Thanks for this! Your right it’s not always easy to see abuse. Now a day with these twin flames and soul mate names we confuse it with toxic trauma bonds. I am changing my diet, yoga and trying to focus more on myself. I have been watching videos about detachment. I love how you said shift our minds to the present moment!
I was in a toxic abusive relationship. Most people in society always think it is the male that it is the abuser, but personally, I can tell you this isn't always the case. Thank you for uploading this. It is nice to see some care in a person's heart, but just know I feel this. So, in respect, I understand this message, and each day, I hope to be stronger from my experiences. I know it is easy to blame the masculine side of the relationship, but I do hope both sides learn to listen, learn, and love.
The only reason I made it out of my domestic violent relationship safely is because they crashed and totaled their car on their way to stop me. They had to be physically prevented from reaching me. God truly looks out for you, but healing with that information and trusting someone enough to date after is the hardest thing I have ever done. I pray survivors attract and find the most patient partners because we truly deserve to be handled with such gentleness and care
Thank you so much, Todd, for sharing this. I'm a survivor of such a relationship, and yes PTSD, in my case C - PTSD, is very real in the aftermath of an abusive relationship. Each day is a healing process and the further in the past this experience gets, you're so right in saying the perspective shifts. The true healing began when I began to forgive, and now I look at that experience as one of the greatest experiences my soul could have ever orchestrated for me on my path forward. Namaste ❤️ 🙏 and thank you.
Thank u for this . I cried watching. 26 out of a dv relationship. Left everything. Restarted. It was a valley of the shadow of death. I was a lucky one
I was abused when I was growing up especially during teenage years by school mates and teachers... I had to go through a lot of bullying and humiliation until one fine day there were no more in my life... It has been more than 13 years since they have left my life but their faces still haunt me the same as it was 13 years ago..... I am still struggling let go of those people in my life.... Help needed
I was in an abusive marriage for 16 years and finally woke up one day and told myself I would rather be dead than to live like that. I had a 11 year old and a two year old. He fought me all the way through but in the end I was safe. It was the most difficult thing I had to go through in my life and still suffer from anxiety.
Needed to see this tonight. An hour ago I had that conversation with my wife that it’s time to end this toxic relationship I have been suffering for 10 years, and after serious self exploration thanks to psychedelics I finally found clarity and bravery to act. What complicates things is I am also an adoptee. I am scared but also optimistic, I already integrate things you speak of just to exist, but now I am ready to find and hug the inner child, the real me. Thank you❤️ Edit: 25 year marriage, 10+ yrs of toxic hell
You can do this. I pray and wish you growth, self-love, healing, self-respect, and an enjoyment in being alone and deep peace. How are things now? Sending you good energy. ❤
Hi, thanks for reaching out, still not out of the woods, but the light is visible at the end of the tunnel. 2025 will see me moving into my own apartment, treating myself to a new car, and focusing on finding out who I am and what brings me contentment. Still a work in progress.
I was in an abusive relationship and my ex screamed anger and blamed me for everything it tore me down I gave her a place to stay thought it would help, it just made things worst she wanted me to chase her and be intimate even though i was discussed at the situation I had enough so I finally left, after she got physical and started breaking things and hitting mental and physical abuse is real, it almost cost me my life she would threaten me and I started self destructing blinded wanted to feel, its been a month and I think I have PTSD from it sleepless nights, I'm also 1 month sober.. getting my energy back and self caring by avoiding all the people and mutual friends just got rid of everyone, we are not alone ❤
Todd, you're right. You don't have to be in war to have battle scars, visible or invisible to others. Unfortunately, by extension, you can be a family member of someone who is deployed, returns and mistreats you. Yes, there can be manipulation, dishonesty, and other toxic behaviors which can leave the military spouse or child confused and depressed. TY for recognizing that the real battle znd pain may be at home.
She keeps pulling me back in and I can't get away, my mind keeps getting pulled back to her... feeling like she's the only person who will ever love me, who ever could love someone like me.
