Hiii Jackie ! I love your podcast . I came here expecting a bright , bubbly , fun podcast , and it is that ,but it's also so deep ! Great job ! Also , you and Sika are goals !
Non-petty "i told you so" Someone says: I'm gonna do the thing You say: Don't do the thing, cus this, this, or this could happen. They do the thing. This, this, or this happened. You sigh. You hug or otherwise are sympathetic, and softly, gently, with regret in your voice: i'm so sorry this happened, it's why I tried to warn you. It's happened to me/friend/relative/stranger on bus. But, humans do tend to learn more by doing the things. I'm glad you're ok. You're still my best friend/so/relative/whatever. Now, shall we go do some other thing? =D
I have a friend that does what her husband tells her to do. She wanted to get a piercing and her husband told her he forbade her. As they are telling us this my hubby laughs and looks at me and says “I wonder what it’s like to have that kind of control”. My friends hubby asked “what do you mean?” My hubby told him if he was to tell me he forbade me to do something I would go do it even if I really didn’t want to just out of spite. Which is very true. In our marriage we tell each other we would prefer you not to do something and give the reason why but never tell the other one they flat out can’t do something.
I had an ex bf who tried to rule over my body. We started dating after I had one tattoo and that was acceptable, but when I wanted more, I was told more than one was inappropriate for a woman, but if I really wanted one, it had to be about him. I Almost comprised. Thank goodness I had no money and was able to wait until after we broke up.
Forbade? Ooo, I would throw hands if anyone "forbade" me to do anything. Or at the very least I'd laugh, flip them off, and go on and do exactly what they forbid me from doing. This may be why I'm single as hell, but hey, I don't care. By all means I'm a communicator, and I will take their suggestions or thoughts on the matter to heart, but I will never settle for someone telling me what I can or cannot do.
The pure “I told you so” was when I told my brother he would kill it at his guest performance at his music school and he totally did 👌 Love these podcasts!
Yeah, same here! Told my bf he would get a promotion he applied for, but he really thought he wouldn't. I think I told him "I told you so" about it just this morning (not for the first time) haha
Similar: I regularly tell my hubby he’s attractive, but he’s very down on himself. Whenever someone flirts with him, I smile and say “I told you so!” 🥰
Ugh the babysitting one hits close to home!! I used to babysit for my oldest sister. She paid me over the summer for 2 years to watch her daughter. It was fine, but I was also like 12 and had interest in it. When I was like 14 or so, I did not have interest in babysitting for lots of reasons. Trauma, and stress and just trying to “find myself” during high school, just to name a few! Anyways, my sister constantly guilt tripped me for not wanting to anymore. She would always bring her daughter into it, saying how hurt she was. Her daughter was diagnosed with diabetes, and I did not have a car, a cellphone and could not drive. I felt really uncomfortable because it was new to everyone and obviously dangerous to leave her with another helpless child? (Even as like a 15/16 year old, I was still a child!) it finally stopped (or so I thought) after the summer I started college. She called me a burden for still being unable to drive, called our mother to tell on me and when our mom offered to babysit, my sister refused. She told me that I was the most unreliable person on earth and said she would never ask me to baby sit again. Now, I do not want my own kids. I am uncomfortable watching children, especially younger children, my family does not understand why. It’s not entirely my sisters fault of course because I have lots of personal reasons for it, but still. Last summer, about a month after our dad passed away, she asked me to come to my moms house (I was at my partners), watch her kids while they played in the pool so that she could take our mom out for lunch. In a pandemonium too!! I definitely said no and thankfully she has never asked me again and I hope it stays that way. Babysitting is not a favor you owe!! You should never guilt trip anyone into babysitting for you, especially if they have made it clear how uncomfortable they are with it! Ugh! Lol. Auntie is defiantly the butt cavity
In the scenario where your sister asked you to watch her kids while she took mom out to lunch, what she may have said instead was, “ Maybe mom would benefit by getting out of the house; since I have the kids, why don’t you take her out to lunch or something?”
My “pure” I-told-you-so moment was when my childhood best friend moved in with her boyfriend and said that they were planning on possibly getting engaged in 5 years or so. I could tell they loved each other and I knew them both so well so I told her I didn’t believe it and I bet they would be engaged in a year. When she told me she was engaged (just under a year) we laughed and I said “I told you so!” And she said “yeah you did!” And it was a happy pure I told u so lol
My "pure" I told you so moment was when my boyfriend, in his excitement to fix up an old tablet, hurt himself after I warned him to be careful. He said "oh I'll be fine" then burnt himself with the sodering iron or whatever it was (I don't know what things are). I say this is pure because I said "are you ok" and he was the one that said "you told me so" instead of me saying it. To be clear, no he did not learn his lesson and he often burns himself or hurts himself in some other way
I have a single, solitary example of a light-hearted "I told you so". I warned one of my students to slow down because she was having what I call "ASD zoomies" on a wet floor. She tripped, fell, and started CRACKING UP. When I went to check on her, I made a silly face at her and said, "I told you so!" and she started laughing harder. We got her back up on her feet and reviewed why she needed to listen when a teacher said she needed to slow down, and she said, "Because if I fall, they'll tell me I told you so!"
My partner and I say "I told you so. " without any words. All we do is look at the other person and do the victory dance. Yep! 35 years of partnership has fine tuned our game!
The dad being upset about the daughter not taking the deal is kinda weird... like why does he care about her money? Especially after the step mom pointed out how one-sided the contract is. Sus 👀
For the first one I think he is trying to isolate her I had a partner who would be rude and obnoxious in front of friends and family it got to the point where people didn’t want to see me specially since we where always together and I now realize he would do it on purpose because he would pick and choose when to react that way. It would surprise me when he was nice and sweet it should’ve been a red flag but I was too far gone
I’m not quite through your full response to the sister/daughter free babysitter situation, but I just read an essay called “Consent Culture Begins at Home” on how family dynamics are often the first places we are taught that our boundaries are not as important as what is expected of us socially. This post really reminded me of that essay, and how powerful it is for a parent to stand by their kid and their own autonomy as a person, because kids are people! Good too, to hear you guys acknowledge the potential for sister’s son to learn that repeatedly pushing someone’s boundaries is a way to get what they want.
If my SIL knowingly caused my husband to miss the birth of our child, I'd be pretty pissed for a LONG time. I'm also a petty person, so that wouldn't make for a good combo lol
For that last one, even if sister thought they had time to do both, it wasn't her choice to make. She could have brought that argument up when telling brother that his wife was going into labor but she removed to ability to make the choice for himself.
You can absolutly tell someone "I told you!" in a sweet way! Like you know a awesome icecream-flavor an recommend that to a friend, you know he/she will love it. And he/she does. Than you can say that! And both will be happy. Because you proofed, you know your friend good and your friend got icecream he/she loved! Win/Win!
On the situation with the RUclipsr, what most people seem to fail to be realizing is the first thing stated was that the agency gets control of the IP the RUclipsr creates. Which means if she doesn't live up to their quota, then they get rid of her, and they keep the name of the channel, and they keep everything associated with her brand. She would be left with nothing! That was a very shady deal, and the stepmother was right to point it out, because that was just wrong!
My only opinion about AITAs is that they're always one-sided reports. All you can do is judge by what that one person is saying, and life is rarely that black and white in my experience.
I've listened to other 'reddit' posts about 'am I the ahole' and karens. I wasn't sure I wanted to listen to yours as I've seen your other types of videos and thought to myself, "Oh no, are you kidding me?" Then, I listened. I'm glad I did! I love how you and Sika actually talked about what the posts were about and your feelings! With that said, about the father that missed his daughters birth, I understand. I didn't have the same happen to me but something else that is only once in a life time. My son was getting married for the first time and all the arrangements had been made and he let me know when and where. He is my only child so of course I wanted to be there! Well, my ex-mother-in-law, never liked me, and when my son had to change locations at the last minute she didn't tell me about it. My son had asked her to give me a call and let me know where the new location was and she told him she would. So, I show up at the place I was told and lo and behold there was NO ONE there! I called his grandmother and asked what was going on and she refused to tell me anything! Even his father didn't know about the change! AFTER the wedding, my son got in contact with me to find out where I and his father were. (We were divorced.) I told him that I called his grandmother to find out what happened because both his father and I, and my husband at the time, showed up at the other location and there was no one there! I told him she didn't tell me ANYTHING about the change. He was quite upset with his grandmother for this and for me, I never forgave her for taking away from me something that could never be redone. Some people just don't care about others!
These conversations are so important! We have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable! Holding people accountable and saying this is not ok, you need to leave. No more creeps, no more racists. They don’t get a place in my safe space. Especially friends and family. Friends of friends, if your friend is the problematic one, do not coddle them. Show them and explain, we’re all about change and growth, but with accountability. I love you both!
