I love my unborn kids so much that I refuse to bring them into this world. I have too many undealt issues and financially wise I can't give them the life they deserve and I refuse to bring them into this world to suffer.
When I got married my wife asked me point blank if I had a choice of having kids or a vacation home in the mountains what would I pick? I said honestly, "The home in the mountains!" She said "Thank God you said that! The hell with changing diapers and ending up with a 48 year old son living in the basement with a police record a mile long!" And we drank champagne and purchased a beautiful home in the mountains. That was 20 years ago when we bought 3.5 acres with a 2000 sq ft home for 210K Its now worth 850K! And we never regretted it! Kids are for suckers!!
@@TonyFontaine1988 I just read your responce to my private limo driver as we are approaching the Helsinki airport, she suggested I reply, "Tony sounds very passionately jealous, and therfore feels required to make an untasteful remark to rebuild his ego and personal standing." Tony, I shall show your comment to my friends when I arrive at my vacation villia in Beaulieu sur Mer so as to give a more cosmopolitan perspective.
@@TonyFontaine1988 blah blah blah yes Tony please do continue to believe in your false Gods and narratives and especially in your amazing gift of pontification. It does suit you well. At least I belong to a society that makes decisions for the voters, and can make it more of a hell.
Not too mention; after we have had a child; now the poor ... has to grow up and live in a world coming apart at the seams! I do not want to see that. It's tough enough seeing my siblings kids dealing with it!
My reason for not wanting kids is simply because: 1). I don't like them 2). They're expensive as hell 3). They get on my damn nerves. There, I said it.
You forgot to mention that the parent is 100% liable of everything they say and do util they are 18. In addition, all their expences are your expenses. The only reward for a self sacrificing parent, is a broken hart.
I am in my 60's, married for 32 years. Childfree by choice with no regrets. I grew up the oldest of 6 children. My parents were traditional stay-at- home Mom and a Dad who worked all the time to provide for us...... My role was 2nd mother to my younger siblings and I came to resent it. Seeing the vulnerability of my Mothers situation when Dad left after 25 years of marriage crushed my desire to have kids. Her hurt and struggles impacted my decision .... to never be in that situation.....Hence....No children, no abandonment.....
It's so sad and deplorable that SO MANY MEN have no loyalty to the families they create. It is dangerous to have children with them. I do think most of them are incapable of love.
I'm 32 and I have 4 Children. Had Twins. Own a house. Kids aren't as expensive as people say. A bag of chicken nuggets literally last a kid like a month. Cloths(Hand me downs-they will outgrow them fast anyway). Formula (WIC), Diapers can get a little costly but that is only for 2 years.
I refuse to bring a life into the world unless I can give them the best life. My mental health is just not in a good place and I can't focus on getting better with kids.
@@TonyFontaine1988 So should I bring a malformed person into the world? I take care of other people's adult kids who were born malformed and some of whose parents couldn't be bothered. Believe me, it's not just about money.
@@TonyFontaine1988 there are many decent children with great careers coming from stable decent parents with great careers. Sure there are children from poor parents with great careers but it’s not the norm. Chances are children would perform much better if they had good parents, access to quality education (not public schools) which require money, healthy good food which also require money. It really depends on the parent
People say it’s selfish to not have kids. My mother had kids, never wanted them and but only had them because of societal norms. She didn’t spend time with us, made it very clear that she resented being a parent and her children. So, if she had the balls to admit to everyone that she didn’t want kids. How would it have been selfish to spare us( her kids) the abuse we had to endure because she never actually wanted us in the first place?
am married and divorced. Marriage is not all that exciting. But still I'm glad that I was married and then divorced. This way I wont' die with regrets and "what ifs". Enjoy your freedom! Oh, and after marriage, sex becomes routinely boring.
it's not all the time about money....our mental health also matters since the mother has to pay in every aspect to have a baby, her decision comes first. her body and mind matters, so it's not always about money
I’m always asked this and it’s mind numbing. Me: “So I got a lot of PTO and heading off to Canada to visit some sites for a week or so.” Friends W/ Kids: “ What??! don’t you have kids yet?” Me: “No, not quite yet.” Friends W/Kids: “You should have kids we love ours so much.” Me: “But didn’t you just post on FB how you can’t go anywhere because of the hassle of car seats and childcare? I just saw another FB post where your child destroyed your favorite vase, and nocked over your grandmother’s ashes. Also I just had to loan 200$ for tires because you can’t afford car tires because you had to buy pampers. Am I missing something? Sorry if I want to wait a little bit to make sure I am financially stable, and have seen the world.”
Ok this litterally. Shocked my heart not in a good way. Like how will you pay all that? Life just seems so depressing the more you know. Please help cheer me up to a brighter way of thinking. I need hope.
We don't choose life , others choose it for you. Life and death is forced upon us by other people who want to fulfill their desire for a little baby to cuddle.
@@WifeWithoutKids hello WWK, indeed pets are, that's why we adopted a discarded border collie from the animal shelter. The poor thing was already here in this perverse life game and we choose to try to give it the best possible life. I've build myself a comprehension on why many people have a child wish and are so attached to the mortal consequences of birth. Out of the whole animal kingdom only humans are gifted with a consciousness, only humans have the ability for reasoning and empathy, to contemplate on their actions, to have or not have ethics, to be or not to be moral in their doings...... Because of this gift - or maybe rather curse - we know life comes with death and suffering. All the other animals don't have that feature built-in, they only have their instinct and instinctual reproductive drive. People are evolved from purely instinctive beings to creatures with next to that also a consciousness. That can only be the explanation why not all humans have it in their nature to reproduce. All beasts except humans simply can not be anti-natalist because to become an anti natalist one must have a consciousness. I now know and understand that people with a strong desire to bringing human mortals of their own into existence have a more bestial and instinctive nature and people who don't have a higher developed conscious nature. My choice not to have children is therefore not the result of an instinctive bestial nature but much more so the result of a very well taught empathic conscious reasoning with in the first place the interests of the potential newly to be born mortal in mind I found no valid justification for bringing a conscious human being unsolicited into existence while it is sure that this innocent child by birth is condemned to death. Furthermore all breeders know full well that every new mortal will have to endure suffering in its life no matter how short lived that life may be and jet they push their desire forward and taking the risk (a gamble rather) - not for themselves but on behalf of someone else who has no saying in it - on a possible horrible existence. How more brutal can something be imposed on someone ? This is legalised capital criminal behaviour to say at least...... There's no excuse for imposing the atrocity of life (as explained above) to innocent children.
@@WifeWithoutKids same thing, different species. It's sad that we even bring pets into this world to decide their fate for them, but that's me. If I don't want kids, that also means furry kids too.
Just turned 30, partner is also 30. We have been together for 14 years. Child free by choice. There was a time where I thought I wanted 3. Because that is what I saw around me, what I thought was expected of me. As I grew older, I noticed that I really did not like hanging out around kids very much. Both my partner and I are introverts and even spending an afternoon with our niece, who is very much attention seeking and extroverted is exhausting. I can't imagine that 24/7. Oh and inflation, student loans, pain, trauma, and all that... what really are the pros? Even unconditional love from your child is not guaranteed. It feels like a cage as opposed to the most fulfilling thing in life.
1996 baby. I just graduated this year from university and feel like I’m still a kid. Time to get that grad school degree and leave my parents house so they stop the baby talk. Childfree as a man is quite simple, I feel for the women who are pressured into this..
Crazy) I am also 1996 baby and I have been working for 3 years already since I have graduated in 2017, but I got only Bachelor`s, here in Ukraine it takes 4 years)
@@Toastcat890 Not to mention cruel in anyway they can. Some people actually belittle women who are not able to have kids. It's honestly heartbreaking what women go through because of society.
My honest opinion why I don't want children 1. I like the freedom to go places without worrying about who will take care of little Timmy. 2. I have money to live without working 2-3 jobs. 3. Loud and annoying (Wal-Mart is the best b.c and also deciding not to have kids) 4. Both my husband and I are happy not having kids. 5. Kids are ALWAYS DIRTY/STICKY/MESSY! I like to keep things clean. 6. IM HAPPY!!
These are not good reasons cause ur parents did all of that when u yourself were a baby and that's the reason y u are a better person today and u exist in the first place. But I respect ur decision.
Then what are "good reasons" to don't have children according to you Aveline? And another thing, if you are offended by the content of this channel and people's personal reasons for not reproducing, no one is forcing you to read this comment section or watch these videos, you are more then welcome to leave. Oh, and Aveline, sweety, just because people are capable of physically reproduce, does not mean they can be parents. Parenting and having the ability to reproduce are not one and the same!
Goodluck. Don't run out of money when your old and crusty. Hope you have a great partner and friends that will be there to hold your hands when you take your last breath. Take care.
@@fugetabouit6591 Having kids won't guaruntee they will look after you when you are older, or that there will be someone by your side when you take that last breath. There are tons of elderly people dumped in nursing homes who are left to die alone, there are even people who die alone unexpectedly in their own homes when family is away.
@DarthYuYevon Wow aint that the truth! 🍻 To me my biggest investment are my kids and ofcourse thsy are guaranteed they may not be there to take care of you due to tragedies. However in my culture we look after one another and LOVE one another. We dont throw our parents to nursing homes like others. To each its own. God Bless.
I opted out of children and starting a family because for me, there were more "cons" and not enough "pros" for me to be comfortable making those sacrifices... A child is a sacrifice you make from the day they're born until the day YOU die! No exceptions! If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt you can't handle any of that, then even ONE child, is ONE too MANY!
@@sofitocyn100 and many people once dreamed of having kids are now beating up their children while blaming them for their life choices so what's your point?
Hi just found your channel. It is very interesting I think millennials are being sensible in deciding not to have children. I am a boomer (sorry) will be 60 this year. When I was young nearly all my friends got married early and could not wait to have children. When I was 30 I moved to London I had 10 amazing years doing what I wanted. Today I am still single and child free and I am quite happy with my life. I think there is far too much emphasis on having a family and as a single woman you are still judged. Also I get tired of being asked why I do not have children. Will definitely keep watching this channel.
My reason for being childfree is I'm autistic although most people don't believe me. I'm good at masking. I have a hard time functioning and taking care of myself due to sensory overload. Just going grocery shopping overwhelms me. There is too many sounds, bright lights, and people that I feel suffocated. I would be absolutely miserable without my alone time to recharge and relax.
My reasons 1) live with parents 2) Not financially stable enough 3) House prices where I live are to expensive as in in the millions. 4) I have social anxiety 5) On an NDIS plan - mild aspergers.