@Psalms1211-8 that's the best thing you can hope for in relationships like this. A lot of the time the impetuous of one person's well being is put on the other, but as a famous Antlers song said about toxic relationship, "That burdens not on you, some patients can't be saved"
I broke into tears watching this. This Month the night of the 5th, my now ex-Girlfriend and her guy friend beat me like a dog. Left me with an acute concussion, bruising all over my body, etc. I am struggling everyday. I have cried everyday since, and I don’t know how to overcome this. This is the quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever done. To go from thinking you are loved to beaten in one night and then have your bank account drained by her, dog stolen by her, and everything in-between, I am at such a loss in life. I feel like I have no real purpose. This is so hard…..
I'm am sorry to hear this has happened to you. Please keep your head up I've been in a relationship with someone I have an 18 month old baby with. December 10th, I was sent to the hospital by ambulance because he beat my head so hard with his fist I had to get 8 stitches. My foot is still bruised over a year later on top from where he punched my foot while I was pregnant. I've been strangled and hit only a month after an emergency C-section to give birth to our child. That is just to name a few of the things I've went through with this man. Not to mention the verbal abuse. The cheating and the lies. And I stayed.... One memory that stays with me amongst many others. Is As I was gushing blood down my face all over my glasses and all over my dress blood all over the floor. As I was begging him to call an ambulance because I thought I was about to die. He was very calm when he told me I was overreacting and needed to calm down. I pray everyday. And I will pray for you. Maybe say a little prayer for me to🌺🌿
I feel totally stuck. I've been through prolonged domestic violence. I'm over six years free after relocating, but after being assaulted literally countless times, even having to go to A&E on one occasion, after a particularly horrendous night, I'm still having flashbacks, breaking down in floods of tears on a regular. It's like the trauma is hardwired into my head now. I also have M.E and Fibromyalgia.
Hey ,by reading through these messages I felt like maybe leaving an answer to what is helping me could give you a direction what to search for … The trauma IS hardwired into your brain but there are ways to rewire it What helped me (it’s a long process though ) Is somebody doing a mix of kinesiology,emdr Psychological reversal And acupressure With this technique you can not only find out what is wrong programmed in your body from the abuse but you can slowly change the programs ,remove all of the feelings ,situations and beliefs that are stuck in your body It slowly takes away all these noises in your brain And all of the feelings that keep you stuck Sending love and I am sorry for everyone who has to go through this experience
I was in a marriage and relationship for 12 years. Very toxic. Very abusive. It’s not even been two years since my divorce. I don’t have support. No friends. No family. I try to love myself, but it is very hard.
It's not much for me to say but- I'm proud of ya. I hope you found love for yourself, and I hope you continue to search for support. You're a brave soul.
I just got out of a very physically and emotionally abusive relationship. It was textbook abusive, she would make me feel worthless, shame me for wanting to feel loved or valued, "validated", very physically abusive ( i never laid a finger on her), told me ill never find love and she was the best thing that ever happto me, and i deserve to cry myself to sleep. We have a 1 year old son, whom she wants nothing to do with. And unfortunately it wasnt even me that ended the relationship. She left me while i was in treatment for the guy she cheated on me with. My whole idea of being a family when i got better sent flying out the window. Now i am just left confused, and alone. I dont know what to do. My son is all that matters to me and i will be the best father i can to him. He deserves that. Especially aince his mom doesn't want to be a mother. Her exact words. Im very confused and i don't know what to do or how to start healing from all this. Why the f..k am i posting all of this on a youtube comment, i dont know. God help me.
I was also in a relationship with a toxic person....and it's mentally destroyed me, I purely honestly loved him and his behaviour was so confusing at one time he act like he loves me and instant he react like i m the most hateable person for him. He abused me alot even he threat me he will kill me whenever he see me by mistake 😢......after 2 years of relationship he said he was just experiencing and discovering about girls and now he want to marry someone else girl.....i chased him alot 😢 I don't know why i lost my self respect just to want his love back like we first met 😢.....i m so disturbed about my emotional and mentally health.....
