I think we are overdue for a Q+A, how about you?
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
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Hi Michel! I was just listening to a podcast with Marcus Butler (an OG youtuber) and his ex girlfriend Stefanie Giesinger. They were talking about how in retrospect they regret doing a podcast/other business ventures together and how mixing work with their relationship was unhealthy. Might be a good listen if you are still thinking about doing a podcast with Jordy. Just from my POV, I think your gut feeling is correct to keep your relationship more private and not blur the lines of work and quality time.
Sweet thank you for the tip, I’ll look into it friend!🫶🏼
I just watched that podcast a couple of days ago and there was so much valuable insight that they gave about relationships in general. So glad they shared!
Another option might be to start a podcast and maybe have Jord make a few guest appearances. I'm doing something similar with my husband, and I think it takes a lot of pressure off the podcast being entirely relationship based.
Setting boundaries might be a good way to start and if/when you both are more comfortable you can re-evaluate and re-establish the boundaries. You don't have to share too much of anything, especially right out the gate. ❤
No. Keep your relationship private. There is absolutely no upside to going social with what’s closest to your heart. Don’t do it.
I would hold off on the podcast for now, and I would continue keeping more of your lives private. I feel like a podcast will only open you both to more criticism and while he may say he’s unbothered by people’s opinions, it could get out of hand quickly. It’s up to both of you to protect what you have built with one another, and the image you create of the other person by what you share.
I love how much you love Jordy and how much he loves you! I love how he shows you his love thru service. It’s not cheesy or cringy to hear you express how you feel about your husband. It’s really sweet and refreshing. 😊
It just makes me so happy!
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Yes!! And I love seeing you so happy that you are glowing!!!💖💖💖
Wowowow I am SOBBING hearing you gush about your marriage and Jordy, and knowing your second chance has brought you SO much joy and peace!! Loved this Q&A girl, it was so special
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For the love of God YES WE WANT TO SEE THE WEDDING VIDEO BC WE LOVE SEEING HAPPY, SAFE, LOVED, and VALUED MICHEL (and Jordy - ofc). But also, protect your relationships, you know this, they are everything. We are so so thankful for all you DO CHOOSE to share ❤
Im so happy that you’re are so happy and safe in your new marriage 🥹❤️ goals 🙌🏽
Thank you sweet friend!!🤍
I love that you shared that! I’m obsessed with my husband too. People acted like that was unhealthy when we first got married but I stayed the course. Still obsessed 10 years later. We giggle every day. He’s my favorite. Go you!
Let’s fill the comment section with more positivity ❤ I’ve been absolutely loving your videos lately! Home decor and style and vlogs and your authenticity keeps me coming back. But I would love if you did a video on your style audit! I also consider my style feminine/Parisian but I’ve modified it to be more utilitarian and casual because I live in Washington State. I’m also going through weight fluctuations (yay getting older) so it would be great to get some tips for that. Keep it up 👍🏼
Awee you are so so sweet!! Oo I will keep in mind sweet friend🤍🤍🤍
I’m also a silent viewer and have been watching you for about 6 years- which is kinda crazy! But I love watching your videos and love seeing your life through vlogs! 🫶🏻 from Charleston, SC
Awee thank you for being here sweet friend!! It truly means so much to me sweet friend🤍🤍
I LOVE how you keep your relationship private, you're so right about keeping some things sacred, in the generation where everyone over shares everything, it's nice to keep some things to yourself ❤️❤️
Here to fill the comments section with positive vibes 🎉❤ lots of love to you and husband
Aweee🥹🫶🏼🤍
The jacket is everything 💚
I was thinking the same thing. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE that jacket!!!!💚💚💚💚💚
I think you are so strong and wonderful for focusing on the good and not letting the negative comments get to you. People that are mean and like to bring others down might seem louder at times but there are so many more that are kind and lovely. Love your content and wish you lots of happiness 😊
Thank you for these sweet words sweet friend!! 🤍🤍
I am really glad you did a Q&A video. Lately I’ve not been able to relate to your content - I don’t have a house, I don’t get new clothes as often and my food budget is a lot lower. So to see a genuine sit down video of just what’s going on in your life and what your perspectives has been refreshing.
Thank you for sharing how Jordy is modeling healthy relationship practices, boundaries, etc. It honestly brought me to tears and is healing ME too! Because it’s renewing my hope in love and healing. Thank YOU for being open to love and vulnerable.
