Parenting is easier WITHOUT screens...why we cut them all out
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- Опубликовано: 14 май 2023
- Welcome to my latest podcast episode! Today we are talking all about screen time! My journey with giving my kids screens has been up and down throughout the years and I’ve learned a lot since having my firstborn nearly 7 years ago. We are chatting about what made us want to cut out most all screens in our household, attention span, giving my children a love for literature with depth, and how we cut them out…plus how I’m transitioning to a flip phone this month! I hope you get value from this podcast and I’m excited to do more!
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I have to say, I'm listening to this while folding laundry and my two kids, age 5 and 10, are having screen time... I absorbed every word from this podcast and I can relate sooo much with everything... i try to limit things, have one day a week without them, but the addiction is there, and as you said it, they are hoovering over me constantly, although they have a schedual with screens. STILL it's a constant struggle, like the elephant in the rooom... yes, they enjoyed books way more in the early years, but since screens happened, the attention span, the love for reading, it's all affected by this. And I count on their screen time to get things done. Plus, screens are also a way of bargaining to them, it gives them extrinsec motivation and that's not good. Your honesty trought this podcast also made me be honest with myself. Your way of cutting them off it's the rght, efficient way, cuz I'm constantly putting limits and sticking to a scheduale and they constantly want more. The fact that you said that there is life after this, gives me the courage to try and have a honest conversation with them, then putting their phone in a seif 😅... hoping they can overcome this addiction, cuz it is... it is constantly on their mind. And yes, I see a lot of their peers/friends in the same boat.. it is sad and concerning.
We are going to limit screen time.
I am so glad you talked about cut out screen time yourself! I hear so many people talk about the negative things about screen time for kids but it’s just as harmful for our minds; and we cannot teach our kids without being disciplined ourselves. That’s the hard part. Take care of your own mind and the rest with follow.
I got a flip phone two months ago and I wouldn’t be able to be mindful with my time if I hadn’t don’t that.
Thank you for this podcast!
It’s such a mindset shift and it takes being intentional but definitely being screen free with young kids is such a great thing for the kids. I feel being screen free just gives them so many more opportunities to create, learn and grow.
Haven't even watched this yet, but I usually love your content. I haven't owned a TV in 15 years. Have 2 kids, ages 4 and 1. We've never used screens with them and we don't miss it. They happily play without it. And we don't own smartphones. Television is called "programming" for a reason....
Totally agree!
We are raising our kids this same way & I love seeing other moms raising their kids the same! My kids go around so many kids who don’t even seem like they know how to play or stay still at a restaurant without a screen :/ When my kids try to interact with them it’s like pointless because they are on their moms phones! I’ve been really been focusing on peace in my home. Love this so much! 💕 Excited to go watch/listen to the older ones!
I think my kids love the library because of the community. There are toys, reading time, activities, and I even saw a playground at a library in California. I also think when parents prioritize reading to children, then the seed of loving to read is planted.
I cut tv cold turkey one day & never looked back. My daughter is 3, never even questioned it either. She goes in her room when she’s bored or in the backyard with our animals. Best thing i ever did for us 💓
I been thinking of doing the same I have three children 9 7 and 2 we already cut tv on the week days so I don’t think it would be a huge change for them but it will be a change for then since its what they know but I know they will be fine.
@@45754 yes definitely ♥️
Go Hayley! I’m loving the new you! Keep this content coming ❤
Yess I grew up as tv always being on, I watch tv before and after school also and realize now at 30 I didn’t ever enjoy reading because I never read unless I HAD to. Now I’ve backtracking trying to read more and cut the screens out.
I love your mom transformation. I used to always watch your vlogs when you were pregnant with Annabelle and after she was born. Had not watched a few years and I’m now binch watching😂❤ love it
I am another mama who is right there with you!! At this point it’s course correction and it starts with me! At the top of the year I switched to my carriers flip phone and used a garmen for about 3 months and then was able to go back to my iPhone with self control and less anxiety. I did delete all social apps and removed the rest of the apps from the Home Screen, I just selected send a text for authentication and didn’t have problems. Thank you for sharing openly what so many of us are walking through!