Your a legend mate! I tell you why before I want he'd ur video blog I was very scared where my mind body and spirit I side my body I long and truely lived for after 4 years of trauma having to listen to you and hear from someone else no one ever told me when I was well before trauma if in life I was on track or no one never ever complimented as a women and single mother to 5 beautiful children when I worked for years no one complimented for it not once even tho I worked at a very young I knew then and now and how to heal was to think what was reality is telling me with your video guidence and listening to you. Not excepting PTSD or trauma is who you are as a person when knowing I felt to heal was my body is still adjusting by trauma back in 2021 incident letting exceptance and say I won't let that define me of what happened putting myself down like abuser say to me I had become what I hated in life that's is not I wanted to feel everyday and to stop thinking like abuser!
Thank you 🙏 this is so beautiful 😍 and your voice is so calming and perfect for this topic it’s very healing itself 💚 I grew up in a very abusive family environment, I got sexually abused etc and of course with all these traumas I attracted more abusive people into my life until the day I claimed my worth and said NO MORE. I have never looked back since and I am on my healing journey doing the work every day and learning to fully love myself 💖
I was in an abusive relationship with my partner of two years, I felt everything in this video and i didnt know who i was Now I'm scared to trust any relationship. I'm healing myself and i found God, I'm a lot more happy now but i still have flashbacks from those two years, it's been at least a week since I went away
this is such an important topic, and I really appreciate how you approached it with sensitivity. honestly, I sometimes wonder if people overuse the term PTSD, especially in the context of relationships. I get that trauma is real, but not every difficult experience translates to PTSD, right? it just seems like it cheapens the term for those who truly suffer from it. what do you think?
My Problem is that I can’t let him go. He is now in Jail but i still see the good in him and miss him. He’s good deep down, he was just heavily abused his whole life, he always had it hard. It’s so hard to get over it. Does somebody know how to get over it? I could really use some help
A person having a hard life is not an excuse for them to give someone else a hard life, many people are abused most of them don’t turn into abusers. Time is precious and life is short don’t waste either waiting for someone to change
I just got out of domestic violence just today.I’m so lucky that I was alive.My body is still scared and I don’t know when can I happy again. All this start because I don’t want to do only fan video on porn site and he forced me to do it I ran away three times and now this time I really escaped…. I want to feel happy again really bad
I was trying to heal till I got to Melton and feel very isolated and now I’m suffering something different 😢 I don’t think people believe suffered a violent pass they think I’m using the system, I’m suffering it even more, I wish I could exercise, I got charged in LD and paying a debt I’m bullied in this area and made to feel more isolated.so I can’t really exercise as I feel uncomfortable unwanted and bullied
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Thanks for this! Your right it’s not always easy to see abuse. Now a day with these twin flames and soul mate names we confuse it with toxic trauma bonds. I am changing my diet, yoga and trying to focus more on myself. I have been watching videos about detachment. I love how you said shift our minds to the present moment!
How are you now?
I was in a toxic abusive relationship. Most people in society always think it is the male that it is the abuser, but personally, I can tell you this isn't always the case. Thank you for uploading this. It is nice to see some care in a person's heart, but just know I feel this. So, in respect, I understand this message, and each day, I hope to be stronger from my experiences. I know it is easy to blame the masculine side of the relationship, but I do hope both sides learn to listen, learn, and love.
The only reason I made it out of my domestic violent relationship safely is because they crashed and totaled their car on their way to stop me. They had to be physically prevented from reaching me. God truly looks out for you, but healing with that information and trusting someone enough to date after is the hardest thing I have ever done. I pray survivors attract and find the most patient partners because we truly deserve to be handled with such gentleness and care
Thank you so much, Todd, for sharing this. I'm a survivor of such a relationship, and yes PTSD, in my case C - PTSD, is very real in the aftermath of an abusive relationship. Each day is a healing process and the further in the past this experience gets, you're so right in saying the perspective shifts. The true healing began when I began to forgive, and now I look at that experience as one of the greatest experiences my soul could have ever orchestrated for me on my path forward. Namaste ❤️ 🙏 and thank you.
