So thrilled and honored to have been invited to speak on this stage and to share such a powerful and vulnerable topic with this community. Thank you for having me TEDx and thank you for caring enough to listen and continue to create a ripple effect.
"Sabrina, your story is incredible. From the moment she began to speak, I could visualize her experiencing this and the pain she felt living with her abuser. Battling with decisions on what would be right to make him happy takes a lot of patience, determination, and confidence to escape. Sabrina, thank you for your courage to change your situation and create a better life for you and your son. Your story is inspiring and will help those who are struggling to get out and seek help."
Beyond words of appreciation for this young lady, Sabrina Victoria, to bring to light what in the State of Florida has not recognized. You have validated our traumatic stories. How do you describe the pain of FEAR and TRAUMA? Coercive Control. Invisible abuse is strategic when establishing 1-love and trust 2- isolation 3- absolute financial control. I also learned that main techniques of 1- coercion: intimidation, humiliation and threats to frighten. 2- gaslighting - downplay your own perception 3- love bombing - positive attention. This was the only video that detailed HOW the Abuser Manipulator sprinkles tests into the situation by assessing the boundaries: name calling, then more: smashing things, then more: Rage Fits then you realize there are Red Flags here. Flipping through all there tools, the confuse us which are daggers to the soul. No wonder we didn't have energy left. Cuts and bruises to the person hood of self. Also called death by a thousand cuts. How do you prove Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde as they show a different persona to the world? Thank you for the HOPE of Boundaries do with the establishing of 1- community - who can see it 2- educate - when you see the red flags you differentiate it from what is healthy and what isn't. 3- Network - educate our police, judges and justice system. Everything starts with awareness.
Awesome breakdown of this talk! Thanks a lot. I hope it gets lots of thumbs-ups so it stays at the top for people dealing with this situation now. It's important for them to not just hear the message but also see it and read it over and over to really understand. I remember being there and having to reconfirm constantly that I was not crazy.
Sabrina shares passionately and vividly about her own journey with conscious control and offers hope and guidance to break the cycle. Bravo and thank you for sharing so vulnerably.
Sharing vulnerably isn't always easy, but when we can connect through our experiences, it creates such a beautiful sense of community and understanding.
Sabrina has such a powerful way of explaining this less recognised form of abuse. As a survivor of this kind of abuse myself, this was very identifiable for me. More awareness needs to grow around this form of abuse and more importantly how to thrive post abuse. Thank you Sabrina, for your vulnerability.
Thank you for taking the time to watch. This was such a taboo subject that people just don't want to see or admit to. But it is everywhere. It is in our homes, our workplaces and in our friend groups. Being able to spot it and distance ourselves from it is step 1.
This is so powerful. Thank you Sabrina for speaking out on this subject and helping to educate the public. So many are suffering in silence and trapped in these abusive relationships. I would love to see a time when children are taught in school how to recognize this covert behavior. When you don't know what to look for, then you are vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your story, this is the path to change.
Christina, thank you so much for your support, it means a lot to me. I couldn't agree more that there are far too many people suffering silently in abusive relationships, and raising awareness is crucial in breaking that cycle. Your idea about educating children in schools on recognizing covert behavior is brilliant. Indeed, knowledge is power, and empowering young minds with this awareness could make a significant difference in preventing future harm. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for being a part of this important conversation.
This is THE BEST speech I have heard about emotional abuse. It is perfectly summing all up. From beginning to end. I have experienced it all. This message and knowledge needs to be shared. EVERYONE all over the world should understand how this kind of abuse works! Because as she is saying. It is behind the doors, so from outside it looks like everything is perfect. Because the abused person learns to pretend or doesn't even understand what is going on. Share this with your daughters and sisters. I hope if more people know about it, then we will have the change. Because less people will get into this kind of relationships and the abusers stay alone.
Thank you so much for listening Piret. I know you have been threw a whirl wind. It is so important to continue to open the eyes of both men and women to see this type of behavior, call it out and walk away if there is no change in behavior.
Powerful! Thank you so much for speaking out about this. I experienced extreme gaslighting and coercive control (even though I controlled all the money). He not only stole things of mine that meant a lot to me but he stole things from MY older son and then helped us look for them. The list of crazy things we experienced is long. We didn’t figure it all out until I finally divorced him after a 16 year marriage! Sabrina, what you’re sharing is so exceptional important. I’ve talked to countless powerhouse women who have gone through psychological and verbal abuse in relationships. I didn’t know it was domestic violence and abuse until afterward. We MUST educate our sisters and the men who experience it, too! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for speaking out and shining a light on invisible abuse. We don’t need to have bruises to be traumatized. To anyone who reads this and recognizes it in their life, you are NOT alone! And you should NOT be ashamed. Seek support!
This is so needed to be heard so people understand that it’s going on. Too often women blame themselves just like you did and need to hear that it’s not ok and they don’t deserve this.
I’ve just left and am so scared of all his legal threats against me and his control over our children. It feels even harder now 😢 am now fighting with all the guilt and blame and also fear of the future and scared of starting a custody battle with this controlling man. This talk was very impactful and relatable for me, thank you!
It takes tremendous strength and courage to break free from coercive control, especially after enduring it for such a long time. Your resilience is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued strength and healing on your journey forward. You are not alone.
I'm one who has lived with this type of abuse. Sabrina Victoria shines the light on it in such a powerful, eloquent, and passionate way. This is a message that must be spread. As Sabrina says, we all need to believe her.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. It means a lot to hear from someone who understands the impact of this kind of abuse. I'm really touched by your kind words about my message. It's important to me that we shine a light on these issues, and your support in spreading the message is truly appreciated. As you mentioned, believing and understanding each other is crucial.
Thank you, Sabrina Victoria, for bravely sharing your story and shedding light on the often overlooked issue of coercive control. Your courage and resilience are truly inspiring. This talk serves as a powerful call to action, urging us to build supportive communities, spread awareness, and advocate for the education of professionals to break the silence surrounding invisible abuse. Your journey to breaking the cycle is empowering, offering hope and strength to those who may be going through similar experiences. Together, we can create positive change and support survivors on their paths to healing.
100%. Thank you so much for listening supporting this video. I echo, 'offering hope and strength to those who may be going through similar experiences.' That is why I speak on this subject, in order to educate others and to give hope to those that FEEL trapped. Everyone's story is different, but yet the same. The key is to create a plan to escape.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my talk and for your incredibly kind words. It truly means a lot to me. Sharing my story was not easy, but if it helps even just one person understand more about the issues at hand or feel less alone in their own journey, then it's all worth it.
Sabrina delivers straight to the heart with raw unfiltered truth. This is a topic that usually silences the victim but Sabrina shows the empowerment that comes by BEING the voice that calls the broken out of the darkness and trap of abuse to freedom. This TedXTalk was delivered with excellence. Perfect speed to connect with all who hear and gives a moment of reflection in our own lives to assess if WE are indeed in a healthy relationship. Refreshing to see her wisdom and easy steps to recognize the vice that can traps us and give us the key to set us free, knowing we are not alone. It helps me to understand so that I can recognize it in my friends and those around me as well. Amazing story of victory and a war of the mind won. ❤ Thank you Sabrina for your words, wisdom, and voice for men and women everywhere. Proud of you! 🎉
Thank you Sunshine! Love you! Reading your message truly warms my heart. It means the world to me to know that my words resonate with you on such a deep level. Addressing topics like abuse can indeed be difficult and often silencing. But it's voices like yours and mine, united in solidarity, that have the power to break through that silence and shine a light on the path to freedom and empowerment.
This is a well shared talk about a crucial for us to face societal sickness that we need to bring to light without reserve. The little boy in me who first learned about this invisible abuse decades ago is appaled that we have not come further than we have in healing this in our society. At least people like Sabrina are championing efforts to bring this to light and leading the way in addressing this debilitating scourge so that we can support each other in breaking free from it. I've interviewed Sabrina and have known her to be helping so many others break free the way she did. It is fantastic that she got up on stage to share this message in this widely watched venue to support us even more than she already was. As someone who is dedicated to helping us rise above societal sicknesses, I am glad for this Tedx talk Sabrina has given. May millions watch and share this video, and may the ripple effect from this talk grow powerfully.
Wow Accolon. Thank you so much for you kindness and support. I so appreciate you sharing your own challenges with this issue. It is so important for men to voice that this is happening, so we can better understand how this is impacting all humans.
Sabrina, you had me gripping, leaning into every word you shared. Impeccable speaking and story. I can’t believe 1 in every 2 women will experience this. That is why EVERYONE needs to hear this message. Thank you for your bravery in fighting for yourself and your son, and for speaking about it.
It is time to rise. We do not have to all stand on a stage and share out experiences, but we do all need to rise in our relationships and start to create boundaries to protect our mental and emotional health. No one was born to be someone else's verbal punching bag.
Captivating from the first sentence. Thank you for bringing awareness to silent abuse. Thank you for being the voice of these victims until they reclaim their own. You are an inspiration! You are proof that you can break out of the cycle of abuse and go on to live an empowered life.
Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! Together, we can empower each other to break free from the cycle of abuse and live lives filled with strength, resilience, and empowerment. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your unwavering support and for being a part of this beautiful journey.
This gave me chills! I left a physically and emotionally abusive relationship in 1985 and I can completely identify with your story, Sabrina. Unfortunately, we have not come a long way since then and Sabrina's story makes clear that in many respects, we are regressing. I'm so glad that you are talking about it and creating and providinging the community, education, and networking in your life and career! You are living proof that no one has to be trapped in an abusive relationship!
Wow! Just wow….as I wipe the tears streaming down my face I want to thank you Sabrina for not only giving this talk but sharing this information to the world. As a 10yrs abusive survivor of this same abuse…no bruises, not cuts, this is just a huge reminder of where we have come and how far we still have to go. And yes there is hope as well and for many it is still hard. Thank you so much for bringing this to the forefront. You shared your story beautifully and I know so many will resonate with this. This was an amazing talk!
This warms my heart! Thank you so much for your support. I certainly hope this talk gets into the hands of the people that need to hear it. We all need a reminder that the abuse we suffered was real and we all need to heal in our own time. xo
What a gripping, powerful, and important talk. I wish these types of things were talked about more frequently throughout society because Sabrina is far from the only one to have suffered, and many offers suffer without even realizing this type of behavior is abuse. Kudos to Sabrina for sharing this vulnerable story and building awareness for this important issue!
Thank you for watching and supporting this conversation. So many people out there are going through similar struggles, but they might not even realize it's abuse because it's not talked about openly. Here's to breaking the silence and letting people know they're not alone in this.
Thank you for your heartfelt comment! I'm truly grateful for your support and encouragement. Sharing my story and shedding light on important issues like coercive control is something I'm deeply passionate about. Together, we can raise awareness and make a difference. Your words mean a lot to me. Let's continue to educate and empower others!
I was married for 33 years, have been widowed for 3, and while I've always known the relationship was dysfunctional and I was treated poorly; I've just had the revelation that it was in fact severely abusive, and that I am the victim of long-term coercive control. I'm so grateful to have found this talk.
WOW! What a testament...and what a GREAT relief knowing that individuals like you are coming across this and realizing that it was not your fault and that the abuse was real and it was not imagined. These individuals follow a pattern and once you see it, it can become a relief and we can finally start to heal. I love that you found me speaking here and love that you got some insight from it. It makes all the abuse worth it... knowing that my story is inspiring and educating others.
Thank you for sharing your story and your commitment to helping women navigate difficulties in their life with curious, stamina and sharing their voice.
