I am a true RUclipsr and I know for a fact bc I am intentional on what I’m taking in spiritually and vibrating high I was brought to your channel . I have been the “go to “ person for so many . As a mom since 16 and a wife since 18 there is a lot that I have giving up and no experiencing depression and anxiety as a black woman my family / friends do get it . Well baby let me tell you how I just forwarded your video to at least 10 ppl so they get it !!!! You explained it best. Today you were added to things I am definitely “ THANKFUL” for . Love you lady. Sending you love and light all the way from Jacksonville , Florida ❤️.
Thank you so much for the content you provided to Signet for our Management Leadership Conference! Finding this video of yours is just an added bonus!! I’ve struggled with depression and severe anxiety for 15 years. I’m “high functioning” so I constantly hear “oh you’re not depressed” or “anxiety? You’re such an extravert” but what people don’t understand is almost 95% of the time on the inside I’m screaming and want to crawl out of my skin.
Love that you address this topic! Its like deja-vu, when you talk about your symptoms. Took me a year to go to the dr´s. I have to find another way to support me and my family, as I can´t go into my workplace. I get so sick. You are so good at putting words to what is going on. I dont remember stuff when I go to therapy..
I am so glad I found you. I resonate so much with your soul. Would love to have you as a mentor. I hope to one day get over my fear or public speaking and talk with people about similar things and tell my story. Much love from California ☺️
I taught GED for a number of years. The number of people who could have graduated high school, or could have gotten their GED years ago with adequate mental health care (IMHO) is fairly high. When I see anyone (esp African American) getting mental health care, I just admire the hell out of them. I have learned over the years how much effort and bravery that takes. I have a son who battles mental illness and is currently winning, so I thank you and Bless You for doing this video! I believe in Jesus AND Lithium.....God gave mental health care workers a blessing to share with the rest of us, thank God. Even Moses was told to give most of the work he was given, to those men (or Professionals) who could be trusted to handle it. We are not expected to "handle" everything our own selves, all the time.
Everything you stated made sense. Thank you. Most of all, too often, I do see people expecting their friends/commonplace people to 1. Fix them (and know how) and 2. Being RESENTFUL when they don’t (and in denial of #1 as well as the fact that they are looking at the world through jaded eyes due to the condition) - it becomes a bad catch 22. Worst of all, lecturing others how to indulge them. C’mon. I have been depressed, but I did not expect others to “fix” me (the difference might be my faith in God...now that I think of it), just looking for regular friendship. I don’t know, it’s always struck me as strange. You wouldn’t expect ordinary people (as you mentioned) to fix a BROKEN ARM or DO A FACELIFT...so, they aren’t capable and that’s okay. Meanwhile, when you suggest therapy, they often reject the notion. Siiiiigh, what’s a “friend” to do. You naturally get a point of avoiding such a person. The natural opposite of what that person needs. If a person doesn’t know they’re depressed, that’s one thing, but when you constantly tell people you’re depressed AND resisting taking proper care of yourself WHILE lecturing others on how they are “helping” you WRONG...you need to check yourself. Please, people of the world, stop doing that, it comes off as very narcissistic. Most of all, it’s just not going to work. I’ve seen it repeatedly fail, for years at a time.
You are amazing ! I am making your basic granola recipe. Thank you.. I will continue to read all of your blogs. I desperately need to manage the stress in my life.
Stacey, i love your videos and really respect your transparency. You have helped me! For example, I have, for the first time in my life; a 3 month emergency fund. I just have a small suggestion: When you interrupt yourself to say "hi" to your viewers, it feels really disruptive . Regardless though -- GREAT JOB.
It takes time but you can do it. Just ask yourself questions and answer yourself honestly. When you need support get help from a trained professional, you deserve it. Thank you so much for watching.
Thank You. I listened to this on my way to therapy. Sat in my car and cried my eyes out. I needed this confirmation. The light of God is all over you and I am grateful I found you. Thank You Stacey for being open to your calling. This is all God. Sending you a big hug. -Tiana
This is literally the most practical and helpful video i have seen on how to overcome depression and anxiety. I love what you said about how we hire professionals for every other aspect of life other than for our mental health. That is so true and so powerful. Thank you for putting out this type of content, it will help so many people.
I just found you on here maybe a month ago. You are an awesome young lady! I am super impressed with the way you have taken control of your life in all areas mentally,physically,financially, spiritually,continue to allow God to use you! I am in awe!
One thing I know for sure is I am responsible for my entire life. Best thing I’ve ever learned about life. Thank you so much for watching and commenting. 💜
Thank you so much. All I can say is thank you! Depression and Anxiety is real. I needed to hear this. It's a very dark place to be in, and to suffer with. I can relate, been there before years ago, and experiencing anxiety all over again.
