Undiagnosed Autism: Alix's Journey
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Alix Generous’s childhood was hindered with undiagnosed Autism until she learned through perseverance to harness her gifts. She is now an advocate for the advancement of girls and young women through education. She credits her unique mind with her success in dealing with complex issues. A recent college graduate, she’s moved from Vermont to Los Angeles where she needs to navigate her own next steps.
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Alix was trying to be so patient while that woman just yelled at her... "I'm not a scientist but.." okay...then stop talking. End the sentence there. Jeez. Sorry that happened, Alix, if you ever read this. You rock.
Thanks for the kind words! Hope you enjoyed the episode ! Thanks again for watching!
Justin Likewise Idiot?
I can SO relate!!! I haven't been officially diagnosed as I'm a Baby Boomer and professionals don't want to deal with old Aspies.
Btw, I took the AQ and got a 45 out of 50.
I'l happily listen to any old Jewish lady's opinions on anything. It's a form of entertainment no matter what the context.
Also damn she was amazingly patient and polite with that woman Hollace, I'm teal, who was RUDE AS FUCK. Wtf lady? Alix I think you could teach that woman a thing or two about social skills
LOL
"I'm not particularly fond of the beach. The sun pisses me off."
UniQueLyEviL When she said that, she reminded me of my ex, who I suspect is on the spectrum. He has extremely sensitive eyes and has to wear dark glasses both day and night.
i have long suspected i am on the spectrum and i share this exact sentiment
@@delilahhart4398 YOUR SO, NUROTYPICALY IGNORANT=IDIOT....
@@rfishrfish4242 I'm actually on the spectrum. Nice attempt at trolling, though.
I was finally diagnosed with with asd/ADD in my 40s. I believe there are many women in particular who have felt different and ”known” all their lives but been misdiagnosed with bipolarity, bpd etc for long. As long as you weren’t a nuisance in school and could cope with school work, nobody cared when I grew up
I'm 51 and i've just found out too, i'm already diagnosed with anxiety and depression
Alix is not at all flat in her voice and how she communicates her feelings. Her brilliance and her sense of humor make her so compelling and gives voice to this with ASD. Beautiful. ☺💙
Thanks for your kind words Erin!
I'm 27 and almost positive that I'm autistic. To go through life and to have people look people look at you differently but not have any idea that there is something unique about you is so difficult
I've been diagnosed bipolar, OCD, PTSD. I believe I fell through the cracks and am on the spectrum. This woman described me. It's painful and torturuous to live with. Everything is too much.
Alix, I am a 68 year old female. This past November, due to Covid-19 social isolation, etc. I had more time to explore what I'd thought to be a missing piece of my life puzzle. Ordered ALL of my medical records, took every clinician's comments & wrote them on a paper w/circle in middle. I then fed their symptoms/comments about me into my computer. High-functioning autism popped up. Tony Attwood's RUclips video as well. Watched. Cried all the way through. Lived nearly entire existence w/o understanding so many things about me, autism, family, my crazy history, etc. I've purchased numerous Spectrum Women books. I am autistic. Told my family doc. He said his granddaughter is as well. Many times after sharing I'm autistic, am told either that they are autistic, and/or their son, daughter, cousin is too. Trying to find an adult autistic therapist is like looking for a needle in haystack. Heightened senses i.e. sun, daylight, sounds, smells, plus struggling w/eye contact, self-social isolation, misperceiving incoming info, sensory overload/fatigue learning to deal with fatigue and lie down, etc. are some of ongoing and overwhelming difficulties for me. Thank you Alix for your EXTREMELY informative & difficult yet exhilarating life journey. You'd taught me even more about autism behaviors i.e. stimming. I tap foot, bite inside of mouth, unaware till your video here. I hope you produce another video here. I wish you great success with your wonderfully unique mind while working with girls and young women like us with autism. Great you found love in your journey as well. Bless you.
