STORY TIME: HOW I FOUND OUT MY HUSBAND IS GAY *DOWN LOW MEN* | YVONNE QUEEN
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WELCOME BACK TO MY CHANNEL STORY TIME EDITION!! THIS STORY IS ABOUT HOW I FOUND MY HUSBAND IS ON THE DOWN LOW. THIS WAS DEFINITELY A SHOCKER AND SOMETHING I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH. THIS STORY ISN'T TO OFFEND ANYONE, ITS JUST SIMPLY FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES SO YOU PURPOSES AS WELL EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES. HOPEFULLY SOMEONE CAN LEARN FROM MY DECISIONS AND INSPIRE SOMEONE IN A SIMILAR SITUATION. LETS LAUGH AT THIS TOGETHER AND SHARE STORIES. I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED LOVE AND SUPPORT.
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Ladies NEVER…and I mean NEVER discredit what you feel!!!! The world calls it your intuition, believers call it the Holy Spirit. Call it what you will but ALWAYS TRUST IT!!!
PEOPLE OF GOD IF YOU ARE READING THIS THE LORD IS TRYING TO GET YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION HE’S GIVING YOU ANOTHER CHANCE TO REPENT AND SAVE YOUR SOUL!!!
Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. I turn from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior.
💯 💯 💯
Pray and ask the Lord to give you the gift of DISCERNMENT this will help you distinguish the difference between what is GOOD for you and what is BAD for you. He will allow us to see what his EYES see behind CLOSED doors and once he REVEALS the TRUTH just embrace it for what it is and allow him to HEAL, DELIVER and SET you FREE so you can move FORWARD😇
@@chosenonpurpose489 Amen!!Amen!! Amen!! 💯 agree with your comment.
Amen ooh Lord
The worst part isn’t even him being gay, it’s him cheating and lying for so long :/
He could just be bisexual lol
Wonder why he felt like he needs t do that? Smh. He shouldn’t have to hide himself
That’s literally not a reason to KILL someone tf
him being gay is still a part of it because usually closeted men treat the women use a certain way whether they're cheating or not
That’s definitely the worst part for a heterosexual woman
This is the thing, not many people care that you are gay. It’s when you manipulate straight people to be with you for a cover up is when it becomes a problem. This will get you hurt or killed in the black community. Be who you are, just leave us out of it. Glad you are out of that mess, blessings to you!
Exactly
I don’t think this is the truth. I’ve seen Black men be killed, jumped, beaten, abandoned by their entire family &/or lose their job/career potential by choosing to be openly gay. Straight people care very much, it’s why rappers never discuss the missing Black women but constantly discuss Lil Nas X & every post he makes.
@@MorganDanielleBeauty Some may care, but I also want to rephrase my initial response. There’s more of us who don’t care. I’m going to stick to the story she is telling in this video and double down on the manipulation of straight people is a NO NO!!!
This!!!! Don’t use straight people as a cover up it ends up hurting both parties
@@MorganDanielleBeauty but sheis telling the truth this has to be said loid, why are gays using straight people to hide their sexuality? Straight people have feelings too, we can't always consider gay people's feelings while ignoring their manipulation and means to straight people.
When I was in high school my first “boyfriend” was DL. He was the most manipulative, verbally and emotionally abusive person on the planet. He would embarrass me in front of others, intentionally leave me out or ignore me or talk down to me. He acted like I annoyed him in every way and he was feminine but I just was in denial and made excuses. I finally dumped him bc I couldn’t understand why I was being treated that way. Eventually he came out. I’m glad I learned the lesson early on: if a man is feminine and showing red flags but also in a relationship with you and treating you like dirt for no reason, he’s probably repressed and taking it out on you. I never made that mistake again. Happily married for 16 years. I pray you find a man worth your time!
Amen.
I don’t have a problem people being gay lesbian by or pansexual and transgender.
But I’m sorry to hear about that, just because his sexuality. Doesn’t excuse him to be treating you like that, he shouldn’t take it out on other people like you. If he can’t be happy, honest and true to himself.
He shouldn’t be dating somebody, because he’s scared of his own sexuality. I’m glad you’re happy and moving on.
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Gay men hate women because they wish they were us.
This is EXACTLY how my ex was.
Except he’s 45 and I’m 40.
When I calmly asked him if he ever thought about sex with a man, he squeezed the air out of my lungs and I woke up in the hallway.
To this day, I honestly have no idea what the hell that man is battling with.
Sometimes a man hurts every women that enters his life because his true soulmate is a man
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OKAY!
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That part
You can’t watch out for it because they’re so crafty with it! You think they out playing basketball and they playing with each other’s balls!
Bhahaha 😅😂🤣🤦🏿♂️... No truer words were ever spoken ...
Lmaoo
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OMG the way I just hollered at this comment lol. Hilarious!
Oh may 😂😂😂
Skirts, suspect friends, grinding....we gotta stop closing our eyes to the truth.
I was thinking this story was gone be one of those where the signs were so subtle that I was thinking he played her but DAMN the signs were THERE smacking her in the face. Love is blind and glad she’s out of that situation.
@@rihrih2013 same here! I hate that women feel pressured to have a man that they overlook the obvious. Love isn't blind, shoot. Most women just put on shades.
I definitely don’t want to place blame but all the textbook signs were there.
She was young,we all were there at some point.
Exactly 🙄
This is a character problem, not a gay problem, and I'm sick of people using their sexuality/struggles as an excuse to abuse another person, risk their health, and sanity..
It really is.
I am with a man who I have felt very insecure with. Something my gut tells me is not to trust him and I have caught him checking out other men. He is 45, no kids, never been married and was not very experienced if you know what I mean…even his touch, it’s like he’s never touched a woman before. So I am paranoid and crazy for having these thoughts, according to him.
@@nicolehageman5978Get rid of him before you get HIV.
I know. They give cheating dl men a pass bc they're finally living their truth. Ughhh. Like anyone on their lgbt team gets a pass for horrific behavior once they come out.
@@nicolehageman5978 Trust your intention. The fact that you’re on this video speaks volumes. Why be with someone you feel insecure with? I think you’ve indirectly answered your own questions, no point ignoring reality it just wastes precious years of your life. You don’t need anyone else to confirm what your intention has already been telling you.
I dated a guy that I found suspect ...I told him about my suspicion and told him if he was I am not here to judge him ...I gently told him that he should live in his truth ...that man broke down and cried ...I could see the fear and confusion in him...but u know what my approach and support gave him the courage to admit to himself and family that he was gay ...to this day we are friends...sometime fear and shame cause people to hide and deceive
kudos to you for handling that situation with compassion. everybody is just trying to survive and get by in life. if people would be more accepting and compassionate, people would not have to lie and create facades.
This is how you do it. Be open and cool about it and they will just admit it to you freely
awww this is such a cute comment. i love how you gave him support
I understand to certain point but do not waste a woman's time marrying her or having a child with her.
