Don’t stop with baby talk or videos at all! It’s one of the most exciting times in your lives and if you want to share that then don’t let anyone stop you!!! I can’t wait for more👶🏻👶🏻👶🏻
So happy for you both,Robert and I met when he was 21 and I was 17,we got married when I was 19 and he was 23.We bought our first house and brought our first son home to our house a week after he was born.We had 2 more sons and have been married for 47 years now and are both retired and are sharing our life with a chocolate Labrador and a 21 year old Amazon parrot ,We have 7 beautiful grand children and our lives are completely full.We are both from South Wales but now live in North Wales,love to hear your accents.So enjoy watching you on RUclips and looking forward to your journey starting a family.xxx
Please don’t feel like you’re over talking about your pregnancy. It’s your first pregnancy and it is special and you should cherish it and enjoy it as much as you can! I personally love the pregnancy videos ❤️
I love that James corrected himself from saying “gender” to “sex” right after Carys said the baby can be whoever it grows up to be. They seem like the absolute sweetest people and would be the best, most accepting and loving parents 🥺💕
Two recommendations: -Play a certain melody or song near your bumb. The baby will get used to it and after the birth remember and it will calm it down. -Have a date with your baby on a certain time every day. For example lay down in a calm room and play with it, tipping your bum here and there. When baby is big enough it will answer with punches and kicks and it will remind you about that time of the day when you forget.
It honestly infuriates me sooo much that your partner isn’t allowed to be with you during Labour, you’re telling me pubs, restaurants, THEME PARKS are allowed to be open and you can’t have the one most important person with you to help you through one of the most traumatic things you’ll ever go through!! Its actually inhumane to make someone go through that on their own. If they’re allowed for 3 hours it doesn’t make any bloody sense to then make them leave. Arghhhh it makes me so so angry and I’m not even pregnant 😂
Every hospital has different rules for labour and scans etc, 2 hospitals near me, 1 allows your partner to scans and labour but only to visit after birth for 1 hour, and the other hospital you’re only able to come in once the mum has reached 4/5cm and not able to come to scans so it varies from hospital to hospital but it’s still infuriating and makes no sense🙁 x
I haven’t once said it is enough. I agree that it’s not right at all, you aren’t really meant to be in the hospital until active labour anyway so the birthing partner would then be there to watch the birth, a few hours later and then visiting times. Yes it is traumatic, it’s also a traumatic time when people are spending their last days in hospital with no visitors until practically their last hour in which only 1 family member is allowed to go to say goodbye but hospitals have to be careful, we are still in the middle of a pandemic and the least amount of people they can put at risk is what they’re going to do.
Casey Bell it’s an extremely sad situation at the moment but all these new rules and policies are being put in place to help protect the most vulnerable of people. Hopefully we will all get back to normal sooner rather than later and my heart goes out to all the people that have been personally effected by this pandemic.
Active labour is from 4cm! Generally we encourage women to be at home until this point anyway if all is going well, so where I work, partners are generally with their partners the whole time they are labouring in the hospital! (unless it is an induction and then you will be in hospital from the start)! I am an midwife in England xx
You might want to rethink the tiny room for the nursery. They are only small for a short time. You may want a small bed in there as well. One of you may end up sleeping there on occasion. They will need a full size bedroom faster than you think. Just something to consider.
We made this mistake.. gave my boy the tiny room in the house and by the time he was sleeping in his own room we had switched to the bigger room.. definitely the best decision too with space etc
Hey guys! Not sure if you’ll see this but after hearing about you talking about the hospital situation in the UK, I wanted to mention that home birth is definitely an option! Midwives can deliver babies in your home, I had a home birth and it was wonderful. Got to deliver in a birthing tub, and then get straight into bed with my baby. My partner and my entire family was there the whole time and I swear that’s what really helped me get through it and have a beautiful birth. I know in the UK that if you’re low risk then it’s encouraged to have a home birth, especially during the pandemic. No potential risk of you or baby contracting the virus, and your partner can be there throughout it all!! Just wanted to let you know that that’s an option for you guys!!! ❤️ Best of luck!
I also have a phobia about throwing up and I’ve never met anyone else in my life that had that phobia. I’ve been trying to desensitize myself when it comes to hearing about it and it has gotten a bit better. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! It helps me to know that it has gotten better for you and maybe it can get better for me too 🥰
Honestly, just wait till your baby starts moving it’s literally the best ever. I loved being pregnant. This is going to sound bad but just after I gave birth I was a bit jealous that I now had to share them. You really do build a relationship with your baby before they’re born. I’m actually getting jealous writing this I’d love to be pregnant again, but no more babies for me 😢
That's soooo strange when you said 'my body does anything not to be sick'! I COULD NOT RELATE MORE!! Like I physically cannot throw up! Major phobia!!!