I just found you today. Thank you for sharing your story! You are such a beautiful soul! Therapy has changed my life. I don't know where I'd be without it. It took me decades to get up the courage to make an appointment (about four years ago, now). Thankfully, I found an amazing therapist on my first attempt. Thank you for mentioning thankfulness. I think I'll add that tool to my toolbox. Hugs to you! Welcome to Chicago!
Thank you for being so honest and transparent. I appreciate that you can talk about how it’s okay to rest. I love following your journey as I travel my own.
So true. Hide the pain for so long. Then I attempted suicide. But thank Our Heavenly Father I wasn't successful. I'm so happy to be alive now. I'm free to be me.
I would love to see this video expanded in to a book. Your 4T's are so good! I think this is brilliant and could really help a lot of people. It's already helping me.
Thank you so very much for sharing this. It really opened my eyes as someone whose partner suffers from anxiety and depression. I have felt rejected when he has withdrawn from me, and your explanation shows me not to take it personally, but to allow for the "time out" as well as the therapy and treatment. I had no idea.
You are so very welcome. Therapy, Treatment, Thankfulness, & a Time-out is so important to healing both depression and anxiety. Thank you so so much for watching and commenting. 💜
I've recently fell in love with meditation and mindfulness. It really makes me slow down my hectic busy life. First once, I feel so peaceful. Love this video Stacey.
Wonderful video! So many of us have to deal with anxiety and depression at different phases in life. It's important to talk about it happening and ways to overcome it so thank you for sharing your story!
Love this video and your channel! I’m so happy to have found it. Good for you for taking care of yourself ❤️ Also, I’m a therapist myself and I love the point you made, basically that the therapist is not some sort of magician. For some reason alot of people don’t expect to do any work themselves, when they show up in therapy. Thank you for making this point! ❤️
Acceptance is an amazing place to start. Anxiety nor depression is permenant. The both suck but you can heal. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
I have experienced this before and I found a good therapist that was able to help me change my thought process and gain a different perspective. So I agree with you that finding a therapist is very essential in the process to overcome it.... thank you I appreciate this video.
Many people have a negative experience the first few times and then never return but I agree with you it about the fit and connection. Therapy is AWESOME.
I love the book rainbow! What you say about getting a professional to help is spot on. I have had 12 years of therapy and treatment. After working thru some issues that were holding me back and making major life changes I have built myself an amazing life.
Thank You Stacey!!! I needed this and this should definitely be talked about more amongst our community. I pray daily for ppl who are fighting silent battles. Thanks for sharing this journey with us! ❤️
You are so very welcome. Many people in our community are in pain from an illness that can be healed. We have to talk about it to stop it. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
I just found your youtube channel about a week ago. Thank you for posting these videos; you've become a great example and source of strength for me. You are a wonderful speaker.
Sis I had to bring it back to the old videos cause I am going through it. I’m trying to find the video Where you talk about being in the bed for a The year. I’m in a state of major fatigue right now from my depression and anxiety because of so many stressors right now.
We are Christians we are not suppose to be depressed sad and anxious. God said he gave us life, and life more abundantly. So why are we not living in abundance??? Because of ourselves. I'm a new subbie and just watching all of your videos. I took on a job where I'm making $15 an hours after been laid off for 8 months. I regret taking on this job. I settled. It stresses me out and I'm not making enough money.
teresa28ist Just because we’re Christians does not mean we are immune to the problems of the world. That logic only hurts when you’re deep in the fight of mental health issues. You feel guilty for something that’s not your fault and you end up beating yourself up because you feel like you’re missing the mark. What I’ve learned in my journey is that so many people that God uses in the Bible also dealt with anxiety and depression. We go through things, life happens and if we didn’t experience pain many wouldn’t be going to God. We go to him during the good and bad times we need him 24/7. Also I truly hope you get a better job and one that allows you to use your God given gifts and be able to not only be blessed but be a blessing to others.
Sorry for making a new comment, friend I'm in the same place and treatment plans, can't work at this time as well. I understand. Thank you for this sharing. I'm single at 59. But we all will overcome and thrive again. I have a thankful jar, I write down all the blessings place in the jar. You are beautiful.
It is truly my honor to serve people in this capacity. So many people are confused about mental health. I’m happy to I’ve as an example to support people in living healthy, happy, whole lives! Thank you for watching and commenting!
Hello my beautiful Nubian Queen, don't know how I missed this live, but I love watching you and your bounce back journey. I'm 58 yrs old and have suffered from this since age 15. The struggle is real, But with God all things are possible. Tfs. 👀👍❤⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘
This was a something I did on FB LIVE a while ago. I reposted it here because so many people have reached out to me regarding overcoming depression and anxiety. I appreciate you watching. thank you for commenting.
