Why are there tiny bows on all our underwear?!

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  • Опубликовано: 30 янв 2025

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  • @danilarsson8685
    @danilarsson8685 10 месяцев назад +7000

    My mother is blind and does, in fact, use the tiny bows to make sure she has her undies the right way around!

    • @originalismisacrock166
      @originalismisacrock166 10 месяцев назад +270

      My mother used the bows the same way in the months after her stroke - she was lucky enough to get some of her vision back (but not enough to drive or cook, and she struggles to read).

    • @yuulfuji
      @yuulfuji 10 месяцев назад +154

      im not blind but i must admit i do the same lol

    • @UnicornsPoopRainbows
      @UnicornsPoopRainbows 10 месяцев назад +45

      I taught my kids the same!

    • @-Reagan
      @-Reagan 10 месяцев назад +68

      I suppose it would be easy to get twisted to have one cup facing one side and the other facing the other way. Not that I, a seeing person, ever experienced this problem, (despite my ability to see what I am doing….) and then, found myself doing the armless worm shimmy underneath my shirt, attempting to unbuckle the thing and slip my arm through to straighten it out, when I realized how uncomfortable it was… and wondered why… Not I 🙃 😘

    • @agostres
      @agostres 10 месяцев назад +68

      Better spatial cue than an itchy tag in the back, coming to think about it

  • @dancer14280
    @dancer14280 10 месяцев назад +7178

    My elderly pug is called Bow, and by the end of this video she looked thoroughly confused at who kept calling her xD

    • @CrisOnTheInternet
      @CrisOnTheInternet 10 месяцев назад +48

      😂😂😂 smart doggie

    • @HOHNancy
      @HOHNancy 10 месяцев назад +15

      😂😂 LOL!

    • @teklacukierek
      @teklacukierek 10 месяцев назад +76

      Thank you for this information. My day has been improved.

    • @CatPMcElroy
      @CatPMcElroy 10 месяцев назад +42

      Aww how sweet! This made me smile! Give your sweet Bow a boop for me ❤️

    • @logo9470
      @logo9470 10 месяцев назад +26

      Awww! My fur baby is Beau. And same 😂😂😂

  • @alicet5536
    @alicet5536 10 месяцев назад +1715

    As someone who makes her own bras I can confirm the bow is placed right over the bit most likely to have ended up looking untidy sewing wise

    • @carolinebutler6341
      @carolinebutler6341 10 месяцев назад +22

      I was just going to say this 😊

    • @valolafson6035
      @valolafson6035 10 месяцев назад +12

      My bows sure are.

    • @mellissa5345
      @mellissa5345 9 месяцев назад +7

      Thank you for your concise summary

    • @morrigan908
      @morrigan908 9 месяцев назад +30

      I never wanted to learn to sew, and I still don't. Except when I try to shop for bras. There just aren't many bras in 48B in store where I can try them on, and I've never ordered a bra online that fit and didn't go back. Seriously manufacturers! Some of us are extremely muscular through the upper body--or just fat, it doesn't matter-- who have small breasts. I don't even think mine are especially small, but by the time I get up to a big enough band, the B cups are more like DDD in a 32" band. So I guess I need a 48AA or something insane like that. Then I need an underwire, which just doesn't exist in that cup size. Argh!

    • @Rebeccacell
      @Rebeccacell 9 месяцев назад +4

      I make bras and this is what I was taught by my teacher too

  • @linusmedailleu3063
    @linusmedailleu3063 9 месяцев назад +1849

    I am male, straight, not particularly in to bows but RUclips have insisted for several days that i indeed wanted to know more and I found that i did! Thank you for the fun and informative presentation.

    • @nailsofinterest
      @nailsofinterest 9 месяцев назад +83

      I'm not into bows either. Not one of my undergarments have them yet here I am too! 😂 YT kept suggesting until I gave in!

    • @ginak6775
      @ginak6775 9 месяцев назад +47

      Because she is absolutely amazing and we all need more of her fabulousness. ❤ welcome!

    • @johnmcpudding857
      @johnmcpudding857 8 месяцев назад +56

      Yep, am male and straight as well. No idea about the why and how I really got here, but I like it here and learnt something.

    • @dn3305
      @dn3305 8 месяцев назад +1

      Maybe... May..maybe because you.. because you - just maybe! - like...ladies in underwear? 😅😅

    • @LakeyLuvlok
      @LakeyLuvlok 8 месяцев назад +7

      Dont take this the wrong way but the idea of one of u guys having a psycho girlfriend and trying to explain its not bad and what she thinks makes me laugh really hard. “ you were just… interested???!!!!!” Lmao

  • @milusagarard6478
    @milusagarard6478 10 месяцев назад +213

    As someone who currently has to either do the back clasps in the front and swivel them round, or ask for help (which I'm honestly impatient enough to not bother with most of the time); I very much appreciated the whys on the back clasp. Thank you for such a comprehensive lesson on the brassiere.

    • @anniebe4992
      @anniebe4992 10 месяцев назад +51

      but I still don't know what the hint from the big sister was, to not grab behind you and not turn the bra around 🤔

  • @lisawintler-cox1641
    @lisawintler-cox1641 10 месяцев назад +1404

    I'm 65 and I burned my bra in the 70's, I was at home and no one was looking but it mattered to me and my cat very much. Bows were also on our little girl undershirts we wore under our clothes. I asked my Mom why, and she said it was "To make you ask questions." So, that's the reason!

    • @DrDavidThor
      @DrDavidThor 10 месяцев назад +138

      I always knew you were out there somewhere, the undebunked burner of bras.

    • @deg8517
      @deg8517 10 месяцев назад +50

      icon

    • @truepeacenik
      @truepeacenik 10 месяцев назад +52

      Early 80s for my rebellion against clothing with cups, and my mom said just about the same. I’m 55!

    • @tanyah.9131
      @tanyah.9131 10 месяцев назад +44

      I love that the cat was included ❤️

    • @solanelukoperse5815
      @solanelukoperse5815 10 месяцев назад +13

      People created so much stuff in order to make us talk!

  • @sparklestorm1236
    @sparklestorm1236 10 месяцев назад +2195

    THESE ARE THE QUESTIONS WE SHOULD BE ASKING PEOPLE

    • @carolinecagle3266
      @carolinecagle3266 10 месяцев назад +13

      Bow? Bows?

    • @kerrynicholls6683
      @kerrynicholls6683 10 месяцев назад +13

      I don’t have any underwear with bows.

    • @S_J_banana
      @S_J_banana 10 месяцев назад +20

      Tbh I’ve always wondered it

    • @hopegold883
      @hopegold883 10 месяцев назад +18

      Wait. So how do we put it on if we can’t do it in the back? What was Claudia’s sister’s advice?

    • @RedVelvetRabbit
      @RedVelvetRabbit 10 месяцев назад

      Exactly!

  • @knate44
    @knate44 10 месяцев назад +2621

    I assumed it was a it was to honor the goddess of hunting and not-doing-sex: Artemis, but then I realized that's the wrong kind of bow

    • @fictionalhuman
      @fictionalhuman 10 месяцев назад +316

      I now had a good chuckle at the idea of tiny hunting bows all placed on a line of lingerie 😂

    • @annalisalundberg4561
      @annalisalundberg4561 10 месяцев назад +100

      I would actually like that more than the strip of ribbon tied in a bow 😂 thanks for the cool image 😁

    • @EC-xc9gy
      @EC-xc9gy 10 месяцев назад +117

      I'm going to go embroider some tiny bows on undies, now!! 🏹

    • @Ashish-yo8ci
      @Ashish-yo8ci 10 месяцев назад +15

      You made my day 😂

    • @sneakylemon8513
      @sneakylemon8513 10 месяцев назад +54

      Im going to go and find archery bow charms now and sew them in where all the little bows used to be 😂

  • @kalinka5333
    @kalinka5333 10 месяцев назад +349

    Just a quick reminder that you should also wash your bras in the mesh net thingy if the cups have wires in them. If the fabric rips, the wires can slip out and damage your washing machine.
    You don't want to pay for a new bra and for a new washing machine or for someone to come over and remove that wire from inside the machine.