Omg same every single point ,mild autism I live in a 3rd hold hell where over population is the root cause of all problems , hate my life , unless I win a lottery or something I ain't having kids
Nearly all of these apply to me apart from 4 and 3. My other reasons include having to carry a baby for nine months. I would be scared to hold the baby as they are so fragile. I don't fancy giving birth. I once took care of a simulation baby for college so I have an idea of how hard it is to care for a baby, and I know that looking after a real baby would be even harder.
I'm not a millennial I was born in the 50s never had children never married never wanted to. People ask me why I'm so happy I tell them because I'm not married I don't have kids I don't have big house payment I'm not broke for 30 or 40 years I have nothing to make me unhappy being single is the best I've had a fun life lots of Adventures lots of camping lots of time to enjoy life nothing to bring me down
No one in their right mind is having kids now days; how cruel would that be! Here you go kids; everything is coming apart at the sems; good luck with your lives! F that. My kids are not going to spend the next 50 some odd years struggling to live!
@@sarahtara5546 No, at this point climate change has reached a tipping point (unless there is significant intervention, which is highly unlikely), it's only a matter of how quickly do humans die off.
@@sarahtara5546 oh dang, good idea! Just push a collapsing world onto your children to fix it or die with it, that'll show them how much you love them!
For me , it's the suffering in this world that frightens me, is it really worth it to be born at a time like this, what's the meaning of life anyways?, how about the millions of kids out there that needed help
As for the cost, there's also the insane money people will pay just to GET pregnant. My friend spent $50,000 in fertility treatments just to get pregnant. That's before the baby was even born.
OK, I'm a Boomer (sorry -- couldn't resist). My reasons for not wanting kids have mostly to do with the observations I made while growing up with two older sisters. Both became mothers far too early, and there was little to no forethought involved. Having the chance to witness firsthand how motherhood curtailed their freedoms and personal aspirations was the ultimate form of birth control for me. During my formative years, and even beyond, so many women had children simply because it was the thing to do, once they accomplished a couple of early goals -- and often even if they had not. Questioning one's reasons for procreation was unfashionable, and anyone who dared to caught a lot of flak from the mainstream.
Great insight, thank you for sharing this. I think it's more acceptable to talk about now, but the child free community as a whole still gets a lot resistance and judgement for picking a lifestyle that isn't "traditional."
I realize this is super old, but to add there's a lot of unfairness to mothers re-entering the workforce. I don't want kids for any reasons, but if by some chance I did I'd only agree to it if my male partner took leave (often makes them look better instead of worse). though I have noticed there are many industries which favour mothers it's still so much to give up (time, energy, etc.)
People should be paid for not having kids. They don't want them. But society says reproduce, reproduce. I'm a mother and I wanted a kid. I accept the sacrifices, but I certainly underestimated them.
Cool vid! Here's my healthcare concerns through living in the US: the medical system won't treat you for your health conditions, but will charge you anyway. I've had too many experiences where they charged for meds I didn't take or emergency visits with no treatment cost thousands of dollars out of pocket. Doctors will go against their principles and force drugs and other stuff on you that you say no to, just because they know you're at a disadvantage and are sick. I've stopped even going for my annual doctor and dentist appointments, because dentists want to fill in cavities that aren't there and have ruined my teeth. Why would I want to intentionally put myself in a potentially life-threatening situation around doctors that might not help me with my pregnancy, push me out the door, and cost me $100,000's? Yes - they push people out of hospitals these days too soon. I'm exaggerating, but what if I'm still pregnant when I leave the hospital with the same costs? What if I come out being treated for a broken leg and still pregnant? Nope. With COVID-19 in hospitals - I'm staying away for sure. My reasons for not having kids (even though I have no student debt): - mobility. Health declines when having kids and kids make it harder to move - the world is not a great place/didn't have the best life (even if I live in the US) - why would I put that on anyone else? This is reason #1 - too many people pressure you right out of college to setup everything in life - job, kids, etc. when you spent many years in academia working really hard with headaches that to switch gears gave me a headache. - education system sucks where I live - they knock down intellectuals. Even with more options - online, homeschooling, idk what is the best way to teach them what I know. - I already take care of two grown up children (aka parents), due to extended lifespans. My other friends don't have kids, due to taking care of family too - my minimum wage job doesn't even pay enough for me to live - I have to say no to some jobs because they pay too little - there's a housing shortage for those who already exist (have you seen the rise in homelessness) - there are enough people in this world to take care of that I don't need to spend my time on kids for that - what's the purpose? What does it really accomplish? The reasons people want me to have kids are not genuine reasons to have them imo. - now that I can finally make my own decisions after living with helicopter parents putting me into everything without me making a choice, I can finally slow my life down and make a choice - lots of sex ed and abstinence education portrays having kids as a lot harder of work than it really is - but that trauma's still in my head - there's a stigma against having kids - due to overpopulation/climate change I'm not one to say no - I'd like to continue my family's legacy and pass down my knowledge and build a better future with my kids that I would find become great citizens of society - but it's not enough motivation compared to the downsides.
I go back and forth but one of the reasons for me is seeing the change in women's physical appearance over the years once they have a kid. Vanity but it freaks me out
Wishing you all an amazing day today:) 00:35 Student Loan Debt 00:57 Lack of Job Stability 02:48 Focusing on Career 03:28 Health Care Costs 08:47 Kids Without Homes 09:17 It's Not Your Business
By the time you get out of school, you're between 21 and 24. Those who don't go to college already have a job, kids, marriage, maybe even a house. That's why getting out of college is soul crushing to where people don't want to have kids after it
@@WifeWithoutKids Same shoes different story lol. I love that you share :) It was brought up throughout my life from when I was 6. However, what put the nail in the coffin for me, so to speak, was when I was 3 years old. I wanted to hold a baby (it was my family's) and they said no. So it was a stigma, even if when I was 6, I said I'd have at least three. It was out of reach in my mind/totally forgot about it when I went to college (which I didn't actually want to go to) until I went back into the workplace and everyone around me said they have a job, house, husband, and 3 kids and are only a few years older than me. That's good for them, but how do I get from just graduated to that in a few years if I'm trying to get a job in my degree that people where I live get after 3 years of trying? It's a collision of expectations vs reality.
Smh truly sad case. This is what society has come to? You’d rather work for someone else the rest of your life than follow your BIOLOGICAL desire to protect the people you love as a FAMILY? Shameful. People trying to deny biology are fools
@ManCity255 if you’d rather work for Another Man than work to build a family of your own you can hardly even be considered a Man at all. A man has his own things to build not only work to build up SOMEONE ELSE’S shit. Sad case indeed.
My parents had my brother and me as the first grandchildren of the family, and I had hydrocephaly due to my vaginal birth. We were also premature. I spent my first 4 months in the hospital and underwent multiple brain surgeries and other treatments such as feeding tubes and other appointments. My cost alone was $1 million in 1994 money. My grandparents were rich and still working, and were able to help, and it was the only reason I’m alive. Another baby in the same ward was forced off life support while my mom was visiting me because the parents couldn’t afford the treatment. My mom watched the new mom hold her baby in its last moments. Needless to say, I’m American. To this day at almost 30 years old, I have lifelong complications from the surgeries, which one of them is that pregnancy is lethal due to scar tissue buildup over my life and a high risk of inoperable bowel blockages. I’m lucky I’m still doing ok, though my body is still not good at staying alive.
My reasons for not wanting kids 1) I’m not married 2) Even if I was married I wouldn’t want any. 3) I’m not great with kids (especially disciplining them) 4) I still live with my parents 5) I have MH issues 6) I love freedom 7) Kids are expensive
Thanks for posting!! My principal reason for not procreating is more focused on rapid environmental degradation but any reason is valid. People like you deserve praise.
@@WifeWithoutKids Well yes, my BFF gave me a really great advise (she wants kids). She said: "You know what? It doesn't matter whether you want kids or not. It doesn't define you, or make you less of a person." She's amazing, I love her so much 🥰!
I'm 19 too and I want to focus on my life, discover who am I supposed to be and what to do with it. I don't want to give up on my dreams and ambitions just to be a mother.
@@KamisamaSenpaiM4GIC Sameee, we are all working so hard and I don't just want to give it up to another human being. I feel like my whole identitety would be gone.
Reasons why I do not want kids: 1. I have a mental disorder 2. I have anger issues 3. I have sickle cell 4. I have allergies 5. I'm not very responsible 6. I want more free time
Another reason could be the fight against the old house rules of Mom stays home and dad provides. There are many households now a days that chose different role rules. Gone are our grandparents days.
That's my role change in our house. Husband stays home and does the cooking and cleaning while I work. I get a lot of looks when people ask what I cook. "Oh, my husband does that." So then they what kind of job he has. "He's not working. Just stays home cleaning." The look on their faces is classic! So funny.
We millenials went from crisis to crisis during our lifetimes and have got shafted every damn time. So why would we want to bring kids into hardship? I wouldnt want anyone to experience what i have and am going through. No kids for me!
My mom had me at 19 and my dad took off when I was three and even with a lot of family support we struggled financially. It really had an effect on me, seeing how hard her life was, and I chose early on I did not want to have kids if it was going to be a financial hardship on all of us. The U.S. does not have enough support for mothers. Their careers will stall, they aren't given enough maternity leave, daycare is incredibly expensive, medical costs, as you showed, are crazy. This country treats necessities as commodities ( housing, transportation, education, medical care, and with the rising inflation, now food is becoming hard to afford 🙄) which is bad enough, but all these costs are going up but not wages. My rent is over half my income now. They raise it 5% a year. Even if people wanted kids they wouldn't be able to afford them. So many adults I know are staying with their parents now because they can't afford housing. And they think it's a mystery why the birth rate has decreased? Plus, we just got out of a pandemic and we're heading for a recession. Not great conditions for starting a family. Pretty soon having kids will be a luxury. Except in the states that are forcing births, of course 😔
I knew American birth costs were high but dang! I feel like people should be paid to have the baby, not the other way around.🤭 My sister who lives in California, USA had an emergency C-section and her baby was in the NICU for a week, so I bet that bill was nuts! Thanks for making these videos, the child free lifestyle doesn’t always get the positive attention it deserves. My husband and I are child free millennials and we are enjoying our lives so much!
bc my life is MY LIFE. i don't HAVE TO share it. it is a PERSONAL JOURNEY to see how well I (ME) can do with what I (ME) have been given. i know this sounds selfish but it's so true.