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Depression and anxiety ALWAYS comes from somewhere. Usually, DEPRESSION is a result of living in the PAST and ANXIETY comes from living in the FUTURE. Anytime someone is uncomfortable living in the PRESENT, life becones overwhelming and you resort to either PAST or FUTURE. I believe that your dysfunctional family dynamics is what is causing you a lot of ANXIETY and STRESS. You feel guilty that you are the only one in your family who "has made it." Subconsciously, Your family is JEALOUS OF YOU and are subtle saboteurs and it's too painful for you to see this present reality.
I agree that depression is about living in the past and anxiety is about being in the future metaphorically or mentally. But PHYSICALLY we are only every in the present. When I say depression and anxiety come from nowhere I mean an event or circumstance doesn’t have to occur before anxiety or depression hits you. People are confused and think that mental illness is the result of events or circumstances it is not. It is the culmination of many things that are often unseen and unspoken until the person is knee deep in a depressed or anxious state. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Thank you for that first paragraph: that was an explosion of “huh” for me. It’s amazing the basic psychological tools we aren’t given and wheat we just flail around - unable to even recognize WHAT is wrong or HOW to help ourselves. I’m new here, but appreciate a guess into psychology of our subconscious as well.
Most often, clinical-level depression and anxiety come from incorrect brain chemistry. Things in life can SOMETIMES have a contributing effect, but overall, it's the way we are born, genetics.
Hi sis, omg.. this happened to me so i understand where youre coming from. I had it hit me really hard. My 13 yr relationships was over he left me for someone soon as he got a good job, i had just shattered my ankle and could not work for a yr bcus of the casts which was depressing in itself. Im a generous person and help everyone at my expense. THE PPL I LOVED AND WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR, THEY ALL DISAPPEARED FROM MY LIFE! I could not get out of bed brush my teeth bathe comb my hair run my new business so i went from $50,000 a yr to zero. I exhaused all my liquid savings and started tapping into my 401k. It was so dark that i blocked all light and could not be seen. I reached out to my dr to help me bcus i knew sometg was wrong. I could not afford therapist so i got one thru govt medical. Which was terrible! They dropped me when a snow storm locked me in my home for wks plus, the pain i was in. I also have fibromyalgia. Plus my ex was taunting me by posting up infront of my house with his new boo. I was devastated! He never told me it was over, thats how i found out! I tried so hard to push thru but i just buried it and kept trying to go on. Eent back to wk 3mos and i spontaneously ruptured disc in my spine which took my mobility til today. I lost my job of 18yrs bcus my job did not care eventho they werent paying me and forced me to retire at an age where i lost 3/4s of my pension. I exhaused all my 401k, ira, and liquid savings. Its been three yrs. I cant go back to my life bcus i cant walk work or again, get out of bed physically, mentally, and emotionally? So, i get it! Hearing you speak, i know why im disabled today. I dint heal properly. I know i need mental therapy more than i need my physical therapy bcus I LOST EVERYTHING!
aqua fina Giving all Praises and Great Glory to YUHUAH AND HIS CROWNED KING SON YUHUSHA. May the Great One keep you and cover you under his wings. Continue to Forgive and help others if its in your power. Keep YUHUAH Commandments no matter what they do to us. So we can be counted worthy as his Bride. I experienced the same flaunting of another woman in my face. I was married and she deliberately broke up the marriage. I was having loads of anxiety. Allow the bible to guide you through. Shalom Yahudah
Natural Sweet Tooth, thank you for your kind words. While i have forgiven the sting will NEVER allow me to FORGET. I NEVER blame the other woman..it is the man we are with that owes us respect in our union. He and he ALONE is at fault for being so selfish, Disrespectful and insecure. So, no blame to her even if she knew bcus no-one does things they dont want to do no matter who's pressuring them. He stepped out and made the choice..its his wrong doing. Most not all but enough Males NEVER become men so, we have to do the work to fully heal and learn from our mistakes of trusting those we should have known dint have our best interest at heart. Peace to you.
God you are such an amazing woman... you working so hard and you felt so bad for not doing everything. But girl you are so so talented and please don't be hard on yourself. I feel I can relate a lot. I so understand that need for privacy.... All the best to you!
I just love to see you smile! However, when you cry I 😭 with you! Good Mother’s make decisions that will benefit their child no matter how tough the circumstances are. Curious to know if you will be writing anymore books?
Hi Stacey, can you share which person you went to that helped so much after those 4 months? I think I need something like that. I've been doing gratitude and working with a therapist for a while, but I'm still living under this veneer of depression.
Thank you for letting me know my work resonates with you. I am so honored to share my story in a way that serves you. Thank you for watching and commenting.
