My A grade goes to Zarna who is always the long suffering one who gets little praise or a good acknowledgment from especially her children They are always complaining about her " screaming " or the little things she does to discipline them.She is also working so hard to give them everything. You deserve a medal Zarna.
This family ... ❤ Love all 5 personalities. I am a middle child (4 kids). Now 66 years old. I learned from the older 2 what not to do. The youngest one was care free. Kevin Leman wrote a book on The Birth Order ... excellent! A+ to Zarna ... for her honesty & vulnerability.
I am a maths teacher from USA at an international school in Tokyo. Your family talks have helped me so much as a teacher on cultural values as I have a lot of Indian students at the school. You have to come to Tokyo as there are a lot of Indians here. The Japanese government as made a deal with India to bring in more professionals as their population is declining. Thank you for all you do. I have introduced you to my Indian moms here. They can relate especially being between to cultures. I have actually received Indian food from a mom today. So good. Please come to Tokyo.
Brij I feel your pain! I am the middle child here and I experienced 100% the same situation as you. I think zarna has experienced so many hardships since an early age such as losing her mother and family support, money issues and giving up her career opportunities that she now tries to control every variable so that you guys don't run into the same problems or make the same mistakes. As an immigrant she understands that there is very little room for error and only so many opportunities available hence which is why she is so hard on you guys. Although she does seem extremely overbearing, please do give your mother some grace as her actions are motivated with good intentions.
I loved listening to this episode! I only recently realized that I could watch on RUclips vs just listening to a podcast. It’s so wonderful to watch everyone’s facial expressions!! I’m so encouraged by each episode because of the authenticity of each person! Zarna, I give you the A because as a Mom, I know how it feels to receive feedback from my kids. I want honest feedback, and sometimes that hurts deeply. You ended up receiving all of this and still posted the episode!! The wonderful part of all of this is that while your children are so honest, they also love you dearly!! They understand that parents are people and are not perfect! What an awesome understanding at such a young age!! Great episode!!
What a wonderful episode. The irony about hearing the kids complain about mom is that it just makes your family seem even more real and wholesome to be willing to talk about the hard stuff mixed in with the good stuff. Thank you.
@@skagraw2hey being an indian, I can't agree with that. my parents do care for me more than you can ever imagine. indian parents care for their children all the time. it's just in our blood. idk where you get this baseless idea from
@@skagraw2you must be joking. If his mother didn't care how would he be disciplined to go to IIT. Indian parents insist their children are better than themselves.
Excellent work of piece I am middle child and it’s true that the focus is not on middle children but thankfully as it gives us opportunities to be more independent and emotionally mature. Hey guys, MOM is the gift of God who takes care of us with all her abilities & limitations.
I have to give my A+ to Zarna bc she was willing to admit the guilt that she has with raising Brij and I think that was very noble of her to admit that as well as when she said Zoya was her pride, Brij is her weakness, and Veer is her joy. I think so much shame has been thrown at Zarna for different reasons some I will admit to agreeing with, but I also can’t help but think why all her kids are great people and that obviously had to be bc of her and the internet doesn’t see everything. So great job Mrs. Zarna and I love watching your podcasts!🥰
I totally love this episode!!! I’m crying from laughter and deep emotions I can’t explain. Stay strong!! I am also the firstborn child of a Chinese immigrant family, and my mother’s voice rings in my head. I am 48 and have 4 children 22,19,17,15. And I tell them that my goal is for them to have my voice in their heads forever. My eyes will be watching them no matter where they go. That’s just the way it’s gotta be. Hahahahaha
I just enjoy listening to Brijj!!! He is the best, I would love to have someone like him coach young kids. Straight shooter without sarcasm or other hurtful words! That's clean ❤️
Loved the discussion and as an Indian Mom my heart goes out for Zarna..loved how Brij articulated middle child syndrome. Would love to hear you guys out on sleepovers 😊
Omg, loving the podcast!! I’m a newly minted immigrant parent raising my 1.5 year old son in Jersey City (not NYC, but close enough!) and I’m absolutely loving the conversations here, makes me think about the things I want to do or not do as my little one grows up!! Aunty Zarna - loved your comment about how Zoya is your pride, Brij your weakness and Veer your joy. So my A grade goes to you. I do want to point out that I thought the A grade has to be about something that’s said on the show, but these days the kids especially are giving the A grade based on something totally outside of the show - like mom has so much energy to yell even after doing everything she does- but hello that’s not something that was said in the podcast!! Have to admit the podcast is my favorite thing to listen to on my drive to work and always puts a smile on my face ! Absolutely love the family dynamics! I have so much more to say, will save it for another day! P.S. - hope you caught on the fact that I have a SON, did well didn’t I ? haha JK we totally wanted a girl 😅
Loved this episode. I love the fact that all three of your kids are so authentic and individualistic yet humble and different from each other. It’s remarkable how they articulate their thoughts eloquently and seamlessly. I think above and beyond the birth order is the personality of the child. As parents we respond to the personality more than the birth order. It’s so subconscious we don’t even realize it. Lastly our own birth order and status in our family, does impact our parenting style. Love all your content. Get to learn so much! ❤
Another great episode!…very interesting!…I definitely am giving my A grade to Brij!..he brought so much to the table today!..this family needs its own TV show!..much love and appreciation for you all!💜
Definitely, another wonderful discussion and interaction in a quasi-dysfunctional family (aren’t all families?). Truly, there is no “need” for a session with a family therapist. This podcast is a therapy session in and of itself. 😊❤️😊
What an exceptionally ‘open’ family. The mere fact that the siblings can 😮express their honest feelings--is admirable. TY oh have a great family. Do t do anything different
The banter is entertaining, but also enlightning. Transparency "exposes" which is risky, but so refreshing. All that aside, Shalabh, sporting "Roots" makes my Canadian heart glad. And Zarna, there's no need to feel rebuffed as there's no denying that you are the "fashion forward" member of the family, no matter what you MIL (or anyone) may say. Best wishes to each of you.