Why I don't want kids. I'm 37. Married. 1. I am the oldest of 6 siblings. Should be enough of a reason right? 2. The world is a shit show. No way would I bring a kid into the world right now, especially with the damn covid bs going on. 3. I am already 300,000 in debt and yes, I live in America. Student loans and house. 4. I listen to other people talk about the BS they have to deal with concerning their children. I watch people go out to eat with their kids. Kids are yelling, running around, won't sit in their chair, throwing food, and the poor parents can't enjoy their meal and neither can anyone else in the restaurant for that matter. I understand that not all kids do this but I've seen more do it than those that don't. 5. I like sleeping. My goal is to deliberately not have kids.
I hear you on the loans! It took ages for me to pay off mine. Education is expensive. And yes, the world is kind of all over the place at the moment...😐
If you want to have kids so be it, have them, if you don't want to don't have them. Don't let society pressure you to have or not have them don't care what others think, it's your life, your decision.
Hi. Thank you for making this channel. It's a relief to know I'm not alone. My reason for going childfree has largely been the huge price the Earth is paying in the form of mass extinctions and climate change. Here in India, people will just laugh it off if I tell them about my decision. It is just not acceptable to not have kids. I mean India is the second most populous country in the world, still when I say I'm not going to have kids, I get such horrid looks as if I've killed someone. The worst comments are "This is selfish of you to think" or "who will care for you when you're old?", as if that's not a selfish enough reason to have children!
Yes, it's tough when people just have one way of thinking and aren't able to see that another decision might be a good option for someone. You aren't alone though!
@@palakjain1099 Lol I know right.... Here In India, people buy wedding jewellery for kids even before they are born. Secondly) I see so majority of old people mistreated or abandoned by their own children. So it's no guarantee that they'll look after you when old.
Yes, the health care system in America is terrible. I had several seizures out of the blue (never had one before) while sitting on our couch one night and my fiancé had to call an ambulance. 1) ambulance ride over and 1 night (not even full 24 hours later) one test and basically a big “we don’t know why you had a seizure and we aren’t sure you didn’t make it up so go home.” Keeping in mind I was unconscious and unable to speak or move for 6 hours so I didn’t even get a choice in an ambulance being called or anything they did to me at the hospital or didn’t do for me. I was more then a little confused. My current doctor is still trying to figure it all out and she has even tried to get us to sue the hospital (I’m just not that kind of person)....but the bill was $60,000 usd. It’s been over a year, in the beginning I tried to make payments but they refuse to work with me because I only make like 25k-30k a year so couldn’t afford much. My credit score is effected and I probably won’t recover from this financially. Also student loan debt = hell...enough said lol
Oh my goodness that's terrible! I'm so sorry to hear that. Debt is a challenge to pay off, but when you aren't able to make payments on a bill that large, it would be pretty discouraging. Are you doing ok medically now?
Wife Without Kids I still have seizures and we still aren't sure why (Doctor suspects heart condition but no health insurance to run the necessary tests.) We manage pretty well now and I don't have bad days to often, I have a great partner that makes me laugh and keeps me positive. 😄
that's exactly what I see with others! One time I went to the hospital and someone had a broken leg and they told them to stop crying! I'm like, that just makes it worse - and you're just letting the person sit there without treatment?! Really? But yes, I went into a hospital one time and they said I'm making my pains up and that I need counseling - multiple times. One dentist even said that they'll only be able to fill in cavities, because it's all they get paid for when I was asking for sealants! They won't do anything except fill cavities, ridiculous!
@@linzfae2210 I heard there's something about diet that can cause it - someone I know even said something about casein and just Google msg neurotoxin - wow! When I ate animal products, I felt like I had headaches that were acting like seizures. I created my own neurotoxin free diet (staying away from anything that overstimulates nerves): no animal products, caffeine, peanuts, gluten, soy, pure sugar, etc. Hope that helps: www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/healthy-living/healthy-eating/nutrition-and-seizure-control. What also helps is vitamin D3 and magnesium, maybe even lavender. Oh yeah, I heard that keto helps, but idk really - never tried and don't have seizures, but there's research on it: www.epilepsy.com/learn/treating-seizures-and-epilepsy/dietary-therapies/ketogenic-diet. I'm no doctor - just someone with a health science Bachelor's - I just try to educate myself to not need doctors, but there's nothing wrong with going to them if the health issue's beyond what can be handled independently
Reasons I don’t want kids. 1: Costs, well it’s a fact that once you have kids you gave yourself a lifetime responsibility, and that also means paying for expenses, like college, some schools, diapers & clothes, and literally the sky high hospital bills (and there is even more), being me I feel like I am way too selfish to give up all of this for another person, I just can’t imagine how much effort that takes to be willing to give up time effort and with many jobs not having paid leave, giving up money for someone else, many parents in my county don’t have paid leave, so cold and flu season is rough for elementary students, since by law they can’t stay home but their parents won’t be financially stable if they give up time, so you know what used to happen... yep, kids got sent to school with colds flus and stomach bugs. It’s like since many have to give time for other things you have to choose between your kid and being able to pay bills. Thankfully elementary school is long gone for me! 2: Childbirth Ok this process sounds like hell, you have to carry a person in your uterus for 9 months to have to push them out of your vagina in a very painful manner I can’t handle that. I can barely handle laxatives. Literally it sounds like something I can’t handle. But ik adoption is an alternative, just that the process has failed for many, and I have grown fearful of failure, so that’s a no from me! And if I were to have kids I would definitely adopt. 3: Literally I won’t be a good parent al all. Yeah people keep telling me “Oh you will be a great parent don’t worry it all comes naturally and you will enjoy every bit of it!” Also the same people are the ones complaining when their kid does something wrong, saying their kids are burdens and the main ones throwing mental damage like a cannonball at their kid. I can’t say no, I just keep trying and when I fail I get toxic, and having a little person sit through me doing that stuff won’t be a good example and I probably will traumatize someone. I am way too emotional, and parents have to be seen as strong human beings, and I know that I won’t be viewed like that. 4: I honestly don’t connect to others that well in person, unless I really know you. Yeah digitally it’s easier, you don’t have to worry about being judged or having to yell no. My mom in an effort to persuade me to have kids says “It’s like a motherly bond at sight!” Yeah right, many people don’t have that motherly bond. I have seen various reports about the doctor passing a kid to the mom and the mom feeling no connection whatsoever. And there are many kids who are orphans because their parents didn’t feel love for them. Nothing is picture perfect like many imagine having kids for. 5: Me being toxic when I am angry or sad or depressed, yeah I touched on this before but it deserves a whole section. I build up anger and let it all out, ik it’s not a good thing but I keep doing it because it’s a way to cope, I complain a lot and I know if I have a kid 10 times out of 10 I am going to complain about them and be toxic, it’s literally a terrible personality trait I have and getting kids and spreading it is just a hell no from me. It’s my fault that I am like this and I am unfit for the job. 5: I am just there. I just tolerate most kids that I meet at first sight in person, I am not like my mom who says aw and asks a lot about them. I am the person to be like ok you need this? Fine here ok now fuck off. And I know for a fact that ain’t a good parental trait. 6: I am lazy. I am tired of writing so ima just stop here with the reasons. So why put a person through all this when I can just not put someone through a living hell by not having a kid? I have yet to have been persuaded but my mom says “God says be fruitful and multiply, if you don’t do that that is ungodly and you don’t want to be that.” Yeah but I know I am going to be a shitty parent so I don’t want to put a person who didn’t choose to be in this cruel society into this household with a toxic mom. And when I still say no I get this: “You are too immature to make this choice in life, just wait.” Or “You will change your mind.” Or “Well I need grandchildren 😢.” Or “You will be a great parent!” Yeah no Ima still pass. And I am nice to dogs so I think ima go with dogs!
@@WifeWithoutKids Ay thx for responding! I have been scared these weren’t valid but I knew that they were reasons. It’s mostly coming from being challenged by others who say things that make me question what I said, but later I return to what I said as the answer.
Just found your channel and I've been binge watching, but in addition to birth, the cost of raising a child in the USA is $1.3 million over time! It's so awful. I'm only 21 but I know for sure parenthood isn't for me. I get so much more motivation and joy from thinking about dedicating my life to human rights work and caring for all sorts of animals throughout my life. I'm happy that I'm sure about my life path so young, but funnily enough, men in my generation want children so much more than women (not sure about stats for non-binary people or if it's different for trans people). I'm not maternal, and as one of the eldest cousins and most often the eldest girl, I was always stuck with the children while at family gatherings and it just drove me nuts. I know I never want to do that again lol.
In Australia there is a huge problem where many Millennials simply refuse to buy a home; they're insanely overpriced here! Especially around Sydney. Eg: A modern 2br apartment about 45mins away from Sydney (work) costs $700,000 and up right now. You want a small house? Forget it. Unfortunately the older generations have turned the property industry here into a money making commodity. No one likes to talk about the issue though, there are a lot of heads in the sand. Of course many other important factors come into the decision, but I've seen a lot of renters in their 20's and 30's who aren't settled/stable enough to start a family right now, and are waiting for housing to become more affordable.
@@jazzyk4046 That is true! But it really is a drop in the bucket when you consider the inflated prices of property. When you have to incentivise people to build/buy property, it's not a good situation.
I love not having kids. So far I have travelled extensively throughout the world and there's so much more I wish to see. Such an honest and insightful video. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Yes, hospital bills here are that bad! We’re $30k down from an illness my husband has. It took 4 freaking years to get a diagnosis. We couldn’t afford kids right now if we wanted them and we both work full time!
5:10 That is Insane. That would take me 16 + years to work and save 100% of my allowance. (1000$+ a month. Roughly 12000$+ a year) No food, clothes nothing not even essentials. That is *Mad Crazy* Thank goodness that in our country you don't need money to deliver a baby. This is mental I did not even know people charge you for this.
U r so preety. May be someday I could find a partner like u who has childfree mentality. It's so horrible to have a baby. I mean that doesn't mean I dont like children, but sometimes i feel this is unnecessary to bring a child into this world of suffering, pain, struggle, job insecurity, jealousy, natural disaster to deal with and the list goes on. That's why I love u r descion to not have kids, but the problem is to find a partner is very difficult with same mindset.
It's a big decision to have kids. It's a big decision to not have them. There's the financial aspect, health aspect, and mental-emotional aspect. I AM a mom, and I have the upmost respect to those who choose not to have kids so soon or not at all. It should be something that should never be rushed into or pressured into.