This is an AMAZING question. The best way to deal with toxic family is to 1. limit the amount of time you spend with them, 2. Accept that it is not your responsibility to heal, help, or support them in realizing how toxic they are. 3. Stay compassionate. Just because you are limiting your time with this family member doesn’t mean you tell everyone else in the family what you are doing or why you are doing it. You simple excuse yourself and remain respectfully quiet and compassionate about. Toxic people are usually in excruciating pain (some know but most don’t) so don’t add to their pain by talking about them or gathering other family members against them. Make a decision. Then honor your choice to limit your time. The only other people’s time you can limit is (maybe) your children’s time but even that depends. May my answer serve you. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Stacey Flowers thank you for calling out that the toxic person is often vulnerable as well. You are an amazing woman and I am so thankful for your perspective and real content.
You didn't miss it. I recorded this a little bit ago on FB Live. But so many people have asked me the question here on YT so I decided to share. Your notifications are turned on. I'll have a YT Live coming soon. Thank you so much for your support, encouragement, watching, and commenting.
While watching this I kept thinking in my head about the past. How did someone dealt with depression or anxiety 200 years ago or 1000 years ago ? Hugs and kisses to your heart ❤️
There is a level of "on-ness", expectation, productivity, and output that humans are pressured to deliver in this century that did not exist many centuries ago. Depression and anxiety are mental challenges which means each it begins in the mind so to compare the mind of man today to the mind of man 200 years ago will not lead to comparable experiences of depression. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Donna Crozier You don't think slaves were depressed or the Jews during the Holocaust were depressed? They just didn't have time to sulk and lose their minds but those who did most likely died a painful horrible death because massa and Nazis don't give a fuck about the pain they're inflicting.
T - hi sorry I was not very clear, I was referring to ancient humans. I just watched a documentary and I guess that’s where my head was at. My thoughts were our hunter gather ancestors were much more in the ‘now’ they had to be to survive and I’m theorising they may have been less susceptible to mental health issues. I am certainly not saying that was better, but when you think in terms of evolution of our brains ‘modern life’ (inc all the eras you mentioned) are very recent. That said who’s to say if a Neanderthal saw his family wiped out by a predator attack they would not experience ptsd. I guess my thoughts were the social changes, technological changes have been huge in a relatively short period of time to how our brains evolved - it’s no wonder we are going to experience difficulties.
Google: Judi Grace StoryCorps. Let go and let God. No one can ride your back, unless you bend over. Please search poverty in everyplace, and see how others try to survive. Prayers sent.💕❤️
I'm living for your videos but my only problem is the intro scares the absolute living soul outta me. Which doesn't help when the actual content I'm here for is in such low volume 😢
I am a true RUclipsr and I know for a fact bc I am intentional on what I’m taking in spiritually and vibrating high I was brought to your channel . I have been the “go to “ person for so many . As a mom since 16 and a wife since 18 there is a lot that I have giving up and no experiencing depression and anxiety as a black woman my family / friends do get it . Well baby let me tell you how I just forwarded your video to at least 10 ppl so they get it !!!! You explained it best. Today you were added to things I am definitely “ THANKFUL” for . Love you lady. Sending you love and light all the way from Jacksonville , Florida ❤️.
Thank you so much for the content you provided to Signet for our Management Leadership Conference! Finding this video of yours is just an added bonus!! I’ve struggled with depression and severe anxiety for 15 years. I’m “high functioning” so I constantly hear “oh you’re not depressed” or “anxiety? You’re such an extravert” but what people don’t understand is almost 95% of the time on the inside I’m screaming and want to crawl out of my skin.
Love that you address this topic! Its like deja-vu, when you talk about your symptoms. Took me a year to go to the dr´s. I have to find another way to support me and my family, as I can´t go into my workplace. I get so sick. You are so good at putting words to what is going on. I dont remember stuff when I go to therapy..
Thank you for this video! This is the best advice i've ever come across for dealing with depression. You've helped me so much :)
You are so right! !
Thank you for your vulnerability and excellent insights! I have never come up with a treatment plan, just therapy, I’m excited to add this in.
I am so glad I found you. I resonate so much with your soul. Would love to have you as a mentor. I hope to one day get over my fear or public speaking and talk with people about similar things and tell my story. Much love from California ☺️
I am so happy you found me too! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment.
I taught GED for a number of years. The number of people who could have graduated high school, or could have gotten their GED years ago with adequate mental health care (IMHO) is fairly high. When I see anyone (esp African American) getting mental health care, I just admire the hell out of them. I have learned over the years how much effort and bravery that takes. I have a son who battles mental illness and is currently winning, so I thank you and Bless You for doing this video! I believe in Jesus AND Lithium.....God gave mental health care workers a blessing to share with the rest of us, thank God. Even Moses was told to give most of the work he was given, to those men (or Professionals) who could be trusted to handle it. We are not expected to "handle" everything our own selves, all the time.