I have so much respect and love for this mom ! Kids never understand and know the amount of contemplation that goes in before any decision is taken. It’s for their good! They will get this one day when they r mothers and fathers😂
This was suchaaa a great comic refreshment with sprinkle of reality check. Both of my parents are youngest of their siblings and that theory is spot on accurate. They are too headstrong, control freak and dont want to compromise to the point that they are actually divorced now. I'm being raised by my dad, anf it has not been easy on me at all since i'm actually only child. But I also know living with my mom wouldn’t have been too different cause she is like him too, a headstrong, tough lady.But life has been so challenging overall. I'm the age of Zoya, so i really think, a great family could have been a great help for me to shine more in life.
Absolutely loved the podcast! It's 12 midnight here and just finished watching. Yea also, A grade to Brij for walking that tight rope so successfully as Zarna mentioned😊
Yes thank you Zarna. It helped me understand my parent and family dynamics. I am youngest child out of 2 and had so much pressure to achieve that my sister didn't get.
I would move in with this family if I could...what a delightful, rich and hilarious conversation. I am half Desi, the eldest so very very relatable. A +++++ to mom. ❤
I’m Latina and can totally relate to Zarna. As for the comments criticizing Zarna being stern till this day and on this video…are you forgetting that she’s a comedian, that part of it is for laughs. In viewing this video and her children, I will give kudos to her because all three are great kids.
I am the middle child and definitely feel your pain Brij. I am 60 years old and my mom still triggers me. I was always the quiet one who caused the leased amount of trouble. I definitely did feel like I was not as important. I think felt the “screaming” the most deeply because I did not push back. My brother and sister argued much more often with my parents. I think the result of this is that I screemed at my kids very often. Only when I went to therapy and got medication was I able to no longer need to take my repressed stress out on the kids. I think it is ok to make your own mistakes to learn by.
Zoya is mostly always correct ✅ Also, why is the parents always trying hard to demean Zoya in all the things she does.. Somehow I feel Zoya could be better off alone without her parents making her feel wrong about every possible thing.. She deserves better. 🥺
Right and wrong is almost subjective and contextual. And no one is better off alone. That is not humans are better off. Especially when it comes to family. Family is the single most important pillar of strength. A lot of people might disagree but that is the ultimate truth.
Zarna and Shalabh, you guys have raised your kids so well! Such amazing kids! Smart, well spoken and articulate with such clear thinking! My A goes to Brij as well on this one! Also- I bet Shalabh is enjoying a box of popcorn under his desk for the most part of this show😅
South asian mom here. No sleepovers at all!! just because people are so scary and their intentions you can not ever be 100%. You can't just leave them alone at someone's house. Sleepovers only if I am going there as well.
Hi, love your family ❤ I’m a 40 something woman who is an only child. There was no parties, sleepovers, camps or after school activities for me. I had to sit with the adults which made me grow up faster. The cotton wool was so tight I had to move out at 17 for my own mental health. Now, in today’s world I have 2 teenagers (girls 🤦🏻♀️) who fight all the time & it makes me so sad to see it. But my husband is exactly like yours 😂 & my mum is exactly like you. I get multiple texts a day & I get a 2-3 hour phone call a day. Although the phone calls are mainly so long because she’s fighting with my dad over who lost the credit card & I’m supposed to help them find it over the phone. But I take all of this in because one day they won’t be texting or calling me anymore 😢. Much love from Australia 🇦🇺
Ahhh Zarna, don't show the individual screens..show the entire screen so that we can see the responses of others while someone is speaking. That's the entire fun part of the video to see expressions of each other. Please don't do this editing and go back to the older way of showing the whole screen.
Being a mom is such a thankless job. But I bet neither Zarna nor I will ever regret being one. Like my mom always said, you’ll know when you become a Mom. And now I do….love my Mom! Hope you all do as well!
Zarna, you are an excellent mother! I love your podcast I wish I had known about your channel earlier. You are very relatable. I’m not Indian, but I can understand and appreciate the sentiment about what you’re talking about. Your husband and your kids cannot do anything without you. I hope they will appreciate your sacrifice someday, hopefully. I’m a fan from Ethiopia# by the way of the DMV.
