I agree with everything he said. My mom always told me “ There are some things left better unsaid”…. I wish I had taken that advice. Too much honesty is NOT always a good thing. I say really think before you speak. If it’s not going to help strengthen your relationship, it’s probably left better unsaid.
I just revisited this channel to look back on who I used to be. I shake my head at it now. I'm so glad I'm not burdened with caring about this stuff anymore. Only invest your time and energy into those who care about you - family, your children, nieces, nephews etc. They are the ones who matter in the end. And just enjoy your life, it's short!
To protect relationship, Never share/confess: 1. Body count 2. Past relationship trauma 3. Past infidelities 4. That your best friend is cheating 5. Ex was better (at something) 6. Ill feeling about his family members 7. Crushes Disagree about #1. But only because mine is 0 😒. I'm just terribly conservative, and want to wait for marriage 🤷. It can be an issue sometimes. So, if the other person is being honest, I am too. And then if I don't hear from them, well, there's my answer.
Agree about #1 I used to talk to my husband about the problems of my parents only tp know that when we had arguments/fight he used it against me. After that i never told him whatever happens in my parents or siblings
I agree. I don't share information about my past sexual relationships with my boyfriend. I don't ask him about his past sexual relationships. I ask myself this question. Do I really need to know the answer to my question? Does it really matter in my current relationship? Don't ask a question that you don't want the answer to...
Hello @dianenorton7954, Thank you for watching my video and sharing your thoughts on the topic of discussing past sexual relationships with your current partner. I appreciate your perspective and agree that it's important to ask ourselves if we really need to know the answers to certain questions. It's ultimately up to each individual to decide what they're comfortable with sharing and discussing with their partner. As you mentioned, sometimes it's better to avoid asking a question if we don't want to know the answer. Thanks again for your comment and for engaging with my content. Antonio
@@theresaebhomenye6424 Depends on how high the count is. I started dating a woman in my late 20’s and she admitted to me that her number was over 50. In your 20’s and over 50, was an immediate turn off for me as a guy!
Wise advice here. My ex wouldn't exactly say he hated my parents but he was critical of them and refused to visit them. He ended up holding a grudge and never apologized to them. It was just one more source of conflict in the marriage. Also, I admitted to a crush on someone we knew and he already disliked the man. And I never understood why because I thought I'd always acted neutral about the man. A lot of guys are insecure and you have to be careful not to step on their egos. Also, I've always been blown away when I tell somebody something in confidence and they later throw it up in my face and use it against me. Very immature and manipulative, and I'd never do it to anyone I love and respect.
100% agree! Body count is no one’s business. Not even your bff. It’s one thing you keep it to yourself because it really doesn’t make you less but it can entice judgement. Yeah, family is family. 100% on that! Never done it and never will. Everyone has theirs pros and cons… focus on their pros. Past relationship traumas… are… to… be… discussed… with… your… therapist. No bffs, no one… maybe also your mom. That’s it. And… comparing him to exes. Ouch. That’s hurtful. I was compared to exes and it’s no bueno. I resented him. Thank you, Dr. Antonio!
I wish I new this 2 years ago. I shared many of your points and was judged by my recent ex and it breaks my heart that my vulnerabilities were used as weapons by the one I loved and trusted the most.
I’m so happy that I discovered your RUclips channel, your advice works like magic. I don’t have a partner coz I recently broken 💔up but with your guidance it doesn’t hurt much , I wasn’t treated right and you always say be willing to walk away if your taken for granted. You are the best Antonio😍😍😍
Hello @MsSwankie10, Thank you for watching my video and for leaving a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the list I provided to be helpful and doable. My goal with these videos is to provide practical advice and actionable steps that viewers can take to improve their lives and relationships, so it means a lot to me to hear that you found the list to be beneficial. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Antonio
I love all your videos. They are totally on point! It’s hard to find good advice for those in long term relationships. You’re advice is always spot on! I always thought the more I shared the better but I learned the hard way that is not the way to go. I wish I had this information a long time ago
Hello @beccaaustin9678, Thank you for watching my videos and for leaving such a kind and supportive comment. I'm thrilled to hear that you find my advice to be helpful and on point, especially when it comes to navigating long-term relationships. It's common to think that the more we share with our partners, the better, but sometimes that can lead to unintended consequences, especially if we're not communicating in a healthy and constructive way. I'm sorry to hear that you learned this lesson the hard way, but I'm glad that my videos have been able to provide you with some helpful insights and guidance. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Your support means a lot to me, and I'm always here to provide any advice or information that I can to help you navigate your relationships in a healthy and positive way. Antonio
I agree with Becca, your videos are more positive than anything I've found on the Internet. Most of all, you don't make outrageous success claims to sell a product.
