CHILDFREE BY CHOICE CHAT, GLASS SKIN MAKEUP + AUTUMNAL COSY VLOG | VICTORIA
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CHILDFREE BY CHOICE CHAT, GLASS SKIN MAKEUP + AUTUMNAL COSY VLOG | VICTORIA
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As you're watching this we will FINALLY be on our much belated Honeymoon so I hope you enjoy seeing all the Autumnal cosy home prep I did for when we return and also some chats again about being child free by choice! I'm also thrilled to be working with Lumene again in this vlog celebrating their Invisible Illumination range you all know I adore and their incredible new launch the Triple Glow Radiance Elixir! It's been a wonderful 6 years working with such a special bramnd and I can't wait for so many more :)
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I wrote this blog post on being child free by choice 2 years ago and it still stands true if you'd like to have a read: www.inthefrow.com/2021/09/my-thoughts-on-having-a-child-free-future.html?wp-cb=1698175513 :) xx
I totally understand you, and I think it's so good to talk about it being absolutely normal to not want kids. I was exactly the same and then got to about 36 and all of a sudden my mind changed. I ended up having to do IVF and had my daughter this summer! So one thing I would say is, it's a good idea to check out your fertility just in case. The chances are you'll be happy to be child free (aside from sweet little Beau) for the rest of your life but it's good insurance in case your mind changes! ❤
I was so intrigued by what you said about relating to younger girls. I’m 49 and didn’t have children and I relate to people your age far more than I do people my own age, especially if they have kids. It all makes perfect sense 😊 x
Dear Victoria, I've been thinking about changing my perfume and keep wondering "which one"....and in one of your tiktoks you mentioned your fav and I can't find it anymore 😉 what was that? Tnx and have a nice day
I think it's really important to hear more voices of women who are child free. I've known since I was a little girl I never wanted to be a mother but now pushing 30 and still getting comments that I'll change my mind 🙃 I definitely needed to see that representation when I was younger.
I'm 52 and haven't changed my mind! ❤
I’m in my 40’s and married and knew from a young age I didn’t want children. It’s an individual choice. Just because you marry, it does not equate to having kids. It’s nobody’s business what life choices we choose 🙏🏽♥️
Whenever I am asked why I don't have children I always say that I would love to but I have white leather car seats so it's out of the question.
@@wendymartin6479 😂😂😂 love it. I always respond: it would be great for me, but not for the kid, not for the world. 😂 I think lots of moms put kids in the world just to satisfy their wishes but don’t think of this crazy current world we live in. It’s a privilege to grow up happy and safe, and it’s rare nowadays. It’s not reality to most of us. Bullying, violence, wars, poverty, terrorism, economic crises, crowded places everywhere… this is a reality 😢.
Same! I’m 31 and really feeling the push from family and even colleagues 🫠 frustrating. Please respect my choice.
I’m 36 and child free by choice. I’ve always known it’s not the right choice for me, but it can feel like a lonely choice when so many around you have gone in another direction. I really appreciate hearing people like you of talking about your choice to be child-free, and then reading all the comments from similar people here. It helps me feel a little less alone in my decision ❤
This described my situation ❤ good to know other woman feel the same
I agree 100%❤
I am so appreciative of your openness about this topic. I’m so proud of my life and what my husband and I have accomplished. We have chosen a life without having our own children, but I love and cherish the children of my friends and siblings. Cheers to all you out there who needed this video like me! 🥂
Same for me and my partner. He has one grown son and we won’t be having any unless through adoption later on.
Cheers 🥂 😊x
Ladies,as a single mother of two I am happy for you and sending you hugs and lots of love.My daughter told after her University at 21 years that she wasn’t going to have children, I looked into her eyes and told her I loved more than words no matter what.! And I will always stand by her choices . ❤❤
I'm 44, mother of 4 and constantly have my choices questioned too. It's a bit depressing that in 2023, we are doing it wrong if we choose not to have children, wrong if we only have one, wrong if we have all boys/girls, wrong if we have more than two. I love watching your videos because we have absolutely nothing in common - I love seeing how you live your best life with grace and intelligence, and it's wonderful seeing how someone else makes their own choices. I'm never going to fashion week but I can travel with you, and that's (just as much) fun. Here's to making our own choices without judgement!
3 kids here and 35 and I am happy with my life. The beauty of it is that we are all free to do our choices and own it not apologizing for it.
I was thinking exactly the same... I have ONLY one child, and I have received so many comments on that... as everyone knows everyone else's life!
