Why Routines Are More Helpful Than New Year’s Resolutions
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- Опубликовано: 30 дек 2017
- While making New Year’s resolutions can be fun, there’s a tool that’s way more powerful when it comes to making positive changes in your life - building routines for yourself.
Special thanks to our research consultant Patrick LaCount for advising on this episode!
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Happy New Year, Brains!!! What are you looking forward to accomplishing in 2018?
How to ADHD I want to write a good enough story that I can show it to someone else
Hello my favorite RUclips channel!
How to ADHD why not take out the trash while walking the dog?
I'm looking forward to actually getting on medications!!!!!!! YAAAAAAAYYYY!!!!!!
my dog is far too interested in the trash for that to work for me, but yeah totally, doing things at the same time works! A lot of people check their schedule when they sit down to breakfast, for example.
This is literally the best way of explaining to people why I can't/don't really do New Years Resolutions. I DIED at "Hey can I help knock down your dominos, your dominos look cooler than my dominos" because that is literally me ALL THE TIME. I call it being a productive procrastinator! You had some really great content this year, and you should be very proud of yourself! Thanks for helping this fellow brain out
awww thank you! happy tears :D
Courtney Olivo YES!! I died when she said that too because it is SO TRUE!! I was talking to my MIL earlier tonight and she was telling me her and my FIL are in a rush to get their living room painted because he has to go back to work sooner than they anticipated. I told her she could call if she wanted me to help paint tomorrow and I’d come help. I honestly said something to the affect “it will get me out of my house and away from all of the stuff I should be doing at home”! I don’t even like to paint!! And to be honest I’m not a big fan of my MIL! 😂🤣 I need serious help 🤦🏻♀️🙃
Me too, that was so funny because it was so relatable.
Same here for like 5 years i give up on new years resolutions becaus they are ding out as fast as i tell them. :P
Courtney Olivo , You hit the nail on the head. That is exactly me!
That finger character was a perfect way of visually showing how the executive functions in our brains work. Also, good camera work!
When I was first diagnosed with ADHD, the first thing my Dr did (along with prescribing medication) was to have me build a routine with 3 things in the morning, and 3 things at night. So 3 things I do every morning I wake up, and 3 things I do before going to bed every night. It sounds so simple, but it's so difficult! Glad there are professionals who understand the importance of routine building and other things for non-NT brains! :)
... that sounds like a good way to do it. I'm between insurances and, therefore, professionals, so I'm glad I found this comment! Good advice!
I like this idea. Three is manageable. Now to figure out which three :)
Okay so HowtoADHD videos are normally awesome and all, but this one was pretty spectacular! I loved the new and innovative ways of presenting information! I found myself laughing at bit at the finger puppet, to be completely honest. Happy new year, yall! Here's to new productive habits/routines!
What Kaylee said. Not just because of NYE...but hit right when all my life routines have been shaken up. I just didn't realize how they tie my life together. Thank you, and looking forward to next episode.
that finger puppet will make a mark and be more memorable than any book on this subject will be!
I agree. What a great reminder. Routines are not just for kids.
Help me. I have a nice short to-do list. What was not on my list, was sorting about 2 year old admin papers, bills etc. But suddenly I had divided them in stacks. Yay! 🙆♂️But, and here is where I need the help: I've got a stack miscellaneous. These papers don't belong to any other stack. But I want to keep them. Invitations of that great party, that boat trip folder.
What do you do in this situation?
Always when I declutter (every year 🤔) I have this stuff that belongs nowhere. It's a big problem for me. It's holding me back to start.
So, what do you do?
PINKBOOTED FINGERPUPPET HAS TO BECOME A REGULAR CHARACTER IN THE SHOW PLEEEEEEEASE
As a nanny and a preschool teacher (working with young children is perfect for my ADHD brain because our attention span is about the same length!), I am SO GOOD at keeping a daily routine on the days that I work. I teach in the morning, nanny in the afternoon, so Monday-Friday my day is: Wake up, shower, school starts, wash hands, circle time, free play, art, snack, music, recess, go home, eat lunch, play with kiddos, go home, eat dinner, basic chores, relax, go to bed." Then...on the weekends...I sometimes forget to eat...or even get out from behind my computer screen. Looks like I need to work on a weekend routine for myself. This video is great! I found myself both relating immensely and laughing hysterically! Isn't so much of ADHD learning how to laugh at ourselves? Thank you so much! I adore every video. They make me feel less alone!