Oh man, I always love your videos but I feel this one so much. I laugh to my husband all the time that I have the worlds most expensive piece of art on the wall lol I got the debt but not the job! 😂
I knew I wanted to be childfree since I was 18. A year prior, I planned to hopefully get married in my early 20s and to start having kids around 24. At 18 I realized from New life experiences that I needed freedom in life and that forcing myself to fit into other conventions wasn't working. I wasn't sure if I should have kids anymore. So I researched if it's better to be childfree and found studies showing married couples are happier without kids. Plus, I found resources from chidlfree people about the benefits of being chidlfree. I happily chose to be childfree. I'm now 32 and even happier with my choice than at 18!
Thanks for sharing. It's helpful that there is finally some research available about childfree people as well. It definitely helps with the decision making.
Holy moly! I live in the United States but I didn’t know of all these medical costs for having kids!!! Omg!? Why aren’t we having more transparent conversations about this? Why do we judge and shame people so much for not having kids when it costs SO much just to bring a child into this world. I know for LGBTQ couples it’s even more expensive. For me it doesn’t add up. This just further confirms my childfree choice. Thank you for sharing. I am also quite open about my why for being childfree too.
Overpopulation is a problem: Poverty Climate change Hungry High cost of living Water shortage Pandemics Inmigration (as the result of an unstable economy managing overpopulation in their origin country)
For me, I'm still a virgin because I wanted to create a moment and someone else's life, that was as if someone had and do it through time and space just to spend a short lifetime with them. You don't feel guilty, you don't really feel remorseand not having any pressure in the body is just a form of content. It's because nobody knows what content truly is like in the US, that we have such an issue with people impulsively going towards emotionally stimulating activities which inadvertently pushed people further away from each other andonly enhancing the fear of getting hurt by another.
Wow i hear this high costs for having a child and my mind is blown! Why people are still reproducing to this amount?! Belgium has a good health care system and you relatively pay a small amount yourself. The rest is on health insurance (wich is obligatory to have). Also a part of the taxes from your salary is for health insurance...
Canada is the Europe from the Americas although Americans think they are but their systen can't be compared to a high-quality of life system like Canada, West Europe, Scandinavia or even Australia. I'm not Canadian but if I were, I'd be happy because Canadians take absolutely care of their citizens and residents. Americans just care about capitalism
I dont want to be a father of children because i grew up in a foster care family sure they where loving people but the fact is that my original family could not take care of me because of some certain short commings wich i will not mention here but in order to avoid the same story repeating itself i have decided to never want children it is also giving me peace that i come home to a silent place where i can watch a movie or read a book in peace without screaming anywany you have a intresting channel will give it certainly some vieuws now and then
Thank you for sharing. The way we grow up can most definitely play a big role in whether or not we decide to have children. As they say, silence is golden:) I like my quiet time as well!
I really appreciate this video a lot and to know that were not alone in these difficult times. The other reason I would also add is the corona virus which has also affected mental health as well and just mental health in general.
You are never alone! You're right, personal struggles or mental health challenges can have an impact on whether or not we make the choice to have children.
So many reasons not to reproduce. I dislike kids, they annoy me. I don’t have the patience for them. My interests lie more in animals. I don’t agree with making more when we have so many kids in the foster system, I’d rather adopt if I’m going to have kids. It’s expensive, the planet can’t take any more humans, I don’t agree with bringing more people into the planet to suffer as I have. We don’t know if there will be enough food or water for them in 50 years, we’re on the brink of nuclear war, we just came through a pandemic….there are so many valid reasons not to breed. But this one is the clincher; I simply don’t want to. I’m selfish and I want my money, time and energy for me, and to help unwanted birds who need homes.
Currently 43, childless and happy. Never wanted kids in my 20's or early 30's. Started pondering a change in my later 30's till 40, but could not justify the cost, time and attention required to have one plus wasn't actually with a woman that I trusted would be a great mother and on the same page as far as parenting style. I'm still living my best life childfree and loving every minute of it.
Job change all the time in life, even CF people become redundant etc. Not all CF people choose a career, after all, what will they do after retirement? I know people who live for a career and when they become retired they have committed suicide. A job is just a job for me and just pays for my mortgage I amnot my job. I like my freedom to do what I want and to do nothing if i want.
5:49 If I did not have esurance it would take me 61 years to make that kind of money 877000$ without spending a single penny. Again if I don't buy food,clothes,no health care for my self if I get sick, no electricity,water, house etc.
The world was overpopulated in the 1950’s, at which time my grandparents immediately finished fighting WWII to go about causing the “Baby Boomers,” generation to emerge and only compounded the problem.
I think the hospital bill here in Finland is upto 700€. Including pretty much everything. We have a limit to what hospital bills can cost per person per year so that's why even if your hospital bill would be 100 000 € you won't pay that. A friend's baby needed weeks in hospital due to complications and their bill would have been ridiculous. But it wasn't!
We have a costshare healthcare group. Basically, when you make a claim, you tell all the Dr visits and hospital that you're cash pay. There's normally a discount when you're cash pay vs using insurance. So you get a discount + when you have the baby the costshare covers the bills including the first doctor's visits. So, you pay $1,500 at first, but then you get that money back. It doesn't cost anything. My sister has done this 3 times with her kids. Unsure if I can even have kids, but I'm on the plan just in case. Happy to know there's a no judgement community out there. Because I'm tired of people asking. It kind of hurts. It's called christian healthcare ministries.
I love my unborn kids so much that I refuse to bring them into this world. I have too many undealt issues and financially wise I can't give them the life they deserve and I refuse to bring them into this world to suffer.
When you know you know! 😀
Oh my, you put words into how I feel.
Plus the world is going to crap. Why would you want to put your kid through all that?
This is me
100% agree with you! Life is suffering. Birth is no longer something to celebrate IMO.
When I got married my wife asked me point blank if I had a choice of having kids or a vacation home in the mountains what would I pick? I said honestly, "The home in the mountains!" She said "Thank God you said that! The hell with changing diapers and ending up with a 48 year old son living in the basement with a police record a mile long!" And we drank champagne and purchased a beautiful home in the mountains. That was 20 years ago when we bought 3.5 acres with a 2000 sq ft home for 210K Its now worth 850K! And we never regretted it! Kids are for suckers!!
It's great when you find someone that wants the same things you do. A home in the mountains sounds amazing!
@@TonyFontaine1988 I just read your responce to my private limo driver as we are approaching the Helsinki airport, she suggested I reply, "Tony sounds very passionately jealous, and therfore feels required to make an untasteful remark to rebuild his ego and personal standing." Tony, I shall show your comment to my friends when I arrive at my vacation villia in Beaulieu sur Mer so as to give a more cosmopolitan perspective.
@@TonyFontaine1988 blah blah blah yes Tony please do continue to believe in your false Gods and narratives and especially in your amazing gift of pontification. It does suit you well. At least I belong to a society that makes decisions for the voters, and can make it more of a hell.
@@TonyFontaine1988 your such a hyperbolic bore it's almost kind of cute. Do you come with a dog collar and leash?
Not too mention; after we have had a child; now the poor ... has to grow up and live in a world coming apart at the seams! I do not want to see that. It's tough enough seeing my siblings kids dealing with it!
Ive never understood the "its selfish" to not have kids. Its actually the other way around. I will never have kids. Its not mandatory.
You are right about that. It's a CHOICE!
Some Christian churches act like it's one of the 10 commandments.🍼😳
My reason for not wanting kids is simply because:
1). I don't like them
2). They're expensive as hell
3). They get on my damn nerves.
There, I said it.
It's good to be honest!
@@WifeWithoutKids Lol thanks! And I agree!!!
You forgot to mention that the parent is 100% liable of everything they say and do util they are 18. In addition, all their expences are your expenses. The only reward for a self sacrificing parent, is a broken hart.
Lol
@DarthYuYevon Hmm interesting.
I am in my 60's, married for 32 years. Childfree by choice with no regrets. I grew up the oldest of 6 children. My parents were traditional stay-at- home Mom and a Dad who worked all the time to provide for us...... My role was 2nd mother to my younger siblings and I came to resent it. Seeing the vulnerability of my Mothers situation when Dad left after 25 years of marriage crushed my desire to have kids. Her hurt and struggles impacted my decision .... to never be in that situation.....Hence....No children, no abandonment.....
It's so sad and deplorable that SO MANY MEN have no loyalty to the families they create. It is dangerous to have children with them. I do think most of them are incapable of love.
32... Child free and don't plan on changing that. I'm happy with my decision 🙌
It's a good life:)
Here here
Enjoy your cats.
I'm 32 and I have 4 Children.
Had Twins. Own a house.
Kids aren't as expensive as people say. A bag of chicken nuggets literally last a kid like a month. Cloths(Hand me downs-they will outgrow them fast anyway). Formula (WIC), Diapers can get a little costly but that is only for 2 years.
@@Nimbereth She will.
You mind your own business.
I refuse to bring a life into the world unless I can give them the best life. My mental health is just not in a good place and I can't focus on getting better with kids.
Yup, it’s important to make sure we are in a good place first. 👍
@@TonyFontaine1988 So should I bring a malformed person into the world? I take care of other people's adult kids who were born malformed and some of whose parents couldn't be bothered. Believe me, it's not just about money.
@@TonyFontaine1988 there are many decent children with great careers coming from stable decent parents with great careers. Sure there are children from poor parents with great careers but it’s not the norm.
Chances are children would perform much better if they had good parents, access to quality education (not public schools) which require money, healthy good food which also require money. It really depends on the parent
@@TonyFontaine1988 thanks for naming another reason not to have kids. lol
@@Inmemorial i 👏 you. I love your sarcasm. 😂
People say it’s selfish to not have kids. My mother had kids, never wanted them and but only had them because of societal norms. She didn’t spend time with us, made it very clear that she resented being a parent and her children. So, if she had the balls to admit to everyone that she didn’t want kids. How would it have been selfish to spare us( her kids) the abuse we had to endure because she never actually wanted us in the first place?
35, never married, no children. Totally fine with it. Can't say I wouldn't change my mind but I so love this freedom.
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I love it!.
am married and divorced. Marriage is not all that exciting. But still I'm glad that I was married and then divorced. This way I wont' die with regrets and "what ifs". Enjoy your freedom! Oh, and after marriage, sex becomes routinely boring.
it's not all the time about money....our mental health also matters since the mother has to pay in every aspect to have a baby, her decision comes first. her body and mind matters, so it's not always about money
Absolutely correct:)
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Most people that i know personally that have kids seem miserable. I really don't see the point in having kids.