It's through sharing our stories and supporting one another that we can create a more compassionate and understanding world.Knowing that my story resonates with others and inspires them to find their own strength and voice fills me with gratitude. Thank you for your support and for being a part of this journey. Together, we can make a difference in the lives of women everywhere. xo
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's truly heartening to see the impact and resonance of the stories shared here. I'm grateful for your encouragement along the way. Let's continue to empower one another to embrace our voices and forge ahead with courage.
So many of my friends and me have gone through abuse and come out the other side. Narcissistic personality disorder runs rampant these days. It has to be stopped and not let escalate one by one relationship. Thanks for sharing Sabrina!!
You're so right about narcissistic personality disorder-it seems like it's everywhere these days, wreaking havoc on relationships left and right. But hey, kudos to you all for coming out the other side! That takes some real guts and strength. It's like fighting through a storm and finding sunshine on the other side. We definitely need to shine a light on this issue and stop it in its tracks before it ruins more lives. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it means a lot. Let's keep spreading the word and pushing for healthier relationships. Together, we can make a real difference.
Wow! Absolutely love this TEDx talk on coercive control. What great insight to have with navigating relationships both past and present. Such an important topic and this talk shed so much needed light on it. Kudos to Sabrina for deliverance. Such an informative and engaging talk! I will be sharing this with a handful of people in my life that need to hear this.
Delivering this talk was truly a passion project, and knowing that it's making a difference in people's lives, like yours, makes it all worthwhile. Your plan to share it with those in your life who could benefit from it speaks volumes about your empathy and care for others. Together, let's continue spreading awareness and fostering healthier relationships. Thank you for your support and for being part of this important conversation!!!
I know this story all too well... unfortunately so do many of my friends and clients. Sabrina is such a compelling speaker and leader, who has created a powerful platform for women to show up empowered and supported. Thank you for stepping up Sabrina and bringing this very common yet unspoken topic to light! It's time to break this cycle. Support and Community are key!
Thank you deeply for your heartfelt comment. It's both frustrating and empowering to know that my story resonates with you and so many others who have faced similar challenges. Your words truly mean the world to me. It's through the support and encouragement of individuals like yourself that we can create a community where women feel supported to break free from cycles of abuse. We're shifting the narrative and creating spaces where healing can happen. Thank you for your support and commitment to the Ripple Effect!
Voice of women!! No one embodies “walk the walk, talk the talk” like Sabrina Victoria!! Thank you Ted X for inviting this Powerhouse to reach more with her crucial message. We will not be silenced!!
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means the world to me to have your support and to be able to work alongside someone as inspiring as you! Let's keep striving to lift each other up and make a positive impact together.
Compelling recount of Sabrina Victoria's struggle in a cohersive controlling abusive relationship and how she arose and is now advocating for victims of mental and emotional abuse.
Thank you for your share and what thoughts were running through your head at that time. My mother also projected her fear onto me, the criticism and punishment I received was shocking and yet I loved her. After leaving at the age of 18 I found another SOUL to treat me like my mother. It was known to me. I believed it was "normal". Years later I watched the movie Mommy Dearest and remembering laughing so hard. Laughing is a nervous defense mechanism of mine. The thought was . . . maybe it is a European thing around hangers. My mother would flip out over hangers many of times in my life. My mother was like a lioness. If she saw any weakness it is worse for me. And so I would laugh away the projected fear of shame, blame and control because it was too painful to see and feel. It has taken many years for me to learn boundaries. To stand up for myself. To put myself first and to feel safe. So thank you my dear and powerful Soul Sister. Shedding the light on this darkness is very much needed for us to heal on both sides.
I. Get. This. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. Reading your words brought a flood of emotions as I felt the weight of your experiences. It's heart-wrenching to hear about the projection of fear and criticism from your mother, and how that pattern echoed in your relationships. The way you describe finding familiarity in mistreatment is sadly all too common, and it underscores the insidious nature of abuse. I love that you set boundaries, stood up for yourself, and prioritized your own well-being. It takes strength to break free from such deeply ingrained patterns and to prioritize your own healing and safety. My hope is that those that need to see this video can come here and read comments like this... and be able to envision their own journey of healing. If we can do it... anyone can do it. xo.
What a powerful message, and timely. I'm going through something similar. We just excuse the red flags away, hoping to get the love that was given freely in the beginning. Let's teach our sons and daughters what HEALTHY looks like, so they don't "settle" and think they deserve this treatment. Thanks, Sabrina!
100%! So much of this, is about breaking the cycle for the generations after us. We need to keep our children away for role models like this... in order to keep them safe when they start dating!
Powerful, impactful and hopeful message! Wow, Sabrina Victoria, thank you for sharing your story and bringing more awareness to this not so visible abuse. Someone very close to me was in a relationship I (and many other friends) felt was so wrong and as you described. Yet, we didn’t have “evidence” of abuse, it was more like just our thoughts and opinions. We didn’t know how to help and our attempts weren’t always welcome as you can probably imagine. Thankfully when she was ready and asked for help she had her community ready and willing. So thankful you got out, Sabrina! You are a powerful, impactful and hopeful voice - not just for surviving, but thriving.
I love this example you gave. Thank you so much for sharing. You are SO right, the person being abused has to be ready. You CAN NOT make them leave. I actually left my abuser twice (moved out and away for months at a time) And he continued to pull me back in. I don't share that part of my story much, because it doesn't come up...but I was asked years later by the people that tried to save me. I don't have a good answer. I do not know why I went back, I guess I was just not ready. Maybe I still had lessons to learned, maybe I needed to endure more in order to be the woman I am today... who knows. But I am SO glad there was a community waiting for your friend! That is amazing!
Sabrina you have created such a powerful message here that needs to be spread far and wide and FAST! Your information and vision to build community and spread the support to rid the world of debilitating and life threatening exposure to coercive control is key for humanity. Thank you for your powerful words and inner strength to share and create a movement that will change lives for the better everyday. So excited to see this get into the right listening ears and change makers so coercive control can be abolished for everyone’s sake. Wish I could have see your talk live! Think there are more stages waiting for you to continue the movement.
Thank you for your excitement about the potential impact and for envisioning a world where coercive control is gone! It's individuals like you who inspire and drive movements forward. I truly wish you could have been there live!! AND you mentioning more stages waiting for me to continue the movement fills me with hope and motivation! Let's keep working together to create a world of empathy, understanding, and support.
It's incredibly rewarding to know that the message resonated with you. Your encouragement fuels my passion to continue sharing my voice and work. Thank you for being a part of this journey!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm grateful that my story resonated with you. Bringing awareness to this issue is so important, and it means a lot to have your support in this journey. Together, we can make a difference! 💜
Sabrina I have chills, this talk was so incredibly powerful and needs to go viral! This was my story and is the story of so many people. Fortunately I was one of the few like you that was able to break free, however we are a very small percentage. We need to find a way to break the silence and you are on a mission to do just that! I am blown away that only 5 states have made laws, how can we speed this process up !! How can we help you to get this video out to the world? If only I would have heard this years ago, what a difference it would have made not only for me but for my kids.
Thank you so much for your kind words! And YES, the idea is to get this into the hands of women (and men) who are enduing this abuse. I want to help them open their eyes and come from behind the curtain. How to get this heard? Share, Share, Share! Even send it to people that are in healthy relationships... they many times are hyper away of the unhealthy relationships because they have such a STRONG vision of what a healthy relationship looks and sounds like. We need to watch out for each other. This is how we break the cycle for the children coming up in these environments.
Tiffany!!! Your support fuels my passion to continue speaking out and advocating for those who may feel trapped or voiceless. Together, we can create a community of strength and resilience, where everyone feels empowered to reclaim their voice and their lives. Thank you again for your kind words and for being a part of this journey with me.
Vulnerable, Authentic, Inspiring, and Powerful! This is one of the most powerful TEDx talks I've watched. Sabrina's story is captivating and educational on the dangers and prevalence of coercive abuse. Her willingness to share her experience in such a raw way will inspire women and men who are caught in a similar web of abuse. Please share this with anyone you know who should hear this message.
Thank you so much for listening Ricarado. It is so important that both men AND women go through this. I love that there are men in my world that are educating themselves on this abuse so they are more educated for their community and their family.
Very powerful talk Sabrina. Kudos. If I hadn't experienced it myself, I don't know if I would totally comprehend what happens in these cases. Unfortunately, my daughter has also been the victim of coercive abuse. I am grateful everyday to God that she is no longer under his control. Bless you for having the guts to stand up. Thank you for making a difference by sharing your story.
It means the world to me to hear that my talk resonated with you on such a deep level. Your words fuel my passion to continue spreading awareness and breaking the silence surrounding this important issue. It's incredibly inspiring to hear that your daughter was able to break free, and I agree, there's still so much work to be done to support others in similar situations.
Lady! Thank you for being part of this conversation and for acknowledging the importance of spreading this vital information. Together, we can work towards a future where everyone feels safe, supported, and empowered to live their fullest lives.
Powerful share here! This is deeply moving. It's incredibly important to spread awareness about the hidden abuses that are wrecking so many lives. Thank you Sabrina!
Thank you so much Wendy! This abuse is so insidious and quiet. Having conversations like this is so important so people can start to SEE it in their own lives.
Incredible message, Sabrina! Powerful story - your courage and grit are inspiring and I’m so glad for our world that you’re speaking out so others can be aware and anyone who’s in this situation can escape from the abuse!
Thank you for your wonderful comment! I'm deeply grateful for your kind words and encouragement. Knowing that my story has touched you means a lot to me. Your support motivates me to continue sharing and spreading awareness. Let's stand together against abuse and make a positive difference in the world.
From the first sentence I was drawn in and tears filled my eyes because I have lived this story! Sabrina explains this silent abuse epidemic so well. This talk could have helped me get out sooner from my situation. Thank you so much Sabrina for putting the words together so eloquently and yet so powerful. Sharing our stories can educate and save others from this silent abuse. I will be sharing this video.
Thank you so much for sharing. Having open conversations like this is how we can start to open peoples eyes to this abuse. I had NO idea I was being abused because my abuser had me convinced that everything was my fault... I just had to be a better partner. I was on a constant hamster wheel running all day everyday trying to do everything perfect AND he always found something wrong to yell about. It is amazing how calm and amazing my life is now. I am SO grateful that I planned my escape and got out of that situation!
Hats off to you for making the leap of coming out of the abuse . My story is almost identical . I listened to you and as my emotions were evoked and tears roll down , I realized this greater community and connection of people who have lived this just like me . I myself is also out , but I don’t have my children . My heart longs for them and their emotional and psychological safety.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so sorry for the situation you are in. I only hope that one day they will see the light and come back to you. xoxo. It is stories like this that help people realize they are not alone. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! It means the world to me to hear that my message resonated with you. I truly hope that it can reach and positively impact as many women as possible. Your support means everything!
Say it louder for the people in the back! Sabrina!!! You are a Warrior! This spoke to my soul as I have been there. This was such a powerful Talk. Your bravery, story and information you shared is a huge step to create a ripple effect. Community drop the 🎤 everyone needs to listen to this. Even if it’s not something you can relate to someone you know may me silently suffering. You are such a rockstar. Thank you for your vulnerability. Ladies! Share share share!
Your acknowledgment means the world to me, especially knowing that you've walked a similar path. You're absolutely right - the more we open up and share our stories, the more we can create positive change and support those who may be silently struggling. Your words are a powerful reminder of the importance of community and lifting each other up. Thank you for being such a rockstar yourself and for spreading the message. Let's keep shining our light and encouraging others to do the same. Much love and gratitude to you, my friend!