Antonio you look like you have lost so much weight! What’s your secret. Thanks for the words of wisdom as always! Always be the top shelf and not the sale rack! And you’re right about not letting your past negatively affect your future and present relationships. It’s a rear view mirror for a reason!
Hello @lisahurst1940, Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm thrilled to hear that you found the video to be helpful and that you agree with my point about not letting your past negatively affect your present and future relationships. It's so important to focus on the present and the future rather than getting caught up in things that can't be changed. I love the analogy you used about being the top shelf and not the sale rack - that's a great way to think about it! Thanks again for watching and engaging with my content, and feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions for future topics or questions you'd like me to address. Antonio
My comment is a question. If you know that a member of your partner's family is trying to sabotage your relationship, would it not be better to use his insight to help resolve the problem early, so it would has less impact on your relationship, rather than just let this information become increasingly disruptive. To pretend it doesn't exist, feels like that wouldn't be helpful. I am a strong believer that you can adjust strategies to get along with someone, even if you are not fond of them: to keep the peace so to speak. Burying the problem may not be healthy, particularly when there is a purposeful manipulation or back stabbing meant to be destructive to your relationship. I am speaking about resolving the problem being caused with your mate, rather than the problem with the person who is attacking you. I find burying this kind of problem is contradictory to intimacy, expectations, and self-confidence in the relationship. I have had to deal with people who have had mental illness and attacked me publicly on our very first meeting, how would you suggest this be addressed or and do you suggest to bury your feelings? I could do that, but would not want to have much contact with that person. I think it will come out somewhere else in the relationship. My ex's mother used to try to set up "private tristes" with his ex-girlfriend, in private places in the afternoon where they could be alone. He would tell me about what his mother was doing. I suggested that I didn't think she was fond of me. She also told me directly he didn't need someone like me. (I was a professional, and she wanted him to have a full-time housewife). I let that go because he did not want to see the other woman, but potentially there is a major problem looming with his mother's continual interference. How would you handle these situations?
I agree on all. I did one of those with my husband n it hurt my relationship. But thankfully, we were able to get through it. And trust me ppl it was hard to get through. Thank you Antonio. I list track of you during the pandemic. I'm Glad I found your videos again. BTW. You look great!
Hello @miriammarcial, Thank you so much for watching my videos and for sharing your own experience with us. I'm sorry to hear that you went through a difficult time in your relationship as a result of doing one of the things I mentioned in the video. However, I'm glad to hear that you and your husband were able to work through it and come out stronger on the other side. I really appreciate your kind words and am thrilled to hear that you found my videos again after losing track of me during the pandemic. Thank you for the compliment as well! I hope that my videos continue to provide you with valuable insights and information, and I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts in the comments. Thanks again for watching and engaging with my content! antonio
My daughter's then fiancé (now husband) demanded to know her body count, nagged her until she told him. Then he was all butthurt over it because her number was higher than his. He hasn't brought it up since they've been married, but I'm concerned that it'll come up in a future argument. I advised her not to tell him like you've said, but she did anyway to get him off of her back.
I do agree on all. I think it is only common sense although, in my personal experience, I would say that if you do not like your partner's family or vice-versa, it will always be a cause of conflict and can end up destroying the relationship, especially if you are a family person. I would not even consider being in a relationship if this was the case.
Hi Antontio, thank you for this video. I agree with everything you said. However it was not me who disclosed every information but it was my ex partner which led me to not trust him. Hence we are not together anymore. Honestly every single one you said he disclosed to me.
Ouch… my young immature self let me be judgmental towards ex family… ultimately he ended up choosing them over me even after we were together for 10 years. But he’s my only ex so I have no shame sharing I don’t have a past with potential new partners since I’m proud to only have a body count of 1 😊
Hello @sonnytotanes829, Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for leaving such a kind and positive comment. My goal with these videos is to share useful insights and ideas that can help people in their daily lives, so it means a lot to me to hear that my content has had a positive impact on you. antonio
Yes and that's another thing when he was married years ago he was also having an affair with another girl he said he felt awful but he kept doing it and his wife knew about it now he told me he's not that way anymore and he'll never cheat anymore
I told someone about a dark secret about my past when they asked me to share. They then used this against me. So be careful who you tell. Another person I told years later was luckily very respectful when I volunteered to share this. This other relationship had also been further along, than the other one I just mentioned.
Hello @preciouspayne7596, I'm glad to hear that you agree with me on the idea of not asking about past relationships. As I mentioned in the video, focusing on the present and future is often a better approach to building healthy and strong relationships. It's great to hear that you also practice this in your own relationships. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Your support means a lot to me, and I hope that my videos continue to provide you with helpful insights and advice. Antonio
A Phone call to express myself is no option for the sigma male. Neither is small talk. Please help like with a: How to restore deep connection with a sigma/ lone wolf trough texting/ voice message specific. These males are so unique!