    • @mariagordanier3404
      @mariagordanier3404 9 месяцев назад +15

      Plus the bras last so much longer in those mesh bags. They are really worth it.

    • @24get24give
      @24get24give 9 месяцев назад +13

      they can also pop out and damage you!

    • @pierdevries4020
      @pierdevries4020 8 месяцев назад +2

      too late for me, we washed a lode of clothes from a school trip. I am out $ 1,600.38😭

    • @AlexTheFruitcake
      @AlexTheFruitcake 7 месяцев назад +5

      omg I HATE wired bras....they are HELL to wear and I simply can't :P Most women I know tell me I should wear them because of my big size, but I just...I want to burn wired bras.

    • @jirup
      @jirup 7 месяцев назад +1

      An underwire slipped out of one of my daughter's bras and lodged in the washing machine pump. There it sat for years, slowly wearing a hole in the pump housing and creating a leak.

  • @Hrafnskald
    @Hrafnskald 10 месяцев назад +29

    I have no idea what made the RUclips Algorithm show me this, but historical feminine bows on underwear is an awesome topic I didn't realize I needed to know about until now. Thanks for enlightening our understanding :)

  • @jeremytoms5163
    @jeremytoms5163 10 месяцев назад +1604

    I’m a straight male ,but, before I get ripped apart. I watch both yourself and Bernadette Banner for both insight and a fascination with costume, fabrics and historical garments. We have 3 daughters and one son, our eldest was born with issues needing surgery, cutting through the sternum. As a result we both grew adept at checking clothing for anything that would irritate her skin. Found it very irritating that girlie vests and then bras all had frills of some sort that were unnecessary . Boys vests and T-shirts worked for a while until she developed. Only comfort she had was with sports bras as they have no frills on the chest or side straps ( she has scarring on her sternum and under her breast tissue and up around her clavicle -pretty invasive surgery) . But as she got older , she wanted to dress more feminine , ended up having to sew linings into her bras to cover over the lace edges, embroidery etc. it’s only recently that she’s found lined bras commercially available .
    Our middle daughter is a strict goth lesbian, but as a goth she has the issue of again finding suitable feminine underwear. Not every goth wants to wear corsets! Everything she finds in black,vintage goth style is either frumpy (she’s a larger size) or more Ann Summers in construction, not what she’s looking for. If she wanted to wear sandpaper there are cheaper options ! Again, she’s had to settle for sport bras or suffer for when she wants to look feminine.
    Why is it that women’s underwear is generally poorly made for general retail? I get that cheap,nylon lace material saves money for the manufacturer but surely if they used a cotton alternative economies of scale would kick in to make them affordable. My wife likes Teddies- the type you wear- but finding a feminine , comfortable , reasonably priced make is damn near impossible. Why?
    I can get shirts in any colour in a range of fabrics at a reasonable price, why does women’s fashion cost so much in comparison ?

    • @HybridMiranda
      @HybridMiranda 10 месяцев назад +446

      The answer is called the 'pink tax'. Products for women are typically more expensive than equivalent products made for men. Just go look at the price of women's underwear compared to men's underwear. I feel the struggles of all the women in your family, because I've lived it. Women and their accessories are a huge money maker. There aren't often pockets on leggings, dresses, or fashionable jeans. This is why purses are so often used, when we could just have jackets with good pockets or pants with good pockets. The materials are cheaper so that the clothes wear out faster and women will buy more clothing. I personally have begun buying thrifted clothing, often from before 2015 and from good fashion brands. It's the same price as regular modern clothing, but the construction is way better. See if you can point your daughters towards thrift stores, or online markets like ThredUp (the materials also won't be as synthetic.) More silk, cotton, and linen, and high-quality materials that are well put together.

    • @caputmedusa4234
      @caputmedusa4234 10 месяцев назад +421

      I think it's soooo cool you pay so much attention to the details of your daughters' fashion and style. Lucky girls. I wish my dad cared.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 10 месяцев назад +37

      @@HybridMiranda It's not a tax, women are willing to spend more for more work to be done for more decorative clothing. Also pink dye costs more than black or blue dye.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 10 месяцев назад +146

      Your goth daughter might like Torrid, they have some nice underwear for plus sizes (I am a fat woman, so I know).

    • @patrickd9551
      @patrickd9551 10 месяцев назад

      @@HybridMirandaPink tax is just ill-informed propaganda and shows lack of critical thinking. But more particularly, it's called supply and demand.
      First look at a male closet and a female closet (in general). Woman have more clothes in absolute terms and a wider variety too. In absolute terms women require/need different types of underwear. That requires more research and development for each type. More research spread over more types of underwear means higher prices. Take mens underwear, there are two models, boxers and briefs and come in either full cotton or some cotton blend. Nothing more. We have no boxers with more masculine features or lace. Less types, more supply, more competition, lower prices.
      Shirts are the same. How many types and fabrics for shirts do men have? How much have they changed during the ages? Not so much. I have 10 polo shirts and I have been wearing polo shirts for 15 years. That makes it cheaper. However I'm also tall (6'3") and I require longer shirts. Guess what, I have to pay "tall tax", because the one company making longer shirts knows about the concept of demand and supply and adds 10-20 euro on average to each piece of garment.
      Trousers? Long and short. That's it for most men. Women? long, short, skirt, dress, legging. And yes, men also have expensive clothing: The suit, however we generally own just one or two and they last years and years on end.
      Okay let's take the original pink tax debacle. Specifically razors. Pink female special shaped razors were more expensive. First of all, again, supply and demand. Women shave less often, thus less razors get sold, higher prices. Second: it never stopped women from stealing their husbands regular razors, resulting in even lower demand for the special pink razors and thus higher prices for those willing to buy the special female razor.

  • @Readera
    @Readera 10 месяцев назад +1429

    As a woman who dislikes bows & lace on my underwear due to sensory issues, i have wondered this all my life! ❤❤

    • @ashleydavis2355
      @ashleydavis2355 10 месяцев назад +136

      The bows don't bother me but damn lace sets off all of my ick and makes me totally shut down. I'd never worn lace before and tried to wear lace on my underwear for my wedding (I wanted to be ✨fancy✨) and literally physically couldn't walk down the aisle until someone ran to my house and got me my regular underpants 😂

    • @barbaraoxford
      @barbaraoxford 10 месяцев назад +41

      I haven't got ant sensory issues, but I don't like little bows. Just don't, is that enough?

    • @stodgysine4424
      @stodgysine4424 10 месяцев назад +1

      same hat lol

    • @sailorstarfairy1
      @sailorstarfairy1 10 месяцев назад +20

      The lace literally catches on the hooks ALL - THE - TIME 🤦🏻‍♀️ and irritates my skin!

    • @moniqueleigh
      @moniqueleigh 10 месяцев назад +43

      I have found one, ONE! brand of underpants that came in my size and had lace that did not set off my sensory issues. And. they. discontinued. the. line. Because of course they did. No more pretty underpants for me. :( Also? I haaaaaaate bows of any size on bras. They're always in some highly inconvenient spot that means they interrupt the line of my clothing. On the rare occasion that I buy a bra with bows, they get snipped off as soon as possible.

  • @jessirarara
    @jessirarara 10 месяцев назад +622

    "I can't breathe! Then how do you think the farmer was wearing it???" This was a fantastic line... I love it.... I love it with all my heart. Also... if you can't breathe you're likely wearing the corset wrong. Something that will never cease to fascinate me because you'd thing the costumers on set for movies would... know how to put a corset on someone specifically the very thin women who usually are wearing them in such movies.

    • @falleithani5411
      @falleithani5411 10 месяцев назад +46

      Film studio costumers tend to be masterful experts in the finely-honed craft of making real (if unusual and often cosmetically altered) humans look like even-more-unnaturally-shaped fey creatures and caricatures. They carefully select artistic aesthetics, and they sculpt their assigned actor into an impossible refinement or exaggeration of those ideals. At *_any_* cost.
      So most of them do know how, but doing so is often just not compatible with their job requirements.

    • @solanelukoperse5815
      @solanelukoperse5815 10 месяцев назад +17

      I worked with a few people that wore abdominal belts, a woman and a man, and it looked so much like a corset that I'm convinced that was the main purpose of its use in the rural or working area.