I relate to so much of what you are saying! I have been wanting to get rid of screens for awhile! My kids are all teens now and I am afraid I waited too long!I want to get rid of screens even for myself. I think screens are so addicting! Thanks for sharing your journey! I agree it also has made me a lazy mom! I like the idea of quitting screens myself first ! I just subbed ! Thanks❤
Love these podcasts. We take a similar approach with our kids who are also similar ages. We go camping as a family every weekend to eliminate screens and expose them to all things nature. There is also a ton of bonding and family time when you are in a small space like a camper. It is our favorite part of the week
Wow, great podcast about screens. I knew a Dad who would periodically take the TV out to the garage for six months at a time.
This is such an encouragement, thank you for sharing. ❤
Love this! Thanks Hayley!
Loving this content. I’m pretty likeminded, was working on getting pretty close to no screens and then got pregnant and was super sick and started to rely on them again. Now unfortunately recovering from a miscarriage with complications and so more screens. It’s been awful, my kids have been so much worse behaved and more hyper and even sleeping worse. I’m feeling so guilty about it but trying to give myself grace for a tough time and hopefully will be well enough physically and mentally to soon to cut them out again.
Yes! Give yourself grace! It was the same for me with first trimester nausea and just plain exhaustion through pregnancy… and then it carried over into the newborn phase when I needed to put baby down to nap and wanted to keep 3 year old entertained. It’s a tough season. ❤️❤️❤️
I am sorry for your loss. Something similar happened to me. My husband got severe depression and has ADHD. I was also full time in college. So that is how my daughter got addicted to screens. I was just so burnt out. Just do your best and know that time will pass. I am now to the point where I feel I can remove the screens. I would say reach out for help if there is anyone you know who can help. But, there are times in life where you just do your best, and that is okay!
Good choice and thankyou for sharing.
Also thank you for talking about this ❤ it’s all so true. Don’t apologize for living a higher standard.
I took our TV down today and i also switched my sim card to my light phone (a very expensive dumb phone). It is just too tempting and it has become a crutch for me. I loved listening to your experience, its so helpful and I agree totally with what you are saying! We all know that technology has gone too far and has crossed the line especially in the family, I think many people want to make a change, but its very hard. I have gotten to that point and I hope that I can be a much better mom and example to my family through the changes i am making. I look forward to listening to your podcast as I downloaded it on my light phone, so next time I will listen to it on there instead of here on this channel.
I love this topic! I have a 3 and 5 year old. My husband loved giving my daughter who was 2 at the time the tablet everyday. I hated it! I am a 90s baby too and I had a great childhood without screens and I been talking to him about cutting out screen time before its too late. Now we give it to them only on the weekends during the evenings and sometimes we don't. Also, I realized from seeing my family that have much older kids 10 and 14 years old, they think everything is boring! We went on a road trip and they were so bored! But well behaved, but they didn't enjoy anything. It was disheartening to see because all they want was their phones. My husband and I LOVE to do little road trips to P.A and N.Y for the day we live in Maryland so we go and explore and sight see and dine-in restaurants and I want my children to love that too. I am also guilty of being addicted to my phone and becasue I am addicted, i don't want my children following those same footsteps
So true they think everything is boring. Currently working on less screen time with my children too because I want them to enjoy the world around them. I want them to love to read also. It actually doesn't take long for children to adjust to life without so much screen time. You can actually see the difference and benefit in your children without so much screen time.
Great podcast!!
Thank you so much this was great!!
I like your videos before I even watch 🤣
so happy to get a new video. I've been so encouraged by your podcasts
You’re an inspiration Hayley! One of the only RUclipsrs that comes across as genuine, kind, and godly. Blessed by your advice and wisdom ❤
Love these videos!!!
We did the same thing, 100% agree
Listening while making the kids lunch! 😄 Also, I always have my phone in my hand when I pee or nurse my kiddos. Honestly, it's like the only time I'm sitting down and can take a minute to look at it.
So good!
Such great points. I totally agree! Love your dress. Link?
