3 Tips for a Long Distance Relationship in the Military - How to Make it WORK

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

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  • @tassiefriday4905
    @tassiefriday4905 3 года назад +5

    Thank you so much for this perspective! This has been really insightful and I appreciate you sharing your story. I've been long distance with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's overseas. We were together for 3 years before he joined so that helped our foundation in our relationship a lot, still, it's been really hard at times. But, your advice has helped me see it from the military member's side! So, thank you again. I better understand what he might be going through.

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Glad I can help! Communication and understanding is always key. It’s tough and these aren’t cookie cutter “tricks” but both parties have to work at it. Thank you for commenting!

  • @izelalvarez5067
    @izelalvarez5067 2 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for the advice. My boyfriend and I are both in the military and I feel like this will really help keep us strong and make us even stronger. I’m being stationed to a different command while he stays here for a bit. We don’t know where he is going so this really help calm the emotions.

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Hey thanks for commenting! It sounds like you both have an understanding for what your situation is like. Sounds like a good start, keep at it!

  • @kaifarrell3563
    @kaifarrell3563 4 года назад +8

    Thanks for the video. Been thinking about joining the military and I am in a relationship that I would definitely want to try to make work if I joined so this could definitely be useful in the future. :) keep up the good work.

    • @Mariana-ld6wo
      @Mariana-ld6wo 3 года назад +1

      Did u join

    • @sunaynashaik7980
      @sunaynashaik7980 3 года назад +1

      Did it work out?

    • @kaifarrell3563
      @kaifarrell3563 3 года назад +2

      @@sunaynashaik7980 didnt join. Also that relationship didn’t work out either lmao.

    • @sunaynashaik7980
      @sunaynashaik7980 3 года назад +1

      @@kaifarrell3563 I'm sorry to hear that, but something better is coming 🥂

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Thank you! It is possible to make it work. Communication is key

  • @teresannarehaluk8499
    @teresannarehaluk8499 2 года назад +1

    I need this video on communication

  • @eumesma4725
    @eumesma4725 2 года назад +1

    Thank you my bf just left for deployment until the summer. I needed this

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад +1

      Glad I can help!

    • @eumesma4725
      @eumesma4725 2 года назад

      @@DavidCapperino hey question. He is on a ship can I send cigars? He loves them

  • @georgiajuve867
    @georgiajuve867 4 года назад +2

    Thank you soo much for this video. It’s probably the best one I’ve seen.

  • @SullyGraceBeauty
    @SullyGraceBeauty 4 года назад +2

    I would like to know your point or any idea i dont want to cut him but i dont know how to confront that

  • @jeanclaudinefernandez7185
    @jeanclaudinefernandez7185 3 года назад +1

    Thanks for the video dear..i met man in emails..he is a military man but im still confused if he is really seriouse..anyway i learn some tips here thanks to your video even though you talk fast ehhe..Have a nice day..take care..watchinh from 🇵🇭😇🙏

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      Thank you! It’s best to not move into things too quickly and see if he’s there for the long term

    • @lolitajohansson1548
      @lolitajohansson1548 3 года назад +1

      Check his email adress...military emails ends with mil. If not he is a scammer, he will soon asking gift cards and money.

  • @quaintgirlph
    @quaintgirlph 3 года назад +2

    what if his in infantry , said that no communication when entering the training for 8months thanks for tips

    • @quaintgirlph
      @quaintgirlph 3 года назад +1

      is it true

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад +1

      What do you mean?

    • @quaintgirlph
      @quaintgirlph 3 года назад +1

      @@DavidCapperino my guy told me hes in the infantry training and can’t communicate

  • @nicolefoth5556
    @nicolefoth5556 3 года назад +3

    I met a soldier via internet a few days ago. He is in Afghanistan right now. He told me really fast that he loves me and now he wants me to buy him a steam card because his Abonnement/subscription ends today and then he can't communicate anymore. Can that really be? I don't know what to do.

