I had been procrastinating on a project for work. After watching your video, I GOT IT DONE. I feel accomplished. I realized that all I have to do is get started. Once I have the momentum, I usually continue until it is completed. Thank you!
This is so powerful Mel. I am a Mom and feel like I lack purpose. I've just been needed as a Mom and starting to feel I am no longer needed since both my boys are grown. My husband doesn't "need" me either. I am stuck.
@momlisette7224 volunteer!!!! get a part time job, get involved in church, join a support group...hang in there, I'm 58 and I'm getting unstuck too! best wishes!❤
Do all the things you never thought you could because you were a mom or wife, etc., whatever the reason you thought. I left 2 abusive relationships of 13y and 5y... and literally got accepted and enrolled in graduate school for my LMSW while at a domestic violence shelter in 2011! I had 5 children at the time ages 1y to 17y. If I can get unstuck from that, anyone can! I also got my dog I always wanted and she had brought so much joy to my life. So for me getting unstuck was getting my education and my Weimaraner, Penny. Figure out the things you stopped doing that made you... you. And also the things you always wanted to do but thought you couldn't because of all the excuses or legitimately because of your children or marriage and go do that. Even if it's one little thing that brings you joy, like sitting in a book store for as long as you like and having a warm pastry and tea. Find your joy! It's out there and it's inside of you! Blessing ls to you! ❤
Hi. I restarded studies last year at 44years and found a passion lost, to learn new things and get results, that i even didn't know that i miss it...only started to listen to you since 2months, wish i had started earlier...but better late than never😊
Where can I get my own pair of pink Mel pajamas? 😂😂. Don’t worry, I am listening. In fact, I have been binging Mel Robbins for two weeks. Mel, you are a gift. Thanks for what you do, it’s inspirational. ❤
Hi Mel, I went to a new coffee shop in Marietta Ga last week called Marietta perks, and what did I see. 🤷🏻♀️ Your name on the wall !! The best motivational speaker, pod caster ever.There wer other names but for me, yours stood out especially when I yelled look everyone ,Mel Robbins name is up on the wall. 🙌🏻Lol Love you girl. 🥰
Thanks for delivering your messages in such a relatable method. You talking about "real life" issues and uncomplicated ways to improve life are so inspiring.
the conversation with the last lady with brain injury made me cry! went through a life altering event myself. When she said " you know it's like I died back there" I could feel her. Thanks Mel, what you made her repeat yourself is what I will tell myself as well.
About the difficulty of starting. It's like using a handsaw to cut a piece of wood. The saw slips and slides around, barely making a cut. But once that first initial cut is started, the saw blade begins to carve and cut its way through the wood with relative ease.
I listen to you most of the time. Love your topics. I relate. But I am so afraid to move on. Afraid of loneliness . Afraid to be forgotten . So uncertain of so many things.
I just wanted to say thank you so much you have been helping me so many ways. I just feel like I still don’t know what to do as my first step. Kind of feel like I’m my hands are tied. I’m waiting on disability check I’m with a husband that I don’t like I’m happy with, and my life just feels like it’s crumbling.