    • @dandelion_fritters
      @dandelion_fritters 10 месяцев назад +16

      Generally the budget for the costumes and those okaying the costumes do not allow for the production of comfortable corsets for the actors. Only the most industrial (cheapest) kind are allowed, and so the actors wearing them are made to suffer for profit.

    • @TessHKM
      @TessHKM 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@solanelukoperse5815 this is interesting to read bc had to stop wearing belts and transition to suspenders while working bc they're so much less constricting to me

    • @valolafson6035
      @valolafson6035 10 месяцев назад +5

      At the same time, the actresses aren't wearing them all the time, and don't have the chance to get used to them.
      But also.....sometimes things are just not comfortable to someone, but completely fine for someone else.

  • @FromCA2CN
    @FromCA2CN 9 месяцев назад +121

    Oddly living in China, I’ve noticed bras have much more fabric & hooks to them. Even an A cup can have 5 hooks and I’ve thought how much support do they really need?!? Thank you for keeping me up late at night, thinking more about bras than I thought I would. keeping me entertained whilst I wait on my laundry…. I forgot the mesh bag. I’ve enjoyed so many of your lovely videos! I envy your grace & style.

    • @DJarry394
      @DJarry394 8 месяцев назад +4

      I’m a big woman, five hooks can be useful to me

  • @ephemeralfox
    @ephemeralfox 10 месяцев назад +63

    I just wanted to say I appreciate creators like you who cite sources!

  • @sleepycalico
    @sleepycalico 10 месяцев назад +446

    Now, at 73, I'm wishing I had clipped off each tiny little bow before discarding worn out undies so I could make an art project with them entitled "Why are there tiny bows on all our underwear?!"

    • @ellisburton8733
      @ellisburton8733 8 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂😂

    • @erin2535
      @erin2535 4 месяца назад +2

      That's a missed opportunity, to be sure 😂

  • @lizyarikus
    @lizyarikus 10 месяцев назад +576

    I HAVE questioned what's up with all the random bows on otherwise plain underwear before. Thanks for doing the research, Jessica.

  • @aimeek2858
    @aimeek2858 10 месяцев назад +1183

    As a breast cancer survivor and aesthetic flat closure on one side and small breast on the other, I long for bows and feminine lingerie that doesn't cost the earth.

    • @fenlandwildlifeclips
      @fenlandwildlifeclips 10 месяцев назад +72

      Or for one that fits a large cup size: very few post surgery bras are made for a GG cup.

    • @VeretenoVids
      @VeretenoVids 10 месяцев назад +75

      I obviously don't know if it would be remotely interesting to or practical for you, but there are a lot of great sewing patterns now that are relatively easy to follow and let you customize everything to your needs and heart's desire. Bralettes are quite easy to sew. You can even buy kits with all the fabric, strapping, hardware, etc.

    • @aimeek2858
      @aimeek2858 10 месяцев назад +33

      @@VeretenoVids I am not a very skilled seamstress but it's a good idea :)

    • @fenlandwildlifeclips
      @fenlandwildlifeclips 10 месяцев назад +16

      @@VeretenoVids You are suggesting I sew my own post surgery bra? I'm a large cup size: I need scaffolding not a bralette. Even if I had these skilks & time (which I don't) what about all the other millions of women like me? I'm not sure where you are getting this idea from but you can't buy kits for sewing a large cup post surgery bra.

    • @fenlandwildlifeclips
      @fenlandwildlifeclips 10 месяцев назад +10

      @@aimeek2858 No it isn't. We should be able to buy the products we need and most of us have neither the time, skills nor money for this. You can't buy kits to make post surgwry bras anyway. It's nonsense.

  • @gawkthimm6030
    @gawkthimm6030 9 месяцев назад +125

    straight white male here, as someone who has worn mostly black casual wear as a skater - heavy rock dude for 20 years now, but has always also been a massive history nerd and being fascinated with well crafted suits, vests and overcoats, ad odds with my "fashion statement" -as a "rebel" so to speak in the early 00's, when I was young man I found it almost embarrassing to admit, yes as a far-left wing long haired heavy metal rock dude, I do like to dress up in fancy suits occasionally. But you said it really well, our clothes dont define our politics or sexual preferences.
    I was raised in a very liberal household in Europe but in a conservative rural area and only found myself comfortable within a "counter-culture" being in opposition with "conformity and norms" at the time, and had I been gay or trans I would have had it much tougher, as I later realized as many of my gay or trans friends and family had felt, of which none now live here in the same rural town.. for although my own family had no problems of that sort or deep felt prejudice the community around us did.

  • @KristenK78
    @KristenK78 10 месяцев назад +45

    There have definitely been times I’ve been tempted to cut some of the little bows off, when they seem to interfere with a smooth line under my clothes.
    But the real question is: WHY the little charm on the front on the sternum?!

  • @armandamura7336
    @armandamura7336 10 месяцев назад +322

    The bows are like the tiny handles on maple syrup bottles nowadays :D they've lost their function but still prevail in today's designs

    • @alisonbender8575
      @alisonbender8575 10 месяцев назад +20

      Ok wait can you explain the function of the tiny obsolete syrup handle to me though because I’ve always wondered

    • @armandamura7336
      @armandamura7336 10 месяцев назад +72

      @@alisonbender8575 basically back in the day, households were storing their liquids in heavy ceramic jugs (because glassware wasn't a thing yet) with handles, which made them easier to be carried. Then when maple syrup companies decided on the shape of their containers, they decided to keep the "nostalgic" look of the original containers - including the handle, which in scale now is too small to be functional :)

    • @mirandaandrews2872
      @mirandaandrews2872 10 месяцев назад +2

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @sollucky
      @sollucky 10 месяцев назад +41

      Wait. I thought that was for my finger. I've been using it to jauntily swing the maple syrup to the table. I always thought it was nice that the fancy maple syrup allows one to jauntily swing maple syrup on a finger

    • @syzygyinsyzygy
      @syzygyinsyzygy 10 месяцев назад +10

      Skeuomorph

  • @reverendmothercheryl2276
    @reverendmothercheryl2276 10 месяцев назад +485

    I purchased a package of ten black bikini cotton knickers none of which have bows, but they also have all the label information printed on the inside back rather than a sewn in label. Your statement that having a bow on the front makes it easier to find the front in the dark. Now I want to put little bows on all of them myself.

    • @oiytd5wugho
      @oiytd5wugho 10 месяцев назад +53

      I find the back by feeling for the printing on the inside, actually. A few letters are embossed on mine, dunno if that'll work for you though

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 10 месяцев назад +11

      ​@@oiytd5wugho or the elastic seam. I wear boxers and use that to find the back. I double check with the fly if I'm tired.

    • @darkstarr984
      @darkstarr984 10 месяцев назад +13

      It really does make it easier to not accidentally put them on inside out. Which happens a lot when I’m throwing on clothes in the dark for work.

    • @dreamhedgehog
      @dreamhedgehog 10 месяцев назад +9

      That's why I embroid small circles on the front side of an elastic band.
      Once had it on a pair and now do it for every piece (after cutting of a bow)

    • @vickisnemeth7474
      @vickisnemeth7474 10 месяцев назад +2

      Where did you get an entire set of black ones?

  • @mamamommy42
    @mamamommy42 10 месяцев назад +510

    i hold my breath every time someone starts talking about historical underwear/corsets, so i can't even describe how relieved i was when you mentioned Bernadette Banner and Abby Cox

    • @scoutlaceharding
      @scoutlaceharding 10 месяцев назад +7

      I went through the same thing. 😂

    • @DogWalkerBill
      @DogWalkerBill 10 месяцев назад +10

      I follow both Bernadette Banner and Abby Cox!

    • @ms_ch
      @ms_ch 9 месяцев назад +1

      the RELIEF!

    • @heatherwebb6285
      @heatherwebb6285 6 месяцев назад

      Same! I have been scrolling through the comments looking for my fellow Banner & Cox fans. Hello friends!