That is one of the biggest issues. It is dismissed by the victim, the abuser AND the people around. It is so hard to detect. thank you so much for reiterating.
Ohh my gosh Sabrina this is soo powerful, you can feel the emotion, dedication and drive in your voice. You had a vison and you are accomplishing it - a powerhouse to sooo many women out there who have no voice or are too scared to use it - YOU are their voice!! Thank you so much for making this your mission so helpful to so many - you will inspire and change lives!! Thank you for being you!! I am forever grateful our paths crossed!
Knowing that my message reached you in such a profound way fills me with gratitude. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey and for believing in the power of our collective voices.
This message is one that no matter who you are you will feel the emotion and impact that it has! Sabrina does such a phenomenal job sharing vulnerably on a topic that needs more light shed on it!
It means the world to me to hear that my message resonated with you on such a deep level. I believe in the power of vulnerability and am truly grateful for the opportunity to shed light on important topics. Your support and encouragement mean everything. Sending you lots of love and gratitude!"
You're a wonderful storyteller. I grew up with coercive control as well as physical abuse and have experienced it across people I've dated. It's so hard to explain to people.
Absolutely. That is the tough part is the storytelling...explaining... trying to get people to GET IT. It is one of those things that you almost need to experience to really understand. Now looking back this abuse followed me from my childhood... until my mid-30's before I finally educated myself. Now I can spot it immediately!
Raw, emotional, powerful, and inspiring! As a survivor and eight years in the field, I can't remember the last time I've heard this message delivered so impactfully. You had me in tears AND fueled to keep on the fight, removing the stigma, myths, stereotypes, and outdated laws and legislation that have failed to protect victims and their children. We have made incredible strides, we're headed in the right direction, AND we have so much more to do!
Your words hit me right in the feels, and I can't help but feel a surge of emotion reading your comment. Knowing you, a survivor with eight years of experience, felt the power of my message means the world to me. It's like we're in this together, fighting against stigma, myths, and laws that just don't cut it anymore. We've come a long way, haven't we? But there's still so much ground to cover. Your tears and determination fuel me to keep pushing forward, knowing that we're making a real difference. Let's keep this momentum going, my friend. We've got this!
Extremely well articulated. Sorry about the trauma you had to endure. But, grateful that you are painting a well-visualized image to increase awareness and inspire survivors to also move on. Your great courage to leave the abuser will provide strength for others to do the same. Truly life-changing! Love your raw, authentic openness and how well you described the 3 common signs of invisible abuse.
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment and for taking the time to watch my video. Your words mean a lot to me. It's through sharing experiences like mine that we can shed light on the often overlooked issue of invisible abuse and empower survivors to find their strength and move forward. Your support and encouragement further reinforce the importance of raising awareness and providing resources for those in similar situations. Let's continue to spread awareness and support each other on this journey toward healing and empowerment. Much love and gratitude to you.
Thank you for speaking out on this issue! Many are suffering including myself I needed to also escape after 20 yrs of abuse. Thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your experience !❤❤❤
WOW! Thank you so much for sharing and thank you so much for watching. Every view is helping RUclips see the algorithm and how important this topic is for people to know about. This abuse is happening everywhere... and it is impossible to see unless you know... I appreciate you for helping get this video in front of more people by watching and commenting. xo.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I'm grateful that the information resonated with you. Sharing vulnerably is never easy, but knowing it helps others understand makes it all worthwhile. Your support means a lot to me. 💜
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I appreciate you listening in and commenting. The goal is to get this into the hands of the individuals that need it the most.
This hurts so much, and it’s so hard to put it into words. This speaker did a good job - but there are no words to describe the mental anguish and years YEARS of guilt and shame.
Absolutely 100% agree, there is NO real way to explain mental and emotional abuse. When it is explained it just sounds like we are filled with drama. It is something that has to be actually seen in real time, or experienced first hand. My heart goes out to you. xo
Woww!!! You are incredibly inspiring. Thank you for laying out so well. Education is extremely powerful and needed. I am sending this to several of my patients. Having role models can save lives 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing. It is so important to get this into the hands of those that need it. Those that are not sure.... those that see that something it NOT right, but they can not put their finger on it.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I truly believe that education is a powerful tool for change, and I'm honored to play a part in raising awareness. Together, we can continue to build a stronger, more informed community. 💜
Fleeing toxicity. Thank you Sabrina for valuing yourself, your son, and your future enough to dig deep, and lead yourself up, up, and away from the madness. Thank you for your vulnerable transparency and your commitment to not leave others in a lurch. Silence helps no one. Thank you for using your voice for good. You my sister are a true picture of a phoenix rising and I know this story of victory will give hope to others. In spite of his poison, I can clearly see that you were always a winner - you just had to convince yourself. Finally, thank you for sharing the calls to action - you didn’t leave us stranded and for me, you’ve helped me to become more tender to those who might be living their “knock off” best life - void of genuineness. My prayers go out to the minimalized and the disenfranchised. May they find the courage to reach out and find solace. You bring to mind the words from Maya Angelou’s epic poem… Still. I. Rise.
*tears forming in my eyes.* My thoughts echo yours, reaching out to all who may be struggling to find solace and courage. Thank you for your empathy and for reminding us to be mindful of those who may be living a facade of their "knock off" best life. Let us all extend a hand of compassion and understanding to those in need. Together, we can create a world where genuine connection and support reign above.
This is an amazing, impactful, and heartfelt message about a difficult topic that needs more awareness. The magic in the message is the overcoming and Sabrina Victoria is the embodiment of a woman on a mission the change the world. The difficult things in life can break us or make us great...it's up to each of us. Keep spreading your greatness, Sabrina...You have big things to do!!
I am sincerely grateful for your support and encouragement. Together, as a community, we can create meaningful change. Let's continue to spread positivity and work towards a better world.
Your support is not only meaningful to me but also crucial in fostering a community that understands, believes, and stands united against coercive control.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and for your kind words. It's my passion to advocate for change, and knowing that you and so many others were moved by this message, means a lot to me. Your support is invaluable.
thank you @hertalkshow for your courage and vulnerability sharing your story. This is a very important topic. I didn't know that this was 1 in 2 women and 1 in 3 men. It's time to set boundaries and break generational abuse. I agree community is key. People who can support you. Purpose is key to feel like life means something. Network - Hoping this message lifts up all those who need to hear this message. Thank you again Sabrina xo
Your words mean the world to me. Thank you for recognizing the courage and vulnerability it took for me to share my story. Those statistics are staggering, aren't they? They highlight the urgency of setting boundaries and breaking the cycle of generational abuse. Thank you for taking the time to listen, when we know the information, we can better off support each other.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm humbled that my story could serve as a testament to what's possible. It’s important to me to share this information in hopes that it can inspire and empower others to find their strength. Your support means the world to me. 💜
A powerful and emotionally charged story that all can benefit from the wisdom of the wonderful and resilient Sabrina Victoria! Thank you for sharing your experience, story and wisdom. Truly an amazing woman who inspires and ignites others!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your heartfelt words! It's incredibly inspiring to see how our experiences can ignite positivity and motivation in others. I appreciate your support and encouragement! Let's spreading that inspiration!
Thank you for sharing your story Sabrina. So many people need to hear this and learn about invisible abuse. I know your story has the power to change lives.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! It means a lot to me that you found value in my story. You're absolutely right-raising awareness about invisible abuse is crucial, and I hope that by sharing my experiences, it can help others recognize and address similar situations in their own lives. Together, we can empower each other and create positive change. Thanks again for watching and for your encouraging comment!
Powerful and thought provoking. Education, encouragement and support are the only ways to help women speak up and stand up too these horrible acts. Amazing Sabrina!!
Absolutely amazing and so well thought out and presented! I don't think that anyone in my sphere of influence really realizes what this is. Thank you for articulating it so well!
April!!! Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! It's always rewarding to hear that the content resonates with viewers like yourself. Thanks again for your support and encouragement!
Thank you so much for your kind words. It has been quite a journey, and I’m grateful to be able to share it with the hope of inspiring others. Recovery is never easy, but there’s always light on the other side. Your support means everything. 💜
Thank you so much for your support! This topic is incredibly complex, and I’m grateful that the message came across clearly. It’s a subject close to my heart, and I’m glad it resonated with you. Your encouragement means the world to me! 💜
This was an incredible talk. I related on so many levels. Sabrina is an amazing speaker and such courage and vulnerability in sharing something so raw. I have no doubt that she will help countless people with this talk. Just INCREDIBLE ❤
Incredible. I could relate to so much of what you described although my own experience wasn’t as extreme. It’s so important for us to talk about this. The statistics are chilling. Thank you for shedding light on a difficult topic. You are a warrior! 💪🏻💪🏻
I'm really touched by your comment. Knowing that you could relate to what I shared, even if your own experience wasn't as intense, means a lot to me. It's so important for us to have these conversations, especially considering the chilling statistics surrounding the issue. Thank you for acknowledging the difficulty of the topic, putting this talk together was difficult. Thank you for your constant love and support over the years.
Thank you Sabrina, I suffered from this invisible abuse for 16 years, my older children saved me and help me call the police as they witnessed their dad threaten me because i was too scared to answer him calling me on the mobile phone. He convinced me that i was crazy person so i would cry in the bathroom ... my kids told me he was lying to me and playing mind games...so i walked into the police station one day and for the first time ask for help, went into a women's refuge home with the children and left. Literally my kids helped me leave, they were also so unhappy and scared the whole time. Walking away is super scary as you have no money and have dept under your name from the abuser, then finding out that you have developed PTSD. I have just started to heal 3 years after leaving and am studying about this invincible abuse so I can help myself and others when i encounter it ever again. This abuse is so dangerous because it causes victims to spiral into a depression very fast and they get suicidal...It took me so long to figure out that he was causing the depression and mental health concerns. Please take care guys and watch out for others if you witness this kind of behaviour. I had to go no contact, change address and phone number. thank you for this video ❤
Thank you for sharing so openly and vulnerably. The more we talk and share the more others can be saved sooner. So many individuals get stuck in situations like this with no way out. It can be very scary. I am so proud of you for doing whatever it takes to escape and change the trajectory of your entire life. Stay on the healing journey and with time things will become clearer for you. It takes time. Sending you virtual hugs!
You are such an amazing soul and you sharing your story so powerfully is a statement for the power that we all have within. Thank you for the amazing gifts and value you bring into this world
Thank you so much for your beautiful words! It means the world to me that my story resonates with you. I truly believe that we all have a unique power and light within us, and I’m grateful to be able to share mine in hopes of inspiring others. I’m so glad to be on this journey together with amazing souls like you. Thank you for being here!
Thank you Sabrina for sharing parts of your personal experience and some solid data and expressions of Coercive control, a topic you are passionate about for many reasons. What came to mind while listening is how important facilitated and professional preparation is for getting into a committed relationship to at least do all the necessary due diligence to try to shed light on the unknowns or invisibles, in as much as possible. Anyhow, left me thinking about so many aspects of relationships, human emotional health, types of abuse etc. Thank you for this.
Thank you very much for your thoughtful comment! You're absolutely right that preparation and due diligence are crucial when entering into a committed relationship, and shedding light on the unknowns can be vital for emotional health and well-being. I'm grateful for your support!
Thank You For this amazing talk. It's such an important and difficult subject, and you're right, it's sometimes even difficult to believe her. ...I do.