I'm a middle child and yes, there's the middle child syndrome..... all in all, I wouldn't have it any other way because right now as an adult I don't get to fuss so much about anything
After listening to this podcast, I realised how much our parents' upbringing has to do with our upbringing. In my case, I'm the only one 😂. But in mom's case, she was the second child and the eldest daughter. Her parents gave her freedom to choose what she wanted to do. And that was because she was responsible enough to understand the outcome of her decisions. Whereas my father was the youngest among his siblings. He was very much protected and guided by his elder siblings. He tried to do the same with me but my mom convinced my dad that I can do whatever I want because they can intervene when there's a trouble.
that's how Indian Mothers are. Kids should understand that it is for their own good. But they all are very good kids ❤. They are very intelligent too. Loved the whole conversation.
It’s a really good thing to have parents who enforce discipline THAT is LOVE I grew up very American I had a lot of freedom to think for myself & give my own disciplines Because my parents were busy, working to help financially provide Good Work Garg Family especially to Zarna for shaping your family into Successful individuals & keeping the family TOGETHER ❤
Veer - u should really be sooo grateful that ur sis and bro r soooo involved in ur life and look out for u. Many in the world wud die for that privilege! ❤️👏👏
Great discussion and children are very articulate. I think my children have the same opinion as your children Zarna. Both my boys are grown up and left home for work interstate. When they came back home together, I was the topic -about their younger days for their fun discussion. Like you I don’t know where I get the energy to scream when something not going to go the way I planned. Your husband is typical good guy at home for the kids. I am the oldest in my family. Had the most amazing attention.
I can completely relate Zarna even though I have a single child. This good cop and bad cop runs in all family and many a time as Mom we will be the Bad Cop. But on the other hand we also have to evolve in the dynamics of parenting in the Era of Gen Z's !!! Many a places I was seeing myself in You Zarna!! But you did a great Job with your family that's clearly visible. Veer is definitely a Man of Wisdom!!
Zarna, you are awesome and all your kids derive so much from you that they may not even know of and will understand quite late in life. Mom and daughter relationships are often volcanic and that's okay. I love how you are unapologetically you. I wish we could meet and i could give you a tight bear hug!
Zarna , you have wonderful children and I am sure you are a very hands on mommy who puts her kids needs, her family needs ahead of her own needs. I feel like you are constantly trying to prove that you are good mom because you may be invalidated. Being a mom is a thankless job. I feel you and hear you. I’m a mom myself to a daughter in college. I can see you are constantly trying to protect them and be there for them at every step of their way. More love to you mama. From one mom to another and to your sweet children. Wish them best.
I agree with Zarna …u always care for ur children. A grade for Zarna and Zoya.. 💕 sleep over was allowed for my daughter when I meet the family and I know which friends.
A+ for Zoya. I agree with most of the comments that Zoya is always right . I feel like she gave A to mom because she somehow feel she owes it to her because of some kind of fear or backlash later .
A+ to Brij. Birth order does matter for sure. I am the younger sibling, but I think it depends on how they are based on how many siblings are there and how the family dynamics are too. I have one older sibling. I definitely have the advantage of walking the path that my sibling has. I never ventured into a territory of what I do not know. I am the protected one. I feel for the older sibling that it is tough for them. These episodes are thought provoking.
I am the middle child (women) but can relate to Brij… I am in late 40’s but still can relate to middle child struggles of this generation….another great episode from Gargs family awesome 👏 I 💯 agree with What Zarna said A++ to Brij , also to Zarna A++ for raising such wonderful children
Spot on..not only abt Zarna but many moms... a part of her disciplining leading to screaming comes from her stress. But isnt that understandable? Its hard enuff to discipline onself but then to literally drive the younget person to take charge is daunting
I loved the smile zoya hid by the end when brij tried to eat something on camera smartly and zoya noticed and thought okay mom didnt notice , otherwise zarna would school him like she did with shalabh in one of the previous episodes.
I enjoyed this one the most so far. Seemed that everyone was more self-confident when they spoke so didn't have the sense of tightness when they spoke, particularly with regard to Zoya. Very honest and not in a caricaturist manner. Lively and all Gargs had their say, even Veer and Shalab. But, as a once hands-on mom, I totally relate to Zarna's style of caring for the kids. Not and easy job and the responsibilities for keeping everyone safe and healthy and the million other things that matter in bringing up kids, can be all-consuming. For sure, there are different styles of mothering, but I relate mostly to Zarna's because I think all others are "hoping" that things work out ok as opposed to doing everything humanely possible to ensure that they will work out ok. Just increasing the odds of that, in any case. Thanks for the podcast. It was entertaining in a meaningful way.
Such an interesting and introspective discussion. As an oldest child, I can totally relate to Zoya. My entire existence was controlled, whereas my younger sibling was allowed to do everything that was denied me. I was a goody two shoes to always please my parents, to the point that I have existed rather than lived.