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How nicely worded 😊
My life has always been geared around eventually having kids and that’s right for me. Everyone has their right to choose. I do wonder what human population dropping will do to economy etc ppl like Elon musk seem to think it’s a problem but idk
I just wanted to say thank you for being so open about your decision. I think it’s so important to start conversations about women’s bodily autonomy and consent surrounding the direction their life takes. It’s about time we were having these discussions and really empowering women and their choices. I’m 33 and have always known I didn’t want children, and I’m still amazed by the amount of criticism I experience when I voice this. Thanks Vic ❤️
Me too same exactly, down to the 33 😂 i used to try and stop voicing it but why should I, it needs to be a normal choice and no one is entitled to an opinion on something so personal.
I'm 52, perimenopausal, and chose not to have kids. So many people judge and said that we'd regret it - if I was going to regret our decision, it'd be now when my hormones are all over the place, but no, absolutely 100%, no regrets.
People said we'd regret it, they said we were selfish, they say we'll be lonely when we're older. I answer that it's no more selfish than choosing to have kids, and having kids is not an insurance against loneliness. I think that criticising those like us has an element of self validation about it.
I wonder if the young woman who was confused by Victoria's choice was confused because she'd never asked herself if that was what she wanted.
I get the feeling that a lot of people don't question having children because they perceive it as the norm, and once you're in a stable relationship, it's inevitable. Which ever way people go, it should be a conscious choice rather than following the herd.
I’m 43 and children free not by choice but because of breast cancer (still battling it). However after having a successful career and achieving everything society expected me to achieve and accomplish. I’m happy with my decision. I’m content. Be you! Do you! Love your content BTW ❤❤❤
I'm 43 and have not once regretted my decision to never have children. Thank you for speaking on it xx
Nothing is more monumental than women having the freedom of choice. That is a glorious accomplishment for a society. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤
I’m 44, my partner and I are child free by choice, love our life. Children were never something either of us ever wanted, enjoy seeing my friends and their children but it never makes me wish I had any of my own at all. I always got told “oh you’ll change your mind” or “you’ll regret not having them when you don’t have the option anymore” erm no, zero regrets thanks 😊. Completely agree I follow and enjoy content more from women younger, because their lives are more relatable to mine x
I'm 49 and just starting pre-menopause, and no, I don't regret not having them :)
I always get so happy when you talk about a child free life. My husband and I made a choice to be child free as well. One of the craziest things another woman asked me was if something was wrong with my uterus and that’s why I “decided” not to have children!!! I was like, “well idk if something is wrong, I’ve never TRIED to get pregnant!”
I’m childfree by choice 😊 I’m 38 and whatever anyone says, I just want you to know how empowering it is to take control of your own body, life and being honest with yourself to admit that your not having kids is very powerful. As you get through your 30’s it does become more of a question, but you don’t have kids to make anyone else happy… and it’s not anyone else’s business if you don’t want them! Some people say I’d be a great mum, how do they know that ?! You’re happy as you are and that’s all that matters!Thanks for your honesty and also, you live that good life with your beautiful doggo and lovely hubby. You only get one chance to live so choose your own path that feels good X
This chat hits so hard! I'm 35 and feel the exact same. Here's to living our best childfree lives. 💞
This was a beautiful video Victoria. I too am childless. For a short time in my late 30's I wanted just one child, and it did not happen. I accepted this very easily and have had a wonderful life. I was a flight attendant and did publicity and modeled for Eastern Airlines here in the USA. I travelled for 22 years each day and commuted to Europe and other parts of the USA and Western Canada with 2 husbands who also travelled constantly. It was exciting and I have no regrets. Life is so short. I turn 70 in January. Enjoy each and every day as you do Victoria. I loved the warmth of your home, the love you have for Boe, and your recipe I am going to try. We are in late Autumn here too in New England. jannieo
What a beautiful message, thank you for sharing. I’ve known I wanted to be childfree since I was a child myself. It was a relief for me to realise that having kids was actually a choice. I’m 31 and feeling some pressure from family. Thank you for reassuring everyone that you can lead a joyful life no matter your choice to have kids or not ❤
@@wolfsbane1991 yes! you get to choose your life! Enjoy each moment, each hour, each day, and the beauty of life. xoxo
I’m interested if by age 70 you miss having adult children around? This is my only fear (getting old without any family, as such) in my decision to remain child-free, especially as I now spend a lot of time socialising with an helping my own parents, and I see how much they appreciate it.