Thank You For this amazing talk. It's such an important and difficult subject, and you're right, it's sometimes even difficult to believe her. ...I do.
Kudos to you, Sabrina Victoria! You are a victorius woman who successfully exited a terrifying marriage. Now you are warning and educating other women who are living a similar nightmare, or women who have escaped such abuse. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Your encouragement truly means a lot. It's my mission to share my experiences and insights to help others who may be going through similar challenges. Together, we can make a difference and empower those who have faced or are facing such difficulties.
Thank you Dawnita! Every time someone bravely shares their story, it not only raises awareness but also empowers others to seek help and support. Thank you for your support!
Wow. So powerful and engaging Sabrina. Your journey is inspiring and hopefully many people will watch this and find help. Coercive Control. Something to remember and be vigilant about. My ex husband has elements of this for sure, but fortunately for myself and my kids it is not full on abuse - though we all have the scars, deep inside, that will be with us forever. Thank you for sharing this and tell your story. You are amazing ❤️
I'm glad to hear that despite the challenges, you and your kids are finding your way through it all. Those scars might be deep, but they also show just how strong you are. It's truly heartening to know that my story resonates with you and that you find it inspiring. That's exactly why I shared it. I hope that by speaking out, we can shed light on this issue and let others know they're not alone. Keep holding onto that strength, and remember, healing is a journey. I'm sending you and your family all the positive vibes as you continue to move forward. Thank you for being part of this conversation and for your kind words. You're amazing too!
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. RUclips takes our content way more seriously when individuals do both, which means this video is put in front of more eyes. Thank you for helping us push this message in order to educate others who are suffering.
Wow! What a powerful, information-filled, engaging presentation! I acknowledge you, Sabrina, for having come through all the "coercive control" and violence that you experienced in your marriage, for ultimately being able to break through and be the strong woman and leader that you are. I'm sure there are women (and men, as indicated by a few of the responses below) who will identify with what you've described. Then based on your explanations and suggestions will with certainty pull themselves together and take action, being a strong stand for themselves, as well as protecting others who might be affected. To the empowerment of thousands, and maybe more, women and men gathering and supporting one another in their lives and i getting protective laws passed!
Indeed Sheila! Thank you so much for watching! The power of sharing experiences lies in its potential to inspire others to take action and stand up for themselves and others who may be affected. By fostering a community of support and empowerment, we can collectively work towards creating safer environments and advocating for laws that can make a real difference in people's lives.
100% and thank you! I hope to reach millions of people with this talk and allow individuals to pin point this behavior in their own lives, so they can better assess their situations.
Sabrina Victoria, I appreciate your determination to bring this message to the forefront and to be a fabulous example and role model for change. This type of coercive controlling behavior is damaging on all levels and is contagious, as what we tolerate is what we teach. It's up to each one of us to evaluate our own behaviors and make the changes that serve us well. Thank you for being a beautiful example of courage and strength in taking the actions necessary as nothing changes unless we take the initiatives and the actions to make the changes. BRAVA!
Catherine! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment. This time in my life was such a pivot. And even though they were some of my worst years, I am so grateful that I have been on this beautiful healing journey of my own and have been able to encourage and inspire so many other people around the world to make a plan, use their voice and gain their power back. I love that this video is getting into the hand of the individuals that need it the most.
Wow so very impactful. Sabrina your words touched me to the core. I know this will make such an impact on so many people. Truly thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing your experiences in order to help others out there who are suffering in silence. The fact that you are living proof of being able to break the cycle will impact so many and hopefully give them the courage and power and strength to break the cycle in their own life❤
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment! It means the world to me to hear that my words have resonated with you deeply. Sharing my experiences, even the vulnerable ones, is incredibly important to me because I believe in the power of storytelling to inspire and empower others. If my journey can offer hope or courage to even just one person who is struggling, then it's all worth it. Let's continue spreading awareness and breaking the cycle together. Much love! 💖
Sabrina your stage presence is excellent. Grateful for your vulnerability. This issue is so deep and you are part of the needed changes for healing and protection. Powerful.
Sierra! Thank you so much for this! I appreciate you watching and commenting. This video is so important to me.... really wanting it to get to the right people out there that need to hear it.
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and vulnerable personal message about the psychological implications on the minds of those who have experienced Coercive control. The specific directives to ensure that we all have a sense of community are essential to hold everyone accountable. Furthermore, this sense of community can provide support to individuals, helping them realize that they are not crazy and that their relationship is one-sided and not based on love. Once again, thank you for sharing such a powerful message for all to hear and become aware of this invisible abuse, in order to create awareness and provide support.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It's really important to talk about the impact of coercive control and to let people know they’re not alone. Building a supportive community helps people see they aren’t “crazy” and that their relationship might be one-sided and not healthy. I appreciate your support in raising awareness about this invisible abuse so we can help more people. Together, we can make a big difference.
WOW Sabrina, such a real, raw, authentic, powerful and vulnerable talk. Thank you so much for your incredible vulnerability through your story and experience. This topic is such an important one that WE MUST shine a light on and talk about in order to start to make changes. Conversation is the catalyst for change and we will not be able to make change unless we start sharing our stories and stories like yours. Thank you so much for your bravery Sabrina. You are such a courageous and beautiful soul. Giving voice to the silenced.
BRAD! It means the world to me to hear that my story resonated with you and that you found it powerful. You're absolutely right-conversation is indeed the catalyst for change, and by sharing our stories, we can shed light on important topics that need attention and spark the transformation we seek. Your support and encouragement fuel my courage, and I am honored to be able to give voice to those who have been silenced. Together, we can create a ripple effect of understanding and empowerment. Thank you.
Just wow, this was so powerful! I knew I went through this in a past relationship but the way you describe the 3 areas your abuser messes with you, I don't even think I put it together. It also got me thinking, did my ex know he was doing this on purpose, we were 17 when we got together, both still kids. Do you know if this type of abuse is always a conscious decision by the abuser?
"No bruises, no cuts, no evidence.” Awareness is such a powerful thing. It changes us, and this is one of those talks that changes our awareness for the better. Sabrina does an amazing job of educating us on what coercive abuse looks and feels like from the inside. The awareness that 1 out of 2 women is going to experience this type of abuse at some point in their life is unacceptable. It means this could happen to you… your sister… your grandmother… your child… your friend. Share this talk. People don’t know what they don’t know. In sharing it, you might empower and change the life of someone who didn’t realize this was their situation. You might even raise awareness enough for the people you share it with to prevent and protect themselves from experiencing it.
This comment warmed my heart. Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Each comment and share has the potential to spark a crucial conversation or offer support to someone who might be silently struggling. Together, by raising awareness and standing against coercive abuse, we can create a safer and more compassionate world for all-our loved ones, friends, and future generations included.
I stayed for 42 years until I could take it no more, I had to leave everything I owned for my sanity. The abuse continues through lies in court. Cuts and bruises to the soul and psyche are invasive yet invisible. The damage is done.
Going on 35 years. The only way out now is if one of us leaves this earth. That's the only way I will finally get peace. Young women need to hear this! Thank goodness social media can actually do good by spreading messages like this! Don't rush into relationships, don't get pregnant quickly, have your own income!
@@sahdogwrangler5594 I don’t know your circumstances but there are people that will help you to escape, no amount of money or possessions is worth your life! You can replace everything and anything else but you don’t get your time back. Sending you love & hugs ❤
Thank you so much for your support. Recovery is definitely a long road, but sharing this journey brings hope not just to me, but hopefully to others as well. It means a lot to know that the message resonated with you. 💜
Sabrina we've only recently just met and I am just getting to know you. I found your TedX talk to be educational, eye-opening and inspiring! Your journey has been one filled with angst and struggle which, because of your own sheer determination, has given you the space and will to create a healthy, happy and abundant life.. So kudos to you for all that it took to start over and for becoming an inspiration to others who need to hear your encouraging words!
Joan! So happy you found this! Thank you for watching and commenting. Thrilled I was able to use the TEDx stage to share my story and educate others on this nightmare abuse that so many suffer through and no nothing about.
I think prolonged mental abuse sometimes can be worse than physical abuse. Mental/psychological torture will eventually lead to extreme physical problems, such as chronic illnesses or suicide.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree-prolonged mental abuse can be incredibly damaging, sometimes even more so than physical abuse. The toll it takes on our minds and hearts can eventually lead to serious physical issues, like chronic illness, or, sadly, even thoughts of suicide. It's so important that we acknowledge the deep wounds that mental and emotional abuse can leave. Healing from this kind of trauma takes a lot of strength, and it's vital that those who are suffering get the love and support they need to move forward. Your insight really hits home for me. It reminds us how crucial it is to raise awareness and make sure that no one feels alone in their struggle. Together, we can create a world where every woman feels seen, heard, and supported in her journey.
Thank you for speaking out about this. We feel we have no voice and sometimes still struggle to realize the abuse wasn’t warranted because it’s our fault we didn’t do enough. You broke down the path in such a practical, understandable way. Lightbulbs went off 💡 over and over! Thank you for sharing education, bravery that speaks to so many, and awareness of this type of silent abuse. Blessings to you 💕
Thank you so much for your sweet words. It really warms my heart to know that what I shared struck a chord with you. I know how hard it can be to shake off that feeling of blame, and it’s so important to remember that none of it was ever your fault. You are more than enough, always have been. It means the world to me that you found some clarity in my talk. I’m so grateful for our friendship, and knowing that my words helped turn on those lightbulbs for you is why I do what I do. You are such a strong, beautiful soul, and your voice is powerful. Together, we can keep pushing this conversation forward and supporting each other every step of the way. Sending you so much love!
So thrilled and honored to have been invited to speak on this stage and to share such a powerful and vulnerable topic with this community. Thank you for having me TEDx and thank you for caring enough to listen and continue to create a ripple effect.
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That just blew my mind and centered me. Excellent and I thank you!! Freedom awaits❤
@@ElijahNeece Thank you!
@@richersonkate 100% Thank you so much for listening. xo
"Sabrina, your story is incredible. From the moment she began to speak, I could visualize her experiencing this and the pain she felt living with her abuser. Battling with decisions on what would be right to make him happy takes a lot of patience, determination, and confidence to escape. Sabrina, thank you for your courage to change your situation and create a better life for you and your son. Your story is inspiring and will help those who are struggling to get out and seek help."
Beyond words of appreciation for this young lady, Sabrina Victoria, to bring to light what in the State of Florida has not recognized. You have validated our traumatic stories. How do you describe the pain of FEAR and TRAUMA? Coercive Control. Invisible abuse is strategic when establishing 1-love and trust 2- isolation 3- absolute financial control. I also learned that main techniques of 1- coercion: intimidation, humiliation and threats to frighten. 2- gaslighting - downplay your own perception 3- love bombing - positive attention. This was the only video that detailed HOW the Abuser Manipulator sprinkles tests into the situation by assessing the boundaries: name calling, then more: smashing things, then more: Rage Fits then you realize there are Red Flags here. Flipping through all there tools, the confuse us which are daggers to the soul. No wonder we didn't have energy left. Cuts and bruises to the person hood of self. Also called death by a thousand cuts. How do you prove Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde as they show a different persona to the world? Thank you for the HOPE of Boundaries do with the establishing of 1- community - who can see it 2- educate - when you see the red flags you differentiate it from what is healthy and what isn't. 3- Network - educate our police, judges and justice system. Everything starts with awareness.