Thanks for this comment.
As a gay man I can tell you from the minute she started talking about this I saw the red flags instantly. I think women often times don’t trust their intuition. I hope you got tested. I hate you had to experience this. Situations like these make women feel like they can’t trust men.
it's true - I think women get gaslighted a lot more because of second-guessing themselves or maybe desperately wanting to believe in a fairy tale.
We do I think my son father is gay .. my intuition always told me I even asked him .. just live ya truth
Wowwwwww. This comment just me think of where are my gay guy friends at to analyze this situation I am overthinking, but it looks like from what you’re saying I should just stop questioning myself. My intuition knows….
@@yellowonion2509 same
@@yellowonion2509 why do you think he's gay lol
Idk what’s more disturbing…the video or the fact that you have 1.5K comments of women who have similar experiences 😳
The comments .. definitely the comments
That part ❗❗
Indeed!
lol. the 2nd one. crazy!
Fareal
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Actions speak louder than words. He was giving you RED BANNERS.
Your first sign was when he tried to commit self harm ever time you tried to break up with him. Anyone that does that is manipulative as fuck!
That's also an effeminate form of suicide.
TRUTH!
They know who to do it to. Cause someone like me won't feel bad. I have alway bn aware that its selfish and manipulative
Yep
Absolutely on point sis!
"Women's intuition" is real. It's a gift from God that we were born with. Never ever doubt yourself. Go with your gut. Ask questions. Be protected! When all else fails, get you a gay friend who can help you when your gaydar is off.
100% always 🙌
Not gaydar 😂
What if it dont walk like a duck or talk like a duck? Then how would I know?
@@chantaychani4045 It always comes to the light. Always. Not overnight but it gets exposed some way
@@chantaychani4045 Whenever you take your time to get to know someone, the truth is always revealed. Ifsomething feels off, ask questions and take notes. If a person is lying or deceitful, inconsistencies show up if you keep your eyes open. As my dad always says "only fools rush in".
Honestly this isn’t even a down low story. Wearing skirts, twerking on you, excitedly going to dinner with other men, up all night giggling over another man’s text….. he wasn’t down-low you were naive. Thank goodness you’re out of that situation. You’re beautiful
Definitely the signs were “V8ing” her in the forehead
EXACTLY
But he never straight up told her: hey I’m gay or bi. So yes still down low because even though there’s signs he’s not out .
Yup!!! Same thoughts!! Like she’s wonderful and no judge mental, but homie was clear as day!
Exactly
There's a book about this coming out: Deception, Disease, & Desperation: A Man's Guide for Women to Identify and Avoid Closeted Gay Men
I wish more men can own up to being bisexual. As a gay man, it would be easier for ALL parties involved. Sorry you went through this.
Jesus Christ loves you more than you could ever know.
I swear just leave us out of that shit
@@egoagbo8574 The fuck does Jesus Gotta do with this
@@trinarenaye5202 who is us
Exactly, Ive dated bisexual men before, but they were honest and open. There is a difference between being gay and downlow and a closeted bisexual. She didnt go into their sex life but that would give more light into what the real situation was.
My cousin married a man who was gay “down low” and had a child. When I first met him I thought he was gay by his mannerisms and him styling women’s hair as well. Even my grandma said she thought he was suspect. Before I could tell my cousin my suspicions they got married. They had a son but divorced once he came out. At this point I think it’s best for people to use our intuition about people. Our intuition is given to us to protect us. The more we listen to it the better we are at recognizing it. I’m glad you got through the situation.
So true 👍
That's messed up. If a man/woman likes the same sex. You shouldn't even try to be in a relationship with them.They like what they like and that's the same sex. I just don't see how anyone can live a life full of make belief and lies.
@@naturalcurlyhair8331 Exactly they out here deceiving ppl trying to cover up they true selves smh sum of these men are terrible
@@naturalcurlyhair8331 I totally agree with you. My cousins ex told her he didn’t know for sure if he was gay… he was 26 yrs old when they married. Come on now. I knew I liked boys as a young child. I think they are scared to come out because of family and society treating them bad. I get that but don’t marry a person if you are unsure or even know you are gay. Stay single.
A dear friend was deceived by a man who was gay but couldn't come out due to his religion so married her (as a cover). After being married for nearly 2 years, they apparently never consumed the marriage and she left him.
I'd never stay with someone for 2 years with no direction of where the relationship is going and would have outed him for being deceptive and in denial of his sexuality!
Literally this video saved my life, today I felt the depression of this happening to me 2 years ago and being blamed for his ways and the mistreatment from it. Like I'm still broken spiritually, emotionally and physically ill from this. More than often I feel like I'm just existing and feel beyond hollow inside. No amount of therapy and meds is helping....feeling so alone and then watching this has helped me today. Thank you for sharing.
💜💜😘😘😘 @ivory
Jesus loves you! Stay strong sister, it will get better 🙏🏾
Praying for you. So sorry you experienced that.
I Just prayed for you! Surrender everything to the Lord!!!
Thank y'all
Um...my friend who was married to her husband of 17 years found out he was gay way too late! He was physically and verbally abusive to her and on top of that, he gave her AIDES! She just recently passed not too long ago and my heart feels for her! MAY SHE REST IN PEACE!😥! PLEASE BE AWARE WHO YOU GET INVOLVED WITH BECAUSE THIS WORLD IS SO CRUEL!
Dammm these gay men need to be true to themself
This always happens to black women. So terrible. May she Rest In Peace
This is heartbreaking 💔
So sad 😭
Senting you hugs
He could have told you he was gay in the beginning and y’all could have been besties instead!
He’d have to tell me in the beginning before I find myself wanting him though lol
@@MsJae-qk2tw lol right
😆 Facts
He shouldn't try to be with a woman if he's gay. I wouldn't want to be his bestie if he sleeps with me knowing he's gay. I wish she had left sooner.
@@melissajohnson8696 I’m talking bout before a relationship begin and before they catch feelings lol
Sis....those flags werent red, those flags were BURNING !!!! I'm just glad that you got out when you did. Always, ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. 💯
I lived with 2 gay men when I lived in San Diego, one of them was "homo thug", that was the term and the other was I guess you could call I regular guy, you would have no idea they were gay. I saw so many married men come through that house I lost count. I saw guys I was stationed with,I saw people's boyfriends, siblings, there are a lot of men on the down low, bi-curious and just bi-sexual. Ladies my besties are gay, if you think your man is gay he most likely is. You are not crazy, or imaging things, he just likes having sex with other men.
If you're husband starts wearing a skirt, that's your sign. If he had "suspect friends," that's also another sign. Us women take too much crap from men.
what type of skirt?
you can wear skirts without being gay lmfao?????
They don't know about Scottish men
Wearing a skirt is not a sign of being gay. Just like black women, gay men aren’t a monolith
Whats wrong with having gay friends. You can have gay friends and not be gay yourself, the same way gay people have stright freinds but arent going to turn strigh.