Dear Antonio, your advice only seems to work on the alpha male and not on the sigma male/ lone wolf. Is it possible for you to dig in to the sigma male/ lone wolf please?
Hello @theodore365, Thank you so much for watching the video and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm thrilled to hear that you found the information I provided to be helpful and that you agree with me. It's always great to have feedback and support from viewers like you. Feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions for future videos or topics you'd like me to cover. Antonio
Hi Antonio I agree with these and think that these points can go both ways. Guys shouldn't do these things with partners either. But I also have a question about comparing your partner to an ex. Can it also, at the same time, help them to see or feel that maybe they're better than your ex and, in turn, boost their confidence in the relationship?
I used to think this too until one guy said to me, "if ur bad mouthing ur ex to me, I'm sure if we get into a relationship and it doesn't workout, you're gonna bad mouth me to the next guy and I don't wanna be talked bout that way. So, I'm no longer interested in getting to know you. Bye." Then he blocked me on social media. So, my advice, never say anything negative about ur ex's to a new potential partner. If anything, just don't say a word if u can't say anything nice.
My girl friend connect in a social relationship one day happily, and smoothly he ask her to call next day and she promised to, and never, give call next day as promised. Now one month she hasn't and he hasn't. But I advised her to call him since she had promised to, was that right to do?
Dr. Antonio, I completely disagree with a person not revealing to me that he has been unfaithful in the past! I could Never be in a relationship with an individual whom has been unfaithful regardless of their situation! I truly believe past behaviour predicts future behaviour!! I would rather know early on in the relationship (from the individual or someone close to him) as soon as possible! This way, I could not get attached and end it rather than finding out years later when we are in a much more serious state (engaged/married) and the individual ends up being unfaithful to me!! It would cause me way more pain and damage in the end!! Do you think that this would make more sense rather than to keep their past of being unfaithful hidden from me? Eventually I will find out and leave them anyway due to the doubts and being afraid that he will in turn be unfaithful to me in the end? Please let me know your thoughts on my comments and question to you! Thank you!
What would your reaction and feelings be if a girl said this to her guy: "Hey hun! Just wondering, are you planning on staying with me this coming week? A friend is coming to town for work and he's wondering if he can stay on my couch. If you are then I'll tell them to make other arrangements."
Hello @barbpence8784, Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your experience with the topic. I'm sorry to hear that your friend went through a difficult time as a result of sharing information about her past with her boyfriend. It's unfortunate that some people still believe that asking about a number of partners is a fair question. Antonio
The ex told me about the infedelities he has done to privious girlfrends and guess what he ended up doing it to me. Never ignore the red flags. Privious behaviours are prediction of future bihaviours
Like you say it’s so unfair I get so annoyed with men 🤣 interesting to note many of the do nots men constantly do. Thank goodness the world has changed - maybe men haven’t moved on from primal habits - thank fully woman have and we no longer need men. I have a partner because I want one or this one in particular. He is the same. When we no longer want to be together we won’t. Luckily I don’t need him because I am financially independent and happy with my own company. Interesting video clip because you right and it grates me 😂
Hello @vanessasomerville7036, Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your thoughts on the topic. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to engage in this conversation. While it's true that some men may still exhibit primal habits or engage in behaviors that can be frustrating, I don't necessarily believe that we no longer need men as a result. It's important to have conversations about these topics in order to build greater understanding and empathy for one another. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Antonio
What if he broke the trust? What if they are using your good against you for evil . What would you do,?l am sorry l'm so sorry. I am ashamed for having those kind of feelings I've never had those kind of feelings before the way they do me.please forgive me.l love the person lam with..if that man is going to her situation against her in then she don't need to be with him. I think she should leave him alone. It will cause trouble and she don't need trouble. I think she should get interested in someone else. Take up some craft or stay busy.take her mind off of him Even though she have feelings for him.l think that person should get a life and stay out of that person life She trying to controlling the person life she's not perfect😐god created man with freedom of will.he only ask man to subject to him, l hope you understand.some do and some don't.