ChildFREE is so spot on, as apposed to ChildLESS. Having kids was always going to be my story but I love my childfree friends 😊 The time, energy and love they have for our kids is amazing. I love the childfree youtubers I watch too, you give me an amazing window into your experince and its so enjoyable to see you all bossing it!
We are child free as well. It is possible to absolutely adore other’s beautiful kids, but we chose this route. We are very happy. Being a parent now a days is the toughest job on the planet with everything going on in the world. I’d be a nervous wreck if I had children. 🥺 God Bless all the parents in this world. ☺️🙏 You are to be commended. ❤🤗
I was the same, never really wanted children, but then at 40 I found out I was pregnant 6 weeks before our son was born, I saw a doctor 12 weeks before that and he didn't pick up I was pregnant due to the fact my periods had stopped at aged 31. But our son was the best thing to ever happen to us. He's 28 now. And here I am at 68, Loving your youthful vlogs. Enjoy your life and live it to the fullest sweetie Xxxx
I definitely advise women to have these honest discussions BEFORE they get married or tied down. There are no wrong answers but choice is key. 😍
I’ve never wanted children, and when I was a lot younger, people would always say that I would change my mind. It always irritated me that people were basically telling me what to do with my life. I am 38 now, and only a couple years ago did people stop telling me I would change my mind. I’ve been with my husband, 17 years (married for 7) and I can completely relate to the points that you’re making.
And on a not so nice note, back in the day when people would tell me I would change my mind about not having kids,… I used to reply that they would change their minds about having had them 😊
Not nice; but it made the point, and they would shut up.
I kind of love this response though - definitely gets the point across haha xx
I could go on a huge tirade but bottom line is... every individual/couple has the right to make whatever personal decisions they make about wanting to have children or not. It is INCREDIBLY RUDE and disrespectful to try to impose your wants and desires upon another. Period. No discussion. In fact, no discussion at all unless they bring up the subject matter and choose to share their individual preferences with you. However, your opinion on what someone else “should” or “should not do” regarding a life-long responsibility are completely irrelevant and definitely do not need to be expressed! Don’t ask! It’s so disrespectful and terribly rude! They will tell you if they feel you require that knowledge. Just. Don’t. Ask.
As a young mother at 17, that made me realize that I didn't want anymore. I had to finish high school and college. I refused to let anything stop me. Now I'm retired at 67and he just turned 50.😂 Have fun and live your life as you see fit.❤
As someone the same age with 2 kids, with a sister (33) who chose to be childfree, I just want to confirm that there are those of us who understand. CHOICE is what we advocate for. Also, just fyi, not all us moms watch family content creators . While we love our children and our choice, just because we had them doesn’t mean we live and breathe motherhood only. Society often gives us heat for this - but we are still women with other interests too. I follow you and others based on similar interests. Family content has never really interested me.
Me too I am a mom of two and I STAY AWAY FROM FAMILY VLOGS, PREGNANCY VLOGS, I can't deal with adding other people's family stresses on my plate
I've been thinking now more than ever, that there should be a platform where child-free by choice women can form friendships with other like-minded women.
I love love love to cook, eat and learn. The perfect weekend for me entails going out for breakfast with a friend, visiting an art gallery, going for a walk in the park, nothing too crazy. I'm a daytime kind of person, I love spending my evenings reading and watching movies with my husband and two cats. I'm personally looking to form friendships around London if anyone is interested!
I wanted to have kids but it’s not possible for me. I have so much respect for anyone who follows their heart to either have them or not. So pleased people are slowly starting to realise that the only important thing is to do what’s right for you. Really happy for you x x ❤
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Love this vlog! I got married at 27 and as we progressed kids just weren't a priority for us and we decided our life would be more fulfilling without em. 14 years later we are still very content with our choice, no regrets. You do you girl, always ;)
Loved this Victoria. I'm child-free, and, although sadly, not by choice... I dread it when my favourite people to follow have kids as their content changes so much and it's just so hard to relate, sometimes even painful... I am SO aware that this is a 'me' issue and I *am* happy for them, just as I am with my own friends and family.
It's just lovely to still have some creators who are my age(ish! I'm 38!) that offer content that is relatable/ aspirational outside of the expected 2.4 family set up.
It's not too hard to make peace with having 2 children who have 4 legs and a lovely partner- it could be a lot worse!!
