What I had to learn was that when people ask how much something was, they’re most likely not going to judge me for my monetary spending. I call it the “cashier effect” I always thought the cashier at a grocery store was judging what I was eating and how much I was spending. Then I became a cashier, and realized we don’t care and are honestly just looking for the barcodes. People’s intentions are more than likely different from what you think!
Money guilt gang checking in 🥰✨ I relate to that especially about groceries. One thing that’s helped me is realizing that I literally need them ??? And that’s fine ???? I take a step back and I’m like relax you literally require nutrients.
Yes! I have it especially after I do get something for myself it won't even be that much but then I think okay I'll just hold off on buying groceries for maybe a week or so. Like???
Dude i feel bad for ✨wanting✨ to afford whole pasta and cereals and sugar free sweetener (those are kinda expensive in my country) when i NEED THOSE due to insulin resistance 😬
i feel guilty every single day, because i don't do anything "productive" enough, even though i know i should take a break from everything because it doesn't do any good for my mental health to overwork myself. I hate it.
"The feel of guilt leads you to more failure" are the truest words I've heard in a long time 🙌🏾 and yup, us women get shamed into feeling guilty *too often*...let's not fall for that anymore
9:40 I've noticed recently on tik tok that a lot of people are saying that "oversharing and confiding in your friends is bad" and I personally got a lot of guilt from those tiktoks thinking it's bad. I recently realized that those people who made those tik toks are not only not the best friends but also don't realize that is normal. Being able to talk to your friends is a normal thing and no one should ever feel ashamed of that. It should be a mutual friendship where both parties should be able to talk to one another about their problems, because that is a sign of trust.
As long as you respect people's privacy and get your friend's consent before bringing up heavier issues (for the sake of their mental health), ofc!! It's healthy and a sign of a great friendship to be able to talk things out :))
@@lulaarias4150 yeah ofcc!! What I understand is never listening to your friends problems, whilst always talking about you’re own, but if friends feel comfortable and willing to talk to each other I think that is what matter. I totally agree, consent is so important too!
I think it would only be bad if they’re uncomfortable with it. In my experience I had one friend that I didn’t like when they over shared with me because they would put me in a position where I felt like I was the only thing that could fix them and all that pressure overwhelmed me and what could’ve been a safe place turned into stress. So I think as long as you’re in tune to what your friends’ needs are when you’re sharing with them. Because in a good friendship you do listen to and help each other equally and as long as you’re both still kind to each other and having your needs met that’s fine
@@rosamaenorton4828 yesss exactly like as long as each person is comfortable. Obviously this doesn’t speak for everyone but in my experience when I talk to my friends about something, I don’t expect advice or anything I just need someone to listen to me at the end of the day. Then I ask them “is there anything you would like to talk about” just so I’m there for them, like they are there for me. Something that I would consider like going too far is over sharing about something everyday, that can put the person in an overwhelming situation.
@@scarletturner2410 Yeah, I understand just wanting someone to listen that’s so important. And I really like that you ask them if there’s anything they want to talk about after, I think that totally balances out the friendship and probably means a lot to the other person as it eliminates the possibility that you’re just thinking about yourself. It’s nice to have people who are truly there for you when you go through difficult things and I think the way you go about sharing with people is very healthy☺️
I have money guilt but because I did grow up in a wealthy family. I feel as though I have advantages others don’t and if I use them (ie spending money) I’m being unfair to others and I feel guilty about it. I’m starting to learn to be appreciative rather than guilty and that I should use my blessing to help people who may not be as fortunate.
I’m living in my parents expensive house because I’m still 17, and whenever my friends come over I feel so embarrassed and guilty because I feel like I’m privileged and a spoiled brat
one simple tip that my therapist told me is “would you tell this to someone else?” i would never tell a lot of the things i tell myself to others and i’m trying to improve on that, but i had just never thought about it that way.
Nicole is literally the only youtuber I watch at this point, like she makes me feel normal and okay abt myself and I get so psyched every time I see she uploaded it makes my whole day
this!!! It's honestly so exhausting to constantly feel the stress of guilt. It feels very rooted in perfectionism and people-pleasing and leads to a feeling of baseline anxiousness. At this point, I can only go to bed after severely exhausting myself in order to avoid the onslaught of guilt and worry that my brain will inevitably stir up. Thank you for sharing this. It's definitely not talked about enough, and I'm happy to see that you're on a journey of growth. Hope I can get on that path, too!
me and you think the exact same, i’m trying to find a therapist, but i’m only 15 so my mom has to be the one that signs me up :/. she’s okay with me wanting a therapist, but it’s so much money, which makes me feel guilty for wanting therapy, but i really do need a therapist, so i will keep manifesting for one
money guilt is a real thing, I'm currently in a situation where I struggle deciding if I should go out with my friends tomorrow evening and spend 20€ or just save it and stay at home
guilt is genuinely one of the worst feelings in the whole world. whenever i feel super guilty about something, it haunts my whole day, week or even months just because it sticks in my mind for so long. thanks for making this video nicole
oh my gosh thank you, you put these feelings into words so nicely! growing up, my family always told me i was so selfless and kind for feeling guilt or sadness over situations i had no control over. in reality, it was a large stem for mental illness when i grew up that took years to even begin working through
I constantly feel guilty for the nice things I have because I know so many people don’t have those nice things (even though I’m not very wealthy). Life really be just a game of luck and it feels shitty
One of the things I feel the guiltiest about, that is related to not wanting to inconvience people, is saying "no" when it comes to friends inviting me somewhere whether it be because I'm busy or I simply don't feel like it. So I always feel like I have to come up with some grandiose and valid reason for not going, otherwise they'll be upset and won't want to be friends with me anymore. I'm trying to work on it but after years of being like this, it's hard.
i know what you mean cuz i used to not want to tell people no for the same reasons. but i know if i do it i wont be happy cuz i didnt want to do it. you cant prioritize others happiness over yours. I am slowly getting better at saying no.
ahh I relate so much since there’s no social guidelines really to how much you’re supposed to respond to people over text or FaceTime friends or hang out with people im always feeling guilty to the point where I’m searching on Reddit how often you’re actually supposed to do these things and whether I’m crazy for setting social boundaries that way
Omg tea, although as someone that experiences FOMO a lot it’s interesting to know that when people don’t reach out to me a lot it’s not cuz they hate me specifically they just don’t feel like it and actually stress over that😂
I also feel so much guilt about my future. Making career decisions on my own is terrifying because I am always worried about people being disappointed in me! Thank you for the reminder that it’s okay to pursue happiness❤️
i just wanna say thank you for making this video. Feeling guilty especially after being prone to being gaslighted/ manipulated - consciously or unconsciously, it’s just refreshing to know that several other people feel guilty for simply being human- such as asking for help or even putting your mental health first (when your brain makes you think you could help someone else with that time) and that you’re not alone..