Heeyyy sir there's boy who said he's interested in me and was acting like my boyfriend all the time, over time I fell in love with him and now he doesn't even wanna talk to me, I can't forget him and I miss him so much now what do I do
Hello @parksoloman7646, Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your experience with me. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time and that the person you were interested in is no longer speaking to you. It's natural to feel hurt and miss someone when they no longer want to be in our lives, especially if we have developed strong feelings for them. However, it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you, and who is willing to communicate with you. While it can be difficult, try to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy. Spend time with friends and family, pursue hobbies, and take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. It may also be helpful to talk to someone you trust, like a therapist or counselor, to work through your feelings and gain a better understanding of what you're looking for in a relationship. Antonio
I disagree to an extent. I don't feel that your partner should know of every past partner you've had before him, however if you feel unsafe due to an ex that's a different story. If he's a good man then I feel it's fair to ask him to provide a sense of safety for you. If you had an ex who was violent towards you, and he's starting to intrude upon your space again, I think it's safe to share it with your current partner when relevant as in you don't feel safe at that moment. Now don't abuse this ladies, but it can also be used as a test to see if your man is up to the task of protecting you. Don't go around lying saying your ex is crazy and trying to hurt you if indeed he isn't. While these aren't exes per se, I do have adversaries from my past from whom my wish to be protected. This is something I will request my partner to provide for me, and if he cannot sustain this protection he won't get anything else from me including sex.
Hi Antonio, i came here from your unrequited love video.. request your guidance. I am feeling hurt after he rejected me (my colleague and friend). He told me upfront he doesnt want relationship but encouraged FWB. I thought it might lead to soemthing and was considering. We sexted back and forth. I was completelh obsessed about him, thinking about him making plans to meet up at his place.. however I was devastated when i found he was already in an FWB with someone else. We didnt proceed. He wanted to continue to be friends. But I keep feeling hurt by his relationship with this other women, i felt betrayed and hurt. I gdt thoughts all day about him. I did no conatct for 21 days but him being a colleague- cannot avoid him. How do I get over the pain of 1) unrequited love 2) him not being honest about his relationships. 3) Can i attempt to continue being friends He had affectionate friendship love for me and wanted me to explore sexual freedom etc But I got this mixed with romantic love and am.hurting. I am.trying hard.. but pls suggest. With time apart, my obsession has reduced but the hurt part of his emotional connection with another women keeps returning to hurt me and I feel jealousy and pain. He had a divorce and certain bad relationships in the past and is in a phase where he is okay with casual. He does care a lot about me and it pained him to see me in pain. But he said i wasnt entitiled to his business and he didnt make any promises to me.
Not able to contact u sir. Tried sending emails from a different email id, Facebook and Instagram. Can reveal my original id in the comments though. But the subject of email is "non committed relationship".@Antonio Borrello
I agree with everything he said. My mom always told me “ There are some things left better unsaid”…. I wish I had taken that advice. Too much honesty is NOT always a good thing. I say really think before you speak. If it’s not going to help strengthen your relationship, it’s probably left better unsaid.
Even if it doesn’t feel good not to let him know how you feel😔
Another thing not to tell your partner is if one of your friends has disliked or been judgemental towards him. I have made this mistake
I just revisited this channel to look back on who I used to be. I shake my head at it now. I'm so glad I'm not burdened with caring about this stuff anymore. Only invest your time and energy into those who care about you - family, your children, nieces, nephews etc. They are the ones who matter in the end. And just enjoy your life, it's short!
To protect relationship, Never share/confess:
1. Body count
2. Past relationship trauma
3. Past infidelities
4. That your best friend is cheating
5. Ex was better (at something)
6. Ill feeling about his family members
7. Crushes
Disagree about #1. But only because mine is 0 😒. I'm just terribly conservative, and want to wait for marriage 🤷. It can be an issue sometimes. So, if the other person is being honest, I am too. And then if I don't hear from them, well, there's my answer.
Agree about #1
I used to talk to my husband about the problems of my parents only tp know that when we had arguments/fight he used it against me. After that i never told him whatever happens in my parents or siblings
I agree. I don't share information about my past sexual relationships with my boyfriend. I don't ask him about his past sexual relationships. I ask myself this question. Do I really need to know the answer to my question? Does it really matter in my current relationship? Don't ask a question that you don't want the answer to...
Hello @dianenorton7954,
Thank you for watching my video and sharing your thoughts on the topic of discussing past sexual relationships with your current partner. I appreciate your perspective and agree that it's important to ask ourselves if we really need to know the answers to certain questions. It's ultimately up to each individual to decide what they're comfortable with sharing and discussing with their partner. As you mentioned, sometimes it's better to avoid asking a question if we don't want to know the answer. Thanks again for your comment and for engaging with my content.
Antonio
Exactly! I would never tell how many partners I have had, either. Fortunately, no guy has ever asked me and I'd red flag any guy who did!
Was thinking relationship should be transperant
@@theresaebhomenye6424 Depends on how high the count is. I started dating a woman in my late 20’s and she admitted to me that her number was over 50. In your 20’s and over 50, was an immediate turn off for me as a guy!
