A surprise extra upload this week! Like I said in the video, I really want to hear your thoughts on this one - I hope we can start a conversation about all things motherhood and parenting and being a modern woman ❤️ Also, do you like this casual sit-down kind of video? Let me know if you want more like this... I know it's been a while!
Valeria- this was truly amazing to hear. Seriously. You have no idea how much this means to me. I'm 26, not a mom. Single. But God has confirmed that I'm already a mother. I know one day my moment will arrive and I will be a wife and mother. You are well spoken and you are doing well. Love you so much ♡
I love this video, everything about it! especially that you addressed the younger girls that watch you 💯 let's talk sleep deprivation ladies...2years in and I can alwayssssssssss take a nap at anytime if I'm able too. lol funny but not funny you know 😂😩
"Never judge another mother".....so damn true!!!!! Nobody knows her story and her reasons. With so much happening in her life, the last thing she wants is judgement from others. You are doing an incredible job Valeria💖 and the love that you get from Gary and your kids is the proof.... 🎉YOU GO GIRL🎉
You remember me of my mother, 4 girls at 31, and always working as a doctor, she never stop working because she loves it. We grew up with nannys too and I have such respect for the sucess she build for her self. Right now as a grew up women I have the example of a mother who loves us deeply but love herself too. I cant see another better way to live as a comtemporary woman. Thank you Valeria!
I was a young mother too. I too had moved a lot and long distances. I had graduated from high school at 16 years old so when I had my 1st baby at 21 years old, I had already been an adult, paying rent, etc, for 5 years. Six years later I had my 2nd baby, then 2 years later my third, then I had my 4th & 5th very close together. For the younger ladies that you are inspiring; desiring to have a baby comes to different women at different ages, or to some, never at all. But you should be YOU. I love Valeria & her family but you don’t have to copy her. She is beautiful and I can see why you are inspired. Having 5 children myself I can say it’s THE hardest thing I ever did in my life but also the most fulfilling thing I ever did. Bob Dylan said, “I try so hard to be just who I am, but everybody wants you, to be just like them.” I don’t think Valeria is trying to create a giant army of young mothers. She is being herself and please be yourself. Motherhood is a huge responsibility but again, very fulfilling. It will change your life forever to have a child. Valeria is pulling this off with much grace, humour, and honesty.
Valeria, i don’t think there is another RUclipsr that puts so much work and time into reading and replying to each subscriber’s comment! Even with 3 kids, husband and work, you still take the time to interact with your subscribers. You are special and amazing and we can feel how genuine and kind you are! We love you 💖💖💖💖💖 congratulations for 800k, I’ll not be surprised if you’ll reach 1 million subscribers in one week, cause you are Wonder Woman !
Her staff of six people, who are working for her channel, are answering the comments. And they delete comments that are pointing this out, like this one right here ;) There was a job description where it was mentioned. And on top of that she has a night nurse for her newborn, nannies, a cook and a driver. So not really the hard-working, so relatable girl-boss-mom she likes to portray.
I'm 24 and single but there's just something in your personality that draws people especially women in different age groups and walks in life. Thanks to RUclips's recos, I found your channel last night. In just a short span of time, I can really see how raw and honest you are. Love your parenting together with Gary, your dynamics, your words of wisdom in all of the videos... There's just always something new to realize and learn in each video. Thank you for being you ❤️❤️❤️
I think it’s so admirable how you do it! Especially how you don’t give up your own life for your children. My mother is the sweetest most self-less person in the world, but it makes me sad to see how much of herself she has given up for my own and my brother’s sake.
I have so much to say to this topic. I am not a mum, I am 26 years old girl. When I have started to watch Valeria (ages ago, years ago) I won't lie I slightly judge that she had nannies.I was wrong. Honestly I feel to not have nannies is slightly old school in Europe. I saw my friends my sister , being mother is hard and challenging. I am guarantee all those mamas who judge to have nannies because they cannot afford it and if they could they would have it too. I will not lie I believe if I have a baby I would love to have nanny too maybe not all days but to have time with my partner. Most mothers forget about theirselfs making them to have depression and unhappiness but there is always solution to everything. Valeria is example to that. You can see she is not perfect (but who is it? ) and her kids still love her from stars till the moon and kind and happy and healthy.
I am a 34 year old Greek woman trying to be a mama... even though you are much younger you seem to me so mature... congratulations!!!! I still don't have a kid but God knows what to do with each person separately! You are so inspiring and a great example on what a mother would I like to be! Thank you !!
I don’t have kids yet and I’m older than you, but I really relate to you & find a lot of inspiration & motivation in your advice, Saving this in my playlist for when I need to hear it again. ♥️ Love your family! :) Btw my boyfriend & I do talk about future kids a lot and something that I really adapted as a great mindset & that I want to be my “rule” is something you said in one of your older videos. You said that your relationship with Gary comes first. And I know it is controversial to even say it, because “you’re a mum, your kids should come first” - but I think a lot of failed marriages and broken kids come from homes where a mum puts them before anything else. Versus when you still put your husband first and you show kids that mommy&daddy love eachother, and them, and show them you’re a team & a united front, that teaches them so much more and makes them stronger and also more loving. So that’s something I will definitely strive to do with my family one day.
I absolutely second your and Valeria’s thoughts on this one... your partner is your PARTNER before a father to your children 👶🏻, he will be with u forever unlike your babies who will at some point have a life of their own... let’s show some love & attention towards our soulmate’s...xx themavenlifestyle.com
Aakansha Shewakramani agreed. Ofc there’s nothing like the love for you children (just guessing cuz I would DIE for my dog 😂) but I feel like putting your relationship and yourself first can really benefit the family.
Wise words as always. I think as mothers that none of us actually have a clue what we are about when we have a baby. We muddle along doing the best we can and if we can get them to eighteen still alive that is to be celebrated...lol. It is as simple as that. Men do no pressurise each other in this area in the way that women seem to. In our insecurity we hunt for mothering gurus, we gang up on other mothers in herds to try and make ourselves feel better. It demeans us all. I am mother of adults now, I am 57, and I have learned that our individual instincts should guide us as Mum's. Not books, not peer pressure or societal pressure.... just love and our God given instinct. Because we know when something is wrong with our child. We know when something is right despite all appearance. We need to support and and celebrate each other as Mum's in all our varied ways. I support and celebrate your mothering style, Valeria. Your children and husband are blessed to have you. :]
Valeria, your are so so wise. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences, you are such an important human and a fantastic role model for young women. You’re warm heart and fierceness as a working mom and wife is absolutely incredible and transcends. At 16 years old, I have found another amazing, inspiring woman to look up to and help me on my way to becoming the woman I want to be. Thank you!!!
I hate when we judge each other as women if you want to work and not have kids great! if you are a working mom great and if you are a stay home mom great! we can do anything as long as we do it with love dedication and respect all is well
An excellent video explaining why you are different to other 'young' mums in that you are well-travelled etc. That does change a person. I got married at 22, met my husband at 21 and he is 8 years older than me, but I knew the same as you, that with his maturity we could grow together. For different reasons we didn't have kids, but that doesn't mean I don't watch or enjoy videos with kids in them - your children have been brought up to be kind; you can see the love between Ben and Jake and how quick they are to say thank you for an outing or to share with you. That's success.