wow you just described everything I did during lockdown too, I called it soul searching. I had a massive breakdown due to my ocd and depression and was put on multiple medications that intensified my suffering and whilst in the midst of it all I needed to find answers because I know their was a reason behind everything I'd experienced in my life upto that point. everything pointed to aspergers and the more I learnt about it the more my life finally made sense. i got answers to so many things I experienced growing up.. my soul search was identical to everything you did and ant woods videos on explaining aspergers was a revelation to me i experienced everything he described in his videos i almost had tears to but these wear both tears of joy and sadness because i suffered all those years without knowing why I was different. I've been obsessed with learning more about it ever since and those obsessions and interests I've always had all my life are another symptom of my aspergers all the sensory overloads to smell sound and lights finally made sense I feel comfort enjoyment and fascination the more I learn. I found so many tools and strategies in managing it to so this is the healthiest obsession to spend all my time focused on. I'm glad I came across your comment I'm sure were in a similar boat all those years not knowing then suddenly finding out is a big thing and lucky I guess because some people may go through life never finding out.. for me I was relieved, excited and then sad all at once but I'm glad I have finally got an name for what I've been dealing with all these and now we know we can understand it learn how to better manage it to have a better life. nice to meet you jade fellow aspie I wish you all the best I hope from this you will have some peace and a better life.
be great if you could make a video about your experience maybe someone who dosent realise they have aspergers will come across it and they'll realise they have it to. it can literally save a person's life for me it did I've wanted to end my life many times suffering just not knowing what was wrong I still struggle but knowing what I have really helps.
I strongly feel I have autism. my son was just diagnosed and he is a clone of me at his age. my sister, a therapist, insists it's just my severe anxiety. she only sees a percentage of what I'm dealing with. I've struggled my whole life with disorders , the diagnosis always shifting.. bpd, bipolar, OCD, c-ptsd. I had a long, long childhood of abuse. at the end of the day, people say things like "you're not autistic because you can be social" you're not autistic bc you make okay eye contact" "it's just anxiety" I've taken so many different meds over the past decade. there's never Any resolution. for anyone reading who may have some insight, I scored 29 on the AQ test, if that matters. Im hesitant to talk to a health care professional bc even they think 'well your arms aren't flapping so you're not autistic. your anxiety is making you think you are. go on a run ' I feel so trapped. I've failed at so much. I don't know what to do, but I'm sick of feeling like existence is a TV show I watch alone in the dark.
Thank you for sharing your story Samantha, too often we feel we have to face these things alone and it's not the case. We hope you and your family are living a happy & healthy life and the team at Attitude send their thoughts- Attitude
Samantha, I too have BPD, ANXIETY DISORDER diagnosis but scored 38 on Aspergers test online. The more I read up on Aspergers the more convinced I am that I have this condition. To me,it explains more why I was so hyper as a child and got into a lot of trouble and was labeled naughty because of my meltdowns. My son is on the spectrum so that led me to read up on female with Asperger's. From my research, many female on tje spectrum have been misdiagnosed with BPD.
Generally, women have a very hard time getting a diagnosis because doctors believe the myth that it's usually boys who are autistic - even though it's nearly 50/50. Many times they get a diagnosis of anxiety, bpd, depression, even schizophrenia because many symptoms of autism overlap with those disorders and doctors think "this person can't be autistic because they're a woman". Average age for women getting diagnosed who are considered high functioning is actually around 35-40s, when their child is diagnosed with autism. It's very likely you're on the spectrum, but if doctors keep brushing you off go to new ones. I'm sixteen and a guy but I just now got an assessment because my doctor refused to even consider that I'm on the spectrum and my school wouldn't help because I wasn't "stupid" and tried to talk me out of seeking a diagnosis. I'm going to get the results in a few days but I really doubt it will come back negative. I hope you and others are able to get the diagnosis or at least closure you need.
Y’all should seek I diagnosis, I’m on my path right now. Not easy btws. If you have trouble getting your words out though, I strongly suggest emailing your specialist. Btw 19 years old and just now getting things figured out with asd
Same. Dxed at 54. Push for diagnosis, bc there is direction and coaching available. I'm a little late to that party.
That lady with the short brown hair and teal jacket is horribly misinformed and judgemental. o_O
team14robot alix looks so fed up and honestly she says exactly what i always want to say in that situation but i just can't for some reason rip
I find her nature very difficult. Feeling very cringey listening to her speak
Archie Bunker-itis.
And she is aggressive and rude.
I wanted to slap that woman. Alix handled her way better than I ever could. You’re awesome Alix!
I am 23 & got diagnosed 12 months ago, but all ways know I was autistic :)
Thank you for sharing your story ! We hope you enjoyed the episode!