@@LisaGeminihey can I talk to you please, do you have telegram or something
I have done a short mistake of comparison sorry for that but he loves me till now and I will not repeat my mistake again
Wise advice here. My ex wouldn't exactly say he hated my parents but he was critical of them and refused to visit them. He ended up holding a grudge and never apologized to them. It was just one more source of conflict in the marriage. Also, I admitted to a crush on someone we knew and he already disliked the man. And I never understood why because I thought I'd always acted neutral about the man. A lot of guys are insecure and you have to be careful not to step on their egos.
Also, I've always been blown away when I tell somebody something in confidence and they later throw it up in my face and use it against me. Very immature and manipulative, and I'd never do it to anyone I love and respect.
100% agree! Body count is no one’s business. Not even your bff. It’s one thing you keep it to yourself because it really doesn’t make you less but it can entice judgement.
Yeah, family is family. 100% on that! Never done it and never will. Everyone has theirs pros and cons… focus on their pros.
Past relationship traumas… are… to… be… discussed… with… your… therapist. No bffs, no one… maybe also your mom. That’s it.
And… comparing him to exes. Ouch. That’s hurtful. I was compared to exes and it’s no bueno. I resented him.
Thank you, Dr. Antonio!
I wish I new this 2 years ago. I shared many of your points and was judged by my recent ex and it breaks my heart that my vulnerabilities were used as weapons by the one I loved and trusted the most.
Sorry love but u can still do better with another partner.this is life we learn from our mistakes 😢
I’m so happy that I discovered your RUclips channel, your advice works like magic. I don’t have a partner coz I recently broken 💔up but with your guidance it doesn’t hurt much , I wasn’t treated right and you always say be willing to walk away if your taken for granted. You are the best Antonio😍😍😍
Thank you Dr. Antonio, the list was better than I expected and definitely doable 🙂.
Hello @MsSwankie10,
Thank you for watching my video and for leaving a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the list I provided to be helpful and doable. My goal with these videos is to provide practical advice and actionable steps that viewers can take to improve their lives and relationships, so it means a lot to me to hear that you found the list to be beneficial. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Antonio
I love all your videos. They are totally on point! It’s hard to find good advice for those in long term relationships. You’re advice is always spot on! I always thought the more I shared the better but I learned the hard way that is not the way to go. I wish I had this information a long time ago
Hello @beccaaustin9678,
Thank you for watching my videos and for leaving such a kind and supportive comment. I'm thrilled to hear that you find my advice to be helpful and on point, especially when it comes to navigating long-term relationships.
It's common to think that the more we share with our partners, the better, but sometimes that can lead to unintended consequences, especially if we're not communicating in a healthy and constructive way. I'm sorry to hear that you learned this lesson the hard way, but I'm glad that my videos have been able to provide you with some helpful insights and guidance.
Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Your support means a lot to me, and I'm always here to provide any advice or information that I can to help you navigate your relationships in a healthy and positive way. Antonio
I agree with Becca, your videos are more positive than anything I've found on the Internet. Most of all, you don't make outrageous success claims to sell a product.
I’m having a hard time finding solutions to my relationship problem and I found your channel 😅
Do you need help to fix your relationship or your problem ❤❤
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Antonio you look like you have lost so much weight! What’s your secret. Thanks for the words of wisdom as always! Always be the top shelf and not the sale rack! And you’re right about not letting your past negatively affect your future and present relationships. It’s a rear view mirror for a reason!
Hello @lisahurst1940,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm thrilled to hear that you found the video to be helpful and that you agree with my point about not letting your past negatively affect your present and future relationships. It's so important to focus on the present and the future rather than getting caught up in things that can't be changed.
I love the analogy you used about being the top shelf and not the sale rack - that's a great way to think about it! Thanks again for watching and engaging with my content, and feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions for future topics or questions you'd like me to address. Antonio
Totally agree 100% with everything you said in this video.
My comment is a question. If you know that a member of your partner's family is trying to sabotage your relationship, would it not be better to use his insight to help resolve the problem early, so it would has less impact on your relationship, rather than just let this information become increasingly disruptive. To pretend it doesn't exist, feels like that wouldn't be helpful. I am a strong believer that you can adjust strategies to get along with someone, even if you are not fond of them: to keep the peace so to speak. Burying the problem may not be healthy, particularly when there is a purposeful manipulation or back stabbing meant to be destructive to your relationship. I am speaking about resolving the problem being caused with your mate, rather than the problem with the person who is attacking you. I find burying this kind of problem is contradictory to intimacy, expectations, and self-confidence in the relationship. I have had to deal with people who have had mental illness and attacked me publicly on our very first meeting, how would you suggest this be addressed or and do you suggest to bury your feelings? I could do that, but would not want to have much contact with that person. I think it will come out somewhere else in the relationship. My ex's mother used to try to set up "private tristes" with his ex-girlfriend, in private places in the afternoon where they could be alone. He would tell me about what his mother was doing. I suggested that I didn't think she was fond of me. She also told me directly he didn't need someone like me. (I was a professional, and she wanted him to have a full-time housewife). I let that go because he did not want to see the other woman, but potentially there is a major problem looming with his mother's continual interference. How would you handle these situations?