You don’t sound like a prude or know it all, I’m so glad you’re talking about this! I wish more people would. It takes boldness to talk about this!!
I hope to get to this point with my daughter one day. I’d love to see a video of what your toy rotation or ideas for the busy bins are like.
We do screens. My kids are 4 and 1.
My 1 year old doesn’t watch any screens I usually just put Spotify on on my tv
My toddler loves my Nintendo switch so we usually play together a game for 30mins or watch an episode of a Netflix show on weekdays
On the weekend it can happen that Netflix is on for a few hours I often felt guilty with it but not anymore
Love how your doing it completely screen free! I’m gonna be honest I’m Screen addicted tho so I probably couldn’t do it 😅
i love this! where can i find your other podcasts pls, they’re not coming up on apple podcasts?
Keep doing what you're doing. I love it!🥰😍
The explanation is really important even for a 2 or 3 year old, they understand more than we think
Loved this. Would love to achieve this but I don’t feel strong enough, tired mum of 4 from 12-almost 3 years here x
This video was inspiring. Everything you talked about regarding the guilt of screens and attention span I have been experiencing with my now 4 yr old. He used to love us reading to him and now he has no attention for it! I want to teach him phonetics but it's hard when they don't even want you to read to them!! I'm going to have to figure out a daily routine before I decide to cut screens... Feeling a little overwhelmed as I have a 3 month old to care for as well. How did you do it??
I Just love your video. I need this inspiratorios and community as a mom.
I'm just as addicted to books as I am screens 😮💨 Even as a kid I used to stay awake all night to finish a book sometimes. Personality is a huge factor with addiction. So I think screen time (like anything) is only bad if it's a problem for the individual.
Thank you for this podcast. I feel the same thing these days even for pee we need our phones 😢
I would love to see your schedule and how you balance spending time with your kids with cooking, cleaning, homeschool, etc. my husband is overseas and will be for a while and I’m trying to cut out most tv time.
This way very insightful. I am a mom of just 1 who is 2.5, we do no screens except for TV and now after seeing this I would like to phase it out as I have noticed some triggers as you pointed out. Thanks for sharing!
Also, no kindle in front of your kids just paperbacks?
Where did you get your dress!? It’s adorable! Listening to help us cut out some screen time
I was a staunch no screen mom but then i was reading about how the Japanese give their kids electronics the second they are old enough to use them
So i found a very happy balance. We probably use about 1 hour of screen time a week.
The rest she's in libraries, parks, museums, the pool, doing crafts etc etc etc
This is the kid that will throw her ipad if you ask "want to go to the park"
But we use the iPad for learning 90% of the content is reading/ math/ science.
Phones or tablets were never something I let my kids watch, but tv is definitely a problem!
Love this podcast, wish I did that with my kids when they were younger.. And just wanted to say I agree with you on frozen. My kids watched the first, we tried to watch the 2nd and a few min into it I made them turn it off.
New here! Love the title! Look forward to more…anyone bring this same topic up to church with kids ministry? I get it it’s geared towards the lessons at least it’s not junk but I’m really wrestling with the idea of churches using more screen time as well. To say the least: worship time for kids using the screen instead of live worship- like old school traditional songs with hand motions and playing games together etc! I’m trying to find a RUclips channel who addresses this
I love it! I wanted to be Amish when I was growing up. LOL I love the simpler life. I have been trying to cut out screen time but we have family over quite often and if I have to leave the house I know it’s going on 🙁.
- amazing!! Totally agree. My kids are 0, 3 and 5.5. They have never used iPads themselves. We have set times in the day when they get tv shows (on the tv, not screened). But I try not to make screens LIFE!
Miss out on childhood not watching a box all day called a tv? When they could be playing sports, interacting with kids at the playground, art. Who’s missing out?
Plus screens are made of little lights that can’t be good for developing eyes either.
However when I’m sick the kids do have some good apps and I don’t feel bad cuz they’re not on them usually.
No screens for us either. It’s liberating 🙌🏼🤩 You know what the problem is with all the Disney junk?! Traumatizing things happen in those movies. Parents die 😩🤷🏻♀️ WHY?! Such heavy topics for little children.