this seriously came at the exact right time. Just this week I started noticing how so out of my way I go to not inconvenience people and even when a friend offers me help or something as simple as buying me a snack I have to reject reject reject So I want to work on that but sometimes I literally don’t even know what words to put in what order for me to accept someone’s offer. It always comes out awkward I also when out with friends am more preoccupied about how everyone else is doing than how I am doing. this was another revelation this week
Girl I feel you so hard!! Warning: this is a ramble about one of my reasons for being guilty. I most recently have been feeling guilty for having attachment issues sometimes and making myself pretty depressed because I can miss people so hard when I’m attached to them. The attachment issues are not my fault, it’s because I’ve had shitty people in my life and I get really attached to people who are really nice and people I feel comfortable with. But my brain still says “How DARE you”. Like- since school let out, I have cried a bunch because I miss my now former English teacher and I can’t contact her. I feel guilty for constantly checking to see if she has responded to my message that I know she can’t access currently, and I feel guilty for knowing some of her social media accounts (which are private and I don’t try to follow them out of respect) and feel bad if I ever check them simply for missing them. Sorry for the ramble!! I also have a couple of your examples of guilt. 🖤🖤
God, THANK YOU for this!!! I feel this!! I have even gone as far as to formally apologise to friends and people from my past for mistakes I have made, which usually ends with me OVER-apologising for things were either not a problem at all or didnt even happen. While I felt lighter after some of these apologies, and some of them were mostly necessary, I found that my constant guilt always shifted to another past situation, or I would create an imaginary situation to feel guilty over. This helped me to realise that I need to find a way to let go of this guilt and move forward as a good and kind person, and that my internal sense of guilt doesnt always mean that I have done something wrong, but that I am trying to blame myself for things that may not have even happened. Anyone get this?!
guilt tripping, let’s talk about it. i’ve had a tendency of letting people guilt trip me into doing what they want or putting their wants and needs before mine. both my parents have and still use this tactic which is probably why i let others do it because my whole life i’ve been told they’re right no matter what and if i ever stand up for myself then i’m selfish and arrogant. having to unlearn that is extremely difficult, especially when they say things that they know will make u emotional. so the only way to stop them from having control is to detach yourself from those things, which sounds easy but then you somehow end up feeling guilty because you tell yourself deep down they really do care, and one day they’ll appreciate you and see how hard u try. but u just end up getting more disappointed, more hurt, and doubt if it’s even worth trying anymore. this counts for anyone but it’s especially painful when it’s your parents, the people who are supposed to love and nurture you into a strong, independent, self willed person, but instead you end up a depressed, touch starved, sensitive nut case who has an unhealthy obsession with charlie gallespie. so tell me about your experiences with getting guilt triped ☺️
Bruh idk if I was guilt tripped but basically my friend was scared of losing me so she talked me into staying a day longer than I wanted to on this trip. I really didn’t want to bc I was going through a super hard time in my life but she was basically saying that she did it bc she missed spending time with me and stuff. Which I get but it’s like dude I know that staying home that one extra night would’ve made all the difference because I knew my family would’ve made me feel better than being on that trip…I told her how I had wanted to stay just one night and I was also trying to save my money (we stayed at a hotel) and she was like “I know money is hard. I get it. But…” and then proceeds to tell me how she misses the good times we spent together and how she’s tried to hang out with other people but it’s not the same as me. And yes, her feelings are valid. But it just sucked cuz I was like homie I have feelings too, like all these bad things have happened to me recently and it was really hard to be there for her when the things in my life were weighing so much on my mind. But then I started to feel guilty FOR being frustrated with her…bc at first i’m like ok she’s selfish I’ve been going through hell and I don’t have the energy to make this trip fun for her. But then I’m like ok well YOURE selfish for prioritizing your needs over hers, you only care about yourself. But like she really pushed for the extra night purely because of what she wanted and didn’t care that I wasn’t very enthusiastic about it. Anyway idk if she was trying to guilt trip me but I’m feeling that guilt anyway lol.
Also I’m so sorry you had to go through that, it must suck having your parents treat you that way since they’re supposed to be the people you can trust. And yeah it sucks when people don’t care as much as you thought they did and then you feel so alone bc you feel like the only person that actually cares.
@@rosamaenorton4828 that sounds awful im sorry that u had to go through that. what im getting from this is that you werent in a great place mentally, which made it difficult for you to give the attention your friend needed, but she was also being ignorant of how you felt. ive been dealing with something similar to this lately. i just moved away from all my friends and ive kinda inflicted my own guilt since i cant give them as much time as i used to. partly because im busier and not emotionally capable of doing so. even though they seem understanding of that, i put into my head that they feel neglected. maybe thats how your friend feels, which is understandable, but if shes not trying to reach out to you and understand why then maybe she just misses the attention. besides that, your mental health is important and if shes a true friend shell understand that an not make u feel bad for doing what you need to do to get better.
@@lissiemc9243 i feel ya, i hope things get better. but if they dont, know that its not your fault they arent capable of providing the emotional support u deserve.
I never associated all of those feeling that I have had with guilt until now. It is like I could never put a word to what I’m feeling, but I feel guilty. I always feel anxious when it comes to disappointing my friends and things related to money but I have never been self aware with that so thank you lol :)
I literally needed this video so badly because I've been struggling so badly with feeling guilty for everything. I feel guilty for even relaxing and taking a moment to myself.
I am always so scared to spend money, even on groceries because I don't make my own money but I get educational support to pay my rent and for groceries and because it is not my own money I feel guilty spending it. I also feel so guilty everytime I am not thankful enough because there are people who don't have anything, but at the same time I also feel guilty when I am thankful for what I have because not everyone has all I have and so I am not allowed to be happy and thankful? And also my parents were always mad at me when I was open about my depression because I am not allowed to be depressed. Thank you for this video nikki, it helps to hear from other people that they feel the same.
I love how open you are about how you feel on here. I have a hard time being open with myself about how I feel. I look up to you because you're like the supportive sibling i've never had. You make me understand that's its okay not be okay. I love you and appreciate you. thank you.