Everything you stated made sense. Thank you.
Most of all, too often, I do see people expecting their friends/commonplace people to 1. Fix them (and know how) and 2. Being RESENTFUL when they don’t (and in denial of #1 as well as the fact that they are looking at the world through jaded eyes due to the condition) - it becomes a bad catch 22. Worst of all, lecturing others how to indulge them. C’mon. I have been depressed, but I did not expect others to “fix” me (the difference might be my faith in God...now that I think of it), just looking for regular friendship. I don’t know, it’s always struck me as strange. You wouldn’t expect ordinary people (as you mentioned) to fix a BROKEN ARM or DO A FACELIFT...so, they aren’t capable and that’s okay. Meanwhile, when you suggest therapy, they often reject the notion. Siiiiigh, what’s a “friend” to do. You naturally get a point of avoiding such a person. The natural opposite of what that person needs.
If a person doesn’t know they’re depressed, that’s one thing, but when you constantly tell people you’re depressed AND resisting taking proper care of yourself WHILE lecturing others on how they are “helping” you WRONG...you need to check yourself. Please, people of the world, stop doing that, it comes off as very narcissistic. Most of all, it’s just not going to work. I’ve seen it repeatedly fail, for years at a time.
Yessssssss. People are always dismissive. You can say thing intentionally to say you need help and they just ignore it.
You are amazing ! I am making your basic granola recipe. Thank you.. I will continue to read all of your blogs. I desperately need to manage the stress in my life.
Thank you so so so much! I appreciate you watching and commenting!
Thank you for giving me some who looks like me sounds like me.
First day of therapy today! This video was the push to get me to call and inquire about a first appointment
How are you doing?
Thank you Stacey ❤️
Excellent video and I really appreciate your very descriptive story of the symptoms, etc. you experienced.....
Stacey, i love your videos and really respect your transparency. You have helped me! For example, I have, for the first time in my life; a 3 month emergency fund. I just have a small suggestion: When you interrupt yourself to say "hi" to your viewers, it feels really disruptive . Regardless though -- GREAT JOB.
Understood, this was a FB live that I converted into a video! So so happy you are enjoying my content
I’m so glad I found your channel. The honesty is so refreshing. I want to understand myself the way you do yourself and build myself a good life.
It takes time but you can do it. Just ask yourself questions and answer yourself honestly. When you need support get help from a trained professional, you deserve it. Thank you so much for watching.
Thank You. I listened to this on my way to therapy. Sat in my car and cried my eyes out. I needed this confirmation. The light of God is all over you and I am grateful I found you. Thank You Stacey for being open to your calling. This is all God. Sending you a big hug.
-Tiana
This is literally the most practical and helpful video i have seen on how to overcome depression and anxiety. I love what you said about how we hire professionals for every other aspect of life other than for our mental health. That is so true and so powerful. Thank you for putting out this type of content, it will help so many people.
I just found you on here maybe a month ago. You are an awesome young lady! I am super impressed with the way you have taken control of your life in all areas mentally,physically,financially, spiritually,continue to allow God to use you! I am in awe!
One thing I know for sure is I am responsible for my entire life. Best thing I’ve ever learned about life. Thank you so much for watching and commenting. 💜
I saw your Ted Talk and I just love you sis ❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
Thank you so much. All I can say is thank you! Depression and Anxiety is real. I needed to hear this. It's a very dark place to be in, and to suffer with. I can relate, been there before years ago, and experiencing anxiety all over again.
‘Depression doesn’t knock’ - loved this! I wish it did so I could slip out the back door when it arrives. Thanks for this video Stacey. X
I would greet it with a shotgun.
I just found you today. Thank you for sharing your story! You are such a beautiful soul! Therapy has changed my life. I don't know where I'd be without it. It took me decades to get up the courage to make an appointment (about four years ago, now). Thankfully, I found an amazing therapist on my first attempt. Thank you for mentioning thankfulness. I think I'll add that tool to my toolbox. Hugs to you! Welcome to Chicago!
Thank you for being so honest and transparent. I appreciate that you can talk about how it’s okay to rest. I love following your journey as I travel my own.
So true. Hide the pain for so long. Then I attempted suicide. But thank Our Heavenly Father I wasn't successful. I'm so happy to be alive now. I'm free to be me.
Amen.
You have blessed me with your story. Thank you for this great content and your story.
You are so very welcome! Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
I would love to see this video expanded in to a book. Your 4T's are so good! I think this is brilliant and could really help a lot of people. It's already helping me.
I never thought of that! I will definitely consider it! Thank you for pointing out its value!