My husband and I see a counsellor, not that there’s anything wrong with our marriage (I don’t like that I have to say that but unfortunately counselling carries this stigma that there’s something “wrong”), this was before we had our first baby and he said “you can’t build a home off an unstable foundation” and that will carry with me forever. It’s near to my heart anytime life gets busy or chaotic. Our daughter is my priority, but so is my spouse. At the end of the day, I know the biggest success we can have as parents is by also prioritizing ourselves and our marriage, to ensure we can be the best version of us so we can give what we know our daughter needs from us. Also my husband and I didn’t find out the gender, we are in our late 20’s and I’ve always known that wanted to leave it as a surprise so it didn’t bother me to not find out the gender while pregnant, most thought I was literally insane and Commonly was asked “but how are you going to plan anything like clothes, decor.” *lots of greys/browns/whites* ... hearing my husband saying “it’s a girl!!” after pushing for what felt like forever was a memory I’ll never forget. It made the waiting all worth it. But definitely for baby #2 we are finding out lol. Too many girl clothes that I’ve kept to have to wait my entire pregnancy to figure out whether I’m donating or keeping it 😂
Positive attitude all the way - I went in thinking what happens, happens and I’ll just roll with the punches. My approach was that my mind controlled the pain and I ended up with 1hr 29m active labour and out in one push with no pain relief. Just let your body do what it wants to, believe me it knows what it’s doing xxx Oh, and I’m a long, long time viewer (since when you went puppy shopping), I just rarely comment ❤️❤️❤️
I am absolutely thriving for these videos, you can just feel the amount of love, happiness, joy in the atmosphere in the video. I got pregnant whilst on the pill at 18 which obviously wasn't planned but I am completely blessed by my little joy who is 3 in two weeks time. I like you had a massive fear of throwing up, and i still do...but when i was pregnant i didn't have no side effects so for you working through your fear is absolutely amazing! From my experience and my genuine interest I chose to study midwifery at university which I am a first year student midwife! Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing...send love to you all and baby Jarys x
Loving the pregnancy chat. Carys is glowing. James is already the most daddish lad ever. Soooo excited for the future baby/family/birth videos ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
One thing id really reccomend for you to look into for the nursery especially if you have a neutral base is wall stickers! They are an absolute god send tbh! Black and white for the first 6 months of a baby's life is really stimulating as they are actually born only seeing black and white! Patterns like dots and small crosses etc are really good for helping them to learn focus. Also its absolutely awesome that you are being so realistic about birth! Personally i had sort of a "wishlist" of things i would like to ideally happen for my labour but i also wrote on my notes i was completely open to necessary measures because you never know what will happen and if you go in with an open mind you cant be disappointed if things dont go exactly how you want them too! X
There's a tag that went round a few years back of different parenting opinions (like Co sleeping, routines, dummys etc). Would be great if you done one on your own opinions/what you would do with your children and then when baby is say 1yo, look back on it and do a reaction to see if your opinions changed etc
I started watching you two right after I gave birth to my sweet baby girl a year ago. Fell in love with you two, you are so fun to watch! Then you announced you are pregnant and I’m so excited for you! And I just found out I’m pregnant with my second! So excited to watch your journey!
I live in the US and am due with our first baby on March 26th. Typically in the US you are ‘assigned’ a Dr and they are with you through the whole pregnancy and delivery. This is what I was preparing myself for. I was excited to create a relationship with the Dr that would deliver our child, but where I live it’s actually just like what you will have. My hospital L&D is midwife led so they only call a Dr. if needed. I’m much more at peace about this now because I plan to have an unmedicated birth and midwives are more supportive of that. So happy for you two and excited to see you go on this beautiful journey 💕
It's the same in Germany due to Covid. My sister and pregnant and the due date is like two weeks from now. Hopefully James will be allowed to be in the hospital once your baby is born. I am so happy for you two and you're gonna be amazing parents.❤🌻
Labour is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life, but at the same time it’s the most amazing story you will ever tell... you will have James to help you... god bless you both x
My little boy was due the 3rd April 2018. He was born on the 7th. Loving following this pregnancy! Good luck with everything and enjoy every second of it. Giving birth is so worth every second of it xx
Currently 7 weeks with my second. Labour is the most painful thing in the world but once they're out all the pain stops instantly. You'll want to do it all again straight away. Giving birth is the most amazing thing you will ever experience! Good luck xx
Vlogging for you is like a video journal and it’s a really great outlet because it’s like having someone listen to your fears or concerns or be part of your excitement or anything really, even if you don’t upload it.
Just a little tip for the nursery. All of babies first experiences are through their senses. So when you touch them, they smell something or see changes in light. So painting the room in a lot of different colors, doesn’t matter much. If you have something that catches their eyes above the changing table, then you are good to go for the first long time😊
Yes! Keep the names to yourself! Me and my husband have such different opinions on names that when we came across a name that we both liked for baby #3, we were like "THAT'S IT!!" ....We got so excited and started sharing it with our family, only to have a family member immediately say she hated it and all the reasons why we shouldn't use it. Even told me that my other kids wouldn't be able to pronounce it right. I tried to brush it off, but it's been weeks, and she still texts me name suggestions. It's not negotiable and I hate that she feels it is. All that matters is if you guys love it! Great video guys, loving all the baby content!!!
Cool thing about forgetting the pain of birth is actually a hormone that your body pumps out of you during labor, which literally makes you forget the pain, again a reason as to why women say I want another! So happy for you guys💗 cannot wait to have little ones of my own, sending so much love your way!❤❤
Thats correct! In the US we choose our doctor very early on, and kinda "shop around" to find a doctor we like and get along with (and who your insurance covers). This isn't just for pregnancy though! This is for pretty much any healthcare issue you have! I've been following you for a long time and I love following your journey! Its so interesting learning so much about the UK through you guys and you are just the sweetest most beautiful people on the internet! You will make WONDERFUL parents! ❤
I gave birth at the start of lockdown on the 15th April. My boyfriend was allowed to be with me once I got to 4cm dilated at 3am and stayed with me throughout labour and the birth. My beautiful baby boy was born at 21:15 that evening. He was told to leave at early hours the next morning I think about 2/3am when I moved the the postnatal ward. Best experience of my life! You forget the pain once you have your baby in your arms xx
I love that you said you want your baby to grow up with self-love and body confidence! It’s something that many people have not been taught and it’s so important to living a fulfilling and happy life! Carys, I think if that’s your basis of parenting you cannot go wrong ❤️ xx
I have never heard anyone talk about having a fear of throwing up and sick in general as much as me until now😅 While you were talking about it, everything you said I related to! I can't do it without my partner either, I get so worked up and anxious as soon as I feel nauseous. I'm sorry you feel the same, it's horrible❤️
I have a terrible phobia of vomit, treated for PTSD from being sick after a miscarriage.. such bad panic attacks. But im like you in the sense that im not a sickly person. Its so comforting knowing that someone else feels the same way i do and i am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant again bcause of the sickness😭 thankyou for sharing how you feeel, i found comfort in the fact its helped you overcome your fear a bit❤️❤️
NEVER EVER STOP the pregnancy and baby content!! 💙💙🥰❤❤ My son is 10 months old now and I'm having serious baby fever 😭 but now is not the time... let me live vicariously through your little family! 😘 love all 4 of you so very much!!
active labour is from 4cm dilation and regular contraction. It normally takes a good few hours for first time mums to go from 4-10cm so you will be with James to the majority of you labour not just the pushing!! And as midwives we normally wouldn’t admit you into hospital until you’re at least 4 cm since it’s much better for you and the baby to be at home and comfortable if you’re low risk for the first stage anyway:) hope that makes you feel better. Love your content🤎
Im so glad you talked about the sickness , I have a phobia of being sick and it caused me a lot of stress and discomfort during my 3 pregnancies! I struggle every single time I’m pregnant with forcing myself not to be sick that I forced myself all day not to be and it ruined a lot of my 3 individual pregnancies. I was sick from the moment I was pregnant to birth and if I had just allowed myself to be sick when I felt it I would of probably had a better day and been able to enjoy it . Instead I sat from the moment I woke up forcing myself not to be that by the time it got to 10pm at night I hadn’t eaten or drank . The phobia is unreal !! But no one ever understood how miserable my pregnancies are due to one phobia. My 3 little boys are my world and make it worth it but your so positive and give me the courage to just let go for my 4th baby I plan to have so thank you for speaking about something so close and battleling that I have the confidence now to just let go of my insecurities for next time .
