I lost my best friend to depression & suicide
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2024
- On Friday the 13th, heaven gained an angel. September is Suicide Prevention month, it is a difficult topic for me to open up about, but I strongly believe that my voice will make an impact, no matter how small it might be. I'm sure Hyerin will be proud of me for doing so as well.
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Hello Yvette Tan. I am a person from Switzerland who is battling severe mental health problems. I really enjoy your videos about this country, but I honestly never excepted such a sad and traumatic experience from you. I have watched it to the end and I just wanna say how much it means to me. Please know you tried your best to help and you truly are a strong person. Rest in Peace Hui Lin, dealing with mental health struggles is truly painful. ❤🕊
Likewise, I want to say to you that regardless of how u think u're doing, u're enough, u're always enough.
I don’t want to die bc I don’t want to leave my loved ones in a world of pain behind. But I also don’t want to be here anymore.
what you do not want is the pain that giving to you. You want to live. Can share your pain to loved ones and may be can seek for professional help
@@sharonwong9192 already got scolded from some friends bc according to them I live a better life than them…
I might leave this earth next winter
@@BEACHDUDE71
Oh you planning to go to another planet or somewhere?
Perhaps you should wait for some time because if you want to go to outer space, usually it costs billions of dollers at the moment.
So I recommend waiting for some years until it is affordable for people like us to travel to outer space. I'll be with you then :)
@@slackers449 or another dimension lol
A lot of depression is caused by a combination of negative events. It's sad now that society makes so many people don't matter and don't have a future. As a friend there is only so much you can do but try your best.
I hope the guilt you feel goes away sometime. I know your friend wouldnt want you to feel that way. You're an amazing friend!!! One of the hardest things with depression is the isolation. For me its self inflicted. You dont want to be around anyone. Thank you for sharing your story.
I might leave this earth next winter
@@BEACHDUDE71before you decide to leave, learn about Islam even if u don’t want to, I know how it feels to feel just absolutely empty and have no drive to live however I must admit I’ve never decided to commit tho. Nothing helped me like Islam and I feel the need to tell you about it, when you find your purpose in life it just makes everything more chill and calm and life isn’t confusing anymore. Hope it gets better ❤!
"i might have been able to save her from the game but, i would not be able to save her in real life 6 years later." wow. that hit me as someone who can relate to this video
Hi Yvette,
Thank you for spreading awareness, and I'm sorry for your lost.
I empathize with your story, a lot, however I am on the other side of your story, and how they act and feel is as you had tried to explain, the box and ball story.
Hmm idrk what else to say, but thank you for being you, you're a very special person, very empathetic, and I hope one day you will be able to spread the awareness and break the stigma.
You are very kind to tell us your story you are brave, loved and we love you!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for being able to understand from our pov. ❤️
I have bipolar 1 and suicidal ideations. Living life with this is hell on earth and suicide seems like ending this hell and an alternative to suffering in so much pain. Mental illness took away my career, friends, financial security... and i dont wish it upon anyone. But i wish everyone to understand how immensely tough it is even if we have support from loved ones. But staying alive bc i dont want to pass on the pain to others.
thank you for being strong
If things gets too difficult, please try to talk it out to someone that you trust & to always believe You Matter❤
If you find it challenging to talk to someone as you didn’t want to cause others’ pain, maybe you could try out journaling, write them out & to be aware of your own thoughts & feelings is a great start for healing as it works for me, so please find what works best for you alright? Oftentimes, the real problem is not the matter itself but to feel understood & accepted during hard times is what matters most❤ Seeking help is a big step forward of You Got Your Back, hope you get better soon, sending you ❤
wow i relate so badly
esp the loss of friends part
thankfully she still had a friend in you
I totally felt your pain 😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you for your sharing, stay strong! Sending love❤
Hi Yvette everything you said really hit the nail on the head. Thank you, your video did help me in my healing journey.
I lost my cousin less than a year ago from depression and suicide. I was the first person to find her body and I went through the exact same spiral as you, She was only 23. I was just laying in bed thinking about her last night, unable to sleep and your video appeared on my recommended today. Thankfully I had lots of support from my family and friends during the grief and healing period for the months after her death. I know exactly how you feel and the words of advice that you gave are exactly what I want people to know too. I wish that the future would be a more accepting place and lesser people will go through the pain and helplessness that Hyerin and my cousin went through ❤
What do you mean she was only 23, why does people dying at a young age matter I don't get it, I'm the same age and I'm tired of hearing I have a long life ahead of me like it doesn't matter you don't know what people have ahead of them, life is not some fairy tale and I don't believe that it's precious and you should live the best of it because it all goes away we all die.