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад +2

      It’s a scam. We’re not in Afghanistan anymore. And you don’t need a steam card to communicate

    • @nicolefoth5556
      @nicolefoth5556 3 года назад

      @@DavidCapperino thank you so much for your help. Greetings and blessings 🙏

    • @jaquelincolon2266
      @jaquelincolon2266 3 года назад

      @@DavidCapperino can you do a video on how military finances work overseas???

    • @lolitajohansson1548
      @lolitajohansson1548 3 года назад

      Guard your heart, men who introduced themselves as soldiers and ask for gift cards and money it's scam. Block him right away.

  • @TaylerThomas44
    @TaylerThomas44 2 года назад +1

    So my gf is deployed right now and comes back in one week but she just got news that she is going away again for over a year in April, so I won’t get much time with her. She is saying that she just wants to try again when she comes back in a year but also says she still wants to talk to me over the deployment. She says this because she doesn’t want to hurt me by her not being here for me, but we’ve already made it thru a 7 month deployment, so I think this deployment won’t be much different, even though it is longer. We are just very confused and need advice because I want to stay with her because I love her!🥺 we do not talk everyday and that is okay because I trust her. I just don’t want her leaving my life during this deployment. I’m confused and don’t know what to do. Any advice?

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Wow, that’s a lot to take in and I can’t imagine the position you’re in. It’s so tough to say and I’m definitely not a counsler to give the best advice. I would imagine there just has to be good , good communication and an understanding from both sides. Both people have to be on the same page. Maybe scheduling calls and realizing that even though it’s a long time now, it’s not a forever thing.

  • @Mariana-ld6wo
    @Mariana-ld6wo 3 года назад +4

    My bf will be joining the military in September and it’s going to be really hard for me not to talk to him 24/7 And l overthinking and have anxiety too if maybe we would break up because that’s not something am use to it but we talk about it and he said that any time he’s free or is possible to text me he would do it today he’s currently going he’s training for September and l hope he pass he’s tests and we won’t be able to see each other for months many till Christmas cuz he’s going to do he’s boot camping till Christmas time and ldk how am going to do it

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      Do you have concerns about him as far as trust? You should be okay assuming you trust him. He’s going to have things going on and has to focus on that training and what not. It’s going to take up a lot of his time and he’s going to meet people that he’ll go out with a connect with. That has to be expected. You can’t expect him to not do those things (just my opinion). But you guys should have a serious conversation beforehand

    • @jaquelincolon2266
      @jaquelincolon2266 3 года назад

      Hey girl im very new to this too my fiancé is in the Air Force . I have abandonment issues and anxiety as well. Sometimes the connection on base (overseas completely goes out) so I’ll go an entire day without hearing from her. I remember the first time it happened I nearly withdrew because I thought she was ghosting me . But I decided to wait and that’s when she explained what had happened so I have grown to expect things like that and just not taking it personally. Im not going to lie it’s so hard . Some days I cry but it’s worth it. If you really love the person you’ll wait because in the end they’ll come back. It takes a lot of understanding and patience ( and yes you’ll feel lonely) but don’t lose sight of the love you feel. And for the love of god please don’t be impulsive when you start feeling it hard on the days he barely has time to text. Stay strong girl . If you want you can snap me and we can give each other support I know what it’s like to be on the waiting end ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️ my snap is reallydontlikeu ps ( it also helps to gain an understanding of how military life works) watching videos like this is a step forward

    • @ariannamiller977
      @ariannamiller977 2 года назад

      I have anxiety and I overthink too so I definitely understand how you feel. My boyfriend is joining the military soon too so there’s so much on my mind.

  • @pouringwithrobyn4365
    @pouringwithrobyn4365 3 года назад +2

    My relationship he does engineering in Dubai but tells me he can't call or facetime just text because he's not allowed in that country? Help

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      That’s definitely not true. He probably didn’t set up his phone correctly. Or something similar.

