"You're not man enough if you're gay, so you're not trans enough", "if you like men why don't you stay a woman anyway?". I hate constantly getting those...
My mom seems to be dead convinced gay guys just wanna be women and trans guys should be into girls and super masculine or they can't possibly be trans so yeah she's one of those and I've stopped trying to argue her.
With that second quote, I usually tell them that straight men dont like the way I wanna be with them ;) Gets them to quiet down, and I've had the pleasure of doing it several times to strangers, friends, and coworkers lmfao
@You TubeAccount i transitioned two years ago, when i wrote that comment, and i couldnt be happier ;) and yes that comment was a bit overdramatic but still, here i am
I've had so many gay men saying shit like 'You'll never be a REAL man', to me. Also watch out for partially closeted bi-curious guys dating you, and saying 'He's trans, so I'm not really into guys'.
@@squeaktheswan2007 Yeah lol it was just some transphobe saying that being a trans man and liking men is homophobic or some dumbass thing like that. Kia I believe was agreeing with the "not a real man" quote.
I had a boyfriend before who was gay transgender. I never asked anything I just fell in love and he was the one having some problems with himself coz he always dated girls before me. For me I was dating a man and he was good enough for me. I gave space and tried to help but what a pitty he was always so defensive or felt maybe less masculine just for my existence around him but it was all in his head in fact he was overly masculine in certain situations more than necessary, I thought it was cute to see my bf being so manly it is sexy to see but I think he was in that miserable loop of trying to prove a point :( he was so worried about people's opinion that he wasnt living his true self... we all have female and male energy just embrace it and fuck the world. It is horrible to live in your head trying to please the world for validation. Well I am great and proud to be a man who was born with a penis and like a man and I dont give a flying fuck if I dont meet people's expectations or f*validation. In fact I am more a man than many straight man out there coz I am loyal and respectful and I stand by my words as a man should do. Sometimes I assume transgenders who identify as man over think masculinity and eventually pick the wrong examples of jerk-dudes to be a real man,this might misconcept in their head and they might overly think about their male appearance or genital or whatever. I wish he tried to heal that part while we were in love but he preferred to push me away and get locked up in his ego and defensive mode still pleasing girls and straight environments to seek for validation. For me I loved him for the whole beautiful package soul and connection we had and I was 100% proud to put a ring on his finger and make him my husband. Lesson learnt, if we dont face our demons and own wounds or open up to be true to us and our loved one we will be stuck in a loop of toxicity and unhappiness. We are men or weman or whatever we want to be first in our hearts accepting our true self... nothing outside validate this once you concrete that you must love yourself for who you really became in this rough journey so far. It is the special unique cherry on top of the cake :)
Honestly you sound like such a keeper! It is true that many trans men struggle with our own issues and I hope the best for your ex partner. But it is reassuring for me that there are guys out there like you who can be respectful and kind towards a partner who is a trans man so thank you for this!
As a trans gay dude, it's tough for me to find men who would actually accept me as a man. And that's what hurts the most, some of them don't see us as men...
They see you as a man. They don't see you as a biological male. Most gay men are same-sex attracted, not same-gender attracted. It is how sexuality works for many of us. Plus, people who date trans exist. They are called pansexuals. Go find one.
Thank you so much for this video. I'd say its given me some relief. Seems like for many it helps heal some of the hurt & invalidation, to not feel so alone, misunderstood & invalidated. This video has also inspired me to stand up for those in the community... Including myself. Thank you for this empowering and realisticly informative message. -much love & inner peace to you brother.
Well I don't understand whey people can't just be peoplle and love who they want. As long as your partner and you have a loving relationshio, what you DO in NOBODYS business. I am so sorry you guys get it from every angle.I think people should mind there own business and keep their mouth shut.
I grew up around the gay community as a kid. before I came out as bi and trans I knew that every person I meet I must be careful around based on personal experiences. And I was fortunate to know the lgbt community wasn't what tumblr etc. portrayed it to be. Losing your innocence can be a good thing. But luckily many LGBT folks are accepting & treat trans folks normally & with respect. Things are getting better
"You're not man enough if you're gay, so you're not trans enough", "if you like men why don't you stay a woman anyway?". I hate constantly getting those...
Because gender has nothing to do with sexuality
I feel like nobody gets that cis gay men exist. I feel like I would hate that, too.
My mom seems to be dead convinced gay guys just wanna be women and trans guys should be into girls and super masculine or they can't possibly be trans so yeah she's one of those and I've stopped trying to argue her.
@@boocrimson7720 That's unfortunate.
With that second quote, I usually tell them that straight men dont like the way I wanna be with them ;)
Gets them to quiet down, and I've had the pleasure of doing it several times to strangers, friends, and coworkers lmfao
As a trans gay boy I think this video changed my life ❤️ thank you
@You TubeAccount i transitioned two years ago, when i wrote that comment, and i couldnt be happier ;) and yes that comment was a bit overdramatic but still, here i am
I've had so many gay men saying shit like 'You'll never be a REAL man', to me. Also watch out for partially closeted bi-curious guys dating you, and saying 'He's trans, so I'm not really into guys'.
@kia I don't remember asking love
@@jaydxn Jay, is everything okay? What happened?
@kia Kia, what's going on?