Sometimes I think I need school bells in my house to remind me to transition from first period (homeroom-bathing/self) to second period (chores) to third period (shopping/errands) etc. Fourth period may be cooking. Fifth is family time. Sixth is chillaxing.
Who else was loving those tiny boots?
Loved the finger puppet thingy!
Step 1: Actually wake up on time for once....
Edit- Step 0.5: Actually go to bed on time for once...
Uriah Siner she spoke about an alarm. Thats what helped me to go to bed at the right time!
Can we get a club for the people sleep at the time they should be waking up? I need severe help lol.
Santa Australia - Count me in... there's apparently a huge link between ADHD and delayed sleep phase disorder.
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I set one. It doesn’t work for me lol it goes off and I see it and think “ok just gotta finish this thing” and then forget and continue the thing for many more hours haha
Peter Moncrieff Bro this is my life story. And then being sleep-deprived the next day amplifies ADD symptoms.
"What if everything changes?!?"
[Husband got a new job out of state, kids and I stay to finish school and pack house, we move, I quit my job, at least 1/2 my things are living in storage for the next year, I still can't find a job, I'm not taking care of myself, I'm not eating right...lost. I'm so, so lost.]
I've never had so many changes at once while caring for my family and I feel like I'm in a big, deep hole. It's scary in here, but even more scary is that once I start working again, I have to start the new routine thing over...again.
...I'm exhausted just thinking about it...
Happy new year, tribe!!!
[We. Will. Rebuild.]
One thing that helps me when I am overwhelmed is to make a "done did" list. instead of a to-do, just try to take time each day to write down everything you DID do. Often when I feel crappy about my productivity, I can realize I've actually accomplished more than my self-loathing brain is letting me see. It's encouraging and can help snowball a few more things each day.
Good luck to you in your new page of life.
Focus on one thing a time. We believe in you. You CAN do it.
What a fantastic video... From a 72 year old psychologist who's lived with ADHD / ADD all his life. Happy new year to all
just realized, dominoes are kinda like spirals, one thing leads to the next naturally and it just keeps going. and yes I'm obsessed with spirals.
SuperBRAIN speaking of spirals, have you read “Turtles All The Way Down”?
YUP!! :D:D
its my favorite book ever. I haven't been able to stop talking about it. It's why I like spirals :):)
lolz, I can't do horror, but i read the plot summary thing, and it still has similar properties to why I like spirals such as how inwards and outwards is like opposing ideas/forces (ie. time) and too far either way causes trouble, etc.
THIS IS ABSOLUTELY ADORABLE I WANT TO KICK DOWN DOMINOS IN PINK UGG BOOTS ALL DAY!
I'm gonna have to rewatch this because the content was TOO engaging and i didn't listen to it whatsoever hahahah
hahaha I can't tell if that means I did a good job or an awful one :D
No in incredible job hahaha the feet were so cute!
+How to ADHD you did a "GREAT" job as always! wishing us all a great 2018, & continued success.
I recently found your channel. I Haven't seen all the past videos yet but I am working on it. I love what you are doing. You are beautiful and Edward is lucky to have you. I was diagnosed with ADHD combined type just this year (2017) at 38 years old. I denied for, well, 38 years that I had it. I didn't want to be a zombie and "drugged up" all the time. I finally conceded and was tested after people at work started asking " do youv have ADHD?" The counselor my wife and I are seeing told me he wasn't qualified to diagnose, but he was sure I had it and I should talk to my doctor. My wife KNEW I had it too. Well I am coming to terms with my diagnosis and learning a lot about it. I also have been on Adderall for about 8 months and WOW! What a difference! The "noise" in my brain is gone with the meds. I can think clearer, prioritize and remember!!! I started a new job also that I always dreamed of but never thought possible for me to do. I work in the Operating Room as a Circulating Nurse. I love the job and ADHD with meds actually makes it easier to do my job. I love "how to ADHD" I am working on figuring out the patreon page to help support what you do because what you do helps support me in what I do. Thank you so much Jessica and Edward for what you do!!!
Okay, but this was hysterical! And it actually made me feel better about how I can keep moving forward.
I LOVE THE FINGER PEOPLE
happy new year Jessica!
haha thanks, I have a feeling they'll be back :D
Howled laughing at the "hey can I help you knock your dominos....." I'm great at helping others. Anything to avoid helping myself. Great video 😀 Happy New Year 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Ellie Donoghue SOOOOOO TRUE
I absolutely love the domino analogy in this. As a teacher with ADHD I love watching your videos, not just for your ideas and explanations, but also for how you explain things. You are amazing!