I highly recommend The Positive Birth Book! It's absolutely amazing for having a positive birth no matter what happens! Also, please don't watch one born every minute 😂 it only shows the "worst" bits because it's created for drama. They don't show any of the other "boring" calm stuff. So it's not very realistic! My son is 11 months old now and I wish I had been given this advice! P. S Congratulations! I've been following you for aaaaages 😍 x
In America, our doc is our doctor our entire, female-health, life. From the first appointment at 17-18, throughout all pregnancies and after. The doctor that delivered me was my doctor before he retired. My doctor now is amazing and she will be doctor until she retires. So happy for you two!
Your love is strong enough to survive the rough patches and I can tell you there is nothing like seeing your partner being a great father (or mother), it makes your love for them grow even more and you get an overwhelming sense of love and happiness! I was also the same with not feeling like I am going to be a good mother but the fact you worry about that means you’re going to be a fantastic mum.. both of you will be fantastic parents and this gift is incredibly lucky to have you guys xx
For pregnancy you need to strenghten core muscles (to hold your bump weight), abs (to easier push out the baby at the labour), hands(to easy cary the baby after labour), pelvic floor muscles(for uterus-especialy after pregnancy).
Hi!! I'm from the USA. I have 2 boys, one is 12 and the other is 3. Totally different experiences. My most recent birth, 3 years ago, I chose which hospital I wanted to give birth at and from there, found out which OBGYN offices had access to that hospital. There were only a few offices that had access to the hospital I chose. I then looked at reviews and asked people I know who they used and loved. I then chose which office I wanted to do my delivery. The "Dr's" i saw while I was pregnant were actually midwives. They did everything during my pregnancy that didn't require an actual doctorate. As far as I know, the midwives are usually there for vaginal deliveries as well as the OBGYN. However, I ended up having an emergency c-section so I didnt experience that part. I hope your pregnancy goes well! You two are such wonderful people!! Love your content!!
I'm exactly like you when it comes to wanting my husband there when I'm not feeling great! I'm lucky that he cares for me the way he does. Him on the other hand...is so independent when he's not well and would rather be left to it lol. Me, if I have a panic attack, he is there, being sick, he's there. I hope things will have changed in regards to fathers being able to be able to stay with their partners when giving birth. The mother needs her man in one of the most important times of their lives, hospitals need to change things a little. Great video as always. ❤🖐🏻
Active labour starts from 4cm, so you'll be there for the majority of it James. If there's no concerns with Carys or baby Carys will be able to labour the latent phase (early stages 0-3cm) at home and only go into hospital or the birth unit when she gets to 4cm and is in active labour! In my hospital women go home or for a walk with their partner etc before 4cm if they want to as it helps progress to be in a familiar comfortable environment. Good luck guys xxx
So excited for you both! My son is nearly turning one. It’s such a cliche but time really does go so fast! Nothing compares to the anticipation, excitement and SO many emotions of being pregnant. Enjoy every moment and all that you have to come 💖
I have two kids, and I think your approach to your labor and birth is really smart. I had an ideal scenario in mind, but knew that going with the flow was really the only way to even get there. I ended up having two really incredible inductions, with no epidural, and my second son was born in the birth pool. (I'm in the US, but have a great local hospital with midwives and water birth.) If you don't get your hopes up, you won't be disappointed by any outcome, because you'll have your baby safe and sound and that's what matters.
Not even 4 minutes in but I'm just going to let you know Carys I was the same about being sick I used to cry everytime (and with my first i was sick several times a day from 4-23weeks!!) But by the time I was in full blown labour and again was sick around 6 times didn't even flinch, didn't bother me at all. I think when given birth you are so focused on the end goal you will do anything to get there and once that baby is in your arms you just forget the worst bits and would do it again for them 😍 Just to add about the vlog question even if the rules are like the way they are now it would be so interesting to see it from both of you. Both of you have a camera and talk us through thoughts and feelings through our the whole process would be so interesting to compare to future pregnancies/labours.
I'm 25 now and have 3 beautiful babies!!! I had my first when I just turned 20 and I was unsure about labour and what to expect, I've been induced twice and then a spontaneous labour the final time and baby was born at home in half an hour 🙊 but I loved all my labours and had no pain relief with any of them and left the hospital 3 hours later with all of them, my second baby is born on Xmas Eve so it was just magical. Labour is amazing and your body is sooo ready for this, embrace it and you know your body, just listen to your body 💜xxxx
Carys I have four children and I have the mum guilt everyday but all a baby/child needs is to feel safe and loved. You are going to a beautiful mum Carys and a incredible dad James. Baby W is so lucky to have you both as parents. 🥰
Just remember no one is a perfect parent. There's no such thing. Take that pressure off yourself. You're going to screw up, over and over again. It's how you deal with it that measures how good of a parent you are. Also, I'm the same way about throwing up, even though I do it often bc my stomach is sensitive, esp to headaches. But I panic when i throw up too bc it's a full body experience for me and it's scary.