Omg yes, I remember being SO sad when I watched The Lion King as a kid and the dad dies in the stampede!
But that’s real life. Children need to learn about death. If your kids are traumatised by Disney, that’s on you.
@@katie8325 yes children need to learn about death, but not through something that's supposed to be entertaining. I sit down with my kids and teach them about heavy subjects like this. I don't depend on a secular producer like Disney to teach my kids about death.
Hi!! Long time follower here. Curious.. what about 10 to 12 years old? Is your opinion the same for that age group?
Something that I struggle with when I ignore my phone is I feel isolated as I lose connection with my family. I don’t live near them/ see them often so a quick text here and there is how we stay in touch and I don’t feel so alone throughout my day. It’s hard to find a balance. My toddler enjoys calls but obvs doesn’t understand I’m using my phone to text for this purpose, they just see the screen 😢
Guilty too. I started getting addicted to phones and screen because I had to keep myself awake somehow when I was nursing. Than I developed anxiety and was so lonely as a new mom that it was my way to escape the anxiety and fears. Now I am looking for a way out of it. Would love to know from some single parents how they handle not being exhausted without any screen time? How do one child kids entertain themselves for quiet time?
Haha, I was Amish until my parents left when I was 10 😅 You are not turning Amish yet, but we were super creative, imaginative and bored a lot. Although my mom would say, you don’t want them TO bored because they do get into a lot of “trouble” like that too. There is definitely and extreme to everything. You gotta find the middle ground for you. ❤
I’m interested in doing this with my kids (ages 3-14) I hope it’s not too late
I’m trying to be better about checking my phone while my kids are awake during the day. It’s hard!
I do like to take pictures with my phone of the kids and what they’re up to throughout the day to send to the grandparents because they live far away.
I think this is so smart. I'm a huge fan of limiting screens for my kids - small doses is fine if they're educational but watching to be entertained is just not healthy.
Teaching children to value the things in life that matter is a wonderful thing.
We also use screens for bible. My children get a lot of value in learning the word of God through video❤
Part of the issue is that we no longer are carrying phones, we’re carrying a mini computer with us. If you kept your phone but trained your mind to think of it as a computer and then had a flip phone for calls when you’re out and about or texts even when home, then you’d be reaching for a phone to keep in touch not a mini computer. And then after the kids go to bed you can have your mini computer back.
Interesting! I started to treat my phone like a phone again: I only use it for messages, calls, pictures (and listening to podcasts, audiobooks, which is the exception to the rule) This way I never spend a lot of time with my phone in my hand and I tend to read way more as well now.
Have you read "For The Children's Sake" Schaffer McCalauy?
We do screens but I think it's GREAT if you don't. Keep up the good parenting!
One very Important aspect I want to bring up is this "screen free life" will be more successful if both parents are in agreement. As a homeshool mom, during their "school" time you have most influence of their schedule and activities. If you can't go totally screen free, limiting the time atleast teaches to wait and earn it.
I agree with you, rip the band-aid off, do it quick!
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You’re not weird for not likening Disney movies! We don’t like or watch them either!
Be careful with PBS. I thought it was safe until I overheard something that we were not okay with.
I'm not a Disney person either with a few acceptions.
You are not the only one who hates the frozen movies lol. I can’t stand them lol
*9:20* starts the video :)
No way girl, screen time/YT have saved me and kept me sane. Not sure how else I could do house work/cook etc with a 6 & 3 year old!! Plus they learn soooo much!!
There great learning stuff but a lot of the times it’s mixed in with weirds stuff. Also looking at light pixels can’t be good for developing eyes for a long time.
Just yesterday I watched a video about how tablets/ interactive medium is SOOOO much more addictive than tv. The psychologist said that the brain scans of substance addicts are the same as digital media addicts! AND it shrinks the prefrontal cortex so basically making the kids dumber!
The 2nd frozen is definitely weird.
Love this. We got rid of our TV a few months ago and it’s been a wonderful experience 🤍
Hi from Australia 🌏🦘 have they welcomed their new bub?