Pets and adventures are the new toddlers! Much love to you and Alex xxx
There's nothing less fulfilling than living your life to meet others' expectations
I love how open you are about this topic. I’m 26 and I genuinely can’t see myself as a parent, let alone being in a relationship. I love my independence, I like the ability to just decide I’m going to travel and not have to worry about another human being, and moreover I love shopping and being parent is a selfless job and genuinely don’t think I would be a good parent. I’m blessed with two wonderful parents who truly gave me a wonderful childhood but I don’t think that is something I could offer to another human being full heartedly. I would rather have my career and a stable healthy relationship. Thank you for being so open about this on such a public platform ❤
I'm 50 and have been married for 25 years, and we decided not long after we met that we did not want children. This never changed for us and I have never regretted it. We have 3 lovely niece's that we spoil and I'm Auntie Jane who they come to for advice etc. Also, I'd rather have my dogs everyday ❤
Thank you for sharing your perspective on child-free by choice! I'm 31 and getting married in 2024. I feel like everyone is expecting me to start having kids right away and I find it stressful. My partner and I have decided kids aren't for us - we're obsessed with our perfect little cat - but, everyone seems to have an opinion. I hate it when parents say not having kids is selfish. If you look at what's happening in the world anymore I think it's terrifying to have them. I've been following you since your purple hair written blog In the Frow days! So happy to see your success and growth over the years!
I'm 29 and recently got married and the pressure to have kids as the 'next step' is crazy. People need to accept that you can be happily married and that's all they need to feel fulfilled ❤
Victoria I’m 43 and being child free was the best decision my husband and I made 🎉 we have time to pour into our own cups to keep it full and we pour into each other.❤ 🎉 Happy content carefree stress-free simple lifestyle is what we created for our life 😊 and we have a furbaby Milobear to complete us.
Same. I not only knew I didn’t want children but I have this insane sick feeling thinking about it. Even as a kid I wouldn’t even play house. I wish I knew why I have such aversion to it. Unlike many women, no one can make me feel even a stitch of guilt. I don’t get offended at all when people ask why or why not. I don’t find it rude at all. I just know in my bones it wasn’t right for me. I’ve been with my husband 23 years and actually am super maternal but I just can’t have kids. However I ADORE my husband. I think it does make relationships much easier. So I completely get where you are coming from.
Also furbabies give me so much joy. We have Maine coon cats and man we love them
That is the biggest carrot I have ever seen! I would love to see the garden this time of the year, especially the hydrangeas! They are so lovely as they are drying. Thank you discussing the children topic. Society puts so much pressure on women to have children and it is refreshing to see someone challenging the norms. Each couple should be able to choose the path that is right for them without feeling they have to justify their decision. Kudos to you for discussing and loving these types of vlogs!
Thank you for being so open about the CF topic. I'm 33, happily married, and me and my husband don't want kids. I've never felt an active desire, never really have been able to envision it for myself and we both just have so many other things that we want to do. I definitely don't feel ready now and couldn't imagine it for myself at all. It can be a lonely feeling when everyone else seems to want it so naturally! But you being so open, and reading these comments, makes me realise we're not alone. Life isn't a one-size-fits-all x
I totally relate. I have sometimes wondered at times whether there’s something wrong with me when everyone else desires having children so automatic & naturally. I’m happy to see there are plenty of women out there who share the same thoughts on the Childfree decision.
100% agree on the child front. I turned 35 yesterday and have jst got engaged. My fiance and I are now 90% sure tht we dont want to have kids. We have fun spending time with our friends’ children, and thats enough for us :)
My sister and her husband are child-free by choice and she’s 51 now. She has always said she didn’t ever want to have to consider anyone else. Some people may think that’s selfish but actually it’s just being honest and not conforming to societal expectations.
I don’t know how to put this.. but. For the first time in my life, you have put into words how I have felt about having kids. I don’t think everyone understands why my husband and I have not and plan not to have kids. I am nearing 36 years old and to hear someone else say how I feel about kids, takes a huge weight off. “I am not the only one” and i really appreciate your openness. Truly.