I really think hypnobirthing might be something that would benefit you Carys! You don’t have to follow it to a tee but to have the positive mantras and way you refer to birth being 100% positive! I’ve never had a baby or pregnancy so I haven’t done it but a friend is doing it and has changed her whole outlook on her birthing experience (due next month)
I had my 3rd baby in May. My husband was allowed there the whole time, he just couldn't leave, all staff wore masks and shields of course. We weren't allowed visitors so our older 2 children didn't get to come, stayed in hospital for 24hrs after birth and then home. We keep gender a secret between the 2 of us so we made everyone wait to know gender and name until we were home and they could come, including our older 2 kids! Its all fine, it was just sad because I already knew how its normally suppose to be and was most heartbroken about our older 2 not being able to come meet their new brother. I'm in the US, and yes we pick our doctor and keep them through. There's of course the chance they won't be available once you're in labor and you get an on call OB doctor. I have had my same doctor deliver all 3 of my kids.
I stayed active my entire pregnancy, and my delivery was 2mins long . Literally 2 mins. I was told my pushed were good and maybe it was luck but I’m sure being active and healthy helped a ton.
Oh just to add i know your probaly not even thinking about hospital bags yet but one thing i cannot reccomend enough is to take a Polaroid camera if you have one (you know the little fuji film instax?) You can take so many photos on your phone but what i loved was having actual instant photos and also leaving it on the side in your room for anyone (especially staff) to grab it randomly and snap a candid moment that you wouldnt even think about having a photo of because they always end up being the best ones! ❤
Iv had two babies (ages 3&5 now) I had two natural water births with gas and air. Don’t be afraid of this option. Water is great for labouring too. Have an open mind xx
I want all the baby/pregnancy videos, it’s fun for those of us dreaming of having our own. 💛 Praying that James can be at the hospital for the pregnancy.
Congratulations James and Carys, sending you lots of love from across the water in Ireland, I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant and can’t wait to meet my little one in time for Christmas, your doing an amazing job, keep safe and best wishes xx
I have an extreme phobia of throwing up (and other people throwing up) and I’ve always been so terrified of being pregnant for that reason. Ive never been sick before and I really can’t imagine getting through it but knowing you’ve gotten through it helps a bit 🥺
I love the new content! You are both having a BABY! So don’t worry about speaking about pregnancy on each vlog! You always spoke about your lives and being open books! Don’t feel you need to hold back on speaking about your pregnancy!! 💛💛💛💛
In UK and Wales hospitals, you can be in from “active labour” which is 4/5cm dilates! You can stay for 3 hours after BUT you can come and visit on the other days you may be there for a few hours x
AND hopefully you magically have the baby early morning and can just go home that evening. I had an emergency c-section and went home the next morning so it doesn’t always have to be a long stay x
I only found your channel about 3 month ago and just fell totally in love with you both. I'm so happy to be following your new journey. 💛 The way James look at you is EVERYTHING.
Going to the gym and working out actually helps prevent nausea and sickness during pregnancy, even when you feel nauseous forcing yourself to get outside on a walk will help get rid of that nausea and can stop you being sick
i love these sorts of videos and your defiantly not over sharing, ive learnt more throughout your pregnancy videos then i did in school or through other things, i am only 17 but it’s super nice to know more then what other people share about pregnancy💞
I absolutely adore you two! Been following you for years and with every video you can just see how much your love grows - you will have more than enough love for both your baby and yourselves! x
It wonderful that you’re both so ready for this journey. So brill you’re on the same page and have had many conversations about all the things want to provide for your baby. It’s love, encouragement and love. The best mumma and papa to be 🥰💖
I had my baby boy 9 months ago and I have honestly forgot mainly about the birth experience. It wasn’t a great one resulting in us having sepsis and a lengthy stay in hospital. However I now think positively of that experience as my baby boy stayed fighting and is a crazy little dude now. I can’t wait to be pregnant again someday in the near future, full of excitement so it definitely didn’t put me off 🥰
Did anyone else start to panic as James started to pick something off Carys' chin? My immediate thought was "please don't let that be a chin hair" hahaha. He's too cute!
you guys should have fairy lights going around the whole of the nursery. ive done that with my bedroom because my main light doesnt work and it creates the calmest vibe, perfect for being up in the middle of the night feeding the baby
In USA you go to an ob-gyn when you find out, they stay your doctor throughout. With covid our local hospital allows 1 person in from labor through birth. Moms and healthy babies are generally released by day 3, mostly at day 2. Husbands/partners are allowed to stay overnight. Just a couple of wives tales: heartburn = a lot of hair, eat fish during the last trimester (this is for intelligence- baby's brain is developing). Natural birth is without pain medication. Red, black and white are suggested colors for stimulation like for a mobile over bed. Love you guys and so excited for your journey.
Don’t stop with baby talk or videos at all! It’s one of the most exciting times in your lives and if you want to share that then don’t let anyone stop you!!! I can’t wait for more👶🏻👶🏻👶🏻
The smile on James' face when Carys said "Our baby"🥺
So happy for you both,Robert and I met when he was 21 and I was 17,we got married when I was 19 and he was 23.We bought our first house and brought our first son home to our house a week after he was born.We had 2 more sons and have been married for 47 years now and are both retired and are sharing our life with a chocolate Labrador and a 21 year old Amazon parrot ,We have 7 beautiful grand children and our lives are completely full.We are both from South Wales but now live in North Wales,love to hear your accents.So enjoy watching you on RUclips and looking forward to your journey starting a family.xxx
That’s a beautiful comment ❤️❤️❤️
This comment made me so happy to read. I’m very happy for you guys and wish you all the happiness in the world.
Victoria Baker how old are you then if u have been married 47 years
Aw love this comment💜💜💜
Sapphire Kay I am 66 and Robert is 69.xx
Please don’t feel like you’re over talking about your pregnancy. It’s your first pregnancy and it is special and you should cherish it and enjoy it as much as you can! I personally love the pregnancy videos ❤️
Video idea - do the Baby Names We Love But Won’t Be Using video 😊
NourishingAmelia yes!
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I love that James corrected himself from saying “gender” to “sex” right after Carys said the baby can be whoever it grows up to be. They seem like the absolute sweetest people and would be the best, most accepting and loving parents 🥺💕
Was anyone else thinking about how cute it would be for their baby to look back at these videos in the future 💜💜💜💜
Same💕
Two recommendations:
-Play a certain melody or song near your bumb. The baby will get used to it and after the birth remember and it will calm it down.
-Have a date with your baby on a certain time every day. For example lay down in a calm room and play with it, tipping your bum here and there. When baby is big enough it will answer with punches and kicks and it will remind you about that time of the day when you forget.