It's a mystery to me how some people can seemingly have everything in their lives- love, friends, looks, intelligence and take their own lives, and others may have a very difficult life with deprivation, toxic families, poverty, war and famine and still continue living. It just goes to show that circumstances are not always an indication of how well a person is doing emotionally. I am so sorry for your loss, and I think it's great that you are raising awareness on this issue and making your friend proud. 🧡
PS - you seem like the kind of friend that everyone would want in their life. You were so concerned for your friend and even took her to Korea to try to make her happy. You are such a considerate human being.
I’m so sorry. I truly can’t imagine the pain and you’re so strong for bearing it, and you’re brave for sharing. Even though it’s such a hard thing to talk about, you still have such a warm and welcoming presence. I wish nothing but healing and happiness for you. I’m suicidal and I needed to hear someone’s voice and you helped a lot. It’s not your fault that she’s gone, sometimes the pain is so great that nothing and nobody makes you want to stay. Be safe and take care of yourself ❤
Wow, this made me cry :( I’m so sorry this happened, that you all had to go through this. Sending my strength and love ❤️
Life is hard . Like I am fed up . I understand how it feels.
Thank you for the story and for your message.. I suffer from dwpression since almost 20 years now. and its important to tell stories and remind people to check after another
God bless you and forever stay strong always, you are brave to share your personal experience of grief and loss so openly and tenderly. I hope it does more than simply raising awareness to the importance of mental health and seeking professional help and support.
I cried after yr video, i somehw understand hw she feel.. mean manager etc. sometimes ppl dun think whether the other parties can accept yr words etc. Be strong, if she still slive, she will want u to be happy too.
You are a very strong person, and I wanted to thank you for sharing your story. You brought tears to my eyes, and I hope you have an amazing life out there.
OMG!!! Sorry about loss of your beat friend 😢
You're always very kind to tell your story! You're so brave & tough you ever be 🔥🔥 Stay strong & keep praying for your friend so that she will sees you everything while in heaven 🤍🤍🤍
Dont worry! You're not alone! We're always here for you 👍🥰❤️
That sucks. It's a very heavy thing to deal with depression. It doesn't go away fully ever. You learn to live with it but sometimes it just becomes too heavy.
It is heavy for any one suffering from depression and for their loved one.
Exactly, it's always there...
May her soul Rest In Peace.
We live in a sick society, not everyone is able to fight but just never give up and believe in yourself
I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. Thank you for sharing your story
Merci Yvette pour ton message. Aussi longtemps qu'une seule personne aussi respectable que toi marchera sur cette planète l'honneur des humains sera sauf.
Merci Yvette d'avoir partagé ton expérience!
Thanks Yvette. I didn’t lose a loved one from suicide but I lost someone whom I love not too long ago. Your description on how grief hits from 22:00 is exactly how I feel now.
Thanks for sharing and raising awareness of mental health issues.
you did what you could possibly to. dont blame yourself. im sure your friend is now in a happier place. be happy that she is free from the mental and physical pain. Grief is the price we pay for love.
I understand the suffering of a depressed person, cause my sister committed suicide 12 years ago. Now, I'm just waiting to solve some things in my pathetic life to do the same.
As you said it very good, the pain will just jump on the loved ones when someone comit suicide. A big problem is, that a lot of people with depression wont even admit they have depression and wont search for help. But I hope you can find peace and happiness in Switzerland ❤❤❤
Thank you for your in depth sharing of your experience. Reminded me of a situation my daughter encounter.
One night my daughter suddenly came to me crying and asking for help. I was shocked and asked her what had happened and it took her a while to gather herself before she can speak. Apparently while she was checking on her whatsapp updates, she saw a video posted by 1 of her previous school class mate performing self harm on her arm. My daughter was at a lost of what to do cos she is very scared and worried for that friend.
I told her to show me the video and I could see her friend taking a pen knife and slicing through her arm. It was a painful sight to see. I calmed down my daughter and told her I will contact her friend's school and alert them about it. This process was stressful as my daughter do not know which school this friend has went. My daughter had to went through her friend's social media profiles and she can only make a wild guess. I told her I will contact the school and check if her friend studies there. If she does not, we will contact her previous school form teacher for help.
Luckily, the wild guess was correct. Her friend was indeed a student of that school and the school reverted that they will look into it. A few days later I asked for any update because that friend was uploading more self harm videos and based on the response I received, it did not feel like the school was doing much. I was kind of pissed and decided to look for my MP for help. I shared with him the details, including the videos and he said he will keep in touch with the school.
Some time later, my daughter get to chat with her friend and was told that the school sent her for counseling but it did not help. She is attending another counseling and it seems a little better. From the conversation, my daughter gathered that the friend's parents were not taking her depression and self harm episodes seriously. It is kind of sad to hear so your advice in the video resonates.