Feeling guilty is one of the hardest things that someone can feel, it makes my life a lot more difficult, but I'm glad that I found people who feel the same way as me, so I hope we all get over this complicated feeling soon💗
I have a constant battle with feeling guilty of inconveniencing others. So I limit myself and make sure I’m not taking up space. So if something exciting happens I shrink myself into thinking I’m not allowed to feel good or my boundaries or needs respected.
Yess. I've felt this way my whole life. I realized how asking for a nintendo DS for christmas growing up must have been really stressful for my single mom. It's still hard though because my mom and I will brag to each other constantly about how frugal we are. You are preaching my pain. I am so happy to finally feel like I'm not alone in these feelings.
feeling guilty takes up my day to day life and it's even more stressful when people get mad at you for being indecisive with your money and decisions . I'm scared all the time about what if I'm a bad person for just wanting alone time. "you have to assume your friends are not angry with you" that sounds so liberating. thank you
Crazy how this exact thing was the topic of my therapy session this week... The feeling of guilt holds me back SO much from going and being who i want to become, it's such a difficult thing yet i even feel guilty for trying to relieve my guilt...
I can’t believe you didn’t think anyone else felt this way… everything you have described is the same exact things I have felt through guilt and it has ruined so many things that could of been good. Thank you so much for talking about this 😊
i needed this video i have extreme guilt with everything i do, when i hear something tragic happen (school shooting, bombing, fire, etc) i literally get survivors guilt for something i didn’t experience. it is so weird.
I love these honest conversations. I am a huge overthinker and I’ve heard that I care too much but I don’t care enough about myself. So sad but something I need to work on. I’ll be manifesting confidence all 2021
This video was on point, thank you for making this. I realised this recently and felt so alone because I felt guilty for the simplest things and no one else really understood. It’s called co-dependency!
ahhhh the intro music makes me so happy. idk if this makes sense but the sounds in your videos just are so perfect. like the music, the little bloop sounds, the audio quality with the new mic…. idk dude your videos are just the perfect ✨sound aesthetic✨
An amazing woman once told me: "Don't feel bad about not knowing something." That really helped me start to change my perspective as I embark on my professional career. Hope it helps others!
When I was a bit younger i was scared myself....But how would I EVER know things and grow if I never sought out the answers! In life we NEVER stop learning :) What if a firefighter forgot how to use some random valve....he'd better damn ask ! lol better to look" stupid "and then do something correctly rather then not know how to do it at all and really be screwed lol!
As someone who always felt guilty. Thanl you for remiding this to me. I realized that I always put other people's emotions first than myself. I always felt like I do not deserve to be happy if they are not happy. Also, in money, I always felt guilty rewarding myself for something that makes me happy because we are not that wealthy and I felt guilty aleays when I ask something that I want on my mom. Thank you for reminder that I should give myself a boundaries and also I should take care of my emotions instead of others. Thank you for making me know that I deserve caring to myself more. 💖
I cried watching this I’m doing very bad mentally but watching you made me feel like a good friend opened up to me & it’s just nice to hear someone feel similarly
this is very real to me and especially on the friends and money one. I'm either call just socially anxious with people or simply stingy with money which isn't true. I just feel guilty all the time. Thank you for talking about this.
I resonated *so* much with a lot of the points you covered throughout this video. Hearing you talk about your experience with guilt really did help further put things into perspective for me about how I go about managing the overwhelming feeling of guilt that I would constantly be feeling. Over the last few weeks, I have been making progress on it, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel guilt for how much guilt I feel. I’m like, “bruh shut the fuck up you’re good. You did nothing wrong. You’re a good person, who is worthy of good things. Don’t shut good things and good people out from entering your life.” and I’ll do my best to remind myself of the positive qualities I admire about myself, and I reflect on how those positive qualities about myself helped bring the good things I currently have into my life. Like you said, they didn’t just fall onto my lap. It was something that built up over the course of years that made me who I am today, with what I have today. I was my grandma’s caregiver in her last years, and the amount of guilt and trauma that gave me was wild. It wasn’t her fault, it was just the way I internalized everything. Therapy helped so much with unpacking and processing that trauma. There was a moment where I honestly had resentment towards her because of how it affected my education among countless other aspects of my life from the ages of about 15-21, but, through therapy I was able to work through that before she had passed, and I’m truly so thankful for that. Guilt is such a complicated feeling, but its just that; a feeling. It can be 80° outside, and someone could say that it feels too hot out, while the person beside them can say it feels like a perfect temp out. Regardless of the two different feelings they’re experiencing, its still 80° out. Feelings are more so just suggestions on how we think we should be responding to things based off of how we were conditioned to respond to things over the years. Being able to catch yourself believing what you know to solely be a feeling, you’re able to remind yourself of what is truly in front of you. You talking about how it’s important to reach out to friends is a perfect example of that. Thank you for taking the time to make this video, I got a lot of value from it. I hope you’re well ☀️
Thank you for summing everything in one video!!! I'm currently working on my guilt issues!!! I realised most of my insecurities had guilt as the foundation. I don't hate my body, how I look or my skills etc by I sometimes dislike them because of what other people said to me or I feel guilty for not responding to other people as soon as I can or not being able to help others. When I shared this problem with one of my friends, they said "I care too much" which you just clarified that is not the case. It's just self-destructive. I don't have a particular advice but I took a break from everyone, I can't touch grass but I spend my evenings watching the sky and breathing. I'm also considering therapy after I get done with my exams. Journaling, reminders, getting hobbies and exploring your ownself in alone time helps a lot.
Guilt is so powerful. I didn’t realize how much trauma I carried over feeling guilty and just ignoring it made it worse until I had a small breakdown. It’s the only thing that has power over me and I hate it.
Ive struggled with guilt for so long. I cut out toxic people from my life in order to feel better and I just felt so guilty about it. This summer i am really working on forgiving myself and relearning what makes ME happy so I can have better relationships next term. Thank you for making this💕💖
feel like i’ve had guilt issues for a long time now and never really knew it was this until now, for some reason. i love how genuine and real this is and how Nicole talked about it, so thank you
I’m glad you talked about this topic and the other ones you’ve done lately. I think not enough people talk about stuff like this, and the fact that something you experience isn’t verbalized to other people, they feel alienated, or an outcast. I feel like people (especially teenagers, I know I am one) would be a lot less anxious and self conscious if people just talked more about their mental health and stuff. I know it’s getting better but it’s still a big work in progress. This is a great series, keep it up Nicole!