This video really came at the perfect time! There is a lot of hard truths in it that I didn't want to face. I've been affected post Covid, where as a result of the vaccines/Covid, I now have Long Covid, POTS and nerve damage. I was unable to do much for myself or my family. Being bedridden, I lost my job, my ability to do a lot of things and myself. I've slowly learned to adapt but hadn't actually accepted that it happened. Now that I have some guidance, I can now apply this to my life in order to move forward again. Thank you for sharing these videos. Your wisdom is very much appreciated! May love and good health surround you always ❤
I'm 78 and certainly hope to break my thinking habits. Healthy in many ways. Vegan 43 years and a full time volunteer but shit happen and my anxiety has escalated
You're my role model! You got this! I'm 48y and just reading your comment inspired me. If you inspire me in one little comment...I imagine you inspire many in person all the time without even realizing it. You gotta a lot of life and living left! 💯 ❤
I love this and have been applying the 5 sec rule to my life. TY! AND for those of us with ADHD / who are neurodivergent, the following has been helpful for me 1) extrinsic motivation: I think we need expanded definition and examples of it. Personally, I am finding in order for me to SUCCESSFULLY shift a behavior or mind pattern, I NEED a positive extrinsic motivation like: having client sessions or group trainings - something I need to show up for with others - for accountability and that I enjoy to motivate me. And/or creating an external environment cues (see both I Have ADHD podcast and How to ADHD youtube channel for more) that increases motivation - like recently I’m implementing I’m doing work sessions at library 10am during weekdays with FUN built in - set timer and every hour I take a break and have a dance/ stretch / walk break outside. Also coworking zoom sessions with fellow artist entrepreneurs. 2) Intrinsic motivation - personally I also was feeling frustrated as I hadnt been shifting some habits that were not serving me and beating myself up wasn’t helping and I was just struggling to get into action to work on my biz at home alone no matter what I was doing. I’m finding I need to get curious and better know my WHY I’m choosing that negative habit, and WHaT does my nervous system / inner child / subconscious NEED that this habit is serving. In order to shift it and replace it with a new habit and with action. I will just distract or numb myself and eventually return without this why. After the pause, which 5 sec rule really helps with, AND awareness if what need am I filling with this distraction? Then I move to how can I meet that need in a healthier way? I need to be connected to the deeper why in order to shift this at a subconscious level. Just sharing in case this resonates with others. I will be sharing more on my IG AT ericaignite if u want to follow along with my journey 😊
I also just want to say if u have ADHD or other nuerodivergency you have HIGH shame and LOW control of executive functioning and prefrontal cortex… so for me not to continue to perpetuate shame spiral then thought loops then choosing habits that aren’t serving me, its been CRITICAL for me to judge less my habits and get more curious around the deeper why and find solutions that work for me and my brain and my creative, artistic, social self. ❤
❤ yes 🙌 every time we fail to honour our word to ourselves, we diminish our faith in ourselves and lower our self worth simultaneously and the cycle 🔁 continues
Thanks, Mel. I needed this. I've been feeling "stuck" and on auto-pilot and I've picked up some habits over the pandemic that I cannot seem to shake. I've been watching somw YT to get inspired on changing in the New Year, and you are EXACTLY what I needed. I appreciate your wisdom and experience. Thanks for sharing your passion and purpose with us all ⭐️
Learning the critical truth that I am my own best friend or worst enemy helped me embrace this project of self-love along with doing a lot of Shadow work via hypnosis and the firm decision to never go back to that b******* self-loathing person again... Has actually worked for me I noticed this morning when I hired by myself in the mirror I truly love the person I see there now I truly love myself! What an incomparable gift... An absolute literal life changer❤
I really appreciate this podcast I love you Mel. I needed the 5 sec rule to get out of my car for work because I couldn't turn you off.😅bt I did it then snuck in the bathroom to finish listening to you show Thank you so Much
Gosh lady! I just like how you teach. It clicks in my brain. Thank you Mel, from the bottom of my heart, for being so real, for making these things that are so hard, something that is doable for people.
Thank you! Loved what you said about passion and purpose! ...Also loved the conversation about "looking ahead" for brain injured woman...applied a lot to my life. Thanks!
Great stuff. This is the same thing as jumping off a high dive. The fact is that modern life sucks to the point that we have to trick ourselves to get out of bed. Success is a snowball effect though. Either get started adapting or get started dying. Those are the options.
I agree… though not easy, PUSHING myself to do something as simple as making the bed when I get up (even though no one else will know!!), I know how it makes me feel deep inside when I’m passing I see my bed made up OR ~ when it isn’t! Now THAT feeling when it’s undone, makes me feel really bad about myself. This morning I almost didn’t make my bed (because it was a rough night and I’m tired ~ I told myself!). But then… I thought about my promise to myself that though I am home, I would be sure to make my bed EVERY WEEKDAY (giving myself a weekend pass~ if need be🙄). So, I got up and made it! I’ve also made a point over the last several months when feeling overwhelmed or depressed to actually timed myself at an activity that I plan to put off such as making my bed. And really the amount of time that it takes to do that or to wash the dinner dishes before bed or something of that sort really takes only a matter of minutes. And so that’s what I try to remind myself just three minutes for this… You can do it; just five minutes for that… You can do it! JUST DOING IT really does ease THAT stress. Thanks Mel, for all the time you put in to helping others manage the little everyday matters!