This gives me hope thank you. God bless you
Thank u for this . I cried watching. 26 out of a dv relationship. Left everything. Restarted. It was a valley of the shadow of death. I was a lucky one
I was abused when I was growing up especially during teenage years by school mates and teachers... I had to go through a lot of bullying and humiliation until one fine day there were no more in my life... It has been more than 13 years since they have left my life but their faces still haunt me the same as it was 13 years ago..... I am still struggling let go of those people in my life.... Help needed
I was in an abusive marriage for 16 years and finally woke up one day and told myself I would rather be dead than to live like that. I had a 11 year old and a two year old. He fought me all the way through but in the end I was safe. It was the most difficult thing I had to go through in my life and still suffer from anxiety.
Being stay with (good husband) rather boyfriends gain and destroy the female motion with dead dating ❤❤❤
Needed to see this tonight. An hour ago I had that conversation with my wife that it’s time to end this toxic relationship
I have been suffering for 10 years, and after serious self exploration thanks to psychedelics I finally found clarity and bravery to act.
What complicates things is I am also an adoptee. I am scared but also optimistic, I already integrate things you speak of just to exist, but now I am ready to find and hug the inner child, the real me.
Thank you❤️
Edit: 25 year marriage, 10+ yrs of toxic hell
You can do this. I pray and wish you growth, self-love, healing, self-respect, and an enjoyment in being alone and deep peace. How are things now? Sending you good energy. ❤
Hi, thanks for reaching out, still not out of the woods, but the light is visible at the end of the tunnel. 2025 will see me moving into my own apartment, treating myself to a new car, and focusing on finding out who I am and what brings me contentment. Still a work in progress.
@curiousrooster you got this!!! Keep going!!!
I was in an abusive relationship and my ex screamed anger and blamed me for everything it tore me down I gave her a place to stay thought it would help, it just made things worst she wanted me to chase her and be intimate even though i was discussed at the situation I had enough so I finally left, after she got physical and started breaking things and hitting mental and physical abuse is real, it almost cost me my life she would threaten me and I started self destructing blinded wanted to feel, its been a month and I think I have PTSD from it sleepless nights, I'm also 1 month sober.. getting my energy back and self caring by avoiding all the people and mutual friends just got rid of everyone, we are not alone ❤
How are you now? I'm at the point of your writing. Strangely, I feel she is the victim, and is saying I would be the abuser.
I wish you well❤
Thank You for this video. With 6 years of Toxic Abusive Relationship and Abuse to Forget.Healing since 3 months
We got this stay strong 💪 only love you need is yourself
I was in an abusive marriage for over 20 years. I've been divorced for almost 4. I'm still struggling
Todd, you're right. You don't have to be in war to have battle scars, visible or invisible to others. Unfortunately, by extension, you can be a family member of someone who is deployed, returns and mistreats you. Yes, there can be manipulation, dishonesty, and other toxic behaviors which can leave the military spouse or child confused and depressed. TY for recognizing that the real battle znd pain may be at home.
She keeps pulling me back in and I can't get away, my mind keeps getting pulled back to her... feeling like she's the only person who will ever love me, who ever could love someone like me.
Same I love her I want the best for us both
@Psalms1211-8 that's the best thing you can hope for in relationships like this. A lot of the time the impetuous of one person's well being is put on the other, but as a famous Antlers song said about toxic relationship, "That burdens not on you, some patients can't be saved"
My heart goes out to you and I pray that you're filled with peace
Same!
True love is not control but freedom
I broke into tears watching this. This Month the night of the 5th, my now ex-Girlfriend and her guy friend beat me like a dog. Left me with an acute concussion, bruising all over my body, etc. I am struggling everyday. I have cried everyday since, and I don’t know how to overcome this. This is the quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever done. To go from thinking you are loved to beaten in one night and then have your bank account drained by her, dog stolen by her, and everything in-between, I am at such a loss in life. I feel like I have no real purpose. This is so hard…..