You are so darn right about teen years. Even the wisest of parents get their butts handed back to them by their teens on a regular basis! Great video. 💓
I feel like even if you come off as someone who is strong and dosent care about people's thoughts and criticism, I think that lately it has affected you because you seem to talk about it alot and seem to feel the need to validate and explain things. All i'm trying to say is that people will always have opinions, including myself. Its so easy to criticize from a computer screen, because no one actually knows you, we just know you from a screen, so it's ridiculous that people criticize this much about your life! People should not be judging, but people always will. So I truly think that, Valeria ,if your feeling's were hurt by people's thoughts and messages, just let it go. Man you have 800K followers, in those followers there are pleeeenty of judgy people but they are still going to continue watching your content. why? because its good. It's real, its interesting, you're beautiful, you have good style, people look up to you, so just keep on doing what you're doing. You're doing great.
I think it’s also thoughts she produces and explains to herself as well, like how she used to compare herself and other mothers, or herself with her own mother, and empower her own growth outside of motherhood
You are the dream mother. I'm from Turkey and I'm 25. Didn't married and haven't got kids but you are a figure for me. And Gary too. Thank you for being so open and honest to us. There are too many mothers that have to hear from you! Just keep going who you are. We love you!
Valeria really has a talent for engaging the audience. I would usually fast forward or skip these types of sit down and talk videos but for her I always end up being so engaged and listening through the whole thing!
As for being a modern woman and momma at the same time, I commend you for keeping everything in your sleeves. Knowing that you cannot really control every single thing but always remember that I'm proud of you and your changes and improvements.❤ I'm learning so much from you. By the way, we're 10years apart but it seems like you are a virtual best friends to us, your extended family.🤗😍
I loved the casual sit-down! I can't wait for more! As a mother-to-be, as well as a new professional in the work force, it means a lot to watch someone succeed at "having it all," so to speak. I grew up watching my mother be a wonderful stay-at-home mother and work for my dad's business and help him bring all of his and my sister and my dreams into fruition. However, as soon as it didn't work out between them, I also had to watch her get left with virtually nothing. She has since built herself up from nothing after all of that, but it was hard to watch and be emotionally depended on so heavily as a kid who couldn't actually help make things better for her. One thing that you have said that really resonated with me is that your relationship with Gary is an equal priority to taking care of your kids. I want my kids to learn how a healthy, complementary relationship can look, because I had absolutely no examples growing up of what that looked like. I had to go through a lot of relationships and a lot of heartache and even then, once I found my "soulmate" I still almost lost him because I just wasn't sure what was expected of me, how to fight constructively, how to make my feelings known in a healthy fashion, etc. Luckily, my man is very patient and I'm a fast learner, but I want my kids to not have to struggle with that the way I have. (Not to say I want to live my life solely for my man, I still put my own happiness and self fulfillment first, because no one can give me those things besides myself)
This is kinda off topic, but I think it’d be so nice if you did a language video, speaking all of the languages you speak. Then you’d talk about your journey with each language and how you keep up with them. 😀
It is clear that you’re an amazing mother. Your kids seem so sweet and full of love. I love the way they interact with you and each other. It’s lovely ❤️
Love this sit down video! So real and authentic💕 I'm not a mother and don't even know if I want kids but you are so inspiring and real. How you show the good and bad side of motherhood is very eye opening for me...and honestly takes away the fear of motherhood I have engraved in me so deeply. I grew up with a single mother who was miserable and hearing your story of running your own business and being mother who gets to express themselves makes me less scared to have my own family.haha I hope that made sense😊
nowhere near being a mother but I really admire your parenting strategies and I admire you as a businesswomen, mother, and overall human being. thank you to you and your team for being great role models!
I can relate so much to the challenge of having an older dad. My dad was 56 when I was born, and he’s 15 years older than my mom. I often felt like he wasn’t willing to give up his own ways, and I had to learn how to be tolerant and understand that he wouldn’t essentially change some of his characteristics. Honestly that made me a really understanding and more mature kid. Loved the video, as always! Congratulations for 800K. 👏🏻💕😀✨
This is so beautiful. I am just a mom of one but that transition of having 0 to 1 is the hardest. I am trying to be the best mom I can be and I have mom guilt sometimes and feel so selfish for being selfish for even the tiniest things. I love how to stated how our moms said they have raised us all and how they did everything alone. The times have changed, we don't want to be miserable and deal with everything they dealt with. I want to be there for my child as much as possible but also take out time for myself and know that I have not lost myself completely as a mother. I want to achieve much more in life and show my child that I have achieved all of it while being a strong mom. ❤
Young moms/New moms need to hear this!! Noone told me these things when my kids were young and my life became so different. The mom guilt was so so tough. You almost made me cry during this video. Thank you. ❤️
I have a family of 7 including myself (my parents , 4 siblings and I). Growing up as the eldest, I've always had complaints that my mother didn't give me the attention that I thought I deserved. I didn't understand what motherhood really is, and now I'm 21 and watching this video. I feel guilty as a child, I should have given my mother the attention too. It must have been hard for her since she was and still is a working woman. Thank you for opening my eyes Valeria, what an inspiration :) God bless xx
I looove your parenting philosophy. You're wise beyond your years and already were when Gary met you; that's why you two are such a good team. You're very mature and have been since, like, 19, which is why you were prepared to take on raising a child while still being a kid yourself. (And also the reason why your friend said you talk like you're old haha.) Because of all this, I'm glad to hear you don't beat yourself up anymore and stopped the guilt trip. You ARE the modern mother and the modern woman. Thank you for this transparent sit-down and of course I want more! I love you ❤ I hope to meet you and your whole family and team one day 😊 Lots of love 😘
You are incredibly wise and centered, there is this peace about you and I am so happy you share that it took getting to know yourself, prioritizing yourself, and working on yourself. I feel so grateful for your videos. 🥰 thank you for being so real.
I love your channel because I had my daughter at 23 and my son at 25 and my family and marriage dynamic is very similar to yours so I feel like I can relate to you so much. Your content inspires me and reminds me to take care of myself too. I too used to judge other moms and knew what I definitely would NOT do, and boy was I in for a treat when I actually had my kids and I’m nothing like the mom I thought I would be. Thanks for always being open and honest, even with people constantly judging, you always stay true to yourself.
I can understand when a woman can talk about how she wants to raise her kids in comparison to other moms before actually being a mother. But you inspire us girls to do it how we think is best by us and our partners and that’s something rarely given and I love you for that. And ofcourse everything else about you! Keep strong ❤️❤️❤️
I love all your content but videos like these are my absolute favorites. It's like getting advice from a big sister I don't have. So organic and truthful, thank you for uploading such wonderful and encouraging content. Truly a reenergizing channel.
This was beautiful. The mum guilt is soooo real. I was a full time stay at home mum with my daughter who's 5 now, and now my son who is 2, I am studying and he is in daycare a couple of days a week. I have so much guilt for not doing all the playgroups etc with him and basically just having other things occupying my mind but you are so right that it is like experiencing different motherhoods and I want to be the fullest and best version of me for them!!
I could listen to you all day. Every video you upload, whether it is a vlog, beauty or just talking to ''us'' like this feels so uplifting and positive. A very big hug from Spain
It’s amazing listening to you I’m 23 me and my husband we’re 18 years apart too and I have two kids.i love watching you cause I feel like talking to someone who has same experience as me..