Hi, I’m Kennedy and I’ve been saying sorry for all of my 4 disorders (including ADHD) and I’ve learned to say thank you instead. Thank you so much for just being here to help.
Aww that’s awesome!!!
Omgg learning through humor is the best way for things to stick for me. Agh I died at the college reference 😂😂. This video shows why I use stickers and elementary school supplies to make my schedules, just so they seem more fun and manageable like my childhood despite the intimidation I get from them. 👏👏 best video yet! 💖
“Ooh, your dominoes seem so much cooler then mine!!”
-LITERALLY ME 24/7 LOL
I’ve been having a really hard time with executive functions lately and feeling hopeless about it - I know the basic principle of habits/routines but felt so discouraged because when I get like this NOTHING is automatic so there’s nothing to attach things to. Like even brushing teeth (the classic “easy” example) doesn’t happen until like 5pm sometimes if I’m not going anywhere. So when you said, like it was no big deal, “Don’t have anything you do every day? That’s okay! Waking up counts!” it legitimately brought me to tears. Thank you so much, I’m now subscribed and can’t want to watch more of your videos.
My new routine for 2019 is to spend an hour (or more) on my writing projects on Sunday mornings with aim of getting more worked published this year,
I identify so strongly with that little purple shoed handy girl 😂 I love my routines! They keep me happy and centered, and help me feel productive even when I don't get anything extra done!
Those finger leg characters are the cutest!
Does anyone else have the problem of doing projects and then getting half way and then doing something else and doing that for hours or do that halfway (sometime I do the secound thing fully)
Honestly I have such a struggle with executive function that so much as getting out of bed is difficult, so this video is a GODSEND. THANK YOU. PLEASE DO MORE OF THIS!!
That point about routines going off the rails when they get interrupted really resonated with me. It's why vacations--long breaks from my work routines--are such a miserable time.
Loooved the visual representation! It really helped me to understand! Makes perfect sense too
this is exactly what i need i fall out of my routine whenever im on a break from uni and i get NOTHING DONE during the breaks its so hard to stick to a routine of my own when theres nothing forcing me to (e.g. my attendance at uni/work)
When I'm at work I have certain routines I have to do. Since I do the same thing every day. It makes the work easier. As soon as someone or multiple people on my team call in, we have to now do their work also. Which messes up my routine. I definitely understand the value of routines for us.
I hate holidays because it messes up my routine. I forgot to clean the bathroom because of it and my mom yelled at me. T_T
same, holidays throw everything off...they're fun but kiiiinda glad they're over. Sorry you got yelled at, show her this video :)
We get 5 week school holidays and this is the first time my meds have works really well for me. First time I didn’t just “do nothing” the whole holiday. I completed so many “projects” that would normally taken me a year to do. But I have neglected home duties haha...priorities are still difficult for me.
I have a "love/hate" relationship with holidays. Or anything that's fun but messes with my routines. Or not fun - like getting sick. But I have to agree that routines (and lists) have made all the difference to this ADDer.
Yen N I never want to take my meds on break because I have so much more fun when I’m off them. Did you find a solution to this problem?
Hannah Reeves it’s good you have fun without them. Sometimes I didn’t do anything at all when off med and just binged on TV/reading. I have so much to do around my house (organising/renovating), my garden (planting, building, installing irrigation) and just recently purchased a website for this business idea I came up with. I actually enjoy doing these things though when on my med and I love finishing and the sense of accomplishment. I just have trouble prioritising right now so I’ll do all this “fun stuff” but not make dinner for example.
Sitting here in 2024 and this video helps so much! I watch a lot of your newer videos but figured this one was still relevant. Pointing out that routines can change and take habits with them really helped put some things into perspective. I used to write a massive fanfic consistently. During most of my college years I wrote a new 7k word chapter every two weeks with very little deviation! I reached over half a million words! Thousands of pages, literally!
Then I graduated and for the last three years I've struggled to write anything over months. I didn't realize just how much the writing process (which helped my mental health and just generally feeling accomplished and creatively fulfilled) was tied in with my weekly school schedule (I would even put it in with my assignments. Chapter 30 due Friday. Essay due Monday. Test next Wednesday...) And now that I'm fully remote in my career, it's been pretty hard to manually build it up again. Starting small with things I know I can reliably lean on (like when I have coffee or when my pets need their meals) is an amazing first step and I really really appreciate it.
