Great video! And that's wonderful to know about research focusing on more diverse couples than just married hetero folks. As far as gender being a factor in stonewalling, I wonder if it has to do with how people are born, or more with how people are socialized.
Really need this in my life. I am so far 10 relationships, and I have failed them all because of this lack of knowledge to correct these problems. Please help me to find more resources.
No, I haven't read that in the research. There is a lot to be said about how men are raised regarding expression and processing emotions. Stonewalling is a coping (albeit ineffective) strategy for feeling overwhelmed with emotion.
I'm not an expert or anything, but from personal anecdote and being a woman myself, I'd say women are a lot more prone to criticism. More women are typically cleanly and more emotionally sensitive, plus they tend to vent their frustrations more. Men are typically taught to bottle things or let it go, and are thus less prone to criticism. This isn't always the case, (as it is with my own,) but, in a majority of cases, women definitely do a lot more criticizing, especially if they weren't taught how to properly communicate.
Interesting question, I have stonewalled a lot in the past, but it wasn’t because I was overwhelmed. It was more to withdraw into a safer place so I didn’t get physically attacked by the other person’s anger/frustration towards me.
Would like to watch these but my wife needs captions, anyway we can get a version with captions?
I would appreciate the second video and speaking with you. I'm an LPC and CSAC in WI.
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Very enjoyable...thank you. You have a very clear way of explaining things.
Thank you Michael!
Great video! And that's wonderful to know about research focusing on more diverse couples than just married hetero folks. As far as gender being a factor in stonewalling, I wonder if it has to do with how people are born, or more with how people are socialized.
Really need this in my life. I am so far 10 relationships, and I have failed them all because of this lack of knowledge to correct these problems. Please help me to find more resources.
Thank you for this and for the podcast recommendation.
I would like to see the other videos
yes please i would love to see the video
I will like the see other videos.
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Excellent
Wish my ex and I would have watched this video before things were too far gone.
I would like to see that video
The closed captions on this are set only to Dutch, I want to watch it with a deaf client and cannot caption it..
Thanks for letting me know, I’ll update it today to include English captions.
What if the horsemen are present during dating?
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Since you mentioned gender (males) for stonewalling, so are there any that the females are more likely to do like criticism, contempt?
No, I haven't read that in the research. There is a lot to be said about how men are raised regarding expression and processing emotions. Stonewalling is a coping (albeit ineffective) strategy for feeling overwhelmed with emotion.
I'm not an expert or anything, but from personal anecdote and being a woman myself, I'd say women are a lot more prone to criticism. More women are typically cleanly and more emotionally sensitive, plus they tend to vent their frustrations more. Men are typically taught to bottle things or let it go, and are thus less prone to criticism. This isn't always the case, (as it is with my own,) but, in a majority of cases, women definitely do a lot more criticizing, especially if they weren't taught how to properly communicate.
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Interesting question, I have stonewalled a lot in the past, but it wasn’t because I was overwhelmed. It was more to withdraw into a safer place so I didn’t get physically attacked by the other person’s anger/frustration towards me.
It’s not my fault.. 😂