I feel the same and totally agree
Thank you for revisiting the child free topic! Your openess is refreshing and solidifies everything I feel about having kids at the moment. I turn 32 next week and I'm still on the fence about it. But hearing other women speak out about the topic makes me feel so much better about the decisions I've made thus far! ❤
I’m 48 and always dreamed of being a mum. I have a 14 year old son. My point is that I like watching childless influencers because they are doing things that I’m not. I find that balances out my head nicely. I don’t follow people my own age, even though they are out there. Xxx
I'm definitely here for a Cosy Autumnal Home Vlog! Your reaction when Suzi asked you to be one of her bridesmaids was so beautiful!! Suzi is such a beautiful person (inside and out), as are you, and I love the friendship you have. She deserves to have the best people surrounding her on her special day! ❤❤❤
Ahhhh babe thank you!! I cried for so long after hahaha xx
omg not me snooping the comments and coming across this 🥹💖 you're so sweet thank you love you (and you V, always) xx
@SuzieBonaldi Aww, thank you for your comment, Suzi. 🥰 I don't comment on every video you upload, but I do watch all of your videos and enjoy them! I honestly believe that you are the sweetest, kindest person, and you deserve everything that is beautiful in life! My son proposed to his girlfriend this September, and they are getting married in 2025. So, I can't wait to watch all of your upcoming wedding vlogs! 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for being so open on these kind of topics and making your channel such a safe space for those who also feel the same! It’s just so refreshing 💕
Ladies keep control of your life. Kids are not the end all, be all. Kids are great, but so is a life without children. Speaking from vast experience KEEP control of your life. Victoria, such a brave girl for saying what you really think and feel about this subject. What an inspiration sweet girl🎉
I’m 54. My husband and I have been together 25 years and are also childless by choice. We love our life. It’s also one of the reasons I so enjoy your channel.
So important that we accept and respect everyone’s decision to make choices that are right for them. Hope you and Alex have a wonderful honeymoon ❤
This video and comments are such a comforting and reassuring thing for me. Im nearly 30 and have recently had the chat with my husband that I don't want kids any time soon. I'm lucky he is so understanding but unfortunately it doesn’t stop the judgement from others. I felt like I was massively letting my family down too. It's so warming to read so many other people in the same child-free boat ❤
I do feel a bit like that too in terms of worrying about how my parents would feel if I remain with my childfree decision. I’m not sure if my parents would be readily accepting of my decision, especially as I am now the only child left as I sadly lost my brother. I do feel bit sad that my parents may not be grandparents. But I know I can’t have a child just to make my parents happy.
Thank-you for being open and sharing your thoughts about your decision to not having kids.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on leading a a childfree live. For many years, I felt exactly like you, couldn't imagine being ready for a child, wasn't ecxtatic when someone brought their baby to work and just loved traveling and my freedom. But somehow things changed when I was around 33, I lost my Dad way too early and realized that friendships are not really the same as they used to be in my 20s . My husband and I became cat parents and for the first time, I felt this overwhelming "motherly" love for my tiny fur baby and somehow, even if I still think you can't compare human babies to fur babies, I knew that I wanted to be a mom and that I would love MY baby. After having heart breaking diagnosises and 3 rounds of IVF I am now pregnant and could not be any readier to have a family even though I still find all the mommy content online more than boring:). But at the same time, I think if some things would have gone differently, if I still felt the same excitement for travel, fashion and my other hobbies like I used to, I would not have had children just like you and I think my life would have been equally fullfilling and meaningfull so again, thank you for sharing YOUR choice and that it is more than okay to decide whatever feels right for every individual and that things can always change but dont't have to and that nobody should EVER comment on someone elses's choice.
Hi Victoria, I’m 12 years older than you (also childfree) and I do love watching your content and still feel 35 in my head 😃 So I guess that’s a thing!
Same here, I'm 42 but 30 in my head, no children also. kisses from Barcelona
Yeahhhh age is just a number right?! We don't need to be similar ages to have similar loves :) xx
I'm 20yrs older than you with children & grandchildren but love your content@@VictoriaMagrath
It’s been lovely seeing you relax and Enjoy what you’ve created. You work so hard, as we all do but as women we don’t always take the time to enjoy what we have. This was just lovely and I appreciate your comment about women who dont have or want children. Unfortunately I had cancer when I was 26 so unable to have children. Everytime someone asks me about children it hurts and makes me feel like I’m not a woman because I do t have them. I wish people would just let people be. You do what makes you happy Victoria xxx💖🙏🏻
So much respect for explaining your decision to be child-free so patiently. Everyone should be able to make this decision for themselves and be respected and loved.
You’re basically the only RUclipsr I still watch because you’re my age and don’t have kids either! Love that you talk about it too.
It's funny you should say this as I was wondering why at 47 with two kids, why I like to watch content of people who are a lot younger than me, like yourself, who don't have children. I think it's because I like to live vicariously through you all.
Omg yes!!
I think it's the old saying age is just a number isn't it! Take the age difference away and what do you have? Lots of us with the same loves, plans and lives xx
I’m a mother with one young adult son and my sisters and the majority of friends chose not to have children. And I’ve never watched family bloggers! Such a refreshing open conversation!
