I also am old enough to be your mom, but I love your videos. It's funny, I'm not a vlog watcher,, but this was like spending a day with a friend!! You are a smart, strong, beautiful woman and you have got so much going for you!! Your family must be so proud of you!!!
I believe in always being a tourist where I live, no matter how long I've been there. Makes life much more fun. And I never really date per se. If you are social, go to parties and hang with friends you will meet someone. Formal dating is so uncomfortable and rarely leads to anything. Good luck Abby and enjoy life! 💖
The last section of this video make me teary 🥲 wasn’t expecting that, I’m so happy you had family during that time who rallied for you and and had your back. That’s really nice to have. And enjoy your alone time in this phase, I’ve been married 8 years in August and we’ve been together 13 years in May, we have a 4 year old and my alone time is almost non existent. If I can get a 20 min shower, that’s heaven lol But I love it also. I had a work conference recently and it was an overnight conference and that hotel room all to myself was the best thing ever 😂😂
I really appreciate your openness about the struggles you’ve been facing with your mental health. It really helps to see others be real about their struggles and it helps to take away the stigma of anxiety and depression. I hope that you feel better soon. 💛
The part about how your parents 'got you'....brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your heart with us. Truly thank you. I loved this video.
Love the new apartment and life update! I’m 62 and I can tell you to do ALL the things you want to while you can. Enjoy this phase of your life. I know good things are ahead for you. Life is full of choices and changes that we all navigate. Such a blessing to have a family that loves and supports you! You have such a beautiful soul. Thanks for all the research you do in order to share with your followers! Love your channel ♥️
I loved this format! And, I'm 49 so my kids are around your age, my oldest is 25. Your memories recovering after a breakup, and the way you relayed it... Tears. I can say, this many years on the other side of it all... First, you will always have some portion of that that you carry with you because I believe that when you feel something so deeply, whether joy, pain or other, it leaves a mark on your soul. I can also say that as my children have gone through that that watching your children go through that type of pain, my children are my heart... So watching them and being unable to do a lot to help them heal, or not being able to just "fix it" for them like I could when they were young, that for me was incredibly painful as well. But the happiness that was waiting for me, and the happiness that was waiting for my kids is so so so much better than anything else experienced prior. It's there for you too and once you get there, you just know
I really like this vlog format, so fun! I love how you talk about embracing doing the things you love to do alone, like reading and taking walks! Also I love shopping alone 💜
Enjoy the alone time Abbey. It’s so worth it. To be in tune with yourself is so beneficial in a lot of ways. We learn so much from our experiences especially a break up so just keep it moving and enjoy it all day by day. Stay safe ❤️
I was drawn to watch this video because I’m from Chicago. Grew up on the NW side, and later lived in buildings on LSD and then on Clark Street, across from the zoo. I LOVED being so close to the lake! Sometimes I could hear when the lions were being fed, early in the morning. Watching sailboats go by from my kitchen table. Most miss sitting on the rocks, just off the water, either daydreaming, thinking, or just mindlessly staring off into space. Oh, how I relish those memories of walking home from my job downtown and stopping to get my feet in the sand, or stopping at the Children’s Petting Zoo to feed the ducks. I’m glad I pressed the play button on this vlog, not only for the walk down memory lane it affords, but because the advice you gave is all wonderful. I’m married now, living on the East Coast, hoping to one day move to Vermont. As someone who is very introverted, one tip I learned along the way is to not let my fears keep me from what could potentially be a wonderful thing. I used to get scared when I really liked someone. So scared, in fact, that I would unconsciously sabotage myself. I know that’s not always something that is easily controlled - at least for me. You seem much more outgoing and confident, but to anyone who may be scared of the whole dating-thing, taking things slowly really is the best advice. Along with NOT not giving a potentially great relationship a chance for fear of getting hurt. Thanks, Abbey! 🌸😊
Thank you for sharing your heart and hurts. One of my kiddos is dealing with challenges and I have learned not to assume everything is okay but to ask and to listen and to be tuned in. The signals are not always obvious. Glad your family gathered to support you. 💙 I loved that your sis put on your favorite podcast. When my kid was having dark days we watched a lot of MASH reruns, and sometimes just giggling about that spurred some great heart to hearts.
Abbey I just love anything you post, you’re so authentic and true to yourself. Thanks for sharing your experiences, and as you said keep treasuring the times that you spent by yourself, those moments won’t come back as often in the future once you find your partner and decide to have a family. Believe me you will missed them (I stayed single and lived by myself until I was 36, now I have a lovely family but there are times where I just wanna send them away a little bit so I can chill out hahaha). Love to see your channel grow.
I haven’t been to Chicago in years so it was so fun seeing all the places again! I love that you went to Uncommon James. Thank you for the vlog!!! Btw-thanks for always being so real . You are a terrific person and I know someone great will come into your life soon!!!
I just got out of a 4 year relationship. The out of body experience you described when you’re initially alone is so true. It’s hard when all your friends are engaged or married, but you’re right this is a temporary life phase. I’m planning a solo road trip to see places I haven’t been and friends I haven’t connected with in some time and I’m hoping that will give me the jolt I need to remind myself there is so much more to life than our relationships.