This woman is truly amazing. I hope she has a long and wonderful life :)
Thanks for watching Claire!
I was finally diagnosed at age 45. The first sentences of your story really resonated. I wish I’d been diagnosed earlier. I could have done a lot more if I’d had the support in place I needed. Instead, I have had to just live and not understand why I was so different…
"The great thing about California is that it is on a major faultline"
God I love perspectives, this line is magnificent!
learn to swim
I love her deadpan tone. It's relateable.
Wow that really struck a chord when she said she may have been medically induced into psychosis. I was wrongly diagnosed as depressed due to my preference for books and introverted activities instead of sports and group activities. They placed me on meds that triggered something in me that made me act bipolar. Then once they started piling medications on top of meds to to alleviate the symptoms of the other meds I started seeing voices and hearing visions. I know that seems like I wrote it incorrectly but I did not. It seems if you are not psychotic and are given a few antipsychotic meds you may start to exhibit symptoms of psychosis. It all got better after I went into a 3 day "fugue" where I do not remember a single thing and had to be told of my adventures by others. After I came back from la la and I called my doc and told him I was going ama off all the meds other than buspar a mild anti anxiety med.
Thank you for sharing your story avaorchid and I hope your doing well now and managing your symptoms! We hope you enjoyed the episode!
See now, this is why I am anti pharmaceuticals ... Here they misdiagnose the woman, and put her on anti psychotics. That in turn, makes her go crazy, then they hospitalize her and so on and so forth. I really do think some of these doctors out here simple just take advantage of people with mental illnesses of any sort.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. That's sounds terrifying. People in the mental health field, being people, can be so judgemental. "She likes hooks and she's not an extrovert. How dare she not behave extrovertedly, there must be something messed up with her. She must be depressed."
avaorchid That sounds really terrifying. I hope you feel better again.
Would you mind sharing what medications you were put on?
the story hit home with me too. I have autism when I had a meltdown they first put me on anti depressants which caused my symptoms to become more intense and severe and insomnia I barely slept for over a month even with powerful sleep meds and it got to a point I was having anxiety attacks and feeling hopeless and very paranoid so they put me on rispiridone one of the strongest anti pschotics out there that turned me into a zombie and made my depression so bad I wanted to die so bad. I made the decision myself to come off meds and went through a major battle from all the withdrawals but now I'm medd free for a thew months and although life is a struggle I'm much better than I was when they feeding me these toxic chemicals they call medication. I can never repair the damage hey did to me but I do my best to be happy and survive.
I'm so glad she has him. OMG, this video was so informative. I'm going to watch it numerous times, ty. The lady has a great point
She does, but there’s also a BENEFIT to the “problem”; if people are texting, they’re texting SOMEONE, which means they ARE communicating. In fact, texting/socializing technologically might make it easier for people with certain disorders or just introverted people to socialize. I would have never met my bf of 5 years if you still had to meet people at bars; we met on a dating app.
I’m sorry to hear you were abused at the institute. Horrid! Thank you for sharing so we can be aware. Sending you continued healing. Thanks for sharing!
This is so inspiring to me. Mainly the fact that it shows me that we can be autistic and don’t need to change ourselves too much to function in the world, I like how she is comfortable with who she is.
I have autism and it is very hard to deal with I also have depersonalization disorder
I was only diagnosed at 15, even after that it's been so difficult to make people understand
Thanks for your comment Lemon Ste. We appreciate some people take longer to understand and accept our differences but hopefully with better education and awareness - people can become more accepting.
fifteen! huh. i always thought people were diognosed young. Im 15...
Lemon Ste my mom was almost 40
I was diagnosed at 17
I was diagnosed in my 30s. Yes life was FUN for me. (Sarcasm)
"The sun pisses me off."
BIG MOOD
GOOF YOU R
I have Aspergers and I hate texting
Thanks for sharing Amber
i hate texting too
Same here. To me, it's often draining, especially if I'd rather be doing something else.
Me too. I’m more of a face-to-face kind of girl. By face-to-face I do NOT include Skype and FaceTime. I keep phone calls short and my thumb hurts already.
I have Aspergers too and I much rather talk face to face. I don’t like it really but I prefer it over texting.
