THE WAIT | Why we regret having sex before marriage | South African Couple YouTubers

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  • Опубликовано: 10 июл 2021
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    In today’s instalment we have the important conversation about preserving the sanctity of marriage. We share our personal journey and struggles.
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  • @TheMakhs
    @TheMakhs  3 года назад +448

    Hi DreamTeam!
    Thank you so much for your outpouring love and support. We see all your comments and unfortunately cannot respond to each comment due to the volume. We are so encouraged by what God is doing to restore what has been lost in His Kingdom. We love and appreciate you so much♥️

    • @cynthiaturya744
      @cynthiaturya744 3 года назад +10

      We love & appreciate you more.
      Where sin abounds, grace abounds even more✨
      He works A.L.L things for our good. What the enemy meant for evil, God turns it for good. The good is this right here. The good is the many souls that have been touched and encouraged by this instalment. Let’s never forget the purpose of The Cross, it is finished. It’s done. There’s nothing you can do that will or can separate you from Gods love and that’s on periooooodt.
      We love you man ♥️

    • @leratoleshoedi1247
      @leratoleshoedi1247 3 года назад +4

      Wow Lerato, that is so bold
      I’m in tears right now that you love you wife so much. Thank you so much guys.

    • @neophillipine5743
      @neophillipine5743 3 года назад +3

      I love your content ❤️This episode was amazing

    • @snobmoele5598
      @snobmoele5598 3 года назад +6

      I think the organisation is called ‘true love waits’? I hope they still do the school visits now more than ever! Thanks for your transparency guys. God bless your union

    • @keepcreationprocess
      @keepcreationprocess 3 года назад +2

      OOOOHHHHH,,,,,, very well explained -- if you want to sin, it only will weakens you...

  • @mbalimavuso8735
    @mbalimavuso8735 3 года назад +1210

    I'm a 32 year old virgin and one always gets these strange comments even from fellow Christians. This has been a great session 🙌🏾

    • @syathokozahlophe9011
      @syathokozahlophe9011 3 года назад +82

      Wow… I’m a 27 year old and all I can say is that it’s difficult… I’m soo proud of you

    • @ThandazaMK
      @ThandazaMK 3 года назад +27

      Dzammmmmmnnn guys well done wow!

    • @ayavuyapapiyana7968
      @ayavuyapapiyana7968 3 года назад +70

      I'm almost 30😃 not an easy journey but worth it💕

    • @zaneleradebe8954
      @zaneleradebe8954 3 года назад +80

      As a 26 year old virgin. This comment is so encouraging❤ May God continue to be our strength until we either die or wed in a godly institution.

    • @akhonatshangela2069
      @akhonatshangela2069 3 года назад +105

      Signing the register😂 I’m 33 and still holding on. It gets harder with the years because the body works against you from time to time but hey, God is good and He is faithful. It can only be God. One needs to be intentional about what they feed on and who they surround themselves with. And yes, the older you are the more they will give you funny looks or even say stuff that insinuates you are lying. But remember, it’s a covenant between yourself and God and no one else. I am proud of all of you and praying for more strength to keep going and honoring God even with our bodies❤️

  • @jamesododomiracle9558
    @jamesododomiracle9558 3 года назад +940

    “Be okay being the difference, stand out” Christianity is hard work but it’s worth it🙌🏽 I’m 26yrs going on 27 and still a virgin. I almost fell off the wagon a few times, but God has been faithful. The temptation gets difficult when you’re close to getting married. I’m 3 months and 19days away from being married and some days it’s tough! Thankfully we don’t see each other often so that helps. Thank you for this video🥰🥰🥰

    • @Maureen_36
      @Maureen_36 3 года назад +37

      Hang in there! 26 years old and a virgin is a blessing. Congratulations on your marriage 😍

    • @user-yq4qf2dr5e
      @user-yq4qf2dr5e 3 года назад +7

      Congratulations may the Lord bless your marriage ❤️

    • @gerardettewesterlund8631
      @gerardettewesterlund8631 3 года назад +4

      im so happy for you brother!

    • @bitsandpieces8042
      @bitsandpieces8042 3 года назад +10

      Please hold out. And continue to pray.
      Over 8 years now I've been in church and I hold out, I don't meet anyone yet

    • @gerardettewesterlund8631
      @gerardettewesterlund8631 3 года назад

      @@bitsandpieces8042 i def will

  • @yandisamaphanga9051
    @yandisamaphanga9051 3 года назад +787

    I needed to hear this " You can't be a Christian and want to fit in , You need to standout" 🥺🥺. Thank you so much.

    • @xolilesilombo
      @xolilesilombo 3 года назад +21

      The way I've been so sad because I don't fit in! But we are called to be set apart, and not conform to the standards of this world.

    • @yandisamaphanga9051
      @yandisamaphanga9051 3 года назад +7

      @@xolilesilombo We are set free through the blood of Jesus Christ. What this world calls liberty and freedom is complete slavery to sin so as Christians we should not conform to the things of this world because we are not of this world. God bless you ❤️❤️

    • @xolilesilombo
      @xolilesilombo 3 года назад +4

      @@yandisamaphanga9051 God bless you❤️! May the rest of the year be blessed for you and your family!

    • @nellynkosi9408
      @nellynkosi9408 3 года назад

      Eshapa binnekant tjo

    • @abbytonui3829
      @abbytonui3829 3 года назад

      It's the transparency for me

  • @oshinjonnell4199
    @oshinjonnell4199 3 года назад +620

    At 25 years old, I am still a virgin. Growing up in a country like Jamaica where sex and sexuality is so overt, being convicted and sticking through the conviction because of my love for God has literally been the only thing to keep me. I love that you touched on the topic of the shame that follows when we partake in sexual acts even though we are convicted on the importance of the wait. Though I’ve never had sex, there are times when I’ve allowed my fire to burn when I shouldn’t and allow compromising situations. Thank you both for the transparency and May God continue to bless your union .