Though I’m not suffering from any of these symptoms, I really appreciate your candor and honesty. I really enjoy your videos and your delivery
Thank you so very much for sharing this. It really opened my eyes as someone whose partner suffers from anxiety and depression. I have felt rejected when he has withdrawn from me, and your explanation shows me not to take it personally, but to allow for the "time out" as well as the therapy and treatment. I had no idea.
You are so very welcome. Therapy, Treatment, Thankfulness, & a Time-out is so important to healing both depression and anxiety. Thank you so so much for watching and commenting. 💜
I've recently fell in love with meditation and mindfulness. It really makes me slow down my hectic busy life. First once, I feel so peaceful. Love this video Stacey.
Meditation is so goooood. 🙌🏾☺️ I love it! Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Wonderful video! So many of us have to deal with anxiety and depression at different phases in life. It's important to talk about it happening and ways to overcome it so thank you for sharing your story!
Omg you’re soooo gorgeous. I haven’t even watched the video yet I just had to get that off my chest
Thank you for the compliment.
Love this video and your channel! I’m so happy to have found it. Good for you for taking care of yourself ❤️ Also, I’m a therapist myself and I love the point you made, basically that the therapist is not some sort of magician. For some reason alot of people don’t expect to do any work themselves, when they show up in therapy. Thank you for making this point! ❤️
Thanks fr this Stacey. I am accepting that I am in a state of depression and some anxiety to a certain extent.
Acceptance is an amazing place to start. Anxiety nor depression is permenant. The both suck but you can heal. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Thank you so much for sharing your story!!!!
I have experienced this before and I found a good therapist that was able to help me change my thought process and gain a different perspective. So I agree with you that finding a therapist is very essential in the process to overcome it.... thank you I appreciate this video.
You are so so very welcome! Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Many people have a negative experience the first few times and then never return but I agree with you it about the fit and connection. Therapy is AWESOME.
Awesome video!
Thank you
I love the book rainbow! What you say about getting a professional to help is spot on. I have had 12 years of therapy and treatment. After working thru some issues that were holding me back and making major life changes I have built myself an amazing life.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Thank You Stacey!!!
I needed this and this should definitely be talked about more amongst our community.
I pray daily for ppl who are fighting silent battles. Thanks for sharing this journey with us! ❤️
You are so very welcome. Many people in our community are in pain from an illness that can be healed. We have to talk about it to stop it. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
I just found your youtube channel about a week ago. Thank you for posting these videos; you've become a great example and source of strength for me. You are a wonderful speaker.
Sis I had to bring it back to the old videos cause I am going through it. I’m trying to find the video
Where you talk about being in the bed for a
The year. I’m in a state of major fatigue right now from my depression and anxiety because of so many stressors right now.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are a living testimony
We are Christians we are not suppose to be depressed sad and anxious. God said he gave us life, and life more abundantly. So why are we not living in abundance??? Because of ourselves. I'm a new subbie and just watching all of your videos.
I took on a job where I'm making $15 an hours after been laid off for 8 months. I regret taking on this job. I settled. It stresses me out and I'm not making enough money.
teresa28ist Just because we’re Christians does not mean we are immune to the problems of the world. That logic only hurts when you’re deep in the fight of mental health issues. You feel guilty for something that’s not your fault and you end up beating yourself up because you feel like you’re missing the mark. What I’ve learned in my journey is that so many people that God uses in the Bible also dealt with anxiety and depression. We go through things, life happens and if we didn’t experience pain many wouldn’t be going to God. We go to him during the good and bad times we need him 24/7. Also I truly hope you get a better job and one that allows you to use your God given gifts and be able to not only be blessed but be a blessing to others.
Sorry for making a new comment, friend I'm in the same place and treatment plans, can't work at this time as well. I understand. Thank you for this sharing. I'm single at 59. But we all will overcome and thrive again. I have a thankful jar, I write down all the blessings place in the jar. You are beautiful.
Thank you so much. A thankful jar is an amazing mechanic to keep you grateful I love. I really appreciate you watching and commenting.
The part about if you lose your mind it doesn’t matter who is counting on you hit so deep
I am going to watch this video a lot. There is new relevant information every time I do.
Thank you so much..
Excellent!! I’m going to watch this again just because it was so well explained.
Thank you so much for breaking things down so anybody and everyone can understand. 🙏
It is truly my honor to serve people in this capacity. So many people are confused about mental health. I’m happy to I’ve as an example to support people in living healthy, happy, whole lives! Thank you for watching and commenting!
Hello my beautiful Nubian Queen, don't know how I missed this live, but I love watching you and your bounce back journey. I'm 58 yrs old and have suffered from this since age 15. The struggle is real, But with God all things are possible. Tfs. 👀👍❤⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘
This was a something I did on FB LIVE a while ago. I reposted it here because so many people have reached out to me regarding overcoming depression and anxiety. I appreciate you watching. thank you for commenting.