1st one: i would have walked out. Hubby says he woulda happily decked him, then walked (which means I woulda stopped him from decking jim and tugged him out of the restaurant lol) But: OP is NOT the "butt cavity". It had nothing to do with hot sauce. It had EVERYTHING to do with what a slimeball this Jim was being. Sorry, but he had 3 strikes we heard about. The inappropriate behavior to the women. The down's comment. Then, calling OP the "r-word" for the way she chooses to use a condiment. Jim's GF cussing her own friends out for refusing to give Jim a 2nd chance should NOT happen. It's THEIR choice, not hers. If she's not careful, she's going to lose her friends, and then where will she be when they inevitably break up (blinders finally come off somehow). Friendless. Now, that said... Anyone who has been in an ab****e relationship knows, one of the 1st steps is to alienate the new partner from friends/relatives, using manipulation tactics, deception, lies, etc. I worry for this woman. 2nd one: not the butt cavity. Step-daughter asked someone for help, someone who she knew had at least SOME experience with contracts to verify what she probably already knew - i know creators talk amongst themselves about this stuff. That was a VERY sleazy contract. The dad in question was likely hoping to get a bit of that "advance", maybe by saying, "it's called a "finder's fee" or whatever. That's my thought, anyway. 3rd one: Mom & daughter, "auntie" and toddler & BIL. Lordy. Mom, you are awesome, and NOT a butt cavity. Your kid has ZERO interest in being responsible for what I've heard termed "tiny s**c*de machines". Auntie is essentially forcing your kid to do things she has ZERO desire to do. By punishing daughter, it's saying, "they are older, you have zero right to say no". By reminding daughter she has that right... oh lord. If you put it in terms of .... i'm going to say, "inappropriately passionately hugging", you'll see why all of us are up in arms about your sister, the "auntie". Sadly, I'm also worried about your nephew. If his mother isn't careful, that kid will not only be a male karen, but a potential "inappropriate contact/inappropriate passionately hugging" offender. You did great, mama. Keep protecting your kid. Any family gathering where the nephew is there, have daughter be in the same area as you. If you go inside to help with food/drink, daughter needs to be inside, too. Doesn't matter if she helps or not. Also, you need to somehow get your sister to understand that what she is doing is, quite frankly, CREEPY and DISTURBING. As well as damaging to her own son. I had a kid. I'd rather have a babysitter who genuinely WANTS to babysit, even for a 5 minute bathroom break (although, in Aunt's case... WHY DID SHE NOT ASK HER HUSBAND?) You CANNOT force relationships between two people. Either the toddler & his much older cousin become friends or they don't. It is 100% on THEM, not any adult. Last one: Dude, not the butt cavity. Omg. It's always wise to let your anger calm down before finally confronting the person and explaining why this was such a bad thing for you. Your sister IS the butt cavity, as well as family. If she was that anxious, yes, I can see her needing someone with her. But, BY YOUR OWN WORDS, her dad was in town for a few more days. That means... a few days of chances to have breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee. I'm sure that, even with a new baby, you would have happily taken a few hours away to help her. All it required was for sister to RESCHEDULE. You CANNOT reschedule a natural birth! Babies come on THEIR time. I never would have *chosen* 4:13am for my kid's birthtime! Maybe late evening? I dunno. Lol. But your sister ROBBED YOU of a VERY IMPORTANT milestone. Your child's birth. The worst is, it was your FIRST child. Tell everyone that you will deal with this betrayal of YOUR trust when YOU are ready and NOT a minute sooner, and if they cannot respect that, just as your sister couldn't respect your own milestone moment, then they ALSO have no right inside the house YOU pay/paid for. Only AFTER you have cleared the air with sister would you even consider clearing the air with them, too. They may be "family", but YOUR WIFE AND DAUGHTER ARE, TOO, and THEY are much, MUCH more important. Guess you all can see how upset this made me. Great show, Jackie & Sika =D much love and many blessings to EVERYONE. And please... don't let people walk over you with the excuse of "but, FaMiLy..." or other toxic crap. Boundaries need to exist, and you have to enforce them. Love you all, my fellow grains.
@Mary Culver it's the non-politically correct term for some of very very low intelligence. People having a low mental capacity were (once) termed as having a condition called "retardation". These individuals were called this - usually in a mean/malicious way, (but drop the -ation off the word). Now, I think, there a host of other actual medical terms for people who actually have brain issues like "Cognitive Impairment". Please, do not quote me on that! I'm 46, been out of any school for way too long, and haven't kept up with too many of the terms. The 'r' word is seen as a huge insult to most people. It's cruel, to be honest. A dear friend of mine was cognitively disabled, to a milder extent. Due to the times, it was called mild retardation. He still had to attend a few special classes tailored to help him learn what he needed to graduate high school, but overall was "mainstreamed" into regular classes. His was the result of a birth defect. I never did get the full story (his mom was my dance teacher), but J held a special place in my heart and I directed bullying onto myself to get it off him. I never saw him as different, just someone who struggled to learn & remember as well as keep his thoughts organized enough to make sense to others. The first time he expressed to me that although he was "slow", it still hurt to have people be malicious and hurl the "r" word at him... I'll be honest. I cried. I vowed never to use that word in my list of insults again. As far as I know, I haven't .. along with a host of others that can be really damaging to a person's mental health. I now go for things that, at the time, sounds like an insult, but is actually just a random adjective stuck with a word that shouldn't ever have that adjective to describe it. A more tame example is "Jumping Alligator". I'd say the majority of the time, people will stop... look puzzled, say, "did you call me a... jumping alligator?" "Yes, yes I did." "Why?" "Because you are impossible! Have you EVER heard of a jumping alligator?" This either distracts them from whatever was irritating them and/or causes them to laugh, diffusing the tension. The others who plain aren't listening will just continue yelling & ranting. Oh well, no solution is ever perfect ;) But basically, the "r" word is hugely insulting to everyone who has it thrown their way.
@@abigailphoenixthepaperaddi2501 The r-word is not for low intelligence. It's a slur against those with mental disabilities. Intelligence has nothing to do with disabilities. It's actually often the case that people are simply needing things taught to them in a different manner because they perceive the world differently.
@@noaccount2494 i only said low intelligence because of my friend, and the way he explained it to me. I've not used the r-word against anyone and nobody I associate with does either - if they ever did, I'd be walking away from that association. Thus, I was unaware it encapsulated much more. I was explaining more the "root", and from my own knowledge. Thank you for expanding upon it. It's a shame that people will take a word meant for one specific thing, twist it's meaning, and then use it as a horrible insult to others. Smh. It makes me remember why I really hate interacting with people. =/
There was a boy in my class that had a crush on me and he thought i had one in him to... and u know that song ‘i love you so love you so please dont gohoooo’ Yeah that’s what i said when i told him for the 5th time that I didn’t like him back... but i just gave it al little twist: ‘I told you so told you so please now goooo’ 😅
Thanks so much for your podcast, ladies! You vibe so perfectly together, you're intelligent, open and compassionate, and i truly feel like I'm having coffee with friends while listening! After 2020, it's exactly what i need in 2021! ❤
We have a magical chain convenience stores here in Texas called Buc-ee's. (pronounced Bucky's) It's also a gas station and gift shop. Their food is majestic
That Jim person in the first question is exhibiting classic signs of abusive behavior. He's making everything about him, and he is turning his girlfriend or date or whatever she was against her friends. I have seen this more times than I can count, and that girl is quickly going to find herself in the middle of an abusive relationship!
OMG! This story of Sika's sounds EXACTLY like my ex-fiance! He was 30 and I was 26 and he still lived with his mother. He had heart issues and she claimed to have as she put it "saved his life" because she did what a mother should do when her son is sick. I was 100% to blame for everything that went wrong, and he was a mama's boy and she even went so far as to tell me she broke him up with a girl she didn't like... and would do the same to me. I feel for Sika, and get where she's coming from. Some boys need a check as to who their mothers really are!
Pfff, I get such a comforting feeling just from the intro to your podcast. Super interesting discussion! Also I wish I could talk like this with my sister...
A pure I told you so moment for me was when my best friend said it to me when referring to my crush reciprocating feelings! A gentle reassurance that made such a difference for my anxieties
I love how every coffee & convo has digressions into food and other fun topics. This truly is wonderful to listen in on; I only wish I had Jackie and Sika here in my living room having coffee & convo so I could join in!
A pure version of "I told you so", when it turned out someone was welcome at and enjoyed an event, after say they enjoyed it, I think it would be pure if you then gently said "I told you so" I think it's difficult to hear. It's happened to me before. I know it was meant well, but it really wasn't helpful and felt bad, despite knowing it was well meant
A "I told you so" moment was me on the receiving end. Mainly I was told that a fence was an electric fence. I didn't listen since there was no sign where I was warned it was electric. I ended touching it and yelped, and my mom was giving me the "I told you so." But in our family vocab.