I just found you by accident and had never heard of you but for some odd reason I found this video inspirational and so true to kind person I am and I don’t have any children and older than you. You have a wonderful head on your shoulders. Keep growing and inspiring you.. the better person you are the better mommy and wife you become.. thank you so much for sharing!
Love this so much! Nothing separating or judging, but positivity, encouragement to be strong, and honesty. It is so hard to be a woman in job, in the shiny social media world, with family, doing it all without losing oneself. I will carry your words with me, especially as my husband and i seem to be on a breakthrough with adoption these days.
I'm kind of stuck between wanting kids and also being scared away from having them. I talked with an older women whom I admire and respect a lot. She said this: "Motherhood is always made out to be so wonderful and glamorous - and don't get me wrong, it IS wonderful - but it is so hard. There comes a point when your children grow up and you see them making bad choices and getting hurt, and you want to help them but you can't. You have to let go, and it's very, very hard."
My mom is a working mom and she works so so hard to give me and my brother a comfortable life. Yes we grew up with nannies but we never felt like mom’s not giving us enough love and attention. Jake, Ben and Max will grow up to be very thankful for their mama and papa ❤️
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU. so many of my friends are mothers and I see the challenges they face. Tons of guilt etc. and just not self fulfilling themselves. I have always seen you as a role model because you value family, your relationship with your husband, but especially with yourself. Having you in my life will prepare me that much more for when I am going through it all. We're the same age and I am so at awe with your hard work and attitude.
Hi Valeria - I’ve been watching your videos since you only had 60k followers and have never commented before, but I wanted to let you know what an inspiration you are to me. I am 26 and got engaged 3 weeks ago. People keep telling me I’m too young to get married and start a family, I’m gonna ruin my career (I work in advertising), etc., but you’ve shown me that I can have it all. This is the path that my future husband and I have chosen for ourselves joyfully and I’m excited for what’s to come. I want to thank you for helping me get to this moment and for all that you do to inspire us. I hope one day we can meet in person so that I can give you a big hug! 💕
I don't have kids yet, but both me and my partner want to have full careers and a family at the same time. We often watch your videos together and both you and Gary and the way you balance work and family life are very inspiring to us because it lets us know that it's not only achievable but comes with great rewards too. For instance, like you said, you both get time together and your children are very bright and aware of themselves and the world. I think it's great to be brought up in a working household and can only hope that me and my partner's to-be family is as beautiful as yours. Thankyou both ! x
I totally get you! I grew up my whole life with a nanny in my household since both my parents work. But I never felt like I wasn’t given enough love and in fact my nanny is a great friend of mine and I have immense respect for my girl boss mum!!!!!! keep doing you Valeria, you’re doing great :)))))
You're literally the only youtuber I follow. So genuine and HONEST and refreshing. Would love to hear about how you discipline your kids. Do you use timeouts? What parenting books have helped you the most? You know you've reached a great balance when you have such a beautiful relationship with your kids and work so hard. Great video!!
Right now I'm a sixteen year old girl who always had a "stay at home maman". She is a very kind and caring person and an amazing mom! Now that my sister are older she wants to go back to work and still do all the chores that she always did and be as present in our life as before. I find it kind of sad that she is feeling restrained by us, her (kind of grown up) children. I believe that she has the right to make her self feel good and have as much fun as she wants and deserve. To see a mother like you, Valeria, who takes time for her, her husband ans her carrer as well as being a fabulous mother with absolutely adorable little gentlemen is very inspiring and very refreshing. The way that you seem so relax about giving maybe less time than other mother to your beautiful children kind of triggered me to see more of how you did with your family. It made me realize that to have a passionate mother can be very empowering and just makes every little moments with your family more special, more unique. I think it was time for mother to have their own life and not let family take it all away from because you are still the same person as before! Thank you so much Valeria ❤️ xxx PS: Congrats for your 800K! You totally deserve it😚
I'm not a mom neither am I a mom-to-be but I'm always amazed at how driven you are as an individual and how you push yourself further to juggle with so many tasks on hand. You optimized my view on myself and everything on hands and shown me that it's not about bashing myself up because I'm not good at one point. I'm so thankful for learning all this tips and life lessons from you! Cheers Valeria, keep going and I'm proud of you 😊🤘🏻💯♥️
I'm 25, finishing Medical University, so I am a 'doctor to be' in a year. Watching this, I'm so sorry I don't have kids right now, because I feel like I am going to have exactly the same 'mind struggles' like you. I hope I'll remember to watch these videos when the time comes. 😊 We don't do the same kind of a job, but we both are very enthusiastic about our work. I am such a workaholic, I prioritise my work and my ambition right now. I hope I'll be like you. The thing I like about you the most is that you try so hard to keep your integrity and self respect even when you are overwhelmed with negativity and everyday struggles. That's what makes you superior. And that's what keeps me coming back. Since I am commenting almost on a daily basis 😂, I wish you and your team a great day. ❤
This was so raw and real and it’s something I really needed to hear this week! Thank you so much for everything that you do! As a young Mum (I’m 24 but also had my baby at 23) I find myself caught in the middle of wanting to be a stay at home Mum and also wanting to build a career. The way you reflect on parenting and motherhood inspires me so much! Feeling your love all the way in South Africa 💗💗💗
This video is your best yet! I’m so proud of you and so empowered by you and what you said about wanting it all! It’s true we are all different but I think as mothers (I’m a single mom of two 11/16) we have one thing in common which is we want to do our best raising our children but also want to live our lives. Times have changed and I do think the best we can do for them is to balance!, show them we accomplished things even though we are parents , give them love and time. I recently graduated college. After so many years I went back and succeeded. They watched me get my diploma on stage and it was honestly the best experience with them to date! They were so proud yelling out mamas name as they called my name. It is a great example that mom works full time and went to school and still managed to give them affection. All we can do is pray we get it right ☺️ love to you and all the mamas!
Im not a married woman and i dont have any kids either but watching you and your family it makes see the beautiful things about being a mom and a wife i mean You are like as the head of the family for them , nothing will be completed without you 💙
Omg ! This video !!! Valeria,thank you!!! This is the way that we adopted too - mom & dad always being on the same page ! About the books,the children’s voice and about the phases they go through... it’s just how it happens in real life !!! We just have to be around the corner every day ! Just love the way you talked this video from start to bottom!! 🎉🎄
Hi Valeria, you know, what is really good and inspiring for me is that you sound very sure, mature and deliberate about what you are saying and what you have experienced. What is also elevating is the fact that you are constant in your approach no matter what others may tell even if they may be right in some places - like you said, there is always be the area that you suck in when you play many roles in life. Keep it up, wish you growth and all the best.
It is so wonderful that you take so much time with reading comments and listening to your followers. I feel so disconnected from other RUclipsrs and what makes you stand out, and I think what will ensure the longevity of your channel, is that you connect with us. And it's like you are my friend in Canada, and I love tuning in to see you :) Thank you for sharing! Love from South Africa
You are an old soul like me! there is this kind of people that have instinctive wisdom, those that learn on the first mistake they don't get lost in regret and they don't repeat mistakes.