I think parenting comes with a lot of challenges, but a lot of great times as well. Definitely not for everyone!
I’m always asked this and it’s mind numbing.
Me: “So I got a lot of PTO and heading off to Canada to visit some sites for a week or so.”
Friends W/ Kids: “ What??! don’t you have kids yet?”
Me: “No, not quite yet.”
Friends W/Kids: “You should have kids we love ours so much.”
Me: “But didn’t you just post on FB how you can’t go anywhere because of the hassle of car seats and childcare? I just saw another FB post where your child destroyed your favorite vase, and nocked over your grandmother’s ashes. Also I just had to loan 200$ for tires because you can’t afford car tires because you had to buy pampers. Am I missing something? Sorry if I want to wait a little bit to make sure I am financially stable, and have seen the world.”
My friends baby was premature and was in the hospital for 45 days. The total cost? $215,000. Insurance didn’t cover it.
Yikes!!! 😳 That’s terrifying!
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Ok this litterally. Shocked my heart not in a good way. Like how will you pay all that? Life just seems so depressing the more you know.
Please help cheer me up to a brighter way of thinking. I need hope.
This is why we need Medicare for all
Guys, how do you even live in the US? I live in Ukraine with the war in the East and I am afraid to live less haha I swear :D
We don't choose life , others choose it for you. Life and death is forced upon us by other people who want to fulfill their desire for a little baby to cuddle.
Pets are good for cuddling...well some of them!
@@WifeWithoutKids hello WWK, indeed pets are, that's why we adopted a discarded border collie from the animal shelter.
The poor thing was already here in this perverse life game and we choose to try to give it the best possible life.
I've build myself a comprehension on why many people have a child wish and are so attached to the mortal consequences of birth.
Out of the whole animal kingdom only humans are gifted with a consciousness, only humans have the ability for reasoning and empathy, to contemplate on their actions, to have or not have ethics, to be or not to be moral in their doings......
Because of this gift - or maybe rather curse - we know life comes with death and suffering.
All the other animals don't have that feature built-in, they only have their instinct and instinctual reproductive drive.
People are evolved from purely instinctive beings to creatures with next to that also a consciousness.
That can only be the explanation why not all humans have it in their nature to reproduce.
All beasts except humans simply can not be anti-natalist because to become an anti natalist one must have a consciousness.
I now know and understand that people with a strong desire to bringing human mortals of their own into existence have a more bestial and instinctive nature and people who don't have a higher developed conscious nature.
My choice not to have children is therefore not the result of an instinctive bestial nature but much more so the result of a very well taught empathic conscious reasoning with in the first place the interests of the potential newly to be born mortal in mind
I found no valid justification for bringing a conscious human being unsolicited into existence while it is sure that this innocent child by birth is condemned to death. Furthermore all breeders know full well that every new mortal will have to endure suffering in its life no matter how short lived that life may be and jet they push their desire forward and taking the risk (a gamble rather) - not for themselves but on behalf of someone else who has no saying in it - on a possible horrible existence.
How more brutal can something be imposed on someone ?
This is legalised capital criminal behaviour to say at least......
There's no excuse for imposing the atrocity of life (as explained above) to innocent children.
@@WifeWithoutKids same thing, different species. It's sad that we even bring pets into this world to decide their fate for them, but that's me. If I don't want kids, that also means furry kids too.
Stuffed animals are great for cuddling
Too expensive, we are selfish, we’ve been children for a long time, no job stability and most millennials don’t have stable relationships.
Yes, we face some struggles! lol
No stable relationships for 24 years)))
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Just turned 30, partner is also 30. We have been together for 14 years. Child free by choice. There was a time where I thought I wanted 3. Because that is what I saw around me, what I thought was expected of me. As I grew older, I noticed that I really did not like hanging out around kids very much. Both my partner and I are introverts and even spending an afternoon with our niece, who is very much attention seeking and extroverted is exhausting. I can't imagine that 24/7. Oh and inflation, student loans, pain, trauma, and all that... what really are the pros? Even unconditional love from your child is not guaranteed.
It feels like a cage as opposed to the most fulfilling thing in life.
37 child free , used to want them so bad, now I’m 100% happy I never had them. And I’m not changing my mind
Glad you are happy with your choice. It can be a tough decision to make!
1996 baby. I just graduated this year from university and feel like I’m still a kid. Time to get that grad school degree and leave my parents house so they stop the baby talk. Childfree as a man is quite simple, I feel for the women who are pressured into this..
I do think guys generally have it easier in this department. I know my husband does! Good luck in grad school:)
Crazy) I am also 1996 baby and I have been working for 3 years already since I have graduated in 2017, but I got only Bachelor`s, here in Ukraine it takes 4 years)
As a child free older millennial people can be judgmental as fuck if you're female and don't want kids.
@@Toastcat890 Not to mention cruel in anyway they can.
Some people actually belittle women who are not able to have kids.
It's honestly heartbreaking what women go through because of society.
@@mimosakura795 Agree it's such bullshit.
My honest opinion why I don't want children
1. I like the freedom to go places without worrying about who will take care of little Timmy.
2. I have money to live without working 2-3 jobs.
3. Loud and annoying (Wal-Mart is the best b.c and also deciding not to have kids)
4. Both my husband and I are happy not having kids.
5. Kids are ALWAYS DIRTY/STICKY/MESSY! I like to keep things clean.
6. IM HAPPY!!
Great reasons to choose CF:)
LOL Wal-Mart is the PERFECT example!
These are not good reasons cause ur parents did all of that when u yourself were a baby and that's the reason y u are a better person today and u exist in the first place. But I respect ur decision.
Then what are "good reasons" to don't have children according to you Aveline? And another thing, if you are offended by the content of this channel and people's personal reasons for not reproducing, no one is forcing you to read this comment section or watch these videos, you are more then welcome to leave. Oh, and Aveline, sweety, just because people are capable of physically reproduce, does not mean they can be parents. Parenting and having the ability to reproduce are not one and the same!
@@juliejay5436 She has a right to express her views just as much as anyone else. You’re the only one who sounds offended here.
Life's too expensive and it's hard enough just to support myself. I'll pass on having kids and getting married.
Linkuriboh It is expensive to live. You’ve got that right!
Goodluck. Don't run out of money when your old and crusty. Hope you have a great partner and friends that will be there to hold your hands when you take your last breath. Take care.
@@fugetabouit6591 Having kids won't guaruntee they will look after you when you are older, or that there will be someone by your side when you take that last breath. There are tons of elderly people dumped in nursing homes who are left to die alone, there are even people who die alone unexpectedly in their own homes when family is away.
@DarthYuYevon Wow aint that the truth! 🍻 To me my biggest investment are my kids and ofcourse thsy are guaranteed they may not be there to take care of you due to tragedies. However in my culture we look after one another and LOVE one another. We dont throw our parents to nursing homes like others. To each its own. God Bless.
@DarthYuYevon you would have a hard time with my grandma. 😬
I opted out of children and starting a family because for me, there were more "cons" and not enough "pros" for me to be comfortable making those sacrifices... A child is a sacrifice you make from the day they're born until the day YOU die! No exceptions! If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt you can't handle any of that, then even ONE child, is ONE too MANY!
Yes, a parent is a lifetime commitment.
Wow that's hard
Many people had doubts about having kids and now think it's the best thing that ever happened to them...
@@sofitocyn100 - Still depends upon the individual, and how much tolerance they have for that kind of sacrifice and stress on the psyche...
@@sofitocyn100 and many people once dreamed of having kids are now beating up their children while blaming them for their life choices so what's your point?
Its not the child I have a problem with, it's the financial worries I have, and the things poor people have to go through
Yes, financially it's a bit of a scary thought!
Hi just found your channel. It is very interesting I think millennials are being sensible in deciding not to have children. I am a boomer (sorry) will be 60 this year. When I was young nearly all my friends got married early and could not wait to have children. When I was 30 I moved to London I had 10 amazing years doing what I wanted. Today I am still single and child free and I am quite happy with my life. I think there is far too much emphasis on having a family and as a single woman you are still judged. Also I get tired of being asked why I do not have children. Will definitely keep watching this channel.
My reason for being childfree is I'm autistic although most people don't believe me. I'm good at masking. I have a hard time functioning and taking care of myself due to sensory overload. Just going grocery shopping overwhelms me. There is too many sounds, bright lights, and people that I feel suffocated. I would be absolutely miserable without my alone time to recharge and relax.
My reasons
1) live with parents
2) Not financially stable enough
3) House prices where I live are to expensive as in in the millions.
4) I have social anxiety
5) On an NDIS plan - mild aspergers.
Omg same every single point ,mild autism I live in a 3rd hold hell where over population is the root cause of all problems , hate my life , unless I win a lottery or something I ain't having kids
@@Traumatised311 I can understand that
Nearly all of these apply to me apart from 4 and 3. My other reasons include having to carry a baby for nine months. I would be scared to hold the baby as they are so fragile. I don't fancy giving birth. I once took care of a simulation baby for college so I have an idea of how hard it is to care for a baby, and I know that looking after a real baby would be even harder.
@@bonniestar4707 Understandable and fair enough
Not having children was the best decision I ever made.
Children are _expensive_ and are a never ending hassle.
Kids most definitely aren't for everyone.
I'm a guy, born late 1984, and I knew that marriage and kids were both not for me starting at age 6.
You knew early! 👍
Well lucky you, you get to live 1984 again!
I'm not a millennial I was born in the 50s never had children never married never wanted to. People ask me why I'm so happy I tell them because I'm not married I don't have kids I don't have big house payment I'm not broke for 30 or 40 years I have nothing to make me unhappy being single is the best I've had a fun life lots of Adventures lots of camping lots of time to enjoy life nothing to bring me down
Happiness in life is important. 😄
No one in their right mind is having kids now days; how cruel would that be! Here you go kids; everything is coming apart at the sems; good luck with your lives! F that. My kids are not going to spend the next 50 some odd years struggling to live!
Yea, but they could also fix it.. Lmao
@@sarahtara5546 No, at this point climate change has reached a tipping point (unless there is significant intervention, which is highly unlikely), it's only a matter of how quickly do humans die off.
@@sarahtara5546 oh dang, good idea! Just push a collapsing world onto your children to fix it or die with it, that'll show them how much you love them!