Well said & ditto, Michelle! Thank you for sharing Abbey 🥰 I would definitely like more vlogs like this. Enjoy your alone time. Take yourself out on dates. And good luck on dating others - I'm dating again after taking a long break after a bad break-up & I'm still a bit hesitant to put myself out there again.
I forgot to add this: You should contact your dentist about your tooth. They can let you know if it's something to be concerned about & come in, or alleviate your concerns. I hope it feels better soon!
The story about your family coming to get you is so wonderful - THAT is what it means to really love someone and be a family. You sound like you're doing great taking care of yourself and keeping your priorities straight. Dating is fun but exhausting, so good for you for making sure you are really certain about a guy before you get too serious. 💜 Show yourself compassion and please keep up the great YT content! (And now for my "big sister" moment - try not to stress about turning 28 and being "late 20s!" I went on my first date with my now-husband the day before my 28th bday. Late 20s is a great time of life and a great time to meet someone, and when you meet the right guy he will value you as the treasure you are.)
When my last serious relationship ended my family and friends were literally my rock. Right after the initial shock of the break up I just sobbed for hours with my mom. Pretty much for a couple months after I would totally burst into tears randomly. (It was not your average break up, it was really traumatic circumstances.) I remember getting into my best friends car the day after the break up to go move out of my apartment with my ex and just crying while she drove. Thank god I had these people to help me get through that time. They let me wallow and feel my pain and then they supported me pursuing positive methods of healing and distraction.
Thank you for the break up tips. I moved out of the home I shared with my ex (it’s weird to even call him that). We were high school sweetheart, lived together for 8 years, 12 years total. I moved in with my parents, who converted their garage for me to have a place to live. My own mom did most of the work ❤️ I’m glad I’m not living alone bc I don’t think I could handle the loneliness
I love these videos and I think that you are so mature. Being connected to ourselves is the best thing to find our way to inner peace. You are a beautiful person!
Abbey I just loved this vlog it was great to get an update on your life. Please do more of these you are such a light in this world and we all need that, I hope you find a wonderful partner you are so deserving of that. Have a wonderful day.
To build on another comment, I am old enough to be your grandmother! It is amazing that you have gained so much insight into yourself and life. I wish I’d been there at your age. I’m not sure I’m there now!❤️
So funny you said daughter, because my step-daughter also lives alone in Chicago and struggles with some of the same things you have mentioned, especially working from home and not having a ton of social opportunities. You are a gem....and I love your videos. Stay you, stay strong....hugs back!
I loved the vlog and Q&A style of this video. As someone in my early twenties, I really appreciate you diving deep into such personal topics like this, since they are the ones that I find myself facing more and more as I continue to grow and figure out who I am and what I even want in life. I value your advice so much and I appreciate you being so vulnerable ❤️ Hope to see more lifestyle videos like this!
I love your videos so much! I am from Minnesota which makes me love you even more! I feel like I’m hanging out with a friend when I watch your videos. I am going to Chicago the week after Easter and low key hope I run into on the street so I can say hi haha I went through a tough breakup many years ago and now I’m happily engaged! It does get better after those difficult times. Those years alone are definitely essential for personal growth! Thank you for being vulnerable 🤍
I'm in the military and I relate so much to you. I'm 28 and I've always lived alone, sometimes in the middle of nowhere, also moving constantly so making long term friends can be difficult. I was so used to going to small coffee shops and just watch people go by but Covid obviously mess that up so I am just getting back into putting that effort in going out again. It's tough.
Well that was just great! :) Speaking as someone who mostly watches your hair videos (about 2 weeks into my hair journey here lol), this was really nice to listen to. The story about your dad and sister driving with you after the breakup was really sweet. Thanks so much for sharing and keep up the awesome work!
You're young and beautiful, you're intelligent, you are in a great city, you have good boundaries, and you have a lot to offer. You'll meet someone when the time is right. How I wished my parents were still alive when I listened to your story.
Your apartment is beautiful and you are doing the right things , go out on dates, go out alone during the week. I am sure it is harder to be in Chicago by yourself and with less friends. You are So blessed to have family that is there for you at any moment. Never forget to ask for help when you need it. You are a beautiful; sweet girl, and the right person will come into your life when you least expect it. Love your honesty.
Abbey, I live in Minneapolis and when I first moved here I met a lot of my friends through River Valley Church. If you can find a church in Chicago with thriving small groups, you'll make a ton of friends (guys + girls) and then inevitably meet even more people. Plus a lot of people in these groups are single (some married), so you'll have a range of friends to uplift and support you. I've made some amazing friends through River Valley and my small group still meets even though some of us don't even go to that church anymore. We've just built such great friendships.