I am so glad I found your podcasts. I can relate to both of you in certain ways. I was very much like Sika. Never wanted to cause trouble, always afraid that if I said or did something I would be in trouble. Now that I am older, I am slowly starting to get out of that and see that I need to stand up for myself and its okay to stand up for yourself, and put yourself out there.
Love this podcast & your main channel. Also LOVE Japanese food & drinks and you have me searching online to find the new Japanese Convenience Store in the general Montreal area because I need some of that coffee..
Somebody would have to really work to get me to sign a contract. It would have to be in writing. I would research the company and their history. Then I would have people I can trust (or a lawyer if I could afford it) to read over the contract before I even considered it. My mom always taught me to "get it writing" with anything, to read everything before signing anything and to make personal copies of all documents (not just contracts). Honestly some of the best advice I've ever been given. Of course now that I am older, I am skeptical when it comes to large corporations/companies and also very aware of scams. I love spending my mornings/afternoons with you both! Thanks Jackie & Sika! 💜
I proper enjoy your coffee and chat time , your so lucky to have eachother I always wanted a sister but my parents stopped after I popped out,so it's just me but thank you for your beautiful siblingness ,if that's a word , 🤣 love you 💯 from the UK 👍
I'm litterally so sensitive to the hot of spice. So just touching the dirty dishes with any of sauce on it I get burn on my hands from it. So I find that putting it on her own bite and not contaminating everything with it. Glad she stood up for herself and not putting it up with a DK
I told you so in a goid way. My co worker is amazing and she has ambition but often just wait a bit to long to "go for it". One day my.manager told be about her plans and i knew my co worker eas the perfect fit for that job. I pushed her a bit more then i would normaly do, i told her to grab this chance, she got the job so i said to her "see, i told you so". Same co worker same new position for her, normaly the job would mean a better salary, she was afraid to speak up to our manager, i said to wait a few days (our manager was a bit overwhelmed with the new project) after our managers day if i told my co worker to now go ask for the raise, with the strong arguments she told me (she found out that the same job in a diffrent location ,also with our company, was offering the raise to new job aplicants) she took my advice and again i was very happy to tell her "i told you so" 😁👍🥰 love the podcast🥰🥰🥰🥰
I told you so in a nice way. “I’m sorry that happened but hopefully next time you’ll take my advice, you know I would never steer you wrong, I love you and I’m here for you.” I’ve had to have this conversation with my mom. It was awkward but it really needed to be said.
My wholesome "I told you so" moment, was my partner freaking out over their uni assignment. They had worked so incredibly hard and I kept telling them they think they have done worse than they actually have and they need to trust their hard work. Come results day, they literally cried (with happiness) because they got 90%, and said they didn't think it was possible. I said "see, your hard work paid off, you should believe in your work more, I told you so if you remember". They were very happy and asked me to keep believing in them so they can start to 😄
Loved this podcast today I’ve loved all of them and you guys have become very vulnerable to like the viewers and I think that’s a big step from job to career
In the last scenario, think of the wife giving birth!! She’s trying to call her husband for help (getting to the hospital and emotional support because she’s probably scared to death about giving birth!) That could seriously strain their relationship because she might feel like she couldn’t trust him with something important, like being their for her!
Not just that but the stress. I would automatically think something terrible happened to my husband. All that extra stress during labor is very dangerous.
@@shadowkissed2370 That's what I would have figured, she must've known he was taking his sister to this meeting. What if they got in a car accident on their way!?
Generally I don't participate in I told you so, except if the outcome is "pee my pants funny" or when my 24 year old son complains how sucky being an adult is because as soon as he could walk he has been determined to be100 independent
I love love love Japanese food too. Glad they are readily available here XD. Also darn time zones! I thought the art box was out today…. But I think I have to wait till tomorrow! 😓
Guam is a lot like Japan when it comes to convenience stores. We eat dinner from a gas station at least twice a month. There is a lot of Japanese and Australian foods given its proximity to both while also having a lot of Spanish influence in a beautiful location. I love living in Guam. So underrated
I have never been home alone with a baby but I remember feeding a few family members when they were babies while the parent was there. All I did was hold the bottle for them while the parents did something else nearby.(they could always have an eye on the baby) I've also held a baby for the first time which was one my oldest brother was baby sitting with his wife and step daughter. I was never left completely alone with a baby. I have been left alone with a baby kitten (less than a week old) my mom adopted when it's mother abandoned it for a few minutes. My mom was in the other room. She took really good care of it and unfortunately the kitten ended up dying due to natural causes the day after opening her eyes.
Walking out on or cutting people out of your life who are toxic to you is always a good thing! You make a decision for your life. I cut out sh**ty "friends" and toxic acquaintances. I feel so much better now. I also accept that I am not the right or best person for people I genuinely like or care about. I was told that my energy was too much for them so they'd rather not spend a lot of time with me. It stings a bit but I am proud that they are making a decision for themselves (the person in question is dealing with mental health issues and I fully support her journey. Even if that means that I am not a part of this. But this applies to everyone. I have to accept their choices!)
I had a situation I had to walk out of. My friend, K, was really into DnD and she got me to join a group with this guy she was "kind of" dating. Something she seemed to be blind to was that this guy was super narcissistic and manipulative. I actually tried to walk out of the group a few times (23-25) but K didn't want to leave the game and I was basically her ride at the time. We were still pretty young and had never dealt with a narcissist before, so we probably tolerated more than we should have. Things this guy did: - Used perks and/or consequences in the game to make us do things for him irl. - He'd cancel games on a whim without telling anybody, so we'd get there and he'd say "Didn't you hear? We're not having game tonight." Like, we're out of the loop or something. - While K was out of town he decided to romance and start dating another woman in the group. Again, didn't tell me, so I ended up walking in on their "date". - Convinced that woman to move out of her nice, new home in to a more low-rent home so he could move in with her. - He'd insist that everybody had to be at "his" house by 7, then would sit on his couch playing Halo until 10:30. Then he would insist on playing until 4 AM. - Anytime anybody would complain he'd wave his hand like he was trying to do a Jedi Mind Trick and outright say that it didn't happen and that we did see what we thought we saw. The final straw for me was how much he liked insulting K. He'd pick on her in particular because he knew how sensitive she was to it. It started as little side comments, then a little snide sarcasm, then basically criticizing everything she loved and found interesting. My only shame is that I let it go on for too long, I asked K several times if she wanted to leave, but she still wanted to play the game. Then another narcissist/sadist joined our group and he decided to "join in on the fun". That was it for me. It didn't take many sessions with this guy calling in insults to K from the peanut gallery for me to call it. I just got up and said, "That's it, I'm out. K, you can leave with me, or you can stay here, but this game is not worth tolerating these assholes." Fortunately, she left with me, but she did try to convince me to come back for the game. He even "apologized" and said it wouldn't happen again, but the next time I went over there, it was new day; same shit. I left after an hour and just washed my hands of everybody in the group but K.
I feel so bad for that man who missed the birth of his first child because of his sister I would never speak to her again. My cousin was 22 years old when his child was born and his wife died because the placenta all cleaned out of her body and he was left alone to bring up that child. The baby was only two weeks old when his wife died. Has something happened during the birth and he wasn't there who knows what would have happen
My most Heartfelt and trying not to be petty "I told you so" "I am going to refrain from an out right "I told you so" because this was always going to be a difficult situation. BUT, I hope in the future you are more willing to take people at their word instead of assuming they are just trying to make trouble or be petty. It is very easy to let our prejudices and preferences guide our interpretation of other people's motivations, but that doesn't mean we actually KNOW they have nefarious intentions, and often come to the wrong conclusion. Please take steps so that this situation causes the least amount of harm to this community, as a whole, as possible. There are some very vulnerable and fragile people here, and some almost predatory here. This situation has demonstrated that it is easy misjudge people and to be confused about who means good and who doesn't care."
Jackie, have you ever heard of the phrase "show up to a gunfight with a knife"? You sound like the type of person who shows up to a gunfight with a tactical nuke. I like that!
I was the type of person that would allow others to bully me or use me until they get bored or moved on, but if they attack / say anything about my family especially my mum I snapped and fought back so I understand your uncle. To me my family is everything and if you attack them or hurt them, I will go bull dog on you to protect them.
once my friend was getting a new dress, and before she saw herself in it, I told her she looked absolutely amazing (cuz she did) but she was really self-conscious until she saw herself and she felt pretty in it, and I said "I TOLD YOU SO!!" lol
My biggest “i told you so”.. One day, I told my boyfriend to slow down the car because there was snow on the road. He said something like “we’re fine”… about 30 secs later we drifted into the ditch. I didn’t say anything but my eyes were talking enough.