  • @RenRen.
    @RenRen. 10 месяцев назад +22

    I’m not one of the Clubbies (yet), but I do love your videos and hope you’d stop getting homophobic and rude comments. Thanks for talking about this with such an including choice of words (I’m a queer non-binary afab and appreciate it SO MUCH) and sharing a positive outlook on corsets themselves 🙏🏼

  • @marie-soleilducharme7250
    @marie-soleilducharme7250 9 месяцев назад +16

    Thank you for defending corset! I worked years in a medieval restaurant and was very confortable wearing a corset! You just need to wear it the right way! :)

  • @Americathebeautiful49
    @Americathebeautiful49 10 месяцев назад +335

    As an ex underwear salesman I must say I quite enjoyed your explanation of the use of bows. I represented companies from France, Italy, Austria, Germany, Spain, England, Australia, Canada and the USA. They all used bows as ornamentation mostly. Some were frivolous some were down right fabulous in the case of one English brand Damaris which used oversized bows draping the derrière. Underwear can be fun.

    • @grannypeacock
      @grannypeacock 9 месяцев назад +6

      As someone with a double mastectomy I'd love to have underwear with an oversized bow over the derriere because pretty bras are no longer an option

    • @Leekaboo
      @Leekaboo 7 месяцев назад

      That must have ruled, I love Damaris undies

  • @JRVan-ez4yi
    @JRVan-ez4yi 10 месяцев назад +482

    I once had a front closing bra. . . The slight stretching out of materials with washing resulted in being able to accidently undo it if you moved wrong, so I can see why mostly zippered sports bras are the only front closing ones you can find easily.

    • @someubersweetness
      @someubersweetness 10 месяцев назад +179

      I once went for a run in a front zippered bra, and the zipper failed, which made my boobs explode rather dramatically into the open air. It was a fun surprise for everyone present.

    • @thederpstate3330
      @thederpstate3330 10 месяцев назад +41

      In 9th grade I once had my messenger bags strap pop open my front closing bra. Luckily I was wherein a sweatshirt. But I gave up on that type of bra after that

    • @callmewic
      @callmewic 10 месяцев назад +28

      I've got big boobs and most generic front zipper bras just make me laugh. My thought is that front zippers are for smaller boobs and front closure are for bigger ones? I dunno. More people with boobs need to design better bras for far less money for everybody involved. 💵💵💵

    • @simbanala79
      @simbanala79 10 месяцев назад +23

      I have a Victoria‘s Secret front zipper closure sports bra, I was zipping up and the zipper split at the bottom, I couldn’t get the top open, or the bra off, and was trapped. It was ridiculous. I’ve sworn off front zipper closures, just can’t trust em. 😂

    • @jennifervasquez
      @jennifervasquez 10 месяцев назад +13

      I havent worn a bra since i was 16 but my last go-to bra was a racerback bra with a plastic front closure where u would slide one into the other n pop it into place n it was very secure. I would even wear it to dance practice n i never worried abt it accidentally popping open but then again i dont have the biggest of boobs so that might be why.

  • @saraquill
    @saraquill 10 месяцев назад +460

    Jessica swooning over the idea of décolleté violets is something I didn’t know I needed.

    • @jennifers5560
      @jennifers5560 10 месяцев назад +26

      It’s so sweet when she gets sort of lost in the image that she just described.

    • @PhoebeFayRuthLouise
      @PhoebeFayRuthLouise 10 месяцев назад +6

      Yes, I completely agree!

    • @Margar02
      @Margar02 10 месяцев назад +2

      Me tooooo. I swooned a little with her

  • @gingawizard183
    @gingawizard183 10 месяцев назад +21

    This was an interesting watch. As someone who's transitioned recently and never was taught about bras or how to wear them and only had to wear a push up bra recently for a renaissance faire it's been a learning curve and this was informative.

  • @wyvernsbreath
    @wyvernsbreath 10 месяцев назад +15

    Your particular wit and sarcasm combined with your chosen aesthetic is so cute it makes me want to squee (especially the flowers by your heart for your wife, awwww!) , sadly idont have the vocal range to make that noise, but it's there in spirit, you're doing great!

  • @jacobward7195
    @jacobward7195 10 месяцев назад +2267

    This might sound odd but I really appreciated how the gender inclusive language in this video felt completely natural. It wasn't emphasised or pointed or almost forgotten and abruptly added on the end like it so often is, even by very accepting and inclusive people. Trans, non-binary, and other genderqueer people were simply automatically included in your language as if it was the most normal, unremarkable thing in the world.
    It's worth making a point of it sometimes. It's good to force audiences to acknowledge and include those identities. But sometimes it's nice to just be implicitly accepted and normalised.

    • @colin5227
      @colin5227 10 месяцев назад +36

      Yeah!!!

    • @boofyhalfpint8559
      @boofyhalfpint8559 10 месяцев назад +125

      Yes. As a straight female I don't feel 'talked down to' or 'glared at' by Jessica. I just love her clothes, her humour and her wheelchair antics - I have just started being an ambulatory wheelie warrior!

    • @PhoebeFayRuthLouise
      @PhoebeFayRuthLouise 10 месяцев назад +108

      And it isn’t just this video-
      Jessica’s language is always inclusive in a very natural way!

    • @JaneAustenAteMyCat
      @JaneAustenAteMyCat 10 месяцев назад +14

      Hear, hear!

    • @DianaBell_MG
      @DianaBell_MG 10 месяцев назад +61

      @@boofyhalfpint8559 Totally!!!! I am a lesbian, but I actually found Jessica when she was doing videos about going to the movies while deaf or hard of hearing, and I'm going thru the videos learning and agreeing and she says "my wife" and I'm like hold up!

  • @adaliaalvarez7269
    @adaliaalvarez7269 10 месяцев назад +151

    I have wondered this since I was a child. Thirty-seven years and 26 minutes later, I can happily close that chapter in my life. Thank you, Jessica, for going down the rabbit hole I was afraid of chasing and congratulations on coming out the other side!
    TBH: I always found bows indiscreet (as their silhouette would poke through my t-shirts and call attention to my underwear), but now that I have come full circle, I can re-start my relationship with bows from a healthier place. I actually think a tiny bow on the sleeve or the pocket of my (or my husband's) button-down shirts would be lovely.
    I know you get weird/mean comments on here, and I just want to reassure you that I am NOT being facetious. This video was AMAZING and it's going to live rent-free in my head all week. Have a great day and go get those violets! 💜💜💜💜

  • @jennifers5560
    @jennifers5560 10 месяцев назад +961

    This was super interesting, but I absolutely did not need to know what the first sports bra was made from. That piece of information will now, unfortunately live in my brain forever…😱😱

    • @fenlandwildlifeclips
      @fenlandwildlifeclips 10 месяцев назад +50

      & why do so few companies make post surgery sports bras?

    • @SabinJBB
      @SabinJBB 10 месяцев назад +89

      lol As a gay man that loves doing sports using jock straps, I find the fact so interesting and hilarious!! What a twist: now bras can be said to be masculine, and even jock-straps to be feminine! 😂😂 At the end the important thing is us people to be comfortable with the fabrics with put on our bodies.... the rest is subjective and so twistable 😂
      Jessica, i love your amazing humor! i don't only learn a lot of interesting facts with you, but I end up with a huge smile as well! thanks for being yourself and making these videos! ❤

    • @CatPMcElroy
      @CatPMcElroy 10 месяцев назад

      The only thing I can think of is the common sports bra brand Jockey now 🫠

    • @nelliebly6616
      @nelliebly6616 10 месяцев назад

      Have you seen all the DIYs with bikinitops made from old panties....with the crotchpart,right under your nose?

    • @user-ey4rc5tu4t
      @user-ey4rc5tu4t 8 месяцев назад

      If you have large breasts, you know that a tiny bouquet tucked between them might serve (at least) two purposes: hiding cleavage; freshening sour skin.

  • @maxthemad19
    @maxthemad19 10 месяцев назад +19

    I haven’t even gotten 10 minutes into the video yet, I just have to say that blue dress is absolutely GORGEOUS 😍😍😍

  • @phirerising
    @phirerising 10 месяцев назад +5

    I'd like more options with no bows as an Enby but I do like the idea of functionality for folks with less visability or who are blind. I hadn't considered that, but it's a cute mostly unnoticable and functional addition. I also think leaning into the aesthetic & making bigger bows could be super fun and neat, and has lots of potential as well.
    Basically just.. more selection. More options please!