It honestly infuriates me sooo much that your partner isn’t allowed to be with you during Labour, you’re telling me pubs, restaurants, THEME PARKS are allowed to be open and you can’t have the one most important person with you to help you through one of the most traumatic things you’ll ever go through!! Its actually inhumane to make someone go through that on their own. If they’re allowed for 3 hours it doesn’t make any bloody sense to then make them leave. Arghhhh it makes me so so angry and I’m not even pregnant 😂
They are allowed there during labour, just not for scans, once the baby is born the birthing partners are allowed during visiting hours
Every hospital has different rules for labour and scans etc, 2 hospitals near me, 1 allows your partner to scans and labour but only to visit after birth for 1 hour, and the other hospital you’re only able to come in once the mum has reached 4/5cm and not able to come to scans so it varies from hospital to hospital but it’s still infuriating and makes no sense🙁 x
Casey Bell only active Labour, not the hours (potentially days) before and after she gives birth :(
I haven’t once said it is enough. I agree that it’s not right at all, you aren’t really meant to be in the hospital until active labour anyway so the birthing partner would then be there to watch the birth, a few hours later and then visiting times. Yes it is traumatic, it’s also a traumatic time when people are spending their last days in hospital with no visitors until practically their last hour in which only 1 family member is allowed to go to say goodbye but hospitals have to be careful, we are still in the middle of a pandemic and the least amount of people they can put at risk is what they’re going to do.
Casey Bell it’s an extremely sad situation at the moment but all these new rules and policies are being put in place to help protect the most vulnerable of people. Hopefully we will all get back to normal sooner rather than later and my heart goes out to all the people that have been personally effected by this pandemic.
Active labour is from 4cm! Generally we encourage women to be at home until this point anyway if all is going well, so where I work, partners are generally with their partners the whole time they are labouring in the hospital! (unless it is an induction and then you will be in hospital from the start)! I am an midwife in England xx
You might want to rethink the tiny room for the nursery. They are only small for a short time. You may want a small bed in there as well. One of you may end up sleeping there on occasion. They will need a full size bedroom faster than you think. Just something to consider.
We made this mistake.. gave my boy the tiny room in the house and by the time he was sleeping in his own room we had switched to the bigger room.. definitely the best decision too with space etc
I cant wait for Jarys
Hey guys! Not sure if you’ll see this but after hearing about you talking about the hospital situation in the UK, I wanted to mention that home birth is definitely an option! Midwives can deliver babies in your home, I had a home birth and it was wonderful. Got to deliver in a birthing tub, and then get straight into bed with my baby. My partner and my entire family was there the whole time and I swear that’s what really helped me get through it and have a beautiful birth. I know in the UK that if you’re low risk then it’s encouraged to have a home birth, especially during the pandemic. No potential risk of you or baby contracting the virus, and your partner can be there throughout it all!! Just wanted to let you know that that’s an option for you guys!!! ❤️ Best of luck!
I also have a phobia about throwing up and I’ve never met anyone else in my life that had that phobia. I’ve been trying to desensitize myself when it comes to hearing about it and it has gotten a bit better. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! It helps me to know that it has gotten better for you and maybe it can get better for me too 🥰
Honestly, just wait till your baby starts moving it’s literally the best ever. I loved being pregnant.
This is going to sound bad but just after I gave birth I was a bit jealous that I now had to share them. You really do build a relationship with your baby before they’re born.
I’m actually getting jealous writing this I’d love to be pregnant again, but no more babies for me 😢
That's soooo strange when you said 'my body does anything not to be sick'! I COULD NOT RELATE MORE!! Like I physically cannot throw up! Major phobia!!!
I want a James 🥺 he just loves her and his baby so so much and takes such a good care of them and the doggy.
My husband and I see a counsellor, not that there’s anything wrong with our marriage (I don’t like that I have to say that but unfortunately counselling carries this stigma that there’s something “wrong”), this was before we had our first baby and he said “you can’t build a home off an unstable foundation” and that will carry with me forever. It’s near to my heart anytime life gets busy or chaotic. Our daughter is my priority, but so is my spouse. At the end of the day, I know the biggest success we can have as parents is by also prioritizing ourselves and our marriage, to ensure we can be the best version of us so we can give what we know our daughter needs from us.
Also my husband and I didn’t find out the gender, we are in our late 20’s and I’ve always known that wanted to leave it as a surprise so it didn’t bother me to not find out the gender while pregnant, most thought I was literally insane and Commonly was asked “but how are you going to plan anything like clothes, decor.” *lots of greys/browns/whites* ... hearing my husband saying “it’s a girl!!” after pushing for what felt like forever was a memory I’ll never forget. It made the waiting all worth it. But definitely for baby #2 we are finding out lol. Too many girl clothes that I’ve kept to have to wait my entire pregnancy to figure out whether I’m donating or keeping it 😂
Positive attitude all the way - I went in thinking what happens, happens and I’ll just roll with the punches. My approach was that my mind controlled the pain and I ended up with 1hr 29m active labour and out in one push with no pain relief. Just let your body do what it wants to, believe me it knows what it’s doing xxx
Oh, and I’m a long, long time viewer (since when you went puppy shopping), I just rarely comment ❤️❤️❤️
I had that attitude and had a very painful long labor so doesn't always work. 😭
I am absolutely thriving for these videos, you can just feel the amount of love, happiness, joy in the atmosphere in the video.
I got pregnant whilst on the pill at 18 which obviously wasn't planned but I am completely blessed by my little joy who is 3 in two weeks time.
I like you had a massive fear of throwing up, and i still do...but when i was pregnant i didn't have no side effects so for you working through your fear is absolutely amazing!
From my experience and my genuine interest I chose to study midwifery at university which I am a first year student midwife! Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing...send love to you all and baby Jarys x
Loving the pregnancy chat. Carys is glowing. James is already the most daddish lad ever. Soooo excited for the future baby/family/birth videos ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
One thing id really reccomend for you to look into for the nursery especially if you have a neutral base is wall stickers! They are an absolute god send tbh! Black and white for the first 6 months of a baby's life is really stimulating as they are actually born only seeing black and white! Patterns like dots and small crosses etc are really good for helping them to learn focus.