I totally understand what you mean by getting questioned over being childfree by choice! I'm mid twenties and constantly get told that I'll change my mind and it frustrates me so much that people can't accept my choice to not have children 🤦🏻♀
Strange how the society’s views are still old fashioned & stuck.
I watch alot off younger creators because i get to relive my youth through them it makes me happy❤
Love love the chat about being child free, I think it's becoming much more common now.
Always appreciate your childfree discussion. I am childfree by choice in my 50‘s and it was and is the right thing for me and my husband. Glad to see there is more acknowledgement of this as a valid life choice, than there used to be. Hope you enjoy your time in Bali, it’s one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been. Love to you three xo
Hi Victoria, Im 66, both my daughters are almost 10yrs older than you, but I still enjoy your content and style. I think staying young in your mind is a good thing.
Thank you for talking about this so openly and plainly. I am 43, American and I have no interest in raising children. I am the only person in my family choosing this for their life and it is easy to feel like a failure or black sheep. It’s so reassuring to hear others say it too.
love your honesty and courage about such a sensitive topic where many would have been blamed for not wanting to have kids. You are amazing, and it's good that you speak up about these topics
OMG I have not had someone articulate what I am feeling so well regarding connecting with people younger. It is so nice to hear this from someone else. I have always felt the same but been unable to express it.
I am also in the no children by choice group. I am happy to hear other women normalize this choice and discuss the rationale and pros of this choice in the public sphere.
As an a great autumn activity may I suggest making your own vanilla extract. It’s very simple, just a bit of a time investment. Additionally, it’s way better in smell and taste than any other vanilla I have ever bought.
Happy autumn!
I couldn’t relate to this more regarding being child free by choice. So refreshing to hear you talk about it in such an honest way
Always love your content Vic and have followed you for years... Thankyou first for being there for me💕... I love that you're so open about loving the life you have right now. Children change your life in every way you could possibly think...Live and love your life! C'est la vie..!
I love the ‘skincare’ makeup! Suffering from acne, I have a no appreciation for products that are beautiful but also good for skin❤️ and also as a 21 yr old, my child choice fluctuates all the time but I’m so glad that women choosing to be child-free are so much more visible online because its like there’s less shame around the choice. Sending love to you and Alex! Enjoy the honeymoon!!🥳
Having babies is choice. I love my child, i am happy I have her but I loved my life before I have her. I am not that kind of person, who does anything halfway- so when i decited to have a child, i will do anything for her even if it means pausing my life/carrier or hobbies. And its hard! its not only full time job, but full life job. Never ending love but also never ending care giving.
Thank you so much for opening up about wanting to be child free. My husband and I very happily decided we do not want children and we found the treatment we get for the decision has really been unkind in most cases. It's so amazing to know I am not alone!
This is why you're my favourite youtuber to watch. You're so open and honest about your life and your feelings. I love my daughter to pieces, and I wouldn't change anything. However, I don't judge and fully understand being a parent isn't for everyone. I don't understand why people feel the need to judge someone because they don't want children. Everyone has their own choice. As long as you, Alex and Boe are happy that's all that matters. I hope you both enjoy/enjoyed your honeymoon xx
The sleeping cream and the spf vit c day cream are the best creams I have ever used. The smell, the texture, particularly the sleeping cream is just wonderful. I used it after glycolic acid and I have incredibly soft, smooth and plump skin, recommend to anyone in their 50+s. Gorgeous!
Right?! I've tried to describe the smell so often and it's hard to do haha xx
I am liiiiiiving for this cosy home content, more please! 🍁
Also I am just the same and have never felt kids was the thing for me, seeing you baking then having olives with a glass of wine in your gorgeous house, that’s the life for me 😂❤
I watch younger influencers (like you!), and I am 54, a stay-at-home mother of two teenagers (one at uni) in the United States. I watch various influencers because of their personalities, fun lives, open hearts, and interesting content. Oh, and I should have been born in the UK and feel so at home and safe there.☺️ Have a wonderful belated honeymoon, Victoria!
I appreciate you talking about this topic. Everyone around me talks about children, either cause they have them or want them and I feel left out. People expect I will change my mind or they mention comments about finding someone with “good traits” for when I have kids. I love the freedom I have, time to myself to relax, and travel. I’ve always had the drive for financial freedom and goals to enjoy my life the way it is.
I resonate and relate with you here!