@@squeaktheswan2007 Yeah lol it was just some transphobe saying that being a trans man and liking men is homophobic or some dumbass thing like that. Kia I believe was agreeing with the "not a real man" quote.
@@jaydxn Oh, sorry bro. If you're a man to you, then you're a man to us too. Don't worry.
I’m jealous of your hair
I had a boyfriend before who was gay transgender. I never asked anything I just fell in love and he was the one having some problems with himself coz he always dated girls before me. For me I was dating a man and he was good enough for me. I gave space and tried to help but what a pitty he was always so defensive or felt maybe less masculine just for my existence around him but it was all in his head in fact he was overly masculine in certain situations more than necessary, I thought it was cute to see my bf being so manly it is sexy to see but I think he was in that miserable loop of trying to prove a point :( he was so worried about people's opinion that he wasnt living his true self... we all have female and male energy just embrace it and fuck the world. It is horrible to live in your head trying to please the world for validation. Well I am great and proud to be a man who was born with a penis and like a man and I dont give a flying fuck if I dont meet people's expectations or f*validation. In fact I am more a man than many straight man out there coz I am loyal and respectful and I stand by my words as a man should do. Sometimes I assume transgenders who identify as man over think masculinity and eventually pick the wrong examples of jerk-dudes to be a real man,this might misconcept in their head and they might overly think about their male appearance or genital or whatever.
I wish he tried to heal that part while we were in love but he preferred to push me away and get locked up in his ego and defensive mode still pleasing girls and straight environments to seek for validation. For me I loved him for the whole beautiful package soul and connection we had and I was 100% proud to put a ring on his finger and make him my husband.
Lesson learnt, if we dont face our demons and own wounds or open up to be true to us and our loved one we will be stuck in a loop of toxicity and unhappiness. We are men or weman or whatever we want to be first in our hearts accepting our true self... nothing outside validate this once you concrete that you must love yourself for who you really became in this rough journey so far. It is the special unique cherry on top of the cake :)
Honestly you sound like such a keeper! It is true that many trans men struggle with our own issues and I hope the best for your ex partner. But it is reassuring for me that there are guys out there like you who can be respectful and kind towards a partner who is a trans man so thank you for this!
As a trans gay dude, it's tough for me to find men who would actually accept me as a man. And that's what hurts the most, some of them don't see us as men...
They see you as a man. They don't see you as a biological male. Most gay men are same-sex attracted, not same-gender attracted. It is how sexuality works for many of us. Plus, people who date trans exist. They are called pansexuals. Go find one.
I am a transguy, bi , this is a great video!
I am constantly missgendered by my family and it makes me feel like shit :/
You're too funny! I'm trying to educate myself in the best way possible, everybody should feel comfortable around other people :)
Thank you so much for this video. I'd say its given me some relief. Seems like for many it helps heal some of the hurt & invalidation, to not feel so alone, misunderstood & invalidated. This video has also inspired me to stand up for those in the community... Including myself. Thank you for this empowering and realisticly informative message. -much love & inner peace to you brother.
Well I don't understand whey people can't just be peoplle and love who they want. As long as your partner and you have a loving relationshio, what you DO in NOBODYS business. I am so sorry you guys get it from every angle.I think people should mind there own business and keep their mouth shut.
Good, informative video and the guy is a cutie too!
I've been questioning stuff recently and I'm digging your channel! You have so much charisma.
Thank you for telling the truth! I know this video is old, but very applicable even today
I grew up around the gay community as a kid. before I came out as bi and trans I knew that every person I meet I must be careful around based on personal experiences. And I was fortunate to know the lgbt community wasn't what tumblr etc. portrayed it to be. Losing your innocence can be a good thing. But luckily many LGBT folks are accepting & treat trans folks normally & with respect. Things are getting better
I want a hair like u and that masculine jawline 🥺
I'm not a gay guy or a trans man but this was really insightful
You are handsome bloke!
This was a very good video and you are friggan adorable and i want to hug you.
In love its all good
You are absolutely gorgeous omg :3
Don't leave the sisterhood
Spot on!
This is such good information
Thank you
I am a trans guy and pan tooo.....
You are so handsome!
Nice video
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You're very handsome!
I'm in LOVE REEEEEEE333333
fabulous
Not part of the gay community. Thanks for asking.
Im so confused but not really ?
This person detransitioned...oh.
Oof. I had a mustache at 9 years old. O-o
Edit: still watching the video- hehe my grandparents are dead rip. Yeah the died..... very sad 😢
I’m a trump supporter and trans and my own family can’t accept I’m a trans guy only my wife family accept me
Wait wait wait hold on a gay trans guy??🧐 I’m sooooooooo confused 🤯
it means A trans man who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to men.
Gay trans guy = Straight woman
You're a transgirl?
No, he's a trans guy. Born female but transitioned into a man.
a gay trans guy is a lesbian not a guy
No a gay trans guy is a guy who likes guys. You're not very smart... I pity you.
trans guy = man
gay = men who like men
so a trans man who exclusively likes men is gay
How can he be a lesbian if he's a man who only likes men?
a “gay trans guy” is a straight woman who identifies as a man.
@@Muinaiselukka if she’s attracted to other trans men as well then she’s bisexual