I often wondered why most men who struggle with their sexuality are aggressive towards women... It's striking that you made that connection in your previous marriage.
Yea if a man disrespects me I assume he is gay
@@_prettybrownbrown7729 That's narcissistic asf 🤣
@@professorxslave1500 narcissistic is not the correct decription. Perhaps assumptive or ill informed are better decriptors, but you dont have enough information about the poster to call them narcissistic. It is a complete misuse of that disorder.
@@nquisitivt I'm going to need you to get familiar with a dictionary or utilize autocorrect to make sure your spelling skills are up to par before coming for me Miss. It's not that serious my dear.
@@professorxslave1500
This happened to me I never looked at men the same since I’m trying to get over it but it’s unreal that a man could love you and put your life at risk daily
THATS FUCKED UPP PERIOD FOR A MAN TO MESS AROUND WITH A DUDE AND PLAY WITH A REAL WOMAN FEELINGS
PRAYER AND DISCERNMENT FROM GOD WILL KEEP YOU ON POINT FROM THESE UNTRUTHFUL TIME STEALERS
Amen! I agree with you.
I was married to a man who, whilst throwing old clothes out I found a love letter from his long term male lover of six years. He fell apart when I told him I found his love letter tucked in the back of a drawer.. he said he was bi. This was back in the early 90s when it wasn't as accepted to be gay. We ended our relationship a while after after I realised I was just a front. It took me ten years to fully get over the mistrust, and 17 years before we spoke again. It took him 3 failed hetero marriages to realise it wasn't for him and now is living his authentic life gay.
Interesting
Wow 😯
Damn 😯
It was accepted in the '90's. He just did not accept himself.
Lol he was ashamed of him self that's why he hid .
At least y'all ain have no kids tied in this messs still very unfortunate tho
100% this is the worst betrayal that a man can do to a woman.
No lie, I think this has happened to most women but a lot of us don’t know. I felt in my bones that my ex was like this, he never admitted it but there were 🚩 all over the place. I won’t trust any man now.
He sounds like a terrible person. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too. I'm glad you are out of that toxic situation.
I don't think he wanted her cake,the problem was he wanted to eat his friends cake. Gay or straight,that's fucked up. Some would disagree,but being gay,i needed something concrete to prove to myself that girls weren't my thing. So my personal test was a "Make out" session. That's it. Black and white. Didn't go further. This was in college. I remember specifically the girl being pissed at me because i wouldn't go further,the ho,lol. But i knew then i wouldn't wanna hurt her or myself if we went further. It's alot... alot and complex.
@@beautoxxbeautoxx so was he gay or bi? I'm confused here. 😕
@@coolrunnings1936 sexuality is interesting and hard to pinpoint exactly at times. But the way she's explained about how her friends comments before and during their relationship and then finding out it was going on since before they got married only points to him leaning more towards gay side. I believe he didn't want to face his reality by acknowledging and screwing up what he had as far as the " idea of normal" in his eyes. Either way, he was cheating, cheaters suck. Lucky for her she's still young,no kids, intelligent and gorgeous. I'm sure she'll be extra cautious and extra communicative with her next relationship that I'm sure she'll have no problem finding.❤️
Yep
I heard that expression this morning by psychic reader and I didn't know the meaning of it. But I've been suspecting him going the other way but didn't get confirmation from him claiming to be anti-gay and being offended by me. I think it was more implying him still dealing with his wife even they were not living together...
There more black women with this story than you can ever imagine. The problem is that we don’t share our stories because we’re too ashamed and traumatized by the reality. The sad part is that they’re giving sista’s HIV at an alarming rate. I ask men upfront, “are you gay or have you ever engaged in bisexual activities?” Yea, some may take offense but I DGAF because my health comes first! Sista’s please protect your body and energy. BTW your hair looks beautiful Doll😍
My mother was 17 when she had me and 19 when she had my brother.. my dad was the same age as her.. his parents moved away to another state. My dad died when I was 15 years old and when I went to the funeral on the friends side there wasn’t nothing but men.. I thought nothing of it but it was something that stayed in my mind. Come to find out later in my 30s the real reason behind my father’s death was AIDS and he was gay or bisexual idk because I never will be able to speak to him about it but I hurt so bad for my mom because she loved my dad so much she couldn’t even make her marriage work because she was still in love with my dad, breaks my heart to not ever know if he loved her too or if he was just a gay man using her to cover up his real heart! She also contracted hiv.. thank God above she is living and the virus through her medication is undetectable!
@@thetravelgoods2760 Thanks for sharing your story 🙏
Even when you ask they won’t tell you the truth
Amen!!! Amen!! Amen!! Kari Lane 💯 agree with your comment sis.
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I feel bad for her but that duck was walking, talking and quacking from the beginning of their relationship.
Exactly
Welp I’m here for a reason and I hate that I am..6 years and found out he was DL today..my child’s father..beyond hurt and not sure where to go from here…praying God restores me and heals me
I’m sorry to hear this. May you find peace, happiness again and the right man to love you unconditionally ❤. Praying for your strength.
Just fall in love with Jesus. He will change your life. No man can ever hurt you again.
LONG BUT HOPEFULLY YOU READ IT. I hope my story also helps someone.
My ex (when I was in my mid 20s) the first thing I saw was a text message. It was a link to a gay porn site. He said it was probably spam or something. I ignored it. As time went on my mom told me that my cousin told my dad that she believes my boyfriend at the time was gay. I was like “huh”? I’m like why didn’t she communicate to me about it? I’m the type of person if you tell me something I should watch out for, I’m going to investigate, I won’t get upset bc you told me. That means you’re watching out for me. Then while we were at a family gathering, my aunt had the nerve to say in front of everyone, “Yep so and so told me he was gay”. I’m like seriously? Wtf? You couldn’t talk to me in private? You had to say this in front of the entire family? Honestly my aunt had some nerve bc her husband was doing a lot of women in town and gave her chlamydia!
Anyways, I did more searching, got into his Facebook. Then BAM! I saw messages between him and this guy who we actually went to high school with. Talking about “When are we going to meet again?” “You might want to get an AIDS test.” “I know you want this duck again.” There’s so much more. I confronted him about it. Yes he denied it saying his cousin or someone was using his Facebook. Like seriously?! Child bye. I found out about all of this information the day before my birthday.
I will say this I always got checked for STDS/AIDS/HIV when I was with him, never caught anything. Let me tell you God watched out for me. Till this day (I’m in my 30s) no diseases. Even though this was a long time ago I’m still thankful I’m disease free bc some things pop up later. I’m highly blessed. He was cheating on me with men and women! To make it worse he was mentally and physically abusive and a stalker. God has completely covered me.
It baffles me how someone could hurt someone by not only cheating but damn on the down low! All these diseases going on out here? Hell no! Be smart ladies.