I relate to you SO much. When I used to live in Toronto I had just had my first son, trying to have some time away from him to walk around queen and was leaving urban outfitters and you were coming in. You were pregnant and I could tell you were young, only because I was literally dying to find another young mom in the city I took note of you. I even thought you had to be a model. I’m so shy so obviously I wouldn’t go up to another person trying to make a friend lol I have a photographic memory so I remember your face and years later found you on RUclips! My husband is much older than me as well, also running his own business, so I have ALSO been living a life ahead of my years, also with three children! I look forward to all of your videos when you talk about your life. You tell it like it is and I love how it makes me feel not as alone in this journey of family life 💗
Sometimes I forget that I don’t know you personally because through your vlogs I’ve really come to regard you as a friend so the Gary age difference I was like “What? Why didn’t I know this?!” I think that’s a testimony of how you are as an influencer and person. I feel very connected to your story as a mother and woman so thank you for your hard work and your videos.
I can't believe how inspiring and positive you are. Every video gives me so much more confidence and motivation to seek greatness. Such a wonderful woman. Love you lots from Montreal xx
OMG, that was so on point! Although i don't have the kids yet (i'm almost 27), I really like, that times are changing and, like you said - becoming a mom isn't the only way of spending your life, you can do so much more - and that philosophy is so empowering and inspiring. Thank you, I love these kind of videos.
Great message for modern day mothers. Nowadays, for a lot of families, being a a stay-at-home mother is not, economically speaking, an option. Also, some mothers might want to pursue other goals for their lives. It should be ok for mamas to work and run their business and not feel guilty or be judged for it. Valeria, the love for your family overflows in your videos and your an example that you CAN DO BOTH (mama and business women) AND BE GREAT AT IT.
Just wanted to say I discovered your channel recently, during my first pregnancy and your videos are my fav thing to watch while breastfeeding 😆 I love your energy and your down-to-earthness. Xoxos from fellow Croatian mom vlogger ❤️
Valeria, I think it's SO AMAZING that you are looking further than discipline and letting them have a voice. I don't have children but my bro was 14 years younger than I am and I was such a discipline freak. I'm glad he turned out to be quite a young man and still have his own voice, thank God. haha! You have such a beautiful old soul and I want to give you a hug for all the mom guilt that shouldn't have a place in your life. BIG HUGS!
I think it's great that you touched upon how important it is to also live your life and become your own person before starting this motherhood journey. It can easily look like 'goals' from the outside, but maybe, probably, the experience would be totally different if you did not have the life journey that you did before all of this unfolded. These videos are very enjoyable AND helpful, keep them coming 🤗
You make me more open minded about what my future might hold, and not so hung up on the ‘right’ time to do things - who even decides what the ‘right’ time is?! you’re teaching me to embrace whatever comes for me as I move through my early 20s
So many good tips in this video, applies to keeping your life from falling apart too, 'embrace the chaos and breathe deeply' - i need this on my coffee mug!
Valeriaaaa 💕 You're a great inspiration for me, you give me a lot of motivation to keep up and stay positive. One day when I was watching your Instagram stories my boyfriend sat down next to me and told me that you looked like you were going to cry in any second. I told him that you're going through a lot, just gave birth, etc. Then I saw this video and noticed that your facial expressions really show that you're overwhelmed, especially compared to your younger self in the other video made on the same topic. I know that growing your business is a priority for you now, but as a follower of yours I just want to make sure that you have time for yourself and your beautiful family as well. I am absolutely obsessed with your content, but I truly hope that you're gonna rest in the end of the year and not gonna do vlogmas because it can all get stressful without that anyways and we want you to be happy. Take care, have some rest and keep it up. We love you 👆💕
In vídeos we can tell how great of work you’re both doing with your kids. They’re happy and smart, and they love you so much we can feel it. I know it would never be perfect, and it’s okay if it isn’t. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are AMAZING❤️
We need more videos like that. I adore you Valeria. I adore the freedom & consciousness you give to your children but also us. Great tips for a 23 years old girl. Have a great day! ❤️❤️❤️
I don't have kids but still think that your message is so important especially for moms who feel guilty to continue their own lives and for all that people who judge women if they don't forget their own dreams and needs after giving birth
I admire your sincerity so much, how you keep it real and at the same time remaining so beautiful and so, so graceful with all that goes on around you, it's amazing. Congratulations on your wonderful, happy family and thank you for sharing your life for people all around the world to admire and love.
Hey Valeria, I admire your approach on taking on at the moment those ''challenging'' traits that you see on your kids (~5:40) that however you see as good for them to have later in life, and on focusing on kindness and individual-self-development. Respect and go girl! 😎❤️✨
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Valeria!! I often have no words for your videos because you do so well something that is uniquely human, you tell your story. A true story. That is rare and inspiring and powerful, so thank you.
Hi. I think you're doing an amazing job. Sometimes things just get hectic, it's really nice to see a young, strong woman doing so much, but still taking time to be herself. I'm not a mother, but it's lovely to watch. You really empower me to be a better daughter, friend and person. Thank you for inspiring me and many others.❤
I'm loving this and your approach to the subject. You have a very mature outlook on your children's upbringing and your marriage. The true picture of your and Gary's loving relationship with your kids is seen when you talk to them - you are their superstars! I wish nothing but the best for you and keep on the good work 😘
A surprise extra upload this week! Like I said in the video, I really want to hear your thoughts on this one - I hope we can start a conversation about all things motherhood and parenting and being a modern woman ❤️
Also, do you like this casual sit-down kind of video? Let me know if you want more like this... I know it's been a while!
Yesss we do! Such a nice vídeo. Btw congrats for the 800.000 subs! 👏🙌 u go girl! 😘 from Argentina
Valeria- this was truly amazing to hear. Seriously. You have no idea how much this means to me. I'm 26, not a mom. Single. But God has confirmed that I'm already a mother. I know one day my moment will arrive and I will be a wife and mother. You are well spoken and you are doing well. Love you so much ♡
Congrats on 800k!!!!! 💗🤘🏻💛🎉 Yasss Mama Keep it up💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 Love u always!
I loved the authenticity and "unscripted" as you said kind of video. It's very refreshing and easy to watch. Big love😘
I love this video, everything about it! especially that you addressed the younger girls that watch you 💯 let's talk sleep deprivation ladies...2years in and I can alwayssssssssss take a nap at anytime if I'm able too. lol funny but not funny you know 😂😩
"Never judge another mother".....so damn true!!!!! Nobody knows her story and her reasons. With so much happening in her life, the last thing she wants is judgement from others.
You are doing an incredible job Valeria💖 and the love that you get from Gary and your kids is the proof....
🎉YOU GO GIRL🎉
You remember me of my mother, 4 girls at 31, and always working as a doctor, she never stop working because she loves it. We grew up with nannys too and I have such respect for the sucess she build for her self. Right now as a grew up women I have the example of a mother who loves us deeply but love herself too. I cant see another better way to live as a comtemporary woman. Thank you Valeria!
Hold on can we take a moment to appreciate the most beautiful thumbnail ever😍😍such a beautiful family
Sanjeeta Choun and on some level we get to be part of it ^^ 🙌🏼
I know right? So precious!
On her payroll.