Now I love your 54321 it works I have been very depressed I have laid in bed for 6 years cuz I didn't feel good cuz I had a thyroid problem that nobody could find they didn't never did the right test for it so I came across to you on Alex's show and ever since I've been making myself do the 54321 and it really works thank you for helping me wake up you are loved❤❤
I think for most of us, we have the time, we have the dreams but what we lack is the money. I'm sure I could fulfil all my dreams if I could quit my job because I had enough money to do so. 😢
The BEST way to BE SURE to get out of bed in the morning, the second the alarm goes off, is to get a DOG 🐶 😂 Mine never lets me sleep after the first beep 😅 😖🤣
When your a singer or a sport pro then you can’t afford to be tired that’s for sure - the nights I get to sleep later because of insomnia or whatever I can’t get up when the alarm rings if I do I can’t perform with up to 30min less sleep it affects all
For the last week I am trying to get up at 3 am but I can't do it. Its dark , scary and depressing put there . I used to wake up at 3 am few years ago with no problem but not today .
I had been procrastinating on a project for work. After watching your video, I GOT IT DONE. I feel accomplished. I realized that all I have to do is get started. Once I have the momentum, I usually continue until it is completed. Thank you!
Bravo 😅
Hey Mel, you are magic, I am 54 years old, and I will be starting my life today ! Love you 🩷
I've started setting my alarm 15 minutes early so that I can lay in bed and start my morning with Mel. It's not snoozing, it's me time.😁
You inspire me Mel, you talk directly to my heart. Love and respect from Athens, Greece.
Mel, thank you for being you, you enlighten my life tremendously your words of wisdom, set deep in my soul. You are one of the most amazing women.💕
That last one with the lady who had a brain injury was so powerful. I tend to look at the rear view mirror, too. Thank you, Mel!
This is so powerful Mel. I am a Mom and feel like I lack purpose. I've just been needed as a Mom and starting to feel I am no longer needed since both my boys are grown. My husband doesn't "need" me either. I am stuck.
@momlisette7224 volunteer!!!! get a part time job, get involved in church, join a support group...hang in there, I'm 58 and I'm getting unstuck too! best wishes!❤
Do all the things you never thought you could because you were a mom or wife, etc., whatever the reason you thought.
I left 2 abusive relationships of 13y and 5y... and literally got accepted and enrolled in graduate school for my LMSW while at a domestic violence shelter in 2011! I had 5 children at the time ages 1y to 17y. If I can get unstuck from that, anyone can! I also got my dog I always wanted and she had brought so much joy to my life. So for me getting unstuck was getting my education and my Weimaraner, Penny. Figure out the things you stopped doing that made you... you. And also the things you always wanted to do but thought you couldn't because of all the excuses or legitimately because of your children or marriage and go do that. Even if it's one little thing that brings you joy, like sitting in a book store for as long as you like and having a warm pastry and tea. Find your joy! It's out there and it's inside of you!
Blessing ls to you! ❤
Hi. I restarded studies last year at 44years and found a passion lost, to learn new things and get results, that i even didn't know that i miss it...only started to listen to you since 2months, wish i had started earlier...but better late than never😊
I'm starting studies now at 41 ✨
Wish you all the best
Where can I get my own pair of pink Mel pajamas? 😂😂. Don’t worry, I am listening. In fact, I have been binging Mel Robbins for two weeks. Mel, you are a gift. Thanks for what you do, it’s inspirational. ❤
I’ve been binging for last couple of weeks too! it has really helped my mind and digging myself out of a hole . Hope it’s helping you too 🙂
I owe my life to you Mel . Thanks for pushing me to do, IT Just do it
"Change require discipline" not motivation. Spot on!!