I agree on all. I did one of those with my husband n it hurt my relationship. But thankfully, we were able to get through it. And trust me ppl it was hard to get through. Thank you Antonio. I list track of you during the pandemic. I'm Glad I found your videos again. BTW. You look great!
Hello @miriammarcial,
Thank you so much for watching my videos and for sharing your own experience with us. I'm sorry to hear that you went through a difficult time in your relationship as a result of doing one of the things I mentioned in the video. However, I'm glad to hear that you and your husband were able to work through it and come out stronger on the other side.
I really appreciate your kind words and am thrilled to hear that you found my videos again after losing track of me during the pandemic. Thank you for the compliment as well! I hope that my videos continue to provide you with valuable insights and information, and I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts in the comments. Thanks again for watching and engaging with my content! antonio
My daughter's then fiancé (now husband) demanded to know her body count, nagged her until she told him. Then he was all butthurt over it because her number was higher than his. He hasn't brought it up since they've been married, but I'm concerned that it'll come up in a future argument. I advised her not to tell him like you've said, but she did anyway to get him off of her back.
Great advice as always, didn't expect nothing less. Thanks for the enlightenment.
I love your videos, you always say the true. Thanks
Dr. Borrello - checking in, no new vlogs in 3 months. everything OK? You're a fave of mine.
Hi Antonio, I have done all that already, I mean😂 I told him about my past and every thing your saying , so what do I do to make things right !?😢
Good question
I told my ex all these things. Our relationship ended one week after this. He was very upset with me.
I do agree on all. I think it is only common sense although, in my personal experience, I would say that if you do not like your partner's family or vice-versa, it will always be a cause of conflict and can end up destroying the relationship, especially if you are a family person. I would not even consider being in a relationship if this was the case.
Thanks Mr Borrello you teach me a lot, your video inspire me alot.
Ok got you.
Very good, informative video, thanks Dr Antonio 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
All these are true. Thank you Antonio
Hi Antontio, thank you for this video. I agree with everything you said. However it was not me who disclosed every information but it was my ex partner which led me to not trust him. Hence we are not together anymore. Honestly every single one you said he disclosed to me.
Thank you Antonio!
I will definitely keep my opinion about my partners mum to myself 😄
Thank you!
Ouch… my young immature self let me be judgmental towards ex family… ultimately he ended up choosing them over me even after we were together for 10 years. But he’s my only ex so I have no shame sharing I don’t have a past with potential new partners since I’m proud to only have a body count of 1 😊
Yes I Agree with you. Thank you so much for your very inspiring ideas 💡💡💡
Hello @sonnytotanes829,
Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for leaving such a kind and positive comment.
My goal with these videos is to share useful insights and ideas that can help people in their daily lives, so it means a lot to me to hear that my content has had a positive impact on you. antonio
Incredible - as always! ❣
These are great and wise suggestions.
Thank you for sharing these videos
Hello @shardamohabir2955,
Thank you so much for watching. I appreciate your support so much. Looking forward to chatting with you again. antonio
I agree with you. You're right.
Antonio you look great and as always great info! 😊
This is so good thank you
Please do more videos on relationship anxiety!
Yes and that's another thing when he was married years ago he was also having an affair with another girl he said he felt awful but he kept doing it and his wife knew about it now he told me he's not that way anymore and he'll never cheat anymore
I told someone about a dark secret about my past when they asked me to share. They then used this against me. So be careful who you tell.
Another person I told years later was luckily very respectful when I volunteered to share this.
This other relationship had also been further along, than the other one I just mentioned.
Do you need help to fix your relationship or your problem ❤❤
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Thenk u Mrs ANTONIO,, I will always keep this in mind
This video is awesome‼️
I want to restore the deep connection with the sigma which is the most difficult thing since they are very specific.
I agree don't ask ur past relationships I don't do that
Hello @preciouspayne7596,
I'm glad to hear that you agree with me on the idea of not asking about past relationships. As I mentioned in the video, focusing on the present and future is often a better approach to building healthy and strong relationships. It's great to hear that you also practice this in your own relationships.
Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Your support means a lot to me, and I hope that my videos continue to provide you with helpful insights and advice. Antonio
@@AntonioBorrello yes I watched ur videos alot and I'm focusing on the future ✨️ and I have the growth in me I can feel it 😌
What a true❤❤❤❤
Where are you Dr Antonio Borello?