I related so much to this entire video. Constantly feeling anxiety and guilt over things out of my control or not my fault. And then feeling guilty FOR feeling guilty, like,,,?? Especially money guilt, I always felt like I didn’t deserve to buy or use good stuff because of the way my family reacted when I did buy stuff. Uprooting trauma at its finest. Thankyou for talking about this 👩🏻❤️💋👩🏻
Yes, I really struggle to talk about money, making decisions, worried that friends would leave you. I get the guilt in those experiences. Thank you for sharing this with us, Nicole!
Dude how did you get in my brain like this? I felt this so deeply and I know heaps of other people will too, so thank you for having the courage to share this!
My best friend does the most helpful thing when I'm upset and feeling guilty and gives me back the advice I always give to him because hot damn am I nicer to other people than I am to myself. So thinking through how I'd talk to him if he were in my situation helps me a lot.
Yes finally someone is talking about it. I have had to work on handling guilt for so long as it comes with many compulsion for me. I’m glad I’m not alone in this .
the thing I feel guiltiest about is buying stuff in plastic and the thought of buying new clothes, like I need new sports bras but can't bring myself to buy them new, and can't find them second hand, I just scroll on depop... it's unfair that corporations place all the blame on us as individulas, like we make nearly no difference to our environment compared to what big businesses do. but we're in the wrong when we can afford or find sustainable options? it's their fault but they won't change their ways.
As an environmental science major, I am constantly feeling this guilt. I think it’s important to know that you’re trying your best and some things are out of our hands.
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m constantly scared of my friends being mad at me. That guilt takes up a majority of my energy so I end up isolating myself over a fear of disappointing everyone.
hi girl, recently in therapy i realized a lot do what i interpreted as guilt was actually shame. guilt is associated with not aligning with our values while shame is feeling bad about things that don’t “fit in to social norms” or relate to trauma. looking into this has changed my life and i recommend everybody to re-examine and differentiate between shame and guilt. sending love💗
I’ve felt for a long time that guilt is the main motivating force in my life and it suckssss!! I want to be motivated by something more positive :/ thanks as always for your honesty and openness when discussing these kinda of topics ⭐️
I experienced almost every emotion you described, especially during times when I had problems with my mental health. You talking about it helped me reflect on how good it now feels to be independent from other peoples thoughts and not having the burden of constant guilt. Because everyone is worthy of happiness since the day they were born. *Nobody has to “earn” their worth!!* I totally agree that manifestation helps a great deal recognizing and accepting that...
i feel so much guilt all the time. this made me feel so much less alone and so much better about it like there’s hope in it getting easier to deal with. thank u you’re a beautiful soul:)🤎
I do relate to this, especially with buying certain things like thinking "do I REALLY need this?" and yeah the friends part really hit me, I mostly assume my friends don't like me
Kids - Current Joys "I never say I'm sorry Cause they're mistakes that I made" "So listen up you kids And hear what I say Don't listen to your brain And follow your dreams" This is what I tell myself when I feel the constant guilt inside me. Edit: great song choice
Once developing an eating disorder my number one feeling was guiltiness i was a people pleaser, i felt guilty if i wanted something different from them, i felt guilty for not working out, eating, saying no, spending money, EVERYTHING After one year of recovery and feeling free i am no longer unhappy and this video really made me feel that i wasnt the only one feeling this way.
Thank you so much for making this. Everything you're talking about is spot on with the way I've felt my whole life. I remember even telling one of my old roommates that I felt guilty for existing, like I was an inconvenience for having preferences and doing things.
If I was more drunk I would be crying right now. You spoke to my soul and I'm realizing I should ask my doctor for a referral to a counselor. I appreciate you and what you're doing. Please give Clem lots of snuggles for me 💕
Idk why but this video made me realize that you are my favorite youtuber. I love your vibes and calmness in each video, truly a person beautiful from the inside out. Thanks for speaking about assuming the best of others around you! That meant a lot to me and I didnt realize I was assuming the worst. Keep being who you are! I love seeing the fluidity of your personality!
I hate the feeling of guilt so much. Guilt can be so overwhelming to the point where I just wanna curl up into a ball and never see the light of day
i FELT this. i literally spend days deciding on buying things
I spend WEEKS.. MONTHSSS 😭😭
I spend years and then end up never buying it ..
SAMEEE. And I don't know if this has something to do, I personally don't believe so much, but I'm virgo too jaja
@@piasuzan AND THEN WHEN YOU FINALLY DECIDE IT SELLS OUT 😭
@@jettwashed omg YES 😭😭
“You have to assume that your friends are not angry with you” oh how much I needed to hear that lol
Caring people also care about themselves this HITS because sometimes it’s way easier to care for other people than put that attention in yourself.
honestly you’re so right
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Nicole: let's talk about guilt
The slugs in the background: yes, let's talk about guilt
What I had to learn was that when people ask how much something was, they’re most likely not going to judge me for my monetary spending. I call it the “cashier effect” I always thought the cashier at a grocery store was judging what I was eating and how much I was spending. Then I became a cashier, and realized we don’t care and are honestly just looking for the barcodes. People’s intentions are more than likely different from what you think!
that’s a great way to look at it, i’ve never thought of it like this. thanks for commenting that :,)
tell that to the cashier that remarked on my purchase of sangria, sushi, and sour cream and onion chips
@@doubtyea there are definitely mean people out there. Sorry that happened
Money guilt gang checking in 🥰✨ I relate to that especially about groceries. One thing that’s helped me is realizing that I literally need them ??? And that’s fine ???? I take a step back and I’m like relax you literally require nutrients.
Yes! I have it especially after I do get something for myself it won't even be that much but then I think okay I'll just hold off on buying groceries for maybe a week or so. Like???
Dude i feel bad for ✨wanting✨ to afford whole pasta and cereals and sugar free sweetener (those are kinda expensive in my country) when i NEED THOSE due to insulin resistance 😬
i feel guilty every single day, because i don't do anything "productive" enough, even though i know i should take a break from everything because it doesn't do any good for my mental health to overwork myself. I hate it.