Hi Mel, I went to a new coffee shop in Marietta Ga last week called Marietta perks, and what did I see. 🤷🏻♀️ Your name on the wall !! The best motivational speaker, pod caster ever.There wer other names but for me, yours stood out especially when I yelled look everyone ,Mel Robbins name is up on the wall. 🙌🏻Lol Love you girl. 🥰
Thanks for delivering your messages in such a relatable method. You talking about "real life" issues and uncomplicated ways to improve life are so inspiring.
the conversation with the last lady with brain injury made me cry! went through a life altering event myself. When she said " you know it's like I died back there" I could feel her. Thanks Mel, what you made her repeat yourself is what I will tell myself as well.
I just now found your videos.
I like the way you explain things & give examples.
I'm living & loving life. ❤️
Discipline yourself to make a new you...Thank you Madam Mel for sharing your inspiration video to us..God bless you always🥰
About the difficulty of starting. It's like using a handsaw to cut a piece of wood. The saw slips and slides around, barely making a cut. But once that first initial cut is started, the saw blade begins to carve and cut its way through the wood with relative ease.
Great analogy!
All I can say is WOW! You are incredible.
I listen to you most of the time. Love your topics. I relate. But I am so afraid to move on. Afraid of loneliness . Afraid to be forgotten . So uncertain of so many things.
Sending you encouragement, love, and God's peace. Amen!❤
You are worth it.
You matter.
You have value.
Your are loved.
🙏
It is fascinating and motivating to always hear who you are from the past, and to see what you become now❤️
Thank you Mel, this is a life changing podcast,
I just wanted to say thank you so much you have been helping me so many ways. I just feel like I still don’t know what to do as my first step. Kind of feel like I’m my hands are tied. I’m waiting on disability check I’m with a husband that I don’t like I’m happy with, and my life just feels like it’s crumbling.
Wow, so powerful! The amazing woman speaking after her accident & brain injury brought tears to my eyes❤
This video really came at the perfect time! There is a lot of hard truths in it that I didn't want to face. I've been affected post Covid, where as a result of the vaccines/Covid, I now have Long Covid, POTS and nerve damage. I was unable to do much for myself or my family. Being bedridden, I lost my job, my ability to do a lot of things and myself. I've slowly learned to adapt but hadn't actually accepted that it happened. Now that I have some guidance, I can now apply this to my life in order to move forward again. Thank you for sharing these videos. Your wisdom is very much appreciated! May love and good health surround you always ❤
Hello from India!!!
Thank you for these amazing inspirational videos!!
Great information!
What are the 12 habits?
Well-said. Trusting myself. Integrity with myself. Thanks.
Thank you again,you have help me change so much, you are amazing xxxxx❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Mel. You're amazing!
Mel you are so inspiring! ❤❤❤
Excellent!!!! And thank you, Mel!!!
I LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOS MEL.
I'm 78 and certainly hope to break my thinking habits. Healthy in many ways. Vegan 43 years and a full time volunteer but shit happen and my anxiety has escalated
You're my role model! You got this! I'm 48y and just reading your comment inspired me. If you inspire me in one little comment...I imagine you inspire many in person all the time without even realizing it.
You gotta a lot of life and living left! 💯 ❤
I love how real you are with everything you say! This time with my 3 little children my business is going to thrive and I will be successful.
I love this and have been applying the 5 sec rule to my life. TY! AND for those of us with ADHD / who are neurodivergent, the following has been helpful for me
1) extrinsic motivation: I think we need expanded definition and examples of it. Personally, I am finding in order for me to SUCCESSFULLY shift a behavior or mind pattern, I NEED a positive extrinsic motivation like: having client sessions or group trainings - something I need to show up for with others - for accountability and that I enjoy to motivate me. And/or creating an external environment cues (see both I Have ADHD podcast and How to ADHD youtube channel for more) that increases motivation - like recently I’m implementing I’m doing work sessions at library 10am during weekdays with FUN built in - set timer and every hour I take a break and have a dance/ stretch / walk break outside. Also coworking zoom sessions with fellow artist entrepreneurs.