It has been a while and I wonder how is her friend doing now. Tonight I shall check with my daughter.
Thank you very much for your sharing. Especially the portion about the ball inside the box with a pain button.
Sososo sorry for you and for her families . I wish I could give you a warm hug . This kind of incidents change you permanently. I wish you the very best 😢
Hi!
I love your content and your videos promoting Switzerland! I live in Geneva as well.
This video was really inspiring and I am so sorry to hear about best friend and your grief going through this. Thank you for sharing your video and how you are managing the situation. I think this is so important to share.
Looking forward for your future videos!
You’re such a good friend. Depression is not easy.
I feel the same way you do i lost my best friend but the worst thing is she is still alive but she has a lot going on in her life because she told me i still worry everyday about her shes my world i love her to death😢😢😭😭🥰🥰❤️❤️
Hear your story, I'd remember the time I'm being diagnosed for depression, thanks for my Chinese lady boss who care and sponsor for my medical attention.. ❤
Now I'm recover and stable..
Life not just about having work problem and family problem..sometime we need time to appreciate ourself..
Enjoy..🎉
Thanks for sharing. I think it help me to notice these sign better.
Even if you could save her from death that night, you couldnt save her from suffering. She is free from pain now. Pls dont blame yourself for her death.
Thks for sharing your story. My sister-in-law succumbed to depression 6 years ago.... if i may suggest, u shd learn to slowly let go n probably seek conselling to help u in this process.
I think about ending it often. But i cant and wont damage my mother and sisters that way. So i just suffer until my time comes. My first boyfriend, first kiss, took his life a few years ago after moving away. A year later, one of my best friends from highschool did the same. Words cant express. But I dont want to join them, wherever they are.
My brother suffered depression where he was so depressed that he seen things. So she probably felt like there was no hope. I hope she was going through counseling I hope that she was put on depression pills and not just got told that she has bipolar because she had something that is a lot worse than bipolar. Depression is one of the worst feelings to ever feel. To feel hopeless to feel sad. So much so that your brain it's not working correctly and you actually see things that sounds like what she went through I really hope if anybody is suffering from depression please reach out. It took my brother a long time to actually get help. He would call me he was too scared to get help he was too embarrassed and didn't want to be around people because he felt hopeless and like he was going to cry. Eventually he did reach out and it took a few months for him to feel okay again it took at least a year though for him to feel better but if you do get help that's the first step and you will start slowly from that day on feel a little better day by day 😊 you are worth it ❤️
I am also feeling that way
your narration is very engaging and moving and manifestly honest
❤❤❤ amazing message. So important to talk about it.
She will get reborn death is not the end
Girl, you have been through so much beyond what your age can bear. But it is time to let go so that you can move on. Your bff will be a treasure in your heart forever. Protect yourself, live for yourself and your love ones around you and strive for recovery despite ups and downs.. It's not worth sinking in further after so long.
Depression medicine can be taken for a period of time but for full recovery, must find alternative treatment, supplement and lifestyle. There are many good RUclips authentic doctors who give good advice on alternative treatment for mental wellness.
Explore on them to recover so that you can help many many more one day.
May the Lord bless you and keep you. God loves you and you matter to Him alot. Dun give up 🙏
Are you okie cutie ? I just pray for you that may all your wishes come true in your heart feeling soul.
Help I have done it again I have been here many times before hurt my self today and the worst part is there’s no one else to blame be my friend
u can save someone with suicidal thought once, but not another time...
appreciated the story. depression is a bitch indeed. true words at the end.
Your story let me have flashbacks of this particular person I know through a mutual friend. Let's call her 'B'.
From what I know, B has depression. At that time, I had a bf, and B would try ways to get close to my bf by constantly acting either unwell or she is always too depressed to eat. My bf will packet her food whenever we are meeting her and check on her everyday whether she has eaten and is she feeling well/less moody on that day.
Everyday she will message my bf saying that she wants to end her life etc then ask my bf to accompany her and don't let me know about it. Every time they go out together, my bf will buy her meals (as mentioned above, she will always say that she is too depressed to eat). The UNCONVINCING part of all these instances are that she will always finish her food once my bf buys her meals. Subsequently, she keeps asking my bf to go out with her alone so that my bf pays for her meal expenses. Without my bf presence, she was perfectly fine and she always gave me that "eerie" ETERNITY stares as if she was plotting some "evil" plans. Her stares always give me a chill on my back.
She will pretend to be that weak and very kind girl in front of my bf then ask my bf to break up with me and badmouth about how unreasonable I am as a gf whenever we have issues.
Fast forward to today, she is still pestering my bf even though she is married now. I have nothing to prove she has been acting ALL HER LIFE.