  • @InkArgent
    @InkArgent 10 месяцев назад +311

    So I recently learned that the reason there are multiple rows of hooks on a bra is that they will tend to stretch out over time, so the idea is to buy a bra that fits well on the loosest row, and then as the bra stretches out you can move tighter and tighter and maintain the same good fit.
    Thanks @SamDowney!

    • @rachaelhoffman-dachelet2763
      @rachaelhoffman-dachelet2763 10 месяцев назад +70

      When I was younger I always thought it is so you could buy it to fit on the tightest setting, and then when you grew/gained weight you could let it out. It never occurred to me that the opposite was true.

    • @MaraMara89
      @MaraMara89 10 месяцев назад +38

      It always amaze me that some "universal" knowledge isn't really universal. And it usually is with small things like this - obvious to me, but it make sense that someone thinks it is to gain weight too...

    • @Salix631
      @Salix631 10 месяцев назад +39

      Back in the day (like the 50s/60s) buying a bra was a complicated performance that involved talking to an older lady who would help you fit it and make sure it was the right size. One of these ladies told me sternly that I should not buy a bra that fitted on the smallest closure, it had to be back a couple of notches to allow for stretching of the fabric. Buying knickers was didn't require the fitting bit but was an equally discreet procedure, both involving curtained off bits of the store where men were certainly not welcome. And sanitary towels were very quietly purchased at the pharmacy and the package handed to you in a brown paper bag.

    • @robertacomstock3655
      @robertacomstock3655 10 месяцев назад +1

      When a (casual) bra gets unsupportive on the largest setting, I might draw a line with high visibility fabric paint between the hooks I mean to avoid.
      A more formal method to warn myself off of the stretched out setting was to baste across the space between the outermost hooks, putting thread into each to make it easy to avoid using them.

    • @Margar02
      @Margar02 10 месяцев назад +1

      I got measured at a department store and the gal told me this. I was about 20 years old. I never had a big sister to teach me stuff and my mom was just as clueless

  • @psycheread3258
    @psycheread3258 10 месяцев назад +106

    My mother hated bows because she was forced to wear large ones in her hair. Jessica, you're absolutely gorgeous!

  • @CovenantOfSaltArt
    @CovenantOfSaltArt 10 месяцев назад +88

    I have been so frustrated by conventional bras and how uncomfortable they are, I too researched what they wore before bras were invented. You showed pictures of it. They are also called "strophium" in ancient Rome and I made one after I found someones old blog post from like 2009 of reenactment clothing. I experimented with how to wrap it and honestly it works for me way better than any bra. It supportive yet leaves my shoulders and arms free. No more bra straps digging into my shoulders or pulling on my shoulders. I can still comfortably do a lot of things and still feel supported.

  • @dkey980
    @dkey980 10 месяцев назад +7

    I always wondered about the tiny bows on my bras and underwear and had perceived them to be infantilising to women. have really appreciate your video and how it puts bows like this into a historical context. I still don't like them on my undergarments but at least I have a more nuanced view. Thank you for such an informative video.

  • @WadzanaiMufunde
    @WadzanaiMufunde 10 месяцев назад +3

    This was really insightful and entertaining, and your presence is truly magnetic. It's funny because I get annoyed at the random bows on my underwear but actually they can be pretty useful in figuring out which way round they go lol.

  • @janisi9262
    @janisi9262 10 месяцев назад +102

    RE: lace on the bras from the archeological find: lace has holes and can function as ventilation in underwear, or people just wanted pretty underthings.
    I don't like bows on my underwear/bras. A little lace can be nice, but bows make me psychologically uncomfortable - I love that term! - so I take a seam ripper to them and remove the bows.

  • @JustCole.Design
    @JustCole.Design 10 месяцев назад +784

    Back as a blossoming NB teen, angrily removing all the tiny bows from my clothes was very cathartic 😂
    Thank you for your perspective and history lessons!

    • @marion.saturn
      @marion.saturn 10 месяцев назад +27

      NB here. I did that too! (and still do lmao)

    • @HolyShinta
      @HolyShinta 10 месяцев назад +81

      Me too! I eventually had a little box full of tiny bows removed from bras and panties which i then gave to my emo and scene friends so they could glue them to hairclips or accessories. Everybody wins!

    • @dragonshadow4145
      @dragonshadow4145 10 месяцев назад +8

      Is it really that common? I think I only ever saw them on some types of underwear and a few undershirts.

    • @JustCole.Design
      @JustCole.Design 10 месяцев назад +49

      @@dragonshadow4145 I think when you hate them, you notice them. I could have encountered a higher number due to the style of things I was given growing up, but they felt inescapable for a while.

    • @mike_the_chair
      @mike_the_chair 10 месяцев назад +7

      ​@@HolyShintathat is such a good idea!! If just started removing them and didn't know what to do with them :)

  • @a.b.creator
    @a.b.creator 10 месяцев назад +128

    The three strand gold pearl necklace is absolutely divine ! ✨

  • @kaiyakershaw1028
    @kaiyakershaw1028 10 месяцев назад +9

    Great video! I love how you share your research rabbit holes. You’re so thorough. And I love your take on the whole thing. So practical and balanced and sensitive. You’re the best!

  • @julecaesara482
    @julecaesara482 9 месяцев назад +6

    I bought a bra that closes in the front between the cups and felt very smug about it but whenever I press my arms together in a specific way to stretch my back or reach for something, the bra opens. It's horrible. Back closures win.

  • @verenakremer6748
    @verenakremer6748 10 месяцев назад +197

    thank you for explaining the "bra in a mesh bag" - I always thought it was supposed to protect other clothes from the hooks

    • @katherinegood7509
      @katherinegood7509 9 месяцев назад +20

      That is very relevant as well! I wear a lot of racer or cross back styles and when I forget the mesh bag I feel like I spend hours untwisting my bras from my clothes. Also, when I don't use the bag, I generally have to tug and pull and reshape the cups as I have a fairly large cup size.

    • @wareforcoin5780
      @wareforcoin5780 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@katherinegood7509 Relatable.

    • @andriaduncan5032
      @andriaduncan5032 8 месяцев назад +2

      I started using a mesh bag for my bras so that the straps don't get tangled up in the agitator, stretching them all to hell. I even leave them in the bag in the dryer, so other clothes don't get tangled up in the straps, and it's easier to find the mesh bag in the dryer-full of clothes than something as small as a bra, since I take them out of the dryer when they're about half-dry, and hang them up to finish the drying.

  • @sawyersweetart1042
    @sawyersweetart1042 10 месяцев назад +293

    I've worn underwear with bows and without, and frankly? I'm for more frivolous details on all underwear. It's just *fun,* it's a reminder that underwear isn't strictly utilitarian.
    It makes me happy to have underwear with bows, shimmery fabric, prints, or other "unnecessary" details because means that the ornamentation is for *me.* No matter what my outer clothing shell has to conform to for safety or societal norms, no one has to see what I have underneath, so it can look however I want it to.
    In a world where our exteriors are increasingly policed, it's nice to be able to wear what I want to somewhere, even if it isn't visible to the casual observer.

    • @Call-me-Al
      @Call-me-Al 10 месяцев назад +38

      This reminds me of the tv show... Atelier I think it was called. A Japanese show about a small custom-made underwear boutique, where it was stressed that nice bras are for your own comfort and confidence that others don't really get to see. As someone who grew up with Victoria's Secret type lingerine promos, that felt really refreshing. I was too used to the annoying trope that pretty bras are for men's gazes and only utilitarian ones are for women.

    • @UmbraKrameri
      @UmbraKrameri 10 месяцев назад +14

      There's this shop in my area where you can get socks with fun asimetric patterns and also matching panties... I always make sure I wear the matching sets together.