This is a really interesting topic that delves deeper than just birth order in an average household. There's a lot mentioned here by the kids (Zoya particularly) that I think specifically relates to the Indian immigrant experience and parenting first-generation Indian-American children. For context, I'm the eldest child of Indian parents who immigrated to the US 30+ years ago and pushed all us kids into medicine. Most parents don't know what they're doing when they have their first kid. Everything needs to be perfect and every situation is approached with caution. This is why the first kid gets so much attention. By the last kid, the parents know exactly what works and things are pretty much on auto-pilot. So by default, the pressure on the eldest child is highest. The pressure for perfection, to succeed, to take care of everyone else, etc. But the pressure put on the eldest child of Indian immigrants is on another level. Zoya, you're not alone in feeling this. Indian immigrant parents are not your average Joe Schmoe parents - specifically the immigrants that came over willingly for opportunities between 20-60 years ago. They were self-driven and highly motivated to find success after leaving home and country, and they now expect to see this drive in their children. It's why most first-gen Indian-American kids have been pushed (willingly or not) into medicine and engineering. However (and I'm witnessing this already), I don't think we'll see this push continue into the next generation (second-gen Indian Americans). A side note: Something I learned recently is that in Indian matchmaking, birth order is frequently considered for partner compatibility. An oldest is most compatible with a youngest. 2 oldest will butt heads and fight. 2 youngest will be chaotic. It's an interesting rabbit hole.
I have three kids, Boy, girl, boy. My raising of them is very similar to yours, Zarna. My first got the most attention at home, school and extracurriculars. My youngest got the least. My daughter is in the middle but she took on the second mom role much like Zoya. Each of my children were treated differently but as I’ve told them since they were very little, “I will treat you fairly but not equally.”
Enjoyed this family chat. Could relate to a lot of it coming from a 3 sibling family myself. The kids are very articulate. For me, being the youngest and the only son, I definitely remember being pampered by everyone, feeling protected and also at times that my opinions didn’t matter until I reached by late 20s.
Parenting doesnt come with a guidebook....parents make mistakes as kids do...this isnt personal...we all are learning as we grow as families...thanks for posting..
haha..this podcast cracked me up the most! because of how zoya is figuring things out along the way into the conversation and now I see how differently I see/treat/attend my two kids and I am confused wherher I should drop the attention bomb on to the second one..because she is literally doing what she wants to and the older one is all worroed about asking permission to even decide on what clothes to wear..damn..U made me realize something that is so hard to change ..and all these days I blamed on their personalities..when it just the “birth order”..and me being the third child..I always had all the freedom in the world..😊
My grandson is not allowed to do sleep overs. Zoya be grateful you weren’t allowed to do sleep overs. So many unfortunate things happened when you go to sleep overs. Sleep at your own home.
The mother is perfect, the children will give her more credit when they have their children and also they will ask for forgiveness because they will experiment with the truth of raising good kids, it is hard as hell! Sacrifice, devotion, dedication, endless work, many times of pain and suffering, hard unappreciated job.… Congratulation Mom you did a great job! Great kids, great family! Credits for the great father of course.🌺👏💕🥰
Shalab ,you are putting words on children minds n you are enjoying every bit of it.😅😅😅😅 Love all five of you. Stay blessed, safe, healthy and happy together. 💯👌👏👍☝🤞😍😍😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤎💝💝🤎🤎fm- England 🇬🇧 U.K.
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My A grade goes to Zarna who is always the long suffering one who gets little praise or a good acknowledgment from especially her children
They are always complaining about her " screaming " or the little things she does to discipline them.She is also working so hard to give them everything. You deserve a medal Zarna.
This family ... ❤
Love all 5 personalities.
I am a middle child (4 kids).
Now 66 years old. I learned from the older 2 what not to do. The youngest one was care free. Kevin Leman wrote a book on The Birth Order ... excellent! A+ to Zarna ... for her honesty & vulnerability.
I am a maths teacher from USA at an international school in Tokyo. Your family talks have helped me so much as a teacher on cultural values as I have a lot of Indian students at the school. You have to come to Tokyo as there are a lot of Indians here. The Japanese government as made a deal with India to bring in more professionals as their population is declining. Thank you for all you do. I have introduced you to my Indian moms here. They can relate especially being between to cultures. I have actually received Indian food from a mom today. So good. Please come to Tokyo.
There are Indians everywhere 😁, that’s what I am realizing!
Brij I feel your pain! I am the middle child here and I experienced 100% the same situation as you. I think zarna has experienced so many hardships since an early age such as losing her mother and family support, money issues and giving up her career opportunities that she now tries to control every variable so that you guys don't run into the same problems or make the same mistakes. As an immigrant she understands that there is very little room for error and only so many opportunities available hence which is why she is so hard on you guys. Although she does seem extremely overbearing, please do give your mother some grace as her actions are motivated with good intentions.
I loved listening to this episode! I only recently realized that I could watch on RUclips vs just listening to a podcast. It’s so wonderful to watch everyone’s facial expressions!! I’m so encouraged by each episode because of the authenticity of each person! Zarna, I give you the A because as a Mom, I know how it feels to receive feedback from my kids. I want honest feedback, and sometimes that hurts deeply. You ended up receiving all of this and still posted the episode!! The wonderful part of all of this is that while your children are so honest, they also love you dearly!! They understand that parents are people and are not perfect! What an awesome understanding at such a young age!! Great episode!!
Zoya brought tears to me with her words about her mom. love this podcast! It's the only one I listen to. I wish it was on more often. ❤
What a wonderful episode. The irony about hearing the kids complain about mom is that it just makes your family seem even more real and wholesome to be willing to talk about the hard stuff mixed in with the good stuff. Thank you.