  • @SullyGraceBeauty
    @SullyGraceBeauty 4 года назад +2

    Hi i have a question i meeting some guy is is militar he said that he is in special mission and he say that he is not allow to have privet cellphones or privet computer so we always text me from whatsapp, im so confuse, we have 1 month texting but not any call or face time he said he have to wait until he comes back to the state, is that can be true he say that he loves me so much but im not 100 trusting in what he said

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  4 года назад +1

      That’s definitely tough, and maybe that is true what he is saying. But if he’s not FaceTiming then I find that suspicious but it is hard to say. Best to not get involved, but entirely up to you.

    • @SullyGraceBeauty
      @SullyGraceBeauty 4 года назад

      Waoo thank you for your opinion , i found just minutes ago, that he has another facebook profile and his sexual preference said is both genders and he got me in another facebook profile as a friend, but he block me in the other one

    • @pouringwithrobyn4365
      @pouringwithrobyn4365 3 года назад +1

      Be careful I was scammed he said the same .you are allowed to ring on phone okay darl .he can FaceTime . I was supposed to get married he was only after my money $1500 . please ask for facetime .

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      @@pouringwithrobyn4365 exactly ! Stay safe.

    • @pamg7414
      @pamg7414 3 года назад

      You can always facetime, or any for of videochatting. There’s a lot of scammer there. I am in a relationship with a marine for two years. They can video call even though they are in middle east. The only way they contact your for a day or week it they are somewhere in security level places. Be safe ;) don’t trust right away.

  • @czudahal6466
    @czudahal6466 2 года назад +1

    my bf he is a marine. we ve been together 4 years never met each other. i am kinda giving up we havent talked for like a month idk whats going on he isnt a guy who communicates and i dont think we would end up together in future. 🥺

  • @kalingashine7989
    @kalingashine7989 3 года назад +1

    I would like to know about leave vacation if they really true to paid first..

    • @pamg7414
      @pamg7414 3 года назад +1

      Not true, they can file for leave as long as their Get it approve. No payment should be done. Be careful

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Not true

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      Thank you.

  • @ddchudiana4842
    @ddchudiana4842 3 года назад +1

    This is off topic but what kind of letters can I send to my fiance who is at the San Antonio Air force BMT. I have printed some pictures that she asked me to do before leaving but I also was thinking of making colorful letters with drawings so she can feel a little better. Am I able to do that or will they say something to her??

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      It just can’t be anything nude or crude. If they’re honestly good and photos that you could display publicly then you’re fine!

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      They told me that if anyone got any photos they had to see them first to make sure, but that would be up to her to do that if they require it.

  • @pouringwithrobyn4365
    @pouringwithrobyn4365 3 года назад +1

    My bf has been deployed to UAE Dubai, hes an engineer and is not allowed to facetime or call due to country rules until he comes back to usa he said he doesn't want anything from me just my love .we have a time when we text

    • @oliviaskyers2433
      @oliviaskyers2433 3 года назад

      I’ve worked in the UAE and was still able to FT.

    • @lolitajohansson1548
      @lolitajohansson1548 3 года назад +1

      Unable to face time, another scam. You are communicating with Nigerians.

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  3 года назад

      Thank you for commenting. And yes another scam.

  • @lynduffag8002
    @lynduffag8002 3 года назад +1

    Can I ask something I have a bf in military if he get an emergency leave vacation That woman his going to marry will the one who do that emergency leave vacation with payment this is true becoz asap we want to settledown sooner Thanks

    • @pamg7414
      @pamg7414 3 года назад +1

      Nope , no payment needed. Scammer alert. Have you facetime or videocalled with your bf? If not, then that’s possible a scammer. Stay safe

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      @@pamg7414 this is correct. Thank you.

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  2 года назад

      That is a scam. No payment is needed.

  • @pouringwithrobyn4365
    @pouringwithrobyn4365 4 года назад +7

    Yes would love a video on communication, in the military . We text and haven't meet yet ,

    • @DavidCapperino
      @DavidCapperino  4 года назад +2

      What would you like to know?

    • @pouringwithrobyn4365
      @pouringwithrobyn4365 4 года назад

      @@DavidCapperino well I told him not to rush as he was as I'm in Australia and he's in America and he wants to marry me asap but want is the right time like how long as we haven't meet yet