Oh man, that sounds like it was bloody tough! It is amazing how comparisons like that can be like fuel to the fire. Kick ass job pushing through despite the inner turmoil honey. My new workplace has their first social dinner out at an Italian restaurant in a few weeks and I'm terrified of looking odd, I don't want to stand out or be distracted by the food. My goal over the next few weeks is practicing a similar meal from the menu at home. My ED is already rationalising I should practice the safer food because I'll be less anxious, but I don't want to be the only one ordering a salad!
If nothing else way to go in terms of identifying those disordered thoughts and temptations!! That's an accomplishment to be proud of in itself. 👍👍👍 And YES, next step is good old fashioned opposite actions. Do you want to be that person who *has to* order a salad at every single social gathering? I'm slowly starting to realize that every time I make a decision in favor of my ED I'm not only procrastinating the life I want but also REINFORCING and strengthening those disordered neural pathways. No bueno! Please keep me posted regarding the work dinner and leadup, I'll be thinking of you 💓💓
oh i know what you mean i am so focused on others how much how fast they eat!! FDOE i always end up comparing wishing regretting basically wanting to live their lives of eating yet i know nothing about their past present future. Oh for the day when i dont give a ! about others and eating from the plate of plenty!!!! again a fab honest video xx
Isn't that longing and wishing interesting!? Because technically the only thing holding us back from what we are wishing for is ourselves! Super funny, but definitely not in a "ha ha" sort of way. I hope we both get there, sooner rather than later 😘
Ah BUT YOU DID OPPOSITE ACTIONS!!! Yes!! While my sisters know I struggle with an EDNOS/unspecified eating disorder, only one make remarks (probably for similar reasons I react to her...she once struggled with anorexia) and because of that, I get super defensive and hyper aware of what she’s doing or eating. Sometimes manifesting an assumption that the way she’s eating (more or less) is somehow her trying to either test me or make it known that because she’s not “in recovery” she can barely eat one day and it’s “okay” for her. Keep in mind we are both GROWN ADULTS. However, I’m under my parents house for the time being and they are supporting my recovery...whereas she’s married and completely independent of them. Comparison, regardless of WHY someone suffers in any sort of mental disorder, has got to be among the hardest things to truly overcome to where it’s no longer a way we are thinking through some sort of block. It’s like a defense mechanism for disordered thinking to protect itself. But NO. Cannot protect the distortions!!! No giving into false alarms!! You didn’t!!! This is encouraging :)
I'm so glad watching provided some encouragement and motivation!! The situation with your sister sounds quite challenging, and I commend you for striving for recovery in the midst of it. It's HARD not to focus on what other people are doing/not doing, especially when the eating disorder is so prone to "using" it as fuel. But at the end of the day you have to live your life, and the actions of your sister don't change the fact that you're living a life controlled by your ED - aka one that's not NEARLY as full or nice as it could be. OPPOSITE ACTIONS :)
Oh man, that sounds like it was bloody tough! It is amazing how comparisons like that can be like fuel to the fire. Kick ass job pushing through despite the inner turmoil honey. My new workplace has their first social dinner out at an Italian restaurant in a few weeks and I'm terrified of looking odd, I don't want to stand out or be distracted by the food. My goal over the next few weeks is practicing a similar meal from the menu at home. My ED is already rationalising I should practice the safer food because I'll be less anxious, but I don't want to be the only one ordering a salad!
If nothing else way to go in terms of identifying those disordered thoughts and temptations!! That's an accomplishment to be proud of in itself. 👍👍👍 And YES, next step is good old fashioned opposite actions. Do you want to be that person who *has to* order a salad at every single social gathering? I'm slowly starting to realize that every time I make a decision in favor of my ED I'm not only procrastinating the life I want but also REINFORCING and strengthening those disordered neural pathways. No bueno! Please keep me posted regarding the work dinner and leadup, I'll be thinking of you 💓💓
oh i know what you mean i am so focused on others how much how fast they eat!! FDOE i always end up comparing wishing regretting basically wanting to live their lives of eating yet i know nothing about their past present future. Oh for the day when i dont give a ! about others and eating from the plate of plenty!!!! again a fab honest video xx
Isn't that longing and wishing interesting!? Because technically the only thing holding us back from what we are wishing for is ourselves! Super funny, but definitely not in a "ha ha" sort of way. I hope we both get there, sooner rather than later 😘
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 absolutely dont know about you but fed up with it yet cant let go of it :(
💓💓💓 I am holding onto so much hope and compassion for you. This disorder is an absolute mindfuck.
Ah BUT YOU DID OPPOSITE ACTIONS!!! Yes!! While my sisters know I struggle with an EDNOS/unspecified eating disorder, only one make remarks (probably for similar reasons I react to her...she once struggled with anorexia) and because of that, I get super defensive and hyper aware of what she’s doing or eating. Sometimes manifesting an assumption that the way she’s eating (more or less) is somehow her trying to either test me or make it known that because she’s not “in recovery” she can barely eat one day and it’s “okay” for her. Keep in mind we are both GROWN ADULTS. However, I’m under my parents house for the time being and they are supporting my recovery...whereas she’s married and completely independent of them. Comparison, regardless of WHY someone suffers in any sort of mental disorder, has got to be among the hardest things to truly overcome to where it’s no longer a way we are thinking through some sort of block. It’s like a defense mechanism for disordered thinking to protect itself. But NO. Cannot protect the distortions!!! No giving into false alarms!! You didn’t!!! This is encouraging :)
I'm so glad watching provided some encouragement and motivation!! The situation with your sister sounds quite challenging, and I commend you for striving for recovery in the midst of it. It's HARD not to focus on what other people are doing/not doing, especially when the eating disorder is so prone to "using" it as fuel. But at the end of the day you have to live your life, and the actions of your sister don't change the fact that you're living a life controlled by your ED - aka one that's not NEARLY as full or nice as it could be. OPPOSITE ACTIONS :)