Brij really has a knack for putting across really valid points backed by solid evidence 👏
Solid!! I'm 40+, I can't do as well as he does!! Kudos to him
I would love to see Shalabh’s mother in one of the podcasts. 😂
Shalabh if you’re reading this, please bring her on at least once.
In India, parents never cared for their children. Shalabh said his parents gave him freedom. Actually, parents simply don't care.
@@skagraw2hey being an indian, I can't agree with that. my parents do care for me more than you can ever imagine. indian parents care for their children all the time. it's just in our blood. idk where you get this baseless idea from
@@skagraw2you must be joking. If his mother didn't care how would he be disciplined to go to IIT. Indian parents insist their children are better than themselves.
@@skagraw2 Can't believe Indian parents simply don't care. Maybe it was your family.
Excellent work of piece
I am middle child and it’s true that the focus is not on middle children but thankfully as it gives us opportunities to be more independent and emotionally mature.
Hey guys, MOM is the gift of God who takes care of us with all her abilities & limitations.
I have to give my A+ to Zarna bc she was willing to admit the guilt that she has with raising Brij and I think that was very noble of her to admit that as well as when she said Zoya was her pride, Brij is her weakness, and Veer is her joy. I think so much shame has been thrown at Zarna for different reasons some I will admit to agreeing with, but I also can’t help but think why all her kids are great people and that obviously had to be bc of her and the internet doesn’t see everything. So great job Mrs. Zarna and I love watching your podcasts!🥰
I totally love this episode!!! I’m crying from laughter and deep emotions I can’t explain. Stay strong!!
I am also the firstborn child of a Chinese immigrant family, and my mother’s voice rings in my head.
I am 48 and have 4 children 22,19,17,15. And I tell them that my goal is for them to have my voice in their heads forever. My eyes will be watching them no matter where they go.
That’s just the way it’s gotta be. Hahahahaha
I just enjoy listening to Brijj!!! He is the best, I would love to have someone like him coach young kids. Straight shooter without sarcasm or other hurtful words! That's clean ❤️
Loved the discussion and as an Indian Mom my heart goes out for Zarna..loved how Brij articulated middle child syndrome. Would love to hear you guys out on sleepovers 😊
Omg, loving the podcast!! I’m a newly minted immigrant parent raising my 1.5 year old son in Jersey City (not NYC, but close enough!) and I’m absolutely loving the conversations here, makes me think about the things I want to do or not do as my little one grows up!! Aunty Zarna - loved your comment about how Zoya is your pride, Brij your weakness and Veer your joy. So my A grade goes to you.
I do want to point out that I thought the A grade has to be about something that’s said on the show, but these days the kids especially are giving the A grade based on something totally outside of the show - like mom has so much energy to yell even after doing everything she does- but hello that’s not something that was said in the podcast!!
Have to admit the podcast is my favorite thing to listen to on my drive to work and always puts a smile on my face ! Absolutely love the family dynamics! I have so much more to say, will save it for another day!
P.S. - hope you caught on the fact that I have a SON, did well didn’t I ? haha JK we totally wanted a girl 😅
Loved this episode. I love the fact that all three of your kids are so authentic and individualistic yet humble and different from each other. It’s remarkable how they articulate their thoughts eloquently and seamlessly. I think above and beyond the birth order is the personality of the child. As parents we respond to the personality more than the birth order. It’s so subconscious we don’t even realize it. Lastly our own birth order and status in our family, does impact our parenting style. Love all your content. Get to learn so much! ❤
Another great episode!…very interesting!…I definitely am giving my A grade to Brij!..he brought so much to the table today!..this family needs its own TV show!..much love and appreciation for you all!💜
Definitely, another wonderful discussion and interaction in a quasi-dysfunctional family (aren’t all families?). Truly, there is no “need” for a session with a family therapist. This podcast is a therapy session in and of itself. 😊❤️😊
What an exceptionally ‘open’ family.
The mere fact that the siblings can 😮express their honest feelings--is admirable. TY oh have a great family. Do t do anything different
The banter is entertaining, but also enlightning. Transparency "exposes" which is risky, but so refreshing. All that aside, Shalabh, sporting "Roots" makes my Canadian heart glad. And Zarna, there's no need to feel rebuffed as there's no denying that you are the "fashion forward" member of the family, no matter what you MIL (or anyone) may say. Best wishes to each of you.
I have so much respect and love for this mom ! Kids never understand and know the amount of contemplation that goes in before any decision is taken. It’s for their good! They will get this one day when they r mothers and fathers😂
This was suchaaa a great comic refreshment with sprinkle of reality check. Both of my parents are youngest of their siblings and that theory is spot on accurate. They are too headstrong, control freak and dont want to compromise to the point that they are actually divorced now. I'm being raised by my dad, anf it has not been easy on me at all since i'm actually only child. But I also know living with my mom wouldn’t have been too different cause she is like him too, a headstrong, tough lady.But life has been so challenging overall. I'm the age of Zoya, so i really think, a great family could have been a great help for me to shine more in life.
Absolutely loved the podcast! It's 12 midnight here and just finished watching. Yea also, A grade to Brij for walking that tight rope so successfully as Zarna mentioned😊
A to everyone!