Jackie is like my mom. My mom is like don’t f with my family or your gone. My mom is super scary when she finds out if someone’s harmed her family. My mom almost knocked a teacher out for her racist remarks towards me and my heritage. Luckily my moms work partner (my mom is a retired cop) stopped her cause she was in uniform. All she said “that’s my child and I won’t let anyone use racist remarks towards her ever.”
I love these segments of am I the a**hole. I get so into each story. I get really angry. 😠 But I definitely agree with you guys on all the stories. Can't wait til the next one. Love you both❤️😊
1st one- definitely not the butt cavity. He not only is gross, but she literally was just refusing to let trash treat her badly with impunity. 2nd story, she was the only one that seems to have the stepdaughter’s best interest at heart. Edit 3rd- no kid is anyone else’s responsibility except the parents. Plus- girls are not born to be the family babysitter. Why didn’t the aunt get the dad to babysit or any other adult. (Which as I write this, it is mentioned)
That was getting me riled up. Totally agree with you guys about the OPs not being the a-holes. That last one, ooh if she was my sister, she might be bald by now.
I really hate when people use mental health issues as an excuse. I have issues getting over the stigma connected to mental health and disability or long term health conditions. So it disappoints me so much that the last one used anxiety an excuse for doing something she knew was wrong.
I totally agree with your analysis of these situations. These people were reacting to jerks that were in their lives. That boyfriend quickly cut that young lady off from all of her friends at that supper. Something an abuser would do, along with the other attitude issues. I hope they tried to stay in contact with her in case she needed help getting away from him. I personally never trusted a teenager with my children, lol! I felt adults were a much safer choice. That aunt was at fault for her son's injury. It is called neglect, leaving your baby unsupervised. At that age, even a minute is too long... I think how you babysat with the parent present is a much better choice for teenagers, Jackie. They are distracted and can be self absorbed(obviously so was the aunt!) So much goes on at that age, especially now with all the social media and computer games. It sucks adults in too! If he ever talks to his sister again, it might be a miracle. It doesn't go into what kind of relationship they had before the birth of his daughter, but she ruined whatever there was before!! Thinking about it, in all likelihood he was younger than his sister as his parents came to the house with her. Mom had that relationship before this one. She should have been looking out for him more than him looking out for her... I wondered if the dad was mad about the step mom helping the step daughter because he was somehow going to benefit financially from her signing that contract! Didn't even know that was a thing, but thanks for the info on that!! Having been named Karen at birth, I REALLY dislike how my name has been used in society at this time. It is very hurtful. I hope I never come across like that lady!
My "I told you so" moment I never said the words to the person. My ex, shortly after he broke up with me, began dating my, at the time, best friend. This girl was not very good in a relationship, she had dated my ex's younger brother TWICE and dumped him once, and wanted to dump him the second time but she told me and I informed the brother. When she began to date my ex I mentioned the times she dated his brother and how quickly she tended to jump from guy to guy. He said it wouldn't happen with him, shes changed, blah blah blah. Not even two months later she was dating a guy she spent the day with when he was learning about maybe going into the navy and he wrote to tell me I was right. I didn't have to say it but I totally did an "I told you so" dance in my bedroom
My boyfriend and I use "i told you so" in a calming way, like if one of us is stressed and other comforts them and tells them everything would be ok and the next day the stressed one says "you were right everything turned out ok" the other will say "i told u so" but its not petty its comforting to us. Im not sure why but thats how it works for us. Theres my example of a non-petty use of the phrase "I told you so"
When I live down in South Florida is the 7-Eleven’s Had a company come in take care of the sandwiches and subs, pretty much all of their prepackaged foods that are fresh. None of them were bad. Are used to love their one of their hoagies. But yeah I do agree some of the lesser taking care of convenient gas station places suck.
The babysitting story resonates with me. When I was in 7th grade I had a pretty traumatic experience with a rollercoaster. To this day the thought of being on one can make me have a panic attack. Not long after it had happened my school went to six flags. I hadn't realized how bad it had affected me at this point. I wasn't the same anymore but I was consistently made fun of by my family and friends for how panicked I would get at the drop of the hat. This trip scared me. It was the first time I had been near rollercoasters since at I was pretty freaked out. I was me and one friend that we're hanging at the park and at this point I didn't have a phone. The entire time my friend tried to make me go on a ride and I had to say no over and over again. One point where she and I were fighting and she was pressing me. I just said no again and again. She told me "fine then go on the ride or I'm going to hang out with someone else" I then told her to go. She walked away leaving me alone in the park. I had no other friends on this trip and no phone. It ended up all right I found someone to chill with who was also there with the school. Still am tried to be forced onto rollercoasters to date but some people never learn no means no. Hope this story helps others stand up for themselves. ❤❤❤
Sika, what built up your confidence? I am the recluse who is afraid of confrontation and I've spent years trying to improve but I'm still on the proverbial treadmill, going nowhere...
For the first post I would have walked out on that A* I did it to a friend who kept going back to a abuser I said I love you but I can't watch you put yourself and kids in danger specially after helping you. Later she left him thankfully. You just got to let go of some situations for your sanity
When my oldest child was diagnosed with ASD, my husband was skeptical and didn't want to spend the money (we had to go private). She was diagnosed with ASD and a few other things. On our way home, he said "k, you can say it. You can do a I told you so song." I told him actually didn't think it was appropriate in the situation, I did say I was right and it was worth it. And went on with our conversation of what was next and how to get her more help. So in that instance it wasn't 100% petty, and I didn't want to bring him further down. We had our oldest child to think about and what it meant for our other two. I wouldn't say that saying the "I told you so" is atleast, even tiny amount petty to some degree.
In the midst of intercourse an “I told you so” can be pretty hot. And convincing someone to try something new and they wind up really enjoying it, “I told you so” can be sweet
On the teenager babysitting…I got lucky because the age difference between my daughter and her dads brother 21 years but she adores him and he’s so good with her. She’s 13 now, almost 14, and they’re so close.
Yep, that's Disney for you. I had signed up for Disney+ and same kind of deal. All of a sudden the app wouldn't work screen-in-screen and I couldn't troubleshoot it and there was no "chat now" option or customer service number. I think that they're secretly plotting with Crap-ola.
Lol in the hot sauce story I would've WANTED to walk out but I'm really shy so probably wouldnt've had the courage to actually do it until I someone else did it first
Storytime: I had a best friend who moved away and it was established that I wasn't interested in dating people in general so for whatever reason my best friend at the time concocted a plan and lied to me saying I made her ex girlfriend cry when I went to ask her about it she said I didn't make her cry then I put two and two together and cut my best friend from my life fast forward to last month she tries to apologize to me but I ignored her Edit: Changing the pronouns since my ex best friend came out as Transgender
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Non-petty "i told you so"
Someone says: I'm gonna do the thing
You say: Don't do the thing, cus this, this, or this could happen.
They do the thing.
This, this, or this happened.
You sigh.
You hug or otherwise are sympathetic, and softly, gently, with regret in your voice: i'm so sorry this happened, it's why I tried to warn you. It's happened to me/friend/relative/stranger on bus. But, humans do tend to learn more by doing the things. I'm glad you're ok. You're still my best friend/so/relative/whatever.
Now, shall we go do some other thing?
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I have a friend that does what her husband tells her to do. She wanted to get a piercing and her husband told her he forbade her. As they are telling us this my hubby laughs and looks at me and says “I wonder what it’s like to have that kind of control”. My friends hubby asked “what do you mean?” My hubby told him if he was to tell me he forbade me to do something I would go do it even if I really didn’t want to just out of spite. Which is very true. In our marriage we tell each other we would prefer you not to do something and give the reason why but never tell the other one they flat out can’t do something.
The ex did that to me for tattoos and piercings... Among other things ...
I had an ex bf who tried to rule over my body. We started dating after I had one tattoo and that was acceptable, but when I wanted more, I was told more than one was inappropriate for a woman, but if I really wanted one, it had to be about him. I Almost comprised. Thank goodness I had no money and was able to wait until after we broke up.
My husband and I have the same deal, and he knows if he forbids me we gonna have words lol , not that he'd try, he's pretty laid back
Forbade? Ooo, I would throw hands if anyone "forbade" me to do anything. Or at the very least I'd laugh, flip them off, and go on and do exactly what they forbid me from doing. This may be why I'm single as hell, but hey, I don't care. By all means I'm a communicator, and I will take their suggestions or thoughts on the matter to heart, but I will never settle for someone telling me what I can or cannot do.
The pure “I told you so” was when I told my brother he would kill it at his guest performance at his music school and he totally did 👌
Love these podcasts!