I’m so glad you’re okay ❤️
They are on the down low because of all the homophobia in our community.
@@plastichouselady That doesn't give them the right to use and waste peoples time. If they want to live that down low life, leave women alone.
I went thru the same exact thing. 3 years. Im glad you made it out. Fr fr
Me too! I was a straight spouse married to a down-low old man..smh. IT WAS HELL! Glad I got out of that jacked-up mess of a so-called marriage.
Also not all gay liars dress “different”. Men that are gay definitely dress like men.
Facts
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing, dress sense has marginally anything to do with it
They the manliest ones some times 🤪
They be wearing street fashion and snap backs 😬 like you can’t tell if someone is gay by their clothes
@@Mystixspiral nahhh not all the time, they are some that dress extremely manly like the manliest man you can think of, but they are very much gay but some of them don’t bottom
After reading theese comments I truly feel like we are rapidly nearing the days of Sodom and Gomorrah 😢
Very soon!!!
@@StephanieNiecey we have surpassed Sodom long ago. Long long ago. Jesus is coming repent and Believe the Gospel
Rapidly and soon! We are already there!
I’ve been through this and it’s sad because not only were we married, but we have a child together. It sucks sis and honestly it’s a traumatic experience. To this day I question every man and first sign of anything I’m outta there…quick!
It's scary and traumatizing. She said he ALWAYS talked about guys at work. That was a sign. No straight man talks about other guys. When I said other guys.. I should've been more specific.. If he's mentioning gay guys at work or anywhere he goes frequently.
Ok I need more Information bc now I‘m scared
Me To🤦..But Only Thing We Had No Children Toogether
😩❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 peace and healing to you Love so sorry this happened to you
Factsss, I question every man & they might be genuinely straight but I just don’t know. Very traumatic.
Just pay attention and don't second guess yourself. If it walks like a duck and it talks like a duck, it's a DUCK! If he does gay things, he's gay! If he's MIA, he's either with a woman or a man and either way you don't want him in your life. Pray and ask God to reveal to you who this person really is in a way that you can't deny what you saw and He will show you. Love yourself enough to not make excuses for someone else's BS. I'm a lot older than you are and I've seen a few things in my life.😏
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That part
100% agree with your comment Nora Smith.
fuck no. you can’t assume someone is gay because they don’t act stereotypical and just abandon them. that’s messed up.
Thank you Nora
I always say this! If you suspect him of being gay he's gay. I've never met an man I think is gay and he turns out to be straight. My intuition is always right. My gaydar is strong!
Even though he showed signs🪧 … I’m not placing blame/ being judgemental, we all know what it’s like to be young and in love and dumb and look over shit… remember, she met this man at 20, an impressionable age… we as women need to show each other grace& understanding… lesson learned miss, you know what signs to look for in the future, be safe and peace and blessings on your journey 😘
I love this comment. I’m glad she saw it. Majority of things ppl are commenting she obviously knows now.
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So love this comment! Hit the nail on the head.💕
But it's older women doing the same
Yep
My BD was down low and is now with a cross dresser. Same cross dresser neighbor he claimed to hate. Whole time that was his man
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You were his beard, sweetie. That is why he threatened to off himself if you left. He was a manipulator.
You don’t have to belittle her!
@@tblk1860 I don't think she was insulting her. That's literally what it's called when a gay man has a girlfriend/wife.
@@indiashante1560 'a gay man that has a wife/girlfriend'??? i dont think thats called gay! its Bi, if im not mistaken... please correct me.
@@coolrunnings1936 they mean when down low guy has a wife/girlfriend before he comes out
@@kusuoken5687 so he was gay all along, but he still smashed the chick? I'm confused bro. Don't gay men dislike women?
There's so many men like this and it's very disturbing.
"Keep not thinking anything of it"... That was your intuition.... Always follow it! You'll never go wrong!
This just happened to me. Don’t think it doesn’t happen to white women. You will look back and see red flags. If he doesn’t pursue sex with you and wants a wardrobe that is more expensive than your’s, there is an issue. I noticed how my common law husband walked and he strutted. I think my ex is trans but I don’t know? Girl, it’s so scary and frustrating. My relationship lasted five years. I told my ex that it was ok for us to see other people, and he could live in our home. He still refused to tell me. Your ex’s best friend will never believe your ex was gay. It’s denial. This just happened to me and I don’t get it. These men will bad mouth us and talk sh@t about us, when we’re the supportive partners. I ran into the same problem. Every time I would tell him that I was talking to a male friend, he would go crazy. It makes us feel stupid and we’re not.
Yeah my ex was white but definitely in the closet. I found messages in his phone with a gay guy. So it happens to all of us love. You are right
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White people are way more liberal, open minded and accepting of homosexuality so incidence of DL spouse is lower in terms of percentage but of course much higher in terms of numbers. Ironically, having stronger religious belief leads to more incidence of tragic outcomes from dl behaviors.
Here's a piece of loving advice from an OG especially to you millennials and gen z, y'all always say, "Don't judge me, " in which I find is counterintuitive because in real life we all need to be a good judge of one's character, and that will prevent you for placing yourselves in such deviant and deceptive situations.
Judgement is a necessary part of protection. If I see a drunk driver coming towards me, it’s not a bad thing to be judgmental and get my behind out of his path.
Ms. Dixon, I love and appreciate your comment.
This it right here 👏
Very well said! Thank you for saying it! ❤✊🏾👏🏽
Sometimes people won't listen to family, but the will listen to others. I will forward this to my daughters!
Yesss!!!💯
There is a rule of thumb that both me and my friends live by as it pertains to gay or DL men, “if we as women have to ever DOUBT a man’s sexual orientation (meaning not str8) then there is no reason to pursue anything further.” Every time me and my girls have had doubts about “str8” men who are gay or on the low we have been 100% right. This is simply off of DOUBT and DOUBT alone. Meaning we do not need to investigate or have evidence to substantiate that doubt. Our DOUBT alone will suffice and is more than enough!
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EXACTLY!!!
Sameeeee! If the smallest doubt comes
To mind, usually there’s shit
Going on. Energy does not
Lie
Right because a heterosexual man don’t give you doubts regardless of what type of guy he is.
She ignored EVERY red flag. She talks about it like the signs WERE NOT COMMON SIGNS. This is why we have to allow others input. If you are in denial an outsider can definitely assure you of any doubts!
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7 years of denial. All the signs were there.
I was about to type this. Definitely not trying to victim blame or anything but sis got several clues alluding to the dude being gay. Your friends, the way he dressed, his dance moves (as seemingly unserious as it might sound), his ‘friends’… Like I don’t get. What else should’ve been done?