For me , it's the suffering in this world that frightens me, is it really worth it to be born at a time like this, what's the meaning of life anyways?, how about the millions of kids out there that needed help
The last year or so has been pretty crazy...makes a person really think about what the priorities in life are.
As for the cost, there's also the insane money people will pay just to GET pregnant. My friend spent $50,000 in fertility treatments just to get pregnant. That's before the baby was even born.
I can't imagine having to go through a journey like that.
This is sadness.
OK, I'm a Boomer (sorry -- couldn't resist).
My reasons for not wanting kids have mostly to do with the observations I made while growing up with two older sisters. Both became mothers far too early, and there was little to no forethought involved.
Having the chance to witness firsthand how motherhood curtailed their freedoms and personal aspirations was the ultimate form of birth control for me.
During my formative years, and even beyond, so many women had children simply because it was the thing to do, once they accomplished a couple of early goals -- and often even if they had not.
Questioning one's reasons for procreation was unfashionable, and anyone who dared to caught a lot of flak from the mainstream.
Great insight, thank you for sharing this. I think it's more acceptable to talk about now, but the child free community as a whole still gets a lot resistance and judgement for picking a lifestyle that isn't "traditional."
I realize this is super old, but to add there's a lot of unfairness to mothers re-entering the workforce. I don't want kids for any reasons, but if by some chance I did I'd only agree to it if my male partner took leave (often makes them look better instead of worse). though I have noticed there are many industries which favour mothers it's still so much to give up (time, energy, etc.)
I'm a boomer too I guess 😆 my parents were a major influence in my choosing to be childfree. As is my own mental and physical health.
I had a mental breakdown and have recovered slowly. When i was 20. It took me 10 years to feel balanced again.
I'm glad you have found your way to a healthier place. I imagine that would be a tough journey.
Same here, Hanna.
People should be paid for not having kids. They don't want them. But society says reproduce, reproduce. I'm a mother and I wanted a kid. I accept the sacrifices, but I certainly underestimated them.
Paid for not having kids??! What a great concept! The opposite is true in most places.
What? That is absolutely ridiculous. People that don’t have kids don’t contribute nearly as much to the economy and people that do.
Cool vid!
Here's my healthcare concerns through living in the US: the medical system won't treat you for your health conditions, but will charge you anyway. I've had too many experiences where they charged for meds I didn't take or emergency visits with no treatment cost thousands of dollars out of pocket. Doctors will go against their principles and force drugs and other stuff on you that you say no to, just because they know you're at a disadvantage and are sick. I've stopped even going for my annual doctor and dentist appointments, because dentists want to fill in cavities that aren't there and have ruined my teeth. Why would I want to intentionally put myself in a potentially life-threatening situation around doctors that might not help me with my pregnancy, push me out the door, and cost me $100,000's? Yes - they push people out of hospitals these days too soon. I'm exaggerating, but what if I'm still pregnant when I leave the hospital with the same costs? What if I come out being treated for a broken leg and still pregnant? Nope. With COVID-19 in hospitals - I'm staying away for sure.
My reasons for not having kids (even though I have no student debt):
- mobility. Health declines when having kids and kids make it harder to move
- the world is not a great place/didn't have the best life (even if I live in the US) - why would I put that on anyone else? This is reason #1
- too many people pressure you right out of college to setup everything in life - job, kids, etc. when you spent many years in academia working really hard with headaches that to switch gears gave me a headache.
- education system sucks where I live - they knock down intellectuals. Even with more options - online, homeschooling, idk what is the best way to teach them what I know.
- I already take care of two grown up children (aka parents), due to extended lifespans. My other friends don't have kids, due to taking care of family too
- my minimum wage job doesn't even pay enough for me to live - I have to say no to some jobs because they pay too little
- there's a housing shortage for those who already exist (have you seen the rise in homelessness)
- there are enough people in this world to take care of that I don't need to spend my time on kids for that
- what's the purpose? What does it really accomplish? The reasons people want me to have kids are not genuine reasons to have them imo.
- now that I can finally make my own decisions after living with helicopter parents putting me into everything without me making a choice, I can finally slow my life down and make a choice
- lots of sex ed and abstinence education portrays having kids as a lot harder of work than it really is - but that trauma's still in my head
- there's a stigma against having kids - due to overpopulation/climate change
I'm not one to say no - I'd like to continue my family's legacy and pass down my knowledge and build a better future with my kids that I would find become great citizens of society - but it's not enough motivation compared to the downsides.
Thanks for sharing. Yes, healthcare is a nightmare in so many places unfortunately. My goal is to stay as healthy as possible so I can avoid them!
I just don't want to put them through all the bullshits of life
PREACH.
I go back and forth but one of the reasons for me is seeing the change in women's physical appearance over the years once they have a kid. Vanity but it freaks me out
That can be a difficult struggle for women for sure!
@@TonyFontaine1988 🧛🏾♀️😂 stay mad
Wishing you all an amazing day today:)
00:35 Student Loan Debt
00:57 Lack of Job Stability
02:48 Focusing on Career
03:28 Health Care Costs
08:47 Kids Without Homes
09:17 It's Not Your Business
Thank you for the amazing and informational videos.!! I’m from 🇨🇦.
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By the time you get out of school, you're between 21 and 24. Those who don't go to college already have a job, kids, marriage, maybe even a house. That's why getting out of college is soul crushing to where people don't want to have kids after it
@@extropiantranshuman I honestly never thought about kids and marriage. I just wanted to be in university and get my degree!
@@WifeWithoutKids Same shoes different story lol. I love that you share :) It was brought up throughout my life from when I was 6. However, what put the nail in the coffin for me, so to speak, was when I was 3 years old. I wanted to hold a baby (it was my family's) and they said no. So it was a stigma, even if when I was 6, I said I'd have at least three. It was out of reach in my mind/totally forgot about it when I went to college (which I didn't actually want to go to) until I went back into the workplace and everyone around me said they have a job, house, husband, and 3 kids and are only a few years older than me. That's good for them, but how do I get from just graduated to that in a few years if I'm trying to get a job in my degree that people where I live get after 3 years of trying? It's a collision of expectations vs reality.
I'd much rather be a career man than a husband and father.
I'd rather work for myself
Same
Smh truly sad case. This is what society has come to? You’d rather work for someone else the rest of your life than follow your BIOLOGICAL desire to protect the people you love as a FAMILY? Shameful. People trying to deny biology are fools
@ManCity255 im not crying lmao those who are trying to go against nature will be.
@ManCity255 if you’d rather work for Another Man than work to build a family of your own you can hardly even be considered a Man at all. A man has his own things to build not only work to build up SOMEONE ELSE’S shit. Sad case indeed.
My parents had my brother and me as the first grandchildren of the family, and I had hydrocephaly due to my vaginal birth. We were also premature. I spent my first 4 months in the hospital and underwent multiple brain surgeries and other treatments such as feeding tubes and other appointments. My cost alone was $1 million in 1994 money. My grandparents were rich and still working, and were able to help, and it was the only reason I’m alive.
Another baby in the same ward was forced off life support while my mom was visiting me because the parents couldn’t afford the treatment. My mom watched the new mom hold her baby in its last moments.
Needless to say, I’m American.
To this day at almost 30 years old, I have lifelong complications from the surgeries, which one of them is that pregnancy is lethal due to scar tissue buildup over my life and a high risk of inoperable bowel blockages. I’m lucky I’m still doing ok, though my body is still not good at staying alive.
My reasons for not wanting kids
1) I’m not married
2) Even if I was married I wouldn’t want any.
3) I’m not great with kids (especially disciplining them)
4) I still live with my parents
5) I have MH issues
6) I love freedom
7) Kids are expensive
Good reasons!
Me too
Thanks for posting!! My principal reason for not procreating is more focused on rapid environmental degradation but any reason is valid. People like you deserve praise.
You are so welcome. Agreed. All reasons are valid. 😃
I’m married and pregnant but I love this channel. I love seeing people living their best lives regardless of what people think.
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31 and no kids and not planing on having kids my siblings are on the same boat as me none of us want children.
That's a rare find! You will always have childfree friends. 🙌
I'm 19, but have been childfree my whole life. Only few people in my life know, cause I don't think other adults would take me seriously 🥴🙄.
A lot of adults don't take the childfree choice seriously, but that's OK. You get to make that choice for yourself regardless. 😃
@@WifeWithoutKids Well yes, my BFF gave me a really great advise (she wants kids). She said: "You know what? It doesn't matter whether you want kids or not. It doesn't define you, or make you less of a person." She's amazing, I love her so much 🥰!
I'm 19 too and I want to focus on my life, discover who am I supposed to be and what to do with it. I don't want to give up on my dreams and ambitions just to be a mother.
@@KamisamaSenpaiM4GIC Sameee, we are all working so hard and I don't just want to give it up to another human being. I feel like my whole identitety would be gone.
@@Iiiivvvvvyy stay yourself, it's your life so your rules!
24 and not having kids I’m so happy with my decision as well ♥️🙌🏾
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I live in Ukraine but I am shocked about it now! The US is exctreeeeemely expensive! Gosh
I think it's one of the reasons some people decide not to have kids.
having children just adds another target for my enemies
Reasons why I do not want kids:
1. I have a mental disorder
2. I have anger issues
3. I have sickle cell
4. I have allergies
5. I'm not very responsible
6. I want more free time
Very valid reasons!
@@WifeWithoutKids Thank you.
Me too
Another reason could be the fight against the old house rules of Mom stays home and dad provides. There are many households now a days that chose different role rules. Gone are our grandparents days.
Yes, you are absolutely right. "Traditional" life and roles have changed a lot over the past couple of decades.
That's my role change in our house. Husband stays home and does the cooking and cleaning while I work. I get a lot of looks when people ask what I cook.
"Oh, my husband does that."
So then they what kind of job he has.
"He's not working. Just stays home cleaning."
The look on their faces is classic! So funny.
@@christins.1481 Ha, I bet!
@@christins.1481 your husband is lovely
I always feel happy after watching your videos... I truly resonate. #Childfreelife
I'm so glad!
We millenials went from crisis to crisis during our lifetimes and have got shafted every damn time. So why would we want to bring kids into hardship? I wouldnt want anyone to experience what i have and am going through. No kids for me!
This! Finally a reason that is valid and not rude or mean towards children.
My mom had me at 19 and my dad took off when I was three and even with a lot of family support we struggled financially. It really had an effect on me, seeing how hard her life was, and I chose early on I did not want to have kids if it was going to be a financial hardship on all of us.