    • @M2R.
      @M2R. 10 месяцев назад +13

      This is my life philosophy! Wearing frivolous, ornamental and flamboyant things makes life so much more fun and interesting. I put bows and lace on pretty much everything I own and it makes me feel really cute and whimsical and there’s no way I’d rather feel

    • @jakubrogacz6829
      @jakubrogacz6829 10 месяцев назад +9

      That is funny, but the most annoying example of this is male fashion, until industrial revolution it used to be just as diverse and full of decoraitons ( as they were status symbols most often ) as womens one and with passage of years I think male parts of clothes shops seem to even decrease in size. Personally I think with most jobs nowadays being office ones we could do with more colour and flair as it is its hard enough to just convince people you like wearing a hat, and even then it's a classical male style of hat.

    • @jakubrogacz6829
      @jakubrogacz6829 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@M2R. I do think same. So I wear cloaks for the fun of it. Need to buy some cool ones though, ones I have are pretty much military/camping style.

  • @vote4ladybird_1
    @vote4ladybird_1 10 месяцев назад +737

    i wear exclusively boxers now but when i was little and wore those kinda underwear with bows i would RIP THEM OFF.

    • @bitchenboutique6953
      @bitchenboutique6953 10 месяцев назад +69

      I started wearing boxers a little over a year ago and why the hell did I wait so long?!

    • @vote4ladybird_1
      @vote4ladybird_1 10 месяцев назад

      @@bitchenboutique6953 i love them so much, they feel comfy, they arent too tight, if i listed all the pros i would be talking for years.

    • @Tessa_Gr
      @Tessa_Gr 10 месяцев назад +77

      I do wear officially "women's" underwear but it's like a tighter version of boxers. So fully from belly to under the butt, onto my thighs.
      I don't understand why anyone ever would wear something less comfortable than that.
      My old underwear would basically kinda cut into my butt on the sides because it didn't go down to my thighs there.
      Why anyone would want that is beyond me.

    • @judebrown4103
      @judebrown4103 10 месяцев назад +41

      ​@@bitchenboutique6953you know I've never thought of buying boxers, are they expensive? I just grab a multi pack of big knickers in Marks and Sparks every so often and get really pissed off about the bows....until I remember that I often get dressed in the dark and they're quite handy for finding the front 😂. I did graduate from white to black recently and wondered why the hell I didn't do that before the menopause!

    • @smelly-y
      @smelly-y 10 месяцев назад +39

      I've kinda wanted to wear boxers but could never find the right style for my ~equipment~ Men's style boxers have too much space in the front, but women's style boxers are just not the same shape!

  • @just_a_tiny_dinosaur5014
    @just_a_tiny_dinosaur5014 8 месяцев назад +1

    First off, I LOVE UR FASHION HISTORY STUFF (especially how you easily site your sources ON SCREEN!! As a fellow research enthusiast you have BLESSED my feed) Absolute instant follow!

  • @JasTheSass
    @JasTheSass 10 месяцев назад +3

    I like that you said that more bows could be added with attachments! I think we need to give everyone bows

  • @TerryOCarroll
    @TerryOCarroll 10 месяцев назад +76

    That blue floral dress is gorgeous. I love that shade of blue.

    • @tomdavies6443
      @tomdavies6443 10 месяцев назад

      I really dislike the dress colour but i love the fit and style and the way it makes her hair colour really stand out. Her hair is fantastic.
      Regards from a Tom :)

  • @iamllux
    @iamllux 10 месяцев назад +131

    Changes in living and working conditions helped push corsets out of popularity. Corsets weren't designed to restrict movement. While wealthy women may have had corsets purely for fashion, working class women used them for extra support while doing heavy work, like weight belts or back braces today.

    • @jakubrogacz6829
      @jakubrogacz6829 10 месяцев назад +21

      men wore ones too, and in fact weight lifters and so on still wear belts, while the whole leather wrist bands metal is known for are actually to help with joint problems in case of physical workers. It's just to convinient for us with all advantages of robots and internet to even imagine half of strain life would put on you just 100 years ago.

  • @rebeccaaugustine8628
    @rebeccaaugustine8628 10 месяцев назад +65

    I thought that you might say that the tiny bow reflected the residual "drawstring" left over from the chemise, camisole, or combination garments of 100+ years past.

  • @bewitchedadventures4977
    @bewitchedadventures4977 9 месяцев назад +2

    I mean this with adoration and complete respect. You are the most well spoken and adorable woman I have ever seen on RUclips or anywhere else. I look forward to seeing more of you stuff, I absolutely subbed, and I wish you and your family much safety and success.

  • @svitrai
    @svitrai 10 месяцев назад +11

    Love Jessica swooning with love for Claude

  • @TheDarwinProject1
    @TheDarwinProject1 10 месяцев назад +71

    I usually remove the bows as they tend to cause a little bump in t shirts & the edges can snag delicate fabrics.

  • @ValeaAlvida
    @ValeaAlvida 10 месяцев назад +77

    I hated the little bows and always removed them from my underpants (not from bras because that tended to damage the bra, lesson I learned the hard way). When I became dependent on care and couldn't dress myself without help, I started to leave them on. It helps the carers to find the right side. I am always amazed how often a person can switch and turn a piece of fabric around without finding the right side... it's like USB I guess?
    Aesthetically I am still strongly opposed to any bows and other frill on my clothing, but I am a pragmatist, so it's fine I guess.

  • @christianavance9124
    @christianavance9124 10 месяцев назад +166

    Your patreon members are absolutely your "Support B.R.A.'s" Beautiful Respectful Allys.

  • @angleterrell9723
    @angleterrell9723 9 месяцев назад +2

    I love that you are just uniquely you never let the haters get you down.

  • @mariaotero9770
    @mariaotero9770 10 месяцев назад +2

    You have a calm soothing voice and I love it. I get to inform myself and have a history class in a fun calm way. Thank you!

  • @FoldingIdeas
    @FoldingIdeas 10 месяцев назад +29

    You got me with that last barrage of bows, I bow longer bow what bow bow bow bow bow

    • @MegaKellyschannel
      @MegaKellyschannel 10 месяцев назад +1

      Brain empty. Only bows now. 🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀

  • @samcar06c
    @samcar06c 10 месяцев назад +54

    For real, I have wondered this for years and years, so pumped to watch this video.

  • @lindsaymixer8043
    @lindsaymixer8043 10 месяцев назад +101

    Before I started wearing compression tops, my favorite bra was a sports bra that zipped up the front. SO easy to do when I was having a bad pain day in one or both arms.

    • @blue-dragon31652
      @blue-dragon31652 10 месяцев назад +5

      My breasts are so big, the bra is hard to zip. The fit good is good once they are zipped. I hook the top and then try to slip the bottom edges together and the top pops. So I just have started wearing cheap fruit of loom cotton sleep bras with about 7 sets of hooks. I am 72 so I worry about comfort over looks. And I have problems with my shoulders.

    • @dragonshadow4145
      @dragonshadow4145 10 месяцев назад +1

      I found those would unzip themselves, unfortunately.

  • @lunamegan
    @lunamegan 10 месяцев назад +3

    I actually do have a few bra's that close at the front! Apart from two disadvantages I really like them, especially when my shoulders aren't up for the backside closing. But mostly because they allow for intricate designs on your back.
    Disadvantage #1: because it only has a single clasp there is no extra sizing room, only one width (they might solve this by making the breast band adjustable at the sides?). So all the bras I have with a front closure are either slightly too wide or too tight. (btw I have this same problem with swimwear tops)
    Disadvantage #2: less comfortable than backside closure. As said in the video the front closure rests on your sternum which is far more sensitive than your back, this kind of closure is also less flexible. The combination of the rigid closure on the hard sternum can even cause slight bruising.

  • @nicolenichol8523
    @nicolenichol8523 10 месяцев назад +1

    I was actually wondering about this recently. Thanks for making this video. I love how you edited this, and you're not alone in the struggle with the little hooks 😂. I think you look beautiful the way you dress.

  • @meadowl
    @meadowl 10 месяцев назад +13

    for a moment i was surprised that the video had non-generated captions, then i remembered who im watching lol. appreciated!

  • @anabluu
    @anabluu 10 месяцев назад +63

    The décolletage violet mooning was everything I needed for today ❤ great video!