    • @bitsandpieces8042
      @bitsandpieces8042 3 года назад +13

      8 years I'm holding out. Went to church in 2013. And I'm holding out.
      I'm from Jamaica. Baptize at 7 yrs. Backslide at 15-16. Came bk in. And holding out cause I know understand what it takes to serve God.

    • @schaunagaye33
      @schaunagaye33 3 года назад +7

      Keep on holding on to your purity. From a fellow Jamaican 💛💚🖤

    • @mishakirabo7351
      @mishakirabo7351 3 года назад +8

      I'm from Uganda, and from what I've seen in Jamaican music videos and heard in lyrics... It must be tough. God continue to strengthen you in your resolve and conviction not to have sex till marriage. Who knows, more people will make the same decision and the status quo could change. I hear you about slip ups, but we can do this by God's grace. Thank you for sharing. Every blessing:)

    • @faithchinazo165
      @faithchinazo165 3 года назад +1

      Weldone sis. God will not fail you

    • @ToniJPrieto
      @ToniJPrieto 2 года назад +16

      I'm 15 and from trinidad 🇹🇹 it's definitely hard, not just physically but keeping and staying pure in your thoughts too!
      #waiting

  • @moitshepisparkles
    @moitshepisparkles 3 года назад +445

    "The power of sin, lies in secrecy" 👌🌟

    • @mamuyovwiidigun294
      @mamuyovwiidigun294 3 года назад +4

      This phrase should be framed and hung in every street on earth...

  • @siphomahlangu5765
    @siphomahlangu5765 3 года назад +448

    Great content guys, me and my wife never had sex until we were married it was not an easy journey. But what i have discovered is that young people abstain from sex for marriage. My question is what if the marriage doesn't happen? What I'm saying is please honour God with your body as His word is saying, never ever put marriage on the cards let it start with God and end with Him. Don't do it because you expecting a payment in a form of marriage, do it as God wants us to do as His children 1CORINTH6:19 & ROMAN 12:1. Always keep check of the MOTIVES behind the act, GOD BLESS. Shalom 🙏🏾

    • @thomasmachok4088
      @thomasmachok4088 3 года назад +9

      Wow this is Amazing it opened my eyes , thank you so much .
      God bless you

    • @MissQomfortable
      @MissQomfortable 3 года назад +5

      Powerful🙌

    • @nandisilemphahlaza9562
      @nandisilemphahlaza9562 3 года назад +4

      Oh wow this is powerful teaching thank u👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @nomgqibelo
      @nomgqibelo 3 года назад +4

      Wooooooooow. Thank you for sharing

    • @tanash1991
      @tanash1991 3 года назад +3

      Your totally right

  • @tshegofatsonkosi1276
    @tshegofatsonkosi1276 3 года назад +539

    Thank you so much for sharing this. Me and my husband were both virgins when we got married. We got married last month he is 30 and I'm 25. All I can say to those who are still waiting it's worth it🙏🏾.

    • @mmachuenemaloba5594
      @mmachuenemaloba5594 3 года назад +25

      It's so sobering hearing out women who value sexual morality.

    • @bogolontombela3650
      @bogolontombela3650 3 года назад +17

      I pray u enjoy the experience. I pray that the wait serves as a blessing in your marriage. I pray that u be liberated fully,to express yourself sexually n really enjoy the gift of sex that God has given in all its beautiful glory

    • @tshegofatsonkosi1276
      @tshegofatsonkosi1276 3 года назад +3

      @@bogolontombela3650 Thank you so much sis, I really appreciate that. ❤️🤗

    • @oliviaumwali8284
      @oliviaumwali8284 3 года назад +18

      21 and still holding on my V card

    • @NewMomTipsUG
      @NewMomTipsUG 3 года назад +1

      You're blessed.

  • @chelbetebbs
    @chelbetebbs 3 года назад +122

    The way you covered your wife by taking the blame truly blessed me. its so uncommon

    • @aselyne5631
      @aselyne5631 8 месяцев назад +1

      Accountability should be both sides,him taking blame for two people's mistakes is not a blessing or covering,it's entitlement.

  • @siphokazii
    @siphokazii 3 года назад +501

    Tjo! First of all i commend you guys for coming clean when you didn't have to. Surely you helping many others out there who are struggling with guilt. Lesson :1. When you plan to be celibate rather not kiss at all: it's like smelling the food when you are fasting and so not meant to eat.
    2. Do not stay for long with your partner in a private space, let there rather be some one else and not only the two of you.
    3. If the mistake has happened? Confess your sin to God and then tell someone you trust in the faith who can counsel you so the enemy won't have room to condemn and put shame on you.
    4. Nothing just happens, you can see when something is leading to that thing and be honest about it, Don't brush it off.
    5. Both partners should decide to be celibate to honor God with their bodies not because they are doing it for the spouse who is celibate.
    6. Pray for grace ,apply wisdom and know your triggers.
    Thanks fam, bless you 🙏

    • @josephinesawadye7543
      @josephinesawadye7543 3 года назад +3

      Thank you for all these points💙👏.

    • @darcymcdowel4040
      @darcymcdowel4040 3 года назад +11

      when i heard him say, that he wanted to be celibate for her, i knew that it was downhill from there. They both needed to do it for God.

    • @i.am.michellekirabo
      @i.am.michellekirabo 3 года назад

      Amen.