I absolutely love watching you! Your authenticity and quirkiness make you so reliable. I look forward to more videos like this! Seeing your channel grow is amazing! I’ve been a big fan for 2 years now!! Keep shining
Loving your VLog and this style of giving info and just chatting. I’ve watched most of your videos and really value your recommendations. I grew up in Chicago, so cool that you’re living there now. You will grow to absolutely love it, year round 😊
I will say, as someone 12+ years older than you, as you get older your friendships fizzle over time - some move away, have families, everyone has careers, they are busy, become homebodies, etc. I definitely don't have the same amount of friends as I did in my 20's. It's a sad hard reality I'm still learning to accept, I miss having a large group of friends that hang out. And trying to make new friends as an older adult is tough. p.s I really enjoyed the vlog!
Hi Abby,it's great to see you are so much more at ease and relaxed at your new apartment. You seem to be in a good healthy space right now,enjoying your you time. Good to take time on the dating life after having a serious relationship. Your just a beaming array of sunshine. That coffee shop was so nice and a great spot to be around people and still work. 🌷
I think you should feel proud of yourself! You have a nice apartment and have been able to provide a comfortable life for yourself. I've grown to realize that I Need my alone time, and that's pretty common with people who are a bit introverted but still like to socialize. Mindfulness really helped me appreciate just life and everyday moments a lot more than I was able to when I was younger. Just focusing on the little things that bring joy, like a nice cup of coffee, or being out in nature and really enjoying those moments helped me when I was going through a funk and when it's just gloomy outside. Love the vlog! I need to visit Chicago soon, my fiance really likes it there a lot and I still haven't been so it was cool seeing you exploring.
I just moved to Chicago and kind of feel in the same boat but more in regards to forming friendships. It’s so hard being out of college and not having a source for built in friends. It takes a lot of work and a lot of energy. I hope everything works out for you in the dating scene - it will happen on its own time and when it’s right it will feel right!
Abbey I love your videos so much! Thank you for being so authentically yourself. Whenever I feel anxious in the evening, I turn on one of your videos and it always helps me relax and feel better!
Loved this vlog! Would love to see more daily vlogs about your routines, workouts, work and the business side of your life. Also would love to see more from your apartment if you feel comfortable sharing. Also love that you show us the struggle, the lows and the highs in your life!! Best wishes from Germany!!!
Abbey - so glad you're in a better situation. New friendships aren't always easy to make as you get older. I'm confident you'll meet a great guy who will be both a great friend and a great love.
Really enjoyed this Abbey! I could be your Mom and still love your content. Such a treat to see your city and hear your wise thoughts. Family and friends are everything ❤
I think this is a time of your life that you will look back fondly on. I love living alone. Also in regard to dating, I think it’s so much fun. I just read a book called How to Not Die Alone. It has made me reevaluate my approach to second dates. I heard the author on a podcast and she was hilarious which is what intrigued me.
Loved this video and hope you do more like it. I’m single and in my 50’s. All my friends are married with kids and the thought of trying to start over and make new friends and this age is scary. I’m an introvert like you and it’s hard to put myself out there. Also I work from home and need to force myself to work at the library or a coffee shop once a week or so like you suggested.
Sending all the light & positive vibes - applaud you for accepting the next chapter with such grace & courage - good things will come to you! Enjoy Chicago - it's a fantastic city - especially in the summer, you will love it :)
Sisters are the best 💞 Love your content and think you are a rockstar - mature beyond your years, imo! Keep doing you, girl! You're an inspiration to so many!!
I've never been to Chicago, thank you for the tour!!! I moved almost 3 years ago, 800 miles from home. Due to the pandemic, haven't seen my family since.😪. Also just wanted to let you know how helpful you have been for my skin, hair and makeup routines. I appreciate all your hard work, thank you!💖💖💖
Hi Abbey! Njoy your time alone and learn from it, because it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Be proud of your journey you’re doing so well on your own
Loved this video!! I grew up and lived in the northwest Chicago suburbs most of my life and unfortunately you’ll have to expect a lot of those cloudy, gloomy days there. That’s why I moved to beautiful Scottsdale, Arizona about 12 years ago and it was one of the BEST decisions of my life!!! Yeah it gets really hot here, but the amount of sunshine is soul lifting 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Don’t get me wrong, the city of Chicago is amazing, but I just couldn’t deal with the weather. Anyways, love you and your RUclips channel!! Sending lots of love 🤍🤍🤍
I love your videos, your personality is so lovely and you are absolutely beautiful. I also love that you are so inclusive of dark skin girls like me in all of your videos. ❤
As someone who is old enough to be ur mother I love watching ur videos. I have a 33 year old son who went through a breakup in January. I wish u two could meet! But we live in Texas….. darn!!! Ur going to find a wonderful young man who will love u always! And my son will find a woman who will love him! Will pray for u as I pray for my son 💖🙏🏼💞😘💖
Lived in a suburb of Chi town for 10 years. We took the train downtown at least once a month and ALWAYS acted like tourist so fun. Now in Phoenix and DO NOT miss the 9 months of cloudy cold temps, rain, snow and humidity but still loved downtown Chicago. If your into music and live bands check out 7Th Heaven Band---- will not disappoint
Love this video and so glad I found your channel. I have always wanted to visit Chicago, and this just confirmed that more. I think I appreciate the realness of it, and I think despite the weather, I think living in Chicago suits you a lot more than Cali would have. Sending you lots of love and can’t wait for your next vids :)
I absolutely loved this video!! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences; it really helps make other people who feel the same about dating/relationships feel less alone. Chicago is such a gorgeous city and I really miss taking strolls down Magnificent Mile early in the morning. Amazing shopping. Sending you so much love and positivity! You are such a boss!