Omg me too. I could solve world hunger and I would still go to bed feeling guilty for not being productive enough
Exactly, it’s literally my summer vacation after high school I should be enjoying laziness not feeling guilty for sleeping 👀
same. weekends i cry because i’m not being “productive””
"The feel of guilt leads you to more failure" are the truest words I've heard in a long time 🙌🏾 and yup, us women get shamed into feeling guilty *too often*...let's not fall for that anymore
9:40 I've noticed recently on tik tok that a lot of people are saying that "oversharing and confiding in your friends is bad" and I personally got a lot of guilt from those tiktoks thinking it's bad. I recently realized that those people who made those tik toks are not only not the best friends but also don't realize that is normal. Being able to talk to your friends is a normal thing and no one should ever feel ashamed of that. It should be a mutual friendship where both parties should be able to talk to one another about their problems, because that is a sign of trust.
As long as you respect people's privacy and get your friend's consent before bringing up heavier issues (for the sake of their mental health), ofc!! It's healthy and a sign of a great friendship to be able to talk things out :))
@@lulaarias4150 yeah ofcc!! What I understand is never listening to your friends problems, whilst always talking about you’re own, but if friends feel comfortable and willing to talk to each other I think that is what matter. I totally agree, consent is so important too!
I think it would only be bad if they’re uncomfortable with it. In my experience I had one friend that I didn’t like when they over shared with me because they would put me in a position where I felt like I was the only thing that could fix them and all that pressure overwhelmed me and what could’ve been a safe place turned into stress. So I think as long as you’re in tune to what your friends’ needs are when you’re sharing with them. Because in a good friendship you do listen to and help each other equally and as long as you’re both still kind to each other and having your needs met that’s fine
@@rosamaenorton4828 yesss exactly like as long as each person is comfortable. Obviously this doesn’t speak for everyone but in my experience when I talk to my friends about something, I don’t expect advice or anything I just need someone to listen to me at the end of the day. Then I ask them “is there anything you would like to talk about” just so I’m there for them, like they are there for me. Something that I would consider like going too far is over sharing about something everyday, that can put the person in an overwhelming situation.
@@scarletturner2410 Yeah, I understand just wanting someone to listen that’s so important. And I really like that you ask them if there’s anything they want to talk about after, I think that totally balances out the friendship and probably means a lot to the other person as it eliminates the possibility that you’re just thinking about yourself. It’s nice to have people who are truly there for you when you go through difficult things and I think the way you go about sharing with people is very healthy☺️
I cannot stop staring at that screen in the background
I think it's slugs mating. I had to stop eating once I realized what it was
AHAHA 😭
same dude haha
I had to hide it i couldn’t focus ahah
@@azaliahangulo wtf why does she watch that
I have money guilt but because I did grow up in a wealthy family. I feel as though I have advantages others don’t and if I use them (ie spending money) I’m being unfair to others and I feel guilty about it. I’m starting to learn to be appreciative rather than guilty and that I should use my blessing to help people who may not be as fortunate.
Same here! It helped a lot to move out of state and essentially cut myself off, but I still struggle with this
I’m living in my parents expensive house because I’m still 17, and whenever my friends come over I feel so embarrassed and guilty because I feel like I’m privileged and a spoiled brat
one simple tip that my therapist told me is “would you tell this to someone else?” i would never tell a lot of the things i tell myself to others and i’m trying to improve on that, but i had just never thought about it that way.
Nicole is literally the only youtuber I watch at this point, like she makes me feel normal and okay abt myself and I get so psyched every time I see she uploaded it makes my whole day
this!!! It's honestly so exhausting to constantly feel the stress of guilt. It feels very rooted in perfectionism and people-pleasing and leads to a feeling of baseline anxiousness. At this point, I can only go to bed after severely exhausting myself in order to avoid the onslaught of guilt and worry that my brain will inevitably stir up. Thank you for sharing this. It's definitely not talked about enough, and I'm happy to see that you're on a journey of growth. Hope I can get on that path, too!
ohmygod you hit all the right points in this comment. i feel heard, thank you.
Money guilt is so real. I grew up upper middle class and I feel so awful about the advantages I have over others
she’s done it again, this is SUCH a good topic to cover omg
"i thought that me having this feeling often means i'm a caring person" OH NO SO NICOLE'S SAYING "THIS YOU?" TODAY
This COVID thing has mentally damaged me I use to be a outgoing person but now I feel I’m frozen in time….
me and you think the exact same, i’m trying to find a therapist, but i’m only 15 so my mom has to be the one that signs me up :/. she’s okay with me wanting a therapist, but it’s so much money, which makes me feel guilty for wanting therapy, but i really do need a therapist, so i will keep manifesting for one
LITERALLY! feel like this all the time, i’m so glad i’m not alone, ty nicole
At the end of the day, we all have to look out for our own best interests & there shouldn’t be any guilt or shame in that 🍬
I see you so often haha😂❤️
I feel like I always have guilt when someone helps me. I always have the feeling that I need to give that person something in return
money guilt is a real thing, I'm currently in a situation where I struggle deciding if I should go out with my friends tomorrow evening and spend 20€ or just save it and stay at home
I’m literally trying to figure that out right now ahhh stress
oh my god this
Money comes again, memories don’t :)
Go go gooo
guilt is genuinely one of the worst feelings in the whole world. whenever i feel super guilty about something, it haunts my whole day, week or even months just because it sticks in my mind for so long. thanks for making this video nicole
oh my gosh thank you, you put these feelings into words so nicely! growing up, my family always told me i was so selfless and kind for feeling guilt or sadness over situations i had no control over. in reality, it was a large stem for mental illness when i grew up that took years to even begin working through
Same here
I constantly feel guilty for the nice things I have because I know so many people don’t have those nice things (even though I’m not very wealthy).
Life really be just a game of luck and it feels shitty
I feel the same way.
im a simple person, every time i see that nikki nasty has uploaded i click.
One of the things I feel the guiltiest about, that is related to not wanting to inconvience people, is saying "no" when it comes to friends inviting me somewhere whether it be because I'm busy or I simply don't feel like it. So I always feel like I have to come up with some grandiose and valid reason for not going, otherwise they'll be upset and won't want to be friends with me anymore. I'm trying to work on it but after years of being like this, it's hard.
i know what you mean cuz i used to not want to tell people no for the same reasons. but i know if i do it i wont be happy cuz i didnt want to do it. you cant prioritize others happiness over yours. I am slowly getting better at saying no.