How?Her husband looks 60 wtf
I was a young mother too. I too had moved a lot and long distances. I had graduated from high school at 16 years old so when I had my 1st baby at 21 years old, I had already been an adult, paying rent, etc, for 5 years. Six years later I had my 2nd baby, then 2 years later my third, then I had my 4th & 5th very close together. For the younger ladies that you are inspiring; desiring to have a baby comes to different women at different ages, or to some, never at all. But you should be YOU. I love Valeria & her family but you don’t have to copy her. She is beautiful and I can see why you are inspired. Having 5 children myself I can say it’s THE hardest thing I ever did in my life but also the most fulfilling thing I ever did. Bob Dylan said, “I try so hard to be just who I am, but everybody wants you, to be just like them.” I don’t think Valeria is trying to create a giant army of young mothers. She is being herself and please be yourself. Motherhood is a huge responsibility but again, very fulfilling. It will change your life forever to have a child. Valeria is pulling this off with much grace, humour, and honesty.
Valeria, i don’t think there is another RUclipsr that puts so much work and time into reading and replying to each subscriber’s comment! Even with 3 kids, husband and work, you still take the time to interact with your subscribers. You are special and amazing and we can feel how genuine and kind you are! We love you 💖💖💖💖💖 congratulations for 800k, I’ll not be surprised if you’ll reach 1 million subscribers in one week, cause you are Wonder Woman !
A H you said everything 🙌🏻
thank god she got people helping her so she can interact with us😍
This is true!
Love ❤
Her staff of six people, who are working for her channel, are answering the comments. And they delete comments that are pointing this out, like this one right here ;) There was a job description where it was mentioned.
And on top of that she has a night nurse for her newborn, nannies, a cook and a driver. So not really the hard-working, so relatable girl-boss-mom she likes to portray.
@@sylvia7958 you're SOOOO jealous you can't have what she has. Too bad
I'm 24 and single but there's just something in your personality that draws people especially women in different age groups and walks in life. Thanks to RUclips's recos, I found your channel last night. In just a short span of time, I can really see how raw and honest you are. Love your parenting together with Gary, your dynamics, your words of wisdom in all of the videos... There's just always something new to realize and learn in each video. Thank you for being you ❤️❤️❤️
You’re so sweet, thank you so much for the kind words 😊
nothing like the quiet! but loud as it is, your family seems fun and loving and excited about life. being italian american.... love is loud!
always someone to look up to, valeria! thank you for using your platform to share these things ❤️
So happy to hear you like them ❤️
You should really write a book! You are so amazing!❤️
Yeah, I would definitely buy it! :)
Lia Rodriguez I second that!
i love how you speak of your approach to life, how you have huge respect and love for YOURSELF. love your honesty and attitude.
You are one of the very few people that use this platform for something good and worth it, you inspire me very much and your daily vlogs are my fav
I think it’s so admirable how you do it! Especially how you don’t give up your own life for your children. My mother is the sweetest most self-less person in the world, but it makes me sad to see how much of herself she has given up for my own and my brother’s sake.
gary doesnt look 45!!! he looks 35
Sam Rooso yes he looks really young
Exactly !
true...both look and personality, so young
I thought she was in her early 20s D= waaawwwwwwwww
Can't believe the age difference tho and Same @ClanToriador
I have so much to say to this topic. I am not a mum, I am 26 years old girl. When I have started to watch Valeria (ages ago, years ago) I won't lie I slightly judge that she had nannies.I was wrong. Honestly I feel to not have nannies is slightly old school in Europe. I saw my friends my sister , being mother is hard and challenging. I am guarantee all those mamas who judge to have nannies because they cannot afford it and if they could they would have it too. I will not lie I believe if I have a baby I would love to have nanny too maybe not all days but to have time with my partner. Most mothers forget about theirselfs making them to have depression and unhappiness but there is always solution to everything. Valeria is example to that. You can see she is not perfect (but who is it? ) and her kids still love her from stars till the moon and kind and happy and healthy.
Rasa yes us western woman act like men and women and we age fast
I am a 34 year old Greek woman trying to be a mama... even though you are much younger you seem to me so mature... congratulations!!!! I still don't have a kid but God knows what to do with each person separately! You are so inspiring and a great example on what a mother would I like to be! Thank you !!
Just be patient! God is great u arw going to be a beautiful mom! #GREEKGANG #PROUDGREEK #GODISGREAT
Congrats on 800k!..oh look now it's 801k! 😄
Keep up the good work!❤❤
I don’t have kids yet and I’m older than you, but I really relate to you & find a lot of inspiration & motivation in your advice,
Saving this in my playlist for when I need to hear it again. ♥️ Love your family! :)
Btw my boyfriend & I do talk about future kids a lot and something that I really adapted as a great mindset & that I want to be my “rule” is something you said in one of your older videos. You said that your relationship with Gary comes first. And I know it is controversial to even say it, because “you’re a mum, your kids should come first” - but I think a lot of failed marriages and broken kids come from homes where a mum puts them before anything else. Versus when you still put your husband first and you show kids that mommy&daddy love eachother, and them, and show them you’re a team & a united front, that teaches them so much more and makes them stronger and also more loving. So that’s something I will definitely strive to do with my family one day.
Hehe Maja, nice to see you love Valeria too! Isn't she amazing 😍. So are you 😘
I absolutely second your and Valeria’s thoughts on this one... your partner is your PARTNER before a father to your children 👶🏻, he will be with u forever unlike your babies who will at some point have a life of their own... let’s show some love & attention towards our soulmate’s...xx themavenlifestyle.com
omg I have a playlist for videos to watch in the future too hahah
Nalu Sousa haha the modern day “letter to my future self” 🤗♥️
Aakansha Shewakramani agreed. Ofc there’s nothing like the love for you children (just guessing cuz I would DIE for my dog 😂) but I feel like putting your relationship and yourself first can really benefit the family.
Wise words as always. I think as mothers that none of us actually have a clue what we are about when we have a baby. We muddle along doing the best we can and if we can get them to eighteen still alive that is to be celebrated...lol. It is as simple as that. Men do no pressurise each other in this area in the way that women seem to. In our insecurity we hunt for mothering gurus, we gang up on other mothers in herds to try and make ourselves feel better. It demeans us all. I am mother of adults now, I am 57, and I have learned that our individual instincts should guide us as Mum's. Not books, not peer pressure or societal pressure.... just love and our God given instinct. Because we know when something is wrong with our child. We know when something is right despite all appearance. We need to support and and celebrate each other as Mum's in all our varied ways. I support and celebrate your mothering style, Valeria. Your children and husband are blessed to have you. :]
Valeria, your are so so wise. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences, you are such an important human and a fantastic role model for young women. You’re warm heart and fierceness as a working mom and wife is absolutely incredible and transcends. At 16 years old, I have found another amazing, inspiring woman to look up to and help me on my way to becoming the woman I want to be. Thank you!!!
I hate when we judge each other as women if you want to work and not have kids great! if you are a working mom great and if you are a stay home mom great! we can do anything as long as we do it with love dedication and respect all is well
An excellent video explaining why you are different to other 'young' mums in that you are well-travelled etc. That does change a person. I got married at 22, met my husband at 21 and he is 8 years older than me, but I knew the same as you, that with his maturity we could grow together. For different reasons we didn't have kids, but that doesn't mean I don't watch or enjoy videos with kids in them - your children have been brought up to be kind; you can see the love between Ben and Jake and how quick they are to say thank you for an outing or to share with you. That's success.