We need to be besties! I feel like we are the same person. I have had very similar experiences to dating and have completely changed my mentality. We do not have to settle!! I too just turned 28 soo cheers girlfriend 💕
Unrelated to the video, if you haven’t tried out Volare Ristorante in Chicago you absolutely should. It’s an Italian restaurant that makes their own pasta. So so good.
Hey girl!! I live in LP and YES, weather here in Chicago SUX!! Like snow in April, really?!?!? I just moved here in Sept from Austin, TX, work from home, and also far from my gfs and family. What has helped me is my dog (so funny how easy it is to meet ppl when walking your dog lol) and joining the Junior League of Chicago. You’re always welcome in joining me & the girls for cocktails!
Loved the vlog, im watching from New Zealand so it is fascinating to see such a big city and the shops. Your new apartment looks much nicer than your old one.
Me too with the sandwiches! I never eat them anymore, and just the past week I have had like 4 of them! Your new place looks super nice! I live just west of the city, but love getting to the city whenever I can. Can you do videos on how you run your business? How you find time (and how you balance) for Insta, TikTok, RUclips? Do you ever feel awkward filming on the street (do other people look at you)? I too love my alone time and watching RUclips and Netflix. Also, I am 47, and have been married (and hated my life). I can laugh about it now. You are being smart in your thinking about not rushing into things. Sounds like you have a wonderful family! You do a great job on content!
That was a wonderful vlog. Thank you for opening up and sharing with us 💝 I know I've been through really hard times and we always do come out stronger and new doors open up which wouldn't have otherwise been possible. You are such an intelligent and delightful lady I wish you all the best 🙏💜🌸🌹
You’re right, every thing is temporary. Next, change “by myself” to “WITH myself”. As for dating, I hated it until I dated my now husband, so I know what you’re feeling. It will happen organically, forced or not, so you do you. I guess I should watch the video all the way thru before commenting, but there you go - you got out of the tub and it was the funnest first date because you had no expectations. Also, for future reference, people don’t change - so your slow approach is a good one because what you see is what you get - don’t look for “potential” it’s not there. 😜
I went through a very difficult divorce about 2 ½ years ago and my parents tried to get me to come home and I refused and wanted to do it on my own. I eventually healed, but in hindsight, I wish I had gone to stay with them. My mom did come stay with me for a while and that meant so much to me 🥰
Fun blog! You have such a good head on your shoulders. I went to went a wedding a week after I broke up with my fiancé. Probably not a great decision but it I was my girlfriend’s date and didn’t know the couple so I think that helped with distancing myself from what I was going through and where I was. I do not recommend doing that after a major breakup but thankfully I had fun.
As someone who is old enough to be your mother, this vlog was refreshing. It's wonderful to see that you take your mental health seriously.
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No you aren't old;girl! Just ppl minds are old not you!💕
Agree!!
I also am old enough to be your mom, but I love your videos. It's funny, I'm not a vlog watcher,, but this was like spending a day with a friend!! You are a smart, strong, beautiful woman and you have got so much going for you!! Your family must be so proud of you!!!
Being alone is different than being lonely and it seems u are handling them both. Good for you Abbey, keep up the great, positive attitude!!
very true! ❤❤
I believe in always being a tourist where I live, no matter how long I've been there. Makes life much more fun. And I never really date per se. If you are social, go to parties and hang with friends you will meet someone. Formal dating is so uncomfortable and rarely leads to anything. Good luck Abby and enjoy life! 💖
The last section of this video make me teary 🥲 wasn’t expecting that, I’m so happy you had family during that time who rallied for you and and had your back. That’s really nice to have. And enjoy your alone time in this phase, I’ve been married 8 years in August and we’ve been together 13 years in May, we have a 4 year old and my alone time is almost non existent. If I can get a 20 min shower, that’s heaven lol But I love it also. I had a work conference recently and it was an overnight conference and that hotel room all to myself was the best thing ever 😂😂
❤️❤️ exactly! I know I will be feeling that same way at some point 😂
I totally choked back tears when you talked about your family coming to be there for you.
I really appreciate your openness about the struggles you’ve been facing with your mental health. It really helps to see others be real about their struggles and it helps to take away the stigma of anxiety and depression. I hope that you feel better soon. 💛
Hello…do you think Abbey sent the What’s App message? I got it too..
The part about how your parents 'got you'....brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your heart with us. Truly thank you. I loved this video.
THIS IS NOT ABBEY!!!!!!! THIS IS A SCAMMER!!!!!