    • @summerreign9620
      @summerreign9620 3 года назад

      I needed this

    • @kjerit630
      @kjerit630 3 года назад +8

      Great points! Especially no 1 about not kissing on the mouth...I'm proudly celibate for 8 years and have dated a few guys during this time. And this is the first disclaimer I give to anyone who wishes to date me - absolutely no kissing, snogging or petting! Once I was convicted about the fallacy of pre-marital sex, I asked God to help me deal with this aspect of relationships. I was inspired by the Holy Spirit to let go of certain behavior patterns. If someone really wants to walk on this journey of abstinence before marriage then they understand the need to have boundaries around affection. It's not easy BUT it's doable. Kissing without sex also creates soul ties, so if the relationship does not progress to marriage - you are still left with similar negative effects like you had sex with them.

  • @noziphon1
    @noziphon1 3 года назад +267

    My biggest regret 😭😭after 29 long years I lost it, I lost my virginity. To be honest I haven't talked to myself about it and I haven't forgiven myself.
    To this day my relationship with sex is very strange🤔did I just have an aha moment
    Makes sense now, I need to acknowledge my mistake, own it, and forgive myself. So help me God.
    Thank you so much the Makhs

    • @zaneleradebe8954
      @zaneleradebe8954 3 года назад +36

      This hurt my heart! I can only imagine the hurt and shame attached to loosing your virginity after holding on to it for so long. I hope you repent and ask God to give you the grace to forgive and be gracious to yourself.
      God is able to restore whatever the locust has stolen. Don't allow the enemy to hold you captive through guilt and shame. Your God forgives and forgets so any feeling of guilt is the enemy using the only weapon he has which is the past. You are forgiven, loved and chosen. Start again, we fall down sometimes as Christians but we always get up. Greater is He that is within you than the one that is in the world. Prayed for you already, rooting for you and holding to faith that you will wait again and this time until you get into a godly union. I love you and God loves you even much more. Hope you have a great week.

    • @Journey_with_Gwendol
      @Journey_with_Gwendol 3 года назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @desciplingalldayeveryday1047
      @desciplingalldayeveryday1047 3 года назад +15

      I'm lost mine just recently,a huge regret

    • @ingagwiji3433
      @ingagwiji3433 3 года назад +9

      @@zaneleradebe8954 thank you for this comment sis, it's comforting... I also lost mine after holding on to it for sooo long and it wasn't worth it and I still haven't forgiven myself/ healed from it.

    • @samanthaonkakhulu2566
      @samanthaonkakhulu2566 3 года назад +10

      forgive yourself, ask yourself what can you learn from that situation. you are still worthy, and very much worthy of God's love,

  • @angiemuffins706
    @angiemuffins706 3 года назад +151

    I'm so happy to see this, I JUST this past week had to tell a guy I really liked that I'm waiting for marriage, he hasn't spoke to me since but that's okay, I'm just happy I'm happy I stood up for myself

    • @silasgitonga205
      @silasgitonga205 2 года назад +14

      Girl you made the right decision I am a guy and I trust God to give me a saved girl who is also waiting until marriage.

  • @siviwemapekula1689
    @siviwemapekula1689 3 года назад +242

    When Mr. Makhs quickly agreed on not protecting Mrs. Makhs' heart my heart sank😭😭😭😭and the apology that followed.

    • @nhlalalamampa7733
      @nhlalalamampa7733 3 года назад +15

      Yho I was like 👏👏👏👏. That was powerful

    • @siviwemapekula1689
      @siviwemapekula1689 3 года назад +4

      @@nhlalalamampa7733 🙌🙌

    • @tenyekomaluleke602
      @tenyekomaluleke602 3 года назад +13

      It's the sincerity for Mr makhs for me, his accountability on that part nd him owning up to that mistake nd the powerful apology that came with it, followed by the emotional state it left aus pheto in, my tears flowed!#stay blessed fam❤️

    • @siviwemapekula1689
      @siviwemapekula1689 3 года назад +6

      @@tenyekomaluleke602 he's a man among men🙌🙌

    • @simplyadelaide6670
      @simplyadelaide6670 3 года назад +4

      Im cryin😭♥️aw

  • @onkabetsetlhapi6407
    @onkabetsetlhapi6407 3 года назад +366

    As someone who is in a relationship where we are waiting, I'm well aware of the arguments the enemy tries to bring as you edge closer to marriage...Like "Gwa tshwana you guys are gonna get married" but that's a lie, and I'm grateful that you have selflessly chosen to highlight the disadvantages of this type of sin so that we don't fall for the same lie. You don't owe us this disclosure but you chose to do it for our learning benefit, and we appreciate you for that. You guys are the best older sister and brothers I've never met 🤗❤️
    May God continue to bless and keep you

  • @mabotsechoshane
    @mabotsechoshane 3 года назад +247

    Can I just say that Phetola is just so beautiful 😍

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  3 года назад

      Thank you so much🤗♥️🥰

    • @dearpastorr
      @dearpastorr 3 года назад +3

      Absolutely stunning! Very beautiful couple

  • @michellecasagrande2011
    @michellecasagrande2011 3 года назад +177

    "Standing out is lonely sometimes but it is absolutely worth it!" Love this!

  • @tebogotabane435
    @tebogotabane435 3 года назад +83

    Thank you for this. I’m 23yrs old and still pure, and the goal has always been to wait for marriage but changed to saying I was ready to lose my virginity cause of a lot of factors really but my spirit wasn’t at ease with the decision. I’m going back to my initial decision to not do it and wait for my chosen one from God after marriage. Thanks again for this.