What to do if you did everything and tell them everything because of honesty
A Phone call to express myself is no option for the sigma male. Neither is small talk. Please help like with a: How to restore deep connection with a sigma/ lone wolf trough texting/ voice message specific. These males are so unique!
Dear Antonio, your advice only seems to work on the alpha male and not on the sigma male/ lone wolf. Is it possible for you to dig in to the sigma male/ lone wolf please?
It's ok but my darling knows everything of my real life but he loves me Billions of tons ❤he loves my everything past, present and future.
Thanks a lot
I agree...thank u for this video
Hello @peggyjoseph6465,
Thank you so much for watching and commenting on the video. Your support means alot to me. Antonio
@@AntonioBorrello Thank you as well....love your videos
Great info as always and I totally agree 💯. Thank you.
Hello @theodore365,
Thank you so much for watching the video and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm thrilled to hear that you found the information I provided to be helpful and that you agree with me. It's always great to have feedback and support from viewers like you.
Feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions for future videos or topics you'd like me to cover. Antonio
Sir why r u not aploading videos?
I Think This Applies both ways,..
Awesome 👏👏
thank you
I agreed with you sir
You look great! ❤
Please upload more!!
First time felt you look handsome
What if your current bf is doing something that your ex would do to your disliking. Do you confront your bf?
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100% agree
Hi Antonio
I agree with these and think that these points can go both ways. Guys shouldn't do these things with partners either. But I also have a question about comparing your partner to an ex. Can it also, at the same time, help them to see or feel that maybe they're better than your ex and, in turn, boost their confidence in the relationship?
I used to think this too until one guy said to me, "if ur bad mouthing ur ex to me, I'm sure if we get into a relationship and it doesn't workout, you're gonna bad mouth me to the next guy and I don't wanna be talked bout that way. So, I'm no longer interested in getting to know you. Bye." Then he blocked me on social media. So, my advice, never say anything negative about ur ex's to a new potential partner. If anything, just don't say a word if u can't say anything nice.
what if you already did all the wrong things?
My girl friend connect in a social relationship one day happily, and smoothly he ask her to call next day and she promised to, and never, give call next day as promised. Now one month she hasn't and he hasn't. But I advised her to call him since she had promised to, was that right to do?
Dr. Antonio,
I completely disagree with a person not revealing to me that he has been unfaithful in the past! I could Never be in a relationship with an individual whom has been unfaithful regardless of their situation! I truly believe past behaviour predicts future behaviour!! I would rather know early on in the relationship (from the individual or someone close to him) as soon as possible! This way, I could not get attached and end it rather than finding out years later when we are in a much more serious state (engaged/married) and the individual ends up being unfaithful to me!! It would cause me way more pain and damage in the end!!
Do you think that this would make more sense rather than to keep their past of being unfaithful hidden from me? Eventually I will find out and leave them anyway due to the doubts and being afraid that he will in turn be unfaithful to me in the end? Please let me know your thoughts on my comments and question to you!
Thank you!
So you recommend marrying someone and not discussing past sexual history?
100% AGREE‼️👏👏👏
@donaldlee1998 TROLL!
My future partner shouldn’t know i was physically abused by a past partner?
Any videos for cohabitating living couples/parents
I agreeeee100%
What would your reaction and feelings be if a girl said this to her guy: "Hey hun! Just wondering, are you planning on staying with me this coming week? A friend is coming to town for work and he's wondering if he can stay on my couch. If you are then I'll tell them to make other arrangements."
I agree but pls what can I do bcos I already did all u said, pls what advice do u have for me😂
Hi I know someone this happened to she told her boyfriend because he asking her so told him after that he broke up with her she was very hurt !!!!! 💔😭
Hello @barbpence8784,
Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your experience with the topic. I'm sorry to hear that your friend went through a difficult time as a result of sharing information about her past with her boyfriend. It's unfortunate that some people still believe that asking about a number of partners is a fair question. Antonio
I wag wrong to do this.and my american husbans using it from me to hurt me.i wish i didnt told him about my past
I've learned all of this the hard way.smh
The ex told me about the infedelities he has done to privious girlfrends and guess what he ended up doing it to me. Never ignore the red flags. Privious behaviours are prediction of future bihaviours
What if you have done all this already what will you do 😢
I agree
Hi @shardamohabir2955,
Thank you so much for watching and commenting here. I appreciate your support. Antonio
Why doesn’t he post anymore?😢
Why there is no new video?
Like you say it’s so unfair I get so annoyed with men 🤣 interesting to note many of the do nots men constantly do.