The U.S. does not have enough support for mothers. Their careers will stall, they aren't given enough maternity leave, daycare is incredibly expensive, medical costs, as you showed, are crazy.
This country treats necessities as commodities ( housing, transportation, education, medical care, and with the rising inflation, now food is becoming hard to afford 🙄) which is bad enough, but all these costs are going up but not wages. My rent is over half my income now. They raise it 5% a year.
Even if people wanted kids they wouldn't be able to afford them. So many adults I know are staying with their parents now because they can't afford housing.
And they think it's a mystery why the birth rate has decreased?
Plus, we just got out of a pandemic and we're heading for a recession. Not great conditions for starting a family.
Pretty soon having kids will be a luxury.
Except in the states that are forcing births, of course 😔
The problem is when people have kids they can't support then they gotta rely on the govt to help them and then that's when u lose control of your life
That's a scary thought!
I knew American birth costs were high but dang! I feel like people should be paid to have the baby, not the other way around.🤭 My sister who lives in California, USA had an emergency C-section and her baby was in the NICU for a week, so I bet that bill was nuts!
Thanks for making these videos, the child free lifestyle doesn’t always get the positive attention it deserves. My husband and I are child free millennials and we are enjoying our lives so much!
Thank you for taking time to comment:) Yes, there are so many positive aspects of living child free!
I live in California and just the extra food (to feed the pregnancy) and driving expenses alone to get such food are too much for me!
bc my life is MY LIFE. i don't HAVE TO share it. it is a PERSONAL JOURNEY to see how well I (ME) can do with what I (ME) have been given.
i know this sounds selfish but it's so true.
Why I don't want kids. I'm 37. Married.
1. I am the oldest of 6 siblings. Should be enough of a reason right?
2. The world is a shit show. No way would I bring a kid into the world right now, especially with the damn covid bs going on.
3. I am already 300,000 in debt and yes, I live in America. Student loans and house.
4. I listen to other people talk about the BS they have to deal with concerning their children. I watch people go out to eat with their kids. Kids are yelling, running around, won't sit in their chair, throwing food, and the poor parents can't enjoy their meal and neither can anyone else in the restaurant for that matter. I understand that not all kids do this but I've seen more do it than those that don't.
5. I like sleeping.
My goal is to deliberately not have kids.
I hear you on the loans! It took ages for me to pay off mine. Education is expensive. And yes, the world is kind of all over the place at the moment...😐
If you want to have kids so be it, have them, if you don't want to don't have them. Don't let society pressure you to have or not have them don't care what others think, it's your life, your decision.
Well said! 🙌
Hi. Thank you for making this channel. It's a relief to know I'm not alone. My reason for going childfree has largely been the huge price the Earth is paying in the form of mass extinctions and climate change.
Here in India, people will just laugh it off if I tell them about my decision. It is just not acceptable to not have kids. I mean India is the second most populous country in the world, still when I say I'm not going to have kids, I get such horrid looks as if I've killed someone. The worst comments are "This is selfish of you to think" or "who will care for you when you're old?", as if that's not a selfish enough reason to have children!
Yes, it's tough when people just have one way of thinking and aren't able to see that another decision might be a good option for someone. You aren't alone though!
@@WifeWithoutKids Glad I came across your channel. :)
@@TonyFontaine1988 oh poor baby. Need someone to tuck you in bed?
@@palakjain1099 Lol I know right.... Here In India, people buy wedding jewellery for kids even before they are born.
Secondly) I see so majority of old people mistreated or abandoned by their own children. So it's no guarantee that they'll look after you when old.
@@SR-kd4wi True. If kids really are retirement plans, why are old age homes existing? 🙄
Reason why I don't want children...I just don't want them...48yo
i totally understand that!
Yes, the health care system in America is terrible. I had several seizures out of the blue (never had one before) while sitting on our couch one night and my fiancé had to call an ambulance. 1) ambulance ride over and 1 night (not even full 24 hours later) one test and basically a big “we don’t know why you had a seizure and we aren’t sure you didn’t make it up so go home.” Keeping in mind I was unconscious and unable to speak or move for 6 hours so I didn’t even get a choice in an ambulance being called or anything they did to me at the hospital or didn’t do for me. I was more then a little confused. My current doctor is still trying to figure it all out and she has even tried to get us to sue the hospital (I’m just not that kind of person)....but the bill was $60,000 usd. It’s been over a year, in the beginning I tried to make payments but they refuse to work with me because I only make like 25k-30k a year so couldn’t afford much. My credit score is effected and I probably won’t recover from this financially. Also student loan debt = hell...enough said lol
Oh my goodness that's terrible! I'm so sorry to hear that. Debt is a challenge to pay off, but when you aren't able to make payments on a bill that large, it would be pretty discouraging. Are you doing ok medically now?
Wife Without Kids I still have seizures and we still aren't sure why (Doctor suspects heart condition but no health insurance to run the necessary tests.) We manage pretty well now and I don't have bad days to often, I have a great partner that makes me laugh and keeps me positive. 😄
@@linzfae2210 That's tough, I can't imagine, but so glad you have someone that supports you! 🌻
that's exactly what I see with others! One time I went to the hospital and someone had a broken leg and they told them to stop crying! I'm like, that just makes it worse - and you're just letting the person sit there without treatment?! Really?
But yes, I went into a hospital one time and they said I'm making my pains up and that I need counseling - multiple times.
One dentist even said that they'll only be able to fill in cavities, because it's all they get paid for when I was asking for sealants! They won't do anything except fill cavities, ridiculous!
@@linzfae2210 I heard there's something about diet that can cause it - someone I know even said something about casein and just Google msg neurotoxin - wow! When I ate animal products, I felt like I had headaches that were acting like seizures. I created my own neurotoxin free diet (staying away from anything that overstimulates nerves): no animal products, caffeine, peanuts, gluten, soy, pure sugar, etc. Hope that helps: www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/healthy-living/healthy-eating/nutrition-and-seizure-control.
What also helps is vitamin D3 and magnesium, maybe even lavender.
Oh yeah, I heard that keto helps, but idk really - never tried and don't have seizures, but there's research on it: www.epilepsy.com/learn/treating-seizures-and-epilepsy/dietary-therapies/ketogenic-diet.
I'm no doctor - just someone with a health science Bachelor's - I just try to educate myself to not need doctors, but there's nothing wrong with going to them if the health issue's beyond what can be handled independently
Reasons I don’t want kids.
1: Costs, well it’s a fact that once you have kids you gave yourself a lifetime responsibility, and that also means paying for expenses, like college, some schools, diapers & clothes, and literally the sky high hospital bills (and there is even more), being me I feel like I am way too selfish to give up all of this for another person, I just can’t imagine how much effort that takes to be willing to give up time effort and with many jobs not having paid leave, giving up money for someone else, many parents in my county don’t have paid leave, so cold and flu season is rough for elementary students, since by law they can’t stay home but their parents won’t be financially stable if they give up time, so you know what used to happen... yep, kids got sent to school with colds flus and stomach bugs. It’s like since many have to give time for other things you have to choose between your kid and being able to pay bills. Thankfully elementary school is long gone for me!
2: Childbirth
Ok this process sounds like hell, you have to carry a person in your uterus for 9 months to have to push them out of your vagina in a very painful manner I can’t handle that. I can barely handle laxatives. Literally it sounds like something I can’t handle. But ik adoption is an alternative, just that the process has failed for many, and I have grown fearful of failure, so that’s a no from me! And if I were to have kids I would definitely adopt.
3: Literally I won’t be a good parent al all.
Yeah people keep telling me “Oh you will be a great parent don’t worry it all comes naturally and you will enjoy every bit of it!” Also the same people are the ones complaining when their kid does something wrong, saying their kids are burdens and the main ones throwing mental damage like a cannonball at their kid. I can’t say no, I just keep trying and when I fail I get toxic, and having a little person sit through me doing that stuff won’t be a good example and I probably will traumatize someone. I am way too emotional, and parents have to be seen as strong human beings, and I know that I won’t be viewed like that.
4: I honestly don’t connect to others that well in person, unless I really know you. Yeah digitally it’s easier, you don’t have to worry about being judged or having to yell no. My mom in an effort to persuade me to have kids says “It’s like a motherly bond at sight!” Yeah right, many people don’t have that motherly bond. I have seen various reports about the doctor passing a kid to the mom and the mom feeling no connection whatsoever. And there are many kids who are orphans because their parents didn’t feel love for them. Nothing is picture perfect like many imagine having kids for.
5: Me being toxic when I am angry or sad or depressed, yeah I touched on this before but it deserves a whole section. I build up anger and let it all out, ik it’s not a good thing but I keep doing it because it’s a way to cope, I complain a lot and I know if I have a kid 10 times out of 10 I am going to complain about them and be toxic, it’s literally a terrible personality trait I have and getting kids and spreading it is just a hell no from me. It’s my fault that I am like this and I am unfit for the job.
5: I am just there. I just tolerate most kids that I meet at first sight in person, I am not like my mom who says aw and asks a lot about them. I am the person to be like ok you need this? Fine here ok now fuck off. And I know for a fact that ain’t a good parental trait.
6: I am lazy. I am tired of writing so ima just stop here with the reasons.
So why put a person through all this when I can just not put someone through a living hell by not having a kid? I have yet to have been persuaded but my mom says “God says be fruitful and multiply, if you don’t do that that is ungodly and you don’t want to be that.” Yeah but I know I am going to be a shitty parent so I don’t want to put a person who didn’t choose to be in this cruel society into this household with a toxic mom. And when I still say no I get this: “You are too immature to make this choice in life, just wait.” Or “You will change your mind.” Or “Well I need grandchildren 😢.” Or “You will be a great parent!”
Yeah no Ima still pass.
And I am nice to dogs so I think ima go with dogs!
Those are all valid reasons not to have a baby. At the end of the day if you don't want to care for a child it's your choice to not be a parent.
@@WifeWithoutKids Ay thx for responding! I have been scared these weren’t valid but I knew that they were reasons. It’s mostly coming from being challenged by others who say things that make me question what I said, but later I return to what I said as the answer.
Just found your channel and I've been binge watching, but in addition to birth, the cost of raising a child in the USA is $1.3 million over time! It's so awful. I'm only 21 but I know for sure parenthood isn't for me. I get so much more motivation and joy from thinking about dedicating my life to human rights work and caring for all sorts of animals throughout my life. I'm happy that I'm sure about my life path so young, but funnily enough, men in my generation want children so much more than women (not sure about stats for non-binary people or if it's different for trans people). I'm not maternal, and as one of the eldest cousins and most often the eldest girl, I was always stuck with the children while at family gatherings and it just drove me nuts. I know I never want to do that again lol.