2) Intrinsic motivation - personally I also was feeling frustrated as I hadnt been shifting some habits that were not serving me and beating myself up wasn’t helping and I was just struggling to get into action to work on my biz at home alone no matter what I was doing. I’m finding I need to get curious and better know my WHY I’m choosing that negative habit, and WHaT does my nervous system / inner child / subconscious NEED that this habit is serving. In order to shift it and replace it with a new habit and with action. I will just distract or numb myself and eventually return without this why. After the pause, which 5 sec rule really helps with, AND awareness if what need am I filling with this distraction? Then I move to how can I meet that need in a healthier way?
I need to be connected to the deeper why in order to shift this at a subconscious level. Just sharing in case this resonates with others. I will be sharing more on my IG AT ericaignite if u want to follow along with my journey 😊
I also just want to say if u have ADHD or other nuerodivergency you have HIGH shame and LOW control of executive functioning and prefrontal cortex… so for me not to continue to perpetuate shame spiral then thought loops then choosing habits that aren’t serving me, its been CRITICAL for me to judge less my habits and get more curious around the deeper why and find solutions that work for me and my brain and my creative, artistic, social self. ❤
I can make and keep a promise to anyone but myself 😔 and that needs to change
❤ yes 🙌 every time we fail to honour our word to ourselves, we diminish our faith in ourselves and lower our self worth simultaneously and the cycle 🔁 continues
Loved your comment!
Will you take us on a video tour of your home? It looks beautiful!
Thank you you are so good ❤
Thanks, Mel. I needed this. I've been feeling "stuck" and on auto-pilot and I've picked up some habits over the pandemic that I cannot seem to shake. I've been watching somw YT to get inspired on changing in the New Year, and you are EXACTLY what I needed. I appreciate your wisdom and experience. Thanks for sharing your passion and purpose with us all ⭐️
Learning the critical truth that I am my own best friend or worst enemy helped me embrace this project of self-love along with doing a lot of Shadow work via hypnosis and the firm decision to never go back to that b******* self-loathing person again... Has actually worked for me I noticed this morning when I hired by myself in the mirror I truly love the person I see there now I truly love myself! What an incomparable gift... An absolute literal life changer❤
I really appreciate this podcast I love you Mel. I needed the 5 sec rule to get out of my car for work because I couldn't turn you off.😅bt I did it then snuck in the bathroom to finish listening to you show Thank you so Much
You look great. Don't let idiots bring you down. They WANT to bring you down. 🎉🎉🎉
Gosh lady! I just like how you teach. It clicks in my brain. Thank you Mel, from the bottom of my heart, for being so real, for making these things that are so hard, something that is doable for people.
Thank you! Loved what you said about passion and purpose! ...Also loved the conversation about "looking ahead" for brain injured woman...applied a lot to my life. Thanks!
I love you Mel from philippine
This is the best intro to a motivational video ever.
Love your work Mel!
I decided not to chase the people who rejected me at 30. Best decision ever
I love you Mel, you're the besttttt !!!!!!! Sending love all the way from India ❤️
I'm starting to love you Mel your so inspiring ❤️
Thank you my friend 🤜🤛💞🌹🙏
Great stuff. This is the same thing as jumping off a high dive. The fact is that modern life sucks to the point that we have to trick ourselves to get out of bed. Success is a snowball effect though. Either get started adapting or get started dying. Those are the options.
Thank you.
A great channel!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🥰
Change Your Life Every Single Day 💯
Thanks for your invaluable info
You are a GEM
❤thank you 🎉
Excellent video, thank you !
Truth.
For the first time in months I didn't hit the snooze button this morning. I don't want to break promises to myself anymore.
I'm glad I found you when I did
Awesome Mel. Thank you!!!
I’m going to guess that one of the tips is not watching YT 18 hrs/day.