  • @keletsomekwa
    @keletsomekwa 3 года назад +562

    This topic really touched me and it’s the kind of motivation that I needed since I’m a 21 year old also practising “the wait”. One thing I always say is that I never wanna get to a point where I think I’m invincible and this will be an easy journey so I’m constantly feeding on things that will encourage that objective. Thank you so much for this and I’m sure it will encourage others as well.❤️

    • @akhonatshangela2069
      @akhonatshangela2069 3 года назад +37

      I’m turning 33 this month and still practicing the wait. I love this and wanted to comment and encourage you to keep going. Trust me, it gets harder but totally doable as long as you trust God to guide you and focus/feed on things that align with your decision to wait. I don’t know you but I am so so proud of you and wish you well on your journey. Keep going sis, you are doing very well❤️🙏🏾

    • @keletsomekwa
      @keletsomekwa 3 года назад +13

      @@akhonatshangela2069 Sis, your comment touched my heart so much🥺🙏🏻. May God bless you. I’m so encouraged and I will indeed keep going. The word says if we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us. I wish you all the best as well and may God continue to be your strength. 🙏🏻❤️

    • @akhonatshangela2069
      @akhonatshangela2069 3 года назад +6

      @@keletsomekwa thank you sis❤️❤️❤️ plenty blessings🙏🏾

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  3 года назад +18

      May God continue to bless you on this journey as you continue to honour Him♥️

    • @bafananjabulo7399
      @bafananjabulo7399 3 года назад +1

      Hi...Keletso I'm so touched by your comment

  • @bloomsunfoldingwithpreciou2646
    @bloomsunfoldingwithpreciou2646 3 года назад +431

    One of my late mentors used to say that sex before marriage creates a level of mistrust and discomfort because the knowledge that this person couldn’t be faithful to God doesn’t give any confidence that they’d be faithful to you. Her emphasis though was the fact that the devil will always engrave this lie that will cause a level of mistrust if not addressed.

  • @mandisamasimini2078
    @mandisamasimini2078 3 года назад +167

    Yoh "the power of sin lies in secrecy" Your story almost sounds like my story with my husband. We met @ church, I
    was a new Christian and wasn't looking because I was coming from a bad relationship. Anyway my husband says he new he was gona marry me the moment he saw me for the first time, he even told me when we first spoke. Our intention was also to have sex after marriage, but we fell off the wagon as well and it happened so many times until we both decided that we wont have sex again until we got married because of the guilt that we carried especially when we had to go to church, unfortunately or fortunately we became pregnant. The shame of it was unbearable and seemed like we were now getting married because of the baby, but we should have been more concerned about what God thought of what we were doing instead of being ashamed of the church. I know its a long comment, I had to share.

    • @mayowaoyedokun9828
      @mayowaoyedokun9828 3 года назад +12

      Thanks for being open: it's an encouragement for me. God forgives at all times once we acknowledge our wrong: so let's go the guilt.

    • @sarahmajin5358
      @sarahmajin5358 2 года назад +3

      So sorry it had to result in that at that time. Thank you so much for sharing your story❤️

    • @brownlillys
      @brownlillys 2 года назад

      Thank you

    • @nthabilu
      @nthabilu 2 года назад

      💗💗💗💗

    • @nothandomzulwini6283
      @nothandomzulwini6283 Год назад

      Thank you for your comment.

  • @miriammwandingi2033
    @miriammwandingi2033 3 года назад +118

    20yrs old me watching this and it's mind blowing.

    • @_lebz_M_TV
      @_lebz_M_TV 3 года назад +9

      Protect your virginity dear❤

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  3 года назад +2

      ♥️♥️🤗🤗

  • @bloomsunfoldingwithpreciou2646
    @bloomsunfoldingwithpreciou2646 3 года назад +210

    I was in tears through out the episode, mainly because we live in a generation that is selfish and self justified but seeing the level of repentance and remorse is mind blowing. I pray that this instalment is liberating and redeeming to the both of you. I’m grateful on your behalf because the hold that the enemy had is broken, we thank God for you. Loved this thoroughly ♥️♥️

  • @zweclark3231
    @zweclark3231 3 года назад +57

    When he looked at her and said l’m sorry tears just flooded my eyes. Thank you so much for this installment, obedience is better than sacrifice, it is good to obey!

  • @londiwesibayi2869
    @londiwesibayi2869 2 года назад +75

    I'm turning 32 years tomorrow, and I'm still a virgin. Thank you guys for this😊

  • @OnTheCouchWithRivonia
    @OnTheCouchWithRivonia 3 года назад +155

    Shooo your vulnerability and authenticity will definitely set a lot of people free🙌🏽

  • @ruachelohimtv7877
    @ruachelohimtv7877 3 года назад +76

    @"28 and have never indulged.. I pray each day that God preserve me till I get married.. It's a not a religious act but a way of worshiping him and upholding his word... Keep us away from temptation Lord...lol and many times I identify myself with Phetola.. I feel like I am that person who says it is God or nothing...

  • @dinecify
    @dinecify 3 года назад +19

    I am a 29 year old virgin and I'm glad to see all these comments. It's comforting to know that I am not alone ❤

  • @rixongileblessing3567
    @rixongileblessing3567 3 года назад +82

    I’ve never seen such honesty on RUclips, may God bless you abundantly!!!

  • @bonoloatong
    @bonoloatong 3 года назад +51

    "I can't believe I've lived with this shame for 11 years..."😭
    I'm in-love! Thank you.

  • @heaven9378
    @heaven9378 3 года назад +144

    Hie guys i am sharing you like no man's business....i just cried because of the decisions i made in my youth, i have been celibate now for 3.5 years now and i have never felt so free in Christ like now

    • @georgina4874
      @georgina4874 3 года назад

      💛👏🏽

    • @bitsandpieces8042
      @bitsandpieces8042 3 года назад +2

      Same me. 8 years of celibacy. I feel so light and free. Thank God for cleaning me up.