Thank you for talking about this
ahh I relate so much since there’s no social guidelines really to how much you’re supposed to respond to people over text or FaceTime friends or hang out with people im always feeling guilty to the point where I’m searching on Reddit how often you’re actually supposed to do these things and whether I’m crazy for setting social boundaries that way
Omg tea, although as someone that experiences FOMO a lot it’s interesting to know that when people don’t reach out to me a lot it’s not cuz they hate me specifically they just don’t feel like it and actually stress over that😂
I also feel so much guilt about my future. Making career decisions on my own is terrifying because I am always worried about people being disappointed in me! Thank you for the reminder that it’s okay to pursue happiness❤️
i just wanna say thank you for making this video. Feeling guilty especially after being prone to being gaslighted/ manipulated - consciously or unconsciously, it’s just refreshing to know that several other people feel guilty for simply being human- such as asking for help or even putting your mental health first (when your brain makes you think you could help someone else with that time) and that you’re not alone..
this seriously came at the exact right time. Just this week I started noticing how so out of my way I go to not inconvenience people and even when a friend offers me help or something as simple as buying me a snack I have to reject reject reject
So I want to work on that but sometimes I literally don’t even know what words to put in what order for me to accept someone’s offer. It always comes out awkward
I also when out with friends am more preoccupied about how everyone else is doing than how I am doing. this was another revelation this week
I always feel guilty when I say I am going to try and change my toxic or bad characteristics and in the end I don't really do. :/
i'm so glad i'm not alone, it's very comforting knowing other people feel a similar way
Girl I feel you so hard!!
Warning: this is a ramble about one of my reasons for being guilty.
I most recently have been feeling guilty for having attachment issues sometimes and making myself pretty depressed because I can miss people so hard when I’m attached to them. The attachment issues are not my fault, it’s because I’ve had shitty people in my life and I get really attached to people who are really nice and people I feel comfortable with. But my brain still says “How DARE you”.
Like- since school let out, I have cried a bunch because I miss my now former English teacher and I can’t contact her. I feel guilty for constantly checking to see if she has responded to my message that I know she can’t access currently, and I feel guilty for knowing some of her social media accounts (which are private and I don’t try to follow them out of respect) and feel bad if I ever check them simply for missing them.
Sorry for the ramble!!
I also have a couple of your examples of guilt. 🖤🖤
guilt is one of the worst feelings ever :( thank you for talking about this and making me feel less alone ily queen
God, THANK YOU for this!!! I feel this!! I have even gone as far as to formally apologise to friends and people from my past for mistakes I have made, which usually ends with me OVER-apologising for things were either not a problem at all or didnt even happen. While I felt lighter after some of these apologies, and some of them were mostly necessary, I found that my constant guilt always shifted to another past situation, or I would create an imaginary situation to feel guilty over.
This helped me to realise that I need to find a way to let go of this guilt and move forward as a good and kind person, and that my internal sense of guilt doesnt always mean that I have done something wrong, but that I am trying to blame myself for things that may not have even happened. Anyone get this?!
guilt tripping, let’s talk about it.
i’ve had a tendency of letting people guilt trip me into doing what they want or putting their wants and needs before mine. both my parents have and still use this tactic which is probably why i let others do it because my whole life i’ve been told they’re right no matter what and if i ever stand up for myself then i’m selfish and arrogant. having to unlearn that is extremely difficult, especially when they say things that they know will make u emotional. so the only way to stop them from having control is to detach yourself from those things, which sounds easy but then you somehow end up feeling guilty because you tell yourself deep down they really do care, and one day they’ll appreciate you and see how hard u try. but u just end up getting more disappointed, more hurt, and doubt if it’s even worth trying anymore. this counts for anyone but it’s especially painful when it’s your parents, the people who are supposed to love and nurture you into a strong, independent, self willed person, but instead you end up a depressed, touch starved, sensitive nut case who has an unhealthy obsession with charlie gallespie.
so tell me about your experiences with getting guilt triped ☺️
Bruh idk if I was guilt tripped but basically my friend was scared of losing me so she talked me into staying a day longer than I wanted to on this trip. I really didn’t want to bc I was going through a super hard time in my life but she was basically saying that she did it bc she missed spending time with me and stuff. Which I get but it’s like dude I know that staying home that one extra night would’ve made all the difference because I knew my family would’ve made me feel better than being on that trip…I told her how I had wanted to stay just one night and I was also trying to save my money (we stayed at a hotel) and she was like “I know money is hard. I get it. But…” and then proceeds to tell me how she misses the good times we spent together and how she’s tried to hang out with other people but it’s not the same as me. And yes, her feelings are valid. But it just sucked cuz I was like homie I have feelings too, like all these bad things have happened to me recently and it was really hard to be there for her when the things in my life were weighing so much on my mind. But then I started to feel guilty FOR being frustrated with her…bc at first i’m like ok she’s selfish I’ve been going through hell and I don’t have the energy to make this trip fun for her. But then I’m like ok well YOURE selfish for prioritizing your needs over hers, you only care about yourself. But like she really pushed for the extra night purely because of what she wanted and didn’t care that I wasn’t very enthusiastic about it. Anyway idk if she was trying to guilt trip me but I’m feeling that guilt anyway lol.
Also I’m so sorry you had to go through that, it must suck having your parents treat you that way since they’re supposed to be the people you can trust. And yeah it sucks when people don’t care as much as you thought they did and then you feel so alone bc you feel like the only person that actually cares.
Don't wanna say my experience, but yep, sometimes parents just SUCK. This happened/happens with mine.
@@rosamaenorton4828 that sounds awful im sorry that u had to go through that. what im getting from this is that you werent in a great place mentally, which made it difficult for you to give the attention your friend needed, but she was also being ignorant of how you felt. ive been dealing with something similar to this lately. i just moved away from all my friends and ive kinda inflicted my own guilt since i cant give them as much time as i used to. partly because im busier and not emotionally capable of doing so. even though they seem understanding of that, i put into my head that they feel neglected. maybe thats how your friend feels, which is understandable, but if shes not trying to reach out to you and understand why then maybe she just misses the attention. besides that, your mental health is important and if shes a true friend shell understand that an not make u feel bad for doing what you need to do to get better.
@@lissiemc9243 i feel ya, i hope things get better. but if they dont, know that its not your fault they arent capable of providing the emotional support u deserve.
OH LORD MY BIRD STARTED SQUAWKING AT THE INTRO HE'S EXCITED TOO
awww lol
Bruh pets for nikki nasty cause my cat got all excited too😂
I never associated all of those feeling that I have had with guilt until now. It is like I could never put a word to what I’m feeling, but I feel guilty. I always feel anxious when it comes to disappointing my friends and things related to money but I have never been self aware with that so thank you lol :)
same!! you put what i was thinking into words🤎
I literally needed this video so badly because I've been struggling so badly with feeling guilty for everything. I feel guilty for even relaxing and taking a moment to myself.