  • @YourInternetPandaFriend
    @YourInternetPandaFriend 10 месяцев назад +728

    I just have to comment that I adore your use of fat as an unproblematic term, I don't think about it much but this video made me realize that I really despise using terms like "plus size" or "larger frame" or any other flowery band aids. Also as a trans man I felt very included, thank you! ❤

    • @scoutlaceharding
      @scoutlaceharding 10 месяцев назад +105

      I don't mind "plus size" but I definitely refer to myself as fat and always appreciate when it's used as a neutral descriptor by people of any size.
      Side note: it's always telling when someone is uncomfortable with you calling yourself fat and wants to say something like, "You aren't fat, you're beautiful!" Those two things are not mutually exclusive! Anyone who is uncomfortable with someone calling themselves fat should examine why that is. Often, it's because they've learned to associate "fat" with a whole host of negative things that aren't necessarily true.

    • @silverxstar01
      @silverxstar01 10 месяцев назад +46

      I appreciate it as well, although it was a little jarring to hear it thrown in so casually! I'm so used to people using euphemisms that it kind of caught me off guard.

    • @sammonesilver
      @sammonesilver 10 месяцев назад +32

      Agreed, it's just a pretty factual descriptor, it shouldn't be offending. Calling a tall person a tall person also never counted as offensive... On the other hand, 'plus size' implies that it is outside of what is somehow considered 'normal' range of sizes and makes it feel more separated and singled out.

    • @058Martine
      @058Martine 10 месяцев назад +9

      It made me feel a little meh, but maybe that is the negative association I have with the word, because it is often used in a negative way.

    • @YourInternetPandaFriend
      @YourInternetPandaFriend 10 месяцев назад

      I understand, I used to think that way as well. The way I see it now, "plus size" implies that I am larger than other humans when really, the average body size range is much broader than what is on the rack for clothing. It figuratively AND literally separates me from everyone else (plus sections, big and tall etc). Whereas "fat" is just a part of my body and everyone has it just in different levels, so it feels less alienating. If I were speaking to you or anyone else in everyday conversation however, I would of course accommodate my speech for the comfort of present company. @@058Martine

  • @ryptoll4801
    @ryptoll4801 10 месяцев назад +8

    I really like your perspective on this. I'm a straight woman who's very masculine, so I can relate a lot to what you say about subjerting expectation, but kinda in reverse? Basically, a lot of society assumes lesbians to be masculine, and straight women to be feminine, but you and I are doing the opposite of that, and I think that's beautiful.
    That said, I don't personally feel any particular way about the bows on my undies. I've been aware of them ever since my teens though, when I first wondered "why them bows?" Anyway, underwear is probably the one aspect of my wardrobe that isn't particularly masculine. I prefer fully covering panties that can handle the near infinite size of my rear end, and since I don't have natural breasts anymore, I have to get bras made specifically for holding breast forms, all of which usually looks like something you'd probably expect a granny to wear. Or someone's who's into retro stuff. So there be a lot of bows. And lace. And they're all only ever black, white or beige.
    And I guess I don't really mind all that as long as it's comfortable, fits well, won't break within a week of wearing, and that my bras and panties are the same color.
    That said, I'm in my mid 30's and I still put on my bras by fastening it over my stomach, then turn it around and put on the shoulder straps last. As long as my waist is at least a little bit slimmer than my chest and I'm being careful with not yanking the bra too hard, I feel like that method isn't putting a ton on stress on the garment. I just can't fasten it from behind. I can barely even open it from behind.
    Although I have several front-closure bras. It's actually very common with mastectomy bras, because a lot of women who've had a mastectomy have limited arm movements. I don't, but I still appreciate the gesture.

  • @mckenziepaigemusic
    @mckenziepaigemusic 8 месяцев назад

    I discovered you through a vintage dress youtube rabbit hole and I am absolutely and completely charmed! I had to pause more than once because I was laughing in the best possible ways. You are wonderful! I'm subscribed and can't wait to explore more of your videos!

  • @pacisparrae
    @pacisparrae 10 месяцев назад +52

    Was so sure that i was an exception to this but actually one of my bras had a tiny bow that I'd never even noticed

  • @catherinerw1
    @catherinerw1 10 месяцев назад +34

    I usually wear M&S "Rosie" bras... they have little metal dangly pendants instead of a bow! (Yes I just checked). And yes, my M&S multi-pack knickers also have bows on the front.

    • @shortcake66
      @shortcake66 10 месяцев назад +6

      Me too! I’m an odd size so M&S is my go-to, and the ‘Rosie’ range is usually the least aesthetically disappointing. I cut the little danglers off as well

  • @nataliegath395
    @nataliegath395 10 месяцев назад +252

    wait we are not supposed to fasten the bra in the front and spin it around? uh oh lol.

    • @nralbers
      @nralbers 10 месяцев назад +79

      Yeah. I'm digging into these comments to see if someone is sharing how we are supposed to achieve this miracle, especially since I have limited elbow and shoulder mobility 😊

    • @hannahk1306
      @hannahk1306 10 месяцев назад +58

      I'm wondering the exact same thing. I'm relatively flexible and I can't fathom how you would easily do the bra up with the clasps at the back - perhaps we all need maids to help us get dressed?

    • @Simi_Rose
      @Simi_Rose 10 месяцев назад +45

      I don't know if I am cheating as hypermobile but i do it up facing inside out and flip it up/then put my arms through the straps.
      its slightly lower down that way and can be easier.

    • @shortcake66
      @shortcake66 10 месяцев назад +14

      @@Simi_Rose Witch!
      (No but seriously, this is genius and I’m trying this in the morning)

    • @ArtichokeHunter
      @ArtichokeHunter 10 месяцев назад +55

      i don't get the argument here that it's bad for the bra. been doing it for a couple decades and never had a problem.

  • @michelledickson122
    @michelledickson122 8 месяцев назад

    I found this fascinating! Your sense of humor is top notch. I appreciate that you were willing to approach a more "taboo" subject in such a helpful, informative way!

  • @coronastern
    @coronastern 10 месяцев назад +2

    I bought a pattern from the 1950's for Bra's and bikini Tops. I have a large chest and those modern bras with all elastics and synthetic fabric are cutting my skin (even in the correct size) and won't handle sweat very well. I want to sew myself some bras out of linnen. The only slightly elastic part will be the hock attachement in the back. That's it. Hopefully it will be a success.

  • @ClockworkCouture.
    @ClockworkCouture. 10 месяцев назад +23

    I exclusively wear racerback sports bras with inbuilt cups, my chest hates normal bras. One of the best sports bras I have (the most supportive and comfortable one) is one that clasps in the front with a slide-bar clasp which is extra secure and doesn't dig in at all. It also has a second bit of spandex style fabric that zips up to completely hold my chest in place and I love it to pieces!
    For anyone out there who hates normal bras or who can't clasp them in the back, try a racerback encapsulation bra that has a slide-bar front clasp. It's supportive and cute and eminently practical and easy to put on.

    • @LilahLily87
      @LilahLily87 9 месяцев назад

      Where did you buy yours?

    • @DJarry394
      @DJarry394 8 месяцев назад

      Can you suggest a good brand that isn’t Nike or Skims?

  • @katherinesmith1740
    @katherinesmith1740 10 месяцев назад +21

    I feel unreasonably emotional about this video - probably something to do with the migraine that's floored me all day AND your thoroughness.
    You're one of my absolutely favourite RUclipsrs. Thank you for your content!
    Also, that dress is awesome :)

  • @Logarithm906
    @Logarithm906 10 месяцев назад +17

    This was simultaneously hilarious in ways i wasn't expecting and informative in ways that I never expected. You even explained the tangents which raised questions.
    Bravo.

  • @bonniepinney2884
    @bonniepinney2884 10 месяцев назад +1

    I never questioned it because everyone of them brings me joy. Just a little tiny bit of joy each day ❤

  • @ffoninamhcar24
    @ffoninamhcar24 2 месяца назад

    Inspired by your videos! especially all of the side-take explanations. You being you, and me being me makes this world quite diverse and exciting!