I love the honesty!
I am the baby in our 3-kid team, like you guys, girl, boy, boy order. This whole video resonated so much with me.
Yes thank you Zarna. It helped me understand my parent and family dynamics. I am youngest child out of 2 and had so much pressure to achieve that my sister didn't get.
Zoya is Zarna's "mini me"😂😂 checking up on if Veer's doing his homework😂😂
I love this family. If a family can talk like this, it is incredibly healthy. A smart, funny, genuine family.
I would move in with this family if I could...what a delightful, rich and hilarious conversation. I am half Desi, the eldest so very very relatable. A +++++ to mom. ❤
I’m Latina and can totally relate to Zarna. As for the comments criticizing Zarna being stern till this day and on this video…are you forgetting that she’s a comedian, that part of it is for laughs. In viewing this video and her children, I will give kudos to her because all three are great kids.
I am the middle child and definitely feel your pain Brij. I am 60 years old and my mom still triggers me. I was always the quiet one who caused the leased amount of trouble. I definitely did feel like I was not as important. I think felt the “screaming” the most deeply because I did not push back. My brother and sister argued much more often with my parents. I think the result of this is that I screemed at my kids very often. Only when I went to therapy and got medication was I able to no longer need to take my repressed stress out on the kids.
I think it is ok to make your own mistakes to learn by.
Zoya is mostly always correct ✅ Also, why is the parents always trying hard to demean Zoya in all the things she does.. Somehow I feel Zoya could be better off alone without her parents making her feel wrong about every possible thing.. She deserves better. 🥺
I agree! They are so hard on her! She is so mature .
💯 Poor Zoya has been burdened with all of her mother’s insecurities and anxieties. Which is why she has to be in therapy.
Right and wrong is almost subjective and contextual.
And no one is better off alone. That is not humans are better off. Especially when it comes to family. Family is the single most important pillar of strength.
A lot of people might disagree but that is the ultimate truth.
@@gauravaws20can’t agree more..
Zoya is so wonderful and selfconfident,because her mother did everything right. ❤
Zarna and Shalabh, you guys have raised your kids so well! Such amazing kids! Smart, well spoken and articulate with such clear thinking!
My A goes to Brij as well on this one!
Also- I bet Shalabh is enjoying a box of popcorn under his desk for the most part of this show😅
Please do a sleepover episode. That struggle in the south Asian household is SO REAL!!! 😂
South asian mom here. No sleepovers at all!! just because people are so scary and their intentions you can not ever be 100%. You can't just leave them alone at someone's house.
Sleepovers only if I am going there as well.
These podcasts are my happy place online!
That’s concerning.
@@ruthnoronha8206 how?
Hi, love your family ❤
I’m a 40 something woman who is an only child. There was no parties, sleepovers, camps or after school activities for me. I had to sit with the adults which made me grow up faster.
The cotton wool was so tight I had to move out at 17 for my own mental health.
Now, in today’s world I have 2 teenagers (girls 🤦🏻♀️) who fight all the time & it makes me so sad to see it. But my husband is exactly like yours 😂 & my mum is exactly like you. I get multiple texts a day & I get a 2-3 hour phone call a day. Although the phone calls are mainly so long because she’s fighting with my dad over who lost the credit card & I’m supposed to help them find it over the phone.
But I take all of this in because one day they won’t be texting or calling me anymore 😢.
Much love from Australia 🇦🇺
Ahhh Zarna, don't show the individual screens..show the entire screen so that we can see the responses of others while someone is speaking. That's the entire fun part of the video to see expressions of each other. Please don't do this editing and go back to the older way of showing the whole screen.
Being a mom is such a thankless job. But I bet neither Zarna nor I will ever regret being one. Like my mom always said, you’ll know when you become a Mom. And now I do….love my Mom! Hope you all do as well!
Zarna, you are an excellent mother! I love your podcast I wish I had known about your channel earlier. You are very relatable. I’m not Indian, but I can understand and appreciate the sentiment about what you’re talking about. Your husband and your kids cannot do anything without you. I hope they will appreciate your sacrifice someday, hopefully. I’m a fan from Ethiopia# by the way of the DMV.
I'm a middle child and yes, there's the middle child syndrome..... all in all, I wouldn't have it any other way because right now as an adult I don't get to fuss so much about anything
After listening to this podcast, I realised how much our parents' upbringing has to do with our upbringing. In my case, I'm the only one 😂. But in mom's case, she was the second child and the eldest daughter. Her parents gave her freedom to choose what she wanted to do. And that was because she was responsible enough to understand the outcome of her decisions. Whereas my father was the youngest among his siblings. He was very much protected and guided by his elder siblings. He tried to do the same with me but my mom convinced my dad that I can do whatever I want because they can intervene when there's a trouble.
I always love these kids. So smart snd articulate. I can never choose who to give the A+
that's how Indian Mothers are. Kids should understand that it is for their own good. But they all are very good kids ❤. They are very intelligent too. Loved the whole conversation.