She's so smart. I wish she was my friend.
my son who is 31 has Pervasive Dev. Disorder, he has a great job, married and is high functioning, sometimes I have to remind my self of his disability, when he behaves a certain way or says certain things. I love him and am proud of him, and he has wonderful qualities. thank you Alix
Thank you for sharing your story Annabell!
I'm glad she spoke out. I've been through some of the same things, with my autism diagnosis.
Alix you are a kind and compassionate person. Thank you for sharing your story. And that lady is nothing but a bully. No one wants her opinion km how to interact with people.
GOD that mother. jfc yes, it's literally just that people are more aware of what to look for
That nasty, judgemental older woman is so cruel. It makes me angry to listen to that sort of thing.
She reminds me of my grandmother and aunt.
i was hoping to see someone comment on it lol she was horrible!!!
I wasn't diagnosed till I was 32 and after 3 of my 4 kids diagnosed autistic
I grew up in CA, and I dislike the beach. Too hot, too sunny, I sunburn easily. Bleah.
My jokes would never make sense to anyone else. They all connect to very specific experiences or stimulae. Nobody would find humor in it.
I went through a similar situation with my doctor who diagnosed me with bi-polar and then put me on meds for that....then said it was a mistake. I just have severe depression, adhd and ptsd. I said I have a lot of sensory issues and I wanted to be tested for autism. He said you already have so many problems why add one more? Wtf?
lowerclassfighter ,I have the Autism spectrum disorder, My brain is wired like a 8 track car stereo from the '70s& David Bowie 's 2 songs Starman & Rebel Rebel and Life on Mars.
What a horrible so called doctor. I hope you left there and got a diagnosis for autism elsewhere. It’s a neseccity to get a diagnosis because out brains are wired differently which can make a lot of things difficult for us.
Amazing person. Ha, I was talking today on an Aspergers site how much I dislike the beach.
Amazing young lady Thank Goodness she had a great partner and parents .
that lady needs to calm down
I felt angry watching her she became loud aggressive and obnoxious nerotypical thinking they know everything and being hostile when trying to make their point.
@@jonbowzy511, She's NOT neurotypical. That's just it. 🙄
Looking at the comments, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking the old lady in teal was annoying
Oh my god the lady was just dead set on the "epidemic" myth
She is very aware of her mind and body and not everyone is there. I know I am different. I could go to 10 psychologists and get diagnosed with 10 different things. I am not bi polar, I have issues with hormones to a physical illness..I wish I was as smart as her. I wish I could be smart. There has to be a reason why I am the way I am
But aren't autistic people all quite smart? Im useless. I have always covered my awkwardness, my anxiety, and depression with meds or self medication. My thoughts race. I am all over the place on subjects. How do you know if you on the spectrum or not?
What's your passion ? What makes you happy ? Do you collect anything?
Excellent short film, Attitude!
I’m 12. I want to be diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. But I don’t know how to ask my mom, and I get scared that she will reject me and be like “Oh your just shy and introverted, your fine.”
Talk to her about your symptoms seriously. Goodluck ♡
You are adorable. Live long and prosper.
AtypicalWeirdo My problem too:) I was struggling a ton when I was 12. Still unsure if I have it, but I have never felt so understood! Puberty just flipped my life around, everything became more complicated. Had to seriously adjust, but I’ve now learned how to efficiently communicate.. well the basics of communication. Hope talking with her went/goes well.
The same thing happened to me that happened to you but they didn’t figure it out until I was 24. They almost killed me with the medication.
yes me too most my life I've tried many different medications that were ineffective but mad me suffer from side effects and weaing off them .. during lockdown they gave a cocktail of chlomipramine and rispiridone at the same time it really messed my health up and I became so depressed on them I nearly took my life. thank God I chose to come of them and figure out what exactly was wrong with me and learning I was an aspie gave me the answers I needed in order to save myself.
17:17 "I like trees and green and all that fun stuff" heh :) wonder if she was talking in code
I wouldn't just jump to assumptions because you want to hear about weed. It's not like she really alluded to that at all. It's only if you're looking for people to talk about it and you squint really hard, where that sentence would be interpreted that way. That interpretation just kinda came out of nowhere.
she an amazing woman to talk to a lot of people with her disability and she been through a lot in her life I feel really bad for her she went to a mental hospital and was on very high 💊that is not right to put on it but she amazing person and she rock 😎in her way with her disability 😀 is it amazing she wants to be a dancer she should go with her dream to be a dancer
That yoga session looks like fun.