What I truly appreciate is how short your videos are and how succinct you are within that short timeframe. My ADHD cannot take long videos without pausing and coming back multiple times sadly
HAPPY NEW YEAR JESS, EDWARD AND TRIBE! (I'm from the Netherlands so it's already 2.50am)
oooo you're from the future! What's it like in 2018??? :D
Heey im from the netherlands too ^^ happy new years!! ^^
How to ADHD it's very awesome! I think you'll love 2018!
Austin Creates happy new year to you too! :D
Perfectly timed.... Yesterday after dinner I wrote on my whiteboard my new year resolution, it was to establish a workable routine.... When I woke up and checked my phone...... Tadaaaaaaaaa 🎉🎉🎉🎉this shiny new How to ADHD video..... Thank you
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD later last year. This was after a very serious accident she had by not being able to regulate her emotions. It was a difficult year for all of us, however with the help of professionals we are slowly working on helping her be the best person she can be. Jessica you have helped myself and my family understand ADHD in a lighthearted way. Thank you for being so awesome and caring for others with ADHD xx
I'm not on Twitter or Facebook so I hope you see this. The most meaningful line is the last line in your video on perfectionism. About how of you never try you'll deprive the world of a lot. Makes me cry every time.
To deal with the cat liter more than once a week. I'm going to try Wednesday mornings before work. I want this to be my routine because I love my cats dearly and know they deserve a bathroom that is cleaned more than once a week.
This is sooooo good! I have a (huge) problem with decluttering the house. If I divide this in a few routines with three tasks, eventually I am able to master this. I see the light!!! (again). Making your bed MUST be done everyday. And if 'I feel like it' I can make a routine like: 1. Fill dishwasher, 2. Declutter kitchen counters, 3. Take out trash.
So every time I fill the dishwasher, I automatically do 3 things.
I can't declutter the whole kitchen of course, but after a few times doing this routine it is done.
Very hopeful. Thanks!
Growing up when I did, you were labeled “that kid”. Graduating High School was a challenge and finishing college was ......... fortunately, I married a woman who was very supportive and I was diagnosed in my mid 20’s. Once medicated, I finished school and thrived. Now, an Assistant Principal, I try and help students and parents understand and work together. I might not have had friends growing up and been the “black sheep” of my family, I would not change a thing because it made me who I am now. I have 3 boys and 2 are also diagnosed.
All your videos are amazing and are helping me get back the 45 years I lost before diagnosis in 9/17, but this video is especially AWESOME and well timed!! That little character is so me!
Been wondering my whole life why I just can't be on time, meet a deadline, stay with any one thing, procrastinate on everything except things I find exciting, buried in clutter, why I go into a room to get a paper clip and reemerge 2 hours later having reorganized a bookshelf in the room but without the paper clip, take 6 hours to complete a 1 hour online course, have 25 tabs open on 3 different browsers, etc!
One thing I just found which is SAVING my life is Echo Dot! Alexa reminds me all day to do the things I need to but never get around to. It automatically make my brain shift from LATER/NOT NOW mode into NOW mode. Anyone else had success using this?
I was diagnosed with adhd, but always ignored it cause I never believed it was a problem. Until recently when I stumbled on to your ted talks video, that I realised how I face these issues daily and have ignored them and how it a big issue in my life. Thank you for enlightening me as well as teaching me how to be a better person, I hope to take something away from these videos, have got myself a journey, I've started planning my day, setting up a routine to ensure I get through it more efficiently.
Crying because I have never watched a more helpful video
The way you used dominos to visual rep this is awesome! I decided ages ago that I wasn’t going to have New Years resolutions but instead a New Year’s Day resolution. One. One resolution that was going to be fun and exciting for the first day of 2018 and that was to go to the movies and see Star Wars. Happy New Years from Australia!
Ooh, that's a great idea!
You totally need a name the purple shoed Google eyed finger puppet contest!
Oooo YES!!!
good job tom! theres a compitition on the next vedio!
I always make the bed when I wake up. It helps a lot because I don't even think when doing it and when I remember about something I have to do later, I'm thinking "thank the gods the bed is already organized" instead of "Oh gosh, I have to organize the bed first".
Amazing. I cackled when the finger person ran away to look at someone else’s dominos.