Love the new apartment and life update! I’m 62 and I can tell you to do ALL the things you want to while you can. Enjoy this phase of your life. I know good things are ahead for you. Life is full of choices and changes that we all navigate. Such a blessing to have a family that loves and supports you! You have such a beautiful soul. Thanks for all the research you do in order to share with your followers! Love your channel ♥️
Thank you so much ❤️
I loved this format! And, I'm 49 so my kids are around your age, my oldest is 25. Your memories recovering after a breakup, and the way you relayed it... Tears. I can say, this many years on the other side of it all... First, you will always have some portion of that that you carry with you because I believe that when you feel something so deeply, whether joy, pain or other, it leaves a mark on your soul. I can also say that as my children have gone through that that watching your children go through that type of pain, my children are my heart... So watching them and being unable to do a lot to help them heal, or not being able to just "fix it" for them like I could when they were young, that for me was incredibly painful as well. But the happiness that was waiting for me, and the happiness that was waiting for my kids is so so so much better than anything else experienced prior. It's there for you too and once you get there, you just know
I really like this vlog format, so fun! I love how you talk about embracing doing the things you love to do alone, like reading and taking walks! Also I love shopping alone 💜
Your story about your family coming to get you has me in tears! Thank you for sharing ❤️
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Enjoy the alone time Abbey. It’s so worth it. To be in tune with yourself is so beneficial in a lot of ways. We learn so much from our experiences especially a break up so just keep it moving and enjoy it all day by day. Stay safe ❤️
I was drawn to watch this video because I’m from Chicago. Grew up on the NW side, and later lived in buildings on LSD and then on Clark Street, across from the zoo. I LOVED being so close to the lake! Sometimes I could hear when the lions were being fed, early in the morning. Watching sailboats go by from my kitchen table. Most miss sitting on the rocks, just off the water, either daydreaming, thinking, or just mindlessly staring off into space. Oh, how I relish those memories of walking home from my job downtown and stopping to get my feet in the sand, or stopping at the Children’s Petting Zoo to feed the ducks. I’m glad I pressed the play button on this vlog, not only for the walk down memory lane it affords, but because the advice you gave is all wonderful. I’m married now, living on the East Coast, hoping to one day move to Vermont. As someone who is very introverted, one tip I learned along the way is to not let my fears keep me from what could potentially be a wonderful thing. I used to get scared when I really liked someone. So scared, in fact, that I would unconsciously sabotage myself. I know that’s not always something that is easily controlled - at least for me. You seem much more outgoing and confident, but to anyone who may be scared of the whole dating-thing, taking things slowly really is the best advice. Along with NOT not giving a potentially great relationship a chance for fear of getting hurt. Thanks, Abbey! 🌸😊
Loved hearing the deeper side to your life - you got this!
Thank you for sharing your heart and hurts. One of my kiddos is dealing with challenges and I have learned not to assume everything is okay but to ask and to listen and to be tuned in. The signals are not always obvious. Glad your family gathered to support you. 💙 I loved that your sis put on your favorite podcast. When my kid was having dark days we watched a lot of MASH reruns, and sometimes just giggling about that spurred some great heart to hearts.
You sound like a great momma :) Your kid is lucky to have you....the M.A.S.H. reruns got me though 😆 that's great.
Abbey I just love anything you post, you’re so authentic and true to yourself. Thanks for sharing your experiences, and as you said keep treasuring the times that you spent by yourself, those moments won’t come back as often in the future once you find your partner and decide to have a family. Believe me you will missed them (I stayed single and lived by myself until I was 36, now I have a lovely family but there are times where I just wanna send them away a little bit so I can chill out hahaha). Love to see your channel grow.
Thank you so much ❤️
I haven’t been to Chicago in years so it was so fun seeing all the places again! I love that you went to Uncommon James. Thank you for the vlog!!! Btw-thanks for always being so real . You are a terrific person and I know someone great will come into your life soon!!!
I just got out of a 4 year relationship. The out of body experience you described when you’re initially alone is so true. It’s hard when all your friends are engaged or married, but you’re right this is a temporary life phase. I’m planning a solo road trip to see places I haven’t been and friends I haven’t connected with in some time and I’m hoping that will give me the jolt I need to remind myself there is so much more to life than our relationships.
You are so blessed with a wonderful family! That is not the case for many people. Loved the rawness and honesty.
Yay to exploring Chicago! ❤❤❤ And from what I can see, your apartment looks beautiful! Hopefully everything is much better there.🌺
Much better ❤️
Well said & ditto, Michelle! Thank you for sharing Abbey 🥰 I would definitely like more vlogs like this. Enjoy your alone time. Take yourself out on dates. And good luck on dating others - I'm dating again after taking a long break after a bad break-up & I'm still a bit hesitant to put myself out there again.
I forgot to add this: You should contact your dentist about your tooth. They can let you know if it's something to be concerned about & come in, or alleviate your concerns. I hope it feels better soon!
The story about your family coming to get you is so wonderful - THAT is what it means to really love someone and be a family. You sound like you're doing great taking care of yourself and keeping your priorities straight. Dating is fun but exhausting, so good for you for making sure you are really certain about a guy before you get too serious. 💜 Show yourself compassion and please keep up the great YT content! (And now for my "big sister" moment - try not to stress about turning 28 and being "late 20s!" I went on my first date with my now-husband the day before my 28th bday. Late 20s is a great time of life and a great time to meet someone, and when you meet the right guy he will value you as the treasure you are.)