Depression and anxiety ALWAYS comes from somewhere. Usually, DEPRESSION is a result of living in the PAST and ANXIETY comes from living in the FUTURE. Anytime someone is uncomfortable living in the PRESENT, life becones overwhelming and you resort to either PAST or FUTURE.
I believe that your dysfunctional family dynamics is what is causing you a lot of ANXIETY and STRESS. You feel guilty that you are the only one in your family who "has made it." Subconsciously, Your family is JEALOUS OF YOU and are subtle saboteurs and it's too painful for you to see this present reality.
I agree that depression is about living in the past and anxiety is about being in the future metaphorically or mentally. But PHYSICALLY we are only every in the present. When I say depression and anxiety come from nowhere I mean an event or circumstance doesn’t have to occur before anxiety or depression hits you. People are confused and think that mental illness is the result of events or circumstances it is not. It is the culmination of many things that are often unseen and unspoken until the person is knee deep in a depressed or anxious state.
Thank you for watching and commenting.
Thank you for that first paragraph: that was an explosion of “huh” for me. It’s amazing the basic psychological tools we aren’t given and wheat we just flail around - unable to even recognize WHAT is wrong or HOW to help ourselves. I’m new here, but appreciate a guess into psychology of our subconscious as well.
Most often, clinical-level depression and anxiety come from incorrect brain chemistry. Things in life can SOMETIMES have a contributing effect, but overall, it's the way we are born, genetics.
Hi sis, omg.. this happened to me so i understand where youre coming from.
I had it hit me really hard. My 13 yr relationships was over he left me for someone soon as he got a good job, i had just shattered my ankle and could not work for a yr bcus of the casts which was depressing in itself. Im a generous person and help everyone at my expense. THE PPL I LOVED AND WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR, THEY ALL DISAPPEARED FROM MY LIFE!
I could not get out of bed brush my teeth bathe comb my hair run my new business so i went from $50,000 a yr to zero. I exhaused all my liquid savings and started tapping into my 401k. It was so dark that i blocked all light and could not be seen. I reached out to my dr to help me bcus i knew sometg was wrong. I could not afford therapist so i got one thru govt medical. Which was terrible! They dropped me when a snow storm locked me in my home for wks plus, the pain i was in. I also have fibromyalgia. Plus my ex was taunting me by posting up infront of my house with his new boo. I was devastated! He never told me it was over, thats how i found out!
I tried so hard to push thru but i just buried it and kept trying to go on. Eent back to wk 3mos and i spontaneously ruptured disc in my spine which took my mobility til today. I lost my job of 18yrs bcus my job did not care eventho they werent paying me and forced me to retire at an age where i lost 3/4s of my pension.
I exhaused all my 401k, ira, and liquid savings. Its been three yrs. I cant go back to my life bcus i cant walk work or again, get out of bed physically, mentally, and emotionally? So, i get it! Hearing you speak, i know why im disabled today. I dint heal properly. I know i need mental therapy more than i need my physical therapy bcus I LOST EVERYTHING!
aqua fina Giving all Praises and Great Glory to YUHUAH AND HIS CROWNED KING SON YUHUSHA. May the Great One keep you and cover you under his wings. Continue to Forgive and help others if its in your power. Keep YUHUAH Commandments no matter what they do to us. So we can be counted worthy as his Bride. I experienced the same flaunting of another woman in my face. I was married and she deliberately broke up the marriage. I was having loads of anxiety. Allow the bible to guide you through. Shalom Yahudah
Natural Sweet Tooth, thank you for your kind words.
While i have forgiven the sting will NEVER allow me to FORGET.
I NEVER blame the other woman..it is the man we are with that owes us respect in our union. He and he ALONE is at fault for being so selfish, Disrespectful and insecure. So, no blame to her even if she knew bcus no-one does things they dont want to do no matter who's pressuring them. He stepped out and made the choice..its his wrong doing. Most not all but enough Males NEVER become men so, we have to do the work to fully heal and learn from our mistakes of trusting those we should have known dint have our best interest at heart. Peace to you.
aqua fina indeed true my sister. We must heal. I can forgive but to forget is hard almost impossible thing to do.
God you are such an amazing woman... you working so hard and you felt so bad for not doing everything. But girl you are so so talented and please don't be hard on yourself. I feel I can relate a lot. I so understand that need for privacy.... All the best to you!
thank you so much for your kind words and taking the time to watch and comment.
I am searching for the REST video????
Omgoodness I am currently going through everything your talking about. Nobody really understands. But I'm in therapy.
I understand. You are understood. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Greatly appreciate you sharing and opening up to us.