You are so darn right about teen years. Even the wisest of parents get their butts handed back to them by their teens on a regular basis! Great video. 💓
I feel like even if you come off as someone who is strong and dosent care about people's thoughts and criticism, I think that lately it has affected you because you seem to talk about it alot and seem to feel the need to validate and explain things. All i'm trying to say is that people will always have opinions, including myself. Its so easy to criticize from a computer screen, because no one actually knows you, we just know you from a screen, so it's ridiculous that people criticize this much about your life! People should not be judging, but people always will. So I truly think that, Valeria ,if your feeling's were hurt by people's thoughts and messages, just let it go. Man you have 800K followers, in those followers there are pleeeenty of judgy people but they are still going to continue watching your content. why? because its good. It's real, its interesting, you're beautiful, you have good style, people look up to you, so just keep on doing what you're doing. You're doing great.
I think it’s also thoughts she produces and explains to herself as well, like how she used to compare herself and other mothers, or herself with her own mother, and empower her own growth outside of motherhood
Very true, shes an admirable character for sure
You are the dream mother. I'm from Turkey and I'm 25. Didn't married and haven't got kids but you are a figure for me. And Gary too. Thank you for being so open and honest to us. There are too many mothers that have to hear from you! Just keep going who you are. We love you!
Valeria really has a talent for engaging the audience. I would usually fast forward or skip these types of sit down and talk videos but for her I always end up being so engaged and listening through the whole thing!
Congrats for 800,000 family, Valeria! It's an honor to be a part of your growing community!🏆 More love and success!🎉🎈🎁🎂💖✨
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
As for being a modern woman and momma at the same time, I commend you for keeping everything in your sleeves. Knowing that you cannot really control every single thing but always remember that I'm proud of you and your changes and improvements.❤ I'm learning so much from you. By the way, we're 10years apart but it seems like you are a virtual best friends to us, your extended family.🤗😍
I loved the casual sit-down! I can't wait for more! As a mother-to-be, as well as a new professional in the work force, it means a lot to watch someone succeed at "having it all," so to speak. I grew up watching my mother be a wonderful stay-at-home mother and work for my dad's business and help him bring all of his and my sister and my dreams into fruition.
However, as soon as it didn't work out between them, I also had to watch her get left with virtually nothing. She has since built herself up from nothing after all of that, but it was hard to watch and be emotionally depended on so heavily as a kid who couldn't actually help make things better for her.
One thing that you have said that really resonated with me is that your relationship with Gary is an equal priority to taking care of your kids. I want my kids to learn how a healthy, complementary relationship can look, because I had absolutely no examples growing up of what that looked like. I had to go through a lot of relationships and a lot of heartache and even then, once I found my "soulmate" I still almost lost him because I just wasn't sure what was expected of me, how to fight constructively, how to make my feelings known in a healthy fashion, etc. Luckily, my man is very patient and I'm a fast learner, but I want my kids to not have to struggle with that the way I have.
(Not to say I want to live my life solely for my man, I still put my own happiness and self fulfillment first, because no one can give me those things besides myself)
This is kinda off topic, but I think it’d be so nice if you did a language video, speaking all of the languages you speak. Then you’d talk about your journey with each language and how you keep up with them. 😀
It is clear that you’re an amazing mother. Your kids seem so sweet and full of love. I love the way they interact with you and each other. It’s lovely ❤️
Love this sit down video! So real and authentic💕 I'm not a mother and don't even know if I want kids but you are so inspiring and real. How you show the good and bad side of motherhood is very eye opening for me...and honestly takes away the fear of motherhood I have engraved in me so deeply. I grew up with a single mother who was miserable and hearing your story of running your own business and being mother who gets to express themselves makes me less scared to have my own family.haha I hope that made sense😊
nowhere near being a mother but I really admire your parenting strategies and I admire you as a businesswomen, mother, and overall human being. thank you to you and your team for being great role models!
I can relate so much to the challenge of having an older dad. My dad was 56 when I was born, and he’s 15 years older than my mom. I often felt like he wasn’t willing to give up his own ways, and I had to learn how to be tolerant and understand that he wouldn’t essentially change some of his characteristics. Honestly that made me a really understanding and more mature kid.
Loved the video, as always! Congratulations for 800K. 👏🏻💕😀✨
This is so beautiful. I am just a mom of one but that transition of having 0 to 1 is the hardest. I am trying to be the best mom I can be and I have mom guilt sometimes and feel so selfish for being selfish for even the tiniest things. I love how to stated how our moms said they have raised us all and how they did everything alone. The times have changed, we don't want to be miserable and deal with everything they dealt with. I want to be there for my child as much as possible but also take out time for myself and know that I have not lost myself completely as a mother. I want to achieve much more in life and show my child that I have achieved all of it while being a strong mom. ❤
Young moms/New moms need to hear this!! Noone told me these things when my kids were young and my life became so different. The mom guilt was so so tough. You almost made me cry during this video. Thank you. ❤️
I have a family of 7 including myself (my parents , 4 siblings and I). Growing up as the eldest, I've always had complaints that my mother didn't give me the attention that I thought I deserved. I didn't understand what motherhood really is, and now I'm 21 and watching this video. I feel guilty as a child, I should have given my mother the attention too. It must have been hard for her since she was and still is a working woman. Thank you for opening my eyes Valeria, what an inspiration :) God bless xx
I looove your parenting philosophy. You're wise beyond your years and already were when Gary met you; that's why you two are such a good team. You're very mature and have been since, like, 19, which is why you were prepared to take on raising a child while still being a kid yourself. (And also the reason why your friend said you talk like you're old haha.) Because of all this, I'm glad to hear you don't beat yourself up anymore and stopped the guilt trip. You ARE the modern mother and the modern woman. Thank you for this transparent sit-down and of course I want more! I love you ❤ I hope to meet you and your whole family and team one day 😊 Lots of love 😘
You are incredibly wise and centered, there is this peace about you and I am so happy you share that it took getting to know yourself, prioritizing yourself, and working on yourself. I feel so grateful for your videos. 🥰 thank you for being so real.
I love your channel because I had my daughter at 23 and my son at 25 and my family and marriage dynamic is very similar to yours so I feel like I can relate to you so much. Your content inspires me and reminds me to take care of myself too. I too used to judge other moms and knew what I definitely would NOT do, and boy was I in for a treat when I actually had my kids and I’m nothing like the mom I thought I would be. Thanks for always being open and honest, even with people constantly judging, you always stay true to yourself.
I can understand when a woman can talk about how she wants to raise her kids in comparison to other moms before actually being a mother. But you inspire us girls to do it how we think is best by us and our partners and that’s something rarely given and I love you for that. And ofcourse everything else about you! Keep strong ❤️❤️❤️
I love all your content but videos like these are my absolute favorites. It's like getting advice from a big sister I don't have. So organic and truthful, thank you for uploading such wonderful and encouraging content. Truly a reenergizing channel.
It’s almost like you’re gaining 100,000+ subscribers a day now.
I just subscribed a while ago btw
Congrats on 800,000🎉
This was beautiful. The mum guilt is soooo real. I was a full time stay at home mum with my daughter who's 5 now, and now my son who is 2, I am studying and he is in daycare a couple of days a week. I have so much guilt for not doing all the playgroups etc with him and basically just having other things occupying my mind but you are so right that it is like experiencing different motherhoods and I want to be the fullest and best version of me for them!!