When my last serious relationship ended my family and friends were literally my rock. Right after the initial shock of the break up I just sobbed for hours with my mom. Pretty much for a couple months after I would totally burst into tears randomly. (It was not your average break up, it was really traumatic circumstances.) I remember getting into my best friends car the day after the break up to go move out of my apartment with my ex and just crying while she drove. Thank god I had these people to help me get through that time. They let me wallow and feel my pain and then they supported me pursuing positive methods of healing and distraction.
Loved this type of video! Do we get an apartment tour of your new place? See how you decorated/styled it?!!!
Thank you for the break up tips.
I moved out of the home I shared with my ex (it’s weird to even call him that). We were high school sweetheart, lived together for 8 years, 12 years total. I moved in with my parents, who converted their garage for me to have a place to live. My own mom did most of the work ❤️ I’m glad I’m not living alone bc I don’t think I could handle the loneliness
I love these type of vlogs
you give an insight of how it is living in Chicago and your life updates are interesting 🤍
Amen for sisters Abbey! Best friends for life:)
Not me tearing up hearing about your family being by your side during the breakup 🥺
Your makeup/skin was perfection in this vlog! Would love a tutorial ♡
I love these videos and I think that you are so mature. Being connected to ourselves is the best thing to find our way to inner peace. You are a beautiful person!
Thank you so much 🥺❤️
Abbey I just loved this vlog it was great to get an update on your life. Please do more of these you are such a light in this world and we all need that, I hope you find a wonderful partner you are so deserving of that. Have a wonderful day.
I would love to see a get ready with me for a date night!!
To build on another comment, I am old enough to be your grandmother! It is amazing that you have gained so much insight into yourself and life. I wish I’d been there at your age. I’m not sure I’m there now!❤️
So funny you said daughter, because my step-daughter also lives alone in Chicago and struggles with some of the same things you have mentioned, especially working from home and not having a ton of social opportunities. You are a gem....and I love your videos. Stay you, stay strong....hugs back!
Spending time with people who nourish you, and add value to your life is so important! Glad to see you in your new apartment. You got this! 🌺 Karen
I loved the vlog and Q&A style of this video. As someone in my early twenties, I really appreciate you diving deep into such personal topics like this, since they are the ones that I find myself facing more and more as I continue to grow and figure out who I am and what I even want in life. I value your advice so much and I appreciate you being so vulnerable ❤️ Hope to see more lifestyle videos like this!
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Another mom tyoe, probably not the right demographic to ask but loved the format.Your advice on breakups, trauma is spot on.
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I love your videos so much! I am from Minnesota which makes me love you even more! I feel like I’m hanging out with a friend when I watch your videos. I am going to Chicago the week after Easter and low key hope I run into on the street so I can say hi haha I went through a tough breakup many years ago and now I’m happily engaged! It does get better after those difficult times. Those years alone are definitely essential for personal growth! Thank you for being vulnerable 🤍
Awww MN friend I love it ❤️
I'm in the military and I relate so much to you. I'm 28 and I've always lived alone, sometimes in the middle of nowhere, also moving constantly so making long term friends can be difficult. I was so used to going to small coffee shops and just watch people go by but Covid obviously mess that up so I am just getting back into putting that effort in going out again. It's tough.
Well that was just great! :) Speaking as someone who mostly watches your hair videos (about 2 weeks into my hair journey here lol), this was really nice to listen to. The story about your dad and sister driving with you after the breakup was really sweet. Thanks so much for sharing and keep up the awesome work!
You're young and beautiful, you're intelligent, you are in a great city, you have good boundaries, and you have a lot to offer. You'll meet someone when the time is right. How I wished my parents were still alive when I listened to your story.
Your apartment is beautiful and you are doing the right things , go out on dates, go out alone during the week. I am sure it is harder to be in Chicago by yourself and with less friends. You are So blessed to have family that is there for you at any moment. Never forget to ask for help when you need it. You are a beautiful; sweet girl, and the right person will come into your life when you least expect it. Love your honesty.
Abbey, I live in Minneapolis and when I first moved here I met a lot of my friends through River Valley Church. If you can find a church in Chicago with thriving small groups, you'll make a ton of friends (guys + girls) and then inevitably meet even more people. Plus a lot of people in these groups are single (some married), so you'll have a range of friends to uplift and support you. I've made some amazing friends through River Valley and my small group still meets even though some of us don't even go to that church anymore. We've just built such great friendships.
I absolutely love watching you! Your authenticity and quirkiness make you so reliable. I look forward to more videos like this! Seeing your channel grow is amazing! I’ve been a big fan for 2 years now!! Keep shining
I moved out of N Chicago years ago. I really love the culture out there.