  • @thandekadlamini6846
    @thandekadlamini6846 2 года назад +45

    I'm glad I found a couple that made decisions exactly like the ones we made with my husband when we started dating. We dated for 5 years and our first kiss was on our wedding day, same with our first sexual encounter.. It felt so special. Im Glad we waited 😍😍it was worth it

  • @keneiloemyoli
    @keneiloemyoli 3 года назад +42

    A man that can say “I’m sorry” 🙌🏾

  • @staceymaimba2589
    @staceymaimba2589 3 года назад +47

    Thank you for your transparency!!! "For there is no more condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" This installment also reminds me of a quote by Pastor Kingsley: "The self-control you practice outside of marriage is the self-control you will need inside your marriage"

  • @nasirakandjeke6819
    @nasirakandjeke6819 3 года назад +49

    God brought me here for a reason, and I'm surely grateful ....lots of love to you from Namibia

  • @palesa881
    @palesa881 3 года назад +46

    The way they communicate and listen to each other is everything

    • @noxmagejana
      @noxmagejana 2 года назад +3

      It’s so beautiful.

    • @ramaitemasipa6551
      @ramaitemasipa6551 2 года назад +3

      Ohhh goodness you can say that again 🥺🥺😭😭 so heartwarming and beautiful 🥰

    • @qualisfro5610
      @qualisfro5610 2 года назад +5

      Yeah and look at each other

  • @banelequlu4571
    @banelequlu4571 3 года назад +192

    wow im so emotional right and so grateful for this topic .I am a 23 year old and still a virgin ,im currently in relationship and i almost forgot how important it is to stay pure because i have no to look up to or encourage me...i was feeling lonely and ddnt see a need to stay a virgin but i thank God that i watched this.it totally saved my purity which is so important to me and ill DEFINITELY wait for marriage. i love you guys so much .

    • @blessdoe7326
      @blessdoe7326 3 года назад +8

      Stay strong, cling on to the Lord. He honors us when we honor his word. God is your strength, I will definitely keep you in prayer. Just know you have a big sister In Christ rooting for you.

    • @banelequlu4571
      @banelequlu4571 2 года назад +3

      @Esnart-Erica definitely babes …we can do this ,God will help us ❤️❤️I’m glad I’m not alone and I’m proud of you.

  • @matthewcastro3602
    @matthewcastro3602 2 года назад +7

    I just fell off the wagon, and I came here looking for guidance. I’m full of regret, and I’m scared to tell my loved ones. But you guys helped instill courage in me. I want to walk the narrow path. Please pray for me.
    Thank you for being brave, and guiding people like me. God bless.

  • @fentsemoyana3198
    @fentsemoyana3198 3 года назад +66

    Literally GOD speaking to me rn😭I'm in a committed relationship and we're both Christian...We were actually prepared to commit sexual sin,we had spoken about it....now I want to continue waiting it out jeez thank you guys

  • @Lady_tenacioustlamelo
    @Lady_tenacioustlamelo 3 года назад +58

    The topic of sexual intimacy in it's fullness is something we choose to shy away from speaking about in our Christian walk and yet it's one of the very things that steals so much from us. I think we need to start speaking openly about this so that we can start bringing back the dignity that sex carried, when handled in the correct manner, as intended by God. God is a loving Father openly waiting for us to cry to Him when we fall short. He isn't a judge waiting to sentence us to death for our sins. I have gotten to understand Paul when he says he begged God to take away his thorn, and yet above all this... I have come to appreciate the warmth that comes with knowing that God's grace is sufficient for me and this has paved a way for me to also extend grace to others. God is not done with any of us, let us continue to keep turning back to Him and allow Him to give us new desires and experiences. GOD LOVED US ALL FLAWS AND ALL.

  • @mokgadi
    @mokgadi 3 года назад +72

    This platform is more than just a couple's YT channel. It is a calling and a ministry. One that does not pretend to be perfect but is rather honest, open, humble and transparent. Your installments always make me want to intropect and be a better human being. You are God sent and Thank you for answering God's call. May God continue to bless you in abundance ❤️❤️❤️

  • @khonziwenothandoh9313
    @khonziwenothandoh9313 3 года назад +143

    Wow!!! This has just encouraged me so much. I am a 27 year old virgin, and hearing you guys talk like this just motivated me to continue wait even more. We appreciate you guys❤️ We love you❤️❤️ What the enemy meant for evil, God has turned for good, we’re encouraged by your story guys🙏🏾 God bless the Makhethas

    • @andileradebe8810
      @andileradebe8810 3 года назад +7

      God bless you and may God give you divine strength to continue with your journey .

    • @khonziwenothandoh9313
      @khonziwenothandoh9313 3 года назад +1

      @@andileradebe8810 thank you😊

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  3 года назад +2

      🤗🤗♥️♥️

    • @boitumelomakgolane9825
      @boitumelomakgolane9825 3 года назад +3

      27 years old n waiting aswell 😊

    • @khonziwenothandoh9313
      @khonziwenothandoh9313 3 года назад +3

      @@boitumelomakgolane9825 let's continue waiting sis... It's all gonna be worth it. God is faithful. Nothing you do for God is wasted. The WORD of God says “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary and they shall walk, and not faint” Isaiah. 40:31
      If you want to increase the speed in Godly things, you have learn to wait.

  • @sheislelo2729
    @sheislelo2729 3 года назад +76

    This conversation is so profound, the sincerity and authenticity is exactly what we don't see in church because we want to portray a perfect picture. I'm grateful that you guys are still preaching this unpopular message of purity and waiting. May God bless this ministry.🙌💖

  • @gomolemoshikwambane8295
    @gomolemoshikwambane8295 3 года назад +92

    "The reality is people that want to sin are going to constantly look for permission to do so"
    Once we stop looking for permission or excuses and actually understand what God wants for us and understand the reasons why God prohibits us from doing certain thing, then we are taking a step in the right direction.