Awesome breakdown of this talk! Thanks a lot. I hope it gets lots of thumbs-ups so it stays at the top for people dealing with this situation now. It's important for them to not just hear the message but also see it and read it over and over to really understand. I remember being there and having to reconfirm constantly that I was not crazy.
Very helpful highlights here!
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@@tamingyourtension Agree. Loved @feliciaa324 breakdown!
Sabrina shares passionately and vividly about her own journey with conscious control and offers hope and guidance to break the cycle. Bravo and thank you for sharing so vulnerably.
Sharing vulnerably isn't always easy, but when we can connect through our experiences, it creates such a beautiful sense of community and understanding.
Sabrina has such a powerful way of explaining this less recognised form of abuse. As a survivor of this kind of abuse myself, this was very identifiable for me. More awareness needs to grow around this form of abuse and more importantly how to thrive post abuse. Thank you Sabrina, for your vulnerability.
Thank you for taking the time to watch. This was such a taboo subject that people just don't want to see or admit to. But it is everywhere. It is in our homes, our workplaces and in our friend groups. Being able to spot it and distance ourselves from it is step 1.
This is so powerful. Thank you Sabrina for speaking out on this subject and helping to educate the public. So many are suffering in silence and trapped in these abusive relationships. I would love to see a time when children are taught in school how to recognize this covert behavior. When you don't know what to look for, then you are vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your story, this is the path to change.
Christina, thank you so much for your support, it means a lot to me. I couldn't agree more that there are far too many people suffering silently in abusive relationships, and raising awareness is crucial in breaking that cycle. Your idea about educating children in schools on recognizing covert behavior is brilliant. Indeed, knowledge is power, and empowering young minds with this awareness could make a significant difference in preventing future harm. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for being a part of this important conversation.
This is THE BEST speech I have heard about emotional abuse. It is perfectly summing all up. From beginning to end. I have experienced it all. This message and knowledge needs to be shared. EVERYONE all over the world should understand how this kind of abuse works! Because as she is saying. It is behind the doors, so from outside it looks like everything is perfect. Because the abused person learns to pretend or doesn't even understand what is going on. Share this with your daughters and sisters. I hope if more people know about it, then we will have the change. Because less people will get into this kind of relationships and the abusers stay alone.
Thank you so much for listening Piret. I know you have been threw a whirl wind. It is so important to continue to open the eyes of both men and women to see this type of behavior, call it out and walk away if there is no change in behavior.
Powerful! Thank you so much for speaking out about this. I experienced extreme gaslighting and coercive control (even though I controlled all the money). He not only stole things of mine that meant a lot to me but he stole things from MY older son and then helped us look for them. The list of crazy things we experienced is long. We didn’t figure it all out until I finally divorced him after a 16 year marriage!
Sabrina, what you’re sharing is so exceptional important. I’ve talked to countless powerhouse women who have gone through psychological and verbal abuse in relationships.
I didn’t know it was domestic violence and abuse until afterward. We MUST educate our sisters and the men who experience it, too!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for speaking out and shining a light on invisible abuse. We don’t need to have bruises to be traumatized.
To anyone who reads this and recognizes it in their life, you are NOT alone! And you should NOT be ashamed. Seek support!
This is so needed to be heard so people understand that it’s going on. Too often women blame themselves just like you did and need to hear that it’s not ok and they don’t deserve this.
BLAMING ourselves is something I see all the time in these situations. It is time to RISE out of the situation as a WHOLE and move forward!
I’ve just left and am so scared of all his legal threats against me and his control over our children. It feels even harder now 😢 am now fighting with all the guilt and blame and also fear of the future and scared of starting a custody battle with this controlling man. This talk was very impactful and relatable for me, thank you!
OMG! Coercive Control was were I was imprisoned. I'm glad I was able to free myself from that hellish 16 years.
It takes tremendous strength and courage to break free from coercive control, especially after enduring it for such a long time. Your resilience is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued strength and healing on your journey forward. You are not alone.
I'm one who has lived with this type of abuse. Sabrina Victoria shines the light on it in such a powerful, eloquent, and passionate way. This is a message that must be spread. As Sabrina says, we all need to believe her.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. It means a lot to hear from someone who understands the impact of this kind of abuse. I'm really touched by your kind words about my message. It's important to me that we shine a light on these issues, and your support in spreading the message is truly appreciated. As you mentioned, believing and understanding each other is crucial.
Thank you, Sabrina Victoria, for bravely sharing your story and shedding light on the often overlooked issue of coercive control. Your courage and resilience are truly inspiring. This talk serves as a powerful call to action, urging us to build supportive communities, spread awareness, and advocate for the education of professionals to break the silence surrounding invisible abuse. Your journey to breaking the cycle is empowering, offering hope and strength to those who may be going through similar experiences. Together, we can create positive change and support survivors on their paths to healing.
100%. Thank you so much for listening supporting this video. I echo, 'offering hope and strength to those who may be going through similar experiences.' That is why I speak on this subject, in order to educate others and to give hope to those that FEEL trapped. Everyone's story is different, but yet the same. The key is to create a plan to escape.
Very powerful talk, Sabrina! Thank you for sharing your story to help educate others!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my talk and for your incredibly kind words. It truly means a lot to me. Sharing my story was not easy, but if it helps even just one person understand more about the issues at hand or feel less alone in their own journey, then it's all worth it.
Sabrina delivers straight to the heart with raw unfiltered truth. This is a topic that usually silences the victim but Sabrina shows the empowerment that comes by BEING the voice that calls the broken out of the darkness and trap of abuse to freedom.
This TedXTalk was delivered with excellence. Perfect speed to connect with all who hear and gives a moment of reflection in our own lives to assess if WE are indeed in a healthy relationship.
Refreshing to see her wisdom and easy steps to recognize the vice that can traps us and give us the key to set us free, knowing we are not alone.
It helps me to understand so that I can recognize it in my friends and those around me as well.
Amazing story of victory and a war of the mind won. ❤
Thank you Sabrina for your words, wisdom, and voice for men and women everywhere. Proud of you! 🎉
Thank you Sunshine! Love you! Reading your message truly warms my heart. It means the world to me to know that my words resonate with you on such a deep level.
Addressing topics like abuse can indeed be difficult and often silencing. But it's voices like yours and mine, united in solidarity, that have the power to break through that silence and shine a light on the path to freedom and empowerment.
This is a well shared talk about a crucial for us to face societal sickness that we need to bring to light without reserve. The little boy in me who first learned about this invisible abuse decades ago is appaled that we have not come further than we have in healing this in our society. At least people like Sabrina are championing efforts to bring this to light and leading the way in addressing this debilitating scourge so that we can support each other in breaking free from it. I've interviewed Sabrina and have known her to be helping so many others break free the way she did. It is fantastic that she got up on stage to share this message in this widely watched venue to support us even more than she already was. As someone who is dedicated to helping us rise above societal sicknesses, I am glad for this Tedx talk Sabrina has given. May millions watch and share this video, and may the ripple effect from this talk grow powerfully.
Wow Accolon. Thank you so much for you kindness and support. I so appreciate you sharing your own challenges with this issue. It is so important for men to voice that this is happening, so we can better understand how this is impacting all humans.
Sabrina, you had me gripping, leaning into every word you shared. Impeccable speaking and story. I can’t believe 1 in every 2 women will experience this. That is why EVERYONE needs to hear this message. Thank you for your bravery in fighting for yourself and your son, and for speaking about it.
It is time to rise. We do not have to all stand on a stage and share out experiences, but we do all need to rise in our relationships and start to create boundaries to protect our mental and emotional health. No one was born to be someone else's verbal punching bag.
Captivating from the first sentence. Thank you for bringing awareness to silent abuse. Thank you for being the voice of these victims until they reclaim their own. You are an inspiration! You are proof that you can break out of the cycle of abuse and go on to live an empowered life.
Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! Together, we can empower each other to break free from the cycle of abuse and live lives filled with strength, resilience, and empowerment. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your unwavering support and for being a part of this beautiful journey.
This gave me chills! I left a physically and emotionally abusive relationship in 1985 and I can completely identify with your story, Sabrina. Unfortunately, we have not come a long way since then and Sabrina's story makes clear that in many respects, we are regressing. I'm so glad that you are talking about it and creating and providinging the community, education, and networking in your life and career! You are living proof that no one has to be trapped in an abusive relationship!
What a testament to how important it is to really start to talk about this stuff. There is no reason why individuals should be suffering in silence.
Wow! Just wow….as I wipe the tears streaming down my face I want to thank you Sabrina for not only giving this talk but sharing this information to the world. As a 10yrs abusive survivor of this same abuse…no bruises, not cuts, this is just a huge reminder of where we have come and how far we still have to go. And yes there is hope as well and for many it is still hard. Thank you so much for bringing this to the forefront. You shared your story beautifully and I know so many will resonate with this. This was an amazing talk!
This warms my heart! Thank you so much for your support. I certainly hope this talk gets into the hands of the people that need to hear it. We all need a reminder that the abuse we suffered was real and we all need to heal in our own time. xo
What a gripping, powerful, and important talk. I wish these types of things were talked about more frequently throughout society because Sabrina is far from the only one to have suffered, and many offers suffer without even realizing this type of behavior is abuse. Kudos to Sabrina for sharing this vulnerable story and building awareness for this important issue!
Thank you for watching and supporting this conversation. So many people out there are going through similar struggles, but they might not even realize it's abuse because it's not talked about openly. Here's to breaking the silence and letting people know they're not alone in this.
Such a powerful talk. Thank you Sabrina for bravely sharing your own story and educating people about coercive control.
Thank you for your heartfelt comment! I'm truly grateful for your support and encouragement. Sharing my story and shedding light on important issues like coercive control is something I'm deeply passionate about. Together, we can raise awareness and make a difference. Your words mean a lot to me. Let's continue to educate and empower others!
I was married for 33 years, have been widowed for 3, and while I've always known the relationship was dysfunctional and I was treated poorly; I've just had the revelation that it was in fact severely abusive, and that I am the victim of long-term coercive control.
I'm so grateful to have found this talk.
WOW! What a testament...and what a GREAT relief knowing that individuals like you are coming across this and realizing that it was not your fault and that the abuse was real and it was not imagined. These individuals follow a pattern and once you see it, it can become a relief and we can finally start to heal. I love that you found me speaking here and love that you got some insight from it. It makes all the abuse worth it... knowing that my story is inspiring and educating others.
Thank you for sharing your story and your commitment to helping women navigate difficulties in their life with curious, stamina and sharing their voice.
It's through sharing our stories and supporting one another that we can create a more compassionate and understanding world.Knowing that my story resonates with others and inspires them to find their own strength and voice fills me with gratitude.
Thank you for your support and for being a part of this journey. Together, we can make a difference in the lives of women everywhere. xo
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's truly heartening to see the impact and resonance of the stories shared here. I'm grateful for your encouragement along the way. Let's continue to empower one another to embrace our voices and forge ahead with courage.
So many of my friends and me have gone through abuse and come out the other side. Narcissistic personality disorder runs rampant these days. It has to be stopped and not let escalate one by one relationship. Thanks for sharing Sabrina!!
You're so right about narcissistic personality disorder-it seems like it's everywhere these days, wreaking havoc on relationships left and right.
But hey, kudos to you all for coming out the other side! That takes some real guts and strength. It's like fighting through a storm and finding sunshine on the other side. We definitely need to shine a light on this issue and stop it in its tracks before it ruins more lives.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it means a lot. Let's keep spreading the word and pushing for healthier relationships. Together, we can make a real difference.