I am always so scared to spend money, even on groceries because I don't make my own money but I get educational support to pay my rent and for groceries and because it is not my own money I feel guilty spending it. I also feel so guilty everytime I am not thankful enough because there are people who don't have anything, but at the same time I also feel guilty when I am thankful for what I have because not everyone has all I have and so I am not allowed to be happy and thankful? And also my parents were always mad at me when I was open about my depression because I am not allowed to be depressed.
Thank you for this video nikki, it helps to hear from other people that they feel the same.
The worst guilt is the one you get when you actually fucked up...
im so glad i watched this video, i genuinely thought no one else felt guilt the way i do. ty nicole i love u x
I love how open you are about how you feel on here. I have a hard time being open with myself about how I feel. I look up to you because you're like the supportive sibling i've never had. You make me understand that's its okay not be okay. I love you and appreciate you. thank you.
Feeling guilty is one of the hardest things that someone can feel, it makes my life a lot more difficult, but I'm glad that I found people who feel the same way as me, so I hope we all get over this complicated feeling soon💗
I have a constant battle with feeling guilty of inconveniencing others. So I limit myself and make sure I’m not taking up space. So if something exciting happens I shrink myself into thinking I’m not allowed to feel good or my boundaries or needs respected.
Yess. I've felt this way my whole life. I realized how asking for a nintendo DS for christmas growing up must have been really stressful for my single mom. It's still hard though because my mom and I will brag to each other constantly about how frugal we are. You are preaching my pain. I am so happy to finally feel like I'm not alone in these feelings.
feeling guilty takes up my day to day life and it's even more stressful when people get mad at you for being indecisive with your money and decisions . I'm scared all the time about what if I'm a bad person for just wanting alone time. "you have to assume your friends are not angry with you" that sounds so liberating. thank you
I struggle with money guilt and inconveniencing others a loooooot, so thank you for this!
Crazy how this exact thing was the topic of my therapy session this week... The feeling of guilt holds me back SO much from going and being who i want to become, it's such a difficult thing yet i even feel guilty for trying to relieve my guilt...
I definitely feel this, I always feel like every good thing that happens to me is just me being lucky and not actually working hard.
I can’t believe you didn’t think anyone else felt this way… everything you have described is the same exact things I have felt through guilt and it has ruined so many things that could of been good. Thank you so much for talking about this 😊
oh I am READY for this to hit me.
i needed this video i have extreme guilt with everything i do, when i hear something tragic happen (school shooting, bombing, fire, etc) i literally get survivors guilt for something i didn’t experience. it is so weird.
I love these honest conversations. I am a huge overthinker and I’ve heard that I care too much but I don’t care enough about myself. So sad but something I need to work on. I’ll be manifesting confidence all 2021
This video was on point, thank you for making this. I realised this recently and felt so alone because I felt guilty for the simplest things and no one else really understood. It’s called co-dependency!
i think about stuff like this a LOT, so thank you Nicoleeeee
yes manifestation is all about realizing by being happy & wanting things for yourself doesn’t take away from others :)
ahhhh the intro music makes me so happy. idk if this makes sense but the sounds in your videos just are so perfect. like the music, the little bloop sounds, the audio quality with the new mic…. idk dude your videos are just the perfect ✨sound aesthetic✨
this makes my rough day at work so much better 🥺❤️
An amazing woman once told me: "Don't feel bad about not knowing something."
That really helped me start to change my perspective as I embark on my professional career. Hope it helps others!
When I was a bit younger i was scared myself....But how would I EVER know things and grow if I never sought out the answers!
In life we NEVER stop learning :)
What if a firefighter forgot how to use some random valve....he'd better damn ask ! lol better to look" stupid "and then do something correctly rather then not know how to do it at all and really be screwed lol!
As someone who always felt guilty. Thanl you for remiding this to me. I realized that I always put other people's emotions first than myself. I always felt like I do not deserve to be happy if they are not happy. Also, in money, I always felt guilty rewarding myself for something that makes me happy because we are not that wealthy and I felt guilty aleays when I ask something that I want on my mom. Thank you for reminder that I should give myself a boundaries and also I should take care of my emotions instead of others. Thank you for making me know that I deserve caring to myself more. 💖
I cried watching this I’m doing very bad mentally but watching you made me feel like a good friend opened up to me & it’s just nice to hear someone feel similarly
this is very real to me and especially on the friends and money one. I'm either call just socially anxious with people or simply stingy with money which isn't true. I just feel guilty all the time. Thank you for talking about this.
I resonated *so* much with a lot of the points you covered throughout this video. Hearing you talk about your experience with guilt really did help further put things into perspective for me about how I go about managing the overwhelming feeling of guilt that I would constantly be feeling. Over the last few weeks, I have been making progress on it, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel guilt for how much guilt I feel. I’m like, “bruh shut the fuck up you’re good. You did nothing wrong. You’re a good person, who is worthy of good things. Don’t shut good things and good people out from entering your life.” and I’ll do my best to remind myself of the positive qualities I admire about myself, and I reflect on how those positive qualities about myself helped bring the good things I currently have into my life. Like you said, they didn’t just fall onto my lap. It was something that built up over the course of years that made me who I am today, with what I have today. I was my grandma’s caregiver in her last years, and the amount of guilt and trauma that gave me was wild. It wasn’t her fault, it was just the way I internalized everything. Therapy helped so much with unpacking and processing that trauma. There was a moment where I honestly had resentment towards her because of how it affected my education among countless other aspects of my life from the ages of about 15-21, but, through therapy I was able to work through that before she had passed, and I’m truly so thankful for that. Guilt is such a complicated feeling, but its just that; a feeling. It can be 80° outside, and someone could say that it feels too hot out, while the person beside them can say it feels like a perfect temp out. Regardless of the two different feelings they’re experiencing, its still 80° out. Feelings are more so just suggestions on how we think we should be responding to things based off of how we were conditioned to respond to things over the years. Being able to catch yourself believing what you know to solely be a feeling, you’re able to remind yourself of what is truly in front of you. You talking about how it’s important to reach out to friends is a perfect example of that. Thank you for taking the time to make this video, I got a lot of value from it. I hope you’re well ☀️
Thank you for summing everything in one video!!!
I'm currently working on my guilt issues!!! I realised most of my insecurities had guilt as the foundation. I don't hate my body, how I look or my skills etc by I sometimes dislike them because of what other people said to me or I feel guilty for not responding to other people as soon as I can or not being able to help others. When I shared this problem with one of my friends, they said "I care too much" which you just clarified that is not the case. It's just self-destructive.