Side note…. Is the Olive Tree blocking the door? 😅
Aawwww Michel!! How SWEET are you describing Jordy! ❤️
I am truly truly so happy for you. I have been a subscriber for most of your RUclips life. 😅 again I feel like a mama out here watching you and it makes me mad when people are mean to you😂 but anyway, I saw the previous marriage. Something was not right. It makes my heart so happy that you found Jordy!! You deserve the world and so does he.
🥹🥹this truly means so much to me sweet friend! Thank you for being here🤍🤍
More Q&As please, they're so fun
Awee yay thank you Jackson!!🫶🏼🤍
I’m so thankful that you and Jordy found each other and said yes to life together!! I love you Michel and all you bring to the internet world - so much light, depth, authenticity, joy and hope. It’s so fun to get to watch you grow and evolve!
I definitely tend to be a silent watcher and have followed for years now, and have really enjoyed watching your story unfold through the very best and very worst of times. I have noticed you have mentioned countless times now about having a "redemption marriage" and, in this video, a "second chance" at having a loving husband, as if you did something wrong in your last marriage, or as if leaving for your own physical and emotional safety somehow made you a bad person, or less of a Christian, and therefore undeserving of a healthy, loving marriage. It essentially became one of the themes of your wedding, and was mentioned heavily in the planning and even speeches, etc. during the wedding. Going along with what you mentioned in this video about how Jordy has helped you recognize that there are many things that you have been conditioned to have self-limiting beliefs towards, I feel like the "redemption marriage" and finding it unimaginable that you would get the "second chance" you got with Jordy is another one of those examples of areas where you seem to have this narrative in your head, or arc in the portrayal of your life and marriage through the channel, that you needed to be redeemed , or that you are "lucky" to have found someone like Jordy, and that he is this hero for having still wanted to marry you, and to treat you as well as he does. While your marriage seems happier and healthier, and I am so happy for that for you, this is simply what a marriage is supposed to look like. You don't deserve any less for any reason at all. And while I am so glad to continue to be able to watch your recovery from what you endured unfold, and continue to be gifted the opportunity to follow along, I think that, like you mentioned about not wanting to send your viewers a dangerous message with what you do in the kitchen, you should take some time to ask yourself about the message you're sending about abusive relationships, escaping them, and whether or not happiness and healthy dynamics are a matter of "luck", or if they are simply normal and deserved, full stop. You deserve to be loved, to feel safe, and to be cherished, honored, and adored, and that is what is normal in a healthy marriage. Jordy is great, but does nothing more than treat you like a loving husband should. I can't tell if this is how you genuinely feel, or if it is a narrative that you're continuously leaning into for the sake of the channel, or maybe even both, but it just feels like either you really need to take more time to reflect on that in order to reset your ideals about healthy love and marriage, or start to redirect the narrative towards moving forward from everything being centered on how lucky you are to be where you're at, when the reality is that this is not a story, and you're not characters or archetypes, but actual humans experiencing things we all do. With that being said, I think that while a podcast could potentially be a lucrative endeavor, it will continue to require the shaping of this pseudo-fairytale narrative, especially on your part, as you have essentially cast yourself as a damsel in distress, whereas Jordy gets to be this cool, open-minded, easy-going saviour who loves you in spite of your "past". It would also open your relationship to an unhealthy level of criticism, when your marriage and life are already opened to an unhealthy and unusual level of criticism and interpretation. Marriage is already such hard work, as it should be, and frankly, neither of you has had a healthy marriage long enough to really reflect on it yet in a way that is not impacted by a previous unhealthy marriage, or simply being new to it. I think you should just enjoy your marriage for now, and maybe revisit the podcast idea when it is no longer new, and you are admittedly and understandably still not 100% healed from the trauma you experienced previously. If Jordy is the one who truly craves doing a podcast, he should do one solo. Maybe about the music industry, or even about marriage from his own perspective, or surfing, or home ownership, or literally anything he wants, but it doesn't seem healthy in my opinion to force yourself to open up even further than you already do currently, or to put your marriage in that vulnerable a position when it is brand new and you are so happy in it, and experiencing normal marriage for the first time. I think you should treasure what privacy you are able to have, and focus on yourself before you have children and that becomes the focus of your life.
I really enjoy your Q&A's. Your really good at articulating your thoughts. You have been so blessed with an amazing husband and he is also blessed to have you!