It’s a really good thing to have parents who enforce discipline THAT is LOVE
I grew up very American
I had a lot of freedom to think for myself & give my own disciplines
Because my parents were busy, working to help financially provide
Good Work Garg Family especially to Zarna for shaping your family into Successful individuals & keeping the family TOGETHER ❤
I admire your family for being able to discuss all things!❤❤❤
Veer - u should really be sooo grateful that ur sis and bro r soooo involved in ur life and look out for u. Many in the world wud die for that privilege! ❤️👏👏
Great discussion and children are very articulate. I think my children have the same opinion as your children Zarna. Both my boys are grown up and left home for work interstate. When they came back home together, I was the topic -about their younger days for their fun discussion. Like you I don’t know where I get the energy to scream when something not going to go the way I planned. Your husband is typical good guy at home for the kids. I am the oldest in my family. Had the most amazing attention.
I can completely relate Zarna even though I have a single child. This good cop and bad cop runs in all family and many a time as Mom we will be the Bad Cop. But on the other hand we also have to evolve in the dynamics of parenting in the Era of Gen Z's !!! Many a places I was seeing myself in You Zarna!! But you did a great Job with your family that's clearly visible. Veer is definitely a Man of Wisdom!!
Zarna, you are awesome and all your kids derive so much from you that they may not even know of and will understand quite late in life. Mom and daughter relationships are often volcanic and that's okay. I love how you are unapologetically you. I wish we could meet and i could give you a tight bear hug!
Fantastic podcast!! The youngest definitely gets away with more! Brig is so articulate
Zarna , you have wonderful children and I am sure you are a very hands on mommy who puts her kids needs, her family needs ahead of her own needs. I feel like you are constantly trying to prove that you are good mom because you may be invalidated.
Being a mom is a thankless job. I feel you and hear you. I’m a mom myself to a daughter in college. I can see you are constantly trying to protect them and be there for them at every step of their way. More love to you mama. From one mom to another and to your sweet children. Wish them best.
I agree with Zarna …u always care for ur children. A grade for Zarna and Zoya.. 💕 sleep over was allowed for my daughter when I meet the family and I know which friends.
Beautiful children!! Listen to them mom, they are much wiser than we realize! Listen to this pod several times without an audience!
This has got to be one of the funniest podcasts ever
This is by far my absolutely favorite episode. I could totally copy paste characters from my life and family into this exact conversation 😅😂😂😂
A+ for Zoya. I agree with most of the comments that Zoya is always right . I feel like she gave A to mom because she somehow feel she owes it to her because of some kind of fear or backlash later .
You are all so loveable and enjoyable to listen to! Thank you for all you do!
Nice podcast, I like all the kids, in the way they express themselves
A+ to Brij. Birth order does matter for sure. I am the younger sibling, but I think it depends on how they are based on how many siblings are there and how the family dynamics are too. I have one older sibling. I definitely have the advantage of walking the path that my sibling has. I never ventured into a territory of what I do not know. I am the protected one. I feel for the older sibling that it is tough for them. These episodes are thought provoking.
God bless this family... They're all adorable. Being a mother I completely understand where Zarna is coming from and I empathize with her the most.
I am the middle child (women) but can relate to Brij… I am in late 40’s but still can relate to middle child struggles of this generation….another great episode from Gargs family awesome 👏 I 💯 agree with What Zarna said A++ to Brij , also to Zarna A++ for raising such wonderful children
Spot on..not only abt Zarna but many moms... a part of her disciplining leading to screaming comes from her stress. But isnt that understandable? Its hard enuff to discipline onself but then to literally drive the younget person to take charge is daunting
A+ for Veer, for being like Switzerland :)) neutral and peaceful :))
I loved the smile zoya hid by the end when brij tried to eat something on camera smartly and zoya noticed and thought okay mom didnt notice , otherwise zarna would school him like she did with shalabh in one of the previous episodes.
I enjoyed this one the most so far. Seemed that everyone was more self-confident when they spoke so didn't have the sense of tightness when they spoke, particularly with regard to Zoya. Very honest and not in a caricaturist manner. Lively and all Gargs had their say, even Veer and Shalab. But, as a once hands-on mom, I totally relate to Zarna's style of caring for the kids. Not and easy job and the responsibilities for keeping everyone safe and healthy and the million other things that matter in bringing up kids, can be all-consuming. For sure, there are different styles of mothering, but I relate mostly to Zarna's because I think all others are "hoping" that things work out ok as opposed to doing everything humanely possible to ensure that they will work out ok. Just increasing the odds of that, in any case. Thanks for the podcast. It was entertaining in a meaningful way.
What a lovely family. So real. I love it
Such an interesting and introspective discussion. As an oldest child, I can totally relate to Zoya. My entire existence was controlled, whereas my younger sibling was allowed to do everything that was denied me. I was a goody two shoes to always please my parents, to the point that I have existed rather than lived.
Reminded very much of my family
I totally agree with no sleepovers - u don’t know the family of your friends
Absolutely
This is a really interesting topic that delves deeper than just birth order in an average household. There's a lot mentioned here by the kids (Zoya particularly) that I think specifically relates to the Indian immigrant experience and parenting first-generation Indian-American children. For context, I'm the eldest child of Indian parents who immigrated to the US 30+ years ago and pushed all us kids into medicine.