Thanks for providing some nostalgia while I cook some dinner 😌
Your new apartment looks so much better…newer safer….love all the windows …thanks for sharing …fun video
I just love you channel so much. The tips, the honesty, the honesty. Thank you🥰
Like Shawna I’m old enough to be your mom. You are wise beyond your years Abbey! Glad you take the time to share your perspective. 🥰🥰
Loving your VLog and this style of giving info and just chatting. I’ve watched most of your videos and really value your recommendations. I grew up in Chicago, so cool that you’re living there now. You will grow to absolutely love it, year round 😊
I will say, as someone 12+ years older than you, as you get older your friendships fizzle over time - some move away, have families, everyone has careers, they are busy, become homebodies, etc. I definitely don't have the same amount of friends as I did in my 20's. It's a sad hard reality I'm still learning to accept, I miss having a large group of friends that hang out. And trying to make new friends as an older adult is tough. p.s I really enjoyed the vlog!
Hi Abby,it's great to see you are so much more at ease and relaxed at your new apartment. You seem to be in a good healthy space right now,enjoying your you time. Good to take time on the dating life after having a serious relationship. Your just a beaming array of sunshine.
That coffee shop was so nice and a great spot to be around people and still work. 🌷
I think you should feel proud of yourself! You have a nice apartment and have been able to provide a comfortable life for yourself. I've grown to realize that I Need my alone time, and that's pretty common with people who are a bit introverted but still like to socialize. Mindfulness really helped me appreciate just life and everyday moments a lot more than I was able to when I was younger. Just focusing on the little things that bring joy, like a nice cup of coffee, or being out in nature and really enjoying those moments helped me when I was going through a funk and when it's just gloomy outside. Love the vlog! I need to visit Chicago soon, my fiance really likes it there a lot and I still haven't been so it was cool seeing you exploring.
I just moved to Chicago and kind of feel in the same boat but more in regards to forming friendships. It’s so hard being out of college and not having a source for built in friends. It takes a lot of work and a lot of energy. I hope everything works out for you in the dating scene - it will happen on its own time and when it’s right it will feel right!
Abbey I love your videos so much! Thank you for being so authentically yourself. Whenever I feel anxious in the evening, I turn on one of your videos and it always helps me relax and feel better!
Not me crying on the elliptical watching your advice section 🥺 Love u ❤️❤️
Love you sister 🖤
Loved this vlog! Would love to see more daily vlogs about your routines, workouts, work and the business side of your life. Also would love to see more from your apartment if you feel comfortable sharing. Also love that you show us the struggle, the lows and the highs in your life!! Best wishes from Germany!!!
Abbey - so glad you're in a better situation. New friendships aren't always easy to make as you get older. I'm confident you'll meet a great guy who will be both a great friend and a great love.
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Really enjoyed this Abbey! I could be your Mom and still love your content. Such a treat to see your city and hear your wise thoughts. Family and friends are everything ❤
Just wanted to say your skin looks phenomenal in this video!
I think this is a time of your life that you will look back fondly on. I love living alone. Also in regard to dating, I think it’s so much fun. I just read a book called How to Not Die Alone. It has made me reevaluate my approach to second dates. I heard the author on a podcast and she was hilarious which is what intrigued me.
Loved this video and hope you do more like it. I’m single and in my 50’s. All my friends are married with kids and the thought of trying to start over and make new friends and this age is scary. I’m an introvert like you and it’s hard to put myself out there. Also I work from home and need to force myself to work at the library or a coffee shop once a week or so like you suggested.
Sending all the light & positive vibes - applaud you for accepting the next chapter with such grace & courage - good things will come to you! Enjoy Chicago - it's a fantastic city - especially in the summer, you will love it :)
You look wonderful, and your apartment is so bright and cheerful! You’re embarking on an exciting, new adventure.
I’m so glad to see it!
Sisters are the best 💞 Love your content and think you are a rockstar - mature beyond your years, imo! Keep doing you, girl! You're an inspiration to so many!!
I loved the advice/big sis chat portion of the video!
Thank you for being so real and opening up 🥰
I really enjoy your vlogs! I look forward to them more than your regular videos
I've never been to Chicago, thank you for the tour!!! I moved almost 3 years ago, 800 miles from home. Due to the pandemic, haven't seen my family since.😪. Also just wanted to let you know how helpful you have been for my skin, hair and makeup routines. I appreciate all your hard work, thank you!💖💖💖
yay I'm so glad to hear that! ❤
Your new apartment is so nice! It looks like such an upgrade!!
Your videos always make me smile and I absolutely love how genuine you are. Glad to see you are doing well in Chicago.❤️
loved the personal aspect of this
Hi Abbey! Njoy your time alone and learn from it, because it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Be proud of your journey you’re doing so well on your own
Loved this video!! I grew up and lived in the northwest Chicago suburbs most of my life and unfortunately you’ll have to expect a lot of those cloudy, gloomy days there. That’s why I moved to beautiful Scottsdale, Arizona about 12 years ago and it was one of the BEST decisions of my life!!! Yeah it gets really hot here, but the amount of sunshine is soul lifting 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Don’t get me wrong, the city of Chicago is amazing, but I just couldn’t deal with the weather. Anyways, love you and your RUclips channel!! Sending lots of love 🤍🤍🤍
I love your videos, your personality is so lovely and you are absolutely beautiful. I also love that you are so inclusive of dark skin girls like me in all of your videos. ❤
Love vlogs from you! Love seeing you happy in your new beautiful space ❤️
I love vlogs around the city and would love to see more of these!