I understand how your depression phases starts and feel. Since I receive Vitamin B12 injections on a monthly basis, I feel a lot better.
I would have never imagined that a single vitamin has such an impact.
If you want to try this (Vitamin B12 is soluble in water which makes it safer than other supplements) watch out for Methylcobalamine or Hydroxycobalamine, don't use Cyanocobalamine. Cyanocobalamine injected into the muscle which is sour (to much stress, after workout) can set Cyanide free. Not enough to harm you severely, but why accept a harm that's not necessary? Also good would be Adenosylcobalamine (?) but I haven't tried this, because I haven't found a injection with this molecule.
This won't cure a depression, but it makes the weight of the world lighter.
I hope I may could helped you.
I'm not a native English speaker so please oversee spelling- or grammer errors.
Alex you are awesome. I feel the as you did, it's really hard condition . I'm Asperger and bipolar 2. Tough at the most.
I just adore her
Thanks for watching lilie!
man i'm 17 and still waiting to get diagnosed with autism. when i was 16 i went to get tested for it but because of the fact i also have anxiety i was...horribly misdiagnosed as non-autistic, and also because of the fact i'm very inward and very obviously have a-typical autism. i was diagnosed with selective mutism and sensitivity to certain textures/lights/sounds/etc but...............nothin else. i doubt i'll get diagnosed any time soon even though i really, really, need to be to understand myself and get the help i need.
but basically, i relate to her so much.. wow
Thanks for sharing Spencer Keohane! Glad you enjoyed the video!
You can do anything you want I have Autism too.
They keep people in those places because of the money $$$. That's why they wouldn't let her out the institution.
Pretty true, people make a good living off of doping people up and throwing them in a room with little stimulation for years. Although a lot of people need help, they don't always get the best but some people really try to improve peoples lives.
You have a beautiful smile and you are so smart ... keep up the great work :)
Thanks for the beautiful message anime4eva123, we hope you enjoyed the doco!
This woman talking about social interactions, like she is the say, but how irritating she comes across to me probably explains why she has the conception of how people interact. Because everyone she try's to talk to I assume ignores her and goes quickly to their phones.
The older ladies word choice surrounding autism was a bit insensitive.
Are you referring to what the lady at 23:03 was saying? (4/4/2022)
you are great I go through a lot of the same crap you go through
That’s video explain good but I have autism bc haven’t friends Or ,have hard pick up the social interaction poor body language eye contact ...
Ugh, don't ruin the beach for me! This is a great episode and enlightening.
Beach is ruined forever when I heard about a hookworm infestation in Ft Lauderdale.ugh. parasites are my biggest phobia.
Great production, awesome content, inspirational. Thanks.
Thanks for watching Cristina, hope you enjoyed!
Lmao they're a really sweet couple!
They sure are! Thanks for watching Ffishfinger
thanks i learned a lot from these video... im mom of a 10yold son that is austism.. thanks aqain i learn a lot.
We're glad you have found our videos so educational Nilda. Thanks for watching
Great video- thank you! Love your honesty!
To me she sounds like an average Finnish person.
Hope you enjoyed the episode ! Thanks for watching!
Hahahaha. So true! :-))))))
Attitude Thanks for sharing your story. I'm am seeking diagnosis at going on 33. How is Chansie? She should do well and have a full life after her hips getting replaced. Growing up our Golden had both hips done and never had trouble with them again. now I have livestock guardian dogs. our great Pyrenees looks a lot like your dog. is she a saint bernard? most Pyrenees are solid white but our has markings like a saint Bernard. he also has double dew claws on his hind feet. does your dog still have her extra toes? sorry dog breeds have been a life long interest. can't tell my human neighbors apart from each other. if only they also had funny ears and tails to help me identify them! love how your hubby described your sense of humor. sounds like me too.
The stuff she said about sand is like a female version of Anakin :D
I love her!
Thanks for watching Bobby!Hope you enjoyed our channel!
Yes, I enjoy your channel very much, thank you! :)
Awesome! Have a good week!
Good week to you too Attitude!