  • @Kabza_Mokay
    @Kabza_Mokay 3 года назад +24

    23 on the wait, I pray God continues to guide me till I have a wife🙏🙏

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 3 года назад +83

    When he said and “I’m really sorry for that” ahhh😩🥺😭😭I really felt that
    Ok we are not crying now

    • @siviwemapekula1689
      @siviwemapekula1689 3 года назад +2

      😭😭

    • @marvelousmbali8002
      @marvelousmbali8002 3 года назад +6

      @@siviwemapekula1689 you could see that he meant it his eyes were locked into her eyes eish 🥺😩❤️ the energy got to me with a split second I really felt it

    • @siviwemapekula1689
      @siviwemapekula1689 3 года назад +2

      And the reference they made of Adam and Eve gave me more perspective.

    • @marvelousmbali8002
      @marvelousmbali8002 3 года назад +1

      @@siviwemapekula1689 exactly

    • @reitumetsemolale6518
      @reitumetsemolale6518 3 года назад +2

      I Crieeeed😭😭😭😭❤️🤧

  • @angeliquedeabreu2840
    @angeliquedeabreu2840 3 года назад +29

    Hi there, Thank you for sharing this! I have recently gotten engaged and my partner and I have managed to keep ourselves pure through 5 years of dating. This was a great reminder to not get too comfortable and familiar with our purity. Grateful for your courage and honesty. May God bless you in everyway!

  • @thapelompe8866
    @thapelompe8866 3 года назад +105

    Are we as young people ready to have such conversations about sex before marriage?!
    I'm truly inspired by The Makhs🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @laviiehartiie01
    @laviiehartiie01 2 года назад +28

    God will continue to see you guys through in Jesus name. Just watching you alone I can feel the peace and presence of God in your union. I’m 24 and started my celibacy journey a few months ago. I can testify that already I feel a difference in my life. Sex is a lot deeper than people think.
    Stay blessed ❤️❤️

  • @muhnchiiey
    @muhnchiiey 3 года назад +39

    I've been celibate for about a year now, would be 2 years but I fell off the wagon, I'm not really religious but I'm very spiritual and the idea leaving a piece of myself elsewhere is what keeps me going. I do believe that I should've remained pure but I don't want to regret my past

  • @VhugalaHaweM
    @VhugalaHaweM 3 года назад +18

    "You are the difference, shine in that light of being the difference"

  • @salizwacamagu
    @salizwacamagu 3 года назад +42

    Both of you are so well spoken. This conversation really shifted the hearts of many and motivated people to continue waiting, thank you.

  • @mbalenhlesimelane
    @mbalenhlesimelane 3 месяца назад +2

    I’m a 19 year old and I gave my life to Christ when I was 17 , however 3 months after I engaged in sexual activity. I’ve lived with the guilt for 2 years and didn’t want to tell people because of the fear of being judged. It took me over a year to forgive myself.I’ve re dedicated my life and it feels like I offload something every time I share my testimony.

  • @kearabetswemokabane8213
    @kearabetswemokabane8213 3 года назад +140

    Being a 20 year old virgin and haven't taken the decision to wait till marriage is so hard bcos plp think thaf u are crazy and it is not possible. This has encouraged me to stay pure and to try my best to not lose my way. Thank so much for this keep them coming and I love you guys lots😍😍 you have gained a new subie💗💗

    • @sifisojele6828
      @sifisojele6828 3 года назад +17

      Wait baby girl- to be honest there's nothing much you are missing out.

    • @zaneleradebe8954
      @zaneleradebe8954 3 года назад +28

      You are not crazy Kea. I am 26 this year and I am still a virgin and waiting and that has protected me so much. Plus, purity also helps you into seeking the Kingdom of God without many distractions.
      My advice would be to not awake love before its time. I have one ex-boyfriend and we started dating when I was 21, but I still believe that made my waiting harder than it was supposed to be. So, if you can try to not date until the time you know you are personally ready to marry. It would help you tremendously. Protect and guard your heart as much as you can. Love you and rooting for you in your journey for purity #todoingitGod'sway❤

    • @kearabetswemokabane8213
      @kearabetswemokabane8213 3 года назад +4

      @@zaneleradebe8954 thank you so much for the encouragement 😊 God bless🙏love lots😚😍❤️💕

    • @jloveclothingzaweartheword1315
      @jloveclothingzaweartheword1315 3 года назад +1

      So beautiful 💚

    • @conradmashazhike6670
      @conradmashazhike6670 3 года назад +6

      Im turning 22 and made up my mind waaaayy bback and still dont regret it. enjoy the process dont allow people to make you feel like its a burden

  • @lebogangbonoko8405
    @lebogangbonoko8405 3 года назад +67

    "The power of sin lies in secrecy" Yoh!🤧🤧 Thank you fam for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us.
    As one who is waiting for marriage, I'm definitely encouraged by this video.

  • @payton4539
    @payton4539 3 года назад +50

    I want to get me a purity ring.I'm proud that I'm 18 years old and still a virgin.There were times when I saw guys on social media talk about girls' body count and how it was a turnoff if they're virgins.It definitely made me feel insecure but no more of that.Sex is sacred and should only be shared between husband and wife,it's God's gift.

    • @ayolovephat
      @ayolovephat 2 года назад +4

      Don't watch or listen to such unedifying nonsense. You should watch and listen to stuff that will build you up, edify and encourage you in your walk with GOD. Men who could talk of "body count" at all, and especially on social media, don't deserve your attention, and definitely don't respect women.

  • @misst998
    @misst998 3 года назад +32

    "the problem is we constantly trying to fit in whereas we are born to stand out" thank you

  • @youtubeusername1965
    @youtubeusername1965 3 года назад +43

    I so wish to find someone who's not in hurry for anything.. that God fearing one.

    • @sarahmajin5358
      @sarahmajin5358 2 года назад +3

      You will, God wants the very best for you. Trust me I wished this so many times but when I just gave it to God and didn't worry the one came.

    • @youtubeusername1965
      @youtubeusername1965 2 года назад +2

      @@sarahmajin5358 Amen.