Awee thank you so much Kelly!!🤍
Michel, you look especially pretty and put together today. I’m so happy to see you incorporating more color in both your home and your clothing. I first noticed it when you got the green chairs in Austin. Perhaps your happy relationship with Jordy is allowing you to enjoy having more color in your life. Neutrals still look great on you, but the colorful touches keep you from fading (hiding) in the background. I have noticed you seem to feel more comfortable with green than other colors, and I think your color sense will continue to evolve as you grow and bloom with Jordy by your side. Is use of green coming from your appreciation of using fresh flowers in your home? I know you have a great sense of mixing color because I see it in your food platings. You should use those plating skills as inspiration for adding other colors in the future. If you do, I’m here for it! ❤️
My husband sometimes watches your videos with me and he has made multiple comments how you seem so authentic online as well as how you light up whenever you’re with Jordy! You are a beautiful couple, and I’m so glad you found someone who is perfect for you in every way! Love your videos, always ♥️
Absolutely yes on the full wedding video! Love everything you do Michel…..you are always on top of my to watch list.
I am so happy for you and Jordy! I have complete respect for you sharing what you are comfortable with and being protective of your husband/family. Also love the jacket and can’t wait to see where your culinary education journey leads.
I think this has been my fav Q&A video of you so far as you seem so authentic and raw 🥰 all the best for you
Hello from a silent viewer who loves your videos. I often play them when I need to relax or if I’m feeling a bit lonely. You truly feel like a friend I check in on and your videos often remind me that things will get better and there is a lot of positivity out there. Especially with so many negative things going on in the world, coming here is a nice break ❤
Oh Michel, have paused the vlog here to say how lovely Jordy is looking after you and being such a good husband! God bless you both! ❤ Don't let negative people get you down - maybe they are jealous or just can't cope with someone having a lovely life...
Thank you for these sweet words friend! He is truly amazing🤍🤍
Thank you so much for opening up how you actually feel 🫶🏼 I know it really hard at times, as it is for just sharing thoughts and feeling and seeing how they may be perceived online, but I like that you pointed out how confident you are in person! 💛 made me realize some things 💫 I’m so happy for you finding real love & happiness with your husband & I love that he recognizes you & validates you for how you are feeling! 💛
I am SO hear for the continuous evolution of Michel 💗 I've been watching since the days of subscription boxes (which I LOVED) and I continue to love everything you choose to share / allow this channel to evolve into. Re: weight fluctuation - this happened when I went of birth control the first time around (and also when I was healing my relationship with food and focussing on nourishing my body) and is totally normal. I'd say keep the clothes for AT LEAST 6 months (or longer - esp the items you really LOVE), but definitely get a couple things that feel 100% good right now!
Totally with you on the texting thing! It’s a lot of work! Good for quick updates but actually catching up is so much easier on a phone call ❤
You and Jordy are a literal match made in heaven. It sounds like Jordy is so emotionally mature. So happy you two found each other!
You are so good at talking with us! I’m always amazed at how easy you make it seem!
Hi Michel! I totally resonate with the sneaky baggage from toxic relationships. I was also in a very unhealthy relationship from 19 to 25 and am now married to the most wonderful, kind, supportive man. I'm the same in that I don't actively think about my old relationship often but have some ongoing, rooted beliefs and self esteem issues. I often find myself worried about people being mad at me, worry about burdening other people with my presence, feelings of guilt about "inflicting" myself on other people. I'm working on changing these internal dialogues about myself. I'm grateful that you shared your experience about your first marriage - I see you as fault-free and so it gives me permission to be kinder to myself about my role in my first relationship. ❤
Soooo happy this wonderful man is in your life as a forever partner. He just appears to be someone who one would treasure as a best friend. He’s so complimentary he makes me gush when praising your home DIY’s. You did good girl! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Michel, it's been such a blessing to see how much love there is in your life! It's so evident how much you and Jordy love one another. All the best! ❤
Michel!! this is so so beautiful. Love really changes us. My husband redefines every day what it means to be completely accepted and championed. I’m so grateful to see more of that in the world and in your life!!
Awee yay I love that for you sweet friend🤍🤍
So glad you and Jordy found each other. Two sweet caring souls. So happy for you. Love your videos and vlogs and would love to see you and Jordy do a podcast.
Yes Michel, I would love to see your full wedding video! 😊🫶🏻
Yes!! Full wedding video!! 🩷🩷
I just love all of your answers. You're so honest & relatable. I can sense since you've been married, a warm and sweetness about you and Jordy that I adore. I look forward to everything! Love watching each and every video you put out.😊
Congratulations! You deserve all the best! I am so happy for both you and Jordi.
Your maturity is really inspiring and relatable for me as I also work on things with my counsellor too. One of my faves to get to watch 3x a week! Keep it up.
my heart like jumps up with happiness hearing about you & your love & your life with your husband. how happy and precious. it sure is a hard world out there, what a BLESSING to have LOVE.😁😁😁
So sweet to hear about you and Jordy! I’d selfishly love a podcast, but do what’s best for you guys! Keep up the great work ❤
Here to add to the positive comments vibes!