Yeah, same here! Told my bf he would get a promotion he applied for, but he really thought he wouldn't. I think I told him "I told you so" about it just this morning (not for the first time) haha
Similar: I regularly tell my hubby he’s attractive, but he’s very down on himself. Whenever someone flirts with him, I smile and say “I told you so!” 🥰
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Yes
I know, right! 😃
Too true.
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Ugh the babysitting one hits close to home!! I used to babysit for my oldest sister. She paid me over the summer for 2 years to watch her daughter. It was fine, but I was also like 12 and had interest in it. When I was like 14 or so, I did not have interest in babysitting for lots of reasons. Trauma, and stress and just trying to “find myself” during high school, just to name a few! Anyways, my sister constantly guilt tripped me for not wanting to anymore. She would always bring her daughter into it, saying how hurt she was. Her daughter was diagnosed with diabetes, and I did not have a car, a cellphone and could not drive. I felt really uncomfortable because it was new to everyone and obviously dangerous to leave her with another helpless child? (Even as like a 15/16 year old, I was still a child!) it finally stopped (or so I thought) after the summer I started college. She called me a burden for still being unable to drive, called our mother to tell on me and when our mom offered to babysit, my sister refused. She told me that I was the most unreliable person on earth and said she would never ask me to baby sit again. Now, I do not want my own kids. I am uncomfortable watching children, especially younger children, my family does not understand why. It’s not entirely my sisters fault of course because I have lots of personal reasons for it, but still. Last summer, about a month after our dad passed away, she asked me to come to my moms house (I was at my partners), watch her kids while they played in the pool so that she could take our mom out for lunch. In a pandemonium too!! I definitely said no and thankfully she has never asked me again and I hope it stays that way. Babysitting is not a favor you owe!! You should never guilt trip anyone into babysitting for you, especially if they have made it clear how uncomfortable they are with it! Ugh! Lol. Auntie is defiantly the butt cavity
In the scenario where your sister asked you to watch her kids while she took mom out to lunch, what she may have said instead was, “ Maybe mom would benefit by getting out of the house; since I have the kids, why don’t you take her out to lunch or something?”
My “pure” I-told-you-so moment was when my childhood best friend moved in with her boyfriend and said that they were planning on possibly getting engaged in 5 years or so. I could tell they loved each other and I knew them both so well so I told her I didn’t believe it and I bet they would be engaged in a year. When she told me she was engaged (just under a year) we laughed and I said “I told you so!” And she said “yeah you did!” And it was a happy pure I told u so lol
My "pure" I told you so moment was when my boyfriend, in his excitement to fix up an old tablet, hurt himself after I warned him to be careful. He said "oh I'll be fine" then burnt himself with the sodering iron or whatever it was (I don't know what things are). I say this is pure because I said "are you ok" and he was the one that said "you told me so" instead of me saying it. To be clear, no he did not learn his lesson and he often burns himself or hurts himself in some other way
I have a single, solitary example of a light-hearted "I told you so". I warned one of my students to slow down because she was having what I call "ASD zoomies" on a wet floor. She tripped, fell, and started CRACKING UP. When I went to check on her, I made a silly face at her and said, "I told you so!" and she started laughing harder. We got her back up on her feet and reviewed why she needed to listen when a teacher said she needed to slow down, and she said, "Because if I fall, they'll tell me I told you so!"
My partner and I say "I told you so. " without any words. All we do is look at the other person and do the victory dance. Yep! 35 years of partnership has fine tuned our game!
The dad being upset about the daughter not taking the deal is kinda weird... like why does he care about her money? Especially after the step mom pointed out how one-sided the contract is. Sus 👀
I cant help but think the dad must have been getting some kind of cut if she signed up
For the first one I think he is trying to isolate her I had a partner who would be rude and obnoxious in front of friends and family it got to the point where people didn’t want to see me specially since we where always together and I now realize he would do it on purpose because he would pick and choose when to react that way. It would surprise me when he was nice and sweet it should’ve been a red flag but I was too far gone
Honestly more than likely
"I cannot do this"
"Yes you can I trust you"
"Oh, I actually can!"
"See, I told you so"
I’m not quite through your full response to the sister/daughter free babysitter situation, but I just read an essay called “Consent Culture Begins at Home” on how family dynamics are often the first places we are taught that our boundaries are not as important as what is expected of us socially. This post really reminded me of that essay, and how powerful it is for a parent to stand by their kid and their own autonomy as a person, because kids are people!
Good too, to hear you guys acknowledge the potential for sister’s son to learn that repeatedly pushing someone’s boundaries is a way to get what they want.
We’re big on consent. Growing up in an Egyptian household, we didn’t always have our voices acknowledged so I’m always going to petition for consent😊
I can really tell how important it is to both of you, and it’s great that you use your platform to help teach others!
These podcasts are amazing! Not sure if she’ll ever see this but Sika you are a gift from heaven! So sassy and talkative which I absolutely love!
If my SIL knowingly caused my husband to miss the birth of our child, I'd be pretty pissed for a LONG time. I'm also a petty person, so that wouldn't make for a good combo lol
For that last one, even if sister thought they had time to do both, it wasn't her choice to make. She could have brought that argument up when telling brother that his wife was going into labor but she removed to ability to make the choice for himself.
You can absolutly tell someone "I told you!" in a sweet way! Like you know a awesome icecream-flavor an recommend that to a friend, you know he/she will love it. And he/she does. Than you can say that! And both will be happy. Because you proofed, you know your friend good and your friend got icecream he/she loved! Win/Win!
This is adorable
On the situation with the RUclipsr, what most people seem to fail to be realizing is the first thing stated was that the agency gets control of the IP the RUclipsr creates. Which means if she doesn't live up to their quota, then they get rid of her, and they keep the name of the channel, and they keep everything associated with her brand. She would be left with nothing! That was a very shady deal, and the stepmother was right to point it out, because that was just wrong!
For a moment I thought the thumbnail said *"Ami the A**hole"*
Didn’t think it was funny till I saw your name 😂
My only opinion about AITAs is that they're always one-sided reports. All you can do is judge by what that one person is saying, and life is rarely that black and white in my experience.
Agreed. You gotta go by info given on these types of posts
I've listened to other 'reddit' posts about 'am I the ahole' and karens. I wasn't sure I wanted to listen to yours as I've seen your other types of videos and thought to myself, "Oh no, are you kidding me?" Then, I listened. I'm glad I did! I love how you and Sika actually talked about what the posts were about and your feelings! With that said, about the father that missed his daughters birth, I understand. I didn't have the same happen to me but something else that is only once in a life time. My son was getting married for the first time and all the arrangements had been made and he let me know when and where. He is my only child so of course I wanted to be there! Well, my ex-mother-in-law, never liked me, and when my son had to change locations at the last minute she didn't tell me about it. My son had asked her to give me a call and let me know where the new location was and she told him she would. So, I show up at the place I was told and lo and behold there was NO ONE there! I called his grandmother and asked what was going on and she refused to tell me anything! Even his father didn't know about the change! AFTER the wedding, my son got in contact with me to find out where I and his father were. (We were divorced.) I told him that I called his grandmother to find out what happened because both his father and I, and my husband at the time, showed up at the other location and there was no one there! I told him she didn't tell me ANYTHING about the change. He was quite upset with his grandmother for this and for me, I never forgave her for taking away from me something that could never be redone. Some people just don't care about others!
I love how Sika always sets Jackie straight when she gets the wrong end of the stick!😂😂
Maybe Sika should read the Reddits instead??🤣
These conversations are so important! We have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable! Holding people accountable and saying this is not ok, you need to leave. No more creeps, no more racists. They don’t get a place in my safe space. Especially friends and family. Friends of friends, if your friend is the problematic one, do not coddle them. Show them and explain, we’re all about change and growth, but with accountability. I love you both!
It’s great getting to know more about you both with these podcasts 😁
r/AITA is one of my favourite subreddits!
Have a fantastic day!
1st one: i would have walked out. Hubby says he woulda happily decked him, then walked (which means I woulda stopped him from decking jim and tugged him out of the restaurant lol)
But: OP is NOT the "butt cavity". It had nothing to do with hot sauce. It had EVERYTHING to do with what a slimeball this Jim was being. Sorry, but he had 3 strikes we heard about. The inappropriate behavior to the women. The down's comment. Then, calling OP the "r-word" for the way she chooses to use a condiment.
Jim's GF cussing her own friends out for refusing to give Jim a 2nd chance should NOT happen. It's THEIR choice, not hers. If she's not careful, she's going to lose her friends, and then where will she be when they inevitably break up (blinders finally come off somehow). Friendless.
Now, that said...