Your friend deserves our understanding and kindness BUT to be very HONEST, not everyone deserves that because clearly, this B is using her illness to gain sympathy and take advantage of our kindness just because she is "sick". B deserves nothing since she is a B**** that ruins people's relationship by being a third party or enjoying being the third wheeler in people's relationship. I have done nothing to her except being kind and treating her as my very good friend. 💔 I pray that KARMA bites her and someday someone can "destroy" her masks!
"Warning: Don't anyhow show concern or kindness to anyone who had depression until you know them very well otherwise they might jeopardize your life! 😤
How did it start ? Didnt really catch it. Whats the cause of her depression? You have done your best, dont blame yourself.
She might not go into deeply as it is personal. I respect her for sharing the story it must be hard.
My son's best friend what is 18 and committed suicide he had a 2-month-old baby at the time it's been 7 years and my son still suffers
Danke!
how old was she when she passed?
The vast majority of people don't understand this simplicity: pain begets pain begets pain. Life is hard, fact, but how does wanting someone else to agonize more than oneself get anyone anywhere? How does keeping and wanting those who've harmed others oppressed helpful to anyone, anywhere? Answer: it doesn't! Everyone has a right to feel angry about miscarriages of justice when wrong is done. The problem presents every time when holding on to said pain for years, noteabley life, robs and destroys someone all the more than the original offense. It's our choice: hold on to pain and hatred for others for life hoping they'll agonize infinitely more than we did or forgiving and bettering oneself to help oneself and others? "You can be bitter or you can be blessed. You can't be both!" Steven Furtick
I'm sorry for your lost. She depressed because of studies?
သန့်ရှင်းသော ဝိညာဥ်တော်ဆောင်မတော်မူပါစေl ထာဝရခရစ်တော် ယေရှု ကယ်တင်ရှင်ဘုရားနာမတော် အားဖြင့်သာလျှင်၊ amen အာမင်း
may the Holy Spirit Lord be helping them all, In the ONLY name of the savior Lord Christ Jesus, အာမင်း amen
Story save life thx
Next winter I might leave this earth
and why would you do that
@@rabiamultan9481 if my life doesn't get better
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a korean how ironic RIP
A lot of people that comitt suicide are depressed
No shit
Really?
@@milaman06 what kind of response is that. Depression is funny to you. You never had your father take his life in front of the whole family when you were 15
@@u-8743 yes, studies back it up
@@milaman06 the more I think on it and I been stewing on this but you probably yell jump even if a worker on a roof is near the edge.
how is it sad that she is now out of her misery
the cure for my depression and suicidal thoughts is Jesus Christ ❤He gives us worth and a purpose in life and He has a purpose for everyone. I felt empty without Him and felt worthless and like I had no purpose. I'm so sorry for your loss 😭❤
加油！jesus walks with us
Lol
You should go play in traffic with a blindfold on
@@Unanythang and these kind of people say we don't need Jesus?
Jesus and counseling ❤
Is it possible that evil demons are trying to suppress her?
Whut
You clearly needs to study about depression
@@Sotoyalay704 hi, i meant no disrespect... but there are people but based on your stories. some of it has similarities with the suicide stories of some people who committed suicide and survived the experience. Pls. pardon my comment. this is the video that i mean: ruclips.net/video/C1i66xR5B2Q/видео.html
@@ronreyes395 i mean it is okay, ppl can choose to believe if they think the experience is similar. I do have a friend who was possessed but no where close to suicidal. But in this video, we can pretty much tell that the friend had a broken family which likely causes her depression.
I have bpd and mdd I am the lowest part of my life tbh. God bless you all.
Hello, Yvette.
I came across your video while searching for a painless way -which is somehow ironic- to suicide.. it's not my first time to search for it and I actually never thought I'd be overtaken by the idea of suicide in my life.. having known to be successful, cool, bright, nice, kind, smart and friendly.. but pain can be excruciating sometimes.. these overwhelming repressed feelings and thoughts are too heavy to bear sometimes... It's like having a constant internal battle and deep conflicts most of the time that you want to end.. I have always considered the amount of pain I'd leave to all my loved ones.. the shock that will paralyze them and shift their reality forever, that I end up convincing myself that I shouldn't.. recently I started sharing my thoughts and feelings to some of my friends in order to soothe and release their grip on me.. May we be among the saved.. May we be guided out of darkness and
despair.. May we be showered with patience, light, hope and strength.. May we be saved from our selves and demons.. Amin!
Thanks for the video Yvette.. will hit bed now
Don’t give up on God. We’ve been out on this Earth for a reason, and you need to fulfil your role. A role that is so important it is priceless in the next life. Life isn’t meant to be easy. Hardship is a guarantee.