Also its absolutely awesome that you are being so realistic about birth! Personally i had sort of a "wishlist" of things i would like to ideally happen for my labour but i also wrote on my notes i was completely open to necessary measures because you never know what will happen and if you go in with an open mind you cant be disappointed if things dont go exactly how you want them too! X
Genuinely just can’t wait to see the little baby Jarys running round
There's a tag that went round a few years back of different parenting opinions (like Co sleeping, routines, dummys etc). Would be great if you done one on your own opinions/what you would do with your children and then when baby is say 1yo, look back on it and do a reaction to see if your opinions changed etc
I started watching you two right after I gave birth to my sweet baby girl a year ago. Fell in love with you two, you are so fun to watch! Then you announced you are pregnant and I’m so excited for you! And I just found out I’m pregnant with my second! So excited to watch your journey!
Congratulations! 🥳
I live in the US and am due with our first baby on March 26th. Typically in the US you are ‘assigned’ a Dr and they are with you through the whole pregnancy and delivery. This is what I was preparing myself for. I was excited to create a relationship with the Dr that would deliver our child, but where I live it’s actually just like what you will have. My hospital L&D is midwife led so they only call a Dr. if needed. I’m much more at peace about this now because I plan to have an unmedicated birth and midwives are more supportive of that. So happy for you two and excited to see you go on this beautiful journey 💕
It's the same in Germany due to Covid. My sister and pregnant and the due date is like two weeks from now. Hopefully James will be allowed to be in the hospital once your baby is born. I am so happy for you two and you're gonna be amazing parents.❤🌻
Labour is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life, but at the same time it’s the most amazing story you will ever tell... you will have James to help you... god bless you both x
My little boy was due the 3rd April 2018. He was born on the 7th. Loving following this pregnancy! Good luck with everything and enjoy every second of it. Giving birth is so worth every second of it xx
Currently 7 weeks with my second. Labour is the most painful thing in the world but once they're out all the pain stops instantly.
You'll want to do it all again straight away. Giving birth is the most amazing thing you will ever experience! Good luck xx
Vlogging for you is like a video journal and it’s a really great outlet because it’s like having someone listen to your fears or concerns or be part of your excitement or anything really, even if you don’t upload it.
Just a little tip for the nursery.
All of babies first experiences are through their senses. So when you touch them, they smell something or see changes in light. So painting the room in a lot of different colors, doesn’t matter much.
If you have something that catches their eyes above the changing table, then you are good to go for the first long time😊
Yes! Keep the names to yourself! Me and my husband have such different opinions on names that when we came across a name that we both liked for baby #3, we were like "THAT'S IT!!" ....We got so excited and started sharing it with our family, only to have a family member immediately say she hated it and all the reasons why we shouldn't use it. Even told me that my other kids wouldn't be able to pronounce it right. I tried to brush it off, but it's been weeks, and she still texts me name suggestions. It's not negotiable and I hate that she feels it is. All that matters is if you guys love it! Great video guys, loving all the baby content!!!
I’m so sorry this has happened to you!! Please ignore the family member at the end of the day it’s not their child so their opinion doesn’t matter ❤️
Cool thing about forgetting the pain of birth is actually a hormone that your body pumps out of you during labor, which literally makes you forget the pain, again a reason as to why women say I want another! So happy for you guys💗 cannot wait to have little ones of my own, sending so much love your way!❤❤
Thats correct! In the US we choose our doctor very early on, and kinda "shop around" to find a doctor we like and get along with (and who your insurance covers). This isn't just for pregnancy though! This is for pretty much any healthcare issue you have!
I've been following you for a long time and I love following your journey! Its so interesting learning so much about the UK through you guys and you are just the sweetest most beautiful people on the internet! You will make WONDERFUL parents! ❤
I gave birth at the start of lockdown on the 15th April.
My boyfriend was allowed to be with me once I got to 4cm dilated at 3am and stayed with me throughout labour and the birth. My beautiful baby boy was born at 21:15 that evening. He was told to leave at early hours the next morning I think about 2/3am when I moved the the postnatal ward.
Best experience of my life! You forget the pain once you have your baby in your arms xx
I just want to say Carys that I'm really happy for you to see you 2 filming this in the lounge room and you being totally fine!!! So great 💪
I love that you said you want your baby to grow up with self-love and body confidence! It’s something that many people have not been taught and it’s so important to living a fulfilling and happy life! Carys, I think if that’s your basis of parenting you cannot go wrong ❤️ xx
I have never heard anyone talk about having a fear of throwing up and sick in general as much as me until now😅
While you were talking about it, everything you said I related to! I can't do it without my partner either, I get so worked up and anxious as soon as I feel nauseous. I'm sorry you feel the same, it's horrible❤️
I have a terrible phobia of vomit, treated for PTSD from being sick after a miscarriage.. such bad panic attacks. But im like you in the sense that im not a sickly person. Its so comforting knowing that someone else feels the same way i do and i am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant again bcause of the sickness😭 thankyou for sharing how you feeel, i found comfort in the fact its helped you overcome your fear a bit❤️❤️
I LOVE all the pregnancy content!!! You two are so excited and it puts a smile on my face everytime
NEVER EVER STOP the pregnancy and baby content!! 💙💙🥰❤❤
My son is 10 months old now and I'm having serious baby fever 😭 but now is not the time... let me live vicariously through your little family! 😘 love all 4 of you so very much!!
active labour is from 4cm dilation and regular contraction. It normally takes a good few hours for first time mums to go from 4-10cm so you will be with James to the majority of you labour not just the pushing!! And as midwives we normally wouldn’t admit you into hospital until you’re at least 4 cm since it’s much better for you and the baby to be at home and comfortable if you’re low risk for the first stage anyway:) hope that makes you feel better. Love your content🤎
Im so glad you talked about the sickness , I have a phobia of being sick and it caused me a lot of stress and discomfort during my 3 pregnancies! I struggle every single time I’m pregnant with forcing myself not to be sick that I forced myself all day not to be and it ruined a lot of my 3 individual pregnancies. I was sick from the moment I was pregnant to birth and if I had just allowed myself to be sick when I felt it I would of probably had a better day and been able to enjoy it . Instead I sat from the moment I woke up forcing myself not to be that by the time it got to 10pm at night I hadn’t eaten or drank . The phobia is unreal !! But no one ever understood how miserable my pregnancies are due to one phobia. My 3 little boys are my world and make it worth it but your so positive and give me the courage to just let go for my 4th baby I plan to have so thank you for speaking about something so close and battleling that I have the confidence now to just let go of my insecurities for next time .
