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Thank you so much! I was really surprised at how much that one post was misunderstood, it seemed like I needed to put these maturity approaches more into context. Thanks for your encouraging comment! 🙏🏻
During a discussion with another psychologist where the topic was "psychological maturity", I wrote: "When I look at myself, my behavior depends on the person I'm dealing with and the situation we're in." And that is also the case with me when it comes to being emotionally mature or not, or being seen as such by someone else. I can imagine, though, that one person could be more inclined to act emotionally mature/immature than another. Yet I would never (well......um...."never"? 😕) characterize a person as being an overall emotionally mature/immature creature. Re, the question you raised in this RUclips video: There are situations where I just want to be offensive 😈
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they really resonate with me. I can only think of very few examples of people who'm I'd characterize as predominantly emotionally immature, and even then, I wouldn't want to phrase it in a way that could make it sound like a fixed trait. Studies on stages of personal growth found that only about 5% of people are on the "ego stage". Still, I find it important for people who are exposed to people who respond mainly in emotionally immature ways to be able to talk about it and set boundaries... And sometimes when someone sets a healthy boundary that's called “being offensive“ by the emotionally immature person because it goes against their ego. So in that sense, it's sometimes part of just living ones own life to do something that's perceived as "offensive".
I don't think that it's offensive to perceive others as emotionally immature, but what's wrong about being judgmental or offensive? It's a human right. Just because someone judges me a certain way, or thinks I'm offensive or a piece of s**t doesn't change anything in my life or my freedom of choice to be who I am because I exist. My freedom comes from my mere existence and not from other people's opinions of me. Not to mention that feeling offended is someone else's emotional reaction for which I am not responsible to begin with because no one can control your emotional reactions and interpretations except you and your brain.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Another person commented today that sometimes it can also be used as a defense mechanism to say “This is offensive.”, so we can avoid thinking about personal growth deeply.
To think that emotional immaturity is offensive is an important point of view to consider in the discussion of individual development, however we need to be cautions with that thoughts because they could drive the analysis into very shrink conclusions.
To think that puts the person in a silo. Offensive can be a defense mechanism for when a topic that comes up makes the person uncomfortable. It's not the topic but a person who cannot attach securely if the get offended so easy. Flip the switch, is it them who is being judgemental? Over generalizing, that this topic is offensive labeling it bad or no good because I see it that way and everyone else should elevates that person's opinion, that is the silo I am talking about it. We can frame things based off of silo thinking and ditching curiosity altogether and it is an attempt to stop the conversation. Limiting beliefs do this to a person. For example, I can see discussing emotional maturity as healthy and growth oriented, it depends on our perceptual position. Growth conversations are not always comfortable for it takes vulnerability. Some people faint over that. I am sure many are delighted they talked about it to grow and improve themselves. When someone calls someone JUDGEMENTAL is it a convenient way to judge yourself. They are actually judging themselves. Calling some judgemental is a form of 'name calling', guilt tripping, attempting to get what you want, and labeling is toxic. How many adults live at home with parents and are adult infants? It is very common today.
Interestingly, we are works-in-progress. Our environments shape us favourably or adversely. Perhaps immaturity could be another term for insecurity. Pray tell.
Yes, insecurity and overconfidence can both be part of immaturity, although the term immaturity is usually used in a broader sense by psychologists - to include more aspects of someones mindset and behavior.
“Accepting the truth of your feelings and thoughts doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a whole person, and mature enough to know your own mind.“ (Lindsay C. Gibson)
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Thank you so much! I was really surprised at how much that one post was misunderstood, it seemed like I needed to put these maturity approaches more into context. Thanks for your encouraging comment! 🙏🏻
@@DrMaikaSteinborn I also agree with Athony! A 100% ;)
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@@IndraBahiaMusic Aww, thank you!
So true words, even I faced it on my family as well!!! Maturity grows on life long experiences, it has nothing to do with the ageing!!
Yes, exactly! 🙏✨
During a discussion with another psychologist where the topic was "psychological maturity", I wrote: "When I look at myself, my behavior depends on the person I'm dealing with and the situation we're in." And that is also the case with me when it comes to being emotionally mature or not, or being seen as such by someone else. I can imagine, though, that one person could be more inclined to act emotionally mature/immature than another. Yet I would never (well......um...."never"? 😕) characterize a person as being an overall emotionally mature/immature creature.
Re, the question you raised in this RUclips video: There are situations where I just want to be offensive 😈
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they really resonate with me. I can only think of very few examples of people who'm I'd characterize as predominantly emotionally immature, and even then, I wouldn't want to phrase it in a way that could make it sound like a fixed trait. Studies on stages of personal growth found that only about 5% of people are on the "ego stage".
Still, I find it important for people who are exposed to people who respond mainly in emotionally immature ways to be able to talk about it and set boundaries... And sometimes when someone sets a healthy boundary that's called “being offensive“ by the emotionally immature person because it goes against their ego. So in that sense, it's sometimes part of just living ones own life to do something that's perceived as "offensive".
I don't think that it's offensive to perceive others as emotionally immature, but what's wrong about being judgmental or offensive? It's a human right. Just because someone judges me a certain way, or thinks I'm offensive or a piece of s**t doesn't change anything in my life or my freedom of choice to be who I am because I exist. My freedom comes from my mere existence and not from other people's opinions of me. Not to mention that feeling offended is someone else's emotional reaction for which I am not responsible to begin with because no one can control your emotional reactions and interpretations except you and your brain.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Another person commented today that sometimes it can also be used as a defense mechanism to say “This is offensive.”, so we can avoid thinking about personal growth deeply.
Carl Jung talked of individuation which peaks after 40.
Interesting! It makes so much sense that growth doesn‘t have to stop at any age.
My parents are that ❤. And more family members.
That must be difficult at times. All the best for you. Great that you're stepping out of the family pattern and finding a better way to live!
To think that emotional immaturity is offensive is an important point of view to consider in the discussion of individual development, however we need to be cautions with that thoughts because they could drive the analysis into very shrink conclusions.
Interesting, thank you!
To think that puts the person in a silo. Offensive can be a defense mechanism for when a topic that comes up makes the person uncomfortable. It's not the topic but a person who cannot attach securely if the get offended so easy. Flip the switch, is it them who is being judgemental? Over generalizing, that this topic is offensive labeling it bad or no good because I see it that way and everyone else should elevates that person's opinion, that is the silo I am talking about it. We can frame things based off of silo thinking and ditching curiosity altogether and it is an attempt to stop the conversation. Limiting beliefs do this to a person. For example, I can see discussing emotional maturity as healthy and growth oriented, it depends on our perceptual position. Growth conversations are not always comfortable for it takes vulnerability. Some people faint over that. I am sure many are delighted they talked about it to grow and improve themselves. When someone calls someone JUDGEMENTAL is it a convenient way to judge yourself. They are actually judging themselves. Calling some judgemental is a form of 'name calling', guilt tripping, attempting to get what you want, and labeling is toxic. How many adults live at home with parents and are adult infants? It is very common today.
@@renem1219 This comment resonates so much with me 💯 Thank you!!!
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Interestingly, we are works-in-progress. Our environments shape us favourably or adversely. Perhaps immaturity could be another term for insecurity. Pray tell.
Yes, insecurity and overconfidence can both be part of immaturity, although the term immaturity is usually used in a broader sense by psychologists - to include more aspects of someones mindset and behavior.
Only emotionally immature people would be concerned about the use of the term immaturity! LoL
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