This is such a cozy vlog ❤ love it. Having a special seasonal treat, a warm drink, and watching RUclips in a clean kitchen is hard to beat!!
I have 2 kids but I can totally understand why people wouldn't want to, it's so much hard work 😅 there are pros and cons to both and I think you can either focus on what you miss out on by your choice or what you gain. Being happy is a choice too 😊 thanks for sharing Victoria!
As a mom of two kids, I still completely agree with what you are saying about not having kids by choice. I agree that the woman needs to have that choice and should not be pushed by society for any of this.
Parenthood is a huge and such a responsible job and it’s just something that you really need to be sure you want before doing it.
There are moments that I envy my life before having kids but the majority of time I feel grateful for the life I have with them and my husband
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This was so cosy and luxurious. We don't have the same house, financial situation or even lifestyle but this has inspired me to get autumnal at my own level. Happy autumn everyone! 🍁🥮 And yes to being child free by choice 🩷
I’m 32 and feel the exact same about not wanting children. I came across your content on tik tok earlier this year and have been loving your vlogs and it’s because your lifestyle inspires me! I also love Amelia and Suzie and I like seeing women around my age who are also not moms. Especially since almost all my friends my age have become moms. I can’t help but have a little bit of fear that I will change my mind at some point and then it will be too late, but I don’t feel ready or that I will be anytime soon to make such a life changing decision. My husband feels the same. I love that you’re open about your decision, thank you!
Most my friends have children already & some very early too. I’m 37 and still feel like I’m 25. I still don’t feel ready to have a child. My mum says that you never feel truly ready. When I was in younger, even in mid 20s & early 30s I felt so sure with my to be childfree decision. But now I’m getting older & the pressure I’m getting from my parents, I’m feeling unsure. Im worried about the what if I will regret it one day and then it’s too late. Not sure if my biological hormones have been kicking in, making me feel more confused. To the point I’m indecisive about my decision. Some days I feel it’s right, it’s no to having a child and then most days I’m feeling very unsure…. So I’m glad to see many other women who’s older & have shared they do not regret their decision to be childfree.
Thank you Victoria for sharing your thoughts & honesty on such a sensitive topic and that we have a platform here where we can discuss together. Because I do feel lost lot of the time.
Another lovely feel good video. Thank you for all the genuine positivity you put out into the world xx
I was thinking the same when watching your content. We are the same age, but I'm also child free and your life is one of the only I find inspiring!
I’m sorry you had an interesting response from individuals who chose to be parents. Hopefully I speak for other moms, but I’m grateful for my child free friends/family who pour their love onto my child. It takes a village to raise a child and we need all the support we can get!
Definitely a very important subject. I wish in general people could just respect individual choices.. without the unnecessary comments and intrusive questions! X
I’m also child free by choice and find that I don’t like being around people who has kids because I can’t relate, also some kids are not the best behaved but I digress. Why do people think that we were put on this earth to only have children and we can’t enjoy life without them. Live your beautiful life Victoria and spend all your hard earned money doing just that with your Alex and Bo ❤❤
100% relate. I relate more to “younger” content. Turning 40 soon … and still feel like I’m 24. The thought of kids having kids feels unnatural TO ME and sounds exhausting where as retiring early to travel the world sounds delightful. Not everyone is meant to be a parent but to come to that decision isn’t easy for everyone. Someone’s choice to have/not have a kid is not a reflection on yours so let’s be kinder around this topic.
I absolutely love you working with lumene. Finally a brand that I and I think a lot of people can afford, instead of those brands that are so expensive that one cream coasts as much as 2 weeks of groceries. And it’s indeed a lovely brand. Thanks for this!
Thank you so much for this vlog Victoria i am also 34 and dont want children, alot of my family now have children but my close friends dont and just find myself gravitating towards my friends so much more and didnt know why. I have also found myself watching you and Suzi more than others because i now relate to your lives more than those that speak about thier children. What people say often makes you feel as if you are doing something wrong in society because youve chosen not to have kids but to know you get the same is wonderful thank you for sharing
Victoria, I too am 34 and as I say #teamnochildren I don't have the desire to do what it requires to be a great mother. My husband and I will continue to be great aunts, uncles and help our friends with their children. Love that you shared this! ❤
Your house is my absolute dream home xxx I’m child free, not by choice but medical reasons, I got asked several times just adopt or foster like it’s the easiest thing in the world but you have to be sure and I think it’s great that you are making a decision that works for you and Alex xx I’ve seen my friends struggle being parents and I won’t lie sometimes I am grateful I don’t have children xxx
So refreshing as always. Love the positive energy that you bring to everything that you do!