Anyone who has been in an ab****e relationship knows, one of the 1st steps is to alienate the new partner from friends/relatives, using manipulation tactics, deception, lies, etc.
I worry for this woman.
2nd one: not the butt cavity. Step-daughter asked someone for help, someone who she knew had at least SOME experience with contracts to verify what she probably already knew - i know creators talk amongst themselves about this stuff. That was a VERY sleazy contract. The dad in question was likely hoping to get a bit of that "advance", maybe by saying, "it's called a "finder's fee" or whatever. That's my thought, anyway.
3rd one: Mom & daughter, "auntie" and toddler & BIL.
Lordy. Mom, you are awesome, and NOT a butt cavity. Your kid has ZERO interest in being responsible for what I've heard termed "tiny s**c*de machines". Auntie is essentially forcing your kid to do things she has ZERO desire to do. By punishing daughter, it's saying, "they are older, you have zero right to say no". By reminding daughter she has that right... oh lord. If you put it in terms of .... i'm going to say, "inappropriately passionately hugging", you'll see why all of us are up in arms about your sister, the "auntie".
Sadly, I'm also worried about your nephew. If his mother isn't careful, that kid will not only be a male karen, but a potential "inappropriate contact/inappropriate passionately hugging" offender.
You did great, mama. Keep protecting your kid. Any family gathering where the nephew is there, have daughter be in the same area as you. If you go inside to help with food/drink, daughter needs to be inside, too. Doesn't matter if she helps or not.
Also, you need to somehow get your sister to understand that what she is doing is, quite frankly, CREEPY and DISTURBING. As well as damaging to her own son.
I had a kid. I'd rather have a babysitter who genuinely WANTS to babysit, even for a 5 minute bathroom break (although, in Aunt's case... WHY DID SHE NOT ASK HER HUSBAND?)
You CANNOT force relationships between two people. Either the toddler & his much older cousin become friends or they don't. It is 100% on THEM, not any adult.
Last one:
Dude, not the butt cavity. Omg. It's always wise to let your anger calm down before finally confronting the person and explaining why this was such a bad thing for you. Your sister IS the butt cavity, as well as family. If she was that anxious, yes, I can see her needing someone with her. But, BY YOUR OWN WORDS, her dad was in town for a few more days. That means... a few days of chances to have breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee. I'm sure that, even with a new baby, you would have happily taken a few hours away to help her. All it required was for sister to RESCHEDULE. You CANNOT reschedule a natural birth! Babies come on THEIR time. I never would have *chosen* 4:13am for my kid's birthtime! Maybe late evening? I dunno. Lol. But your sister ROBBED YOU of a VERY IMPORTANT milestone. Your child's birth. The worst is, it was your FIRST child. Tell everyone that you will deal with this betrayal of YOUR trust when YOU are ready and NOT a minute sooner, and if they cannot respect that, just as your sister couldn't respect your own milestone moment, then they ALSO have no right inside the house YOU pay/paid for. Only AFTER you have cleared the air with sister would you even consider clearing the air with them, too. They may be "family", but YOUR WIFE AND DAUGHTER ARE, TOO, and THEY are much, MUCH more important.
Guess you all can see how upset this made me.
Great show, Jackie & Sika =D much love and many blessings to EVERYONE. And please... don't let people walk over you with the excuse of "but, FaMiLy..." or other toxic crap. Boundaries need to exist, and you have to enforce them. Love you all, my fellow grains.
@Mary Culver it's the non-politically correct term for some of very very low intelligence.
People having a low mental capacity were (once) termed as having a condition called "retardation". These individuals were called this - usually in a mean/malicious way, (but drop the -ation off the word).
Now, I think, there a host of other actual medical terms for people who actually have brain issues like "Cognitive Impairment". Please, do not quote me on that! I'm 46, been out of any school for way too long, and haven't kept up with too many of the terms.
The 'r' word is seen as a huge insult to most people. It's cruel, to be honest. A dear friend of mine was cognitively disabled, to a milder extent. Due to the times, it was called mild retardation. He still had to attend a few special classes tailored to help him learn what he needed to graduate high school, but overall was "mainstreamed" into regular classes. His was the result of a birth defect. I never did get the full story (his mom was my dance teacher), but J held a special place in my heart and I directed bullying onto myself to get it off him. I never saw him as different, just someone who struggled to learn & remember as well as keep his thoughts organized enough to make sense to others. The first time he expressed to me that although he was "slow", it still hurt to have people be malicious and hurl the "r" word at him... I'll be honest. I cried. I vowed never to use that word in my list of insults again. As far as I know, I haven't .. along with a host of others that can be really damaging to a person's mental health. I now go for things that, at the time, sounds like an insult, but is actually just a random adjective stuck with a word that shouldn't ever have that adjective to describe it. A more tame example is "Jumping Alligator".
I'd say the majority of the time, people will stop... look puzzled, say, "did you call me a... jumping alligator?"
"Yes, yes I did."
"Why?"
"Because you are impossible! Have you EVER heard of a jumping alligator?"
This either distracts them from whatever was irritating them and/or causes them to laugh, diffusing the tension.
The others who plain aren't listening will just continue yelling & ranting. Oh well, no solution is ever perfect ;)
But basically, the "r" word is hugely insulting to everyone who has it thrown their way.
@@abigailphoenixthepaperaddi2501 The r-word is not for low intelligence. It's a slur against those with mental disabilities. Intelligence has nothing to do with disabilities. It's actually often the case that people are simply needing things taught to them in a different manner because they perceive the world differently.
@@noaccount2494 i only said low intelligence because of my friend, and the way he explained it to me. I've not used the r-word against anyone and nobody I associate with does either - if they ever did, I'd be walking away from that association. Thus, I was unaware it encapsulated much more. I was explaining more the "root", and from my own knowledge. Thank you for expanding upon it.
It's a shame that people will take a word meant for one specific thing, twist it's meaning, and then use it as a horrible insult to others. Smh. It makes me remember why I really hate interacting with people. =/
There was a boy in my class that had a crush on me and he thought i had one in him to... and u know that song ‘i love you so love you so please dont gohoooo’
Yeah that’s what i said when i told him for the 5th time that I didn’t like him back... but i just gave it al little twist:
‘I told you so told you so please now goooo’ 😅
Thanks so much for your podcast, ladies! You vibe so perfectly together, you're intelligent, open and compassionate, and i truly feel like I'm having coffee with friends while listening! After 2020, it's exactly what i need in 2021! ❤
We have a magical chain convenience stores here in Texas called Buc-ee's. (pronounced Bucky's) It's also a gas station and gift shop. Their food is majestic
I'm from Texas, currently stuck in Vegas, and man do I miss Buc-ee's!!
That Jim person in the first question is exhibiting classic signs of abusive behavior. He's making everything about him, and he is turning his girlfriend or date or whatever she was against her friends. I have seen this more times than I can count, and that girl is quickly going to find herself in the middle of an abusive relationship!
I feel like a special grain when I watch your videos. They make me feel so happy :D
OMG! This story of Sika's sounds EXACTLY like my ex-fiance! He was 30 and I was 26 and he still lived with his mother. He had heart issues and she claimed to have as she put it "saved his life" because she did what a mother should do when her son is sick. I was 100% to blame for everything that went wrong, and he was a mama's boy and she even went so far as to tell me she broke him up with a girl she didn't like... and would do the same to me. I feel for Sika, and get where she's coming from. Some boys need a check as to who their mothers really are!
Pfff, I get such a comforting feeling just from the intro to your podcast. Super interesting discussion! Also I wish I could talk like this with my sister...
A pure I told you so moment for me was when my best friend said it to me when referring to my crush reciprocating feelings! A gentle reassurance that made such a difference for my anxieties
I love how every coffee & convo has digressions into food and other fun topics. This truly is wonderful to listen in on; I only wish I had Jackie and Sika here in my living room having coffee & convo so I could join in!
A pure version of "I told you so", when it turned out someone was welcome at and enjoyed an event, after say they enjoyed it, I think it would be pure if you then gently said "I told you so" I think it's difficult to hear. It's happened to me before. I know it was meant well, but it really wasn't helpful and felt bad, despite knowing it was well meant
A "I told you so" moment was me on the receiving end. Mainly I was told that a fence was an electric fence. I didn't listen since there was no sign where I was warned it was electric. I ended touching it and yelped, and my mom was giving me the "I told you so." But in our family vocab.
Cannot lie, I've been looking for you on Spotify and for whatever reason, I couldn't find you. So excited right now.
I am so glad I found your podcasts. I can relate to both of you in certain ways. I was very much like Sika. Never wanted to cause trouble, always afraid that if I said or did something I would be in trouble. Now that I am older, I am slowly starting to get out of that and see that I need to stand up for myself and its okay to stand up for yourself, and put yourself out there.