I don't have a particular advice but I took a break from everyone, I can't touch grass but I spend my evenings watching the sky and breathing. I'm also considering therapy after I get done with my exams. Journaling, reminders, getting hobbies and exploring your ownself in alone time helps a lot.
It's the documentary in the background that really makes this video👌🏽
It feels amazing to know that there are people out there experiencing the exact same thing..
Guilt is so powerful. I didn’t realize how much trauma I carried over feeling guilty and just ignoring it made it worse until I had a small breakdown. It’s the only thing that has power over me and I hate it.
*WHY HAVE I LITERALLY BEEN STRUGGLING WITH THIS FOR TWO DAYS AND WHY ARE YOU A MIND READER OH MY GOSH THANK YOU QUEEN* 😭❤
I struggle with guilt too and it’s actually so tiring :( I am currently doing dialectical therapy so I hope it gets better soon ;-; love you, Nicole
Ive struggled with guilt for so long. I cut out toxic people from my life in order to feel better and I just felt so guilty about it. This summer i am really working on forgiving myself and relearning what makes ME happy so I can have better relationships next term. Thank you for making this💕💖
feel like i’ve had guilt issues for a long time now and never really knew it was this until now, for some reason. i love how genuine and real this is and how Nicole talked about it, so thank you
Thank you Nicole. I ALWAYS feel guilty and apologize CONSTANTLY. This video really made me feel better and put things in perspective.
I’m glad you talked about this topic and the other ones you’ve done lately. I think not enough people talk about stuff like this, and the fact that something you experience isn’t verbalized to other people, they feel alienated, or an outcast. I feel like people (especially teenagers, I know I am one) would be a lot less anxious and self conscious if people just talked more about their mental health and stuff. I know it’s getting better but it’s still a big work in progress. This is a great series, keep it up Nicole!
I related so much to this entire video. Constantly feeling anxiety and guilt over things out of my control or not my fault. And then feeling guilty FOR feeling guilty, like,,,??
Especially money guilt, I always felt like I didn’t deserve to buy or use good stuff because of the way my family reacted when I did buy stuff. Uprooting trauma at its finest. Thankyou for talking about this 👩🏻❤️💋👩🏻
as someone who feels guilty for literally existing...this resonated with me a LOT. thank you for making this bb, you're doing great
Yes, I really struggle to talk about money, making decisions, worried that friends would leave you. I get the guilt in those experiences. Thank you for sharing this with us, Nicole!
okay vibes for this video were just ✨👌 like the music, lights, the slugs in the background, just really *chef’s kiss*
Dude how did you get in my brain like this? I felt this so deeply and I know heaps of other people will too, so thank you for having the courage to share this!
My best friend does the most helpful thing when I'm upset and feeling guilty and gives me back the advice I always give to him because hot damn am I nicer to other people than I am to myself. So thinking through how I'd talk to him if he were in my situation helps me a lot.
Yes finally someone is talking about it. I have had to work on handling guilt for so long as it comes with many compulsion for me. I’m glad I’m not alone in this .
the thing I feel guiltiest about is buying stuff in plastic and the thought of buying new clothes, like I need new sports bras but can't bring myself to buy them new, and can't find them second hand, I just scroll on depop...
it's unfair that corporations place all the blame on us as individulas, like we make nearly no difference to our environment compared to what big businesses do. but we're in the wrong when we can afford or find sustainable options? it's their fault but they won't change their ways.
As an environmental science major, I am constantly feeling this guilt. I think it’s important to know that you’re trying your best and some things are out of our hands.
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m constantly scared of my friends being mad at me. That guilt takes up a majority of my energy so I end up isolating myself over a fear of disappointing everyone.
hi girl, recently in therapy i realized a lot do what i interpreted as guilt was actually shame. guilt is associated with not aligning with our values while shame is feeling bad about things that don’t “fit in to social norms” or relate to trauma. looking into this has changed my life and i recommend everybody to re-examine and differentiate between shame and guilt.
sending love💗
I’ve felt for a long time that guilt is the main motivating force in my life and it suckssss!! I want to be motivated by something more positive :/ thanks as always for your honesty and openness when discussing these kinda of topics ⭐️
I’m not done the video but you’re talking about money guilt right now and OMG IVE NEVER HEARD ANYONE ELSE TALK ABOUT IT SO ACCURATELY
I experienced almost every emotion you described, especially during times when I had problems with my mental health. You talking about it helped me reflect on how good it now feels to be independent from other peoples thoughts and not having the burden of constant guilt.
Because everyone is worthy of happiness since the day they were born.
*Nobody has to “earn” their worth!!*
I totally agree that manifestation helps a great deal recognizing and accepting that...
i feel so much guilt all the time. this made me feel so much less alone and so much better about it like there’s hope in it getting easier to deal with. thank u you’re a beautiful soul:)🤎
I do relate to this, especially with buying certain things like thinking "do I REALLY need this?" and yeah the friends part really hit me, I mostly assume my friends don't like me
i cant her voice is so calming
Kids - Current Joys
"I never say I'm sorry
Cause they're mistakes that I made"
"So listen up you kids
And hear what I say
Don't listen to your brain
And follow your dreams"
This is what I tell myself when I feel the constant guilt inside me.
Edit: great song choice
Once developing an eating disorder my number one feeling was guiltiness i was a people pleaser, i felt guilty if i wanted something different from them, i felt guilty for not working out, eating, saying no, spending money, EVERYTHING
After one year of recovery and feeling free i am no longer unhappy and this video really made me feel that i wasnt the only one feeling this way.
i felt this so deeply like never in my life have i felt so understood
Thank you so much for making this. Everything you're talking about is spot on with the way I've felt my whole life. I remember even telling one of my old roommates that I felt guilty for existing, like I was an inconvenience for having preferences and doing things.
If I was more drunk I would be crying right now. You spoke to my soul and I'm realizing I should ask my doctor for a referral to a counselor. I appreciate you and what you're doing. Please give Clem lots of snuggles for me 💕
Literally exactly what I have been struggling with these last few weeks. I appreciate you
Idk why but this video made me realize that you are my favorite youtuber. I love your vibes and calmness in each video, truly a person beautiful from the inside out. Thanks for speaking about assuming the best of others around you! That meant a lot to me and I didnt realize I was assuming the worst. Keep being who you are! I love seeing the fluidity of your personality!