Thank you Kimi for this interview! :) Thats what I am kinda experiencing, what you discussed towards the end of interview. I started consuming everything "anti woke" and I can't anymore... Right is saying that left lives in fear and anger, but thats exactly what I am witnessing from the right...
Am a trauma psychotherapist who also studied narcissistic abuse from way back. We have to remember that all personality disorders as well as narcissism without it being a personality disorder are defense mechanisms against feeling uncomfortable things - most notably shame. For those with NPD there is always significant abuse in childhood that probably includes humiliation. The whole idea is to never feel that by some unfathomable ability to do so - held in place by various forms of dissociation. That’s partially achieved by remaining a victim - this protects them from ever having to face responsibility and face the pain which must be avoided at all costs, which ends up being emotionally or otherwise abusive in personal relationships. I have a saying: The avoidance of pain is the root of all evil. The more you need to avoid the more destructive it is to self and others.
@@Nyonyozimusic Thank you for all your thought-provoking shows, Kimi! One more thought for you…we tend to think of narcissism in the extreme but all of us have this defense to some extent. We like to push away the negative/flaws in ourselves and ride the positive. But then the negative will get triggered and come at us with hurricane force! It’s as we can accept the flawed in ourselves that we can have true self-love. Then there’s no need to stay stuck in that “blameless and flawless” narcissistic defense that must remain a wounded victim, blaming others.
For me, victimhood is when you stop doing thing that you can do. You can suffer from certain conditions, situations etc that might prevent you from doing certain things. And it's ok to adress those difficulties. But there are other things that you can do, and if you don't do them. You don't have an excuse. And I see that a lot. You can't do A for whatever reason, and because you can't to A, you don't do B, C and D. Because it's easier not to those things. Nowadays there's this mentallity that we have to accept that. Instead of telling this person, and ourselves, "ok, you can't do A, but you can do B, C and D, move your ass and do B, C and D"
“You have to give up all hope for a better past”
What a brilliant idea!
Thank you Kimi for this interview! :) Thats what I am kinda experiencing, what you discussed towards the end of interview. I started consuming everything "anti woke" and I can't anymore... Right is saying that left lives in fear and anger, but thats exactly what I am witnessing from the right...
Maybe it is both extremes. You know like the horse shoe theory.
@@andrewjoyner4133 I don’t know the horse shoe theory…
@@saraoroszova7685 The two extremes are very similar to each other. Like communism and fascism.
Am a trauma psychotherapist who also studied narcissistic abuse from way back. We have to remember that all personality disorders as well as narcissism without it being a personality disorder are defense mechanisms against feeling uncomfortable things - most notably shame. For those with NPD there is always significant abuse in childhood that probably includes humiliation. The whole idea is to never feel that by some unfathomable ability to do so - held in place by various forms of dissociation. That’s partially achieved by remaining a victim - this protects them from ever having to face responsibility and face the pain which must be avoided at all costs, which ends up being emotionally or otherwise abusive in personal relationships. I have a saying: The avoidance of pain is the root of all evil. The more you need to avoid the more destructive it is to self and others.
Wow, thank you for sharing this!
@@Nyonyozimusic Thank you for all your thought-provoking shows, Kimi! One more thought for you…we tend to think of narcissism in the extreme but all of us have this defense to some extent. We like to push away the negative/flaws in ourselves and ride the positive. But then the negative will get triggered and come at us with hurricane force! It’s as we can accept the flawed in ourselves that we can have true self-love. Then there’s no need to stay stuck in that “blameless and flawless” narcissistic defense that must remain a wounded victim, blaming others.
In addition, the word "weaponized" is overused by everyone.
For me, victimhood is when you stop doing thing that you can do. You can suffer from certain conditions, situations etc that might prevent you from doing certain things. And it's ok to adress those difficulties. But there are other things that you can do, and if you don't do them. You don't have an excuse. And I see that a lot. You can't do A for whatever reason, and because you can't to A, you don't do B, C and D. Because it's easier not to those things. Nowadays there's this mentallity that we have to accept that. Instead of telling this person, and ourselves, "ok, you can't do A, but you can do B, C and D, move your ass and do B, C and D"
As a linguist it is frustrating when words are disused because of present-day connotations.
@29:10 Oof. Gonna have to digest that one.