Thank you for sharing this Abbey, i'm sure this wasn't the easiest video to record but I'm glad you made it. Love from New Zealand
Love this! Happy to get coffee any time! I’m in Gold Coast!
My son is your age and he struggles with meeting women. His friends make a huge difference. I’m glad you’re finding balance. It’s hard.
I love the vlog. I appreciate how raw you were
Yaaaas queen!! Love the taking things slow part of dating as well! 👏🏼
Absolutely loved this vlog it felt like the deep chat i didnt know i needed from the big sister i dont have irl
Your new apartment is nice! Love all the windows and the view of the city.
As someone who is old enough to be ur mother I love watching ur videos.
I have a 33 year old son who went through a breakup in January. I wish u two could meet! But we live in Texas….. darn!!!
Ur going to find a wonderful young man who will love u always! And my son will find a woman who will love him! Will pray for u as I pray for my son 💖🙏🏼💞😘💖
I lived on Dearborn and Goethe for 20 years. Love that city.
I LOVE the vlogging style! Please do more….💕
Lived in a suburb of Chi town for 10 years. We took the train downtown at least once a month and ALWAYS acted like tourist so fun. Now in Phoenix and DO NOT miss the 9 months of cloudy cold temps, rain, snow and humidity but still loved downtown Chicago. If your into music and live bands check out 7Th Heaven Band---- will not disappoint
Love this video and so glad I found your channel. I have always wanted to visit Chicago, and this just confirmed that more. I think I appreciate the realness of it, and I think despite the weather, I think living in Chicago suits you a lot more than Cali would have. Sending you lots of love and can’t wait for your next vids :)
Glad you're feeling better and getting out there! Loved the video style of vlog mixed with chit chat! Also ring haul?!
I absolutely loved this video!! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences; it really helps make other people who feel the same about dating/relationships feel less alone. Chicago is such a gorgeous city and I really miss taking strolls down Magnificent Mile early in the morning. Amazing shopping. Sending you so much love and positivity! You are such a boss!
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We need to be besties! I feel like we are the same person. I have had very similar experiences to dating and have completely changed my mentality. We do not have to settle!! I too just turned 28 soo cheers girlfriend 💕
Unrelated to the video, if you haven’t tried out Volare Ristorante in Chicago you absolutely should. It’s an Italian restaurant that makes their own pasta. So so good.
Love this mix of vlog / q&a!! ♡♡♡
Hey girl!! I live in LP and YES, weather here in Chicago SUX!! Like snow in April, really?!?!? I just moved here in Sept from Austin, TX, work from home, and also far from my gfs and family. What has helped me is my dog (so funny how easy it is to meet ppl when walking your dog lol) and joining the Junior League of Chicago. You’re always welcome in joining me & the girls for cocktails!
Loved the vlog, im watching from New Zealand so it is fascinating to see such a big city and the shops. Your new apartment looks much nicer than your old one.
Loving this type of video!
Me too with the sandwiches! I never eat them anymore, and just the past week I have had like 4 of them! Your new place looks super nice! I live just west of the city, but love getting to the city whenever I can. Can you do videos on how you run your business? How you find time (and how you balance) for Insta, TikTok, RUclips? Do you ever feel awkward filming on the street (do other people look at you)? I too love my alone time and watching RUclips and Netflix. Also, I am 47, and have been married (and hated my life). I can laugh about it now. You are being smart in your thinking about not rushing into things. Sounds like you have a wonderful family! You do a great job on content!
I love that idea I'll add it to my list! ❤❤
That was a wonderful vlog. Thank you for opening up and sharing with us 💝 I know I've been through really hard times and we always do come out stronger and new doors open up which wouldn't have otherwise been possible. You are such an intelligent and delightful lady I wish you all the best 🙏💜🌸🌹
You’re right, every thing is temporary. Next, change “by myself” to “WITH myself”. As for dating, I hated it until I dated my now husband, so I know what you’re feeling. It will happen organically, forced or not, so you do you. I guess I should watch the video all the way thru before commenting, but there you go - you got out of the tub and it was the funnest first date because you had no expectations. Also, for future reference, people don’t change - so your slow approach is a good one because what you see is what you get - don’t look for “potential” it’s not there. 😜
Loved this vlog. I'm sure this resonated with many
I went through a very difficult divorce about 2 ½ years ago and my parents tried to get me to come home and I refused and wanted to do it on my own. I eventually healed, but in hindsight, I wish I had gone to stay with them. My mom did come stay with me for a while and that meant so much to me 🥰
Fun blog! You have such a good head on your shoulders.
I went to went a wedding a week after I broke up with my fiancé. Probably not a great decision but it I was my girlfriend’s date and didn’t know the couple so I think that helped with distancing myself from what I was going through and where I was. I do not recommend doing that after a major breakup but thankfully I had fun.