stop the man from committing adultery or beating the woman. People sometimes change in their 2nd marriage.
Gbam!!!!
Because he is accountable to you right ? They should bring their private affairs to you, just to satisfy your curiosity.😎
@@wisdomejiogu7685 he is a wife beater.
Don't mind him.
@Emmanuelafrank1873 You lack grasping and decoding information; you cant understand his knowledge because experience speak forth from his mouth and you lack the experience.. thanks for been effortlessly sincere in this conversation MR frank
People like you are the ones on the internet holding to stories about celebrities that have no iota of truth.