There are so many positive aspects to deciding to live a CF life. Happy you found the channel! 🌷
In Australia there is a huge problem where many Millennials simply refuse to buy a home; they're insanely overpriced here! Especially around Sydney.
Eg: A modern 2br apartment about 45mins away from Sydney (work) costs $700,000 and up right now. You want a small house? Forget it.
Unfortunately the older generations have turned the property industry here into a money making commodity. No one likes to talk about the issue though, there are a lot of heads in the sand.
Of course many other important factors come into the decision, but I've seen a lot of renters in their 20's and 30's who aren't settled/stable enough to start a family right now, and are waiting for housing to become more affordable.
That is SO expensive! No wonder the younger generation can't afford housing.
I live in Australia, NSW and that is pretty much on point.
But I heard Australians get home grants for building house from scratch. Is this true?
@@jazzyk4046 That is true! But it really is a drop in the bucket when you consider the inflated prices of property. When you have to incentivise people to build/buy property, it's not a good situation.
Agree with you, I love Sydney and I think is the best city in the world but forget to buy a house or else you have parents help you.
I love not having kids. So far I have travelled extensively throughout the world and there's so much more I wish to see. Such an honest and insightful video. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Yes, hospital bills here are that bad! We’re $30k down from an illness my husband has. It took 4 freaking years to get a diagnosis. We couldn’t afford kids right now if we wanted them and we both work full time!
Yikes, that's a bundle to pay:(
Wife Without Kids No doubt! And my husband is from Scotland, so every time we get a bill the language level goes up to ticked off Scotsman. 😜
@@JilliesNails LOL!!!
“Not having children is so selfish!” I didn’t feel the need to CLONE MYSELF, but suuure I’m the selfish one Natasha!
5:10 That is Insane. That would take me 16 + years to work and save 100% of my allowance. (1000$+ a month. Roughly 12000$+ a year) No food, clothes nothing not even essentials. That is *Mad Crazy* Thank goodness that in our country you don't need money to deliver a baby. This is mental I did not even know people charge you for this.
It's pretty sobering.
U r so preety. May be someday I could find a partner like u who has childfree mentality. It's so horrible to have a baby. I mean that doesn't mean I dont like children, but sometimes i feel this is unnecessary to bring a child into this world of suffering, pain, struggle, job insecurity, jealousy, natural disaster to deal with and the list goes on. That's why I love u r descion to not have kids, but the problem is to find a partner is very difficult with same mindset.
pretty much prices on everything skyrocketed while salaries barely pushed by a bump up (unless you're a techie or work for facebook or something)
So true! Salaries never increase the same way that expenses do unfortunately.
yeah but arent those jobs are in like California? which is a harder state to get by.. doesnt California have lowest birthrate in US
It's a big decision to have kids. It's a big decision to not have them. There's the financial aspect, health aspect, and mental-emotional aspect. I AM a mom, and I have the upmost respect to those who choose not to have kids so soon or not at all. It should be something that should never be rushed into or pressured into.
Oh man, I always love your videos but I feel this one so much. I laugh to my husband all the time that I have the worlds most expensive piece of art on the wall lol I got the debt but not the job! 😂
LOL. Education is so expensive!! It can be worth it for sure, but it comes at a cost.
I knew I wanted to be childfree since I was 18. A year prior, I planned to hopefully get married in my early 20s and to start having kids around 24. At 18 I realized from New life experiences that I needed freedom in life and that forcing myself to fit into other conventions wasn't working. I wasn't sure if I should have kids anymore. So I researched if it's better to be childfree and found studies showing married couples are happier without kids. Plus, I found resources from chidlfree people about the benefits of being chidlfree. I happily chose to be childfree. I'm now 32 and even happier with my choice than at 18!
Thanks for sharing. It's helpful that there is finally some research available about childfree people as well. It definitely helps with the decision making.
Holy moly! I live in the United States but I didn’t know of all these medical costs for having kids!!! Omg!? Why aren’t we having more transparent conversations about this? Why do we judge and shame people so much for not having kids when it costs SO much just to bring a child into this world. I know for LGBTQ couples it’s even more expensive. For me it doesn’t add up. This just further confirms my childfree choice. Thank you for sharing. I am also quite open about my why for being childfree too.
Overpopulation is a problem:
Poverty
Climate change
Hungry
High cost of living
Water shortage
Pandemics
Inmigration (as the result of an unstable economy managing overpopulation in their origin country)
For me, I'm still a virgin because I wanted to create a moment and someone else's life, that was as if someone had and do it through time and space just to spend a short lifetime with them.
You don't feel guilty, you don't really feel remorseand not having any pressure in the body is just a form of content. It's because nobody knows what content truly is like in the US, that we have such an issue with people impulsively going towards emotionally stimulating activities which inadvertently pushed people further away from each other andonly enhancing the fear of getting hurt by another.
Wow i hear this high costs for having a child and my mind is blown! Why people are still reproducing to this amount?! Belgium has a good health care system and you relatively pay a small amount yourself. The rest is on health insurance (wich is obligatory to have). Also a part of the taxes from your salary is for health insurance...
It obviously varies from country to country and individual families, but yes, it's a significant amount of money.
My friend who had a child 7 years ago with very good insurance and no issues said it was right at $10,000 cash out of pocket for the actual birth.
Canada 🇨🇦 is pretty similar to Norway 🇳🇴 when it comes to healthcare. Great video as always 🤓👍🏼
I didn't know that! Thanks for sharing:)
Canada is the Europe from the Americas although Americans think they are but their systen can't be compared to a high-quality of life system like Canada, West Europe, Scandinavia or even Australia. I'm not Canadian but if I were, I'd be happy because Canadians take absolutely care of their citizens and residents. Americans just care about capitalism
1. waste of money
2. waste of time
3.stress
I see the stress that parents go through and I can't even imagine.
Dont bring more kids into this rotten world. Adopt if it's so important
I dont want to be a father of children because i grew up in a foster care family sure they where loving people but the fact is that my original family could not take care of me because of some certain short commings wich i will not mention here but in order to avoid the same story repeating itself i have decided to never want children it is also giving me peace that i come home to a silent place where i can watch a movie or read a book in peace without screaming anywany you have a intresting channel will give it certainly some vieuws now and then
Thank you for sharing. The way we grow up can most definitely play a big role in whether or not we decide to have children. As they say, silence is golden:) I like my quiet time as well!
It just feels so sad not raising your own child.
I really appreciate this video a lot and to know that were not alone in these difficult times. The other reason I would also add is the corona virus which has also affected mental health as well and just mental health in general.
You are never alone! You're right, personal struggles or mental health challenges can have an impact on whether or not we make the choice to have children.
only way i would have kids is if i was rich. I am not
Ha, kids do come with a significant price tag! 🏷
Of all your videos I've seen, looks like THEY ALL deserve a thumbs up!.. Makes me wonder what kind of person ever gives them a thumbs down?...
What made me change my mind about having children is my little cousins, even though I’m 10 I know that I don’t what kids lol
So many reasons not to reproduce. I dislike kids, they annoy me. I don’t have the patience for them. My interests lie more in animals. I don’t agree with making more when we have so many kids in the foster system, I’d rather adopt if I’m going to have kids. It’s expensive, the planet can’t take any more humans, I don’t agree with bringing more people into the planet to suffer as I have. We don’t know if there will be enough food or water for them in 50 years, we’re on the brink of nuclear war, we just came through a pandemic….there are so many valid reasons not to breed. But this one is the clincher; I simply don’t want to. I’m selfish and I want my money, time and energy for me, and to help unwanted birds who need homes.
Currently 43, childless and happy. Never wanted kids in my 20's or early 30's. Started pondering a change in my later 30's till 40, but could not justify the cost, time and attention required to have one plus wasn't actually with a woman that I trusted would be a great mother and on the same page as far as parenting style. I'm still living my best life childfree and loving every minute of it.
Job change all the time in life, even CF people become redundant etc. Not all CF people choose a career, after all, what will they do after retirement? I know people who live for a career and when they become retired they have committed suicide. A job is just a job for me and just pays for my mortgage I amnot my job. I like my freedom to do what I want and to do nothing if i want.
Yes, it's good to have something that gives us meaning besides our jobs!
5:49 If I did not have esurance it would take me 61 years to make that kind of money 877000$ without spending a single penny. Again if I don't buy food,clothes,no health care for my self if I get sick, no electricity,water, house etc.
I am so excited about the fact that I can't have kids its extremely expensive
It is.
I don't want my body to change due to giving birth I like being skinny and having control kids being loud and babies crying is so horrible I hate it
The world was overpopulated in the 1950’s, at which time my grandparents immediately finished fighting WWII to go about causing the “Baby Boomers,” generation to emerge and only compounded the problem.
There are a lot of people in the world!
34, married 5 years and childfree. March makes it one year I had a vasectomy, best $585 ever spent. Life is good!
According to my high school, this is inaccurate 😂😭 Baby bumps everywhere!!
LOL, it's just because of COVID! JK
And they called Elon Musk crazy when he said that we are headed towards a population decline
He may have been onto something ... 🤔
Hopefully the step from 7 to 8 billion will take longer than 13 years...
The population in the US is actually decreasing and soon there will be negative population growth
I think the hospital bill here in Finland is upto 700€. Including pretty much everything. We have a limit to what hospital bills can cost per person per year so that's why even if your hospital bill would be 100 000 € you won't pay that. A friend's baby needed weeks in hospital due to complications and their bill would have been ridiculous. But it wasn't!
We have a costshare healthcare group. Basically, when you make a claim, you tell all the Dr visits and hospital that you're cash pay. There's normally a discount when you're cash pay vs using insurance. So you get a discount + when you have the baby the costshare covers the bills including the first doctor's visits. So, you pay $1,500 at first, but then you get that money back. It doesn't cost anything. My sister has done this 3 times with her kids. Unsure if I can even have kids, but I'm on the plan just in case. Happy to know there's a no judgement community out there. Because I'm tired of people asking. It kind of hurts. It's called christian healthcare ministries.
I'm 48 and choosing to be childfree was right for ME. No ones opinion matters.... you don't know my story! I still have a busy fully rounded life.
That’s the same here in England our healthcare is free. Little portion is taken from our taxes to fund our healthcare system.
There are definitely pros and cons for a medical system that is funded like ours, but I’m not sure the alternative is any better!