🙏🏾 very sorry to hear this, no one deserves that
I'm am sorry to hear this has happened to you. Please keep your head up
I've been in a relationship with someone I have an 18 month old baby with.
December 10th, I was sent to the hospital by ambulance because he beat my head so hard with his fist I had to get 8 stitches. My foot is still bruised over a year later on top from where he punched my foot while I was pregnant. I've been strangled and hit only a month after an emergency C-section to give birth to our child.
That is just to name a few of the things I've went through with this man.
Not to mention the verbal abuse. The cheating and the lies.
And I stayed....
One memory that stays with me amongst many others.
Is
As I was gushing blood down my face all over my glasses and all over my dress blood all over the floor.
As I was begging him to call an ambulance because I thought I was about to die.
He was very calm when he told me I was overreacting and needed to calm down.
I pray everyday.
And I will pray for you.
Maybe say a little prayer for me to🌺🌿
I feel totally stuck. I've been through prolonged domestic violence. I'm over six years free after relocating, but after being assaulted literally countless times, even having to go to A&E on one occasion, after a particularly horrendous night, I'm still having flashbacks, breaking down in floods of tears on a regular. It's like the trauma is hardwired into my head now. I also have M.E and Fibromyalgia.
Very sorry. If you are in the US, your state probably has a domestic violence agency with resources.
Hey ,by reading through these messages I felt like maybe leaving an answer to what is helping me could give you a direction what to search for …
The trauma IS hardwired into your brain but there are ways to rewire it
What helped me (it’s a long process though )
Is somebody doing a mix of kinesiology,emdr
Psychological reversal
And acupressure
With this technique you can not only find out what is wrong programmed in your body from the abuse but you can slowly change the programs ,remove all of the feelings ,situations and beliefs that are stuck in your body
It slowly takes away all these noises in your brain
And all of the feelings that keep you stuck
Sending love and I am sorry for everyone who has to go through this experience
Was in an abusive relationship for 1 year. Entered at the highest point in my life and now I’m emotionally crippled and dysfunctional
I was in a marriage and relationship for 12 years. Very toxic. Very abusive. It’s not even been two years since my divorce. I don’t have support. No friends. No family. I try to love myself, but it is very hard.
It's not much for me to say but- I'm proud of ya. I hope you found love for yourself, and I hope you continue to search for support. You're a brave soul.
I just got out of a very physically and emotionally abusive relationship. It was textbook abusive, she would make me feel worthless, shame me for wanting to feel loved or valued, "validated", very physically abusive ( i never laid a finger on her), told me ill never find love and she was the best thing that ever happto me, and i deserve to cry myself to sleep. We have a 1 year old son, whom she wants nothing to do with. And unfortunately it wasnt even me that ended the relationship. She left me while i was in treatment for the guy she cheated on me with. My whole idea of being a family when i got better sent flying out the window. Now i am just left confused, and alone. I dont know what to do. My son is all that matters to me and i will be the best father i can to him. He deserves that. Especially aince his mom doesn't want to be a mother. Her exact words.
Im very confused and i don't know what to do or how to start healing from all this. Why the f..k am i posting all of this on a youtube comment, i dont know. God help me.
I was also in a relationship with a toxic person....and it's mentally destroyed me, I purely honestly loved him and his behaviour was so confusing at one time he act like he loves me and instant he react like i m the most hateable person for him. He abused me alot even he threat me he will kill me whenever he see me by mistake 😢......after 2 years of relationship he said he was just experiencing and discovering about girls and now he want to marry someone else girl.....i chased him alot 😢 I don't know why i lost my self respect just to want his love back like we first met 😢.....i m so disturbed about my emotional and mentally health.....
I love your short videos they are full of practical and positive messages. Thank you.