  • @babiulilate4754
    @babiulilate4754 3 года назад +53

    Ses'La..
    Kere ministry e enale mollo.
    🔥🔥🔥
    My partner and I are waiting and honey it's flames no games but God.
    Sooo merciful.
    Sooo gracious.

  • @siyamtolo6733
    @siyamtolo6733 3 года назад +20

    What you guys are doing is beyond you. You are really called for such a time as this. I have no words for this episode! We are really not worthy! 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @nhlalalamampa7733
    @nhlalalamampa7733 3 года назад +30

    This has to be the most honest conversation I've seen on youtube. Thank you very much, even to Mrs Makhs for having the strength to have this conversation. One could see it hit home for her.
    This is not going unnoticed, really appreciate it. Learnt so much from this.
    My husband and I waited but it was a blurry wait, the road is hard but possible. Without it being blurry.
    God bless yol

  • @noziphongidi8670
    @noziphongidi8670 3 года назад +18

    Already 21k🥰🥰God’s hand is doing the most!!!

  • @oliviak7038
    @oliviak7038 2 года назад +5

    I’m a 22 year old virgin, I’m so grateful for you guys❤️🔥🔥. May God bless you guys forever. I will definitely fight the good fight and trusting in God all the way. If the Lord said it, it’s already done. Amennnn🔥🔥

  • @genenehopkins5085
    @genenehopkins5085 2 года назад +6

    A beautiful testimony. It takes strength to be honest. Thank you. New subscriber. I'm 49 and a virgin. I'm still waiting on my 'Boaz'. God bless you.

  • @jolynnnyakio8397
    @jolynnnyakio8397 3 года назад +10

    "The power of sin lies in its secrecy" That is so powerful. Thank you so so much for your transparency. You are truly saving souls out here! God bless you!

  • @motheowalerato701
    @motheowalerato701 3 года назад +56

    Wow, me and my cousin were talking about this just yesterday. The fact that when we were still virgins, our innocence was sooo cute and all and after having the first experience with sex, it's like the scales fell off and shit hit the fan🤧🥺🥺 I do have some regrets as well and had to learn to forgive myself and know that my mistakes are a learning curve for someone else. Thanks for being sooo vulnerable with us family❤❤

  • @zanne9124
    @zanne9124 3 года назад +7

    It's the fact that this couple have established what it means when we say "men are the head of a household" for me. A lot of people miss out on the concept of what it means to be a 'head', but these two, they aced it👏🏽👏🏽

  • @dimakatsomakimoloko4947
    @dimakatsomakimoloko4947 3 года назад +16

    First of all your apology🥺😭🙌🏽praiseworthy!
    As a person who is practicing the wait, I am glad that such conversations are being had. I just want to remind people like how I have been reminding myself lately that the focus should be on honoring God with our bodies and not so much preserving it for your future spouse. That means that I am accountable to God, whether He decides to bless me with a spouse or not I am not having sex outside of marriage.
    Thank you so much for the honesty, teachings and wisdom Mr and Mrs Makhs.. God bless you❤️

    • @leratoranamane9529
      @leratoranamane9529 2 года назад +2

      Shuu this is powerful 🙌🏾🔥❤️ The focus is on honoring God 💯 Wow thank you for these words sis ❤️ I am encouraged

    • @dimakatsomakimoloko4947
      @dimakatsomakimoloko4947 2 года назад +1

      @@leratoranamane9529 we are in this together sis❤️

    • @leratoranamane9529
      @leratoranamane9529 2 года назад

      @@dimakatsomakimoloko4947 Amen sis 😊🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️

  • @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo
    @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo 3 года назад +12

    This was an "accountability" lesson for me, guys THANK YOU 👏👏👏

  • @mahlatsenoko5832
    @mahlatsenoko5832 3 года назад +18

    Beautiful topic! I love it. This is kinda talk our generation need especially in the Christian. Great conversation!

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 3 года назад +27

    Pheto's hair😍...I'm forever in awe of how beautiful she is.
    The authenticity and vulnerability on this channel is unmatched.This was so informative🔥.Thank you.

  • @dineomolefe6418
    @dineomolefe6418 3 года назад +9

    Powerful and beautifully shared. Thank you for being transparent, I'm definitely sure you are helping a lot of people. Being a Christian is really no easy but it really is important to live a holy life and strive to be like Christ in every way, every wrong dicission we make we really suffer the consequences of it. Thank you for also reminding us that we serve a gracious God who forgives when we repent and restores us. This really hits home, I'm really greatful for both of you sharing your lives with us and may the Lord continue to increase your territory The Makhs ❤️

  • @ivyokwado3062
    @ivyokwado3062 3 года назад +10

    New subbie here! I love the amount of Godliness exuded in this video. I am in the waiting journey and I'm definitely encouraged. Much love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪

  • @victoriamirembe719
    @victoriamirembe719 3 года назад +5

    am really touched that Mr Makh took responsibility, its is just beautiful, and owning the fact that it should have been him to present their relationship as holy & pleasing to God.

  • @anovuyoozabor
    @anovuyoozabor 3 года назад +6

    Your transparency and realness brought healing in my own life. Not many in our generation are bold enough to be transparent about their own mistakes. Thank you for being the few that chooses that even at 11 years in.
    "As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same"
    That is what you did for me. Thank you

  • @tlagomohoera6157
    @tlagomohoera6157 3 года назад +12

    I would like to commend you for your authenticy and transparency,its not easy to pour out your heart to strangers but you're doing it with so much grace. Much love and respect to you guys ❤️

  • @amogelangmaribe7800
    @amogelangmaribe7800 3 года назад +15

    “The power of sin lays in its secrecy” 🔥🔥

  • @mucksyawases7392
    @mucksyawases7392 3 года назад +10

    I love this installment, Its so beautiful. The vulnerability is liberating. Thanks for sharing. Truly the power of sin lies in its secrecy. We thank God for your testimony.🙌🏾

  • @viwengcwangu8091
    @viwengcwangu8091 3 года назад +8

    Yhoooo guys y’all are just making me cry…. May God continue to grow your ministry and use it for the betterment of the church

  • @sinazositshange96
    @sinazositshange96 3 года назад +12

    Thiis channel when it comes to real life issues 🙌, let me sit and listen.