You're a force of nature and so down-to-earth and REAL. Thank you for occasionally popping in to give a reality-check.
I'm speechless, you are such an example. You approach life in such a beautiful and intelligent way.
I could listen to you all day. Every video you upload, whether it is a vlog, beauty or just talking to ''us'' like this feels so uplifting and positive. A very big hug from Spain
You help me keep my shiz together as a mama! Thankyou so much for that!
As someone who is not yet a mom it's really important to hear all of this for the future. Thank you.
It’s amazing listening to you I’m 23 me and my husband we’re 18 years apart too and I have two kids.i love watching you cause I feel like talking to someone who has same experience as me..
Congratulations on 800k subscribe 👏🏾👏🏾🎉🎉
I just found you by accident and had never heard of you but for some odd reason I found this video inspirational and so true to kind person I am and I don’t have any children and older than you. You have a wonderful head on your shoulders. Keep growing and inspiring you.. the better person you are the better mommy and wife you become.. thank you so much for sharing!
Love this so much! Nothing separating or judging, but positivity, encouragement to be strong, and honesty. It is so hard to be a woman in job, in the shiny social media world, with family, doing it all without losing oneself. I will carry your words with me, especially as my husband and i seem to be on a breakthrough with adoption these days.
I'm kind of stuck between wanting kids and also being scared away from having them. I talked with an older women whom I admire and respect a lot. She said this: "Motherhood is always made out to be so wonderful and glamorous - and don't get me wrong, it IS wonderful - but it is so hard. There comes a point when your children grow up and you see them making bad choices and getting hurt, and you want to help them but you can't. You have to let go, and it's very, very hard."
My mom is a working mom and she works so so hard to give me and my brother a comfortable life. Yes we grew up with nannies but we never felt like mom’s not giving us enough love and attention. Jake, Ben and Max will grow up to be very thankful for their mama and papa ❤️
This is so inspiring. I hope teenagers watch this and learn that having kids/parenting is not a joke.
Congrats on 800k ! So close to hitting one million subscribers ❤️
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU. so many of my friends are mothers and I see the challenges they face. Tons of guilt etc. and just not self fulfilling themselves. I have always seen you as a role model because you value family, your relationship with your husband, but especially with yourself. Having you in my life will prepare me that much more for when I am going through it all. We're the same age and I am so at awe with your hard work and attitude.
Again, congrats for 800,000 subscribers ❤️ always sending love and support from Japan 🇯🇵
Ryo Sugimoto I'm in Japan too!!!!
Andi Dean yeyyy team Japan :)
You make me look forward to being a working mom and making it all work! I love your content and am so inspired by you! Best youtuber in the game!
Hi Valeria - I’ve been watching your videos since you only had 60k followers and have never commented before, but I wanted to let you know what an inspiration you are to me. I am 26 and got engaged 3 weeks ago. People keep telling me I’m too young to get married and start a family, I’m gonna ruin my career (I work in advertising), etc., but you’ve shown me that I can have it all. This is the path that my future husband and I have chosen for ourselves joyfully and I’m excited for what’s to come. I want to thank you for helping me get to this moment and for all that you do to inspire us. I hope one day we can meet in person so that I can give you a big hug! 💕
I don't have kids yet, but both me and my partner want to have full careers and a family at the same time. We often watch your videos together and both you and Gary and the way you balance work and family life are very inspiring to us because it lets us know that it's not only achievable but comes with great rewards too. For instance, like you said, you both get time together and your children are very bright and aware of themselves and the world. I think it's great to be brought up in a working household and can only hope that me and my partner's to-be family is as beautiful as yours. Thankyou both ! x
I totally get you! I grew up my whole life with a nanny in my household since both my parents work. But I never felt like I wasn’t given enough love and in fact my nanny is a great friend of mine and I have immense respect for my girl boss mum!!!!!! keep doing you Valeria, you’re doing great :)))))
true,never judge other mother, we all doing our best raising the kids in the best way we know,hoping our kids will be good,honest people
You're literally the only youtuber I follow. So genuine and HONEST and refreshing. Would love to hear about how you discipline your kids. Do you use timeouts? What parenting books have helped you the most? You know you've reached a great balance when you have such a beautiful relationship with your kids and work so hard. Great video!!
Valeria, thank you for being so calm , logical and kind. Your kids are lucky to have you! ❤️
Right now I'm a sixteen year old girl who always had a "stay at home maman". She is a very kind and caring person and an amazing mom! Now that my sister are older she wants to go back to work and still do all the chores that she always did and be as present in our life as before. I find it kind of sad that she is feeling restrained by us, her (kind of grown up) children. I believe that she has the right to make her self feel good and have as much fun as she wants and deserve. To see a mother like you, Valeria, who takes time for her, her husband ans her carrer as well as being a fabulous mother with absolutely adorable little gentlemen is very inspiring and very refreshing. The way that you seem so relax about giving maybe less time than other mother to your beautiful children kind of triggered me to see more of how you did with your family. It made me realize that to have a passionate mother can be very empowering and just makes every little moments with your family more special, more unique. I think it was time for mother to have their own life and not let family take it all away from because you are still the same person as before! Thank you so much Valeria ❤️ xxx
PS: Congrats for your 800K! You totally deserve it😚
I'm not a mom neither am I a mom-to-be but I'm always amazed at how driven you are as an individual and how you push yourself further to juggle with so many tasks on hand. You optimized my view on myself and everything on hands and shown me that it's not about bashing myself up because I'm not good at one point. I'm so thankful for learning all this tips and life lessons from you! Cheers Valeria, keep going and I'm proud of you 😊🤘🏻💯♥️
I'm 25, finishing Medical University, so I am a 'doctor to be' in a year. Watching this, I'm so sorry I don't have kids right now, because I feel like I am going to have exactly the same 'mind struggles' like you. I hope I'll remember to watch these videos when the time comes. 😊 We don't do the same kind of a job, but we both are very enthusiastic about our work. I am such a workaholic, I prioritise my work and my ambition right now.
I hope I'll be like you. The thing I like about you the most is that you try so hard to keep your integrity and self respect even when you are overwhelmed with negativity and everyday struggles. That's what makes you superior. And that's what keeps me coming back.
Since I am commenting almost on a daily basis 😂, I wish you and your team a great day. ❤
This was so raw and real and it’s something I really needed to hear this week! Thank you so much for everything that you do! As a young Mum (I’m 24 but also had my baby at 23) I find myself caught in the middle of wanting to be a stay at home Mum and also wanting to build a career. The way you reflect on parenting and motherhood inspires me so much! Feeling your love all the way in South Africa 💗💗💗
You're such a fantastic mother! I'm incredibly moved by your words. I wish there were more people like you!
This video is your best yet! I’m so proud of you and so empowered by you and what you said about wanting it all! It’s true we are all different but I think as mothers (I’m a single mom of two 11/16) we have one thing in common which is we want to do our best raising our children but also want to live our lives. Times have changed and I do think the best we can do for them is to balance!, show them we accomplished things even though we are parents , give them love and time. I recently graduated college. After so many years I went back and succeeded. They watched me get my diploma on stage and it was honestly the best experience with them to date! They were so proud yelling out mamas name as they called my name. It is a great example that mom works full time and went to school and still managed to give them affection. All we can do is pray we get it right ☺️ love to you and all the mamas!