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Exactly lol I am always observant and that's why I feel I always pick up on alot of men who are gay but claim their straight. There's always something that's going to give him away
I had this happen to me and I can tell you it hurt me to my soul. My heart broke in a million pieces. The deception was real..😢
I m sorry it happened to you and I hope you feel better now. Don't let him break your spirit on top of what he did, you deserve better
“He came in at 4 in the morning & I was like okayyy what is this” baby it would have never been that simple for him wtffff 😭😭 you let him get by with too much shit
My daddy told me in my early 20's, "baby a man will only do what you ALLOW him to". and this is from a reformed cheater and womanizer. He and mom have been married over 56yrs.
Facts
rightttt club close @ 2
RIGHT!!!! How or why does you husband NEVER invite you to go out and have fun!!!!?????
My hubby plays soccer without me!!! And that’s because I stopped going cause I didn’t want to get up early onSaturdays to go! Plus he takes our kids!! So ya girl has mommy ALONE time!
I’ve never been in an intimate relationship where my man wanted to go out without me? I mean who does that EVERY TIME???? I can see a boy’s night or girls night out every now and again or in my husband’s case soccer on Saturday mornings.
This is why it's important to be honest with the person that you claim that you love.
Love in a friend way not necessarily intimate/emotional. But it's NICE to be be honest all was.
Yes, and the first person to be honest with is ourselves. Everything flows from there.
Sometimes a feminine man is attracted to your masculine qualities (confidence, strength, ambition, independence)
Those aren’t masculine qualities, lmfaoooo
@@FlowerTower everyone has feminine and masculine energy. What I listed are masculine attributes backed by science.
@@lafemme5716 you can't argue with illogical people, she probably doesnt even subscribe to gender roles.
effeminate. I agree.
@@lafemme5716 strength is the only scientific thing you listed lolll
I married one too. Thank God I got through the divorce. He still denies it , but EVERYONE knows he's bisexual. As a matter of fact beforehand, it seems like the whole city knew but me and nobody said anything 😓
The denial. Looking back I have all these holes I need filled and I can’t get any answers. It’s horribly frustrating. I don’t care if he’s gay, I need MY answers to move on.
You're not gonna always know when a man is on the down low because not all down low men are clockable . Meaning... Not all of them look, act, dress, talk, walk, move, etc. like they're gay or bisexual . You'll have to hear about it, see it, hear it, see pics, and/or videos of him with a gay, bisexual, or transgender person .
Exactly so be alone
Well that's different but it's much worst when you got all the signs still dive in. That reeks of desperation!!
@ venia , rather sad and true we won’t know. All you can do is pay attention to actions not words. The only thing we can do is protect self at all cost by wearing protection in intimate relationships even in marriage we won’t know just pray and pay attention to signs, listen to family members and watch.
They're all clockable
@@fallonrappaport5270 that's not true & you should know that . There's masculine, hardcore, thuggish, manly man, etc. Gay & bisexual men . You will never know they're gay or bisexual unless you find out about it .
You know, sometimes it’s the masculine men also who like sex with same sex. So we are just rolling the dice regardless of their mannerisms.
Ya my husband is like that by the way
Intuition is where it's at!
Your intuition is a God given gift. PERIOD!
YES girl. My ex husband (a marine) told me when he went over sea after the 911. I'm home with his son. On the phone. He had got intimate with another guy before we got married 🙄 mind you we knew each other since highschool. How the ff you don't tell me. I refuse to keep this secret. My kids will grow up and know EVERYTHING.
Why would you give that information to your children. So because you are hurt, you want them to hate their father? He cheated on you with another man and it is a betrayal. Your husband had an affair, that is it. Why do you have to give all the details to your innocent children?
One thing I learned is that you don’t have to judge a person if they are your friend but you have to judge when your dating sadly
This is why rushing to get married by society standards can set you back.
That's for men and women
I think rushing to have sex is more of the issue, tbh. If we all could just control our sex drives a little better, we wouldn't feel the need to rush any type of romantic relationship.
I think it doesn’t matter if you rush or not a person will come out when they’re ready or get caught! A guy can disguise it soo well snd have a good enough reason for everything you suspect. It reminds me of straight men too in the sense that a man will disguise himself to be whatever you want him to be . Your “perfect” man just long enough to get what he wants or tired of the relationship then his true colors come out when he’s ready to show you that he was a con artist.
@@stephenanderson1594 I agree!
@@TheRibofJESUS I agree. I've been celibate for 7 months.
To all my sisters out there you gotta pray and fast to ask god to reveal to you who they truly are. Only god can save you from this bcuz the devil is behind most of these guys and the devil is the biggest deceiver. Words of wisdom
K.M.
Words of wisdom. SO TRUE!
Pretty much
Omg thank You 🙏🏼
Omg so true.When you pray to God he will deliver the righteous person.Only he can do that.
Fast
I had a boyfriend who when we first met he told me up front that he was with a guy prior to me and I told him what else is new ? The fact that he told me up front and let me make my decision as to whether I wanted to be with him is the thing that I respect
Did you stay with him?
@@blkafrocentricusa8429 She did say he was her boyfriend so I’m guessing they dated for a while.
@@yaboylucas2371 easy way to get HIV
Damnnnnn !!!! Tanya
@@lmontreze lol
Man I'm beginning to think that Most guys are downlow or at least bi-curious just from the stories I keep hearing. If there's 10 men in the room 7 of them have had some type of secret homosexual experience or at least thought about in their lifetime. If I could prove it I would put money on it. Not All men but I'm sticking to most. It's scary, glad you got out..
They are, just like a lot of women are, they just can't be open about it do to societal standards unfortunately.
Too scary
@@TalkWithTah not true at all , where’s your proof “a lot of men or women are bisexual I Wana see fr
@carly rhonda that's the stupidest shit I've ever heard. You sound scarred.
@carly rhonda so do you think this way about your father? What about Your grandpa? Yeah you sound like you’ve been with a DL dude too many times. Not all men like other guys 🍆
People always show us who they are, it is our responsibility not to ignore the signs. First impressions are key, they are seldom wrong. When more than one person tells you something, and they are saying the same thing, you better listen. I went into this video expecting a lot of detective work before the truth was revealed, but there was no mystery here. Homeboy did everything but lead the Pride parade down main street. We must take some responsibility for who we attract and bring into our lives. Some folk are attracted to good looks regardless of what comes with it. Some of us attract abusers, addicts,... the list goes on. Trust your instincts. But I do understand that life is about living and learning.
Yes. A close relative told me another relative married a gay man. I thought it was absurd, and my relative had an over active imagination.I met the guy and had to admit, I thought so too. He was talking about working out, calories, and the best hand cream and facial moisturizer He had to put on after a workout. No str8 man in my life would be caught dead talking about that. No metrosexuals back then. The other relative got a divorce right after. His best friend was also living there. They were lovers.. He wasn't couch surfing. His best friend tried to date me. Or I should say use me. He was a pathological liar. I just listened and nodded my head, as his stories got bigger & more outrageous. He thought he was impressing me. I just didn't care to call him out. That inner voice was screaming at me there is a lot wrong with this situation. They were both using my relative. I'm glad she got away. I think the guy guy married her bc it got people off his back, but he was using her. He wasn't working and going to the gym and his lover was there too. He wasn't working.