I highly recommend The Positive Birth Book! It's absolutely amazing for having a positive birth no matter what happens!
Also, please don't watch one born every minute 😂 it only shows the "worst" bits because it's created for drama. They don't show any of the other "boring" calm stuff. So it's not very realistic!
My son is 11 months old now and I wish I had been given this advice!
P. S Congratulations! I've been following you for aaaaages 😍 x
In America, our doc is our doctor our entire, female-health, life. From the first appointment at 17-18, throughout all pregnancies and after. The doctor that delivered me was my doctor before he retired. My doctor now is amazing and she will be doctor until she retires. So happy for you two!
That's so crazy but also kind of sweet and nice, in the UK you just get anyone who's available for appointment times 😬
Your love is strong enough to survive the rough patches and I can tell you there is nothing like seeing your partner being a great father (or mother), it makes your love for them grow even more and you get an overwhelming sense of love and happiness! I was also the same with not feeling like I am going to be a good mother but the fact you worry about that means you’re going to be a fantastic mum.. both of you will be fantastic parents and this gift is incredibly lucky to have you guys xx
For pregnancy you need to strenghten core muscles (to hold your bump weight), abs (to easier push out the baby at the labour), hands(to easy cary the baby after labour), pelvic floor muscles(for uterus-especialy after pregnancy).
Hi!! I'm from the USA. I have 2 boys, one is 12 and the other is 3. Totally different experiences. My most recent birth, 3 years ago, I chose which hospital I wanted to give birth at and from there, found out which OBGYN offices had access to that hospital. There were only a few offices that had access to the hospital I chose. I then looked at reviews and asked people I know who they used and loved. I then chose which office I wanted to do my delivery. The "Dr's" i saw while I was pregnant were actually midwives. They did everything during my pregnancy that didn't require an actual doctorate. As far as I know, the midwives are usually there for vaginal deliveries as well as the OBGYN. However, I ended up having an emergency c-section so I didnt experience that part.
I hope your pregnancy goes well! You two are such wonderful people!! Love your content!!
I'm exactly like you when it comes to wanting my husband there when I'm not feeling great! I'm lucky that he cares for me the way he does. Him on the other hand...is so independent when he's not well and would rather be left to it lol. Me, if I have a panic attack, he is there, being sick, he's there. I hope things will have changed in regards to fathers being able to be able to stay with their partners when giving birth. The mother needs her man in one of the most important times of their lives, hospitals need to change things a little. Great video as always. ❤🖐🏻
PLEASE KEEP SHARING PREGNANCY UPDATES!!! WE LOVE THEM AND LOVE THAT YOU GUYS ARE SO HAPPY! 💞
Active labour starts from 4cm, so you'll be there for the majority of it James. If there's no concerns with Carys or baby Carys will be able to labour the latent phase (early stages 0-3cm) at home and only go into hospital or the birth unit when she gets to 4cm and is in active labour! In my hospital women go home or for a walk with their partner etc before 4cm if they want to as it helps progress to be in a familiar comfortable environment. Good luck guys xxx
So excited for you both! My son is nearly turning one. It’s such a cliche but time really does go so fast! Nothing compares to the anticipation, excitement and SO many emotions of being pregnant. Enjoy every moment and all that you have to come 💖
Iv been with you guys since your engagement and haven’t left since I love you guys so so much xx
That’s so special thank you so so much!! We love you boo xxxx
How excited James gets melts my heart!
I have two kids, and I think your approach to your labor and birth is really smart. I had an ideal scenario in mind, but knew that going with the flow was really the only way to even get there. I ended up having two really incredible inductions, with no epidural, and my second son was born in the birth pool. (I'm in the US, but have a great local hospital with midwives and water birth.) If you don't get your hopes up, you won't be disappointed by any outcome, because you'll have your baby safe and sound and that's what matters.
Oh my goooosh you guys!! I’m so excited! You guys are going to have the most beautiful kids!
Not even 4 minutes in but I'm just going to let you know Carys I was the same about being sick I used to cry everytime (and with my first i was sick several times a day from 4-23weeks!!) But by the time I was in full blown labour and again was sick around 6 times didn't even flinch, didn't bother me at all. I think when given birth you are so focused on the end goal you will do anything to get there and once that baby is in your arms you just forget the worst bits and would do it again for them 😍
Just to add about the vlog question even if the rules are like the way they are now it would be so interesting to see it from both of you. Both of you have a camera and talk us through thoughts and feelings through our the whole process would be so interesting to compare to future pregnancies/labours.
I'm 25 now and have 3 beautiful babies!!! I had my first when I just turned 20 and I was unsure about labour and what to expect, I've been induced twice and then a spontaneous labour the final time and baby was born at home in half an hour 🙊 but I loved all my labours and had no pain relief with any of them and left the hospital 3 hours later with all of them, my second baby is born on Xmas Eve so it was just magical. Labour is amazing and your body is sooo ready for this, embrace it and you know your body, just listen to your body 💜xxxx
im 21 weeks pregnant and loving watching your new pregnancy content! so happy we are pregnant at the same time!!!
Carys I have four children and I have the mum guilt everyday but all a baby/child needs is to feel safe and loved. You are going to a beautiful mum Carys and a incredible dad James. Baby W is so lucky to have you both as parents. 🥰
Who else can't wait to see their little baby :) ❤️?!!
Just remember no one is a perfect parent. There's no such thing. Take that pressure off yourself. You're going to screw up, over and over again. It's how you deal with it that measures how good of a parent you are. Also, I'm the same way about throwing up, even though I do it often bc my stomach is sensitive, esp to headaches. But I panic when i throw up too bc it's a full body experience for me and it's scary.
I really think hypnobirthing might be something that would benefit you Carys! You don’t have to follow it to a tee but to have the positive mantras and way you refer to birth being 100% positive! I’ve never had a baby or pregnancy so I haven’t done it but a friend is doing it and has changed her whole outlook on her birthing experience (due next month)
Dont feel like you’re over sharing or posting “too much” I LOVE the baby vlogs, updates and everything!! Keep them coming 😍
7:41-7:50 I love British accents and James saying worry is the best! Can’t wait for more pregnancy vids! Loving them!