I honestly have been feeling this same way with the people I follow and not feeling like I relate to them anymore since I have also decided to not have children. Thanks for speaking about this!
I had one child when I was much younger. I didnt plan on the one I had and didnt plan to have more than what I have. I think there was a time when it was "just what you did" in terms of getting married and having children. I think the times have changed and the world has evolved. I am 46 and my son is graduated from college and leading his own life. I enjoy content with people that are a bit younger that share fashion, etc because that is now the phase of life that I am in ... I dont think it is age more so as it is the phase of life you are in at the moment.
I went through years of infertility and pregnancy loss, and during that time, I really had to cull my feed to protect my heart. Now, as a very happy and lucky mom, I still REALLY enjoy my feed being mostly child free. It's an escape and a place I go for ME.
I ❤ her home's interior design, especially her kitchen! It's simple and chic vibe, which is my vibe haha.
I applaud everything you do. I appreciate your openness. It's so lovely. Thank you for beinng so real with your RUclips family. I know i can say...we love you.
Truly enjoyed the video. Your decisions in life Is yours and your husband. I think it’s great when you guys don’t allow someone else to make it for you. Enjoy.
I’m 27 and you having no kids is a huge part of why I love your content. I’ve just never felt like I could be a mother so I’m not going to be ❤🎉
Thank you for speaking about this. It is nice to hear validation. I've been told I'll change my mind someday, for years. Ever since I was 16, I just knew I didn't want to have kids.
I am 28 and still very much on the border of if I want children or not. I think being a teacher and seeing and feeling what I have in my career this far has made me question it more. It’s just relief to hear that life is amazing either way and to enjoy and process. There is that stigma of I should have kids for the pleasure of giving my parents grandkids instead of not providing them with that bond. My mother and I have had many conversations and she’s always said it’s something you need to WANT and that she’s good with furgrandkids (aka our pets). I’m still battling that question and life choice, but thank you for posting ❤
Nice to hear your mum is accepts happily whatever decision you make whether you have a child or not. I am going to struggle especially with my mums disappointment I think if I eventually remain with my to be childfree decision……
I’m child free, not by choice however, but now, a little later in life, I know it was a blessing in disguise. Not that I’m selfish, but I really do love the life I’ve been living, child free, and will continue to live. I have a young nephew and he’s so wonderful and I love him of course, but it’s just not for me to have that on a full time basis. I wouldn’t have been able to have made the choices I have done in life if I’d had a child and for that I am actually thankful. Like Victoria, I follow a lot of women on social media who are child free as it’s a life I can relate to (almost!) and find companionship in likeminded enthusiasm for a life outside of what was traditionally expected of women. It’s a truly personal and complex issue and I fully appreciate and support the many views we all have on this topic but I’m glad we can now talk about this ❤
Thanks, Victoria. I enjoyed all the autumn vibes. It's so lovely to have some home time. You work hard and it's all the sweeter ❤
Loved this ‘at home’ vlog. No dashing between fashion events. Just chilling at home, with your sausage 😢dog and a glowing fire. Right up my street. Salivating at the banana and carrot loaf. Heaven. More please Victoria.
Wunderbar das Jeder für sich frei entscheiden kann und sich wohlfühlen darf! Ich finde das verantwortungsvoll und sehr erwachsen 👍🏻👏🏻
I'm child free by choice. The thing that gets to me is people not respecting my decision. I respect theirs to have children. So it's so refreshing to be in this comments section where people are respecting each others choices.
This is a reason I love your content. So many people I followed have now had children or starting to have children, I still like them as people and I am genuinely happy they are doing what they want to but it means their content is no longer interesting for me, so I have to move on. It's great to know you are also childfree by choice, I really enjoy your content and hearing about your life. I found your video a few years ago - when you did it I wasn't a consistent follower back then but I am now - I remember nodding along and just so pleased to hear another woman say what you were saying that showed me I'm not alone and I'm not a bad person for my choices.
Why do people think because you , we, as women need to have kids. I am old enough to be your mom and I totally agree with you. As my daughter has chosen not to have kids either! It's choice if someone wants kids great if the don't great. You must always be true to you and yours. Love your videos !!
You are so gorgeous and honest . Kids are a choice and not an essential one. They are fun but do change your life in a way you can’t imagine. Stay young stay fun stay professional. The world is not a great place for kids xxx