  • @rodentary
    @rodentary 10 месяцев назад +322

    I have seen long line bras that close in the front and zippered sports bras.
    U also forgot to give us the tip that Claudias older sister gave her

    • @MaraMara89
      @MaraMara89 10 месяцев назад +17

      I thought I misunderstood something about that part when she didn't fallow with tip. Or maybe closing it already at back was that option? o.O

    • @elloh_mane
      @elloh_mane 10 месяцев назад +68

      It looks like there could be an editing error? The content at 17:46 about front-closing bras with a single hook not being stable for those with larger chests repeats twice.

    • @patrickday4206
      @patrickday4206 10 месяцев назад +12

      I'd love to see that tip

    • @Hevle24
      @Hevle24 10 месяцев назад +16

      I wanted that tip!!!

    • @criseastman6503
      @criseastman6503 10 месяцев назад +3

      Same

  • @Jinxs-Journey
    @Jinxs-Journey 10 месяцев назад +62

    I love the bows haha didn’t ever think why they were there just thought they were there to make them prettier

  • @ashpitash2360
    @ashpitash2360 10 месяцев назад +21

    Nobody does niche history like you! Thanks for answering the questions and debunking BS at the same time ♥ I like bows, but I absolutely want them bigger. Forget pretty and dainty. I want STATEMENTS.

  • @AnalogMachine
    @AnalogMachine Месяц назад +1

    I can't lie, I have a vague memory of being told "the bow is to make it easier for blind girls to put on" and I never thought about it again. Then my friend sent me this video, and tbh, this information is super cool and I'm glad he did.
    Also your sense of style is amazing!

  • @RowieSundog
    @RowieSundog 10 месяцев назад +46

    Im transfem and the cute lil bows were a super euphoric thing in the times when i couldnt present outwardly fem, but I knew i had cute lace & bows hidden underneath my work clothes❤

  • @juliarudholzner2845
    @juliarudholzner2845 10 месяцев назад +28

    I get the "feeling a teeny bit infantilised" reaction and have actually cut tiny bows off of undies and bras before switching to a handmade brand who does not do bows. However NOW sometimes I need to really ponder which part goes in front 😅😅😅

  • @HorizonOfHope
    @HorizonOfHope 10 месяцев назад +54

    That blue dress is AMAZING!

    • @sam12587
      @sam12587 10 месяцев назад

      I think so too

  • @creepycrawlie
    @creepycrawlie 10 месяцев назад +67

    i think the little bows are cute but i never really even notice then, they don’t touch me (not understanding that complaint) and they’re everywhere so my brain just fully ignores them

  • @jace19691
    @jace19691 10 месяцев назад +3

    Perfect delivery, various subjects all done with a sarcastic beautiful smile and made me laugh too.

  • @ChronoShadow69
    @ChronoShadow69 Месяц назад

    I really appreciate you tossing a grappling hook out of this rabbit hole you fell into to drag us along with you! Was a fun ride!

  • @cathyb214
    @cathyb214 10 месяцев назад +97

    Wait…you’re not supposed to fasten the bra backwards and then shimmy it around your body to face the correct way??

    • @Meskarune
      @Meskarune 10 месяцев назад +12

      What is the correct way?

    • @HOHNancy
      @HOHNancy 10 месяцев назад +8

      I do this too and now I wonder what is the correct way?

    • @greyflannelsuit
      @greyflannelsuit 10 месяцев назад +36

      I had never heard of anyone putting it on “backwards” until a fitting a few years back 😅 I was informed I put mine on the “correct” way, which is: arms through straps, wire/bottom of cup under tissue, arms behind to hook, then adjust (swoop/scoop tissue in cup, etc). I tried the “backwards” way once and couldn’t deal with the drag of elastic across my skin. However, my shoulders are hypermobile in a way that makes this easy for me, but if you have less mobility (or even more/increased risk of dislocation) this may not be doable for you, and if it’s not doable, then honestly, I wouldn’t consider it the “correct” way! The correct way is the way you can manage 😊

    • @MaraMara89
      @MaraMara89 10 месяцев назад +5

      We "should" close it at the backs to not destroy material/elastic bands. Closing it in front and shimming to back made bras live shorter

    • @rosered5485
      @rosered5485 10 месяцев назад +3

      I do both. It really just depends what I feel like doing early in the morning while I'm still half asleep, lol

  • @ninjakitteh9095
    @ninjakitteh9095 10 месяцев назад +132

    Research rabbit holes do happen 🤣🤣🤣

  • @victoriab8186
    @victoriab8186 10 месяцев назад +65

    I really wish more people talked about sports corsets - they existed I think in the Georgian period or something, but I can’t see much about them - other than that they existed, and I wish I could still use one. I do think it would work better for me than a sports bra

    • @transformaterial
      @transformaterial 10 месяцев назад +17

      Bernadette Banner did a Video about this after Adidas came out with a "corset", but it was meant to be a fashion thingy. Doesn't help with finding an actual modern one, I'm sorry, but there you can at least learn about the history if interested :)

    • @lucyl4603
      @lucyl4603 10 месяцев назад

      There’s a video of a creator making modern sports stays, will link if I find it: ruclips.net/video/u4aOgymBGVw/видео.htmlsi=QArAm-I9BF37JEQH

    • @kjones2008
      @kjones2008 10 месяцев назад +7

      Riding corsets are also known from literature.
      By researching historical corsetry, you might be able to find a pattern in one of the old journals/magazines. And then you just need to size, shape, muslin, sew, and tweak. It could be quite the hobby rabbit hole!

    • @InaMacallan
      @InaMacallan 10 месяцев назад +6

      Riding corsets were cut high over the hips to allow for more movement, especially when riding sidesaddle. They also performed the same function in protecting the spine in a fall as modern back protectors.

    • @victoriab8186
      @victoriab8186 10 месяцев назад +1

      that's really cool! @@InaMacallan

  • @yayatheobroma929
    @yayatheobroma929 8 месяцев назад

    Jessica, you're fabulous. I ditched bras when I had kids nursing, years ago (they didn't know how to open and close the darn thing), and never regretted it, but I thoroughly enjoyed your video, it's so well-researched and fun.

  • @perpetuallyconfused6608
    @perpetuallyconfused6608 10 месяцев назад +2

    I was already thinking about how I could add bows to my husband’s boxers 🤣 thanks for making that easier for me!

  • @PhoebeFayRuthLouise
    @PhoebeFayRuthLouise 10 месяцев назад +44

    25:28
    Proudly supporting Jessica for 5 years now!

  • @marienumber2
    @marienumber2 10 месяцев назад +12

    okay but that original jockbra looks comfortable as hell

  • @chefboyarzee
    @chefboyarzee 10 месяцев назад +58

    the jockbra thing is going to haunt me every time I put on my sports bra now 😭

    • @VeretenoVids
      @VeretenoVids 10 месяцев назад +12

      😂😂😂 I'm old enough to remember when they became a thing. I vividly recall being with my mother as she checked them out one day and asking her why those bras looked funny. I was a kid and had no idea what a jock strap was.

    • @chefboyarzee
      @chefboyarzee 10 месяцев назад +5

      @@VeretenoVids omg I can just imagine how wild it must have been for you when you found out what it was

    • @sophisticatedPJs
      @sophisticatedPJs 10 месяцев назад +9

      honestly as a genderfluid person that presents masc often but still wears a lot of sports bras I find it weirdly affirming. Funny and a bit cursed. But affirming all the same

    • @Rickettsia505
      @Rickettsia505 10 месяцев назад +4

      I stopped running at 12, before those bras were made. They were not adequate support back then. Now it is still hard to get a decent supportive sports bra for large sizes. When you do manage to find one, the cost is about $100. The big breast penalty is real.

  • @CaptaNovious
    @CaptaNovious 10 месяцев назад

    When I buy new things, my first order of business is chopping off the tags and the bows. Thank you for this video! Understanding "why" helps me shake my head in dismay less often :)

  • @goglamere
    @goglamere 9 месяцев назад +2

    This makes me want to buy a pack of tiny satin bows, go to a department store, and just start sticking bows on all sorts of garments in the male section, female section, kids section… bows on shorts, bows on socks, bows on jeans, bows on neck ties! Bows bows bows bows bows!