Hi Michel! I love watching your videos! I can definitely see how much happiness Jordy has brought to your online presence, so I can only imagine how much joy and peace he has brought to your life off camera! I’m so glad you have found an amazing partner, and it’s way more than okay to be obsessed with him.
Thanks for sharing your experiences and keep living your best life!
P.S. I bought tickets to see Jordy in Portland with my husband and I’m super excited to see him perform! 😁
Positive silent viewer here. Been following you since 2020 in your wedding planning days when I was planning my own wedding. I've also been a fan of Jordy since "Love and War in your Twenties" popped up on my Spotify probably around 2020 as well. It is so wonderful to see you as happy as you deserve to be!
The first video I saw of you was you saying you got divorced! It’s amazing to see your story over time go from that to this!
I really like how you resonate about relationships and mental health and such, thank you for sharing your thoughts on those topics! :)
Yes, I definitely want to share in the joy of watching your full wedding video!!!
As always i truly enjoy watching ur videos michel!
This made my heart so happy for you (and Jordy)! It’s so special to experience this type of love and relationship! ❤
I am SO HAPPY for you and to hear how special your love and life with Jordy is. It makes ME tear up. I would love to hear a podcast from you two as well if it’s in the cards! ❤❤
I love your smile when you talk about being obsessed with Jordy. So, so sweet and so happy to continue seeing you happy. Also, HELL YES to the full wedding film, for sure. Allllllso, while i understand why hate online makes you feel insecure, you deserve to tap into the confidence that you feel in real life in those moments. You are so genuinely sweet, honest, caring, talented, smart, gorgeous, loyal, and you have incredibly strong work ethic and your ability to connect to people is incredible, even though a screen. You're allowed to feel that you're awesome regardless of what anyone says. ❤ Also, can't wait for some baby Searcys and you're right - Jordy will be an incredible dad and you will be an incredible mom. Also, (how many times can I say also) I would love to watch a Michel and Jord podcast if that becomes something you are comfortable with. I adore you. I'm glad you're here on this little corner of the internet.
I'm crying listening to you talk about Jordy. Ughhhh YOU DESERVE!
Would love to see the full wedding video!!! Love watching you and cheering you on!! Also love you and Jordy together!! 😍❤️
A good relationship is give and take….but the giving, it should feel so good to each of you❤️❤️. I love y’all together.
Blessings to you and Jordy. Share what you feel safe sharing and protect what you need protect. Not everything is our "business". There are many viewers who appreciate what you share and will continue to do so. You produce lovely videos. 😊
Hi Michel! Thank you so much for being so honest and vulnerable! Your journey and story is so similar to mine and it is therapeutic to listen to you! Thank you for sharing your ❤️
I love your content so much and am so happy to hear how happy you are with Jordy! I agree with wanting to keep your marriage sacred and continue holding some things just for you and him. If you don't feel comfortable with the idea of a podcast, definitely never feel pressured too. We as your audience love what we have right now 🧡🧡🧡
Oh, Michel, I am so happy that you have found the perfect person in this world that you love and adore and that loves and adores you exactly the way you deserve!
So excited for a podcast if you choose to do it!! I’m so happy you’re happy❤
Michel, what you said in the beginning about you and Jordy and marriage, is how I feel about my husband now. I am safe, I am loved, I don’t live in fear, the love is not based on certain conditions. How fortunate we both are, to have found that the 2nd time around.
Good luck with school, and the guest house, all will workout as it should. Would love to see the wedding video, but would totally understand if you would want to keep it private.
Have a great week, hug Max for me.
Awe this is so sweet Lea!! I am so happy for you sweet friend!🤍🤍 thank you🫶🏼
Love your videos. We have layers that surround us in the essence of our lives. We are always evolving, shifting, glowing, gliding, waltzing around/in and out of living. I believe it is really important to keep pieces of you, loved ones, just for yourself. I do read the comments, when I come across one that has a tone that does not vibe with me, I pause, say a little prayer and skip over it. I do not let those words enter my thoughts so that they will not linger. Blessings
I love your videos so much, Michel. You are so sweet and genuine and i feel like we are friends 😂 your voice is so calming and i am so productive when i have your videos playing! So thank you!!
As I’m currently walking through a divorce, in the worst time of my life, it brings me joy to see you get a second chance at love. Makes me think there’s hope for me, too. ❤️🩹🩷 thank you for sharing your heart, Michel!