@pinkroses very true!
Some people are narcissistic and can hide it so well. My mom co worker married a guy she didn't know was gay. She happened to be out and spot him with his lover. Then after that he was caught he changed his personality. He was smart he married a nurse and took her for an she had
@Cap109 straight up facts eloquently spoken 💯
He's been telling her who she was. The saddest part women overlook everything.
Atleast you didnt stay for 10 yrs and have 2 kids because you were trying to be "nice" and non judgemental. Whew ty for this! I only had 1 Friend who knew of my suspicions at the time and we stopped being friends. I think if I wasn't so embarrassed to talk about my feelings to my family or other friends I would have left along time ago. It's always good to follow your intuition. I will never doubt myself or people please again ever.
Listen.. I dated a DL man. You can always tell. In some cases (Not all) they’re very close to their sisters . Always in their business like a female.also the eyes and his mannerisms told me everything. I called him out on it when we got into a heated argument. I struck a nerve. He started messaging me from a fake Facebook account with an attractive man on it.. weird .also most DL men are child molestors or sexually attracted to little boys. Be careful ladies please. Do your homework
My family still till this day doesn't believe me when I try telling them my ex-huband was/is dl--because he's a very masculine "looking" Nigerian. But sometimes it's the "masculine looking" homophobics.
What made you think he was gay ?? I’m just curious because I just came back from Ghana and they are seriously in denial about Ghanaians/Africans in general can be gay . A lot of them are oblivious to the thought that ones can be gay over there. But I spotted a good bit of suspect activity personally 🥴😅
Truth told!!!
@ Stacie Greene Who say Africans are all in denial of gay men? You people love generalizing Africans as naive and speaking on our behalf 🙄 how ludicrous..
I’m Nigerian and I know there are gay African men. I met my first gay boy in grade school and I just knew right away. I guess it was the holy spirt,, cause 11 years later I meet a mutual friend who confirms that he is openly gay and dates men.
There are gay African men and many people are aware. It’s just repressed and not openly discussed because of religion, culture, laws, etc..,
In Nigeria we’ve even had secx workers and journalists expose politicians for being dl.. so many people are aware. Don’t speak on what you don’t know..
@@co7513 My sister or brother ... I said “I recently got back from GHANA” !!! I didn’t mention Nigerians at all. So you inserted yourself in a conversation that wasn’t even about your country. I don’t generalize countries in Africa...I can only speak about where I have been and the things I have seen and heard with my own eyes and ears.
Also it’s funny how you say “you people” , and I’m the only person who offended you. So what ?? Now you don’t like ALL African Americans 😂. Hypocrite !!
@@co7513 And instead of being so quick to respond... actually READ what you are responding to . That would help a lot my friend .
I’m just happy you didn’t contract any STDs from this mess. And my heart just goes out to you because how can you trust another man after this? If you gay you gay but to be in a relationship for so many years & then to get married like it was a complete unnecessary waste of time.
Lol straight ppl get stds too
@@courtneygooden9609 when did they say only gay/bisexual people get STDs?
@@ash-js2bv I’m talking in general ppl often bring it up when talking about gay men. They’re not the only ones spreading it.
@@courtneygooden9609 overwhelming THEY ARE. Stop being slow. Check the statistics!
@@blueberryburg7513 baby bye
Hear me loud & clear-🗣️ Anyone who will not only stock your page, but will sit outside your Grandma House has serious issues & you shouldn't take that lightly. Your ex-husband of 7 years has love for you gay or not, and this co-worker/ man lover of his knows that. Jealousy isn't something to play with, keep your guard up.
I agree
Did you mean stalk?
This‼️‼️‼️
Not me calling up my bf and asking if he’s gay😭😭😭😭 girl this story is something else omfg🤧
I really don’t understand how someone can live a second life with no remorse at all. Even the straight men, this is another level though. Live in your truth because the truth is always revealed.
She knew he was gay but went with the flow. Her story tells much more about her thinking process than the gay guy.
@@multyz1 Many women who have lived this can't understand how he could want her and be gay
@@misslove7698 Do these women have to take any responsibilities for not being much more observant and cautious or it's all the gay guys fault?
@@multyz1 lol
@Tayonna's Turn the first thing black women need to realise and embed into their brain is that "not everyone thinks like you, has the same moral conduct as you and cares the way you do" once you Overstand that,
all that "I Don't understand how/I could never do that" rhetoric becomes irrelevant and you focus on the facts, your own intuition and what the person does. Not what they say and this goes beyond the topic of this video - this goes for LIFE
He did so much to mask the reality of what was actually taking place. Why not just be completely honest about how he was truly feeling...
You're completely right about that.
People lie when they are in the wrong. Simple. Let's stop expecting realness from liars.
It's hard to accept something you're ashamed of..
How did he mask it, she said she saw it in his dressing and feminine behavior from the beginning. There were multiple incidents before they even married so she isn’t completely free of being accountable for going through this.
Exactly
I’m going through this right now…can’t wait to share my story one day. Never thought I’d deal with this…but it is now one of my many testimonies.
Please share, praying you get out of it fast!
Girl... please just tell him to love who he wants and you should too. He needs to love himself. But with the stigma of being gay goes way far so I pray for him. I will! :)
Girl it is not that deep how you women make it seem 🙄🤣🤣
@@johnsonjohnson9389 u have to think about both sides tho nobody should be forced to come out but it’s unfair on both parties as the woman has prob fell in love with the man and so when the man says he gay and he doesn’t love them like that obv it’s gonna hurt
@@dollxette ofc but for her to act like shes been a victim of a crime is kind of to much for me … yes he probably wasted her time but even if he was of bisexual she would of still left him. People act like men cant experience also 🙄😩
Literally my exact story. I been dating my boyfriend for 6yrs I’ve literally found emails of him trying to sell his penis. I’m too afraid to be serious about confronting him and if i try to leave it’s always i love you blah blah. I think I’m in denial more than anything. I played this video aloud to see if he would say something and low and behold his question was “ what are you watching girl “ smh. My boyfriend is gay.
Get out please
😂 😂 😂 nothing wrong with being gay but if he’s in prostitution girl leave! He’s not financially grounded enough to secure a girlfriend and the worst part he can bring you a incurable disease
Just get rid,save yourself from more betrayal and lies. Meet up with your mom,sister, aunt,Nan for advice on what to do.
Your scared to leave but not scared to be told you have HIV. You are dumb. I guess you want to take a pill a day for the rest of your life. God blessed you that you found that email it is your sign to leave and you said your still in denial. Taking a pill everyday is exhausting and not easy not to mention the side effects but I guess that’s easier than leaving. God forbid you catch anything I don’t feel sorry for you.
How did your story unfold?