Also, great ideas. Thank you. I’m making an appointment with my doctor (it’s in my new bullet journal) as soon as they reopen for the new year to discuss the possibility of me having ADHD. It was your videos that made me realize how much an ADHD brain sounds exactly like my brain. So thanks for that too!
Love this video! The analogy works really well, and I loved your little finger people. I'm going to try and get a routine going. I'm looking forward to the next video!
very creative video !
I don't have ADHD but I find your videos interesting!
Waiting for your next video about when major changes happens , just survived (unfortunate) major life changes and picking up the pieces :)
Stay creating :)
happy new year to you and Edward, have a good one.
This is the most awesome thing I've ever seen on the internet. How have I never had a therapist tell me this? I must have watched this video 15 times by now. The only thing missing is you don't say how long you should give yourself before adding a 2nd habit
Can’t wait for next episode!
Yup, happy new year everyone
This is brilliant! How did I not think of this before?
Every time I hear, "Hello, Brains," I can't help but be cheery. Thanks for making me feel cheery about my ADHD!
I was actually thinking about asking you to make a video about new year resolution last night haha. This is awesome :)
My therapist is always adamant about establishing routines, but never really told me why except to help me get better. Naturally I...wasn't really interested. NOW THOUGH with the explanation it seems way better a thing than I thought it was before! Thanks so much!!
Happy new year
I'm super looking forward to next week's episode!
Happy new year!!!!!!!!
THIS IS GENIUS THANK YOU
Your video helps me a lot. I have to try this. But I have so difficult to get boring stuff done.
I watched it again and I realized that I have been doing this without having a name for it. I have changed many things this last two years and it's like this I have been doing it. Yeah! Probably going to be easier when I know what I am doing. Thanks for the your awesome help.
Why do routines exhaust me? I tried doing a morning routine, using the Brili app to make sure I do everything, brush teeth, take meds, wash my face, change my underwear, put my cereal bowl in the dishwasher, etc….nothing crazy. But then trying to do it the next day, or trying to also do a bedtime routine is just too much. I feel like I’m never going to be a functional adult
I can't THANK YOU enough for this past year. YOU ARE APPRECIATED!
Happy New year from Canada. The quality and wisdom in this video us truly awesome. Take a bow both of you. Thanks
This is so perfect for me right now. So I passed the CPA exam which is amazing but not so much. For the past 3 years my life has been studying. Now that I am not studying I am so lost! I have all these things I want to do and seemingly so much time to do them but after work it just all the dominoes just fall on my head and I can’t even get to bed on time.
Looking forward to the next video!
Much love to you! You are becoming one of my favorite rewarding systems!
I love how creative you got with this video :D and thanks for the links in the description!
This has always been one of my favorite videos of yours. Thank you so much for making it!!!
I've watched all your videos already, but recently came by someone on reddit that posted a link to one of your videos. I find joy in our community & mostly in your videos, thank you❤
Dig! Keep it up, you rock. Oh yep, happy new year!
thanks for teaching me how to kind of gamify habit making
This may be the most epic video you have created, and I love most of them! Woooah, thank you endlessly!
I really appreciate the extra effort put into this video. It turned out great! :)
6 months later, this video is STILL helping me!
The quality is going up and up! Fantastic job!
This turned out amazing!!!
Happy new year! Great video, looking forward to next week's :)
Happy new year! Your videos always pop up when I need them most. Thank you so much as always for your hard work
You're so adorable, thank you for the video. I was just thinking about making a daily routine list, I use one at work for my job. Happy New Year!
Love the visuals in this one! As well as the helpful advice of course. Thank you and happy new year :)
You always find a way to keep me entertained. Thanks.
Thank you Jessica!
This is the topic I had been waiting for so long for you to cover, because i knew you would do it better than anyone. You go my wonderwoman!!!
This was very encouraging. Thank you.
You are so great!! Happy New Year💓
Congradulations on 2 years and the big 100,000 subscribers. Your almost half-way to another 100,000. Keep up the great work Jessica. LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!!!
You're are a life savior thank you so much
THANK YOU!!!!! I'm SOOO looking forward to your next vid!
This is one of your best videos yet! Loved the finger people!
I bought some of your merch and am happy to be part of the trib
This is an extra great video! Good work, team!
Thank you, this was so useful and great fun x
Perfect. Needed this today. Thank you!
I LOOOVVVVEEEE THIS VIDEO. It makes so much sense. seriously Thank you
Happy new year!!!:)
Wish all adhder having a breakthrough this year!
Love from South Africa!
Happy New Year. Loved the video made me smile.