Love this podcast & your main channel.
Also LOVE Japanese food & drinks and you have me searching online to find the new Japanese Convenience Store in the general Montreal area because I need some of that coffee..
Somebody would have to really work to get me to sign a contract. It would have to be in writing. I would research the company and their history. Then I would have people I can trust (or a lawyer if I could afford it) to read over the contract before I even considered it. My mom always taught me to "get it writing" with anything, to read everything before signing anything and to make personal copies of all documents (not just contracts). Honestly some of the best advice I've ever been given. Of course now that I am older, I am skeptical when it comes to large corporations/companies and also very aware of scams.
I love spending my mornings/afternoons with you both! Thanks Jackie & Sika! 💜
I proper enjoy your coffee and chat time , your so lucky to have eachother I always wanted a sister but my parents stopped after I popped out,so it's just me but thank you for your beautiful siblingness ,if that's a word , 🤣 love you 💯 from the UK 👍
I'm litterally so sensitive to the hot of spice. So just touching the dirty dishes with any of sauce on it I get burn on my hands from it. So I find that putting it on her own bite and not contaminating everything with it.
Glad she stood up for herself and not putting it up with a DK
OMG I'm so excited to know that you are on Spotify!!! I rushed over to the app to follow you.
38:14 I went on to Jackie's main channel just to see the disclaimer on the about section OMG I love it!
I told you so in a goid way. My co worker is amazing and she has ambition but often just wait a bit to long to "go for it".
One day my.manager told be about her plans and i knew my co worker eas the perfect fit for that job. I pushed her a bit more then i would normaly do, i told her to grab this chance, she got the job so i said to her "see, i told you so".
Same co worker same new position for her, normaly the job would mean a better salary, she was afraid to speak up to our manager, i said to wait a few days (our manager was a bit overwhelmed with the new project) after our managers day if i told my co worker to now go ask for the raise, with the strong arguments she told me (she found out that the same job in a diffrent location ,also with our company, was offering the raise to new job aplicants) she took my advice and again i was very happy to tell her "i told you so" 😁👍🥰 love the podcast🥰🥰🥰🥰
I told you so in a nice way. “I’m sorry that happened but hopefully next time you’ll take my advice, you know I would never steer you wrong, I love you and I’m here for you.” I’ve had to have this conversation with my mom. It was awkward but it really needed to be said.
My wholesome "I told you so" moment, was my partner freaking out over their uni assignment. They had worked so incredibly hard and I kept telling them they think they have done worse than they actually have and they need to trust their hard work.
Come results day, they literally cried (with happiness) because they got 90%, and said they didn't think it was possible. I said "see, your hard work paid off, you should believe in your work more, I told you so if you remember".
They were very happy and asked me to keep believing in them so they can start to 😄
Love both of u because you talk about it vs those that just read the story
Loved this podcast today I’ve loved all of them and you guys have become very vulnerable to like the viewers and I think that’s a big step from job to career
In the last scenario, think of the wife giving birth!! She’s trying to call her husband for help (getting to the hospital and emotional support because she’s probably scared to death about giving birth!) That could seriously strain their relationship because she might feel like she couldn’t trust him with something important, like being their for her!
Not just that but the stress. I would automatically think something terrible happened to my husband. All that extra stress during labor is very dangerous.
@@shadowkissed2370 That's what I would have figured, she must've known he was taking his sister to this meeting. What if they got in a car accident on their way!?
Exactly! The wife would assume that he doesn’t care and would damage their relationship. That’s why the sister is the actual butt cavity.
Generally I don't participate in I told you so, except if the outcome is "pee my pants funny" or when my 24 year old son complains how sucky being an adult is because as soon as he could walk he has been determined to be100 independent
I love love love Japanese food too. Glad they are readily available here XD. Also darn time zones! I thought the art box was out today…. But I think I have to wait till tomorrow! 😓
7-11 Hawaii is like a hybrid between 7-11 Japan and North America. They have bentos, sushi and manapua.
enjoy the two of you talking and sharing your views
Honestly I like that a lot of these you guys process the one posting more times then not are actually the jerk in the situation.
Guam is a lot like Japan when it comes to convenience stores. We eat dinner from a gas station at least twice a month. There is a lot of Japanese and Australian foods given its proximity to both while also having a lot of Spanish influence in a beautiful location. I love living in Guam. So underrated
I know this just came out but I'm already ready for more! 🥰
K I'm like 10 seconds in but I love that I was about to ask if you're on Spotify and you immediately said so 😄
That last AITA made me properly angry. That poor father. Awesome podcast, ladies 😀
I have never been home alone with a baby but I remember feeding a few family members when they were babies while the parent was there. All I did was hold the bottle for them while the parents did something else nearby.(they could always have an eye on the baby)
I've also held a baby for the first time which was one my oldest brother was baby sitting with his wife and step daughter.
I was never left completely alone with a baby.
I have been left alone with a baby kitten (less than a week old) my mom adopted when it's mother abandoned it for a few minutes. My mom was in the other room. She took really good care of it and unfortunately the kitten ended up dying due to natural causes the day after opening her eyes.
Walking out on or cutting people out of your life who are toxic to you is always a good thing! You make a decision for your life. I cut out sh**ty "friends" and toxic acquaintances. I feel so much better now. I also accept that I am not the right or best person for people I genuinely like or care about. I was told that my energy was too much for them so they'd rather not spend a lot of time with me. It stings a bit but I am proud that they are making a decision for themselves (the person in question is dealing with mental health issues and I fully support her journey. Even if that means that I am not a part of this. But this applies to everyone. I have to accept their choices!)
I told you so can be good! Like "see, I told you you could do it!". "just try it, you can do it" then "see I told you so!"
I am really enjoying these, good job both of you!
I had a situation I had to walk out of.
My friend, K, was really into DnD and she got me to join a group with this guy she was "kind of" dating. Something she seemed to be blind to was that this guy was super narcissistic and manipulative. I actually tried to walk out of the group a few times (23-25) but K didn't want to leave the game and I was basically her ride at the time. We were still pretty young and had never dealt with a narcissist before, so we probably tolerated more than we should have.
Things this guy did:
- Used perks and/or consequences in the game to make us do things for him irl.
- He'd cancel games on a whim without telling anybody, so we'd get there and he'd say "Didn't you hear? We're not having game tonight." Like, we're out of the loop or something.
- While K was out of town he decided to romance and start dating another woman in the group. Again, didn't tell me, so I ended up walking in on their "date".
- Convinced that woman to move out of her nice, new home in to a more low-rent home so he could move in with her.
- He'd insist that everybody had to be at "his" house by 7, then would sit on his couch playing Halo until 10:30. Then he would insist on playing until 4 AM.
- Anytime anybody would complain he'd wave his hand like he was trying to do a Jedi Mind Trick and outright say that it didn't happen and that we did see what we thought we saw.
The final straw for me was how much he liked insulting K. He'd pick on her in particular because he knew how sensitive she was to it. It started as little side comments, then a little snide sarcasm, then basically criticizing everything she loved and found interesting. My only shame is that I let it go on for too long, I asked K several times if she wanted to leave, but she still wanted to play the game.
Then another narcissist/sadist joined our group and he decided to "join in on the fun". That was it for me. It didn't take many sessions with this guy calling in insults to K from the peanut gallery for me to call it. I just got up and said, "That's it, I'm out. K, you can leave with me, or you can stay here, but this game is not worth tolerating these assholes."
Fortunately, she left with me, but she did try to convince me to come back for the game. He even "apologized" and said it wouldn't happen again, but the next time I went over there, it was new day; same shit. I left after an hour and just washed my hands of everybody in the group but K.
I feel so bad for that man who missed the birth of his first child because of his sister I would never speak to her again.
My cousin was 22 years old when his child was born and his wife died because the placenta all cleaned out of her body and he was left alone to bring up that child.
The baby was only two weeks old when his wife died.
Has something happened during the birth and he wasn't there who knows what would have happen
Hello,love your channel it’s so fun, also let’s get Jackie to atleast 500k subs, you might think it’s a lot but us grains can do anything!!
I could listen to this podcast all day.
My most Heartfelt and trying not to be petty "I told you so"
"I am going to refrain from an out right "I told you so" because this was always going to be a difficult situation. BUT, I hope in the future you are more willing to take people at their word instead of assuming they are just trying to make trouble or be petty. It is very easy to let our prejudices and preferences guide our interpretation of other people's motivations, but that doesn't mean we actually KNOW they have nefarious intentions, and often come to the wrong conclusion.
Please take steps so that this situation causes the least amount of harm to this community, as a whole, as possible. There are some very vulnerable and fragile people here, and some almost predatory here. This situation has demonstrated that it is easy misjudge people and to be confused about who means good and who doesn't care."