Just wow. My gaydar has always been very strong. To date, 3 guys I always felt were gay, are now fully out gay men. I have never been into pretty men, and I watch mannerisms like crazy. When girls say, "he's in touch with his feminine side," nah sis, he might just be gay. That's just the truth. My mom once dated a man, and literally the first day I met him I was like mom, he is so gay. Very feminine mannerisms. The signs were definitely there for you, but maybe you were just young and naive. It's unfortunate, but I'm glad that you got out of that situation of being his beard. Ladies, trust your intuition, it never steers us wrong.
U wrong because u missed the very masculine once’s
@@lmontrezehow many of the masculine men are gay?
@@hild-demongoddess7498 tons
He wasn't really that down low, you just weren't paying attention. But it makes sense because you were scared so you avoided finding out the truth. My sister also dated a DL a guy. And one day, a couple years after they already broke up but were still close friends, my mother whispered that she found something out about Z and before she could say anything I was just like what that he's gay and she was wondering how I knew but man it was clear as day.
I was thinking the same thing.
But if a woman says a man is gay based on the things she knew will get called homophobic or a gay bashing. Sooooo yea 👀 he wore skirts, hung out with openly gay men but the lgbtq community says that means nothing lol
@@k0k01 that's not the point. The man was sus and she said in her video that she avoided going through his phone because she didn't want to find out that he was gay meaning she didn't want to know. Some men don't even act spicy and are DL so I'm just saying that she had it easy. But it's embarrassing so I completely get it.
She was paying attention, she chose to ignore what she saw.
He was down low because he never out right told her he was gay.
I really admire women who spend so much time and effort on their hair. I do good to put a brush thru my hair and color it once every 3-6 months!
You brush your hair every 3-6 months😳🤔😂🤯😵💫‼️
@@focusedlids5420 I color it every 3-6 months 🙄😂
@@daniellenichols9757 i know i was busting your chops 😅🤟🏽
@@focusedlids5420 can u effin read.
who's hair? the wigs or your own real hair?
AIDS...that would be my biggest fear. LOTS of BM are DL...LOTS.
So basically the guy who was texting your husband, oh girl he had been itching to send you those messages girl. He couldn’t WAIT to send you those emails lol
Especially since they was married , gay men like to be like ima a man and took your man , a lot of them HATE women
Atp, I’m convinced every woman will go through this at least once in life. Knowing or unknowingly 🤮😔
Unfortunately
Thats terrifying
@@YvonneQueen Where is the content Beautiful?
It hurts so bad 😫 I hate this is what our world has come to
No not every woman
Take in how you never felt peace in this relationship. Always on guard, having "hunches", always finding things out, feeling incredible amounts of dread... Big signs. It's situations like these that teach women how to PERMANENTLY trust their intuition.
Teach Queen, these are predators who study you and try to learn your weakness to break you down, control you and doubt yourself. But when you come out on the other end you should never be able to get got again.
👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 🎯
We want love, we want marriage, so it's hard to accept the signs. Not just the signs that a guy is gay, but also other signs of problems to come. The biggest one to me was when family and friends thought he might be suspect. The same thing happened to my best friend.
That being said, I'm divorced because my husband had completely different issues. There were signs with my husband also. So we all could do a better job of accepting reality and being good with being single.
I dated a guy that I’m sure is suspect. He was such a narcissist that he enjoyed attention from both men and women. He’s one ex that I dumped and never looked back ✌🏼🙅🏽♀️
This the one
GIIIIRRRLLL SAAAAMMMME
@Star Bright Seems like it. He treated me like I was his absolute enemy. Didn't have sex with me for months and each time that I tried to spice things up he'd decline. I was mentally broken. And it broke me. It was soooo horrible. Now its been 1 year and 3 months that I had to call if off and it still haunts me. He abused me so much mentally, verbally and emotionally it's aint no joke. But I am better. And I keep on going. Trust issues for sure but that will soon go away
@Star Bright I am very more keen now about these things and I refuse to go through that again. Sucks for anyone who comes along but yeah no
@@remember_To_be_kind This guy wouldn't happen to be from NJ would he? Omg sounds VERY familiar.
Chile…. I dated a man that was in the military that was DL & have been triggered to date ever since. All the signs were there but I ignored them bc everyone around me insisted that he wasn’t gay, he was just raised around a lot of women. & now I live in ATL. So I’ve honestly kind of gave up on dating & relationships. Just focused on myself & my personal happiness ❤️
That's right sister protect your peace! Because nine times out of 10 whoever it is ain't worth a damn. There's a bunch of users out there and on top of that they got past issues they haven't even tried to resolve, then on top of that they're narcissists
Atl is the worst place, if you ever wanted to date.
Amen Sis!
God has someone for everyone and it is just not your season yet baby focus on yourself but never give up because he will bring that special someone to you when you rush it you ruin it. Let it happen in God's time
@@donnavictorian8810 Amen I know the message was for her, but I needed to hear that!
Unfortunately, Black women are constantly being told either directly or indirectly, that unless they have a man, they are considered less than in Black society. What's one of constant insults that gets thrown in the face of single Black women? "You ain't got no man" "No man wants you" "You can't keep a man" These DL men know this and use it to their advantage to prey on some women especially those in the church. Glad she got out of that marriage and is brave enough to share her story as a warning to other women. So many other women have gone through this and remain silent either out of embarrassment or fear. Not to mention the ones who find out and their husband/boyfriend ends their life in order to keep their secret.
Came here to say this
Going through this at my job. If you are not interested in me, I don’t need to know. I’m perfectly fine with being single and it is making my coworkers sick.
Thank you.
Sounds like being gay needs to become more accepted in the black community so these down low gay men can live their lives without fear or lying to family/ loved ones/ women.
When there are signs and we choose to ignore them, they are on the person ignoring them. This just isnt for ignoring signs from down low guys. When u ignore signs your spouse is cheating or is a baby lover too. How many ppl we all know or heard about staying with cheating dudes and they give them HIV or AIDS. Yall out here destroying yall children because u are allowing your bf or husband to molest your sons and daughters. We have to stop accepting bad behaviors and ignoring signs just to have a man.
Narcissistic DL Men. I married one too. Whats even more embarrassing is he was my 2nd husband. 6 yrs of BS, close to NO sex, and financial abuse. Im so proud of myself for noy allowing shame to keep me there.
Ladies intuitions, intuitions,intuition, they never fail you. I can tell a DL man when I see one. Straight women who want to to marry straight men, please pray for the spirit of discernment it will save you. I remember a DL man tried to play me, lol I laughed in his face. Few months later he was getting exposed for being DL and infecting women. These men hate women idc. Also if you have gay make friends or straight male friends, and you suspect your man might be DL ask them their opinions. The straight ones will tell you straight up.
I think the lesson from this is to follow your female intuition. You had a lot of suspicions, and you ended up being right. And he’s just selfish for putting you through that instead of walking away when he realized it. I’m sorry you wasted that time on him.