Im not a married woman and i dont have any kids either but watching you and your family it makes see the beautiful things about being a mom and a wife
i mean You are like as the head of the family for them , nothing will be completed without you 💙
Omg ! This video !!! Valeria,thank you!!!
This is the way that we adopted too - mom & dad always being on the same page !
About the books,the children’s voice and about the phases they go through... it’s just how it happens in real life !!! We just have to be around the corner every day !
Just love the way you talked this video from start to bottom!!
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Hi Valeria, you know, what is really good and inspiring for me is that you sound very sure, mature and deliberate about what you are saying and what you have experienced. What is also elevating is the fact that you are constant in your approach no matter what others may tell even if they may be right in some places - like you said, there is always be the area that you suck in when you play many roles in life. Keep it up, wish you growth and all the best.
It is so wonderful that you take so much time with reading comments and listening to your followers. I feel so disconnected from other RUclipsrs and what makes you stand out, and I think what will ensure the longevity of your channel, is that you connect with us. And it's like you are my friend in Canada, and I love tuning in to see you :) Thank you for sharing! Love from South Africa
I like the way you think. I remember after having my girl, I was telling all my friends that just you know what is best for your baby...
You are an old soul like me! there is this kind of people that have instinctive wisdom, those that learn on the first mistake they don't get lost in regret and they don't repeat mistakes.
She was 669K for a long time, SHE'S SUDDENLY 800K. YOU GO GIRL, SO PROUD OF YOU
I relate to you SO much. When I used to live in Toronto I had just had my first son, trying to have some time away from him to walk around queen and was leaving urban outfitters and you were coming in. You were pregnant and I could tell you were young, only because I was literally dying to find another young mom in the city I took note of you. I even thought you had to be a model. I’m so shy so obviously I wouldn’t go up to another person trying to make a friend lol I have a photographic memory so I remember your face and years later found you on RUclips! My husband is much older than me as well, also running his own business, so I have ALSO been living a life ahead of my years, also with three children! I look forward to all of your videos when you talk about your life. You tell it like it is and I love how it makes me feel not as alone in this journey of family life 💗
Sometimes I forget that I don’t know you personally because through your vlogs I’ve really come to regard you as a friend so the Gary age difference I was like “What? Why didn’t I know this?!” I think that’s a testimony of how you are as an influencer and person. I feel very connected to your story as a mother and woman so thank you for your hard work and your videos.
I can't believe how inspiring and positive you are. Every video gives me so much more confidence and motivation to seek greatness. Such a wonderful woman. Love you lots from Montreal xx
OMG, that was so on point! Although i don't have the kids yet (i'm almost 27), I really like, that times are changing and, like you said - becoming a mom isn't the only way of spending your life, you can do so much more - and that philosophy is so empowering and inspiring. Thank you, I love these kind of videos.
Great message for modern day mothers. Nowadays, for a lot of families, being a a stay-at-home mother is not, economically speaking, an option. Also, some mothers might want to pursue other goals for their lives. It should be ok for mamas to work and run their business and not feel guilty or be judged for it. Valeria, the love for your family overflows in your videos and your an example that you CAN DO BOTH (mama and business women) AND BE GREAT AT IT.
Just wanted to say I discovered your channel recently, during my first pregnancy and your videos are my fav thing to watch while breastfeeding 😆 I love your energy and your down-to-earthness. Xoxos from fellow Croatian mom vlogger ❤️
Valeria, I think it's SO AMAZING that you are looking further than discipline and letting them have a voice. I don't have children but my bro was 14 years younger than I am and I was such a discipline freak. I'm glad he turned out to be quite a young man and still have his own voice, thank God. haha! You have such a beautiful old soul and I want to give you a hug for all the mom guilt that shouldn't have a place in your life. BIG HUGS!
I think it's great that you touched upon how important it is to also live your life and become your own person before starting this motherhood journey. It can easily look like 'goals' from the outside, but maybe, probably, the experience would be totally different if you did not have the life journey that you did before all of this unfolded.
These videos are very enjoyable AND helpful, keep them coming 🤗
Congratsss queeen on 800k 😘💓 you deserve way more
😍😍Thank you for the amazing content 🙌🏻 Love the new video 💓💓The thumbnail is sooo cute 😍
You make me more open minded about what my future might hold, and not so hung up on the ‘right’ time to do things - who even decides what the ‘right’ time is?! you’re teaching me to embrace whatever comes for me as I move through my early 20s
So many good tips in this video, applies to keeping your life from falling apart too, 'embrace the chaos and breathe deeply' - i need this on my coffee mug!
Valeriaaaa 💕 You're a great inspiration for me, you give me a lot of motivation to keep up and stay positive.
One day when I was watching your Instagram stories my boyfriend sat down next to me and told me that you looked like you were going to cry in any second. I told him that you're going through a lot, just gave birth, etc. Then I saw this video and noticed that your facial expressions really show that you're overwhelmed, especially compared to your younger self in the other video made on the same topic. I know that growing your business is a priority for you now, but as a follower of yours I just want to make sure that you have time for yourself and your beautiful family as well. I am absolutely obsessed with your content, but I truly hope that you're gonna rest in the end of the year and not gonna do vlogmas because it can all get stressful without that anyways and we want you to be happy. Take care, have some rest and keep it up. We love you 👆💕
I would never understand people hitting dislike button on Valeria's video!!!!!
In vídeos we can tell how great of work you’re both doing with your kids. They’re happy and smart, and they love you so much we can feel it. I know it would never be perfect, and it’s okay if it isn’t. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are AMAZING❤️
We need more videos like that. I adore you Valeria. I adore the freedom & consciousness you give to your children but also us. Great tips for a 23 years old girl. Have a great day! ❤️❤️❤️
I don't have kids but still think that your message is so important especially for moms who feel guilty to continue their own lives and for all that people who judge women if they don't forget their own dreams and needs after giving birth
I admire your sincerity so much, how you keep it real and at the same time remaining so beautiful and so, so graceful with all that goes on around you, it's amazing. Congratulations on your wonderful, happy family and thank you for sharing your life for people all around the world to admire and love.
Hey Valeria, I admire your approach on taking on at the moment those ''challenging'' traits that you see on your kids (~5:40) that however you see as good for them to have later in life, and on focusing on kindness and individual-self-development. Respect and go girl! 😎❤️✨
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Valeria!! I often have no words for your videos because you do so well something that is uniquely human, you tell your story. A true story. That is rare and inspiring and powerful, so thank you.
Hi. I think you're doing an amazing job. Sometimes things just get hectic, it's really nice to see a young, strong woman doing so much, but still taking time to be herself. I'm not a mother, but it's lovely to watch. You really empower me to be a better daughter, friend and person. Thank you for inspiring me and many others.❤
I'm glad you can be so present for your children. I love watching strong women do their thing. Thank you for sharing! ❤
I just wanted to stop in the comments section this time and say how much I love the fact I found you on RUclips! Really love you! ❤❤❤
I'm loving this and your approach to the subject. You have a very mature outlook on your children's upbringing and your marriage. The true picture of your and Gary's loving relationship with your kids is seen when you talk to them - you are their superstars!
I wish nothing but the best for you and keep on the good work 😘