Wow! Absolutely love this TEDx talk on coercive control. What great insight to have with navigating relationships both past and present. Such an important topic and this talk shed so much needed light on it. Kudos to Sabrina for deliverance. Such an informative and engaging talk! I will be sharing this with a handful of people in my life that need to hear this.
Delivering this talk was truly a passion project, and knowing that it's making a difference in people's lives, like yours, makes it all worthwhile. Your plan to share it with those in your life who could benefit from it speaks volumes about your empathy and care for others. Together, let's continue spreading awareness and fostering healthier relationships. Thank you for your support and for being part of this important conversation!!!
I know this story all too well... unfortunately so do many of my friends and clients. Sabrina is such a compelling speaker and leader, who has created a powerful platform for women to show up empowered and supported. Thank you for stepping up Sabrina and bringing this very common yet unspoken topic to light! It's time to break this cycle. Support and Community are key!
Thank you deeply for your heartfelt comment. It's both frustrating and empowering to know that my story resonates with you and so many others who have faced similar challenges. Your words truly mean the world to me. It's through the support and encouragement of individuals like yourself that we can create a community where women feel supported to break free from cycles of abuse. We're shifting the narrative and creating spaces where healing can happen. Thank you for your support and commitment to the Ripple Effect!
Voice of women!! No one embodies “walk the walk, talk the talk” like Sabrina Victoria!! Thank you Ted X for inviting this Powerhouse to reach more with her crucial message. We will not be silenced!!
Thank you Allison for your constant support!
So honored to know you and work alongside side you Sabrina! Your honesty is humbling and something I aspire towards!
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means the world to me to have your support and to be able to work alongside someone as inspiring as you! Let's keep striving to lift each other up and make a positive impact together.
Compelling recount of Sabrina Victoria's struggle in a cohersive controlling abusive relationship and how she arose and is now advocating for victims of mental and emotional abuse.
Let's continue to stand together in solidarity with survivors and work towards creating a world where coercion and abuse have no place.
Thank you for your share and what thoughts were running through your head at that time. My mother also projected her fear onto me, the criticism and punishment I received was shocking and yet I loved her. After leaving at the age of 18 I found another SOUL to treat me like my mother. It was known to me. I believed it was "normal". Years later I watched the movie Mommy Dearest and remembering laughing so hard. Laughing is a nervous defense mechanism of mine. The thought was . . . maybe it is a European thing around hangers. My mother would flip out over hangers many of times in my life. My mother was like a lioness. If she saw any weakness it is worse for me. And so I would laugh away the projected fear of shame, blame and control because it was too painful to see and feel. It has taken many years for me to learn boundaries. To stand up for myself. To put myself first and to feel safe. So thank you my dear and powerful Soul Sister. Shedding the light on this darkness is very much needed for us to heal on both sides.
I. Get. This. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. Reading your words brought a flood of emotions as I felt the weight of your experiences.
It's heart-wrenching to hear about the projection of fear and criticism from your mother, and how that pattern echoed in your relationships. The way you describe finding familiarity in mistreatment is sadly all too common, and it underscores the insidious nature of abuse. I love that you set boundaries, stood up for yourself, and prioritized your own well-being. It takes strength to break free from such deeply ingrained patterns and to prioritize your own healing and safety.
My hope is that those that need to see this video can come here and read comments like this... and be able to envision their own journey of healing. If we can do it... anyone can do it. xo.
What a powerful message, and timely. I'm going through something similar. We just excuse the red flags away, hoping to get the love that was given freely in the beginning. Let's teach our sons and daughters what HEALTHY looks like, so they don't "settle" and think they deserve this treatment. Thanks, Sabrina!
100%! So much of this, is about breaking the cycle for the generations after us. We need to keep our children away for role models like this... in order to keep them safe when they start dating!
Powerful, impactful and hopeful message! Wow, Sabrina Victoria, thank you for sharing your story and bringing more awareness to this not so visible abuse. Someone very close to me was in a relationship I (and many other friends) felt was so wrong and as you described. Yet, we didn’t have “evidence” of abuse, it was more like just our thoughts and opinions. We didn’t know how to help and our attempts weren’t always welcome as you can probably imagine. Thankfully when she was ready and asked for help she had her community ready and willing. So thankful you got out, Sabrina! You are a powerful, impactful and hopeful voice - not just for surviving, but thriving.
I love this example you gave. Thank you so much for sharing. You are SO right, the person being abused has to be ready. You CAN NOT make them leave. I actually left my abuser twice (moved out and away for months at a time) And he continued to pull me back in. I don't share that part of my story much, because it doesn't come up...but I was asked years later by the people that tried to save me. I don't have a good answer. I do not know why I went back, I guess I was just not ready. Maybe I still had lessons to learned, maybe I needed to endure more in order to be the woman I am today... who knows. But I am SO glad there was a community waiting for your friend! That is amazing!
Sabrina you have created such a powerful message here that needs to be spread far and wide and FAST! Your information and vision to build community and spread the support to rid the world of debilitating and life threatening exposure to coercive control is key for humanity. Thank you for your powerful words and inner strength to share and create a movement that will change lives for the better everyday. So excited to see this get into the right listening ears and change makers so coercive control can be abolished for everyone’s sake.
Wish I could have see your talk live! Think there are more stages waiting for you to continue the movement.
Thank you for your excitement about the potential impact and for envisioning a world where coercive control is gone! It's individuals like you who inspire and drive movements forward.
I truly wish you could have been there live!! AND you mentioning more stages waiting for me to continue the movement fills me with hope and motivation! Let's keep working together to create a world of empathy, understanding, and support.
Remarkable and transparent!!! Thank you for your voice and work! ❤
It's incredibly rewarding to know that the message resonated with you. Your encouragement fuels my passion to continue sharing my voice and work. Thank you for being a part of this journey!
So powerful!! Thank you for sharing and bringing awareness!! ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm grateful that my story resonated with you. Bringing awareness to this issue is so important, and it means a lot to have your support in this journey. Together, we can make a difference! 💜
Sabrina I have chills, this talk was so incredibly powerful and needs to go viral! This was my story and is the story of so many people. Fortunately I was one of the few like you that was able to break free, however we are a very small percentage. We need to find a way to break the silence and you are on a mission to do just that! I am blown away that only 5 states have made laws, how can we speed this process up !! How can we help you to get this video out to the world? If only I would have heard this years ago, what a difference it would have made not only for me but for my kids.
Thank you so much for your kind words! And YES, the idea is to get this into the hands of women (and men) who are enduing this abuse. I want to help them open their eyes and come from behind the curtain. How to get this heard? Share, Share, Share! Even send it to people that are in healthy relationships... they many times are hyper away of the unhealthy relationships because they have such a STRONG vision of what a healthy relationship looks and sounds like. We need to watch out for each other. This is how we break the cycle for the children coming up in these environments.
Thanks for talking about this. It’s such important information.
Tiffany!!! Your support fuels my passion to continue speaking out and advocating for those who may feel trapped or voiceless. Together, we can create a community of strength and resilience, where everyone feels empowered to reclaim their voice and their lives.
Thank you again for your kind words and for being a part of this journey with me.
Vulnerable, Authentic, Inspiring, and Powerful! This is one of the most powerful TEDx talks I've watched. Sabrina's story is captivating and educational on the dangers and prevalence of coercive abuse.
Her willingness to share her experience in such a raw way will inspire women and men who are caught in a similar web of abuse. Please share this with anyone you know who should hear this message.
Thank you so much for listening Ricarado. It is so important that both men AND women go through this. I love that there are men in my world that are educating themselves on this abuse so they are more educated for their community and their family.
Very powerful talk Sabrina. Kudos. If I hadn't experienced it myself, I don't know if I would totally comprehend what happens in these cases. Unfortunately, my daughter has also been the victim of coercive abuse. I am grateful everyday to God that she is no longer under his control. Bless you for having the guts to stand up. Thank you for making a difference by sharing your story.
It means the world to me to hear that my talk resonated with you on such a deep level. Your words fuel my passion to continue spreading awareness and breaking the silence surrounding this important issue. It's incredibly inspiring to hear that your daughter was able to break free, and I agree, there's still so much work to be done to support others in similar situations.
Amazing! Thank you for being so raw and open! It’s so important to get this information out there. There is hope for change!
Lady! Thank you for being part of this conversation and for acknowledging the importance of spreading this vital information. Together, we can work towards a future where everyone feels safe, supported, and empowered to live their fullest lives.
Powerful share here! This is deeply moving. It's incredibly important to spread awareness about the hidden abuses that are wrecking so many lives. Thank you Sabrina!
Thank you so much Wendy! This abuse is so insidious and quiet. Having conversations like this is so important so people can start to SEE it in their own lives.
Incredible message, Sabrina! Powerful story - your courage and grit are inspiring and I’m so glad for our world that you’re speaking out so others can be aware and anyone who’s in this situation can escape from the abuse!
Thank you for your wonderful comment! I'm deeply grateful for your kind words and encouragement. Knowing that my story has touched you means a lot to me. Your support motivates me to continue sharing and spreading awareness. Let's stand together against abuse and make a positive difference in the world.
From the first sentence I was drawn in and tears filled my eyes because I have lived this story! Sabrina explains this silent abuse epidemic so well. This talk could have helped me get out sooner from my situation. Thank you so much Sabrina for putting the words together so eloquently and yet so powerful. Sharing our stories can educate and save others from this silent abuse. I will be sharing this video.
Thank you so much for sharing. Having open conversations like this is how we can start to open peoples eyes to this abuse. I had NO idea I was being abused because my abuser had me convinced that everything was my fault... I just had to be a better partner. I was on a constant hamster wheel running all day everyday trying to do everything perfect AND he always found something wrong to yell about. It is amazing how calm and amazing my life is now. I am SO grateful that I planned my escape and got out of that situation!
Hats off to you for making the leap of coming out of the abuse . My story is almost identical . I listened to you and as my emotions were evoked and tears roll down , I realized this greater community and connection of people who have lived this just like me . I myself is also out , but I don’t have my children . My heart longs for them and their emotional and psychological safety.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so sorry for the situation you are in. I only hope that one day they will see the light and come back to you. xoxo. It is stories like this that help people realize they are not alone. Thank you for sharing.
Beautifully and powerfully delivered, Sabrina! Your message is so needed. There's no telling how many women you'll help because of this talk.
Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! It means the world to me to hear that my message resonated with you. I truly hope that it can reach and positively impact as many women as possible. Your support means everything!
Say it louder for the people in the back! Sabrina!!! You are a Warrior! This spoke to my soul as I have been there. This was such a powerful Talk. Your bravery, story and information you shared is a huge step to create a ripple effect. Community drop the 🎤 everyone needs to listen to this. Even if it’s not something you can relate to someone you know may me silently suffering. You are such a rockstar. Thank you for your vulnerability. Ladies! Share share share!
Your acknowledgment means the world to me, especially knowing that you've walked a similar path. You're absolutely right - the more we open up and share our stories, the more we can create positive change and support those who may be silently struggling. Your words are a powerful reminder of the importance of community and lifting each other up. Thank you for being such a rockstar yourself and for spreading the message. Let's keep shining our light and encouraging others to do the same. Much love and gratitude to you, my friend!
This is a huge problem that is dismissed often. Thank you for being part of spreading awareness.
That is one of the biggest issues. It is dismissed by the victim, the abuser AND the people around. It is so hard to detect. thank you so much for reiterating.