You can't tell if a feminine man is gay?
I went to middle school and high school with a guy was very suspect. (You can tell very early on.) He never admitted he was gay or dressed feminine, but he had feminine characteristics. The way he acted was very feminine. He was never in a relationship (which doesn’t mean anything but it added to my suspicions). He was always very much in the church and still is. He just recently got married to a very homely looking woman he met in college. She looks like she doesn’t have a clue about anything. No tea, no shade. She’s overweight as well. DL men tend to go after homely looking church girls who are naive or looking for a husband.
My x husband's uncle is the same way never been in any relationship when he's home he's wears those really short thight shorts shorts except for those shorts he looks, acts very masculine
That’s what my great uncle did. Was engaged to a bland church woman for over 30 years. Never married her as an excuse to not have sex with her but everyone knew my uncle was gay.
@@SureYoureRight and she stayed for THIRTY years in a sexless relationship? she's worse than him at that point. i don't get why people let someone steal their whole life.
@@gapgirl321 I feel the same way. She was a very sweet woman and seemingly content with the entire thing. She’d brag to the family about how strong they both were to abstain all that time. The bizarre situation made me question if she was also gay or maybe asexual or something.
They also target very beautiful and non-suspecting, kind hearted women as an overcompensation, “proving” to others that they can get what straight men lust over hoping it takes people off their trail.
I partially believe my ex is gay or bi. He told me he kissed another guy a few years before me to try it out and said it’s normal to be curious. I told him I never had confusion on that front and I always liked men. He tried to shame me about not being bicurious like he was. I just had weird suspicions about him.. he still hasn’t come out but I feel bad for any other woman he dated next. I feel like I dodged a bullet
I been there my ex was like that smh wasted years with his sorry ass but God was good to me and blessed me with my husband now who loves and respects me I never thought I’d have happiness like that
Wow, congrats!!
I wish for that one day! I'm still caught up in B's bcz I went /going through same with baby dad that was/is scared to come out! N now out ruining my life uh! 😭
@@viilea5341 I'm praying for you girly that you get out of that situation and find true happiness and prosperity 🧡
So sorry he wasted 7 years of your life when he could have just been living in his truth. Listen to what you feel girl.
it wasnt a waste.it was a lesson.now she know.thats good her eyes are open
@@anitastevens6380 It was definitely a lesson, I agree with that. It was definitely one that consumed a lot of her time. Which was very unfair to her.
She was a willing participant. If her time was was wasted then its her fault. That's life
im sorry too
@@anitastevens6380 whats the lesson? always be paranoid that your partner is perpetually lying to you and deceiving you at every turn? nonsense.
Oh honey, I found out a boyfriend was gay...caught him kissing his bosses boyfriend on the 4th of July.
He was and probably still is, in the closet. Luckily I wasnt heavily involved , being married, ouch .
It's very hurtful but truly a case of " its not you its them'.
These days gay people should be honest and not use unwitting people as " beards"/ covers. That's what I think i was to that guy.
Hope you feel better you are beautiful .
I think a part also is they want to use women as breeders to have blood children
@@artisticagi could be.
The guy I knew was molested by a man as a kid so I think he may have been all kinds of confused. He didnt seem gay at all not effeminate...a harleys type guy.
yea some are in denial with themselves & others may be trying to disguise themselves from their families etc. honestly using other people is terrible & at the end of the day you gotta be true to yourself
So his boss was gay too?
@@megamoneyk yes.
Ok I I know...the fact he was in cosmetology school, everyone said " he must be gay" blah blah but there were guys there for barbering too. He asked ME out...prob as a cover.
He looked like the Fonzie type/ motorcycle guy type.
I found out later he totally hid they day stuff from his family and was even married to a woman in the past .
I walked in on my ex with a transgender woman in my apartment 😩😩😩😩these down low men really be playing a dangerous game
I've always known I was into men, I always told gfs , I never hid it, there's way more of us than people realize I'm sure
I’m sorry it happened. You learned a lesson. But here’s the thing. You had a nonjudgmental spirit and you were open to people that aren’t cookie cutter. That’s a good quality to have. The dude was just a user period. If he wasn’t gay, he would cheat with someone else. Don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed for loving someone else and trusting them to be who they presented themselves to be.
I know this message was for her...but I needed this
@@kjr281 well said
@@kjr281 You can’t blame someone for not knowing what they don’t know. Plenty of people are walk around pretending to be someone they are not. You either stop dealing with anyone or you take a chance and trust that someone is who they show themselves to be, UNTIL THEY SHOW OTHERWISE. Let’s not pretend there aren’t plenty of very well dressed, masculine men who aren’t also down-low but just know how to hide it. You speak as if you were born knowing what you know now. Please stop with the self righteousness. The reason so many men and women just copy each other and are afraid to think outside the box is because some lame is gonna try to label them. She didn’t bash him for being different. That’s a positive point in her personality that she should not lose. She also learned what her deal breakers are.
That gut feeling is ALWAYS on point 😩
Always
A L W A Y S !!!!
Facts, mine was!!!!!!!!!
Yeap
Your story was randomly suggested to me - but you’re absolutely stunning! I watched the entire thing, you’re just so charismatic!
Hope you’ve found true love with someone who deserves you girl ❤️
Sad though these things happen to really nice girls / women they tend to like perfection the best .I have friends who been through this and felt suicidal. It can happen to anyone some peeps pretend so well and when we fall in LOVE we tend not to take red flags seriously god will get u through sis ..she is nice for real.jus honesty man that's. All r maybe because they don't want much people to know so they play the game and use women.
Omgggg me too! Her story was just suggested and I just end up watching it all the way. I loved the way she did her hair!
Maybe it's not random
This story was suddenly suggested to me. I am dating someone new. Is this suggestion a sign? God always warns his children.
Literally going through the same thing right now 😭😭😭😭 when I say I can’t eat sleep get mad angry so many emotions in one lord I’m just trying to take it one day at a time
Some are to scared to say and they hide behind a woman so they don't look bad in the eyes of there family.
This is not an excuse. They should find a lesbian or woman who will play a role for their family, someone privy to the information. Not deceive people
AMEN AMEN!!!😇🙏💯
Yup !
Exactly why he married her to cover himself and to look good.
@@tamisunshine2312 💯💯💯
It takes courage to be this transparent, especially knowing the subject matter.
I do believe I will be staying far away
This was so interesting to me…. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I would be traumatized for life too.
& is! I swear off been after all I been thru. It's to the point where I resent men.
Sorry! There were details open ur eyes not ur legs.
No? Figuring out our gay is a life long thing and extremely difficult. Not everyone just 'knows', it can take you years.
For real and honestly this is my biggest fear as a women wow
@@georgia1986 Ok, that’s fine! Figure out your sexuality on your own time tho! This man gaslighted her for years, wasting years of HER life!