Thanks so much Michel for sharing about your beautiful marriage. It isn't annoying at all and I am beyond happy for you and Jordy 🌟
I *love* how happy you are ❤ hooray to being obsessed with your husband! I think the podcast idea sounds great, I’d definitely listen to it (especially with the little bits of Jordy wisdom already that I’ve heard here and there) but it’s totally understandable if you feel it may be opening up your marriage a bit too much. Follow your gut!
Michel I have been following your channel for years and have never commented but just wanted to say I love your content and look forward to your videos every week! 💛
Hey you’re doing great! Thanks for sharing your life!
Really enjoy your content and seeing you speak about your husband! It makes me giddy.
7:00 Love your love and so excited that you found your person! I hope you never feel like you can’t share that part of you online (within your boundaries, obviously). Congrats again! 💕🎉
I always enjoy your videos!! thank you for being so honest and so authentic! you are one of my favorite RUclipsrs! so glad I found your channel! you are so amazing!! have an amazing rest of the day💗💗
Awee this is so sweet thank you Camryn!🤍🤍
I always enjoy your content. I think some people are very judgmental of your life! I appreciate that you share, and it’s really sad when I feel you are being attacked! You continue to be the beautiful soul you are and live your life to the fullest!!
Awee thank you sweet Bree!!🤍🤍Thank you for being a joy here🫶🏼
I have a huge smile on my face hearing you rave about Jordy! Sooooo happy for you! 🤩
I'm so happy that you are happy, Michel! Thank you for ask you do share and your true online friends are badly if YOU are happy!!
This was so nice visiting with you, Michel! I love your jacket you were wearing, so pretty. I love your sweet spirit and joyful personality, that’s why I like watching your videos.
I really enjoy the fact that your honest about your finances especially budgeting. A lot of people, including myself, are budgeting now because of the economy and I appreciate that you show that you and Jordy are doing the same. Very real.
Hi Michel, it would be a real blessing to see your full length wedding video. I love watching your videos and you are a true blessing to me.❤
You won the lottery in love! ❤️
Thank youuu🤍🤍
Hi Michel! I just watched your video and yes, I would like to see the entire wedding video! Also want to say how happy I am for you and Jordy, God has truly blessed you and I love watching you grow. Love you!
Omg I’m going to cry ❤❤ that is so beautiful the love you found 🥰🥰 im so happy you found the love you deserve
Thank you for sharing your life with us I know you have been on a journey and I am so happy to see your life change for the better and sometimes we don’t understand but God does and he knew what you and your husband needed bless your marriage😊
I love hearing you gush over Jordy 🥹 may your love be this pure forever 🤍
So freaking happy for you!!!!!
So wonderful to hear all the good things about Jordy and your marriage.May God bless your marriage more and more.Love from South Africa❤
love your videos so much, they always make me smile 😊
I'm right here getting emotional with you! Love how Jordy and you have found each other ❤
Love that verse. What a beautiful reminder 🥹🥰
I'm a silent, regular viewer (which is bad really because as a creator, I know how much comments make a difference).
I'm so glad I found your channel and I love your videos - thank you for providing a calm, cosy place to come and relax x
Really enjoyed this and hearing all the updates. Have a great day!
Hi, Michel! Happy Monday and Happy belated Mother's Day!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙😙🙏🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖😊🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍
You're giving me happy tears!
Aweee🥹🫶🏼🤍
Hey! I've been watching your videos for a long time and they're definitely one of my favorite, therapeutic, feel-good content 💜 Just want you to know that your reach and positivity goes beyond borders, for context, I watch from India and despite the cultural differences, I can relate to you a lot and genuinely feel like I'm listening to one of my best friends watching you! Keep going Michel you're loved globally!
Awwwwww....love this for you! 💕💕💕
You and Jordy are both so lucky, I’m really happy for you🥹
THANK YOU for respecting and protecting your future children by guarding their privacy!
Awwwww, you tearing up when taking about Jordy was so sweet. It made me almost cry too. Happy for you both!
to habitual behavior from unhealthy relationships: yesss, i’ve been meditating on this idea of the spiritual aspect having the practical implications - like having all these ‘what-ifs’ you think through before making a decision and that being based from a spirit of fear. some food for thought and prayer💛
Yes full wedding film!❤️
One of the silent people here just wanting to hype you up! I love watching all of your videos and have done so for years ❤
You are such a great person and you and Jordy are adorable together 🥰😊 Thank you for sharing your life ~ I love your channel
Love your content and appreciate the hard work you put into it.