I’m not ready for that kind of break-up.
Then don't start by making things easy at first you can do 17 hrs and 45 mins then after a while keep decreasing 15 minutes at a time
So agree with you Mel - if we “ waited for the right time” it would probably never happen 🤣💕💕
I agree… though not easy, PUSHING myself to do something as simple as making the bed when I get up (even though no one else will know!!), I know how it makes me feel deep inside when I’m passing I see my bed made up OR ~ when it isn’t! Now THAT feeling when it’s undone, makes me feel really bad about myself. This morning I almost didn’t make my bed (because it was a rough night and I’m tired ~ I told myself!). But then… I thought about my promise to myself that though I am home, I would be sure to make my bed EVERY WEEKDAY (giving myself a weekend pass~ if need be🙄). So, I got up and made it! I’ve also made a point over the last several months when feeling overwhelmed or depressed to actually timed myself at an activity that I plan to put off such as making my bed. And really the amount of time that it takes to do that or to wash the dinner dishes before bed or something of that sort really takes only a matter of minutes. And so that’s what I try to remind myself just three minutes for this… You can do it; just five minutes for that… You can do it! JUST DOING IT really does ease THAT stress. Thanks Mel, for all the time you put in to helping others manage the little everyday matters!
I divorced my lying, cheating husband at age 44. Best decision ever.
Good Job!
Ll
Love this. ❤
Same decision I made at 40 ✨
Well good for you, did you find proof of all his deceiving ways in the marriage?
Man, this really resonated.
Thank you Mel
Hello from Perth Australia Mel ,thank u
Thanks for all your videos, Mel, and kudos for spelling Mihály Csíkszentmihályi perfectly:))) All the best form Hungary:)
Spot on re DISCIPLINE❣️
BTW Mel, you are gorgeous without make-up!
Now I love your 54321 it works I have been very depressed I have laid in bed for 6 years cuz I didn't feel good cuz I had a thyroid problem that nobody could find they didn't never did the right test for it so I came across to you on Alex's show and ever since I've been making myself do the 54321 and it really works thank you for helping me wake up you are loved❤❤
Amen!
Hi Mel I have taken your advice and I have enrolled on a reflexology course. You are amazing and I love your you tube videos ❤️
Bad ass woman!
I will trust you're lood 🎉 Beautifully moving my Dreme the USA 🏫 thank you 🙏
Sounds like passion is easier to generate than purpose...
What do you say about us mom with young adult with addiction please give me some advice
My passion is painting and colors
My purpose is to spread my art and the happiness of colors to the world
What to do with lack of focus?
I think for most of us, we have the time, we have the dreams but what we lack is the money. I'm sure I could fulfil all my dreams if I could quit my job because I had enough money to do so. 😢
So true 👍👍😳👍
Horse riding and painting 🖼️
I have been getting up and doing alote.
Yes that woman in the mirror needs your love be your own best friend who knows you better?❤
Habits are choices on default. I learned this being a Taoist.
The BEST way to BE SURE to get out of bed in the morning, the second the alarm goes off, is to get a DOG 🐶 😂 Mine never lets me sleep after the first beep 😅 😖🤣
That's exactly for me
When your a singer or a sport pro then you can’t afford to be tired that’s for sure - the nights I get to sleep later because of insomnia or whatever I can’t get up when the alarm rings if I do I can’t perform with up to 30min less sleep it affects all
I have been living in my bed a lot, but it just prolongs the inevitable.
And if there's no alarm?
Mel if i watch you everyday... This will be a busy life😂
Mel, please get more sleep. Love you X. 🎇☮️🎆🏵️🌠
Where have u been all my life😂❤😊🤗
Is there a short on this...?
For the last week I am trying to get up at 3 am but I can't do it. Its dark , scary and depressing put there . I used to wake up at 3 am few years ago with no problem but not today .
Lol...the cat video😂
❤️❤️❤️
Self Discipline
Not even a minute in and I was already sitting here nodding my head in agreement 🥰🤣🎉