Inspiring. Thank you.
LMAOO ALIX AND I WOULD GET ALONG SO WELL
Hope you enjoyed the episode Jennifer! Thanks for watching!
Write a book girl and watch some videos on how to fix the monotone because you can. Your depression comes from not knowing your purpose your purpose is sharing your story so just keeping artiquing how you share your story and it will come!
Did she say they messed up about her parents? I feel she might not be close to them after all this.
Or maybe the rules of communication have just changed?
I love how she is talking about the beach 😂
Hope you enjoyed the episode Monika! Thanks for watching!😀
Moni , Is there Life on Mars, do you listen to Jefferson Airplane and their song White Rabbit.
Like it a lot, thanks!
i love this girl
Thanks for watching Willa, hope you enjoyed the episode!
love love love
can anybody please share whether are there any examples of fairly doing well adults diagnosed with mild autism (not aspergers or ADHD). All the successful adults I find fall in either Aspergers or ADHD of the spectrum.
There's this one lady who was diagnosed with severe autism and she's an author now! Though I cannot remember her name for the life of me. There's also Stephen Wiltshire who was diagnosed with severe autism and went to a special ed school and all you have to do is look at the beautiful art he makes - though to be fair he is also a savant and that's why he has such an extreme talent.
Were you a late talker growing up ? , great video 🙏🏻
I really relate to Alix. Girls got guts.
Lady in teal is just classic boomer
How does it affect relationship matters?
Great app! Eye contact is inportant, a sign of depression.
Thanks for watching Akui!Hope you enjoyed our channel!
Life is rough in't it
Does it affect decision making risky behavior?
Yes
I also find that I don't really have my own body language or affect I mirror other people in social interactions. I used to mimick people until they were pissed off. My grandmother even mentioned once that it isn't normal and not to do it.
Thank you 🍋👽🍋
I think the loud lady needs someone to talk to.
Ugh. I don't fuck with natural water either.
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Theres nothing wrong with her, she is so normal
Thanks for watching Eka Agusnatha 😊
Skyler Gray aha, yes!
aspergers?
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What I don't understand about people with ASD is why they are so quick to diagnose themselves with a disability when there are people who can't even achieve the level of independence that they have, having social problems can be difficult but it's a skill just like any other skill and requires practice, I don't see it as a disability unless you absolutely cannot function on your own
Thanks for your thoughts Nicole.
Nicole A There are a bunch of problems related to the autism that you won't see, but people having them struggle with them anyway. And regarding things that is easy to you but hard to impossible for people with autism : sure you can put years and years of daily training into improving those skills, with various results, but there's a limit to what's possible. And that limit can be far less mental resources/energy than you have. The effort can cost enormous amounts of energy and resources, ten times more than for you.
It's not just social stuff. I can't function at school well because of the sensory issues. The sound of paper being wiped hurts me physically, going to the store makes me sick because of all the noise and the lights, sometimes I go nonverbal and can't explain what's happening to me and why I'm crying and freaking out. There's a lot more to autism that most people don't see unless they hang out with the autistic person or live with them. Not to mention autism is often coupled with epilepsy, learning disorders, GI (gastrointestinal) issues, etc and they all vary on severity.
Disabilities are not a thing for you to compare.
she has been pushed to think she cnt do anything although she can
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Autism is overdiagnosed in America. How are 1 in 100 Britons autistic, while 1 in 49 Americans are? Parents try to get their kids autism diagnosis to gain access to certain services.
Heads Will Roll It’s so difficult to be diagnosed in England. It’s £1900 for an adult diagnosis. It’s extremely rare to have health insurance here, so you’d have to have savings.
No its UNDER diagnosed in the US and even more so in other countries. Its not uncommon at all
And not everyone who is autistic needs or gets services. Plus in the US there aren't even many services.
You have been used as a medical experiment and it so wrong. You look like a beautiful normal person.
Sheron Mckenna Autism doesn’t affect how sexy you are 🤦🏻♀️ What a stupid thing to believe.
All this is ridiculous self propaganda to put yourself above others.. stay with you’re head on you’re shoulders
How is suffering putting yourself above others? What do you mean exactly? I'm not being aggressive I'm genuinely interested in what you mean. I can't put a tone to this text so please work with me.
Shut up