10:01 ‘I will never do it again I promise’ 😭
Her smile is traumatising
I heard it...1000 times.... it still haunts me to this day...
Ohh my gosh Sabrina this is soo powerful, you can feel the emotion, dedication and drive in your voice. You had a vison and you are accomplishing it - a powerhouse to sooo many women out there who have no voice or are too scared to use it - YOU are their voice!!
Thank you so much for making this your mission so helpful to so many - you will inspire and change lives!!
Thank you for being you!! I am forever grateful our paths crossed!
Knowing that my message reached you in such a profound way fills me with gratitude. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey and for believing in the power of our collective voices.
This message is one that no matter who you are you will feel the emotion and impact that it has! Sabrina does such a phenomenal job sharing vulnerably on a topic that needs more light shed on it!
It means the world to me to hear that my message resonated with you on such a deep level. I believe in the power of vulnerability and am truly grateful for the opportunity to shed light on important topics. Your support and encouragement mean everything. Sending you lots of love and gratitude!"
You're a wonderful storyteller. I grew up with coercive control as well as physical abuse and have experienced it across people I've dated. It's so hard to explain to people.
Absolutely. That is the tough part is the storytelling...explaining... trying to get people to GET IT. It is one of those things that you almost need to experience to really understand. Now looking back this abuse followed me from my childhood... until my mid-30's before I finally educated myself. Now I can spot it immediately!
Raw, emotional, powerful, and inspiring! As a survivor and eight years in the field, I can't remember the last time I've heard this message delivered so impactfully. You had me in tears AND fueled to keep on the fight, removing the stigma, myths, stereotypes, and outdated laws and legislation that have failed to protect victims and their children. We have made incredible strides, we're headed in the right direction, AND we have so much more to do!
Your words hit me right in the feels, and I can't help but feel a surge of emotion reading your comment. Knowing you, a survivor with eight years of experience, felt the power of my message means the world to me. It's like we're in this together, fighting against stigma, myths, and laws that just don't cut it anymore. We've come a long way, haven't we? But there's still so much ground to cover. Your tears and determination fuel me to keep pushing forward, knowing that we're making a real difference. Let's keep this momentum going, my friend. We've got this!
Extremely well articulated. Sorry about the trauma you had to endure. But, grateful that you are painting a well-visualized image to increase awareness and inspire survivors to also move on. Your great courage to leave the abuser will provide strength for others to do the same. Truly life-changing! Love your raw, authentic openness and how well you described the 3 common signs of invisible abuse.
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment and for taking the time to watch my video. Your words mean a lot to me. It's through sharing experiences like mine that we can shed light on the often overlooked issue of invisible abuse and empower survivors to find their strength and move forward. Your support and encouragement further reinforce the importance of raising awareness and providing resources for those in similar situations. Let's continue to spread awareness and support each other on this journey toward healing and empowerment. Much love and gratitude to you.
Thank you for speaking out on this issue! Many are suffering including myself I needed to also escape after 20 yrs of abuse.
Thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your experience !❤❤❤
WOW! Thank you so much for sharing and thank you so much for watching. Every view is helping RUclips see the algorithm and how important this topic is for people to know about. This abuse is happening everywhere... and it is impossible to see unless you know... I appreciate you for helping get this video in front of more people by watching and commenting. xo.
@@hertalkshow You’re welcome! keep up the incredible work, you’re an inspiration to many! Xo ❤️🫶🏻
This is such great information. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably and helping us to understand.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I'm grateful that the information resonated with you. Sharing vulnerably is never easy, but knowing it helps others understand makes it all worthwhile. Your support means a lot to me. 💜
Sabrina this is so powerful. You will help so many out there.
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I appreciate you listening in and commenting. The goal is to get this into the hands of the individuals that need it the most.
This hurts so much, and it’s so hard to put it into words. This speaker did a good job - but there are no words to describe the mental anguish and years YEARS of guilt and shame.
Absolutely 100% agree, there is NO real way to explain mental and emotional abuse. When it is explained it just sounds like we are filled with drama. It is something that has to be actually seen in real time, or experienced first hand. My heart goes out to you. xo
@@hertalkshow & mine to you! hugs
We will be ok. Knowledge can hurt really bad. We'll be ok and live good happy lives.
Woww!!! You are incredibly inspiring. Thank you for laying out so well. Education is extremely powerful and needed. I am sending this to several of my patients. Having role models can save lives 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing. It is so important to get this into the hands of those that need it. Those that are not sure.... those that see that something it NOT right, but they can not put their finger on it.
Eduction is key, thank you so much for being a pillar in this, 🙏😘
Thank you so much for your kind words! I truly believe that education is a powerful tool for change, and I'm honored to play a part in raising awareness. Together, we can continue to build a stronger, more informed community. 💜
Fleeing toxicity.
Thank you Sabrina for valuing yourself, your son, and your future enough to dig deep, and lead yourself up, up, and away from the madness.
Thank you for your vulnerable transparency and your commitment to not leave others in a lurch. Silence helps no one. Thank you for using your voice for good.
You my sister are a true picture of a phoenix rising and I know this story of victory will give hope to others. In spite of his poison, I can clearly see that you were always a winner - you just had to convince yourself.
Finally, thank you for sharing the calls to action - you didn’t leave us stranded and for me, you’ve helped me to become more tender to those who might be living their “knock off” best life - void of genuineness. My prayers go out to the minimalized and the disenfranchised. May they find the courage to reach out and find solace.
You bring to mind the words from Maya Angelou’s epic poem…
Still. I. Rise.
*tears forming in my eyes.*
My thoughts echo yours, reaching out to all who may be struggling to find solace and courage.
Thank you for your empathy and for reminding us to be mindful of those who may be living a facade of their "knock off" best life. Let us all extend a hand of compassion and understanding to those in need. Together, we can create a world where genuine connection and support reign above.
This is an amazing, impactful, and heartfelt message about a difficult topic that needs more awareness. The magic in the message is the overcoming and Sabrina Victoria is the embodiment of a woman on a mission the change the world. The difficult things in life can break us or make us great...it's up to each of us. Keep spreading your greatness, Sabrina...You have big things to do!!
I am sincerely grateful for your support and encouragement. Together, as a community, we can create meaningful change. Let's continue to spread positivity and work towards a better world.
This is so powerful. We all need to hear it, listen and learn to see the signs. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with the world.
Your support is not only meaningful to me but also crucial in fostering a community that understands, believes, and stands united against coercive control.
This was so powerful. Thanks for sharing this message and being an advocate for massive change. I got chills!
Thank you for taking the time to watch and for your kind words. It's my passion to advocate for change, and knowing that you and so many others were moved by this message, means a lot to me. Your support is invaluable.
thank you @hertalkshow for your courage and vulnerability sharing your story. This is a very important topic. I didn't know that this was 1 in 2 women and 1 in 3 men. It's time to set boundaries and break generational abuse. I agree community is key. People who can support you. Purpose is key to feel like life means something. Network -
Hoping this message lifts up all those who need to hear this message. Thank you again Sabrina xo
Your words mean the world to me. Thank you for recognizing the courage and vulnerability it took for me to share my story. Those statistics are staggering, aren't they? They highlight the urgency of setting boundaries and breaking the cycle of generational abuse. Thank you for taking the time to listen, when we know the information, we can better off support each other.
@hertalkshow you're welcome, Sabrina. Keep shining your light. Support from 🇨🇦🤗
Brave and courageous. Thank you for sharing such an important message.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. You are helping the algorithm hit individuals that need to hear this message!
Thank you for sharing such important information! Your life is a testament to what is possible. ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm humbled that my story could serve as a testament to what's possible. It’s important to me to share this information in hopes that it can inspire and empower others to find their strength. Your support means the world to me. 💜
A powerful and emotionally charged story that all can benefit from the wisdom of the wonderful and resilient Sabrina Victoria! Thank you for sharing your experience, story and wisdom. Truly an amazing woman who inspires and ignites others!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your heartfelt words! It's incredibly inspiring to see how our experiences can ignite positivity and motivation in others. I appreciate your support and encouragement! Let's spreading that inspiration!
Thank you for sharing your story Sabrina. So many people need to hear this and learn about invisible abuse. I know your story has the power to change lives.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! It means a lot to me that you found value in my story. You're absolutely right-raising awareness about invisible abuse is crucial, and I hope that by sharing my experiences, it can help others recognize and address similar situations in their own lives. Together, we can empower each other and create positive change. Thanks again for watching and for your encouraging comment!
Powerful and thought provoking. Education, encouragement and support are the only ways to help women speak up and stand up too these horrible acts. Amazing Sabrina!!
Thank you so much. We are continuing to spread the word and open people's eyes to what this abuse looks like.
Absolutely amazing and so well thought out and presented! I don't think that anyone in my sphere of influence really realizes what this is. Thank you for articulating it so well!
April!!! Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! It's always rewarding to hear that the content resonates with viewers like yourself. Thanks again for your support and encouragement!
wow that was incredibly impactful and powerful
Thank you so much for your kind words. It has been quite a journey, and I’m grateful to be able to share it with the hope of inspiring others. Recovery is never easy, but there’s always light on the other side. Your support means everything. 💜
A powerfully delivered message, Sabrina! Such a complex topic - your presentation is emotional and so on point.
Thank you so much for your support! This topic is incredibly complex, and I’m grateful that the message came across clearly. It’s a subject close to my heart, and I’m glad it resonated with you. Your encouragement means the world to me! 💜
powerful story and so authentic. I applaud you for escaping this world. So much courage and proud of your accomplishments.
Thank you so much Tina. I appreciate you!
@@hertalkshow thank you
This was an incredible talk. I related on so many levels. Sabrina is an amazing speaker and such courage and vulnerability in sharing something so raw. I have no doubt that she will help countless people with this talk. Just INCREDIBLE ❤
Thank you so much, I appreciate the love and support from everyone here.
Incredible. I could relate to so much of what you described although my own experience wasn’t as extreme. It’s so important for us to talk about this. The statistics are chilling. Thank you for shedding light on a difficult topic. You are a warrior! 💪🏻💪🏻
I'm really touched by your comment. Knowing that you could relate to what I shared, even if your own experience wasn't as intense, means a lot to me. It's so important for us to have these conversations, especially considering the chilling statistics surrounding the issue. Thank you for acknowledging the difficulty of the topic, putting this talk together was difficult. Thank you for your constant love and support over the years.
Thank you Sabrina, I suffered from this invisible abuse for 16 years, my older children saved me and help me call the police as they witnessed their dad threaten me because i was too scared to answer him calling me on the mobile phone. He convinced me that i was crazy person so i would cry in the bathroom ... my kids told me he was lying to me and playing mind games...so i walked into the police station one day and for the first time ask for help, went into a women's refuge home with the children and left. Literally my kids helped me leave, they were also so unhappy and scared the whole time. Walking away is super scary as you have no money and have dept under your name from the abuser, then finding out that you have developed PTSD. I have just started to heal 3 years after leaving and am studying about this invincible abuse so I can help myself and others when i encounter it ever again. This abuse is so dangerous because it causes victims to spiral into a depression very fast and they get suicidal...It took me so long to figure out that he was causing the depression and mental health concerns. Please take care guys and watch out for others if you witness this kind of behaviour. I had to go no contact, change address and phone number. thank you for this video ❤
Thank you for sharing so openly and vulnerably. The more we talk and share the more others can be saved sooner. So many individuals get stuck in situations like this with no way out. It can be very scary. I am so proud of you for doing whatever it takes to escape and change the trajectory of your entire life. Stay on the healing journey and with time things will become clearer for you. It takes time. Sending you virtual hugs!