Jackie, have you ever heard of the phrase "show up to a gunfight with a knife"? You sound like the type of person who shows up to a gunfight with a tactical nuke.
I like that!
I was the type of person that would allow others to bully me or use me until they get bored or moved on, but if they attack / say anything about my family especially my mum I snapped and fought back so I understand your uncle. To me my family is everything and if you attack them or hurt them, I will go bull dog on you to protect them.
once my friend was getting a new dress, and before she saw herself in it, I told her she looked absolutely amazing (cuz she did) but she was really self-conscious until she saw herself and she felt pretty in it, and I said "I TOLD YOU SO!!" lol
My biggest “i told you so”.. One day, I told my boyfriend to slow down the car because there was snow on the road. He said something like “we’re fine”… about 30 secs later we drifted into the ditch. I didn’t say anything but my eyes were talking enough.
Jackie doesn't come in like a tank she 🎵"Comes in like a wreeeeeecckiiingbaaaall" 🎵
That's probably one of the only good Miley songs if you ask me (≧(ｴ)≦ )
Jackie is like my mom. My mom is like don’t f with my family or your gone. My mom is super scary when she finds out if someone’s harmed her family. My mom almost knocked a teacher out for her racist remarks towards me and my heritage. Luckily my moms work partner (my mom is a retired cop) stopped her cause she was in uniform. All she said “that’s my child and I won’t let anyone use racist remarks towards her ever.”
I love these segments of am I the a**hole. I get so into each story. I get really angry. 😠 But I definitely agree with you guys on all the stories. Can't wait til the next one. Love you both❤️😊
I am admittedly passive aggressive, so if there is 'I told you so.. ' moment to be had, I'm right there, especially if it's my family!!
I’m glad sika was there I kept getting so confused when you would say the opposite of the post it happens a lot when you’re reading out loud lol
I can only focus on one thing at a time lol
1st one- definitely not the butt cavity. He not only is gross, but she literally was just refusing to let trash treat her badly with impunity. 2nd story, she was the only one that seems to have the stepdaughter’s best interest at heart. Edit 3rd- no kid is anyone else’s responsibility except the parents. Plus- girls are not born to be the family babysitter. Why didn’t the aunt get the dad to babysit or any other adult. (Which as I write this, it is mentioned)
That was getting me riled up. Totally agree with you guys about the OPs not being the a-holes. That last one, ooh if she was my sister, she might be bald by now.
I loved this! And agreed with everything you both said. Take care x
I really hate when people use mental health issues as an excuse. I have issues getting over the stigma connected to mental health and disability or long term health conditions. So it disappoints me so much that the last one used anxiety an excuse for doing something she knew was wrong.
I totally agree with your analysis of these situations. These people were reacting to jerks that were in their lives.
That boyfriend quickly cut that young lady off from all of her friends at that supper. Something an abuser would do, along with the other attitude issues. I hope they tried to stay in contact with her in case she needed help getting away from him.
I personally never trusted a teenager with my children, lol! I felt adults were a much safer choice. That aunt was at fault for her son's injury. It is called neglect, leaving your baby unsupervised. At that age, even a minute is too long... I think how you babysat with the parent present is a much better choice for teenagers, Jackie. They are distracted and can be self absorbed(obviously so was the aunt!) So much goes on at that age, especially now with all the social media and computer games. It sucks adults in too!
If he ever talks to his sister again, it might be a miracle. It doesn't go into what kind of relationship they had before the birth of his daughter, but she ruined whatever there was before!! Thinking about it, in all likelihood he was younger than his sister as his parents came to the house with her. Mom had that relationship before this one. She should have been looking out for him more than him looking out for her...
I wondered if the dad was mad about the step mom helping the step daughter because he was somehow going to benefit financially from her signing that contract! Didn't even know that was a thing, but thanks for the info on that!!
Having been named Karen at birth, I REALLY dislike how my name has been used in society at this time. It is very hurtful. I hope I never come across like that lady!
I love these kind of vids, and those kind of reddits, because as a writer these kind of stories are great inspiration. :}
My "I told you so" moment I never said the words to the person. My ex, shortly after he broke up with me, began dating my, at the time, best friend. This girl was not very good in a relationship, she had dated my ex's younger brother TWICE and dumped him once, and wanted to dump him the second time but she told me and I informed the brother. When she began to date my ex I mentioned the times she dated his brother and how quickly she tended to jump from guy to guy. He said it wouldn't happen with him, shes changed, blah blah blah. Not even two months later she was dating a guy she spent the day with when he was learning about maybe going into the navy and he wrote to tell me I was right. I didn't have to say it but I totally did an "I told you so" dance in my bedroom
My boyfriend and I use "i told you so" in a calming way, like if one of us is stressed and other comforts them and tells them everything would be ok and the next day the stressed one says "you were right everything turned out ok" the other will say "i told u so" but its not petty its comforting to us. Im not sure why but thats how it works for us. Theres my example of a non-petty use of the phrase "I told you so"
You need to visit a Kwik Trip if you ever make it to Wisconsin. Their gas station food is amazing!
Love love to join you two more often! J'ai besoin de ma dose!! 😻
When I live down in South Florida is the 7-Eleven’s Had a company come in take care of the sandwiches and subs, pretty much all of their prepackaged foods that are fresh. None of them were bad. Are used to love their one of their hoagies. But yeah I do agree some of the lesser taking care of convenient gas station places suck.
I love you guys, is that a broken but beautiful mug that you are using Jackie? I need this in my life x
It is!
The babysitting story resonates with me. When I was in 7th grade I had a pretty traumatic experience with a rollercoaster. To this day the thought of being on one can make me have a panic attack. Not long after it had happened my school went to six flags. I hadn't realized how bad it had affected me at this point. I wasn't the same anymore but I was consistently made fun of by my family and friends for how panicked I would get at the drop of the hat. This trip scared me. It was the first time I had been near rollercoasters since at I was pretty freaked out. I was me and one friend that we're hanging at the park and at this point I didn't have a phone. The entire time my friend tried to make me go on a ride and I had to say no over and over again. One point where she and I were fighting and she was pressing me. I just said no again and again. She told me "fine then go on the ride or I'm going to hang out with someone else" I then told her to go. She walked away leaving me alone in the park. I had no other friends on this trip and no phone. It ended up all right I found someone to chill with who was also there with the school. Still am tried to be forced onto rollercoasters to date but some people never learn no means no. Hope this story helps others stand up for themselves. ❤❤❤
Sika, what built up your confidence? I am the recluse who is afraid of confrontation and I've spent years trying to improve but I'm still on the proverbial treadmill, going nowhere...
For the first post I would have walked out on that A* I did it to a friend who kept going back to a abuser I said I love you but I can't watch you put yourself and kids in danger specially after helping you. Later she left him thankfully. You just got to let go of some situations for your sanity
When my oldest child was diagnosed with ASD, my husband was skeptical and didn't want to spend the money (we had to go private). She was diagnosed with ASD and a few other things. On our way home, he said "k, you can say it. You can do a I told you so song." I told him actually didn't think it was appropriate in the situation, I did say I was right and it was worth it. And went on with our conversation of what was next and how to get her more help. So in that instance it wasn't 100% petty, and I didn't want to bring him further down. We had our oldest child to think about and what it meant for our other two. I wouldn't say that saying the "I told you so" is atleast, even tiny amount petty to some degree.
In the midst of intercourse an “I told you so” can be pretty hot. And convincing someone to try something new and they wind up really enjoying it, “I told you so” can be sweet
I also carry a mini bottle of hot sauce in my purse. I do however pull it out in restaurants. It should be on the table, like ketchup!
I love ur vids
I want to agree with Sika on the I told you so but I think Jackie it right on it. Dang… I never realized that before.
On the teenager babysitting…I got lucky because the age difference between my daughter and her dads brother 21 years but she adores him and he’s so good with her. She’s 13 now, almost 14, and they’re so close.
Yep, that's Disney for you. I had signed up for Disney+ and same kind of deal. All of a sudden the app wouldn't work screen-in-screen and I couldn't troubleshoot it and there was no "chat now" option or customer service number. I think that they're secretly plotting with Crap-ola.
Lol in the hot sauce story I would've WANTED to walk out but I'm really shy so probably wouldnt've had the courage to actually do it until I someone else did it first
Storytime: I had a best friend who moved away and it was established that I wasn't interested in dating people in general so for whatever reason my best friend at the time concocted a plan and lied to me saying I made her ex girlfriend cry when I went to ask her about it she said I didn't make her cry then I put two and two together and cut my best friend from my life fast forward to last month she tries to apologize to me but I ignored her
Edit: Changing the pronouns since my ex best friend came out as Transgender