I greatly appreciate you watching and commenting. 💜
Fun Fact: pineapple helps fight depression! So keep enjoying your pineapple.
Found your Channel Today and i love it. Subscribed. You are such an Amazing Woman. Much LOVE from Germany ❤️ ❤️❤️
I soooo enjoyed this!!! Will you ever do a live session?!?! Please 🤗🤗
I just love to see you smile! However, when you cry I 😭 with you! Good Mother’s make decisions that will benefit their child no matter how tough the circumstances are. Curious to know if you will be writing anymore books?
Hi Stacey, can you share which person you went to that helped so much after those 4 months? I think I need something like that. I've been doing gratitude and working with a therapist for a while, but I'm still living under this veneer of depression.
I really needed this, thank you😍😍😍
A great powerful video that should be talk about thank you for this work
you are so very welcome! I’m honored to do Thai work. 💜
1st comment! I'm new to your channel and really enjoying your videos Stacey! :)
I'm so happy you are enjoying my content. I appreciate you showing up, watching and commenting.
Stacey Flowers, thank you! Plz see my comment. You are a living guardian angel on earth.
This right here really hit home!
Thank you for letting me know my work resonates with you. I am so honored to share my story in a way that serves you. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Hello Queen... I really needed to hear this thank you so much for your words of encouragement!!! ☺☺
Stacey, I’m new to your channel so just seeing this. Do you have any suggestions on dealing with toxic family members?
This is an AMAZING question. The best way to deal with toxic family is to 1. limit the amount of time you spend with them, 2. Accept that it is not your responsibility to heal, help, or support them in realizing how toxic they are. 3. Stay compassionate. Just because you are limiting your time with this family member doesn’t mean you tell everyone else in the family what you are doing or why you are doing it. You simple excuse yourself and remain respectfully quiet and compassionate about. Toxic people are usually in excruciating pain (some know but most don’t) so don’t add to their pain by talking about them or gathering other family members against them. Make a decision. Then honor your choice to limit your time. The only other people’s time you can limit is (maybe) your children’s time but even that depends. May my answer serve you. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
Stacey Flowers, thank you for the suggestions. Limiting time is a great suggestion.
Stacey Flowers thank you for calling out that the toxic person is often vulnerable as well. You are an amazing woman and I am so thankful for your perspective and real content.
This was a LIVE?! How did I miss this?😢 No notification😩
You didn't miss it. I recorded this a little bit ago on FB Live. But so many people have asked me the question here on YT so I decided to share. Your notifications are turned on. I'll have a YT Live coming soon. Thank you so much for your support, encouragement, watching, and commenting.
Stacey Flowers Oh!! Thank you for clearing that up 🙏🏼 I look forward to your 🔴LIVE here soon! Wonderful & informative video!
The volume is low on this video. My boyfriend is struggling with anxiety. I would like to further understand it.
While watching this I kept thinking in my head about the past. How did someone dealt with depression or anxiety 200 years ago or 1000 years ago ? Hugs and kisses to your heart ❤️
There is a level of "on-ness", expectation, productivity, and output that humans are pressured to deliver in this century that did not exist many centuries ago. Depression and anxiety are mental challenges which means each it begins in the mind so to compare the mind of man today to the mind of man 200 years ago will not lead to comparable experiences of depression. Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
I’m beginning to think mental health is a curse of modern life.
Donna Crozier You don't think slaves were depressed or the Jews during the Holocaust were depressed? They just didn't have time to sulk and lose their minds but those who did most likely died a painful horrible death because massa and Nazis don't give a fuck about the pain they're inflicting.
T - hi sorry I was not very clear, I was referring to ancient humans. I just watched a documentary and I guess that’s where my head was at. My thoughts were our hunter gather ancestors were much more in the ‘now’ they had to be to survive and I’m theorising they may have been less susceptible to mental health issues. I am certainly not saying that was better, but when you think in terms of evolution of our brains ‘modern life’ (inc all the eras you mentioned) are very recent. That said who’s to say if a Neanderthal saw his family wiped out by a predator attack they would not experience ptsd. I guess my thoughts were the social changes, technological changes have been huge in a relatively short period of time to how our brains evolved - it’s no wonder we are going to experience difficulties.
omg you basically described me, the yo-yoing.
Google: Judi Grace StoryCorps.
Let go and let God.
No one can ride your back, unless you bend over.
Please search poverty in everyplace, and see how others try to survive.
Prayers sent.💕❤️
I'm living for your videos but my only problem is the intro scares the absolute living soul outta me. Which doesn't help when the actual content I'm here for is in such low volume 😢
Hi Carol hello..
Hi Beautiful, TFS 5-21-18
What does TFS mean?
Hello Queen
Hello! Thank you so much for watching and commenting.