You are such an amazing soul and you sharing your story so powerfully is a statement for the power that we all have within. Thank you for the amazing gifts and value you bring into this world
Thank you so much for your beautiful words! It means the world to me that my story resonates with you. I truly believe that we all have a unique power and light within us, and I’m grateful to be able to share mine in hopes of inspiring others. I’m so glad to be on this journey together with amazing souls like you. Thank you for being here!
Thank you Sabrina for sharing parts of your personal experience and some solid data and expressions of Coercive control, a topic you are passionate about for many reasons. What came to mind while listening is how important facilitated and professional preparation is for getting into a committed relationship to at least do all the necessary due diligence to try to shed light on the unknowns or invisibles, in as much as possible. Anyhow, left me thinking about so many aspects of relationships, human emotional health, types of abuse etc. Thank you for this.
Thank you very much for your thoughtful comment! You're absolutely right that preparation and due diligence are crucial when entering into a committed relationship, and shedding light on the unknowns can be vital for emotional health and well-being. I'm grateful for your support!
Thank You For this amazing talk. It's such an important and difficult subject, and you're right, it's sometimes even difficult to believe her. ...I do.
Thank You For this amazing talk. It's such an important and difficult subject, and you're right, it's sometimes even difficult to believe her. ...I do.
Kudos to you, Sabrina Victoria! You are a victorius woman who successfully exited a terrifying marriage. Now you are warning and educating other women who are living a similar nightmare, or women who have escaped such abuse. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Your encouragement truly means a lot. It's my mission to share my experiences and insights to help others who may be going through similar challenges. Together, we can make a difference and empower those who have faced or are facing such difficulties.
You rock Sabrina!!! So proud of you! 👏
Thank you Dawnita! Every time someone bravely shares their story, it not only raises awareness but also empowers others to seek help and support. Thank you for your support!
Wow. So powerful and engaging Sabrina. Your journey is inspiring and hopefully many people will watch this and find help. Coercive Control. Something to remember and be vigilant about. My ex husband has elements of this for sure, but fortunately for myself and my kids it is not full on abuse - though we all have the scars, deep inside, that will be with us forever. Thank you for sharing this and tell your story. You are amazing ❤️
I'm glad to hear that despite the challenges, you and your kids are finding your way through it all. Those scars might be deep, but they also show just how strong you are.
It's truly heartening to know that my story resonates with you and that you find it inspiring. That's exactly why I shared it. I hope that by speaking out, we can shed light on this issue and let others know they're not alone.
Keep holding onto that strength, and remember, healing is a journey. I'm sending you and your family all the positive vibes as you continue to move forward. Thank you for being part of this conversation and for your kind words. You're amazing too!
A message everyone needs to hear! Thank you for sharing your story and advice for other women who need the help and encouragement to break the cycle.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. RUclips takes our content way more seriously when individuals do both, which means this video is put in front of more eyes. Thank you for helping us push this message in order to educate others who are suffering.
Wow! What a powerful, information-filled, engaging presentation! I acknowledge you, Sabrina, for having come through all the "coercive control" and violence that you experienced in your marriage, for ultimately being able to break through and be the strong woman and leader that you are.
I'm sure there are women (and men, as indicated by a few of the responses below) who will identify with what you've described. Then based on your explanations and suggestions will with certainty pull themselves together and take action, being a strong stand for themselves, as well as protecting others who might be affected.
To the empowerment of thousands, and maybe more, women and men gathering and supporting one another in their lives and i getting protective laws passed!
Indeed Sheila! Thank you so much for watching! The power of sharing experiences lies in its potential to inspire others to take action and stand up for themselves and others who may be affected. By fostering a community of support and empowerment, we can collectively work towards creating safer environments and advocating for laws that can make a real difference in people's lives.
What a powerful conversation. Very impactful 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
100% and thank you! I hope to reach millions of people with this talk and allow individuals to pin point this behavior in their own lives, so they can better assess their situations.
Never and I mean NEVER allow someone to isolate you, that’s their biggest tool.
100%! and thank you for the emphasis on this.
Sabrina Victoria, I appreciate your determination to bring this message to the forefront and to be a fabulous example and role model for change. This type of coercive controlling behavior is damaging on all levels and is contagious, as what we tolerate is what we teach. It's up to each one of us to evaluate our own behaviors and make the changes that serve us well. Thank you for being a beautiful example of courage and strength in taking the actions necessary as nothing changes unless we take the initiatives and the actions to make the changes. BRAVA!
Catherine! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment. This time in my life was such a pivot. And even though they were some of my worst years, I am so grateful that I have been on this beautiful healing journey of my own and have been able to encourage and inspire so many other people around the world to make a plan, use their voice and gain their power back. I love that this video is getting into the hand of the individuals that need it the most.
Wow so very impactful. Sabrina your words touched me to the core. I know this will make such an impact on so many people. Truly thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing your experiences in order to help others out there who are suffering in silence. The fact that you are living proof of being able to break the cycle will impact so many and hopefully give them the courage and power and strength to break the cycle in their own life❤
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment! It means the world to me to hear that my words have resonated with you deeply. Sharing my experiences, even the vulnerable ones, is incredibly important to me because I believe in the power of storytelling to inspire and empower others. If my journey can offer hope or courage to even just one person who is struggling, then it's all worth it. Let's continue spreading awareness and breaking the cycle together. Much love! 💖
Sabrina your stage presence is excellent. Grateful for your vulnerability. This issue is so deep and you are part of the needed changes for healing and protection. Powerful.
Sierra! Thank you so much for this! I appreciate you watching and commenting. This video is so important to me.... really wanting it to get to the right people out there that need to hear it.
Yes the manipulation is insidious. Traumabonding keeps you stuck. And they are masters in hoovering you back in. Glad I m out and kept my sanity
So glad you made it out too! Congrats! On to big and better things in our life! YAaaassss!
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and vulnerable personal message about the psychological implications on the minds of those who have experienced Coercive control. The specific directives to ensure that we all have a sense of community are essential to hold everyone accountable. Furthermore, this sense of community can provide support to individuals, helping them realize that they are not crazy and that their relationship is one-sided and not based on love. Once again, thank you for sharing such a powerful message for all to hear and become aware of this invisible abuse, in order to create awareness and provide support.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It's really important to talk about the impact of coercive control and to let people know they’re not alone. Building a supportive community helps people see they aren’t “crazy” and that their relationship might be one-sided and not healthy. I appreciate your support in raising awareness about this invisible abuse so we can help more people. Together, we can make a big difference.
WOW Sabrina, such a real, raw, authentic, powerful and vulnerable talk. Thank you so much for your incredible vulnerability through your story and experience. This topic is such an important one that WE MUST shine a light on and talk about in order to start to make changes. Conversation is the catalyst for change and we will not be able to make change unless we start sharing our stories and stories like yours. Thank you so much for your bravery Sabrina. You are such a courageous and beautiful soul. Giving voice to the silenced.
BRAD! It means the world to me to hear that my story resonated with you and that you found it powerful. You're absolutely right-conversation is indeed the catalyst for change, and by sharing our stories, we can shed light on important topics that need attention and spark the transformation we seek. Your support and encouragement fuel my courage, and I am honored to be able to give voice to those who have been silenced. Together, we can create a ripple effect of understanding and empowerment. Thank you.
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Just wow, this was so powerful! I knew I went through this in a past relationship but the way you describe the 3 areas your abuser messes with you, I don't even think I put it together. It also got me thinking, did my ex know he was doing this on purpose, we were 17 when we got together, both still kids. Do you know if this type of abuse is always a conscious decision by the abuser?
"No bruises, no cuts, no evidence.” Awareness is such a powerful thing. It changes us, and this is one of those talks that changes our awareness for the better. Sabrina does an amazing job of educating us on what coercive abuse looks and feels like from the inside. The awareness that 1 out of 2 women is going to experience this type of abuse at some point in their life is unacceptable. It means this could happen to you… your sister… your grandmother… your child… your friend.
Share this talk. People don’t know what they don’t know. In sharing it, you might empower and change the life of someone who didn’t realize this was their situation. You might even raise awareness enough for the people you share it with to prevent and protect themselves from experiencing it.
This comment warmed my heart. Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Each comment and share has the potential to spark a crucial conversation or offer support to someone who might be silently struggling. Together, by raising awareness and standing against coercive abuse, we can create a safer and more compassionate world for all-our loved ones, friends, and future generations included.
I stayed for 42 years until I could take it no more, I had to leave everything I owned for my sanity. The abuse continues through lies in court.
Cuts and bruises to the soul and psyche are invasive yet invisible.
The damage is done.
Going on 35 years. The only way out now is if one of us leaves this earth. That's the only way I will finally get peace. Young women need to hear this! Thank goodness social media can actually do good by spreading messages like this!
Don't rush into relationships, don't get pregnant quickly, have your own income!
@@sahdogwrangler5594 I don’t know your circumstances but there are people that will help you to escape, no amount of money or possessions is worth your life! You can replace everything and anything else but you don’t get your time back.
Sending you love & hugs ❤
@@sahdogwrangler5594❤️🩹
So real and so powerful. What a journey of recovery and hope.
Thank you so much for your support. Recovery is definitely a long road, but sharing this journey brings hope not just to me, but hopefully to others as well. It means a lot to know that the message resonated with you. 💜
Sabrina we've only recently just met and I am just getting to know you. I found your TedX talk to be educational, eye-opening and inspiring! Your journey has been one filled with angst and struggle which, because of your own sheer determination, has given you the space and will to create a healthy, happy and abundant life.. So kudos to you for all that it took to start over and for becoming an inspiration to others who need to hear your encouraging words!
Joan! So happy you found this! Thank you for watching and commenting. Thrilled I was able to use the TEDx stage to share my story and educate others on this nightmare abuse that so many suffer through and no nothing about.
I think prolonged mental abuse sometimes can be worse than physical abuse. Mental/psychological torture will eventually lead to extreme physical problems, such as chronic illnesses or suicide.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree-prolonged mental abuse can be incredibly damaging, sometimes even more so than physical abuse. The toll it takes on our minds and hearts can eventually lead to serious physical issues, like chronic illness, or, sadly, even thoughts of suicide.
It's so important that we acknowledge the deep wounds that mental and emotional abuse can leave. Healing from this kind of trauma takes a lot of strength, and it's vital that those who are suffering get the love and support they need to move forward.
Your insight really hits home for me. It reminds us how crucial it is to raise awareness and make sure that no one feels alone in their struggle. Together, we can create a world where every woman feels seen, heard, and supported in her journey.
Thank you for speaking out about this. We feel we have no voice and sometimes still struggle to realize the abuse wasn’t warranted because it’s our fault we didn’t do enough. You broke down the path in such a practical, understandable way. Lightbulbs went off 💡 over and over! Thank you for sharing education, bravery that speaks to so many, and awareness of this type of silent abuse. Blessings to you 💕
Thank you so much for your sweet words. It really warms my heart to know that what I shared struck a chord with you. I know how hard it can be to shake off that feeling of blame, and it’s so important to remember that none of it was ever your fault. You are more than enough, always have been.
It means the world to me that you found some clarity in my talk. I’m so grateful for our friendship, and knowing that my words helped turn on those lightbulbs for you is why I do what I do.
You are such a strong, beautiful soul, and your voice is powerful. Together, we can keep pushing this conversation forward and supporting each other every step of the way.
Sending you so much love!