  • @redeemingdaniela3682
    @redeemingdaniela3682 3 года назад +1

    Thais was one of my favorite installments, I pray God continues to use yall in such a dynamic way ! Thank you so much for your vulnerability and transparency God will continue to uphold yall

  • @nonified412
    @nonified412 3 года назад +10

    Thank you for your transparency! Your honesty is refreshing 🙌🏾

  • @kgothatsomosweu7358
    @kgothatsomosweu7358 3 года назад +3

    This is really good. I just pray that more young people in the church can listen to this. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @lisahconnects
    @lisahconnects 3 года назад +9

    I am forever greatful to have found this channel 🤗watching all the way from China 🇨🇳 I love how open and honest you guys are. It’s easy to connect and relate with you guys because u r “real” and u ain’t trying to portray this perfect picture about marriage . I am definitely loving these conversations

  • @uendjiundjablack3014
    @uendjiundjablack3014 3 года назад +5

    Empathetic, honest, well spoken young couple. I LOVE THIS VIDEO. I’m subscribing! God bless you two! Thanks for sharing man❤️❤️❤️ what a video! This is what we’re on RUclips for 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I cried a lil, but we’re okay 😅🥰🙏🏽❤️

  • @molokorapholo
    @molokorapholo 3 года назад +41

    I’m crying 😭
    Makhs thanks for being so honest and vulnerable. Thanks for your ministry. God is well pleased ❤️

  • @neliswajokweni5872
    @neliswajokweni5872 3 года назад +7

    An upload from the Makhs is such a mood lifter 🤗🤗🤗

  • @samkelisiwegcumisa7329
    @samkelisiwegcumisa7329 3 года назад +10

    This is such mind blowing. I'm almost 21 and I failed the "the wait". I wish I have not done it not I just learned a lot from this installment but also because of the guilt I have been having. The pain in my heart is so unbearable and I'm even afraid to talk about such things. Please pray for me and pray with me

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  3 года назад +5

      Hi Samkelisiwe. We hope that speaking about our shortcomings will give you the courage to confide in someone you trust about you feel. We will pray for you and with you. May the Prince of peace free you from all guilt and shame. Romans 8: 1 says There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit❤️. Sending you so much love. 🌸

  • @alisonlaws8232
    @alisonlaws8232 3 года назад +3

    You guys are the most authentic and transparent people l have seen. I applaud you for your courage!

  • @Phiwokuhleqha
    @Phiwokuhleqha 3 года назад +13

    Exciting topic! Coming back! Watching virtual Church quick! 🙏🏿 blessings to y’all Makh

  • @claudinemofokeng4025
    @claudinemofokeng4025 3 года назад +5

    Oh wow. Makhs Jnrs. U nailed it. Such INTEGRITY. U r a breath of TRUTH. I want to become your friend😇

  • @queenria-thesidegigsavage4738
    @queenria-thesidegigsavage4738 2 года назад +11

    This installment was truly inspiring. Unfortunately I made the decision too early to not wait and fully regret it. However, I see this as an opportunity to start over again on a clean slate.
    I am also touched to see so many young people commenting about their celibacy. Please continue because the wait I’m sure is worth it despite that I haven’t had the gift to achieve this. So please stay celibate and wait and also motivate other youths to do the same. This sexual promiscuity being shown all over the entertainment industry and social media are just lies and distractions. Save it for the person God has made for you.
    Thank you Makh family for such an inspirational video .. keep up doing what you do because we need more content to reach all the youth.. it’s sad bad news travel fact but we will never allow the enemy to fool us ever again..

  • @charsmith8217
    @charsmith8217 3 года назад +2

    Absolutely love your transparency and frankness, it is so good to share this truth. We live in a world where men have lost the integrity to protect a woman's heart and body. Thank you for sharing

  • @molokorapholo
    @molokorapholo 3 года назад +45

    Been binge watching y’all for a week straight 🥺
    Makhs hle thanks for being the big brother and big sister we all wish we had ❤️

  • @mathabo75torolane64
    @mathabo75torolane64 3 года назад +18

    I love the way press yourself to tell us your story,this motivation need youth nd adult as well,thank you ntate makhetha le mme mamakhetha,molimo olefe matla hofeta mona,i love you guys from Lesotho🇱🇸🇱🇸🇱🇸

  • @debramayisela
    @debramayisela 3 года назад +2

    A great installment this was🙌. I learnt a lot especially how Mr Makhs narrated how as a man he was responsible for preserving your union's purity. That was outstanding for me.

  • @lulumops
    @lulumops 3 года назад +6

    I greatly needed to have this conversation with myself. And lots of respect to Lerato for protecting his wife and also feeling the need to take responsibility for both their holiness.

  • @christinenareva9051
    @christinenareva9051 3 года назад +6

    The honest is what I love about you guys may God continue to bless your union

  • @Kganya_ya_Modimo
    @Kganya_ya_Modimo 3 года назад +4

    When he apologized for not protecting their union😢😍you guys are so inspirational

  • @lungilechimya4325
    @lungilechimya4325 2 года назад +1

    Oh wow you guys. I’m only half way through and this is HEAVY. Thanks for your transparency, you have no idea how many young people you’re encouraging

  • @thobiledlamini6797
    @thobiledlamini6797 3 года назад

    My favorite episode yet. Thank you for being so vulnerable and so truthful on such a platform. The standard is so high but God will help us to uphold💜 more than anything, I feel like I’ve lost trust in myself and sometimes question my faith and commitment to walk this walk. But God💕