Your a legend mate! I tell you why before I want he'd ur video blog I was very scared where my mind body and spirit I side my body I long and truely lived for after 4 years of trauma having to listen to you and hear from someone else no one ever told me when I was well before trauma if in life I was on track or no one never ever complimented as a women and single mother to 5 beautiful children when I worked for years no one complimented for it not once even tho I worked at a very young I knew then and now and how to heal was to think what was reality is telling me with your video guidence and listening to you. Not excepting PTSD or trauma is who you are as a person when knowing I felt to heal was my body is still adjusting by trauma back in 2021 incident letting exceptance and say I won't let that define me of what happened putting myself down like abuser say to me I had become what I hated in life that's is not I wanted to feel everyday and to stop thinking like abuser!
Same. The hardest part was to not think the way abuser think. 😢 i normalized their way of thingking for some reason. And it's bad
Thank you, Todd! 🎧🙏💜
Thank you 🙏 this is so beautiful 😍 and your voice is so calming and perfect for this topic it’s very healing itself 💚 I grew up in a very abusive family environment, I got sexually abused etc and of course with all these traumas I attracted more abusive people into my life until the day I claimed my worth and said NO MORE. I have never looked back since and I am on my healing journey doing the work every day and learning to fully love myself 💖
Just in Time! Thanks my brother from Lima Perú ❤
I was in an abusive relationship with my partner of two years,
I felt everything in this video and i didnt know who i was
Now I'm scared to trust any relationship. I'm healing myself and i found God, I'm a lot more happy now but i still have flashbacks from those two years, it's been at least a week since I went away
That’s good be strong don’t let it become 10 years
Thank you for this I was spiraling before I watched your video now I’m able to breathe and I can start focusing on a task now ❤
Wow..really good video..very helpful and informative
It was only just under 2 years but im petrified to talk to men now. I cant take a joke anymore and i cant forgive myself for putting myself in danger
You are not alone. I feel the same way
Thank you Todd.❤
Excellent video! Thank you!
Very helpful
. Thank you so much! ❤️
I needed to hear this
im stillj trying to escape, starting run out of options of how to, but this video helps give somehope for when ido
Thank you❤
this is such an important topic, and I really appreciate how you approached it with sensitivity. honestly, I sometimes wonder if people overuse the term PTSD, especially in the context of relationships. I get that trauma is real, but not every difficult experience translates to PTSD, right? it just seems like it cheapens the term for those who truly suffer from it. what do you think?
Love ur videos.
Thank you.
Gratitude ❤
Thank you
I'm still struggling to break away from it... 18years, perhaps it's too late and I should just wait here
It is never too late ❤ Don't lose hope 🙏 I left after 10 years.
Thank u!❤
My Problem is that I can’t let him go. He is now in Jail but i still see the good in him and miss him. He’s good deep down, he was just heavily abused his whole life, he always had it hard. It’s so hard to get over it. Does somebody know how to get over it? I could really use some help
A person having a hard life is not an excuse for them to give someone else a hard life, many people are abused most of them don’t turn into abusers. Time is precious and life is short don’t waste either waiting for someone to change
Look into trauma Bond. You may be in one.
What if he doesn’t blame. Is there better hope on him changing?
I don’t even recognize myself anymore
I just got out of domestic violence just today.I’m so lucky that I was alive.My body is still scared and I don’t know when can I happy again.
All this start because I don’t want to do only fan video on porn site and he forced me to do it
I ran away three times and now this time I really escaped….
I want to feel happy again really bad
I was trying to heal till I got to Melton and feel very isolated and now I’m suffering something different 😢 I don’t think people believe suffered a violent pass they think I’m using the system, I’m suffering it even more, I wish I could exercise, I got charged in LD and paying a debt I’m bullied in this area and made to feel more isolated.so I can’t really exercise as I feel uncomfortable unwanted and bullied
Thank u
People are not dumb they’re heartless
I’m only here for my family and then I’ll leave to Nz for good and I cannot wait I refuse to stay here
No time is late, my is 21 yrs. Free urself from bondage
Now but omg it was a nightmare
dear todd .. i am just wondering .. if you are an INFJ .. please reply .. tq
I love you
I love you, too.
Men get abused to
Mine was mutually abusive but just as damaging
What could you have gained?!!!