I had my 3rd baby in May. My husband was allowed there the whole time, he just couldn't leave, all staff wore masks and shields of course. We weren't allowed visitors so our older 2 children didn't get to come, stayed in hospital for 24hrs after birth and then home. We keep gender a secret between the 2 of us so we made everyone wait to know gender and name until we were home and they could come, including our older 2 kids! Its all fine, it was just sad because I already knew how its normally suppose to be and was most heartbroken about our older 2 not being able to come meet their new brother. I'm in the US, and yes we pick our doctor and keep them through. There's of course the chance they won't be available once you're in labor and you get an on call OB doctor. I have had my same doctor deliver all 3 of my kids.
omg just found out i was pregnant so keeping up with you will make this pregnancy sooooo much better 😊 congrats! you guys are beautiful together!!!
I stayed active my entire pregnancy, and my delivery was 2mins long . Literally 2 mins. I was told my pushed were good and maybe it was luck but I’m sure being active and healthy helped a ton.
Oh just to add i know your probaly not even thinking about hospital bags yet but one thing i cannot reccomend enough is to take a Polaroid camera if you have one (you know the little fuji film instax?) You can take so many photos on your phone but what i loved was having actual instant photos and also leaving it on the side in your room for anyone (especially staff) to grab it randomly and snap a candid moment that you wouldnt even think about having a photo of because they always end up being the best ones! ❤
You’re not sharing too much!! I love it I’m not even pregnant or anywhere near but I just love you guys and seeing what yous are going through 🤣 ❤️
Iv had two babies (ages 3&5 now) I had two natural water births with gas and air. Don’t be afraid of this option. Water is great for labouring too. Have an open mind xx
I want all the baby/pregnancy videos, it’s fun for those of us dreaming of having our own. 💛 Praying that James can be at the hospital for the pregnancy.
I love how open you both are with telling us everything lol. Thank you for being an open book and sharing your journey with us.
Congratulations James and Carys, sending you lots of love from across the water in Ireland, I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant and can’t wait to meet my little one in time for Christmas, your doing an amazing job, keep safe and best wishes xx
I have an extreme phobia of throwing up (and other people throwing up) and I’ve always been so terrified of being pregnant for that reason. Ive never been sick before and I really can’t imagine getting through it but knowing you’ve gotten through it helps a bit 🥺
I love the new content! You are both having a BABY! So don’t worry about speaking about pregnancy on each vlog! You always spoke about your lives and being open books! Don’t feel you need to hold back on speaking about your pregnancy!! 💛💛💛💛
You guys are genuinely going to be the best parents ever, I’m so excited for you
In UK and Wales hospitals, you can be in from “active labour” which is 4/5cm dilates! You can stay for 3 hours after BUT you can come and visit on the other days you may be there for a few hours x
AND hopefully you magically have the baby early morning and can just go home that evening. I had an emergency c-section and went home the next morning so it doesn’t always have to be a long stay x
I only found your channel about 3 month ago and just fell totally in love with you both. I'm so happy to be following your new journey. 💛 The way James look at you is EVERYTHING.
Going to the gym and working out actually helps prevent nausea and sickness during pregnancy, even when you feel nauseous forcing yourself to get outside on a walk will help get rid of that nausea and can stop you being sick
I love how honest you both are! It helps so much thank you x
i love these sorts of videos and your defiantly not over sharing, ive learnt more throughout your pregnancy videos then i did in school or through other things, i am only 17 but it’s super nice to know more then what other people share about pregnancy💞
I absolutely adore you two! Been following you for years and with every video you can just see how much your love grows - you will have more than enough love for both your baby and yourselves! x
It wonderful that you’re both so ready for this journey. So brill you’re on the same page and have had many conversations about all the things want to provide for your baby. It’s love, encouragement and love. The best mumma and papa to be 🥰💖
Guys ! I’m so excited and happy for you . You BOTH have the glow 🥺❤️
You know you Excited for a video when you set the timer on Instagram but still sit and wait!!!
Absolutely loving these videos!!
Anyone else remember "family is everything, family is life" 😂
So happy that you talk about having a phobia of being sick because so do I and I genuinely thought I was the only one!❤️
I had my baby boy 9 months ago and I have honestly forgot mainly about the birth experience. It wasn’t a great one resulting in us having sepsis and a lengthy stay in hospital. However I now think positively of that experience as my baby boy stayed fighting and is a crazy little dude now. I can’t wait to be pregnant again someday in the near future, full of excitement so it definitely didn’t put me off 🥰
Love how much you’re sharing about your journey! It’s not too much, it’s so exciting for us all to watch! 😁 ❤️
Did anyone else start to panic as James started to pick something off Carys' chin? My immediate thought was "please don't let that be a chin hair" hahaha.
He's too cute!
We need all baby videos!! Please don’t leave baby updates out of any videos 😂😂 so excited for you guys xxxx
Apparently black and white is the best colours for a new born baby as it helps there eyes not having to much colour at the one time 😊
you guys should have fairy lights going around the whole of the nursery. ive done that with my bedroom because my main light doesnt work and it creates the calmest vibe, perfect for being up in the middle of the night feeding the baby
Black and white are the best colours for newborns as colours can cause sensory overload
I Had My Daughter At Home With No Pain Killers Or Paramedics Or Midwifes You'll Be Amazing Hun,Cant Wait For More Baby Videos 🥰
Please don't stop with the baby content it's so interesting and I love hearing about it!! 👶🏼
Please keep sharing about your pregnancy. My baby is due the day before yours so I feel I'm on this journey with you.
In USA you go to an ob-gyn when you find out, they stay your doctor throughout. With covid our local hospital allows 1 person in from labor through birth. Moms and healthy babies are generally released by day 3, mostly at day 2. Husbands/partners are allowed to stay overnight. Just a couple of wives tales: heartburn = a lot of hair, eat fish during the last trimester (this is for intelligence- baby's brain is developing). Natural birth is without pain medication. Red, black and white are suggested colors for stimulation like for a mobile over bed. Love you guys and so excited for your journey.