Thank goodness the world has changed - maybe men haven’t moved on from primal habits - thank fully woman have and we no longer need men. I have a partner because I want one or this one in particular. He is the same. When we no longer want to be together we won’t. Luckily I don’t need him because I am financially independent and happy with my own company. Interesting video clip because you right and it grates me 😂
Hello @vanessasomerville7036,
Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your thoughts on the topic. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to engage in this conversation. While it's true that some men may still exhibit primal habits or engage in behaviors that can be frustrating, I don't necessarily believe that we no longer need men as a result. It's important to have conversations about these topics in order to build greater understanding and empathy for one another. Thank you again for watching and engaging with my content. Antonio
💯 am the victim
What if he broke the trust? What if they are using your good against you for evil . What would you do,?l am sorry l'm so sorry. I am ashamed for having those kind of feelings I've never had those kind of feelings before the way they do me.please forgive me.l love the person lam with..if that man is going to her situation against her in then she don't need to be with him. I think she should leave him alone. It will cause trouble and she don't need trouble. I think she should get interested in someone else. Take up some craft or stay busy.take her mind off of him
Even though she have feelings for him.l think that person should get a life and stay out of that person life
She trying to controlling the person life she's not perfect😐god created man with freedom of will.he only ask man to subject to him, l hope you understand.some do and some don't.
Why didn't you do this video 1 year ago? 😭
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Heeyyy sir there's boy who said he's interested in me and was acting like my boyfriend all the time, over time I fell in love with him and now he doesn't even wanna talk to me, I can't forget him and I miss him so much now what do I do
Move on. He's not interested in you anymore, learn how to love yourself first before loving others.
@@aireengerondio7355 yesss
@@aireengerondio7355 yess but I just can't stop missing him I am so dumb
I moved on but my ex is still calling me but I blocked his number 🤪
Hello @parksoloman7646,
Thank you for watching my video and for sharing your experience with me. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time and that the person you were interested in is no longer speaking to you.
It's natural to feel hurt and miss someone when they no longer want to be in our lives, especially if we have developed strong feelings for them. However, it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you, and who is willing to communicate with you. While it can be difficult, try to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy. Spend time with friends and family, pursue hobbies, and take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. It may also be helpful to talk to someone you trust, like a therapist or counselor, to work through your feelings and gain a better understanding of what you're looking for in a relationship. Antonio
can u please proof that u are dr
I disagree to an extent. I don't feel that your partner should know of every past partner you've had before him, however if you feel unsafe due to an ex that's a different story. If he's a good man then I feel it's fair to ask him to provide a sense of safety for you. If you had an ex who was violent towards you, and he's starting to intrude upon your space again, I think it's safe to share it with your current partner when relevant as in you don't feel safe at that moment.
Now don't abuse this ladies, but it can also be used as a test to see if your man is up to the task of protecting you. Don't go around lying saying your ex is crazy and trying to hurt you if indeed he isn't. While these aren't exes per se, I do have adversaries from my past from whom my wish to be protected. This is something I will request my partner to provide for me, and if he cannot sustain this protection he won't get anything else from me including sex.
Sir plz reply to my mail 🙏🏻❤️
I will look again for it. thank you for watching and commenting. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello sir still you didn't respond me
Hi Antonio, i came here from your unrequited love video.. request your guidance.
I am feeling hurt after he rejected me (my colleague and friend). He told me upfront he doesnt want relationship but encouraged FWB. I thought it might lead to soemthing and was considering. We sexted back and forth. I was completelh obsessed about him, thinking about him making plans to meet up at his place.. however I was devastated when i found he was already in an FWB with someone else. We didnt proceed.
He wanted to continue to be friends.
But I keep feeling hurt by his relationship with this other women, i felt betrayed and hurt. I gdt thoughts all day about him.
I did no conatct for 21 days but him being a colleague- cannot avoid him.
How do I get over the pain of 1) unrequited love 2) him not being honest about his relationships.
3) Can i attempt to continue being friends
He had affectionate friendship love for me and wanted me to explore sexual freedom etc
But I got this mixed with romantic love and am.hurting.
I am.trying hard.. but pls suggest.
With time apart, my obsession has reduced but the hurt part of his emotional connection with another women keeps returning to hurt me and I feel jealousy and pain.
He had a divorce and certain bad relationships in the past and is in a phase where he is okay with casual.
He does care a lot about me and it pained him to see me in pain. But he said i wasnt entitiled to his business and he didnt make any promises to me.
Not able to contact u sir. Tried sending emails from a different email id, Facebook and Instagram. Can reveal my original id in the comments though. But the subject of email is "non committed relationship".@Antonio Borrello
Agree 100%
Hello @benitaekama141,
thank you so much for watching and commenting on the video. I appreciate your support. Antonio