Most parents don't know what they're doing when they have their first kid. Everything needs to be perfect and every situation is approached with caution. This is why the first kid gets so much attention. By the last kid, the parents know exactly what works and things are pretty much on auto-pilot. So by default, the pressure on the eldest child is highest. The pressure for perfection, to succeed, to take care of everyone else, etc.
But the pressure put on the eldest child of Indian immigrants is on another level. Zoya, you're not alone in feeling this. Indian immigrant parents are not your average Joe Schmoe parents - specifically the immigrants that came over willingly for opportunities between 20-60 years ago. They were self-driven and highly motivated to find success after leaving home and country, and they now expect to see this drive in their children. It's why most first-gen Indian-American kids have been pushed (willingly or not) into medicine and engineering. However (and I'm witnessing this already), I don't think we'll see this push continue into the next generation (second-gen Indian Americans).
A side note: Something I learned recently is that in Indian matchmaking, birth order is frequently considered for partner compatibility. An oldest is most compatible with a youngest. 2 oldest will butt heads and fight. 2 youngest will be chaotic. It's an interesting rabbit hole.
Here for zoya❤❤❤ how can you be so humble n ur perspective is gold ❤
I have three kids, Boy, girl, boy. My raising of them is very similar to yours, Zarna. My first got the most attention at home, school and extracurriculars. My youngest got the least. My daughter is in the middle but she took on the second mom role much like Zoya. Each of my children were treated differently but as I’ve told them since they were very little, “I will treat you fairly but not equally.”
Reminds me of my dear family! Amazing episode as always!
Enjoyed this family chat. Could relate to a lot of it coming from a 3 sibling family myself. The kids are very articulate.
For me, being the youngest and the only son, I definitely remember being pampered by everyone, feeling protected and also at times that my opinions didn’t matter until I reached by late 20s.
Absolutely love all your podcasts! These conversations are really great and I never miss an episode.
Kudos to you and your wonderful family 🧡
Its brave of your family to put it out like this. Wow.
Parenting doesnt come with a guidebook....parents make mistakes as kids do...this isnt personal...we all are learning as we grow as families...thanks for posting..
Awww my Brij !! I love how you express yourself! Zoya is ❤! Veer is a good listener !! ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Omg Veer made me laugh when he said to Zoya this gotta stop.. that kid is super brilliant
Like everyone. Veer and Dad are so alike in temperament. They are the funniest without trying hard and the coolest.
haha..this podcast cracked me
up the most! because of how zoya is figuring things out along the way into the conversation and now I see how differently I see/treat/attend my two kids and I am
confused wherher I should drop the attention bomb on to the second one..because she is literally doing what she wants to and the older one is all worroed about asking permission to even decide on what clothes to
wear..damn..U made me realize something that is so
hard to change ..and all these days I blamed on their personalities..when it just the “birth order”..and me being the third child..I always had all the freedom in the world..😊
Your children are adorable,frank & fearless . . Shalabh is a great listener.
Zoya, please thank your parents for not allowing you to go on sleepovers.
literally so many things happen bruh
What do you mean
My grandson is not allowed to do sleep overs. Zoya be grateful you weren’t allowed to do sleep overs. So many unfortunate things happened when you go to sleep overs. Sleep at your own home.
@@pamelasaunders3736Like what??
All I know is that Zoya is like literally the perfect daughter and makes me wish for a daughter ❤.
haha love this. It would be great to see everyone's expressions when someone is talking.
What an amazing episode! Keep em coming ❤
Love that you guys shared this and I really enjoyed reading the Birth Order book by Dr. Kevin Leman and I highly recommend that everyone read it! ❤😄
Love this FamBam!!!
A to Zoya ❤❤❤ I love this girl ❤❤❤ A+ to Zarna for just being her 💕
As the youngest child in my family, I give an A + to Veer. #letveerspeak
We are three siblings and we are grown ups. But what the kids are saying is so relatable 😊
Quick question to Brij.
Why are you so cute? 🥰
Absolutely loved and thoroughly enjoyed, happy for Zoya on way to be more independent decision making for herself.
Omgosh this is funnier than your standup Zarna Garg 😅 And also shows the influence of excellent parenting and family love.
The mother is perfect, the children will give her more credit when they have their children and also they will ask for forgiveness because they will experiment with the truth of raising good kids, it is hard as hell! Sacrifice, devotion, dedication, endless work, many times of pain and suffering, hard unappreciated job.…
Congratulation Mom you did a great job! Great kids, great family! Credits for the great father of course.🌺👏💕🥰
Daughter is STUNNING
Shalab ,you are putting words on children minds n you are enjoying every bit of it.😅😅😅😅 Love all five of you. Stay blessed, safe, healthy and happy together. 💯👌👏👍☝🤞😍😍😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤎💝💝🤎🤎fm- England 🇬🇧 U.K.
It’s like watching modern family 😂 Shalab is definitely playing Phil here 😅
Fantastic episode 👏👏👏
Zarna I love you! You remind me of my mom and my dad is just the same-- being in the back picture and getting all kids sympathy 😜😜😜
FIrst born. Adult now. The younger siblings get away with everything. We're left holding the bag, taking care of everyone & everything.
I absolutely love your family, really. I enjoy listening to the topic you are discussing. Your kids are amazing and sooooooooo smart